So the answer to this might be obvious, but I'm struggling because it's a delicate situation(s).
I have two residents that have daughters who are their POA and are complete nightmares. Both these people seem eager to hop on any small thing and will write paragraphs about how it's unacceptable and even blown things out of proportion and called state and installed cameras in the rooms (our IT department is coming to remove them this week as this is against our privacy policy).
Some examples include: reporting the fact that all caregivers have keys (that are turned in at the end of their shift) to the state because if someone forgot to turn it in and took it home, some random might take the key and come in and rape her mom. Same person also reported that a window (that she opened and didn't close) wasn't closed and locked because again, someone might come in and rape her mom. Same person also reported one of the painters doing our building for being on his cell phone with his boss because "he could have been taking pictures of her". Obviously, all reports came back as unfounded.
The other one had a problem with how the dermatologist had written an order for clobetasol and triamcinolone for 14 days on, 7 days off, then repeat AS NEEDED for flares and that we dared to make it PRN after her skin had remained clear. When she had a flare up, she was outraged that I'd made the order scheduled again after notifying her doctor. She also accused our maintenance director of making her raised toilet seat "unsafe" (aka fixing it so it actually fit and didn't slide around after she had first installed it, which led to her mom falling). She's threatened to call APS multiple times, but hasn't.
While these people are a massive headache to deal with, what really gets me is how the residents always feel the need to apologize for their daughters and tell us that they are happy and tell the staff and I that they appreciate us. They literally beg us not to call them or let them know if anything comes up like a fall, their blood sugar is high, or anything similar because "I don't want her to yell at me again". I've heard them yelling and talking shit about the staff, which then always turn into long winded emails laced with vitriol and aggressive tones and backhanded "thanks for taking care of this yesterday when I asked about it TWO WEEKS AGO" and the like.
We are planning to meet with each of them to discuss their concerns as this has been their standard form of communication for months now despite making multiple attempts to establish and request calm, constructive communication.
How have you guys dealt with these kinds of people before? Any success in establishing a better relationship short of telling them that they're reactionary, aggressive, and their own parents are scared of them? Lol but seriously, the amount of hours I've spent trying to placate these women is insane, and I can't continue with this, so any tips or experiences are very much appreciated!

Xfinity added an additional line to my plan without my consent. I received a bill for $250. I called to have the line removed and the agent suspended my actual phone line. I no longer have service and it says I'm not connected to any network. When I called customer service I was told my phone would be restored. They promised to pay 3 months of home internet, two months of mobile service and that they would send me a $1000 gift card. Clearly this was all a lie. How do I get my service restored. I just want to use my phone again

My(16F) Boyfriend (18M) and i recently got into a relationship. my boyfriend is a senior and i am a junior, before getting into a relationship we were best friends for around 3 years. we have been through thick and thin together and both have grown into who we are today. next week we will be coming up on our 4th month; it has been a very short relationship however he and i have both grown as people so much together and have learned so much relationship wise. because we have been friends our relationship has moved faster than all our previous ones, however we also are so connected on a deeper level that it feels like we have been together for years. our friends often compare us to an old married couple, we sit on par benches and admire the nature around us for dates, bicker and joke around with each other, and have kind of an old souls tied together type relationship. now for the hard part, getting into this relationship we both agreed that this relationship is on a timeline and that we will have to break up and continue on as being just friends moving forward because he is going to japan for the whole summer and then immediately to college. at first i was accepting of this because we had agreed on this very early in our relationship. however, as we continued i fell more and more in love with this man each day. i truly didn't know i could love a person this much and it hurts. i talked to him some weeks ago about this and practically begged him to reconsider us breaking up. i told him to take a couple days to take some time to think about this and to have a conversation with me about it when he is ready. this past weekend he sat me down to have the conversation, he told me that his opinion had not changed because he wanted to end this relationship on good terms and not have it on a lifeline throughout the summer and possibly the school year because he is HORRIBLE at texting people and hates being on his phone. he told me that he wont cut me out of his life and that he will never stop liking me and if it works out would like to try again in the future, however he made me promise that i wont hold out for him and mold my life to getting back with him. he still wants to be a big part of my life and still be my best friend. i agreed with this and told him that if that is what he wants that is what we will do and that i am not gonna fight for him to change his mind. while i am happy that we will stay in each other's lives and can still be possibly together romantically again in the future. however i am very scared that i could be losing the love of my life... as crazy as it sounds i truly feel like our relationship is so much more than a casual high school relationship or a relationship to learn how to properly love in a relationship. yes we have learned a lot and have taught each other so much but i am afraid one of us will potentially move on while the other is still holding onto hope that we will end up together again, mainly the person holding on being me. he is staying local for college and will only be about an hour at most away and the college he is attending is one of my top colleges as well. we both have similar future plans and wants and when talking about what we want in the future such as what we want our future house to look like, kids, marriage, and careers we have similar if not the same ideas and expectations so it feels like the universe is simply making it obvious that we are so much more than a temporary fling. however i believe that if we are meant to be, we will come back into each other's lives at a better time and a lot of our friends also believe that we are meant to be together. i am still going to keep my promise of not intentionally holding out for him, however dating him has raised my standards way to high for most likely all other boys our age, he is the only person in my life that i know will play a significant role in my life and will have a major part in my big life events such as my wedding. what that role specifically is, only time will tell.
thank you for listening to my rant, i apologize for all grammatical errors and run on sentences.
**TL;DR;** : my boyfriend and i are breaking up over the summer however i am absolutely devastated because i believe that we are meant to be together

I've got a YouTube channel that's going on 4 years in the making this year, and I've got 217 subscribers, and almost 400 videos between shorts and long form videos. I've been gaining about 1 subscriber a day on average for the past month, and I continue to make shorts of the successful battles I have in Pokemon romhacks and Pokemon games. I started doing Pokemon Solo runs in long form videos of all gym battles and elite four and champion battles back in 2020, but they didn't get many views, maybe 50-100 or so views. I stopped doing that until this year, and I should've kept doing what I did in 2020, but now I do long form videos of each Gym Leader battle with failed attempts and the successful battle, but for right now only in Pokemon Blue Kaizo.
I do plan on wrapping up my Solo Starmie run in Pokemon Blue Kaizo, and I plan on tackling Pokemon Crystal for some Solo runs to show successful runs instead of failed run after failed run in Pokemon Blue Kaizo.
I do make my own thumbmails, however I'm on a Nokia G50 android phone, and I can't seem to make the good thumbnails many of the other Pokemon Solo run tubers make, mainly because I can never tell if the Pokemon image will fit into the YouTube Studios thumbnail size until I upload it into the app, and usually you can't see the whole Pokemon.
I use the Meme Generator to add text to the thumbnail, telling of the Pokemon game I'm playing, the Pokemon I'm using with the word "Solo" so everyone knows it's a Solo run (I've had to say this in the #shorts videos because so many people keep saying I'm overleveled, now the comments are better), and the Gym Leader or Rival number I'm facing.
For example, I'll have a Long Form video titled "Pokemon Blue Kaizo: Solo Starmie (Part 1) - Brock" Simple, right? I also have that in the thumbnail with a picture of Starmie, so you know what to expect in the part. Then I make a #shorts video of the battle, and if the battle takes over a minute, I do 60 seconds of the end of the battle, then link the full video in the Related Video.
One of my shorts videos did pretty well, 225+ views and 110.9% average viewed, although those amount of views are pretty low, but much better than my long form videos, although they're now doing better after being linked as the Related Video.
I heard look at the metrics, so I think I'll start doing that, although many of my long form videos are getting more views than before, mainly because I stopped making 30+ minutes videos and just show the important battles in the Solo runs, and then I put the long form videos in the Related Video of the Shorts videos I make, so perhaps I'm going in the right direction?
Sorry for my very long message, I'm not really good at just making it short, sweet, and to the point. I know of quite a few people on YouTube that do Solo runs (Gym Leader Matt, JRose11, Mah Dry Bread, RBY Challenges, Squidgy, Scott's Thoughts, etc.) I want to one day do YouTube full time, although this might not be that good of a niche to do that, I'd at least love to make some extra income on my YouTube channel. I want to get monetized by 2025, so any helpful feedback would be highy appreciated!

I’m planning to buy a 2017 Nissan Sentra SV, I just realized that it doesn’t come with google navigation. It already has a back up camera on the stock screen so not too worried about it. Could you guys suggest me a good alternative so that I can cast or use google maps on in my car. Even if I don’t get any other features I’m fine as I don’t need a lot a wires running around my car. Also I have an iPhone.

If you have a long-distance lover and she traveled to another country (a wealthy country) to meet a family member, is it a valid reason that there's no Wi-Fi where she's staying, preventing her from communicating or updating you for close to 36 hours? Or does this situation indicate how much she values you and the relationship? I'm torn between forgiving her or moving on. We have only been dating for about four months. Communication has always been an issue.
I might be overthinking, but it could be that she's with another guy. Her last response was simply to inform me about the Wi-Fi not available—no goodbyes or long conversation, just a brief two-minute text. My overthinking mind tells me she might have sneaked out to send that text and turned the phone off after.
To me, it seems impossible for a wealthy country not to offer Wi-Fi in public places or restaurants, or for there not to be prepaid SIM cards available for use in the meantime.

Yesterday, I asked her about going back to public school like I’ve been for months now, and she raged on me for ruining Mother’s Day. I wasn’t really thinking about what day it was since we never celebrate it much, I just made it a habit to ask at least twice a month to see if she changed her mind. After she was done yelling at me, she told me she would take me to a "homeschool co-op" later in the day. The co-op in question was a meetup for teenagers at the local library (for anyone, not just homeschoolers).
Because I made her angry, she forced me to wear a Christmas outfit: An ugly Christmas sweater and oversized sweatpants with cartoon cats in ugly Christmas sweaters. I couldn’t disobey her in fear that she would take away my phone and other electronics, the only thing keeping me sane. She’s done it before. I had a panic attack, so she basically had to drag me into the car and drive me there. When we got to the library, there was a small group of teenagers and a worker watching over them. Despite this, my mom still felt the need to stand next to me the. Entire. Time.
Yesterday was my first time seeing other teenagers in-person and not through the car windows when we pass by high schools. I fucked up my first impression at the only place I had a chance at socializing at. Some snickered, but they all eventually ignored me and my mom since the worker was watching over us. I would’ve been ridiculed otherwise. We left early, but it made me realize how different I am from teenagers. The girls all had makeup, crop tops, and jeans (I’m not allowed any of those), and the boys had normal outfits; nothing like the crap my mom makes me wear outside. The worst part is that I was still crying from the earlier panic attack.
I feel hopeless all over again. I guess her plan worked, because I’ve lost the courage to attend school if I ever get the chance. I have no normal clothing, she buys it all. It’s not like I can get my own because she’ll never let me get a job (I rely on her to go to places since I’m not allowed to get my license yet).
Just waiting it out until I’m 18 so I can go to community college or something. I hate this. I hope everyone had a good Mother’s Day, though!

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I was dating a boy for almost six years until october. we were high school sweet hearts and met when we were 16. he broke up with me suddenly and gave me no other explanation aside from “i’m unsure about us.” he broke up with me on a 20 minute phone call—we were long distance (during academic terms) for the past two years (different colleges). He broke up with me in the middle of my midterms, one week after my depression diagnosis, and a week away from a serious academic verdict. After debating on what to do after moving back home following the end of the semester, and given we didn’t speak for four months, i reached out in December seeking closure, since i felt like i was at least owed an in person conversation.
Throughout our no contact his family constantly reached out to me and updated me on him, often against my will; his communication (which i wish i didn’t ever hear) was strange and aloof: “closure? we don’t need closure because i don’t know what’s going to happen.” In response to my ask for closure, he told me yeah we can have that sometime in january. During the break up, he made it clear we were fully broken up, though he kept using language indicating there could be a reconciliation some day. He was planning to still adhere to our grad school plans and hoped to end up in the same city as me, even asserting that my top city was his as well. Anyways, he texted me back saying hes still unsure blah blah. Then he randomly reached out two weeks later and said he wants to get back together and planned for a date on January 15th. I agreed. We went on the date and it went well. Once it came to talking about getting back together, I asked him if he had slept with anyone else during those four months, since I was not interested in us reconciling if he had. He said no. Multiple times. We talked things out, got back together, and went to his house to see his parents. We talked w them, laughed, then I slept over that night. That night we had sex two times. It was not after the second time we had unprotected sex that he admitted he had sex with one other person during the break up. We spent 18 hours straight talking and crying about it. The next day, he admitted that he lied and that it wasn’t one person, it was two people. He hadn’t tested for any STIs, he admitted he lied to me because he knew i didn’t want to get back together if he had slept with other people, and he wanted to be back together. Since then, he admitted the break up was because he was wondering if the grass was greener on the other side—he essentially wanted to experience other people and have other sexual experiences. He voiced that he wasn’t sure if I was pretty enough or good enough for him, and he feared he was settling. That’s why during the breakup he downloaded tinder and slept with two girls off of it. The first one was a hook up and the second one was more of a date-scenario. They had sex in his car for the first time and they rented an air bnb for the second time. The last time he had sex with her was the last week of December—less than two weeks before he texted me trying to get back together. We have been having a lot of trouble since this reconciliation, since there is little to no trust because of the lying, insecurities that have formed because of his fear of settling because of superficial standards, and the plain fact that he had sex with other girls during our breakup. Additionally, his hookup with the second girl remains the most hurtful since he never wanted to have car sex with me and refused to ever rent somewhere so we could have privacy. Since getting back together, he has had a 180 switch, being genuinely great, attentive, and secure in everything. According to him, he’s “locked in with us.” The concept of this is even troubling because why didn’t I inherently deserve this from the beginning? Why did he have to lose me and experience other people for me to finally receive the treatment any girlfriend should get? This all has propelled me into a reckless era, something that constantly leaves him insecure because I get a lot of male attention each night I go out—something he is admittedly not used to (I was never a partier).
I understand that the correct intellectual answer is to leave and that nothing is worth this much pain, but it’s hard when there’s so much history; we grew up together, we are each others first everything (and he’s still my only everything) so I really find myself in cycles of happiness and profound anger and pain. I feel like I can’t go to anyone about this because they will tell me to leave the relationship, which objectively I feel makes sense. But it’s hard to put what’s objectively “right” in practice when you are in love and have so much invested into a person. I don’t know if this is salvageable. Does anyone have any words of wisdom or advice about this?

If you have a long-distance lover and she traveled to another country (a wealthy country) to meet a family member, is it a valid reason that there's no Wi-Fi where she's staying, preventing her from communicating or updating you for close to 36 hours? Or does this situation indicate how much she values you and the relationship? I'm torn between forgiving her or moving on. We have only been dating for about four months. Communication has always been an issue.
I might be overthinking, but it could be that she's with another guy. Her last response was simply to inform me about the Wi-Fi not available—no goodbyes or long conversation, just a brief two-minute text. My overthinking mind tells me she might have sneaked out to send that text and turned the phone off after.
To me, it seems impossible for a wealthy country not to offer Wi-Fi in public places or restaurants, or for there not to be prepaid SIM cards available for use in the meantime.

Need it mainly for school, notes, managing and planning stuff as well as daily reading. Going to be opening 2 to 3 things at a time (book, doc, notes mainly or yt + book + notes), rly value display quality for when I'm using it for entertainment. Using an asus zephyrus and Samsung phone and windows pc. Storage isn't a big thing for me because everything goes on the cloud. Want something i can use for at least 4 or 5 years. Should be able to handle games (occasional use). Writing experience is a valuable factor for me. Which one should I go for? Not considering ultra since it's not a laptop replacement but I'd still like the one I choose to be powerful enough to handle laptop tasks in case.
I've heard a lot about ipadOS and how it's very limiting, would that impact my day to day work?
Also if anyone has used both 13 inch and 11 inch tabs for notes, do lmk which one is more comfortable

I started talking to this guy and we hit it off on our first date. We already planned a second date. It’s the work week and we both r busy and he’s really sick rn so he hasn’t been texting. I feel really insecure. Idk why. He texted me twice today. He’s doing everything right.
I just have this voice in the back of my mind that he’s talking to other people (which is tech ok since we aren’t exclusive yet). My self esteem is so bad and I feel like if he isn’t constantly bombarding with messages or a nightly/morning phone call then he’s not into me.
I’m fairly new to dating and in my first few relationships, my exes would get obsessed with me. This guy gives me attention but he isn’t obsessed and it’s giving me anxiety.
I know it’s healthy to not be obsessed and to start slow. Idk how to calm my anxiety down. I don’t even want to talk to other ppl but I’m forcing myself to talk to other people online because I want to make sure if he loses interest, I’ll be alright.
Does anyone have any tips? I am pretty busy all day. It’s 9 pm and I’m still working. But negative thoughts r at the back of my mind and not helping.

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Need it mainly for school, notes, managing and planning stuff as well as daily reading. Going to be opening 2 to 3 things at a time (book, doc, notes mainly or yt + book + notes), rly value display quality for when I'm using it for entertainment. Using an asus zephyrus and Samsung phone and windows pc. Storage isn't a big thing for me because everything goes on the cloud. Want something i can use for at least 4 or 5 years. Should be able to handle games (occasional use). Writing experience is a valuable factor for me. Which one should I go for? Not considering ultra since it's not a laptop replacement but I'd still like the one I choose to be powerful enough to handle laptop tasks in case.
Also if anyone has used both 13 inch and 11 inch ipads for notes and carrying, do lmk which one is more comfortable and practical
Note: - I can get an 11 inch m4 pro or a 13 inch m2 pro, pricing would be similar and that's my max budget

I just feel disappointed by the way most of us react to this so-called rally from the past few days. But what we don't understand or tend to forget is that these people have all the cards on their table. I have a feeling that in those three years of suppressing the price to 10$ they have finally reached their goal and start closing their shorts and while doing that, they pump the stock on a regulated price and the remaining goes to darkpool where they plan to let those buy-back execution to stay there forever (to not affect the price). Who knows what these evil fking guys are capable of doing.
We can only wait until these prices goes to thousands and phone numbers. Otherwise we are on sideways.
Stay zen, stay smooth. No cell no sell

So long story short, I just got a S24+. I love it. But I tend to game while watching Youtube on it. There are some programs for it you can install to mute, in my case, a game I have open, while still keeping Youtubes sound going (window in window). But it requires jailbreaking the phone.
So this leaves me with some questions: 1. Is it legal to JB a phone? 2. Does it break any warranty with Samsung? 3. Does it break any plan with Tmobile (or whoever)? 4. How do you do it? 5. Is it easy to do? 6. Any risks?
To note I am a tech guy, especially with PCs. But I've never really messed with phones so not sure what to do per say. Though obviously I realize they ar just mini PCs with varied operation systems.

https://www.reddit.com/GriefSupport/comments/1bykm11/anaia/
https://www.reddit.com/GriefSupport/comments/1bxzqi4/siste
About a month ago, I posted two separate posts on this subreddit about my younger sister, Anaia, who passed away on March 17th, 2024. In one post I gave photos, and in the other I wrote about her addiction, but I don't think I've really talked about myself.
It has been nearly two months since my little sister passed away, and I wouldn't describe it as grueling or depressing, just unusual. On April 22nd, it was confirmed to my family that Anaia died as a result of fentanyl toxicity, which was the reason I always assumed but to have it confirmed was very depressing. Yesterday, I went to my grandmother's house and there were a few copies of Anaia's death certificate, in the onset interval to death section, I said minutes. When talking to my mother (me and my parents talk all the time, my dad sits in my room and plays games while we talk about Anaia or something random, and me and my mother will talk about random things as well as Anaia too.), she told me her perspective of that morning. Long story short, around 11:45AM, I woke up to my mother screaming my sister's name and she soon realized she was unresponsive, me and my father woke up soon after and I called 911, and that's the short version. I assumed my sister was in her covers sleeping and fentanyl overrid her system, but no, my mom told me that when she walked into Anaia's room, she was laid flat out on top of all of her covers, arms outstretched to the side. Learning that was a major shock to me, and I'll explain why.
Sure, Anaia's death was nearly instant. But hearing the details of what my mom said really drove him that once it happened, it didn't matter whether we went into there at the right time or later, there was likely nothing that could've been done. From my understanding, it was almost as if she was up one second and collapsed the next. There was dried vomit on clothes next to her bed, making me assume that after vomiting, she just collapsed instantly after and died. After calling 911, my mother demanded out of fear for me to help her perform CPR, and I didn't hesitate to do so. But, anyone in that situation could tell, with no details given, that there was nothing that could've been done. The typical signs of a deceased body were very present, and even I (doing the mouth resuscitation) knew that if I felt no air coming back onto me, and touching her neck didn't give a pulse, I quickly understood that this was it, like there was nothing me or my parents could've done. When the paramedics arrived at 12 exactly, it took them a minute or two for them to tell us that there was nothing to be done, and ultimately, Anaia had died long, long before we got to her. They said roughly 6-8 hours, meaning at the earliest 3am, and at the latest 5am. It's a disheartening fact for him, and even my father expressed to me too a few nights ago, but we wished that at least there was a chance for us to get to her beforehand. Maybe if he and I or my mom went into her room for no real reason in the middle of the night, we would've been able to save her. What really struck me when my dad was telling me that was him acknowledging that while he and my mom were watching TV, he couldn't bare to imagine that simultaneously Anaia was dying. I felt the same way, I was awake around 3-3:30AM, and if she died during that time, I was totally unaware scrolling through my phone.
I wish that there was something to be done. During her time alive, and when she started doing street dealt percocets, I warned her about fentanyl, and ultimately I wish she had heeded my warning and stayed off them when she did quit in December. I'm a sociable person, and I'm one of those people that have a wide different variety of groups and friends I hang out with, and I may not be in extracurricular activities but even those that are popular in my school know me. As a result of being so sociable, I know people that do drugs, and only a set few who do percocets, one of my closest friends used to be a heavy percocet user and I used to tell her as much as I did my sister to quit. My friend and my sister quit, but one returned and one didn't. One is still here, and one is not. It doesn't matter how many people I told not to do percocets, of course I would've wanted my sister to be the one to really listen to me. But ultimately, the person I wanted to save the most didn't make it. I've saved others, but with my sister, it almost made my words feel like nothing after she died. No matter however many times I told her to please find something less dangerous and more beneficial, to not risk her life, she kept using and lost her life. Said friend and two other friends of my sister (I know both of them) were also at some point active percocet users, and they told me that they felt it like it should've been them, seeing my mother made them see that that could've been their parents, their siblings, their friends and relatives, etc. I told them bluntly that it in fact could've been them in Anaia's position, I told them that just because Anaia's clock stopping running doesn't mean there's has to, they can avoid being in her position. Then it got me thinking, there's plenty of other people who overdose on purpose, who overdose 9 times, who overdose and suffer long term effects like paralyzation, but still remain. Anaia overdosed once, and that was the final time. I believe in God and Jesus but I'm not a preacher, I believe and keep it pushing but I'm not religiously based. I believe in the concept of everyone having a time and a date, but sometimes I find myself questioning that if that's the case, are we just here to live a predetermined fate that we have no control over? At the end of the day, was I meant to go through this? Thinking like that plagues my mind, but I settle for it being her time to go, as seeing other drug users made me wonder what they may be here to prove on earth that Anaia could not. I don't like questioning others' lives and why they get to live longer, that's not me, and I'm glad they've been granted more chances, it just sucks my sister wasn't granted that chance in the grand scheme of things. Predetermined or not, there was so much she could've lived for, but I believe there's a reason time can't be reversed, and there's many unexplained miracles that somehow eases me into thinking that I shouldn't throw myself into a hole of questioning why she didn't get a chance, and just accepting that her race ended earlier than mine. I believe things happen for a reason, it's an insensitive statement depending on the situation, but things happen for people to learn and grow from them, but no one really knows why. I've just had to come to the conclusion hat my sister is okay, she's safe, and I have no reason to continue to question her life and worry about her if she's not here with me anymore, you feel?
From a brother perspective, it sucks. It feels somewhat lonely, to live and breathe as an only child. I've become accustomed to being an older brother to a younger sister, but I turned 16 without her, and that's how it'll be for the rest of my life. At her visitation on March 30th, I didn't cry, but seeing her body just made me shake my head. She looked very nice, the funeral home did an amazing job, but it hit me that this was really her. There were distinct things I saw that she had in life that made me come to that conclusion that that was what was left my little sister, and at the funeral + burial the next day, watching her being lowered into the ground left my head empty. No thoughts, she watching as her casket covered in a white sheet was lowered into the ground, and that'd be it. I grew up with this person, and now I have to look down on this person and go through life without this amazing person. I never imagine something like this happening, especially not like this. I always wanted to die first because I was older, a thought I feared ever since I was a child. That didn't get to happen, and milestones man. She'll never get to graduate the year after me, never get to have that lovely relationship with that special one that she always wanted, she never got to be an aunt, a mom, nothing. One day, I hope to have children and I will tell them about Anaia, but do I wish they'd have been able to meet her if that time came. Everyday, I walk past her room, sometimes I go in there and sometimes I don't. Two weeks after her death, her mattress was taken out by me and my dad's friend, up until a few weeks ago, her room was left scattered the way it was when she died minus the mattress, and now, everything has been cleaned up. It's empty, and the emptiness is another reality check. I'll never see Anaia again, and in the potential next life I believe I will, but the fact I can't now is a hard concept to grasp. No more walking to the bus stop, no more barging into her room or vice versa, no more waiting forever for her to complete her makeup, no more random room hangouts, no more of her asking me to flash a light for her Instagram pictures for an excruciating ten minutes, none of them. Her physical presence is gone, I come home everyday and instantly the thought of her being gone hits me. Riding in the car with my parents, being at school, going out, it doesn't feel the same knowing in the back of my head she's gone, no matter how much fun I have. Regardless, I've returned to normal life, matter of fact, I started going to school every day instantly after the funeral, and during the two weeks of March 17th-March 31st, I showed up to school here and there. It didn't take a toll to do so, because I've accepted that though Anaia died, I'm still alive? I don't stop when she does, that'll have more of an effect. Life still goes on, time doesn't stop for no one no matter how much I may want it to. I honestly sit my current happiness at like a 6.5-7, higher than one may expect. I still have my parents, my friends, and all of my relatives, an important chunk is just missing but I still have my people. I only feel alone in the sibling aspect, but in reality, people make me happy everyday and still continue to. I joke how I've always joked, people have said I look much better than how I did initially, there's notable sadness on my face, but I look happier. If that's true, then I hope it stays that way. I still go out to these afterschool events, outside friend hangous, they bring joy. I just miss my sister 25/8, but I've learned to appreciate life just a little bit more now. If she's okay, I'm okay.
Lastly, I wanted to mention dreams. People say they have dreams of deceased loved ones all the time, I personally haven't yet, would like to, but until then that hasn't been the case. I'm not talking dreams with the person in them, I mean direct communication dreams. My mother has had two, my dad's friend has had one, and my close friend mentioned earlier has had one, but the one that sticks out the most is my little cousin's dream. My mom has a younger sister herself and in 2018, she had her first child, his nickname is JP. During 2021-2022, me and Anaia lived with my grandmother due to losing our apartment (our parents stayed separately at a grouphome my dad worked at, they work for my grandmother's company), and my aunt as well as JP stayed with my grandma. JP essentially became me and Anaia's little brother that we didn't have, and vice versa for him, he sees me and Anaia has his older siblings. Seeing him seem so heartbroken after Anaia died was very sad, as you can see written on this five-year-old's face that Anaia was someone who truly mattered to him and he was so sad about it. However, in his dream, Anaia came to him and told him she loved all of us, that she regretted not seeing him grow older, and that what happened to her was an accident. The part that got me was that Anaia told him that where she was was beautiful, he asked to see it, and she told him he couldn't see it yet. Kids just don't make things like that up in my opinion, and he worded it very detailed for a kindergartener, and JP is at the age where his words don't conflict with other things he's said, he's consistent with it and he tells me the same thing he told me the first time when I ask him here and then. He can see it one day, but he can't see it, not yet. What that tells me is that if life is so hard, death must be so beautiful afterwards, and that there is an afterlife. Even if I believed in a separate religion, or if my current religion isn't the truth, I will always believe in an afterlife. I refuse to believe that this world is it, and kids just don't pull stuff out their butt in a serious situation. I believe him. If that's the case, then I'll gladly wait. It doesn't matter how many people die during my lifetime, whatever remains of it, and how many new people I might meet in my life. If my hope of living to elder age and I meet someone and create a family, and even if said wife and or children die before me if that plan does happen, there's only one person I wish to greet me. I hear that people see a loved one before they die, and I hope Anaia is the one that comes to see me when it's all over. Forever, no matter who else passes before me, Anaia's will stay the worst, the most impactful, and that's a strong statement to make but I'm sure of that. I have plenty of goals I have for myself, but my end goal once the others are done is to get past 70, pass peacefully, and have my sister wait for me there. I hope that wouldn't be much to ask for.
That's it.

So in an earlier post I (F18) put in vent, I have a big crush on a guy, and I only called him my bf (M20) for simplicity and the sake of the post and it's pretty much mutual. But as a brief summary:
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I made things worse by fabricating that I was going out with friends 2 days ago. I was actually trying to go out with my crush. Dad fucking drives me there. BIG mistake, demands to see my friends, ofc I cant show him. I get an earful of how crush is a predator, he just saved my life, essentially never do that again. I get my phone taken for lying and I basically have to cut contact with him.
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My dad swears (along with my mom since she just co-signs every thing he does) that all I have to do is just tell him who he is and introduce him. And call me crazy for NOT doing that, but I've been living with these helicopter parents my whole life and I can make a pretty good assumption of how I would be treated after introducing him.
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The times I would be honest about who I'm with, it would be brought up randomly in a conversation and how my boyfriend of the time is distracting me and then they would "eliminate" the problem by taking my phone or laptop typically.
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I've had a clean slate my whole life because every bad deed I've committed, they have been there every step of the way. Some people dream at night for parents like those and I know that. So I am in constant torment of appreciating the lavish life I have, in exchange for the most committed parents one has ever seen.
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So dad comes in today and I'm just sick of this conversation. First of all he condesendingly says "Your life sucks right now huh?" and I tell him no because I secretly have other plans (-and even if I didn't I'm far too old to be bitching about a roadblock I would find an alternative to), but he asks me who he is, where he lives, when he's gonna meet him. I tell him straight up I'm not disclosing any of that stuff. Bold move for someone who lives under his roof but I already accepted that I'm willing to get my things taken and yelled at if that means protecting my peace and my crushes because A) he didn't deserve getting stood up, intentional or not, 2 days ago, and B) I wasn't going to drag him into my family mess no matter what. He starts yelling ofc and is probably going to take more jurrasic measures knowing him and my mom.
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Believe it or not while my caretakers are a big concern, my bigger one is how long my crush is willing to put up with it since we are starting to be, and basically something much more. I undeniably adore him and we really have a bond like no other. I tell him my parents just wont be apart of the picture for now. But with his looks and personality I'm sure a girl with a much better situation than me could easily take him away.
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TL;DR: Parents find out about crush and now im worried my boyfriend don't wanna be a part of that