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2024.05.21 11:53 molty_insides217 vent/ seeking other point ov views.
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šI had pretyped this just ranting then I realized i can post it anonymously here bc iām really struggling and would like some outside advice human to human feels like iām gaslighting myself lol. They have supported me and given me everything I need materialistically and do what they are supposed to as parents in that aspect I am very grateful and appreciative of that. in no way shape or form will I ever complain ab them giving me food, shelter, clothes etc. Iām not seeking to be coddled or get sympathy either i just need to know if it really is that bad or am I tripping.
š¬emotionally manipulative & guilt tripping parents will be their own demise. lol. finally dropping that mask you have with them, making them look at themselves and see the torment i had to mentally internalize & take on over the years > sitting back & letting them continue their behavior and control to keep destroying your identity & self continuing to deal with immense shame, guilt, sadness, and anger because you know how they are and you think theres no point in opening up to them or telling them what they do wrong bc they always do the same shit & continue to blame you for everything. note this though when I finally released all my years of internalized emotions on them and started texting them very knowledgeable shit about themselves, how they treated me, my mom trying to control and ruin me and my girlfriends relationship when we first got together (+ we have continued to be together for 1yr and 3 months still going strong she aināt ruin shiiiit) & shit talked my gf for no reason at all. When I started texting paragraph after paragraph (+ texting them back and forth.) I was met with my mom thinking something isnāt right regarding my mental health and telling my dad and brother she thinks something is wrong with me again (she was surprised how I could speak so knowledgeable bc I barely even interact with them anymore) them texting my phone asking if everything is okay and they are worried ab me (sheās also made many comments before this situation like āyou seem like you need to get back on ur medication youāre being irritableā etc when clearly that was the correct response to some fucked up comment she made iām sick of that shit.) (sorry that was lowkey irrelevant but holy shit). them throwing what they do for me as PARENTS in my face, blame shifting, manipulation, lying, her saying she has no acknowledgment of ever treating me like that over the years, trying to ruin our relationship, or saying any of the vile shit she said about my gf. OH and how she thought It couldnāt possibly be me thatās writing these exceptional level paragraphs and she thought my gf was controlling me and making me send all of that to my parents(me texting her ab this shit went on for like 3 days, 3 days of her not taking accountability for anything, lying, trying to manipulate by making me feel bad as well and she had the nerve to say āit feels like iām being abusedā GIRLLL STOPPP HUH im still confused ab that one) itās honestly sickening and baffling knowing ppl can think & say shit like that. iāve been so detached from them since I was little (never knew why at the time) but THIS makes that detachment 100x worse and I feel like thatās a GOOD thing for me even though the outcome wasnāt what I wanted, bc iām feeling free, released, not pint-up, etc most importantly more like I can finally be MYSELF!!! iām way more comfortable in who I am and my Identity now at 19 could you imagine that like damn (just hoping itās not temporary)!!! just putting this out there in hopes that someone else going through the same thing or similar will see and maybe help them a little. now i just gotta move out.
āļø she canāt see how what she says to people effects them drastically and takes 0 responsibility and acknowledgement of doing so and passes it off as āyou donāt know meā āiām a good personā āi have a good heart i love everybodyā etc or blame everything on me for examples āwe do everything for youā āyouāre going to treat us like that when we sacrificed so much for youā etc um .. yeah they signed up for that when they decided to have a child so itās fucked up to throw that in my face. THEN she loves to do this the most playing the victim card āyouāre abusing meā āit feels like you are abusing meā āwe feel like we canāt say anything right we are always walking on eggshells around you itās exhaustingā she knows damn well Iām not abusing her in any way shape or form thatās disrespectful to many people who actually had to go through and endure actual abuse. ādo you want to hurt us? is that your goalā āyouāre destroying the familyā āyouāre destroying our marriageā etc literally used to be all the timmmme when i was going through sh and stuff too. i didnāt do anything wronggggg all I did was speak up for myself FOR ONCE (bc itās been YEARS) ab the shit she does and how iām not okay with it i internalize literally everything (thatās y it took years. just sick of their shit idk what to do). low and behold after all that expressing I get met with all that blame shifting and lying. the reason why i never open up to her is bc when I do ever since i was little she always blamed me and made it seem like this whole other thing so hell yeah iād rather internalize then talk to her thatās a way better option than getting met with guilt tripping and shit what else could I do but internalize n doing that fucked my head up BAD. there are MANY more examples of what else she would say and my dad too but i really think heās brainwashed by her so idk thatās just off the top of my head .. lmao. she makes me feel so insaneee i even feel like iām exaggerating and making a big deal n being too sensitive writing all thisšµāš«. thereās SO MUCH more context but fuck all that i typed enough. thx for coming to my ted talkš·ļø.
š¤¢not to mention they are closeted RACIST & HOMOPHOBIC
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2024.05.21 11:44 molty_insides217 vent/ seeing other ppls pov from the outside
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šI had pretyped this just ranting then I realized i can post it anonymously here bc iām really struggling and would like some outside advice human to human feels like iām gaslighting myself lol. They have supported me and given me everything I need materialistically and do what they are supposed to as parents in that aspect I am very grateful and appreciative of that. in no way shape or form will I ever complain ab them giving me food, shelter, clothes etc. Iām not seeking to be coddled or get sympathy either i just need to know if it really is that bad or am I tripping.
š¬emotionally manipulative & guilt tripping parents will be their own demise. lol. finally dropping that mask you have with them, making them look at themselves and see the torment i had to mentally internalize & take on over the years > sitting back & letting them continue their behavior and control to keep destroying your identity & self continuing to deal with immense shame, guilt, sadness, and anger because you know how they are and you think theres no point in opening up to them or telling them what they do wrong bc they always do the same shit & continue to blame you for everything. note this though when I finally released all my years of internalized emotions on them and started texting them very knowledgeable shit about themselves, how they treated me, my mom trying to control and ruin me and my girlfriends relationship when we first got together (+ we have continued to be together for 1yr and 3 months still going strong she aināt ruin shiiiit) & shit talked my gf for no reason at all. When I started texting paragraph after paragraph (+ texting them back and forth.) I was met with my mom thinking something isnāt right regarding my mental health and telling my dad and brother she thinks something is wrong with me again (she was surprised how I could speak so knowledgeable bc I barely even interact with them anymore) them texting my phone asking if everything is okay and they are worried ab me (sheās also made many comments before this situation like āyou seem like you need to get back on ur medication youāre being irritableā etc when clearly that was the correct response to some fucked up comment she made iām sick of that shit.) (sorry that was lowkey irrelevant but holy shit). them throwing what they do for me as PARENTS in my face, blame shifting, manipulation, lying, her saying she has no acknowledgment of ever treating me like that over the years, trying to ruin our relationship, or saying any of the vile shit she said about my gf. OH and how she thought It couldnāt possibly be me thatās writing these exceptional level paragraphs and she thought my gf was controlling me and making me send all of that to my parents(me texting her ab this shit went on for like 3 days, 3 days of her not taking accountability for anything, lying, trying to manipulate by making me feel bad as well and she had the nerve to say āit feels like iām being abusedā GIRLLL STOPPP HUH im still confused ab that one) itās honestly sickening and baffling knowing ppl can think & say shit like that. iāve been so detached from them since I was little (never knew why at the time) but THIS makes that detachment 100x worse and I feel like thatās a GOOD thing for me even though the outcome wasnāt what I wanted, bc iām feeling free, released, not pint-up, etc most importantly more like I can finally be MYSELF!!! iām way more comfortable in who I am and my Identity now at 19 could you imagine that like damn (just hoping itās not temporary)!!! just putting this out there in hopes that someone else going through the same thing or similar will see and maybe help them a little. now i just gotta move out.
āļø she canāt see how what she says to people effects them drastically and takes 0 responsibility and acknowledgement of doing so and passes it off as āyou donāt know meā āiām a good personā āi have a good heart i love everybodyā etc or blame everything on me for examples āwe do everything for youā āyouāre going to treat us like that when we sacrificed so much for youā etc um .. yeah they signed up for that when they decided to have a child so itās fucked up to throw that in my face. THEN she loves to do this the most playing the victim card āyouāre abusing meā āit feels like you are abusing meā āwe feel like we canāt say anything right we are always walking on eggshells around you itās exhaustingā she knows damn well Iām not abusing her in any way shape or form thatās disrespectful to many people who actually had to go through and endure actual abuse. ādo you want to hurt us? is that your goalā āyouāre destroying the familyā āyouāre destroying our marriageā etc literally used to be all the timmmme when i was going through sh and stuff too. i didnāt do anything wronggggg all I did was speak up for myself FOR ONCE (bc itās been YEARS) ab the shit she does and how iām not okay with it i internalize literally everything (thatās y it took years. just sick of their shit idk what to do). low and behold after all that expressing I get met with all that blame shifting and lying. the reason why i never open up to her is bc when I do ever since i was little she always blamed me and made it seem like this whole other thing so hell yeah iād rather internalize then talk to her thatās a way better option than getting met with guilt tripping and shit what else could I do but internalize n doing that fucked my head up BAD. there are MANY more examples of what else she would say and my dad too but i really think heās brainwashed by her so idk thatās just off the top of my head .. lmao. she makes me feel so insaneee i even feel like iām exaggerating and making a big deal n being too sensitive writing all thisšµāš«. thereās SO MUCH more context but fuck all that i typed enough. thx for coming to my ted talkš·ļø.
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2024.05.21 11:30 AccomplishedDeer3143 What should i M24 do if i see my gf F19 flirting with another guy?
āll try to explain the situation really fast.
A couple of days ago i caught my gf texting this guy, usually it would be fine for me.
The problem is this guy was only specking bout sex with her, and asking her to go out. The main problem for me is that she never said something like āi dont feel comfortable specking about thisā instead she was replying whit shitty stickers of womans getting fu****, and even asked him when they could link up.
I tried to speck with her about that and she said he was a long time friend and she never thought it would be a problem for me (even if she said first to me that she would never accept something like this from me, lol she did it first behind my backā)
She said she used to send those sticker pretty often cause she find them funny (i checked other chats and it was a lie)
i tried to ask her why she wanted lo link up a guy who only texts this kind of stuff and she said cause he was a friend ( what kind of friends speck like this?)
Now she keeps saying that she is sorry and she wasnāt serius with this guy and i dont know what to think. I feel like forgiving is always the correct option but i feel cheated some how.
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2024.05.21 11:21 what_am_doinggg Adit & Khanak being problematic
This time unnati said nothing to him it was not directed him at all still he overreacted but it was btwn them why the heck khanak was posting hate stories for unnati and siwet sending adit stories in his broadcast. They all just wanted to troll unnati for no reason u all are influencing your fans to hate her.
Adit such a hypocrite like bro u and ur gf made shady comments abt her in ur vlogs called her snake and what not and when she reacted he was like take things in a fun way same goes for u adit. And I don't know why I get so mean vibes frm khanak ( bcz of her I have even started disliking adit) and what is with empty threats just expose bro ( even we want it). And for God sake stop tryna act good by posting stories ( clarifying why I said etc) after trolling her with ur gf. We all know u r not sane so stop acting one.
POV: I feel khanak is insecure of unnati bcz the way she reacts and talk abt her in unseen undekha.
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2024.05.21 11:16 kiwasabi The Metallica Conspiracy: The reason Metallica hasn't made a good album since The Black Album (1991) is because they were all replaced sometime in the early to mid 90's.
| INTRODUCTION: While listening to the radio the other day, I had a thought. What if the reason Metallica has sucked since 1996 is because they aren't actually Metallica, but an entirely different band? To me this logically is the only explanation for how Metallica's music changed so drastically and permanently between the release of their self titled album "Metallica" (The Black Album) on August 12, 1991, and their next album "Load" which released June 4, 1996. All of a sudden they changed from being a thrash metal band at their peak to being a mediocre grunge rock Bush wannabe band who cut off their long hair and started wearing eye shadow and earrings. THE BLACK ALBUM: https://preview.redd.it/sjhfpgrnlq1d1.jpg?width=640&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a11df9d81fab0b2c071112c843752d33e87206ee The whole theme of Metallica's self titled album (generally referred to as "The Black Album") appears to be "Don't Tread On Me". This is confirmed by the cover image of the album itself. On the bottom right corner is the "Don't Tread On Me" snake from the Gadsden Flag which is a rebel flag first created in 1789. The history of the rattlesnake representing American rebelliousness goes back to 1751 when The Pennsylvania Gazette suggested that since the British kept using the United States as a prison colony by sending us their convicts, that we should pay them back by sending them a "cargo of rattlesnakes". (LINK) Three years later a political cartoon was created which depicted a snake cut into 8 segments with the caption "Join Or Die". Each section of the snake represented a colony and warned of the dangers of disunity. The rattlesnake symbol caught on and became a part of several other Revolutionary War flags. Before the departure of the United States Navyās first mission in 1775, Continental Colonel Christopher Gadsden from South Carolina presented the newly appointed commander with a yellow rattlesnake flag to serve as a standard for his flagship. According to this video titled "Don't Tread On Me" Gadsden Flag Symbolism & Meaning (LINK), since the flag was designed for the Navy, the meaning of a yellow Navy flag in 1789 meant "capital punishment on board". Thus the yellow color was meant to be a warning to any other ships who might impose on the independence of the United States colonies. Also mentioned in the video is the fact that the snake consists of 33 sections if you include the head and tail, which could be a reference to the 33 degrees of Freemasonry, or the 33 vertebrae of the Kundalini. Also, I noticed that the snake itself is basically a reversed 666. Finally, the shape of the snake symbol is triangular like an Illuminati All Seeing Eye Pyramid. So there's definitely a lot of hidden meaning behind the "Don't Tread On Me" flag it seems. Anyway, the lyrical content of The Black Album is full of references to a slave who is oppressed by a cruel master such as "With this whipping boy done wrong" (The Unforgiven) and "Do my dirty work, scapegoat" (Sad But True). The overall theme is about rebelling against this cruel overlord, and there's literally a song called "Don't Tread On Me" with the lyrics repeatedly warning what will happen if the message is not properly heeded. "Enter Sandman" appears to be about Project Monarch Trauma Based Mind Control as well as Satanic Ritual Abuse. When it talks about, "Exit light, enter night. We're off to never never land", it's encouraging the traumatized victim to disassociate from reality by splitting off into a new personality and "going off to never never land" (referring to the fairy tale world of Peter Pan, which is a mind control theme). But the song that seems to put it all right out there what happened to Metallica is "The Unforgiven". The lyrics discuss being born into Project Monarch mind control and "learning their rules" and being "deprived of all his thoughts". Then it talks about how the child swears that they will never take away his (free) will. It then speaks about how he has turned into a bitter man who has tried to please them all. Then finally he decides it's a fight he cannot win and he no longer cares, and the old man prepares to die regretfully, "That old man here is me". This all seems to tell me exactly what happened to the original members of Metallica. Metallica "The Unforgiven" lyrics (LINK) New blood joins this earth, And quickly he's subdued. Through constant pained disgrace The young boy learns their rules. With time the child draws in. This whipping boy done wrong. Deprived of all his thoughts The young man struggles on and on he's known A vow unto his own, That never from this day His will they'll take away. What I've felt, What I've known Never shined through in what I've shown. Never be. Never see. Won't see what might have been. What I've felt, What I've known Never shined through in what I've shown. Never free. Never me. So I dub thee unforgiven. They dedicate their lives To running all of his. He tries to please them all ā This bitter man he is. Throughout his life the same ā He's battled constantly. This fight he cannot win ā A tired man they see no longer cares. The old man then prepares To die regretfully ā That old man here is me. JAMES HETFIELD BURNED BY PYROTECHNICS: "On August 8, 1992, during the performance at Montreal's Olympic Stadium; several songs into Metallica's set, during the song Fade to Black, frontman and rhythm guitarist James Hetfield was accidentally burned by improper pyrotechnics forcing the band to cut their set short as Hetfield was rushed to the hospital." (VIDEO LINK) I've long had a theory that Michael Jackson was replaced by a new body double in 1984 after his Pepsi commercial pyrotechnics disaster which badly burned him. So I made the connection that when James Hetfield was engulfed in flames in 1992 in Montreal by a pyrotechnics failure, it could have been a very good opportunity to switch him with a replacement. This is only a theory of course and I'm not sure if this was when James Hetfield was actually switched out, but as you'll see in the photo comparisons below, he clearly was replaced at some point (it seems likely it was in 1995 sometime before the recording of the album "Load" which took place May 1, 1995 ā February 1, 1996). I also find it a little more than coincidental that Metallica was playing "Fade To Black" when this supposed accident took place. Metallica "Fade to Black" lyrics (LINK) Life it seems will fade away Drifting further every day Getting lost within myself Nothing matters, no one else I have lost the will to live Simply nothing more to give There is nothing more for me Need the end to set me free Things aren't what they used to be Missing one inside of me Deathly lost, this can't be real Can't stand this hell I feel Emptiness is filling me To the point of agony Growing darkness taking dawn I was me, but now he's gone No one but me, can save myself, but it's too late Now I can't think, think why I should even try Yesterday seems, as though it never existed Death greets me warm, now I will just say goodbye (goodbye) "LOAD" RELEASED JUNE 1996: Load was released June 4th 1996 and was a major departure from The Black Album. The first track on he album is "Ain't My Bitch" which could be about the new Metallica members disposing of the original lineup. Load in general is a very mediocre grunge rock album that sounds literally nothing like any previous Metallica album. My theory is now that the reason the band all cut their hair and changed their facial hair around this time in their careers was to disguise the fact that they were imposters. As the evidence will show, all 4 original members of Metallica were replaced sometime around 1995 which is why Metallica has never made another good album since 1991: it's because IT'S NOT ACTUALLY METALLICA. Honestly this album is so terrible that I can't listen to it enough to go in depth on my analysis. So I'm just going to say that I find it significant that the first song of the album with Metallica 2.0 is "Ain't My Bitch" which speaks about getting rid of someone who is dragging them down who is so useless, and now it's time to say goodbye. I also find the opening lines extremely significant, "Outta my way. Outta my day. Out of your mind and into mine". This seems to be talking about how a transfer of consciousness is taking place between the old band and into the new members. Of course what this is really referring to is demonic possession. "Ain't My Bitch" Metallica lyrics (LINK) Outta my way Outta my day Out of your mind and into mine Into no one Into not one Into your step but out of time Headstrong Whatās wrong? Iāve already heard this song before You arrived, but now itās time to kiss your ass goodbye Dragging me down Why you around? So useless It aināt my fall It aināt my call It aināt my bitch It aināt my bitch Down on the sun Down and no fun Down and out, where the hell you been? Damn it all down Damn it unbound Damn it all down to hell again THE PHOTO EVIDENCE: The following photo comparisons on the left have photographs from 1994 and earlier, whereas the photos on the right are from 1996 and later. As you can see, all four original members of Metallica were very clearly replaced sometime in the early to mid 90's. There are major changes in the shape of the jaw of all 4 members. The smoking gun evidence is the comparisons which show Kirk Hammett and Lars Ulrich smiling. There's no explanation for why their teeth would have changed completely with five or so years. These are very clearly completely different human beings. JAMES HETFIELD: https://preview.redd.it/wg2ad2i3fq1d1.jpg?width=1277&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=3389ce53ffa99807f87a5059956cd73c1978bd82 https://preview.redd.it/sgbcctl39q1d1.jpg?width=366&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e125f9e3a9a66ce07b03672b8fa7f489237f0cc3 https://preview.redd.it/rb1g19ngfq1d1.jpg?width=1426&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=dab9b3e7d5a693b0fd4b9f763134e17866c7dccb LARS ULRICH: https://preview.redd.it/j8qjq5sd9q1d1.jpg?width=905&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=bd911c749bcbb4fc63976f5f249516595b286957 https://preview.redd.it/5924v5sd9q1d1.jpg?width=339&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d86902821831b49a4a0fdd4c1b24bebe72e22ff5 https://preview.redd.it/jnnhd5sd9q1d1.jpg?width=394&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=6c22b8b9af5b73f3698b31081b03c606054eec9f https://preview.redd.it/5wv59psd9q1d1.jpg?width=587&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a42b249338739a897327a1441a59e74cc9020a09 KIRK HAMMETT: https://preview.redd.it/vyimilim9q1d1.jpg?width=878&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=dcf51aa4e09f13a2991eb6a7ea8430ed8d25f6d6 https://preview.redd.it/wopizlim9q1d1.jpg?width=1299&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f2369dbdead7640ccae678d7d654d2a230428c2c https://preview.redd.it/ssero3jm9q1d1.jpg?width=511&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=9b8d0ab1af6bcdec05440ae8dc1baee0454aff6b https://preview.redd.it/hds71oim9q1d1.jpg?width=585&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e2461767585c6d75e4cd9bc859802775330b0165 https://preview.redd.it/9v4ynmim9q1d1.jpg?width=706&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=df83f4918764fbedb21e2355f1296ba6918c19e1 https://preview.redd.it/vn5v0mim9q1d1.jpg?width=411&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f49fb00141b2f285b98d8dbefa1a639536a55244 JASON NEWSTED: https://preview.redd.it/phbam2u9aq1d1.jpg?width=759&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0f3948c7c1eb1c98c502f126033ce1b102c7783b https://preview.redd.it/d1ozm2u9aq1d1.jpg?width=558&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2093ea2eb00de9a3e67b5ebfdfa48aff12c16455 https://preview.redd.it/48sww2u9aq1d1.jpg?width=1450&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a6b2f808a063b55d77ac00bfa3f7df070f456ff4 https://preview.redd.it/5c4u24u9aq1d1.jpg?width=614&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=cc220daf5d25ebaa05292addaf00a0ff4739d8c6 https://preview.redd.it/9qlld3u9aq1d1.jpg?width=442&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=bbc35c849d359e1c553edf0a67bd3cd531cb929d CONCLUSION: Ever wondered why Metallica seems like a mediocre cover band which is trying (and failing) desperately to sound like it used to? Ever wondered why all four members of Metallica suddenly decided to cut off their iconic heavy metal long hair and started wearing eye shade and earrings? It's because THIS IS NOT METALLICA. The last album that was recorded by the original members of Metallica was The Black Album in 1991. James Hetfield and the other members of Metallica were tired of being "Whipping boys done wrong" who were "deprived of all his thoughts". They decided to tell the Illuminati, "Don't Tread On Me" with their magnum opus "The Black Album", and they unfortunately paid the ultimate price. Notice this line which is a direct reference to The Illuminati and it's All Seeing Eye, "Shining with brightness, always on surveillance. The eyes, they never close, emblem of vigilance". Metallica is literally telling The Illuminati, "Don't Tread On Me". Don't tread on me I said, don't tread on me Liberty or death, what we so proudly hail Once you provoke her, rattling of her tail Never begins it, never, but once engaged Never surrenders, showing the fangs of rage I said don't tread on me So be it Threaten no more To secure peace is to prepare for war So be it Settle the score Touch me again for the words that you'll hear evermore Hey Don't tread on me Love it or leave it, she with the deadly bite Quick is the blue tongue, forked as lighting strike Shining with brightness, always on surveillance The eyes, they never close, emblem of vigilance Ooh no, no, no don't tread on me submitted by kiwasabi to conspiracyNOPOL [link] [comments] |
2024.05.21 11:09 GloomyUse8058 I need advice as a clueless virgin woman
I am not street smart about men. I have had SA attempt in past and too emotionally scared to be in relationships. SO I wanted just a friend or a distraction. But I met a guy on here dirtyr4r. We added each other on Snapchat then he said he would teach me things like seeing him naked for first time and I said I wouldn't send any sexy pics and he said it was fine. but yesterday and today he has been ignoring my messages. I am pretty Latina and sweet and he is a European man. I kept completing him here and there. Maybe his ego got bigger. and nothing has happened yet. Did he lose interest? Or do men have a lot of options on there ? He told me to listen to a song and kept calling me beautiful and gorgeous. He said I would be his ideal gf and we couldn't stop texting each other all day Saturday and Sunday and he stayed up all night with me. and then came Monday and he's been ignoring me today and said, "I am with someone atm." And left me on read maybe his friends with benefits. I know he is single and told me and he doesn't hide me. because I saw his social media but I think he has 4 friends with benefits. But I want to learn from him and I don't know if I make another post on there and he sees it will he care and think "she's messing around with other guys"
But I asked him I would like to see him naked and I told him but you wont expect anything in return and he said yes. I told him no nudes or anything of that nature and he said he was fine. or did he find someone more exciting ?."
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2024.05.21 11:08 eveofthefruit My parked car was hit
I was working on one of my cars in a parking lot at a shop store. I had my other parked car with in lines and that's the one that was hit. I did get hysterical because who wouldn't? It's a 88 classic mint condition low milage car. I have owned it for two months. Some guy came around the corner not caring to check and backed right into my car with no one in it. His friend threatened to hit me a multitude of times. I have on recording him threatening to send his sister over and beat me up on top of footage of him laying his hands on his gf. His gfs mom lied and said that's her son. Looked then up on Facebook so I can know names and figure out who this kid is and that's how I found out he's just the boyfriend. I attempted to ask for the money with the mom saying the judge will decide. He has no insurance no plates and also was cited for hitting a parked car. Thankfully I have someone who has footage over everything. As I will not say who or where I got it from in case those people see this post. It's 500 for my deductible and probably a good two grand to fix. Was going to get it ready for a car show this summer but that's out of the equation now. What is your opinion? What should I do?
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2024.05.21 10:57 JackkSkyline 21m Scotland/UK/western Australia - looking for chats or gaming buddies :)
(really quickly the reason I have two vastly different locations is that there is a near 100% chance I am moving to the UK this year)
hi my name is Jack, I'm a recent cyber security and networking graduate and ideally will be moving to Scotland to do my masters :) my hobbies include games, photography, cars and F1!
if you wanna chat about anything or wanna play some games I'm down for anything
I haven't had much time recently for games since I've been studying but I really wanna get back into it! I have been playing some project zomboid though and I'll pretty much play most shooters, sandbox, open world, survival or RPG games! also really enjoyed elden ring so maybe some more souls like games (been loving helldivers 2!)
not sure what else to say, if you want to chat send me a message!
see ya!
oh and even if ur not near me I'd still be down to chat or game or whatever :)
(also my dms are open! no need to comment under my post!) (also please don't just send me a one word message, I'd like to chat but I also don't wanna interrogate you!)
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2024.05.21 10:51 AccomplishedDeer3143 What should i do if i see my gf flirting with another guy?
Iāll try to explain the situation really fast.
A couple of days ago i caught my gf texting this guy, usually it would be fine for me.
The problem is this guy was only specking bout sex with her, and asking her to go out. The main problem for me is that she never said something like āi dont feel comfortable specking about thisā instead she was replying whit shitty stickers of womans getting fu****, and even asked him when they could link up.
I tried to speck with her about that and she said he was a long time friend and she never thought it would be a problem for me (even if she said first to me that she would never accept something like this from me, lol she did it first behind my backā)
She said she used to send those sticker pretty often cause she find them funny (i checked other chats and it was a lie)
i tried to ask her why she wanted lo link up a guy who only texts this kind of stuff and she said cause he was a friend ( what kind of friends speck like this?)
Now she keeps saying that she is sorry and she wasnāt serius with this guy and i dont know what to think. I feel like forgiving is always the correct option but i feel cheated some how.
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2024.05.21 10:13 BigVeterinarian2388 Is my GF(18F) wrong for not wanting me(19M) to get a tattoo of a passed friend?
My current GF (18F) and I (19M), have been arguing about getting a tattoo on my body of the name of a recently passed friend (18F) who happened to be a girl. I have been dating my romantic Girlfriend for about a year now and when my romantic girlfriend and I first met I had a platonic girl-friend who Iāve known since I was little. A Couple months before my romantic girlfriend and I met, my platonic friend admitted to me that sheās always had feelings for me since we were younger, I had told her that the feelings were not reciprocated from my end and I wanted to stay as friends. After this she would make some jokes/comments about her feelings for me and I would sometimes go along with them by joking back all though she knew i wasnāt wanting anything to come from them. When my current romantic GF came into my life my platonic friend knew I wanted something serious with her but she still crossed some of my boundaries by continuing with the jokes and comments and sending explicit photos while I was spending time with my current gf. Because my current gf and I werenāt comfortable with this and my platonic friend didnāt respect my boundaries I let the friendship go although I stilled cared and had love for her. December of this last year (2023) my friend passed away and it was hard for me given the connection we had not even a year ago, Iāve been wanting to get a tattoo to honour her because of our years of friendship before things got awkward but my current gf is very uncomfortable with it because of how my relationship ended with her.
My romantic GF only knows her as someone who interfered with our relationship so itās hard for her to understand and let go of that. However me and this platonic friend were very close beyond her feelings for me and she was there through a lot of my hard times. I really donāt know what to do, I really want to honour and remember her with this tattoo however my GF thinks it might end up making our relationship awkward having to be reminded of the situation we had dealt with at the start of our relationship.
What do I do and how do I help my girlfriend understand me?
TLDR: my gf doesnāt approve of a name tattoo of a passed platonic gf because she had developed feelings towards of our friendship.
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2024.05.21 10:02 walakomaisip_25 How do I start?
How do I start?
Hi. Im a 30M na may partner na 34M. He's my first. Naka isang gf lang ako tapos siya na. Kung san pa ko humugot ng lakas ng loob makaamin lang na gusto ko siya, and I did it over the phone.
Now, we're reaching our 2nd year.
Early stages ng relationship was like heaven. Best days of my life. Pero of course, there are shaky moments, actually madalas.
It all started when I tried to browse his phone. He came from a relationship (same sex) Where he allowed na maging number 2. Nung kinukwento nya to habang nanliligaw pa lang ako eh, I can totally feel the pain and how devastated he was. Kaya medyo nahirapan siya pagtiwalaan ako nung una. I saw some videos, during the time na nag eexplore siya (G app) Kasi prior to the number 2 situation, nagka rel pa siya na didnt end well too. I asked him why the videos are still there. ( I saw them on his very old phone na ginagamit lang nya for bank transfers) He said, years na bago ung last na check nya dun sa phone na yun and didnt know it was still there. So to put an end on this argument, I took the liberty of deleting every single thing, for my peace of mind as well.
Then there came a time na I had a problem financially during the rel. Nag offer kasi si bank ng loan, I took it. We spent it mostly, going out of town, cebu, tagaytay, galera etc, and magbili bili ng gamit sa apartment na nirerent nya. So basically, we were building our life together.
So, nung nagsimula na ung time na palagi akong CWD, tinanong nya ano nangyayare kung may loan ba ko, baket lagi ako gipit, kasi di na ko nakakapag bigay ng share ko sa expenses. I lied. Told him na wala akong loan, na majority lang ng sahod ay napupunta sa family.
This kept going on for months, ramdam ko ung stress nya sa pera dahil napapaheram na din siya sa family nya, feeling nya wala siya katulong, based don sa kwento nya sa mga friends namin, di nya masabi saken kasi nga mahal nya ko at ayaw nya ako pauwiin/paalisin.
Then, there were 2 instances din na minsan nakakuha ako pera sakanya ng di nya nalalaman. Sobrang mali. Sobrang sising sisi ako na ginawa ko yon. Moreover, nung nag stay temporarily ung isang friend namin sa apt (kasi walang wala din yon) nalaman namin na pwede pala unahan si bank sa pagkaltas, so gagawin hintayin macredit sahod then bibilisan ang transfer sa ewallet para di madeduct sa loan, don ko na lang nashare na may loan din ako, not directly to him, nabrought lang yung convo kaya nasabi ko na din.
When it comes to intimacy, we've never done penetration, ever. So I know that u guys knew what we were doing. Last time we did it was last year. After non wala na, recently nag ask ako kasi nga 1yr na nakalipas, sabe nya, puro kasi problema kaya pano gaganahan. I accepted kasi totoo naman.
Magkawork kami sa office at magkateam, after a year, napromote ako into level II. Actually sabay kami nag apply pero ako lang nakuha. Lungkot din sya non, kasi sabay kami inapproach to apply pero ako lang nakuha. He felt left behind, na parang wala siyang growth don. So he resigned.
Last year December, I lost my mom. Wala na siya sa office non, ako andon pa. Sobrang sakit mawalan ng magulang. I expressed my intention to him na reresign na din ako don kasi I lost my focus, I lost myself, gusto ko lang magkulong at magluksa.
He kept telling me na while andon pa ko and if Im planning to resign, mag apply apply na ko sa iba para di ako mabakante ng matagal. I didnt listen. Umalis ako at nagpahinga with my final pay as my only source, dun pa din sa apartment. Then, malapit na maubos funds ko saka lang ako nag apply apply, nahirapan ako, up to now naghihintay pa din ako ng final interview.
Siya naman, nakapag start na ulet mag work. Bumalik sa dati ang sitwasyon. Pinapasan nya ulit lahat, waiting for me na makabangon. Kaya lang di na nya nahintay.
He told me na napagod na siya maghintay makabangon ako, pinilit naman nya. Kasi ung pinangsimula nya, sa family nya siya umasa eh. So yun ang binubuno nya hulugan ngayon. Sabe nya saken, somehow nagsisi siya at nalungkot makita na nalugmok ako. Hindi ako nakakapag pagupit, sobrang pumayat ako, bumagsak katawan ko, bigat na bigat ako sa sarili ko.
Then sa office nila, may umaaligid saknya na guy. Nagpaparamdam. Before he started working, he gave me a headsup na hindi nya ipapaalam na Bi siya na may partner siya. I said ok, kasi discreet din kami nung una then eventually nalaman din kasi dahil saken din, I was just proud na kami, we're together.
This guy kept on sending him flirty messages, nag effort pa yun kumuha mga stolen pictures nya then isesend sa msnger with a caption "pogiii" I asked him sino yun, sabe kawork, at biro biro lang yon, palabiro talaga at may ibang nililigawan sa office. Di naman nya mapagbawalan magsend kasi di nga alam na may partner, tinatawanan lang nya pag nirereplayan nya. Pero I know na may something don sa guy. Na naaamoy nya partner ko.
Then saturday came, naginuman sila buong team. Mga 2pm na siya nakauwi, out nya 5am. Lasing na lasing, di alam pano nakauwi. So, forda alaga ako. While he was sleeping, sunday morning, I had an urge to check his phone, nilagay ko daliri nya kasi tinanggal na nya fingerprint ko at iniba ung pin dahil sa instance ng pangungupit.
The guy messaged him, called him "daddy mwa" at "wag mo ipagkalat sa office kung gano ko kasarap humalik kasi di naman ako magpapagaw"
P*******NA
Kahit tulog pa siya, talagang sumigaw ako. Sabe ako ano ibig sabihin neto at pano nya nagawa saken to. Nung sinagot nya ko siya ba nag sabe na "wag mo akong lolokohin" And then this??!!!
He said, hindi nya alam, wala siya matandaan, lasing siya. Typical reasoning.
Sobrang nagiinit ang emosyon ko, sabe ko papuntahin nya ung guy or tawagan at mag uusap kaming tatlo. Ang tinawagan nya, ung straight friend na offcmate nya to ask if nakita nya siya naghalikan, sabe non hindi nya alam, hindi nya matandaan.
Now, we're taking a break. Physically, intimately, emotionally. Dun nya nabrought ung struggle namin financially na naging deciding factor para sakanya.
Monday, the day I packed my stuff (Di ko nakuha lahat kasi andami) We had a mature conversation before I left, na aayusin muna ang mga buhay buhay, lalo na ko since wala ko work at pera, ang hirap kumilos. Then kapag ok na lahat, maybe we can try again. Focus muna ako sa sarili at pamilya ko, kasi pati rent namin sa bahay where are father lives ay behind na, malapit na kami maapaalis.
So, yun ang usapan.
The next day, siguro tinadhana na din na mahanap ko ung acct ni guy. Matagal ko na kasi talagang hinanap. Di ko napigilan at minessage ko, di ko inaway or minura. I kept it professional.
Told the guy na nababasa ko lahat ng chat nya lalo na ung inuman scene, told him na may partner is not available, not single kaya please pakitigil.
Sinend nya ung message ko na yun sa partner ko with a message "hindi ka pala single, gago ka" He said sorry to the guy.
Inabisuhan ko naman partner ko na nahanap ko ung acct, sinend ko din ung sinabi ko to prove na di ko inaway. Asked him what he feels, he said na di nya alam, na sana hinayaan ko na siya na magsabi. Sabe ko naman, kung matagal mo na sinabi, hindi aabot sa ganto.
Right now, nag uusap pa din kami. Minsan sobrang nakukulitan din ako sa sarili ko kasi nag usap na kami na time and space nga pero madalas ko pa din siya chinecheck. Maybe I'm still at the withdrawal stage. Nag apologize ako, and said unti unti kong ititigil. Na ano pang sense nung napag usapan kung araw araw pa din ako chat ng chat.
I asked an update don sa guy, sabe di na sila naguusap at nagpapansinan kasi galit nga. Na awkward na nga sa work.
Kagabi galing ako don, nag ask ako permission to stay the night kasi late na natapos interviews at wala na ko masasakyan pauwi. He agreed. Medyo inis pa nga siya na andon ako ulit eh akala nya ba may pinag usapan kami, sabe nya. Pero naging ok naman eventually.
Now, Im back home, pinipigil tanggalin siya sa sistema ko muna. Masyado ko kasi pinaikot mundo ko sakanya, kaya napabaayan ko na sarili ko. Katapos lang namin mag chat over IG pero hindi kami ok. Kulit ko din kasi talaga. Baka sa kakulitan ko eh icut na nya comms ng tuluyan para don talaga sa time and space. Kaya tumigil na ko, pipigilan ko hanggat maaari.
What are your thoughts on this po? Sobrang bait din niya kasi sabe nya pagsahod nya, bibigyan nya ko pang simula. Di na muna nya huhulugan family nya.
Im still trying to continue my life na di siya nakakausap, kasama at nakikita. Focus muna ako ibangon ang sarili ko, yun din sabe nya, na nawala na ung taong nakilala nya at minahal nya. I guess, heto muna ang mundo ko.
Help please.
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2024.05.21 09:58 Cultural-Show9603 Am I overreacting or is my boyfriend a lazy one?
Hiii!! All the names are false :)
I(19F) started a relationship with Peter (19M) one month and a half ago. It's my second one and his first one. We met because his best friend, we'll call Lisa, wanted to present me to him from the beginning since she said we were really similar. First we started talking through instagram, then whatsapp, and in the end we met. All this time before becoming a couple was great and, even if he wasn't the best texter, you could sense his interest: he started conversations, didn't say if any girl was prettier than me, almost never forgot to say good morning/night...etc.
But everything changed when we became a couple.
Two weeks after, he started to have less inniciative, have less interest, prefered to say good night earlier to me so he would talk to Lisa on calls, would ask me less and less how I was doing...etc. It gave me anxiety: my last partner started to act like this when he stopped having interest on me and it all ended quite bad, and I started to overthink and have a lot of paranoia. At the end we talked about this, and he always made me know everything is alright and he was in love with me. So I stopped overthinking and got more relaxed.
But more time passed, and more things happened: * He started to tell me I had to loose weight and put some creams for my acne: I know, I don't have the best skin or body, but I'm never dirty or smell bad and I dress well. Peter was always pointing out my flaws and I repeatedly told him to STOP telling me I have to do excersice and improve my body since this is a REALLY SENSITIVE TOPIC to me (bullyed a lot bc of my body in the past). His answer always was that he was an honest person. Peter only stopped when he said I was more attractive before college and I stopped texting him for 2 days. I was MAD. Finally we talked things and since then he doesn't say more cruel things.
- He started to say when a girl was pretty to him: I actually didn't mind since I also find other guys handsome and is normal to find people attractive. The weird thing is how he would say it. (Ej: one day repently sent me an audio saying he stared to some goth girls and felt guilty and needed to tell me) (Ej: we saw a gothic girl and he stopped repently and said outloud "sorry but this is my weakness")
- He started to forget to say I love you: ok here I wanna explain we speak spanish. In spanish I love you can be "te amo" or "te quiero". The serious one is "te quiero", which is something only said to parents, brothers, really good friends or a spouse. He used to say "te amo" a lot at the beginning, but with the time he stopped saying it and even stopped saying "tambiƩn te amo" (I love you too).
- He started to forget a lot to say good morning/night: always was busy and forgot, but never forgot to ask me for hot photos (that I don't send anymore lol).
- I was the one carrying all the conversations: we both aren't great at talking and I understand if he sometimes doesn't want to text. The thing is I was always the one who had to put all the effort in talking. For a period of time I decided to stop doing it and if he wanted to talk he'd do it...at the end, Peter asked me why I wasn't talking so much and I told him he didn't put any effort in conversations. His answer? "You know I'm not really creative doing it JAJAJA". I swear he was when we were knowing each other.
- Lisa: ok. She's great, the best person I've met in college. And I love talking a lot to her and laughing in class together. BUT they pass reaaaaally long time together, and she is really dominant and to a certain point manipulative. It wasn't an issue until one day we were in her car alone and she said out of nowhere "you know one of the reasons I wanted you to know Peter? Because I knew you would never ask him to be more time with you than with him". I got in shock, but didn't say anything about that (yes I know I'm an idiot :/).
I overthink a lot, so even if I know he isn't the most attentive boyfriend, I don't know if I'm overreacting or my discomfort is justified. He is preparing for the university entrance exams and I don't want to put pressure on him with these things...
TL;DR: my boyfriend changed his behavior towards me and I don't know if I'm overthinking or he is just a lazy boyfriend!
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2024.05.21 09:53 Cultural-Show9603 Am I overreacting or is my boyfriend a lazy one?
Hiii!! All the names are false :)
I(19F) started a relationship with Peter (19M) one month and a half ago. It's my second one and his first one. We met because his best friend, we'll call Lisa, wanted to present me to him from the beginning since she said we were really similar. First we started talking through instagram, then whatsapp, and in the end we met. All this time before becoming a couple was great and, even if he wasn't the best texter, you could sense his interest: he started conversations, didn't say if any girl was prettier than me, almost never forgot to say good morning/night...etc.
But everything changed when we became a couple.
Two weeks after, he started to have less inniciative, have less interest, prefered to say good night earlier to me so he would talk to Lisa on calls, would ask me less and less how I was doing...etc. It gave me anxiety: my last partner started to act like this when he stopped having interest on me and it all ended quite bad, and I started to overthink and have a lot of paranoia. At the end we talked about this, and he always made me know everything is alright and he was in love with me. So I stopped overthinking and got more relaxed.
But more time passed, and more things happened: * He started to tell me I had to loose weight and put some creams for my acne: I know, I don't have the best skin or body, but I'm never dirty or smell bad and I dress well. Peter was always pointing out my flaws and I repeatedly told him to STOP telling me I have to do excersice and improve my body since this is a REALLY SENSITIVE TOPIC to me (bullyed a lot bc of my body in the past). His answer always was that he was an honest person. Peter only stopped when he said I was more attractive before college and I stopped texting him for 2 days. I was MAD. Finally we talked things and since then he doesn't say more cruel things.
- He started to say when a girl was pretty to him: I actually didn't mind since I also find other guys handsome and is normal to find people attractive. The weird thing is how he would say it. (Ej: one day repently sent me an audio saying he stared to some goth girls and felt guilty and needed to tell me) (Ej: we saw a gothic girl and he stopped repently and said outloud "sorry but this is my weakness")
- He started to forget to say I love you: ok here I wanna explain we speak spanish. In spanish I love you can be "te amo" or "te quiero". The serious one is "te quiero", which is something only said to parents, brothers, really good friends or a spouse. He used to say "te amo" a lot at the beginning, but with the time he stopped saying it and even stopped saying "tambiƩn te amo" (I love you too).
- He started to forget a lot to say good morning/night: always was busy and forgot, but never forgot to ask me for hot photos (that I don't send anymore lol).
- I was the one carrying all the conversations: we both aren't great at talking and I understand if he sometimes doesn't want to text. The thing is I was always the one who had to put all the effort in talking. For a period of time I decided to stop doing it and if he wanted to talk he'd do it...at the end, Peter asked me why I wasn't talking so much and I told him he didn't put any effort in conversations. His answer? "You know I'm not really creative doing it JAJAJA". I swear he was when we were knowing each other.
- Lisa: ok. She's great, the best person I've met in college. And I love talking a lot to her and laughing in class together. BUT they pass reaaaaally long time together, and she is really dominant and to a certain point manipulative. It wasn't an issue until one day we were in her car alone and she said out of nowhere "you know one of the reasons I wanted you to know Peter? Because I knew you would never ask him to be more time with you than with him". I got in shock, but didn't say anything about that (yes I know I'm an idiot :/).
I overthink a lot, so even if I know he isn't the most attentive boyfriend, I don't know if I'm overreacting or my discomfort is justified. When I ask him he says he doesn't have any problem in our relationship and that he thinks everything is ok. Also, he is preparing for the university entrance exams and I don't want to put pressure on him with these things...
TL;DR: my boyfriend changed his behavior towards me and I don't know if I'm overthinking or he is just a lazy boyfriend!
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2024.05.21 09:37 secretsecret124 21F looking for some new friends !
Hi everyone, Iām looking for some new friends to game with on PC! I mostly play horror games but I play some other type of games as well. Please send more than just a hi in ur message if you decide to send one! (Friends only)
Some of the games I play/have are: phasmophobia, fortnite, outlast trials, lethal company, dbd, sons of the forest, plus a whole bunch more on my steam. I also recently started playing MW3 and I really enjoy it so it would be awesome to find someone to play that with! I also have MW2 & MW1
Some more about me: I love anything horror and would love to watch some movies and shows together, my favorite show is Hannibal! I love vkei and enjoy some anime (jjba, black butler, nana, dorohedoro).
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2024.05.21 09:36 secretsecret124 21/PC/CST Looking for new gamer friends!
Hi everyone, Iām looking for some new friends to game with on PC! I mostly play horror games but I play some other type of games as well. Please send more than just a hi in ur message if you decide to send one! (Friends only)
Some of the games I play/have are: phasmophobia, fortnite, outlast trials, lethal company, dbd, sons of the forest, plus a whole bunch more on my steam. I also recently started playing MW3 and I really enjoy it so it would be awesome to find someone to play that with! I also have MW2 & MW1
Some more about me: I love anything horror and would love to watch some movies and shows together, my favorite show is Hannibal! I love vkei and enjoy some anime (jjba, black butler, nana, dorohedoro).
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2024.05.21 09:34 secretsecret124 21 [F4A] #Online Looking for new friends to game with!
Hi everyone, Iām looking for some new friends to game with on PC! I mostly play horror games but I play some other type of games as well. Please send more than just a hi in ur message if you decide to send one! (Friends only)
Some of the games I play/have are: phasmophobia, fortnite, outlast trials, lethal company, dbd, sons of the forest, plus a whole bunch more on my steam. I also recently started playing MW3 and I really enjoy it so it would be awesome to find someone to play that with! I also have MW2 & MW1
Some more about me: I love anything horror and would love to watch some movies and shows together, my favorite show is Hannibal! I love vkei and enjoy some anime (jjba, black butler, nana, dorohedoro).
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2024.05.21 09:21 sjsame1 State of the industry
This is a rant and if it's not allowed feel free to delete the post and you all have my sincere apology. If not feel free to go along and add on to the pile.
I have been losing interest and fun on a day to day basis ever since we have decided to grow a bit more and focus on bigger clients. However it's not the big clients that make me lose interest, love the pressure, love the challenges, love most of it. It's dealing with the absolute shitload of horrible ERP/CRM/whatever the BLEEP resellers/software companies and the greed that comes with them.
Getting told that you will have to install SQL 2016 in 2024 because currently they don't support 2019 or 2022 is disgusting. Not only because it is a waste of time for us but the exorbitant amount of money they charge for the migration from 2012 to 2016 only to do it all over again in a year (or two) when 2016 is EOL is pissing me off more than it should. It's not my money, we don't have to do much and in the end I probably end up with a fatter wallet because of it. But good lord I feel dirty even though I'm not the one pushing this. Sick and tired of having to sit in meetings where I hear a company talk about the system requirements for their software being stupendous only to then get told that their software is 32-bits and all of their system requirements are bullshit.
Right now we have a client who is basically looking at an upgrade from SQL 2012 to SQL 2016 which is going to set them back a whopping 58k, only a tiny sliver of that is our work but the ERP in question basically has a monopoly for this industry and know it. Realistically they will have to take another 58k (or more) in 2 years when 2016 is done for. This client literally has no choice but to just sign on the dotted line and take it on the chin because there is no decent alternative. Then there's the company that has well over 20 unresolved tickets for a company that has less than 10 people using their software, but because their software is complete dogshit and because they have been just plugging holes instead of updating/fixing the base, no normal fix works and they don't know how to fix anything. Can the client move on? No. Will the software company grant any kind of goodwill when another "tech" spent 3 full days fixing a print button? Nope, here's a 4k invoice.
After speaking with several CEO's/CTO's about this in an advisory role they all basically say the same. They accept the insane greed and money grubbing because switching software will probably kill efficiency so taking the L here is actually the way to go. It's disgusting.
And now I don't want to sound like that old bitter man shaking his fist to the heavens but where have the times gone when the software space wasn't as disgusting. Where have the times gone where you could call a helpdesk and not sit through 20 options in a menu only to still get forwarded to an outsourced receptionist who says a technician will call back as soon as humanly possible. My bloodpressure spikes even thinking about hearing another technician read up a script or a KB for a problem that has already been escalated twice only to get told that they will have to send this "even further up the chain" because appearantly the first THREE lines of defence for the software company don't know how to deal with non-standard errors.
Don't get me wrong, I love my work and I am proud for how far I have come but my goodness I am so done of seeing my staff sigh and moan after having to deal with the same shit over and over again.
Thanks for coming to my Ted talk.
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2024.05.21 09:19 banabredz Just another day
2024.05.21 08:57 Draxov1999 My girlfriend cheated on me twice... can i trust her again?
(M25 and F21) Just a bit of context. My girlfriend and I have been together for 7 months. We've become super close in that time, we're close with each other's families and talks around marriage/proposing are happening. A reason we're so close is that she trusts me with her body, which she has anxiety over, and i'm the only guy she's dated who's really has true intentions with her.
We're both aware she has an issue with lying and we're tryna work on that
Around 2 months ago I found she'd been messaging a guy from back home who she's known since 18, they were never together but slept together regularly. They havent slept together since we were together but my girlfriend tried to arrange a date for them to have sex. I confronted her before anything happened.
We tried to work through this and she spent the next few weeks crying, writing me letters and telling me she's fully committed to us and it wont happen again...
Fast forward 2 months and I stumbled acroos her messages to an old work colleague where she's been sending him nudes for years, even since the first incident. Again, the same response of tears, letters and she's now saying she's fully matured and just wants me.
The love we have for each other is real and given the context of her previous issues of lying, im desperately trying to find a way forward, a way to trust her again.
She moves home from university in 2 momths and we will be together at weekends, I desperately want to be able to trust her whilst she's at home during the week, but i dont know how.
I've never been the controlling type to have her location etc so ideally trying to avoid that. However she has offered me all of her social media logins.
Thanks.
TL;DR: my gf and i want to make this work, i just cant see a way forward on the trust issue due to how sneaky she was at hiding it from me.
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2024.05.21 08:34 astrohoe11 AITAH for ghosting one of my āfriendsā?
Wow, this one might me a long one.
So I moved to (undisclosed location) sometime in the beginning of last year. When I moved here I really had no friends but became heavily involved in this yoga studio I went to and slowly but surely started to make friends/acquaintances with the teacher that instructed me.
From afar she seemed super cool and I became pretty enthralled with her and her life. I would look forward so heavily to going to her classes every week and was quite intrigued by her. I thought she was funny, bubbly, spunky, cool, and always made jokes during class that made me laugh. As months went by I found myself wanting to get closer and closer to her, and she even invited me out one time to one of her āeventsā she was hosting. Hereās the thing;
It seemed like we had a lot in common and was just generally craving camaraderie and connection. I felt a sense of belonging with her and wanted to expand that energy in my life, and wanted to do anything I could to get closer to her for those reasons. But I guess this is where we have the first red flag;
One day after class, she extended an invitation to me to a meet up of sorts, (Iām being sparing with details just out of fear she might read this) and when she invited me it seemed like it was gonna be this big thing with lots of people invited, and just in general in talking to her it seemed as if she was very well connected and respected within her community, had lots of friends and connects, and I thought this was gonna be a huge thing that I was even lucky to be invited to. I was super stoked and exited about it.
However when the day of the event came, I was super tired and slow to getting up that morning. I figured I would just make my way over whenever I could since it seemed causal and like you could drop in whenever. I also figured there would be more than enough people that no one would really even notice my arrival or departure. (Plus, sometimes itās chic to be fashionably late ;) ). Wellā¦. I was most definitely wrong.
When I showed up I heard someone excitedly shout my name, which was her, and she waved me down to the āmeet upāā¦. There was literally only one person there and it had been going on for 2+ hours. I was definitely a bit unnerved, but also didnāt want to be rude, and like I said I was just kind of happy to be there and be getting invited to things. But it was kinda like, damnā¦. Are these all the friends you have?
I had dressed up and looked cute but they were just kind of wearing whatever and I felt awkward and overdressed and also embarrassed now that I was even this late because it was clearly much more intimate than I expected and my arrival/absence was DEFINITELY felt. We had chatted a bit and that was cool but then I remember her confessing me that she had cried to her husband earlier that morning that she was scared nobody was going to show up and how thrilled she was that not only one, but TWO people had showed up and that it felt like she had friends. I wasnāt really sure what to say or make of that.
She alsoā¦. The whole time (and mind you, this is our first legitimate interaction out of yoga class) just kind of kept talking maniacally AT me, not to me, and was coming off almost even manic, and she had formed a white crust of spit around her mouth probably from talking so much that I couldnāt look away from. To say the least, I was a bit disturbed coming away from this interaction but I just kept telling myself that I was being too judgmental of her and to give it a chance and that maybe she was just hyper that day and that I had probably had unintentional embarrassing hygiene moments as well. So I keep going to class and thatās that.
There were several other red flag moments between this first interaction and the next one, mostly just her incredibly cringey social media presence that I genuinely almost couldnāt stand to see without feeling like I was withering away inside, but maybe Iāll save that for later. Itās almost like I couldnāt just see that the person I thought was so cool in class and the person I was seeing her be online and outside of class were the same people. But I digress.
She had actually ended up inviting me to go with her on one of her international yoga retreats, and I was actually very excited about this. I had very little time with her in between classes, and my attraction (but also repulsion) with her was growing stronger and I wanted to figure her out and see what she was really about and what the pull I was feeling towards her was about. Plus, I love travelling and just thought it would be fun.
I had a pretty good time, but we didnāt get to talk much, HOWEVER, I do remember this distinct point during the trip where it was myself, 2-3 other fiends I had made, her brother, and her ābest friendā who had happened to be her brotherās Gf in a room together, talking. the brother, the best friend, and the other friend I made just all completely started talking shit about her and I was so confused.
I felt super hurt by this actually, bc I felt like I had a inexplicable bond with the teacher who had invited me, she was the reason we were all there in that beautiful place, and I just couldnāt understand why they were choosing to be so negative about someone I thought they had claimed (at least by title) to love. They would say things like āI canāt fucking stand your sisterā (one of the friends I made to the brother) and everyone would just sigh and put their hands in their head and be like āI knowā¦. I know. Itās a lot. Sheās a lotā. And I didnāt have anything to add to the conversation because I was just so confused and I knew the girl would just be so upset if she heard them saying this. Anywayā¦ that confusion stuck with me for a while after.
Fast forward maybe a month or two, I started hanging out with her more regularly myself outside of class. I would say this is when we became more āfriendsā. She would invite me to other teachers classes and we would talk a lot about our lives.
I learned how she felt about her close friend and family connections, and how she often felt hurt and betrayed by people close to her and how some of her friends were actually really shady. I just got a general sense of her feeling scapegoated and libeled against by ppl that got close to her and how she had walls up for that reason.
She also shared to me that most of her family was cut off, with the exception of her brother who she had recently rekindled a connection with, hence why he was on that trip. I felt very bad for her and wanted to be a source of comfort and support, and she would often comment on how she felt a sense of camaraderie with me since I also (LITERALLY) had no family and how we have to make our chosen family. This was a sweet sentiment, for sure, but I was still sussing out how I felt about her.
So one day, a mutual friend that had been on the trip with us was having a birthday party and I guess that she was invited to it, too. She sat down next to me and I was SUPER excited to see her as I was craving her energy and hadnāt seen her in some time. But thenā¦ idk. She had had a lot to drink. Iām fully aware that sheās kind of a quirky individual, and has a way of socializing which I can sometimes find a bit uncomfortable or even intense, (like the first meetup I spoke of) but this time it was even more and seemed to be heightened by the drinking.
Her husband was sitting on her other side and kept trying to interject and insinuate that maybe she was doing a bit much, but I think she was drunk enough to the point that she just found it funny and had no awareness of how she was coming off. Thereās not even a way I can describe it really, but she just seemed a bit obsessive over me and kept making jokes that were literally not funny and seemed to have lost all ability to read the room. I also had noticed that she had only had TWO beers and was acting like this already which I foundā¦ really strange.
So at some point she goes to the bathroom, and I also get in line for the bathroom about 5 mins later. When I get up to the bathroom, sheās still in there, and thereās a line of about 2 or 3 people ahead of me. When she exits the bathroom she immediately spots me and rushes up to me and just startsā¦ drunkenly spewing.
I canāt even remember what she was saying, but we were in a pretty high class establishment and I remember her gushing over me and was saying āI just want to let you know that I donāt really have friends or let people close to me in my circle but I just want to let you know that YOU are officially in my circle and you have earned friend status to me and Iāve let you in my circleā¦ā or something like that. And I just kept thinking, who tf even says that??? Iām pretty sure the last time I checked that friendship is a two way street and itās not just a title we bestow onto some āluckyā person and thatās that. Like girlā¦ let ME decide if I want to be friends too first.
It was partially that, and also the way she was drunkenly spewing was so awkward and embarrassing bc I could tell all the other women in line were like who tf is this bitch and why is she saying all this weird stuff and like, does she even know you?? Lol. Just a very odd interaction which again, I kind of wrote off, but the unsettling feeling kind of just kept growing after that point.
Then, the time that I REALLY knew something was up came up about a month later, but there are still some key details of this story that are missing. Perhaps I will discuss them later.
SO. About a month later, she invited me last minute to this concert of sorts. When I got there, I was super excited to be there, the vibes were amazing and we were having so much fun. But she had definitely had a lot, A LOT to drink. I didnāt mind at first, because everyone there seemed severely under the influence, but she would just start randomly kind of lashing out at people in the crowd and she thought it was funny? She first loudly and audibly started making fun of some guys shoes in front of us, and was trying to laugh with me as if I would join in, but when his girl friend turned around and shot her a dirty look, she had the nerve to be self conscious and mad about it. She would loudly poke fun at other people in the crowd too, but not in a ha-ha way, just in a straight up mean and asshole way and I could not understand why she would even do that or why she thought that was funny.
Again, I kind of just awkwardly laughed and brushed it off. But when all was said and done and the concert was closing, she enthusiastically invited me back to go to her house and soak in her hot tub. I kept saying are you sure?? But she was like please, PLEASE come, we have weed, weāll smoke you out and other things and I wanted to continue the vibes because it sounded fun. And thenā¦.. completely downhill.
I had arrived back at their place before she did, but as soon as I saw them go in I knocked. When I walked in, she was pale faced up on the floor, non verbal, pretty much motionless, and staring at the ceiling. I was like oh noā¦ it seemed like she got a bit too much to drink. I waited patiently there for a few mins, unsure of what to do as I had just drove for 45 mins and I was still 25 mins in the opposite direction away from home.
I kind of just sat around, and hoped that she would sober up. I asked if she was drunkā¦ she said no. She ran to her bathroom multiple times while her husband (a complete socially awkward case himself) tried to take care of her while she threw up. I asked her if she puked and she also said no. So I didnāt really know what to do. I was trying to offer support/ empathy but she just kept denying any claims of anything being amiss. Her husband left to pick up a pizza and I probably just shouldāve left but Iām telling you I had no idea how to exit their house without making it weird or awkward. And I also was hungry. So I just stayedā¦ and waited for the pizza.
What happened in those 20-30 mins, I donāt even know if I can fully explain. She just becameā¦ so FUCKING WEIRD. she clearly was embarrassed that I was seeing her drunk, and I think was trying to over compensate. But she just turned into an absolute freak show and Iāve never been more uncomfortable in my life.
She started hoola hooping in my face, and making these weird gremlin faces and noises at me, fell to the floor, rolled round on the floor while continuing to make the noises, convulsed on the floor, but tried to do it in a funny way, tried to make an interpretive dance for meā¦ Iāve truly never experienced something so uncomfortable in my life. I probably do sound like an asshole, but I swear you would just have to be there to see how a) gross and b) weird and actually scary it was. I was genuinely frightened.
Iāve never seen anyone act like that and I didnāt want to make her more uncomfortable or weird by showing her how clearly uncomfortable I actually was. so I just sat there and tried to laugh. But it probably came off as more of a grimace. And for the record, this woman is 33. I am 26. It was just. Obscene.
And sheās tried to act like and say multiple times that sheās like my ābig sisterā. Now Iāve seen a lot of drunk behavior, but not this. I wolfed down my pizza, and so did she, and she started to get even more philosophical and weird on me, showing me songs and art which were quite frankly some of the worst things Iāve ever heard in my life, and I left as soon as I could.
I was so shaken and disturbed coming away from this, because like I said earlier, I thought she was a cool girl, but honestly her behavior and lack of control over herself completely terrified me. And itās not like she was drinking liquor, it was just damn IPAs. And I just did not know what to do.
Some details I will try to add to this story, even though I know itās monolithic at this point , is that 2 months prior to this she had gotten fired from the studio she worked at.
She had a mental breakdown during class because the manager was being mean to her, and he fired her on the spot. I remember being so angry with the owner, (honestly he IS a piece of shit human being) but I thought he was being sexist by calling her mentally unstable and I thought the way he handled things was unfair.
I went so far as to boycott the studio and completely remove myself from it in support of her and followed her to her new one. After the drunk #2 incident, I didnāt hang out with her very much, and only saw her during her class as I was locked into a certain number of classes I had paid for.
I remember her telling me that she had just started at ANOTHER studio, and got fired 3 days after on her birthday and she was talking about how unfair it was and how much of an asshole that new girl was for firing herā¦ and I believed her. AGAIN.
I went so far as to block that girl on Instagram too, but deep down I kind of knew that she had probably just been fired bc letās face itā¦ as I was starting to discover, she WAS a lot. and the studio was in an upper class area , catered towards more upper echelon people, and I just donāt think she was fitting that image. I lent her an empathetic ear, because thatās all I would want in that situation.
But where she fucked up was sending me screenshot proof of the text exchange between her and that girl, thinking I would take her side, and later sending me screenshots of another conversation she had with the OTHER manager. She told me that this new girl fired her for bringing her husband to class. In my mind I was like, oh no, is she racist!?! Because her husband was black. But no, thatās not what I read at all.
It was the most reasonable, level headed response to someone ever, and laid out multiple offenses and reasons she didnāt want her at the studio. The reasons were honestly so embarrassing that I donāt know why she would send it to me and think I would side with her. She recently also sent me messages with the other boss and the last thing he says to her is āI hope you get help for your mental illness because whatever you have is serious and will impact all your relationships and business and things that you doā. And honestly I can now say in retrospect that those were the truest words ever spoken.
When I read these texts, I had a look back at my whole relationship with and how she would always paint everyone else to be the villain and how everyone is so mean to HERā¦ and the whole time the common denominator was her. It was always her. And it made me rethink everything.
Iāve even had extensive conversations with some of the other people on her trip that were talking shit and couldnāt stand her and they all told me the same things. How it seemed like she was the coolest person ever and had her shit together and seemed like she was going placesā¦ but deep down she was just an absolute mess and pushed everyone away from her. And I no longer felt like I was going crazy.
But like I said, she formed a really close bond with me (I think from her perspective) and said she felt like my big sister and family, and shared all these stories about her feeling isolated and shut out by people, but now here I am, doing the exact same thing to her. Icing her out of my life. And I just wanna ask you guysā¦
Am the asshole?
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2024.05.21 08:27 Disastrous-Wait-6916 Yahki Detoxā Back Pain
Hi Everyone!
I am going to start the Yahki Cleanse on June 1st. I have had trouble finding people who have healed and are willing to talk about their journey.
I will do my best to keep you guys updated. I'm thinking of making a detox journal to update you guys with the 10 week process.
I do not have any igg numbers right now, but I plan on getting tested soon, and I'll keep u posted.
I did want to ask, have u guys experienced really bad back pain in the lower back, exactly where ur tailbone is? I have read somewhere that HSV stores itself in the lower back.
But anyways, my pain gets bad when I'm setting down and am going to get up or readjust my position. It sends a shooting pain throughout my lower back. I wondered if this had any correlation to HSV.
(I have HSV-2. I was diagnosed in 2019.)
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2024.05.21 08:14 Rare_Camp_298 18M looking for someone to talk to on sleepless nights
Hey everyone Iām an 18y old male in the US and recently Iāve been struggling to sleep at nights. I would love to meet new ppl and get to know them. I feel more comfortable talking to females but anyone is welcome to send me a message as long as they are 18+. Iām not looking for anything nsfw but if the conversation flows that way and we are having a good time then I wouldnāt mind. Iām a classical nerd with interests in anime and manhua(Korean manga) and Iām into lots of video games such as Valorant and Apex and Minecraft. Iām also really into martial arts and I currently practice two of them that Iām pretty sure you wouldnāt know much about. If you share any of my interests or also train in a martial art please feel free to DM me and Iād love to get to know you. Please include ur age and gender when you do
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