I was in a 2.5-year relationship with someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). The beginning was great; we connected deeply, staying up late talking and feeling a strong bond. However, after about six months, doubts started to creep in on her part, and she frequently questioned my empathy and commitment.
The relationship was marked by severe depressive episodes, during which she attempted suicide three times. The first attempt happened when she tried to overdose. I took her to the hospital, which was quite traumatic for me. The second attempt occurred at her place when she tried to slit her wrists. She also talked about trying to slit her wrists in the wrong way so she wouldn’t die and her father would finally see her real pain and take her back in. The third attempt was in Indonesia, where we stayed together for 5 months. She broke up with me and 2 days later drank two liters of gin and took 105 pills. She texted me on Instagram, saying, "I’m sorry I'm doing this, but if you're reading this, I'm probably almost gone. Please call the police" I rushed to her with a motorbike and found her completely unconscious in the bathroom. It was a horrifying experience, and I managed to get her to the hospital in time. She was in a coma for two days. I remained by her bedside for most of it (only time i wasn’t there was when i was showering or sleeping. She admitted in her suicide voice memo that she hoped I’d see what I “did to her”.
Throughout our relationship, she changed rapidly between idealizing me and devaluing me, calling me names like "narcissist," "selfish," and "lacking empathy.". At other times she thought i was the absolute most amazing guy she ever met. We talked so many times about starting a family together at a later point in our lives (we are both in our twenties).
Despite all the doubts about me, I always tried to support her and for example went through therapy together to work on her and our problems.
The story of how we initially got together is also complicated. She agreed to go out with me initially to make another guy, whom I'll call Peter, jealous. Peter and her were in love when they were 16, she however ended up going with another guy. Peter had called her a bitch, and she wanted to get back at him. Despite our toxic start, we developed deep feelings for each other, but Peter remained a symbolic presence in the background, as she never really closed that chapter.
Eventually, I discovered she was texting another man extensively, even while we were still together. She had thousands of messages with him, filled with affectionate terms like "honey." and photos in her lingerie. "Please just fuck me" When I confronted her, she initially claimed she had set it all up to drive me away so she could commit suicide without my interference. Later, she admitted she genuinely felt seen by him, contrasting with her feelings towards me. She said she didn't delete the messages because she wanted me to find out and leave her, enabling her to end her life without feeling responsible for hurting me directly. She even met him (in my clothing even) and they kissed. Her third suicide attempt happened just after i confronted her about all this. She smashed a mirror and tried to slit her wrists, but I had already called the police. They broke down the door to save her. Each of these attempts left me feeling deeply traumatized and helpless.
After another breakup, she quickly moved on and began seeing other people, which shattered my self-confidence. She even started using Tinder, which she previously mocked as something only "losers" use. Her inconsistent behavior and frequent changes of mind about our relationship and future plans left me confused and hurt. For example, she would tell me one week that she couldn’t imagine being in another relationship for years, she wanted to work on herself. Two and a half weeks later after a fight, she was eager to start a new relationship. I quote: “I’m a relationship girl. Im really looking forward to being in a new relationship, just not with you.”
She often felt i was not being supportive enough. For instance, once when she was sick, she texted me early in the morning, and later criticized me for not checking on her or helping her with something, calling me an "empathiless jerk." I was never enough for her. I never truly made her feel safe and seen. I (and she) always blamed me for this.
After she cheated and we broke up, I still helped her move out and tried to be supportive. This pattern of me trying to fix things while she repeatedly engaged in deep destructive behavior has left me very traumatized.
Eventually, after we broke up for the final time, she told me she wanted to meet up with Peter. Despite her previous claims that she wouldn't see him because it would be hurtful to me, she said it felt strange that she couldn't meet him now that we had broken up. I told her i couldn’t stop her. She met with him and quickly became infatuated, telling me how seen and understood she felt by him. This was especially painful because he was always in the background during our relationship, and now she expressed feelings for him. She also expressed how this guy has quite some impracticalities but she really feels seen and safe with him, in contrast with me.
She looks for someone to give her security and identity. She is trying to fill a void that will never be full. She was so self-aware of this pattern, but when we broke up for the final time, she slipped right back into it. Like she had no reflection whatsover when she is truely alone. Maybe if she would fix herself, she can stop hurting herself and those that love her (me and her future boyfriends)
I’m currently struggling to move on. I think about her constantly, dream about her every night, and feel jealous of her new rebound, despite knowing how toxic she was for me. What makes this so hard is that she is so beautiful too, she is an absolutely stunning woman to look at. I cant keep my mind off of her. I long for her. I was and am so extremely in love with her. My friends and therapist (and myself) see how harmful this relationship was. Her extremely impulsive, emotionally driven and destructive behaviour has scarred my capability to love. yet I find myself longing to fix things and be there for her. I’m so mad at her for putting me through all this pain, but at the same time, I’ve lost my best friend, my lover, and my biggest cheerleader.
How can I move on from this? How do I stop thinking about her (and this new guy) and focus on my own well-being?

Well, Hi all! again! 4Th Wall here, I figured since I just got power back, I might as well play some catch up on both series. Hope you enjoy this episode!!
Yup, I fucked that up. This is a repost with the correct Episode number, LOL! It's been a while since I've done that.
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Benjamin smiled, watching the girls skip ahead of him. Today was a testing day of sorts for him. Unwilling to release firearms into this world haphazardly, yet unwilling to go without them as a backup; he had pulled from one of his sister’s favorite video games. He had “melted down” his bowie knife, repurposing the metal to be used in his latest creation. The final product rode on his hip like a short sword, but Ben was satisfied in the design when the vast majority of the people he passed ignored it as just another adventurer’s blade. Benjamin hoped, that with the existence of Majik, that he would be able to pass off any… peculiarities... as the realm of the supernatural.

The three of them arrived at the tailor’s establishment, and the girls were met with a customary indifference that seemed to present itself when a slave’s “master” was present. The moment Benjamin entered, the seamstress ceased to pay attention to the girls, and instead addressed him directly, “Ah, The Forgemaster’s Protégé. What can I do for you this day.” She said cooly, bowing slightly in welcome. “I’m here commission some clothing for these two, a reward for good service.” Benjamin began. It was technically true; the success of the forge had afforded him much more coin than a mere apprentice could have made. Qort had taken him on as a true partner, and Benjamin earned enough to comfortably afford to cloth his “slaves” in whatever he chose.

Some stigma’s remained however, and the seamstress seemed to glare sideways at the girls as they perused the fabrics adorning the walls. “Is that wise? A slave could lose her place with such gifts.” she asked, her polite tone barely hiding her disapproval. Benjamin sighed internally, ‘oh for fucks sake’ he groaned in his own mind before putting on facad, “I find that proper reward, afforded on the right servant can result in” he paused, projecting a smug expression and blatantly looking the girls up and down. “a profound dedication to their duties” he finished with a satisfied smile as the seamstress covered her mouth with a hand to hide a smile of her own. The gambit worked, and the Seamstress was obviously satisfied that the “Aereesen slave whores” were being properly “used”. “Ah, I understand. What did you have in mind for them.” She practically moaned back at Benjamin. ‘This hag needs a good pounding….’ Benjamin’s inner monologue threatened to crack his facade, “That’s the fun part, my good lady. It’s their choice. The surprise is half the excitement.” He chuckled.

The seamstress openly smiled at him this time before nodding and stepping over to the two girls. Benjamin breathed a sigh of relief as she seemed to treat them at least marginally more warmly. The old racist bag didn’t need to know that Benjamin was secretly building a small nest egg for his girls, or that his sending them out to do errands for him was how he was teaching them about money, value, and the application of Mathematics. She also didn’t need to know that the full Cutlery set that she had purchased last week had been made by Vi’s own hand as her first full solo commission set. Benjamin had stamped his “mark” on them, because slaves were not allowed to own anything, including their own work; but Vi had begun with raw steel and finished with one of the finest cooking knife sets he had seen in this world or his.

Benjamin settled onto a bench outside, using the excuse of wanting to enjoy the morning air to afford his girls some privacy. Now that Viola and Valtrya were eating a healthy diet, and the right calorie amount; they had blossomed into absolute bombshells. Their hair had recovered, and both sported long flowing locks that boasted a silky satin black color and texture that betrayed hints of deep royal purple. The color reminded Benjamin of one of those expensive custom car paints that changed color depending on the lighting.

Their skin recovered almost as quickly as their hair. The sickly, scabbed look was quickly replaced with the same satin quality as their hair to the touch, but with a light grey coloring that almost seemed to tease the edge of hinting at a greyish purple. A dense pattern of Small freckles of the same dark, almost royal, purple as the highlights in their hair frolicked on both girl’s cheeks, and down the sides of their necks. Because of their early lack of understanding on modestly, Ben knew that those freckles traveled much further. The sad truth was that Benjamin understood fully why Aereesen’s were the prize of slavers and brothels, and he silently prayed that he could give them enough self-worth and skill to have a better life than that, once he got them out of the Principality.

A door’s soft creaking broke Benjamin from his thoughts as the two sisters stepped out smiling, “Get everything you need?” he asked standing as the three of them departed the establishment. Val nodded vigorously, and Vi smiled as she spoke, “I think so, but I had to practically beg the woman to stop showing us lingerie… what did you tell her?” Benjamin felt his cheeks heat as he responded, “What I had to. The old hag doesn’t get enough at home. It’s not my fault that your ‘enthusiasm’ is in the forge and your studies, not between the sheets. I didn’t lie to her, I just let her draw her own conclusions, sorry.”

Vi’s eyes twinkled for a second, “Oh,” She smirked, “Thaaat’s why she broke out the silk. Some of her options were..” She blatantly bit her lip at Benjamin. “You didn’t…” He asked in shock, and Vi lifted up on her tippy toes to brush her lips against his ear, “Not telling” she purred, setting Bens senses on fire. She backed up a step, openly smirking at his beet red face. “But your expression is adorable… My Lord” She stated the last two words with a deep sultry tone, knowing that Ben couldn’t scold her in public before taking his hand, “May we visit the bazar next? Val saw some jewelry she wanted to look at.” Benjamin gave her a pointed look, that turned into a smile as she beamed at him, “Ok, sounds good. I need to pick up some food for the week.”

It was later that afternoon when the three of them left the bazar. They found Jukha waiting on the bench in front of their home. “Jukha! How are you!” Benjamin called, clasping the Orc’s hand firmly as the girls rushed inside to put up their purchases. Jukha reciprocated, if somewhat stiffly, to the strange to him gesture. “Benjamin, it is good to see you well.” His tone stopped Ben in his tracks, “What is it. Is your wife, ok?”
Jukha shook his head, “Vilora is well, but I have been tasked with finding you.” He said carefully, “The slaver, the one you dueled for those two,” he nodded to Vi and Val as they stepped back out of the building, “The Heir of The Romoregin house is here. He has lodged an official demand for satisfaction, and he brought a champion.”

Benjamin stiffened, “Another duel? You said an ‘official demand’… what happens if I refuse.” Jukha winced at Ben’s tone, “It is an archaic practice of my people, rarely remembered, and even more rarely demanded. You cannot deny a satisfaction claim, but should you prevail, no further claims can be made upon your person. I am sorry Benjamin, but if you flee or refuse, your life is forfeit; and your property goes to the claimant.” Jukha looked pointedly at Viola and Valtrya. “The young puke has put me in danger as well, if I do not deliver you and them to the duel, I can be detained. If they torture me….” Benjamin’s eyes widened before hardening in understanding. “Jukha…” He turned to find Viola standing next to him, with his musket in one arm and his ammunition bag in the other, and sighed, “Fuck”. He loaded his musket with a single roundball cartridge this time, unwilling to fire buck and ball in the town streets. He pealed the ball out of the paper wading after pouring the poweder, reaching into his haversack to retrieve a small round patch made of pillow ticking. Jukha looked on in mild fascination as Benjamin spit on the cloth patch before wrapping the ball in it and ramming the whole thing down the barrel. It wasn’t much, but it reduce windage, ensuring at least reasonable enough accuracy from the smoothbore to keep from hitting innocent bystanders. It would also virtually eliminate blow-by, upping the chamber pressure and giving him a little more velocity. “I’m ready.”

The four of them entered the small city square to be met with Qort and three Org guards. These soldiers wore different insignia that Benjamin had been taught were the mark of the capital. “Beenjaymen Shayfe” one of them butchered his name, “I am.” Ben nodded firmly, the other guard nodded, “And your two slaves, good. Has Jukha informed you of the proceedings.” Benjamin scowled, “A legalized way to attempt a revenge killing? Yea, I’ve been told.” Ben didn’t bother to hide his vitriol, “So I have to kill a motherfucker for defending myself from his father?”

“Not quite. The Heir has brought a champion. The rules are simple, all forms of combat are allowed” The first guard began as the second one began chaining the wrists of Viola and Valtrya. Benjamin began to move before thinking, only to be held back by Jukha, “Peace albino. They must do this. Fighting them will cause a forfeit.” Benjamin looked at the terrified faces of the two girls. He forced himself to calm down outwardly, but Benjamin could feel the rage building. He had worked so hard to save those two, to get them out.. now some snot nosed brat was going to try to kill him because his father didn’t know when to fuck off. Benjamin stepped out from around the guards. The “heir” was a young Durr. Ben had no frame of reference for age, but the Heir was substantially shorter, and his facial tentacles were almost mere buds. Beside him stood a crimson colossus, the same species as the Hunter he had shot saving Jukha. He was taller than that female, and was wearing plate armor, gilded in silver. He hefted a great sword of some kind and smiled openly at Benjamin. It was not a pleasant expression. “Ah, so You’re the puke I’ll be cleaning from my blade. I am Krastorin. Come here, pale one, I’ll make it quick.”

Benjamin looked him over, subtly shifting into a shooting stance but keeping his musket looking like he was resting the butt of a spear on the ground. “You look accomplished, what makes you do the bidding of the boy.” He asked, blatant scorn on his tone. The Young Durr flinched, his small tentacle buds writhing violently. “H’Dare Yee!” he bellowed, voice cracking with the strain of fury, “Aye’ll ‘ave Yee Head on Me’Wall!!”
Benjamin ignored him, focusing on the Hellirine. The man looked back at the boy with a raised eyebrow, “The young puke promised me one of those.” He pointed at Vi and Val, who had reverted to their former trembling submissive postures that Ben had met them in. “It appears that they are as well kept as claimed. I look forward to sampling them.” He leered. Benjamin looked over at the Young Durr and found his face a mixture of relief and anger. ‘Ah, lied about daddy’s slaves.’ He turned to the soldier standing next to him, “Is the duel on?” he growled.

“Combatants! Begin!” was the Soldiers response, and the crimson mercenary lifted his sword from his shoulders advancing forward with a long confident stride, “at last, let’s get this over wi..” a clap of thunder echo’d through the Feral wood, and most of the crowd cried out in surprise as Benjamin disappeared, seemingly behind a bubble of fire, and brimstone. The single round ball ignored the mercenary’s plate armor. Punching straight through as the soft lead mushroomed out into a ragged disk that measured almost an inch and a half. The mangled projectile, still travelling at almost half the speed of sound, eviscerated the chest cavity of the Mercenary before blowing a one foot wide hole out of the crimson man’s back. The exit wound missed Krastorin’s spine by an inch, but it didn’t matter. The projectile embedded itself into a post, thankfully missing any bystanders by mere inches in some cases. The Young Durr, who was standing just behind and to the side of his champion, was screaming as he pawed at the bits of pale yellow blood, bones, and fragments of internal organs now covering him from head to toe.

Benjamin handed the smoking musket to Jukha, drawing his short sword and walking over to a sputtering, choking, and coughing Krastorin. The Hellirine lay face down on the ground, having fallen that way from the momentum of his initial advance. The back of Benjamins mind was sickly amused as he remembered the old Hollywood trope of bullets throwing people backward, and a pinch of regret sparked in his soul as his opponent death rattled. He stepped up to the Heir, resting the blade against his neck, “Are we done here. Be a better man than your father and learn when to save your own life.” The Young Durr froze, staring up at him in abject terror for several moments as a puddle formed at his feet. Benjamin opened his mouth to speak again when the boy simply passed out, falling into the puddle of his own mess as his mind refused to stay conscious.

Benjamin turned to walk back towards Jukha and the girls. “Unchain them.” Benjamin’s tone could have frozen a raging forge’s inferno. To his surprise, two of the soldiers drew their weapons on him, “You need to come with us. All Touched must be registered with...” Benjamin pointed his short sword at the one talking… and pulled the trigger. The percussion revolver built into the hilt of the short sword was zero’d using a notch Benjamin cut into the crossguard, and the tip of the curved blade as a crude set of open sights. The barrel of the revolver lay along one side of the blade, and was rifled. The speaking soldier orc’s took the smaller pistol round through the forehead, exploding the back of his skull in a cone of dark green and grey mist. The exit wound showered his companion in bits of bone and brains. Benjamin’s thumb found the hammer, and four satisfying clicks echo’d in the stunned silence, “HEAR ME!” He growled, “I, am touched by the Gods. I posses the power to end any life I choose using the power of Hell itself!” ‘if I have to show them a gun, might as well throw them off the trail’ “The violence of the raging volcano obeys my very fingertips.” His revolvesword bucked a second time as another soldier orc made a move to rush him. The smaller pistol round still punched through the orcs armor and out the back, but only left him screaming on the ground. Benjamin re-cocked, and leveled his weapon at the orc holding the chains to Val and Vi. “Now, release them.” This last remaining Orc did as asked, before gathering up his screaming companion as the girls rushed to Benjamin, he pulled them close, whispering, “I’m sorry we wont be able to pick up your dresses.”

The three of them packed up that night. Qort had understood, knowing all too well what the Principality would do to acquire a Touched of Benjamins ability. “Stay safe my friend. I pray our paths cross again.” Jukha snuck them out of the village that night, using his wagon to get them to his home. They stayed a week, laying low while they planned their next move. The girls spent their time learning recipes from Jukha’s wife, and ben took the time to unwind a bit. Jukha and He went on a hunt, and Benjamin was given a run down on the flora and fauna of the Feral wood. The two of them brought back a pair of Stags, and the three women cooked them a feast.

“Dinner’s ready!!” called Viola, setting the last of the sides on the table as the dutch oven roasted meat was brought off of the stove top. It was a simple yet elegant meal. Stag, potatoes, some kind of Kale style vegetable that Benjamin had never seen before. Soon enough, everyone at the table was leaning back, as full as they could make themselves. “So, pinkskin,” Jukha asked, “Where do you plan on going. I wouldn’t mind you staying with me. I could use another hunter, but I suspect that they would notice the extra product I brought to the village.”

Benjamin Hummed, “The Maridian Combine. Qort told me that they banned slavery over a century ago, the girls have learned so much already. It would be easy to find jobs for them.” Vi and Val drooped slightly but hid it well. Jukha noticed it but said nothing. “A good choice, their boarders are well guarded, you would need to free them before you cross, or end up in a dungeon yourself.”

“Good point, I can write up a simple writ of freedom. Something I can sign and give to them.” Benjamin nodded, “I can get started on that to…” he paused as a hand fell on his. He looked to see Viola staring at him, fighting back tears, “Hey, what’s wrong. You will be free…” Jukha nodded slowly and stood. “love,” he said to Vilora, “I need some help with the livestock” The Farie met his eyes in unspoken understanding, fluttering out the front door with Jukha.

“Vi, what’s wrong.” Benjamin asked gently.

“No… go… Val… stay…” Both of them turned to Valtrya in shock. She was trembling, “I wont..leave.”

“You speak?” Benjamin looked in shock, but Viola spoke next, “Benjamin, we don’t want to leave. We want to stay, with you. I…” She paused. Ben sighed, “I want you to stay too.” He said, finally admitting it to himself, “But I can’t own you. It’s killing me that you are my property.” He reached up and wiped a tear from Vi’s eyes, “You are so much more than property. I feel evil, every day that I wake up knowing that I could do anything I wanted to you, or worse, die and have someone else hurt you for the fun of it.” Benjamin bowed his head. Viola reached out, lifting his chin to look into his eyes, “Then come with us.” She whispered as Val stood up and stepped around the table, “yes.. You, come.” She wrapped herself around Ben from the side leaning in until she was resting her head against his shoulder, “I’m… staying.. with you.” she said softly. Viola nodded, “Benjamin, how old do you think we are.”

Ben looked at her in confusion, “I have no idea, I’ve always assumed you were teenagers. 13-14 years old for Val, maybe 16 for you, but that was when you were skin and bones.” He admitted.

Viola’s eyes widened in understanding. “You did not want to bed us because you thought us children.” Benjamin nodded slowly, answering. “And forcing sex on a child is the worst kind of crime on my world”. Viola and Valtrya looked at each other, before Vi spoke. “Ben, my sister will turn one hundred and three in a fortnight. I just had my one hundred and fifteenth birthday last week.” She leaned in, pressing her lips to Bens as she kissed him passionately for a moment. “We are no children,” Viola paused as Valtrya leaned in, kissing Ben lightly on the neck, “You are not forcing us to do anything, but leave.” Viola whispered as she began to close in to a surprised Benjamin for another kiss.

The door to the cabin flew open violently, and the girls pulled back to a more modest distance. Jukha walked in, carrying a panting Vilora. “What happened.” Ben asked hurriedly, hoping he wasn’t blushing as hard as the heat on his cheeks suggested. Vilora waved a hand as Jukha set her down in her chair, “The Vin… My sisters… they reached out… They wish to meet…” The Farie gathered herself, “They also sent a warning. We must leave, tonight… hunters.”
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Maybe I have just been influenced by this sub but Tom Scavo is giving me the ick. Lynette is putting everything into this pizza place and he is finding every reason to not support her while she supports him through everything.
Can we talk about the high chair mistake? I feel like the show tried to equate Lynette ordering 50 high chairs to Tom finally trying to put some effort into his marriage but then once again failing to see what Lynette really needed and failing to cancel those plans which she went on anyways.
Lynette will do anything to keep this man in her home because he's the only reason she can deal with the reality he has created for them. Unless you want to count Nora against her, but I digress.
Sidenote, why did they make Edie get naked in front of Carlos to confess her love to him. They really wanna hammer home that she only knows how to communicate emotionally with her body but I feel like there could've been a little more tact. Carlos was into it though, so I guess that's all that matters.
This episode especially made me miss Bree. Susan is so boring and bumbling I think everyone should really try to keep her at a distance. Unsure what to think about Ian's father having a thing for lingerie.
Bree definitely would've saved the chiffon Ian's mom was wearing. Why was Susan squeezing out the entire contents of the bottle of lighter fluid? She's a menace to the neighborhood. She also has arson in her past. Stay safe out there on Wisteria Lane, folks.

The "Weather Ball" Challenge results are in!
DURING THE EPISODE...

• After returning from the elimination, the girls all take a deep breath as they read Lala's message, with Elektra getting choked up because she didn't want her sister to go home. She confers that she's now the only US contestant left and feels like she has a target on her back because this is her third time in the competition. Adore says that she chose Lala because she felt like, with this being her third go-round, she was going to pick a queen that she thought had the most to show, and she's demonstrated a lot compared to Angeria, so she felt it to be only fair.
• As the queens look over the lipsticks, Shannel says that it's very telling that Adore is trying to play a very congenial game with how she's deciding, and Shannel says that she's not up for that behavior whatsoever. However, she continues to let Eva do her thing as she reveals that she picked Angeria's lipstick. Shannel claps, saying that someone is willing to play the game. Eva says that she picked Angeria's lipstick because she already won and had so much time to improve her snatch game skills, and she just faltered, and she doesn't think that's necessarily the bill of a winner, which the girls gag at. She responds to Eva by saying that she'll expect her to do the same, with the tension in the room being very thick. Monét laughs and says she's thankful it wasn't her this time in the drama.

Monét X Change has won the "Read Off A Weather Teleprompter While Indoor Skydiving" Mini Challenge!

• After the mini-challenge results are announced, Monét cheers over the fact that she won, and Plastique jokes that she can only win mini-challenges. She responds by saying that this is a challenge she can win, especially considering how Plastique is the only other UK girl with no wins. The girls gag, but then Brooke announces that it's a ball, to which Monét slaps her hands over her face in the confessional.
• The girls prepare for the challenge as Brooke walks around the room. She walks up to Plastique, who already has a concept laid out on her mannequin, and Brooke congratulates her on the fast work. Plastyique says she's trying to show what she's learned since her time on UK3 since she could only create one silhouette. Brooke then goes over to Elektra, who has a design laid out, but Brooke says that she's worried about it just being a dress and that's it since the one thing that's been holding Elektra's looks back is accessorization, which she nods along to.
• Adore is struggling with sewing, her outfit falling apart right in front of Brooke and causing her to break down in front of the other girls, which all comfort her, and she regains the strength to continue fighting for the main challenge. Angeria, however, is doing very well in creating this beautifully structured garment. Brooke is astonished that she can't even clock that it's made from unconventional materials.

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ON THE MAINSTAGE...
Monét X Change is declared safe and exits the stage, leaving the tops and bottoms of the week to hear their critiques...
Adore Delano receives negative critiques from the judges. Brooke says her package this week was underwhelmingly pedestrian, a reversion back to her season 2 fashion antics. She was incredibly sexy in her lingerie look, loving the all-black ensemble, yet every other queen that went after she stepped it up, so she looked weak in comparison. Her silver fox look was undeniably an older version of a Chola. While they loved incorporating her upbringing's fashion onto the mainstage, they wish she elevated the look to be much more. On top of all this, her design look could be more impressive, feeling like the tulle is a coverup for messy hot glue and a lack of shape. She got into her head this week, and they need her to pull herself out because she's been doing fantastic.
Angeria Paris VanMichaels receives positive critiques from the judges. The entire panel is shocked by how her package turned out, saying she used that winner's budget. First of all, her lingerie look was so incredibly sexy that they couldn't even clock that it wasn't her body; something about it was so Beyonce-esque; with this silver lingerie with this honey blonde wig and robotic parts, she looked so well put together. Her second runway was even more impressive, turning out this elevated church lady look dressed for the snow in her gorgeous white furs. When she let down that pageant bun to show her flowing gray hair, they knew she was locked in for the win. Her design look leaves the largest stamp on her; with her creation, this pantsuit meets pageant gown, fully complete for someone of her caliber with such stunning detail.
Elektra Shock receives negative critiques from the judges. Brad says that regarding her package, they felt her runways were the least cohesive, and when looking at them side to side, they clashed against one another. Her first look was right, but she was supposed to show her body, and they felt her look was too conservative. They know she has excellent padding, so she needs to push herself to the max because this fell short of what they know she's capable of. Her second look was much better, loving the way that she exited out of her igloo coat and came out as this sexy wolf MILF, but they do think she could've pushed that artic wolf concept a bit further since they felt she didn't fully commit to it. Her design runway, though, is their biggest problem. It's a pretty gown, but that's it. Besides some accessorizing, this is a step down from their knowledge of her skills.
Eva Le Queen receives negative critiques from the judges. Traci says they know she has some fantastic looks in here and that her package this week was more of a mixed bag, but her design look truly brought her down. Looking at her lingerie, she had a gorgeous body, and she stepped out looking like a fairy, especially with her long tuft of fabric and fairy wings flowing in the wind. She fully committed to the concept, even having fairy dust flow from her hair. Her second look was another fantastic entry into the package, coming out with this skinned polar bear look only to wear the bear fur as her outfit in this Cruella-inspired garment was a creative take on the category. The only problem was her design look, which seemed like a rush and afterthought, though it was the most critical part of the challenge.
Plastique Tiara receives positive critiques from the judges. Brooke says that she knows that Plastique wasn't playing around when she said she would give fashion, but this is on an entirely new level. First, they couldn't even clock that she was a drag queen on her first runway. No padding, just her sexy lingerie and Victoria's Secret angel wings. They were gagged by how she looked like she came right off the runway and served them cisgender realness. Her second look was even better, seeing as how she showed up in this icicle-inspired garment and melted herself on the mainstage into this sexy Elsa look; she had them gagged the most on the runway with that look. Then, her design runway was the most impressive one they've seen tonight. She turned out a cultural garment from unconventional materials. She's by far one of the best designers here.
Shannel receives positive critiques from the judges. The judges give her the moment she's finally been waiting for, telling her she's gorgeous as she begins to tear up on the runway, taking a shallow breath. They say that her first look was breathtaking because she embraced her body as an older queen, having the wind make her dress fly off in a reveal was so Marilyn Monroe-esque, turning out this gorgeous Old Hollywood to New Hollywood slut look. Overall, they were impressed by her thoughts during the presentation. Her second look was incredible in this Snow Queen-inspired garment, ripping the fairytale straight to this real-life drag. Her design look is her best, churning out this structural business garment that's just so well made.
Angeria Paris VanMichaels, Plastique Tiara, Condragulations! You are the Top Two All Stars of the week!
Adore Delano, Elektra Shock...I'm sorry, My Dears, but you are both up for elimination...

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DURING UNTUCKED...

• All the girls walk back in, and Monét is the first to complain about being safe, but Shannel notes that she's surprised that she wasn't in the low position over Eva, who had two great looks and was somewhat in the same boat as Monét. They begin to fight one another, with Monét claiming that she's had a problem with her all season and Elektra breaking up by yelling and saying they're not even the ones at the bottom. The tension is extremely thick in the room, and Plastique breaks it up by congratulating herself on a win, which makes the girls laugh.
• Angeria and Plastique talk to one another side by side and apologize for their jokes against one another, promising to have each other's back no matter how the lipsync goes. Adore talks with both of them and starts breaking down and crying, saying she doesn't deserve to be here. She nearly quits, but Angeria gives her an inspirational talk about quitting. Plastique says that she doesn't know if Adore can handle the pressure. Elektra talks to them next and promises them both an alliance, but Angeria says that this is her third time around, and it's pretty clear that she isn't doing the greatest and that she's now the only one, other than Shannel, without a win. The girls are unsure of who to pick.

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AFTER DELIBERATION...
Angeria Paris VanMichaels and Plastique Tiara make their lipstick choices and walk back to the stage, where the other Queens are waiting for them...
TOP2: Angeria Paris VanMichaels / Plastique Tiara
HIGH: Shannel
SAFE: Monét X Change
LOW: Eva Le Queen
BTM2: Adore Delano / Elektra Shock
The Top Two Queens will Lip-Sync for their Legacy to "Nobody's Supposed To Be Here (Hex Hector Dance Mix)" by Deborah Cox. This is your chance to impress me, win the challenge prize, and gain the power to give one of the Bottom Queens the chop. Good Luck, and Don't Fuck It Up!
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Don't you feel like the writers didn't really know where to go and were just figuring out things on the go?
The storylines were dropped from the beginning of the season to mid-season to the end of the season. For example, 5 episodes about Grace, and then she's never mentioned again. 5 episodes about Susan cleaning in lingerie, and then it's never mentioned again. 5 episodes with Keith, and then he's never mentioned again. Renée is in love with Tom, and then she's not.
As soon as they move on to something/someone else, they forget about the rest. Also, they were major personality shifts (Orson, Katheryn, and Chuck come to mind)

I (31F) and my boyfriend (32M) met each other exactly two years ago. I was in another relationship that by then had gone on for 12 years, not living together, and my marriage proposals or proposals for living together or someday having children were always shut down with "it might be cool", "not now", "I don't have the money", and "seriously, again?" He was my first boyfriend and first sexual experience. Around 5 years ago, I had ambivalence in breaking up with him or not since when I mentioned marriage on a park bench, it was met with a "I never thought about getting married." I bawled in public out of embarrassment and my ex crossed his arms and looked the other way until I stopped.
We had many other incompatibilities and once I started becoming more authentic to my values and hobbies thanks to intensive psychotherapy, my ex began to lash out and try to control me, put me down, threaten to cheat on me and once I decided to break up, began stalking me at my house and cellphone and threatening he would go "wherever you go, I want answers now." I told him everything that was going wrong with the relationship and my personal growth, secrets, etc. so I have no regrets and he knows everything - it just wasn't enough.
During that period of self-exploration and psychotherapy, I started venturing more into stand-up comedy. It was liberating, exciting, fun, and creative. I felt -well, badass. Funny, like my voice mattered, happy. I grew up as a terribly shy, quiet girl and young woman and always submissive to my parent's orders to be a "good" girl, obedient, top in the class, always pushing aside my needs for the sake of the family's dysfunction.
As for the stand-up circuit, yes, it's an all guy-circuit where I live and they dampen it with their misogyny ("tell more sex jokes", "do this", "do that", "you should put on makeup and show your tits", "you need to cater to women"), but I ignored it and would cry after sets alone because my ex didn't support me and ridiculed me about it. I made a friend there, who is now my current boyfriend. We made each other laugh all the time, talked about the world. We even spent a night on the roof top cracking each other up. He's seen me do well on stage and even bomb/fail. It's all good.
Our first date happened around a month after I broke up with my ex. It was INCREDIBLE. We talked all night and got intimate later on. I was so happy having him in my arms, and we couldn't wait for our next date. That entire month I dated other guys and tried to become intimate (I was rejected), but it didn't feel that bad. I just kept thinking in my boyfriend. I wanted to date HIM. He was gentle with me when I told him I had never had sex with anyone else. We spent hours together doing it, I felt like in heaven. We made fun dates and he listened to me, we'd make each other laugh, talk about our dreams and fantasies. He was the funny, charming, assertive, goofy, sexy, proactive, smart outspoken, brave man I wrote about since I was a teen, or I'd see in movies and shows. The sex we had was the best I've had and I kept craving it. He's naughty, he whispers nasty stuff in my ears, has good rhythm.
My boyfriend has had WAY more sexual and relationship experience than me. Has had about 4 girlfriends, plenty of flings and a 30+ body count. He says he used to live a crazy life filled with alcohol, cigars and spending money. He'd fall in depression because a lot of these women would tell him he wasn't significant other material, just "a short, good time". Now he wants to settle down, be at home and become a businessman. He's admitted that what gets his "fire going" is me admiring him and he's afraid I'll believe he's a loser because his business plans won't flourish. He comes from a family of successful business people and I think it eats his self-esteem that many of his ventures don't flourish, usually because he gets dejected that he doesn't see process or that the demands of his project partners to "step it up" makes them back off due to him pressuring them. Then he'll change to another business plan. I support him financially and try to go to his events as much as possible, and avoid the mistake my ex did with me and ask him ASAP how it all went when I can't go. I spoke to him about the unhealthy pattern of changing his mind quickly and not sticking to things, because I think if he improved in this, his plans would progress. But it's not enough, he feels like a failure despite my assurance he's not!
I've had only two sexual and romantic experiences (ex and him) and only kissed two other guys with light sexual touch. My life before was boring, predictable, following a straight path in studies, following family orders, dressed modestly, quiet. I haven't done stand-up comedy since I become a girlfriend, although I do study it a lot (nerd), go to shows when I can, watch specials, discuss comedy with comedians online and in person, listen to my boyfriend's routines and help out where I think the writing or acting-out could be tighter.I record comedians for their feedback. I get pressured a lot by him and others to do it again, but something holds me back. My BF says I'd be the best, but anxiety fills me up. I'll do comedic improv or creative writing and knock it out of the park. It makes me cry sometimes. And my boyfriend began to like me more than a friend when he would see me on stage.
Our sex life dwindled shortly after we became official. Around every 3 - 4 weeks, without my initiative. I started hanging out in his apartment more, doing domestic duties, he begged me to adopt his dog. He started to become more conflictive with me. Things I would do he would take as rejection, or that I didn't want him. I told him "I love you" first after 3 weeks of dating and he panicked, and held me close.
He has a conflictive personality and has fall-outs with everyone - he comes from a family where conflict, shouting matches and physical violence was common. I'm the opposite - very open to anything, passive, "chill". He tells me I'm his remedy to calm down and I've helped him not fight with people. I have the bad trait of holding my feelings until I explode into tears, but I've learned with him to express things and be less afraid of conflict. I learned that holding it in damages our relationship, and what I feel is valid. He actually becomes calm and listens to me, and tells me when I am quiet...he gets so filled with anxiety that he feels he is going crazy!
He'll do a lot of sweet things for me like cook me meals, clean up more, pick me up from work, tell me how beautiful, special, kind, charming, good with kids I am. Then he says "you better love me after all I do for you!"
He loves to push forward, I think about my actions more. He's helped me buy a car, move out with him (first time living without my parents, that was another tough transition for me) and get a credit card. I regret nothing, I love living independent and knowing I can make it on my own!
I get criticisms from him. Why do I not fill my potential? He tells me I am funny - be the best female comedian. I write creative stories - become a successful writer. He tells me I am charming - be a salesperson or entrepreneur like he wants to be. We spent a month fighting because I didn't want to do online content or sell my professional services. He told me if he had what I had, he'd do SO much more and would make MONEY. He nods his head, and tells me that one thing is a political campaign, and another when government reigns. I ask what does he mean, and he says "Well, now we really know each other." I feel I disappoint him, like maybe I'm not who he hoped I was...
A bit afterwards, my job contract is over and I am unemployed. I feel horrible and don't want to disappoint him, and for the first time in my life, I try to sell my services! I did whatever I could to make ends meet - babysit, clean apartments, services from my profession (I was rejected, or I rejected bad offers). One of my gigs didn't go well because I am not versed in red flags, and it went horrible. I was exploited for the day with no pay and was called to do the gig with no more prior info and last minute call. I felt humiliated and now know the red flags - I didn't want to tell my boyfriend because he would blow up. I lied and said things went great, he reads my face and says "I know you're lying, tell me NOW!" I do, and he locks us in the car and demands I call my boss and demand respect and money or I can't get out. Once I finish the call, he calls me a little girl, opens the car after I call and shuts the door in my face. I spend all night crying and go to my second gig at night. I tell myself, I tried something new and now have confidence that if ever I become unemployed again, I know about red flags and I do have something to offer and someone is willing to pay for it. He later apologizes and says that he's looking out for me.
But the sex just keeps becoming sparse. At first, he was a stressed about work. Then he had a health anxiety episode and kept apologizing to me that we weren't intimate because of his fault. We decided I'd get an IUD for no worries about pregnancy, and still the sex wouldn't come. Then he said he was tired all the time because of work. Then he said he gained weight and he felt like an ugly whale. I still want him. I touch him sensually, he brushes my hand. Apparently, I have a habit of brushing my tongue on his lips when I'm horny. He pushes me away and says "Bad time" or "not now". I've stopped brushing my tongue all together and once or twice I did it just to annoy him on purpose. One night I tried to have a sensual night and dressed in lingerie and lit up candles and waited for him on our bed. He comes into the house, looks at me and says "You're controlling me," and turns around. I cry in humiliation and blow the candles out. We talk all night about our sex life and he tells me "I don't know, I just always had low libido. And I don't want us to break up, I love you, maybe we are incompatible?" We then have sex, but it feels like duty sex. It's quick. He gets out of bed and watches the news on his cellphone. He really likes to be on TikTok and debate online. I am still roused and masturbate alone. He sees me. He keeps watching the news.
Needless to say, I threw out all my lingerie in rage in private. I have higher libido than him. He's called me nympho and that if I could, I'd do it everyday (yes). He's ok with our sex life (sparse). We agreed at least once a week. Never happened. He took vitamins for his libido for a week. No changes. He mopes about his weight. I still want him. I do. Once I probed to learn about his sexual fantasies. He tells me that's gross. I know he likes to tie women up. I ask him, let's try that? "No." And my sexual fantasies "You're weird." I live in anxiety not knowing when the next sexpisode will come up, and the last few months have been initiated by him, they are quick and he wants me on top to do all the work. No oral despite me shaving like he requests. I've never had an orgasm with him because I take too long in "oral"...He bought me a vibrator on our first Christmas, and I tell him I know how to orgasm. I orgasm by oral. We never use it, I tried using it alone but never got off. When he's deep asleep, I used to masturbate next to him and learned to use my hands because he showed me with his fingers - it felt so wonderful. I orgasm and lay on his chest while he snoozes away...
Not to mention I feel like my old,boring, goody-goody self. He says he likes that about me - I'm kind to everyone, try to see the best in everyone. I'm a kindergarten teacher, don't spend much, diligent with housework, try to keep my good looks. I don't write or perform anymore. I don't have sex. We're going on 3 months of nothing, not even making out. He kissed me one day with his tongue in me because we wanted to recreate the Spiderman scene. I get closer to continue, he looks away and starts talking about the news.
Health conditions? He has health anxiety so we've been to the clinic plenty! He's overweight, on a diet and starting to go to the gym. I accompany him. We talked about testosterone, he feels embarrassed about telling about his "problem". Maybe it isn't? He masturbates, I saw that Pornhub is his frequently visited website, he told me he likes MILFs.
I feel so rejected and defeated. I've told him everything. He'll coddle me, do nice things for me. Sometimes it feels fatherly. But I know I am good on my own two feet, I've told him. I am 100% sure.
Sometimes I want to cheat and that he finds out and suddenly he wants me like never before. And that he'll come back to me.
TL;DR: 1.5 year relationship have sex once every 2 months and both partners fight insecurities, hoping the other admires them for who they are!

I (31F) and my boyfriend (32M) met each other exactly two years ago. I was in another relationship that by then had gone on for 12 years, not living together, and my marriage proposals or proposals for living together or someday having children were always shut down with "it might be cool", "not now", "I don't have the money", and "seriously, again?" He was my first boyfriend and first sexual experience. Around 5 years ago, I had ambivalence in breaking up with him or not since when I mentioned marriage on a park bench, it was met with a "I never thought about getting married." I bawled in public out of embarrassment and my ex crossed his arms and looked the other way until I stopped.
We had many other incompatibilities and once I started becoming more authentic to my values and hobbies thanks to intensive psychotherapy, my ex began to lash out and try to control me, put me down, threaten to cheat on me and once I decided to break up, began stalking me at my house and cellphone and threatening he would go "wherever you go, I want answers now." I told him everything that was going wrong with the relationship and my personal growth, secrets, etc. so I have no regrets and he knows everything - it just wasn't enough.
During that period of self-exploration and psychotherapy, I started venturing more into stand-up comedy. It was liberating, exciting, fun, and creative. I felt -well, badass. Funny, like my voice mattered, happy. I grew up as a terribly shy, quiet girl and young woman and always submissive to my parent's orders to be a "good" girl, obedient, top in the class, always pushing aside my needs for the sake of the family's dysfunction.
As for the stand-up circuit, yes, it's an all guy-circuit where I live and they dampen it with their misogyny ("tell more sex jokes", "do this", "do that", "you should put on makeup and show your tits", "you need to cater to women"), but I ignored it and would cry after sets alone because my ex didn't support me and ridiculed me about it. I made a friend there, who is now my current boyfriend. We made each other laugh all the time, talked about the world. We even spent a night on the roof top cracking each other up. He's seen me do well on stage and even bomb/fail. It's all good.
Our first date happened around a month after I broke up with my ex. It was INCREDIBLE. We talked all night and got intimate later on. I was so happy having him in my arms, and we couldn't wait for our next date. That entire month I dated other guys and tried to become intimate (I was rejected), but it didn't feel that bad. I just kept thinking in my boyfriend. I wanted to date HIM. He was gentle with me when I told him I had never had sex with anyone else. We spent hours together doing it, I felt like in heaven. We made fun dates and he listened to me, we'd make each other laugh, talk about our dreams and fantasies. He was the funny, charming, assertive, goofy, sexy, proactive, smart outspoken, brave man I wrote about since I was a teen, or I'd see in movies and shows. The sex we had was the best I've had and I kept craving it. He's naughty, he whispers nasty stuff in my ears, has good rhythm.
My boyfriend has had WAY more sexual and relationship experience than me. Has had about 4 girlfriends, plenty of flings and a 30+ body count. He says he used to live a crazy life filled with alcohol, cigars and spending money. He'd fall in depression because a lot of these women would tell him he wasn't significant other material, just "a short, good time". Now he wants to settle down, be at home and become a businessman. He's admitted that what gets his "fire going" is me admiring him and he's afraid I'll believe he's a loser because his business plans won't flourish. He comes from a family of successful business people and I think it eats his self-esteem that many of his ventures don't flourish, usually because he gets dejected that he doesn't see process or that the demands of his project partners to "step it up" makes them back off due to him pressuring them. Then he'll change to another business plan. I support him financially and try to go to his events as much as possible, and avoid the mistake my ex did with me and ask him ASAP how it all went when I can't go. I spoke to him about the unhealthy pattern of changing his mind quickly and not sticking to things, because I think if he improved in this, his plans would progress. But it's not enough, he feels like a failure despite my assurance he's not!
I've had only two sexual and romantic experiences (ex and him) and only kissed two other guys with light sexual touch. My life before was boring, predictable, following a straight path in studies, following family orders, dressed modestly, quiet. I haven't done stand-up comedy since I become a girlfriend, although I do study it a lot (nerd), go to shows when I can, watch specials, discuss comedy with comedians online and in person, listen to my boyfriend's routines and help out where I think the writing or acting-out could be tighter.I record comedians for their feedback. I get pressured a lot by him and others to do it again, but something holds me back. My BF says I'd be the best, but anxiety fills me up. I'll do comedic improv or creative writing and knock it out of the park. It makes me cry sometimes. And my boyfriend began to like me more than a friend when he would see me on stage.
Our sex life dwindled shortly after we became official. Around every 3 - 4 weeks, without my initiative. I started hanging out in his apartment more, doing domestic duties, he begged me to adopt his dog. He started to become more conflictive with me. Things I would do he would take as rejection, or that I didn't want him. I told him "I love you" first after 3 weeks of dating and he panicked, and held me close.
He has a conflictive personality and has fall-outs with everyone - he comes from a family where conflict, shouting matches and physical violence was common. I'm the opposite - very open to anything, passive, "chill". He tells me I'm his remedy to calm down and I've helped him not fight with people. I have the bad trait of holding my feelings until I explode into tears, but I've learned with him to express things and be less afraid of conflict. I learned that holding it in damages our relationship, and what I feel is valid. He actually becomes calm and listens to me, and tells me when I am quiet...he gets so filled with anxiety that he feels he is going crazy!
He'll do a lot of sweet things for me like cook me meals, clean up more, pick me up from work, tell me how beautiful, special, kind, charming, good with kids I am. Then he says "you better love me after all I do for you!"
He loves to push forward, I think about my actions more. He's helped me buy a car, move out with him (first time living without my parents, that was another tough transition for me) and get a credit card. I regret nothing, I love living independent and knowing I can make it on my own!
I get criticisms from him. Why do I not fill my potential? He tells me I am funny - be the best female comedian. I write creative stories - become a successful writer. He tells me I am charming - be a salesperson or entrepreneur like he wants to be. We spent a month fighting because I didn't want to do online content or sell my professional services. He told me if he had what I had, he'd do SO much more and would make MONEY. He nods his head, and tells me that one thing is a political campaign, and another when government reigns. I ask what does he mean, and he says "Well, now we really know each other." I feel I disappoint him, like maybe I'm not who he hoped I was...
A bit afterwards, my job contract is over and I am unemployed. I feel horrible and don't want to disappoint him, and for the first time in my life, I try to sell my services! I did whatever I could to make ends meet - babysit, clean apartments, services from my profession (I was rejected, or I rejected bad offers). One of my gigs didn't go well because I am not versed in red flags, and it went horrible. I was exploited for the day with no pay and was called to do the gig with no more prior info and last minute call. I felt humiliated and now know the red flags - I didn't want to tell my boyfriend because he would blow up. I lied and said things went great, he reads my face and says "I know you're lying, tell me NOW!" I do, and he locks us in the car and demands I call my boss and demand respect and money or I can't get out. Once I finish the call, he calls me a little girl, opens the car after I call and shuts the door in my face. I spend all night crying and go to my second gig at night. I tell myself, I tried something new and now have confidence that if ever I become unemployed again, I know about red flags and I do have something to offer and someone is willing to pay for it. He later apologizes and says that he's looking out for me.
But the sex just keeps becoming sparse. At first, he was a stressed about work. Then he had a health anxiety episode and kept apologizing to me that we weren't intimate because of his fault. We decided I'd get an IUD for no worries about pregnancy, and still the sex wouldn't come. Then he said he was tired all the time because of work. Then he said he gained weight and he felt like an ugly whale. I still want him. I touch him sensually, he brushes my hand. Apparently, I have a habit of brushing my tongue on his lips when I'm horny. He pushes me away and says "Bad time" or "not now". I've stopped brushing my tongue all together and once or twice I did it just to annoy him on purpose. One night I tried to have a sensual night and dressed in lingerie and lit up candles and waited for him on our bed. He comes into the house, looks at me and says "You're controlling me," and turns around. I cry in humiliation and blow the candles out. We talk all night about our sex life and he tells me "I don't know, I just always had low libido. And I don't want us to break up, I love you, maybe we are incompatible?" We then have sex, but it feels like duty sex. It's quick. He gets out of bed and watches the news on his cellphone. He really likes to be on TikTok and debate online. I am still roused and masturbate alone. He sees me. He keeps watching the news.
Needless to say, I threw out all my lingerie in rage in private. I have higher libido than him. He's called me nympho and that if I could, I'd do it everyday (yes). He's ok with our sex life (sparse). We agreed at least once a week. Never happened. He took vitamins for his libido for a week. No changes. He mopes about his weight. I still want him. I do. Once I probed to learn about his sexual fantasies. He tells me that's gross. I know he likes to tie women up. I ask him, let's try that? "No." And my sexual fantasies "You're weird." I live in anxiety not knowing when the next sexpisode will come up, and the last few months have been initiated by him, they are quick and he wants me on top to do all the work. No oral despite me shaving like he requests. I've never had an orgasm with him because I take too long in "oral"...He bought me a vibrator on our first Christmas, and I tell him I know how to orgasm. I orgasm by oral. We never use it, I tried using it alone but never got off. When he's deep asleep, I used to masturbate next to him and learned to use my hands because he showed me with his fingers - it felt so wonderful. I orgasm and lay on his chest while he snoozes away...
Not to mention I feel like my old,boring, goody-goody self. He says he likes that about me - I'm kind to everyone, try to see the best in everyone. I'm a kindergarten teacher, don't spend much, diligent with housework, try to keep my good looks. I don't write or perform anymore. I don't have sex. We're going on 3 months of nothing, not even making out. He kissed me one day with his tongue in me because we wanted to recreate the Spiderman scene. I get closer to continue, he looks away and starts talking about the news.
Health conditions? He has health anxiety so we've been to the clinic plenty! He's overweight, on a diet and starting to go to the gym. I accompany him. We talked about testosterone, he feels embarrassed about telling about his "problem". Maybe it isn't? He masturbates, I saw that Pornhub is his frequently visited website, he told me he likes MILFs.
I feel so rejected and defeated. I've told him everything. He'll coddle me, do nice things for me. Sometimes it feels fatherly. But I know I am good on my own two feet, I've told him. I am 100% sure.
Sometimes I want to cheat and that he finds out and suddenly he wants me like never before. And that he'll come back to me.

I am NOT OOP, OOP is u/TA031544
Originally posted to AITAH
AITA for Expecting Sex on a Date Night with my Wife?
Editor’s Note: added paragraph breaks for readability
Trigger Warnings: emotional affair, infidelity, depression, verbal abuse, betrayal
Original Post: March 31, 2024
My wife and I generally have a great relationship. Last night, however, I learned from my wife that she has been on a sex strike for most of the last month due to some comments I made following our last date night (which was about a month ago).
As background, I arrange a date night each month for the two of us. I plan a dinner somewhere nice, arrange a babysitter, feed our three kids dinner, and otherwise handle all of the logistics so that all she has to do is show up. Typically, we will grab drinks somewhere after dinner (sometimes meeting up with friends for the drinks portion, and other times going just the two of us).
Earlier this month, I planned an evening out and we had a fantastic dinner together. After dinner, I proposed that we go to a nearby wine bar, but my wife (who had been texting with the wife of a couple we are close friends with), asked if we could go meet up with them for drinks instead. I was fine with that, so we headed towards a nearby bar that they had proposed. However, the other couple's dinner ran later than ours, and by the time it ended, the wife was tired and decided she wanted to go to bed. As such, her husband ended up taking her home and then joining us at the local bar they had proposed.
Around 11:45 we had to leave to relieve our babysitter. My wife was having fun and didn't want the evening to end, so she invited our friend over for another drink. I told her I was fine with that, but that I was hoping to be in bed by 1:00 a.m. (as background, I do the morning shift with our three kids every day and they get up early). My wife promised that we'd be in bed by then.
Our friend came over, we opened a bottle of wine, put on some music, and we're all having a good time. 1:00 comes around and he gets up to go, but my wife tells us we can't leave, as she is vibing. I stick around for another 10 minutes or so and then decide to call it, as I was getting pretty tired. My wife tells me she will be up in another 10 minutes. I get ready for bed (which takes about that long) and don't hear her coming, so I go to bed.
Around 3:00, I get woken up by her coming into our bedroom (she was drunk at this point and made a lot of noise). I'm now wide awake, and if that happens, it usually takes me a while to go back to sleep (in this case, it took me until around 5:00, which was fun when the kids woke up at 6:30). Anyways, at this point, since I'm now wide awake, I ask her if she'd want to have sex (probably not the most romantic, I know). She declines, as she is tired and wants to go to sleep. Fair enough, I don't push the issue, and and she immediately falls asleep.
However, I can't sleep now due to being woken up, and sit there and stew for a few hours (mostly frustrated at being woken up but also annoyed at how the evening went overall). My first mistake was sending her a text (while she is asleep) saying that her actions that evening were hurtful and that it felt like I planned this nice evening, only for her to end up spending the later part of it with someone else (and not like that - I am 100% confident they were just listening to music and chatting).
The next morning, she came downstairs apologetic. However, I made the mistake of mentioning that her actions made me not really want to plan these extravagant date nights anymore, as she had broken her promise about going to bed at a reasonable hour and then ruined my sleep (not the first time this has happened on a date night). Then (and this is where I may be the asshole), I added that this was at least the fourth date night in a row where the night had ended with us not having sex, and that in my mind, a good date night ends in sex. I also added that this one was particularly offensive because it felt like she abandoned me at the end of the night.
These comments really upset her, and she said they made her feel like I only appreciate her for sex. She added that date nights should be about having fun and enjoying her company, and that I should assume we won't have sex on date nights. Honestly, I have some sympathy for her perspective about enjoying each other's company being the most important part of a date night, but I also don't think it is unreasonable to feel a little let down after planning a romantic evening, especially since it had become a pattern, and particularly where she effectively choose to do something else rather than have sex with me. So Reddit, what do we think? AITA?
Updates: Well, this surprisingly took off. A few responses to commonly asked questions:

1. Why involve friends on date night? Because she asked - it wasn't what I had planned, but I do try to make her happy.

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1. How often do we normally have sex? 2-3 times a week, which is honestly pretty good for having three young children, although the distribution tends to be a little uneven (i.e. we might have it 5 times one week and then only once the next). I also try to be a generous partner, and almost always try to get her off first (unless she just asks for a quickie).

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1. How did I not notice the sex strike that was going on for almost a month? I intentionally took a week off from initiating in an effort to show I wasn't just about sex, and then I caught a severe case of COVID at the end of that week, and then she got her period, and then we went on a trip (where sex is hard with small kids). So even if she hadn't been intentionally withholding, there wouldn't really have been an opportunity for it. Just a really unfortunate series of events that happened one after the other. We also did slip in a couple of sessions in there where she initiated (in what she called "moments of weakness") - frankly, we both like sex, but she is sometimes willing to hurt/penalize herself to prove a point. Also, we've had 4 or 5 stretches in the past where we have gone many months without sex due to childbirth / major surgery / depression. I do truly care for my wife, and I'm willing to play the long game.

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1. Why are you not worried about your wife being with a male friend late at night? We're very close to this couple, and they are probably over at our house at least once a week. The husband in particular is close friends with both me and my wife. His wife works very early in the morning, so she pretty much always goes to bed very early. As such, he is often left alone at night, and he frequently ends up at our place (where we play drink, play board games or cards, listen to music, play guitars, etc.). It is not at all unusual for him to come over and stay late at our place, as my wife and I stay up much later than his wife. It was only weird (and frustrating) because my wife invited him over on a date night. Our friend is also a really solid guy - he's probably the safest person I could think of to hang out with my wife who is a guy. I know the optics aren't great and that if I were a third party I'd probably think something shady is going on - just knowing the people involved, it's not something I am concerned about. I'm confident our friend intended to come over for just a drink - he did in fact try to leave, and he had even called an uber - my wife grabbed his phone and cancelled it. And I do think they did just lose track of time. We had a brief power outage the day before so our living room clock was not working.

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1. What happened on the other three dates? On one, we had met up with a large group of friends at a bar after dinner and we were all having fun. Unfortunately, one of us had to relieve the babysitter. I kindly offered to go home and let her stay out with the crew (many of our friends stay out late - most have family or a full-time nanny that can do overnights). She ended up staying out until after 3:00 and was blackout when she got back, so I helped her get into bed and called it a night. On another, we got into an argument over something stupid at dinner and it killed the mood. On the third, she just was very tired by the time we got home and wanted to go to sleep (which is totally valid - I didn't complain or push it). This wasn't really a pattern of any specific behavior on her part - I was more just frustrated that circumstances seemed to always conspire to prevent the ideal date night from occurring, and this one being foiled was definitely her fault.

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1. Why did your wife stay up so late? My wife is a bit of a night owl. Her ideal schedule is probably to stay up until 12 or 1 and then sleep in until 9. And on the weekend when she is having fun, she would easily stay up until 2 or 3. This is something that we have argued about in the past, as once she gets going she doesn't like to stop (which she admits isn't the best), which always leaves me needing to be the responsible one. I've told her in the past that I'd gladly stay up until 3:00 with her if she agrees to do the morning shift the next day, but she has always declined on the basis of that not being enough sleep.

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1. How is your division of labor? I work a high pay, long hours job, and my wife is a SAHM. When I'm at work I'm obviously gone and she takes care of the kids. When I'm not working, I probably do 60% of the household labor and she does 40% - I try to do the heavy lifting with the kids when I'm home because taking care of three young kids is exhausting, and I know she appreciates the break. In particular, I do the morning shift, which we both view as the worst one. She is definitely appreciative of all the household labor I do, and has stated she recognizes that I do more than any of our male friends.

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1. Is your wife a good mom? She's a fantastic mom - really, truly fantastic. She puts in a ton of effort making our kids' lives fun and full of whimsy. She's all their friends' favorite mom since she's fun and cares about them. She goes 100% when taking care of the kids, which I think is why she sometimes parties perhaps too late and doesn't want the night to end, as taking care of kids really is draining, especially if you go max effort.

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1. How is your relationship otherwise? We both do thoughtful things for one another. I make her coffee every morning and leave a note for her next to the mug. She helps my mom with tech support (which is a true act of love - I did it for years and hated it). I buy her flowers about once a week and will randomly surprise her with small gifts. She will buy me less frequent (but larger and more thoughtful) gifts. If you take sex out of the equation, the relationship is great (and until a few weeks ago I would have told you that was great too).

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1. Are you an unreliable narrator? I hope not? I think if you asked my wife what happened, she would agree with essentially everything I've said. I think she would probably just add some additional background information, the big one being that we have had arguments about sex in the past. We had a bad argument about 9 months ago that led to about a month-long hiatus after I complained to her that we never had sex while on vacation (and we probably take 10 or so trips a year, although many of them are just for long weekends). Her view was that we usually have kids in a room directly adjacent to us (and often other adults, since we typically do an AirBnB with friends or go to a friends' vacation home), and that she would be mortified if our kids or friends heard us. It's honestly a valid point, and she convinced me of it (I stopped trying on vacation unless she initiates (which she still does periodically)), but she did feel that I was ungrateful in light of all the normal sex we were having, and that she needed to reset expectations so that sex was special rather than a usual occurrence. I get the sense that her current sex strike is essentially the same thing.

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1. Is this fake? Unfortunately, no. I'm very much a real human. Beep boop beep boop.

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Update: We had a great discussion last night (and some great sex) and are fully reconciled. I apologized for making her feel like I was primarily valuing her for providing sex (it's not true, but my comments made her feel that way) and not appreciating how much sex we were already having. She apologized for ruining the last date night. She spoke to her sister about it yesterday and her sister told her inviting someone else over on your date night was really stupid.
So in the future, she said she wants date nights to be just the two of us - we can do meet ups with others on other days. This was what I was going to ask for but she beat me to it. I also promised not to complain about sex (even where, like in this case, it was not the primary complaint but part of a larger complaint) and not to send grumpy texts while she is sleeping (and instead just talk to her in the morning). So communication wins again!
TLDR: I planned a nice date night. We ended up meeting up with friends after dinner, my wife invited one of the friends back to our place to keep partying, and when I tried to end the evening, told me to go to bed and kept partying with the friend before coming up at 3:00 and drunkenly waking me up.
We got into a fight over this the next morning, and I told her it was hurtful that on a date night she decided to hang out with a friend to finish the night rather than come to bed with me, and that a date night should ideally end in us having sex, not hanging out with others. This did not go over well, as it made her feel that I was only valuing her for sex, and that I was ungrateful for how much sex we do have (which is admittedly a lot for a married couple with small children).
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Update Apr 26, 2024
Whelp, I posted about a month ago about how I was upset my wife invited our friends back over to our house at the end of a date night, and she and the husband ended up hanging out until 3:00 a.m. after I went to bed at 1:00. A lot of people suggested they were having an affair, and that I was blind to not see it. I swore and swore there was no way, I trust both of them, etc..
Turns out, Reddit was right. I was unpacking the car and my wife had left her phone in there, and when I picked it up a text from our friend flashed across saying how he wanted to kiss her and asking her to tell me she needed a night out and should go out to the bar with him.
I know its an invasion of privacy, but we know one another's passcodes, so I opened her phone and checked their text chain. She had been deleting his messages but they were still in the deleted messages folder, and it wasn't great. They've been going on dates during the day when I'm at work, and he has said very suggestive things to her. I confronted my wife about it and she claimed it was purely an emotional affair, that she knew he loved her, and enjoyed the attention, and that she had been dealing with severe depression (which is true) and it was nice to have someone to talk to who wasn't me.
That she still loved me - it was just very flattering to have the attention. I don't know whether that is all true or not, but I honestly do think she is telling the truth - she pretty much argued it wasn't that big of a deal because they didn't do anything physical outside of him kissing her once, and in her defense the suggestive texts all came from him. So I don't know where we will end up - just reality shattering because I would have never thought either would betray me like this.
TLDR: Reddit was right - they were having an affair.
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OOP on how long the affair might have been going on between his wife and their friend

OOP: I think it had only been going on for a couple of months. In retrospect there were a number of signs, but I brushed them off. The only one that had really raised any alarm bells was when she washed a piece of lingerie that she hadn't worn for me in like 4 months, which raised the question of why she was doing that. I actually made a joke question about it and she mentioned she had thrown it at the hamper months ago and it had fallen behind (which honestly could be true). But now I'm thinking that wasn't the case.

 
Update #2 - April 30, 2024
This is an update to my prior update post at: Update: AITA for Expecting Sex on a Date Night with my Wife? : AITAH (reddit.com)
I had a true heart to heart with my wife two days after I learned of the emotional affair, and we are surprisingly in a really good place now. She apologized profusely, and her description and timeline of events is not as bad as I had feared. It is also consistent with what my former friend (we'll call him Rick) told me when I interrogated him (and I asked him first, before my wife would have really had a chance to collaborate on a story in the event she wanted to do so). It is also consistent with what my wife's sister has told me (she views me like a brother and is a true ally).
As backstory, Rick and his wife have been going through marital issues for quite some time. We were aware of this. About 6 months ago, things really went into a tailspin, and he started talking to my wife almost as a therapist (I know this sounds weird but my wife is really good at listening to people's troubles and providing insight - she does this for a bunch of friends (admittedly essentially all women)). It started out like once a week or so, and gradually increased from there.
By a couple of months ago, they were talking regularly (i.e. several times a week), but still only covering totally P.C. topics. My wife's sister actually confronted my wife and warned her that she thought Rick had fallen for her and that she needed to be careful. My wife was convinced that they were just good friends.
The night of the infamous date night was actually still in this period - my wife admitted that the optics looked bad, but she really was just having a good time (and was frankly pretty drunk and not thinking clearly). She did say though that after that night she realized that he might have feelings for her (and that in retrospect it was pretty obvious). She felt bad about the date night fiasco, and has been much better in that regard (and she also reduced her alcohol consumption).
About 6 weeks ago, we went on a ski trip with 5 other families (including Rick and his wife). It was a horrible trip for him, and he and his wife fought a lot. One of the nights, he got pretty drunk and asked my wife to meet him at the bar at our hotel, since he needed to talk. While there, he told her that he loved her and wished that he had married her rather than his wife. My wife just told him "I'm sorry". I had been putting the kids to bed when this went down and came down and inadvertently interrupted them right after they said this (I do remember some weird vibes in retrospect).
My wife admitted she should have told me right then and there, but that she didn't want to blow up the trip for the whole friend group, as if she told me she was worried that I might make a scene. He then didn't say anything problematic for another week or two, and she chalked it up to him just being really drunk and really sad, and hoped things could just go back to normal.
Unfortunately, Rick's marriage took a turn for the worse about a month ago, and it seems pretty clear that they are getting divorced. My wife (who suffers from severe depression) also went into a depressive period around this time, in large part due some familial issues. This was timed very poorly, as I recently launched a new division at my company and have been working 60 hour week for the last three months or so.
Both Rick and my wife felt isolated and lonely, and Rick started calling my wife virtually every day. They also started grabbing lunch once or twice a week (I guess he would meet her for lunch on his lunch break). The vast majority of their interaction was them talking about life, but he started saying inappropriate things in person like "you're the most beautiful woman I know" or "you're gorgeous". He also started drinking heavily, and he would send suggestive texts when drinking (which my wife claims she would just ignore). The time he kissed her I was actually home - the three of us had been hanging out and I went to use the restroom.
I asked her why she didn't tell me or shut things down, and she admitted it was a mixture of not wanting to blow up our friend group plus her enjoying the attention and compliments, even if she had no interest in the guy. She chuckled a little bit when I asked if she had slept with him (for reference, R is probably 150+ pounds overweight, which is one of the major strains in his marriage, whereas my wife is a true 10/10). Basically, she was depressed, needed someone to talk to, and since I was so busy with work, she found that emotional support elsewhere. She admits that it was really wrong, and has agreed to take a bunch of actions to prevent this in the future.
For me, I still struggle with why she would do some of this - e.g. if he texts that you should come over and join him in the shower, and you respond why don't we do a lunch date instead, from my view that is pouring gasoline on a fire (by showing you still want to meet with him), whereas she thought she was steering things away from problematic situations (something shady can't happen in a public setting). She said he came by the house a couple of times during the day (including once when our son was home with her), but that she really tried to steer things to public settings once she knew he loved her. It also does hurt a bit that in one of the texts R asked if they could do a lunch date and she says no, my husband (me) is working from home today, with a sad face.
But we're going to make it work. We are going to do couples therapy and she wants to do individual therapy, and she also started working part-time to keep her busy on something else. We can't go fully non-contact with R, but now all communication has to include me. I am also going to work on being more emotionally present, even when working a ton, and I told her that if she is having a depressive episode and needs to talk to someone, she can always call me - her mental well-being is more important than my work (she was afraid to call during the day since I am very busy and would call R instead). I also promised to work on being happier and more positive - I am usually a very cheerful person (which is something she loved about me), but I had been pretty grumpy and miserable over the last few months due to my job being crazy. So a little blame does rest with me (I'm certainly not perfect, although I'd never cheat on my partner).
I know most of you will probably roll your eyes and say I'm being a push-over, but none of you know how amazing my wife is. She has a magnetic personality and is the life of a party. She is also one of the brilliant people I have ever met. Shes a great mom, and my best friend. And finally, she's a bombshell - when she is dolled up, most heads turn when she enters a room. If you've ever seen Wedding Crashers, she is (in both personality and appearance) eerily similar to Isla Fisher's character (although she is better looking than Isla). I honestly can't blame R for falling for her - but I can blame him (and call him a piece of shit) for acting on it.
Dumb? Maybe. But my wife is too amazing to let go over this without a fight, especially when she seems committed to fixing things (and actually apologetic - including for getting defensive the night I discovered it).
I'll do an update in a few months. Hopefully things will be positive.
TLDR: The affair wasn't as bad as I thought, and we're going to work through things.
 

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Does anybody else have so much trouble making their character (MC) to look like their respective race? it's honestly a silly and less serious complaint, but my MC looks not asian at all despite the variety of options :( i guess i'm just so used to the huge episode customization that it just feels almost lackluster to me. i've played both tempting fate and double trouble. just wish there were a little more diversity in the features.
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also less lingerie as bedroom wear. that would be great too. what happened to robes and silk pajama sets

I’ve posted about my experiences so many times, but forgot a huge detail:
Sometimes I feel NAUSEOUS after waking up from nightmares, and a YouTube comment of a video of a guy feeling scared and nauseous at his job (dark restaurant by himself) and walked by a human face with big black eyes) the comment said that demons send out energy that cause nausea trying to possess you.
Because I’m so tired of retyping the same thing, I’ll just state the main symptoms:
Vivid nightmares: Has included seeing very clear and detailed, human-like beings, including an old man dancing around making surprised faces at me, mocking me for screaming in terror (screaming didn’t wake me up the first time) while my mom danced around in lingerie (at least the demonic old was fully clothed.
Another one was I was in my dark room (past house) and shined a light on this old man’s face. He had an unnatural, cartoon-like open mouth frown, white another guy was trying to remain hidden in the dark.
These were both nightmares where I woke up screaming at the top of my lungs, completely terrified, and felt like I was going to throw up, and seeing them stuck in my head and feeling like they were still there and I desperately prayed and read Bible verses.
Another was seeing this witch like creature (looked like Kamek from the Mario Bros. but with white human skin and black robe and hat instead of blue, definitely still had those huge glasses) LITERALLY PHYSICALLY INSIDE OF MY HEAD, like in my brain or my skull.
There was a black guy wearing a red top hat and, kind of like a musician dressed like Satan. I said “I rebuke you in the name of Jesus” and he disappeared so instantly I didn’t even see him disappear, I just looked down and back and he was immediately gone, like he was never there.
Another this Wiccan girl (I guess) summoned a demon (that actually looked like a demon) for a board game that was supposed to help us get ahead in life (not a Ouija board).
I’ve had many other very strange, vivid, uncanny dreams, some not necessarily bad, but feeling like I left reality and forgot I existed, weird glitch in reality stuff.
Intrusive thoughts: Keep thinking about hurting others, emotionally and physically.
Seeing demonic monsters, very clear and detailed, while wide awake, but not through my eyes or ears, only in/through my mind.
When I was 13 or 14 I literally woke up, got out of bed, ran down the hallway (not in control of it) and ran to my mom to tell her something was wrong. I suddenly started barking in her face, screaming out of terror, and it stopped after calling out to God.
I’ve also had episodes of suddenly speaking gibberish, my hand getting stuck in the air.
I could literally become possessed and controlled again and the police would just yell at me to stop and tase me maybe shoot me, and they’d just label me crazy and/or a criminal.
I even felt demons fill the room when I tried to pray to God one time, when I was 13-14 going through that serious, what was either spiritual warfare or bad medication side effect, but I haven’t taken that one in over a decade…..
But something I’ve been forgetting to mention is THE NAUSEA after some of this nightmares.
It’s getting harder and harder for me NOT to believe in the spiritual.
Maybe I just haven’t been convinced enough to sacrifice everything (current and potential) for God, but I still feel very hesitant and unwilling to just accept God’s will and plan and commit to things like willingly staying celibate/virgin (I don’t even want kids, this cycle needs to end, and don’t really see marriage happening for me, but I’m not asexual and don’t want to remain celibate for life or until my 30s or 40s, I’m 28).
I don’t know if I’ve simply thought so hard and deep about everything, that I somehow dug myself into insanity?
I have smelled what seemed like sulfurotten eggs, and something knocked my water bottle down and then my Uber Eats driver was literally named “Jesus” (a sign?).
On the flip side, I heard chanting in my head that translated to “god of death” or “devil of death”, and right after that happened to check this account, and had a DM that I had 666 karma, which I did, and today I reached 666 notes on my phone.
Also my parents found a huge orb on our security cameras, literally floating up and over the roof like it knew how to/where it was going on.
I’ve had plenty of nightmares that literally take place in my room and this house too, I recently saw my grandfather (who is alive, so it can’t be his spirit) open my door (after barely opening it at first, then fully opening to reveal it with him) and jump on me on my bed, wearing a toga made out of a bedsheet, and his face was disfigured, like, off, like kind of a pointed face and his eyes were kind of staring off and up to the side, like he was looking at me but not looking at me at the same time).
Also my sister grew a penis and flapped it around in my face while my parents just stood and watched.
An unseen person dropped a baby carrier (in the old house) and it was crying REALLY LOUD, like it was being tortured. I looked to check it was ok, and it was just a doll, and cried even louder and harder.
And usually I don’t even notice hearing any sound in my dreams!
The orb was real by the way, not part of a dream.
I wake up with scratches too, and my wallet was standing up, half on top of my phone, half on the dresser, very weird position, couldn’t set it that way on accident, my cookies disappeared, and I heard a growl and the curtain seemed to scratch me.
This suddenly worse last September or October,just suddenly feeling terrified and reality warping, feeling something trying to take control of my body again.
How can medical science and psychology possibly explain this?
I’m sure I forgot some details, but it’s impossible to remember everything.

I’ve posted about my experiences so many times, but forgot a huge detail:
Sometimes I feel NAUSEOUS after waking up from nightmares, and a YouTube comment of a video of a guy feeling scared and nauseous at his job (dark restaurant by himself) and walked by a human face with big black eyes) the comment said that demons send out energy that cause nausea trying to possess you.
Because I’m so tired of retyping the same thing, I’ll just state the main symptoms:
Vivid nightmares: Has included seeing very clear and detailed, human-like beings, including an old man dancing around making surprised faces at me, mocking me for screaming in terror (screaming didn’t wake me up the first time) while my mom danced around in lingerie (at least the demonic old was fully clothed.
Another one was I was in my dark room (past house) and shined a light on this old man’s face. He had an unnatural, cartoon-like open mouth frown, white another guy was trying to remain hidden in the dark.
These were both nightmares where I woke up screaming at the top of my lungs, completely terrified, and felt like I was going to throw up, and seeing them stuck in my head and feeling like they were still there and I desperately prayed and read Bible verses.
Another was seeing this witch like creature (looked like Kamek from the Mario Bros. but with white human skin and black robe and hat instead of blue, definitely still had those huge glasses) LITERALLY PHYSICALLY INSIDE OF MY HEAD, like in my brain or my skull.
There was a black guy wearing a red top hat and, kind of like a musician dressed like Satan. I said “I rebuke you in the name of Jesus” and he disappeared so instantly I didn’t even see him disappear, I just looked down and back and he was immediately gone, like he was never there.
Another this Wiccan girl (I guess) summoned a demon (that actually looked like a demon) for a board game that was supposed to help us get ahead in life (not a Ouija board).
I’ve had many other very strange, vivid, uncanny dreams, some not necessarily bad, but feeling like I left reality and forgot I existed, weird glitch in reality stuff.
Intrusive thoughts: Keep thinking about hurting others, emotionally and physically.
Seeing demonic monsters, very clear and detailed, while wide awake, but not through my eyes or ears, only in/through my mind.
When I was 13 or 14 I literally woke up, got out of bed, ran down the hallway (not in control of it) and ran to my mom to tell her something was wrong. I suddenly started barking in her face, screaming out of terror, and it stopped after calling out to God.
I’ve also had episodes of suddenly speaking gibberish, my hand getting stuck in the air.
I could literally become possessed and controlled again and the police would just yell at me to stop and tase me maybe shoot me, and they’d just label me crazy and/or a criminal.
I even felt demons fill the room when I tried to pray to God one time, when I was 13-14 going through that serious, what was either spiritual warfare or bad medication side effect, but I haven’t taken that one in over a decade…..
But something I’ve been forgetting to mention is THE NAUSEA after some of this nightmares.
It’s getting harder and harder for me NOT to believe in the spiritual.
Maybe I just haven’t been convinced enough to sacrifice everything (current and potential) for God, but I still feel very hesitant and unwilling to just accept God’s will and plan and commit to things like willingly staying celibate/virgin (I don’t even want kids, this cycle needs to end, and don’t really see marriage happening for me, but I’m not asexual and don’t want to remain celibate for life or until my 30s or 40s, I’m 28).
I don’t know if I’ve simply thought so hard and deep about everything, that I somehow dug myself into insanity?
I have smelled what seemed like sulfurotten eggs, and something knocked my water bottle down and then my Uber Eats driver was literally named “Jesus” (a sign?).
On the flip side, I heard chanting in my head that translated to “god of death” or “devil of death”, and right after that happened to check this account, and had a DM that I had 666 karma, which I did, and today I reached 666 notes on my phone.
Also my parents found a huge orb on our security cameras, literally floating up and over the roof like it knew how to/where it was going on.
I’ve had plenty of nightmares that literally take place in my room and this house too, I recently saw my grandfather (who is alive, so it can’t be his spirit) open my door (after barely opening it at first, then fully opening to reveal it with him) and jump on me on my bed, wearing a toga made out of a bedsheet, and his face was disfigured, like, off, like kind of a pointed face and his eyes were kind of staring off and up to the side, like he was looking at me but not looking at me at the same time).
Also my sister grew a penis and flapped it around in my face while my parents just stood and watched.
An unseen person dropped a baby carrier (in the old house) and it was crying REALLY LOUD, like it was being tortured. I looked to check it was ok, and it was just a doll, and cried even louder and harder.
And usually I don’t even notice hearing any sound in my dreams!
The orb was real by the way, not part of a dream.
I wake up with scratches too, and my wallet was standing up, half on top of my phone, half on the dresser, very weird position, couldn’t set it that way on accident, my cookies disappeared, and I heard a growl and the curtain seemed to scratch me.
This suddenly worse last September or October,just suddenly feeling terrified and reality warping, feeling something trying to take control of my body again.
How can medical science and psychology possibly explain this?
I’m sure I forgot some details, but it’s impossible to remember everything.

Hi everyone, really sad to be here but I truly don't know what to do and I can't talk to anybody in my life about it at this stage. I'll give a lot of context so I think it'll be a very long post, so sorry about that. Me (28M) and my wife (34F) have been together for 7 years, lived together for 2, and have now been married for 20 days. I love her deeply, and we have a very beautiful relationship in which we've gone through wonderful times and experiences together as well as very hard moments together for each of us like her mother's sickness and passing near the end of last year in which I supported her in every way I could, and my brother (who I lived with at the time) going through a heavy addiction problem which took a hard toll on me and my family, with her staying by my side every step of the way and supporting me even though she couldn't fully understand what we were going through.
I can say with complete certainty that she is the best person I know, kind and caring, always looking out for others, always paying attention to detail and making sure the people she cares about are taken care of, be it our families, her friends, coworkers (she's always the one leading solidarity campaigns when people have health issues, organizing birthday parties, etc.), you name it. She has 100% made me a better person since I've met her and pushed me to be the best I can be in every aspect of my life.
Before going to the suspicion part, I think an important piece of context is that we've had a rough year in the sexual aspect, due to me having an unplanned circumcision (due to a skin problem) which took an abnormal 3 months to fully recover, and then her having a recurring yeast infection for which she's still in treatment at the time and has tried a lot of different medication to cure. We've had sex in between her problem going away a few times (approved by her doctor) but I feel like she's uncomfortable about it and very frustrated about not being able to cure completely, so the frequency has gone to even less than once a month, which I've made clear to her that I'm fine with since the most important part is her getting better and curing completely, as we also compensate a bit with adapted alternatives to regular sex.
Now, I've always trusted her blindly and she had never given me reason to suspect anything in the previous 6 years, but it's important to tell you there were 2 episodes previous to us getting married (both in the last year) that have been going through my head like crazy these past few weeks.
The first, was maybe more than 6 months ago when I was driving with her in the passenger seat and she was really concentrated in her phone in a way that caught my attention, so I glanced at her screen a few times out of curiosity and saw some words that looked like a romantic conversation in her notes app. I really didn't know what to make of it and it was driving me crazy, so I ended up looking at her phone that night when she was showering (specifically the notes app which I thought I saw earlier) and found what looked like a very hot and long text she had written to someone talking about the incredible sex they had, what she felt and liked about him, how she couldn't wait to be with him again, etc. It was a few paragraphs long, and I felt like dying while reading it, but still didn't know what it meant and in the rush of things didn't think to check her texts to see if any of it was there. I ended up confronting her about it that night because I wouldn't get any sleep otherwise (which, from reading this subreddit I gather was maybe not the best idea) and she basically told me that it was something very private, but just fiction she wrote on her notes app every now and then, and handed me her phone to read it all and check her texts or anything I wanted if I needed to make sure. She was very convincing as she was reasonably mad about what I had done (not too over-the-top or making a huge scene), not having talked to her first about my worries, saying that she'd probably never feel comfortable writing anything private on her phone again out of distrust that I'd read it, and even said that she'd be gone in the morning. I apologized profusely, said I regretted what I did not talking to her first, tried to explain how I felt and what made me do it, and that it would never happen again. The next day, she left and spent the day with friends, came back that evening and it took us a few days to get back to normal.
The second time, was the day my closest friends threw me a bachelor party (2 months before the wedding). They wanted to keep it a secret but she heard when one of them said they'd kidnap me and we'd go to a summer town which is an hour away from where we live on that specific date, so she guessed it was for the bachelor party. On that day she offered to give me a ride there, to pick me up, asked me to tell her if I needed anything and let her know what we were up to generally since I'd be far away. The party itself was basically a pool party hanging out with some girl friends one of them brought over (I know, but nothing wrong happened), drinking a lot, eating bbq, and then at night coming back to our city to go to a nightclub. During the day I wrote to my GF (now wife) about what we were generally doing, like she asked, and when I got back to the city around 1 AM I told her we'd go clubbing but I already wanted to go home since I was pretty drunk, and then I got home around 3 AM a bit worse than before but still very conscious. My memory might be a bit foggy, but I remember opening the apartment door and she was in her PJs (I think) and greeted me kind of surprised, I looked at the kitchen counter next to the front door and I saw a pair of glasses that weren't mine or hers, grabbed them, and something propelled me to go and look in the bedroom, where I didn't find anything, then came back with the glasses in hand and found a guy we both know but don't have any type of relationship with (me and my wife are both volunteer firefighters, and this guy too in our same station) coming out of the bathroom (fully clothed just to be clear) and with a deer-in-the-headlights look, I hand him the glasses and he leaves in a rush while she's trying to explain something about him getting robbed as the reason for him being there at 3AM, saying that her best friend (a guy I know and trust, although don't have a very close relationship with - let's call him Pedro) was there with them just until a few minutes before I arrived but had to leave since he was traveling at that time, even showing me a text she sent him saying "thank you for everything, have a nice trip, take care" just minutes before I got home. As I said, I was very drunk, mad at the situation, and just wanted the day to get over with so I didn't insist much on explanations and just went to bed. The next day, more calm and very hungover, I asked her to please go over exactly what happened for that guy to be alone with her at that time in our apartment, and she explained: she was out to dinner and just driving around with her guy best friend Pedro until very late, and when he brought her home they found this guy walking around dazed and confused near the apartment building, she recognized him and asked if he was OK, so he told her he just got robbed and beaten up, they took his phone, wallet and keys to his car and home (he had blood on his shirt she said, which I didn't remember). They drove him to the nearest police station, stayed with him as he filed the report, then took him back to our apartment building to wait for him to be able to reach someone to come pick him up. Pedro was with them a long time, then had to leave for travel a while before I got home. I asked her why he hid in the bathroom, why he left in a rush when I got home, and she said he probably just got scared because he didn't know me well and (correctly) assumed I would get mad. She again convinced me, and I calmed down and just went with it, although remained with some questions in my head I just kinda brushed off due to being drunk (Why was she in her PJs? Why didn't they just leave him at the police station to wait? Why did her friend leave her alone with some guy in her apartment building? Did she just say she was with Pedro because she knows I wouldn't ever fact-check with him? Was this why she wanted to know my every move that night? Could she really take the risk to cheat in our own apartment? And knowing I'd be back any moment?).
After that, I guess I just didn't want to insist too much on the topic and it didn't even occur to me to check her phone again or doubt anything. Everything just went back to normal, I avoided thinking too much about it all, and we got married starting April in a beautiful wedding we'd been planning for half a year.
We stayed at a hotel that night, and the next day came back to our apartment relatively early since we got alerted that someone broke into the building parking lot and robbed things out of a few parked cars, ours included. We went back to our apartment after checking the scene and filing our police report, where she noticed she didn't have her car keys and found out she'd left them at Pedro's car, since he'd driven her to the wedding the day before. She went to her car to look for something then came back to take a nap, saying she'd later have to go Pedro's house to get back her keys, visit his mom who couldn't be at our wedding, and also to pick up some gifts Pedro brought us from one of his travels abroad. While she was napping, I was doing the check-in for our flight and needed her passport info, so I remembered seeing the bag where she kept it in the car and went down to look for it, and while searching I found the bag of gifts Pedro brought stored in the trunk (the ones she "was going later to pick up"). I knew for a fact they weren't there when we first got to the car, and just got chills down my spine thinking she'd lied about going there later for some reason. That afternoon we went to our wedding planner's office (with the replacement keys for the car since "Pedro had the original ones") to pick up some things that were leftover from the party, and I opened the trunk on purpose to store some things and see how she reacted to me seeing the bag. She had a lot of things in her hands to put away in the car, and I felt like she tried to hide the fact that she threw them all on top of the bag for me not to see it. We came back home and then she left "to Pedro's" with the car, I took an uber to my mom's house, and she later met up with me there. She said she got her keys back and spoke about her conversation with Pedro's mom, and later when we got home and I was unloading the things we picked up from our wedding planner, she told me to get out the bag of gifts Pedro brought from the trunk, as if she'd just picked them up. When I brought everything to our apartment, I asked her just to see what she said "Wasn't this bag already in the trunk when we left?" and I felt gaslighted when she said no and successfully changed the subject. The next day, we went on our honeymoon and I felt terrible the entire day. I doubted whether to go back to checking her cellphone, talk to her honestly, or what to do, and ended up telling her that night that I really regretted not having asked her first the last time I felt suspicious and that I promised not to do it again, so I explained everything in detail from my perspective and asked her why she lied about going to pick up the gifts, that there must have been a good or simple reason and I just needed her to tell me. She went on to say that maybe she got confused, that Pedro had gone to our apartment that previous afternoon and already given her the gifts and she just didn't remember to tell me (which I now know doesn't make sense since she didn't get the keys from him then, or at least also hid them for some reason). I insisted on her please tellong me the truth, and she insisted that it was, and I again just went with it. Some part of me maybe just wanted to have a nice honeymoon and not believe that my beautiful saint of a newlywed wife lied to me on our first day married.
We did in fact have a nice honeymoon week, with no sex since she got her yeast infection back, but still had a very nice time, and I never thought about any of it again.
Last week, already back home and to our everyday routines, one day she told me she'd go visit one of her girlfriends after work and bring her a gift she bought on our honeymoon. I got this weird feeling when I got home at 7 PM and I felt like she came back home just a bit too late around 9:30 PM. The next day I took the car to work, and I found a small bag in the glove compartment with 2 pajamas of hers and at the bottom of the bag was some lingerie that I'd never seen, in fact she never wore lingerie with me. It made my blood boil at first, and then I started thinking and thinking what some reasonable explanations could be. I ended up convincing myself that maybe it was the bag she prepared for our wedding night, and it was always there but I just didn't see it and then she stored it in the glove compartment in order to not leave anything visible in the car when parking in the street. I didn't say anything to her, thinking I would either ruin a surprise or directly accuse her of something she could easily have an explanation for.
Since this happened, I checked everyday to see if she noticed she left that available there for me to find and maybe hid it back, and felt a bit relieved when she didn't, but still had this uncomfortable feeling of distrust and uncertainty. This seems to have sparked a growing paranoia in me, as I've been thinking about checking her phone again just to clear any doubts, and in doing so also noticed that she's acting really suspicious with it, always leaving it face down, taking it with her wherever she goes even the bathroom (which she normally didn't do), not even leaving it accessible to me while charging, in any moment. It's been getting worse, with me rethinking and replaying those previous scenarios in my head all the time and finding the loopholes in the stories (for example, I found a tweet from the supposedly "robbed" guy that was posted the day after getting mugged, so maybe he still had a phone and the story wasn't true), not being able to sleep, trying to get a chance to snoop on her phone and getting immensely frustrated when she obviously avoids leaving me alone near her phone.
I feel this overwhelming sadness that comes from a suspicion that she may have cheated on me and could still be cheating, the impotence of not being able to prove it since she's acting suspiciously wary of her phone, the duality of not wanting to confront her without proof and giving her the chance of gaslighting me, or the fact that she could really not be cheating and I could ruin the relationship and the trust at such an early stage in our marriage that's supposed to be the most beautiful one.
I would love to get opinions on this, if I'm overreacting, being stupid, if there's an obvious path of action that I'm not seeing, anything, and either way writing all this has been just a little bit cathartic and I hope it'll let me sleep tonight while still thinking what I should do.
TL;DR: I've been married to my wife for less than 3 weeks and suspect she might be cheating or might have cheated before. There are previous situations that reinforce this doubt, and I can't prove anything now because she's acting very suspicious with her phone and I don't have any other way of investigating. The simple fact that I'm having these doubts, at this stage, makes me unmeasurably sad and I don't know what to do.
*UPDATE: Thank you all for the advice and even the hard or blunt words. I've just confronted her this morning and told her to let me look at her phone that instant or I would take it as a fact that she's cheating (since I also tried yesterday and found that she'd changed her password I used to know). She resisted of course, but understood from my tone that I was serious about it. I found nothing on her Whatsapp (which we use as main texting app where I'm from) or Instagram, but when I tried to open Telegram, the app itself was locked and she reacted very shocked when I asked her to unlock it. She hid the screen from me and I could see a gesture of her deleting something, which I told her and she obviously denied. There was nothing on the main page, but I looked at her recent conversations and the guy she was with that night at 3AM was on the list, as well as another guy she apparently holds regular conversations on there which was first on the list (I bet the one she deleted). She took the phone from me like twice and I told her this wasn't over and she ended up giving it to me again, and when I was looking for conversation proof with Pedro she acted outraged that I was looking at private conversations and finally took it from me and left, even though I told her I would take this as confirmation that she was being unfaithful to me.
I'm preparing my things to leave the apartment right now, and I know I won't have a chance to talk to her again until tonight since she's at a course teaching all day. I don't know how to feel, since I know what I saw is already enough to confirm my suspicions, but still guess I expected to see something explicitly obvious and undeniable in order for her not to have a chance to deny anything or gaslight me, which she now does.
We have a prenup (she insisted on even though I make 4x her salary which I kinda feel now was a sign of her not being completely commited to this) and live in a country (not US) where divorce or annulment is not so complicated (I think), so I wouldn't like to beat a dead horse and insist on getting much more proof, and sadly feel like she's not going to admit anything or tell me anything to at least give me some closure. I feel numb at this moment, I think I was sadder when I was thinking of the possibility but now it's practically confirmed I don't know how to feel or guess it just hasn't kicked in yet. I assume the next step is to look into what it takes to annull or divorce, and make that the next conversation I have with her, leaving no room for anything else.
I'm sorry for the anger I've caused some of you, reflecting on this I see how everything seemed so obvious but I was truly and cornily blinded by love, and the complete trust that I really knew this person and that she wasn't capable of doing something like this to me, even less in the context of our engagement and the constant planning of our dream wedding for the past few months which she seemed so excited about. I can't shake the feeling of having done something wrong or not having done something in our relationship for her to feel justified in doing this, but also know nothing justifies this. I've already booked a therapy session for myself next week, which I've never done before, and I guess I'll need it to process all that's happened and will keep happening.
I may send another update for closure of this, thank you all again and hope this happens to none of you.

As a grandma myself, AND a citizen of Denver, I have to say I found this season so very depressing. As a woman I'm appalled at the women on this show. I found them to be so immature and conniving, and my conclusion is that because they were rejected, they went into all-out group rage mode. As a woman it's just shocking. Is this what young women are like now? I honestly felt their ridiculous lingerie photo-shoot episode said everything about the cheapness and shallowness of this group of females. Ladies, do better, please. They already did Mean Girls - we didn't need an attempted remake.

Happy New Year, my debaucherous little devils. Miss me? I know you all thought I grew tired of my little project, since you haven't heard from me in ages! But, never fear, dears. I could never leave you. And, just remember, just because I don't write about something now doesn't mean I won't write about it later.
Now! Let's get on with the show.
In an attempt to get everyone to like her, Cokie Mason threw a lavish, over the top party - although she kept insisting it was called a soiree. No, Cokes. That's what Logan will throw once he's finally rid of your crazy ass. We'll all join in support. In fact, we're all surprised it hasn't happened yet, but we doubt anyone is more surprised than SugarBear Brent and Number 2 Nolan.
She insisted everyone wear masquerade masks, because apparently we were all just cast in 2004’s A Cinderella Story. But judging by the way she was stomping around, screeching and shouting at everyone - including poor Logan - this might have been yet another remake of Jurassic Park instead.
Because no one in this town is allowed to be single or go without a New Years kiss, there was also a “match the ribbon” game, which is about as juvenile and ridiculous as it can get. Naturally, the entire idea was Grace's. Good job, sweetie. The point of the game was to find your match and kiss them at midnight. But some of us did a little bit more than that, didn't we? Let's dive in.
Everyone was dressed to the nines, which was to be expected, but some girls might need a bit of a refresher on what that actually means. Lingerie is not formal wear - looking at you, Jenny and Kara. But, really, what do we expect from the two girls whose combined body counts could fill the Calvary Cemetery? These two definitely missed the "more is more" memo, and I think we all know what colour underwear they were wearing. I'm kidding. We know they don’t bother with a pesky barrier like underwear.
Stoneybrook’s very own Hell’s Angels showed up in masks, but not the ski masks they generally wear while they rip off wallets and CDs. TJ even decided to get dressed up - likely in an attempt to convince his sweet little virgin that he’s actually a responsible, law-abiding citizen. Come on TJ. We all know Lauren is as naïve as a six year old, but do you really think a button down shirt - likely with the security tag still attached - is going to get her to believe you’re not a worthless piece of trash?
If anyone should have been wearing funeral clothes, it should have been Ice Pick. Sources say Sabrina all but maimed him when he dared to show up in her presence in - gasp - denim jeans. Hey, Sabs? I think it’s a step up from the handcuffs he’s usually wearing - and I don’t mean while he’s in bed with Jacqui.
Speaking of Jacqui, she decided to skip out on this party for something better. One can only assume “something better” in Jax-speak is “a gutter behind the sewage plant”. I’d like to say we missed her, but I think the only ones longing for her company - aka, her vagina - are King and Ice.
Since Austin and Stacey broke up - on Taylor Swift’s birthday, no less - my inbox has been flooded with details about these two. Honestly, we all knew this was coming. And we all knew why. Reporting on it would be like saying “Katie Lopez is a slut” or “Meg Jardin has huge jugs”. Really, what’s the point? But you guys are so obsessed with them, and since I’ll do anything to keep my readers happy, I’ll dish on this.
Stacey, clearly not happy with the consequences of her actions, accosted Austin at the party to “talk”. Judging by the dress she was barely wearing, she expected to do a lot more with her mouth than talk. But Austin wasn’t taking the bait. He cussed Stacey out, made her cry, and then got drunk. But Stacey, on the other hand… well, if you didn’t notice her and her little revenge dress parading around the party after talking to Austin, no, your eyes weren’t playing tricks on you. Boy Crazy Stacey ran all the way home… but if you think she spent the evening alone, think again. Hey, speaking of crazy… where was Robert? I’ll give you two guesses, but you only need one.
Speaking of Robert - I mean, the Wish version - Bob and Sheila were once again looking cute and cosy… until they weren’t. It happened so quickly, my sources didn’t even have time to assume their positions. Hey, Cokie - you need some Hi-Def cameras outside. People don’t give a fuck about the food you serve, but rather, the tea.
From what we can gather, Sheila and RoberTemu were fine, until they went outside. Unfortunately - damn you, Cokie - we don’t know what was said, but one of them ended things with the other. Sheila immediately left the party (or did she?) and Bob stayed and did unmentionable things with questionable people (kidding, they’re 100% mentionable… stay tuned…) so I’ll leave it up to you, my darling fans, to come to a conclusion on your own. But, don’t worry, Sheila. Bobby Hensen is single. And Justin Roberts. We know your type, babe - and it’s not just falling for guys who don’t want you. We know it won’t be long before you’re flirting with another guy while insisting you’re not a slut.
On the topic of girls who insist they aren’t a slut, Mad and Harry appear to be finished, but they also appeared to be alone in a bedroom. So… I suppose we get to watch the two of them dry hump at the next party, before spending the next month shooting glares at each other from across the room. Rinse, repeat. It’s beyond embarrassing at this point, Mad. Have some respect for yourself. Harry sure isn’t going to give you that.
Dorianne showed up in a revenge dress even more scandalous than Stacey’s. She was clearly on a mission to get Irv to regret being with Emily, or to show off the freckle on her left bum cheek. Either way, Irv definitely noticed, and the two of them were spotted in a quiet but not so secluded hallway, thisclose to making a little Dirv Jr. That is, until they were interrupted by the lumbering oaf himself, Clarence King. Maybe he was just looking for a quiet place for himself and…
Penny, obviously. These two can’t seem to keep away from each other, even though Penny is dating Mr. Perfect(ly Fine) Pete, and King is incessantly humping anything with tits. But the two of them were spotted together in the kitchen, where Penny decided she must touch King and fix his hair. Okay, Pen. We didn't know you had such high aspirations of becoming a hairstylist. And King, remember when you had your fingers up Sabrina’s twat? What happened to that guy? Whipped, and for a girl who’s not even yours. But, if Peaches keeps this up, she might be back on the market before too long.
Jo Deford has basically had a personality transplant, to go along with those boobs of hers that have finally grown in. We used to think the sluttiest one in the Deford-Weller household was Penny, but wow Jo, you’ve surpassed your step-sis by miles. Everyone knows you’ve been fucking Butch - because you tell anyone who’ll listen. I’m sure your homeroom teacher even knows the details. And I know you thought wearing a Saran Wrap dress would get his attention - and maybe it did, for a minute. But… we all saw him leave. And we all saw him kissing someone who wasn’t you at midnight. You might think you’re special, but… this is Butch. You’re not. He does a lot more than kissing with a lot more than you. Gee, I almost feel bad reporting on this. It’s like kicking a puppy. A puppy with great tits and loose morals.
Mary Anne showed up to Cokie's hoe-down, though not with pitchforks and torches. We’ll save those for Dawn the next time the cafeteria serves beef. No, Mary Anne showed up with Howie, her new boyfriend and the biggest snoozefest since Malex stopped pretending to hate each other. And, naturally, since Mary Anne and Howie are so new and in that blissed out, honeymoon phase, they spent all night laughing and talking on the couch. Oh… wait… * checks notes *. My mistake. Mary Anne was on the couch, but Howie seemed to look an awful lot like Cary Retlin. Not that there’s anything wrong with a boy and a girl laughing together on a couch… if that’s all it was…
Peter and Hannah fought. I feel like I could end the report just like that. Similarly with Staustin breaking up, who cares? These two won’t be far behind. I don’t think I’ve ever seen either one of them without a scowl on their faces. It’s more than just a bit of annoyance - these two hate each other. And, after the fight at the party - where it sounds like Peter didn’t compliment Hannah enough, or in the right way, or with the right words - these two might be dunzo. For the sake of all our sanity, I hope so.
One midnight rolled around, all of the lucky (desperate?) ribbon holders found their matches. While some of the matches were hilarious - Jenny the Whore and Saunders the Bore, Momma Steph and Daddy Todd - some of them were so into each other, you could practically smell the secretions. And, despite the masks, we know who everyone was paired up with. Job perk.
Butch and Zoe were dry humping each other into oblivion, when one of them had the mindset to, oh, I don’t know… remove the mask. Once they both realised who the other was, they remembered they hated each other. Oh, right. We’ve heard that one before. So, when’s the wedding?
Newbie Slut Jo immediately saw Butch and Zoe and did what any insanely jealous chick would do - grab the closest guy and try to make the one you actually care about jealous. But, despite playing tonsil hockey with Steve Randazzo and making him grab her ass, Butch didn’t appear to see Jo at all. Better luck next time, Ho. I mean, Jo.
Literal minutes after Sheila “left the party”, Bob stumbled in Tallie Brennan’s general direction and practically face planted onto her lips. The two of them were causing quite a scene before disappearing upstairs. Even Malik would be able to figure out what went on behind that closed door. Tallie, I know you and Sheila both play softball, but she’s got a hell of a lot more experience with balls and bitches than you do. You’re about to learn the meaning of FAFO, girl.
But, Tallie might be in luck. Sources say after Sheila left the party, she didn’t go far, and ended up sitting on the front porch with Aaron Albright the rest of the evening. While they allegedly just “talked” and definitely didn’t drunkenly stumble into any bedrooms, maybe Sheila doesn’t give a fuck where Bob dips his stick. Fun fact: take a guess what Aaron’s middle name is? I can’t make this up, people!
Despite being an unimaginable, self-righteous bore, Saunders seemed to like what Jenny was bringing to the table - like thousands of guys before him had discovered. My sources lost track of them after midnight, but something tells me they weren't hiding out in a quiet place to talk. It's nice getting your ding-dong played with, isn't it?
Cary kissed Mad and Harry kissed Savannah, but we all know those pairs didn’t leave the party together. Like I said above, Mad. It’s just embarrassing at this point. You’re worse than Jo, and that’s saying a lot. Find someone who actually wants to commit to you, and stop following Harry around like a little lost puppy. And Harry, leading girls on is for kids. Maybe it’s time you grow up. You know all too well what it’s like to be hurt, don’t you?
In an interesting turn of events, both Irv and Emily - who are, for some reason, in a relationship - took ribbons from Grace’s Bowl of Wonders and each ended up with the person they used to want to kiss - Ross and Dori. Dorianne actually apologised to Emily on her way out, but considering how she was absolutely feasting on Irv at midnight, was this really a sincere apology? We all know she’s a somewhat decent actress. Or was she just trying to make herself feel better for grinding another girl’s boyfriend into a fine mist? Or for giving that boyfriend a sense of false hope?
One member of this fucked up little foursome who didn’t seem to give a shit that Emily has a boyfriend was ol’ Spaghetti Arms himself, Ross Brown. While Ross should have been terrified that Irv would crush him with his pinky finger (the man is dumber than a sack of hammers, but definitely doesn’t skip arm day. Or his steroid injection), he seemed to happily accept Emily's advances. And why wouldn't he? It's not like the ladies are lining up to suck face with Ross Brown. I would imagine even Shawna would turn him down. Ha, oh wait. She doesn't know how to do that.
Speaking of our favourite dumb blonde - well, one of them, anyway - Shawna was paired with her bestie Tequila Taylor's ex, Bart Taylor. Considering Bart has somehow caught the attention of SDS transplants Meg and Greer, we don't know why he was searching for someone else to kiss, but maybe he's trying to up his chances that someone will want to kiss him. Why, we don't know. But, don't worry, Sauced-Suz. Shawna is your friend. Of course she turned Bart down. Oh. Oh wait. Nope, she absolutely did not, and the two shared a midnight kiss. They didn't check one another for cavities like Ballie or Dirv, but a kiss is a kiss. Keep your eyes on Jeremy, Suz. Shawna’s hungry.
Yes, it appears the “Most Likely To End Up On An Episode Of Intervention” from our graduating class managed to find a dark corner to snog with Jeremy Rudolph. Either that, or she was puking all over his too-tight (but I'm not complaining) shirt. That's her kink, Jer. Buckle up, it's a wild ride when the Sloppopotamus is behind the wheel.
After connecting during a boring as fuck game of beer pong after the State Championship game, Austin seems to have found himself a reStace-ment - see what I did there? Andrea Kirkland is the complete Anti-Stacey, and judging by the way Staustin ended things, it's exactly what Austin needs. The two of them shared a sweet-ish midnight kiss, and managed not to scream at each other in the process. Enjoy the low-key romance, Austin. Or will you be bored to tears? Stay tuned.
Before I bid you all farewell, I have one question for you - did you see the new, sparkly ring on Margie Greene’s left hand? It appears everyone's favourite Toxic Twosome is about to make a trip down the aisle - assuming they can get to the altar without breaking up again. Hey, Margie. You're glowing. When does the Twosome become a Threesome? And I'm not talking about the kind Marty wishes you would join him and Corinne in. But true love conquers all, doesn't it? Good luck. You're gonna need it.
Until next time, my darling douchebags! Xoxo 😘

So 11 days ago I posted some of my thoughts on the first 7 episodes of season 7. Someone asked to come back after I watched the season to share more of my thoughts. I’d thought I would just make a new post then edit the old one. I have a lot lol. I’m gonna try to group similar thoughts together.

1. I’m so glad they didn’t make Renee’s story longer than what it was. I wasn’t excited about a Naley cheating scandal to start off the season, but I liked how it added to Dan’s character. I knew 100% that he was looking out for Nathan. That man is an awful monster, but he does love his son. Dan and Rachel is nightmare fuel couple though. I’m glad Rachel stayed a villain.
   
2. Coke head Millie was not on my OTH bingo card lol. Her character change was wild. I’m glad she was a model, but she went from 0 to 100 real quick. I’m gonna be honest I don’t care for Millie’s character at all. If she’s not in season 8 or 9 I wouldn’t care.
   
3. I hate that Mouth is trying to start a relationship with Skills ex. Skills is always done dirty and he’s treated like the bad guy because his best friend and ex gf got together. Dude was right to be mad. Skills is one of the most underrated characters ever. Mouth is really starting to annoy me. I liked how nice he was to Millie giving her space though.
   
4. I thought Chase and Mia was boring until I met Miranda and Grubbs. I forget their names most of the time. They legit was like let’s just add people together, who cares if it makes sense. Miranda trying to force a music career on Grubs is insane. Imagine a huge career is given to you, but your like “I don’t want to be changed, because the last time I made music this girl changed me.” I’m like dude you’re literally given most peoples dream job and that’s what you say?? I literally hate them band I really hope they aren’t coming back for season 8. Their storylines are just a waste of screen time.
   
5. I wish the mother didn’t die until the end. I really wished their was more scenes with Haley, her sisters, and her mom. All of them are great actors and their scenes together are so good. That scene with Taylor and her mom almost made me cry. Speaking of Taylor I wish they gave her more personality to her character instead of just being a hoe. What if she was dancer or something idk. I hated her just getting with Quinn’s ex husband. This scenes were hard to watch, but very entertaining. Also, even though Haley’s depression scenes make me really sad I’m glad they included them. In most shows once a character dies people like never grieve.
   
6. Julian, I love you but leaving Brooke to fix another woman’s spark is not it. Like I know it’s a thing that girls try to “fix” guys, but I didn’t know guys did the same thing. I have so many thoughts on the Alex, Brooke, Julian storyline. First of all, I don’t like Alex. Right now I like her character more, but idk for how long that is gonna last. Brooke is one of the best characters and people treat her so bad. Like why do people expect her to fix and forgive everyone. She has to forgive Alex. She has to forgive Millie. She shouldn’t treated Rachel better. If anything Brooke is a saint, who doesn’t deserve people like that in her life. I’m glad Brooke and Julian are engaged at the end. Side note didn’t they break up for a long time, because she couldn’t have kids? Wasn’t her entire plot line last season her finding alternate ways to have kids? Why can’t she adopt now?
   
7. Victoria and Alexander is very gross. I didn’t care for his character, but I’m so glad they didn’t force him on Brooke: I did like Victoria’s character development. I just wish they didn’t make her character a horrible monster earlier. Because I don’t want to root for her.
   
8. Alex trying to commit suicide was one of the worst depictions I have ever seen. I legit made a whole post on here about it before I saw that she did live. I deleted it, but I hated have a glamorized her suicide attempt so much. Like why did she have to be in a bathtub, in lingerie, cutting herself until the water turns red. That did trigger me.
   
9. Last, but not least my favorite new characters. Clay and Quinn are the only new characters I genuinely loved. The episode showing Clay and Sara’s love story compared to Quinn and David’s downfall was one of my favorite episodes. I was so confused watching it though. In my head I’m thinking “Why are they building this love story up so much if he’s supposed to get with Quinn. Then they had to add another psycho to OTH’s psycho hall of fame right next to Nanny Carrie and psycho Derek. Her character made no sense. And the last episode was perfect until she came back to shoot one of my favorite vorite couples. Please tell they are okay!!
   

Those are some thoughts. Here are just some quick statements that don’t deserve a paragraph. Naley is the best couple ever. I love Jamie, but no 7 year old boy is that well mannered and articulate.

Hi everybody! Long read incomming, as I prefer to have as much information in the post, so I don't get biased answers - so, for those willing to read and help, thank you so much, in advance!
So, to start everything off - I'm a 36 y/o male with ADHD and unfortunately always (!) overthink and analyse everything - especially the emotionally hurting stuff). I had a wife through 7 years and we'd been together for a total of 12. Roughly 16-18 months ago, I found her and my friend kissing in our kitchen, at a party I invited him too. My (now) ex-wife and I have a daughter (5 y/o), house, car, doggo and two cats. The (now former) friend of mine, was in a really bad place and I tried to get him out of that environment by introducing him to my entire family and giving him a "safe space" where he could always call or such. Obviously, my ex-wife and I weren't in the best of places, as those things wouldn't have happened. In hindsight, we just grew apart - but I spent roughly 4 months prior to previously mentioned episode where I did everything in and around the house, with our daughter and animals. I was pushed to the limit, but felt it was worth it to give it my all as we have a daughter and I didn't want her to become a divorcee-kid, like myself. Anyways, the entire situation happened just 4 days prior to us going to Greece, on a family vacation. So, thats (a small piece of) the story behind the following. There a ton of emotionally hurt ontop of it, as I was given the doubtful responsibility of renovating the house and preparing it for sale, selling the car, taking our 5 y/o on a family vacation without her mother getting little to no sleep at all for that week.
Months after, I moved back to where I grew up and a friend of mine insisted on me going on Tinder - Luckily I got matches and, as I never tried Tinder or never was any good at flirting, I'm pretty amazed that my honesty seemed to spark some interest. One of these matches had something special, and we ended up meeting for a walk and again later that evening - I fell hard. Over the next 4-5 months we spent all of our time together when possible. I explained, as best as I could, that I was 100% over my ex, especially because of the way it happened - but that I would have insecurities at times, and that I sincerely hoped she could accept them untill I got them under control again.
I quickly learned that, allthough she accepted I had a past with a lovely 5 y/o, a horrible ex-wife and such (she hasn't tried any of those things - marriage, buying a house, children), she was nervous that she would just end up being a rebound - mentioning that she'd appreciate if I didn't have photos on my phone or social media from my former life with my ex - obviously no problem with pictures of me and my 5y/o. I told her that I felt the same way due to the insecurities - I mean, she hadn't had a serious relationsship for 8-9 months, but I still wanted her to also make sure nothing "popped" up in galaries, stories or whatever. In other words, we felt the same way and wanted to show that complete "faith" to each other. At some point I asked, a bit bluntly, if she went through her images etc. just to be sure - she said "Yeah, I mean, as best as I could .. I have like 8000+ images so its a bit much". I spent roughly 12+ hours (over a week or so) making sure everything was deleted - so I was expecting her to also make an effort, but assumed everything was fine.
Fastforward some months, she falls asleep on the couch as she sometimes do, and I gently tell her that I'd be going upstairs to sleep. She asks me to bring her phone as there's little battery left and if I'd mind putting it in the charger. Now I'm guessing you know what happens. I woke up after 30ish minutes, had a bad dream and turned to a poor action. My GF was still sleeping downstairs, so I thought I just wanted to confirm her ex'es etc. was indeed deleted from the images - and you guessed it, they weren't. Snapchat memories, images on her phone - and messages she'd screenshotted. No explicit pictures as such, some in lingerie etc - the hardest part about it, was the whole "I've seen this before"-vibe. The way she wrote with him, the lingerie-images etc. all the same style as those she sent to me, and I felt a bit let-down. I mean, how stupid am I, right? I _KNEW_ it probably would hurt, but I still went for it. Saw some old-old pictures of her like 15 years ago with her then BF, that didn't bother me at all - but images with her latest BF through 3 years, pictures from this house, same bathroom, bed etc. - that hurt. Worst thing? I can't really say anything, out of pure shame. She said I'm always welcome to use her phone, but everybody in a relationship knows, that it's trust-trap!
I've had trouble from time to time with the entire thing, as we've had talks now and then about it (mostly joking) and she keeps saying that she went through her images multiple times. She has a "Soulmate" tattoo (only tattoo she has), which was apparently with him - so now when she calls me her soulmate, I keep seeing a specific image of her and her former BF on the beach with the new tattoos.
Some days, due to the past - being a hopeless romantic, having my world shattered like I did, I need that extra confirmation - and need to be extra sure. At the same time, she hasn't done ANYTHING in her behaviour to make me unsure, or make me believe that she's actually looking at those images. The person she is, just a bit on the lazy side, I'm 98% sure it's just because she hasn't wanted to spend time doing it.
Question: What do I do?
I know (!) they are there, and it hurts - on the other hand, she hahsn't done anything to make me insecure, on the contrary - yet, at the same time, I feel like it's also about respect as she (to an extent) wanted me to do these things. I hope some of you understands that having that knowledge (where I only have myself to blame) is horrible, yet feels like I can't do anything about it.
Sincerely hope somebody can give me some advice - and if you took the time to read all of this and give me your 2 cents, thank you so much!

How many remember reading this entire poster while waiting on your parents at KMart?
January 1 - New Year's Day (as if you needed an excuse to party.)
January 2 - Maui International Surf Championships begin.
January 3 - Super Soakers appear on the market, 1991.
January 4 - The blender is invented, 1910.
January 5 - Tony Ferko sets a world record by juggling 7 ping pong balls with his mouth, 1987.
January 6 - The dorm room refrigerator is invented, 1956.
January 7 - The first ant farm is sold in America, 1958.
January 8 - Elvis Presley's birthday.
January 9 - Richard Nixon's birthday, 1913.
January 10 - In 1984, Wendy's spokesperson Clara Peller first asks, "Where's the beef?"
January 11 - Annual Snow Shovel Riding Contest, Ambridge, PA.
January 12 - The first Super Bowl occurs, 1967.
January 13 - Benedict Arnold's birthday,
January 14 - The Simpsons premiers, 1990.
January 15 - Chuck Berry's birthday, 1926.
January 16 - National Nothing Day, a day where you can celebrate not having to celebrate anything.
January 17 - The final episode of Bonanza airs, 1973.
January 18 - The original Morris The Cat dies, 1975.
January 19 - The front-hook bra is invented, 1951.
January 20 - George Burns' birthday, 1896.
January 21 - The microwave oven is invented, 1967.
January 22 - The first nude beach opens in the U,S.,1952.
January 23 - Tupperware is invented, 1942.
January 24 - John Belushi's birthday, 1949.
January 25 - Grand Rapids, MI becomes the first city to add fluoride to its water supply, 1945.
January 26 - Eddie Van Halen's birthday, 1957.
January 27 - Laverne and Shirley premiers, 1976.
January 28 - We Are The World raises hundreds of millions of dollars for starving Africans, 1985.
January 29 - Sweden becomes the first nation to curb the use of aerosol cans, 1978.
January 30 - The first fist fight in the U.S. House of Representatives occurs, 1798.
January 31 - The twist-off bottle top is invented, 1956.
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February 1 - Fred Flintstone's birthday, 2 million B.C.
February 2 - Ground Hog Day.
February 3 - Thomas Crapper invents the first flush toilet,1837.
February 4 - Dan Quayle's birthday, 1947.
February 5 - New York becomes the first city to adopt 3-color traffic lights, 1952,
February 6 - Ronald Reagan's birthday, 1911.
February 7 - National Hangover Awareness Day.
February 8 - James Dean's birthday, 1931.
February 9 - The G.I. Joe doll is introduced, 1964,( Ken doll was invented, 1974) " F- G.I.Joe "
February 10 - The styrofoam cooler is invented, 1957.
February 11 - The "La-Z-Boy" chair is invented, 1948.
February 12 - Abraham Lincoln's birthday,1809.
February 13 - VJ Martha Quinn of MTV appears on the TV show The Bradys as Bobby Brady's fiancee,1990.
February 14 - Valentine's Day. (Go find someone to party with.)
February 15 - Valentine's candy goes on sale.
February 16 - Zsa Zsa Gabor's birthday (or National "Slap A Cop" day.)
February 17 - Michael Jordan's birthday, 1963.
February 18 - Vanna White's birthday,1957.
February 19 - The very first prize is inserted into a Cracker Jack box, 1913.
February 20 - Northern Hemisphere Hoodie-Hoo Day, when citizens are asked to go outside at noon local time and yell "Hoodie-Hoo" to chase winter away.
February 21 - Alka Seltzer is introduced, 1931.
February 22 - Julius Irving's birthday, 1950,
February 23 - The Tootsie Roll is introduced,1896.
February 24 - Wayne's World opens in American theatres,1992.
February 25 - Milli Vanilli wins a Grammy for "Best New Artist." (Oops.)1990.
February 26 - The first cartoon is shown in a movie theatre,1909.
February 27 - Elizabeth Taylor's birthday,1932.
February 28 - The last episode of M*A*S*H airs, with over 121 million viewers,1983.
February 29 - Leap Day.
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March 1 - Roger Daltrey's birthday, 1944.
March 2 - In 1962, Wilt Chamberlain scores 100 points in one basketball game.
March 3 - Harvard freshman, Lothrop Withington, Jr,, becomes the country's first goldfish swallower, 1959.
March 4 - Toothbrush bristles are changed from badger hair to nylon, 1938.
March 5 - The first breeding of a Great Dane and a Dachshund is performed, creating a "Great Dachshund", 1972.
March 6 - Ed McMahon's birthday, 1923.(I don't know how that is!)
March 7 - The Fourth Of July, Warsaw, Poland.(I wonder what part of "Fourth Of July" they didn't understand?)
March 8 - National Girl Scout Week begins.
March 9 - The Department of Agriculture declares ketchup a vegetable, 1981.
March 10 - The first confirmed octuplets are bornin Mexico, 1967.
March 11 - Lawrence Welk's birthday, 1903.
March 12 - The "Hell's Angels" are created, 1948,
March 13 - U2's Adam Clayton's birthday, 1960.
March 14 - The baseball cap is invented, 1860.
March 15 - The first baseball cap is worn backwards, 1860.
March 16 - Jerry Lewis' birthday, 1925.
March 17 - St. Patrick's Day.
March 18 - Leona Helmsley is sentenced to 4 years in prison for tax evasion, 1992.
March 19 - Chewing gum is invented,1871.
March 20 - The first official sighting of Elvis occurs, Butte, Montana, 1980.
March 21 - The first day of spring.
March 22 - New Kids On The Block and Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles doll - sales exceed $1,8 billion, 1990.(Do you beleave that these caught on!)
March 23 - The Dixie Cup is invented, 1912.
March 24 - The first pine tree air freshener is introduced, 1971.
March 25 - Elton John's birthday, 1947.
March 26 - Martin Short's birthday, 1950.
March 27 - Liz Taylor's wedding anniversary.
March 28 - Liz Taylor's wedding anniversary.
March 29 - Liz Taylor's wedding anniversary.
March 30 - Eric Clapton's birthday, 1945,
March 31 - An easy listening radio station in Annandale, VA, is blown up, 1978.
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April 1 - April Fool's Day.
April 2 - Velcro is introduced, 1978.
April 3 - Eddie Murphy's birthday, 1961.
April 4 - Tater Day (a day that celebrates the potato), Benton, Kentucky.
April 5 - The first issue of TV Guide goes on the market,1953.
April 6 - Bob Marley's birthday, 1945.
April 7 - The final episode of Star Trek airs, 1969,
April 8 - Hank Aaron hits his 715th home run, breaking Babe Ruth's record, 1974.
April 9 - Dennis Quaid's birthday, 1954.
April 10 - World Crits Festival, St. Ceorge, South Carolina, 1992.
April 11 - The Equal Opportunity Commission regulates that sexual harassment of women is illegal in the work place, 1980.
April 12 - David Letterman's birthday, 1947.
April 13 - World Cow Chip Throwing Championship, Beaver, Oklahoma.
April 14 - Dungeons and Dragons is invented, 1974.
April 15 - The bottle opener is invented, 1738.
April 16 - The first test-tube baby is born, 1986.
April 17 - The Ford Mustang makes its debut, 1964.
April 18 - The first "Walk/Don't Walk" signs are installed in a city, 1955.
April 19 - Reading Is Fun week begins.
April 20 - National Lingerie week begins.
April 21 - Iggy Pop's birthday, 1947.
April 22 - Jack Nicholson's birthday, 1937.
April 23 - Summer begins in Ireland.
April 24 - Rattlesnake Derby (a snake racing contest), begins in Mangum, Oklahoma.
April 25 - Elvis Presley hits number one with Heartbreak Hotel, 1956.
April 26 - The largest bank robbery in the U.S.-$3.3 million-occurs in Tucson, Arizona, 1981.
April 27 - Wide World Of Sports premiers on TV, 1961.
April 28 - Jay Leno's birthday, 1950.
April 29 - Michelle Pfeiffer's birthday, 1962.
April 30 - National Honesty Day.
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May 1 - May Day.
May 2 - Engelbert Humperdinck's birthday, 1936.
May 3 - James Brown's birthday, 1934.
May 4 - The final episode of Laverne and Shirley airs, 1983.
May 5 - 1,904 pound "Big Boy," the world's largest pig, is born, 1939.
May 6 - Babe Ruth hits his first major league home run,1915.
May 7 - Hard Rock Cafe's World Cup of Windsurfing Championships, Maui.
May 8 - Jim Morrison's birthday, 1943.
May 9 - The FDA approves the first public sale of contraceptive pills, 1960.
May 10 - U2's Bono's birthday (b.Paul Hewson), 1960.
May 11 - The chair is invented, 2181 B.C.
May 12 - George Carlin's birthday,1937.
May 13 - The U.S. Postal Service introduces postcards,1873.
May 14 - David Byrne's birthday,1952.
May 15 - DuPont announces "Nylon Day" where nylons replace silk stockings, 1940.
May 16 - Janet Jackson's birthday, 1966.
May 17 - The rubberband is invented,1845.
May 18 - National Visit Your Relatives Day.
May 19 - The first department store opens,1848.
May 20 - Cher's birthday,1946.
May 21 - Mr. T's birthday, 1952.
May 22 - The lucky rabbit's foot is first used, 600 B.C.
May 23 - The first Cliff Notes appear in schools,1953.
May 24 - Mary Had A Little Lamb is written,1830.
May 25 - The movie Star Wars is released,1977.
May 26 - John Wayne's birthday,1907.
May 27 - The first black light is sold in a novelty shop, 1961.
May 28 - The first Batman comic book is introduced, 1939.
May 29 - The first people reach the top of Mt. Everest, the world's highest mountain, 1953.
May 30 - The compact disc is introduced, 1981.
May 31 - Clint Eastwood's birthday, 1930.
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June 1 - The first Superman comic book is published, 1938.
June 2 - Jerry Mathers'(Beaver Cleaver) birthday, 1948.
June 3 - The world's first tattoo is performed, 208 B.C.
June 4 - The world record for Hackey-Sacking is set: 48,825 consecutive times, 1988.
June 5 - The first drive-in theatre opens, 1933.
June 6 - Dana Carvey's birthday,1955.
June 7 - (the artist formaly known as) Prince's birthday,1958.
June 8 - The first stolen car is reported,1896.
June 9 - The NFL and the AFL merge,1966.
June 10 - The first drive-thru restaurant opens in America, 1952.
June 11 - The first teenager drives backward through a drive-thru restaurant, 1952.
June 12 - Jim Nabors' birthday.
June 13 - The Ford Foundation launches a study to raise the cultural level of TV shows, 1951.
June 14 - Mr. Ed premiers, 1951.
June 15 - Jim Belushi's birthday, 1954.
June 16 - The first baseball game is played,1846.
June 17 - The Broadway musical "Oh! Calcutta!" opens, using the naked human body for the first time as a stage costume, 1969.
June 18 - Sally Ride becomes the first American woman in space, 1983.
June 19 - Batman Returns opens in U.S, theatres,1992.
June 20 - Noxema is named, because it "knocks eczema" out, 1914.
June 21 - CBS introduces the first long-playing record, 1948.
June 22 - The day disco officially died, 1979.
June 23 - The day disco should have died, 1974.
June 24 - A new world record is set for spitting a watermelon seed 68 feet,9 1/8 inches, 1989.
June 25 - The tennis shoe is invented,1947.
June 26 - The first movie theatre in the U.S. opens, with 10 cent movies, 1896.
June 27 - The first sighting of flying saucers is reported in the U.S., 1947.
June 28 - The first dog show is held, Newcastle, England, 1859.
June 29 - The first remote control is sold with a TV, 1964.
June 30 - Mike Tyson's (#316394) birthday, 1966.(also my mom's)
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July 1 - Dan Aykroyd's birthday, 1952.
July 2 - A new record is set for throwing a Frisbee 623.6 feet, 1988.
July 3 - The last episode of Bewitched airs, 1972.
July 4 - The Fourth Of July.
July 5 - The bikini makes its debut at a fashion show in Paris, 1945.
July 6 - Elvis Presley, 19, makes his first record, 1954.
July 7 - Rodger Woodward, 7, falls out of a boat and becomes the first person to survive going over Niagara Falls, 1960.
July 8 - Annual Chesapeake Turtle Derby (turtle races), Baltimore, Maryland,1992.
July 9 - Tom Hanks' birthday, 1956.
July 10 - Fred Gwynne's (Herman Munster) birthday, 1926.
July 11 - Nolan Ryan is the first major league pitcher to strike out 4,000 batters, 1985.
July 12 - For the first time, a woman is ordered to pay alimony to her husband, 1981.
July 13 - Live Aid raises money for Africa's starving people, 1985.
July 14 - Lightning strikes New York City power lines and leaves the city in the dark for 25 hours, 1977.
July 15 - Law is passed requiring health warnings on cigarette packages, 1965.
July 16 - The safety pin is invented,1849.
July 17 - Soviet and American astronauts meet in space to shake hands, 1975.
July 18 - A world record is set for catching a grape in your mouth: 319 ft,8in., 1980.
July 19 - The first personal ad looking for a spouse is printed,1695.
July 20 - Madonna poses nude in Playboy, (What else is new?) 1992.
July 21 - Robin Williams' birthday, 1952.(also mine different year)
July 22 - The first Sony Walkman goes on sale, 1979.
July 23 - Mel Gibson decides to become an actor, 1960.
July 24 - Instant coffee is invented, 1938.
July 25 - The lowest temperature ever recorded is noted, -129 deg,in Antarctica, 1983.
July 26 - The Hula Hoop becomes popular, 1958.
July 27 - The 1ast episode of Taxi airs, 1983.
July 28 - The Hustle hits #1 on disco charts, 1975.
July 29 - Don Juan opens, with the most kisses (127) in a single movie, 1926.
July 30 - The last reported sighting of Jimmy Hoffa is recorded, 1975.
July 31 - America's last Playboy Club closes, in Lansing, Michigan, 1988.
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August 1 - The song Chopsticks is written, 1877.
August 2 - The elevator is invented,1743.
August 3 - Jay North's (Dennis The Menace) birthday, 1952.
August 4 - Federal income tax is first collected, 1862.
August 5 - American Bandstand premiers, 1957.
August 6 - Santa Monica Skate Board Championships begin.
August 7 - Borden is sued for a Cracker Jack box containing no prize, 1982.
August 8 - The All-American Polka Festival occurs in Vernon, New Jersey, 1992.
August 9 - The first Guinness Book of World Records is released, 1955.
August 10 - Minimum wage jumps from 75 cents to a dollar an hour, 1955.
August 11 - Hulk Hogan's birthday, 1953.
August 12 - The first issue of Sports Illustrated is published,1954.
August 13 - A world record is set for throwing a cow chip 266 feet,1981.
August 14 - Magic Johnson's birthday, 1959.
August 15 - Woodstock festival begins, 1969.
August 16 - Madonna's birthday (Madonna Louise Veronica Ciccone), 1959.
August 17 - Woodstock festival ends, 1969.
August 18 - People who passed out at Woodstock realize the festival ended yesterday, 1969.
August 19 - Bill Clinton's birthday, 1946.
August 20 - Robert Plant's birthday, 1948.
August 21 - The first house made entirely of recycled products is finished, Richmond, Virginia, 1973.
August 22 - Nolan Ryan is the first major league pitcher to strike out 5,000 batters, 1989.
August 23 - Supermodel Paulina marries Ric Ocasek. (Go figure.) 1989.
August 24 - Music videos are now on MTV, 1981.
August 25 - Elvis Costello's birthday, 1954.
August 26 - The first roller coaster is built in America, 1929.
August 27 - The first American vomits after riding a roller coaster,1929.
August 28 - Cher gets her third tattoo. (Location unknown.) 1990.
August 29 - Michael Jackson's birthday, 1958.
August 30 - The last episode of The Brady Bunch airs, 1974.
August 31 - The Beatles make their last concert appearance, 1966.
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September 1 - National Chicken Month begins.
September 2 - The bowling shirt is invented, 1921.
September 3 - The first bowling league is formed in America, 1921.
September 4 - Dick York's (the first Darrin Stevens) birthday, 1928.
September 5 - Hijacking planes becomes illegal, 1961.
September 6 - The last episode of The Alfred Hitchcock show airs, 1965.
September 7 - The last episode of the Beverly Hillbillies airs, 1971.
September 8 - The first Miss America Pageant takes place, 1921.
September 9 - Elvis sings on The Ed Sullivan Show, but is only shown from the waist up, 1956.
September 10 - The last episode of Mr. Ed airs, 1965.
September 11 - Mork and Mindy premiers, 1978.
September 12 - The last episode of Leave It To Beaver airs, 1963.
September 13 - M*A*S*H premiers, 1972.
September 14 - Pope John IV abolishes the 1500-year-old custom of the circular haircut for monks, 1972.
September 15 - In 1968, Presidential candidate Richard Nixon goes on Laugh-In and says, "Sockit to me!"
September 16 - The first baboon heart is transplanted into a human, 1984.
September 17 - Gilligan's Island premiers, 1964.
September 18 - Adam West's (television's Batman) birthday, 1928.
September 19 - National Singles Week begins,
September 20 - The Addams Family premiers, 1964.
September 21 - Bill Murray's birthday, 1950.
September 22 - The ice cream cone is invented, 1903.
September 23 - Ray Charles' birthday, 1930.
September 24 - A world record is set for the longest kiss:17 days, 10 1/2 hrs., 1984.
September 25 - Heather Locklear's birthday, 1961.
September 26 - The Brady Bunch premiers, 1969.
September 27 - The answering machine is invented, 1950.
September 28 - The Beverly Hillbillies premiers, 1962.
September 29 - The Munsters premiers, 1964.
September 30 - The Flintstones premiers, 1960.
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October 1 - NASA discloses that each astronaut's suit costs $3.4million.
October 2 - The first cartoon strip appears in a newspaper, 1896.
October 3 - A 327 gallon Pina Colada becomes the world's largest cocktail, 1988.
October 4 - Leave It To Beaver premiers, 1957.
October 5 - Ashley-Whippet Dog Frisbee Championships, Washington, D.C.
October 6 - Reverend Jim Bakker is found guilty, 1989.
October 7 - The first perfect World Series game is pitched by Don Larsen of the NY Yankees, 1956.
October 8 - Chevy Chase's birthday,1948.
October 9 - Clarence Birdseye, inventor of the frozen dinner, dies, 1956.
October 10 - David Lee Roth's birthday,1955.
October 11 - Saturday Night Live premiers, 1975.
October 12 - Columbus Day.
October 13 - Sammy Hagar's birthday, 1949.
October 14 - Chuck Yeager breaks the sound barrier for the first time, 1947.
October 15 - The first televised weather report airs, 1953.
October 16 - The first correct televised weather report airs, 1953.
October 17 - George Wendt's (Norm from Cheers) birthday, 1948.
October 18 - The FDA declares marijuana to be as dangerous as alcohol, 1967.
October 19 - End-Of-Hurricane-Season Celebration, Virgin Islands.
October 20 - The world's largest popsicle is assembled: 5,7501bs., 1975.
October 21 - The annual 48-hour Marx Brothers Film Festival, Tampa, FL.
October 22 - The first used-car dealership opens, London,1897.
October 23 - Johnny Carson's birthday, 1925.
October 24 - Int'l Red Bean & Rice Festival, Jackson, Mississippi, 1992.
October 25 - The Twilight Zone premiers, 1959.
October 26 - Minimum wage is raised from 40 cents to 74 cents an hour, 1949.
October 27 - Boxer shorts are introduced, 1901.
October 28 - The first ticker tape parade is thrown; it honors The Statue of Liberty,1886.
October 29 - The first American ballpoint pen goes on sale, NYC, 1945.
October 30 - World's Ugliest Pick-Up Truck Parade occurs in Chadron, Nebraska, 1992.
October 31 - Halloween.
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November 1 - The first issue of Playboy is published in Chicago by Hugh Hefner, 1953.
November 2 - The first radio program airs, Pittsburgh,1920.
November 3 - Roseanne Barr Arnold's birthday, 1952.
November 4 - "Laika," becomes the first dog launched into space, 1957.
November 5 - A world record is set for 106 hours of belly dancing, 1984.
November 6 - Saxophone Day.
November 7 - Sadie Hawkins Day.
November 8 - The tube top is invented, 1975.
November 9 - The Berlin Wall is opened, and hundreds of thousands of East Germans run into West Germany, 1989.
November 10 - Sesame Street makes its TV debut, 1969.
November 11 - Demi Moore's birthday, 1962.
November 12 - The first known Happy Hour is held, Ireland,1745.
November 13 - Press-on fingernails are introduced, 1952.
November 14 - The juke box is invented, 1883.
November 15 - The annual Three Stooges Festival, Harrisburg, PA.
November 16 - The touch-tone phone is introduced, 1963.
November 17 - Danny Devito's birthday, 1944.
November 18 - Mickey Mouse's birthday, 1928.
November 19 - The pop tart is invented, 1965.
November 20 - Bo Derek's birthday, 1956.
November 21 - Emilio Onra, the first human cannonball, is launched, 1871.
November 22 - Rodney Dangerfield's birthday, 1921.
November 23 - Vincent Paxton sets a new world record by playing his guitar for 300 continuous hours, 1986.
November 24 - The "Who Shot J.R." episode of Dallas airs to an audience of 83 million, 1980.
November 25 - Christina Applegate's (Kelly Bundy) birthday, 1972.
November 26 - Tina Turner's birthday.
November 27 - The first 3-D movie, Bwana Devil, premiers, 1952. It's Thanksgiving
November 28 - Enrico Fermi, inventor of the atom bomb, dies, 1954.
November 29 - The first Army-Navy football game is played,1890.
November 30 - Dick Clark's birthday, 1929.
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December 1 - The Pope declares that Catholics are allowed to eat meat on Fridays, except during Lent, 1966.
December 2 - Barney Clark receives the first artificial heart, 1982.
December 3 - The world's largest bar opens,1829.
December 4 - Deely Bobbers become one of the holiday's hottest selling items, 1982.
December 5 - Blue jeans are invented, 1880.
December 6 - In 1983, a world record is set for continuous whistling: 45 hours, 20 minutes.
December 7 - The first instant replay airs during a TV sports event, 1963.
December 8 - Kim Basinger's birthday, 1953.
December 9 - A total lunar eclipse occurs, 1992. (Go moon somebody.)
December 10 - The Mighty Mouse show premiers, 1955.
December 11 - Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles becomes one of the top money-making movies of 1990.
December 12 - Bob Barker's birthday, 1923.
December 13 - The clip-on tie is invented, 1928.
December 14 - The South Pole is discovered, 1911.
December 15 - Christine Jorgenson becomes the first person in history to have a sex-change operation, 1952.
December 16 - The first color TV program goes on the air,1953.
December 17 - The Wright Brothers make their first flight,1903.
December 18 - Steven Spielberg's birthday, 1947.
December 19 - The "I've-fallen-and-I-can't-get-up" commercial first airs, 1985.
December 20 - Louisiana Purchase Day, 1803.
December 21 - Phil Donahue's birthday, 1935.
December 22 - "Colo" becomes the first gorilla born in captivity, 1956.
December 23 - Congress passes a tax simplification guide which is 1,379 pages in length, 1985.
December 24 - Christmas Eve.
December 25 - Christmas.
December 26 - National "Return-All-Of-Your-Ugly-Christmas-Gifts" day.
December 27 - The last pair of bell-bottoms is sold, Wichita, Kansas, 1981.
December 28 - Snowboarding Championships, White Bluff Mountain, Colorado.
December 29 - The bowling ball is invented, 1862.
December 30 - The leisure suit officially goes out of style, 1976.
December 31 - New Year's Eve.

I am watching Miami for the first time and this lingerie party is W-I-L-D.
Holy cow. I havent heard much about Miami but this episode alone has me regretting sleeping on it.

Hi, wanted to share this. Today I finally admitted to myself that my relationship with my looks are quite distorted and I probably have BDD. I wrote a list of my symptoms and yeah it's not normal isn't it.
- When I'm in public, one of the biggest things on my mind is always how I look - I check myself on every reflective surface I come across to make sure everything is "ok" - Every time I come indoors, the very first thing I look for is the restroom where I can make sure my makeup, hair, etc. are all right - I perform for a living, but also have a crippling stage fright because I'm afraid that I'll look ugly and cause second hand embarrassment in the audience because of my appearance - When I'm practicing, I often look in the mirror to make sure I don't look ugly - If one day I think I look particularly good or terrible, looking in the mirror becomes totally addictive - I don't want anyone to take pictures of me, I always freeze in those situations completely - I get upset when I see any photos of me, I might cry out of frustration/embarrassment and also feel deeply disappointed because I imagined I looked better - Sometimes my attitude towards my appearance goes from one extreme to the other: I get episodes where I either feel like I'm supermodel-type beautiful or hideously ugly. When I feel beautiful, it feels like an intoxicating trance, like being high or something: I could look at myself for hours, I change clothes repeatedly, put on heavy make-up, maybe even masturbate because I get turned on by the fact that I look so stunning, etc. and when I feel ugly, I either panic and then in distress decide to do something about it asap (e.g. looking into surgery) or sometimes I try to calm my mind and I consume hours of social media content on how to come to terms with your looks. - Appearance is also somehow related to sexuality for sure, one of my biggest fantasies is dressing up in hyperfeminine lingerie, having perfect (over-the-top) hair and make-up and being the object of admiration. When I was younger I seeked the attention of older men because I believed I could never compete with the women of my own age. However fortunately I did not end up in a relationship at this time (some weird dating experiences that fortunately didn't go further) but only much later when this obsession faded. I was quite old when I got my first boyfriend, 23yo and it took me a lot of effort to believe that someone my age could actually want me. - I want to add that the "I feel so beautiful"-episodes should not be confused with me actually thinking that I am a good-looking person. It's complicated but somehow I believe that in those moments only I can see myself as beautiful, I am somehow deceiving myself and others would still see me as ugly. I never post anything on social media either, because of course I won't post ugly pictures of me and I'm convinced that posting the ones where I think I look good would only cause others to cringe and to think like "why is she posting something like that, she doesn't really look like that" - The worst symptoms/episodes come when I am alone, for example If I can stay for a few days at home and have time to just stare at my face and body. I may spend hours looking at my reflection from different angles with the help of several mirrors, I take videos of my face and body and try to find out what I "really" look like, even naked etc. Usually these are also the moments when I become convinced that I am really completely deformed and unattractive and I end up browsing plastic surgery websites etc. - Also on social media, my favorite videos are often appearance-focused videos or related to plastic surgery E.g. Qoves is so triggering but I can't stop watching....
That's all that comes to my mind at this point but I am sure there's still more. I want to add that I have never actually gotten plastic surgery but otherwise I am very careful about my makeup, grooming, clothes and such. I feel embarrassed and ashamed that I need to be so vain but I feel like it's the only way I can control how others perceive me. And yeah, it feels weird to put it all into words like this, I didn't actually realize this was affecting me so much until I wrote this.

SPOILERS AHEAD!
Here’s my ranking of the characters as well as my brief thoughts and favorite moment of each character. Obvious disclaimer, these are just my opinions about them; not an in-depth analysis of their characters.
I didn’t add that much context to my favorite moments just in case you haven’t seen it but still decided to read this post. You should also know that those moments aren’t really supposed to be relevant to my opinion of them.
MAIN SQUAD:

1. Holt - I love how his demeanor makes him a character that is full of surprises. You’ll never know if he’ll say "I am feeling trepidation at the prospect of a parent-less existence” or “yas kween [snaps]" next. Favorite moment: Him having a showdown against a random street dancer.
2. Jake - Best character development on the show, not to mention really smooth. You’ll only realize how much he grew if you deliberately look back. Plus, I identify with how immature he is sometimes. Favorite moment: When Jake slipped a pen in Doug Judy’s pocket.
3. Terry - He’s a really caring sergeant and dad who’s very in touch with his feelings. I’d love to have a dad like Terry (yes, over Holt and Kevin). Favorite moment: Terry carrying the Vulture over his shoulders when the Vulture wanted to raid the store.
4. Amy - I really find her lovable especially with all the nerdy stuff and how it slips out of her despite being around people who are too cool for school (except Holt). Her feeble attempts to fit in are so adorable. Favorite moment: Every time she stands up to Holt and walks out secretly freaking out.
5. Rosa - Such an awesome character. Feels kinda forced sometimes but I never found it obnoxious or hard to watch. I love how she’s secretly a softie who actually cares about her friends no matter how much she tries to hide it. Favorite moment: Her speaking loudly and rolling around the bullpen on her chair while hopped up on cold medicine.
6. Gina - Actually the only reason Gina is down here is because I like the first five more. I kinda see why some people hate her, but I couldn’t bring myself to feel that way. The way she acts like she doesn’t care about her job but does it well anyway is so funny and amazing to me. Like Rosa, she cares about her friends more than she thinks she does. Favorite moment: Monologuing as she was surrounded by fascinated psychologists who were taking notes.
7. Scully - He’s actually a sweet oaf and obviously the better one between him and Hitchcock. Even though he’s depicted as an idiot, sometimes his talents come in handy. We must also acknowledge that young Scully was hot AF. Favorite moment: Scully quickly matching up a page from a truckload of shredded paper.
8. Charles - I respect how he’s such a loyal friend to Jake, but the guy has zero boundaries. I really can’t stand him most of the time, especially around Jake. He's okay to watch around the other characters, but he has ruined a lot of great Jake-centric moments. He's also really condescending towards Terry. On the plus side, he’s really comfortable in his own skin, not at all egotistic, and really embraces his character. He really is a sweet guy, though. Favorite moment: When he managed to “beta” Gina into helping him deal with Pimento.
9. Hitchcock - I can’t even think of a good thing to say about Hitchcock. He’s creepy AF and his lines aren’t even funny; it’s just disgusting. Well at least he’s a good friend to Scully and can be a great detective when it comes to food and other stuff they care about. Favorite moment: His proud partner moment as Scully sang at Holt’s party.

RECURRING CHARACTERS:

1. Cheddar - No explanation needed. Favorite moment: Cheddar licking a sundae off the ground.
2. Wuntch - I like her because she’s the only one who brings out Holt’s pettiness and creativity as he conjures fresh insults (always fun to watch). For some reason, her trying to ruin Holt doesn’t piss me off. I guess it’s because their relationship—in Holt’s words—was an epic chess match which, I find, was a very great addition to the whole storyline. Favorite moment: Opening her coat in front of Holt, revealing herself dressed only in lingerie.
3. Doug Judy - I love how he and Jake are so in sync. Of course he has tricked Jake so many times, but at least they’re so fun to watch together that every episode with Doug Judy is a treat. In fact, his song at the all-ages piano lounge adults only show gave me the best laugh out of the entire series. Favorite moment: “A little bit to the left. My left, my left, my left, my left.”
4. The Vulture - He’s a horrible guy, but the reason why I don’t hate episodes with the Vulture that much is because the squad almost always gets their revenge. It’s always so satisfying to watch the Vulture become “out-vultured.” Favorite moment: His version of how he’ll arrive at the crime scene where CJ would be kidnapped.
5. Kevin - Him slowly developing a relationship with the squad is so adorable. Absolutely the perfect match for Holt. Favorite moment: Citing out his long debate moderator license number over the phone.
6. Pimento - He’s so unhinged and chaotic it’s funny. I’m glad he’s just a recurring character, though. It would’ve been an overkill otherwise. Favorite moment: When he hurriedly walked away from Gina’s desk after being stopped from getting jelly beans.
7. CJ - I like him, but he’s not that interesting as a character. I sometimes get frustrated when he’s too much of a dumbass. Favorite moment: Him sadly resting his chin on a table when he lost an evidence.
8. Lt. Hawkins - She’s horrible. The only reason she's ahead of John Kelly is because she's a badass. Favorite moment: Her first appearance in the series where she reveals the perps Rosa and Jake caught were actually undercover cops.
9. John Kelly - The smiley, obnoxious villain that gets into everyone’s nerves because he doesn’t display the emotion we want to see. At least he gave Jake the opportunity to create the Suicide Squad. Favorite moment: “What just happened?”
10. Roger - Ugh. Favorite moment: His sweet moment with Mr. Santiago in the hospital after he accidentally cut off his thumb.

ROMANTIC INTERESTS/PARTNERS/EXES (no description):

1. Sharon
2. Sophia
3. Marcus
4. Genevieve
5. Jocelyn
6. Vivian
7. Frederick
8. Teddy
9. Eleanor
10. Jenny Gildenhorn

So, doing the same thing here as u/austinwest7120. On a post recently asking what would be good ideas for a new Rock Of Love, and my comment saying Glen Danzig is currently the most upvotedSo I'm gonna list similar things that u/austinwest7120 did and explain kinda what the show would be like. (Praying someone who runs VH1, MTV, or Zeus sees this lol)
THE SHOW PLOT Imagine a universe where VH1 makes a new Rock Of Love! But,they pick a much better rockstar this time, Glen Danzig!! Glen is originally from the band The Misfits, but is also known for his solo work under the band name Danzig. Huge star in the 80s, and is honestly still currently more relevant than Bret Michaels.
It would start with 20 women, ranging from ages 25-45. (He is 68, but his most recent ex is 29). Unlike Bret, he will actually give the girls nicknames, but the nicknames will be either typical sexy things (Similar to the names on FOL or RCOL) or Gothic things, such as names like "bat", "medusa", "vamp", "morticia", "elvira", "machete", "blood", "scarlet", "viper"
Episodes/challenges
1st episode: "Let It Be Captured!" Plot- Similar to how Bret took pictures of the ladies on the first day, Glen will do the same, but instead take short videos of each woman, since he also works as a movie director. P.s, the tile is that because you "capture" a video. 4 women will be eliminated in episode 1.
2nd episode: "Verotika" Plot- With 16 women left, they will be divided into 4 groups of 4. The challenge is each group needs to plan, write, draw, and color a 10 panel "sexy horror comic". At the end, each comic will be presented and read. Whichever team has the best comic, Glen will take those 4 on a date. 1 woman is eliminated at the end.
3rd episode: "She Rides" Plot- Down to 15 women. Basic motorcycle challenge. Like the ones on ROL. 2 women will leave by the end, 1 gets eliminated, the other chooses to leave.
4th episode: "Peep Show" Down to 13 women. The Peep Show challenge from ROLW/BM is by far my favorite challenge, so I want it back. Plus, again, sense Glen is a director I feel like it's fitting. Glen's 3 favorites get to go on a date. 1 woman gets eliminated.
5th episode: "Sing Elvis!" Down to 12 women. The women will line up, and all be requested to sing the same line from an Elvis song. Glen will pick the 4 best singers. After that, the 4 best singers get to pick 3 other girls to be in their "band" (so the girls will be divided into 3 groups of 4) the girls pick instruments to play (or attempt to play) each band will pick an Elvis song to preform infront of Glen. The best band gets to go on a date. 2 women will be eliminated
6th episode: "Martial Arts challenge" (I can't think of a good name for this) Down to 10 women. The women all go to a martial arts class, and learn some important moves. After, the women are paires into 5 groups of 2. Each group will "fight" each other with the moves they learned. It will be innocent though with no actual injuries. Similar to the Daisy Of Love fight challenge, just more sexy and less violent. Glen will pick the 3 girls who he thinks did the best job (followed techniques the best, and looked sexy/confident doing it) for a date. 1 woman will be eliminated at the end. (P.S I know that challenge seems random, but Glen studies martial arts, and has a teaching degree in martial arts)
7th Episode : "Devil's Plaything" 9 women left, they will be required to complete a 3 level obstacle course while wearing headband devil horns and red lingerie. First level -"Axe Throwing" (they have to hit a target). Second level- "Catch the bat"- a toy bat will be hanging from a rope, and will keep being pulled up and down rapidly, if they catch it, they get to move on. Final level- "Blood bath"- they need to find a clear guitar pick in a small pool filled with red dyed corn syrup. Whoever still has their devil horns still on by the end gets to go on a date with Glen. 1 woman will be eliminated.
8th episode: "Action Women!" 8 remaining women. They will be put into groups 1 groups of 4. The challenge is that they will each make 5 minute long movies with scripts written by Glen. 3 from each group women will star in the films, while 1 will be the director. (Similar to the music video challenge from ROLw/Bm season 2) Glen will pick his favorite actor of all of the women, as well as the director who directed the movie he perfered. Both women will get to go on a date with Glen. 2 women will be eliminated at the end.
9th episode: "Circle Of Snakes" 6 women left- The challenge is that they need to volunteer at a Zoo in the reptile section. The girl who do the best job will win a solo date.. at the same Zoo.. while the others are left with the Reptiles. (I really love Reptiles, okay?) 1 woman will be eliminated
10th episode: "Sin City" 5 women left- the girls will ride in a tour bus to Las Vegas for one of Glen's shows. Glen will be traveling separately with his band. We will get to see what happens on the bus the girls are on, similar to ROLB. When they arrive to Vegas, they will need to help the band set up. When it's time for the show, the girls will dance on stage. After the show, they will hang out with Glen's band (without Glen in the room) and after, the members of the band talk to Glen about which girls are the best and worst for him. 1 girl will be eliminated.
11th episode: "Skeletons in the closet!" 4 women left- This episode is when they bring the Exe's of the women to meet Glen. He will spend time with the girl's ex lovers to find out dirt on them. If Glen and his ex Ashley are still on good terms, it would be awesome to bring her on to spend time with the girls to also try to find out dirt on them. At the end, Glen will spend a little solo time with each girl. 1 girl will be eliminated.
12th episode: "Can I meet your mother?" 3 women left- The women's mother (or a close older female in their life, like an aunt or older sister if their mother isn't available to come) will visit the home. Glen go out to each with each woman as well as her mom (like the parents episode in ROLwBM) 1 woman will be eliminated.
Episode 13: "Clip show" Shows unseen and funny moments.
Episode 14 (Finale): "With a Girl Like You" 2 women left- Glen takes the 2 women to New Jersey (his home town) where he will go on day long solo dates with each girl and picks his Rock Of Love.
Reunion- (hopefully hosted by Riki Rachtman)