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TLDR: I'm trying to get my ex girlfriend back who has BPD, but shes ignoring me.
I'll cut to the main problem at hand; My ex was seeing someone else (their ex from December-January) about a few months ago even though I told them I wanted to wait and process my past relationships that I had before being with them so I can be a better healed person for them. This broke my heart, and so here I am.
For a while she was ignoring me but still had me in contact. One time she blocked me then unblocked me, which confused me.
One time I noticed she was offline for the entire day so I decided to give her a call and she picked up, but she couldn't talk so she texted while I spoke. She asked if I was "talking to any cute girls lately" and as well she dropped a few complaints about her ex-now-boyfriend, saying she felt like he was purposely ignoring her. She told me she wished she knew me in person (LDR btw) and how she wanted a shoulder to cry on and she wanted me to hug her and hold her, as well as saying how she told her boyfriend she was sad and he didn't acknowledge it, showing a screenshot of the guy actually not saying anything about her being sad when she explicitly said "im sad" (what a fuckin prick.). She explained the block before was that she was hiding me from her ex-now-boyfriend and he didn't like how she would stay in contact with me. She wanted us to sleep in call together but eventually changed her mind saying how "I deserve to be alone, its what he wants". I didn't want to disrespect her decision and let her rest. We had a good weekend together but eventually her energy for me fizzled out and she stopped responding again for weeks. I tried calling her a few times one day and she ended up blocking me.
I contacted her on an alternative account and she ended up accepting my friend request and we talked. She asked me again if I had a girlfriend which I said no and asked why I was "obsessed" with her. I explained how I love her company, that I like her as a person, and how she's nice to be around, in which she replied with "whatever". So I asked if she would be comfortable staying in contact with me again in which she said no, and I asked if we could talk about it and she said "not now", so I gave her space.
Ex-now-ex-again and her broke up, and I tried to contact her about it telling her I would be there if she needed support. I wasn't pushing anything romantic on her but instead reinforcing the idea of comfort and support. I reached out saying "Hey (name), can we talk for a minute? You don't have to if you'd like." (added the second second to avoid applying pressure) in which she ended up blocking me again, and here we are.
What's going on with her? Do I still have a chance of getting her back? I know how to handle this, I've known her for foir years now and so I'm prepared for her ups and downs with BPD, but what should I do now?
I've talked to an AI relationship coach (I can't afford one nor can I even buy one at the moment) and it suggested a "two week rule"; where I give her space for two weeks and attempt to reach out again. If she doesn't respond or blocks me again, give her another two weeks. It says it will make her feel like I'm not abandoning her while giving her the space she needs. Is that effective?

I've been talking to this girl for about 2 months. We have an 8 year age difference and also live in a different state. She was pretty pushy in the beginning about wanting to meet, wanting to date and was really in to me. After a while I finally gave in and said we could meet. She I'd a college student and also works so she's busy and I understood that.
She has 1 year of college left and she said after that she wanted to move and would move to be with me if everything worked out. I had a lot of skepticism but she kept assuring me it's what she wanted and it would be okay.
About 2 weeks ago we had a misunderstanding about our level of communication and she freaked out and told me she didn't want to talk to me anymore and blocked me everywhere. About an hour later she unblocked me and told me she over reacted and was sorry. We talked it out and she assured me everything was okay. We agreed to meet in person, picked a future date and I bought a plane ticket.
The past 2 weeks she has been extremely busy with finals so we haven't gotten to talk much. I've been really supportive and patient with her. She kept apologizing for not being able to talk much, and I kept assuring her it wsd okay and I understood. She kept telling me that as soon as this semester was over she would dedicate more time to me.
Monday was her final exams. Monday night we texted a good bit and everything seemed good. We talked about our future and everything. Yesterday we didn't text much, she said she slept most of the morning then had to go to a meeting for her research project. Then I heard absolutely nothing from her for like 10 hours, which was not usual.
Early this morning she texts me to tell me we need to cut all contact, that with everything going on in her life she can't make time for me and it's not fair to me, and that I've been great and did nothing wrong. Just days ago she told me how serious she was about me.
Should have seen the red flags and trusted Mt gut, something didn't feel right since we had that argument and I knew it. People wonder why I have trust and attachment issues, well this is why, a lot of people just suck.
I messaged her back with how i felt about it, but im sure I'll never hear from her again.

So, as of late I've been trying out a bunch of heroes to find who I want to main based on a few criteria. Mostly, what fits my play style and how much fun do I have doing it. Immersion is a big one too. But I'm trying to be flexible on that. But I've was a Viking since release with the exception of a few seasons here and there where I wanted to play with a friend and take territories together ya know? But I have full intentions on siding with the faction my main comes from.
Right now, my top contenders are Warlord, Conqueror, Shugoki, and Jorm. But I've found I prefer heroes with a full guard stance because, quite frankly, my reaction time is bad and so it's easier to just guard in one direction every time and block everything. And I prefer heavies because of their survivability and I only like objective game modes and playing for the objectives rather than kills and stuff (I've won so many games solely because I just sat on a point. No one even showed up lol)
So, I have a few questions about some of the other full guard heroes. Namely
Black Prior Valkyrie (though immersion is hard with female gender locked heroes. Hard to look at a female hero and go "this is me" ya know? But again, trying to be flexible) Kyoshin
Not so keen on Varangian Guard or Aramusha because their full guard has to be timed well.
Mainly, are they worth it? What are their strengths and weaknesses? How do they play?
Keep in mind some things I really like about the ones I'm playing now
Warlord: of course his full block stance, even though he's a "defensive" hero I can play him super aggressive. His headbutt is fantastic at dealing with turtles.
Conqueror: basically everything I said about Warlord. I love his infinite chain which is unblockable when they're heavy. The only thing I DONT like about him is his attacks are slow so I just get parried all day if I don't play SUPER defensive. And I prefer aggression.
Shugoki: it's the hugs. Delayed unblockable heavies are good and all, but giving a guy a hug and throwing him on the ground while my team wrecks him for 80% of his HP is great.
Jorm: Jorm is more of a "I want to get good with him" hero. The aggressiveness of Warlord and the disabling abilities of Shugoki, plus an infinite chain if I use his zone right. He's got everything except that full guard stance. So with him it's more that I want to get better at blocking, parrying, and feinting and then get good with him

There’s a girl I hooked up with 3rd time meeting her and it kicked off good and a month later we stopped but after a week later we hooked up again for a while .she knew I had feelings for her and she said she did aswell but suppressed them ,after we stopped hooking up we still hang out and spoke everyday but when I opened up to her she would rage and block me then unblock me ,now she said the balls in my court ,,,I said I was going to make a move but if so she said she would slap me

I (25F) had a guy best friend (25M). I had been friends with him since I was 16, but last year he fell in love with a girl and she was insecure about my friendship with him and asked him to either choose me or her. He had blocked me on all socials after telling me that he will convince her eventually. But recently he unblocked me on one social and I found that out because of my sister.
Should I reach out to him? If he does reach out to me eventually, do I just talk to him or ignore him? Please help me.
For the longer version:
I became friends with this guy because he liked a girl in highschool who was my friend. My friend eventually drifted apart but he and I had similar interests and became really good friends. We had a kinda long distance friendship but it didn't matter because we were really good friends and would make up time to talk to each other. He would always be there for me during my worst period and so would I. I always considered him like a brother and he took care of me like a sister. He broke his heart once and it really changed him. Since then I looked out for him even more.
Last year he fell in love with a girl who just got out of a break up and was still obsessed with her ex. When he asked my opinion, all I told him was to give her time to heal and then talk about a relationship. We were each other's therapists and it was fun to know about each other's thoughts and psychoanalyse the situations. But instead of waiting he told the girl about how he wanted to be in a relationship with her and that did not end well. From what he said, I definitely knew she was not treating him right and one day I told him how he should be looking out for himself and how he should be more worried about how the whole situation would affect him rather than her. But instead of him, she saw the message. Since then she hated me.
Eventually both of them started their relationship but it had a lot of toxic qualities. She would often check his message and gallery. I understood that since she was cheated on and I thought her insecurities were valid. They eventually decided to get engaged and I knew I am going to loose my good friend because marriage changes priorities but I was genuinely happy for him. But then I got a call from him, telling me how he had to block me on all socials because he was asked to choose me or her. He also told me he would eventually convince her to give me a chance and I said I understood him completely. But then he said something that did not sit well with me. He said he wanted this friendship even if he had to hide it from her. Now I empathise with the girl and something like that would only break her trust in him more. I did not wish for that and therefore I asked him to contact me once she's convinced because I did not want to make her feel devastated about her partner. And then we barely had any contact.
A friend of mine later told me that he got engaged and also shared photos with me. It hurt that I was not present to celebrate the event but I wished him happiness from the bottom of my heart. And so one year passes by, my sister knew everything about him and casually asked about him. I told that I had no clue. So she just wanted to check if he had still blocked me on all socials and I agreed to her thinking maybe I still am blocked. Today I realised that he has unblocked me and so has his fiance.
Now I don't know how to react to this new information. I don't have many friends and he was certainly the most treasured one but I'm not sure if I want to be the one to reach out. I still have unresolved anger about that situation and I don't know if talking to him would make things better. My boyfriend hates the guy for what he did and this piece of information is not really sitting well with him. Should I reach out to him? If he does reach out to me eventually, do I just talk to him or ignore him? Please help me.

I've been grappling with a complex issue that arose a few days ago. Specifically, I'm working on an adventure map, a 2D bottom-up network of interconnected nodes really, that represent the player's exploration options, past choices, and future possibilities. The map in Slay the Spire serves as a useful reference for this.
In designing the solution, I don't have the problems with: + Showing current player options. I simply connect the player node with the following nodes directly above, while the connection is an animated dashed line. + Showing past decisions. Each visited map node is specially marked while not visited ones are grayed out.
However, I struggle with properly communicating the not-yet reachable map nodes, which WILL become reachable in the following nodes.
Why is it problematic? + If I don't connect the 1+ above future layers of map nodes (representing future levels/decision moments), they seem disconnected and do not communicate that the player WILL be able to reach them. + If I connect each actual connection, given that I can move to any next-level node from each level's node, this results in myriad connections even with a simple setup of 2x nodes now and 3x nodes next. + Focusing on aesthetically displaying the connections (so only showing the connections that look nice, especially do not cross each other) results in a "lie", as I don't show the actual connections and options the player will have.
This is quite a problem, as I either don't communicate all of the actual options to the player; or I communicate them in a messy, ugly way; or I don't communicate it at all :D
I can present some screenshots, as I did not see this option in the post creator.
I'm truly grateful for any insights or suggestions you can provide to help me overcome this challenge and unblock my project.

Last night, I informed my girlfriend that I was going to play online games with my friends. It’s been a while since I gamed with them (about two weeks or more), she’s aware of that and I also reminded her about it. I mentioned that we could still call if she wanted, but I might be a bit slow to respond since I get pretty absorbed in the game.
While I was playing and chatting with my friends, I still tried to keep up a conversation with her, even though multitasking isn’t my strong suit. I used two devices: she could hear me and my friends talking, but my friends couldn't hear her (I don't know whether this is relevant though, hahaha). After two hours, I left the game early because I didn't want her to feel neglected. However, when I ended the call with my friends, she didn’t respond to me. I kept trying to call her, and after about 3-5 minutes, she finally answered with just a "hmm?" I asked if she was sleepy, but then she went silent again.
Ever tried talking to someone who doesn’t respond? It's tiring as heck. So, I fell silent and started reading a book. After some time, she ended the call and blocked me on all social media, including my second account and phone number.
I attempted to reach out to her, but got no response, so I gave up. The next day, she still had me blocked. Then in the afternoon, she unblocked me and sent a message along the lines of, “Wow, you’re not searching for me at all, huh?” I saw it about 20 minutes after waking up from a nap and called her immediately, but she didn’t answer and blocked me again.
She left my Instagram unblocked but responded with very dry, delayed messages. I'm not sure how to handle this situation and would appreciate some advice on where I might have gone wrong. I realize going silent wasn’t ideal, but it's really exhausting to keep calling someone who hears you but chooses not to respond.
I'm 25, and she's 23 for the context.

I'm putting fake names... (A lot of the timelines are spread out but they talk about those specific moments, I hope they make since)
I have a friend, I'll call her J. I have known J for almost 9 years. She and I grew up pretty close and we were inseparable. Over the first few years of our friendship she had lost my parents trust from an incident involving a boy, she wasn't allowed to stay over for sleepovers and I practically lost my whole summer that year. I was pretty angry at my parents and blamed things on them. I regret my actions and I did learn but in my mind I thought J was the only person who understood me.
After the whole incident settled down. School started up again and she would jokingly push me into a boy or a locker. She started putting her arm around my neck, trying to choke me. She would continuously punch me or smack me on the head. I honestly got annoyed by it but I acted like it was nothing. She had suddenly became obsessed with TikTok and she posted a whole TikTok about her friends, their was a video of me that stood out. I wasn't wearing a shirt. Which completely made me uncomfortable because I wasn't wearing a shirt and she took the video while I was changing. She didn't take it down. She also would post photos without my consent. Like ones that made me feel ugly or disgusting. And I would tell her how they made me feel. But she would still post them. I started telling her no when she asked for photos and she always would sneak one when I wasn't looking. She doesn't take no for an answer. She will start whining when you don't listen. I used to trust her with my feelings and I would tell her about everything. And now I feel like she knows too much.
This past school year all of my friends (king, J, Joe, Bell) and I went to SDYC. And well when we went J was lying a bunch and starting a bunch of drama and it threw all of my friends off. We all didn't trust J and Joe that well during that time. I felt like the only people I had was my friends King and Bell. Because they both understood how I felt.
After that. King, J, and I had a sleepover. During the middle of the night I was watching a movie and J began to bug me. She started pushing on me saying I was taking up too much room. But honestly I was the one who was sleeping in between two couches there's no way I was taking that much space because I was falling in the crack. She then proceeded to call me a fat roll. I said "no your a fat roll" jokingly. And then she freaks out and she went to tell her boyfriend. It annoyed me because all her boyfriend knows how to do is talk bad. After that sleepover. She started working at the same place as me and I told her about my big crush on this coworker of ours. And so then she decided to start flirting with him in front of me. She would throw something at him jokingly and giggle. I didn't try to think anything of it. But then when we were talking about him the next thing she decided to say was, "your just jealous because he talks to me and not you". The thing is I don't want to talk to him that's why I don't try to talk to him. He has talked to me before, but I rather admire him from afar. He's like 13 years older than me. He was just hot to me at the time.
I'll just say I am lighter than a 5'6 girl. I might have a little bit of belly fat but that's just my body. And I do have an eating disorder. I don't eat enough, I practically starve myself. J honestly made me feel worse and I started having moments where I would basically pass out from no iron in my body. J continued to body shame me even from the amount of food I would eat. She straight up made is feel like she was calling me ugly and fat. It hurt and it made me angry. I told my dad and he said she's just jealous and not to worry about it. I brushed it off but she basically would say something everyday. It got to a point where I was crying all the time.
During my last year of highschool J didn't have a vehicle. So she would ask me to drive her places. I didn't mind because we would be going to the same places. And I started offering to pay for her drink or something. I didn't think much of it in tell I was always taking her places and buying her drinks but she still wanted me to pay her back for stuff when I didn't have much money. She managed to buy a vehicle for a small price by saving up the money she didn't spend. I feel stupid for offering. One day her mom even texted me asking for the small money I "owed" J. But my parents think I don't owe her anything because I have given her most of my money and that she owes me money.
J also does this thing where if you don't give her your attention she'll keep tapping you. Over and over again. Everytime she asks for my attention it's always for something so pointless and stupid. Nothing serious. And everytime I ask for her attention she'll ignore me. She does it a lot. She only wants to have the attention. I stopped telling her about how I feel because all I know is she'll either use it against me or not actually listen and move past it. Like once she asked me how I felt and when I told her that I cried about something she moved on from it into her talking about her crying over some movie she watched.
The way she treated me made me so angry that I texted her boyfriend anonymously asking him to control his girlfriend and get her to be nicer to others. He didn't like the message and told his girl on the spot and J tried to call my fake number. I didn't answer and then she ran to me to tell me the tea. She later assumed it was a boy she was flirting with that she pushed away.
I hate her boyfriend but he deserves better.. because she has talked to another boy behind his back. When I started liking this one boy. I told her about it and then she began to tell me how she met this UK boy and she thinks he's all that. She later found out he was lying about his age and she got back to reality before she lost her in person boyfriend.
She told king I was flirting with this one dude but I wasn't. J told me to add this guy she found on Facebook on snap, I said okay and I called the dude a nickname like a Grandma would call their grandchildren. And I thought it was funny and the guy thought it was chill. I didn't think anything of it and then I blocked him because I didn't want to talk to him. She then decided to add the guy on snap. And she starts talking to him. The amount of times she has lied is crazy. I blocked him but she still has him on snap. For what reason I don't know.
J and Joe and I have recently had a lot of problems with each other. It's always J and Joe fighting and I'm between listening to them both argue about each other. I was getting tired of it. J hit my breaking point when she decided to ask me for my boyfriends sisters snap. You don't just ask your friend for her boyfriends sisters snap. That's weird. She also asked for my boyfriends and she looked him up when I told her no and she added a bunch of dudes with the same name. She didn't find him but there is no way I want her knowing him or his sister. I have too many trust issues with her. She's the main reason why a lot of my relationships didn't work out. They didn't like her and she manipulated me into saying things that upset them. She makes me so uncomfortable. She made me seem lesbian once when I know I'm not. But she made a TikTok about it and a lot of people from my school saw it. I don't like false accusations. I'm pretty sure she used it for clout. But also my parents think she's inlove with me because she can never leave me alone and she always HAS to hold hands or hug.
J doesn't understand a lot of things. And she calls me stupid. I honestly want karma to come get her but that's bad and I don't mean to say that. It hurts a lot.
I had blocked J on everything. But since I worked with J I saw her and she started bawling her eyes out at me saying she did nothing, I felt bad but I was annoyed because she kept bugging me. So I unblocked her. I decided to block her again after because my boyfriend said she was manipulating me. And well the more I had her blocked the nicer she was. After a while Joe did something to make me give up on my friendship with her too and J expected that to be a chance to get me back. And well she did practically. She was a lot nicer and I felt like she changed. But Man was I wrong.. Just today I was working my second night shift. I said something as a joke because I was hoping J would get what I meant. Her boyfriend was on the call... He took everything out of context and said something that made me feel less about myself. I already feel like crap being the person I am. I want to better myself but the more people say things the more I give up. I want to be encouraged not dragged down. I don't know why he has to be so mean. I never did anything to him. I don't know why they both have to be... I listen to her call people ugly all the time. Like just stop. I want her to stop. I'm leaving for the military soon, and she said that I can't get rid of her. That sounds psycho. And it honestly makes me want to get away more. I'm tired of the toxic environment and I want to get away. But she's everywhere. She knows everything about me. She has photos of me I hate. She has so many things she can use against me. I'm honestly scared. I want to block her again but I know she's just going to keep bugging me about it. And she might turn people against me. She's good at talking to people. I'm not I'm an introvert. I don't want her ever find me again once I leave. But I know she might try. People always find a way. And she's creepy. Because I know she'll be able to. But I just want to move on with my life. I don't know how to remove her from my life. What should I do?

I'm putting fake names... (A lot of the timelines are spread out but they talk about those specific moments, I hope they make since)
I have a friend, I'll call her J. I have known J for almost 9 years. She and I grew up pretty close and we were inseparable. Over the first few years of our friendship she had lost my parents trust from an incident involving a boy, she wasn't allowed to stay over for sleepovers and I practically lost my whole summer that year. I was pretty angry at my parents and blamed things on them. I regret my actions and I did learn but in my mind I thought J was the only person who understood me.
After the whole incident settled down. School started up again and she would jokingly push me into a boy or a locker. She started putting her arm around my neck, trying to choke me. She would continuously punch me or smack me on the head. I honestly got annoyed by it but I acted like it was nothing. She had suddenly became obsessed with TikTok and she posted a whole TikTok about her friends, their was a video of me that stood out. I wasn't wearing a shirt. Which completely made me uncomfortable because I wasn't wearing a shirt and she took the video while I was changing. She didn't take it down. She also would post photos without my consent. Like ones that made me feel ugly or disgusting. And I would tell her how they made me feel. But she would still post them. I started telling her no when she asked for photos and she always would sneak one when I wasn't looking. She doesn't take no for an answer. She will start whining when you don't listen. I used to trust her with my feelings and I would tell her about everything. And now I feel like she knows too much.
This past school year all of my friends (king, J, Joe, Bell) and I went to SDYC. And well when we went J was lying a bunch and starting a bunch of drama and it threw all of my friends off. We all didn't trust J and Joe that well during that time. I felt like the only people I had was my friends King and Bell. Because they both understood how I felt.
After that. King, J, and I had a sleepover. During the middle of the night I was watching a movie and J began to bug me. She started pushing on me saying I was taking up too much room. But honestly I was the one who was sleeping in between two couches there's no way I was taking that much space because I was falling in the crack. She then proceeded to call me a fat roll. I said "no your a fat roll" jokingly. And then she freaks out and she went to tell her boyfriend. It annoyed me because all her boyfriend knows how to do is talk bad. After that sleepover. She started working at the same place as me and I told her about my big crush on this coworker of ours. And so then she decided to start flirting with him in front of me. She would throw something at him jokingly and giggle. I didn't try to think anything of it. But then when we were talking about him the next thing she decided to say was, "your just jealous because he talks to me and not you". The thing is I don't want to talk to him that's why I don't try to talk to him. He has talked to me before, but I rather admire him from afar. He's like 13 years older than me. He was just hot to me at the time.
I'll just say I am lighter than a 5'6 girl. I might have a little bit of belly fat but that's just my body. And I do have an eating disorder. I don't eat enough, I practically starve myself. J honestly made me feel worse and I started having moments where I would basically pass out from no iron in my body. J continued to body shame me even from the amount of food I would eat. She straight up made is feel like she was calling me ugly and fat. It hurt and it made me angry. I told my dad and he said she's just jealous and not to worry about it. I brushed it off but she basically would say something everyday. It got to a point where I was crying all the time.
During my last year of highschool J didn't have a vehicle. So she would ask me to drive her places. I didn't mind because we would be going to the same places. And I started offering to pay for her drink or something. I didn't think much of it in tell I was always taking her places and buying her drinks but she still wanted me to pay her back for stuff when I didn't have much money. She managed to buy a vehicle for a small price by saving up the money she didn't spend. I feel stupid for offering. One day her mom even texted me asking for the small money I "owed" J. But my parents think I don't owe her anything because I have given her most of my money and that she owes me money.
J also does this thing where if you don't give her your attention she'll keep tapping you. Over and over again. Everytime she asks for my attention it's always for something so pointless and stupid. Nothing serious. And everytime I ask for her attention she'll ignore me. She does it a lot. She only wants to have the attention. I stopped telling her about how I feel because all I know is she'll either use it against me or not actually listen and move past it. Like once she asked me how I felt and when I told her that I cried about something she moved on from it into her talking about her crying over some movie she watched.
The way she treated me made me so angry that I texted her boyfriend anonymously asking him to control his girlfriend and get her to be nicer to others. He didn't like the message and told his girl on the spot and J tried to call my fake number. I didn't answer and then she ran to me to tell me the tea. She later assumed it was a boy she was flirting with that she pushed away.
I hate her boyfriend but he deserves better.. because she has talked to another boy behind his back. When I started liking this one boy. I told her about it and then she began to tell me how she met this UK boy and she thinks he's all that. She later found out he was lying about his age and she got back to reality before she lost her in person boyfriend.
She told king I was flirting with this one dude but I wasn't. J told me to add this guy she found on Facebook on snap, I said okay and I called the dude a nickname like a Grandma would call their grandchildren. And I thought it was funny and the guy thought it was chill. I didn't think anything of it and then I blocked him because I didn't want to talk to him. She then decided to add the guy on snap. And she starts talking to him. The amount of times she has lied is crazy. I blocked him but she still has him on snap. For what reason I don't know.
J and Joe and I have recently had a lot of problems with each other. It's always J and Joe fighting and I'm between listening to them both argue about each other. I was getting tired of it. J hit my breaking point when she decided to ask me for my boyfriends sisters snap. You don't just ask your friend for her boyfriends sisters snap. That's weird. She also asked for my boyfriends and she looked him up when I told her no and she added a bunch of dudes with the same name. She didn't find him but there is no way I want her knowing him or his sister. I have too many trust issues with her. She's the main reason why a lot of my relationships didn't work out. They didn't like her and she manipulated me into saying things that upset them. She makes me so uncomfortable. She made me seem lesbian once when I know I'm not. But she made a TikTok about it and a lot of people from my school saw it. I don't like false accusations. I'm pretty sure she used it for clout. But also my parents think she's inlove with me because she can never leave me alone and she always HAS to hold hands or hug.
J doesn't understand a lot of things. And she calls me stupid. I honestly want karma to come get her but that's bad and I don't mean to say that. It hurts a lot.
I had blocked J on everything. But since I worked with J I saw her and she started bawling her eyes out at me saying she did nothing, I felt bad but I was annoyed because she kept bugging me. So I unblocked her. I decided to block her again after because my boyfriend said she was manipulating me. And well the more I had her blocked the nicer she was. After a while Joe did something to make me give up on my friendship with her too and J expected that to be a chance to get me back. And well she did practically. She was a lot nicer and I felt like she changed. But Man was I wrong.. Just today I was working my second night shift. I said something as a joke because I was hoping J would get what I meant. Her boyfriend was on the call... He took everything out of context and said something that made me feel less about myself. I already feel like crap being the person I am. I want to better myself but the more people say things the more I give up. I want to be encouraged not dragged down. I don't know why he has to be so mean. I never did anything to him. I don't know why they both have to be... I listen to her call people ugly all the time. Like just stop. I want her to stop. I'm leaving for the military soon, and she said that I can't get rid of her. That sounds psycho. And it honestly makes me want to get away more. I'm tired of the toxic environment and I want to get away. But she's everywhere. She knows everything about me. She has photos of me I hate. She has so many things she can use against me. I'm honestly scared. I want to block her again but I know she's just going to keep bugging me about it. And she might turn people against me. She's good at talking to people. I'm not I'm an introvert. I don't want her ever find me again once I leave. But I know she might try. People always find a way. And she's creepy. Because I know she'll be able to. But I just want to move on with my life. I don't know how to remove her from my life. What should I do?

I'm putting fake names... (A lot of the timelines are spread out but they talk about those specific moments, I hope they make since)
I have a friend, I'll call her J. I have known J for almost 9 years. She and I grew up pretty close and we were inseparable. Over the first few years of our friendship she had lost my parents trust from an incident involving a boy, she wasn't allowed to stay over for sleepovers and I practically lost my whole summer that year. I was pretty angry at my parents and blamed things on them. I regret my actions and I did learn but in my mind I thought J was the only person who understood me.
After the whole incident settled down. School started up again and she would jokingly push me into a boy or a locker. She started putting her arm around my neck, trying to choke me. She would continuously punch me or smack me on the head. I honestly got annoyed by it but I acted like it was nothing. She had suddenly became obsessed with TikTok and she posted a whole TikTok about her friends, their was a video of me that stood out. I wasn't wearing a shirt. Which completely made me uncomfortable because I wasn't wearing a shirt and she took the video while I was changing. She didn't take it down. She also would post photos without my consent. Like ones that made me feel ugly or disgusting. And I would tell her how they made me feel. But she would still post them. I started telling her no when she asked for photos and she always would sneak one when I wasn't looking. She doesn't take no for an answer. She will start whining when you don't listen. I used to trust her with my feelings and I would tell her about everything. And now I feel like she knows too much.
This past school year all of my friends (king, J, Joe, Bell) and I went to SDYC. And well when we went J was lying a bunch and starting a bunch of drama and it threw all of my friends off. We all didn't trust J and Joe that well during that time. I felt like the only people I had was my friends King and Bell. Because they both understood how I felt.
After that. King, J, and I had a sleepover. During the middle of the night I was watching a movie and J began to bug me. She started pushing on me saying I was taking up too much room. But honestly I was the one who was sleeping in between two couches there's no way I was taking that much space because I was falling in the crack. She then proceeded to call me a fat roll. I said "no your a fat roll" jokingly. And then she freaks out and she went to tell her boyfriend. It annoyed me because all her boyfriend knows how to do is talk bad. After that sleepover. She started working at the same place as me and I told her about my big crush on this coworker of ours. And so then she decided to start flirting with him in front of me. She would throw something at him jokingly and giggle. I didn't try to think anything of it. But then when we were talking about him the next thing she decided to say was, "your just jealous because he talks to me and not you". The thing is I don't want to talk to him that's why I don't try to talk to him. He has talked to me before, but I rather admire him from afar. He's like 13 years older than me. He was just hot to me at the time.
I'll just say I am lighter than a 5'6 girl. I might have a little bit of belly fat but that's just my body. And I do have an eating disorder. I don't eat enough, I practically starve myself. J honestly made me feel worse and I started having moments where I would basically pass out from no iron in my body. J continued to body shame me even from the amount of food I would eat. She straight up made is feel like she was calling me ugly and fat. It hurt and it made me angry. I told my dad and he said she's just jealous and not to worry about it. I brushed it off but she basically would say something everyday. It got to a point where I was crying all the time.
During my last year of highschool J didn't have a vehicle. So she would ask me to drive her places. I didn't mind because we would be going to the same places. And I started offering to pay for her drink or something. I didn't think much of it in tell I was always taking her places and buying her drinks but she still wanted me to pay her back for stuff when I didn't have much money. She managed to buy a vehicle for a small price by saving up the money she didn't spend. I feel stupid for offering. One day her mom even texted me asking for the small money I "owed" J. But my parents think I don't owe her anything because I have given her most of my money and that she owes me money.
J also does this thing where if you don't give her your attention she'll keep tapping you. Over and over again. Everytime she asks for my attention it's always for something so pointless and stupid. Nothing serious. And everytime I ask for her attention she'll ignore me. She does it a lot. She only wants to have the attention. I stopped telling her about how I feel because all I know is she'll either use it against me or not actually listen and move past it. Like once she asked me how I felt and when I told her that I cried about something she moved on from it into her talking about her crying over some movie she watched.
The way she treated me made me so angry that I texted her boyfriend anonymously asking him to control his girlfriend and get her to be nicer to others. He didn't like the message and told his girl on the spot and J tried to call my fake number. I didn't answer and then she ran to me to tell me the tea. She later assumed it was a boy she was flirting with that she pushed away.
I hate her boyfriend but he deserves better.. because she has talked to another boy behind his back. When I started liking this one boy. I told her about it and then she began to tell me how she met this UK boy and she thinks he's all that. She later found out he was lying about his age and she got back to reality before she lost her in person boyfriend.
She told king I was flirting with this one dude but I wasn't. J told me to add this guy she found on Facebook on snap, I said okay and I called the dude a nickname like a Grandma would call their grandchildren. And I thought it was funny and the guy thought it was chill. I didn't think anything of it and then I blocked him because I didn't want to talk to him. She then decided to add the guy on snap. And she starts talking to him. The amount of times she has lied is crazy. I blocked him but she still has him on snap. For what reason I don't know.
J and Joe and I have recently had a lot of problems with each other. It's always J and Joe fighting and I'm between listening to them both argue about each other. I was getting tired of it. J hit my breaking point when she decided to ask me for my boyfriends sisters snap. You don't just ask your friend for her boyfriends sisters snap. That's weird. She also asked for my boyfriends and she looked him up when I told her no and she added a bunch of dudes with the same name. She didn't find him but there is no way I want her knowing him or his sister. I have too many trust issues with her. She's the main reason why a lot of my relationships didn't work out. They didn't like her and she manipulated me into saying things that upset them. She makes me so uncomfortable. She made me seem lesbian once when I know I'm not. But she made a TikTok about it and a lot of people from my school saw it. I don't like false accusations. I'm pretty sure she used it for clout. But also my parents think she's inlove with me because she can never leave me alone and she always HAS to hold hands or hug.
J doesn't understand a lot of things. And she calls me stupid. I honestly want karma to come get her but that's bad and I don't mean to say that. It hurts a lot.
I had blocked J on everything. But since I worked with J I saw her and she started bawling her eyes out at me saying she did nothing, I felt bad but I was annoyed because she kept bugging me. So I unblocked her. I decided to block her again after because my boyfriend said she was manipulating me. And well the more I had her blocked the nicer she was. After a while Joe did something to make me give up on my friendship with her too and J expected that to be a chance to get me back. And well she did practically. She was a lot nicer and I felt like she changed. But Man was I wrong.. Just today I was working my second night shift. I said something as a joke because I was hoping J would get what I meant. Her boyfriend was on the call... He took everything out of context and said something that made me feel less about myself. I already feel like crap being the person I am. I want to better myself but the more people say things the more I give up. I want to be encouraged not dragged down. I don't know why he has to be so mean. I never did anything to him. I don't know why they both have to be... I listen to her call people ugly all the time. Like just stop. I want her to stop. I'm leaving for the military soon, and she said that I can't get rid of her. That sounds psycho. And it honestly makes me want to get away more. I'm tired of the toxic environment and I want to get away. But she's everywhere. She knows everything about me. She has photos of me I hate. She has so many things she can use against me. I'm honestly scared. I want to block her again but I know she's just going to keep bugging me about it. And she might turn people against me. She's good at talking to people. I'm not I'm an introvert. I don't want her ever find me again once I leave. But I know she might try. People always find a way. And she's creepy. Because I know she'll be able to. But I just want to move on with my life. I don't know how to remove her from my life. What should I do?

greetings! please help me, blocking the SIM card by the Bell operator led to the inability to use my iPhone. I am from Central Asia (Uzbekistan), I bought a phone in 2019, the phone worked well for 4 years, but after I did a factory reset, a sim card lock appeared (probably there was a one-time activation of the SIM slot) I can't unblock the email, as there is no way to register on the bell website and submit a request, how can I solve the problem? thank you in advance!

My bf blocked me recently then unblocked me, and when we were talking abt it he went silent a few times, I assumed he was sleeping since he said he was tired, the cal randomly hung up and I tried to text him and it didn’t say delivered, I called him and it rang all the way through, what is this?

TW // Grooming?
Back when I was thirteen I made a post asking people if they thought I was ugly because my step-sister and I thought it would be interesting and funny to see what people would say.
Shortly after making that post I got a DM from a guy on a throwaway account who acted concerned about a post I had made a few months earlier (the post was a vent and nothing short of worrying). I started chatting with him and he asked me a bunch of questions--things like whether or not I had people to confide in, what my home life was like, etc. It was during the pandemic and I didn't really have anyone to talk to so it made me happy to chat with him so our conversations continued.
After some talking, he started pressuring me to send him nudes. I kept trying to tell him I didn't want to but he would tell me that he would stop chatting with me if I didn't send him any. This back and forth went on for a bit before I almost gave in. He then messaged me saying that he was actually doing all this to teach me what grooming was and how to protect myself from it.
After that we chatted a bit more before a day later he did the same song and dance that he did the day before, complete with the stopping just before I broke and pulling the same "I was just pretending to teach you" line. It was confusing and it made me feel sick to my stomach so I blocked him for a bit.
Him being blocked didn't last long because I missed how nice he could be, so I unblocked him a few days later. I told him how it made me feel and he told me that he'd done this "pretending to ask for nudes to teach you to protect yourself from grooming" thing to other people before and that a few of them even view him as father-figure. He told me that if I did truly want it he'd be in a relationship with me, but not if I was only doing it to make him keep talking to me. I found this a bit weird but I brushed it off because, again, he was nice sometimes. We messaged back and forth for a few weeks after that before I just stopped talking with him.
When I look back on it in hindsight, I have a few theories on why this whole thing happened.

1. The one that I believe the most is that he was an FBI agent. Out of context this sounds unlikely but let me explain. A month earlier, I had been chatting with a grown man on twitter. The exchanges between us were inappropriate and eventually my parents found out and they made me stop using twitter. A bit after my parents found out they told me that apparently the FBI was investigating this guy and asked me if I wanted to testify against him. I chose not to. However, I think that it could be possibly be someone trying to teach me a lesson? (Though I could also be reading too much into it but I think the coincidence of it all is kinda weird.)
2. For a bit I wondered if it could be one of my parents--mainly my dad--who was trying to teach me a lesson. But I'm pretty sure that was mostly just me being paranoid because I doubt my dad even knows what the concept of a throwaway account is.
3. It could just be a really weird guy who was doing this to actually teach me a lesson or doing this for some weird kind of fetish.

None of these I'm completely set on because the whole thing was just really weird and confusing.
Most of the time when I explain this situation to people they make fun of me for not just blocking him permanently. But the thing is when this happened I had literally no one who was my friend, no one to confide in. Because it had been during the pandemic I barely texted the friends I had had before the pandemic started and they barely texted me either. My parents aren't great people and my step-siblings hated me and made me hate myself. And it wasn't like I could go out and meet people either. So when someone gave me the slightest bit of attention and didn't hate me for being too talkative, too loud, too energetic, too cringey, too annoying it made me feel like I was on top of the world. He would say the nicest things that anyone had ever said to me. He would tell me things like how if he could meet me in person and I thought I was being too annoying that he would just hug me and tell me that it's okay. And I fell hook line and sinker for it.

I'm a 17 year old male in my senior year of high school and I'm having trouble reconnecting with a friend. My friend is 18y/o female (completely platonic) and we've known each other since elementary.
Earlier this year, around January, we exchanged each other's phone numbers. However, we didn't text really frequently and mostly spoke in person.
Fast forward to February, my mom searches my phone (I'm not a legal adult so she's still my guardian, with permission to search) and finds a new contact. I don't really tell her when I add new contacts because I only had 2 beforehand which were just other male friends. My mom had forgotten the existence of this friend, and the name didn't ring a bell to her when I told her. But the reason she got concerned is because it was a girl. She immediately read through all the texts, but found nothing bad (we mostly exchanged notes for classes or discussed projects). She just doesn't want me messaging girls I guess because right after scrolling through the texts she blocked the phone number.
Literally the day after, I don't hear anything from that friend. Not from then and until now. Not a word. I assume they must have tried to send something and received the "Not Delivered" message and knew "I" blocked them.
Earlier this week I unblocked them but didn't say anything. That's where I am now. I don't know whether I should or how to tell them that I wasn't the one to block them, or should I drop it and move on?

We both met at a house party 2 years ago, we didn’t interact much at that time but we bonded a month or two later after meeting on a dating app over the fact that we both felt out of place at the house party.
For the next 7-8 months we bonded a lot over the same music taste, humour etc. I was going through a tough phase during this time, it can be summarised as a ho* phase because before this I was seeing a girl for the first time and after a few months she cheated on me in front of me at a club and it led to a traumatic experience and I had to go to therapy for this, I was experiencing panic attacks, severe anxiety and depression.
During my ho* phase, I was hooking up with girls I met on dating apps and I had lost the ability to genuinely connect with someone. I was still talking to this girl and we were becoming great friends.
Now almost 14 months ago she started seeing someone seriously and that guy cut her off slowly even though everything was going pretty well for them. During this period I confessed that I was into her and asked her out.
We went on a few dates, but she was moving out of the city for higher studies so we thought we weren’t ready for LDR but even after this we started an FWB sort of thing.
All of this led to an on-and-off situationship till she blocked me for a month because we were getting too close and it wouldn’t have led to anything. She unblocked me and we started chatting normally, but we still had the flirty banter between us, she would give some mixed signals by being horny and weird when she was ovulating(ik sounds weird af)
Now I was completely out of that ho* phase for an entire year, I deleted dating apps, and Instagram and completely focused on my studies. Earlier this year when we were talking I had a feeling that I was falling for her and confessed that I liked her and I wanted to see where it goes, and I was even open to an ldr.
We texted for some time she asked to meet and we bonded well but it was all platonic. When we smoked up at her place things got a bit messy when I straight up brought up the topic while I was high(ik it’s stupid) and she kept on evading it. It got very heated and I left later she told me that she couldn’t do ldr since I was also moving for my master's to a different country.
I was so genuinely into her that I never thought she would reject me, it has completely broken me and I am feeling like my 2022 self with the same panic attacks, anxiety and depression, I just can’t get over her, I have been with decent number of girls but never had this feeling of wanting to be with one only. I still cannot understand why she rejected me, what did I do wrong, I was even ready to commit completely in a relationship, something that I never thought I would be able to during my hoe phase.
Tldr- we had an on and off situationship but when I asked her that I was willing to commit in a long term relationship even if it was an LDR, she rejected me saying she wasn’t very sure of it.

Hi to give some back story me female 18 and my dad 57 have always had a rocky relationship but still see each other every so often, my dad got married in 2018 to my stepmom 55 i didn’t find out until 2020, found out though facebook this was the beginning of all this i didn’t know this woman first time i met her was around late 2021 when she moved into my dads home we had an okay relationship wasn’t anything too crazy always respectful and nice to each other since i wasn’t there too often. my mom 38 and dad got married very young and divorced before i even tuned one in 2007 so everyone is nice to each other we went on vacation with his new wife and my mom side of the family and dads ,so i thought everything was okay that was dec of 2022. in nov of 2023 i ended up in the hospital and my mom was trying to reach my dad since i was in pain i didn’t want to call and we find out my mom is blocked which is weird because they don’t communicate if it’s not about me which is not often i ended up calling him and asking him and he said he didn’t know why my mom blocked but it had to stay that way which me realize it was her who blocked my mom so i told him i was not going to him nothing about my surgery until he unblocked my mom because i found it dumb honestly the next day my step mom post on instagram saying to not blackmail because the only person who loses is me , this wasn’t the first time something like this happened one time me and my dad got into a argument at his home and she had posted don’t bring drama to my door so i told my dad about it and all she had to say was the internet is public and she can post what she wants so i took a step back from them 3 months had gone where i hadn’t seen or talked to my dad and he called me telling me she wanted to apologize and talk so i went to his house the conversation started by her telling me that my bad adttide is why the people who love can’t love me she was talking about my dad like i said before we have a rocky relationship because of stuff that’s happened in the past which she wasn’t around for so it’s not her business so i got up to leave and she followed me out telling me not to go and then we get into a argument basically me telling her to mind her own business when it came to mine and my fathers relationship and her saying as his wife that she can say what she pleases then we get outside and it gets heated me and her are going back and forth ( all while my dad was just standing there ) and then she said if we’re in her home contry i would have all my teeth knocked out so i called my mom since my dad wasn’t defending me and her my mom got into it ended up finding out that my quince photo was never hung up because i look like my mom ( i am a spitting image of my mom ) so basically this is all because i look like MY mother and the after that she locked m dad in the house and didn’t let him out so i left. it’s been 1 month since then and and she sent me a paragraph apologize and i honestly don’t care for it and ain’t want her apology but everyone on my dad side of the family thinks i should accept it and move on but i just can’t see past what she said

Hi to give some back story me female 18 and my dad 57 have always had a rocky relationship but still see each other every so often, my dad got married in 2018 to my stepmom 55 i didn’t find out until 2020, found out though facebook this was the beginning of all this i didn’t know this woman first time i met her was around late 2021 when she moved into my dads home we had an okay relationship wasn’t anything too crazy always respectful and nice to each other since i wasn’t there too often. my mom 38 and dad got married very young and divorced before i even tuned one in 2007 so everyone is nice to each other we went on vacation with his new wife and my mom side of the family and dads ,so i thought everything was okay that was dec of 2022. in nov of 2023 i ended up in the hospital and my mom was trying to reach my dad since i was in pain i didn’t want to call and we find out my mom is blocked which is weird because they don’t communicate if it’s not about me which is not often i ended up calling him and asking him and he said he didn’t know why my mom blocked but it had to stay that way which me realize it was her who blocked my mom so i told him i was not going to him nothing about my surgery until he unblocked my mom because i found it dumb honestly the next day my step mom post on instagram saying to not blackmail because the only person who loses is me , this wasn’t the first time something like this happened one time me and my dad got into a argument at his home and she had posted don’t bring drama to my door so i told my dad about it and all she had to say was the internet is public and she can post what she wants so i took a step back from them 3 months had gone where i hadn’t seen or talked to my dad and he called me telling me she wanted to apologize and talk so i went to his house the conversation started by her telling me that my bad adttide is why the people who love can’t love me she was talking about my dad like i said before we have a rocky relationship because of stuff that’s happened in the past which she wasn’t around for so it’s not her business so i got up to leave and she followed me out telling me not to go and then we get into a argument basically me telling her to mind her own business when it came to mine and my fathers relationship and her saying as his wife that she can say what she pleases then we get outside and it gets heated me and her are going back and forth ( all while my dad was just standing there ) and then she said if we’re in her home contry i would have all my teeth knocked out so i called my mom since my dad wasn’t defending me and her my mom got into it ended up finding out that my quince photo was never hung up because i look like my mom ( i am a spitting image of my mom ) so basically this is all because i look like MY mother and the after that she locked m dad in the house and didn’t let him out so i left. it’s been 1 month since then and and she sent me a paragraph apologize and i honestly don’t care for it and ain’t want her apology but everyone on my dad side of the family thinks i should accept it and move on but i just can’t see past what she said

So when I was in sixth grade I had been friends with this girl I had known since fifth grade, she was a year younger than me. I'll call her Lilith. So the day started normally, except for the fact my younger sister (Mary) wasn't very happy, so our mom asked me to sit with her if she came to my classroom for lunch; I agreed as I am the oldest. In school the morning passed by normally, I tutored the kid I was assigned to, talked to friends including Lilith, did my school work, etc. Eventually lunch arrived and I broached the subject to Lilith that my mom had asked me to let my sister sit with me during lunch and asked Lilith if we could save her a seat just in case she wanted to sit with me. Everything seemed fine up until I asked if Mary could sit with us. Lilith had to go get her hot lunch from the office and Mary and I both packed home lunches. Lilith told me that if Mary sat in her (Lilith's) seat she (Lilith) would kill Mary. I told her that was rude, and that I would simply tell Mary that was where Lilith was sitting, so Mary could sit beside me or something. Lilith kept going on about how she would kill my sister over that stupid chair, and I sat there in silent seething rage. When Lilith went to the office to get her lunch I explained to our teacher what had happened and he said he would talk to her. Afterwards I sat with 'Teddy' the kid I tutored and 'Johnny' one of my other friends; I told them everything. Now this is where the petty comes in, Lilith had this obsessive crush on a kid a grade above me (who i will call Orion), and I had a minor crush on one of his friends (who i will call Dimitri); this is something Teddy and Johnny both knew. So they suggest telling the friend group Lilith and I were apart of. I agreed saying we would also tell her crush and mine. The plan: they (Teddy and Johnny) would go out first and tell Orion and Dimitri, meanwhile I would go and tell my sister and her friends (who were standing fairly close to my friend group so they over heard), after that I would go and finish the story to Orion and Dimitri. Well everything went according to plan, when Lilith came out and tried talking to Orion he told her to get away from him because he didn't want to hangout with a psycho (I didnt think he would go that far); and all except one of our friends turned their backs on her. The friend who sided with her told me I was a horrible person for doing that to Lilith, knowing what she (Lilith) had gone through. Something to know, Lilith's father had abandoned her and her mother before she was born; and her mother had gone to jail two or so years before for stealing, leaving Lilith in the care of her grandmother. Now it is my belief that no matter your background or how you grew up, threatening someone's life was and is unacceptable; and I told this "friend" exactly that. Then Lilith started to threaten me, in front of the entire forth, fifth, sixth grades (upper elementary) and middle school classes (we went to an elementary/combined middle school); saying things like she would ruin my life and ruin me, which only proved my point to the others, and I told her that if she came for me or my family she best be prepared for a fight (usually im not a confrontational person so this was a surprise to pretty much everyone). After school I told my mom what had happened and she talked with not only my and lilith's teacher but the principal of the school as well; which led to Lilith getting a talking to from the principal but not much else because of Lilith's background. The next day my teacher pretty much begged me to forgive Lilith, seeing as it was two weeks before summer break, and I told him I wouldnt even consider it until she apologized to my face; by this time Lilith had messaged me on Instagram saying how sorry she was Yada Yada blah blah blah and so on (to which i blocked her temporarily). So the teacher sent us both outside to reconcile; not realizing I had a different plan. Lilith tried to apologize but wouldn't look me in the eyes, my mother told me if someone ment their apology they would look you in the eyes and I told Lilith that and she tried again, again not looking me in the eye. Eventually, because she wouldn't look me in the eyes, I pretended to forgive her simply because I wanted this whole thing to end (and to prove my fake point unblocked her). I spent the next week or so pretending to be her friend (I never told my mom about this fake friendship thing, mostly because nothimg had been done about Lilith and I could be painted in a bad light for discrimination which wasnt the case because i knew about Lilith's home lige long before this whole situation and was still friends with her regardless; im not superficia, i care more about personality and things like money and appearance), and ghosted her the night of the big dance our school had like a week before the end of school; come to think of it i dont think she was even at the dance. And after the dance I started cutting back on how much time I spent around her, and I noticed pretty much everyone else did the same. Then on the last day of school, when I got home I immediately blocked her on everything: phone number, insta (all of her profiles), everything. AITAH?

I am very exhausted, even more as is usuall. I have a lot off stress at work as I took leadership position for my team. So this for sure doesnt help the situation. But what I seek advice for is my ex boyfriend.
We were together 4 years and I broke up with him in January for valid reasons (drinking, anger issues, jealousy). Since then it was even worse and I had to block him almost everywhere and even that didnt help because then he continued the pressure even with emails. He was also threathening me that he will hurt or worse himself and it will be my fault, he was blaming me to be hearthless and selfish and on and on. So after threaths I stepped back and unblocked him only on facebook. I am also still contributing for rent even though living elsewhere, because he refuses to move to smaller affordable apartment.
Long story short, my ex didnt change at all. Time and me repeating and explaining the same that I have no interest in coming back didnt help at all. I really cannot continue to hold him above water... I can barely hold myself and my work.
If anyone has similar experience or can offer advice, please let me know, what would you do.

I am a 26M. In 2020, a guy from HS (a year above me) matched with me on Bumble and starting chatting me up. Conversation was okay and quickly got hot. Unfortunately, as we both lived with our parents, we found it impossible to then ever hook-up (For context, he is Bisexual but I only found out later). For the next 4 years, he constantly reached out on Grindr, GROWLr, and text about hooking up and NEVER following through with it and instead ghosting me or blocking me. We are at 8 times by December 2023. Am I stupid? Yes. Am I naive? Yes. Am I desperate? Yes. Am I happy I do this to myself? No. Last December, I had reached my limit. As he followed me on IG, I posted a public story (not tagging him to be nice and not out him as I later found out he was still in the closet) basically saying Fuck You and you need to get your feelings checked out cause if you are doing this to other men and women, you are a fucked up man. I deleted all the apps including social media. This past Saturday, he texted me (I assume unblocked my number) and apologized and expressed that he was dating. Part of me wanted to say bye and part of me desperately hoped he was being genuine. For context, all the previous 8 times he never apologized and made excuses but he actually said “sorry” this time. So originally we were gonna hang at his place Sunday (I expected to hangout and maybe a little fun) but he cancelled on me because of Mother’s Day. This was a pleasant surprise because this was also the first time he actually replied saying he was busy instead of me finding out he deleted the app or blocked me. Earlier today, I decided to text him and explained that I think it would be better for me if we met in-person not at his apartment but maybe to chat over food or a walk in the park. He replied “don’t be like that.” That got me SOO mad and I replied 2 paragraphs of how I feel he only wanted to fuck and he wasn’t actually looking to date. He then replied “don’t be like that.” I didn’t reply because I just cannot believe that in these 4 years he really has 0 sense of communication. He clearly cannot lay out what he wants. I’m getting at his “dating” means hooking up and sex. This is time #9 and I’m in-between blocking and just never thinking about this or replying and wanting to start a fight (even tho it’s clear he’ll probably say something like “okay.”). Idk if it’s worth replying. Idk what I want from posting this but I’m just venting really. I long for something real and I just wish I could meet someone who likes me and is real.

Thank you for the report and welcome back.
Sorry for the long one. Somethings have been piling up. I guess this is my welcome back gift. 🎁
In old business. There are still regular reports that posts are submitting and not actually posting on profile or subreddit. The iOS drafts issue where they don't save and can't be accessed, is still present. The algorithm has been as bad or worse than it has ever been. It is especially bad on the mobile apps.
New UI. There is a persistent problem for some when a person replies to a comment and blocks you, all of your comments disappear from your profile until you find and delete that replied to comment. If there were other comments in the same chain, those may need to be deleted as well. It also sometimes includes your overview disappearing. The same thing happens for some when they reply and then block someone. They then have to go and unblock them to get everything to appear. That issue has been quiet this week, so it may have been recently fixed. Right now I have 6 original broken or missing things since the beginning, 3 newer broken things and a list of 18 annoyances on the new UI currently.
The new UI does not show if a subreddit is restricted or private. It also does not show if it is NSFW. I have to switch back to new.reddit to confirm all three. And with the new.reddit going away later this year, I am concerned these will not be fixed in time.
Issues. Reddit's Filters are becoming a major issue. With having no confirmation of what it could be looking for, and no consistent behavior by the Filters, it makes it very difficult to help when these reports come in. Sometimes they seem like subreddit new user restrictions might be the issue or a Reddit new account restriction on posting. Other times, it looks like crowd control. Still more there is no discernable reason why it removed something. I have confirmed it acts as the spam filter also at times. Sometimes it removes all posts after a date. sometimes it is only posts from one subreddit.
This one is more for me, but may be helpful for others. When a user makes a post about their other account "not working", I open my profile and swap my name for theirs. The sh.reddit UI shows different and inconsistent things than the new.reddit UI. It also does give a crazy eyed snoo head when trying to look at new.reddit.
When Shadow Banned: new.reddit shows. Nobody Goes by that name. https://imgur.com/V1zdgcn. While sh.reddit shows suspended. https://imgur.com/a/XfotmLr . But it has also sometimes shows Nobody Goes by that name. https://imgur.com/a/ql2Ttgv
When Suspended: new.reddit shows Suspended. https://imgur.com/csPLq6J. While sh.reddit shows Nobody goes By that name. https://imgur.com/a/ql2Ttgv but recently it also gives the suspended image. https://imgur.com/a/XfotmLr
When Account is Deleted: new.reddit shows Deleted. https://imgur.com/a/Gfh024A. While sh.reddit shows Nobody goes by that name. https://imgur.com/a/ql2Ttgv.
Sometimes it is show as the account is suspended in the sh.reddit.com . https://imgur.com/a/XfotmLr . But when looking on new.reddit.com it shows Something Went Wrong. https://imgur.com/a/Eaes6Dq .
My big concern is that when new.reddit goes away later this year, I will not be able to give accurate advice anymore.
One thing indirectly help related that I have a question on is bugs . Now that everything we can't help fix is going to bugs, is there any information you can share on how it is going to work? In the past, bug report tickets typically took a month or more to get a human answer from redditsupport. Are employees going to be answering on the subreddit? Taking posts down and answering via PM? Is the expectation users will have to fix everything except platform wide issues, even though we can't? Is the timeline going to look the same? I have noticed posts getting removed from bugs, are they removing duplicates like the rules say that will do? How do the users of the removed duplicates get help?

**He’s from Canada (M29), I’m from Asia (F24)
My queries are:

1. Is it possible for the person to he persecuted even when I live so far away?
2. Do you personally know someone who got fined or jailed for doing such actions?

A little summary, I broke it off because I got fed up, but he couldn't accept it. He has been trying to win me back but kept rejecting so guess that's why he's mad (Also, because I have been ignoring him). Before he threatened me about leaking my nudes, we were bickering about something and he asked me to block him and that if I don't, he'd do something. And so I did block him, then unblocked out of fear. He has been trying to add me on snap multiple times after I removed him. I ignored him for days. I forgot to block his number and he texted me and threatened to send it to someone else and that person is going to do the leaking (Mind you, this person that he's going to send it to is known to keep people's nudes and spread them). He threatened to spread it like wildfire.
I gave in and added him back to try to talk him out of it. It seems that he's firm on wanting to do it and he kept saying he wouldn't change his mind. My mistake maybe is that I said I was scared he’d really do it — showing weakness.
l am not sure if it's already out or not.
I have contacted my cousin who is a lawyer and she helped me report the case (https://www.cyber.gc.ca/en/incident-management/report-cyber-incident-individuals). She has already sent in the report with the receipts of the threats, including info about him.
Also, is there anything else I can add or do? I have been very anxious about this whole situation and any insight or answers would be of help. This all happened yesterday and today.
Thank you so much!