Applied for my son in December 2023. Things seemed to be moving a long quickly. Early April, I had the PERC phone interview. I have not been able to have a job for about a year now due to no childcare. I have been doing random tasks and opportunities online (swagbucks, freecash, etc), selling items on Ebay, donating plasma almost twice a week, every week, and other small things, to make ends meet. It's not an easy thing to document but I had everything written out and ready to explain/list for this interview. My case workerep didn't seem to care about being accurate at all. She didn't care about half of the income items, which I assumed was because they didn't count as income for SSI, but she wasn't interested in being thorough for the other stuff either. She kept classifying my online task work as 'online gambling' when there is no gambling involved and I kept correcting her. She got very pissy and short with me and kept saying "it's the same thing", when it most definitely is not and I don't want 'online gambling' on my paperwork.
Fast forward 3 weeks later, and I don't hear anything, when I was told to expect an award letter soon. I spend a week calling and leaving messages for her, and nothing. I showed up to the local office after that and although she was working from home that day, it took no time at all for her to call me as I was leaving the place. She said she couldn't 'read' the paperwork I dropped off and said she sent in a deposit request to my bank and it should take 2 days. 2 weeks later and multiple phone calls, I show up to the office again. I start to speak with a random person that called my number and my actual case worker pops in behind her and says 'I just need her to sign something". She tells me her mentor looked over the PERC paperwork and said it wasn't sufficient. So I get handed a piece of paper and told to fill it out with all of my income, going back to August 2023. This is exactly what I was trying to do from day 1 of this part of the process. Also, not sure why they need back to August now, when I filed in December, but I did it and filled the entire page with tiny handwriting, because that's what had to be done.
This rep has dragged this out unnecessarily and is obviously new or very bad at her job. If she would have been properly thorough during the first interview, my application process would have been complete a month ago. She won't call me and doesn't tell me something needs to be done until I walk into the local SSA office and speak to someone else or her supervisor.
Does anyone have any insight into this? Has any ever experienced something like this?

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I've recently separated from my Fiance of 10 years leaving behind my home, my daughter, pets and life savings having to start again. The relationship was sour for the last 2-3 years, we weren't agreeing, the bedroom was dead and we were both becoming mentally unwell from the situation, I had stayed simply for my daughter.
Shortly before the separation me and a co-worker had began a flirtatious situation in work and after an evening of going out drinking we kissed. I felt terrible about what I had done, 2 days later I ended my relationship knowing I had become capable of something I swore to never do, I was not willing to start an affair and hurt the mother of my child like that, relationship or not she is family to me. I still feel awful about what I did.
I continued to go out with this colleague after the seperation and the same thing kept happening, we would go out, get drunk and be all over each other. She has a long distance boyfriend of 18 months, they see each other once a week max. She has stated she is unhappy in her relationship, doesn't feel the same way about him anymore and has sexual anxiety around him, they don't get up to much. She says she planned to end it past August as she has a bunch of financial stuff revolving around booked holidays and festivals with him (This has always been questionable to me)
What began as drunken displays of affection turned into nights at hotels, which eventually turned into her sleeping in my bed on the regular. Just sex turned into staying over, and drunken nights turned into meals and breakfast on the regular. We have both owned the fact we have feelings for each other and even tried and failed to turn it back into just a bit of fun. It is exactly like having a girlfriend at this point except she isn't. I enjoy my time with her, she makes me really happy but a day like today when she has to go see her boyfriend kills me. I can't have contact, feel lonely and my head just isn't in a good place.
I often feel like I should quit the situation, it's been 3 months now and I'm still in the same boat. The block of festivals and holidays are coming up soon and that's either going to make or break the situation as to if she leaves him or not. I often feel like a fool, fresh out of a relationship sucked in to a strange situation and riding it out way too long. I often wonder if there is something else stopping her from leaving him like him having pictures or a video of her. Her friends are not a fan of him at all either.
I turn 30 in November and have promised myself not to turn 30 and be unhappy, that is my absolute deadline with this situation. Friends have told me to stop, some say just enjoy it as a bit of fun, others say play it out, I'm very confused and all I know is how I feel. I love her. We work together and I see her almost everyday, I can't talk to colleagues as it's obviously a huge secret in work. I have debated a fresh start, leaving my job and moving out of town, but my company isn't doing great and I'm staying in case of redundacy pay which would help me massively right now. I am trapped in that job and trapped seeing her everyday.
Any advice would be appreciated, and yes I have questioned morals on both sides a lot.

I am switching careers from plumbing to sales and I have 3 interviews today all for roofing companies.
All 3 are well reviewed, 2 of them are local and one is based out of Indiana (red color, dog logo). 1 handles things exterior (windows, painting, gutters, siding, ect...) and is commission only. The other 2 do gutters and roofs but have base pay options plus commissions. 2 of them provide leads, while one is D2D
What kind of questions should I be asking while I'm interviewing? What sort of red flags should I be looking for while I'm at their facilities? Any other tips or advice for interviewing with roofers since I'm switching careers are greatly appreciated.

I had a job interview yesterday. Frustrating would be an understatement. I did a week's worth of work to prepare for this interview. I'm currently a nursing assistant and trying to get out of that field due to burnout. I was applying for an insurance sales job.
While that is still a very customer involved role, it's one where I'm less likely to be micromanaged, there is less company hierarchyhy, less stimulation chaos, and more room to eventually take my education and go do my own thing.
Also, it's a job where my current skills align well, but I can switch to a different career completely. Anyway, I dressed up, got there early, prepared research about the company, asked questions to ask, and presented myself in a professional manner, etc. I didn't even overly mask because I realize sometimes I do that, and it's a bad thing, and people can tell it's fake, and it's off-putting. I was myself but professional.
Immediately, I could tell the guy was not interested in interviewing me. He pulled up me resume and asked me a Q, when I would answer and attempt to make eye contact he would took at traffic outside, or fiddle w his phone and interrupted me saying "sorry traffic is really backing up out there". I was like, "wtf!" In my head. It made it so hard to concentrate on the answers I was attempting to give and staying professional.
Then he went on to talk about how he was looking for a certain right fit, and he didn't want to try to fit a "square peg in round holes" analogy for his team. When I asked him to clarify what a right fit for his team would look like, he couldn't give me a good answer. We talked about how my skills could transfer from healthcare to insurance, and I assured him I had very effective communication skills and was very efficient at deescalating people during times of conflict.
I also talked about when I worked in marketing. He didn't care and dismissed it, saying it wasn't the same. I asked him to give me an example of how it would be handled differently in insurance with an angry customer. He did (somewhat), and I told him "so pretty much effective communication.... active listening, empathy for the customer, problem solving, and escalating the issue higher if needed? Yeah, that's exactly what we do in healthcare. Also, by the end of the interview, I was just done and ready to run out of there.
But I can't help but feel like my feelings are hurt. Idk what I didn't wrong. Idk if it's because I'm older, im not a stereotypical southern blonde belle. My teeth are a little crooked, and maybe I said something wonky, idk. I wouldn't want to work for him anyway he seems like a judgmental 🍑. But I'd like to know what I didn't wrong lmao.

First of all i would like to say thank you for all of you that have been concerned and advising me to go to the vet immediately.
And also i need to answering some of your questions and explaining about my cat living conditions
• Why you have to wait for a week and didn’t go to the vet immediately?
The first time i noticed about the drool is when i saw the wet spot under his mouth and i asked my sister and my mom (they were both taking care of my cat recently since i had a busy schedules between work and uni) about that, they said “maybe he just drank water” and the weird thing is i noticed the wet spot hasn’t gone away and i have feelings that he’s not okay, and i ask them again and they said “maybe he just stressed about new people” (my aunt has been living with us for maybe a month now) and they keep denying over and over again and they said “don’t worry about him worry about your grades instead” i mean.. that’s true, but i gave them a responsibility, at least gave him some proper care or something.
• Did he lived in a garage?
Yes. My cat has been living in a garage since my aunt living with us, the thing is she’s really doesn’t like cats roaming around inside the house and have some kinda phobia towards cats, and my mom suggested that my cat should’ve kept in the garage for moment until we buy a proper cage for him. So yeah i don’t want to argue and i agreed, but in condition that her and my sister took care of it, since i rarely at home recently (i literally going home just for sleep). And thank you so much for telling me about litter box doesn’t belong near his food, that’s really explains why his bowl and his water rarely empty recently.
So my mom and my sister took him to the vet today and the doctor said he needs to check him further but his first initial test that maybe he’s dehydrating because of lack of water and because of extreme temperature that we got in Southeast Asia lately. Tomorrow we got the final results, i hope nothing serious happens to him and he’s completely fine.

This thread has been my comfort zone for a long time. I would come here and read all the posts of people who have been struggling to find a job, just like I did. My personal story is not unique to this thread, where there are probably countless stories like mine. To give some context: I'm an international student (migrant 🥲) in the UK. I have studied here for 5 years at a good university that is part of the Russell Group. I completed both my master's and bachelor's degrees with high 2.1 grades. During my university years, I had a couple of internships and some work experience in a pub. Despite my qualifications and experience, finding a graduate position was incredibly challenging.
I'll be honest, in the beginning, I wasn't really applying for jobs. My daily application rate was low, and my self-esteem suffered as I had no idea how to do it properly. What kept me going was the motivation that if I didn't do it, I would fail to live up to what my parents had provided for me. My go-to tool became a chat GTP for cover letters, tailored CVs, and sometimes interview preparations.
Out of all the interviews I had, 70% led to nothing. I applied to more than 600 jobs during this period, got around 20 interviews, and only 3 led to second/final round interviews. Interestingly, those 3 interviews that led me to the next stage came from "Quick apply" postings, which said "send your CV and Cover letter to this email." I would advise others to pay attention to the "quick apply" posts. The first company that invited me for an in-person interview was great and had interesting people. They even covered my transportation costs. However, they sent me a rejection on Sunday via an automatic reply. This devastated and demotivated me for at least a week. I wished they had sent me a personalized rejection on Monday, especially since they had brought me to the final round. On top of that, in the email, they said they would be happy to provide feedback if I requested it, but when I did request feedback, no one ever got back to me.
Just before that, I directly contacted a company called Prohibition Partners through their info email. They contacted me back and I had an interview with one of the Data Analysts. They seemed happy with me and asked me to do a research project on the Weed market in Canada to see how I can conduct market research. I completed the research and was told they would review it and get back to me, but I was ghosted.
The last interview was nice, and I got it through "Quick apply," where it said to send the CV and Cover letter directly to the recruiter's email address. The phone screening went well, and the interview stage went well too, but unfortunately, they went with a more qualified and experienced candidate.
After half a year, I finally got something - an internship that I received through a cold emailing, and I hope they will give me a returning offer afterward.
How was this whole job search experience? It was fucking horrible. I hated the repetitive workdays and fucking workday website, the same typical questions everywhere, and the re-typing of information from my CV that was already provided in the CV. It felt like they shouldn't ask for a CV if they're just going to ask for the same information again. The whole job market feels insane right now. However, stay strong, there is a chance, but you never know where it's going to come from.

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Regular public interviews given in formal and informal settings are a defining feature of the Zen records across their history.
The formal public interviews weren't limited to Zen Masters "ascending the chair" in the monastic commune and answering questions from regular Preceptors, long-distance travelers, or laypeople; the Zen records also show that we have Zen Masters being invited to the court of various potentates with Zhaozhou, Huangbo, and the various "National Teachers", such as Huizhong being prime examples. In attendance at the court interviews were occaisonally religious leaders of a Buddhist or Daoist persuasian that tried (and failed) to shut down the conversation.
Naturally, these sorts of formal interviews would be known for some time in advance and everybody would have ample time to come up with a real good question to try and nail the Zen Master with. Records of formal interviews, such as Huangbo's Transmission of Mind text involve highly educated people asking questions and follow-up questions that are evidence of the high-stakes nature of it all.
One slip up and it ends up written down.
Just as a therapist might start an engagement by asking "What brings you to therapy?" or a hiring manager might start by asking "What's your educational background?" Zen Masters and their communities frequently start of an engagement by asking a question.
A couple examples of this are the famous "What do they teach where you come from?" from Yangshan as well as the less-famous Budai's "What do you call this?"
(Found below is part of case from Budai:)

At times when the crowds on the boulevard would swell, Budai would open up his bag, dump it all out on the street, and exclaim, ”Look, look!”
He would then pick things up, item by item, whilst asking passersby, ”What do you call this!?”

Over the years at /Zen, we have put together some "standard questions" that test both people's willingness to sincerely engage with the Zen tradition of public Q & A as well as their understanding of this tradition.

Standard Questions

1) Where have you just come from?

Seeking for no dharma within; establishing no dharmas without.

2) What's your text?

I've been reading and taking extensive notes on Mingben's Illusory Man. That's the text I've come back to again and again since we first received an English translation of it from Mr. Dufficy a few years back. Part of the charm of reading Zen texts is that every single engagement involves answering the questions that the text poses as well as bringing forth different aspects of it for consideration.
It's a lot like coming back to Romeo & Juliet by watching a theatre production of a it, listening to a recording of it, or watching a film adaption of it, having read it in print.
Mingben is at the tail-end of Zen in China and the type of instruction he gives in his text seems very clearly tied to the collapse of society, literacy, and conversation around him. To wit, "Why are crows black?" is very much a non-starter for dharma-conversation in Zen.

3) Dharma low tides?

In general, people going around trying to find imaginary "high tides" to escape "low tides" just aren't engaging in Zen study. Conceiving of the Zen dharma as a matter of "tides" is like chasing after an imaginary haze in the distance in the belief that it will satisfy thirst.
Part of the history of this question on /Zen comes from the fact that religious-meditators in the not-Zen Dogenist religion were not satisfied with the results of their asceticism since it didn't resolve the doubts that initially spurred them to engage in prolonged sitting for medically and mentally unhealthy lengths of time.
As evidenced by the the decade of attempted AMA's (some of which are recorded here), the only type of answers that the religiously inclinded provide to the obviously-distressed askers of this sort of question boil down to stuff like "pray-meditate harder", "just believe", or "discuss with your Priest".
That is not Zen.
It's also the sort of stuff that pisses Zen Masters off.
Deshan:

I see that wherever you go you determine to learn Buddhism in the assembly of some old baldy, taking on a load without concern for your body or life. All of you have had your eyes nailed shut and your root of life severed. You’re like two or three hundred whores. You say your regal sway sets up the banner of the teaching to open the eyes of later generations; but can you even save yourselves?

Yunmen:

"These old shavepates everywhere! Sitting on round chairs and long [meditation] benches, they want to acquire fame and profit. Asked about Buddha, they answer 'Buddha,' and asked about patriarch they answer 'patriarch,' and they shit and piss. [What they say] is just like information passed around among boondock grannies. They don't even know good from bad!

"You're all just like them; [you ought to] have trouble to consume even water [with a good conscience]."

Zhenjing:

For no reason [people that claim to know] sit in pits of crap fooling spirits and ghosts. When people are like this, what crime is there is killing them by the thousands and feeding them to the dogs?

Hey guys,
I have a question here (first time I post something). Both of us are in our 20s (me 24M and her 25F), and we started a long-distance relationship a couple of months ago. She lives in my home country, and what began as casual chats evolved significantly due to shared values, perspectives, and life goals. It was amazing from the start, and we both felt like we had finally found each other, based on the commonalities I mentioned before. Anyone who takes this type of connection seriously understands how challenging it can be to find something like this.
Despite our busy schedules, we managed to find time at night (sometimes) or on weekends to video call, and those calls would often last for hours (and chatted extensively trough text everyday - we were on the phase of getting to know each other). Time seemed to fly by, even during a four-hour call. Our conversations flowed effortlessly, and she expressed the same sentiment. Everything she shared with me was beautiful, and I am genuinely grateful for that. I was also fully committed to making our relationship work to the best of my abilities. Seemed we found something really special in each other, worth taking care of.
However, a couple of weeks ago, she suggested that we take a step back because, as she put it, a relationship through a screen, without ever having met in person, didn't feel entirely real to her (which I understand). We got caught up in our feelings and didn’t think really through - however, I know that for some other couples might be different and this can work perfectly fine.
The idea was for both of us to focus on ourselves before deciding whether this could be something more once we finally meet in person. (I had already booked a ticket to visit home before we even met, and I'm going in three months.)
My question is: Have any of you ever experienced a similar situation, either from my perspective or hers? How did it turn out? I'm staying busy with other things, because I have a lot to do (working full time and perusing a masters degree, which takes a lot of me) - but this situation keeps crossing my mind, and I'm hoping to gain a better understanding of it through different perspectives.
Even thought I gave my word to her, I want to protect myself also… I don’t really know what she is doing or might do in this meantime. I’m afraid we might be killing it before it even started. We talk sometimes, but not that often anymore. I want to grow patient, but I also want to know where I might be possibly standing… Sometimes it gets me anxious.
Thanks a lot!

Intended to get a grad degree immediately after graduating, but I had a parent suddenly die during college and it became financially impossible to take on more debt for school. I am currently looking for a job with a degree in International Studies. I have two internships I did my junior year of college in political research and outreach. I have a senior thesis as well for my program. I also worked several part-time jobs throughout college, which were just service positions, but experience nonetheless. I have a decent GPA from a Top 100 university (not great prestige but not awful, reasonably respected in the region). I've never been either unemployed or not in school for more than a couple months.
I cannot for the life of me find a job, and with the loss of income from my parent passing, it's become really difficult to make ends meet. I need to help my disabled mom and am stressed beyond belief. I currently work a part-time job as a docent at a museum and the wage/hours are fucking terrible. I can't find a full-time job or a second part-time job. I've literally been rejected from ice cream shops and hosting jobs (even using a paired down resume with only my service experience.)
I've had my resume and cover letter reviewed by both my university career center and AI. I don't have significant gaps in my resume. I apply to around 5-6 jobs every week since I graduated in August (assuming I can find relevant positions). So I've probably sent out around a couple hundred or more at this point and have only heard back from ~20 (mostly rejections). I've had around 5 interviews, one for a paralegal position where the interviewer ROLLED their eyes at me (he was asking a non-technical question). I genuinely don't think my interview skills are that poor. Nothing special, just not obviously bad. That experience actually made me think that hiring managers were evil. :(
Is it just me or the market? I really want to go back to school and do an MS in risk management (dream career is in global risk) but I literally can't afford it or afford more debt. I'm interested in doing certs to bolster my resume, but even spending $100 on a cert course is a big investment at the moment. Not sure how to move forward but something's gotta change asap because I'm barely keeping my head above water.
My partner is in a similar position. He has a grad degree from a Top 20 school (for his field) with ample connections. He's getting interviews at impressive firms (like making it to interview round 2/3 at Jane Street). He's struggling to find employment. We graduated around the same time.
I don't think either of us are dummies or crash-outs. WTF can we do?

I applied sa isang BPO company just earlier. May tatlo akong kasama and I predicted that I'll fail kasi incomplete na questions sa akin. The interviewer has "full-vaccinated?" question in the interview. After the interview ay binigyan kami ng feedback... I wasn't successful kasi she stated na I'm still in Senior High School (Well, it's understandable naman since I was just trying lang naman) and needed nila ng College level.
Although wala namang nabanggit about sa vaccination sa feedback. And since pandemic era is already over, is it still a mandatory to be fully-vaccinated in order to apply for a job?

Hello, I thought of posting on the LDR subreddit but I think I could get some advice here.
To give you a little more context, my bf and I have been in an LDR for a year and a half. We live in different countries now, and we are looking forward to closing the gap as we are moving to the same country. He is going back to his home country, and I am moving there for my studies. We both knew this early on in the relationship, so we knew we would be able to close the gap. However, I didn't know which school I was going to back then, and my bf didn't know which city he was working in.
Now that we both decided which city we are going to live in, I realized that it's going to be another year (at least) of long-distance again. We're going to be in the same country, and it's only 2 hours apart, so it's way better than the current situation. I know I'm going to be busy studying and working part-time, and he is going to be busy working. We will be able to see each other every month or most weekends (we see each other once in 3 months now), but it's still hard that I can't see him whenever I want to (we need to plan things ahead).
I know it's up to me and we both have to make a lot of effort. And we both want to be with each other. I just don't know if this is the right thing to do for me since I realized LDR is not for me. I struggled a lot this past year and I was really excited to close the gap. I still am, but it's just draining to think about doing more long-distance.
We don't have an end date now. He suggested living together after I finish my studies, but I don't know where I'm going to get a job, I don't know whether he'll continue the job after a year (if he does and I find a job in a different city that means more long-distance). I might find a job in his city but I might not. And all this uncertainty about the future is making me question whether I'm doing the right thing.
I don't question my feelings for him, but sometimes I think love is not enough and it's important to see the reality. but I've also met someone who regrets breaking up with his GF because of the distance. I feel stuck and it'll be nice if I could get some insights. or sharing your experience would help.

My mother is a big believer that a man (specifically smart good looking man that makes 6 figures) will not want a woman who works at a low tier job as it’ll make him look bad.
In her mind, if a man‘s a doctor, engineer, or any other high paying job, a woman who’s that is better suited for him. If a man‘s a janitor, grocery store clerk, or any other low paying job, a woman who’s also that is better suited for him. It can’t (or in her case shouldn’t) be at one extreme end. She did have a couple valid points. One is there’s nothing for them to find in common & two, it’s better (and safe) to find someone who’s in the same league.
Though there’s some truth, I also recognize that love is so much more than meeting at the same hierarchy. My mom is very adamant with her statement & told me it’s how it is. I used to work as a dental assistant but it didn’t turned out well & now currently working at Walmart. My mom wanted me to work in an office job (she equates dental assisting as being one) so I can find a decent man & have a higher chance of finding my ideal type. It’s actually my fault because my ideal man, which is smart & good looking, most often work at a high paying job & my mom wanted me to realize that these type of men won’t want a woman that works at a low paying job as he’ll feel embarrassed & ashamed. I have a coworker who had a friend whose girlfriend works at a nursing home & she didn‘t feel embarrassed at all.
I’m upset. I’m upset that she had a stigma that a man & woman can’t have a loving relationship regardless of jobs & though she does have a point, it’s very black & white.
What do you guys think? Is my mom‘s perspective correct & universal? Is it sexist of her believing a man’s reputation is more important? And for those that mate regardless of jobs, how did your relationship turn out?

I applied sa isang BPO company just earlier. May tatlo akong kasama and I predicted that I'll fail kasi incomplete na questions sa akin. The interviewer has "full-vaccinated?" question in the interview. After the interview ay binigyan kami ng feedback... I wasn't successful kasi she stated na I'm still in Senior High School (Well, it's understandable naman since I was just trying lang naman) and needed nila ng College level.
Although wala namang nabanggit about sa vaccination sa feedback. And since pandemic era is already over, is it still a mandatory to be fully-vaccinated in order to apply for a job?

Hi all,
I’m looking to start selling on BrickLink - I have a lots of used Bionicle, Star Wars, Indiana Jones, etc. that I’m looking to find new homes for. In looking around a lot of New Seller posts don’t seem to be as-geared towards selling full sets, so I wanted to ask some questions and see if anyone had some advice they’d be willing to give:

• For full sets (mostly geared towards Bionicles since I have a lot more of those than I do anything else), how would you go about packing an order? Outside of placing small/easily scratched pieces into their own smaller baggie, unless the original set had numbered bags does one bag seem OK for a set?
• For those who ship full sets what size bags/shipping materials do you typically buy?

Thanks!

Hi. Before the online services for 3ds were turned off, I used to have one hacked 3ds XL and one legit (new) 3ds XL. I kept one with legit firmware to use for online play on Mario Kart 7 and, back then, for Pokémon VGC events. And, in general, for games who I legitimately owned that had online multiplayer. I didn't want to risk being banned. The hacked 3ds, instead, was for all my single player purposes (and to gen pokemon that I then sent to the legit cartridges/3ds). So that was home for jrpgs and so on.
I kept this going until basically yesterday, because since the online services are now gone my "multiplayer legit n3ds" doesn't serve its purpose anymore. So now I have two hacked 3ds (one New XL and one Old XL).
Now, on the New one, the former "legit" one, I had some legitimately purchased games and apps. Not much, but still, something. SMT4, Conception, Pokémon Y. I'm deleting some of them to make space because I'm downloading new3ds-exclusive games such as Xenoblade Chronicles and Fire Emblem Warriors. I also have installed hShop, which is amazing. My question is: If I delete a "legit" app from my New3ds, and one day I want to reinstall it, is there ANY reason to differentiate and care about WHERE I'm getting it from? If I get it legitimately from eShop or if I "pirate" it from hShop, does it change ANYTHING? Is there ANY difference whatsoever between reinstalling Pokemon Y from the eShop or pirating it from hShop? Like, idk, the "legit" savefile I backed up isn't compatible with the pirated one or vice versa. ANYTHING that would make me care for any reason whatsoever. Or, instead, are they exactly the same thing, no matter where I get them from? Because if there's any reason to download the "legit" software I own from eShop, I will download from there those few games I had if I want them again. Otherwise, I'll use hShop for anything, both apps I purchased and the ones I pirate.

She told me repeatedly that I wouldn’t want to come back after experiencing nursing in a state with good laws and unions, as a nurse that worked for UC for 30 years… I told her I’d definitely come back for a bit if for nothing but to tell everyone how it goes and maybe help improve things.
Nope, she was totally correct. I literally cannot imagine going back to work in my home state. That place SUCKS. I thought that since I was going into it knowing that it sucked by comparison, that I’d be able to think about my future plans accurately. I was wrong, haha.
I don’t think I could ever work in a state without ratios or mandatory rest breaks every again. Not to mention, the access to healthcare for the general public here is so much better… The hospital actually advances people on the pay scale instead of such a thing being basically a myth… Patients are in soooo much better health, too. Even the CNAs are well-staffed (by comparison, at least) and certainly well-equipped to do their job. It’s like night and day for me.
Staff drama, while present universally in some form, is normal instead of batshit levels of insane (or inane). All the equipment works. The charge actually makes sure things are going well. Upper management isn’t entirely unnecessary individuals lining their pockets. I feel like I’m living in a reality I didn’t know could exist.
It’s not perfect, but it’s almost the best we have in the US. Yeah, I’m not sure I could leave.
Bonus thoughts: there’s a nurse here planning on moving to the south because ratios are similar and property tax, etc. is much cheaper. I highly doubt she’s prepared for the reality of the situation—even though the ratios may be comparable where she’s going, she has no idea how much more work it is and how much worse generally the places can be… Before I left, a nurse moved to my old hospital from the East Coast for similar reasons, and immediately started bemoaning the lack of basic services (both for patients in the community and things like maintenance of city infrastructure). I was like, come on, it’s not all sunshine and tornadoes out here 😭 there’s always a catch!

I’ve been a CPT for 11 years, and fully self employed for the last 4, completely supporting myself just personal training.
I was doing quite well for myself and decided to open a facility, which I ended up closing after two years because I was constantly living in fear of being able to pay my bills.
I’m back to training clients in my home gym so no overhead but I’m honestly traumatized from the financial stress and will NEVER rent commercial space again. I’m not really happy with the home gym and there’s no way I’ll ever work for a gym again.
I’m thinking of going to nursing school, training while I go to school and then finding a nursing job. Being self employed is great but it most definitely has its pros and cons and right now the cons are higher.
I’m worried I will also regret this decision once it’s time to get a job and work for someone else. But I also can’t see myself living this lifestyle for the next 30 years.
Has anyone felt the same and went on a different path but ended up regretting it?

howdy y'all,
I just went through a grueling, almost 2-month long interview process with a well-known digital healthcare company. Up until the end it felt like everything was going great, I even received a round of applause after a 45 case study presentation, I felt like I was striking home-runs left and right. It felt like a great fit and I received a bounty of information from all of the team members I spoke to.
After the first 5 interviews, including the 'final interview'; I was messaged 5 business days later and told that the original hiring manager for this position returned from sabbatical and wanted to meet with me. So for a third time, I did a case study presentation.. and then another week later, I got word that they weren't moving forward with me.
I'm pretty bummed, but I'm also scratching my head about their process and why it was so swirly. Why didn't they just wait for the original hiring managedesign director to come back from sabbatical BEFORE putting me through the process with an entirely different team!?
I guess this is more of a vent post- but I open the floor to those who also struggle with the insane design interview processes of today. I'm also still actively looking for work, so if you need a designer feel free to hmu!
Thanks for reading

One of the biggest challenges in Zen scholarship is connecting the dots between koans, which are historical records in the form of transcripts of real people having real conversations. Where religions and philosophies tend to produce sermons and book long arguments, Zen Masters mostly just answered questions. This leaves the audience to piece together a coherent whole from these koan interviews.

Zhaozhou's Lifestyle

Easily the most beloved Zen Master in human history, Zhaozhou was also famous for his very short answers, often in the form of entendres, often using quotes. Here are two quotes that independently are fine, but together cause some problems:

1. A monk asked, "During the twenty-four hours, how is mind put to use?" The master said, "You are used by the twenty-four hours; I use the twenty-four hours. Which of these 'times' are you talking about?"
   
   • Time spent in the movie theater is not the same as time spent in court pleading innocent to felony charges; those are lifestyle choices.
2. A monk asked, "What is your intention?" The Master said, "There is no method to it."
   
   • "No method" is certainly a lifestyle.

What's the big picture?

Zhaozhou argues that his "using the 24 hours" lifestyle does not depend on methods, at least when you put the Cases side-by-side. Whatever conclusion we draw from this we can of course test, by putting these Cases side-by-side with other Cases from Zhaozhou, or even other Masters.
But what is the result?
Zhaozhou once remarked that the Family Custom in Zen was "having nothing inside, seeking for nothing outside" which strikes me as more of a summary of previous teachings than a teaching. Does that betray a "having" or a "method"?

You make the rules

What's interesting to me is whether people would be willing to embrace this "use the 24 hours" AT THE SAME TIME as "having no method". It seems like these two statements represent opposite poles in modern pop culture, with people either working hard at life or people not having a strategy for anything from paying the bills to education to creative contribution to society.

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Welcome! ewk comment: What does "no method" look like though when you are so deliberately engaged in everything you do?