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2024.05.21 20:38 DishsUp I’m just so frustrated and do know how to proceed
TLDR: my daughter’s band instructor is sexist and racist but he keeps it to micro aggressions, so it’s super hard to prove.
This is a rant about my daughter’s (12f ) band instructor . I want to start out by saying I know these types of sexist and racist micro aggressions are not things that can really be brought up with the school, but nevertheless I don’t feel comfortable with an adult man saying them in front of a room full of preteens and young teens. I’m also very sad for the kids who live with sexist and racist stereotypes at home and then come to school and have them normalized by people like my daughter’s teacher.
So, on to the story. Yesterday my daughter came home from school and stood me that her band teacher’s wife was out of town and had been for several weeks, because her mother is on hospice care and she wants to be with her.
We had a discussion about how sad that is and related it to her great grandmother who is also currently in hospice. But then my daughter told me that the only reason her teacher mentioned this was because he looked a bit disheveled and felt the need to apologize. ( he’s the type of man who wears a 3 piece suit and meticulously styles his mustache with wax daily, to teach public school band)
He apologized that his wife was out of town, and he didn’t know how to work the laundry machine and he didn’t know where the dry cleaner is. He added to this very sad account, by stating that he doesn’t cook and the only food left in his house is granola bars. Bet he’s happy because his wife will be home soon to handle his laundry, go shopping and cook real food.
Later in the same class period, he told a white boy, who had decided to yell the N-Word across the band room, that the N- word isn’t really a bad word but we shouldn’t say it because it offends some people.
Obviously this is incorrect, there is a deep history of uses of the n-word to dehumanize , devalue, harass and other people of color. Allowing any child to think that it’s just a little offensive to some people , but not a big deal is beyond disgusting to me.
First: this is deeply disrespectful to his wife. Imagine coming home from spending weeks at your mother’s death bed, only to discover that your husband is apparently a toddler who can’t preform basic adult functions. And then having to mother him.
Second : This is infantilizing boys at a very impressionable age, it teaches them that they don’t have to be responsible for themselves.
Third: it devalues women and girls, implying t hey are only here to serve boys and men.
I’ve you’ve gotten this far, thank you. I’m just upset with society today.
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This is a rant about my daughter’s (12f ) band instructor . I want to start out by saying I know these types of sexist and racist micro aggressions are not things that can really be brought up with the school, but nevertheless I don’t feel comfortable with an adult man saying them in front of a room full of preteens and young teens. I’m also very sad for the kids who live with sexist and racist stereotypes at home and then come to school and have them normalized by people like my daughter’s teacher.
So, on to the story. Yesterday my daughter came home from school and stood me that her band teacher’s wife was out of town and had been for several weeks, because her mother is on hospice care and she wants to be with her.
We had a discussion about how sad that is and related it to her great grandmother who is also currently in hospice. But then my daughter told me that the only reason her teacher mentioned this was because he looked a bit disheveled and felt the need to apologize. ( he’s the type of man who wears a 3 piece suit and meticulously styles his mustache with wax daily, to teach public school band)
He apologized that his wife was out of town, and he didn’t know how to work the laundry machine and he didn’t know where the dry cleaner is. He added to this very sad account, by stating that he doesn’t cook and the only food left in his house is granola bars. Bet he’s happy because his wife will be home soon to handle his laundry, go shopping and cook real food.
Later in the same class period, he told a white boy, who had decided to yell the N-Word across the band room, that the N- word isn’t really a bad word but we shouldn’t say it because it offends some people.
Obviously this is incorrect, there is a deep history of uses of the n-word to dehumanize , devalue, harass and other people of color. Allowing any child to think that it’s just a little offensive to some people , but not a big deal is beyond disgusting to me.
First: this is deeply disrespectful to his wife. Imagine coming home from spending weeks at your mother’s death bed, only to discover that your husband is apparently a toddler who can’t preform basic adult functions. And then having to mother him.
Second : This is infantilizing boys at a very impressionable age, it teaches them that they don’t have to be responsible for themselves.
Third: it devalues women and girls, implying t hey are only here to serve boys and men.
I’ve you’ve gotten this far, thank you. I’m just upset with society today.
2024.05.21 20:36 SNChurches Finally seeing the real version of my dad. Major vent and need advice
I (30f) met my dad (M 64) when I was fifteen years old. We have always been close ever since we reunited. Out of all my siblings on his side I’m the only one who graduated high school and went on a career and maternal/family path. My brothers are either in jail or rehab. And one of my brothers is also terminally ill now.
Fast forward to January of this year, I moved in with my dad because his health is declining majorly. He has COPD, sleep apnea, heart disease, alcoholism (12-18 pack every night), heavy smoker (almost 2 packs every day.) So moving in was more so to take care of him than anything else. My husband and children stayed back so my oldest can finish her school year and I can focus on my dad before he had his back surgery on March 1st, 2024.
At first my dad told me he only wanted us to take over the mortgage for him. Okay no problem. Well Then mortgage turned into every bill. (Cable, electric, water, sewage, AC, etc) and we even footed the bill to replace the liner in the pool ($999) and the installation for it ($250) and the bill to fill it (water bill) which honestly was cheaper than I thought it would be not gonna lie. And our recurring purchases for the chemicals for the pool. But he pressured us into getting that pool done, like would not shut up about it. And my dad has us buy his beer and cigarettes every day except the weekends when I don’t have to go anywhere all day.
On top of that we pay for all the groceries. And clean the house every single day. (Vacuum, mop, deep kitchen cleanup, bathroom cleanup, etc)
Now while hubby and I were on separate sides of the state we were splitting bills between two households. Supporting hubby’s parents as well.
Husband and kids moved in Late March. We bit the bullet of getting the kids over here early due to the treatment they were receiving from Hubby’s dad.
I’ve had my own room this whole time, and my dad was supposed to clear out the spare room so the kids can have their own room. My dad was supposed to do this since February and he barely worked on it.
Well hubby moved in without a job lined up and I’m still building my clientele over here and our money is tight. We can’t afford groceries and my dad’s bills at this time due to our own bills coming out with no income streaming in.
My dad is saying he can’t keep paying for us (mind you it’s been a week since we been tight on funds) and we are both job hunting like crazy, putting applications in everywhere. And last night he told me “since you don’t have the money to get the kids bunk beds I’m not in a rush to work on the spare room.” I never wanted to hit anyone as much as I did in that moment considering I spent their bed fund on groceries and gas for his truck because that was the last I had and I wanted to make sure we had groceries for awhile to sustain us.
Now aside from money and cleaning, I practically have to make two meals per night because of how Picky my father is. He likes very limited food as in beef, rice and corn. Kids and hubby like everything else under the sun. I tried combining my dad’s diet and my family’s preferences into one dinner and my dad still won’t eat it. So I have to do something else for him and since he eats around 9:30-10pm at night I get to have the pleasure of dirtying up pans that I just cleaned up all over again.
And all he does all day is sit in his garage and smoke his cigarettes and drinks his beer.
He comes up with new rules almost every single day. Like my dogs can’t sit on the couch on the patio but his dog can. Tried telling me the kids can’t run in the back yard??? Like wtf. And every time he’s on the phone with his sisters all he does is complain as if we don’t do anything for him. I literally heard my aunt say “does she at least cook for you” referring to me.
My dad says he’s scared that we are gonna pack up and leave him, but at the same time I’m at my wits end and I don’t want to leave him due to his physical health, depression and more.
What would you all do?
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Fast forward to January of this year, I moved in with my dad because his health is declining majorly. He has COPD, sleep apnea, heart disease, alcoholism (12-18 pack every night), heavy smoker (almost 2 packs every day.) So moving in was more so to take care of him than anything else. My husband and children stayed back so my oldest can finish her school year and I can focus on my dad before he had his back surgery on March 1st, 2024.
At first my dad told me he only wanted us to take over the mortgage for him. Okay no problem. Well Then mortgage turned into every bill. (Cable, electric, water, sewage, AC, etc) and we even footed the bill to replace the liner in the pool ($999) and the installation for it ($250) and the bill to fill it (water bill) which honestly was cheaper than I thought it would be not gonna lie. And our recurring purchases for the chemicals for the pool. But he pressured us into getting that pool done, like would not shut up about it. And my dad has us buy his beer and cigarettes every day except the weekends when I don’t have to go anywhere all day.
On top of that we pay for all the groceries. And clean the house every single day. (Vacuum, mop, deep kitchen cleanup, bathroom cleanup, etc)
Now while hubby and I were on separate sides of the state we were splitting bills between two households. Supporting hubby’s parents as well.
Husband and kids moved in Late March. We bit the bullet of getting the kids over here early due to the treatment they were receiving from Hubby’s dad.
I’ve had my own room this whole time, and my dad was supposed to clear out the spare room so the kids can have their own room. My dad was supposed to do this since February and he barely worked on it.
Well hubby moved in without a job lined up and I’m still building my clientele over here and our money is tight. We can’t afford groceries and my dad’s bills at this time due to our own bills coming out with no income streaming in.
My dad is saying he can’t keep paying for us (mind you it’s been a week since we been tight on funds) and we are both job hunting like crazy, putting applications in everywhere. And last night he told me “since you don’t have the money to get the kids bunk beds I’m not in a rush to work on the spare room.” I never wanted to hit anyone as much as I did in that moment considering I spent their bed fund on groceries and gas for his truck because that was the last I had and I wanted to make sure we had groceries for awhile to sustain us.
Now aside from money and cleaning, I practically have to make two meals per night because of how Picky my father is. He likes very limited food as in beef, rice and corn. Kids and hubby like everything else under the sun. I tried combining my dad’s diet and my family’s preferences into one dinner and my dad still won’t eat it. So I have to do something else for him and since he eats around 9:30-10pm at night I get to have the pleasure of dirtying up pans that I just cleaned up all over again.
And all he does all day is sit in his garage and smoke his cigarettes and drinks his beer.
He comes up with new rules almost every single day. Like my dogs can’t sit on the couch on the patio but his dog can. Tried telling me the kids can’t run in the back yard??? Like wtf. And every time he’s on the phone with his sisters all he does is complain as if we don’t do anything for him. I literally heard my aunt say “does she at least cook for you” referring to me.
My dad says he’s scared that we are gonna pack up and leave him, but at the same time I’m at my wits end and I don’t want to leave him due to his physical health, depression and more.
What would you all do?
2024.05.21 20:24 mastershake20 AITA? Told friend to stop going to bars, she freaked out.
I have a friend (debatable now) who works from home and really only has weekends to go do things. Well every weekend is the same thing, she goes out with her friends to different bars or spots. The problem with this is that she is always complaining about her financial situation and how she doesn’t have money for groceries, gas, or even just eggs to last to her next paycheck. She is living paycheck to paycheck (from what she’s told me) and I would consistently help her when I could. (dog food, had a subscription going for a while. I’d send her money for gas, coffee, sometimes a few grocery hauls for her to pick up) I say this because I don’t want my friend going hungry or without life’s little pleasures because I know it’s sometimes all we have. This is where I could be the AH because she told me I was.
This Sunday she was venting about not having money for groceries or “even eggs” to last until her next paycheck. I told her she should stop going to bars every weekend if money is this much of a problem until payday again. She went off on me about how “3$ beers don’t make a difference” and how she’s so glad she has me to “enlighten her” and started saying she was so f**king stupid and I was right she shouldn’t of went out for the first time all week to enjoy herself. Before I even responded she brought up a something that had affected me deeply as I was crying about it a few days prior to her saying this. She used it as a low blow to hurt my feelings because I was “being mean for no reason” and said “whatever gets you off”. I’ve always chosen my words carefully with her because she has no boundaries and crosses whatever lines she’s aware of when offended and it’s so draining to deal with.
Knowing that she knew what she said would hurt me pushed me to say this. I told her I didn’t understand why she keeps putting herself into situations that f*k her financially when she knows what her week will be like. I told her I’m never intentionally mean to her and don’t understand why it’s her first instinct with me whenever she’s even slightly offended. I also told her I was sick of her doing this and she clearly didn’t care about hurting me and I’m tired of dealing with it. I blocked her.
Re-reading the messages I know that she was really offended because I suggested she stop going out on the only days she can but I don’t know what to say or do anymore because every single thing I do just makes her flip out and try to twist a knife. I’m tired. I’m drained. She probably is too from working all week. AITA?
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This Sunday she was venting about not having money for groceries or “even eggs” to last until her next paycheck. I told her she should stop going to bars every weekend if money is this much of a problem until payday again. She went off on me about how “3$ beers don’t make a difference” and how she’s so glad she has me to “enlighten her” and started saying she was so f**king stupid and I was right she shouldn’t of went out for the first time all week to enjoy herself. Before I even responded she brought up a something that had affected me deeply as I was crying about it a few days prior to her saying this. She used it as a low blow to hurt my feelings because I was “being mean for no reason” and said “whatever gets you off”. I’ve always chosen my words carefully with her because she has no boundaries and crosses whatever lines she’s aware of when offended and it’s so draining to deal with.
Knowing that she knew what she said would hurt me pushed me to say this. I told her I didn’t understand why she keeps putting herself into situations that f*k her financially when she knows what her week will be like. I told her I’m never intentionally mean to her and don’t understand why it’s her first instinct with me whenever she’s even slightly offended. I also told her I was sick of her doing this and she clearly didn’t care about hurting me and I’m tired of dealing with it. I blocked her.
Re-reading the messages I know that she was really offended because I suggested she stop going out on the only days she can but I don’t know what to say or do anymore because every single thing I do just makes her flip out and try to twist a knife. I’m tired. I’m drained. She probably is too from working all week. AITA?
2024.05.21 20:22 ____maple____ Perceptions of a Casual Viewer Part 3 (Mom Edition)
Update time!
For those who haven't read my previous posts, my family likes survivor, but didn't watch the season until I got back from college. I'd been watching the episodes regularly, but we want to watch the finale together, so we've been binging the season since last week trying to fully catch them up. Last time we had watched until Jem's boot in episode 5, and since then we've seen Mo, Tim, Soda, Tevin, & Hunter go! With 3 episodes left we're planning on binging tonight, it seems like we'll catch them up fully! I've been asking my mom her thoughts on everyone in the game after each binge session, so time to give you guys the latest thoughts!
Morriah - She seemed sweet, and I thought she would come back from the loss, but I don't get why she stuck with her tribe and then reversed it during the last tribal.
[Merge hit, my mom told me her top 5 were: Hunter, Tevin, Q, Soda, Tiffany (this is gonna be a real rough stretch for her Laugh out loud)]
Tim: He was fine, I liked his parent talk but he didn't stick out too too much.
Soda: I'm so sad she went! She was such a silly but sensible person, but I'm glad she made jury, she deserves it. [My mom, as you'll see later, does not like Venus, so I think she really liked Soda since the edit put them at odds.]
Tevin: [My mom literally gasped when he went home, she was shocked]. Tevin!! He was so nice and had such a good personality. I can't believe he went home because I really liked him. I wish he stayed he could've won.
Hunter: I knew it. That was so dumb he didn't use his idol, it felt like he should have. Even though he left in a stupid way, he was still my favorite. He felt like the other sensible one on a tribe of stupid people [she doesn't really feel like everyone's dumb she was just really sad he went home]
[Final 8 thoughts] < - Has not watched this episode (and everything beyond) yet
Tiffany: I really liked Tiffany up until Final 9. She just went against what she said at the beginning of the show about her keeping her cool and when she lashed out at Q I don't think it's a good sign. She should just play the idol to keep herself safe. [My mom has no idea how right that's going to be.]
Venus: I hate Venus. She's acting like nothing is her fault and keeps on taking credit for stuff which she didn't really do. If she wins I'm going to be really upset. [She's been so anti-Venus this whole time and not sure why, my sisters like her.]
Q: I'm sad to see Q go down this path. I really liked him at the start, but he keeps on giving up and he messed up so many plans and for what? I think he wanted to just go on the jury for food.
[Final 5 players thoughts]: REMINDER this is all before the F8 episode, so things can still change
Maria: She's my favorite. It feels like she's doing a lot and being very thoughtful about everything. I think I relate to her a bit too since she is a mom but I like her.
Liz: Venus and Liz better not win. All she talks about is her allergies. Why is she here if she can't even eat anything?
Charlie: He seems reasonable enough and very strategic, though I think I'm most neutral on him right now.
Ben: He's fine, I liked him more at the beginning but over time he's faded more into the background for me. [My younger sisters really like Ben]
Kenzie: I liked her least of the Yanu 3 at first, but now I think she's my favorite of those 3 and second favorite overall. She's smart and doesn't overdo it and seems like a nice person.
OK LOTS TO WRITE BUT THAT'S THE OVERALL THOUGHTS! Let me know what you think of my moms takes and hopefully part 4 will be up tonight or tomorrow morning!
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For those who haven't read my previous posts, my family likes survivor, but didn't watch the season until I got back from college. I'd been watching the episodes regularly, but we want to watch the finale together, so we've been binging the season since last week trying to fully catch them up. Last time we had watched until Jem's boot in episode 5, and since then we've seen Mo, Tim, Soda, Tevin, & Hunter go! With 3 episodes left we're planning on binging tonight, it seems like we'll catch them up fully! I've been asking my mom her thoughts on everyone in the game after each binge session, so time to give you guys the latest thoughts!
Morriah - She seemed sweet, and I thought she would come back from the loss, but I don't get why she stuck with her tribe and then reversed it during the last tribal.
[Merge hit, my mom told me her top 5 were: Hunter, Tevin, Q, Soda, Tiffany (this is gonna be a real rough stretch for her Laugh out loud)]
Tim: He was fine, I liked his parent talk but he didn't stick out too too much.
Soda: I'm so sad she went! She was such a silly but sensible person, but I'm glad she made jury, she deserves it. [My mom, as you'll see later, does not like Venus, so I think she really liked Soda since the edit put them at odds.]
Tevin: [My mom literally gasped when he went home, she was shocked]. Tevin!! He was so nice and had such a good personality. I can't believe he went home because I really liked him. I wish he stayed he could've won.
Hunter: I knew it. That was so dumb he didn't use his idol, it felt like he should have. Even though he left in a stupid way, he was still my favorite. He felt like the other sensible one on a tribe of stupid people [she doesn't really feel like everyone's dumb she was just really sad he went home]
[Final 8 thoughts] < - Has not watched this episode (and everything beyond) yet
Tiffany: I really liked Tiffany up until Final 9. She just went against what she said at the beginning of the show about her keeping her cool and when she lashed out at Q I don't think it's a good sign. She should just play the idol to keep herself safe. [My mom has no idea how right that's going to be.]
Venus: I hate Venus. She's acting like nothing is her fault and keeps on taking credit for stuff which she didn't really do. If she wins I'm going to be really upset. [She's been so anti-Venus this whole time and not sure why, my sisters like her.]
Q: I'm sad to see Q go down this path. I really liked him at the start, but he keeps on giving up and he messed up so many plans and for what? I think he wanted to just go on the jury for food.
[Final 5 players thoughts]: REMINDER this is all before the F8 episode, so things can still change
Maria: She's my favorite. It feels like she's doing a lot and being very thoughtful about everything. I think I relate to her a bit too since she is a mom but I like her.
Liz: Venus and Liz better not win. All she talks about is her allergies. Why is she here if she can't even eat anything?
Charlie: He seems reasonable enough and very strategic, though I think I'm most neutral on him right now.
Ben: He's fine, I liked him more at the beginning but over time he's faded more into the background for me. [My younger sisters really like Ben]
Kenzie: I liked her least of the Yanu 3 at first, but now I think she's my favorite of those 3 and second favorite overall. She's smart and doesn't overdo it and seems like a nice person.
OK LOTS TO WRITE BUT THAT'S THE OVERALL THOUGHTS! Let me know what you think of my moms takes and hopefully part 4 will be up tonight or tomorrow morning!
2024.05.21 20:18 eatyourgreens24 Keto really helps, but very restricted due to histamine intolerance and leaky gut
Been doing a keto diet and I feel amazing and helps keep symptoms at bay, but I can’t eat red meat or other high histamine foods or foods that aggravate leaky gut. Super restricted, not really sure how to expand on it. Surviving on chicken thighs, salmon, some turkey and olive/coconut oil. I have to take a dao supplement before the olive oil
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2024.05.21 20:17 Electrical-Pen-7056 My (65F) granddaughter (22F) blames me and her whole family for her past. AITA?
This is not a repost of a story. This is my story that has been banned and shared around. Someone keeps reporting me and I cannot see any constructive opinions
My daughter Anne has issues and a lot of horrible qualities. But she calls me every day and needs my help with basic tasks because she doesn’t have anybody anymore. No friends, partner, anybody. She had a daughter young. Her name is Sara. She didn’t treat Sara well and it caused problems within the family for years. She would isolate Sara from us the second we said something she didn’t like. But she treated her horrible. I supported her financially by buying essentials, foods, and clothes for her because Anne couldn’t be bothered.
Anne has struggled with mental illness since she was a teenager and I had to get her hospitalized twice. When Sara was growing up, it took over her. She was a neurotic control freak. Controlled how often she showered (Not letting her every day) Hid and monitored the food in the house. And we got into multiple arguments and screaming matches about Anne being odd about things. Such as not letting Sara sleep on her bed or eat at the dinner table because of her OCD fear of messes. She made her sleep and eat on the floor for years.
Every time I saw this, I yelled at my daughter and asked her why the fuck she’s treating her like that. I came over their place one evening when Sara was about 10-11, and she was screaming on the hallway floor scratching herself saying she can’t take her mother anymore. I took her out of the house for a week, and my heart broke for her.
As a toddler, I heard Sara screaming for somebody to help her. We all lived together. She would put Sara in dark hallways, closets, scare her with the dark when she’d get frustrated with her. Sara told me that she’d say things like “The aliens are coming to get you. Goodbye” and lock her bedroom door so Sara can’t get in. All I heard was screaming all the time. My daughter screams daily.
She tore her down about her looks, body, everything. When she moved out at 18, she came to my house insecure and lost.
She hasn’t spoke to Anne in over a year. It makes holidays impossible. Because I love my granddaughter. And want to see her. But she won’t even be in the same room as her mother.
And I told her “Sara, I had to forgive my mother and it freed me. You will forgive her. For yourself. You never know how you’ll feel in the future” and now she wants to stop talking to me. I’ve never excused what my daughter did. I condemned her all the time.
I did everything for her. Bought her what she needed. Took her out of the house growing up when I could. Fought endlessly with my daughter. But it’s never enough. She’s taking it out on her grandmother. I did everything I could for her. I would never excuse what my daughter did. But I remind her sometimes that life can change, and she won’t know how she feels years down the road. Nobody knows what to do in situations like this. It’s unfair that I’m the one getting blamed and forced to chose between my granddaughter, my daughter, and her other kids. I speak to my daughter still because she will use the other kids as leverage and isolate them from me.
Sara blames her whole family. Me, her dead aunt, and her uncles. For “not taking her out” but they did not know the extent of what was going on. Her uncle (my son) loves her. Always has. But Anne kept her away because the two of them didn’t talk for years. It’s unfair to blame people who love you, and did the most they could with a messed up sick situation.
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My daughter Anne has issues and a lot of horrible qualities. But she calls me every day and needs my help with basic tasks because she doesn’t have anybody anymore. No friends, partner, anybody. She had a daughter young. Her name is Sara. She didn’t treat Sara well and it caused problems within the family for years. She would isolate Sara from us the second we said something she didn’t like. But she treated her horrible. I supported her financially by buying essentials, foods, and clothes for her because Anne couldn’t be bothered.
Anne has struggled with mental illness since she was a teenager and I had to get her hospitalized twice. When Sara was growing up, it took over her. She was a neurotic control freak. Controlled how often she showered (Not letting her every day) Hid and monitored the food in the house. And we got into multiple arguments and screaming matches about Anne being odd about things. Such as not letting Sara sleep on her bed or eat at the dinner table because of her OCD fear of messes. She made her sleep and eat on the floor for years.
Every time I saw this, I yelled at my daughter and asked her why the fuck she’s treating her like that. I came over their place one evening when Sara was about 10-11, and she was screaming on the hallway floor scratching herself saying she can’t take her mother anymore. I took her out of the house for a week, and my heart broke for her.
As a toddler, I heard Sara screaming for somebody to help her. We all lived together. She would put Sara in dark hallways, closets, scare her with the dark when she’d get frustrated with her. Sara told me that she’d say things like “The aliens are coming to get you. Goodbye” and lock her bedroom door so Sara can’t get in. All I heard was screaming all the time. My daughter screams daily.
She tore her down about her looks, body, everything. When she moved out at 18, she came to my house insecure and lost.
She hasn’t spoke to Anne in over a year. It makes holidays impossible. Because I love my granddaughter. And want to see her. But she won’t even be in the same room as her mother.
And I told her “Sara, I had to forgive my mother and it freed me. You will forgive her. For yourself. You never know how you’ll feel in the future” and now she wants to stop talking to me. I’ve never excused what my daughter did. I condemned her all the time.
I did everything for her. Bought her what she needed. Took her out of the house growing up when I could. Fought endlessly with my daughter. But it’s never enough. She’s taking it out on her grandmother. I did everything I could for her. I would never excuse what my daughter did. But I remind her sometimes that life can change, and she won’t know how she feels years down the road. Nobody knows what to do in situations like this. It’s unfair that I’m the one getting blamed and forced to chose between my granddaughter, my daughter, and her other kids. I speak to my daughter still because she will use the other kids as leverage and isolate them from me.
Sara blames her whole family. Me, her dead aunt, and her uncles. For “not taking her out” but they did not know the extent of what was going on. Her uncle (my son) loves her. Always has. But Anne kept her away because the two of them didn’t talk for years. It’s unfair to blame people who love you, and did the most they could with a messed up sick situation.
2024.05.21 20:12 Necessary-Daikon1380 I went beyond the flowers one day
17th May, 2015. It was a warm day, ideal for some exploration. I think I'll go beyond the flowers today. "Never go beyond the flowers" I heard my mother's voice in my head. I had grown up hearing this, no questions asked. Jumping in the creek, picking flowers, climbing trees...I was free to do anything on the vast property grounds. Except crossing the flowers.We lived in a small cottage on a large estate, mum and I. It got lonely at times, but I had the large grounds to frolic around and it had kept me busy so far. At the cusp of teenage rebellion, though, the urge to venture beyond the flowers, into the dark woods was growing by the minute. What can possibly be out there, after all? An old saying meant to keep children out of trouble. Maybe some wolves, but I wasn't worried. I had seen the Gardner cock his gun and take down the silvery beasts. How hard could it be?
I slipped out, into the shed and carefully lifted the rifle. The metal felt strangely cold in my hands. I wasn't worried about being seen, mum was never really out back here. There were the grounds that extended for miles around me, the edge of the woods a wall in the distance. There were pretty flowers all over, it was the peak of summer after all. The flowers, however seemed to end abruptly at the treeline. We never went beyond that, remember? We never went into the woods. Proud of having made my way to the woods, I began looking around, my confidence wavering as I saw the trees up close. They loomed ahead, tall, dark...and somehow, menacing.
'Come on now, don't be silly.' It was my imagination playing tricks on me. They were trees, ordinary. Just trees, right? I almost didn't notice him. He blended well into the canopy of branches, and I would not have noticed him had the shadows not moved. He seemed as old and gnarled as the trees themselves, bony limbs and a tangle of wild hair. However, I barely saw how he looked. His eyes...so pretty...I'd never seen eyes like those. Were they blue? Brown? I can't tell you. They seemed to reflect every color of the rainbow, pitch black too, and colors I'd never known. His eyes... Ignoring the dull tingle of fear at the back of my neck, I continued looking in the man's eyes, transfixed. I didn't realise that I took a step forward. Or another. I barely noticed the dull thunk of cold metal falling on the ground. I was crossing the treeline now, he was leading me into the woods. But his eyes...out of the corner of my own eye, I noticed I could no longer see the flowers. Whatever. I couldn't look away, not now. The man stopped now, a few feet ahead of me. His eyes looking in mine. His eyes....his eyes. They were no longer pretty. They were cold and dark now, lifeless. The spell broke, and my heart was pounding in my ears. He was still looking into my eyes, as a slight smile began creeping up his face. Every fibre in my body seemed like it was on fire, as I made a blind dash for home. The trees seemed to close in on me, footsteps behind me. Any minute now. They got closer. The footsteps, the trees. So close now. So close, that I could see the flowers. Before I knew it, I was in the clearing again, crumpled among the pretty flowers. Steadying my pounding heart, I dared to look behind me. The woods were tranquil, and I was the only one around.
At home, I tried to be as normal as possible. Mum would throw a fit if she found out. I was never going out there again, that was for certain. Eager to put the whole thing behind me, I crawled into bed, exhausted. Waves of sleep lolled over me almost immediately, and I was out cold within minutes.
I had a rather sound sleep, though something was at the back of my mind. I couldn't remember what but oh well. I took out my phone to check the time, it was not long before I could go out. My eyes caught the calendar, the blank squares staring back at me. Today was 17th May, it seemed like a good day to go out and explore. I think I'll go beyond the flowers today...
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I slipped out, into the shed and carefully lifted the rifle. The metal felt strangely cold in my hands. I wasn't worried about being seen, mum was never really out back here. There were the grounds that extended for miles around me, the edge of the woods a wall in the distance. There were pretty flowers all over, it was the peak of summer after all. The flowers, however seemed to end abruptly at the treeline. We never went beyond that, remember? We never went into the woods. Proud of having made my way to the woods, I began looking around, my confidence wavering as I saw the trees up close. They loomed ahead, tall, dark...and somehow, menacing.
'Come on now, don't be silly.' It was my imagination playing tricks on me. They were trees, ordinary. Just trees, right? I almost didn't notice him. He blended well into the canopy of branches, and I would not have noticed him had the shadows not moved. He seemed as old and gnarled as the trees themselves, bony limbs and a tangle of wild hair. However, I barely saw how he looked. His eyes...so pretty...I'd never seen eyes like those. Were they blue? Brown? I can't tell you. They seemed to reflect every color of the rainbow, pitch black too, and colors I'd never known. His eyes... Ignoring the dull tingle of fear at the back of my neck, I continued looking in the man's eyes, transfixed. I didn't realise that I took a step forward. Or another. I barely noticed the dull thunk of cold metal falling on the ground. I was crossing the treeline now, he was leading me into the woods. But his eyes...out of the corner of my own eye, I noticed I could no longer see the flowers. Whatever. I couldn't look away, not now. The man stopped now, a few feet ahead of me. His eyes looking in mine. His eyes....his eyes. They were no longer pretty. They were cold and dark now, lifeless. The spell broke, and my heart was pounding in my ears. He was still looking into my eyes, as a slight smile began creeping up his face. Every fibre in my body seemed like it was on fire, as I made a blind dash for home. The trees seemed to close in on me, footsteps behind me. Any minute now. They got closer. The footsteps, the trees. So close now. So close, that I could see the flowers. Before I knew it, I was in the clearing again, crumpled among the pretty flowers. Steadying my pounding heart, I dared to look behind me. The woods were tranquil, and I was the only one around.
At home, I tried to be as normal as possible. Mum would throw a fit if she found out. I was never going out there again, that was for certain. Eager to put the whole thing behind me, I crawled into bed, exhausted. Waves of sleep lolled over me almost immediately, and I was out cold within minutes.
I had a rather sound sleep, though something was at the back of my mind. I couldn't remember what but oh well. I took out my phone to check the time, it was not long before I could go out. My eyes caught the calendar, the blank squares staring back at me. Today was 17th May, it seemed like a good day to go out and explore. I think I'll go beyond the flowers today...
2024.05.21 20:11 Sweet-Count2557 The Best Barcelona Restaurants In Spain: 2023 Guide
 | The Best Barcelona Restaurants In Spain: 2023 Guide submitted by Sweet-Count2557 to worldkidstravel [link] [comments] Are you looking for an escape? Barcelona, Spain is the perfect destination to indulge in all your desires while exploring a wonderful and unique culture. From the picturesque city streets to its world-renowned restaurants, this Mediterranean metropolis will satisfy even the most discerning traveler’s appetite. Whether you are visiting for business or pleasure, here’s why Barcelona should be at the top of your list. Barcelona Restaurants In Spain is one of Europe's finest. With a wide variety of restaurants ranging from high-end eateries serving traditional Catalan cuisine to bustling tapas bars with delicious local dishes, there is something for everyone. And don't forget about Spanish wine! Sample some of the best vintages that Spain has to offer as you dine al fresco on a terrace overlooking gorgeous views of the city skyline. No matter what type of experience you're searching for, you can find it in Barcelona's many restaurants. So pack your bags and get ready to explore - freedom awaits! Historic Cuisine Barcelona is renowned for its rich culinary heritage. The city offers a broad range of traditional recipes, many of which have been passed down through generations. This historic cuisine allows visitors to experience the local flavors and regional dishes that have become synonymous with Spanish cuisine. From classic tapas to freshly caught seafood, Barcelona has something to satisfy every palate. With an abundance of restaurants serving up these traditional dishes, it’s no surprise that dining in Barcelona can be quite a memorable experience. As one discovers the unique flavors found throughout this vibrant city, it's easy to see why Barcelona's food culture is so beloved by locals and tourists alike. Transitioning from historic tastes to modern delicacies, let's explore some of the delicious offerings available in Barcelona today. Local Delicacies Barcelona is one of the most popular cities in Spain for its Great culture, beautiful architecture, and unique cuisine. According to a recent survey by the Barcelona Chamber of Commerce, over 60% of tourists visit the city specifically to experience its local delicacies. From sausages made with locally sourced meat to Iberic cheeses and traditional paella dishes, there's something special to try on any given day in Barcelona. One of the most iconic Catalan dishes is 'Botifarra', a type of sausage that can be enjoyed as part of a meal or simply served with some bread and cheese. It is usually made from pork but sometimes includes other meats like beef or veal depending on the recipe. For those looking for something more adventurous, there are also varieties such as 'Botifarra Negra' which has been seasoned with blood! Local cheese plates are also popular in Catalonia, featuring regional favorites such as Manchego and cabrales. Paella is another must-try dish when visiting Barcelona; this classic rice-based dish originated in Valencia but has become an integral part of Spanish cuisine throughout the country. The version served in Barcelona often comes loaded with fresh seafood such as clams, mussels, and squid - all cooked together with vegetables, herbs, and spices. Of course, no meal would be complete without dessert: crema catalana is a custard tart topped with caramelized sugar while fideua pasta combines thin noodles with fish broth for a comforting finish to your meal. Seafood specialties play an important role in many authentic restaurants around town, offering visitors a chance to sample Mediterranean flavors right at their tables. Seafood Specialties Barcelona is renowned for its seafood, and it's easy to understand why. The city offers a wide range of delectable dishes that showcase the abundance of fresh catches from nearby seas. From simple yet flavorsome fish alioli to paella bursting with succulent morsels, there are plenty of delicious options available. Calamari fritters are a popular tapas staple in Barcelona and can be found across many restaurants throughout Spain. These crispy treats come served with a garlic dip and make an ideal sharing dish between friends or family. Alternatively, you could try shrimp Ajillo – prawns cooked in olive oil, garlic, white wine, and parsley. This classic Spanish dish has been enjoyed by generations and is always sure to impress. For something truly unique, you should sample some octopus stew which comes prepared with saffron rice and vegetables. This hearty meal packs quite a punch and is guaranteed to satisfy even the most discerning foodie cravings! Tapas and small plates provide an excellent way to explore all the different flavors of Barcelona's seafood scene - so don't miss out on this unique experience! Tapas And Small Plates Barcelona has a vibrant and unique food scene, especially when it comes to tapas and small plates. These two traditional Spanish dishes are an integral part of the local culture, offering visitors from around the world an opportunity to sample some of the best regional recipes. Here's what you can expect in Barcelona: Tapas features fresh fish, vegetables, and meats cooked with traditional flavors like garlic, chorizo, and olive oil. Small plates prepared with ingredients typical of Catalan cuisines such as jamon serrano (cured ham), patatas bravas (fried potatoes), and pa amb tomàquet (bread with tomato). Culinary tours through Barcelona’s famous markets where you can learn about the art of making these delicious dishes while sampling some of them yourself. Tapas bars provide a great way to explore all facets of Spanish gastronomy without having to commit to any one dish or meal. Whether it is lunchtime or late-night snacks, there is always something special waiting for you at every corner! With so many options available, it can be hard to choose which tapa or plate suits your taste buds. Let’s take a look at some popular dishes worth trying on your next trip to Barcelona. Popular Dishes To Try When dining in Barcelona, there is a wealth of delicious dishes to try. From mouth-watering paella and fideua to savory patatas bravas and calçots, Barcelona offers an array of flavorful options for any appetite. DishDescriptionPopularity LevelPaellaA traditional Valencian rice dish made with saffron, vegetables, and either seafood or chicken.High popularityFideuaSimilar to paella but made with short vermicelli noodles instead of rice. Often served with fish or shellfish.Moderate popularityPatatas BravasCrispy potatoes smothered in a spicy tomato sauce. Perfectly salty and full of flavor!Very high popularityCalçotsGrilled scallions are often served with romesco sauce as an appetizer or side dish.Low to moderate popularityEscalivadaRoasted peppers, eggplant, onions, garlic, and olive oil; usually served cold as a salad or tapaModerate popularity The flavors from this local cuisine reflect the culture of Catalonia - one that is passionate about its unique gastronomy yet open to sharing it with the world. Whether you're looking for something sweet like crema Catalana or savory such as Botifarra amb mongetes (sausage cooked with white beans), you can experience this rich Catalan culture through food when visiting Barcelona. By trying out some popular dishes from around the city, visitors will be able to get a real taste of what eating out in Barcelona is all about - sharing stories while connecting over amazing flavors! Top-Rated Restaurants Barcelona is home to some of the most celebrated restaurants in Spain, and visitors looking for a culinary experience won't be disappointed. From top-rated restaurants that have been awarded Michelin stars to highly-rated local establishments offering inventive cuisine, there are so many options when it comes to finding the best Barcelona restaurants. When visiting Barcelona, foodies should head directly to one of the award-winning restaurants in town. These eateries serve up an array of traditional dishes with modern touches, making them popular among locals and tourists alike. Some offer creative takes on classic Spanish fare while others focus on international flavors from around the world - all served up with exceptional hospitality. No matter what type of restaurant you choose, you can expect quality ingredients and masterful preparation at any of the city's best spots. From haute cuisine to humble bistros, Barcelona has something for everyone who appreciates great food. With such variety available, it's no wonder why this vibrant city draws diners from far and wide. From savoring exquisite Catalan specialties to sampling innovative global dishes, dining out in Barcelona promises a truly unforgettable experience. Now more than ever before, chefs across the city are pushing boundaries as they craft unique menus that draw upon both regional and international flavors – ready to be explored by curious taste buds! Vegetarian And Vegan Options Barcelona offers a wide array of vegan and vegetarian options that are sure to satisfy any palette. Whether you’re looking for an extensive plant-based diet or simply wanting something vegan-friendly, Barcelona is the place to be. The city boasts many fine restaurants dedicated to providing delicious meals without compromising on taste or nutrition. Vegetarian delights such as hummus platters, falafel sandwiches, and fresh salads are all made with locally sourced ingredients - guaranteeing only the best quality dishes. If you’d prefer something more indulgent, there are plenty of vegan desserts available too! From ice cream sundaes to churros filled with chocolate sauce, it's hard not to find something to suit your sweet tooth cravings. For those who want something beyond just great food, Barcelona provides some amazing romantic dining spots where couples can enjoy each other’s company in peace. The warm Mediterranean ambiance will add even more charm to the already delectable delicacies served here – making this experience truly unforgettable. With so much variety available for vegetarians and vegans alike – every meal in Barcelona promises to be nothing short of extraordinary. Taking a break from the hustle and bustle of everyday life has never been easier when there are so many unique culinary experiences waiting around every corner! Ready for romance? Let's explore the next section about romantic dining spots in Barcelona… Family-Friendly Venues Barcelona has plenty of family-friendly venues for a memorable, enjoyable meal. Whether your visit is for business or pleasure with the kids in tow, you’ll find several options to keep everyone happy and full! Kid-Friendly RestaurantsFamily RestaurantsPescaítoLa FondaOne Fish Two FishEl XiringuitoIpanemaCasa JuanchoYayaboCan LluisPetit ComitéEstimat These restaurants offer delicious food that can be enjoyed by all ages, making them ideal places to bring the whole family. From casual seafood spots like Pescaito, where you can get fried fish platters served up on newspaper print tables, to more upscale eateries like La Fonda which features Mediterranean cuisine in an elegant setting - there's something to suit every taste and budget. If you're looking for traditional Spanish fare then El Xiringuito offers delicious tapas dishes such as patatas bravas and croquetas. For some more international flavors head over to Ipanema - their Brazilian menu includes picanha steak and feijoada stew. With so many wonderful family-friendly eateries around Barcelona it's easy to have a great time and fill up without breaking the bank! Plus, each restaurant provides a unique atmosphere perfect for creating lasting memories with your loved ones. So why wait? Go out and explore the city together while enjoying some delectable eats at one of these fantastic family-friendly dining establishments! Street Food Scene In Barcelona As if the world was a playground, Barcelona's streets are lined with mouth-watering aromas of Spain's famous dishes. The city is renowned for its vibrant street food scene and night markets that fill up their narrow cobblestone alleyways. From paella to churros con chocolate, there’s something for all tastes in this bustling metropolis. Some of the most popular spots include La Boqueria market on Las Ramblas, where locals and tourists alike can find freshly grilled seafood, cured meats, and cheeses from across the country. El Born is also a great spot for traditional Spanish tapas such as patatas bravas or croquetas de jamon. For those who want an even more immersive culinary experience, Barcelona has no shortage of small restaurants tucked away in winding side alleys and courtyards serving authentic Catalan cuisine like pan con tomate y jamón serrano—a simple yet delicious combination of tomato rubbed onto toast topped with thinly sliced cured ham. There are also some amazing hidden gems scattered throughout the city offering international flavors like Mexican tacos or Indian curries. No matter what type of cuisine you crave, it won't be too hard to find something satisfying in Barcelona! The endless array of options available makes it easy to plan your own gastronomic tour through this beautiful Mediterranean city. Whether you're looking for quick bites while exploring during the day or late-night snacks after hitting up one of Barcelona's famed clubs, there's always something tantalizingly tasty waiting around every corner. Gastronomic Tours Barcelona's restaurants offer a wide variety of gastronomic experiences for every kind of foodie. Tourists can enjoy an array of culinary tours, tapas tours, cooking classes, and more to get the full flavor of Barcelona. Here are some unique activities that will tantalize your taste buds: Foodie Tours – Visit local markets or go on guided tastings with experts who specialize in Catalan cuisine. Tapas Tours – Sample various traditional tapas while exploring the city’s historical streets and monuments. Culinary Classes – Learn how to prepare authentic Spanish dishes from professional chefs in Barcelona's renowned kitchens. Cooking Experiences - Take a hands-on approach to learning about Catalan culture by preparing typical meals with experienced locals in their homes. These gastronomic tours provide visitors with an unforgettable opportunity to savor all that Barcelona has to offer. With its atmosphere and varied flavors, it is no wonder why this Mediterranean metropolis is one of Europe's top culinary destinations. Visitors can explore the rich history behind the region’s diverse cuisine while discovering new tastes and cultures along the way. From succulent seafood paella to sweet churros con chocolate, there are endless possibilities for creating lasting memories through these delightful dining experiences! Frequently Asked Questions Are Reservations Necessary To Dine In Barcelona Restaurants? Asking the age-old question of whether reservations are necessary to dine in Barcelona restaurants is like trying to solve a Rubik's cube. It can take some skill and finesse but, with patience and practice, the answer can be revealed! To begin with, it generally depends on what kind of restaurant you're planning on visiting. For instance, if you choose to visit a high-end establishment downtown then making a reservation may be essential; however, many smaller restaurants don't require one. In Spain specifically, most local eateries will not insist upon an advanced booking - particularly for lunchtime meals or during off-peak hours. Here are three tips that could help: Look up reviews online – they often indicate if reservations are recommended Check out the restaurant website – this should have more information about their policies Give them a call directly – speaking to staff members might give you the clearest insight into their practices Ultimately though, there’s no need to worry unduly about making bookings since Barcelona has so much delicious food and friendly service readily available! Whether it's tapas bars, seafood cafes or traditional bistros customers just walk right in and enjoy themselves without any hassle. There’s something wonderfully freeing in knowing exactly where your next meal is coming from without having to plan ahead too far in advance. If freedom and spontaneity sound appealing when exploring this vibrant city then luckily there are plenty of options out there which don't require reservations! What Is The Average Cost Per Person For A Meal In Barcelona? When it comes to dining out, one of the first questions we all have is what it will cost. When considering Barcelona restaurants, this question becomes even more pertinent. But how much does a meal in Barcelona typically set you back? The average cost per person for a meal at a restaurant in Barcelona can vary depending on the type of establishment and food chosen. Generally speaking, however, diners can expect to pay anywhere between: €15 - 20 for an economical lunch or dinner €25 - 40 for mid-range meals €50+ for fine dining experiences It's possible to enjoy delicious Catalan cuisine without breaking your budget; many eateries offer good value sets menus that include starter, main course & dessert from around €20/person. For those looking to save even more money but still eat well, there are numerous tapas bars offering small plates at relatively low prices. It's also worth noting that many establishments offer discounts during certain times such as early bird specials and happy hours where drinks may be heavily discounted or buy one get one free offer. So if you're planning a trip to Barcelona and want to experience its amazing culinary culture without spending too much money then make sure you do some research ahead of time so you know exactly what kind of deals are available before heading out into town! Are There Any Restaurants That Serve Traditional Catalan Cuisine? Are there any restaurants that serve traditional Catalan cuisine? The answer is a resounding yes! Anyone looking for an authentic taste of Catalonia's culinary heritage will find plenty of options in Barcelona. From cozy family-run eateries to Michelin-starred establishments, the city offers something for everyone seeking out unique and delicious dishes. Catalan cuisine has evolved over centuries and incorporates influences from all corners of the Mediterranean. Traditionally, it is richly seasoned with olive oil, garlic, onions, peppers, and tomatoes. Common ingredients include fish like anchovies and sardines cooked in different ways; vegetables such as aubergines roasted on charcoal or stewed in sauces; meats including pork sausages and grilled lamb; plus stews thickened with almonds or hazelnuts called 'Suquet'. All this can be accompanied by local wines from Penedès and Priorat regions. In search of these regional specialties, you'll find no shortage of charming restaurants around town offering up some of the best examples of Catalan cooking. Whether it's rustic tapas bars tucked away down cobbled alleys or chic bistros overlooking the port - each one promises you a tantalizing journey through Spain’s most celebrated gastronomic region. So why not embark on your own adventure today – savor the flavors of Catalan culture while exploring its vibrant streets? What Are The Best Places To Find Street Food In Barcelona? Finding the best street food in Barcelona is a great way to experience Spain's culture. From traditional Catalan dishes to classic Spanish flavors, there are plenty of options for anyone seeking an authentic culinary adventure. Whether you're looking for a romantic dinner or just want to try something new and exciting, Barcelona has some of the best street food around! From tapas bars and restaurants serving up delicious paellas to small carts with mouth-watering churros, there is no shortage of incredible places to eat when exploring this vibrant city. One popular option is La Boqueria - one of the oldest markets in Barcelona filled with stalls selling all kinds of tasty treats from fruits and vegetables to cured meats and cheeses. Not only does it offer a variety of local delicacies but also international cuisines like Mexican tacos and Italian pasta. When it comes to trying out Barcelona's famous street food, here's what you should look for: Catalan Street Food: Some examples include Pan Bagnat (a sandwich made with tuna), Calçotada (barbecue onion dish), and Escalivada (roasted peppers). Spanish Street Food: Popular items include Patatas Bravas (fried potatoes topped with spicy sauce), Croquetas de Jamón (ham croquettes), and Tapas de Chorizo (sliced sausage). Best Street Food in Barcelona: A few top picks are Focaccia con Tomate y Queso Manchego (focaccia bread topped with tomato & cheese), Albóndigas en Salsa Verde (meatballs cooked in green sauce) and Crema Catalana (custard dessert). These foods represent the country’s rich history and bring people together from all walks of life. Each bite offers a tantalizing mix of flavors that can be enjoyed any time, day or night. So why not take your taste buds on a journey through Spain’s streets by sampling some of its most iconic dishes? With so many unique eateries offering excellent quality fare at affordable prices, you won't be disappointed! Conclusion It is clear that Barcelona's culinary scene offers something for everyone. Whether you're looking for traditional Catalan cuisine, a romantic evening out, or just some delicious street food, reservations are not always necessary and the average cost per person seems quite reasonable. But what about the theory that there is no better place to find authentic Spanish fare than in Barcelona? After all of this research, I believe it may be true. The variety and quality of dishes available here really can't be found anywhere else in Spain. If you want to truly experience the best of Spanish cooking, then Barcelona restaurants should definitely be at the top of your list. With so many amazing options to choose from, why go anywhere else? |
2024.05.21 20:09 DishsUp I’m just so frustrated and do know how to proceed
TLDR: my daughter’s band instructor is sexist and racist but he keeps it to micro aggressions, so it’s super hard to prove.
This is a rant about my daughter’s (12f ) band instructor . I want to start out by saying I know these types of sexist and racist micro aggressions are not things that can really be brought up with the school, but nevertheless I don’t feel comfortable with an adult man saying them in front of a room full of preteens and young teens. I’m also very sad for the kids who live with sexist and racist stereotypes at home and then come to school and have them normalized by people like my daughter’s teacher.
So, on to the story. Yesterday my daughter came home from school and stood me that her band teacher’s wife was out of town and had been for several weeks, because her mother is on hospice care and she wants to be with her.
We had a discussion about how sad that is and related it to her great grandmother who is also currently in hospice. But then my daughter told me that the only reason her teacher mentioned this was because he looked a bit disheveled and felt the need to apologize. ( he’s the type of man who wears a 3 piece suit and meticulously styles his mustache with wax daily, to teach public school band)
He apologized that his wife was out of town, and he didn’t know how to work the laundry machine and he didn’t know where the dry cleaner is. He added to this very sad account, by stating that he doesn’t cook and the only food left in his house is granola bars. Bet he’s happy because his wife will be home soon to handle his laundry, go shopping and cook real food.
Later in the same class period, he told a white boy, who had decided to yell the N-Word across the band room, that the N- word isn’t really a bad word but we shouldn’t say it because it offends some people.
Obviously this is incorrect, there is a deep history of uses of the n-word to dehumanize , devalue, harass and other people of color. Allowing any child to think that it’s just a little offensive to some people , but not a big deal is beyond disgusting to me.
First: this is deeply disrespectful to his wife. Imagine coming home from spending weeks at your mother’s death bed, only to discover that your husband is apparently a toddler who can’t preform basic adult functions. And then having to mother him.
Second : This is infantilizing boys at a very impressionable age, it teaches them that they don’t have to be responsible for themselves.
Third: it devalues women and girls, implying t hey are only here to serve boys and men.
I’ve you’ve gotten this far, thank you. I’m just upset with society today.
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This is a rant about my daughter’s (12f ) band instructor . I want to start out by saying I know these types of sexist and racist micro aggressions are not things that can really be brought up with the school, but nevertheless I don’t feel comfortable with an adult man saying them in front of a room full of preteens and young teens. I’m also very sad for the kids who live with sexist and racist stereotypes at home and then come to school and have them normalized by people like my daughter’s teacher.
So, on to the story. Yesterday my daughter came home from school and stood me that her band teacher’s wife was out of town and had been for several weeks, because her mother is on hospice care and she wants to be with her.
We had a discussion about how sad that is and related it to her great grandmother who is also currently in hospice. But then my daughter told me that the only reason her teacher mentioned this was because he looked a bit disheveled and felt the need to apologize. ( he’s the type of man who wears a 3 piece suit and meticulously styles his mustache with wax daily, to teach public school band)
He apologized that his wife was out of town, and he didn’t know how to work the laundry machine and he didn’t know where the dry cleaner is. He added to this very sad account, by stating that he doesn’t cook and the only food left in his house is granola bars. Bet he’s happy because his wife will be home soon to handle his laundry, go shopping and cook real food.
Later in the same class period, he told a white boy, who had decided to yell the N-Word across the band room, that the N- word isn’t really a bad word but we shouldn’t say it because it offends some people.
Obviously this is incorrect, there is a deep history of uses of the n-word to dehumanize , devalue, harass and other people of color. Allowing any child to think that it’s just a little offensive to some people , but not a big deal is beyond disgusting to me.
First: this is deeply disrespectful to his wife. Imagine coming home from spending weeks at your mother’s death bed, only to discover that your husband is apparently a toddler who can’t preform basic adult functions. And then having to mother him.
Second : This is infantilizing boys at a very impressionable age, it teaches them that they don’t have to be responsible for themselves.
Third: it devalues women and girls, implying t hey are only here to serve boys and men.
I’ve you’ve gotten this far, thank you. I’m just upset with society today.
2024.05.21 20:02 DishsUp I’m just so frustrated and do know how to proceed
TLDR: my daughter’s band instructor is sexist and racist but he keeps it to micro aggressions, so it’s super hard to prove.
This is a rant about my daughter’s (12f ) band instructor . I want to start out by saying I know these types of sexist and racist micro aggressions are not things that can really be brought up with the school, but nevertheless I don’t feel comfortable with an adult man saying them in front of a room full of preteens and young teens. I’m also very sad for the kids who live with sexist and racist stereotypes at home and then come to school and have them normalized by people like my daughter’s teacher.
So, on to the story. Yesterday my daughter came home from school and stood me that her band teacher’s wife was out of town and had been for several weeks, because her mother is on hospice care and she wants to be with her.
We had a discussion about how sad that is and related it to her great grandmother who is also currently in hospice. But then my daughter told me that the only reason her teacher mentioned this was because he looked a bit disheveled and felt the need to apologize. ( he’s the type of man who wears a 3 piece suit and meticulously styles his mustache with wax daily, to teach public school band)
He apologized that his wife was out of town, and he didn’t know how to work the laundry machine and he didn’t know where the dry cleaner is. He added to this very sad account, by stating that he doesn’t cook and the only food left in his house is granola bars. Bet he’s happy because his wife will be home soon to handle his laundry, go shopping and cook real food.
Later in the same class period, he told a white boy, who had decided to yell the N-Word across the band room, that the N- word isn’t really a bad word but we shouldn’t say it because it offends some people.
Obviously this is incorrect, there is a deep history of uses of the n-word to dehumanize , devalue, harass and other people of color. Allowing any child to think that it’s just a little offensive to some people , but not a big deal is beyond disgusting to me.
First: this is deeply disrespectful to his wife. Imagine coming home from spending weeks at your mother’s death bed, only to discover that your husband is apparently a toddler who can’t preform basic adult functions. And then having to mother him.
Second : This is infantilizing boys at a very impressionable age, it teaches them that they don’t have to be responsible for themselves.
Third: it devalues women and girls, implying t hey are only here to serve boys and men.
I’ve you’ve gotten this far, thank you. I’m just upset with society today.
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This is a rant about my daughter’s (12f ) band instructor . I want to start out by saying I know these types of sexist and racist micro aggressions are not things that can really be brought up with the school, but nevertheless I don’t feel comfortable with an adult man saying them in front of a room full of preteens and young teens. I’m also very sad for the kids who live with sexist and racist stereotypes at home and then come to school and have them normalized by people like my daughter’s teacher.
So, on to the story. Yesterday my daughter came home from school and stood me that her band teacher’s wife was out of town and had been for several weeks, because her mother is on hospice care and she wants to be with her.
We had a discussion about how sad that is and related it to her great grandmother who is also currently in hospice. But then my daughter told me that the only reason her teacher mentioned this was because he looked a bit disheveled and felt the need to apologize. ( he’s the type of man who wears a 3 piece suit and meticulously styles his mustache with wax daily, to teach public school band)
He apologized that his wife was out of town, and he didn’t know how to work the laundry machine and he didn’t know where the dry cleaner is. He added to this very sad account, by stating that he doesn’t cook and the only food left in his house is granola bars. Bet he’s happy because his wife will be home soon to handle his laundry, go shopping and cook real food.
Later in the same class period, he told a white boy, who had decided to yell the N-Word across the band room, that the N- word isn’t really a bad word but we shouldn’t say it because it offends some people.
Obviously this is incorrect, there is a deep history of uses of the n-word to dehumanize , devalue, harass and other people of color. Allowing any child to think that it’s just a little offensive to some people , but not a big deal is beyond disgusting to me.
First: this is deeply disrespectful to his wife. Imagine coming home from spending weeks at your mother’s death bed, only to discover that your husband is apparently a toddler who can’t preform basic adult functions. And then having to mother him.
Second : This is infantilizing boys at a very impressionable age, it teaches them that they don’t have to be responsible for themselves.
Third: it devalues women and girls, implying t hey are only here to serve boys and men.
I’ve you’ve gotten this far, thank you. I’m just upset with society today.
2024.05.21 20:01 Outrageous-Till2753 Apology to my old self
Another post, this one is a bit different though. I sat down today, thought about my relationship with food, my body, myself really throughout my life. Because after Week 2 of “all in” recovery, I slowly see my love-handles and belly creeping back up, scared me at first, or still does but see below.
As a kid, even teenager I loved sweets, I’d oftentimes eat a lot of sweets and absolutely loved Sundays because those were the days when my family made pancakes for breakfast, I’d easily eat 8 or so pancakes and it was bliss for me as a child. During high school I had a phase where Cinammon Toast Crunch and KitKats were my favourite thing in the world, I always loved going to dinner with friends and family, loved helping my mother cook and loved school bake sales. The thing is, I also enjoyed many other things, enjoyed exercise, enjoyed grabbing beers with friends until the early morning, enjoyed video games and enjoyed travel.
Less than a year ago, I decided I felt a bit out of shape for my standards and wanted to lose a couple pounds again. Little bit more running, cutting back on the snacks and a bit more healthy food.
It turned into an addiction, an addiction that ruined all of these aspects of my life. An addiction that took the things I loved and destroyed them. Now, when I think of these things, nothing but food comes to mind. Or at least it used to. “How many calories are in x?” “What could I eat to stay within my limits?” “What game would be best to play so I don’t think about food/hunger?” It’s controlled all these aspects of my life.
I had for a short while “achieved” my absolute dream body. The one I thought I’d never have. The one I was always so slightly jealous of, the kind of body that you can see plastered on social media, on magazine covers and in movies, the body that was deemed fit and healthy. I was proud and it kept me going, trying to maintain this body. I got compliments, god did I feel confident, taking my shirt off at the beach was finally something I was looking forward to.
I also had no sex drive, my ass hurt when I sat down because there wasn’t enough fat there, I slept terribly, I had to pee every 20-30 minutes because I was chugging a gallon of water before every meal to not feel hungry. I felt invalid, because I was already eating at “maintenance” at that point, felt like nothing could be wrong because I wasn’t underweight. Felt like the dead look of my face was just something that came with being leaner than I was used to. I looked up to fitness influencers, even upped my calories to above maintenance, which still felt like a prison. I went to sleep thinking of all the things I’d eat the next day, just to pace myself at breakfast to save calories for dinner. I barely recognised myself, it felt like a stranger was controlling this body, my mind felt like it wasn’t mine anymore. It consumed me, maintaining this physique became the most important aspect of my life, a reason to cancel dates, cancel vacations, a reason to “keep going”, whatever the fuck that means.
So, sitting here, scared shitless because of the “all in” and the rapid weight gain. I want to apologise to the chubby version of myself that I guess I will inevitably return to.
I am sorry you didn’t love yourself. I am sorry you didn’t feel attractive enough. I am sorry for starving you. I am sorry for pushing through injuries and going to sleep hungry. I am sorry for not accepting our faults. I am sorry for pushing you way past what you felt comfortable with. I am sorry for masking this hell I created for us as discipline. I am sorry you didn’t enjoy your birthday dinner, sorry you couldn’t enjoy moms cooking without worrying about calories, sorry you couldn’t enjoy our last vacation because you had to run 10 kilometres to be able to eat to fullness at dinner, sorry for making you order that dumbass salad instead of the steak the next day to make up for potentially overeating. I am sorry for all the memories you missed out on because you wouldn’t let yourself have a drink. I am sorry for ever letting it get this far.
I hope for both of us, that once we get out of this shit show and food becomes normal again, that we can love our body and enjoy life to the fullest. And who knows, maybe future you can cut down on the Reese’s a tiny bit, or not, your call.
To anyone else struggling, or as I often do, feeling invalid, especially those folks without a diagnosis, those folks who aren’t underweight, those whose stories may be different, I feel you all and you’re all just as valid as anyone else. We all deserve to be free from this nightmare and to enjoy life without much worrying at all. I hope you’re all doing as well as possible and much love to this community from my end. I’m sure I’ll be right back here with another post asking for reaffirmation or reassurance. But for now, I just hope you enjoyed the read, just something I had to let off my chest.
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As a kid, even teenager I loved sweets, I’d oftentimes eat a lot of sweets and absolutely loved Sundays because those were the days when my family made pancakes for breakfast, I’d easily eat 8 or so pancakes and it was bliss for me as a child. During high school I had a phase where Cinammon Toast Crunch and KitKats were my favourite thing in the world, I always loved going to dinner with friends and family, loved helping my mother cook and loved school bake sales. The thing is, I also enjoyed many other things, enjoyed exercise, enjoyed grabbing beers with friends until the early morning, enjoyed video games and enjoyed travel.
Less than a year ago, I decided I felt a bit out of shape for my standards and wanted to lose a couple pounds again. Little bit more running, cutting back on the snacks and a bit more healthy food.
It turned into an addiction, an addiction that ruined all of these aspects of my life. An addiction that took the things I loved and destroyed them. Now, when I think of these things, nothing but food comes to mind. Or at least it used to. “How many calories are in x?” “What could I eat to stay within my limits?” “What game would be best to play so I don’t think about food/hunger?” It’s controlled all these aspects of my life.
I had for a short while “achieved” my absolute dream body. The one I thought I’d never have. The one I was always so slightly jealous of, the kind of body that you can see plastered on social media, on magazine covers and in movies, the body that was deemed fit and healthy. I was proud and it kept me going, trying to maintain this body. I got compliments, god did I feel confident, taking my shirt off at the beach was finally something I was looking forward to.
I also had no sex drive, my ass hurt when I sat down because there wasn’t enough fat there, I slept terribly, I had to pee every 20-30 minutes because I was chugging a gallon of water before every meal to not feel hungry. I felt invalid, because I was already eating at “maintenance” at that point, felt like nothing could be wrong because I wasn’t underweight. Felt like the dead look of my face was just something that came with being leaner than I was used to. I looked up to fitness influencers, even upped my calories to above maintenance, which still felt like a prison. I went to sleep thinking of all the things I’d eat the next day, just to pace myself at breakfast to save calories for dinner. I barely recognised myself, it felt like a stranger was controlling this body, my mind felt like it wasn’t mine anymore. It consumed me, maintaining this physique became the most important aspect of my life, a reason to cancel dates, cancel vacations, a reason to “keep going”, whatever the fuck that means.
So, sitting here, scared shitless because of the “all in” and the rapid weight gain. I want to apologise to the chubby version of myself that I guess I will inevitably return to.
I am sorry you didn’t love yourself. I am sorry you didn’t feel attractive enough. I am sorry for starving you. I am sorry for pushing through injuries and going to sleep hungry. I am sorry for not accepting our faults. I am sorry for pushing you way past what you felt comfortable with. I am sorry for masking this hell I created for us as discipline. I am sorry you didn’t enjoy your birthday dinner, sorry you couldn’t enjoy moms cooking without worrying about calories, sorry you couldn’t enjoy our last vacation because you had to run 10 kilometres to be able to eat to fullness at dinner, sorry for making you order that dumbass salad instead of the steak the next day to make up for potentially overeating. I am sorry for all the memories you missed out on because you wouldn’t let yourself have a drink. I am sorry for ever letting it get this far.
I hope for both of us, that once we get out of this shit show and food becomes normal again, that we can love our body and enjoy life to the fullest. And who knows, maybe future you can cut down on the Reese’s a tiny bit, or not, your call.
To anyone else struggling, or as I often do, feeling invalid, especially those folks without a diagnosis, those folks who aren’t underweight, those whose stories may be different, I feel you all and you’re all just as valid as anyone else. We all deserve to be free from this nightmare and to enjoy life without much worrying at all. I hope you’re all doing as well as possible and much love to this community from my end. I’m sure I’ll be right back here with another post asking for reaffirmation or reassurance. But for now, I just hope you enjoyed the read, just something I had to let off my chest.
2024.05.21 20:01 ThrowRA10262020 I (27m) had my girlfriend (20f) meet my longterm girlfriend (26f), how should I go about fixing this?
I (27m) have been with “Lucy” (26f) for about four years. We’ve always been very open with our relationship as we’re both polyamorous and enjoy not being restricted to monogamy. We typically keep our other partners outside of each others lives as we’re both very busy people (we’re musicians) and tend to let each other do our own thing.
About six months I met Rose (20f) on tinder and we immediately hit off and began seeing each other. She’s utterly adorable, smiley, positive, and amazing in bed, and I love being with and around her. I’ve even brought up to Lucy how much I adore Rose and appreciate her. Lucy’s not the jealous type, and agrees through Rose’s pictures and texts that she’s beautiful and sweet. With how much Lucy seemed to like Rose, I had the idea that maybe the two could be introduced. Rose is also poly and pan (Lucy is bi) so I figured that maybe the two girls would hit it off. I mean, there’s always love to go around?
I brought it up to Rose who was apprehensive. She told me that this had never been asked of her by other partners, and that she prefers to keep her partner’s partners, especially long term, separate from her relationships. I assured her that Lucy was not the jealous type and there would be no competition or cattiness, I just wanted my two favorite girls to meet and get along. She wasn’t really listening to me about it, so I dropped it for the night before asking again a week later. She seemed nervous but said okay and that perhaps meeting other partners is a normal part of polyamory and that maybe she just hadn’t learned that yet.
We made plans to go out to dinner that night, and Rose was there when we got there. She looked absolutely adorable, which Lucy told her, but Rose just kind of smiled. She wasn’t acting like her typical self, usually she’s an excitable chatterbox but she barely spoke to me or Lucy the entire time. We kept encouraging her to answer questions and tried being as warm and lowkey as possible so she’d open up, but she was acting incredibly shy (even towards me, which felt really weird). I kept trying to quietly ask her if she was okay, but she just kept nodding and drinking water.
We had been at the restaurant maybe 45 minutes before Rose started crying and shaking and breathing heavy, and she got up and left. We waited for her, but she never came back. We wrapped up dinner early and went home so I could try to call Rose, but I got her voicemail.
I woke up to a text from Rose simply asking to never do that again. I said of course and that I wanted to see her, but she asked for space and since hasn’t really been replying to my calls or texts. She hasn’t been posting her adventures on snapchat or instagram lately either, and I just miss my old happy Rose and our time together.
I don’t believe what I wanted was too extreme, and I really don’t want to lose Rose over this. How should I go about this? I’m worried she doesn’t feel comfortable around me anymore, and Lucy is upset that the night went so poorly. I just want everyone to be happy.
tldr: My long term girlfriend seemed to like my girlfriend, so I wanted them to meet and my non-longterm girlfriend did not react or handle it well.
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About six months I met Rose (20f) on tinder and we immediately hit off and began seeing each other. She’s utterly adorable, smiley, positive, and amazing in bed, and I love being with and around her. I’ve even brought up to Lucy how much I adore Rose and appreciate her. Lucy’s not the jealous type, and agrees through Rose’s pictures and texts that she’s beautiful and sweet. With how much Lucy seemed to like Rose, I had the idea that maybe the two could be introduced. Rose is also poly and pan (Lucy is bi) so I figured that maybe the two girls would hit it off. I mean, there’s always love to go around?
I brought it up to Rose who was apprehensive. She told me that this had never been asked of her by other partners, and that she prefers to keep her partner’s partners, especially long term, separate from her relationships. I assured her that Lucy was not the jealous type and there would be no competition or cattiness, I just wanted my two favorite girls to meet and get along. She wasn’t really listening to me about it, so I dropped it for the night before asking again a week later. She seemed nervous but said okay and that perhaps meeting other partners is a normal part of polyamory and that maybe she just hadn’t learned that yet.
We made plans to go out to dinner that night, and Rose was there when we got there. She looked absolutely adorable, which Lucy told her, but Rose just kind of smiled. She wasn’t acting like her typical self, usually she’s an excitable chatterbox but she barely spoke to me or Lucy the entire time. We kept encouraging her to answer questions and tried being as warm and lowkey as possible so she’d open up, but she was acting incredibly shy (even towards me, which felt really weird). I kept trying to quietly ask her if she was okay, but she just kept nodding and drinking water.
We had been at the restaurant maybe 45 minutes before Rose started crying and shaking and breathing heavy, and she got up and left. We waited for her, but she never came back. We wrapped up dinner early and went home so I could try to call Rose, but I got her voicemail.
I woke up to a text from Rose simply asking to never do that again. I said of course and that I wanted to see her, but she asked for space and since hasn’t really been replying to my calls or texts. She hasn’t been posting her adventures on snapchat or instagram lately either, and I just miss my old happy Rose and our time together.
I don’t believe what I wanted was too extreme, and I really don’t want to lose Rose over this. How should I go about this? I’m worried she doesn’t feel comfortable around me anymore, and Lucy is upset that the night went so poorly. I just want everyone to be happy.
tldr: My long term girlfriend seemed to like my girlfriend, so I wanted them to meet and my non-longterm girlfriend did not react or handle it well.
2024.05.21 20:00 marieantoilette How to avoid worsening CFS if getting flu/covid is bad and your friends are working in close contact jobs like kindergarden? I'm starting to be paranoid to even meet friends with a minor cold.
I'm 25, biologically male. It's not yet entirely certain that I have CFS, mind you. But after a mild(ish) case of covid early January I have suddenly had a few crashes multiple times after feeling "like I'm fit again", even when just seeing some friends for a few hours. I also have autism and already experienced post covid symptoms last year for three months where I couldn't walk without pain anymore, never explained. Autism also increases the risk of long covid, so I guess that's why I got the double whammy inspite of two very mild infections. Now, assuming I have CFS.
TL;DR at the end, the next two paragraphs are some basic ranting of a newbie here. But my biggest question is the final paragraph.
[You can skip my personal history, but some rant: Now too much screen time gives me a headache, and when I get overly excited during a good phase I'm all gucci until I lie down for a second and my body allows me to, well, crash. This is not foreign to me as autist but has never been so bad in my life, not to mention lasting longer than a day or two. It takes so long to get better. Realized something was off when I crashed after every dentist visit (bad teeth due to depression as a teenager x)). I don't experience muscle aches though, no brain fog. Just headache when too much screen time, severe fatigue for a week when, say, making the mistake to go big shopping and cooking the same day. I have however travelled 500 kilometres with a train to meet my long-distance partner (:c) and while I was a bit fatigued, it was okay by being vigilant and not do much. I'm nigh always wearing ear protection and sunglasses outside now because that is stressful to me. Driving a car too long gives me a headache too. Everything works on its own, but if I do too much one day, I'll get it coming. Headaches and body fatigue seem to come independently from one another, at least.]
t's been over four months now and I'm very worried. Maybe it's not CFS, but for some peace of mind let's assume for this question that it is. I am good at accepting things that I can't control. But I don't want the pain to get worse. I have lost a lot of weight in these past months because of lack of exercise (which in my case is not good because I'm very slim) but exercise also seems to be unadvisable. What triggers worsening the condition is what I'm trying to learn right now. Minor fatigue or bad crashes and then just keep going, like having a broken foot that will heal, but not if you stubbornly keep walking with it? Or is any crash a risk?
TL;DR: Now if every covid infection is according to some statistics associated with a higher risk of post covid (of any kind), that seems like a grandiose fatalist fact to me. Because is one to avoid that? Should I never leave my house again? (Hyperbole.. or... shouldn't I?) I have read how severe CFS looks and while I am absolutely unable to work, at all, thankfully I live in a country that helps me out with the minimum (paid flat and some change for food). That's all fine and dandy, but every year, one risks to catch a cold. This cold may very well be covid. In fact, in my experience this has been unavoidable every year, I have been infected with covid a couple of times. My friends are all working in kindergardens or as ergotherapists and if there's something out there, they'll probably get it. Not to mention some of them like to party. I don't want to lose these friends though. Then I'm really all alone.
Are we to gamble never to get covid, or any upcoming virus, ever? Vaccinations, sure, but I'm just asking, realistically, what are the odds? Probably this is a "welcome to being a risk patient" situation, but with 25 I have plenty of years to utterly crash since every single case of flu/covid risks me getting worse, so how am I supposed to not just expect that to happen? I'm very scared. Thanks for any advise.
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TL;DR at the end, the next two paragraphs are some basic ranting of a newbie here. But my biggest question is the final paragraph.
[You can skip my personal history, but some rant: Now too much screen time gives me a headache, and when I get overly excited during a good phase I'm all gucci until I lie down for a second and my body allows me to, well, crash. This is not foreign to me as autist but has never been so bad in my life, not to mention lasting longer than a day or two. It takes so long to get better. Realized something was off when I crashed after every dentist visit (bad teeth due to depression as a teenager x)). I don't experience muscle aches though, no brain fog. Just headache when too much screen time, severe fatigue for a week when, say, making the mistake to go big shopping and cooking the same day. I have however travelled 500 kilometres with a train to meet my long-distance partner (:c) and while I was a bit fatigued, it was okay by being vigilant and not do much. I'm nigh always wearing ear protection and sunglasses outside now because that is stressful to me. Driving a car too long gives me a headache too. Everything works on its own, but if I do too much one day, I'll get it coming. Headaches and body fatigue seem to come independently from one another, at least.]
t's been over four months now and I'm very worried. Maybe it's not CFS, but for some peace of mind let's assume for this question that it is. I am good at accepting things that I can't control. But I don't want the pain to get worse. I have lost a lot of weight in these past months because of lack of exercise (which in my case is not good because I'm very slim) but exercise also seems to be unadvisable. What triggers worsening the condition is what I'm trying to learn right now. Minor fatigue or bad crashes and then just keep going, like having a broken foot that will heal, but not if you stubbornly keep walking with it? Or is any crash a risk?
TL;DR: Now if every covid infection is according to some statistics associated with a higher risk of post covid (of any kind), that seems like a grandiose fatalist fact to me. Because is one to avoid that? Should I never leave my house again? (Hyperbole.. or... shouldn't I?) I have read how severe CFS looks and while I am absolutely unable to work, at all, thankfully I live in a country that helps me out with the minimum (paid flat and some change for food). That's all fine and dandy, but every year, one risks to catch a cold. This cold may very well be covid. In fact, in my experience this has been unavoidable every year, I have been infected with covid a couple of times. My friends are all working in kindergardens or as ergotherapists and if there's something out there, they'll probably get it. Not to mention some of them like to party. I don't want to lose these friends though. Then I'm really all alone.
Are we to gamble never to get covid, or any upcoming virus, ever? Vaccinations, sure, but I'm just asking, realistically, what are the odds? Probably this is a "welcome to being a risk patient" situation, but with 25 I have plenty of years to utterly crash since every single case of flu/covid risks me getting worse, so how am I supposed to not just expect that to happen? I'm very scared. Thanks for any advise.
2024.05.21 19:58 IncidentIll3963 Losing attraction for my husband
I think I’m losing attraction for my husband. We’ve been married for 2 years at feeling ko nababawasan na yung attraction ko sa kanya and natatakot ako na magtuloy tuloy.
Here are my reasons: 1. I’m concerned about his heath. He’s overweight and we are trying to conceive that is why this one is a big deal for me. Ilang beses nadin kaming nagusap how he can improve pero parang wala syang enough effort to be fit and we all know na dapat sa kanya manggaling yung determination to do something about it or else hindi ko sya mattulungan. Yes, inopen ko na sa kanya many times and he keeps promising na he’ll do something abt it. He tries pero minimal effort. I’m also helping him by inviting him mag jog/ exercise pero talagang ako ang nag iinitiate. I’m also sending him vids to inspire him and bumibili ako ng healthy food for us. So frustrating kasi alam kong kaya nya kasi nagawa naman nya maging fit before. So anong problema? Yes, we are on the same page of wanting to have a baby. Both praying for it 🙏🏻
So I’d like your insights please. Especially sa married women out there, what should be my approach? Any similar experiences? How did you compromise or accept the ugly parts of ur marriage? I don’t want to sound like a nagger kung paulit ulit kong sinasabi mga concerns ko. We already had mature conversations and fights abt this pero eto padin kami with our unresolved issues.
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Here are my reasons: 1. I’m concerned about his heath. He’s overweight and we are trying to conceive that is why this one is a big deal for me. Ilang beses nadin kaming nagusap how he can improve pero parang wala syang enough effort to be fit and we all know na dapat sa kanya manggaling yung determination to do something about it or else hindi ko sya mattulungan. Yes, inopen ko na sa kanya many times and he keeps promising na he’ll do something abt it. He tries pero minimal effort. I’m also helping him by inviting him mag jog/ exercise pero talagang ako ang nag iinitiate. I’m also sending him vids to inspire him and bumibili ako ng healthy food for us. So frustrating kasi alam kong kaya nya kasi nagawa naman nya maging fit before. So anong problema? Yes, we are on the same page of wanting to have a baby. Both praying for it 🙏🏻
- He does not seem to care much about his hygiene anymore. Nung magjowa palang kami hindi naman ganto or dahil hindi lang kami magkasama sa isang bahay kaya hindi ko napapansin or pwede din na sobrang comfortable na nya sa akin. Parang he doesn’t care about how he looks for me and I think that is still important even when ur already married??? Parang it’s turning me off. Na-open ko nadin sya pero parang same effort lang.
- Dati okay lang sa akin na magkaiba kami ng trip. Mas magala ako sa kanya and he’s a home buddy. Hindi nya ako nrrestrict to go out with friends or have a date with myself pero minsan nallungkot ako kasi dapat sya yung kasama ko mag enjoy. Pag sa dates, “ikaw bahala” “kahit anong gusto mo” ang input nya. Minsan nakakasawa na ako nalang palagi ang nagddecide.
- (This one is really not a main issue pero a contributing factor). I’m more financially stable than him. Kaya din siguro wala syang gana pag ang topic namin is travel or places we wanna go. Mejo nanibago lang din ako dahil nung single ako, I traveled a lot and talagang naeenjoy ko having new experiences. I want to experience this with him especially now na wala pa kaming anak pero ramdam ko yung restriction nya and nakakawala din ng gana.
So I’d like your insights please. Especially sa married women out there, what should be my approach? Any similar experiences? How did you compromise or accept the ugly parts of ur marriage? I don’t want to sound like a nagger kung paulit ulit kong sinasabi mga concerns ko. We already had mature conversations and fights abt this pero eto padin kami with our unresolved issues.
2024.05.21 19:58 Wyvrex I heard we were posting boomers eating up obvious AI generated images. Please help this dog!
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2024.05.21 19:57 Ok-Sound3466 Dizziness/insane hunger eating more?
The past week I’ve increased my calories maybe by like 500. I wasn’t high restricting, I was on 1800 but I exercise a lot. Anyways now I am eating more and have gained a little weight (i think it’s water weight idrk it’s only been a week) but I’ve noticed I am much more hungry and food isn’t satisfying me despite eating protein and more calories. I also keep getting dizzy and my HR is lower than normal.
I wanted to increase more but the increased hunger puts me off bc it makes no sense.
Has anyone else experienced similar, how do you manage it?
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I wanted to increase more but the increased hunger puts me off bc it makes no sense.
Has anyone else experienced similar, how do you manage it?
2024.05.21 19:55 iiililiiilii Capricorn man here! Please help me understand Cancer women 😭
I’m a (22, M) Capricorn man who has a crush on a wonderful (21, F) Cancer woman. We met a week before finals week (school was ending); we go to the same university.
Here’s the context (sorry if this is too long):
How we first met was due to her needing help editing her dance video (she is a dance major) and I was called up to help her edit her video (I’m a film production major). When we were working together, she pointed to a guy in the video who was in her dance team and told me she had a huge crush on him. She even told me she confessed her love to him but it didn’t work out because of his sexuality status. I was sort of mad? b/c why would someone I just met make me jealous like that. Anyways, towards the end before we departed, I asked her if she had any finals to study for next week. She said yes, but she told me she does’t know what to do because she has a lot of free. As soon as she said that, my overthinking and delulu cap mind thought she was hinting that I should ask her out for food or something. So I did. She said yes with a smile, and we decided to get food during finals week next week.
Finals week approaches, I pick her up, we go get food. I've read that Cancers can be initially shy and reserved until they feel comfortable with someone to open up. But she was not shy at all – very bubbly. I could see her blush a bit, but even on the way to the restaurant, she was the one leading the conversation and even at the restaurant. She was asking a lot of questions to learn more about me – I think it also has to do with the cross cultural curiosity too because we are both from different countries. But she would ask questions like what I want to do in the future, etc. Then she also shared a lot about her family which I thought she was opening up a lot compared to what I've read about Cancer women. She told me about her mother, her sisters, etc and how excited she was to go back to see them soon.
After the food date(?) or thing (I think we were there for like two hours), I tried to be romantic or more respectful, I guess, so I opened the passenger door for her to get in, and as I was walking over to my side of the car to get in, I peaked over her and she was smiling and I could see her blush (again, I don’t know if its a capricorn thing but I really try to observe every little detail and overthink them every night). Anyways, I dropped her off at her dorm, I got out of the car to say goodbye, she opened her arms to give me a hug. We said goodbye but I didn’t really say too much about next plans because I didn’t want to be rushing or pushing and also summer break literally was about to start, and also I just met her.
Any advice from those who understand Cancer women's behavior better or insights from fellow Capricorn individuals who have been in similar situations would be greatly appreciated. What does this show about her? My delulu mind keeps overthinking to the point where I’m reading all about Cancer women on reddit and trying to confirm if she perhaps is into me or maybe she is just an outgoing person who just likes food dates with random people for fun 💀
Thank you all for your astrological wisdom and guidance!
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Here’s the context (sorry if this is too long):
How we first met was due to her needing help editing her dance video (she is a dance major) and I was called up to help her edit her video (I’m a film production major). When we were working together, she pointed to a guy in the video who was in her dance team and told me she had a huge crush on him. She even told me she confessed her love to him but it didn’t work out because of his sexuality status. I was sort of mad? b/c why would someone I just met make me jealous like that. Anyways, towards the end before we departed, I asked her if she had any finals to study for next week. She said yes, but she told me she does’t know what to do because she has a lot of free. As soon as she said that, my overthinking and delulu cap mind thought she was hinting that I should ask her out for food or something. So I did. She said yes with a smile, and we decided to get food during finals week next week.
Finals week approaches, I pick her up, we go get food. I've read that Cancers can be initially shy and reserved until they feel comfortable with someone to open up. But she was not shy at all – very bubbly. I could see her blush a bit, but even on the way to the restaurant, she was the one leading the conversation and even at the restaurant. She was asking a lot of questions to learn more about me – I think it also has to do with the cross cultural curiosity too because we are both from different countries. But she would ask questions like what I want to do in the future, etc. Then she also shared a lot about her family which I thought she was opening up a lot compared to what I've read about Cancer women. She told me about her mother, her sisters, etc and how excited she was to go back to see them soon.
After the food date(?) or thing (I think we were there for like two hours), I tried to be romantic or more respectful, I guess, so I opened the passenger door for her to get in, and as I was walking over to my side of the car to get in, I peaked over her and she was smiling and I could see her blush (again, I don’t know if its a capricorn thing but I really try to observe every little detail and overthink them every night). Anyways, I dropped her off at her dorm, I got out of the car to say goodbye, she opened her arms to give me a hug. We said goodbye but I didn’t really say too much about next plans because I didn’t want to be rushing or pushing and also summer break literally was about to start, and also I just met her.
Any advice from those who understand Cancer women's behavior better or insights from fellow Capricorn individuals who have been in similar situations would be greatly appreciated. What does this show about her? My delulu mind keeps overthinking to the point where I’m reading all about Cancer women on reddit and trying to confirm if she perhaps is into me or maybe she is just an outgoing person who just likes food dates with random people for fun 💀
Thank you all for your astrological wisdom and guidance!
2024.05.21 19:50 Acceptable-Luck7509 I’m still attracted to the man I had crush on when we were children
I grew up with this man when we were children. I moved out of our neighborhood when I was nine. And we found each other later in life in our 20’s, we worked at the same job. After I left we didn’t keep in contact for a couple years until he showed up at my job ( I worked fast food at the time) and we reconnected. He invited me to hang out and we hit off. We got drunk of course and he admitted he has had feeling for me since 2020 when we worked at the same job. I told him I’ve have always had a crush on him since we were children. Of course one thing led to another and you can probably guess where that lead too. But we started going out on dates and I met his son, who adored me. Things moved too fast for me and I was fresh out of a relationship and wasn’t ready to jump into another one, and I cut contact. I started back at my old job again and we ran into each other, I can’t fully explain it but I’m drawn to this man, no matter how much time has passed we find our ways back to each other and still have strong feelings for each other. And I keep dreaming of him, every night my friend said maybe it’s gods way of saying this was meant to be, but a part of me is scared to commit to this man I’m deeply attracted too.
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2024.05.21 19:49 awaken_owl I ruined my life, stuck in life, need help to start career as SDE
This will take some time to read but please do read and try to help me by any way possible.
I am a fresher, i was supposed to passout in 2023 with a offcampus offer in hand and was going to start a good career. But I stuck in issues, got into depression, faced more issues, got out of one and got another issue, need help to start out my career.
I was in B.Tech civil eng at a tier 3 clg. During my 2nd sem onwards there was covid lockdown, I knew i have no interest in civil since 1st sem only, i tried to look other fields also. i tried to switch to other branch but lockdown was there any it was not at all possible to switch at that time then I learnt some coding,programming in lockdown i got interest in it, I decided i will do this only in future, i will switch my career after degree. But I think god had something else only in mind.
I had a offer from TCS ninja (with chance to upgrade to digital) in the end of 7th sem. I had got one backlog in 6th sem, i was not able to clear the 6th sem one in first attempt due to sudden move to offline by the college just before the exam. I did not told this to anyone in the world. In 7th sem i got one more back but i still had chance to clear them in the 8th sem exam (both 6th and 7th sem backlog). But in the 8th sem things got worse for me i got into depression kind of state of mind. i almost skipped the 60-70 of semester i sat in my hostel room for days alone, i didnot had any real friend friend, there instances when i was in my room for like 2-3 days with food just little water, i was going home every sat sun but i did not let anyone at home to know about my situation, the reason for that was my study branch, i was not feeling like going to college i hated the college.
By the end my parents knew about my 7th sem failure as the result came for the 7th sem by the end of 8th sem, they were extremely tensed my father got some little high BP also after that, this got me even more tense and i refrained from telling the 6th sem one, i tried my best to get out of this that time but i got one more issue, one prof gave me NPTA (not premitted to appear in the examination for that subject) i conveyed this parents we tried inout to try getting permission to appear in exam. Tried every connections we had, acedemic connections, political, tried to get them force from a MLA of that area, but they had no mercy. I appeared in other examinations passed them all except the 6th sem one. at the end of 8th sem i had 2 backlogs but my family knew about one only, during this i got to know about many things of that college how bad it was and i just faced a little. ( for instance one prof's son was lodged into a fake copy case during exam and was suspended for 1 year). I was lot tensed and even more my parents were. I lost my TCS offer due to the clause of completing the degree in 4years only. I was hopeless, my parents settled down after a while. I tried to look for all other options I had and found i have chance to do Mtech in CS by GATE CS. I tried to attempt GATE CS 2024 and scored 39.01 marks in it. I tried to learn DSA also (still learning).I attempted the 8th sem backlog and passed it but again failed with 6th sem one. I dont know that was happening with me. I stopped showing intrest in mtech to my parents telling them i am not able to do mtech stuff, i want to do job only, i will get 2 years of exp that will be easy for me get, which they did not agree with but i tried hard and later they did agree but still forcing to do. I was trying to learn things but mind was not getting stable, I was tensed hopeless, failing at things. I attempted for VITMEE also as they also take noncs for mtech cs, and i got 1808 rank there also. I attempted for the 6th sem one this time also I am again hopeless that I will clear it this time also as i was not in any mind state that time. I am getting force now to join any job other wise do Mtech, which i cannot do due to backlog but cant even tell them now by any chance. I am trying to secure any internship kind of oppurtunity for the next 6 months. I am now out of my old mind I am now focused to get a job, I am practicing whole day started applying to opportunities. But again not getting success, I want aby kind of help you can offer me I will be forever grateful to you, any opportunity that i can fit in I just want to get some job or internship or anything to get out and make my parents a little less tensed. I am 100% guaranteeing to pass the 6th sem backlog in the next attempt(dec) for sure. ( not faking at all) I want any guidance that you can provide if you can mentor me it will be great. I know getting out of this web is hard, a little help can make it easier for me.
I am leaving my email which is non identifyable for my identity. I am not sharing identity because i am not taking any chance to get this to anyone of my circle, relative anyone. This is the first time I am sharing to anyone but dont want to share my identity. you can leave a email at my email or leave your contact like email, linkedin, or anything in comment so that i can reach out to you.
(if you think you know me by any chance please keep this to you only)
If you are reading till here thank you thank you thank you alottttt.
email: [miosedu@gmail.com](mailto:miosedu@gmail.com)
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I am a fresher, i was supposed to passout in 2023 with a offcampus offer in hand and was going to start a good career. But I stuck in issues, got into depression, faced more issues, got out of one and got another issue, need help to start out my career.
I was in B.Tech civil eng at a tier 3 clg. During my 2nd sem onwards there was covid lockdown, I knew i have no interest in civil since 1st sem only, i tried to look other fields also. i tried to switch to other branch but lockdown was there any it was not at all possible to switch at that time then I learnt some coding,programming in lockdown i got interest in it, I decided i will do this only in future, i will switch my career after degree. But I think god had something else only in mind.
I had a offer from TCS ninja (with chance to upgrade to digital) in the end of 7th sem. I had got one backlog in 6th sem, i was not able to clear the 6th sem one in first attempt due to sudden move to offline by the college just before the exam. I did not told this to anyone in the world. In 7th sem i got one more back but i still had chance to clear them in the 8th sem exam (both 6th and 7th sem backlog). But in the 8th sem things got worse for me i got into depression kind of state of mind. i almost skipped the 60-70 of semester i sat in my hostel room for days alone, i didnot had any real friend friend, there instances when i was in my room for like 2-3 days with food just little water, i was going home every sat sun but i did not let anyone at home to know about my situation, the reason for that was my study branch, i was not feeling like going to college i hated the college.
By the end my parents knew about my 7th sem failure as the result came for the 7th sem by the end of 8th sem, they were extremely tensed my father got some little high BP also after that, this got me even more tense and i refrained from telling the 6th sem one, i tried my best to get out of this that time but i got one more issue, one prof gave me NPTA (not premitted to appear in the examination for that subject) i conveyed this parents we tried inout to try getting permission to appear in exam. Tried every connections we had, acedemic connections, political, tried to get them force from a MLA of that area, but they had no mercy. I appeared in other examinations passed them all except the 6th sem one. at the end of 8th sem i had 2 backlogs but my family knew about one only, during this i got to know about many things of that college how bad it was and i just faced a little. ( for instance one prof's son was lodged into a fake copy case during exam and was suspended for 1 year). I was lot tensed and even more my parents were. I lost my TCS offer due to the clause of completing the degree in 4years only. I was hopeless, my parents settled down after a while. I tried to look for all other options I had and found i have chance to do Mtech in CS by GATE CS. I tried to attempt GATE CS 2024 and scored 39.01 marks in it. I tried to learn DSA also (still learning).I attempted the 8th sem backlog and passed it but again failed with 6th sem one. I dont know that was happening with me. I stopped showing intrest in mtech to my parents telling them i am not able to do mtech stuff, i want to do job only, i will get 2 years of exp that will be easy for me get, which they did not agree with but i tried hard and later they did agree but still forcing to do. I was trying to learn things but mind was not getting stable, I was tensed hopeless, failing at things. I attempted for VITMEE also as they also take noncs for mtech cs, and i got 1808 rank there also. I attempted for the 6th sem one this time also I am again hopeless that I will clear it this time also as i was not in any mind state that time. I am getting force now to join any job other wise do Mtech, which i cannot do due to backlog but cant even tell them now by any chance. I am trying to secure any internship kind of oppurtunity for the next 6 months. I am now out of my old mind I am now focused to get a job, I am practicing whole day started applying to opportunities. But again not getting success, I want aby kind of help you can offer me I will be forever grateful to you, any opportunity that i can fit in I just want to get some job or internship or anything to get out and make my parents a little less tensed. I am 100% guaranteeing to pass the 6th sem backlog in the next attempt(dec) for sure. ( not faking at all) I want any guidance that you can provide if you can mentor me it will be great. I know getting out of this web is hard, a little help can make it easier for me.
I am leaving my email which is non identifyable for my identity. I am not sharing identity because i am not taking any chance to get this to anyone of my circle, relative anyone. This is the first time I am sharing to anyone but dont want to share my identity. you can leave a email at my email or leave your contact like email, linkedin, or anything in comment so that i can reach out to you.
(if you think you know me by any chance please keep this to you only)
If you are reading till here thank you thank you thank you alottttt.
email: [miosedu@gmail.com](mailto:miosedu@gmail.com)
2024.05.21 19:49 Exotic_Speedster Need advice as I (25M) want to maintain friendship with my coworker (22F)
Cold and avoiding at work, best advice?
To start off, I have a girlfriend that I’ve been dating for 3 years and she (22F) has a boyfriend of 1.5 year long relationship. Her and I met at this 4 week long in person training where we stay there Monday - Friday. We got really close during this time and people at the training thought we were inseparable and some of them even flat out saying we would make a great couple.
When her and I were in the car going to get ice cream, we joked about it saying we are already in a relationship and that we have too many similarities (her words)
Then the training period ended and we got the exact same schedule for another 3 weeks, so she suggested I park my car at hers and we car pool. We did that every day for 3 weeks and during this time, I got to meet her parents a few times but almost felt like her and I got so comfortable with each other that we would say things that we don’t mean like me telling her she talks too much or she telling me I say the dumbest stuff.
Problem starts here, at work it didn’t start like this but after 2 months, it seemed like she started avoiding my eye contact or acknowledge my existence. We don’t even say hi when we walk pass each other in the office or even smile. So I returned the silent treatment back and acted cold like that for a month and out of nowhere, she texted me to see if I wanna grab lunch. I went over to her house, hung out with the dog, got coffee and lunch and came back and talked to her dad for a bit at their place.
Then boom, I see her at work the next week and she’s cold again. So I became cold too, not making any eye contact or anything, I tried to be warm but she wouldn’t even look at me sometimes. Like she despises being in the same room.
And Last night, we got sent to the hospital for our client and had a little argument about how she’s negative at work sometimes and need to brighten up a little (she told me I need to remind her that a few months back during training period) but she still laughed at my jokes that I made with our clients. All night, we never really talked to each other directly, we would only talk to our third separately but not together.
Then we got back to the office and our boss asked this girl “do you have a boyfriend” and she goes “yeah I do” and the boss asked “are you gonna keep him around?” Jokingly, which she didn’t say yes or no. Just prior to this, while on our ride back to the office, my coworker and I were talking about my relationship and how my gf and I are too different sometimes while she was sitting in the back.
At the end our shift, we walked passed each other in the hallway but avoided eye contact and didn’t say good night or smiled. Just looked each other, looked away, carried on.
So my question is, why do you think she’s being so cold at work? Or what started all this and What’s the best advice here?
I want us to be good friends and be able to make jokes like we used to during training but something along the line went wrong.
TL:DR - I’m (26M) in a committed relationship and so does she (22F). We were inseparable when we attended training and work for 2 months spending every day and now at work, we are hot and cold. During our cold time, she did ask to get coffee and it was good time. Now back to cold again not even making eye contact or say hi when we walk pass each other.
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To start off, I have a girlfriend that I’ve been dating for 3 years and she (22F) has a boyfriend of 1.5 year long relationship. Her and I met at this 4 week long in person training where we stay there Monday - Friday. We got really close during this time and people at the training thought we were inseparable and some of them even flat out saying we would make a great couple.
When her and I were in the car going to get ice cream, we joked about it saying we are already in a relationship and that we have too many similarities (her words)
Then the training period ended and we got the exact same schedule for another 3 weeks, so she suggested I park my car at hers and we car pool. We did that every day for 3 weeks and during this time, I got to meet her parents a few times but almost felt like her and I got so comfortable with each other that we would say things that we don’t mean like me telling her she talks too much or she telling me I say the dumbest stuff.
Problem starts here, at work it didn’t start like this but after 2 months, it seemed like she started avoiding my eye contact or acknowledge my existence. We don’t even say hi when we walk pass each other in the office or even smile. So I returned the silent treatment back and acted cold like that for a month and out of nowhere, she texted me to see if I wanna grab lunch. I went over to her house, hung out with the dog, got coffee and lunch and came back and talked to her dad for a bit at their place.
Then boom, I see her at work the next week and she’s cold again. So I became cold too, not making any eye contact or anything, I tried to be warm but she wouldn’t even look at me sometimes. Like she despises being in the same room.
And Last night, we got sent to the hospital for our client and had a little argument about how she’s negative at work sometimes and need to brighten up a little (she told me I need to remind her that a few months back during training period) but she still laughed at my jokes that I made with our clients. All night, we never really talked to each other directly, we would only talk to our third separately but not together.
Then we got back to the office and our boss asked this girl “do you have a boyfriend” and she goes “yeah I do” and the boss asked “are you gonna keep him around?” Jokingly, which she didn’t say yes or no. Just prior to this, while on our ride back to the office, my coworker and I were talking about my relationship and how my gf and I are too different sometimes while she was sitting in the back.
At the end our shift, we walked passed each other in the hallway but avoided eye contact and didn’t say good night or smiled. Just looked each other, looked away, carried on.
So my question is, why do you think she’s being so cold at work? Or what started all this and What’s the best advice here?
I want us to be good friends and be able to make jokes like we used to during training but something along the line went wrong.
TL:DR - I’m (26M) in a committed relationship and so does she (22F). We were inseparable when we attended training and work for 2 months spending every day and now at work, we are hot and cold. During our cold time, she did ask to get coffee and it was good time. Now back to cold again not even making eye contact or say hi when we walk pass each other.
2024.05.21 19:49 IncidentIll3963 Losing attraction for my husband
I think I’m losing attraction for my husband. We’ve been married for 2 years at feeling ko nababawasan na yung attraction ko sa kanya and natatakot ako na magtuloy tuloy.
Here are my reasons: 1. I’m concerned about his heath. He’s overweight and we are trying to conceive that is why this one is a big deal for me. Ilang beses nadin kaming nagusap how he can improve pero parang wala syang enough effort to be fit and we all know na dapat sa kanya manggaling yung determination to do something about it or else hindi ko sya mattulungan. Yes, inopen ko na sa kanya many times and he keeps promising na he’ll do something abt it. He tries pero minimal effort. I’m also helping him by inviting him mag jog/ exercise pero talagang ako ang nag iinitiate. I’m also sending him vids to inspire him and bumibili ako ng healthy food for us. So frustrating kasi alam kong kaya nya kasi nagawa naman nya maging fit before. So anong problema? Yes, we are on the same page of wanting to have a baby. Both praying for it 🙏🏻
So I’d like your insights please. Especially sa married women out there, what should be my approach? Any similar experiences? How did you compromise or accept the ugly parts of ur marriage? I don’t want to sound like a nagger kung paulit ulit kong sinasabi mga concerns ko. We already had mature conversations and fights abt this pero eto padin kami with our unresolved issues.
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Here are my reasons: 1. I’m concerned about his heath. He’s overweight and we are trying to conceive that is why this one is a big deal for me. Ilang beses nadin kaming nagusap how he can improve pero parang wala syang enough effort to be fit and we all know na dapat sa kanya manggaling yung determination to do something about it or else hindi ko sya mattulungan. Yes, inopen ko na sa kanya many times and he keeps promising na he’ll do something abt it. He tries pero minimal effort. I’m also helping him by inviting him mag jog/ exercise pero talagang ako ang nag iinitiate. I’m also sending him vids to inspire him and bumibili ako ng healthy food for us. So frustrating kasi alam kong kaya nya kasi nagawa naman nya maging fit before. So anong problema? Yes, we are on the same page of wanting to have a baby. Both praying for it 🙏🏻
- He does not seem to care much about his hygiene anymore. Nung magjowa palang kami hindi naman ganto or dahil hindi lang kami magkasama sa isang bahay kaya hindi ko napapansin or pwede din na sobrang comfortable na nya sa akin. Parang he doesn’t care about how he looks for me and I think that is still important even when ur already married??? Parang it’s turning me off. Na-open ko nadin sya pero parang same effort lang.
- Dati okay lang sa akin na magkaiba kami ng trip. Mas magala ako sa kanya and he’s a home buddy. Hindi nya ako nrrestrict to go out with friends or have a date with myself pero minsan nallungkot ako kasi dapat sya yung kasama ko mag enjoy. Pag sa dates, “ikaw bahala” “kahit anong gusto mo” ang input nya. Minsan nakakasawa na ako nalang palagi ang nagddecide.
- (This one is really not a main issue pero a contributing factor). I’m more financially stable than him. Kaya din siguro wala syang gana pag ang topic namin is travel or places we wanna go. Mejo nanibago lang din ako dahil nung single ako, I traveled a lot and talagang naeenjoy ko having new experiences. I want to experience this with him especially now na wala pa kaming anak pero ramdam ko yung restriction nya and nakakawala din ng gana.
So I’d like your insights please. Especially sa married women out there, what should be my approach? Any similar experiences? How did you compromise or accept the ugly parts of ur marriage? I don’t want to sound like a nagger kung paulit ulit kong sinasabi mga concerns ko. We already had mature conversations and fights abt this pero eto padin kami with our unresolved issues.
2024.05.21 19:49 wateredcoffeedown Feeling lost and hopeless, hoping for some kind of direction
I'm sorry to be posting something negative, I'd avoid reading this if you want to stay in a good headspace. I'm hoping for some kind of guidance.Not suicidal! TW: Death
For those of you who don't feel like reading all of this, I'll add a tl;dr at the end.
I've been wary of posting about what I'm going through in any public space beyond general feelings I'm experiencing, for several reasons. I don't want it to somehow effect other people the same way it has me, I feel like what I have experienced is fully my fault and that I'm the only person who can change it, and I don't want to put more negativity into anyone's life, especially since I'm not paying for a service here. I also don't really want other people's beliefs to effect my issue, but it is what it is at this point.
That said, I really don't know how to proceed with my life. I hope I can gain some guidance, and that the many others who are facing similar if not identical issues might be helped with anything that comes from this.
So here's where the problem comes in. I've had OCD since I was a young teenager if not all my life to some extent. Diagnosed in 2021, but definitely was dealing with it wayyy earlier. My obsessions always fixated on religion prior to that point, but suddenly with my influx of successful manifestations, I became constantly fixating on accidentally manifesting something very bad. I would get the intrusive thought that my partner was going to die or be hit by a car. I did everything I possibly could to think the opposite, to assume she would be perfectly okay. To read every resource I could and manifest a long, healthy life for her. The thoughts didn't stop.
It went on for 3 straight years, every day, every hour. I was paralyzed by these intrusive thoughts. I tried to manifest the thoughts away as well, but they didn't budge. After years of this, I began to really notice that the bad things were taking their sweet time to happen. Nothing ever happened to her because of my thoughts. Things started to get better. I stuffed spirituality as a whole into a dark corner in the back of my mind and decided to never touch it again.
Then one day, I realized that there were some things I would really love to achieve or change in my life, and decided to get back into it again. Nothing bad ever happened from it in the past, so why not play around with the real life video game cheats again. Almost immediately, I became fixated on accidentally manifesting my own death.
Once again, every day, every hour for the past 1.5 years I've been fixated on it. Constantly thinking about whether or not I'm going to die, whether this is the day or tomorrow is the day. Many days I was convinced it was going to happen, and it did not. I was grateful, but the thoughts and feelings of impending doom never went away.
I feel weak and abused by myself. I feel like I caused this all to happen to myself by, as many in the manifesting communities say, "Living in a victim mentality". I often feel hopeless, as I do today. Really the only reassurance is that I'm currently alive somehow. I don't really care about dying, I just don't want to cause it to happen to myself. I don't want to be too weak to even save my own life. I have tried extremely hard to solve this problem. There were weeks last year where I hardly slept at all because every moment was spent trying to "Occupy the state of surviving to x age". Every time I'd feel like giving up, part of me would find the willpower to try again. But it's been a long time and I'm losing steam.
This is already EXTREMELY long so I appreciate anyone who has read through this a lot. So without going to deep into things, at some point in this process, I got into Buddhism and specifically learning to experience suffering instead of trying to change it. This was super helpful for me, but I'm still suffering, and can still manifest other things. Because of this, I ended up going long periods of time, just allowing my thoughts to do whatever they wanted to. Sometimes I'd be convinced it was going to kill me, but I decided to just let it come and go. This really helps, but I keep jumping back to feeling like I have to do something to survive.
I'll cap it there. Thanks so much for reading. Any thoughts or advice related to the spirituality aspect of this, besides the obvious amount that I need therapy?
tl;dr: got super into manifestation, became extremely fixated on accidentally killing myself with it. proceeded to suffer. hoping for helpful advice
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For those of you who don't feel like reading all of this, I'll add a tl;dr at the end.
I've been wary of posting about what I'm going through in any public space beyond general feelings I'm experiencing, for several reasons. I don't want it to somehow effect other people the same way it has me, I feel like what I have experienced is fully my fault and that I'm the only person who can change it, and I don't want to put more negativity into anyone's life, especially since I'm not paying for a service here. I also don't really want other people's beliefs to effect my issue, but it is what it is at this point.
That said, I really don't know how to proceed with my life. I hope I can gain some guidance, and that the many others who are facing similar if not identical issues might be helped with anything that comes from this.
So here's where the problem comes in. I've had OCD since I was a young teenager if not all my life to some extent. Diagnosed in 2021, but definitely was dealing with it wayyy earlier. My obsessions always fixated on religion prior to that point, but suddenly with my influx of successful manifestations, I became constantly fixating on accidentally manifesting something very bad. I would get the intrusive thought that my partner was going to die or be hit by a car. I did everything I possibly could to think the opposite, to assume she would be perfectly okay. To read every resource I could and manifest a long, healthy life for her. The thoughts didn't stop.
It went on for 3 straight years, every day, every hour. I was paralyzed by these intrusive thoughts. I tried to manifest the thoughts away as well, but they didn't budge. After years of this, I began to really notice that the bad things were taking their sweet time to happen. Nothing ever happened to her because of my thoughts. Things started to get better. I stuffed spirituality as a whole into a dark corner in the back of my mind and decided to never touch it again.
Then one day, I realized that there were some things I would really love to achieve or change in my life, and decided to get back into it again. Nothing bad ever happened from it in the past, so why not play around with the real life video game cheats again. Almost immediately, I became fixated on accidentally manifesting my own death.
Once again, every day, every hour for the past 1.5 years I've been fixated on it. Constantly thinking about whether or not I'm going to die, whether this is the day or tomorrow is the day. Many days I was convinced it was going to happen, and it did not. I was grateful, but the thoughts and feelings of impending doom never went away.
I feel weak and abused by myself. I feel like I caused this all to happen to myself by, as many in the manifesting communities say, "Living in a victim mentality". I often feel hopeless, as I do today. Really the only reassurance is that I'm currently alive somehow. I don't really care about dying, I just don't want to cause it to happen to myself. I don't want to be too weak to even save my own life. I have tried extremely hard to solve this problem. There were weeks last year where I hardly slept at all because every moment was spent trying to "Occupy the state of surviving to x age". Every time I'd feel like giving up, part of me would find the willpower to try again. But it's been a long time and I'm losing steam.
This is already EXTREMELY long so I appreciate anyone who has read through this a lot. So without going to deep into things, at some point in this process, I got into Buddhism and specifically learning to experience suffering instead of trying to change it. This was super helpful for me, but I'm still suffering, and can still manifest other things. Because of this, I ended up going long periods of time, just allowing my thoughts to do whatever they wanted to. Sometimes I'd be convinced it was going to kill me, but I decided to just let it come and go. This really helps, but I keep jumping back to feeling like I have to do something to survive.
I'll cap it there. Thanks so much for reading. Any thoughts or advice related to the spirituality aspect of this, besides the obvious amount that I need therapy?
tl;dr: got super into manifestation, became extremely fixated on accidentally killing myself with it. proceeded to suffer. hoping for helpful advice