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2024.05.14 01:08 MisserPisser My greatest achievement: making a woman leave her husband
I'm sure the overwhelming majority of us have experienced being messaged by gross weirdos online, especially if you have any pictures of yourself on social media. I don't really get it these days but back when I was 15 it happened too often (I'm sure it's just a coincidence... Right?)
Anyway, one time I was messaged by this really disgusting 30-something year old on Facebook. "Hey I wanna fuck you and kiss you and fuck myself sexy sex" kind of gross. I went to his profile to see he had his wife tagged in some of his pictures as well as relationship status set to "married". So I screenshoted our "conversation" (which was just his creepy messages and me saying "Ew...") and I sent it to his wife. She saw my message but didn't reply so I was pretty bummed out. Like two weeks later I thought to check out his profile again and I saw he changed his relationship status to "in separation" and I think months later when I checked it was "divorced"
Won't lie, I'd like to think it was me that caused it. I'm amazed a 15 year old kid could think of something like that. My only regret is not doing it to every single creep who ever messaged me as well as not sending it to ALL of their family and friends, not just the wife
I still boast about it and on the days when I feel low, I remember this one achievement. 10/10 would recommend
As a side note, imagine being related/friends with/married to such a disgusting person and not knowing about it, having zero idea what they're like behind closed doors... That's nightmare fuel. Wouldn't even be surprised if he sexually harassed people around him, this kind has no morals. It was truly a civil service on my part
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Anyway, one time I was messaged by this really disgusting 30-something year old on Facebook. "Hey I wanna fuck you and kiss you and fuck myself sexy sex" kind of gross. I went to his profile to see he had his wife tagged in some of his pictures as well as relationship status set to "married". So I screenshoted our "conversation" (which was just his creepy messages and me saying "Ew...") and I sent it to his wife. She saw my message but didn't reply so I was pretty bummed out. Like two weeks later I thought to check out his profile again and I saw he changed his relationship status to "in separation" and I think months later when I checked it was "divorced"
Won't lie, I'd like to think it was me that caused it. I'm amazed a 15 year old kid could think of something like that. My only regret is not doing it to every single creep who ever messaged me as well as not sending it to ALL of their family and friends, not just the wife
I still boast about it and on the days when I feel low, I remember this one achievement. 10/10 would recommend
As a side note, imagine being related/friends with/married to such a disgusting person and not knowing about it, having zero idea what they're like behind closed doors... That's nightmare fuel. Wouldn't even be surprised if he sexually harassed people around him, this kind has no morals. It was truly a civil service on my part
2024.05.14 01:08 ServeLivid7225 Given 5 years ban at border entry
Hey everyone,
I’m hoping to get some advice here, so bear with me as this is a bit of a long story. I got hit with a 5-year ban at the U.S. border because the officer thought I was trying to reunite with my ex-wife and get a job through her. Just to give some context, I was on a B1/B2 5-year visit visa, living and working in the UK, and this was my first time visiting the U.S. since my divorce.
So, here's the backstory: I got married to a U.S. citizen, and we initially planned to go through the spouse visa process. But unfortunately, things went south because of her infidelity while I was in the UK. We decided to get divorced, and since she’s a lawyer, the whole process was pretty quick. Everything was done over Zoom; I wasn’t even present in court due to some engagements, but it didn’t really matter since all the paperwork was signed and the Zoom court session was just a formality. For reference, we weren’t even married for a year, though we dated for over three years before deciding to tie the knot, hoping to be together.
I moved to the UK for my MSc while waiting for the visa process, but the distance and her infidelity took a toll, and she asked for a divorce, likely to move on with someone new. I didn’t object. We finalized our divorce and went our separate ways. I continued with my MSc program in the UK, and though we were apart, we still had each other’s numbers and stayed in touch occasionally.
Fast forward to me deciding to give the U.S. visit visa a try, and I got it. In our conversations, I mentioned to her that I got the visa and was planning a trip to the U.S. This led to us talking more, and she kept suggesting ways for me to stay in the country, even sending me daily U.S. job applications to apply for from the UK. On the day I was supposed to fly to the U.S., she offered to pick me up from the airport, and I didn’t see any harm in that since I thought we were still good friends despite the divorce.
But things went south at the border. The immigration officer questioned me hard about my visit, took my phone, and saw our conversations. It ended with me getting deported back to the UK and slapped with a 5-year U.S. ban. This whole experience was a massive blow to my mental health. I got seriously depressed, and to top it off, my ex-wife messaged me later saying she was cutting all ties with me and then blocked me.
I haven’t fully recovered from the depression caused by all this. Every time I think about how it all went down, I get really sad. Recently, my ex-wife reached out again to tell me she’s remarried to someone in the U.S. I’m back in the UK, trying to rebuild my life and see what I can do here since I have legal status, but I can’t help feeling down about the whole situation.
My experience at the U.S. border was traumatic; I even spent a night in a holding cell before being sent back. My ex-wife suggested I move on with my life and maybe seek help from communities like this to figure out how to overturn the visa ban.
I’m slowly getting my life back on track, but I really want to overturn the 5-year ban and don’t even know where to start. I’m also considering applying for a Canada PR visa from the UK or even trying the visit visa again, but having this ban hanging over me is really affecting me. I’m feeling depressed and struggling to move forward.
Any advice or guidance you all could offer would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for taking the time to read my story.
submitted by ServeLivid7225 to canadatravel [link] [comments]
I’m hoping to get some advice here, so bear with me as this is a bit of a long story. I got hit with a 5-year ban at the U.S. border because the officer thought I was trying to reunite with my ex-wife and get a job through her. Just to give some context, I was on a B1/B2 5-year visit visa, living and working in the UK, and this was my first time visiting the U.S. since my divorce.
So, here's the backstory: I got married to a U.S. citizen, and we initially planned to go through the spouse visa process. But unfortunately, things went south because of her infidelity while I was in the UK. We decided to get divorced, and since she’s a lawyer, the whole process was pretty quick. Everything was done over Zoom; I wasn’t even present in court due to some engagements, but it didn’t really matter since all the paperwork was signed and the Zoom court session was just a formality. For reference, we weren’t even married for a year, though we dated for over three years before deciding to tie the knot, hoping to be together.
I moved to the UK for my MSc while waiting for the visa process, but the distance and her infidelity took a toll, and she asked for a divorce, likely to move on with someone new. I didn’t object. We finalized our divorce and went our separate ways. I continued with my MSc program in the UK, and though we were apart, we still had each other’s numbers and stayed in touch occasionally.
Fast forward to me deciding to give the U.S. visit visa a try, and I got it. In our conversations, I mentioned to her that I got the visa and was planning a trip to the U.S. This led to us talking more, and she kept suggesting ways for me to stay in the country, even sending me daily U.S. job applications to apply for from the UK. On the day I was supposed to fly to the U.S., she offered to pick me up from the airport, and I didn’t see any harm in that since I thought we were still good friends despite the divorce.
But things went south at the border. The immigration officer questioned me hard about my visit, took my phone, and saw our conversations. It ended with me getting deported back to the UK and slapped with a 5-year U.S. ban. This whole experience was a massive blow to my mental health. I got seriously depressed, and to top it off, my ex-wife messaged me later saying she was cutting all ties with me and then blocked me.
I haven’t fully recovered from the depression caused by all this. Every time I think about how it all went down, I get really sad. Recently, my ex-wife reached out again to tell me she’s remarried to someone in the U.S. I’m back in the UK, trying to rebuild my life and see what I can do here since I have legal status, but I can’t help feeling down about the whole situation.
My experience at the U.S. border was traumatic; I even spent a night in a holding cell before being sent back. My ex-wife suggested I move on with my life and maybe seek help from communities like this to figure out how to overturn the visa ban.
I’m slowly getting my life back on track, but I really want to overturn the 5-year ban and don’t even know where to start. I’m also considering applying for a Canada PR visa from the UK or even trying the visit visa again, but having this ban hanging over me is really affecting me. I’m feeling depressed and struggling to move forward.
Any advice or guidance you all could offer would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for taking the time to read my story.
2024.05.14 00:58 ServeLivid7225 Given 5 years ban at border entry
Hey everyone,
I’m hoping to get some advice here, so bear with me as this is a bit of a long story. I got hit with a 5-year ban at the U.S. border because the officer thought I was trying to reunite with my ex-wife and get a job through her. Just to give some context, I was on a B1/B2 5-year visit visa, living and working in the UK, and this was my first time visiting the U.S. since my divorce.
So, here's the backstory: I got married to a U.S. citizen, and we initially planned to go through the spouse visa process. But unfortunately, things went south because of her infidelity while I was in the UK. We decided to get divorced, and since she’s a lawyer, the whole process was pretty quick. Everything was done over Zoom; I wasn’t even present in court due to some engagements, but it didn’t really matter since all the paperwork was signed and the Zoom court session was just a formality. For reference, we weren’t even married for a year, though we dated for over three years before deciding to tie the knot, hoping to be together.
I moved to the UK for my MSc while waiting for the visa process, but the distance and her infidelity took a toll, and she asked for a divorce, likely to move on with someone new. I didn’t object. We finalized our divorce and went our separate ways. I continued with my MSc program in the UK, and though we were apart, we still had each other’s numbers and stayed in touch occasionally.
Fast forward to me deciding to give the U.S. visit visa a try, and I got it. In our conversations, I mentioned to her that I got the visa and was planning a trip to the U.S. This led to us talking more, and she kept suggesting ways for me to stay in the country, even sending me daily U.S. job applications to apply for from the UK. On the day I was supposed to fly to the U.S., she offered to pick me up from the airport, and I didn’t see any harm in that since I thought we were still good friends despite the divorce.
But things went south at the border. The immigration officer questioned me hard about my visit, took my phone, and saw our conversations. It ended with me getting deported back to the UK and slapped with a 5-year U.S. ban. This whole experience was a massive blow to my mental health. I got seriously depressed, and to top it off, my ex-wife messaged me later saying she was cutting all ties with me and then blocked me.
I haven’t fully recovered from the depression caused by all this. Every time I think about how it all went down, I get really sad. Recently, my ex-wife reached out again to tell me she’s remarried to someone in the U.S. I’m back in the UK, trying to rebuild my life and see what I can do here since I have legal status, but I can’t help feeling down about the whole situation.
My experience at the U.S. border was traumatic; I even spent a night in a holding cell before being sent back. My ex-wife suggested I move on with my life and maybe seek help from communities like this to figure out how to overturn the visa ban.
I’m slowly getting my life back on track, but I really want to overturn the 5-year ban and don’t even know where to start. I’m also considering applying for a Canada PR visa from the UK or even trying the visit visa again, but having this ban hanging over me is really affecting me. I’m feeling depressed and struggling to move forward.
Any advice or guidance you all could offer would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for taking the time to read my story.
submitted by ServeLivid7225 to usajobs [link] [comments]
I’m hoping to get some advice here, so bear with me as this is a bit of a long story. I got hit with a 5-year ban at the U.S. border because the officer thought I was trying to reunite with my ex-wife and get a job through her. Just to give some context, I was on a B1/B2 5-year visit visa, living and working in the UK, and this was my first time visiting the U.S. since my divorce.
So, here's the backstory: I got married to a U.S. citizen, and we initially planned to go through the spouse visa process. But unfortunately, things went south because of her infidelity while I was in the UK. We decided to get divorced, and since she’s a lawyer, the whole process was pretty quick. Everything was done over Zoom; I wasn’t even present in court due to some engagements, but it didn’t really matter since all the paperwork was signed and the Zoom court session was just a formality. For reference, we weren’t even married for a year, though we dated for over three years before deciding to tie the knot, hoping to be together.
I moved to the UK for my MSc while waiting for the visa process, but the distance and her infidelity took a toll, and she asked for a divorce, likely to move on with someone new. I didn’t object. We finalized our divorce and went our separate ways. I continued with my MSc program in the UK, and though we were apart, we still had each other’s numbers and stayed in touch occasionally.
Fast forward to me deciding to give the U.S. visit visa a try, and I got it. In our conversations, I mentioned to her that I got the visa and was planning a trip to the U.S. This led to us talking more, and she kept suggesting ways for me to stay in the country, even sending me daily U.S. job applications to apply for from the UK. On the day I was supposed to fly to the U.S., she offered to pick me up from the airport, and I didn’t see any harm in that since I thought we were still good friends despite the divorce.
But things went south at the border. The immigration officer questioned me hard about my visit, took my phone, and saw our conversations. It ended with me getting deported back to the UK and slapped with a 5-year U.S. ban. This whole experience was a massive blow to my mental health. I got seriously depressed, and to top it off, my ex-wife messaged me later saying she was cutting all ties with me and then blocked me.
I haven’t fully recovered from the depression caused by all this. Every time I think about how it all went down, I get really sad. Recently, my ex-wife reached out again to tell me she’s remarried to someone in the U.S. I’m back in the UK, trying to rebuild my life and see what I can do here since I have legal status, but I can’t help feeling down about the whole situation.
My experience at the U.S. border was traumatic; I even spent a night in a holding cell before being sent back. My ex-wife suggested I move on with my life and maybe seek help from communities like this to figure out how to overturn the visa ban.
I’m slowly getting my life back on track, but I really want to overturn the 5-year ban and don’t even know where to start. I’m also considering applying for a Canada PR visa from the UK or even trying the visit visa again, but having this ban hanging over me is really affecting me. I’m feeling depressed and struggling to move forward.
Any advice or guidance you all could offer would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for taking the time to read my story.
2024.05.14 00:54 babbleon5 here's what 800Flowers delivered as an XL bouquet
https://twitter.com/jonnygolf/status/1790148854068777217
my guess is that they accepted the order knowing they couldn't fulfill demand, made the poor florist send whatever crappy scraps were left over, and figured they would clean it up aftterwards with customer service.
https://www.1800flowers.com/elegant-blush-bouquet-176264 is what was supposed to be delivered.
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my guess is that they accepted the order knowing they couldn't fulfill demand, made the poor florist send whatever crappy scraps were left over, and figured they would clean it up aftterwards with customer service.
https://www.1800flowers.com/elegant-blush-bouquet-176264 is what was supposed to be delivered.
2024.05.14 00:51 advicethrowaway719 Mysterious Severe Bruising on Cat
Two weekends ago my husband and I went out of town and when we returned, noticed that our ~11 year old DSH/Russian blue cat was slightly limping on his front left leg. We asked our trusted cat sitter, who comes 2x a day when we are gone, and she said she hadn't noticed any limping but said he did seem more stand off-ish than usual. We figured he might have just landed on it funny and decided to keep a close eye on it. The limping would stop for a day or so, but then return, and we also noticed that he was laying on the hard wood floor a lot, which is unusual for him, so we took him in to our vet.
The vet suspected a sprain or arthritis and said they would do some x-rays to be sure. After sedating him, she did a more thorough exam (he is always very spicy at the vet) and we were both SHOCKED to discover extensive and pretty severe bruising all over his left side. The vet said she had only seen this level of bruising previously with cats who had been in a severe trauma. She spotted some through his fur and then shaved him to get a better look. We were absolutely stumped as our cat is 100% indoor, and while he does have a younger and more spry sister that he occasionally plays and wrestles with, she is completely deferential to him and their play sessions never end in so much as a hiss.
We decided that he must have somehow gotten caught in something, or fallen down our stairs, but honestly were still stumped as to how this happened. The vet put him on some pain meds and said to keep a close eye on it.
The bruising hasn't really gone down and now we're noticing more swelling and purple spots under the skin on his back left paw. Even if something traumatic did happen to him the weekend we were gone, he has definitely not had anything new happen since. Our vet is completely stumped and we are about to take him in to urgent care, but eager for any and all thoughts on what this could possibly be. I have photos but some how not allowed to upload them here.
His only other medical issues are IBD (diagnosed ~2 years ago, treated with Rx food, a low dose of prednisilone and vitamin B injections) and cardio myapothy (diagnosed ~2 months ago, given a cardiac supplement and daily enalapril to treat). He got a full ultrasound 2 months ago for his cardio appointment and full blood work then and again during his most recent X rays and the vet didn't see anything that could be causing this. He is slightly anemic and white/red cell counts are slightly off, but nothing that she would consider out of the ordinary for his other issues.
Age: 11
Sex/Neuter status: neutered
Breed: DSH/Russian Blue
Body weight: 10.8
History: Above
Clinical signs: Above
Duration: First noticed April 28 - limping has improved but brusing has not
Your general location: east coast USA
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The vet suspected a sprain or arthritis and said they would do some x-rays to be sure. After sedating him, she did a more thorough exam (he is always very spicy at the vet) and we were both SHOCKED to discover extensive and pretty severe bruising all over his left side. The vet said she had only seen this level of bruising previously with cats who had been in a severe trauma. She spotted some through his fur and then shaved him to get a better look. We were absolutely stumped as our cat is 100% indoor, and while he does have a younger and more spry sister that he occasionally plays and wrestles with, she is completely deferential to him and their play sessions never end in so much as a hiss.
We decided that he must have somehow gotten caught in something, or fallen down our stairs, but honestly were still stumped as to how this happened. The vet put him on some pain meds and said to keep a close eye on it.
The bruising hasn't really gone down and now we're noticing more swelling and purple spots under the skin on his back left paw. Even if something traumatic did happen to him the weekend we were gone, he has definitely not had anything new happen since. Our vet is completely stumped and we are about to take him in to urgent care, but eager for any and all thoughts on what this could possibly be. I have photos but some how not allowed to upload them here.
His only other medical issues are IBD (diagnosed ~2 years ago, treated with Rx food, a low dose of prednisilone and vitamin B injections) and cardio myapothy (diagnosed ~2 months ago, given a cardiac supplement and daily enalapril to treat). He got a full ultrasound 2 months ago for his cardio appointment and full blood work then and again during his most recent X rays and the vet didn't see anything that could be causing this. He is slightly anemic and white/red cell counts are slightly off, but nothing that she would consider out of the ordinary for his other issues.
Age: 11
Sex/Neuter status: neutered
Breed: DSH/Russian Blue
Body weight: 10.8
History: Above
Clinical signs: Above
Duration: First noticed April 28 - limping has improved but brusing has not
Your general location: east coast USA
2024.05.14 00:51 Extraneous92 Anyway to remove tracking info from order?
Is there anyway to not add a tracking number when buying labels for letters from Etsy? I can't tell you how many upset messages from customers because tracking for letters is horrible. It will be either no updates after the initial "label created" message, a few updates then just stops, or it says delivered when it actually just arrived at their local post office.
I make an effort to inform customers on my listing descriptions and notes on their reciepts that it can take up to 10 days for an item to arrive once shipped. Also, when most people ask, I let them know of the etsy tracking situation and "most" of them are understanding. I just have a few that don't seem to understand I'm not the post office or they think Im trying to rip them off.
I like using the Etsy labels because its pretty cheap, and the next shipping option available costs as much as the item itself.
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I make an effort to inform customers on my listing descriptions and notes on their reciepts that it can take up to 10 days for an item to arrive once shipped. Also, when most people ask, I let them know of the etsy tracking situation and "most" of them are understanding. I just have a few that don't seem to understand I'm not the post office or they think Im trying to rip them off.
I like using the Etsy labels because its pretty cheap, and the next shipping option available costs as much as the item itself.
2024.05.14 00:50 spongeballzz Custom Coraline Dolls
 | I'm making custom Coraline dolls out of clay! This could be of anyone you want, such as a celebrity (this one is Melanie Martinez), a fictional character, someone you know, or yourself! submitted by spongeballzz to artstore [link] [comments] If you're interested, message me directly :) |
2024.05.14 00:49 ServeLivid7225 Given 5 years ban at border entry
Hey everyone,
I’m hoping to get some advice here, so bear with me as this is a bit of a long story. I got hit with a 5-year ban at the U.S. border because the officer thought I was trying to reunite with my ex-wife and get a job through her. Just to give some context, I was on a B1/B2 5-year visit visa, living and working in the UK, and this was my first time visiting the U.S. since my divorce.
So, here's the backstory: I got married to a U.S. citizen, and we initially planned to go through the spouse visa process. But unfortunately, things went south because of her infidelity while I was in the UK. We decided to get divorced, and since she’s a lawyer, the whole process was pretty quick. Everything was done over Zoom; I wasn’t even present in court due to some engagements, but it didn’t really matter since all the paperwork was signed and the Zoom court session was just a formality. For reference, we weren’t even married for a year, though we dated for over three years before deciding to tie the knot, hoping to be together.
I moved to the UK for my MSc while waiting for the visa process, but the distance and her infidelity took a toll, and she asked for a divorce, likely to move on with someone new. I didn’t object. We finalized our divorce and went our separate ways. I continued with my MSc program in the UK, and though we were apart, we still had each other’s numbers and stayed in touch occasionally.
Fast forward to me deciding to give the U.S. visit visa a try, and I got it. In our conversations, I mentioned to her that I got the visa and was planning a trip to the U.S. This led to us talking more, and she kept suggesting ways for me to stay in the country, even sending me daily U.S. job applications to apply for from the UK. On the day I was supposed to fly to the U.S., she offered to pick me up from the airport, and I didn’t see any harm in that since I thought we were still good friends despite the divorce.
But things went south at the border. The immigration officer questioned me hard about my visit, took my phone, and saw our conversations. It ended with me getting deported back to the UK and slapped with a 5-year U.S. ban. This whole experience was a massive blow to my mental health. I got seriously depressed, and to top it off, my ex-wife messaged me later saying she was cutting all ties with me and then blocked me.
I haven’t fully recovered from the depression caused by all this. Every time I think about how it all went down, I get really sad. Recently, my ex-wife reached out again to tell me she’s remarried to someone in the U.S. I’m back in the UK, trying to rebuild my life and see what I can do here since I have legal status, but I can’t help feeling down about the whole situation.
My experience at the U.S. border was traumatic; I even spent a night in a holding cell before being sent back. My ex-wife suggested I move on with my life and maybe seek help from communities like this to figure out how to overturn the visa ban.
I’m slowly getting my life back on track, but I really want to overturn the 5-year ban and don’t even know where to start. I’m also considering applying for a Canada PR visa from the UK or even trying the visit visa again, but having this ban hanging over me is really affecting me. I’m feeling depressed and struggling to move forward.
Any advice or guidance you all could offer would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for taking the time to read my story.
submitted by ServeLivid7225 to USVisas [link] [comments]
I’m hoping to get some advice here, so bear with me as this is a bit of a long story. I got hit with a 5-year ban at the U.S. border because the officer thought I was trying to reunite with my ex-wife and get a job through her. Just to give some context, I was on a B1/B2 5-year visit visa, living and working in the UK, and this was my first time visiting the U.S. since my divorce.
So, here's the backstory: I got married to a U.S. citizen, and we initially planned to go through the spouse visa process. But unfortunately, things went south because of her infidelity while I was in the UK. We decided to get divorced, and since she’s a lawyer, the whole process was pretty quick. Everything was done over Zoom; I wasn’t even present in court due to some engagements, but it didn’t really matter since all the paperwork was signed and the Zoom court session was just a formality. For reference, we weren’t even married for a year, though we dated for over three years before deciding to tie the knot, hoping to be together.
I moved to the UK for my MSc while waiting for the visa process, but the distance and her infidelity took a toll, and she asked for a divorce, likely to move on with someone new. I didn’t object. We finalized our divorce and went our separate ways. I continued with my MSc program in the UK, and though we were apart, we still had each other’s numbers and stayed in touch occasionally.
Fast forward to me deciding to give the U.S. visit visa a try, and I got it. In our conversations, I mentioned to her that I got the visa and was planning a trip to the U.S. This led to us talking more, and she kept suggesting ways for me to stay in the country, even sending me daily U.S. job applications to apply for from the UK. On the day I was supposed to fly to the U.S., she offered to pick me up from the airport, and I didn’t see any harm in that since I thought we were still good friends despite the divorce.
But things went south at the border. The immigration officer questioned me hard about my visit, took my phone, and saw our conversations. It ended with me getting deported back to the UK and slapped with a 5-year U.S. ban. This whole experience was a massive blow to my mental health. I got seriously depressed, and to top it off, my ex-wife messaged me later saying she was cutting all ties with me and then blocked me.
I haven’t fully recovered from the depression caused by all this. Every time I think about how it all went down, I get really sad. Recently, my ex-wife reached out again to tell me she’s remarried to someone in the U.S. I’m back in the UK, trying to rebuild my life and see what I can do here since I have legal status, but I can’t help feeling down about the whole situation.
My experience at the U.S. border was traumatic; I even spent a night in a holding cell before being sent back. My ex-wife suggested I move on with my life and maybe seek help from communities like this to figure out how to overturn the visa ban.
I’m slowly getting my life back on track, but I really want to overturn the 5-year ban and don’t even know where to start. I’m also considering applying for a Canada PR visa from the UK or even trying the visit visa again, but having this ban hanging over me is really affecting me. I’m feeling depressed and struggling to move forward.
Any advice or guidance you all could offer would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for taking the time to read my story.
2024.05.14 00:48 ServeLivid7225 Given 5 years ban at the border entry
Hey everyone,
I’m hoping to get some advice here, so bear with me as this is a bit of a long story. I got hit with a 5-year ban at the U.S. border because the officer thought I was trying to reunite with my ex-wife and get a job through her. Just to give some context, I was on a B1/B2 5-year visit visa, living and working in the UK, and this was my first time visiting the U.S. since my divorce.
So, here's the backstory: I got married to a U.S. citizen, and we initially planned to go through the spouse visa process. But unfortunately, things went south because of her infidelity while I was in the UK. We decided to get divorced, and since she’s a lawyer, the whole process was pretty quick. Everything was done over Zoom; I wasn’t even present in court due to some engagements, but it didn’t really matter since all the paperwork was signed and the Zoom court session was just a formality. For reference, we weren’t even married for a year, though we dated for over three years before deciding to tie the knot, hoping to be together.
I moved to the UK for my MSc while waiting for the visa process, but the distance and her infidelity took a toll, and she asked for a divorce, likely to move on with someone new. I didn’t object. We finalized our divorce and went our separate ways. I continued with my MSc program in the UK, and though we were apart, we still had each other’s numbers and stayed in touch occasionally.
Fast forward to me deciding to give the U.S. visit visa a try, and I got it. In our conversations, I mentioned to her that I got the visa and was planning a trip to the U.S. This led to us talking more, and she kept suggesting ways for me to stay in the country, even sending me daily U.S. job applications to apply for from the UK. On the day I was supposed to fly to the U.S., she offered to pick me up from the airport, and I didn’t see any harm in that since I thought we were still good friends despite the divorce.
But things went south at the border. The immigration officer questioned me hard about my visit, took my phone, and saw our conversations. It ended with me getting deported back to the UK and slapped with a 5-year U.S. ban. This whole experience was a massive blow to my mental health. I got seriously depressed, and to top it off, my ex-wife messaged me later saying she was cutting all ties with me and then blocked me.
I haven’t fully recovered from the depression caused by all this. Every time I think about how it all went down, I get really sad. Recently, my ex-wife reached out again to tell me she’s remarried to someone in the U.S. I’m back in the UK, trying to rebuild my life and see what I can do here since I have legal status, but I can’t help feeling down about the whole situation.
My experience at the U.S. border was traumatic; I even spent a night in a holding cell before being sent back. My ex-wife suggested I move on with my life and maybe seek help from communities like this to figure out how to overturn the visa ban.
I’m slowly getting my life back on track, but I really want to overturn the 5-year ban and don’t even know where to start. I’m also considering applying for a Canada PR visa from the UK or even trying the visit visa again, but having this ban hanging over me is really affecting me. I’m feeling depressed and struggling to move forward.
Any advice or guidance you all could offer would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for taking the time to read my story.
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I’m hoping to get some advice here, so bear with me as this is a bit of a long story. I got hit with a 5-year ban at the U.S. border because the officer thought I was trying to reunite with my ex-wife and get a job through her. Just to give some context, I was on a B1/B2 5-year visit visa, living and working in the UK, and this was my first time visiting the U.S. since my divorce.
So, here's the backstory: I got married to a U.S. citizen, and we initially planned to go through the spouse visa process. But unfortunately, things went south because of her infidelity while I was in the UK. We decided to get divorced, and since she’s a lawyer, the whole process was pretty quick. Everything was done over Zoom; I wasn’t even present in court due to some engagements, but it didn’t really matter since all the paperwork was signed and the Zoom court session was just a formality. For reference, we weren’t even married for a year, though we dated for over three years before deciding to tie the knot, hoping to be together.
I moved to the UK for my MSc while waiting for the visa process, but the distance and her infidelity took a toll, and she asked for a divorce, likely to move on with someone new. I didn’t object. We finalized our divorce and went our separate ways. I continued with my MSc program in the UK, and though we were apart, we still had each other’s numbers and stayed in touch occasionally.
Fast forward to me deciding to give the U.S. visit visa a try, and I got it. In our conversations, I mentioned to her that I got the visa and was planning a trip to the U.S. This led to us talking more, and she kept suggesting ways for me to stay in the country, even sending me daily U.S. job applications to apply for from the UK. On the day I was supposed to fly to the U.S., she offered to pick me up from the airport, and I didn’t see any harm in that since I thought we were still good friends despite the divorce.
But things went south at the border. The immigration officer questioned me hard about my visit, took my phone, and saw our conversations. It ended with me getting deported back to the UK and slapped with a 5-year U.S. ban. This whole experience was a massive blow to my mental health. I got seriously depressed, and to top it off, my ex-wife messaged me later saying she was cutting all ties with me and then blocked me.
I haven’t fully recovered from the depression caused by all this. Every time I think about how it all went down, I get really sad. Recently, my ex-wife reached out again to tell me she’s remarried to someone in the U.S. I’m back in the UK, trying to rebuild my life and see what I can do here since I have legal status, but I can’t help feeling down about the whole situation.
My experience at the U.S. border was traumatic; I even spent a night in a holding cell before being sent back. My ex-wife suggested I move on with my life and maybe seek help from communities like this to figure out how to overturn the visa ban.
I’m slowly getting my life back on track, but I really want to overturn the 5-year ban and don’t even know where to start. I’m also considering applying for a Canada PR visa from the UK or even trying the visit visa again, but having this ban hanging over me is really affecting me. I’m feeling depressed and struggling to move forward.
Any advice or guidance you all could offer would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for taking the time to read my story.
2024.05.14 00:48 LilyWalker28 Tozando iaito delivery to Belgium
Hey all,
This is the first time I’m posting here.
In January (2024) I ordered my first full custom iaito from Tozando. I am very much looking forward to receiving the iaito soon. Expected shipping day is 15/05. I was wondering if anyone has experience with this, specifically delivery to Belgium.
How long did it take for your iaito to be delivered from Tozando to your home? Do you receive a message from customs? How long did it take for the package to be delivered from customs to your home? How do you pay for the taxes?
Thanks everyone!
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This is the first time I’m posting here.
In January (2024) I ordered my first full custom iaito from Tozando. I am very much looking forward to receiving the iaito soon. Expected shipping day is 15/05. I was wondering if anyone has experience with this, specifically delivery to Belgium.
How long did it take for your iaito to be delivered from Tozando to your home? Do you receive a message from customs? How long did it take for the package to be delivered from customs to your home? How do you pay for the taxes?
Thanks everyone!
2024.05.14 00:46 ThrowawayUk1001 European (36M) having trouble with fiancés (31F) Indian parents and community, help!
Hi everyone, hope you're well if you're reading this, and apologies for the long post.
I'm a white European guy (36) and have been with my Indian Fiancé (31) (originally from Kerala) for nearly 4 years now. Very much in love, and our relationship is nearly perfect when we are together. She has struggled with anxiety and depression for some time now, and it's reached an all time low now.
I'm sure you've probably guessed from the above sentence alone, but I was asked to be okay with keeping the relationship a secret from her parents and community, and I went along with this despite, honestly, seeing it as ludicrous. It was hand waived away as a cultural difference by my partner, and she was happy to keep the status quo for a while.
When we got engaged, she obviously told her parents, and the reaction was somewhat dramatic - I'm sure again, that if you're reading this, you can probably guess the events and behaviours without me going into them.
I wrote her family a letter, introducing myself and asking for their blessing, saying that I was looking forward to meeting them - this was met with further hostility. I'm a big believer in tackling problems head on, and wanted to simply knock on their door and have a conversation, but I was begged not to by my fiancé.
Life continued with its usual ups and downs, with attempts at interference by her cousins (one saying she should leave as I'm not Indian, another saying that a long-term illness I was suffering with meant she should leave me - the irony in two men who regularly cheat on their wives and families giving relationship advice about a couple they'd never met was somewhat funny), again I was begged not to say anything and I complied despite my anger at this.
I love her dearly, and would do near anything for her, and it breaks my heart to see her struggling with her mental health, things have gotten much worse recently.
Last week, out of nowhere, we had a call (she's currently in India with her mother), and she was completely broken and tried to break up with me, with no reason given. There's no other man, she still loves me, but "this is the best decision for her right now", said through sobs - I disagreed completely, I've been in enough relationships to know when things are going wrong and coming to an end, and we'd just spent a weekend together madly in love and having a great time. We spoke about getting her some more therapy, and our plans for the future etc., so this conversation came as quite a blow - I agreed to give her some time & space, and quite honestly, after this conversation I needed the same, I was so bitterly disappointed. Take away all of the family nonsense, and this is a near perfect relationship being chipped away at by utter bullshit.
I then made a decision (after consulting several of my own friends and family) - I love this woman, and I'm not giving up without a fight, if the relationship dies then at least I did what I felt was the right thing to do.
I wanted to just get the worst of her anxieties dealt with, something I should have done years ago. I decided after a few days of space, to go and meet her community at their church , and from there, I'd bring lunch around to her Dad and have a civilised conversation about everything - I didn't want her involved in the decision as I knew she'd back down and give in to fear.
I attended their service (asking for permission from the clergy to do so), was respectful, and met very many lovely people, I came away from this with an invite to a kids baptism, several phone numbers of new friends, and all around it was a great time, they wouldn't let me leave and were very hospitable. I ensured that I was humble, but was honest when asked who I knew there, and my reasons for attending (stating that my partner was worried I wouldn't fit it, and I was going to surprise her by having already been).
I then went and spoke with her father, who again, was very kind and gentle, we shared a laugh over several things, I apologised for my part in not meeting them sooner, but said that I'd had enough of the secrecy and would love to get to know the family better, and have bygones be bygones, I also apologised for turning up unannounced, that it wasn't my intent to be disrespectful and was in fact the opposite - so far so good.
My partner called me a few hours later, initially a little annoyed with me, but soon realised I was doing this to support her, and she thanked me for being 'courageous', and we reconciled, reaffirming our relationship and love for one another.
Cut to today, and again she's in massive amounts of turmoil, apparently despite the outward appearances of kindness, members of her community have been 'shaming' the mother who is hugely embarrassed by my actions (I'm in my late thirties, I don't need anyone's permission to go anywhere, nor do I think what I did was embarrassing at all), and is now exerting more pressure on my fiancé due to the shame of what I've done (I feel absolutely no shame for this). We haven't broken up, and I kept reasserting that, if we communicate, there's nothing we can't get past.
I feel that all of this is absolutely insane - I treat their daughter always with kindness, respect and love, have plans for a very wholesome future, have a great career, look after my own parents very well, etc., but I can't win for losing.
I show some guts, and its deemed as 'outrageous'. I stay quiet, and I still lose. I'm getting tired of dealing with this bullshit, I'm too old to be worried about what other people think of my relationship (that they know nothing about aside from my skin colour being different to my partners). But I do care deeply about my partner, she's everything to me.
I'm looking for advise from anyone who's been in a similar situation, my gut instinct is telling me I need to confront her mother when she returns as I feel it's about time that we all acted like rational adults about this, but I fear my fiancé is too fragile to cope with this. In the meantime, I'm trying to source a decent therapist for her, as I fear she nearing crisis point with her mental health (regardless if we end up apart, I want her to be well).
TL;DR: Indian fiancés parents and community interfering in my relationship with her, I can't seem to make any headway, advice and experience sought.
Thanks for reading friends!
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I'm a white European guy (36) and have been with my Indian Fiancé (31) (originally from Kerala) for nearly 4 years now. Very much in love, and our relationship is nearly perfect when we are together. She has struggled with anxiety and depression for some time now, and it's reached an all time low now.
I'm sure you've probably guessed from the above sentence alone, but I was asked to be okay with keeping the relationship a secret from her parents and community, and I went along with this despite, honestly, seeing it as ludicrous. It was hand waived away as a cultural difference by my partner, and she was happy to keep the status quo for a while.
When we got engaged, she obviously told her parents, and the reaction was somewhat dramatic - I'm sure again, that if you're reading this, you can probably guess the events and behaviours without me going into them.
I wrote her family a letter, introducing myself and asking for their blessing, saying that I was looking forward to meeting them - this was met with further hostility. I'm a big believer in tackling problems head on, and wanted to simply knock on their door and have a conversation, but I was begged not to by my fiancé.
Life continued with its usual ups and downs, with attempts at interference by her cousins (one saying she should leave as I'm not Indian, another saying that a long-term illness I was suffering with meant she should leave me - the irony in two men who regularly cheat on their wives and families giving relationship advice about a couple they'd never met was somewhat funny), again I was begged not to say anything and I complied despite my anger at this.
I love her dearly, and would do near anything for her, and it breaks my heart to see her struggling with her mental health, things have gotten much worse recently.
Last week, out of nowhere, we had a call (she's currently in India with her mother), and she was completely broken and tried to break up with me, with no reason given. There's no other man, she still loves me, but "this is the best decision for her right now", said through sobs - I disagreed completely, I've been in enough relationships to know when things are going wrong and coming to an end, and we'd just spent a weekend together madly in love and having a great time. We spoke about getting her some more therapy, and our plans for the future etc., so this conversation came as quite a blow - I agreed to give her some time & space, and quite honestly, after this conversation I needed the same, I was so bitterly disappointed. Take away all of the family nonsense, and this is a near perfect relationship being chipped away at by utter bullshit.
I then made a decision (after consulting several of my own friends and family) - I love this woman, and I'm not giving up without a fight, if the relationship dies then at least I did what I felt was the right thing to do.
I wanted to just get the worst of her anxieties dealt with, something I should have done years ago. I decided after a few days of space, to go and meet her community at their church , and from there, I'd bring lunch around to her Dad and have a civilised conversation about everything - I didn't want her involved in the decision as I knew she'd back down and give in to fear.
I attended their service (asking for permission from the clergy to do so), was respectful, and met very many lovely people, I came away from this with an invite to a kids baptism, several phone numbers of new friends, and all around it was a great time, they wouldn't let me leave and were very hospitable. I ensured that I was humble, but was honest when asked who I knew there, and my reasons for attending (stating that my partner was worried I wouldn't fit it, and I was going to surprise her by having already been).
I then went and spoke with her father, who again, was very kind and gentle, we shared a laugh over several things, I apologised for my part in not meeting them sooner, but said that I'd had enough of the secrecy and would love to get to know the family better, and have bygones be bygones, I also apologised for turning up unannounced, that it wasn't my intent to be disrespectful and was in fact the opposite - so far so good.
My partner called me a few hours later, initially a little annoyed with me, but soon realised I was doing this to support her, and she thanked me for being 'courageous', and we reconciled, reaffirming our relationship and love for one another.
Cut to today, and again she's in massive amounts of turmoil, apparently despite the outward appearances of kindness, members of her community have been 'shaming' the mother who is hugely embarrassed by my actions (I'm in my late thirties, I don't need anyone's permission to go anywhere, nor do I think what I did was embarrassing at all), and is now exerting more pressure on my fiancé due to the shame of what I've done (I feel absolutely no shame for this). We haven't broken up, and I kept reasserting that, if we communicate, there's nothing we can't get past.
I feel that all of this is absolutely insane - I treat their daughter always with kindness, respect and love, have plans for a very wholesome future, have a great career, look after my own parents very well, etc., but I can't win for losing.
I show some guts, and its deemed as 'outrageous'. I stay quiet, and I still lose. I'm getting tired of dealing with this bullshit, I'm too old to be worried about what other people think of my relationship (that they know nothing about aside from my skin colour being different to my partners). But I do care deeply about my partner, she's everything to me.
I'm looking for advise from anyone who's been in a similar situation, my gut instinct is telling me I need to confront her mother when she returns as I feel it's about time that we all acted like rational adults about this, but I fear my fiancé is too fragile to cope with this. In the meantime, I'm trying to source a decent therapist for her, as I fear she nearing crisis point with her mental health (regardless if we end up apart, I want her to be well).
TL;DR: Indian fiancés parents and community interfering in my relationship with her, I can't seem to make any headway, advice and experience sought.
Thanks for reading friends!
2024.05.14 00:46 georgecscott_2022 Increasing Number of Japanese Workers Using Job Resignation Services
**TOKYO**
Following the Golden Week holidays in early May, a growing number of Japanese workers are using private resignation services to leave their jobs, especially recent graduates who started in April. These services, popular in recent years, allow workers to quit without facing their employers in person, often due to harassment or poor working conditions.
Albatross Co, a Tokyo-based company launched in 2022, offers a resignation service called Momuri, meaning "already too much." The service has seen a significant increase in users reporting mistreatment. Typically handling about 200 cases per month, Albatross saw a spike to 1,400 customers in April and over 500 in early May. Most users are in their 20s and 30s, with many new graduates among them.
Complaints include unpleasant supervisors and discrepancies between job promises and actual employment conditions. Resignations can be processed quickly, sometimes within a day, using the Line messaging app. Shinji Tanimoto, head of Albatross, emphasized the importance of supporting those suffering in adverse environments.
The industry has expanded with over 100 companies now offering these services, costing between 20,000($128) and 50,000 yen($320). The trend is partly driven by labor shortages in Japan's declining population and cultural mismatches between young workers and traditional companies.
However, these services have limitations in legal matters unless handled by qualified lawyers. Muneyuki Kakuchiyama of ITJ Law Office, which offers such services, advises consulting a lawyer for issues that could escalate legally, such as unpaid wages or refusal to accept resignations.
Japan Today
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Following the Golden Week holidays in early May, a growing number of Japanese workers are using private resignation services to leave their jobs, especially recent graduates who started in April. These services, popular in recent years, allow workers to quit without facing their employers in person, often due to harassment or poor working conditions.
Albatross Co, a Tokyo-based company launched in 2022, offers a resignation service called Momuri, meaning "already too much." The service has seen a significant increase in users reporting mistreatment. Typically handling about 200 cases per month, Albatross saw a spike to 1,400 customers in April and over 500 in early May. Most users are in their 20s and 30s, with many new graduates among them.
Complaints include unpleasant supervisors and discrepancies between job promises and actual employment conditions. Resignations can be processed quickly, sometimes within a day, using the Line messaging app. Shinji Tanimoto, head of Albatross, emphasized the importance of supporting those suffering in adverse environments.
The industry has expanded with over 100 companies now offering these services, costing between 20,000($128) and 50,000 yen($320). The trend is partly driven by labor shortages in Japan's declining population and cultural mismatches between young workers and traditional companies.
However, these services have limitations in legal matters unless handled by qualified lawyers. Muneyuki Kakuchiyama of ITJ Law Office, which offers such services, advises consulting a lawyer for issues that could escalate legally, such as unpaid wages or refusal to accept resignations.
Japan Today
2024.05.14 00:43 bordermessie-on-edge The *Bonk* No 507 - The german evening post for Apes 13.05.24 / all credits to u/RetardHolder , the Ankermann*Bonk*
 | I am afraid that the sub will get restrictions if I post links from other subs. Therefore, the links to the comments are in the real *Bonk*, which can be found at this URL: /useRetardHoldecomments/1crb29k/bonk_die_aktienschau_zum_13052024_ausgabe_nr_507/ submitted by bordermessie-on-edge to WeAreAPE [link] [comments] u/RetardHolder : Good evening my dear Apes. https://preview.redd.it/8sp63lb0u90d1.png?width=517&format=png&auto=webp&s=da6fb06514340e474e691d6c9e29f132f657d3ad Yahoo Finviz Coin360 The RRP update for today shows a value of USD 492.1bn with 77 counterparties. - Top post: Roaring Kitty's big comeback via Twitter. ◦ He continued today with numerous edited film scenes, which he posted every 30 minutes. The central message seems clear: "I'm back and I'm finishing the job now". Below, I've linked the Reddit posts for each of his videos where I could. ▪ 1. DFV probably took his cue from this GameStop tweet from February. ▪ 2 (again). ▪ 3 (again) - interpretation. ▪ 4. ▪ 5. ▪ 6. ▪ 7. ▪ 8. ▪ 9. ▪ 10 ▪ 11 ▪ 12 ◦ Attention: CNBC discusses DFV's return. ◦ Old acquaintances: PleasrDAO quotes DFV's first tweet. This is followed by posts that are not directly related to DFV. - Losses: According to The Kobeissi Letter, short sellers lost USD 1bn just one hour after the market opened. - Time-out: There were numerous trading halts at GME throughout the day. - Opinion: Today's price movements are not due to small investors or DFV. ◦ Meanwhile, it is clear to the experts in the German press that DFV has once again triggered "speculation" with GME. - Possible share buyback: Based on data from the Bloomberg terminal, Peruvian Bull speculates that GameStop has now actually started a buyback of its own shares. The reason for this is the activation of SEC Rule 10B-18. ◦ Here and here again. - Call: Remember how we've been cheated and manipulated for the last 3 years. - Repeat offender: Robinhood has allegedly REPEATEDLY disabled the buy button. ◦ Here and here other Apes report about it. ▪ Here and here Apes report that Trade Republic has also blocked trading again. - Hype: The moment we've been waiting for so long has finally arrived. - Project completion: u/BadassTrader (observer of the Dorito of Doom) announces that his work has now come to an end with the breakout from the pattern. Memes, meme and hype videos: ◦ Self-awareness. ◦ Veteran's Day. ◦ Wrong price. ◦ DFV Returns. ◦ "Welcome Back Everyone". That should be the most important for today. If there is anything else worth mentioning that I didn't notice, feel free to write it here in the comments. I will try to add to the post if necessary.(only in the german sub). Sleep well my dear Apes, see you next time! |
2024.05.14 00:37 chuckecheese27 AITAH for exposing my former friend's abusive ex bf at work? (sorry for the long read!)
When I (23F) first started working at my job, I met my former friend (21F)(let's call her K). K and I knew each other because her training partner was in my orientation class. When we first met, she briefly complained that her ex bf (23M)(let's call him D) had followed her to our work and he got a job at our work as well.
K and I worked in the same department, different areas. When K and I got close, I told her that I got promoted and was working in another area. K told me that D was also working in the same area and to not talk about her at work. I didn't pry into what had happened between the two of them because how people mourn their broken relationships is different. I just moved along my business and just do my job per usual. I didn't officially meet him until a couple weeks later, and the first couple of instances, I treated him as I would treat any coworker and just did my job, never asked to hang out outside of work, just treated my coworkers with respect until I have a reason not to.
Then, out of nowhere, every room I had walked into and he saw me, D gave me a look of disgust with me, a snobby look, as if I was below him. D had gone so far as to exclude me from group conversations with coworkers and I didn't really know why because I never brought up K with him or with anyone. It wasn't until I told her what had happened and she was like "Yeah I told him that we knew each other because we're still talking as friends." In my mind I was like "?????" I thought it was uncalled for and unnecessary. I informed K that D intentionally excludes me out of conversations with coworkers that I was also friendly with and K told me, "If he likes you, he likes you, if he doesn't, he doesn't", but insinuating that I did something wrong, so I just decided to keep my distance from K for awhile.
I didn't like D at all at this point, not because of his association with K, but because he was the worst person to work with! He was always bitching and complaining about moving carts and complaining in front of customers about how he's tired and how he hates working, etc etc. There was a time where he was the only guy not doing anything and standing around and I politely asked him to move a cart and he threw a fit in front of customers and demanded another girl nearby to do it for him. He wasn't on any work restrictions, nothing, just didn't want to do his job. I understand not liking your job, but it's never an excuse to under perform at your job. And because of him, many others decided to throw a fit about working to the point where, I had to attend meetings about it. The times I treated him nicely, he gave me a dirty look. All the times to where I just ignored him and did my job, he also gave me a dirty look. It got so bad that management decided to announce that anyone refusing to do their job would be reprimanded, rightfully so. I was so mad about it to the point where I requested that I be demoted back to my original workplace (which I love so much) and to just call me in when necessary.
Some time passes by and K and I become really close, I don't pry into her life because tbh, I didn't have a lot of trust for her when it comes to talking about work, so I just kept it at what was going on at where I first got hired at work. K told me around August that her and D were no longer on speaking terms and that she had gone no contact because she claimed that he was abusive and narcissistic. We became very close to where we were constantly talking to each other everyday.
K was living good after cutting out D in her life. She started becoming more social and more lively, she went on vacation, she was just glowing in a way that you knew she was happy. On the other hand, based on my conversations with her, I could tell that she was struggling to come to terms with being abused by this guy. Ex: her supervisor came into my office and we were talking about how amazing K was and I told her that story, K became scared that I even had a conversation with her supervisor, but until I told her that we were talking about how amazing she was, K started to cry tears of joy.
And then things took a turn for the worse. A couple of weeks ago, K told me that she just wants to just isolate herself and that she felt lost in life. I told her that I'd be praying for her. And then, I had asked her if she wanted to come to the movies with me and a couple of my friends. K asked me who was going and I told her my friend (lets call her S) S (20F) was going to go. S and I have worked with D and S told me that she's also had issues with D, but didn't go into detail as to what happened. K immediately informed me that she and D had recently started talking again and that if she heard me or S talk about D in a negative manner, then she would tell him. I told her that my issues with D are nothing personal, my issue was that he wasn't a good employee and basically called him an inconsiderate asshat. I told her that he had the right to not like his workplace, but it gave him no right to under perform his job. K told me that she'd pass this message along and I firmly told her no because she didn't know what the new updates were and new disciplinary actions were because she didn't receive proper training at my work area and therefore not eligible.
I reminded her that it wasn't a good idea to be speaking to D again, considering that she was happy post life after D and based on what she has told me, that it was abusive. I told K that she needed to reconsider her stance on where she stood with D.
A week passes and S and our friend E (21M) decided to take an impromptu visit to our workplace to have some fun. I texted K if she was working and K told me she was. I told K that we'd be visiting mine and S's area first before visiting K and she seemed excited. While we were in line talking, S had spotted from the corner of her eye that D was working and so S and I hid behind our friend E and had E briefly talk to D in order to get serviced (basically just telling D that we were a party of 3). Once the coast was clear, S confides in me and E about her history with D. Her history with D started when D asked her to hang out a total of two times throughout the course of their friendship, but said that D had a crush on her, writing her paragraphs, but she wasn't into D because he wasn't her type, and when she told him honestly and politely, the friendship had soured, and D had resorted to degrading her.
We came to K's work area and I had introduced S and E to K. The next morning, K texted me saying how it was so nice to see my face because it was a long night and that it was so nice to meet S and E. I told K that E's birthday was coming up and so was mine and that we were talking about taking a trip to Universal Studios Hollywood. K told me that she was a huge Universal Studios enthusiast and to give her a date to go and she'll request the day off.
I made a group chat with all of us in it, to plan out our trip to Universal. S and E hit it off with K. And then a couple of days ago, when I came home from work, I noticed that K had unadded me as a friend on Snapchat. I texted her, asking if she was okay. I got a response the next morning of K texting me, "Please don't talk to me. You've really caused issues and you'll find out later." I was upset and taken aback. This is not the K that I knew. One of the rare times K and I had a disagreement, we would always talk it out like adults and then apologize to each other. K didn't explain to me as to what I did wrong. I couldn't think of what could I have done wrong. The only recent disagreement that I had with her was her speaking to D again.
After work that day, S texted me to ask if I was okay. I told her no because K abruptly ended our friendship with no explanation whatsoever. S called me because she too wanted to know the reason why. S and I came to the conclusion that because K and D were still talking to each other and that because S and D had a history, he found out that K was going to Universal with us, and in order to keep her under his control, he fed her lies about S and I, enough for her to stop talking to me. S told me that she was upset that his actions with her resulted in the demise of our friendship and I told S that it wasn't her fault that, D was scared of being exposed, so he played the victim card.
S told me she'd pull up the receipts of their conversations. The receipts she pulled up was abhorrent. It was misogynistic, sexist, manipulative, and arrogant in the worst way possible and he used religion against S as well as used many of his victim cards (race card, religion card, etc). S was also explaining to E and I many different instances of what had happened and that she felt bad for K because if he spoke this way to a friend, imagine how he spoke to K. I immediately felt so much empathy for both S and K because they had been both dragged through the mud, with D villainizing S for having a preference for another type of guy, and D villainizing K to others. So the next day, at work, with S's permission, I told majority of my colleagues that D was an inconsiderate asshat, misogynistic, and an abusive person towards people, and outright a narcissistic person while showing everyone the screenshots of his conversations with S. AITAH for exposing D to colleagues for his behavior? (sorry for the long read)
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K and I worked in the same department, different areas. When K and I got close, I told her that I got promoted and was working in another area. K told me that D was also working in the same area and to not talk about her at work. I didn't pry into what had happened between the two of them because how people mourn their broken relationships is different. I just moved along my business and just do my job per usual. I didn't officially meet him until a couple weeks later, and the first couple of instances, I treated him as I would treat any coworker and just did my job, never asked to hang out outside of work, just treated my coworkers with respect until I have a reason not to.
Then, out of nowhere, every room I had walked into and he saw me, D gave me a look of disgust with me, a snobby look, as if I was below him. D had gone so far as to exclude me from group conversations with coworkers and I didn't really know why because I never brought up K with him or with anyone. It wasn't until I told her what had happened and she was like "Yeah I told him that we knew each other because we're still talking as friends." In my mind I was like "?????" I thought it was uncalled for and unnecessary. I informed K that D intentionally excludes me out of conversations with coworkers that I was also friendly with and K told me, "If he likes you, he likes you, if he doesn't, he doesn't", but insinuating that I did something wrong, so I just decided to keep my distance from K for awhile.
I didn't like D at all at this point, not because of his association with K, but because he was the worst person to work with! He was always bitching and complaining about moving carts and complaining in front of customers about how he's tired and how he hates working, etc etc. There was a time where he was the only guy not doing anything and standing around and I politely asked him to move a cart and he threw a fit in front of customers and demanded another girl nearby to do it for him. He wasn't on any work restrictions, nothing, just didn't want to do his job. I understand not liking your job, but it's never an excuse to under perform at your job. And because of him, many others decided to throw a fit about working to the point where, I had to attend meetings about it. The times I treated him nicely, he gave me a dirty look. All the times to where I just ignored him and did my job, he also gave me a dirty look. It got so bad that management decided to announce that anyone refusing to do their job would be reprimanded, rightfully so. I was so mad about it to the point where I requested that I be demoted back to my original workplace (which I love so much) and to just call me in when necessary.
Some time passes by and K and I become really close, I don't pry into her life because tbh, I didn't have a lot of trust for her when it comes to talking about work, so I just kept it at what was going on at where I first got hired at work. K told me around August that her and D were no longer on speaking terms and that she had gone no contact because she claimed that he was abusive and narcissistic. We became very close to where we were constantly talking to each other everyday.
K was living good after cutting out D in her life. She started becoming more social and more lively, she went on vacation, she was just glowing in a way that you knew she was happy. On the other hand, based on my conversations with her, I could tell that she was struggling to come to terms with being abused by this guy. Ex: her supervisor came into my office and we were talking about how amazing K was and I told her that story, K became scared that I even had a conversation with her supervisor, but until I told her that we were talking about how amazing she was, K started to cry tears of joy.
And then things took a turn for the worse. A couple of weeks ago, K told me that she just wants to just isolate herself and that she felt lost in life. I told her that I'd be praying for her. And then, I had asked her if she wanted to come to the movies with me and a couple of my friends. K asked me who was going and I told her my friend (lets call her S) S (20F) was going to go. S and I have worked with D and S told me that she's also had issues with D, but didn't go into detail as to what happened. K immediately informed me that she and D had recently started talking again and that if she heard me or S talk about D in a negative manner, then she would tell him. I told her that my issues with D are nothing personal, my issue was that he wasn't a good employee and basically called him an inconsiderate asshat. I told her that he had the right to not like his workplace, but it gave him no right to under perform his job. K told me that she'd pass this message along and I firmly told her no because she didn't know what the new updates were and new disciplinary actions were because she didn't receive proper training at my work area and therefore not eligible.
I reminded her that it wasn't a good idea to be speaking to D again, considering that she was happy post life after D and based on what she has told me, that it was abusive. I told K that she needed to reconsider her stance on where she stood with D.
A week passes and S and our friend E (21M) decided to take an impromptu visit to our workplace to have some fun. I texted K if she was working and K told me she was. I told K that we'd be visiting mine and S's area first before visiting K and she seemed excited. While we were in line talking, S had spotted from the corner of her eye that D was working and so S and I hid behind our friend E and had E briefly talk to D in order to get serviced (basically just telling D that we were a party of 3). Once the coast was clear, S confides in me and E about her history with D. Her history with D started when D asked her to hang out a total of two times throughout the course of their friendship, but said that D had a crush on her, writing her paragraphs, but she wasn't into D because he wasn't her type, and when she told him honestly and politely, the friendship had soured, and D had resorted to degrading her.
We came to K's work area and I had introduced S and E to K. The next morning, K texted me saying how it was so nice to see my face because it was a long night and that it was so nice to meet S and E. I told K that E's birthday was coming up and so was mine and that we were talking about taking a trip to Universal Studios Hollywood. K told me that she was a huge Universal Studios enthusiast and to give her a date to go and she'll request the day off.
I made a group chat with all of us in it, to plan out our trip to Universal. S and E hit it off with K. And then a couple of days ago, when I came home from work, I noticed that K had unadded me as a friend on Snapchat. I texted her, asking if she was okay. I got a response the next morning of K texting me, "Please don't talk to me. You've really caused issues and you'll find out later." I was upset and taken aback. This is not the K that I knew. One of the rare times K and I had a disagreement, we would always talk it out like adults and then apologize to each other. K didn't explain to me as to what I did wrong. I couldn't think of what could I have done wrong. The only recent disagreement that I had with her was her speaking to D again.
After work that day, S texted me to ask if I was okay. I told her no because K abruptly ended our friendship with no explanation whatsoever. S called me because she too wanted to know the reason why. S and I came to the conclusion that because K and D were still talking to each other and that because S and D had a history, he found out that K was going to Universal with us, and in order to keep her under his control, he fed her lies about S and I, enough for her to stop talking to me. S told me that she was upset that his actions with her resulted in the demise of our friendship and I told S that it wasn't her fault that, D was scared of being exposed, so he played the victim card.
S told me she'd pull up the receipts of their conversations. The receipts she pulled up was abhorrent. It was misogynistic, sexist, manipulative, and arrogant in the worst way possible and he used religion against S as well as used many of his victim cards (race card, religion card, etc). S was also explaining to E and I many different instances of what had happened and that she felt bad for K because if he spoke this way to a friend, imagine how he spoke to K. I immediately felt so much empathy for both S and K because they had been both dragged through the mud, with D villainizing S for having a preference for another type of guy, and D villainizing K to others. So the next day, at work, with S's permission, I told majority of my colleagues that D was an inconsiderate asshat, misogynistic, and an abusive person towards people, and outright a narcissistic person while showing everyone the screenshots of his conversations with S. AITAH for exposing D to colleagues for his behavior? (sorry for the long read)
2024.05.14 00:29 Opening_Grade_6064 17 GMT+3 PC Looking for genuine friendships where we get to know eachother and play games.
Hi, I'm Amaya. I'm that type of friend who replies faster than a snail. I will also make bad jokes every 5 seconds because i loveee being annoying >:) I'm a nerd and act like a nerd so be careful or else i will talk until your ears bleed. Just because i'm sooooo funny doesn't mean i can't be serious though.
Things i like: -Games (Read the game list lower in the post, also my variety is smaller than the amount of unique posts on this subreddit) -Cartoons -Music -Talking (About silly or serious topics)
Things i dislike: -Anti lgbtq people (Sorry mate but you can't be friends with someone gay when you don't like anyone gay) -Console users (Sorry but i only play with people who can play with more than 60 fps) -The "hi" guys (If you dm me without putting any thought in your message/not reading my post i will ignore you or make fun of you and make you suffer, so be nice and introduce yourself) -Big timezone difference (I can tolerate 5 hours ahead or behind me) -Pushing your religion onto me (Listen, i might be gay but i will not make you be gay so you do the same but for religion) -Flirting (Man. Just don't)
GAME LIST Games i'm playing at the moment: -Terraria -Webbed -Celeste -Plants Vs Zombies: Garden Warfare 2
Games i would like to play with someone: -Slime Rancher -Plants Vs Zombies: Garden Warfare 2 -Your suggestions
Other games i have: -Minecraft -Minecraft Dungeons -Hollow Knight -Overwatch 2 -Garry's Mod -Bloons TD 6 -Portal 1 & 2 -Geometry Dash -Clone Drone in The Danger Zone
Did you find anything interesting about me? Yes > Dm me No > Goodbye and have a nice day
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Things i like: -Games (Read the game list lower in the post, also my variety is smaller than the amount of unique posts on this subreddit) -Cartoons -Music -Talking (About silly or serious topics)
Things i dislike: -Anti lgbtq people (Sorry mate but you can't be friends with someone gay when you don't like anyone gay) -Console users (Sorry but i only play with people who can play with more than 60 fps) -The "hi" guys (If you dm me without putting any thought in your message/not reading my post i will ignore you or make fun of you and make you suffer, so be nice and introduce yourself) -Big timezone difference (I can tolerate 5 hours ahead or behind me) -Pushing your religion onto me (Listen, i might be gay but i will not make you be gay so you do the same but for religion) -Flirting (Man. Just don't)
GAME LIST Games i'm playing at the moment: -Terraria -Webbed -Celeste -Plants Vs Zombies: Garden Warfare 2
Games i would like to play with someone: -Slime Rancher -Plants Vs Zombies: Garden Warfare 2 -Your suggestions
Other games i have: -Minecraft -Minecraft Dungeons -Hollow Knight -Overwatch 2 -Garry's Mod -Bloons TD 6 -Portal 1 & 2 -Geometry Dash -Clone Drone in The Danger Zone
Did you find anything interesting about me? Yes > Dm me No > Goodbye and have a nice day
2024.05.14 00:26 IntelligentCitron917 My Facebook hacked whilst I was in theatre having major stomach Surgery, how low can people go!
I was having major stomach surgery on 8th April. Put a status saying I was about to go to theatre...... See you in the other side hopefully.
That night I wasn't with it enough to turn my phone on so left it till following day.
Turned it on to update my FB and let everyone know I was still alive. My name had been changed. I started getting WhatsApp from friends asking why my name had been changed. Had I been posting items for sale? Had I asked them for money, they really found this weird as I don't ask anybody for anything. Especially as I know none of them have it.
My partner tried everything to gain access for me. Everything from my user name, email, d.o.b. phone number, you name it. They changed it.
I've messaged FB several times, shown copies of my passport, my driving license etc given them every previous detail regarding my account.
Yet the bots say my evidence is not enough. I don't know what else to do.
The same night my Microsoft and Netflix were also hacked.
Any help in any direction would be appreciated. Especially losing my messenger and all the photos on my Facebook is devastating.
Some of you wonderful people must have a clue what I need to do?
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That night I wasn't with it enough to turn my phone on so left it till following day.
Turned it on to update my FB and let everyone know I was still alive. My name had been changed. I started getting WhatsApp from friends asking why my name had been changed. Had I been posting items for sale? Had I asked them for money, they really found this weird as I don't ask anybody for anything. Especially as I know none of them have it.
My partner tried everything to gain access for me. Everything from my user name, email, d.o.b. phone number, you name it. They changed it.
I've messaged FB several times, shown copies of my passport, my driving license etc given them every previous detail regarding my account.
Yet the bots say my evidence is not enough. I don't know what else to do.
The same night my Microsoft and Netflix were also hacked.
Any help in any direction would be appreciated. Especially losing my messenger and all the photos on my Facebook is devastating.
Some of you wonderful people must have a clue what I need to do?
2024.05.14 00:23 Opening_Grade_6064 17M GMT+3 PC Looking for genuine friendships where we get to know eachother and play games.
Hi, I'm Amaya. I'm that type of friend who replies faster than a snail. I will also make bad jokes every 5 seconds because i loveee being annoying >:) I'm a nerd and act like a nerd so be careful or else i will talk until your ears bleed. Just because i'm sooooo funny doesn't mean i can't be serious though.
Things i like: -Games (Read the game list lower in the post, also my variety is smaller than the amount of unique posts on this subreddit) -Cartoons -Music -Talking (About silly or serious topics)
Things i dislike: -Anti lgbtq people (Sorry mate but you can't be friends with someone gay when you don't like anyone gay) -Console users (Sorry but i only play with people who can play with more than 60 fps) -The "hi" guys (If you dm me without putting any thought in your message/not reading my post i will ignore you or make fun of you and make you suffer, so be nice and introduce yourself) -Big timezone difference (I can tolerate 5 hours ahead or behind me) -Pushing your religion onto me (Listen, i might be gay but i will not make you be gay so you do the same but for religion) -Flirting (Man. Just don't)
GAME LIST Games i'm playing at the moment: -Terraria -Webbed -Celeste -Plants Vs Zombies: Garden Warfare 2
Games i would like to play with someone: -Slime Rancher -Plants Vs Zombies: Garden Warfare 2 -Your suggestions
Other games i have: -Minecraft -Minecraft Dungeons -Hollow Knight -Overwatch 2 -Garry's Mod -Bloons TD 6 -Portal 1 & 2 -Geometry Dash -Clone Drone in The Danger Zone
Did you find anything interesting about me? Yes > Dm me No > Goodbye and have a nice day
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Things i like: -Games (Read the game list lower in the post, also my variety is smaller than the amount of unique posts on this subreddit) -Cartoons -Music -Talking (About silly or serious topics)
Things i dislike: -Anti lgbtq people (Sorry mate but you can't be friends with someone gay when you don't like anyone gay) -Console users (Sorry but i only play with people who can play with more than 60 fps) -The "hi" guys (If you dm me without putting any thought in your message/not reading my post i will ignore you or make fun of you and make you suffer, so be nice and introduce yourself) -Big timezone difference (I can tolerate 5 hours ahead or behind me) -Pushing your religion onto me (Listen, i might be gay but i will not make you be gay so you do the same but for religion) -Flirting (Man. Just don't)
GAME LIST Games i'm playing at the moment: -Terraria -Webbed -Celeste -Plants Vs Zombies: Garden Warfare 2
Games i would like to play with someone: -Slime Rancher -Plants Vs Zombies: Garden Warfare 2 -Your suggestions
Other games i have: -Minecraft -Minecraft Dungeons -Hollow Knight -Overwatch 2 -Garry's Mod -Bloons TD 6 -Portal 1 & 2 -Geometry Dash -Clone Drone in The Danger Zone
Did you find anything interesting about me? Yes > Dm me No > Goodbye and have a nice day
2024.05.14 00:23 colonelcardiffi Is it possible to run a campaign on TikTok sending customers to your DMs like you can with Facebook ads?
I've been running ads on FB where I have a 'Send Message' button on the ad and I can chat with the customers in Messenger.
Is this possible in TikTok? They have categories similar to FB in their DMs section https://imgur.com/uQCApMf
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Is this possible in TikTok? They have categories similar to FB in their DMs section https://imgur.com/uQCApMf
2024.05.14 00:22 Opening_Grade_6064 17 GMT+3 PC Looking for genuine friendships where we get to know eachother and play games.
Hi, I'm Amaya. I'm that type of friend who replies faster than a snail. I will also make bad jokes every 5 seconds because i loveee being annoying >:) I'm a nerd and act like a nerd so be careful or else i will talk until your ears bleed. Just because i'm sooooo funny doesn't mean i can't be serious though.
Things i like: -Games (Read the game list lower in the post, also my variety is smaller than the amount of unique posts on this subreddit) -Cartoons -Music -Talking (About silly or serious topics)
Things i dislike: -Anti lgbtq people (Sorry mate but you can't be friends with someone gay when you don't like anyone gay) -Console users (Sorry but i only play with people who can play with more than 60 fps) -The "hi" guys (If you dm me without putting any thought in your message/not reading my post i will ignore you or make fun of you and make you suffer, so be nice and introduce yourself) -Big timezone difference (I can tolerate 5 hours ahead or behind me) -Pushing your religion onto me (Listen, i might be gay but i will not make you be gay so you do the same but for religion) -Flirting (Man. Just don't)
GAME LIST Games i'm playing at the moment: -Terraria -Webbed -Celeste -Plants Vs Zombies: Garden Warfare 2
Games i would like to play with someone: -Slime Rancher -Plants Vs Zombies: Garden Warfare 2 -Your suggestions
Other games i have: -Minecraft -Minecraft Dungeons -Hollow Knight -Overwatch 2 -Garry's Mod -Bloons TD 6 -Portal 1 & 2 -Geometry Dash -Clone Drone in The Danger Zone
Did you find anything interesting about me? Yes > Dm me No > Goodbye and have a nice day
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Things i like: -Games (Read the game list lower in the post, also my variety is smaller than the amount of unique posts on this subreddit) -Cartoons -Music -Talking (About silly or serious topics)
Things i dislike: -Anti lgbtq people (Sorry mate but you can't be friends with someone gay when you don't like anyone gay) -Console users (Sorry but i only play with people who can play with more than 60 fps) -The "hi" guys (If you dm me without putting any thought in your message/not reading my post i will ignore you or make fun of you and make you suffer, so be nice and introduce yourself) -Big timezone difference (I can tolerate 5 hours ahead or behind me) -Pushing your religion onto me (Listen, i might be gay but i will not make you be gay so you do the same but for religion) -Flirting (Man. Just don't)
GAME LIST Games i'm playing at the moment: -Terraria -Webbed -Celeste -Plants Vs Zombies: Garden Warfare 2
Games i would like to play with someone: -Slime Rancher -Plants Vs Zombies: Garden Warfare 2 -Your suggestions
Other games i have: -Minecraft -Minecraft Dungeons -Hollow Knight -Overwatch 2 -Garry's Mod -Bloons TD 6 -Portal 1 & 2 -Geometry Dash -Clone Drone in The Danger Zone
Did you find anything interesting about me? Yes > Dm me No > Goodbye and have a nice day
2024.05.14 00:20 unwordly Am I too much? Am I toxic? So me '24/F' and my boyfriend '23/M' are in a relationship since january 2024 so it's been about 4 months. He's my first boyfriend, my first lover, my first kiss etc.
Hello So me '24 F' and my boyfriend '23' are in a relationship since january 2024 so it's been about 4 months. He's my first boyfriend, my first lover, my first kiss etc. I can't really take advices from my surroundings because they don't share the same openmind set thant my partner and so I think, however the problem, they will always come to conclusion that I am right.
So me '24 F' and my boyfriend '23' are in a relationship since january 2024 so it's been about 4 months. He's my first boyfriend, my first lover, my first kiss etc.
He has been in a relationship three times before and only long time relationships. He is very kind, sweet, funny that's why I've fallend for him easily and very quickly. Everything was quick, I was confortable with him since our first date. It's odd for me since I'm very shy and mostly around men, even if no romantics feelings involved.
Everything was great, we played videos games together, he is more social than me so I quickly (too quickly) met a lot of his friends and his family. I struggled because it was fast and too much for me but in the end, even if I didn't talk a lot with them I got through it and they are all awesome people.
I stayed a lot at his house, and one time, it was 2 months ago, I did a bad thing. I looked into his insta DM's.. He was talking to his bestfriend about a girl (I knew of because it told me about it) he met in a Valorant game but what I didn't know was that he found her voice pretty. He said things about "bro I met this girl, she can play so well, and you know she has a sweet voice, your brain imagine automatically that it is a pretty girl talking. I tried to guess how she looked like in real life and I had 4 out of 5 good answers. I love 'OP name' with all my heart, I don't want that to be unclear but you know what I mean, it is not being attracted but I know you understand me. It's like having an epistolary relationship"
It broke my heart a little too much, because my vision of him that I had was more like me "when you're in love with someone you only see that person and not fantasm about others". I talk to him about it, if he was attracted to that game girl. He said never I love you, I don't even know how she look like. And myself, knew what he told about her, so hearring him lying was even more hurtful because he always told me that he never ever lies. I kept going and, he made me feel like I was being crazy without saying it. I asked him if he knew it would make me feel sad to keep that girl in friend, was he willing to delete her (I actually didn't want him to delete her, I just wanted to see if he would do it, bc if I played with a guy and if it made him sad, I wouldn't even wait for him to ask the question I would delete him, I don't know him he isn't important). He told me that he wouldn't delete somebody that did nothing wrong, talking to me like I was over reacting.
I finally told him the same day that I had read those messages. They were old messages. He said he didn't remember and he is so sorry bc he would have felt the same way as me 6 years earlier. And when he said all that, it was responds to his friends and he really don't care about her, he could delete her, that he as the same vision of love than me and that those messages meant nothing to him etc etc. I wasn't upset but really sad and for days he kept saying sorry, at one point he cried because I wanted to live (we don't live in the same town). After a lot of talkings and reassuring it was better.
But since that day, I am easily jealous (i wasn't at all before), upset and sad and keep finding things he do wrong. I think for some things I am over the top but I don't know I to canalize it.
For example, he still had his exes in his friends on social media, sometimes they are taking news of him or sending memes, her not him, he just answers. He told me beforend in our first date, he don't love them anymore, I trusted him and still trust him on that. So at first it did nothing to me, even it's like 1 time a month that he receives a mess from them. But since that game girl story, I put that in a discussion, saying that it's weird to keep its exes and what for. But I know that I wouldn't do that, keep my exes so I am surely projecting my vision of a couple on him while we are all different and it's ok.
What made me do this post it's because it's been 5 days that I have came back in my town and for 4 days I didn't have much new from him but still the "i love you's", "good night, miss you so much", "what did you do today?" etc, and it was ok because I new he did have much battery, living in a tent bc he was at and event with his best friend. He came back yesterday, worked the morning got home told me he will see his bestfriend again to do some bycicle, while the past day he told me he would call or send vocals to tell me all about the event, and take time with me. In the afternoon told me he had 1 pourcent left and I didn't havec any news since 5 hours laters, while I was going to bed.
I felt bad all afternoon, thinking why if he knew he would go not charge his phone.. Why didn't he just stayed home playing games with me or calling me instead of seeing his friend he saw for 4 days prior.
The same thing happend when I was sleeping at his house. I felt sad so I told him, I wanted him to go to sleep with me. That day he spent it with his bestfriend at his house. And when his bestfriend left I thought he would be with me. But even tho I told him I was sad, I think he didn't think it was this important and kept playing games all night with his bestfriend.
Their are other times where I felt sad and leftout for little things like that. I want to be like I was at the begininng, I love him I am past little quarrels, and he always asks me how I feel, if I love him, he always reassure me, give me love and affection. I want to let those bad feelings of mine go but I don't know how.
Thanks and sorry if you got through all this
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So me '24 F' and my boyfriend '23' are in a relationship since january 2024 so it's been about 4 months. He's my first boyfriend, my first lover, my first kiss etc.
He has been in a relationship three times before and only long time relationships. He is very kind, sweet, funny that's why I've fallend for him easily and very quickly. Everything was quick, I was confortable with him since our first date. It's odd for me since I'm very shy and mostly around men, even if no romantics feelings involved.
Everything was great, we played videos games together, he is more social than me so I quickly (too quickly) met a lot of his friends and his family. I struggled because it was fast and too much for me but in the end, even if I didn't talk a lot with them I got through it and they are all awesome people.
I stayed a lot at his house, and one time, it was 2 months ago, I did a bad thing. I looked into his insta DM's.. He was talking to his bestfriend about a girl (I knew of because it told me about it) he met in a Valorant game but what I didn't know was that he found her voice pretty. He said things about "bro I met this girl, she can play so well, and you know she has a sweet voice, your brain imagine automatically that it is a pretty girl talking. I tried to guess how she looked like in real life and I had 4 out of 5 good answers. I love 'OP name' with all my heart, I don't want that to be unclear but you know what I mean, it is not being attracted but I know you understand me. It's like having an epistolary relationship"
It broke my heart a little too much, because my vision of him that I had was more like me "when you're in love with someone you only see that person and not fantasm about others". I talk to him about it, if he was attracted to that game girl. He said never I love you, I don't even know how she look like. And myself, knew what he told about her, so hearring him lying was even more hurtful because he always told me that he never ever lies. I kept going and, he made me feel like I was being crazy without saying it. I asked him if he knew it would make me feel sad to keep that girl in friend, was he willing to delete her (I actually didn't want him to delete her, I just wanted to see if he would do it, bc if I played with a guy and if it made him sad, I wouldn't even wait for him to ask the question I would delete him, I don't know him he isn't important). He told me that he wouldn't delete somebody that did nothing wrong, talking to me like I was over reacting.
I finally told him the same day that I had read those messages. They were old messages. He said he didn't remember and he is so sorry bc he would have felt the same way as me 6 years earlier. And when he said all that, it was responds to his friends and he really don't care about her, he could delete her, that he as the same vision of love than me and that those messages meant nothing to him etc etc. I wasn't upset but really sad and for days he kept saying sorry, at one point he cried because I wanted to live (we don't live in the same town). After a lot of talkings and reassuring it was better.
But since that day, I am easily jealous (i wasn't at all before), upset and sad and keep finding things he do wrong. I think for some things I am over the top but I don't know I to canalize it.
For example, he still had his exes in his friends on social media, sometimes they are taking news of him or sending memes, her not him, he just answers. He told me beforend in our first date, he don't love them anymore, I trusted him and still trust him on that. So at first it did nothing to me, even it's like 1 time a month that he receives a mess from them. But since that game girl story, I put that in a discussion, saying that it's weird to keep its exes and what for. But I know that I wouldn't do that, keep my exes so I am surely projecting my vision of a couple on him while we are all different and it's ok.
What made me do this post it's because it's been 5 days that I have came back in my town and for 4 days I didn't have much new from him but still the "i love you's", "good night, miss you so much", "what did you do today?" etc, and it was ok because I new he did have much battery, living in a tent bc he was at and event with his best friend. He came back yesterday, worked the morning got home told me he will see his bestfriend again to do some bycicle, while the past day he told me he would call or send vocals to tell me all about the event, and take time with me. In the afternoon told me he had 1 pourcent left and I didn't havec any news since 5 hours laters, while I was going to bed.
I felt bad all afternoon, thinking why if he knew he would go not charge his phone.. Why didn't he just stayed home playing games with me or calling me instead of seeing his friend he saw for 4 days prior.
The same thing happend when I was sleeping at his house. I felt sad so I told him, I wanted him to go to sleep with me. That day he spent it with his bestfriend at his house. And when his bestfriend left I thought he would be with me. But even tho I told him I was sad, I think he didn't think it was this important and kept playing games all night with his bestfriend.
Their are other times where I felt sad and leftout for little things like that. I want to be like I was at the begininng, I love him I am past little quarrels, and he always asks me how I feel, if I love him, he always reassure me, give me love and affection. I want to let those bad feelings of mine go but I don't know how.
Thanks and sorry if you got through all this
2024.05.14 00:13 joni1802 Unable to send or receive mails
Hello everyone,
I am currently using the standard mail stack (postfix, dovecot etc) and wanted to try stalwart as an alternative. I have tried the docker image with the basic configuration like described in the official docs. I added my domain and a user and set the certificate. But I am unable to send message or retrieve messages from my inbox.
When I am trying to send a message using port 587 with STARTTLS I get 501 5.5.2 Syntax error, expected: MAIL FROM: \[parameters\] when trying to set the MAIL FROM. Here is the whole output:
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I am currently using the standard mail stack (postfix, dovecot etc) and wanted to try stalwart as an alternative. I have tried the docker image with the basic configuration like described in the official docs. I added my domain and a user and set the certificate. But I am unable to send message or retrieve messages from my inbox.
When I am trying to send a message using port 587 with STARTTLS I get 501 5.5.2 Syntax error, expected: MAIL FROM:
250-XXXXXXXXXXX says hello 250-SMTPUTF8 250-SIZE 104857600 250-REQUIRETLS 250-PIPELINING 250-NO-SOLICITING 250-ENHANCEDSTATUSCODES 250-CHUNKING 250-BINARYMIME 250-AUTH PLAIN LOGIN 250 8BITMIME auth login 334 VXNlciBOYW1lAA== XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX 334 UGFzc3dvcmQA XXXXXXXXXX 235 2.7.0 Authentication succeeded. mail from: test@XXXXXXXXXX 501 5.5.2 Syntax error, expected: MAIL FROM:In the stalwart logs I can only see a handshake entry.[parameters]
2024-05-13T21:49:42.504875Z INFO session{instance="submission" protocol=Smtp remote.ip="172.18.0.3" remote.port=38854}: common::listener::listen: context="tls" event="handshake" version=TLSv1_3 cipher=TLS13_AES_256_GCM_SHA384 Also fetching messages over IMAP port 993 (SSL) using Roundcube is not working. I can see that a message got receive by stalwart but the inbox is empty.2024-05-13T21:50:34.660521Z INFO session{instance="smtp" protocol=Smtp remote.ip="141.91.18.36" remote.port=33801}: common::listener::listen: context="tls" event="handshake" version=TLSv1_3 cipher=TLS13_AES_256_GCM_SHA384 2024-05-13T21:50:35.133467Z WARN session{instance="smtp" protocol=Smtp remote.ip="141.91.18.36" remote.port=33801}: common::scripts::plugins::lookup: context="sieve:key_exists_http" event="failed" resource="http://data.phishtank.com/data/online-valid.csv" status=404 Not Found 2024-05-13T21:50:36.970610Z INFO session{instance="smtp" protocol=Smtp remote.ip="141.91.18.36" remote.port=33801}: smtp::queue::spool: Message queued for delivery. context="queue" event="scheduled" id=174812376797577216 from="XXXXXXXXXXXXX" nrcpts=1 size=4587 2024-05-13T21:50:36.974055Z INFO delivery{id=174812376797577216 return_path="XXXXXXXXXXXXXXX" nrcpt=1 size=4587}:attempt{domain="XXXXXXXX" attempt_number=0}: smtp::outbound::local: context="deliver_local" event="delivered" rcpt="test@XXXXXXXX" 2024-05-13T21:50:36.974364Z INFO delivery{id=174812376797577216 return_path="XXXXXXXXXXXXXX" nrcpt=1 size=4587}: smtp::outbound::delivery: Delivery completed. context="queue" event="completed" Am I doing something completely wrong?2024.05.14 00:12 Vast_Recognition3293 Has anyone faced this issue?
 | So I was seemingly verified or so I thought. I like others have been watching countless others get verified and saying they were able to withdraw but all I see was loans repaid and none funded. I found out I was verified by trying to do it online vs the app. I am a 99 and pay the max tip and paid all my loans a day early. submitted by Vast_Recognition3293 to Sololender [link] [comments] So I try to go on the app and get my 575 that I was funded withdrawn from my wallet. I wasn't able to. Still after being verified. I sent emails; to customer service which was like talking to a brick wall saying that my loans were cancelled or they were gonna withdraw my funds to pay back. Then when I tried to log in after updating I get this error. I'm lucky enough that I was able to repay them to get a loan; and though I don't haven any info as to if the loan was cancelled. They're not after my account. And not able to withdraw. But what's going on? Any insight on why some are being funded and others like myself who have good history are facing these error messages? |