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You probably can't mail off more than one toploader in a normal envelope+stamp due to it being too rigid; and you shouldn't do this for more than $10-20 worth of cards anyway since there's no tracking. Get a bubble mailer and get it tracked.
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SCAMMER INFO: I will not link it directly here, but be sure to check out the scammer list on deckbox before doing any trading to ensure yourself to having a safe trade!
You probably can't mail off more than one toploader in a normal envelope+stamp due to it being too rigid; and you shouldn't do this for more than $10-20 worth of cards anyway since there's no tracking. Get a bubble mailer and get it tracked.
2024.05.21 12:09 yannybug Uni rent waiver mishandled, confusing and unprofessional sequence of "accepted" and "denied"
Heres the timeline of events which may have contributed to the waiver being denied and or supports my desire to contest the decision. (20F, England, events covering 2020-2024)
Dec 2020 - a rent waiver was submitted on my behalf on the grounds of ill-health. I did not get to see any documentation over the T/Cs and didn't sign anything. I repeatedly asked/offered to supply evidence of ill-health which I was subsequently told was not needed.
Jan 27th 2021 I vacated the room a day before the deadline - unfortunately I forgot to return the keys. HOWEVER, as much as the keys represent having access to the accomodation, these keys no longer worked as the locks had been changed. I was let into the room that night by security who happened to hand me back the redundant pair of keys and thats where my oversight lay. (In 2022 I am made aware that according to their records I vacated the room a week and a half late (when i finally traveled back to hand in the keys) and the waiver was rejected.)
March 2021 I call to ask for an update on the waiver and I am told "it has been waived". I accept this was most likely someone palming me off and mispoke due to not checking the situation but this is ridiculously irresponsible and dictated my next set of responses. A week or two after this phone call, rent arrears emails ceased. This further affirmed I no longer owed any rent.
Sep 2021 Rent arrears emails resume but I ignore, thinking it was a glitch due to the commencement of a new academic year.
After a few months of these emails I ask about them and I am told the rent is owed, no mention of the waiver, rejected or otherwise. I say I was told the rent was waived and I receive an apology and that the issue would be followed up. I hear no more for several months.
Rent arrears emails restart again, some months later. The case is transferred to STA debt collection and I discuss with them the issues I am having. They pause proceedings multiple times and "close" the case on one occasion.
I also reiterate the same information to the university about: - my doubts over the waiver submission due to no evidence being requested, nothing to sign or T&Cs to read. I was not made aware that in passing the deadline for key hand over I would be liable for the whole term of rent not just the days exceeding the deadline.
I communicated these points multiple times to the uni and in the last instance (July 2023) they replied 2 months later with a reduced amount owed, more than halved - but not for any of the reasons I stipulated, for some other reason I cant remember currently (the new amount did not reflect the days of rent over the deadline)
At this point I was completely tired, doubtful of their handling of anything and offended because now they admit that for 2 years they have been requesting over double the amount I owed anyway!
(Not essential to read, just concluding) Its my graduation in 2 months and I do NOT want them to pull me aside on the day because of this - I have no tuition fee debts so I can graduate, I just dont want this to be flagged to the accommodation services that I'll be on site that day. Please, where do I stand here? I realise this has been dragged out so long and since their last email with the reduced amount I have ceased communication, STA call me multiple times a week but no letters or emails. I was admitted to hospital for a month last summer for the same reasons I left the uni halls and I've just had a lot on my plate. The official way is to submit a complaint but since it has been so long I now have to justify why I did not take action sooner i.e. after I received the last email in Sep 2023.
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Dec 2020 - a rent waiver was submitted on my behalf on the grounds of ill-health. I did not get to see any documentation over the T/Cs and didn't sign anything. I repeatedly asked/offered to supply evidence of ill-health which I was subsequently told was not needed.
Jan 27th 2021 I vacated the room a day before the deadline - unfortunately I forgot to return the keys. HOWEVER, as much as the keys represent having access to the accomodation, these keys no longer worked as the locks had been changed. I was let into the room that night by security who happened to hand me back the redundant pair of keys and thats where my oversight lay. (In 2022 I am made aware that according to their records I vacated the room a week and a half late (when i finally traveled back to hand in the keys) and the waiver was rejected.)
March 2021 I call to ask for an update on the waiver and I am told "it has been waived". I accept this was most likely someone palming me off and mispoke due to not checking the situation but this is ridiculously irresponsible and dictated my next set of responses. A week or two after this phone call, rent arrears emails ceased. This further affirmed I no longer owed any rent.
Sep 2021 Rent arrears emails resume but I ignore, thinking it was a glitch due to the commencement of a new academic year.
After a few months of these emails I ask about them and I am told the rent is owed, no mention of the waiver, rejected or otherwise. I say I was told the rent was waived and I receive an apology and that the issue would be followed up. I hear no more for several months.
Rent arrears emails restart again, some months later. The case is transferred to STA debt collection and I discuss with them the issues I am having. They pause proceedings multiple times and "close" the case on one occasion.
I also reiterate the same information to the university about: - my doubts over the waiver submission due to no evidence being requested, nothing to sign or T&Cs to read. I was not made aware that in passing the deadline for key hand over I would be liable for the whole term of rent not just the days exceeding the deadline.
- that in coming to a resolution some leeway for the deadline should be accommodated considering I exited the rental agreement on health grounds and ill health doesnt work to deadlines AND limited travel due to COVID made moving out at night, alone with no car as a 20 y/o woman quite difficult.
- the keys not actually allowing access to the room so I would like to argue that some leeway should be made again as per their conditions for the room to be vacated and inaccessible, I did not have access to the room anyway.
- the irresponsible staff member claiming it "has been waived". Which then dictated my finances since I no longer thought I owed a large sum of money. And later on another member or staff apologising and rent arrears emails ceasing once more.
- that i thought it was fair I owed the days of rent after the deadline but not the whole term
I communicated these points multiple times to the uni and in the last instance (July 2023) they replied 2 months later with a reduced amount owed, more than halved - but not for any of the reasons I stipulated, for some other reason I cant remember currently (the new amount did not reflect the days of rent over the deadline)
At this point I was completely tired, doubtful of their handling of anything and offended because now they admit that for 2 years they have been requesting over double the amount I owed anyway!
(Not essential to read, just concluding) Its my graduation in 2 months and I do NOT want them to pull me aside on the day because of this - I have no tuition fee debts so I can graduate, I just dont want this to be flagged to the accommodation services that I'll be on site that day. Please, where do I stand here? I realise this has been dragged out so long and since their last email with the reduced amount I have ceased communication, STA call me multiple times a week but no letters or emails. I was admitted to hospital for a month last summer for the same reasons I left the uni halls and I've just had a lot on my plate. The official way is to submit a complaint but since it has been so long I now have to justify why I did not take action sooner i.e. after I received the last email in Sep 2023.
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From dealing with the lack of experience that many employers require to staying motivated amidst a sea of rejections, the journey to securing a job can often feel like an uphill battle. However, it's important to remember that every challenge presents an opportunity for growth and learning. By adopting the right strategies and maintaining a positive mindset, you can turn these obstacles into stepping stones towards a successful career.
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2024.05.21 11:10 Simran_Rajput Navigating the Process: Dubai Visa from Thailand
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Traveling to Dubai from Thailand is an exciting prospect, but understanding the visa requirements and processing times is crucial for a smooth journey. In this comprehensive guide, we'll delve into the intricacies of obtaining a Dubai visa from Thailand, including processing times, application procedures, and essential tips for a hassle-free experience.
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Traveling to Dubai from Thailand is an exciting prospect, but understanding the visa requirements and processing times is crucial for a smooth journey. In this comprehensive guide, we'll delve into the intricacies of obtaining a Dubai visa from Thailand, including processing times, application procedures, and essential tips for a hassle-free experience.
Understanding Dubai Visa Requirements
Types of Dubai Visas
- Tourist Visa
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- Transit Visa
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- Business Visa
- Validity: Tailored for business-related activities such as meetings, conferences, or training sessions.
Documents Required
- Passport: Valid for at least six months from the date of entry.
- Visa Application Form: Completed accurately and signed.
- Photographs: Passport-size photographs meeting specific requirements.
- Proof of Travel: Itinerary, flight tickets, and accommodation details.
- Financial Documents: Bank statements or sponsor letters demonstrating sufficient funds.
How Long Does It Take to Process a Dubai Visa from Thailand?
Standard Processing Times
- Tourist Visa: Typically processed within 3 to 5 working days.
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- Business Visa: Processing times vary but generally within 3 to 7 working days.
Factors Affecting Processing Times
- Type of Visa: The complexity and purpose of the visa can influence processing times.
- Application Volume: High application volumes during peak travel seasons may lead to delays.
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Conclusion
Navigating the process of obtaining a Dubai visa from Thailand requires thorough understanding and meticulous preparation. By familiarizing yourself with the visa requirements, processing times, and essential tips, you can ensure a seamless travel experience to the vibrant city of Dubai.FAQs (Frequently Asked Questions)
- Q: Can I extend my Dubai visa from Thailand?
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2024.05.21 11:10 Simran_Rajput Navigating the Process: Dubai Visa from Thailand
 | submitted by Simran_Rajput to u/Simran_Rajput [link] [comments] https://preview.redd.it/vhc62qsfxq1d1.jpg?width=730&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=be9fac2ed2870c8a30b0a027989625656848a56b Traveling to Dubai from Thailand is an exciting prospect, but understanding the visa requirements and processing times is crucial for a smooth journey. In this comprehensive guide, we'll delve into the intricacies of obtaining a Dubai visa from Thailand, including processing times, application procedures, and essential tips for a hassle-free experience. Understanding Dubai Visa RequirementsTypes of Dubai Visas
Documents Required
How Long Does It Take to Process a Dubai Visa from Thailand?Standard Processing Times
Factors Affecting Processing Times
Tips for Expedited Visa Processing
ConclusionNavigating the process of obtaining a Dubai visa from Thailand requires thorough understanding and meticulous preparation. By familiarizing yourself with the visa requirements, processing times, and essential tips, you can ensure a seamless travel experience to the vibrant city of Dubai.FAQs (Frequently Asked Questions)
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2024.05.21 11:09 Jolly-Ad-536 Need help to appeal for RTIS
I just got rejected. I had portfolio, a good amount of leadership related things, awards and my course was a bit similar to RTIS because I was thought coding in poly.
They said that my application was rejected because too many people want to get into the course and they were considering my application but unfortunately got cut off. They also said that even if I appeal I might not get in because the slots are all filled up and it doesn’t look like people are gonna withdraw. And according to the administration person I spoke to, this year’s intake is much lower compared to last year. How do I increase my chances of getting in?
Anybody else got rejected by digipen too?
Is anybody planning to withdraw from RTIS?
Those who got in via appeal previously or got in with their personal statement, kindly pm me. I want some reference because I clearly messed up smtg which I’m not sure of and one of the only thing that can help my appeal is probably the appeal letter.
And what are the supporting documents I can submit in order to increase my chances of getting in via appeal?
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They said that my application was rejected because too many people want to get into the course and they were considering my application but unfortunately got cut off. They also said that even if I appeal I might not get in because the slots are all filled up and it doesn’t look like people are gonna withdraw. And according to the administration person I spoke to, this year’s intake is much lower compared to last year. How do I increase my chances of getting in?
Anybody else got rejected by digipen too?
Is anybody planning to withdraw from RTIS?
Those who got in via appeal previously or got in with their personal statement, kindly pm me. I want some reference because I clearly messed up smtg which I’m not sure of and one of the only thing that can help my appeal is probably the appeal letter.
And what are the supporting documents I can submit in order to increase my chances of getting in via appeal?
2024.05.21 09:53 Agreeable_Many_3875 Who do I ask letters of recommendations from for internships?
Applying to internships and realized how hard it is to get rec letters in college. In HS it was just asking your fav teachers and boom. As a first year I had asked a CS prof last semester for a letter and he instantly rejected me, saying that he doesnt write letters for his students unless he's worked w them directly thru course staff or research. Is this usually the case for all CS/EECS profs? Also, i don't rlly see how ppl get letters from profs anyway... OH is always packed to even interact personally w the professor. With 1000 students in each class, I doubt any professor is willing to cater to all these students. Is this the case? Bc then... I might be screwed. IDK who else to ask. Who can I ask besides professors? The only "mentors" I've had have been advisors/mentors from old HS volunteering stuff. They don't rlly know my updated Berkeley progress. Help!! I didn't realize that internships required letters of rec.
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2024.05.21 09:11 Mountain_Event1674 Tested positive for identity theft. Pls help
Ello Reddit, First time poster, long time lurker.
And I've found myself in a bit of a pickle. That pickle being is over $3000 in traffic offences that I did not commit.
Here's the timeline for ya.
Mid 2020- I'd moved to a place in the Melbourne inner suburbs 6 months earlier, a 20-minute walk from work. Things were looking a bit dicey with cash money, so I decided to scrap my crusty old car to save some dosh.
I have not driven a motor vehicle of any description since. That's an important, stone hard fact.
Skip to Jan 2022- And I was applying for a new job, and my probationary licence had expired, so I got vicroads to send me my full licence. (I needed it for the whole fit4work thing they're making us do now) But before I got my little mits on it, somebody decided to nick it out of my mailbox.
It's been nothing but a living nightmare since.
Whoever did that decided to rack up thousands of dollars in fines ever since. They did it by nominating me for those fines.
-I got a letter from an insurance company claiming I was responsible for a crash in Queensland.
-I also had VicPol at my door asking if I had stolen a car and gone on a cheeky little crime spree. (Luckily, that was cleared up pretty quickly.) -I tried to report my licence stolen, but because it was never physically in my possession, I was told I couldn't. -I also didn't get that job because I could provide 100 points of ID in time.
'But young reddit user, why didn't you just reject the nomination?' I hear you ask.
Well... I may have had some boogins in my brain at the time. Covid had done it's damage and I really wasn't well. For most of 2022, I was in and out of active psychosis and didn't have a lot of support. The shadow people don't give great legal advice. By the time I got it together, it was too late to reject them.
Skipping to now, I've set up a payment plan for $50 a fortnight to keep fines victoria from breaking down my front door, but I want to know if it's worth talking to lawyer and trying to fight this. My licence expires at the end of the year. (Do you get a new licence number when it renews?)
I truly did not commit any of those offences, I'm not a violent or crimey schizo. I just get paranoid and don't leave my apartment for weeks at a time. (I'm doing better now. 🙂)
Is there any better option than continuing with the payment plan?
Thanks heaps for any advice.
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And I've found myself in a bit of a pickle. That pickle being is over $3000 in traffic offences that I did not commit.
Here's the timeline for ya.
Mid 2020- I'd moved to a place in the Melbourne inner suburbs 6 months earlier, a 20-minute walk from work. Things were looking a bit dicey with cash money, so I decided to scrap my crusty old car to save some dosh.
I have not driven a motor vehicle of any description since. That's an important, stone hard fact.
Skip to Jan 2022- And I was applying for a new job, and my probationary licence had expired, so I got vicroads to send me my full licence. (I needed it for the whole fit4work thing they're making us do now) But before I got my little mits on it, somebody decided to nick it out of my mailbox.
It's been nothing but a living nightmare since.
Whoever did that decided to rack up thousands of dollars in fines ever since. They did it by nominating me for those fines.
-I got a letter from an insurance company claiming I was responsible for a crash in Queensland.
-I also had VicPol at my door asking if I had stolen a car and gone on a cheeky little crime spree. (Luckily, that was cleared up pretty quickly.) -I tried to report my licence stolen, but because it was never physically in my possession, I was told I couldn't. -I also didn't get that job because I could provide 100 points of ID in time.
'But young reddit user, why didn't you just reject the nomination?' I hear you ask.
Well... I may have had some boogins in my brain at the time. Covid had done it's damage and I really wasn't well. For most of 2022, I was in and out of active psychosis and didn't have a lot of support. The shadow people don't give great legal advice. By the time I got it together, it was too late to reject them.
Skipping to now, I've set up a payment plan for $50 a fortnight to keep fines victoria from breaking down my front door, but I want to know if it's worth talking to lawyer and trying to fight this. My licence expires at the end of the year. (Do you get a new licence number when it renews?)
I truly did not commit any of those offences, I'm not a violent or crimey schizo. I just get paranoid and don't leave my apartment for weeks at a time. (I'm doing better now. 🙂)
Is there any better option than continuing with the payment plan?
Thanks heaps for any advice.
2024.05.21 09:08 Mountain_Event1674 Tested positive for identity theft. Pls help
Ello Reddit, First time poster, long time lurker.
And I've found myself in a bit of a pickle. That pickle being is over $3000 in traffic offences that I did not commit.
Here's the time line for ya.
Mid 2020- I'd moved to a place in the Melbourne inner suburbs 6 months earlier, a 20-minute walk from work. Things were looking a bit dicey with cash money, so I decided to scrap my crusty old car to save some dosh.
I have not driven a motor vehicle of any description since. That's an important, stone hard fact.
Skip to Jan 2022- And I was applying for a new job, and my probationary licence had expired, so I got vicroads to send me my full licence. (I needed it for the whole fit4work thing they're making us do now) But before I got my little mits on it, somebody decided to nick it out of my mailbox.
It's been nothing but a living nightmare since.
Whoever did that decided to rack up thousands of dollars in fines ever since. They did it by nominating me for those fines.
-I got a letter from an insurance company claiming I was responsible for a crash in Queensland. -I also had VicPol at my door asking if I had stolen a car and gone on a cheeky little crime spree. (Luckily, that was cleared up pretty quickly.) -I tried to report my licence stolen, but because it was never physically in my possession, I was told I couldn't. -I also didn't get that job because I could provide 100 points of ID in time.
'But young reddit user, why didn't you just reject the nomination?' I hear you ask.
Well... I may have had some boogins in my brain at the time. Covid had done it's damage and I really wasn't well. For most of 2022, I was in and out of active psychosis and didn't have a lot of support. The shadow people don't give great legal advice. By the time I got it together, it was too late to reject them.
Skipping to now, I've set up a payment plan for $50 a fortnight to keep fines victoria from breaking down my front door, but I want to know if it's worth talking to lawyer and trying to fight this. My licence expires at the end of the year. (Do you get a new licence number when it renews?)
I truly did not commit any of those offences, I'm not a violent or crimey schizo. I just get paranoid and don't leave my apartment for weeks at a time. (I'm better now. 🙂)
Is there any better option than continuing with the payment plan?
Thanks heaps for any advice.
submitted by Mountain_Event1674 to AusLegalAdvice [link] [comments]
And I've found myself in a bit of a pickle. That pickle being is over $3000 in traffic offences that I did not commit.
Here's the time line for ya.
Mid 2020- I'd moved to a place in the Melbourne inner suburbs 6 months earlier, a 20-minute walk from work. Things were looking a bit dicey with cash money, so I decided to scrap my crusty old car to save some dosh.
I have not driven a motor vehicle of any description since. That's an important, stone hard fact.
Skip to Jan 2022- And I was applying for a new job, and my probationary licence had expired, so I got vicroads to send me my full licence. (I needed it for the whole fit4work thing they're making us do now) But before I got my little mits on it, somebody decided to nick it out of my mailbox.
It's been nothing but a living nightmare since.
Whoever did that decided to rack up thousands of dollars in fines ever since. They did it by nominating me for those fines.
-I got a letter from an insurance company claiming I was responsible for a crash in Queensland. -I also had VicPol at my door asking if I had stolen a car and gone on a cheeky little crime spree. (Luckily, that was cleared up pretty quickly.) -I tried to report my licence stolen, but because it was never physically in my possession, I was told I couldn't. -I also didn't get that job because I could provide 100 points of ID in time.
'But young reddit user, why didn't you just reject the nomination?' I hear you ask.
Well... I may have had some boogins in my brain at the time. Covid had done it's damage and I really wasn't well. For most of 2022, I was in and out of active psychosis and didn't have a lot of support. The shadow people don't give great legal advice. By the time I got it together, it was too late to reject them.
Skipping to now, I've set up a payment plan for $50 a fortnight to keep fines victoria from breaking down my front door, but I want to know if it's worth talking to lawyer and trying to fight this. My licence expires at the end of the year. (Do you get a new licence number when it renews?)
I truly did not commit any of those offences, I'm not a violent or crimey schizo. I just get paranoid and don't leave my apartment for weeks at a time. (I'm better now. 🙂)
Is there any better option than continuing with the payment plan?
Thanks heaps for any advice.
2024.05.21 08:48 Interesting_Ad9295 How did you survive unemployment and job hunting?
It’s been 9 months for me. And I don’t really have any money to survive on anymore.
I went from being really lucky getting jobs and gigs in my field to being spat out into a job market that doesn’t want me whether I’m over or under qualified, or whether it’s freelance, contract, consistent. I feel like I’ve tried everything.
Plus, I just got rejected at the end of a two month long interview process- where they had me do free work for them via 2 interview projects. They already stole an idea of mine. Before that I had another month long interview process ending in rejection.
I don’t get it, I really don’t. But this isn’t sustainable anymore, I don’t have a ton of access to the things that help keep me regulated because of the financial issues this is posing, but am SO burnt out on sitting at my laptop for 9 months, watching my twenties fly by, selling and pitching myself to people who don’t care.
And not to mention writing cover letters! It takes me a day to apply for one job like that.
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I went from being really lucky getting jobs and gigs in my field to being spat out into a job market that doesn’t want me whether I’m over or under qualified, or whether it’s freelance, contract, consistent. I feel like I’ve tried everything.
Plus, I just got rejected at the end of a two month long interview process- where they had me do free work for them via 2 interview projects. They already stole an idea of mine. Before that I had another month long interview process ending in rejection.
I don’t get it, I really don’t. But this isn’t sustainable anymore, I don’t have a ton of access to the things that help keep me regulated because of the financial issues this is posing, but am SO burnt out on sitting at my laptop for 9 months, watching my twenties fly by, selling and pitching myself to people who don’t care.
And not to mention writing cover letters! It takes me a day to apply for one job like that.
2024.05.21 08:27 Unkn0wnimous [No Due Date] Looking to get some feedback on the first chapter of the story I made after posting the prologue here. Hope you enjoy!
Chapter 1
Mors
An endless void, silence interlaid with its pitch-darkness, greeted an injured man. No light can be seen, sensations be damned, and consciousness spread thin as though taut in this incomprehensive expanse that laid before him.
Callum fell into the abyss, his mind the only thing left to accompany him. He hasn’t even counted the minutes as his mind is plagued by something else. He never considered himself a man of interest, only scraping by with his odd jobs and part-time salaries, hence why he couldn’t understand his current situation.
Betrayal is something that he is familiar with, whether it be a betrayal of his expectations when a co-worker broke his promise or a betrayal of his emotions when his first love interest cheated on him back in uni. However, this betrayal orchestrated by his best friend whom he’d known for 5 years, and girlfriend for 8 years felt more gut-wrenching than the pain he felt from the stab.
Denial was the first thing that stormed his mind. He couldn’t believe that the two closest people in his life would stab him in the back, literally. There was no build-up, he didn’t suspect a thing, and everything was normal until he found steel in his flesh.
He rejected the notion that his girlfriend, Catherine, would betray him like this, an accomplice to a murder that he can’t grasp the motive of. He has built up some savings, but it isn’t something that would be worth murdering someone for, especially after buying that ring.
He dismissed the thought of Jake being jealous of their relationship as he couldn’t see the guy doing something as stupid as this. He can’t form any rhyme or reason as to why they would do it, and the only possible explanation is that this was all a dream and he was actually still sleeping inside the tent.
But as he waited for himself to wake from this nightmare, only darkness greeted him. He had tried moving his body in this sea of blackness, but the movement only felt like going through molasses with tired arms, which is why he attributed this as being only a dream that he would wake up from, which appeared to be wrong as he waited and waited.
Anxiety crept in as he tried to call out, but no sound escaped his lips. He strained his voice to be heard, yet he can't even hear himself. No light adorned this place, no wind to be heard, and he couldn’t feel anything even though he tried feeling himself.
The pain in his back was forgotten as he tried and tried to move, to scream, to flail senselessly, amounting to nothing as he was greeted by nothing.
Feeling anything in this void is something impossible, and the only thing that he can do is return to his mindscape.
He went back to his oldest memories, back to a time when everything felt oppressive and suffocating. Callum was born into a broken family. His mother and father had gone through a divorce when he was only 6 years old. He could still remember the screaming and yelling of his parents whenever night fell in their sorry state of an apartment.
His father, Eric, having not finished his education after Callum’s birth, has been living as a blue-collar worker in downtown New Jersey. Even during his day-offs, he can’t seem to find rest as he goes to do odd jobs and part-time work to stay afloat. On the other hand, his mother would leave him, a toddler, alone in the apartment.
He remembered her putting CDs in a DVD player so that it could keep his attention on a cartoon that his father introduced him to. If he had anything to describe his mother, she would be irresponsible and narcissistic. She would sometimes bring guys over to their apartment, threatening Callum with divorce if he ever told Eric about it, hence why it took several years until his dad caught on and filed for a divorce.
Eric was determined to take Callum with him, he argues that he could take care of his child better than Callum’s mother. But his mother and her twisted pride can’t let go of Callum, which leads to a legal dispute between the two.
The court hearings went on for several months, with each passing day being a lot more hellish for Callum. He was subjected to further insults by his mother as she knew that leaving bruises on her child would lower her chances of winning over the court to her side. Sometimes, she would go as far as manipulate him, gaslighting him into believing that she was a good mother who would take care of him better than his father. But after seeing that the court favors Eric’s side more, his mother took drastic measures to satisfy her wounded pride.
It was the second to the last day of the court hearing, and it was during this time that his father was working overtime. Callum had just gone home from his elementary school, feeling tired as he hauled his bag over his shoulders up the multiple flights of stairs he had to climb to get to their apartment.
As he neared his home, he steeled himself and opened the door, only to be met with overturned tables and broken ceramics. He walked quietly through the scene, afraid that someone might hear him entering his home. Looking back on it now, Calum can’t help himself but laugh at his stupidity. He could have gone and alerted their neighbors, or gone back downstairs to wait for his father, but being a child, Callum doesn’t know what to do.
As he entered his room, he saw black words spray painted on the walls, the meaning eluding him as he didn’t know what it meant since he was 7 at the time, but remembering it now sent shivers down his spine.
The words “This is what you get!” on a torn wallpaper are ingrained in his mind. Seeing the manic letters sprayed over the walls gave Callum anxiety, taking a few steps back towards the open front door of their apartment. Escape was now on his mind as he grew scared of what was to come, something that was far too late as he heard his mother behind him.
It was there that everything turned into a blur. He remembered snippets of yelling and crying both from himself and his mother. He remembered his mother forcing something down his throat. He remembered his father coming home early that day and restraining his mother, a crazy look in her eyes. He remembered the feeling of nausea and the floor colored with his lunch. And he remembered the sirens, red and blue lights dancing in his vision as he was carried to a stretcher. The last thing he remembered was his father crying, holding his hands tightly when he opened his tired eyes.
For the next few days, he learned from the news that his mother attempted a double suicide. The story goes, after losing the custody battle, the mother planned to take revenge by ending the lives of both her child and herself. They said that he got lucky as the neighbors had contacted Eric when his mother turned their home upside down, relating it to a possible home invasion. If not for him, Callum would have died from nicotine poisoning after his mother forced tobacco down his gullet, a morbid story that he uses as a joke during his time at work.
He remembered being inside that hospital for days on end, his body recovering from the poison his mother left him with, and his father was there almost every day even though he had to work to pay the hospital bills. After what felt like forever was he allowed to be discharged, going back to the same refurbished apartment that they lived in, but after seeing how Callum had recurring nightmares and trauma attached to the place, they decided to move to Pennsylvania. A hard decision that needed to be made as his father would put it.
Everything after the whole incident was better for Callum. His father got a job as a mover, still doing some part-time work here and there, and Callum did his best in school so as not to burden his father with more work. Even though they lived in a rundown shack handed to them by one of the locals, they didn’t mind as they knew that getting to live at all was better than what they had before.
Callum smiled in the abyss as he reminisced about his time with his father. He was a great man, a good role model for anyone who came across him. He is kind-hearted and considerate, a hard worker that makes him popular among his peers. It was them that helped move him and his father out of New Jersey and found them a place to sleep in, teaching Callum that socializing and connecting with like-minded people goes a long way when someone needs it.
For the next few years, Callum lived happily. Though there were some ups and downs, he and his father got through it, which is why the memory of his time in university was depressing.
Eric, after having saved some money, gave Callum the go-ahead to enroll in a university in California. But after attaining an athletic scholarship in football, Callum gave his father a surprise to ease his worries and stress. Callum felt bad every time he saw his father work, hence why he tried his hardest to take some of that workload to give him a break. With the tuition being lowered with the scholarship, Callum could give the rest of the money back to his dad. A gesture that was fully gratified as his father had a hard time letting him go when the time came to move over to the university. But it was during this time that tragedy struck.
It was his fourth year in studying anthropology when he heard the news from one of his father’s friends, Robby. After hearing it, he grew distressed and worried, taking a lot of convincing from Robby to keep Callum from moving back to Pennsylvania.
His father has gone missing. The news had spread amongst his co-workers and friends, and a search team was already being dispatched to find him. Even though Callum tried to keep his focus on studying, he couldn’t help but feel agitated as days went by without news of his father being seen. His mental state plummeted, and he grew withdrawn from reality as days turned to weeks, his father still gone.
He could still remember the times when he locked himself in the school’s library, searching the web to find any news or reports of his father's whereabouts, but as he searched for days on end, only one thing kept popping up from the newsletters. His father, Eric Hurst Foster, went missing in his own home. There were no struggles in the house, the CCTV didn’t see him on any of the roads or stores in the town they lived in, he just seemed to have vanished into thin air.
The news ate away at Callum, and his friends that he’d made during the time gave their support to keep him from spiraling out of control. However, even with their support, Callum’s worries over his dad never went away, hence why he threw himself into work. Going to part-time jobs and studying is the only way to keep his mind from blowing. He did this until he finished university and found a job to stay afloat.
This went on for years until he’s come to accept that his father may never be found. With nothing to ground him in their old home, he decided to explore the world, thinking that one day, he might find a lead to the whereabouts of his dad.
Months turned to years as he worked tirelessly in multiple jobs. From being a mechanic, electrician, cook, waiter, and many more to count, Callum went on a work frenzy. He made a plan to scour the states as a freelancer, living in his BMW pick-up truck that was given to him by one of his friends. He stayed in each state for a few months, meeting new people and making some friends along the way. They sent their well wishes to Callum as they knew that he was still trying to find his missing father.
Years went by as he made his way back to California. He had gone and explored every state, and yet no news of his father came to light. The case had gone cold, and it was up to Callum to find any clues to this mystery. His mind has told him to give up the search, and multiple friends have given him consolation as they knew that his father would never be found, but Callum persevered.
It was during this time that he found himself as a mover, the same job that his father had before he disappeared. He had just come back to California after getting the job, and he was about to go check in for his first day when a sudden downpour of rain covered the skies of the city. It was only coincidental that he was near that coffee shop, and it was coincidental that only two customers were present there. He and his future girlfriend turned accomplice to his murder.
The rest of his memories went by as he continued to float in the abyss. From the time of their first years in a relationship to meeting Jake for the first time in that apartment to when he taught PE and History in a school in Minnesota. Everything went by as Callum went from one memory to another until he felt something.
A chill ran down his spine as an indescribable dread manifested in his mind. He knew not why he felt this way, and he felt himself tearing at the seams as a slit of light showed itself in the void. He was then pulled into the light, senses coming back after he spent his time in the abyss for what felt like days. And with a flash, he is back in the same hunched-over position he was in when he was stabbed in the back.
Callum can’t help but laugh as he finally could see again. Trees surrounded his vision, with wild grass carpeting the ground. But before he could truly see the world, he felt a sharp pain in his back. With his body remembering that he was injured, he felt himself sweat profusely as he bled, painting the flowers under him red. And yet he didn’t panic.
After all that time reminiscing, he finally gave in and let death come to him. He fell on his back, sending another wave of pain coursing through his body, cursing under his breath as he regretted not laying himself down slowly. And as he looked to the sky, he felt himself getting colder and colder.
Callum felt at peace as he stared at the clouds above him. The sound of the wind and the rustling of leaves helped him come to terms that he was truly dying. He’d thought about death a lot. During his time when he was a kid, and when he was depressed after his father went missing. But the peace he felt for only a few moments as emotions came crashing down.
He felt himself tear up as he came to terms with his current situation. He would never have a chance to marry the girl in his life. He would never have a chance to have his own children and see them grow. He would never have a chance to be a father. And he would never have a chance to grow old with the people he loved around him.
As he thought of these things, the floodgates opened. Streams of tears fell down his cheeks as he sobbed in his dying state. He could only put his hands over his eyes to stop it from flowing, an action that felt challenging as his body became fatigued from all the blood loss. The crying only hastened his death as he felt his breath escape him, his lungs labored and filled with blood as the stab had punctured it.
Minutes went by as Callum felt himself grow tired and tired. And as he closed his eyes, Callum’s heart slowed and slowed as his body has a lack of blood to pump. His breathing grew shallower with each second until his body gave way and stopped altogether.
Callum died at the age of 34, stabbed in the back by his best friend with his girlfriend being an accomplice for his murder. He died from blood loss as his body colored the ground red.
Callum waited and waited to feel his consciousness fade as he welcomed death to greet him. And as the second grew…
'…Wait.'
His consciousness never faded away.
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Mors
An endless void, silence interlaid with its pitch-darkness, greeted an injured man. No light can be seen, sensations be damned, and consciousness spread thin as though taut in this incomprehensive expanse that laid before him.
Callum fell into the abyss, his mind the only thing left to accompany him. He hasn’t even counted the minutes as his mind is plagued by something else. He never considered himself a man of interest, only scraping by with his odd jobs and part-time salaries, hence why he couldn’t understand his current situation.
Betrayal is something that he is familiar with, whether it be a betrayal of his expectations when a co-worker broke his promise or a betrayal of his emotions when his first love interest cheated on him back in uni. However, this betrayal orchestrated by his best friend whom he’d known for 5 years, and girlfriend for 8 years felt more gut-wrenching than the pain he felt from the stab.
Denial was the first thing that stormed his mind. He couldn’t believe that the two closest people in his life would stab him in the back, literally. There was no build-up, he didn’t suspect a thing, and everything was normal until he found steel in his flesh.
He rejected the notion that his girlfriend, Catherine, would betray him like this, an accomplice to a murder that he can’t grasp the motive of. He has built up some savings, but it isn’t something that would be worth murdering someone for, especially after buying that ring.
He dismissed the thought of Jake being jealous of their relationship as he couldn’t see the guy doing something as stupid as this. He can’t form any rhyme or reason as to why they would do it, and the only possible explanation is that this was all a dream and he was actually still sleeping inside the tent.
But as he waited for himself to wake from this nightmare, only darkness greeted him. He had tried moving his body in this sea of blackness, but the movement only felt like going through molasses with tired arms, which is why he attributed this as being only a dream that he would wake up from, which appeared to be wrong as he waited and waited.
Anxiety crept in as he tried to call out, but no sound escaped his lips. He strained his voice to be heard, yet he can't even hear himself. No light adorned this place, no wind to be heard, and he couldn’t feel anything even though he tried feeling himself.
The pain in his back was forgotten as he tried and tried to move, to scream, to flail senselessly, amounting to nothing as he was greeted by nothing.
Feeling anything in this void is something impossible, and the only thing that he can do is return to his mindscape.
He went back to his oldest memories, back to a time when everything felt oppressive and suffocating. Callum was born into a broken family. His mother and father had gone through a divorce when he was only 6 years old. He could still remember the screaming and yelling of his parents whenever night fell in their sorry state of an apartment.
His father, Eric, having not finished his education after Callum’s birth, has been living as a blue-collar worker in downtown New Jersey. Even during his day-offs, he can’t seem to find rest as he goes to do odd jobs and part-time work to stay afloat. On the other hand, his mother would leave him, a toddler, alone in the apartment.
He remembered her putting CDs in a DVD player so that it could keep his attention on a cartoon that his father introduced him to. If he had anything to describe his mother, she would be irresponsible and narcissistic. She would sometimes bring guys over to their apartment, threatening Callum with divorce if he ever told Eric about it, hence why it took several years until his dad caught on and filed for a divorce.
Eric was determined to take Callum with him, he argues that he could take care of his child better than Callum’s mother. But his mother and her twisted pride can’t let go of Callum, which leads to a legal dispute between the two.
The court hearings went on for several months, with each passing day being a lot more hellish for Callum. He was subjected to further insults by his mother as she knew that leaving bruises on her child would lower her chances of winning over the court to her side. Sometimes, she would go as far as manipulate him, gaslighting him into believing that she was a good mother who would take care of him better than his father. But after seeing that the court favors Eric’s side more, his mother took drastic measures to satisfy her wounded pride.
It was the second to the last day of the court hearing, and it was during this time that his father was working overtime. Callum had just gone home from his elementary school, feeling tired as he hauled his bag over his shoulders up the multiple flights of stairs he had to climb to get to their apartment.
As he neared his home, he steeled himself and opened the door, only to be met with overturned tables and broken ceramics. He walked quietly through the scene, afraid that someone might hear him entering his home. Looking back on it now, Calum can’t help himself but laugh at his stupidity. He could have gone and alerted their neighbors, or gone back downstairs to wait for his father, but being a child, Callum doesn’t know what to do.
As he entered his room, he saw black words spray painted on the walls, the meaning eluding him as he didn’t know what it meant since he was 7 at the time, but remembering it now sent shivers down his spine.
The words “This is what you get!” on a torn wallpaper are ingrained in his mind. Seeing the manic letters sprayed over the walls gave Callum anxiety, taking a few steps back towards the open front door of their apartment. Escape was now on his mind as he grew scared of what was to come, something that was far too late as he heard his mother behind him.
It was there that everything turned into a blur. He remembered snippets of yelling and crying both from himself and his mother. He remembered his mother forcing something down his throat. He remembered his father coming home early that day and restraining his mother, a crazy look in her eyes. He remembered the feeling of nausea and the floor colored with his lunch. And he remembered the sirens, red and blue lights dancing in his vision as he was carried to a stretcher. The last thing he remembered was his father crying, holding his hands tightly when he opened his tired eyes.
For the next few days, he learned from the news that his mother attempted a double suicide. The story goes, after losing the custody battle, the mother planned to take revenge by ending the lives of both her child and herself. They said that he got lucky as the neighbors had contacted Eric when his mother turned their home upside down, relating it to a possible home invasion. If not for him, Callum would have died from nicotine poisoning after his mother forced tobacco down his gullet, a morbid story that he uses as a joke during his time at work.
He remembered being inside that hospital for days on end, his body recovering from the poison his mother left him with, and his father was there almost every day even though he had to work to pay the hospital bills. After what felt like forever was he allowed to be discharged, going back to the same refurbished apartment that they lived in, but after seeing how Callum had recurring nightmares and trauma attached to the place, they decided to move to Pennsylvania. A hard decision that needed to be made as his father would put it.
Everything after the whole incident was better for Callum. His father got a job as a mover, still doing some part-time work here and there, and Callum did his best in school so as not to burden his father with more work. Even though they lived in a rundown shack handed to them by one of the locals, they didn’t mind as they knew that getting to live at all was better than what they had before.
Callum smiled in the abyss as he reminisced about his time with his father. He was a great man, a good role model for anyone who came across him. He is kind-hearted and considerate, a hard worker that makes him popular among his peers. It was them that helped move him and his father out of New Jersey and found them a place to sleep in, teaching Callum that socializing and connecting with like-minded people goes a long way when someone needs it.
For the next few years, Callum lived happily. Though there were some ups and downs, he and his father got through it, which is why the memory of his time in university was depressing.
Eric, after having saved some money, gave Callum the go-ahead to enroll in a university in California. But after attaining an athletic scholarship in football, Callum gave his father a surprise to ease his worries and stress. Callum felt bad every time he saw his father work, hence why he tried his hardest to take some of that workload to give him a break. With the tuition being lowered with the scholarship, Callum could give the rest of the money back to his dad. A gesture that was fully gratified as his father had a hard time letting him go when the time came to move over to the university. But it was during this time that tragedy struck.
It was his fourth year in studying anthropology when he heard the news from one of his father’s friends, Robby. After hearing it, he grew distressed and worried, taking a lot of convincing from Robby to keep Callum from moving back to Pennsylvania.
His father has gone missing. The news had spread amongst his co-workers and friends, and a search team was already being dispatched to find him. Even though Callum tried to keep his focus on studying, he couldn’t help but feel agitated as days went by without news of his father being seen. His mental state plummeted, and he grew withdrawn from reality as days turned to weeks, his father still gone.
He could still remember the times when he locked himself in the school’s library, searching the web to find any news or reports of his father's whereabouts, but as he searched for days on end, only one thing kept popping up from the newsletters. His father, Eric Hurst Foster, went missing in his own home. There were no struggles in the house, the CCTV didn’t see him on any of the roads or stores in the town they lived in, he just seemed to have vanished into thin air.
The news ate away at Callum, and his friends that he’d made during the time gave their support to keep him from spiraling out of control. However, even with their support, Callum’s worries over his dad never went away, hence why he threw himself into work. Going to part-time jobs and studying is the only way to keep his mind from blowing. He did this until he finished university and found a job to stay afloat.
This went on for years until he’s come to accept that his father may never be found. With nothing to ground him in their old home, he decided to explore the world, thinking that one day, he might find a lead to the whereabouts of his dad.
Months turned to years as he worked tirelessly in multiple jobs. From being a mechanic, electrician, cook, waiter, and many more to count, Callum went on a work frenzy. He made a plan to scour the states as a freelancer, living in his BMW pick-up truck that was given to him by one of his friends. He stayed in each state for a few months, meeting new people and making some friends along the way. They sent their well wishes to Callum as they knew that he was still trying to find his missing father.
Years went by as he made his way back to California. He had gone and explored every state, and yet no news of his father came to light. The case had gone cold, and it was up to Callum to find any clues to this mystery. His mind has told him to give up the search, and multiple friends have given him consolation as they knew that his father would never be found, but Callum persevered.
It was during this time that he found himself as a mover, the same job that his father had before he disappeared. He had just come back to California after getting the job, and he was about to go check in for his first day when a sudden downpour of rain covered the skies of the city. It was only coincidental that he was near that coffee shop, and it was coincidental that only two customers were present there. He and his future girlfriend turned accomplice to his murder.
The rest of his memories went by as he continued to float in the abyss. From the time of their first years in a relationship to meeting Jake for the first time in that apartment to when he taught PE and History in a school in Minnesota. Everything went by as Callum went from one memory to another until he felt something.
A chill ran down his spine as an indescribable dread manifested in his mind. He knew not why he felt this way, and he felt himself tearing at the seams as a slit of light showed itself in the void. He was then pulled into the light, senses coming back after he spent his time in the abyss for what felt like days. And with a flash, he is back in the same hunched-over position he was in when he was stabbed in the back.
Callum can’t help but laugh as he finally could see again. Trees surrounded his vision, with wild grass carpeting the ground. But before he could truly see the world, he felt a sharp pain in his back. With his body remembering that he was injured, he felt himself sweat profusely as he bled, painting the flowers under him red. And yet he didn’t panic.
After all that time reminiscing, he finally gave in and let death come to him. He fell on his back, sending another wave of pain coursing through his body, cursing under his breath as he regretted not laying himself down slowly. And as he looked to the sky, he felt himself getting colder and colder.
Callum felt at peace as he stared at the clouds above him. The sound of the wind and the rustling of leaves helped him come to terms that he was truly dying. He’d thought about death a lot. During his time when he was a kid, and when he was depressed after his father went missing. But the peace he felt for only a few moments as emotions came crashing down.
He felt himself tear up as he came to terms with his current situation. He would never have a chance to marry the girl in his life. He would never have a chance to have his own children and see them grow. He would never have a chance to be a father. And he would never have a chance to grow old with the people he loved around him.
As he thought of these things, the floodgates opened. Streams of tears fell down his cheeks as he sobbed in his dying state. He could only put his hands over his eyes to stop it from flowing, an action that felt challenging as his body became fatigued from all the blood loss. The crying only hastened his death as he felt his breath escape him, his lungs labored and filled with blood as the stab had punctured it.
Minutes went by as Callum felt himself grow tired and tired. And as he closed his eyes, Callum’s heart slowed and slowed as his body has a lack of blood to pump. His breathing grew shallower with each second until his body gave way and stopped altogether.
Callum died at the age of 34, stabbed in the back by his best friend with his girlfriend being an accomplice for his murder. He died from blood loss as his body colored the ground red.
Callum waited and waited to feel his consciousness fade as he welcomed death to greet him. And as the second grew…
'…Wait.'
His consciousness never faded away.
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2024.05.21 06:02 Comfortable-Ground46 Strange dealing with a REA
Hey guys,
I have had a weird encounter with a REA agent and wanted a second perspective on this encounter – it didn’t feel fair like the other dealings we have had.
Context – house advertised in a WA suburb with median price of 580k. Home was inviting offers from 600s and sold as-is i.e., no inspections (pest & structural). We are going in with a LVR of 90% with pre-approval – we do understand 90% might be unfavourable in today's market.
Events that transpired –
“Unfortunately, your offer was unsuccessful. Your 90% borrowing was undesirable and there was a higher offer – not by that much”.
I am obvs a bit infuriated at being put off when I wanted to bid 650. Maybe I was a bit naïve listening to the REA agent or disclosing my offer on the phone? I am a bit lost because I have never had a REA agent bring my offer down - is it not in their interest to take the highest offer. It is also the first time I’ve not had to sign an offer.
Thoughts? Maybe I’m overthinking this.
Cheers.
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I have had a weird encounter with a REA agent and wanted a second perspective on this encounter – it didn’t feel fair like the other dealings we have had.
Context – house advertised in a WA suburb with median price of 580k. Home was inviting offers from 600s and sold as-is i.e., no inspections (pest & structural). We are going in with a LVR of 90% with pre-approval – we do understand 90% might be unfavourable in today's market.
Events that transpired –
- We attended home open
- Asked REA on price guide prior to putting our offer in – agent said he has had nothing crazy yet and we will be competitive in the low 600s
- We saw similar properties go for low 600s and noted this is a corner block facing a beautiful park
- Agent asked us what range we are putting a bid in for – round about mid 600s (maybe we did not need to say that)
- Agent was extremely surprised and said “Are you sure you want to go that high? What about your bank’s valuation? I wouldn’t touch 650” We bid in the 630s.
- REA agent said no need to sign it – they will present the offer without signature and contract.
“Unfortunately, your offer was unsuccessful. Your 90% borrowing was undesirable and there was a higher offer – not by that much”.
I am obvs a bit infuriated at being put off when I wanted to bid 650. Maybe I was a bit naïve listening to the REA agent or disclosing my offer on the phone? I am a bit lost because I have never had a REA agent bring my offer down - is it not in their interest to take the highest offer. It is also the first time I’ve not had to sign an offer.
Thoughts? Maybe I’m overthinking this.
Cheers.
2024.05.21 05:51 Garastasus About disclosure, why we should, how we can, and other advice
To begin this post I would like to remind everyone that this is a pro-disclosure sub. While you can debate the things you don’t like about disclosing; encouraging people not to disclose or stating that you currently don’t or plan not to disclose is not allowed in this subreddit.
I have looked through a lot of previous posts/comments about disclosure and gathered what people have said works best for them. Hopefully having this all in one place will help anyone who needs it.
There’s plenty of reasons why disclosure is a good thing. More than anything, people have the right to make decisions regarding their own health. I understand that a lot of people, myself included, did not get that choice. I’m very sorry if this was the case for you. The reasons and tips I’ve included are not necessarily my own, for the most part I’ve just copied and pasted them from comments/posts.
Here is the reasons I’ve found that people have for disclosing:
-I didn’t get a choice so I made sure to give others the choice.
-I don’t know how it will affect someone else. They could be immunocompromised and have more frequent/severe outbreaks as a result. They could have mental health concerns that could be made worse.
-It had a big impact on me physically/mentally and I don’t want to do that to someone else.
-I’d rather be known as someone who takes steps to protect my partners rather than be known as someone who doesn’t if someone tells other people my status.
-I find that people who are accepting of hsv tend to be better at respecting my boundaries.
-Some people have gotten the ‘I have it too’ response when disclosing. -It helps me screen the people I’m dating.
-It’s kept me from doing (whatever) with people I don’t feel completely comfortable doing those things with.
-I know that people who accept my hsv are less likely to only be interested in sleeping with me.
-The more people who disclose, the less negative stigma there will be as people realize how common any kind of hsv is.
-No one’s nut is more important than someone’s health.(this one makes me laugh every time I read it).
-I don’t want to be the person someone hates because I took away their choice. -We respect other areas of another person’s ability to make choices regarding their own body, why wouldn’t we when it comes to this?
-If it’s a hookup and I’m only going to be with them for one night I’m really not losing anything if I disclose and they say no.
I know disclosing can be intimidating. Fear of rejection is a normal part of dating/hookups in general. If I could go back in time and tell myself anything that I’ve found helps me know it would be to remind myself that we all can/do reject people for any reason. I like to keep my disclosures pretty simple, to the point and let people know I understand that this can be a dealbreaker for some people. I also offer to answer any questions they might have even if they choose not to move forward with me.
I highly recommend taking some time away from dating in general if your diagnosis is new. I know some people find it easier to adjust but generally it takes a toll mentally and it’s always better to figure out your personal stuff before trying to navigate something new on top of dating. Just something I’ve learn in my experience.
Here are the disclosure tips/questions I’ve found:
-Be confident. A few people, myself included, initially disclosed in a way that made it seem like hsv is the end of the world. While I don’t deny that some people have horrible experiences, hsv does not immediately mean that you will have constant horrible experiences.
-Keep it short, but honest. Some people like to include transmission rates, if they’re taking meds. While I do think these can help you be more successful with disclosure, a huge paragraph can seem intimidating. You can always mention that you have hsv, and if they want more information specifically about meds, transmission rates, etc.. That you can provide that if they’re interested in learning more,
-Why do you disclose? This one is something you can include if you chose to, personally I do. I always say “I disclose because you deserve to make an informed decision about whether moving forward is the right thing for you.” I’ve found that including this leads to less negative or rude responses.
-Testing A few people chose to acknowledge that hsv isn’t regularly tested for. Which I think is a great thing to include. Not only does it mean people learn something that is beneficial to them. I’ve also had experiences where the person I disclosed to went to get tested afterwards and found out they also have the same type of hsv as me. I highly highly recommend getting yourself and the person you are disclosing to be tested. Hsv is not the only thing out there. I’ve had people come back and tell me they tested positive for other things that I didn’t have.
-When do I disclose?? Ultimately the when is up to you, as long as it’s before any risk of transmission. Some people say after x amount of dates I’ll disclose. Some choose before any dates, some choose once sex is looking like a strong possibility.
Personally I’ve always done it before the first date. I only do this because I get easily attached to people, and I’d just rather not get emotionally attached to someone who would walk away due to my hsv.
-Can I say herpes? That’s up to you. I know lots of people avoid saying herpes when it’s first brought up, I do too. Mainly because people tend to think about the worst case scenario whenever they hear it. I always say hsv-2, as this also allows them to do their own research on my specific type if they choose to do so.
-Answering questions I think it’s fair to say a good amount of people are going to have questions. Some people don’t and that’s totally okay. I definitely got asked a few when I was first diagnosed that I didn’t have the answers to. I just told them “to be honest I’m not sure but I will find out so we can both be more informed.” Then asked my question on this subreddit or found the answer elsewhere.
-Do I have to tell them how I got it? I know a lot of people who don’t have hsv tend to think you have to sleep with a lot of people to get it. Which is not the case and no shame to anyone where that is the case. Personally I do share how I got it, for two reasons. The first is because I do generally have a hard time being intimate because of the situation I was in that gave me this. The second is to kind of help break the weird way people tend to think of people with hsv. To be clear, I in no way think I’m better than someone who gets this from having multiple partners. I just want the people I disclose to to realize that there’s all types of situations that can lead to someone getting hsv and that no negative judgment should be given to someone who has it. I don’t deny that I take a bit of joy in letting people know what led to me getting hsv when they’re being jerks by thinking they’re somehow better than people with this. You definitely don’t have to let people know how you got it. How much of your own experience you share is completely up to you.
-Is it harder to disclose based on my gender? There seems to be this debate that certain people have it harder based on their gender. Personally I really don’t think there should be. I think disclosing is intimidating to anyone. There’s no exact way of knowing how someone reacts to you telling them you have hsv. I’ve dealt with my fair share of positive and negative disclosures while being someone whose gender tends to be far more of an issue to people than having hsv. There are downsides to dating as any gender. I’d really like for this post to not become a place where people try to debate who has who has it worse. At the end of the day we’re all people with hsv. Everyone has to deal with the high expectations of whoever they’re dating pool is.
I can’t really speak to who is harder in terms of men/women, because I haven’t lived those experiences completely as a woman or a man. Though I can say as someone with both a vagina and a penis (having both post diagnosis, since there’s always questions about this feel free to ask them, as long as it’s respectful I have no problems answering them) that my experience hasn’t been particularly positive or negative.
-My doctor said I don’t have to disclose, why are you telling me I should? Well, if all of the reasons I gave above for disclosing aren’t enough for you, I actually did go to medical school and recently acquired my medical degree. The whole thing with doctors saying that is a rather outdated way of thinking by the doctors. They simply weren’t that educated on it. The school I went to, and also in my pre-med did a good job at letting us know some good stuff about hsv, still not as in-depth as I would have liked. However, compared to someone I actually did disclose to, a med student who’s education on hsv was severely lacking. The way things are being taught now(again only at the school I attended as far as I know) is getting better. I don’t deny my bias as someone who also has hsv and did send plenty of letters to schools/hospitals that I know still have outdated ways of approaching hsv cases. While hsv is common, with no real way to completely prevent it, please just disclose.
-Can I just say that I get cold sores? Look, I get the temptation of just saying we all get cold sores, but personally I’d stay away from this unless you have ohsv-1, some reasons can actually be beneficial when disclosing. If you have ohsv-1, saying you get cold sores is totally fine. Though I strongly suggest also letting them know that there is a chance to get ghsv-1 but it is less likely than them getting ohsv-1. If you have ghsv-1, you can say that you have the virus that causes cold sores just genitally, you can also include that it has less chances of transmission that if you had it orally. if you have hsv-2 in either location I really discourage saying you get cold sores. You can definitely say you have what is in the same family as the cold sore virus, to me though just saying you get cold sores when you have hsv-2 feels deceptive when what you have behaves differently(again that is my personal opinion). If you have ohsv-2 the fact that is less transmissible than ghsv-2 works in your favour. Ghsv-2(what I have) I’d suggest just leaving it with ghsv-2, I’ve definitely included that it is the same family of viruses that causes cold sores, it’s just a different type that behaves differently. You might actually cause confusion by trying to make it seem exactly the same as cold sores(yeah, I know they’re very similar I’ve just never fund that making them seem exactly the same goes well, I’ve even asked people I’ve disclosed to what they’d thing of being disclosed to for hsv-2 in general like this, almost all of them said they’d feel lied to and would rather just hear hsv-2 and location).
In all of the reasons I’ve found that people have for not disclosing, none of them are really even good reasons. They all come with a negative side. I understand that people may have different opinions on this, but ultimately if you feel that disclosing isn’t something you should do then you should probably look into therapy. I say that only because I’ve noticed that people who feel that way tend to have some anger towards their own diagnosis and therapy helped me a lot in dealing with my own feelings regarding my diagnosis. I’ve even had that moment of ‘do I really have to?’ and I couldn’t think of single reason that made sense.
I understand that a lot of people have the fear of having their hsv status spread to other people. This is a completely normal thing to be afraid of. I’ve had people tell others my status and while it sucked, in my experience, it more negatively impacted the person who shared that information about me than it did to me. I now look at the people I’m going to disclose to and if I have a single thought that they might do that then I know they’re not someone I’d be interested in. You can always put off activities that would put you in the position where disclosure is necessary until you feel ready to tell them. Always remember that someone who tries to pressure you into things where transmission is possible before you are ready is someone you probably don’t want to be doing those things with anyway.
Disclosing can be done over text, on the phone, or in person. Personally I opt for over text, as I just find it easier and like to have proof that I did in fact disclose just in case someone tried to say that I didn’t, and so that they can easily find the information I gave them about hsv, should they want to look it over again. There can be moments when you’re talking to someone and you think ‘this is the perfect moment to disclose’ but they don’t always happen like that. Don’t be afraid to make that moment happen.
I hope at least someone finds this helpful. If anyone has any questions, or advice that I didn’t cover just comment and I’ll edit my post to include it so people don’t have to sort through the comments to find it. As a reminder, this post is meant to be helpful to those who might be struggling to disclose, either because they haven’t yet or haven’t had much success, it is not mean for debating if disclosure should happen, because disclosure should always happen, and I’m not against reporting anyone if I have to.
Right now I’m way too tired to read this over, so if I made any mistakes, feel free to (respectfully) correct me in the comments.
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I have looked through a lot of previous posts/comments about disclosure and gathered what people have said works best for them. Hopefully having this all in one place will help anyone who needs it.
There’s plenty of reasons why disclosure is a good thing. More than anything, people have the right to make decisions regarding their own health. I understand that a lot of people, myself included, did not get that choice. I’m very sorry if this was the case for you. The reasons and tips I’ve included are not necessarily my own, for the most part I’ve just copied and pasted them from comments/posts.
Here is the reasons I’ve found that people have for disclosing:
-I didn’t get a choice so I made sure to give others the choice.
-I don’t know how it will affect someone else. They could be immunocompromised and have more frequent/severe outbreaks as a result. They could have mental health concerns that could be made worse.
-It had a big impact on me physically/mentally and I don’t want to do that to someone else.
-I’d rather be known as someone who takes steps to protect my partners rather than be known as someone who doesn’t if someone tells other people my status.
-I find that people who are accepting of hsv tend to be better at respecting my boundaries.
-Some people have gotten the ‘I have it too’ response when disclosing. -It helps me screen the people I’m dating.
-It’s kept me from doing (whatever) with people I don’t feel completely comfortable doing those things with.
-I know that people who accept my hsv are less likely to only be interested in sleeping with me.
-The more people who disclose, the less negative stigma there will be as people realize how common any kind of hsv is.
-No one’s nut is more important than someone’s health.(this one makes me laugh every time I read it).
-I don’t want to be the person someone hates because I took away their choice. -We respect other areas of another person’s ability to make choices regarding their own body, why wouldn’t we when it comes to this?
-If it’s a hookup and I’m only going to be with them for one night I’m really not losing anything if I disclose and they say no.
I know disclosing can be intimidating. Fear of rejection is a normal part of dating/hookups in general. If I could go back in time and tell myself anything that I’ve found helps me know it would be to remind myself that we all can/do reject people for any reason. I like to keep my disclosures pretty simple, to the point and let people know I understand that this can be a dealbreaker for some people. I also offer to answer any questions they might have even if they choose not to move forward with me.
I highly recommend taking some time away from dating in general if your diagnosis is new. I know some people find it easier to adjust but generally it takes a toll mentally and it’s always better to figure out your personal stuff before trying to navigate something new on top of dating. Just something I’ve learn in my experience.
Here are the disclosure tips/questions I’ve found:
-Be confident. A few people, myself included, initially disclosed in a way that made it seem like hsv is the end of the world. While I don’t deny that some people have horrible experiences, hsv does not immediately mean that you will have constant horrible experiences.
-Keep it short, but honest. Some people like to include transmission rates, if they’re taking meds. While I do think these can help you be more successful with disclosure, a huge paragraph can seem intimidating. You can always mention that you have hsv, and if they want more information specifically about meds, transmission rates, etc.. That you can provide that if they’re interested in learning more,
-Why do you disclose? This one is something you can include if you chose to, personally I do. I always say “I disclose because you deserve to make an informed decision about whether moving forward is the right thing for you.” I’ve found that including this leads to less negative or rude responses.
-Testing A few people chose to acknowledge that hsv isn’t regularly tested for. Which I think is a great thing to include. Not only does it mean people learn something that is beneficial to them. I’ve also had experiences where the person I disclosed to went to get tested afterwards and found out they also have the same type of hsv as me. I highly highly recommend getting yourself and the person you are disclosing to be tested. Hsv is not the only thing out there. I’ve had people come back and tell me they tested positive for other things that I didn’t have.
-When do I disclose?? Ultimately the when is up to you, as long as it’s before any risk of transmission. Some people say after x amount of dates I’ll disclose. Some choose before any dates, some choose once sex is looking like a strong possibility.
Personally I’ve always done it before the first date. I only do this because I get easily attached to people, and I’d just rather not get emotionally attached to someone who would walk away due to my hsv.
-Can I say herpes? That’s up to you. I know lots of people avoid saying herpes when it’s first brought up, I do too. Mainly because people tend to think about the worst case scenario whenever they hear it. I always say hsv-2, as this also allows them to do their own research on my specific type if they choose to do so.
-Answering questions I think it’s fair to say a good amount of people are going to have questions. Some people don’t and that’s totally okay. I definitely got asked a few when I was first diagnosed that I didn’t have the answers to. I just told them “to be honest I’m not sure but I will find out so we can both be more informed.” Then asked my question on this subreddit or found the answer elsewhere.
-Do I have to tell them how I got it? I know a lot of people who don’t have hsv tend to think you have to sleep with a lot of people to get it. Which is not the case and no shame to anyone where that is the case. Personally I do share how I got it, for two reasons. The first is because I do generally have a hard time being intimate because of the situation I was in that gave me this. The second is to kind of help break the weird way people tend to think of people with hsv. To be clear, I in no way think I’m better than someone who gets this from having multiple partners. I just want the people I disclose to to realize that there’s all types of situations that can lead to someone getting hsv and that no negative judgment should be given to someone who has it. I don’t deny that I take a bit of joy in letting people know what led to me getting hsv when they’re being jerks by thinking they’re somehow better than people with this. You definitely don’t have to let people know how you got it. How much of your own experience you share is completely up to you.
-Is it harder to disclose based on my gender? There seems to be this debate that certain people have it harder based on their gender. Personally I really don’t think there should be. I think disclosing is intimidating to anyone. There’s no exact way of knowing how someone reacts to you telling them you have hsv. I’ve dealt with my fair share of positive and negative disclosures while being someone whose gender tends to be far more of an issue to people than having hsv. There are downsides to dating as any gender. I’d really like for this post to not become a place where people try to debate who has who has it worse. At the end of the day we’re all people with hsv. Everyone has to deal with the high expectations of whoever they’re dating pool is.
I can’t really speak to who is harder in terms of men/women, because I haven’t lived those experiences completely as a woman or a man. Though I can say as someone with both a vagina and a penis (having both post diagnosis, since there’s always questions about this feel free to ask them, as long as it’s respectful I have no problems answering them) that my experience hasn’t been particularly positive or negative.
-My doctor said I don’t have to disclose, why are you telling me I should? Well, if all of the reasons I gave above for disclosing aren’t enough for you, I actually did go to medical school and recently acquired my medical degree. The whole thing with doctors saying that is a rather outdated way of thinking by the doctors. They simply weren’t that educated on it. The school I went to, and also in my pre-med did a good job at letting us know some good stuff about hsv, still not as in-depth as I would have liked. However, compared to someone I actually did disclose to, a med student who’s education on hsv was severely lacking. The way things are being taught now(again only at the school I attended as far as I know) is getting better. I don’t deny my bias as someone who also has hsv and did send plenty of letters to schools/hospitals that I know still have outdated ways of approaching hsv cases. While hsv is common, with no real way to completely prevent it, please just disclose.
-Can I just say that I get cold sores? Look, I get the temptation of just saying we all get cold sores, but personally I’d stay away from this unless you have ohsv-1, some reasons can actually be beneficial when disclosing. If you have ohsv-1, saying you get cold sores is totally fine. Though I strongly suggest also letting them know that there is a chance to get ghsv-1 but it is less likely than them getting ohsv-1. If you have ghsv-1, you can say that you have the virus that causes cold sores just genitally, you can also include that it has less chances of transmission that if you had it orally. if you have hsv-2 in either location I really discourage saying you get cold sores. You can definitely say you have what is in the same family as the cold sore virus, to me though just saying you get cold sores when you have hsv-2 feels deceptive when what you have behaves differently(again that is my personal opinion). If you have ohsv-2 the fact that is less transmissible than ghsv-2 works in your favour. Ghsv-2(what I have) I’d suggest just leaving it with ghsv-2, I’ve definitely included that it is the same family of viruses that causes cold sores, it’s just a different type that behaves differently. You might actually cause confusion by trying to make it seem exactly the same as cold sores(yeah, I know they’re very similar I’ve just never fund that making them seem exactly the same goes well, I’ve even asked people I’ve disclosed to what they’d thing of being disclosed to for hsv-2 in general like this, almost all of them said they’d feel lied to and would rather just hear hsv-2 and location).
In all of the reasons I’ve found that people have for not disclosing, none of them are really even good reasons. They all come with a negative side. I understand that people may have different opinions on this, but ultimately if you feel that disclosing isn’t something you should do then you should probably look into therapy. I say that only because I’ve noticed that people who feel that way tend to have some anger towards their own diagnosis and therapy helped me a lot in dealing with my own feelings regarding my diagnosis. I’ve even had that moment of ‘do I really have to?’ and I couldn’t think of single reason that made sense.
I understand that a lot of people have the fear of having their hsv status spread to other people. This is a completely normal thing to be afraid of. I’ve had people tell others my status and while it sucked, in my experience, it more negatively impacted the person who shared that information about me than it did to me. I now look at the people I’m going to disclose to and if I have a single thought that they might do that then I know they’re not someone I’d be interested in. You can always put off activities that would put you in the position where disclosure is necessary until you feel ready to tell them. Always remember that someone who tries to pressure you into things where transmission is possible before you are ready is someone you probably don’t want to be doing those things with anyway.
Disclosing can be done over text, on the phone, or in person. Personally I opt for over text, as I just find it easier and like to have proof that I did in fact disclose just in case someone tried to say that I didn’t, and so that they can easily find the information I gave them about hsv, should they want to look it over again. There can be moments when you’re talking to someone and you think ‘this is the perfect moment to disclose’ but they don’t always happen like that. Don’t be afraid to make that moment happen.
I hope at least someone finds this helpful. If anyone has any questions, or advice that I didn’t cover just comment and I’ll edit my post to include it so people don’t have to sort through the comments to find it. As a reminder, this post is meant to be helpful to those who might be struggling to disclose, either because they haven’t yet or haven’t had much success, it is not mean for debating if disclosure should happen, because disclosure should always happen, and I’m not against reporting anyone if I have to.
Right now I’m way too tired to read this over, so if I made any mistakes, feel free to (respectfully) correct me in the comments.
2024.05.21 05:27 someone6565 Letter of Recommendation Advice
I have been applying to many grad school programs for CS that require at least three recommendation letters with two of them being from academic. I was able to get it from one professor, but I still need one more letter of recommendation letter from a professor. I have reached out to many, and it leads to the majority with no response and a few rejections just because they don't know me that well. I was hoping to get one from a professor who I TA a class for, but no response. Any advice or suggestions to get at least a response for a letter of recommendation request from professors?
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2024.05.21 05:20 kunseung Delays due to HR
My hiring manager recently told me that the offer letter for my position has been approved and that HR would contact me within two weeks.
HR did reach out to me 5 days ago, asking for my availability over the next 2 days. I promptly responded with my available times, but I haven't heard back from them since.
Has anyone experienced something similar? Should I follow up with HR again (i’m fearing I might be sending too many emails — have sent 2 followups)? I’m getting so anxious because this application process has been taking over 5 weeks after the final round of interviews. I’ve already had to reject 2 other job offers in the meantime since I really want this position. Any insights would be greatly appreciated!
Thanks in advance!
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HR did reach out to me 5 days ago, asking for my availability over the next 2 days. I promptly responded with my available times, but I haven't heard back from them since.
Has anyone experienced something similar? Should I follow up with HR again (i’m fearing I might be sending too many emails — have sent 2 followups)? I’m getting so anxious because this application process has been taking over 5 weeks after the final round of interviews. I’ve already had to reject 2 other job offers in the meantime since I really want this position. Any insights would be greatly appreciated!
Thanks in advance!
2024.05.21 04:46 kunseung Delays in HR response
My hiring manager recently told me that the offer letter for my position has been approved and that HR would contact me within two weeks.
HR did reach out to me 5 days ago, asking for my availability over the next 2 days. I promptly responded with my available times, but I haven't heard back from them since.
Has anyone experienced something similar? Should I follow up with HR again (i’m fearing I might be sending too many emails — have sent 2 followups)? I’m getting so anxious because this application process has been taking over 5 weeks after the final round of interviews. I’ve already had to reject 2 other job offers in the meantime since I really want this position. Any insights would be greatly appreciated!
Thanks in advance!
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HR did reach out to me 5 days ago, asking for my availability over the next 2 days. I promptly responded with my available times, but I haven't heard back from them since.
Has anyone experienced something similar? Should I follow up with HR again (i’m fearing I might be sending too many emails — have sent 2 followups)? I’m getting so anxious because this application process has been taking over 5 weeks after the final round of interviews. I’ve already had to reject 2 other job offers in the meantime since I really want this position. Any insights would be greatly appreciated!
Thanks in advance!
2024.05.21 04:45 notsakar Leaving Canada after reapplying for SOWP Extension
Hi, My wife and I are currently in Canada. My came came here as a student and I accompanied her on a Spousal Open work permit back in August 2022.
My wife completed her study in Dec 2023 and we applied for her Post Graduate Work Permit and my Spousal Open Work Permit extension together.
Her PGWP got approved but my SOWP extension was rejected due to us not providing an employment letter from my wife’s employer. So I have recently reapplied for the extension and restoration of status but I’ve been told that it might take anywhere from 90-150 days to hear a decision on my reapplication.
Since I’m not allowed to work right now after the rejection, I am considering going back to my home country while I wait for their decision as it would be a lot easier on me financially rather than staying here without working.
Would me leaving Canada right now cause any complications on my application?
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My wife completed her study in Dec 2023 and we applied for her Post Graduate Work Permit and my Spousal Open Work Permit extension together.
Her PGWP got approved but my SOWP extension was rejected due to us not providing an employment letter from my wife’s employer. So I have recently reapplied for the extension and restoration of status but I’ve been told that it might take anywhere from 90-150 days to hear a decision on my reapplication.
Since I’m not allowed to work right now after the rejection, I am considering going back to my home country while I wait for their decision as it would be a lot easier on me financially rather than staying here without working.
Would me leaving Canada right now cause any complications on my application?
2024.05.21 04:20 TARDIS-1729 Seeking Advice on Improving My Quality Assurance Career Prospects
I am in need of advice on improving my job application process and understanding what I might be missing or doing wrong. Despite having a strong educational background and relevant experience, I have been facing rejections from the positions I apply to. Below is a summary of my qualifications and experience. I would greatly appreciate any feedback or suggestions you can provide.
Summary: I am an experienced Quality Assurance Analyst with a strong foundation in Computer Science Engineering. I have a proven track record in significantly reducing bugs in software projects and am proficient in both manual and automated testing. My programming expertise includes C#, C++, and Java. I also hold multiple certifications in software testing and project management.
Education:
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Summary: I am an experienced Quality Assurance Analyst with a strong foundation in Computer Science Engineering. I have a proven track record in significantly reducing bugs in software projects and am proficient in both manual and automated testing. My programming expertise includes C#, C++, and Java. I also hold multiple certifications in software testing and project management.
Education:
- Manchester Metropolitan University, United Kingdom MSc in Computer Games Development 09/2023 – 10/2024
- Relevant Coursework: C++ and C#, Project Management, Jira, GitLab
- SRM University, India B. Tech in Computer Science Engineering 08/2019 – 07/2023
- Relevant Coursework: C, C++, Software Engineering, Java, HTML, MySQL, Object-Oriented Analysis and Design
- Byte Orange QA Intern Manchester (Online) 08/2023 – 03/2024
- Performed QA for FusionOS, an OS developed for the Microsoft Imagine Cup
- Reduced bugs in the First India Platform by 80% through extensive bug testing
- RPG Format Manchester Metropolitan University 01/2024
- Led development and QA, including writing core game code and creating UI
- Integrated controller support
- ICARUS VR SRM University 04/2023
- Led development, provided documentation, and used scrum methodology
- Ensured stable 120 FPS to prevent motion sickness
- Atlassian Agile Project Management Professional Certificate 04/2024
- Lambda Test Software Testing Professional Certificate 04/2024
- Programming Foundations: Software Testing/QA 01/2024
- Understanding Manual Testing 01/2024
- Unreal Engine Blueprint Game Developer 09/2022
- Unreal Engine Coding (Udemy) 07/2021
- Programming languages: C#, C++, HTML, Java
- Engines and 3D software: Unreal Engine, Unity
- Cloud: Microsoft Azure
- Operating Systems: Ubuntu, Windows, MacOS
- Project Management: JIRA, GitLab
- Collaboration, Problem-Solving, Analytical Thinking
- Cultural Awareness, Adaptability, Leadership
- Are there any gaps in my experience or skills that I need to address?
- How can I improve my resume or cover letter to better highlight my strengths?
- Are there specific certifications or courses that would make me a more attractive candidate?
- Any general advice for someone in my position trying to break into the QA industry?
2024.05.21 04:16 Technical_Pressure13 An MLB never was who can’t let it go.
This is going to be kinda long. But it seriously bothers/eats at me every single day..Here’s my story. As a high school senior, I held the title of being a top 100 MLB prospect, and top 15 pitcher. From a young age, I knew that I possessed a talent that set me apart from my peers, and my dedication to the sport only fueled my ambition.
It was during my sophomore year of high school that everything changed. A growth spurt catapulted me from a 5'8, 175-pound freshman to a towering 6'3, 230-pound sophomore. My fastball gained momentum, progressing from 83 MPH to 87, then 92, and finally reaching an impressive 96-97 MPH by my senior year. My curveball possessed a remarkable 2-7 break,
The attention I garnered during my junior year was overwhelming. Colleges and recruiters flocked to my games, and my mailbox overflowed with letters from fans and scouts alike. Interviews, radio shows, and local television appearances became routine as my teenage ego soared to new heights. I basked in the glory of being recognized everywhere I went, signing autographs for eager kids and shaking hands with baseball enthusiasts who admired my talent. Even my school held a pep rally in celebration of my selection for the 18U World Cup team. I was invited to speak at schools, fundraisers, and churches, feeling like the center of the universe.
As the MLB draft approached, I anticipated an early selection. However, the reality fell short of my expectations. The rounds came and went, and it wasn't until the end of the 7th round that I received the call. The plan was to start in summer ball, then progress to low A ball before eventually moving up to High A. I was deemed a "project pick" with immense potential. Yet upset I was selected so late I made the decision to forgo signing and opted to attend college for a year, hoping to raise my draft stock.
Winter camp arrived, and as a freshman, I was honored to be placed third in the rotation. Physically, I felt better than ever, ready to conquer the world. However, fate had other plans. On my third pitch, a 2-seam fastball, disaster struck. Numbness and excruciating pain overtook my fingers and elbow, leading me to the hospital. The diagnosis was a fully torn ulnar collateral ligament, requiring immediate Tommy John surgery. My dreams of a baseball career were abruptly shattered before they even began.
My coach informed me that while the university would support me, they had to cut my scholarship. I was still welcome at practices and games but without financial aid. Months of grueling physical therapy followed, though I didn't approach it with the seriousness required of an aspiring professional athlete. My invincibility complex led me to believe that I could bounce back effortlessly.
After 11 arduous months, I finally received the green light to resume throwing. My pitching coach reached out to smaller colleges and Juco schools that had expressed interest in offering me a scholarship to aid my comeback. A private pitching session was arranged, but it quickly became apparent that I was not in "baseball shape." My once blazing 97 MPH fastball had diminished to a mere 84 MPH disaster. Dishearteningly, not a single scout showed any interest. The Juco schools rejected me, leaving me at a crossroads.
Determined to make one final attempt at a baseball career, I dedicated six months to rigorous training. However, my fastball only reached 87 MPH during a private workout in front of scouts. It was good, but not good enough to secure a scholarship offer. And just as quickly as I had burst onto the scene, I faded into obscurity. The next few years were filled with occasional whispers of my name around town. I was asked to speak to my alma mater's varsity baseball team a couple of times, but the adoration and recognition I once reveled in had vanished. Today, I sell insurance (Cliche I know) Occasionally, a random client will reminisce about my past achievements, but those moments grow fewer with each passing year.
As I reflect on my journey, I am plagued by questions. Should I have signed when I was originally drafted? Did my ego lead to my downfall? Could I have reached the pinnacle of the sport with the superior training, diet, and medical resources offered by the MLB and its minor leagues? Regrettably, the answers remain elusive, lost in the realm of what-ifs and missed opportunities.
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It was during my sophomore year of high school that everything changed. A growth spurt catapulted me from a 5'8, 175-pound freshman to a towering 6'3, 230-pound sophomore. My fastball gained momentum, progressing from 83 MPH to 87, then 92, and finally reaching an impressive 96-97 MPH by my senior year. My curveball possessed a remarkable 2-7 break,
The attention I garnered during my junior year was overwhelming. Colleges and recruiters flocked to my games, and my mailbox overflowed with letters from fans and scouts alike. Interviews, radio shows, and local television appearances became routine as my teenage ego soared to new heights. I basked in the glory of being recognized everywhere I went, signing autographs for eager kids and shaking hands with baseball enthusiasts who admired my talent. Even my school held a pep rally in celebration of my selection for the 18U World Cup team. I was invited to speak at schools, fundraisers, and churches, feeling like the center of the universe.
As the MLB draft approached, I anticipated an early selection. However, the reality fell short of my expectations. The rounds came and went, and it wasn't until the end of the 7th round that I received the call. The plan was to start in summer ball, then progress to low A ball before eventually moving up to High A. I was deemed a "project pick" with immense potential. Yet upset I was selected so late I made the decision to forgo signing and opted to attend college for a year, hoping to raise my draft stock.
Winter camp arrived, and as a freshman, I was honored to be placed third in the rotation. Physically, I felt better than ever, ready to conquer the world. However, fate had other plans. On my third pitch, a 2-seam fastball, disaster struck. Numbness and excruciating pain overtook my fingers and elbow, leading me to the hospital. The diagnosis was a fully torn ulnar collateral ligament, requiring immediate Tommy John surgery. My dreams of a baseball career were abruptly shattered before they even began.
My coach informed me that while the university would support me, they had to cut my scholarship. I was still welcome at practices and games but without financial aid. Months of grueling physical therapy followed, though I didn't approach it with the seriousness required of an aspiring professional athlete. My invincibility complex led me to believe that I could bounce back effortlessly.
After 11 arduous months, I finally received the green light to resume throwing. My pitching coach reached out to smaller colleges and Juco schools that had expressed interest in offering me a scholarship to aid my comeback. A private pitching session was arranged, but it quickly became apparent that I was not in "baseball shape." My once blazing 97 MPH fastball had diminished to a mere 84 MPH disaster. Dishearteningly, not a single scout showed any interest. The Juco schools rejected me, leaving me at a crossroads.
Determined to make one final attempt at a baseball career, I dedicated six months to rigorous training. However, my fastball only reached 87 MPH during a private workout in front of scouts. It was good, but not good enough to secure a scholarship offer. And just as quickly as I had burst onto the scene, I faded into obscurity. The next few years were filled with occasional whispers of my name around town. I was asked to speak to my alma mater's varsity baseball team a couple of times, but the adoration and recognition I once reveled in had vanished. Today, I sell insurance (Cliche I know) Occasionally, a random client will reminisce about my past achievements, but those moments grow fewer with each passing year.
As I reflect on my journey, I am plagued by questions. Should I have signed when I was originally drafted? Did my ego lead to my downfall? Could I have reached the pinnacle of the sport with the superior training, diet, and medical resources offered by the MLB and its minor leagues? Regrettably, the answers remain elusive, lost in the realm of what-ifs and missed opportunities.
2024.05.21 03:44 FuzzyRiceBalls To those who applied for jobs at the City of Fort Worth..
When you applied did you ever get a rejection letter. I know I should not get my hopes up but it has been a month since I applied and I have not received anything. I at least know if I’ve been rejected when I apply for Tarrant County positions. I’m still applying for jobs but I would like to know if anyone has had any experience with being hired, or rejected, by the City of Fort Worth. Thank you!
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2024.05.21 02:50 idlechat [2024 Read-Along] Week 21, The Silmarillion - Quenta Silmarillion - Of the Coming of Men into the West (Chapter 17)
Then Felagund, standing silent in the night-shadow of the trees, looked down into the camp, and there he beheld a strange people.
Welcome one and all again to the 2024 Read-Along and Discussion of The Silmarillion here on tolkienfans. For Week 21 (May 19-May 25), we will be exploring The Quenta Silmarillion (The History of the Silmarils) chapter 17, "Of the Coming of Men into the West ."
After three hundred years had passed since the arrival of the Noldor, Finrod went hunting with Maedhros and Maglor. Yet he soon grew tired of hunting, and he continued eastward to Ossiriand, where he spotted a strange light and heard unfamiliar songs.
Finrod hid himself, for he feared that Orcs had come from Angband. Yet the strange beings were not Orcs, or Dwarves, or even other Elves. They were Men who had come out of the east from Hildorien and were following a light to the west.
Waiting until they had fallen asleep, Finrod went among them, took up a harp, and began to sing. The newcomers awoke, but they did not speak, opting to listen to Finrod's songs of Aman and the Valar instead.
Finrod would remain with the Men and taught them much of what the Noldor knew. Finrod could understand their tongue, for it was descended from the same language that all Elves had once known. Men had learned it from the Avari who remained east and did not go to Valinor, as they had also learned basic crafting skills and tools.
Among them, Finrod befriended Bëor, but when Finrod asked of the origins of Men, Bëor would only say that they came west fleeing a darkness and following the light. The Eldar afterwards would say that Morgoth himself went eastwards to corrupt Men and turn them against the Eldar. They perceived a darkness in Men similar to their own. Yet Morgoth's plan was not fully successful, both due to the low numbers of Men and the threat of the Elves on Morgoth's border.
Bëor told Finrod that other groups of men would follow: Men who were called the Haladin as well as those who followed a chief named Marach. These Men spoke a different language than that of Bëor.
When the Green-elves learned of Men, they asked Finrod to tell them to either move westward or return east. This compelled Finrod to have Bëor move his people west to Estolad, an encampment on the borders of Doriath. When at last Finrod left to return to his own realm, Bëor followed him as a vassal.
The groups that Bëor spoke of would soon enter into Beleriand: the Haladin who would be known as the House of Haleth, and the house of Marach that would be later known as the House of Hador. These two houses, as well as the House of Bëor, would form the basis of the Edain, or the Elf-friends.
Many Elves such as Fingolfin gladly received Men, taking them into their lands as allies. Thus Men continued to spread across Beleriand. They would enter in via Estolad, but spread out across the realms of the Eldar. Thingol forbade Men to enter Doriath, mistrusting them. Unfortunately, it was at this time that the first division in the houses of Men began to appear, for while Morgoth was besieged, he was not idle.
Whispers would enter into the councils of Men, and in one meeting in particular, Bereg of the House of Bëor rose up and spoke against the Elves, saying that Men could go elsewhere and leave Beleriand. Another one, appearing to be a man named Amlach, stood up and even suggested the possibility that the Valar did not exist and that Morgoth was the only such being. Though Amlach himself entered in a short time later and denied saying this, it created enough of a disturbance to cause many to flee with Bereg. Though Amlach himself would go and join the fight against Morgoth. Morgoth's evil whispers thus caused some Men to flee, but many remained and joined the Elves.
His subtle designs failing to cause all men to flee, Morgoth assailed Men with force. His orcs attacked the Haladin in the lands of Caranthir. Led by Haleth, daughter of the chieften Halad who was killed by the orcs, they survived a bitter siege until Caranthir himself came forth and destroyed the Orcs. He was moved by the valour of Men and offered Haleth an alliance. She rejected him, however, and compelled her people to move westward to Estolad. She would remain chieftain of her people, and soon they would even be known to others as the People of Haleth. Eventually, she compelled many of her people to move westward again, settling in the forest of Brethil, where they eked out a hard living. Thingol grudgingly permitted this as long as they would defend the Crossings of Teiglin.
Thus it was that Men would live in Beleriand beside the Elves. Men would learn much from the Elves, and many would even learn Sindarin. In their turn, many Men would also become servants in the household of elven kings, such as Hador, who served Fingolfin and was given the lordship of Dor-lómin. Many great heroes would come from the Elf-friends, such as Beren and Túrin.
Yet, in the end, Elves were immortal, and Men were not. Though Beleriand seemed to lengthen their lives, the first generation of Men would pass away. Bëor the Old died at ninety three years of age. This was a grievous blow to the Eldar, who did not understand the Gift of Men, or their final destination after death.[1]
Of the Coming of Men into the West at The Lord of the Rings Wiki: This chapter tells of the first encounter between Men and Elves, and of their relationship. As well as the movement and settlement of Men in the West.
Chapter discussion at Entmoot TolkienTrail.
Chapter discussion at The Barrow-Downs.
Questions for the week:
For drafts and history of this chapter see The War of the Jewels, "The Grey Annals", pp. 116-117, §79-80 and pp. 123-124, §129-130; "The Later Quenta Silmarillion", Chapter 14, "Of the Coming of Men into the West", pp. 215-238.
See also: The War of the Jewels, "The Later Quenta Silmarillion", Chapter 9, "Of Men", pp. 173-180; The Lost Road and Other Writings, "Quenta Silmarillion)", Chapter 10, "Of Men and Dwarves", pp. 272-279.
For further history and analysis of this chapter, see Arda Reconstructed (by Douglas Charles Kane), pp. 156-161.
Be sure to have your copy of The Atlas of Middle-earth by Karen Wynn Fonstad on hand as you go through this chapter.
Some Tolkien-related hangouts on YouTube (relevant to this week):
The Silmarillion Reader's Guide by askmiddlearth on Tumblr.
Quettaparma Quenyallo (QQ) - The most extensive list of Quenya words available on the internet, by Helge Fauskanger, 1999-2013.
Tolkien Collector's Guide - Guide to Tolkien's Letters
A (Hopefully) Light Guide to the Silmarillion — Or What I Wish I’d Known Before Reading It by u/Ok_Bullfrog_8491/
The Definitive Family Tree of the Tolkien Legendarium by u/PotterGandalf117
Wikipedia - The Letters of J.R.R. Tolkien
Announcement and Index: (Take 2) 2024 The Silmarillion and The Fall of Gondolin Read-Along
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Welcome one and all again to the 2024 Read-Along and Discussion of The Silmarillion here on tolkienfans. For Week 21 (May 19-May 25), we will be exploring The Quenta Silmarillion (The History of the Silmarils) chapter 17, "Of the Coming of Men into the West ."
After three hundred years had passed since the arrival of the Noldor, Finrod went hunting with Maedhros and Maglor. Yet he soon grew tired of hunting, and he continued eastward to Ossiriand, where he spotted a strange light and heard unfamiliar songs.
Finrod hid himself, for he feared that Orcs had come from Angband. Yet the strange beings were not Orcs, or Dwarves, or even other Elves. They were Men who had come out of the east from Hildorien and were following a light to the west.
Waiting until they had fallen asleep, Finrod went among them, took up a harp, and began to sing. The newcomers awoke, but they did not speak, opting to listen to Finrod's songs of Aman and the Valar instead.
Finrod would remain with the Men and taught them much of what the Noldor knew. Finrod could understand their tongue, for it was descended from the same language that all Elves had once known. Men had learned it from the Avari who remained east and did not go to Valinor, as they had also learned basic crafting skills and tools.
Among them, Finrod befriended Bëor, but when Finrod asked of the origins of Men, Bëor would only say that they came west fleeing a darkness and following the light. The Eldar afterwards would say that Morgoth himself went eastwards to corrupt Men and turn them against the Eldar. They perceived a darkness in Men similar to their own. Yet Morgoth's plan was not fully successful, both due to the low numbers of Men and the threat of the Elves on Morgoth's border.
Bëor told Finrod that other groups of men would follow: Men who were called the Haladin as well as those who followed a chief named Marach. These Men spoke a different language than that of Bëor.
When the Green-elves learned of Men, they asked Finrod to tell them to either move westward or return east. This compelled Finrod to have Bëor move his people west to Estolad, an encampment on the borders of Doriath. When at last Finrod left to return to his own realm, Bëor followed him as a vassal.
The groups that Bëor spoke of would soon enter into Beleriand: the Haladin who would be known as the House of Haleth, and the house of Marach that would be later known as the House of Hador. These two houses, as well as the House of Bëor, would form the basis of the Edain, or the Elf-friends.
Many Elves such as Fingolfin gladly received Men, taking them into their lands as allies. Thus Men continued to spread across Beleriand. They would enter in via Estolad, but spread out across the realms of the Eldar. Thingol forbade Men to enter Doriath, mistrusting them. Unfortunately, it was at this time that the first division in the houses of Men began to appear, for while Morgoth was besieged, he was not idle.
Whispers would enter into the councils of Men, and in one meeting in particular, Bereg of the House of Bëor rose up and spoke against the Elves, saying that Men could go elsewhere and leave Beleriand. Another one, appearing to be a man named Amlach, stood up and even suggested the possibility that the Valar did not exist and that Morgoth was the only such being. Though Amlach himself entered in a short time later and denied saying this, it created enough of a disturbance to cause many to flee with Bereg. Though Amlach himself would go and join the fight against Morgoth. Morgoth's evil whispers thus caused some Men to flee, but many remained and joined the Elves.
His subtle designs failing to cause all men to flee, Morgoth assailed Men with force. His orcs attacked the Haladin in the lands of Caranthir. Led by Haleth, daughter of the chieften Halad who was killed by the orcs, they survived a bitter siege until Caranthir himself came forth and destroyed the Orcs. He was moved by the valour of Men and offered Haleth an alliance. She rejected him, however, and compelled her people to move westward to Estolad. She would remain chieftain of her people, and soon they would even be known to others as the People of Haleth. Eventually, she compelled many of her people to move westward again, settling in the forest of Brethil, where they eked out a hard living. Thingol grudgingly permitted this as long as they would defend the Crossings of Teiglin.
Thus it was that Men would live in Beleriand beside the Elves. Men would learn much from the Elves, and many would even learn Sindarin. In their turn, many Men would also become servants in the household of elven kings, such as Hador, who served Fingolfin and was given the lordship of Dor-lómin. Many great heroes would come from the Elf-friends, such as Beren and Túrin.
Yet, in the end, Elves were immortal, and Men were not. Though Beleriand seemed to lengthen their lives, the first generation of Men would pass away. Bëor the Old died at ninety three years of age. This was a grievous blow to the Eldar, who did not understand the Gift of Men, or their final destination after death.[1]
Of the Coming of Men into the West at The Lord of the Rings Wiki: This chapter tells of the first encounter between Men and Elves, and of their relationship. As well as the movement and settlement of Men in the West.
Chapter discussion at Entmoot TolkienTrail.
Chapter discussion at The Barrow-Downs.
Questions for the week:
- The chapter mentions that Finrod, when he comes on Men for the first time, that he hears singing. It then mentions that he thought they may be Orcs, but it is not their speech and he does not recognize it. Do you think that Orcs would be singing around a fire?
- Green-elves seemed to hardly have any outside contact except among their own. What was up with the the Green-elves, were they shy, arrogant or isolationists?
- The Elves of Ossiriand didn't want men living in their land because of they say men are hewers of trees and hunters of beasts. If Finrod was hunting animals and since other Elves did eat meat, are the Green-elves just being prejudice against men? Or is it that they don't want to have hunting on their land?
- Amlach initially goes into the council of men and denounces the Elves but later repents and says that he was not even at the meeting. Now was he actually there and hypnotized by Morgoth? Or did Morgoth possibly send someone/something else there to pretend to be him? Was it Morgoth himself in disguise as a doppelgänger? Or is there some other explanation?
For drafts and history of this chapter see The War of the Jewels, "The Grey Annals", pp. 116-117, §79-80 and pp. 123-124, §129-130; "The Later Quenta Silmarillion", Chapter 14, "Of the Coming of Men into the West", pp. 215-238.
See also: The War of the Jewels, "The Later Quenta Silmarillion", Chapter 9, "Of Men", pp. 173-180; The Lost Road and Other Writings, "Quenta Silmarillion)", Chapter 10, "Of Men and Dwarves", pp. 272-279.
For further history and analysis of this chapter, see Arda Reconstructed (by Douglas Charles Kane), pp. 156-161.
Be sure to have your copy of The Atlas of Middle-earth by Karen Wynn Fonstad on hand as you go through this chapter.
Some Tolkien-related hangouts on YouTube (relevant to this week):
- Nerd of the Rings This episode: Maps of Middle-earth: The First Age The Silmarillion Explained
- Nerd of the Rings This episode: The Origins of Melkor Tolkien Explained
- Nerd of the Rings This episode: The History of Morgoth [COMPILATION] Tolkien Explained
- Nerd of the Rings This episode: The Houses of the Edain (Men) Tolkien Explained
- Tolkien Untangled This episode: The Many Clans of Men (and what about Hobbits?) Of the Lords of Beleriand - Part 7 of 10
- Tolkien Untangled This episode: The Edain: Elf-friends Among Men Of the Lords of Beleriand : Silmarillion Explained - Part 8 of 10
- Ælfwine's Road This episode: Silmarillion Summary: Ch. 17 - Of the Coming of Men Into the West [20/31]
- Voice of Geekdom This episode: Chapter 17.1: Finrod Felagund meets Bëor the Old Silmarillion Explained
- Voice of Geekdom This episode: Chapter 17.2 - The Elf-friends: Lady Haleth and the House of Hador Silmarillion Explained
- The Tolkien Road Podcast This episode: Of the Coming of Men Into the West - Silmarillion 2022 Chapter 17 » The Tolkien Road Episode 296
- The Tolkien Road Podcast This episode: 0048 - The Silmarillion - Chapter 17 - Of the Coming of Men Into the West
- The One Ring This episode: When Elves met Men - Of the Coming of Men, Part 1 – The Silmarillion – 19
- The One Ring This episode: Middle-earth’s Actual Strong Woman – Of the Coming of Men, Part 2 – The Silmarillion – 20
The Silmarillion Reader's Guide by askmiddlearth on Tumblr.
Quettaparma Quenyallo (QQ) - The most extensive list of Quenya words available on the internet, by Helge Fauskanger, 1999-2013.
Tolkien Collector's Guide - Guide to Tolkien's Letters
A (Hopefully) Light Guide to the Silmarillion — Or What I Wish I’d Known Before Reading It by u/Ok_Bullfrog_8491/
The Definitive Family Tree of the Tolkien Legendarium by u/PotterGandalf117
Wikipedia - The Letters of J.R.R. Tolkien
Announcement and Index: (Take 2) 2024 The Silmarillion and The Fall of Gondolin Read-Along