What to say birthday card for deceased mom

I really don't know what to flair this as. My mom did weird things to us/made us eat weird things because she was a "health nut." For a time we had juice in our cereal instead of milk. It was disgusting. I'm sure I tried to eat it dry but I wasn't allowed. I have tons of sensory issues with food now. Go figure.
My mom would give me and my sisters enemas. I have one memory of it when I was four but I know it happened multiple times. I remember my sisters and I protesting but my mom wasn't afraid to use physical violence to control someone. The "rule" was that if you didn't go #2 at school, you get an enema that day. I wonder how many times my mom did that to me as a little four year old and older. To my sisters. They were older so they got the idea to lie and say they had gone that day at school. I got left behind in that regard. I wasn't smart enough to lie and I'm not sure how much of this happened when I was stuck at home and out of school.
I feel weird and totally detached thinking about it. It came up and I was like...that was...seriously fucked up. Who penetrates their kid over and over like that. A part of me is saying I was assaulted. Another part says that's invalidating to victims of sexual assault. Idk how to feel. When I was institutionalized a lady kept pulling me aside and asking me if I'd been rxped. I told her no. Because I haven't. But it made me realize how shut down I was by 7th grade. But how do you explain this? It's not rxpe. But it's the non consensual penetration of a child over and over. I'm not sure what physical violence was involved then. I can only really remember things clearly after I was 6/7.
One part of me feels like this offensive to share. The other is alone and desperate for help. I've never spoken about this with anyone but my sisters. The last time I was brought up (idk when, long ago) they kind of laughed it off. Probably because they found ways to escape. Or it's to cope. Idk. I've never been able to laugh it off.

hi, i'm new to booking flights and i've always only taken budget (jetstar, scoot) but i'm booking SQ flights for my mom's birthday
however i keep seeing that the flights are operated by swiss international, or lufthansa. i understand these are called codeshare flights, but is there any difference between the codeshare flights and the normal SQ flights? eg in terms of service or whatever?
i've only taken SQ once back in 2016 for a school trip and i enjoyed the flight, plus people say SQ has really good standards & quality of service so i'd like to book it for my switzerland trip. not sure if codeshare makes a difference..
sorry if it's a dumb question 😭

I’m currently on day 2 of a week long vacation with my wife, wife’s mom and dad, sister, sister’s husband and their two kids.
My wife and I are going through a bit of a rough patch financially, so we’ve been trying to be smart about our spending on this trip, and we’ve been doing a good job too. But everyone else in the family has or had very high paying jobs, and our jobs just don’t pay as well. They have, at every possible chance, thrown it in our faces that we didn’t pay for the house we’re staying in.
We got back from the beach today, and my wife and I wanted to go drive the golf cart around town a bit. We get about 5 minutes down the road, and her dad calls her telling her we need to come back because her sister wanted to go to town now that the kids were down for a nap. She was like “we told you guys we were leaving, they should have told us to wait for them.” Of course that set her sister off. She started bitching about how we didn’t pay for the house so we shouldn’t have control over the golf cart.
So we stop at one store, get a drink and head back to the house. When we get there, no one was ready to go anywhere, they were in the pool. So my wife makes a joke about how her and I are going to go rent bikes so we don’t have to hear anyone bitch about us anymore. Her mom FREAKED out on her. “You two aren’t paying for anything this week so I don’t want to hear anything else about it.” Then she said “you’re just a bitch.” To my wife.
So she stormed off, I followed her, and we both just kind of sat inside for a while occasionally being like wtf is wrong this these assholes?
FOURTY FIVE minutes later, her sister comes in and asks if we wanted to go to town with them. We both laughed at her and said no, obviously. So her and her husband left. They came back in ten fucking minutes.
There are so many other issues too. My mother in law and sister in law are the biggest assholes I’ve literally ever met. The way they both talk to their husbands like they’re the stupidest people on the planet makes my blood boil. And you know what? They just let them. They don’t say anything back to them except complying to whatever ridiculous demand they have at the moment.
We went to dinner with her mom and dad, and her mom dropped the cherry from her cocktail on her dress. She made a big scene about it, and then yelled at my father in law to stop sitting there and go get her a napkin. So of course he gets up immediately and goes to look for one. He was gone a while, and she muttered “how long does it take to get a fucking napkin.” Then said I’m just going to go to the bathroom. Like that couldn’t have been her first move instead of making a fucking scene? Then when the check came they wouldn’t let us pay for ourselves, so I can’t wait to have that held over my head tomorrow.
I’ve told my wife if she ever speaks to me like they do to their husbands I will walk out of her life immediately without a second thought. I don’t put up with that shit, and she knows it.
Why don’t these men have a spine and stand up for themselves? It’s not hard to tell your significant other they are crossing a line.
We’re going on a trip with my family later this year, and you know what I’m not going to hear? A single word about how poor we are. They’re going to be happy that we are able to be there and spend time with them instead of bitching at us because of our situation.
I’m never going on a trip with these assholes again. They’ll be lucky if I ever even go to their house anymore.
I’m so lucky I grew up in a family that knows what actual love is, and I’m glad my wife has an example of what a good mother is instead of the crazy witch she’s had to put up with.
I just really needed to vent to someone and I don’t want to burden my mother with it because she would be worried about me. Lol.

I'm sorry for posting this but I haven't been able to talk about what's really happening the last 12 months because no one cares to listen to people like me. I just really need to write this down so it isn't just inside me forever, I'm not expecting any replies or help, I just want someone to know my story because i dont know when or how it will end. (also i wrote this at 11pm after not sleeping for 3 days, so theres a chance none of this makes sense)
I am 14, turning 15 in a few months.
I have been dealing with severe depression(?) for around 4 years now, but the issues started way before that. there is something seriously wrong with me, and i am not blaming anyone but myself. I'm diagnosed with adhd, severe social & general anxiety disorder, autism, and ptsd. I have an abundance of issues cleaning and taking care of myself which i am extremely embarrassed about.
I attempted to truly end my life first when i was 10 via od on a prescription. the second time i was 11, i tied a ribbon very tightly around my neck, and fell asleep crying from both sadness and relief. i remember waking up, and it was like my body automatically started desperately searching for anything sharp to get it off my neck. i had a red spot on the side for a while after that, i covered it with a fake tattoo so my mom wouldn't have to worry about my older brother as well as me.
I resorted to online learning for middle school after bullying and sexual harassment, plus issues with the school that lead to cps being called. skip forward to now, my only friends are online, and they make fun of me for being autistic, and say they forget im a real person regularly. I understand, i dont expect them to care that much about someone theyve never spoken to in person before, i just wish i could be someones first choice.
december last year i started smoking weed, and that made me forget about how much i wanted to die. unfortunately, that got me addicted immediately. i couldn't bare being sober, if i wasnt high off my mind i was sobbing and shaking. eventually my mom found out, and I (mostly) stopped. unfortunately, the inevitable happened. i started stealing liquor, drank almost a whole bottle of tequila by myself within ~6 days. mom found out about that too, and stopped buying alcohol as well as starting to lock up the medication in the house. this was the beginning of the end. i hate myself for what i did. my mom did everything right, i, however, did everything wrong. i started abusing gabapentin, which quickly lost its magic. i told myself i was never going to touch stimulants or amphetamines, but of course i did. I was desperate to feel something that i started abusing my adhd meds. i hate them, i cant eat or sleep on them, but they make me focus on something that isnt my thoughts.
I've done everything i wanted to do before i go. today was my friends 16th birthday, yesterday was mothers day, and a few days before that was my one year on HRT. (not getting into that right now lol) i didnt think id make it to 13, I truly dont know why I'm still here. I can't remember a day i havent wanted to just leave and be free from emotion and people. I'll probably delete this when i see it in the morning, but i desperately needed to get this off my chest. I had potential, I was smart and kind and bright, and then the people around me grew up, while i was still waiting for my turn.
Maybe if I was born into a different family i could've been a psychologist like ive always wanted to. In another lifetime.

I'm currently trying to get 100% for the first time and im in the epilogue at like 92%. When i go into "total completion" it says "unknown collectible" in between points of interest and cigarette card sets. What am i missing? I thought it was the graves, i swear when i was playing for 100% a few years ago that that was a requirement but now i dont see it on here. I visited arthurs grave thinking thats what it was and that it would unlock it for me but it didnt. Still says "unknown collectible". Have no idea what im missing here. Thanks for any help!

I was friends with a girl a couple years ago and she has bpd. I stopped talking to her bc there was a lot of issues with her back then. She lived with me and her girlfriend. She would always try to kill herself in front of me and guess what I had to stop her from doing that. I’m sorry to those who suffer from this disorder it seems to be one of the hardest to live with. Anyway, she tried contacting me with 2 different apps and I never answered. She "apologized" on snapchat but I never replied. Tbh I don’t think she’s aware of the things she put me through… I’d have to go to work and call hetxt her constantly to make sure that she’s ok. Even if her gf was back at my place with her I still couldn’t count on her gf to watch her. I met her in high school years ago and we stayed friends even after school was over. She had some narcissist traits I would say and it was very hard for me to believe her sometimes… She used to kind of make me feel bad by saying oh u didn’t answer my call and I wanted to kill myself. Like I wasn’t allowed to breathe without having to worry about her. I had my own sh*t to deal with but to her since I wasn’t trying to kill myself I was fine. It’s almost like I wasn’t allowed to not be ok just bc she was doing way worse than me. My sister also has bpd (were not actually related by blood her mom is dating my dad and we grew up together) It’s difficult for me to understand them. I try to educate myself by reading a lot of stuff online about mental health etc.. Does anyone know the differences between avpd and bpd? If you have bpd pls tell me your personal experience with this disorder so that I can understand better. Thank you for taking the time to read this.

There's this one girl that always gets all the hours, as she always gets 4 or 5 days while other cashiers are stuck with only 1 or 2 days. She gets a lot of credit cards, the managers constantly pull her off the register to do other tasks so she could maintain her app pen %. She could be on her break and gone for an extra 30 minutes after that and NOBODY says a thing, except for a manager calling her back to the register like nothing ever happened, and she and the ASM always playfully tease each other!!!! What should be done about this?

What should I do?
I 17M have been friends with this girl Ash 17F for over three years now and I would say we are pretty good friends. Last year I found out from a mutual friend that she liked me. I have struggled with my sexuality and thought for a while I was gay but when I heard that she liked me I thought maybe I was bi. I couldn’t stop thinking about Ash and I finally got the balls to ask her out. We went ice skating and it was fun. I asked her if she’s told anyone about us going on a date and she said her mom and best friend. We had the plans to go on a second date but something happened and she got really sick and didn’t come to school for the rest of the year. During the time she wasn’t at school I started to overthink and I thought I was gay again, I got this really bad crush on a guy I felt really guilty because we never officially started dating but never ended things (idk i’ve never been in a relationship so I don’t know how it works). We didn’t talk much during the summer but I was so worried about seeing her the next time i saw her because I didn’t like her anymore and we never spoke about it. When school started up again everything was normal and we kept hanging out. A few months ago I found out she only started hanging out with me and my friends in the first place was because she liked me.During this whole school year we have talked about other people we have liked. Recently I have figured out that I am bi and started to like her again. I really like her now and legit cant sleep im up all night thinking about her. Now she has a crush on another guy and is ranting about him and asking for advice and i’m giving it to her. I really wanted to ask her out but I font know if she even likes me anymore and she likes that guy. Its almost summer break again and I know its bad but i’m hoping that she doesn’t ask him out and wondering if it would be bad to once summer starts ask her out if they don’t get together. Or should i give up
Side note, I love giving gifts so I think before I knew she liked me I may have lead her on because I always gave her things
Also sorry for how messy this is I rushed through it because i really need advice

This is a long rant vent
I honestly don't know how to feel right now, I feel like maybe I am insane for how I reacted to my father today?? I don't know. My father is the most toxic person in my life and has been for as long as I can remember tbh. He believes he is superior, he believes he knows best.... and the way he has treated my mother at least til recently while not physical it was VERY emotional and verbally abusive to the point all of my siblings are LC
And i think we've all been on edge lately as my mother had an aneurysm and a severe stroke a few months ago
She survived He is her caretaker My mother said he has been treating her better but I have not seen that.
Once she got out of her stroke recover program they basically said he could do it at home... but she has been doing very poorly emotionally and mentally because she has rebuild the ability to emotionally regulate and react to her emotions. My father has been wanting to control my mother's thoughts since my siblings and I started to agree it isn't simply mom that has caused the disfunction in our family but also him. They talked about divorce every week before her stroke.... because it's all her fault apparently. She's the reason we are broke She's the reason he does not have anyone around him.
I mean he take zero accountability for how his life has turned out
Anyway Today I got a call from my mom We call daily When I pick up and say "HI mom" The first thing I hear is my father "You need to talk to your mom she keeps trying to kill herself". She says she took pills and my dad said he already called poison control and he says "You see what I've been dealing with" I said well "she jus had a major stroke this is actually completely normal to be dealing with after...." He said "I'll just shut up then" I call my dad and ask if he is going to take her to get help if she is going to a therapist or even a facility and actively get mental health not just help with her motor skills
He said no He can't I said she needs to see therapists and... he said she has been but I have been told multiple times she hasn't hardly seen anyone since she left the original program for rehabilitation.
I call my sister and my maternal grandmother Both say I agree i should call for a wellness check....
Well she got taken into the hospital and now he is saying I misunderstood the entirety of the conversation that she is doing actions that could accidently cause her to kill herself ... that I don't know what she meant... I didn't go based on what she said I went based on what HE said.... And my grandmother believes him???? Like I asked her first..... I feel so insane and angry Maybe I did overreact???? Even tho he said she was legitimately trying to kill herself???
I just want my mom to get the help she needs....
She also said she is suicidal herself... I am jus so scared and ughhhh
I feel like everytime I don't agree with him I'm left question my perspective over and over even tho I am not the only one that has a similar experience with him....
I jus needed to vent I guess?? Or get my thoughts out on to somewhere
Before my mother's stroke I was completely okay with going NC with my Nparent (my dad) But since he has becomes my mother's caretaker It feels very difficult to separate them anymore.... I jus keep hoping he'll actually change but then left disappointed and somehow it is still my fault.........

(Trying to submit again... something wasn't allowed last time and I don't know what it was?
Okay, will be cross-posting this but will upload any and all help to show what I get between communities. Not here to make money, just really in the hole and it wasn't my fault (mostly).
Well first off, I am a permanently disabled girl here that had her life changed when I was driving me and my son to martial arts, someone cut us off and I ran into them. It really was a relatively minor wreck, but my airbag did not deploy and we thought I just got a concussion. A week later I was driving my Mom somewhere and I had a seizure when driving. We did not wreck then, my Mom was able to grab the wheel and pull the e-brake. But that was the start of my journey being diagnosed with medicine resistant intractable epilepsy. I have tried something like 16 meds and finally found one that kind of works, yet I still seize. I have also had 2 brain surgeries (for the RNS device in brain) and we may be looking at yet another to place more leads. I'm actually excited for that... it may be able to help my epilepsy more!
But about 4 months ago I turned in my renewal for food stamps. They just kept saying they were behind, didn't give me the help I desperately needed. As a result I had to just keep overcharging my account to get money for food. I needed that money for other things like rent, gas, bills, just everything. I would highly appreciate anyone that could donate some money my way and I will absolutely come back next month to help others. I love helping others, it kind of has always been my nature. Unlike my family though. That's a story for a different day.
I have my account overdrawn by $341. If anyone can donate ANYTHING to help me get that number to 0 or as close to it as I can, I'd be so so sooooo thankful. Do you need proof of anything of mine? I'll gladly give. Show bank account, show medical discharge papers to show I am still under total doctors care... I'm on SSI and man, that money is just NOT enough to live! My partner is my caretaker but the state only pays him for 4 hours a day at bare minimum. He can't go to work because he has to watch me, and I obviously can't work. My family does not help at all, they really aren't good people, except my son and my father (who was recently diagnosed with cancer sadly). Things are just tough. Please any donations you can make to get my account to no overdrawn I'd so appreciate! I will gladly help others when I can.
Need any more info? Just ask me.
Here are my payment infos:
Zelle: (Do you need a phone number for that or something? I don't know what my link would be for this, but I do have zelle.
Cashapp: $MeekoWeazie
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I might have other ways to accept money, please just ask to get info!
Is there any other way I can get help? Please help if possible even if it's only 10 dollars from a few people, I'm going nuts here needing this to be more to no overdrawn!
Thank you and have a great day! I WILL help out those that need it as soon as I can!

So I had a second consultation today and decided to sign with them. I paid $500 down for my retainer. I thought they were answering my questions clearly and giving me good advice, I realized after I left they were just paralegals. It gives me uneasy vibes because I think the last consultation I had was with the attorney and she seemed to ask much more specific and pointed questions, so I stupidly assumed the next consultation I had would be with an attorney as well and didn’t ask anything until after i paid and read their titles on the cards they handed me on the way out.
To be clear one of their cards says paralegal and the other says director of operations. Neither says attorney; like the other cards in the lobby.
Is this normal for the paralegal to be doing the intake? Can they say if I qualify? Because I asked them a bunch of questions that seemed pretty specific and the answers they gave me led me to believe they knew what they were talking about but I’m worried I just wasted money I don’t have to waste.

I’m F18 and currently stuck in a very difficult relationship with my parents. The problem is mostly my mother, who tries to control everything I do. Some people I’ve talked to about this situation have said she’s a narcissist. My mother has never been physically abusive but regularly verbally abuses me (since I was 11) and my father. Once I started getting into my teenage years and becoming my own person, things got worse with me in my mom as she slowly lost more and more control over me.
The types of things she’s done to me include isolating me from all of my friends by taking my phone and I wasn’t even allowed to go to sleepovers, parties, or any of my friends homes. This has led me to develop problems with substance abuse and self harming as well as other mental health problems.
When I turned 18, I started to say no to her more and pushed for more freedom which let me have my phone in my room because I was not even allowed access to my phone on school days until this March.
But it’s not getting any better. I’m still constantly cursed out and verbally berated for literally no reason. My mother has tried opening credit card accounts in my name for her use only to “build my credit” only to call me a bitch when I told her to stop. She still has the password for my bank account which she took over $600 from for repairs on my car which my father had already paid for. She constantly violates my boundaries, using the ‘my house my rules’ logic even though she’s been unemployed since I was 10. I get yelled at whenever I buy something for myself with the money that I worked for. Not like crazy expensive things, I’m talking $40 on two Tshirts and toiletries from target (shampoo, acne care, deodorant)
I have had a stable job since I was 16 and have picked up a second job for the summer. I have never been in any major trouble at school or with the law. But there’s something so wrong about me that all my mother does when she sees me is yell.
My dad gets the same treatment too. As long as I can remember. He will not divorce her for religious reasons. He tells me that if I ignore her or don’t take it personally, things will be fine but it’s kind of hard not to take it personally when your mother tells you too kill yourself because i refused to tell her the name of a coworker. He’s never done anything to call out her behavior. He just lets it go. He hasn’t done anything to truly help me.
I’m tired of living like this but I feel like I can’t leave . I don’t have a credit card, I don’t have my own car insurance. I can get my own car insurance in September and I’ve considered going against my mom telling me to not get a credit card and apply for Chime. But I can’t take that step for some reason and I hear my mom telling me that I can’t survive on my own. I don’t know what to do any advice helps. I feel hopeless

What’s up guys! Gonna share some insights, especially for the younger guys.
Stats: 20y- 6’0 - Handsome/Cute (6-7/10) - Nice Build Mediterranean looking + Mixes (🇻🇪 fam)
Context: Well travelled since youth, not rich but was a family thing to do. By default became a passport bro haha. Difficult kid, intelligent odd ball, not bad with girls but bad with girls lmao. Good but weird upbringing. Chaotic and a bit of a demon, impulsive, low self control. (Much more mature now)
Mexico 🇲🇽 Ok let’s get into it. My first real experience and love was at 19. I was in a bad place for many years prior and didn’t let people in. Anyways so yeah I met a 🇲🇽 girl who I found really cute through mutuals in the capital. I rarely found any Mexicans cute, so she was special in that point of view. We also had many similarities and I loved how feminine she was compared to girls back home. Beautiful country and culture I thoroughly recommend CDMX as a beginner location. I quickly began solo traveling to 🇲🇽 to see my “friend” and it quickly got out of hand and ended abruptly in a moment of my immaturity. I learned many things though: Long distance is not my style- too complicated and heart wrenching- I quickly made a mental note to not take any relationships serious. Also noted to be weary of girls who approach you haha. Here is where I noticed how insane I pulled outside of the country. I live in a city which has the most hyper-competitive sexual market in the United States (world) and I still do surprisingly well (especially at night lol). But nothing compares. Also I’m a Latino by blood so the dating culture just feels better.
Venezuela 🇻🇪 Anyways after the Mexico era I went on a family trip to Venezuela which I basically haven’t been there since my balls dropped. Wow. The natural beauty of Venezuelans is striking. Beautiful girls everywhere. The country itself is a mess. Everything is slow, expensive, and inconvenient. Had some fun there with a local girl but was not able to enjoy as much as I wanted to as I was with family the entire time. I don’t use tinder- all IRL into instagram as a funnel. Maybe I’ll explore more with dating apps as I get many matches especially overseas but the quality seems shitty and it can be a waste of time also a lame way to meet people. Never got to go out or party solo-dolo so that was a bummer. Will be back soon enough though so I’ll update you guys on Venezuela Nightlife experience. All I can say is it’s the second most beautiful place when it comes women I’ve been to. The country itself is by far the most beautiful place I’ve ever been. Terrible government- felt surprisingly safe though.
Europe 🇪🇺 Ok here’s were it gets weird haha. So Europe is definitely a place with more nuance. With that said I went to both western and eastern locations. It’s much easier to have casual sex in Western Europe due to the culture. Many American and European solo traveling girls as well… they are rather promiscuous. Eastern Europe was by far a beauty haven. From Romania to Russia you will find some of the most beautiful women on earth just walking on the street. The culture shock is large though and dating becomes a bit more “serious” which for me doesn’t work. I would recommend Europe as a traveling destination if you think you’re up for it. I did well and met, partied with, and traveled with girls but I felt like it the more east I went it just wasn’t the right vibe for that. Which is a bummer because Western European girls don’t compare to for example Ukrainians and Moldova. The farthest east I went was Turkey and the girl I was with had to sneak out everyday out of fear of being basically ostracized. Turkish people are very nice though. Spain was the most degenerate place I was in, if I wanted to party everyday I pretty much could. Great food, pricing varies widely based on economy, girls get hotter the more you go east but also more tricky. Great location to party hard, techno, etc.
So when it comes to Europe results may vary on many things. Your relative attractiveness, your ability to adapt and be outgoing even in “colder” nations, and how you carry yourself + where you stay. Staying in good locations is key. As an American you either get a buff or a de-buff and “wealth” is the main factor. European girls are very direct. Which I found off putting. Latin culture can be hyper sexual but I find it more classy.
Pro tips 🧠: - Don’t drink too much- you’ll get robbed or worse - Don’t get attached to anyone if you’re solo traveling it’s “solo” for a reason. Explore man. - Have travel cards with 0 international/atm fees - Learn how to say “hi” “nice to meet you” “my name is” “you’re gorgeous” in whatever language it shows you’re somewhat cultured. - If you’re young fuck the clubs! Go to raves, underground events, concerts, festivals. The young person and pretty girl ratio is 100x better. - Party hostels are a great way to meet “fun” people - Be careful with drug use, have been fine but honestly most of it is just unnecessary lmao. - Pub crawls are the easiest way to get laid in Europe lmao. Everyone is there for a reason. Just don’t do it if the ratio is completely busted as it’s not good for meeting local girls and stay away from the girl guides- trust.
Future travels 🌎 Peru 🇵🇪 - Machu Pichu + Lima Brazil 🇧🇷 - 🤤 nuff said Colombia 🇨🇴 - Venezuela lite more dangerous imo Argentina 🇦🇷 - seems fun
Asia as well- China 🇨🇳 would be crazy. Rarely find Asians cute but some are gorgeous.
Please share your thoughts / tips on these locations as I will be there shortly.

Today I read of the guy that falsey reported sandy hook shooting never happened and how some think anyone should be able to report or say any falsehood they want. And to them I want to share my own experiences and show why we need some accountability and laws to prevent this from happening to other people. I will never be the same as I was because of someone's conspiracy theory.
In 2020 I was healthy of mind and body. I was active on Facebook, reddit, LinkedIn, and Twitter. I'm almost 50 and a mother of 7 and grandmother of 5. I've suffered from social anxiety and depression bit had that under control. I have a soft spot for helping abused children. My bank card rounded up to the nearest dollar and the change went to help prevent child abuse. I studied child development and child psychology in college. I am ex military and have some ptsd (the social anxiety and depression) but again under control. In 2020 there was false news coming on Facebook about children being abducted, abused in numerous ways and it broke my heart. I had to help. I was drawn in to a conspiracy theory due to my heart hurting for these children that were missing or abused. Around October I was told via comments to look up the fall of cabal videos on YouTube to get even more information about how children were being hurt. Like a dumbass that (even though I finished college) was still so gullible I went and watched all 10 videos. This conspiracy theory didn't just touch on children being hurt and abducted but my religious beliefs and my distrust of politicians. At video 10 I was so afraid but not the same way others were. You see the Bible says we won't know who Jesus or God is until Satan is revealed. So I saw this conspiracy theories idea of jfk Jr coming back not as Jesus or God but as Satan and Trump was him. Most people believed this and saw this as a godsend buy I saw it as the ultimate evil on earth. It frightened me so bad I had a nervous breakdown. I lived inside my own mind for over 8 months. To this day I still don't leave my home, don't know what's real or not, and have deleted nearly all but reddit of my social media. To remind what sanity I now have I can not watch the news, go to places where others might verbally attack me and my TV time insist of dvds I have that I know by heart. In my head still we are in end times. I can't undo that thinking. I'm trying to see a professional through the va but they are booked till October.
Last July I tried to go to a family reunion in another state. I went into psychosis because of the videos and thought the worst things about my own family. I saw my family of Trump supporters as racist and the entire reunion as a kkk hoedown. While my ex pastor uncle danced and sung while playing horseshoes I saw my uncle dancing around a fire chanting hate. While my aunts sat by the river watching their pups swim I saw them planning that nights witch orgy. While my brother bar b qued beef and chicken I saw a child's ribs and meat being cooked. I was in total psychotic break and it wasn't even a day since I was there. I was rushed home and tended to for the next two weeks while my spouse and children tried to bring my mind back to our home.
This is why we need only facts to be reported on news and if it's a fictional story then it needs disclaimers and it needs guidelines. If the word news is in the name it needs to be factual and unbiased even if it's news and entertainment. News needs to be factual and unbiased. There's no entertainment in news. It's suppose to bore the kids like it did me as a child.
Some of you will disagree and say I should know how to tell what's real and not but you might be forgetting that I am not you. No one is you. Some people are gullible and they need to be protected. The ones that normally tell me it's my fault are normally the ones saying we need to protect everything. We'll my mind should have been protected. There should have been disclaimers. There should have been rules so others like me didn't get drawn in and start believing these horror stories. I can no longer go to the park with my grandchildren out of fear. I'm too afraid to leave my home because of this conspiracy theory that took my faith, my love for children and corrupted them. I question the Bible and still feel the fear of end times all the time. I can't support anything that tries to help children afraid I'm supporting another conspiracy theorist. My entire life has been turned upside down because someone or a group decided to play with my gullibility.
I'm glad that family won their lawsuit. I hope laws begin to take place to protect families like mine ND theirs. And to those spreading the lies I hope this finds you so you can see just how much those lies have hurt this family. I hope you rot in hell and Satan has his way with you. I hope God does not forgive you for leading some of his children astray and for hurting those you have hurt. I hope his vengeance is as horrible for you as you have made my life. And normally I never wish harm on anyone because it's not very Christian.

Hi I just wanna share my LDR story cuz I can't really judge clearly right now without being biased. I'm already attached to him given na naka abot na kami ng 4years and my mind seems to justify him. We broke up last May 5 lang.
Anyways, I'm 23F, filipino and he's 23M, indian.
Ps. Medyo mahaba hahaha
So, we met on a MMORPG last summer of 2020. We started talking on DC and I usually don't get interested to ppl I met online but his attack was kinda different. He asked about my GPA and I was like wow concern sa grado baka matino. Ganern. Online classes are still on going that time so we usually talk more at night. And it wasn't just some small talks but quality talks. About life ganern, interests and views on different things. We don't usually agree but we both talk so deeply about it kaya nagkasundo.
Fast forward, ako talaga ang unang naattached. And I already know that time (which was only months after we first talked) na wala kaming patutunguhan. He wasn't that attached to the point of considering me on his future. But still, I didn't mind. Wala pa din naman akong plano sumabak sa relationship irl. NBSB pero may mga manliligaw. So ayun, nagpatuloy sa kalandian habang nanonotice ko na na medyo may katotohanan na sa mga "I love you" nya. We've been so wholesome na rin. Been into different kind of games like Dragon Raja, 8ball, COC, at halos lahat na yata ng games sa play store na subukan na. Hindi naman ako gamer tbh ML lang talaga yung game na nilalaro ko tyaka yung MMORPG na yun. But anyways to make the story short, sa 4 years na yun marami na ring away. Let's say every year may pinag aawayan talaga. He was talking to girls on DC even tho it wasn't that malicious but still. We started there too😆 iyan yung issue sa let's say 2-3 yrs ig. Pero di naman sobrang dami mga like 2 months lng out of 12. Then last year, he greeted his ex of 2yrs a happy birthday. Tbh nung unang year wala lang sa akin. On our 2nd year when I found out, I told him to stop cuz I didn't like it. Last year was kinda diff cuz he greeted her a belated birthday mga atiiih. Belated hahahaha the care to greet even though it was alrdy late di ba. So nag away ulit. Ilang beses na rin sya nag ask ng chances sa 4yrs na Yan. Like super sincere to the point na hindi ka niya tatantanan ng message mapa DC, tele, WhatsApp or insta. Ilang beses na rin sya umiyak dahil sa situation namin like sa LDR, to say sorry, dahil sa different beliefs and all. I told him that we should wait until 26 to decide if pwede na iuwi sa kasalan hahaha ganun kalala ang love and patience ko mga bhiee. He agreed too cuz by that time, we will be mature enough to decide considering na di pa sya secured sa job that time. And to conclude kasi napahaba na, for me, our love was real and very wholesome I might not show it through this forum but yeah, it was. But the thing is, last 1st week of May I kinda tested him saying that, "this is probably the lowest point of my life" cuz currently we're having some financial problem cuz of hospitalization and he knew it. But guess what, he ignored that msg. I told him goodnight right after kasi mukhang Wala talaga syang plano mag reply and guess what, he replied. "Sorry Im kinda busy, you can sleep tho" okay I understand. Busy sya. But girl diba? Am I wrong tho? Did I just assume stuffs? Pero I decided to end it right after. I deleted my msged abt that lowest point shi and he innocently asked if I want to explain why I was breaking up with him. And I told him no need. Cuz bakit pa? I've had my answer. And si kuya sabi niya, I kinda know why and it's rlly hard that I can't do anything about it. Pero why not console me? Pero mali ba ako? I need your wisdom masyado nang biased utak ko. So ayun wala na talaga. Kala ko mabilis lang mag move on since online lang pero iba rin talaga pag naattached na haha. Was I wrong tho or did I saved myself. Anyways, graduation na nxt year so focus nlang muna sa studies ngayon.

At least I certainly hope so for my mom, my MIL, and my sister. They all seemed very happy & pleased with the day.
My mom & dad were absolute rock stars for hosting & fixing all kinds of delicious food for dinner yesterday, and I am truly so very grateful for them. They are the kind of selfless people that truly always do more for others than they receive, willingly and lovingly.
Yesterday made me even more glad that I went over to their house on Saturday & helped my mom with some technological stuff + spent several hours with her. We “chased” the northern lights, though frankly we didn’t see much. Apparently they were much more magnificent the night before, though I didn’t really have any luck then either. Some of the folks around this area captured some rather unbelievable photos — that’s not to say that I’m calling it nonsense. I do know for a fact that some of those photos were heavily edited/adjusted, though. I know what I saw with my eyes, and what I was able to get with my camera… those things were not in alignment whatsoever. But anyway Saturday night was really enjoyable, mostly because I was with my mom.
My parents & family have really welcomed in my MIL with open arms ever since my FIL passed away. She has expressed gratitude for this many times. Yesterday was no exception, and to my husband’s credit, he made sure that his mom knew everything we did & all that she got was thanks to me (and my parents, of course).
My sister came out to my parents an hour or so later than she planned, which pushed dinner back a bit, but no one seemed to mind. It was delicious all the same.
That put us getting back home about an hour & a half later than I’d expected. My husband & oldest daughter didn’t stay long out at my parents, but MIL stayed with us all day. So I dropped her off before I could get home with my Littles.
And unfortunately I found out that my MIL is back in contact with the MEGAbitch. The slutty, disgusting Rush-loving racist who is unfortunately my husband’s brother’s w___e. Feel free to fill that word however you deem fit. I truly don’t give a shit that she’s as pure as the driven snow (but she’s a “Christian”, so that’s ok!) or that her moral compass is busted/nonexistent. What really pisses me off about this bitch is the fact that she used an innocent POC to cheat on her [even more] racist partner. And she decided to cOnfEsS that shit to me 3 HOURS before we were to celebrate Christmas w my husband’s parents. (Sadly one of the very last Christmases of my FIL’s life. Also my son’s first Christmas. What a peach, eh?) Prior to that shitstorm, the ONLY thing this bitch said to me about her “indiscretion” was I’m not innocent
Her literal text to me was: “im sure you know that Ken* spoke with [his brother, aka OP’s husband] today. you may already know, but I def want to tell you that the guy I slept with was black. I know that's the worst offense. I know how Ken* feels about that. I just wanted you to know. like I said, I am not innocent. im so sorry.
[*name change - duh]

Ever since I built my first 80486-based computer, I've been hooked on PC building as a hobby. I'm not going to pretend to be some expert who can make custom hardline builds and overclock them.
For a time, I through hardship, and stopped building for a long time. When I came back, water coolers were everywhere. I didn't understand the difference between closed loop (AIO) and open loop (custom). And all of that RGB stuff looked annoying and terrifying.
I'm older. We older people get crabby about change.
Anyway, I ended up swallowing my pride and bought a pre-built. It was shitty as many pre-builts are (CyberPower if you must know). Somehow, some buffoon managed to install the wrong BIOS from a different model, making the BIOS impossible to update. The 120 AIO was shit, and I had to upgrade it, which helped me overcome my fear of those new-fangled AIOs and RGB and whatnot.
Then the shitshow computer died right in the middle of the pandemic when it was impossible to buy a graphics card thanks to all those cryptobro morons destroying the environment for what turned out to be a shitty fad for libertarian softheads who can't tell the difference between Bioshock and Ocean's Gate. So I was forced to buy another pre-built because that was the only way to get a decent graphics card at the time.
I'm getting the itch to build a whole new computer from scratch. The cheapo web-browsing computer I recently built for a relative doesn't count, but this entire generation of graphics cards is a dumpster fire, so I didn't.
But now, all the experts are saying that water cooled AIOs are just for looks, and you're better off with air cooled.
Damnit.
Look, I've used HSF (heatsink fan) coolers for most of my adult life. It's what I'm used to. But I finally got used to water cooling, I finally got good at installing and/or upgrading AIOs, and now everyone is saying go back to HSF.
I should have just remained a curmudgeon and stuck with air all along, damnit.
Anyway, I replaced my existing NZXT Kraken X63 with a Thermalright Phantom Spirit 120 SE. I love it. It's so much simpler, it will be more reliable in the long-term, and it even makes less noise at idle (which surprised me). The temperatures fluctuate more, but the floor for idle is lower than it was on the 280mm AIO, which surprised me. In BIOS, the temps are some 10°C lower.
I'm just crabbing about the fact that I dug in my heels and resisted making the jump from air to water (so much so that I swalled my pride and bought a pre-built), then I dug my heels in and resisted the move back to air.
What the [bad word] is wrong with me?
PS—did anyone else ever use one of those Piezo-based hot side-cold side CPU coolers back in the day?

Hi! My first post here.
To cut to the chase, I have a mother who always wants to find something wrong with my life. Ever since I was a child, she found the smallest things to be mad at me for, such as doing a chore just slightly incorrectly, and every single time she'd call me "useless". She constantly compared me to other children, and still does the same now and my big age of 19. Apparently, I'm not independent enough, and I don't care about her enough, even though I'm constantly going out of my way to prove that she's wrong. She's my mother, I would do anything for her. But she doesn't see that at all. Once, I told her I didn't like it when she called me worthless, and she told me that she said it because I am. She never apologized. Trust me, there's loads of things she's done to me that many of my friends feel like would justify me running away, but I'm not going to be too morbid.
At the same time, she's my best friend. I'm an only child who grew up with little friends, so the person I interacted with the most was her. We share a lot of the same interests and gossip about family drama. It's at those times, I feel like I'm wrong about her. But this time, she did something I feel I can't forgive her for.
Last July, I finally got a boyfriend. It seems like we're soulmates...we met on dating app but found that we have so many friends in common and also that we used to go to the same school as children. He's more than I could ever ask for. He travels to where I am by train for more than 2 hours every week (so a total of 4-5 hours). Once, he travelled more than 3 hours (a total of 6 hours) to see me in my university campus because I was feeling depressed about my assignments.
He indulges in my passions and interests. He doesn't have much money but sometimes scrimps on his meals throughout the week so he can afford to get me a small treat like ice cream when we see each other. He bought me roses on Valentines. He buys me meaningful gifts whenever he can. He understands me on a super deep level and we talk about everything. I could call him at 3am with a problem and he'd pick up. He never gets mad at me, and we've never had an argument because we always sort out our issues by communicating effectively. Heck, he even follows me to church sometimes because he wants to show me that he's interested in the things that matter to me and because he wanted to make a good impression on my mom-who married someone who never took interest in anything she did or liked let alone follow her to church every other week.
He's the most amazing guy I could ever want, and his family loves me (he jokes that they love me more than him). It's just that I haven't met them yet, since there's the distance to take into account, and because both his parents work so they're constantly busy. Also, they wanted to respect the fact that my mother might not let me go all the way to their house because of how far it is. Still, he always tells his family about me, and I often speak to his 3 sisters on the phone as they're younger than me and sometimes like hearing my advice.
My boyfriend, though, has met my mother on multiple occasions and she told me she loved him. My dad on the other hand, is actively avoiding meeting him (example: we were supposed to follow my dad to the temple for a special occasion, but at the last minute he backed out. He would never back out from that kind of thing).
If you're wondering, this is where the issue starts. My mother thinks it's incredibly suspicious that I haven't met his family yet (even though I told her I'm meeting them on the day my boyfriend graduates from pre-university). It was never really a big deal to me, since I have met his close friends and spoken to his sisters-and the fact his parents knew about me and liked me was enough. I understood that they are both busy working people and they live quite far from me. But yesterday, all this blew up in my face.
I asked my mother if she'd be okay with me taking a trip with my boyfriend, just for a couple of days, to celebrate our first anniversary. I wasn't expecting a yes or no, really. Just asking. Initially she yelled at me about how I haven't even met his parents yet and how he hasn't met my dad yet (which was entirely his fault) and said we should do it in September instead. I said okay.
Then, when I got back to campus later that night, I called her again to check up on her and she brought this up again. She said my dad disapproved of the trip and went on for 15 minutes about many things. I'll summarize in a list about what she said.

• He isn't good enough for you
• He doesn't want you to meet his family
• His family probably doesn't like you because they haven't met you yet
• You guys are taking things too fast and should continue getting to know each other
• You're always sacrificing for him
• You're getting the short end of the stick
• There are better people for you to date
• You're sacrificing your studies for him and you'll get distracted by him

As you can see, none of these are true. The last one made me especially angry because I go to what is known as a "smart kid school" in my country and it's very hard to get a distinction on our assignments! However, a condition on my student loan says if I get first class honors, they will cancel my debt completely. So my mom kept burdening me with how I dug a hole by myself for choosing to be in a relationship with him during university life (EVEN THOUGH, she wanted me to date around in university before. The difference is, she wanted me to basically be a playboy...playgirl? I don't know. When my mom was young she was exactly that. Had tons of boyfriends and cheated on a lot of them. She even told me to join a speed dating event).
I had never been so hurt in my life! What happened to "don't worry about money just focus on getting your degree"? Anyway, my boyfriend never complains when I tell him I need to be by myself on that day because I need to study and do my work...I'm one of the hardest workers in my class and he knows how much my studies mean to me. It's not my fault I'm not getting distinctions.
Now I'm a mess. I want her to love my boyfriend, and I want my dad to love my boyfriend. But he's truly done as much as he can to get their approval but he's depressed himself knowing that none of his efforts have been seen by them. He has a life, a curfew, and a worrying mother too...he can't always be accommodating to me (his mother initially didn't like me because she felt like he was spending too much time and money coming to see me but came around eventually), so I accommodate to him whenever by choosing a convenient location for us to meet up and meeting up at a later time. Because of this, my mother says I'm doing too much because distance isn't an excuse (it kind of is).
Anyhow, my question is, how in the world do I deal with this? Or at least, I need some comfort...this is the best relationship I'm honestly ever going to have but my mother wants me to date around because that's what she thinks having fun means. She thinks I'm sacrificing everything when the truth is, I'm having loads of fun in university with my new friends, I still see my old friends, and I have more than enough time to focus on my studies. He's not distracting me from everything.
How do I convince such a stubborn woman to be on my side?

I need some opinions on taking one of your kids on a trip, while the other stays home.
Backstory: I have two kids, 22m apart, ages 8 and 6. My 6yo was born prematurely and was in the NICU for almost two months, so from the beginning (through no fault of his own), he’s needed more time and attention at times. I’ve worked very hard to make sure I’m never comparing them, once little brother came home I was mindful of things like, “Not now little brother, I’m helping big brother,” and would choose big brother every time I could when LB was a baby. We do a lot together the three of us now, but it’s still sometimes hard because LB is still too little for some things that BB would enjoy (water parks for example). I always try to spend one day in the summer with each of the boys just the two of us to give them my undivided attention. But at home, LB needs more help and support, and that typically falls on me, so sometimes I feel like BB gets the short stick, no matter how mindful I am.
BB had made some comments that he wanted to go to a beach for a vacation (like FL, we live in the Midwest). For my birthday, my mom offered to pay for BB and me to take a 3 night 4 day vacation, just the two of us, and she said when LB gets to age 8, she’ll pay for him and I to do our own trip. I started planning a trip to Orlando. I’m excited and think it will be a great time to just devote my undivided attention to BB doing things he enjoys. I’ve talked to my husband about the trip, and once I said I was leaning towards a trip to Orlando, he told me it was so shitty to go on a big trip like that without LB. That if he were LB he’d be jealous and upset and he made me feel so guilty about it. LB will miss me and BB, but at the same time, I feel like this would be such a special trip for BB and me, since I hardly ever get to devote just my full time and attention to BB. (Example: a few weekends ago we went to a local hotel for a staycation and I was with LB the whole time in the lazy river or hot tub. BB either had to hang/play with us, or was with dad for the 15 total minutes dad was in the pool). Husband says I need to plan something closer, within driving distance, for the weekend.
What are your thoughts as an outsider looking in?

Little backstory; I’m 16 and I lived in group home for 3 months and one of my favorite staff members would give me his duplicates every Sunday when he came. I would organize his cards for hours on the weekend and that became our ritual…we would have outings (basically not in the house) every day and the days he would be scheduled with me we’d go around looking for card shops and never found them in stock. I recently went to Best Buy to buy an MP3 (I’m getting transferred to a new group home) and I found the Kids at Play Box…was looking through all of them and found this guy :) I was stunned, I yelled at the top of my moms and scared my mom (we were in the car lmao) I’m going to my new group home in a week…but this made my day. This brightened my whole week actually. That staff member and I would geek about garbage pail kids and MAD magazines and I would sketch all the staff members as GPK for fun. I made a Halloween painting that they still have in the home. I miss that staff member dearly, I’m thinking about writing a letter before I go and showing this. Thanks for listening to my story tho :p guess I just wanted to say how monumental this was for me. I still remember the cardboard box he brought that had stacks of thousands of cards and he had Nasty Nick, he gave me the reproduction (my name is nic) and I even redrew me as him.
TLDR; me found cool card