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2024.05.21 16:07 Tricky-Wallaby8795 Weird ghosting by the most loving girl I’ve been with
So there’s this girl that I was talking to for like 2 months. We’re both seniors and are going to the same college so it was really easy to bond and throughout the two months we really connected with each other. Like after about a month we were mutually committed to each other and we would talk on the phone all night, talk throughout the day, and be there for each other whenever it was needed. The only real problem is that I tend to overthink a lot, as I’ve had bad anxiety issues in the past. This windiest is compounded by the fact I was played in my last relationship by a girl who said she loved me and swore she was loyal that was talking to other dudes and picked them over me. But anyways, I would try to express how the overthinking made me feel to her but I really wanted to get her on a call because other than seeing her we only exchanged voice notes and never really got on calls. This expanded my intuition and made me think I was getting played so I did some mild research. We follow each other on Ig and she has a lot upwards of a thousand followers, which also set some alarm bells off in my brain because I knew she was most likely lying that I was the only want for her and everything. Also, just through like looking at her post comments, I saw that she still had her ex bfs flirty comments up there for a while when we were talking and that she still followed him, making me think that I was possibly going to be a rebound. Also, based on her TikTok reposts, she was just starting to get over him when she told me they had been done for three months so I didn’t know what to believe. But while we were talking, me and her shared everything with each other like past trauma, current issues, and I play guitar so I would sing love songs to her or send them to her(corny Ik) so she told me that she’s been deeply traumatized in past relationships and that her ex was the worst of them all because he would use her for her body and I think she implied some abuse so I knew to be gentle with her. She also said that no guy had ever put in so much effort to talk to and understand her and that it was so different and special to her. So everything is going good and I really like this girl, like more than anyone before. And like I said, we’re going to the same college so we both like follow the college posting accounts and follow people that are going to be her classmates. So one day, I follow someone a guy in there with my major, but when I do I realize my girl already followed him. So I go back to the college account (which consists of 90% girls) and realize that she hasn’t followed a single girl on there and follows basically every guy. This makes me feel awful because just logically, on an account with 90% girls being posted, can you following every dude but no girls be considered as anything but looking for replacements or new guys to talk to? So in the heat of when I found this out, I send her a pretty stern voice note in a tone I regret asking why she’s following that ratio of girls to guys when she has deemed me as “perfect”, “the one”, and “her favorite ever” and when she’s said we’re locked in and committed and I’ve agreed. Like at this point I wasn’t even looking at other girls anymore so it was really hurtful. So she responds nds with saying she follows everyone(not true) and that I’m reading way too much into this and that she’ll unfollow if there is a problem and now she feels confused and off about me. She also said she knows I don’t trust her now. She said she was going to get gas and after that, she ignored all of my texts for a week but always viewed my stories so I knew she just didn’t want to talk to me. This really breaks my heart because she told me she wasn’t like that and she would never just leave. So after a week, she finally responded and said that “I’m sorry and that I should’ve said something and I didn’t want you to think I left so easily. I have a on my plate rn and you’re such a sweet guy and I really hope this could work in the future but I have too much rn I’m sorry.” So I respond saying that I understand I’m not the most important thing in her life and that I was sorry for making her think I didn’t trust her because I do and I just wanted to understand her pov. I also said that I want to be a safe space for her and that she can communicate that with me bc let’s be honest, no one is too busy to shoot out a 5 second text update. Plus, it was too coincidental it came after our first real negative communication. So it’s been over a week and she still hasn’t responded to me so I assume I’ve been ghosted. I miss her so much and I’ve been trying to move on but I blame myself for this so it’s harder to move on then if I got played. Was that the breakup text she sent? It hinted at the future and I know I shouldn’t take her back but I know I would because of how much I miss her. Was I out of line to question her following because I knew I probably should’ve stayed away from the topic but I wanted to communicate how it made me feel. I feel like she def got a friends opinion and then decided to ghost because she seemed more apologetic at first. Is this even a ghost and did she ever really mean what she said about me being the one for her and her favorite guy ever? I want honest opinions on the situation and please don’t just give me the move on talk. I really just can’t and I feel like I’ve messed everything up and that I may love her. Should I call her? I don’t want to seem desperate.
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2024.05.21 16:03 Legitimate_Yak7886 Double checking my itinerary
I’m leaving this Saturday for my trip to Iceland, I’ll be there from May 26th through June 11th. I feel like I’ve done a good amount of research and looking at others posts in this thread for my trip planning. But now that it’s coming down to it I want to have someone else take a look for any glaring issues with it.
This is my first trip to Iceland and abroad in general, so there’s a good amount of nerves and excitement. For this trip I’ve rented a camper van for myself to do ring road with. It’s a bit more of a whimsy trip so if I see or hear about something I’ll check it out if it’s feasible, but I’ve got my base plan of what I want to do.
I’ve done most of my planning in Google My Maps as I was able to put each days stuff in a layer, but it had to be split into two maps due to layer limits. All the things in purple were my must sees and most of the hikes are things I want to do. Blues are things I would like but don’t mind skipping, most of it is blue. And the few oranges are things I could absolutely skip but if I have time i could stop. I’ll link those here and here
The only other notes are that I’ll also be stopping for some groceries on the first day as well. And the last couples days that aren’t in the map, the 14th day I have an appointment with a tattoo artist in Reykjavik and then spend the rest of the 14th and 15th day checking out the city. Then the 16th day I will be returning my camper and then taking a bus to the blue lagoon, I’ve heard it’s overrated but I felt like I have to do it at least once. And I know it’s iffy due to the recent volcanic activity so I’m playing that one by ear a little more. And then after that walking around and staying in a hotel in Keflavik then leaving the following morning.
Thank you for any advice! And let me know if you have any questions or if I left something out.
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This is my first trip to Iceland and abroad in general, so there’s a good amount of nerves and excitement. For this trip I’ve rented a camper van for myself to do ring road with. It’s a bit more of a whimsy trip so if I see or hear about something I’ll check it out if it’s feasible, but I’ve got my base plan of what I want to do.
I’ve done most of my planning in Google My Maps as I was able to put each days stuff in a layer, but it had to be split into two maps due to layer limits. All the things in purple were my must sees and most of the hikes are things I want to do. Blues are things I would like but don’t mind skipping, most of it is blue. And the few oranges are things I could absolutely skip but if I have time i could stop. I’ll link those here and here
The only other notes are that I’ll also be stopping for some groceries on the first day as well. And the last couples days that aren’t in the map, the 14th day I have an appointment with a tattoo artist in Reykjavik and then spend the rest of the 14th and 15th day checking out the city. Then the 16th day I will be returning my camper and then taking a bus to the blue lagoon, I’ve heard it’s overrated but I felt like I have to do it at least once. And I know it’s iffy due to the recent volcanic activity so I’m playing that one by ear a little more. And then after that walking around and staying in a hotel in Keflavik then leaving the following morning.
Thank you for any advice! And let me know if you have any questions or if I left something out.
2024.05.21 16:02 Tricky-Wallaby8795 18M experiences weird ghosting(?) by 18F
So there’s this girl that I was talking to for like 2 months. We’re both seniors and are going to the same college so it was really easy to bond and throughout the two months we really connected with each other. Like after about a month we were mutually committed to each other and we would talk on the phone all night, talk throughout the day, and be there for each other whenever it was needed. The only real problem is that I tend to overthink a lot, as I’ve had bad anxiety issues in the past. This windiest is compounded by the fact I was played in my last relationship by a girl who said she loved me and swore she was loyal that was talking to other dudes and picked them over me. But anyways, I would try to express how the overthinking made me feel to her but I really wanted to get her on a call because other than seeing her we only exchanged voice notes and never really got on calls. This expanded my intuition and made me think I was getting played so I did some mild research. We follow each other on Ig and she has a lot upwards of a thousand followers, which also set some alarm bells off in my brain because I knew she was most likely lying that I was the only want for her and everything. Also, just through like looking at her post comments, I saw that she still had her ex bfs flirty comments up there for a while when we were talking and that she still followed him, making me think that I was possibly going to be a rebound. Also, based on her TikTok reposts, she was just starting to get over him when she told me they had been done for three months so I didn’t know what to believe. But while we were talking, me and her shared everything with each other like past trauma, current issues, and I play guitar so I would sing love songs to her or send them to her(corny Ik) so she told me that she’s been deeply traumatized in past relationships and that her ex was the worst of them all because he would use her for her body and I think she implied some abuse so I knew to be gentle with her. She also said that no guy had ever put in so much effort to talk to and understand her and that it was so different and special to her. So everything is going good and I really like this girl, like more than anyone before. And like I said, we’re going to the same college so we both like follow the college posting accounts and follow people that are going to be her classmates. So one day, I follow someone a guy in there with my major, but when I do I realize my girl already followed him. So I go back to the college account (which consists of 90% girls) and realize that she hasn’t followed a single girl on there and follows basically every guy. This makes me feel awful because just logically, on an account with 90% girls being posted, can you following every dude but no girls be considered as anything but looking for replacements or new guys to talk to? So in the heat of when I found this out, I send her a pretty stern voice note in a tone I regret asking why she’s following that ratio of girls to guys when she has deemed me as “perfect”, “the one”, and “her favorite ever” and when she’s said we’re locked in and committed and I’ve agreed. Like at this point I wasn’t even looking at other girls anymore so it was really hurtful. So she responds nds with saying she follows everyone(not true) and that I’m reading way too much into this and that she’ll unfollow if there is a problem and now she feels confused and off about me. She also said she knows I don’t trust her now. She said she was going to get gas and after that, she ignored all of my texts for a week but always viewed my stories so I knew she just didn’t want to talk to me. This really breaks my heart because she told me she wasn’t like that and she would never just leave. So after a week, she finally responded and said that “I’m sorry and that I should’ve said something and I didn’t want you to think I left so easily. I have a on my plate rn and you’re such a sweet guy and I really hope this could work in the future but I have too much rn I’m sorry.” So I respond saying that I understand I’m not the most important thing in her life and that I was sorry for making her think I didn’t trust her because I do and I just wanted to understand her pov. I also said that I want to be a safe space for her and that she can communicate that with me bc let’s be honest, no one is too busy to shoot out a 5 second text update. Plus, it was too coincidental it came after our first real negative communication. So it’s been over a week and she still hasn’t responded to me so I assume I’ve been ghosted. I miss her so much and I’ve been trying to move on but I blame myself for this so it’s harder to move on then if I got played. Was that the breakup text she sent? It hinted at the future and I know I shouldn’t take her back but I know I would because of how much I miss her. Was I out of line to question her following because I knew I probably should’ve stayed away from the topic but I wanted to communicate how it made me feel. I feel like she def got a friends opinion and then decided to ghost because she seemed more apologetic at first. Is this even a ghost and did she ever really mean what she said about me being the one for her and her favorite guy ever? Like how can she leave so easily? I want honest opinions on the situation and please don’t just give me the move on talk. I really just can’t and I feel like I’ve messed everything up and that I may love her. Should I call her? I don’t want to seem desperate.
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2024.05.21 15:58 Potential_Jicama9241 Should i forgive my boyfriend?
I (F19) have been dating my boyfriend (M22) for 8 months now. Two months ago, I discovered my worst nightmare when I decided to go through his phone.
When I went through his phone, I not only found masses of porn but also pictures of his ex (F21) and her being on his ignored friend requests on Snapchat (meaning he’d removed her, but she still had him added). I’d checked this before because we’d previously had issues with his ex, but she wasn’t there, so it was recent. He also had a call to her on Valentine's Day. After some prying and a ton of lying from him, we actually talked about it. He said he only sent food for the cat and that he’d stop the porn. A few days later, I gave him an ultimatum: - Stop communication with her, only send food for the cat. - You don’t need to save pictures of the cat with her in it. - No more porn.
He agreed and promised to follow these conditions.
After this, when I looked at his search history, it had been deleted, so he only had two days of history. I asked about it after a few weeks, and he told me this was because of “my birthday presents being on there” and how “he doesn’t want me to see since I checked before.” Even though none of his lies lined up with when I checked, I ignored it.
Now, I’ve found him searching for porn again. He told me it’s just from an open tab. I don’t believe him, but he insists that he didn’t watch porn and that he’s followed the ultimatum. I still can’t believe him, and I’m not sure if I should stand my ground and leave or stay and work things out. Because of his past of lying, I feel like I’m walking into a trap. But i also feel like we have so much potential because i love him dearly.
I know a lot of people are going to get upset that I’ve checked his phone, but he told me he was fine with it and open to it, and I wouldn’t have a problem if he checked mine.
For additional information:
He and his ex were married, dated for 4 years, got matching tattoos, and had a stillborn.
At the start of our relationship, he led me to believe he was someone who never let exes back no matter what, someone who got rid of them the second they messed up. So, to find out he was still contacting her was shocking. I would’ve understood given their situation with the cat and the stillborn. It’s just the way he’s made himself seem, only to be lying the whole time.
I did not know about them being married or having a stillborn until a few weeks in. At that point, I felt I was too deep into the relationship to throw away what we had. He told me he was “too scared to tell me” and he “wanted to wait until the right time,” which I can understand.
For a few weeks after, he was being funny about giving me his Instagram, so I made a new account and found out he’d blocked me on it. I also found out he was still following his ex and she was following him. This stopped once I confronted him and he followed me instead.
Another few months later, I found provocative pictures of women on his Pinterest saves. He obviously just said that he saved them because they dressed like me, which some did, but out of the 15 pictures, only 4 did. The rest were just women in underwear.
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When I went through his phone, I not only found masses of porn but also pictures of his ex (F21) and her being on his ignored friend requests on Snapchat (meaning he’d removed her, but she still had him added). I’d checked this before because we’d previously had issues with his ex, but she wasn’t there, so it was recent. He also had a call to her on Valentine's Day. After some prying and a ton of lying from him, we actually talked about it. He said he only sent food for the cat and that he’d stop the porn. A few days later, I gave him an ultimatum: - Stop communication with her, only send food for the cat. - You don’t need to save pictures of the cat with her in it. - No more porn.
He agreed and promised to follow these conditions.
After this, when I looked at his search history, it had been deleted, so he only had two days of history. I asked about it after a few weeks, and he told me this was because of “my birthday presents being on there” and how “he doesn’t want me to see since I checked before.” Even though none of his lies lined up with when I checked, I ignored it.
Now, I’ve found him searching for porn again. He told me it’s just from an open tab. I don’t believe him, but he insists that he didn’t watch porn and that he’s followed the ultimatum. I still can’t believe him, and I’m not sure if I should stand my ground and leave or stay and work things out. Because of his past of lying, I feel like I’m walking into a trap. But i also feel like we have so much potential because i love him dearly.
I know a lot of people are going to get upset that I’ve checked his phone, but he told me he was fine with it and open to it, and I wouldn’t have a problem if he checked mine.
For additional information:
He and his ex were married, dated for 4 years, got matching tattoos, and had a stillborn.
At the start of our relationship, he led me to believe he was someone who never let exes back no matter what, someone who got rid of them the second they messed up. So, to find out he was still contacting her was shocking. I would’ve understood given their situation with the cat and the stillborn. It’s just the way he’s made himself seem, only to be lying the whole time.
I did not know about them being married or having a stillborn until a few weeks in. At that point, I felt I was too deep into the relationship to throw away what we had. He told me he was “too scared to tell me” and he “wanted to wait until the right time,” which I can understand.
For a few weeks after, he was being funny about giving me his Instagram, so I made a new account and found out he’d blocked me on it. I also found out he was still following his ex and she was following him. This stopped once I confronted him and he followed me instead.
Another few months later, I found provocative pictures of women on his Pinterest saves. He obviously just said that he saved them because they dressed like me, which some did, but out of the 15 pictures, only 4 did. The rest were just women in underwear.
2024.05.21 15:56 Tricky-Wallaby8795 18M experiences weird ghosting(?) by 18F
So there’s this girl that I was talking to for like 2 months. We’re both seniors and are going to the same college so it was really easy to bond and throughout the two months we really connected with each other. Like after about a month we were mutually committed to each other and we would talk on the phone all night, talk throughout the day, and be there for each other whenever it was needed. The only real problem is that I tend to overthink a lot, as I’ve had bad anxiety issues in the past. This windiest is compounded by the fact I was played in my last relationship by a girl who said she loved me and swore she was loyal that was talking to other dudes and picked them over me. But anyways, I would try to express how the overthinking made me feel to her but I really wanted to get her on a call because other than seeing her we only exchanged voice notes and never really got on calls. This expanded my intuition and made me think I was getting played so I did some mild research. We follow each other on Ig and she has a lot upwards of a thousand followers, which also set some alarm bells off in my brain because I knew she was most likely lying that I was the only want for her and everything. Also, just through like looking at her post comments, I saw that she still had her ex bfs flirty comments up there for a while when we were talking and that she still followed him, making me think that I was possibly going to be a rebound. Also, based on her TikTok reposts, she was just starting to get over him when she told me they had been done for three months so I didn’t know what to believe. But while we were talking, me and her shared everything with each other like past trauma, current issues, and I play guitar so I would sing love songs to her or send them to her(corny Ik) so she told me that she’s been deeply traumatized in past relationships and that her ex was the worst of them all because he would use her for her body and I think she implied some abuse so I knew to be gentle with her. She also said that no guy had ever put in so much effort to talk to and understand her and that it was so different and special to her. So everything is going good and I really like this girl, like more than anyone before. And like I said, we’re going to the same college so we both like follow the college posting accounts and follow people that are going to be her classmates. So one day, I follow someone a guy in there with my major, but when I do I realize my girl already followed him. So I go back to the college account (which consists of 90% girls) and realize that she hasn’t followed a single girl on there and follows basically every guy. This makes me feel awful because just logically, on an account with 90% girls being posted, can you following every dude but no girls be considered as anything but looking for replacements or new guys to talk to? So in the heat of when I found this out, I send her a pretty stern voice note in a tone I regret asking why she’s following that ratio of girls to guys when she has deemed me as “perfect”, “the one”, and “her favorite ever” and when she’s said we’re locked in and committed and I’ve agreed. Like at this point I wasn’t even looking at other girls anymore so it was really hurtful. So she responds nds with saying she follows everyone(not true) and that I’m reading way too much into this and that she’ll unfollow if there is a problem and now she feels confused and off about me. She also said she knows I don’t trust her now. She said she was going to get gas and after that, she ignored all of my texts for a week but always viewed my stories so I knew she just didn’t want to talk to me. This really breaks my heart because she told me she wasn’t like that and she would never just leave. So after a week, she finally responded and said that “I’m sorry and that I should’ve said something and I didn’t want you to think I left so easily. I have a on my plate rn and you’re such a sweet guy and I really hope this could work in the future but I have too much rn I’m sorry.” So I respond saying that I understand I’m not the most important thing in her life and that I was sorry for making her think I didn’t trust her because I do and I just wanted to understand her pov. I also said that I want to be a safe space for her and that she can communicate that with me bc let’s be honest, no one is too busy to shoot out a 5 second text update. Plus, it was too coincidental it came after our first real negative communication. So it’s been over a week and she still hasn’t responded to me so I assume I’ve been ghosted. I miss her so much and I’ve been trying to move on but I blame myself for this so it’s harder to move on then if I got played. Was that the breakup text she sent? It hinted at the future and I know I shouldn’t take her back but I know I would because of how much I miss her. Was I out of line to question her following because I knew I probably should’ve stayed away from the topic but I wanted to communicate how it made me feel. I feel like she def got a friends opinion and then decided to ghost because she seemed more apologetic at first. Is this even a ghost and did she ever really mean what she said about me being the one for her and her favorite guy ever? I want honest opinions on the situation and please don’t just give me the move on talk. I really just can’t and I feel like I’ve messed everything up and that I may love her. Should I call her? I don’t want to seem desperate.
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2024.05.21 15:55 Nukemarine Today I finished lesson 8 of Pimsleur Mandarin Chinese, supplemented with Trimsleur, Anki, ACHTT, and previous Japanese study. So far, so good with Hanzi characters being the easiest part of all this.
Was tempted to make a video to show more than tell and still might, but things are still very, very early and always subject to change.
My previous Japanese language study is obviously giving me a big head start. Knew this would be the case when I went to Taiwan a couple of times and could recognize more than a few words which really helped me get around. Obviously pronunciation, vocabulary, and grammar would be radically different, but I was also aware of that. The unknown traditional Hanzi (focusing on that since it's easier given my Japanese study background) will not be the main problem, just the tones and pronunciation and thousands of words using those Hanzi.
Also, I have the benefit of going in with a set plan based on my own experience learning (and re-learning) Japanese using self-study tools: Anki, text analyzers, browser plug-ins, audio books, pop-up dictionaries, etc.
Current plan is as follows: Do the first 90 lessons of the older Pimsleur Mandarin course with serious supplementation:
Again, I'm only on lesson 8 with a handful of vocabulary words under my belt. Still, I can read aloud all eight of the introductory dialogues in traditional Mandarin. I'm also noticing the words as they pop up in Peppa Pig.
Gonna hate moving on to Pimsleur Mandarin part II as there's no transcript. However, there are websites that'll transcribe the Trimsleur audio (and maybe even the Pimsleur if I wanted) which'll simplify doing the lessons like I'm doing now.
After Pimsleur, I plan to do deep dive study methods (read subtitles along with Chinese subs, pausing only to look up meaning of unknown words and phrases), then after 10 hours of reading (at beginning stages this might be only 1 hour of actual Chinese audio) use subs with MorphMan in Anki to get 100 most common words that are within my learned vocab range. All that means is if I know 1,500 words then MorphMan will only look for new words from 3,000 most common that's also the most common in the read material stopping at 100 new words if that before starting reading up again.
Hopefully this all makes sense. Like with Japanese, I'll freely share whatever resources I can and answer whatever questions people have (if I have time). Obviously I'm in the beginning stages so maybe don't expect much.
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My previous Japanese language study is obviously giving me a big head start. Knew this would be the case when I went to Taiwan a couple of times and could recognize more than a few words which really helped me get around. Obviously pronunciation, vocabulary, and grammar would be radically different, but I was also aware of that. The unknown traditional Hanzi (focusing on that since it's easier given my Japanese study background) will not be the main problem, just the tones and pronunciation and thousands of words using those Hanzi.
Also, I have the benefit of going in with a set plan based on my own experience learning (and re-learning) Japanese using self-study tools: Anki, text analyzers, browser plug-ins, audio books, pop-up dictionaries, etc.
Current plan is as follows: Do the first 90 lessons of the older Pimsleur Mandarin course with serious supplementation:
- Anki - I'm using a transcript (complete for Mandarin I Lessons 1 - 30) and webpage with vocabulary and starting dialogue for all 90 lessons to generate the cards. They'll have English, PinYin, Simplified and Traditional for both the vocabulary and an example sentence. The cards will be two per word - PinYin word/sentence (audio recognition, but I'm not bothering with actual audio for Pimsleur), and English word/Clozed traditional hanzi sentence (production where preferably the English word would instead be an image/Chinese definition).
- Trimsleur - My term for taking Pimsleur lessons and removing the English prompts and long pauses with two second pauses. For a 30 minute lesson, I have a 10 minute pure Chinese audio that's also comprehensible. Meant for comprehensible audio immersion (and repeating/shadowing).
- ACHTT - stands for "All Chinese Half The Time" which is my term for Ken Cannon's suggestion to watch every episode of a show in Japanese twice: once w/ English subs for the comprehension, then once more w/ Chinese subs or no subs for the immersion. I take it one step further by ripping the audio with a program uses the subtitles to remove long non-spoken portions (CIA or compressed immersion audio).
- Review due Anki. For these, I have strict fail and soft fail rules for each card type. "Audio" cards (PinYin word/sentence) I have to know which hanzi are used and the meaning of the word - this is a strict fail. The soft fail (I hit "hard" UNLESS the spacing will be over 6 months) is the stroke order of the hanzi and meaning of the example sentence. The Clozed Delete card I also have know the Mandarin word, it's hanzi, and it's tone for the strict fail. The stroke order and meaning/reading of the clozed deleted Mandarin sentence is a soft fail.
- Do the Pimsleur lesson with the transcript (in part I at least). Pause to initially answer the English prompt then play and repeat the Chinese phrase. When the new word is introduced, go to it's Anki card to add pronunciation notes (the transcript has a few pages of charts for this) along with HanziHero as needed for Hanzi meanings and notes (super important for Hanzi that are new to me). Now, Pimsleur is normally a 30 minute lesson, but doing it this way makes it last about an hour or so.
- Activate the new vocabulary in Anki (custom study option) and see how much is remembered. I set cards to long learning time (1m 10m 1440m 3600m) with graduation done at 1 week. This is also great because Pimsleur cannot tell if I remembered anything or not and balance accordingly. Anki can.
- Watch one episode of Peppa Pig Mandarin at 75% speed with English sub, then rewatch with traditional Chinese subs. Peppa Pig is slowed down because the normal episodes are sped up on purpose in most languages. Any other show I would likely leave at original speed.
- Update my comprehensible immersion audio playlist. It'd be 4 copies of today's Trimsleur lesson, 3 copies of yesterday, 2 copies of two days ago, and 1 copy of three days ago (so Lesson 8 x4, Lesson 7 x3, Lesson 6 x2, Lesson 5 x1). In addition, it'd be the last four days of Peppa Pig ripped audio. This is about two hours of audio in total. I then play these on random, and the most recent lessons are played more often.
Again, I'm only on lesson 8 with a handful of vocabulary words under my belt. Still, I can read aloud all eight of the introductory dialogues in traditional Mandarin. I'm also noticing the words as they pop up in Peppa Pig.
Gonna hate moving on to Pimsleur Mandarin part II as there's no transcript. However, there are websites that'll transcribe the Trimsleur audio (and maybe even the Pimsleur if I wanted) which'll simplify doing the lessons like I'm doing now.
After Pimsleur, I plan to do deep dive study methods (read subtitles along with Chinese subs, pausing only to look up meaning of unknown words and phrases), then after 10 hours of reading (at beginning stages this might be only 1 hour of actual Chinese audio) use subs with MorphMan in Anki to get 100 most common words that are within my learned vocab range. All that means is if I know 1,500 words then MorphMan will only look for new words from 3,000 most common that's also the most common in the read material stopping at 100 new words if that before starting reading up again.
Hopefully this all makes sense. Like with Japanese, I'll freely share whatever resources I can and answer whatever questions people have (if I have time). Obviously I'm in the beginning stages so maybe don't expect much.
2024.05.21 15:54 Tricky-Wallaby8795 17M experiences weird ghosting(?) by 17F
So there’s this girl that I was talking to for like 2 months. We’re both seniors and are going to the same college so it was really easy to bond and throughout the two months we really connected with each other. Like after about a month we were mutually committed to each other and we would talk on the phone all night, talk throughout the day, and be there for each other whenever it was needed. The only real problem is that I tend to overthink a lot, as I’ve had bad anxiety issues in the past. This windiest is compounded by the fact I was played in my last relationship by a girl who said she loved me and swore she was loyal that was talking to other dudes and picked them over me. But anyways, I would try to express how the overthinking made me feel to her but I really wanted to get her on a call because other than seeing her we only exchanged voice notes and never really got on calls. This expanded my intuition and made me think I was getting played so I did some mild research. We follow each other on Ig and she has a lot upwards of a thousand followers, which also set some alarm bells off in my brain because I knew she was most likely lying that I was the only want for her and everything. Also, just through like looking at her post comments, I saw that she still had her ex bfs flirty comments up there for a while when we were talking and that she still followed him, making me think that I was possibly going to be a rebound. Also, based on her TikTok reposts, she was just starting to get over him when she told me they had been done for three months so I didn’t know what to believe. But while we were talking, me and her shared everything with each other like past trauma, current issues, and I play guitar so I would sing love songs to her or send them to her(corny Ik) so she told me that she’s been deeply traumatized in past relationships and that her ex was the worst of them all because he would use her for her body and I think she implied some abuse so I knew to be gentle with her. She also said that no guy had ever put in so much effort to talk to and understand her and that it was so different and special to her. So everything is going good and I really like this girl, like more than anyone before. And like I said, we’re going to the same college so we both like follow the college posting accounts and follow people that are going to be her classmates. So one day, I follow someone a guy in there with my major, but when I do I realize my girl already followed him. So I go back to the college account (which consists of 90% girls) and realize that she hasn’t followed a single girl on there and follows basically every guy. This makes me feel awful because just logically, on an account with 90% girls being posted, can you following every dude but no girls be considered as anything but looking for replacements or new guys to talk to? So in the heat of when I found this out, I send her a pretty stern voice note in a tone I regret asking why she’s following that ratio of girls to guys when she has deemed me as “perfect”, “the one”, and “her favorite ever” and when she’s said we’re locked in and committed and I’ve agreed. Like at this point I wasn’t even looking at other girls anymore so it was really hurtful. So she responds nds with saying she follows everyone(not true) and that I’m reading way too much into this and that she’ll unfollow if there is a problem and now she feels confused and off about me. She also said she knows I don’t trust her now. She said she was going to get gas and after that, she ignored all of my texts for a week but always viewed my stories so I knew she just didn’t want to talk to me. This really breaks my heart because she told me she wasn’t like that and she would never just leave. So after a week, she finally responded and said that “I’m sorry and that I should’ve said something and I didn’t want you to think I left so easily. I have a on my plate rn and you’re such a sweet guy and I really hope this could work in the future but I have too much rn I’m sorry.” So I respond saying that I understand I’m not the most important thing in her life and that I was sorry for making her think I didn’t trust her because I do and I just wanted to understand her pov. I also said that I want to be a safe space for her and that she can communicate that with me bc let’s be honest, no one is too busy to shoot out a 5 second text update. Plus, it was too coincidental it came after our first real negative communication. So it’s been over a week and she still hasn’t responded to me so I assume I’ve been ghosted. I miss her so much and I’ve been trying to move on but I blame myself for this so it’s harder to move on then if I got played. Was that the breakup text she sent? It hinted at the future and I know I shouldn’t take her back but I know I would because of how much I miss her. Was I out of line to question her following because I knew I probably should’ve stayed away from the topic but I wanted to communicate how it made me feel. I feel like she def got a friends opinion and then decided to ghost because she seemed more apologetic at first. Is this even a ghost and did she ever really mean what she said about me being the one for her and her favorite guy ever? I want honest opinions on the situation and please don’t just give me the move on talk. I really just can’t and I feel like I’ve messed everything up and that I may love her. Should I call her? I don’t want to seem desperate.
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2024.05.21 15:53 9D6Official I (27M) broke up with my gf (26F) for a second time. I’m feeling very uncertain and lost now
My gf (26f) and (27m)had been together for about 3 years. My gf has some insecurities and issues that she projected onto me and she also had a habit of leaving and packing up her things whenever it got a bit tough. (I think this is because of her dad not being around and leaving when she was younger but l asked her to please not do that anymore). I tried my best to be a trusting and loyal boyfriend, I'd never cheat on her but she would go through my phone and treat me like a cheater for any reason. (For example searching up an old female friend on IG, or their being girls on my discovery page). I know one could think I had ill intention but it was not the case. There was definitely a lack of trust but I do not think I gave her a reason to feel like that. She had a very big issue with me watching porn which I know is a topic with different opinions. I would only watch and masturbate when she was not with me. I did try to quit porn but found myself back to it when I was alone.. I do think that maybe a problem for me but I told her I do not compare her to pictures on a screen. We broke up for these kinds of reasons and got back together after about 3 months. I really thought the time away was going to make us closer and relationship better but we ended up fighting alot when we were back together. The first date we had she walked out on me and told me she would just get an Uber home. This is because I was trying to tell her that my friends gf likes her and wants to be her friend and she felt I was defending her over her. She always thinks I treat everyone way better than her especially when we were out with friends. I do not want to have to be purposely mean to people".. her to feel like I treat her well. I decided to end i v again as I'm terrified we will have a lifetime of th problems and I don't want to be divorced after a short marriade. She asked me for another chance and was telling me all the things I wish I heard from her before like what she wants to change to make it work, but I felt I had made my mind. It's been 3 weeks now and I feel so messed up and I can only really focus clearly on the good things we had. I feel like it's going to be near impossible to find a connection with somone like that again. I'm fighting myself not to message her and l'm having some of the worst days of my life. I can't focus on work and I'm not sure what to do. I'm feeling like I could have done more now and what I should have done differently and asking myself if it was my fault she felt this way. I tried my best to make her feel loved and beautiful would always make me feel like she felt so terrible around me
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2024.05.21 15:53 cute-and-stupid AITA for not wanting my man to move to another province without me?
Hello Reddit! Please be nice with my writing style, I have autism. I (F25) and my boyfriend (M25) have been together for 2 years, living together for 1.5 years. He came to my city originally for a girl he was with, but clearly, that did not work out. He then met me and moved in together after half a year (his ex never lived with him, and we moved into a new place from his old one). Everything between us has been great! He even told me he wants to propose to me this year! He pays the shared bills and rent (his choice), and I do all the housework (cooking, cleaning, laundry, making his favourite muffins every Sunday, etc).
I am in university, and I have 1 year left. Technically, my last semester can be fully online, so I only need to stay in this province for 3.5 extra months once our lease is up on September 1st. I work as a bartender in a small town. He LOVES his blue-collar job, and he is able to work anywhere he wants in Canada. He really likes his boss and co-workers as well!
Here's the issue: my boyfriend wants to move to the opposite side of my country (Canada) once our lease is up. We are able to live month to month until the end of December. He is very headstrong about going without me and having me move back in with my parents (which he knows is a VERY TOXIC environment). I cannot afford to stay moved out because all of my money is going to tuition and personal bills. He wants to move there without me and have me join in December.
His points (to keep this fair): 1) $2000 a month goes to utilities and rent, therefore he cannot save money (he makes a minimum of $55K per year), 2) He hates the province we live in because it is overpopulated, 3) although he has loads of friends and family here, he has some in the new province. He would be living with his dad until he finds a place in the new province. 4) he can go and find us a HOUSE before I get there, so I do not have to live with his dad (contradicts his wants to save money), 5) It's only 3.5 months of separation.
My points on why I hate this: 1) why would you leave your partner alone in a place they also hate? 2) Do I not have a say in this matter because I do not pay rent? If he paid me as if I were a housekeeper, I would be making more than half the rent in 1 month, so I think I do my fair share. 3) If he really thinks of me as his future wife, why is he making plans without me? 4) he has said countless times how much he loves our place, living with me, visiting his buddies all the time, and how much he loves his job and work environment. Why leave so quickly if he loves his life at the moment? Won't it be easier to move together in one go? 5) it's 3.5 months of separation...
He doesn't want to talk to me about it AT ALL and almost laughs at my emotions about the situation. He wants to make his final choice at the END OF AUGUST, which makes me worry that I won't have any time to plan. I doubt he is breaking up with me because everything between us is amazing besides this issue. He has no signs of cheating, and I have access to his phone whenever (I play a frog game on his phone sometimes; that's as far as I typically go into his phone). I do not understand why he can't wait 3.5 months to move WITH me. I know his dad likes me and loves my cooking, so I do not think it's his dad not wanting me there (whenever I see his dad, he goes on a rant about how lucky my bf is for finding a homemaker; if I lived there I would cook and clean for everyone as I know his dad won't want us to pay rent).
AITA for being upset about this? Are his points reasonable for leaving me behind? Please help!
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I am in university, and I have 1 year left. Technically, my last semester can be fully online, so I only need to stay in this province for 3.5 extra months once our lease is up on September 1st. I work as a bartender in a small town. He LOVES his blue-collar job, and he is able to work anywhere he wants in Canada. He really likes his boss and co-workers as well!
Here's the issue: my boyfriend wants to move to the opposite side of my country (Canada) once our lease is up. We are able to live month to month until the end of December. He is very headstrong about going without me and having me move back in with my parents (which he knows is a VERY TOXIC environment). I cannot afford to stay moved out because all of my money is going to tuition and personal bills. He wants to move there without me and have me join in December.
His points (to keep this fair): 1) $2000 a month goes to utilities and rent, therefore he cannot save money (he makes a minimum of $55K per year), 2) He hates the province we live in because it is overpopulated, 3) although he has loads of friends and family here, he has some in the new province. He would be living with his dad until he finds a place in the new province. 4) he can go and find us a HOUSE before I get there, so I do not have to live with his dad (contradicts his wants to save money), 5) It's only 3.5 months of separation.
My points on why I hate this: 1) why would you leave your partner alone in a place they also hate? 2) Do I not have a say in this matter because I do not pay rent? If he paid me as if I were a housekeeper, I would be making more than half the rent in 1 month, so I think I do my fair share. 3) If he really thinks of me as his future wife, why is he making plans without me? 4) he has said countless times how much he loves our place, living with me, visiting his buddies all the time, and how much he loves his job and work environment. Why leave so quickly if he loves his life at the moment? Won't it be easier to move together in one go? 5) it's 3.5 months of separation...
He doesn't want to talk to me about it AT ALL and almost laughs at my emotions about the situation. He wants to make his final choice at the END OF AUGUST, which makes me worry that I won't have any time to plan. I doubt he is breaking up with me because everything between us is amazing besides this issue. He has no signs of cheating, and I have access to his phone whenever (I play a frog game on his phone sometimes; that's as far as I typically go into his phone). I do not understand why he can't wait 3.5 months to move WITH me. I know his dad likes me and loves my cooking, so I do not think it's his dad not wanting me there (whenever I see his dad, he goes on a rant about how lucky my bf is for finding a homemaker; if I lived there I would cook and clean for everyone as I know his dad won't want us to pay rent).
AITA for being upset about this? Are his points reasonable for leaving me behind? Please help!
2024.05.21 15:47 Physical_Wallaby721 Underwriter Opinions Requested
Hi all -
I was hoping to gain some insight into the day to day of the Insurance profession. Particularly that of being an underwriter. Admittedly, I am not in the industry, nor do I have any intention of entering it. The reason I ask is because a friend of mine is in the industry. Specifically, as a Directors and Officer's underwriter for a major firm. And long story short, it seems wildly easy. I'm talking 30 hour work weeks max. with lunches, dinners and happy hours a weekly norm. Additionally it seems as though the work can be done from anywhere (the golf course and poolside are his favorites). From what I have observed, the bulk of the job mainly consists of filing paperwork, delegating tasks to others, and taking very simple notes on potential clients. Myself and our other roommates have attempted to ask how his job appears so simple, but he gets quite defensive about it and we just leave it alone.
So my question is... is this the norm? Did he just luck out with seemingly the greatest job of all time? (keep in mind he is very well paid). I mean not to knock the profession but rather field some opinions.
Thanks all!
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I was hoping to gain some insight into the day to day of the Insurance profession. Particularly that of being an underwriter. Admittedly, I am not in the industry, nor do I have any intention of entering it. The reason I ask is because a friend of mine is in the industry. Specifically, as a Directors and Officer's underwriter for a major firm. And long story short, it seems wildly easy. I'm talking 30 hour work weeks max. with lunches, dinners and happy hours a weekly norm. Additionally it seems as though the work can be done from anywhere (the golf course and poolside are his favorites). From what I have observed, the bulk of the job mainly consists of filing paperwork, delegating tasks to others, and taking very simple notes on potential clients. Myself and our other roommates have attempted to ask how his job appears so simple, but he gets quite defensive about it and we just leave it alone.
So my question is... is this the norm? Did he just luck out with seemingly the greatest job of all time? (keep in mind he is very well paid). I mean not to knock the profession but rather field some opinions.
Thanks all!
2024.05.21 15:46 cameran_ Sig LC vs Aeon Comparison
TL;DR - I would count on her Sig LC getting changed again, because it and Fall of an Aeon (Herta shop LC) are pretty close to equal damage-wise. If the V3 LC goes live, E1 >>> S1.
Details: new sig LC goes down to 476 base attack, has 60% BE, and now increases break damage from the user only. Aeon has 523 base attack, increases Atk by 64% when fully stacked (pretty trivial on FF and will be up after her second real damaging attack).
This has some interesting effects in calcs - assuming 5-6 attack rolls on gear (pretty reasonable, given base rolls count as 1), aeon has ~800 more attack than Sig, which directly translates into 80 BE. That leaves you up 20 BE on S1 Sig. You also get a small damage boost on normal damage sources; I have the net effect of those two things about 7% up on S1 before the other passive is considered.
Assuming her new personal break damage is ~40% (this is a guess from looking at previous calcs with HTB, but should be in the ballpark), the damage boost from the extra rider on the LC leaves it up…slightly under 3% on Aeon. That is terrible value for the pulls.
Note that this doesn't consider the speed debuff, which is pretty cool and worth something, especially if it lets you forego a sustain.
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Details: new sig LC goes down to 476 base attack, has 60% BE, and now increases break damage from the user only. Aeon has 523 base attack, increases Atk by 64% when fully stacked (pretty trivial on FF and will be up after her second real damaging attack).
This has some interesting effects in calcs - assuming 5-6 attack rolls on gear (pretty reasonable, given base rolls count as 1), aeon has ~800 more attack than Sig, which directly translates into 80 BE. That leaves you up 20 BE on S1 Sig. You also get a small damage boost on normal damage sources; I have the net effect of those two things about 7% up on S1 before the other passive is considered.
Assuming her new personal break damage is ~40% (this is a guess from looking at previous calcs with HTB, but should be in the ballpark), the damage boost from the extra rider on the LC leaves it up…slightly under 3% on Aeon. That is terrible value for the pulls.
Note that this doesn't consider the speed debuff, which is pretty cool and worth something, especially if it lets you forego a sustain.
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2024.05.21 15:39 knalkip Backup/sync of calendar and todo to dropbox
I've just received my SuperNote two days ago and I love it already. I was always a heavy org-mode user for notes, todo's and planning, but I can see how this device will replace all of that.
I am very worried about losing the information stored on the SuperNote (I can't remember anything if it's not in my notes). Currently I'm syncing with Dropbox, but that seems to only sync notes and documents.
So this leaves me wondering (can't find any information in the user guide and/or trello about this):
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I am very worried about losing the information stored on the SuperNote (I can't remember anything if it's not in my notes). Currently I'm syncing with Dropbox, but that seems to only sync notes and documents.
So this leaves me wondering (can't find any information in the user guide and/or trello about this):
- Am I correct that To-do items and calendar data are not synced? Is this on the roadmap?
- Am I correct that auto sync does not support Dropbox?
2024.05.21 15:30 idahhan 1 Week in Peru (May 2024)
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Booking Machu Picchu site tickets
To arrive to Machu Picchu from Cusco you need to:
What time is best to visit Machu Picchu
Overall, it was an amazing trip. Next time, I would stay for two weeks and follow the EyeWitness: Peru travel book's two-week itinerary. I would also definitely do the Salkantay hike. |
2024.05.21 15:29 iminspainwithoutthe Disallowed from using a cane at work
Background: my boyfriend has had back pain for years, and he uses a cane for this sometimes. He's been to the doctor for it many times, but all they've noted for it is mild scoliosis. Location is Ohio.
My boyfriend got a new job recently, working at the front of the store at a pharmacy chain. The job duties are what you would expect for that; register, stocking, helping customers, and I think some paperwork stuff on the computer? All tasks he can do while using a cane.
He's only recently started working there, but has evidently been told he can't use his cane while working on the floor. I'm disabled as well and know how the ADA protects me, but I'm not sure what information to give my boyfriend so that he can navigate this situation.
Advice?
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My boyfriend got a new job recently, working at the front of the store at a pharmacy chain. The job duties are what you would expect for that; register, stocking, helping customers, and I think some paperwork stuff on the computer? All tasks he can do while using a cane.
He's only recently started working there, but has evidently been told he can't use his cane while working on the floor. I'm disabled as well and know how the ADA protects me, but I'm not sure what information to give my boyfriend so that he can navigate this situation.
Advice?
2024.05.21 15:28 arthropodlover Was this creepy?
I’ve been thinking about something that had happened a few times when I was 11-13. My mother had gotten a boyfriend who was over a decade younger than her (she was mid thirties, he was early twenties) and he had about the same age difference with me. He was always kind of emotionally abusive and such, the usual “evil stepparent” way, but that isn’t what this is about. He was weird in other ways too, I suppose. When my mom was at work, he would come into my room, pin me down, and tickle me for anywhere from five to ten minutes, then stop and leave without a word. He would do this ALL THE TIME. He would hold me down so hard that i seriously would freak out because I realized that I genuinely could not get out of his grasp at all. He also one time forced me to slow dance with him, and when I told him I was uncomfortable and started crying, he threw me to the ground and told me I was acting like a baby. He would do things like force me to tell him that I loved him (I didn’t love him, so I didn’t want to lie), and one time when I was crying he kissed me on the forehead after I told him REPEATEDLY that I didn’t like him touching me. He would do that a lot, like asking for hugs and stuff. I hasn’t realized that I had been molested as a child yet, so I didn’t understand why I hated being touched so much, but when I refused hugs and stuff he always said “stop being a baby, I do so much for you” and stuff. I bring this all up because recently someone said that all of this was creepy, but I just never thought about it. Was this creepy? I both needed this off my chest and to see other people’s opinions. He also one time agreed with my mother that I should wear a skin tight dress (a very provocative dress) to my middle school dance when I was eleven. I’m not one to shame anyone for wearing revealing clothes, but it definitely was something I should have not worn as a literal child. There are a few more things, but I think he uses reddit and don’t want him to figure out it’s me. Thanks everyone.
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2024.05.21 15:26 Ok_Attitude7158 Advice About Car Loan After Person Dies
TLDR: Dad died, car loan is hefty, zero dollars in estate, trying to decide if I should let the bank/dealership reposes the car, or find a way to negotiate with them to keep the car for a lower amount than what the car loan was for.
Here's the longer version:
My dad passed away recently and without going into too much detail there is zero dollars in his estate. A few months ago he bought a used car at a dealership which he financed through the dealership and I believe he paid more for the car than it was worth so I am fairly confident that I cannot sell the car for the amount of the loan.
My mom was the beneficiary of my dad's estate and executor of his will but she lives in long term care and is not capable of acting on his behalf and lawyer advised us that her power of attorney cannot take on the role of executor of the will (also parents are also legally separated and she was not involved in any of his finances so she is not responsible for the car loan even thought one could argue that the car is hers). There is a backup executor of the will but he is not in the picture either, although we might be able to drag him into it kicking and screaming if we needed to.
Bascially, a lawyer has advised us that the car and the loan is not our problem as he basically didn't have a valid will and there is no money in the estate. She said to leave it where it is and walk away and let the dealership or the bank or whoever do what they have to do to deal with it once the payments start bouncing.
The problem is that I just can't stomach doing that. My dad LOVED cars and his car was his prized possession. He was always in it driving around town and when he got this new one he took a bunch of pictures of it and wanted to come visit me to show me his new car but I told him not to because it was winter and I didn't want him driving on the wintery roads (boy do I regret that now). I also happen to be driving a rusty old car with constant problems. Now that dad is gone I have to drive 6 hours away to go visit my mom once or twice a month so that she is not all alone. I need a new car and would talk to my dad often about my car woes. I just don't have the headspace to go car shopping while I'm grieving and dealing with the fallout from his death, taking over my mom's care, dealing with my own health problems, etc.
So basically my question: Is it possible to negotiate with the dealership or the bank to get possession of my dad's car for a lesser amount than the value of the loan? If the loan is $26k and the car is only really worth $18-20k, can I offer a lower amount to settle the loan and take over ownership of the car? Note that the alternative is that the car sits abandoned in the parking lot of his apartment building until it eventually gets towed, repossessed and probably auctioned off.
The point is I have a lot of practical and sentimental reasons not to just abandon the car, but I have no idea how to go about getting possession of it without 'buying it' from my mom and paying off the loan, but it's just not a good purchase and I'd be paying several thousand dollars more than it's worth, which I can't really afford. Would love some advice on this messy situation.
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Here's the longer version:
My dad passed away recently and without going into too much detail there is zero dollars in his estate. A few months ago he bought a used car at a dealership which he financed through the dealership and I believe he paid more for the car than it was worth so I am fairly confident that I cannot sell the car for the amount of the loan.
My mom was the beneficiary of my dad's estate and executor of his will but she lives in long term care and is not capable of acting on his behalf and lawyer advised us that her power of attorney cannot take on the role of executor of the will (also parents are also legally separated and she was not involved in any of his finances so she is not responsible for the car loan even thought one could argue that the car is hers). There is a backup executor of the will but he is not in the picture either, although we might be able to drag him into it kicking and screaming if we needed to.
Bascially, a lawyer has advised us that the car and the loan is not our problem as he basically didn't have a valid will and there is no money in the estate. She said to leave it where it is and walk away and let the dealership or the bank or whoever do what they have to do to deal with it once the payments start bouncing.
The problem is that I just can't stomach doing that. My dad LOVED cars and his car was his prized possession. He was always in it driving around town and when he got this new one he took a bunch of pictures of it and wanted to come visit me to show me his new car but I told him not to because it was winter and I didn't want him driving on the wintery roads (boy do I regret that now). I also happen to be driving a rusty old car with constant problems. Now that dad is gone I have to drive 6 hours away to go visit my mom once or twice a month so that she is not all alone. I need a new car and would talk to my dad often about my car woes. I just don't have the headspace to go car shopping while I'm grieving and dealing with the fallout from his death, taking over my mom's care, dealing with my own health problems, etc.
So basically my question: Is it possible to negotiate with the dealership or the bank to get possession of my dad's car for a lesser amount than the value of the loan? If the loan is $26k and the car is only really worth $18-20k, can I offer a lower amount to settle the loan and take over ownership of the car? Note that the alternative is that the car sits abandoned in the parking lot of his apartment building until it eventually gets towed, repossessed and probably auctioned off.
The point is I have a lot of practical and sentimental reasons not to just abandon the car, but I have no idea how to go about getting possession of it without 'buying it' from my mom and paying off the loan, but it's just not a good purchase and I'd be paying several thousand dollars more than it's worth, which I can't really afford. Would love some advice on this messy situation.
2024.05.21 15:25 Melodic-Hope-1706 AITA for leaving my boyfriend when I know he’s not in a good place mentally
I recently broke up with my boyfriend and I feel so awful about it. We had been together for a year and a half, first serious relationship for me. Throughout the first year we had a lot of issues due to his drinking habits. There were multiple instances of him getting blackout drunk and verbally abusing me, breaking things around me and my property. When he’s sober and not past that point of being too drunk he is the best most caring person and I truly love him so much. He doesn’t have a close relationship with his family (they live on the other side of the world) and he doesn’t have many close friends anymore as they all have families now and are busy, so it was just me. He’s also dealing with a lot of self esteem issues and has lost his purpose on what he wants to do. The last 5 months I have not been living in our apartment because I wanted him to work on his drinking issues so that I felt confident and safe to return. I tried to help motivate him get fit and look for a new start in a different job. Things for the last 5 months have been good, but I haven’t been able to move on from the things that had happened previously and every few weeks I would have a bit of a melt down and get upset and I know he just wanted to move on from it. I decided to end things because I felt like I was only holding us both back because I know I can’t move on from how he treated me as much as I wanted to. It’s only been a few days but I feel so awful thinking that he’s already in this shit state of mind and now he’s alone. Should I have done more to help him? Am I awful for leaving someone when they clearly have some addiction going on?
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2024.05.21 15:22 Real_Arm56 Christians. What's wrong with people who are saved?
Some of my worst life experiences were in the hands of 'people who are saved'. What happens that immediately someone becomes saved, they begin becoming selfish,egocentric and just some abnormal level of wickedness? Are you always honestly saved or you just don't know what salvation means?. Honestly, immediately a client or my clinets contact person introduces themselves as saved or man/woman of God, i just prepare myself for a rough work relationship moving forward.
In my village, there's a retired Bishop's home(now the late). Growing up, whenever we visited the village over Easter or Christmas, there were a lot of fruits in that compound; Mangoes, guavas, Java plums, passion but you couldn't pluck even a piece. They used to clean the compound every morning, throwing the several fallen fruits but couldn't allow a neighbors kid pick even a single fruit. Even their farm workers used to carry water as you couldn't go to ask for water from that home.
In my high school, most of the people who used to identify as saved conducted themselves and treated others in a manner that couldn't motivate the pagan us to think that salvation is a good thing. Saw some in campus too, actively in Church but treating humans like second class humans.
However I've interacted with a few ;among them, my highschool crime partner who is currently serving God with his heart, body and time, and one Campus friend from first year, among a few others who are saved and an interaction with them will leave you admiring a new life in Christ.
What's the meaning of "kuokoka" ? Is there a specific way a practicing Christian proclaiming salvation should behave and treat his neighbours as s/he waits to go and eat honey and milk in heaven? Have you experienced some unexpected behaviour from the "bwana asifiwe" fellows? Or is Satan using me to tarnish the name of Men of God? Your thoughts? Also worth Noting Is that my mother openly proclaimed salvation recently and I hope she doesn't turn into something else.
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In my village, there's a retired Bishop's home(now the late). Growing up, whenever we visited the village over Easter or Christmas, there were a lot of fruits in that compound; Mangoes, guavas, Java plums, passion but you couldn't pluck even a piece. They used to clean the compound every morning, throwing the several fallen fruits but couldn't allow a neighbors kid pick even a single fruit. Even their farm workers used to carry water as you couldn't go to ask for water from that home.
In my high school, most of the people who used to identify as saved conducted themselves and treated others in a manner that couldn't motivate the pagan us to think that salvation is a good thing. Saw some in campus too, actively in Church but treating humans like second class humans.
However I've interacted with a few ;among them, my highschool crime partner who is currently serving God with his heart, body and time, and one Campus friend from first year, among a few others who are saved and an interaction with them will leave you admiring a new life in Christ.
What's the meaning of "kuokoka" ? Is there a specific way a practicing Christian proclaiming salvation should behave and treat his neighbours as s/he waits to go and eat honey and milk in heaven? Have you experienced some unexpected behaviour from the "bwana asifiwe" fellows? Or is Satan using me to tarnish the name of Men of God? Your thoughts? Also worth Noting Is that my mother openly proclaimed salvation recently and I hope she doesn't turn into something else.
2024.05.21 15:16 angim350 [ASMR Roleplay] [F4A] You move in with your nervous girlfriend [internal monologue] [sweet] [reassurance] [making out] [seductive]
Hey all!
So the premise here is that a young couple are moving in together for the first time, and it's a brief look at their first evening and morning together. I've written it as a girlfriend as this is actually based on real events, but the listener can be anyone. Girlfriend can also be changed to boyfriend if preferable :)
Fine to monetize, just give me credit and link back here :) also, if anyone wants to fill this, awesome!!!
There is a mix of internal and external monologue here. Hope I've kept that clear in the text but, if not, please let me know!
Girlfriend
(knocking on the door)
Hello! Is anyone here? Oh, hi! Sorry I’m a bit late. Took ages to load up the car. Hmm? Sorry, I know you have other clients! Yeah, of course, I’m sure they’re on the way.
(internal, sarcastically)
Well, this estate agent seems lovely. Is she actually going to let me in?
(spoken)
Are we okay to wait inside? I think it’s going to rain. Thankyou…
(internal)
I still can’t believe we’re doing this! I hope I haven’t brought too much stuff. They said they’re barely bringing anything! Oh, this place looks a little dusty! Floor’s a bit messy! I’ll have to give it a clean. God, I hope they don’t lose patience with me. Their room at home always seems so tidy, but I know their mum is a bit of a clean freak too.
(spoken)
Sorry? Yeah, this is our first place together. We’ve been going out for three years and I just got a new job, so we figured why not? Renting for now, but hoping to buy a place in a year or two.
(internal)
If they don’t run a mile after living with me for a few weeks. I’m okay to live with, right? My housemates didn’t have an issue at [insert Uni or college, depending on location]. Oh god, what if…
(spoken)
Sorry, I’m here now. Oh yeah, I remember I really liked this kitchen! New oven, cool! Tell the landlord thanks! Yeah, I may as well start signing everything whilst we wait. I’m really sure they won’t be much longer.
The sound of knocking.
Girlfriend
(spoken)
Oh, that’ll be them now! Come up! We’re just in the kitchen. Hey!
(internal)
Ah man, I still get jittery when they smile at me like that! I still can’t believe we’re doing this. I know we spend all our weekends and most evenings together but it is going to be different, actually living together. We need to get a joint account set up, we’re going to need to go shopping ASAP – there’s literally nothing in! The internet people better turn up tomorrow! I’ve only got [speaker to insert their favourite show] boxsets for us to watch and I’m not sure that’s their thing…
(spoken)
Sorry, I was miles away. So we both sign here? Oh, rules? Okay?
(internal)
Gosh, do they think we’re going to be throwing mad parties every week? We’re not kids! Security deposit? We know this already! Ah, I shouldn’t be so harsh. She’s just doing her job. But does she have to act like we’re planning on burning the place down? Oh, one year’s tenancy? No early release? Eeesh, what if they don’t want to stay… oh wow, they signed really quickly!
(spoken)
Thankyou. I don’t think I have any questions. Do you?
(internal)
There’s that smile again. They look so excited! I hope they’re not as nervous as me. Oh, she’s leaving. Good.
(spoken)
Well, here we are. Just the two of us now. No… second thoughts? No, of course not! All my stuff’s outside, is yours? Shall we get it all in first and then think about where everything is going to go? Oh, your dad’s given us that TV? Fantastic! Think my laptop might be about to die!
Around half an hour later…
Girlfriend
(spoken, sounds out of breath)
Okay! Big pile of stuff. Least we got it in.
(internal)
How do they only have like three suitcases? I couldn’t even fit everything in my car!
(spoken)
I knew I shouldn’t have brought so many books! No idea where we’re going to put them. And the bathroom really is small! I know we said we didn’t mind, but…
Sound of a kiss.
Girlfriend
(spoken)
I love you too. Sorry, I’m overthinking things again. How are you feeling? I know! Still can’t quite believe we have our own place. We really needed it. I swear my dad was deliberately being annoying half the time. Always banging around downstairs! Shush, I’m not just like him! He’ll be okay. He’s got mum. I guess it must be weird with all your kids gone.
(internal)
Dad was so great about everything. Maybe I should have let him come help us move in, but I kind of wanted this to just be us.
(spoken)
Yeah, let’s take a proper look around.
(internal)
I need to chill. This place is really nice, especially for the price. I love the living room. Still can’t believe the sofa and chairs came with the flat. The sofa looks so comfortable. I can’t wait for us to snuggle up on there. They even left a little reading lamp in the corner! I hope they don’t mind if I want to just read some nights. They didn’t really seem to before, but now it’s just us all the time…
Ahhh, I wish the bathroom was bigger! The shower’s a bit ancient. I dunno if we’d both fit in… shit, now they can see me blushing, great! Let’s move out of here quickly!
Really good cupboard space for a small bedroom. I’ve got so many clothes though. I may need to use some of their space as well! Dad was right. I should have had a clear out before I came.
(spoken, laughing)
Don’t jump on the bed like that! Because it’s all tidy! Yeah, I know nobody’s coming round today, but… I am chilled! Wait, what? Okay, fine, I’ll try it out. Yeah, it is very comfy.
(internal)
They smell so good today. I love it when they wear this. I don’t even know what it is. Guess I’ll be seeing it in the bathroom, so I know what to get them for their birthday.
Sound of kissing.
Girlfriend
(spoken)
Are you happy we’ve done this?
(internal)
It’s weird how right this feels. I know it’s just the two of us here now, and I don’t feel nervous. This is just so cool.
(spoken)
What? Let you show me? How… oh….
Sound of kissing and giggling.
Girlfriend
(spoken)
Hey you. We have a lot of unpacking to… oh, you’re so mean.
More kissing.
Girlfriend
(internal)
I love it when they stroke my hair like this. Okay, pinning my hands above my head. That’s… new. Kinda like it though. It is so good that nobody can possibly disturb us. We can literally do anything we want to! Okay, my cheeks feel like they’re on fire. Typical.
(spoken)
Okay, we can, ohhh…
(internal)
I could get used to this.
The next morning…
Girlfriend
(internal)
What time is it? Must be getting late, it’s so bright in here. We need better curtains! This bed is so comfy though. I must have fallen asleep so quickly last night. Urgh, I’m so groggy in the morning. Wait, where are they? Can I hear noises in the kitchen? And what’s that smell? Oh, they must be cooking something. Bless them. I’m still so full from last night. It was so awesome to just have the night together in our own place! They’re getting better at cooking. I’ll need to make us something tonight.
I better get up soon. It’s just so warm in here. Ah, I need the bathroom. I still feel a bit awkward about that, but they’re so lovely about it. I’ll just sneak in now…
(spoken)
Oh hey! I thought you were in the kitchen. Oh, what you carrying? Wow, breakfast in bed! Thanks!
Sound of eating.
Girlfriend
(spoken)
Oh man, this is so good! When did you become a Michelin Chef? Your mum usually cooks for us!
(internal)
How do they look so awesome even though they’ve just woke up? I bet I look a right mess. Ah, there’s that smile again.
(spoken)
What? Haha, pull the other one. If there’s one thing I look like now, it isn’t beautiful. Have you seen my hair? Looks like I’ve been dragged through a hedge backwards. Okay, now you’re just teasing me! I guess I better get dressed in a sec. How long you been up? An hour? You’ve been trying to build the TV stand? How’s that gone? Oh…
(internal)
Bless them. They really aren’t very good at DIY. Good thing the landlord should take care of any repairs we need. My bookshelf should arrive today. Might be better to get Dad to come help us with that. If they’re not offended.
(spoken)
Okay, I am full! That was awesome though, thankyou! I’ll cook tonight. Unless you wanted to try that takeaway we saw round the corner… haha, you really know me so well.
Sound of kissing.
Girlfriend
(spoken)
Okay, I’ll jump in the shower then I’ll come and help you! There’s something I wanted to give you as well. I meant to last night but by the time we got everything unpacked I forgot! It’s in my bag, hold on, I’ll get it.
(internal)
They’re so cute. I can see them checking me out. Don’t know what’s so hot about these pyjamas. They’re like three years old and literally have super-heroes on them. Oh god, why did I wear… no, I can’t keep overthinking this stuff. Not if we’re going to live together.
(spoken)
Here it is! I got it custom made. Open it.
Sound of ripping paper.
Girlfriend
(spoken)
It’s that picture I took of you and Bounce a few years back. Remember, for one of our first dates you took me for a walk in the forest with her? We almost lost her when she tried to chase after a bird? I know you’re going to miss her living here, so I thought you’d like a picture of her. I’d say she could come round any time, but I don’t think we’re allowed pets.
(internal)
Ah man, I hope this is okay. They really love that dog and I know it was hard on them to leave them.
(spoken)
You love it? Of course, you’re welcome! I love you too.
Sound of kissing.
Girlfriend
(spoken)
You know I over think everything and I’m a little, well, full-on sometimes, but I just want you to know I’m so happy we’ve done this. I can’t wait for, well, everything! You mean the world to me, and I’m so happy you want to live with me.
(pause, then spoken)
Here’s to the next forever!
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So the premise here is that a young couple are moving in together for the first time, and it's a brief look at their first evening and morning together. I've written it as a girlfriend as this is actually based on real events, but the listener can be anyone. Girlfriend can also be changed to boyfriend if preferable :)
Fine to monetize, just give me credit and link back here :) also, if anyone wants to fill this, awesome!!!
There is a mix of internal and external monologue here. Hope I've kept that clear in the text but, if not, please let me know!
Girlfriend
(knocking on the door)
Hello! Is anyone here? Oh, hi! Sorry I’m a bit late. Took ages to load up the car. Hmm? Sorry, I know you have other clients! Yeah, of course, I’m sure they’re on the way.
(internal, sarcastically)
Well, this estate agent seems lovely. Is she actually going to let me in?
(spoken)
Are we okay to wait inside? I think it’s going to rain. Thankyou…
(internal)
I still can’t believe we’re doing this! I hope I haven’t brought too much stuff. They said they’re barely bringing anything! Oh, this place looks a little dusty! Floor’s a bit messy! I’ll have to give it a clean. God, I hope they don’t lose patience with me. Their room at home always seems so tidy, but I know their mum is a bit of a clean freak too.
(spoken)
Sorry? Yeah, this is our first place together. We’ve been going out for three years and I just got a new job, so we figured why not? Renting for now, but hoping to buy a place in a year or two.
(internal)
If they don’t run a mile after living with me for a few weeks. I’m okay to live with, right? My housemates didn’t have an issue at [insert Uni or college, depending on location]. Oh god, what if…
(spoken)
Sorry, I’m here now. Oh yeah, I remember I really liked this kitchen! New oven, cool! Tell the landlord thanks! Yeah, I may as well start signing everything whilst we wait. I’m really sure they won’t be much longer.
The sound of knocking.
Girlfriend
(spoken)
Oh, that’ll be them now! Come up! We’re just in the kitchen. Hey!
(internal)
Ah man, I still get jittery when they smile at me like that! I still can’t believe we’re doing this. I know we spend all our weekends and most evenings together but it is going to be different, actually living together. We need to get a joint account set up, we’re going to need to go shopping ASAP – there’s literally nothing in! The internet people better turn up tomorrow! I’ve only got [speaker to insert their favourite show] boxsets for us to watch and I’m not sure that’s their thing…
(spoken)
Sorry, I was miles away. So we both sign here? Oh, rules? Okay?
(internal)
Gosh, do they think we’re going to be throwing mad parties every week? We’re not kids! Security deposit? We know this already! Ah, I shouldn’t be so harsh. She’s just doing her job. But does she have to act like we’re planning on burning the place down? Oh, one year’s tenancy? No early release? Eeesh, what if they don’t want to stay… oh wow, they signed really quickly!
(spoken)
Thankyou. I don’t think I have any questions. Do you?
(internal)
There’s that smile again. They look so excited! I hope they’re not as nervous as me. Oh, she’s leaving. Good.
(spoken)
Well, here we are. Just the two of us now. No… second thoughts? No, of course not! All my stuff’s outside, is yours? Shall we get it all in first and then think about where everything is going to go? Oh, your dad’s given us that TV? Fantastic! Think my laptop might be about to die!
Around half an hour later…
Girlfriend
(spoken, sounds out of breath)
Okay! Big pile of stuff. Least we got it in.
(internal)
How do they only have like three suitcases? I couldn’t even fit everything in my car!
(spoken)
I knew I shouldn’t have brought so many books! No idea where we’re going to put them. And the bathroom really is small! I know we said we didn’t mind, but…
Sound of a kiss.
Girlfriend
(spoken)
I love you too. Sorry, I’m overthinking things again. How are you feeling? I know! Still can’t quite believe we have our own place. We really needed it. I swear my dad was deliberately being annoying half the time. Always banging around downstairs! Shush, I’m not just like him! He’ll be okay. He’s got mum. I guess it must be weird with all your kids gone.
(internal)
Dad was so great about everything. Maybe I should have let him come help us move in, but I kind of wanted this to just be us.
(spoken)
Yeah, let’s take a proper look around.
(internal)
I need to chill. This place is really nice, especially for the price. I love the living room. Still can’t believe the sofa and chairs came with the flat. The sofa looks so comfortable. I can’t wait for us to snuggle up on there. They even left a little reading lamp in the corner! I hope they don’t mind if I want to just read some nights. They didn’t really seem to before, but now it’s just us all the time…
Ahhh, I wish the bathroom was bigger! The shower’s a bit ancient. I dunno if we’d both fit in… shit, now they can see me blushing, great! Let’s move out of here quickly!
Really good cupboard space for a small bedroom. I’ve got so many clothes though. I may need to use some of their space as well! Dad was right. I should have had a clear out before I came.
(spoken, laughing)
Don’t jump on the bed like that! Because it’s all tidy! Yeah, I know nobody’s coming round today, but… I am chilled! Wait, what? Okay, fine, I’ll try it out. Yeah, it is very comfy.
(internal)
They smell so good today. I love it when they wear this. I don’t even know what it is. Guess I’ll be seeing it in the bathroom, so I know what to get them for their birthday.
Sound of kissing.
Girlfriend
(spoken)
Are you happy we’ve done this?
(internal)
It’s weird how right this feels. I know it’s just the two of us here now, and I don’t feel nervous. This is just so cool.
(spoken)
What? Let you show me? How… oh….
Sound of kissing and giggling.
Girlfriend
(spoken)
Hey you. We have a lot of unpacking to… oh, you’re so mean.
More kissing.
Girlfriend
(internal)
I love it when they stroke my hair like this. Okay, pinning my hands above my head. That’s… new. Kinda like it though. It is so good that nobody can possibly disturb us. We can literally do anything we want to! Okay, my cheeks feel like they’re on fire. Typical.
(spoken)
Okay, we can, ohhh…
(internal)
I could get used to this.
The next morning…
Girlfriend
(internal)
What time is it? Must be getting late, it’s so bright in here. We need better curtains! This bed is so comfy though. I must have fallen asleep so quickly last night. Urgh, I’m so groggy in the morning. Wait, where are they? Can I hear noises in the kitchen? And what’s that smell? Oh, they must be cooking something. Bless them. I’m still so full from last night. It was so awesome to just have the night together in our own place! They’re getting better at cooking. I’ll need to make us something tonight.
I better get up soon. It’s just so warm in here. Ah, I need the bathroom. I still feel a bit awkward about that, but they’re so lovely about it. I’ll just sneak in now…
(spoken)
Oh hey! I thought you were in the kitchen. Oh, what you carrying? Wow, breakfast in bed! Thanks!
Sound of eating.
Girlfriend
(spoken)
Oh man, this is so good! When did you become a Michelin Chef? Your mum usually cooks for us!
(internal)
How do they look so awesome even though they’ve just woke up? I bet I look a right mess. Ah, there’s that smile again.
(spoken)
What? Haha, pull the other one. If there’s one thing I look like now, it isn’t beautiful. Have you seen my hair? Looks like I’ve been dragged through a hedge backwards. Okay, now you’re just teasing me! I guess I better get dressed in a sec. How long you been up? An hour? You’ve been trying to build the TV stand? How’s that gone? Oh…
(internal)
Bless them. They really aren’t very good at DIY. Good thing the landlord should take care of any repairs we need. My bookshelf should arrive today. Might be better to get Dad to come help us with that. If they’re not offended.
(spoken)
Okay, I am full! That was awesome though, thankyou! I’ll cook tonight. Unless you wanted to try that takeaway we saw round the corner… haha, you really know me so well.
Sound of kissing.
Girlfriend
(spoken)
Okay, I’ll jump in the shower then I’ll come and help you! There’s something I wanted to give you as well. I meant to last night but by the time we got everything unpacked I forgot! It’s in my bag, hold on, I’ll get it.
(internal)
They’re so cute. I can see them checking me out. Don’t know what’s so hot about these pyjamas. They’re like three years old and literally have super-heroes on them. Oh god, why did I wear… no, I can’t keep overthinking this stuff. Not if we’re going to live together.
(spoken)
Here it is! I got it custom made. Open it.
Sound of ripping paper.
Girlfriend
(spoken)
It’s that picture I took of you and Bounce a few years back. Remember, for one of our first dates you took me for a walk in the forest with her? We almost lost her when she tried to chase after a bird? I know you’re going to miss her living here, so I thought you’d like a picture of her. I’d say she could come round any time, but I don’t think we’re allowed pets.
(internal)
Ah man, I hope this is okay. They really love that dog and I know it was hard on them to leave them.
(spoken)
You love it? Of course, you’re welcome! I love you too.
Sound of kissing.
Girlfriend
(spoken)
You know I over think everything and I’m a little, well, full-on sometimes, but I just want you to know I’m so happy we’ve done this. I can’t wait for, well, everything! You mean the world to me, and I’m so happy you want to live with me.
(pause, then spoken)
Here’s to the next forever!
2024.05.21 15:15 secobarbiital How would you plan out a week with friends over but working 3 nightshifts?
This isn’t really for me but for my boyfriend. We’re flying out to our hometown soon for my sisters graduation. We leave on a Friday and come back Sunday morning. Our two friends are flying back with us and staying a week because we only get see them once a year.
He’s supposed to work 7pm-7am on Monday night, Tuesday night, and Saturday night. We’re not worried about Saturday, but if you were in this situation, how would you adjust your sleep schedule, if so, and what would you do for those first few days of work? We’re thinking of just chilling until Wednesday and doing stuff right when he gets home so he can sleep Wednesday night and kinda get in rhythm for a few nights. He’s the one that thought of this, but he hasn’t been working nights for that long so I’m not sure if its realistic? Thoughts or advice?
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He’s supposed to work 7pm-7am on Monday night, Tuesday night, and Saturday night. We’re not worried about Saturday, but if you were in this situation, how would you adjust your sleep schedule, if so, and what would you do for those first few days of work? We’re thinking of just chilling until Wednesday and doing stuff right when he gets home so he can sleep Wednesday night and kinda get in rhythm for a few nights. He’s the one that thought of this, but he hasn’t been working nights for that long so I’m not sure if its realistic? Thoughts or advice?
2024.05.21 15:14 Inevitable_Fish_553 Landlords obligations for repairs
Hi! We’re about to sign a contract for a flat in England but there’s a clause I find unreasonable. I would appreciate your thoughts over the matter:
I sent this message to the agency this morning: “We can't agree with 4.4.7 (Have the use of all appliances provided in the Property, as listed in the inventory save those which are noted as not working. However, should any items require repair, or be beyond repair, the Landlord does not undertake to pay for any costs of repair or to replace the appliance, except those which the Landlord is required by law to maintain.) nor with a part of 5.9.b ((b) to keep in repair ... but not other fixtures, fittings and appliances for making use of the supply of water, gas or electricity);). As the white golds and appliances we saw during the viewing are quite old and these are provided by the landlord, we need the landlord to undertake pay for any cost of repair or replacement of the appliances and white goods that are provided with the property.”
The letting a agency replied the following: “The Landlord is legally obliged to pay for the repair and replacement of the fridge and oven. We automatically ask for Landlords to repair washing machines and Landlords normally take this on without giving it a thought. I can, however, ask the Landlord if I can amend this clause, but this will bring to her attention the fact that she is not required to fix it. So, I would suggest leaving this and we can continue how we normally do asking the Landlord to pay for the repairs – let me know though.”
If we leave it as it is, would then I be responsable to replace an old washing machine for a new one in the event it breaks and the landlord doesn’t want to pay for it?
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I sent this message to the agency this morning: “We can't agree with 4.4.7 (Have the use of all appliances provided in the Property, as listed in the inventory save those which are noted as not working. However, should any items require repair, or be beyond repair, the Landlord does not undertake to pay for any costs of repair or to replace the appliance, except those which the Landlord is required by law to maintain.) nor with a part of 5.9.b ((b) to keep in repair ... but not other fixtures, fittings and appliances for making use of the supply of water, gas or electricity);). As the white golds and appliances we saw during the viewing are quite old and these are provided by the landlord, we need the landlord to undertake pay for any cost of repair or replacement of the appliances and white goods that are provided with the property.”
The letting a agency replied the following: “The Landlord is legally obliged to pay for the repair and replacement of the fridge and oven. We automatically ask for Landlords to repair washing machines and Landlords normally take this on without giving it a thought. I can, however, ask the Landlord if I can amend this clause, but this will bring to her attention the fact that she is not required to fix it. So, I would suggest leaving this and we can continue how we normally do asking the Landlord to pay for the repairs – let me know though.”
If we leave it as it is, would then I be responsable to replace an old washing machine for a new one in the event it breaks and the landlord doesn’t want to pay for it?