Bitchy sayings for childish people

I feel like I should qualify this by saying I’m not certain I qualify as gifted, but this sub has certainly helped me understand my own mind better. This introspection has got me thinking about the relationship between cognitive diversity and society and I’d like to hear your thoughts on the matter, especially since most of you are intimately familiar with the effects of this interaction in your own lives. You can stop reading here if you want, because this is where I start rambling.
I’m not sure “conformist” is the appropriate word. I live in America and I think many would find it unwarranted to call it “conformist”, especially relative to most other countries. Generally, the country is pretty individualistic and a lot of work here is being done toward accommodation/inclusivity of diversity in various dimensions. However, I do think certain aspects are (mostly implicitly) conformist in that they don’t take into account other dimensions like cognitive diversity. In fact, I think cognitive diversity is a grossly overlooked and misunderstood.
Throughout my life and especially my time lurking this sub, I’ve come to realize just how multidimensional it is in itself! Some people have internal monologues/dialogues, some don’t. Some can vividly visualize with their mind’s eye, some see nothing at all. Some think in abstract concepts, and some in more concrete terms. Some people can hear music on their heads, some can’t. Some feel empathy more than others. Some feel pain more than others, and on and on… Our minds are stimulated by different things as well.
TANGENT: I’m nowhere near an expert, but I’m thinking the crux of giftedness may actually be how the mind is stimulated (Dabrowski’s idea of overexcitabilities that I was recently introduced to by a member of the sub). If a person’s brain is highly stimulated by and sensitive to the euphoria of problem solving, recognizing a pattern, deep and specific thought, etc. then the developing brain may just structure itself to be more proficient at it. Emotional excitability may lead to the brain prioritizing memory capture because of the role emotions play in that system. Maybe it’s all as simple as that: the sensitivities driving the brain’s development. I know it’s largely genetic and likely way more complex than I know, but I wonder if there’s a way to unlock these excitabilities during childhood with individualized and targeted reward systems to facilitate a similar kind of development to that of a gifted brain in a non-genetically gifted individual.
I wonder how much this is factored into how society is structured. For example, I think our schooling system, which I think is incredibly outdated and in desperate need of reform, is terrible in regard to accommodating cognitive diversity. I largely think of the academic failures of individuals more like failures of the institution. I largely see the failures of most people, academically, financially, morally or otherwise more like inadequacies of the societies we’ve built. It’s wasted potential and needless suffering.
Sure, this can only be controlled to a certain degree. Governing this amount of people necessities some level of generalizability in our institutions, but I can’t help but feel we can be doing more than we are now. If only cognitive diversity were getting the same kind of attention as more surface level forms of diversity are. At least now with AI we can afford people some level of personalized education or assistance, but I’m not sure this issue has so much appeal to actually make any timely or meaningful effort.
How much do our politicians think about this stuff? I’m sure psychologists and educators are all over it, but how much do their benefactors think about it?
Anyway, ramble over. This is a relatively new interest of mine so if you have any knowledge or reading recommendations, please do share.

She said she wanted to go home. She said I didn't care about her unless she was leaving. I was just trying to understand what was going on. She said she was going home. I accepted that she didn't want to stay with me then but it was raining outside. "Can I at least give you a ride? It's raining and cold."
Her answer? "Oh, so you want me to beg for a ride?"
What??? I just offered her a ride.
"If you really wanted to give me a ride, you would have said 'I am giving you a ride home, let's go.' Not made me ask for it."
Look, at this point, I'm just confused. I did drive her home, and she left my car without saying goodbye. I gave her the space she needed and cried on the way home.
But no. She said I was codependent. She said it wasn't good that I was sad just because of her emotions. So, ok, I decided to take her advice. I went to the event we were planning on going on with friends to distract for a few hours. Before I left, she texts me.
"What are you doing?"
"Oh sorry I was getting ready to go to the thing."
"Oh. Fun! I can't wait for the next time you feel like shit and I can go out and have fun."
"Sick. Thanks for that."
"💋"
And then she blocked me everywhere.
I distracted myself. Then I got home and I cried. And I screamed. And I hit my head against the wall and yelled I GIVE UP I DON'T HAVE ANYTHING LEFT TO GIVE. Just that day we had gone through a workbook and discussed what our greatest fears were from each other. Mine were sarcasm and suddenly leaving. She had done both and she didn't give a damn. She actively chose to hurt me. And if it were me 2.5 years ago, maybe I would have had the emotional control to hold it in, to deal with things. But I didn't. I am a shell of who I once was. And I never have the power to consider leaving unless I am fully drained and feel like I can't breathe, I can't stand, I can't live.
So I packed all of her things up. I dumped boxes into my car and I drove to her house. I wanted to talk.
I knocked on her door. She opened it.
"What are you doing here?"
"You won. I don't know what you were trying to win, but whatever it was, you won."
She just stared at me.
I waited for her to say something. Nothing. Then, finally...
"What do you want?"
There was no chance of conversation. No "I'm sorry for using the things you fear most because I knew they would dig in and hurt." No. Just a what do you want? What do I want? To not be hurt. I want to not be blocked for 12 or 24 or 48 or 72 hours with no idea of what's going on until you decide that you're willing to come back. I want to not be put in situations where you say you block me because you don't want a wall of text, but in reality you want to hurt me fast and hard and then run away so that you don't hear the consequences of your actions.
"Your things are in the car. Please get them."
"OK. But only if you promise not to talk to me while I do."
"Sure. If that's what you want I won't talk."
The next day we texted and discussed things. Things were... emotional. Then she disappeared and stopped responding. That would have been fine, had her sister not called me looking for her since she hadn't been able to reach her. My heart dropped. Had something happened? Had she done something? I told her sister, "Hey, bad timing, but you should probably just go check her in person." And then, "And, not my business, but if you find her can you just let me know she's safe? Nothing else, I just want to know she's ok." Her sister said "Of course."
Queue to a few days ago. She asked me to hang out with her in person for a jazz thing. I said hey, look, I am very emotional right now. I want to see you but I can't today. Maybe we can talk in a few days?
Apparently that was the wrong answer.
"Honestly I'm just going to come get my stuff."
She did. And then she said "Leave me alone," so I did.
But I had no idea where we stood. Was this just another week-long block? I messaged her 4-5 days later.
"Hey, I just want to know if the plan is to go no contact or if there's a chance of staying friends or coming back to this in the future so I know whether to start grieving or not."
"Why are you doing this?"
"Sorry I don't want to be a bother I just want to know so I'm not on edge."
She called me. Man, that was hard.
I did my best not to cry. She asked me why I was crying. I said "Because you're my best friend and I don't want to lose you." She laughed. "You're the one that did this." She laughed. She laughed. She laughed.
I asked if theres a chance we would be able to either stay friends in the future or maybe come back to the relationship down the line after we had both worked on ourselves. She said "As long as you don't get emotional or controlling when you see me go on trips with other people."
Ow.
OK, maybe not. But what about controlling?
"You're trying to control me."
"What? When?"
"You're messaging my sister."
"I texted her once because I wanted to make sure you were safe." I then sent her the screenshots to prove this.
"You're contacting my family to try and control me. After we broke up."
"That was the day we broke up."
"LIES."
"What? That was Sunday?"
"You dropped my s*** off on saturday night. You texted my sister on sunday."
"Oh. Sorry. I guess it was saturday. Sorry, everything's been blending together in this wall of confusion and pain."
She laughed.
She said "Look, I'm just not going to be there for you anymore emotionally when you're never there for me."
"What was I supposed to do that night you wanted me to drop you off. Like, what was the best outcome?"
"Come over and hug me. Hold me."
"You said you didn't want to be next to me. You said you wanted me to take you home. And when I pulled in you just got out of the car and left without saying goodbye. Was I supposed to follow you into your house after all that?"
She changed the topic.
"But instead you chose to go have fun with your friends."
"Was I supposed to go home and cry alone? Can I not distract? I am not even sure why this started in the first place I am so confused and just wanted to stop crying and distract and go to this thing that you had made me confirm my attendance to just an hour prior to you leaving."
"Must have been nice having fun." She laughed loudly. "OK I have to get ready for work. Bye."
And then she hung up.
The amount of pain I felt in that moment. The amount of guilt. I did this. Even she said it. This was my fault my fault my fault. I shouldn't have reacted by dropping her stuff off. I shouldn't have done this. I shouldn't it was my fault.
But I had nothing left. She stopped caring about me so quickly. She laughed when I cried.
I sent her a final message and went no contact. I final sorry to top off the mountain of apologies I had given her over the last two and a half years.
"I'm sorry. I didn't mean to hurt you. I was just trying to stop hurting myself. I will love you forever and if you ever need me you know where I live and are always welcome in. I feel that I am causing you pain and maybe resentment so I will let you move on to somebody better for you now. Goodbye."
And then I went no contact.
It's been a few days now and the pain comes and goes. Sometimes it's unbearable. Sometimes it's replaced by anger. And sometimes I just wish she would have given my my shirt back, the one passed down to me from my mother, the one I held near and dear to my heart that she would steal to wear. She has the rest of my stuff but really all I want is the shirt and I'll be at peace. But I've now initiated no contact on my end so perhaps my shirt and what it means to me is gone. Maybe she threw it away already. I don't know.
And these emotions come and go and sometimes I laugh and then the laugh turns into a gasp as my chest is stabbed with the most agonizing pain I can imagine and I feel like a fish out of water, making ungodly noises as I hope to black out and make the pain stop. And sometimes I imagine her coming back through my door like she used to, walking in and kissing me and picking me up and carrying me to bed and laying me down and holding me, her skin against mine, her lips against mine, her soul against mine.
But now, when that happens, I just need to remember one thing:
She laughed.

Hi, as the title says I'm looking for queer movies that are not from the US. I want to see what life is like in other countries through a camera lens.
With "queer movies" I mean not only romantic stories, actually I would prefer it to be of another genre! It must include queer character(s) or queer themes like the exploration of one own's sexuality or a depiction of a queer life, may it be on gay men, lesbians, trans people ecc.
If it's romance it would be cool if it also dwells on social topics like homo/transphobia, family relations, activism or anything like that.
Documentaries are well accepted!
Some examples of what I watched:

• Inxeba (South Africa)
• Rafiki (Kenya)
• Happy Together (Hong Kong)
• Joyland (Pakistan)
• Many French movies
• The Handmaiden (South Korea)
• Big Band Love, Juvenile A (Japan)
• The Tears of Petra von Kant (Germany)
• Farewell, my Concubine (China)
• Funeral Parade of Roses (Japan)

should be flogged in public. Make an example of one or two and the others will tow the line. So my brother completed University last year, around October. He'll graduate next month with honors and I couldn't be more proud. Son of my mother did engineering, structural... something along those lines. He's been searching and searching for internship or even a GMT programme.
Last month my sister in law talked to a friend of hers who knew someone who knew someone...you know how the thread goes. Little brother is called for an interview, leaves an excellent impression on the MD and CFO.
He's informed he'll be contacted. The firm makes contact last week and asks him to report on Monday (Yesterday) to sign the contract. My brother is over the moon. When he arrives, he's taken to a small office and suddenly the language has changed.
He's told since there were no available positions and he wants to gain experience, he'll have to work 3-6 months without pay then they'll consider onboarding him. After that he's told to report on site and start working.
To say my blood boiled when he narrated this to me is an understatement. How do they expect him to get to work? What will he eat? How's he supposed to fund his site attire?
Who do these people think they are? How do you expect someone to work with no pay...yes granted it's internship but it's not like they'll be sitting on there bum doing nothing. It's really pissing me off.

So to start off the store I work at isn’t the best, it’s not horrible but not rainbows and sunshine either. Lots of lazy people, work doesn’t get done, lazy TLs and ETLs that dump the work they don’t wanna do onto regular TMs, SD that takes people off schedule the night before with no notice. An older coworker who has some weird personal issue with me so she’s constantly trying to make my job harder or running to the TLs trying to say im not doing anything. Weekend closing TLs not wanting to close so they make her the de facto TL so they can kick their feet up(on weekends they cycle morning leads to close) Honestly im just at the point where i’ve been applying to places and just waiting for one to respond. Just this past mothers seat weekend when i was closing (which i usually do) it was obviously busy on Saturday so the whole store is swamped and I happen to be the only person trained on any of the equipment on the closing team so im running around all day answering fast service, answering calls for equipment help in the stockrooms, running around grabbing items for guests, etc. finally 9:30 rolls around and im barely halfway done with my zone because ive been so busy doing everything else and at this time im once again helping someone with the wave which is when my TL for the night calls me on the walkie and asks where im at with my zone and i tell her im about halfway done but im going to need help and she tells me well the rest of the “store is pretty behind it was really busy today idk if i can get you help” which is cool I understand that but then she follows up with how are you so behind you should at least be onto the next area and I responded with “well like you just said it’s been really busy so I’ve been doing a lot of running” around and she responds with “that doesn’t matter you have an easy area you shouldn’t be behind” and at that point I just didn’t respond to her and got back to my job. This is just one of the things of the many that makes me question if I should walk out every other day but it just really irritates me when I go above and beyond to help all around the store and I somehow still get looked at like im lazy but the old lady I mentioned earlier just kisses ass all day and laughs and giggles with her friends and anytime she does anything the walkie blows up with “thank you so much, you’re so helpful, we appreciate you so much” and it’s not like I need anyone to tell me I do a good job cuz I know I do but its not fun having an actual lazy ass team lead try and call you lazy but the kiss ass breathes and everyone kisses the ground she walks on

Vegan here.
I know this has already been asked a few times but I could not find a satisfactory answer. Vegan bodybuilders (or anyone who intentionally consumes more calories than is necessary for their health) are objectively unnecessarily killing animals. How can this be justified if avoiding unnecessary cruelty towards / killing of animals is the main principle most vegans abide by?
Note that even the Vegan Society’s definition of veganism is fundamentally this principle: “avoiding exploitation of and cruelty towards animals…as far as is practicable and possible”. It’s basically avoiding unnecessary exploitation of and cruelty towards animals.
Here are some responses that don’t work.

1. Vegan bodybuilders likely convince more non-vegans to be vegan as they show that it is possible to be strong on a vegan diet. This cancels out their “unnecessary” harm.

Problem: This doesn’t address the problem with unnecessary harm. Hypothetically, if i was able to convince more people to reduce their meat intake while being vegetarian than while being vegan (since meat eaters have a greater aversion to vegans), my being vegetarian would result in less cruelty towards animals. However, I’m sure we would agree that this doesn’t mean that being vegetarian is more ethical or better than being vegan.

1. We don’t know that crop production increases the overall deaths of animals (since there would probably be more killing through natural predation without crop cover), so it isn’t necessarily unethical to eat more plants than is needed.

Problem: If we kill and eat sufficiently few fish every year, we will not be increasing total deaths of fish due to there being natural predation. However, I am pretty sure that vegans wouldn’t think this is ethical.

1. Let’s focus on the more pressing issue of animal agriculture first ; we can work on eliminating crop deaths later.

Problem: This completely evades the question.
Previously, I would have argued that most crop deaths occur through pesticides, which are applied to protect our food source from animals who cannot be reasoned with. I believe killing in defence of property or an important food source is justified, even if it results in more overall deaths than killing animals who have done nothing to us directly for our benefit / food.
However, Alex had anticipated this response and rebutted it with “whose property / land is it really? We’re the ones who took that land from the animals who lived there, so how can we now kill then to “defend” this land and say it’s ethical?” I wasn’t able to come up with a good response to that.
I feel that the only rebuttal that might work is if you say that the main principle of veganism is not avoiding unnecessary cruelty towards animals but something else. In that case, what is veganism really about?

Needless to remind people of the good old Deccan Chargers days. I was young and didn't follow cricket at that time. My dad would always watch it, so I would catch glimpses of CSK playing in 2011 and 2012 times. Soon, I had an interest and wanted to support a relatively unknown team, or an underdog if you will. In 2013 with SRH being announced, I wanted to properly support a brand new team. I was still learning to understand the game; I was 15 at the time. Loved watching Steyn and just always loved watching good bowling more than batting. Of course, I enjoy the batting powerhouse we have become. But throughout this journey of being an SRH fan, I have noticed the love affair we have had for Aussies and Sri Lankans in our squad. Gilchrist leading DC to a title, then the great Sanga leading us to the playoffs in our first season as SRH. Perera's all-round show. David Warner in 2016 leading us to a title when RCB were cruising the chase. Who could forget Ben Cutting's best all-round performance in a final. Yuvi striking like crazy in that game. Bhuvi defending 18 runs off the final over by conceding just 10!
Now fast forward to 2024, we have David Warner's role split into 2. The duo of Cummins with captaincy and Warner 2.0 batting with Travis. And should we play a final like this again, maybe even against RCB, we'll have a similar squad. We have Nitish who has risen, and dare I say may even be our Ben Cutting with all-round stellar show we have seen from him thus far, not quite up to Ben's level but still. I know before I wanted Samad to be our Ben Cutting, but I think Nitish is more suited for that because he can bowl too, gives us 2 or 3 overs. Bhuvi is, of course, still with us, regaining his confidence, just like the 2016 Bhuvi. We have Yuvi's presence again through Abhi. Bipul Sharma, left-arm spinner, we now have Shahbaz. We have quite a few upgrades now for our wicket-keeping in Klaasen, 6 hitter in Samad (once he regains his confidence), Nattu who is reliable at the death, Pace train in Umran, and a genuine spin bowling option in Vijayakanth, the Sri Lankan flair coming back. Few interesting similarities about Vijayakanth is that he's relatively unknown like Mustafizur was back in 2016 and in 2018 we had a spinner that performed superbly for us, you know the name... Could it all be coming together for us? Could he be our missing piece, especially on a slow Chepauk track? Could Mayank play an anchor role like Dhawan and redeem himself? Time will tell.
Of course, it would have been nice to give Glen Phillips a try, and who knows, maybe he's our trump card? Maybe Cummins and Vettori are planning something we just don't know yet, or they are happy with the setup we have now. But there's yet another similarity if Glen Phillips is to sit out... remember in 2016 we had Trent Boult, Kane Williamson, and even Eoin Morgan sitting on the bench! Any other team, they would have been a regular in the 11! We insisted on Fizz, we insisted on Ben Cutting and Moises. Did it work out? No, not really, other than Ben Cutting; the other two had an average game. And remember, we won! We WON the final! Not sure if there is a certain luck aspect associated here but in 2016 both Kiwis did not play and in 2018 when we had a kiwi playing despite his amazing 700+ season, our title hopes wasn't to be. Another luck aspect to think about is of course the jersey, SA20 back to back winners, Sunrisers Eastern Cape.
I'm perhaps getting a bit too ahead of myself thinking of a final, but the fact of the matter is we have done so well thus far because it has been Cummins and Vettori's team through and through. They are sticking to their guts and saying this is what we are doing. Mayank, Tripathi, Sundar, Umran, Jansen, and Markram, our former captain, half the side that played in the 2022 season, dropped! They have good reasons for it, and that's okay. Just trust them! We were the underdogs at the start of the season once again, just like we were in 2016. THIS is our key. No one sees us coming; people still don't rate us though we have shown the world how T20 batting is done. I want us to be the underdogs; I want us to keep surprising; I want us to be the calm and composed fans that we have prided ourselves to be. Let's not become toxic, it was never our style. Please don't abuse the players or foul mouth other teams. Appreciate and enjoy them. Even if we lose both games and we don't qualify, I'm okay with that, same with winning the cup. Whatever happens SRH forever! We as the fans have had a season to remember for the ages.
Thank you, Cummins, for everything! All the best for the remaining games and playoffs should we make it. You are going to T20 World Cup as a T20 bowler when people doubted your abilities in the shortest format after picking you at the auctions. What a season you have had and lifted the entire fanbase's emotions up and carried us to the peak of entertainment and happiness. Thank you so much!

I 33F had a relationship with a 32M for quite some time. Serious relationship, definitely felt like it could've been marriage material.
I never felt like I was one of the shallow people. I never needed tall men, or men wirh muscles. Given I'm only 5'3 I generally was happy with anyone my height or taller, which was pretty easy to do.
Ex bf was 5'4, that never bothered me. His body type means he would never be big or bulky, or built like a brick sh*house. That's fine. Without beating around the bush, with his height and his physique, he was similar to a pre-pubescent teenage boy. Very skinny, no leaness. He was not interested in the gym and that's OK.
Upon reflection of trying to figure out how to learn from.past relationships and grow from it, I had the realisation that I did end up getting an 'ick' in the sense that physically wise I felt like I was sleeping with someone under-age. It felt wrong even though my brain knew it was OK. This is where I feel I am in the wrong. But also there is something in some instinct part of my brain that says ' this body is not for you to be doing inappropriate things with".
Is there the potential that we could get back together, possibly, there was a lot of love, but also a lot of toxicity so I want to see if anyone has insights to help me out.
Feel free to call me the asshole.

The mod in here clearly doesn't care, so I went and made another sub where I will moderate it every day. If I think someone is capable of being mature enough to be a mod, i'll promote you if you wish. But this sub is getting ridiculous. I just want to be able to keep up with the shit that's going on, I really don't care about the random memes and people being absolute tarts by calling out innocent people and getting people involved that don't need to be.
For serious inquires, go to ScaryKenny . Believe me when I say the spammers and trolls will be removed immediately. Let's all sleuth in peace.

In the 15 minutes I watched below is a summary: 1. VSwiss has at least 20 girlfriends, is being battled by her boyfriend (not for money, it's about being a man) and she will not snipe for her bf as she does not do revenge throws, she will NOT give Swiss a battle and she believs he has no money and is BROKE! 2. Tonight she named another unicorn, this one was named after Nelson, so now she has unicorns named after: Faith (gone fiahin'), Dixie, Leggz & Nelson and apparently they are buying the unicorns a house 3. She named her supposed stalker tonight and said she did not care if she got banned for saying her name. 4. She is encouraging people in her chat to go live and begin their battle career at reset (apparently she is unaware of changes to the battles) etc. 5. The person whom she will use her coins to throw for as of now is Jack. 6. She thinks boyfriend is going to be a good addition to the daily as she needs more battle partners and the daily needs more blue collars.& She has asked him to not go back to work and stay home & stream with her full time 7. She is going to do something nice for her mom as her mom did nothing to deserve the harassment etc. that she has received bc of people on TT 8. She is no longer answering questions about her dog for safety reasons, but says is safe and in a good place. 9. She says battle teams should not be battling every day, they should take days off and let others win. She is still comited to turning podium pink and when she is not battling she will tell the females to hold all throws 10. She stated that people in ranks are mad bc she is not throwing for them and everyone is watching female Nation to see what they are going to do... In my opinion tonight she seemed a bit tired, at times fighting off tears & sluggish as well as hyper focused on the one person she is accusing of stalking **i am super glad that said stalker is not engaging so this will eventually die down*"

OK, maybe a bit glib. But I love to watch/listen to Mayday and Air Crash Investigations as kind of a "podcast" while driving/commuting. Probably listened to 200 of them, as well as some of the other tubers that do aircraft investigation/reporting.
However, in what seems to be a significant number of incidents, spatial disorientation, or some phenomena similar seems to have pilots disoriented as to the attitude of their aircraft. I get that. Night, moonless, no horizon, fatigue, boredom, whatever, in my own mind, it seems like a few degrees of roll or pitch might be unnoticeable in the sense of a physical sensation, with all the stuff going on during a flight.
I guess my question is 2 part:
1) Is there some kind of psychological disconnect between actually looking at the ADI, and it corresponding to the pilot's perception of reality? The ADI is accurate, but it's just not believed because, well, I don't know why? I get that an instrument might fail, but that's gotta be a pretty small percentage of the time.
2) It would seem that when you're hanging by your straps as a plane rolls to the left 50 degrees, and the copilot is up against the center console, and the pilot laying on the wall, or your hat is laying on the roof, that, well, regardless of ADI, you're not in straight and level flight, and somewhere, between 2 and 50 (in the case of the one I just watched), it had to be noticeable, and in my own mind, noticeable far closer to 2 than 50.
It just seems like a glass of water on the dash, or a pair of fuzzy dice hanging from the overhead console would give a "no matter what the instruments say, reality is..." type feedback that might be more visceral. Dice hanging towards the back? Climbing. Dice laying on the front windscreen? Descending, probably pretty steeply. Dice pointing at the copilot? Right turn. dice going around and around in a circle? Top Gun Flat Spin, etc.
I have a lot of respect for pilots, and the training and their ability to serve the public, and there are certainly plenty of examples of amazing piloting by people to get out of situations that escalated quickly. I also realize the human factor is far more complex than just this. But I can't help but wonder if automation and CG and such has taken us too far from the visceral.

Anyone disagree with many people getting St.Jude statues and putting money on them? This is especially a phenomenon amongst Hispanic Catholics, I feel like this a clear example of cultural Catholicism. And worse is that St.Jude is being associated with narcoculture. On top of this, I keep seeing videos of people putting st.Jude statues next to Santa Muerte statues, whom is not an official saint, and I see people in these comments saying “they work together.”. It just feels like this great saint, an apostle of Jesus, is being misrepresented as a patron saint of illegal activities and riches gained through illegal means. My sister recently got a St.Jude tattoo, but makes fun of me for going to mass more recently and caring more about my faith, it just really rubs me the wrong way.

I’m at a stage in my career where I have 5 years of specific marketing experience at a top 10 company. I manage a marketing channel that has grown to over £5 billion in revenue in the last 3 years. So many of the tactics and ideas came from me, I work well with everyone, have a lot of connections, but still my leaders don’t want to sponsor me because apparently it’s challenging for them to switch the location of my role and it’s easier to get a new role.
The teams in the US though are not sponsoring for L1B/L1A visas because they want to recruit Americans. 2 years ago, it wasn’t a problem, but now it is.
My current leaders don’t want to let me go because I am top talent. The US leaders don’t want to wait for 3-4 months on a visa because they need someone quick.
My connections even though they are in high positions have no power to sponsor me because it’s all being controlled by the country leaders and they say no.
I am at a point where my leaders don’t want to let me go, but they can’t do anything about sponsoring me while other leaders I know either don’t have any jobs right now or need someone quick.
I prepared development plans, talked to my team’s leaders for 1 year, and they rejected me after 1 year of wait. Then the VP that rejected me got laid off. Now I’ll have a new leader and start all over again - it’s been a mess.
I wanted to ask for some help on how you navigated getting sponsored through your employer? I have all the development plans, talked to many people even people close to the CEO of this 30K+ people company.
We have a team that helps you get the visa, but the problem is the leaders don’t want to do it even though everyone knows that I have a very special talent managing the biggest marketing channel at my company and personally delivered over £20M in revenue this year only.

Scanned the threads but still unsure!
I've so far gotten a mixed response. Some people declare having no issues. Other's say they have, or just recommend against using the prepaid CCs, at least for accommodation bookings where holds beyond the reservation cost can be placed on the card for extended periods of time.
I'm specifically wondering about Booking.com, and to a lesser extent local hostel websites. For flights it would be random, direct through the airline.
My worry is that the prepaid card will be denied or rejected at check-in.
One idea was to use my existing 'regular' CC for holds, and try (if possible) to pay for bookings only using the prepaid CC (because of the no forex fee), trying to avoid holds on my prepaid CC.
Sadly, unless I open a Joint account for Scotia's Visa Infinite CC, I have been denied by them and Home Trust Preferred Visa CC, the options I've found for a no annual fee (Scotia waives first year), no foreign exchange fee.
Please forgive if stupid Q! A big thanks in advance everyone!

Wondering if anyone else has trouble around talking to others about their trauma- For me, I try to open up to people about it (for example my partner) and they don’t seem to either have the capacity to listen or they get really overwhelmed and/or frustrated. I know they don’t owe me anything but for some reason, it makes me start panicking and then that turns into so much anger in me when I feel like they’re not actively listening or I’m losing them. I ask ahead of time sometimes if it’s okay and they always say yes but then it turns into them just shutting down or detaching. I know it’s not right of me to feel angry, but I feel so much of it every time. I feel like my CPTSD keeps me on another planet and nobody wants to understand that aspect of me.

so basically I, (F19) have a history of men, its not something im proud of, i just tend to make shitty decisions when im under the influence of many things like alcohol or horniness. while im not saint, when i want to lock in, i do. i was in a year long relationship with a man and it went great but bec of some issues we broke up, no cheating involved.
recently, I have been going out a lot and meeting a lot of people including men. I met a guy who happens to own and host parties/clubs. I knew what I was getting into at first, but I wasn't thinking much of it i was just h0rby. After the first time we hooked up, I told myself never again because after we finished i saw his sheets were stained of cum not mine. I ghosted him for a bit, but then my demon came out again. And I saw him today. we had a lot of sex and cuddled naked and were sleeping on and off. While we were laying in bed together, I asked him what he wants to do with his life. And if he plans on And if he plans on just fucking bitches. his answers pleased me and he seemed shocked that a girl he was just hooking up w actually cared.
The thing about me is im a lover girl deep down. i just have some under lying issues that im working on. but i yearn for human connection.
shortly after our conversation, he asked if he could put a baby in me...point is our entire hang out was full of remarks saying that he wanted me to stop being a thot. We went and got food, and I ate with him and his little sisters together. he asked me what i was doing tmr and we made plans, there was a point where he said that his friends might go to our plans and I was like whyyy and he said you have to get along with my boys. It wasn't until minutes later I realize what he had said and I was like "wait why do I have to get along with your boys".. he smirked and i was like you want meeee and he said i want uu to stfu. we get to my house and he grabs my hand and kisses it and weve been texting since i got home. i told him i don't wanna fuck tmr and i said do u still wanna see me? he replied yes, then i went for a long shot and said we could go on a date. he seemed hesitant, but he agreed. then i texted him to figure it out im going to sleep gn. he said to spell it out and that ill see him tmr.
a couple questions: am i being delusional or does he want me for more than sex? if yes, what do i do? I feel like it would be hypocritical to say I can't cuff him because of his past. HELP

My husband is getting three root canals done soon and I’m a little nervous because I’ve heard some bad things online.
I don’t believe everything I hear, but I noticed multiple people saying that their root canals got very infected and migrated to their jaws, etc.
I’m not a pro so I wanted to ask if that’s common. What can I do to help him prevent infection, and what do I look out for in case one is developing?
Any advice?

I recently started getting interested in dating again 38M... After literally many years of not trying at all, but I decided to open up and be more honest with myself. Growing up I was told I was very picky when it came to dating, and I think in a way I'm Demisexual, at least moreso than most people.
Here's the thing, looking back I've always loved masculine leaning women, forgive me if I'm not labeling things properly, or I guess the best way for me to describe it is Tomboys.
Recently though, I've realized I don't seem to care or mind if the person identifies as man either, I fell for a gay trans man and he fell for me. It wasn't a long relationship, but we do both respect each other, thing is even though I could honestly say - he could be the most chad, muscular, and taller than me, kind of guy and I'd still be with him if things worked out at one point. And, I do get that a trans man is NOT a tomboy whatsoever, and I always saw him for who he is...
So it seems my only issue is that it really comes down to the genitals itself, I'm more attracted to a vagina and don't prefer a penis. But, I can still see the person as a man, and enjoy masculinity(?)
Where does that put me, and how do I explain myself without sounding like I'm full of shit... Not too long ago I talked about this with someone, and they explained to me just because I prefer one part over another has nothing to do with my sexuality or being straight. So does this make me pansexual or?

Previous entry: https://www.reddit.com/buffy/comments/1cpqgdq/rewatchers_diary_season_2_episodes_5_to_7/
On today's menu: The Dark Age (2x8) and What's My Line (2x9-2x10).
Quick thoughts: The Dark Age is fine, What's My Line is part of why BTVS is great.
The Dark Age
Summary: Giles' dark past comes back to haunt him. It ends up hurting Jenny and distancing her from him.
This was fine. I didn't quite have the greatness which BTVS is capable of, but it was fine.
Random thoughts in a random order:

• In this episode we have the line "three down, two to go". In the next one we'll have "one down, one gone", and I think in the previous episode—Lie To Me (2x7)—there was also some take on "N down, M to go". These phrases always make me think of Willow's "one down" line in Villains (6x20), and the title of the next episode, Two to Go (6x21).
• Ooh, more Ethan! Ethan is great!
• I used to be a teenager, but it's a while ago. I liked Buffy's line near the end, which I'll inadvertently paraphrase: "I used to think of you as a grown-up [i.e. distant], now I discovered you're a person [i.e. relatable]". I think I must have forgotten the teen perspective and just how big the gap feels. The ages in my current friendship circles spans four decades. The scoobies at some point refer to Giles as "their grown-up friend". Huh, I guess I'm someone's grown-up friend, and my life feels less weird than the show is made to look on that occasion. Oh well, we have a shared recreational activity in real life, so the friendship that spans a big age range is genuine; affectionate as it is, Giles and the scoobies have more of a working relationship than a friendship. (In my book Giles hasn't fully stepped into the surrogate father role yet.)
• I guess I should talk about how this is a cautionary tale to young people about bad decisions in one's youth having the capacity to exact a price later in life. Uhm. It is.
• Hey, the morgue where Phillip (Deirdre's victim / transfer target) rises from the apparently-dead, is that the same morgue we saw in Never Kill a Boy on the First Date (1x5)? It kinda' looks like it.
• Yay for Willow being assertive towards Xander and Cordelia, "[either get to work, or] get the hell out of my library!"
• Poor Giles, having to once again face the fact that his actions got one of his friends killed, and now having to consider the fact that they may also get his love interest killed.
• Hey, does this feed thematically into the the way Buffy feels responsible for, in some sense, killing Angel (and making Angelus replacing him) in Surprise (2x13)? I think it might.
• Ooh: in this episode Angel saves Jenny. In Passion (2x17) Angel kills Jenny. (Yes, okay, Angelus.)
• Giles' irresponsible decisions almost got Jenny killed. Buffy's irresponsible decisions—unleashing Angelus—actually got Jenny killed.

What's My Line
Summary: Career day at school. The next slayer, Kendra, has a short enemies-to-rivals-to-friends with Buffy. Drusilla is restored while Spike is injured during the attempted escape, and Angel is injured during Drusilla's restoration ritual.
Oh boy, this is great. Random thoughts in a random order:

• Ooh, more Terminator references! Buffy is targeted for termination by (a) someone disguised as a police officer; and (b) a shapeshifting creature made of liquid metal maggots.
• Buffy is already doing uh supernatural community policing, so her as a police officer makes sense. I've not read the comics but I've heard she actually becomes a LEO. Her future as a LEO doesn't get much screen time, but I was still surprised by how much.
• But her actual career right now is being the Slayer, and Kendra shows Buffy how to do it by the book™.
• In that light, it's interesting that Buffy's determination increases a notch when she realizes it's personal: "no one messes with my boyfriend!"
• Willy! Ooooh I like Willy the slime ball.
• He suggests Buffy and Kendra might do "art photography, but naked". Buffy is 16 which is less than 18. Given SMG's age and look, Willy might have overestimated Buffy's age—but still, if such photography happened it would legally be ch*ld p*rn. I recall Buffy dismissing Willy with a disgusted face. I'm not sure how I feel about the show not commenting more strongly on this.
• On a lighter note (maybe), there was such a wonderful scene with Spike holding Drusilla in his arms and the two dancing after Spike talking about dancing on the slayer's grave. In Crush (5x14) Spike would happily dance with Buffy on Drusilla's grave. Between The Gift (5x22) and Bargaining (6x1-6x2), Spike is deeply troubled by the slayer having a grave. Oh how the tables will turn. And I guess in Chosen (7x22) Buffy is... not dancing, but definitely feeling a sense of relief, while standing atop the place where Spike is buried (the whole in the ground that used to be Sunnydale).
• Spike and Drusilla is an incredibly sexy couple. May I join in, please?
• Oz and Willow, while not yet a couple, are so cute together.
• Xander and Cordelia kiss. They are sooo awkward together.
• Buffy touching and kissing Angel in vamp face at the skating rink: the music makes it appear all romantic and stuff, suggesting that she's mature enough to see the man hiding below the monster's exterior. But really—I think—she's too blinded by hormones to notice the monster and the monstrous pile of red flags.
• Speaking of which, "We have this thing at school / Career day? / How do you know? / I lurk", that came across as somewhat stalker-like behavior to me. When Buffy tries to read Angel's mind in Earshot (3x18) out of jealousy, Angel says "[just ask]". Why doesn't Angel just ask what's going on in Buffy's life, then?
• Drusilla has been wearing her white dress the whole time, which I associate with purity and innocence. When at the end she's restored to her full strength and thus capacity for evil she's wearing all black. A nice contrast.
• Drusilla's white dress makes me think of a bridal gown. I think there ought to be some joke about a vampire couple staying together "till death do you part", but I haven't quite nailed it yet.

Updated episode tier list:

• S-tier: 7
• A-tier: 9 10
• B-tier: 3 6 > 1
• C-tier: 8 > 5
• D-tier: 2 4

So since January I started experiencing awful visual issues, I had an MRI, CT & blood work & all came back clear, since then I started developing twitching after taking amitriptyline and I just assumed it was a withdrawal or simply BFS. In 2/3 months I have had muscle atrophy in my back, thighs, calves and I’m certain my tongue has became weaker and so has my neck - I have no swallowing issues but my swallowing feels odd and my speech perceived by myself feels slow and not right at all.
I have seen countless neurologists in this time and they have all sent me back with a clean bill of health even though I have had 1 EMG which showed ‘chronic neuropathic changes mainly distantly’ and therefore a Neuromusculur neurologist diagnosed me with bfs & anxiety.
I know for a fact I have probably one of the worst progressive types of ALS you could get especially at such a young age - the atrophy was noticed by an NHS doctor who has sent me for another EMG in 3 months? But I have a private EMG on the 16th of this month. I’m absolutely terrified I have no understanding to how this could of happened, if all started after I took some mirtazapine to help with insomnia and I believe this has triggered something although there is 0 literature of this ever occurring and that’s why I can’t believe this happening to me.
I’m here to see reassurance even though I’m certain I’m dying and loosing everything so rapidly - I believe I have JALS or bulbar onset due to the changes in my face & throat etc… the one thing I can’t understand is how multiple parts of my body seem to be loosing muscle at the same time, I have read that ALS starts in one and moves up to the next etc but for me it seems like it’s everywhere.
I don’t know to be honest I don’t really know I didn’t want to post this at all but I just maybe might find someone on here that is experiencing disgusting symptoms, had a bag EMG and still came out the other side. I don’t believe I will, my family & girlfriend currently think I’m completely fine due to the reassurance from all the doctors and even the Neurologist who read the EMG still diagnosed me with BFS?
The EMG was on 2nd of April and at that point I knew my legs were smaller but it wasn’t extremely extremely noticeable - the EMG had no active neuropathic changes as PSW and FIBS were normal, it was just + AMP, + DUR and - INT PAT with seen fasiculations.
Overall I’m lost and i know it’s known that vision isn’t affected by ALS but I read reports and I legit match the symptoms such as reduced eye tracking, impaired VOR. I just feel like the most unlucky person on this planet like how can I have all these visual symptoms and horrible physical symptoms at such a young age just after taking some anti depressants to helps with insomnia.
I really need some support guys and I want to truly believe I’ll be okay but as of right now nothing can sway my mind and I’m dreading the 16th for what it will show, I’m going to honestly just walk in and say ‘I believe I have bulbar onset als just please start on my face and work your way down’
I just can’t believe that I’m completely fine when everything in my body is changing and has changed so quickly. I can still ride my bike, I can still run, walk fine and do any activity I want. (Other than football probably because of my vision) but I can’t do them well. I used to be able to run 5k without any aches in my body but now my feet hurt and so do my legs and I’m just a complete mess.
Much love and I hope people on this forum can comfort me with reassurance :(

Reading and reflecting, I understand that I'm coming under the definition of a "nice guy". I can feel myself being the weakest among my roommates, even though we're in the same program of grad school. I'm always looking up to someone - I constantly see other people as better than me. Smarter than me. Stronger than me. More experienced than me (dating, relationships, academics, work, health, you name it). I'm glad that I'm - well - me with the world and life I've been brought into and the circumstances. I worked hard through college to get into grad school. I'm grateful for the things that have been given to me.
But lately I keep wishing to acquire parts of other people. I want to be respected like that guy. I want to be knowledgeable and well read like that guy. I want to be desired by girls like that guy is. And yet - can I ever?
After my breakup four years ago, I took the time in college to work on my fitness, health, and academics (probably could have done a better job with the last one). And after moving to grad school, I have learned some things I never would have living with my parents. I can cook now, I work part-time while doing a full-time graduate degree.
But again, it's nothing compared to the people around me. I don't feel like and have never felt like an equal. Today was a perfect example.
I matched with a girl last week, we exchanged numbers, and even set a date for today but I got ghosted shortly on Friday (I'm very sure of this). I'm not thinking too much about why she ghosted me. And today, my roommate had a date with that same girl. He didn't even swipe - she liked his Hinge profile upfront. Of course my roommate didn't know, but it was clear what it meant to me, and why he wasn't bothered by the fact that I had matched with her and had a date planned too.
What's worse is that I kept apologizing for mentioning that I matched with the same girl - that my first thought was "Did I say something wrong?".
I take more time than these people on projects and assignments. They do way cooler things than I do. I got an internship at a leading company in the US, but I still feel beneath them. I still feel I'm a joke to these guys. I'm not respected, am I?
I can't think of anything that can make things different - I'm roped into watching movies and plans with a guest who they invite every weekend night for dinner and a movie. I can cook for everyone, but even then I can't help but do the dishes even though the rule is that one person cooks and another person cleans. I don't have control. If there's any hint I do, it's my fault for not stepping up. Even if I do step who who will take me seriously?
Even this is an example of being a textbook nice guy - I'm claiming to be a victim here, aren't I? The only solution I can htink of for things being different is if I could live alone. If I had complete independence over my time and what I want to do. If I din't have to answer to any roommate or anyone. I imagined with a Master's I could acquire deep knowledge, spend time actually learning this subject I'm passionate about but I'm barely getting by. Life, this social life gets in the way from living with these people. If I'm not agreeing I'll be disliked and life will be uncomfortable. Not that I'm in the position to move out anytime soon - I often rely on help from the more experienced roommates to figure out problems I get stuck on with assignments.
It's all on me. It's up to me to make a change. But I feel like I can't. I feel helpless and guilty and angry. I can't imagine any empathy to this post, but if there's any chance or hope you can sense from what I shared... Please help by commenting. Anything helps. I don't know where to turn to right now - what time I can afford, who to tell.