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There have been an increasing number of juniors visiting this sub asking for advice about writing essays. Below are some tips and advice for making your essay stand out as excellent. Feel free to ask questions because I will answer every single question in the comments.
I know from experience that many of you are struggling to identify a good topic for your essay. Conventional wisdom says to start by brainstorming a list of potential topics, and chances are, you have already started a mental list of ideas. You might think you only have a few choices for topics, based on your activities or experiences, or essay examples you read, or the rough draft you already started (or worse, that GPT started...). I advise, however, that you put down your list of topics and back away from it. Forget that exists for a moment. Seriously - thinking about this initial list tethers you to certain ideas that might not actually be your best options.
Now you can begin brainstorming with a clean slate.
Start with thinking about what you want to show in your entire application, not just one essay. Every single component in your app has one purpose – to tell more about YOU. Filling out the rest of the application by rote and focusing solely on the essay is short-sighted and will leave so much potential untapped in your application.

It's About You. Tell Your Story - And Be The Protagonist

An admissions officer’s goal is to understand you fully, in the context of your background and the rest of the applicant pool. They will begin this with assessing your academic abilities and potential. Then they will evaluate how you will fit into the student body they’re trying to curate. All of this can be somewhat broad and diverse and touch on several institutional goals. But they will dig deep to find out what each applicant is like, what your core values and motivations are, what kind of student you will be, how you will contribute to the vibrant and intellectual campus community they’re building, etc.
Your goal with essay brainstorming is to ascertain how to powerfully tell your story in a manner that will fit these criteria. The entirety of your application (again, not just one essay) aims to showcase your abilities, qualifications, and uncommon attributes as a person in a positive way. Before you begin outlining or writing your application, you must determine what is unique about you that will stand out to an admissions panel. All students are truly unique. Not one other student has the same combination of life experiences, personality, passions, or goals as you do. Your job in your application is to frame your unique personal attributes in a positive and compelling way. How will you fit on campus? What personal qualities, strengths, core values, talents, or different perspectives do you bring to the table? What stories, deeper motivations/beliefs, or formative experiences can you use to illustrate all of this?
It is always helpful to start with some soul-searching or self-examination. You might not immediately know what you want to share about yourself. It’s not a simple task to decide how to summarize your whole life and being in a powerful and eloquent way on your application. Introspection prior to starting your application takes additional time and effort rather than jumping straight into your first draft. But it is also a valuable method to start writing a winning application that stands out from the stack.
You'll see the advice everywhere that all essay prompts are really about the same thing - you. The goal of each essay then is to showcase who you are, what matters to you, and how you think. I guarantee if you're on this sub enough, you'll hear the advice to "show, don't tell" when writing about yourself. But what does this mean really, and how do you do it well? How do you even get started on an essay that does this?

Introspection Questions

It’s often easiest to start thinking in terms of superlatives, especially those related to personal insights -- what are the most meaningful things about you, and what do you value the most? Here is a list of questions to help you brainstorm broadly before you narrow down your focus for writing:

• What are your interests?
  
• What sparks your curiosity?
  
• About what topics do you enjoy reading?
  
• With whom do you enjoy spending time? Who has impacted your life the most?
  
• Reflect upon “superlatives” in your life. What moments were most memorable, formative, enlightening, enjoyable, or valuable? What physical possessions, experiences, dreams, or lessons could make your superlatives list?
  
• Stop and think about what things, people, or circumstances in your life are really unique, fascinating, or outlandish. Are there any that really have a lot of "cultural flavor" (whatever your culture is)?
  

I have a free introspection worksheet with over 100 questions like this designed to help you find ideas worth exploring in your essays. You can find it on the A2C Discord or download it directly here.

Find Your Story And Arc

Think of a small anecdote or story from your life that you could share that serves as a microcosm of who you are and what is important to you. It will massively help you narrow this down and find a gem of a story if you first start by thinking about your application arc or theme. This is the one-phrase summary of your entire application. It could be "brilliant entrepreneur who started her own successful business" or "talented athlete who wants to study economics and finance as they pertain to sports", or even "avid baker whose hobby sparked an interest in chemistry". It doesn't have to be related to your intended major, but it can help your arc be stronger and clearer if it is.
Once you have an arc determined and a story to share, think about what you want that story to say about you. This is where it can help to think of this as something you would share on a date - what impression does it make about you to the reader? Once you know this, start showing, not telling this attribute of yourself through your story. For example, instead of saying that you're compassionate toward others, you show an example of a time you were compassionate, then elaborate on why, and what it means to you.

Essay Brainstorming Techniques

If you are having trouble finding a story, or simply have writer’s block once you have picked your topic, here are some ideas to get your juices flowing:

• Stream of consciousness writing -- Start writing whatever is in your head, and don’t stop for 30 minutes. You probably won’t use what you just wrote for your essay, but it will help you find a starting point.
  
• Journaling -- Answer the prompt as if you were writing in a journal. This will get you in the habit of writing about yourself and establish comfort with the concept. It will also take you to a new level of introspection and self-awareness.
  
• Twitter X style -- Write several rapid-fire responses to the prompt in 280 characters or less. Choose an idea from these responses to expound upon in your essay.
  
• Read each essay prompt, then go through your introspection worksheet responses and connect the stories and insights to one or more of the prompts. Some students like using color coding to visually see how their different ideas might work together.
  

Why Essays Matter

Here's the thing a lot of people don't realize about college admission: it's not an award for being the smartest, most accomplished, or most impressive. It's an invitation to join a community. Far too many students think that if they can just show that they're smart enough, they'll get in. Yale even says right on their admissions website that 75% of their applicants are academically qualified to succeed at Yale. But only ~4% are getting in. That should tell you that they're looking for more than just top tier test scores and grades. To be perfectly clear, you will need top tier grades and (optionally) test scores to show that you're qualified, and the vast majority of my students come to me with this part already in the bank. But what sets the admits apart? It's personal insight - sharing who you are, how you think, what matters to you, and how you engage community. You can't just say "/IAmVerySmart, please admit me," or even "I did a cool thing guys! Isn't that neat!" You need to go deeper and show them your core values, personal strengths, motivations, aspirations, character traits, foundational beliefs, personality, etc. And you need to do it in a charming, winsome way that makes them like you and want to invite you to join their community.
So how do I get students to do this? All of my students complete that introspection worksheet. We go through it and find the stories, examples, anecdotes, conversations, memories, relationships, and other things from their life that will help us craft a strong and personally insightful narrative. We also make lists of the values, strengths, and key personal qualities we want to showcase. Once we have some topics, outlines, abstracts, or rough drafts, we talk about which stories to tell where, how to tell them well, and what details to include to present the best they have to offer. Then we refine, edit, polish, and enhance over and over until the story sings, but more importantly shows their heart and soul. We also go through all the other application components to ensure consistency, quality, and distinctiveness.
Here's why this works so well: at most highly selective colleges there is a primary reader (or 2-3) who will review everything first and then present it to the admissions committee, who then votes on whether to admit you. That presentation typically goes one of three ways:

1. Total enthusiasm, energy, and excitement. They strongly advocate for admission and paint a clear picture of how you will contribute to their goals and community. Everyone in the room picks up on that energy and is leaning forward in their chairs, looking for reasons to admit you. This is quite rare, generally less than 5 out of every 100 applications, even among those which are "fully qualified." When you do this right, you show depth, meaning, and valuable personal insights so the reviewer is learning about who you are and how you might engage the community they're curating. You come alive off the page as a person, not just another file.
   
2. Business as usual. You're another great applicant in a pile of great applicants. They share a basic review of the facts, your profile, stats, strengths, weaknesses, etc. Maybe someone on the committee finds something they love, and they really push for admission. More likely, not and you get deferred/waitlisted even though there wasn't anything "wrong" with your application. They just didn't love you enough to commit.
   
3. "Here's a stack of 20 applications that I didn't find all that compelling, so we won't present them individually, but you guys are the committee and you make the decisions. So let me know if there are any you want to talk about." In this case, unless there's a letter of endorsement from an athletics coach or your last name matches several buildings on campus, you're probably not getting additional consideration, much less admission. They will regret to inform you.
   

Everything we're doing is designed to help them get to know themselves, present the best they have to offer, and land in that first group. Having top tier essays is the single best way to get there. Get started on brainstorming in the next few weeks so you'll have time to get a few essays completed over the summer.

Unsent letter for my husband,who does not use Reddit. I really debated on weather or not I would post this because of how vulnerable it is, and honestly because I realize I'm a moron. But here we are. Probably will delete later. Idk.
Sometimes I feel like you're trying to make me worse. I don't have the energy to keep arguing with you every night. I just want peace. Why won't you allow me to have that? Why won't you just fucking leave me alone, I feel like you're taunting me at this point. I hate that you tell me you love me while you sit there and actively break me down to the point I don't really feel like a human being anymore. And if you love me, why the fuck am I constantly begging to be treated like a human being? Tonight was a good example of when I say you're so dismissive of my feelings. When you came outside & asked what I was doing. I told you I was watching my therapy videos and asked to be alone for a little. Still, you sat down and I repeatedly told you I wanted to be alone. You ignored me, and and the more annoyed I got you laughed. Do you even understand how much it took for me to recognize the signs of an episode before they happen? I warned you that my mood was about to flip on you and the way you smiled and looked so smug was all it took. I removed myself from the situation and went for a drive and ended up in the parking lot down the street. I shouldn't have to leave the house just to feel okay. And you still couldn't fucking leave me alone! You sit there and text me like you don't know what you did wrong. And put it back on me. You tell me that you thought I was joking and didn't realize until it was too late. But how could you not? We've been together almost every single day for 9 years. How is it you always know when someone else does something that bothers me, but never when you do unless it's spelled out for you? How do you not recognize the changes in my face, my body language. You're so observant yet so oblivious. I feel like I'm being difficult because I ignored your I'm sorry. But then I remind myself that you apologize to me on a daily basis. You apologize to me so much that it sounds rehearsed. No matter how many times I tell you, you don't get how generic your apologies are, how insincere they are. You've repeated the same phrases, the same excuses so many times I too can reciet them. Why is it that whenever we have serious conversations you tell me you don't know what to say. Or if I bring up something that bothers me that you will ignore me for hours, days, sometimes until the next weekend. Then other times, you know exactly what to say, you can say all the right things I want to hear. You hold yourself accountable, you apologize, you make promises to work on it. But the thing is, you never do work on those things. Then you want to make me feel bad when the next time we're having the same conversation, different situation and you make me feel like shit for being difficult and not believing you can or will change. I can only tell you so many times that if you don't actually work on the things you say you will work on than how the fuck am I supposed to ever believe you? I wish you understood, like really and truly understood how mentally exhausting it is to sit there and repeatedly break down step by step why and how you are hurting me just to watch you do it again & again. All while telling me you didn't know, or just didn't think. You don't realize how damaging your apologies are to me, how confusing they are to me. Your actions hurt me, but you say the right things and all the sudden I feel like I'm over reacting or being dramatic and even though it's not your intentions it feels like it's my fault. Maybe it is my fault and I think about that too. Sometimes I wonder why you put up with me. I'm always sad, I'm always crying, I'm always one step off the edge. You keep telling me that I'll get better and that I'm like this because of the things you have done and still do. And that when you work on those things I'll get better. And then I feel like I'm a piece of shit. I feel worthless, I feel drained... And honestly. I don't remember the last time I felt okay, like actually okay. I know I wasn't always like this but find myself wondering if I'll always be like this? Most of the time I feel like I am going crazy.. I'm so out of touch with reality, I'm not living a life anymore, I am living every day on repeat. For months now I have spent hours completely on auto pilot. Every day I wake up, I feel a little more dead inside. I cry for no reason, all of the time. Even when I'm driving and it's embarrassing. I feel stuck, stuck in my own head, stuck in this depression, stuck in this life. I really do feel like I won't be here much longer. It's no longer a feeling that comes up in intense moments, it's constant, daily, a reoccurring feeling I can't shake. I feel changes in myself that make me scared. I don't want to be around anyone, not other people and especially not the people I love. I don't watch t.v anymore, I can't complete most tasks anymore, I eat purely to stop the shaking most of the time. The only time I seem to want to talk is when I'm in a manic episode and can't shut the hell up. You contributed to that.. Because of you I feel the need to over explain everything. I find myself trying to explain things multiple ways, and I just ramble. I don't know how to stop once I start and that now carries on in any conversation I have. You ignore me so much that I feel like I'm talking to myself. You tell me you're not doing it on purpose, you constantly tell me you didn't hear me or try and convince me that I didn't say anything. It makes me feel like I'm actually insane. You are always making me question my own reality. I feel like you do that often, you make me feel unsure of myself. Sometimes I feel like you want me to hate myself with the things you say and do. Like how you know I have an eating disorder but will make comments telling me I'm not hungry or that I don't need it, or make jokes that I take too long to eat like I'm not painfully aware and it's not like you don't know why. Then you'll tell me I'm crazy for thinking I'm fat, or tell me that I need to start eating if I want to be healthy. Or how you sat there for years and made comments for years to do something different with my hair, and you were tired of my black hair. So I died it red. And $250 later and you immediately tell me you want me to go back to my black hair. But it's okay, because you'll turn around and tell me it looks good now that I'm obsessing about changing it again. You sit there and text me supportive things constantly and I read them over and over again and it just furthers the idea that I'm crazy. You used to tell me you weren't big on affection, then one day you started saying you like affection. Okay great, so I try and give that to you... Consistently and it's hardly returned. Either you don't reciprocate it at all, or it seems like a chore. But then, I get in a mood and all the sudden, you're affectionate, playful and loving. And I will say, you are affectionate sometimes when we are good too, it's just not as often on the scale.. It just seems like, you want me most when I'm the least interested in being near you and that doesn't make sense to me. Why is the most effort, and the only time I see you trying is when you feel like I'm going to finally walk away? Why does everything I ask for seem to be asking for too much? How can you possibly love me when for the last year straight I have asked literally begged you to work on things, I begged you to be consistent, to stop lying to me, to take me seriously, to stop hurting me, to stop treating me the way you do, I told you repeatedly that I was loosing all feelings. Not just for you, but the amount of pain I've been in, I am going numb to everything and everyone. I'm in dangerous cycle of anger, dispair, numbness and being delusional. Every one and a while, like now.. I feel like I wake up. And suddenly I see everything for what it truly is. And then I feel embarrassed that for lack of respect I have for myself, or my own boundaries, I feel guilty for thinking bad things about you and so I turn around and begin tortumenting myself with everything I ever said to you and the self hatred ensues. I then go into a state of crisis and feel like everything around me is closing in and bam, I feel nothing. I don't care about any of it, but I'm aware of all of it.. and I feed on that pain for a while. Sometimes it's short lived, sometimes it's hours, or even days where I will convince myself this time I'm going to get out and... Just like that, I feel paralyzed again and the pain is too much. I fade out again and none of it was real. When I come out of this state, I won't even be able to read this letter back to myself until it happens again. I don't know why that happens but the more it does, I feel myself deteorating. I feel like my nervous system is fried. I am tired of being nauseous every fucking day. I am tired of my body constantly shaking in controlably. I am tired of being so exhausted single day but the later it gets the more I feel awake. You really don't get what you're doing to me. And I'm not saying that every negative thing I feel, experience or go through is because you're just 1 person and you aren't responsible for all of the things, I am. But you do contribute to them. If you really are worried about my mental health, then why don't you ever take it seriously? Truthfully it's because I think you don't take me seriously. Why would you? The amount of shit that I've let slide, I think is a good indication of how little I value myself and how little you value me no matter what your words say. If you valued me, you wouldn't tell me that you don't reflect on our conversations after we have them. You wouldn't sit there and tell me that in 9 years of being together you have never bothered to learn about my disease even though it affects my life every waking day, even when I sit there and actively try and educate you just for you to tell me you can't retain the information. If you valued me, you wouldn't constantly apologize for making the same "mistakes" over and over, and saying you didn't realize until after you did it or after I explained it. Things that most people wouldn't have to explain, like that it's hurtful when you don't reply to our serious conversation but I come in the room and you're watching YouTube shorts or playing video games instead and that took priority. Or how it's upsets me that I can fall asleep crying, with you saying nothing and you think it's okay to wake me up for sex in the middle of the night. The list goes on.. it's never ending and I am always having to break everything down for you to such a degree that as bad as it is to say, I rather you treat me like shit then explain one more time in detail how you are treating me like shit. I feel like a horrible wife because I don't have the desire to fix our relationship anymore. I barely have the will to live anymore, let alone continue this cycle that deep down I know will never end. Every year, you get just a little bit worse in some ways, and better in others. And now, it's harder because in some ways you are better. There are plenty of times I am sad, that you ask me if I am sad, of it I'm okay. But the thing is, when I say I'm not or I do open up to you, you get quiet and I feel disappointed and alone. I can't express enough that I don't expect you to have the right answer, or even any solution. I just want to feel heard. Then the next time it happens and you ask and I lie and say I'll say I'm fine because when I do admit to being sad, even when you aren't the reason you go silent. You hug me randomly and that makes me feel loved. You smile at me sometimes when I am ranting.And I love how when we are good, we're like the best of friends. I like that you started buying me flowers, I just hate that I know why I got them. Sometimes you help me cook, and it feels nice to spend time with you. But then I am also resentful because on a daily basis your version of spending time is limited to us laying in bed and watching t.v or you telling me random facts. You never want to go out, you never want to try a new activity together, and when I say I just want to be with you and talk, I get stuck carrying the conversation. I keep trying to explain to you that the bad has far out weighted the good for too long. I have so much anger and resentment towards you, that it's hard to look past that when I look at you. Granted through our relationship you've done a lot of things anyone with common sense would of walked away from, what you've put me through in the last 2 years I just can't forgive no matter how much I try. It's especially hard to heal, when you continue adding to it. I never get the chance.. I don't feel loved by you. I don't feel safe with you. I don't feel like I can trust you. And the fact is, some things are just so fucked up that you can't recover from and unfortunately deep down I know that.Far too many to put into this letter alone but you know what you've done,no matter how much you play ignorant and tell me you don't remeber...I spent most of last year year, throwing up, collapsing, and psychically every day.. then I started going through the cancer testing and the same week that I was waiting for my results, you were cheating on me.. I left for 3 days and stayed at my mom's came home, and agreed to make it work for the sake of our family... Again...for our family. It took more than you will ever know to come back home. You will never understand how you absolutely destroyed me that day, and that every day since I live in fear for what you're doing that I don't know. Part of me obsessed about it, mostly I ignore the very realistic possibilities that you will do it again. You've betrayed me twice since then not on the same level but none the less. It shouldn't of happened at all. I put up a wall up with you that day, and it just keeps growing. You don't even see it for how it really is do you? That I've started avoiding you from the moment we come home. That I take the girls out for more mommy daughter days than family days. That I handle my responsibilities as a mother, but completely shut off to you for the last few weeks. That I have been doing so much work on myself, not that I didn't need to, and always will.. but just .. You don't see what's happening here. Or maybe you do, and that's why your all the sudden half ass trying just a little more. I pray one day I stop fading deeper into denial and wake up. The truth is.. I'm not ready to fully admit it to myself...but I don't love you..and haven't for quite some time.. As I finish writing this, I am feeling numb again and I know I will wake up tomorrow and apologize for my role in this. I'll wake up tomorrow and break myself trying to convince myself that I do love you, I'm just sick...

hey guys, so i (22m) have been friends with this girl (24f) for like 3 or 4 months by now but we got extremely close and we have a somewhat nice shared friend group. we used to hang literally 4 times a week usually. i had a crush on one of our mutual friends for a while and she saw that blow up in my face in real time lol. this girl always gave me signs that made me think she liked me… but i didn’t see her like that. out of nowhere when i REALLY got to know her, she became super fucking attractive to me and her personality won me over truly. about a month ago i asked her to come over to my house while my parents weren’t home and she did… we watched a movie and stayed up until 3 am. we did things like be really close and i put my head against her and played with her hair… we even held hands for a bit as i prompted… it was nice! i may have jumped the gun and asked if she wanted to cuddle, which she chuckled and said no… then she asks to see my room lol. she shoos me away and sleeps in my bed… which led to me sleeping on my couch for the first time which was not comfortable at all lol. anyways i went upstairs after i woke up as she texted me to and i laid down next to her and we chatted for a little then she got up and went on her way. it’s been kinda strange and awkward since then and i feel like the energy just isn’t there from her. she went from asking me to hang almost every day to barely asking. i really am falling for her hard im not gonna lie, but even the other day we got ice cream at night and she kept referring to me as one of her friends and other shit… even asking to make me a hinge/bumble… nail in the coffin was she talked about a boy she thought was cute back in the day. realistically… i know im cooked. it’s so over way before it ever had a chance to start… so i come to the internet asking for some advice please. what the hell do i do? as a friend group we have several trips planned for the summer, not only that but me and her best friend (the one who rejected me lol) are actually pretty tight now! she tells me i should just wait it out but she has no clue and said she’s the wrong person to talk to about this. what should i do? do i tell this girl my feelings and potentially ruin everything? i used to be able to see us together like a few weeks back but now i don’t even think there’s a shot… not gonna lie ive been barely texting her too since the energy just isn’t there..: everything hurts so bad right now.
TLDR: started crushing hard on a pretty close friend i made few months ago who i was convinced liked me at first (when i wasn’t interested) and after some recent hangouts and energy changes im not sure what to do.

Hello, so I am 2 years on t gel. My voice is still feminine, I can’t grow facial hair past just weird fuzzies and stray chin hairs. I tried the injections but I developed bad itching after the 3rd injection that lasted a full week. I stopped the injections and spoke with my doctor and she said it’s normal to get itchy, but being itchy for a week is extremely uncommon and since the itchy lasted a week, it’ll just keep getting worse and if I continue the shots it would just constantly be itchy. More changes seemed to be happening on the injection, but I can’t live my life itchy like that. My doctor said I can try doing the thigh, but I have trauma with needles that originated with being stabbed in the thighs so I cannot do that. I did the t shots in the stomach, which was hard enough to do. As far as the gel not working enough, I must not be absorbing the gel well. I’m on 3 pumps of the gel, and she said anything higher will just make my body make more estrogen. I still get misgendered at about a 90% rate. My voice doesn’t sound like a cis male. I’ve experienced bottom growth, lots of leg hair, lots of sex drive, but still not enough voice drop and my face is still feminine. All the things I wanted and I need to pass I am not getting but all the things I don’t need and really are just a private matter are happening. What the fuck do I do? Am I just double unlucky? Why can’t I just pass like other trans men can? They just start hormones and poof they pass. Some trans guys pass so well pre t and it’s so frustrating. After 2 years on t gel I should be passing. This is why I am afraid to ask people out or date because what if they think I’m a girl? What if they still see me as a girl even if they know I’m trans because I don’t pass enough? I’m unfortunately only attracted to men and men tend to be the most close minded when it comes to trans people. It’s so frustrating and I feel like no matter what I do, I will never pass

Todays dream, it starts with “bomb night” a bar deal night me & my friends call it “bomb night” me, L, D, & maybe? (B)?, (& N potentially came)?, Anyways I end up waking up at my “fathers” house a white man, (by that point I’m not sure if I was me anymore (both my parents are black, so am I (lightskin) & I still was in my dream, I might’ve gotten kidnapped from bomb night), that man was a “mad scientist” or something of the ilk, that was my first thought at least, well maybe not mad but definitely pursuing perfection of some sort (maybe humanity), or again something of the ilk bare with me heh. I believe he did something to me & the others there, there was dark skin girl (with the face of one of my high school crushes, I met her somewhere in between my first - third blackout I think) she even had the same name of the same old HS crush of mine who she looked like, (Jasmine), there was another lightskin kid who was taller than me (unsure of his name) & my… my son (I don’t have any kids in real life), idk his name or his mother but for some reason I knew he was mine, don’t remember making him but… he had some of my features, apparently he was conceived with an unknown mother during one of my blackouts, he never called jasmine mom, she was the only girl that I saw around my own age there & for some reason I accepted the fact that she was his mother unsure why, I just felt it was her, (in this dream he goes from around 3 years old when I first meet him to probably 7 - 10 years old by the end), not sure how long I was there for, because I don’t remember arriving there, I blacked out during “bomb night” & when I woke up, I just was there, I’m not sure how much time had passed, these weren’t normal in dream blackouts where you wake up after either, (it’s like I was repeatedly getting knocked out) when I awoke from my second blackout (unsure if it was the 2nd or like the fiftieth) that’s when I found I had a son (he was a normal boy when I first met him,) & when I woke up from my 3rd blackout that’s when he had been turned into a superhuman, yes he had powers, super strength & speed I believe, (by that point me & jasmine had our own room gifted to us & we lived together (we may have been bf & gf or husband & wife) “father” did that for some reason… Now that I think about it I might’ve have already been turned into one as well (a superhuman) by that time, or even an android of some kind, the details are… weird & I’m a little foggy on all of it, (I JUST had this dream) we lived in some super mansion but it was also the work place for “fathers” company, I’m not sure what the company did but they had a LOT of construction vehicles, whatever he did to me fundamentally changed my critical thinking as well, (& not in a bad way), but for some reason I had the urge to escape, (when I woke up… nvm we’ll get there later), at one point I asked him to make me a superhuman like he did my “son” ((who referred to him as grandpa & me father), (still unsure of when he was birthed or even made) Jasmine may have been his mother, but he was too lightskin in my opinion to be her son or maybe he was brownskin (still foggy on the dream memories) & she was darkskin so idk, Im still unsure how he was even mine unless “father” created him solely from my blood, or made him using me & jasmine while I was unconscious, which is why it’s starting to seem more & more like he really let me go, whatever he needed/wanted from me… he must’ve gotten, anyways I asked him to make me superhuman & he denied me, but the tall lightskin kid & my son were both superhumans, one day as me & the tall… let’s call him Jay, as me & Jay where plotting our escape one day, he (Jay) flicked his finger & some power bar type thing appeared on my wrist not sure what it did but it stayed on my hand without disappearing even after I managed to “escape”, (let me not forget before I left a white woman was there as well & by instinct I knew to call her mother, (she even sounded like my own, & told me to eat all my chicken in the microwave right before I escaped (she didn’t know I was escaping I think…, they might’ve actually all known jasmine included, we said we loved each other before I left (me & jasmine) but the way she said it was… off she 100% didn’t mean it) eventually me & Jay (tall lightskin kid) decided to escape, sadly I took too long gathering my things, (or that’s what he told me when I arrived outside of the mansion which now thinking about it… was odd, (I think everyone in the mansion was in on it, & I was programmed to escape or something, to accomplish a wish or something of “fathers” but idk what) so he (Jay) was unable too in his words, & by that point for some reason I had this urging feeling that I needed to go that day, I NEEDED to escape, so I hopped in the nearest forklift when we got oustide, Jay tried to go back into the mansion but the doors where locked, which “mother had told me would happen right before I left the inside after I said goodbye to Jasmine, (my son was leading some seemingly rich black bald guy around the super mansion house, when I sortve… ran him over & mightve killed him on my way out, (the rich guy not my son) unsure I just heard him screaming as I ran him over with the small forklift type vehicle, but long story not so short I escaped the maze which was outside the mansion, not gonna lie it was one of those well decorated plant mazes, it looked great, Jay (the tall LS kid) told me that was where he’d fail, & that it was the most difficult part, (which is why I believe they let me go, it was all too easy… way too easy to escape from the man I called “father” who was creating superhumans & pursuing something he did something to me, & idk how long he kept me there, but it was definitely years, (I only saw him (“father”) 2-3 times during the whole ordeal), I only clocked that after I woke up, inside the dream it only felt like a few days (probably due to the insane amount of times I blacked out I have NO idea what was happening when I was unconscious in my dream, the black outs where like real life black outs, your eyes close & it feels like a second passes than you open them & the scenes change, but for some reason I knew I was getting knocked out, this was a 5pm to 10:50 pm nap, 5 hrs & 50 min but this dream…. It was different, even more different than the crazy dreams I write down to remember for the hell of it, I remember feeling ecstasy when I escaped & than I woke up, but after waking up & analysing everything it all seems off… & the dream itself was far, far too realistic, I knew it was a dream, subconsciously I knew, but normally when ik somethings a dream I wake up, before i can start doing crazy stuff cuz ik it’s a dream, but this time I didn’t wake up… OH!!, & I forgot about the barefoot snow part & the part where I actually got to know jasmine, (lol let’s call it the jasmine arc) she was slightly different to my old hs crush jasmine, she was younger than when I met her, oh & ik I was there for a long time maybe years because I only went outside TWICE, & the first time it was covered in snow, & the second time it could’ve been any of the other three seasons sides winter idk, & after the blackouts for some reason I knew I was waking up (months at minimum years at a maximum) “months” later, (again these weren’t normal blackouts), “father” was for sure experimenting on me, (probably how I woke up with a mystery son lol), I wanna see this as just a dream, but a feeling tells me it’s much… much more than that, maybe a warning? A precognition? Or just to inform me that I escaped something in real life. This one just didn’t feel normal at all it was so detailed, when I walked through the snow barefoot to help jasmine do something (during her mini arc) it felt real, I felt the chill of the snow on my bare feet, but it didn’t bother me how it does when I do it in real life just for the fun of it, I was composed & relaxed, even as I was escaping & potentially killed a guy, I was too calm & composed as if everything that happened was just supposed to, If anyone see’s this & can help me make sense of it, it’d be appreciated, ik dreams are supposed to have meaning but what does this mean? Who the hell did I escape from??

I'll try to keep it short, sorry if the grammar is bad, english isn't my native language, also I'm not in the USA
TL;DR at the end
Trigger warning : mental health issue
Some important background; I am autistic, and I can't work since I am not a "high functionning" one, it was my doctor, psychiatrist and the ASD clinic's lady that told me that, so it's not something that I just "use". I also have a weird thing, didn't really understand when my psychiatrist told me about it, it's like an "autistic depression", I'm not depressed, but if I am under too much stress/pressure or that I don't have any energy left, I get severe depression symptom, the type that get you in the hospital for 72h. Also got some severe, severe anxiety
Sorry for that, it was pretty long. To explain the situation, I moved in with my boyfriend in February, we got an appartement together. I receive some fund from the government every month because I am disabled, but because of some reason(under 24, the salary of my parents), I get almost nothing and everything that I get goes straight to my boyfriend for the bills.
Recently our relationship got pretty rocky in a really bad way, he did bad things. If things doesn't get better I will leave him at the end of the lease. Because of many of those things, I have become really tired(can't sleep when he's here), I almost eat nothing and does my best to do chores(housework and his lunch) but have some difficulty.
The thing is.. His brother. I kind of like him, he's nice but sometime he says comments that are kind of insensitive. His brothers doesn't know how my boyfriend acts with me. He also doesn't know that I feel bad about the fact that I can't function like a normal person.
Things he told me/about me or just stuff that is kind of mean, with context if necessary :

• That I should be grateful that my boyfriend make me lives "for free"(context: we were talking about how much I receive from disability and how my parents gives us foods for free)
• That every woman with mental health issue are name calling and you should avoid them at all cost
• That I could've done more chores that day(context: I almost needed to get to the hospital that day because I was reaching my limit, the chores in question was just the garbage and some forks that I intended to do after sleeping)
• That I'm lazy since I don't work(context : he was talking to my boyfriend about how he(BIL) could work so I am lazy)
• That I use my mental health issue as an excuse for everything (context: Couldn't go to funeral of his familly member, bf actually asked me to not go)

I won't say everything but that's the type of stuff he says, an important detail is that he have schizophrenia. I know it's hard and is different on everyone but.. I feel it shouldn't be an excuse for him to say mean thing? He is under medication, and my boyfriend says that he is in a good state..
But what bugs me is, my boyfriend doesn't say anything about how his brother talks about me, he doesn't tell him the reason why I did or didn't do something, he just let him say whatever he wants..
Today, I was so fricking proud, I took a shower, brushed my teeth, cooked his meal, washed the majority of the dishes.. I texted my bf about it and he was happy and proud, I didn't feel well these last day because something happened so for me it was a big achievement. His brother came tonight, I was in the bedroom because I wanted to rest.
"She should have done all the dishes, she just have that to do" is what he said.
That thing broke my confidence and efforts. Everything that I was proud of just vanished. Bf didn't say anything.
I cried, I told my bf later that night that I was tired of always hearing comments that hurt me. It's not the first time that I talked about his comments to my boyfriend, but everytime he just say "he has schizophrenia, just let him be, ignore him"
I don't know what to do, should I just leave earlier? It really doesn't help constantly hearing that stuff, it makes it harder to be productive.
What should I do? Is the relationship worth saving? My bf is my only friend and I'm scared of making the wrong choice, I'm confused about everything
TL;DR : BF just tells me to ignore what his brother says because he have schizophrenia, he says stuff like I'm lazy for not working but I can't work because of my autism

I have been stuck in a loop of general apathy with sprinkles of extreme anxiety for 3 years now. For some reason, the person I used to be has just dissappeared at this point and left behind someone incapable of working towards anything in life, or maybe I was always like this and I somehow managed to fool myself thus far.
I can't even do stuff that is crucial for my future 90% of the time and the one time I did sorta start to take the first steps towards something, everything ended up going to hell, mainly because of my actions but also because of straight up bad luck.
The worst part is that, even if I managed to break this particular loop, there would still be so many messes in my life that I know i would still not feel one bit happier or more at peace. At this point, I know with total certainty that I will never reach a state where I feel that being born was worth it. I will always keep stumbling on the same problems and creating new ones, as if I was adicted to the most absolute feelings of misery. What makes everything more pathetic is that, unlike the cases of many people here, the way I turned out is not because of any trauma or any particular reason, it is just the person I have become.
I really want to put an end to this everyday nightmare to the point that I already have a couple methods in mind and the way to aquire the tools, but I just can't ruin the life of my extremely good and hardworking parents right when they are about to retire and finally get their hard earned rests. I know that my dad would be absolutely destroyed and I don't even want to start imagining what my mom's reaction would be. They really are the only thing that keeps me in this world, but instead of feeling like reasons to keep living, it just feels like I am chained to life with no other choice. I will never tell them, but I have grown to resent them for creating me and keeping me alive, even though they basically did everything right. I really am that petty.
I guess I'm stuck here for the next two or three decades at minimum, but I have already reached the point where I feel as if I had already commited suicide and was just a ghost stuck in this world. Oh well.

Just finished my third 100% play-through of Tears on the 1 year anniversary. It’s pretty brutal to 100% this game, but I enjoyed it. Here’s my 100% list:

• 1,000 Korok Seeds
• 100% map completion (includes all Named Locations, Cave Entrances, Shrines, Light Roots, Wells, Chasms, Towns, Settlements, Stables, Specialty Shops, Device Dispensers, Sky View Towers, Forge / Weapon Constructs and Refineries, Tears of the Dragon, Ancient Tablets, and Fairy Fountains)
• All chest icons on Shrines (appears when all chests in the shrines have been opened)
• 23 Main Quests
• 60 Side Adventures
• 31 Shrine Quests
• 139 Side Quests
• 18 Memories
• Completed Hyrule Compendium
• 228 Recipes
• Upgraded all Horses to the max
• All Clothing and Armor Pieces upgraded to the max
• 21 Energy Cells
• 27 Zonai Devices
• 51 Paraglider Fabric Skins
• 12 Schema Stones
• 34 Yiga Schematics
• 31 Old Maps
• 147 Bubbul Gems
• 11 Horse Gear (Towing Harness, Saddles, Bridles)
• Medals of Honor
• All’s Well Key Item
• Dispelling Darkness Medal
• Hestu’s Gift Key Item
• 81 Addison Signs Put Up

I compiled a list of things I found online that helped me farm material so hopefully it’ll help others. My apologies for no credit to those who contributed. I simply copied and pasted a lot of these - but some are my own contributions.
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Useful Links
Zelda Dungeon Interactive Map
Armor Upgrade List
Horse Upgrade List
100% Map Landmark Guide (Helped me find a few missed locations)
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Missed Locations (after collecting all Koroks, quests, shrines, caves, and wells)
Missed all 3 times
Kolomo Garrison Ruins
Missed Twice
Gatepost Town Ruins
Castle Town Watchtower
Lost Woods
Inogo Bridge
Dracozu Altar
East Passage
Water Reservoir
Kolomo Garrison Ruins
Missed Locations (2nd and 3rd run-though)
Desert Rift
Device Dispenser on Thunderhead Isles
Sargon Bridge
Drena Canyon Mine
Retsam Forest Cave (North Entrance)
Missed Locations (1st run-through)
Lutos Crossing
Lanayru Road - West Gate
Canyon of Awakening Mine
Abandoned Eldin Mine Forge Construct
Floret Sandbar
Faron Woods
West Passage
Dalite Grove
Grove of Time
Nabooru Canyon Mine
Walnot Canyon Mine
Madorna Canyon Mine
Hickaly Grove
Rozudo Canyon Mine
Daval Canyon Mine
Granajih Canyon Mine
Agaat Canyon Mine
Applean Grove
Rok Grove
Rhoam Canyon Mine
Ruto Canyon Mine
Akkala Bridges (all 3)
Stolock Bridge
Crystal Refinery in Lookout Landing
Faloraa Canyon Mine (last one)
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Final Koroks (2nd and 3rd time)

• Desert by Shrine (Climb Up)
• Hateno beach
• Wellspring Island underneath staircase by the waterfall, 3414 0618 1551
• Thims Bridge Korok
• Ceiling stump west of Ulria Grotto (4078 0821 0236)
• South of Flirly Plateau, dive into lily pads (3014 -2537 0129)

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Money Makers

• If you are going to 100% this game, don’t sell items you will need later unless you already have extra, especially gems. Crosscheck it with the Armor Upgrade link above.
• I regularly cycled through Moldugas and the Lynels in the Floating Coliseum every blood moon. Lynel Hooves and Molduga Guts are easy to collect and have extra to sell at a good price.
• Extra armor is great to sell and can be easily obtained with Amiibos (if you have them all - I have the cards). In my experience, armor didn’t have a high drop rate until after I finished 2/4 regional phenomena

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Rocket Shields
Oromuwak Shrine (east of Rito Village). I visit here regularly to stock up on Rocket Shields.
Zonaites and Crytalized Charges

• Save Zonaite for Autobuild only
• Save Large Zonaites for Armor Upgrades only
• Best Way to get Crystalized Charges is defeat all Flux Construct, Hinox, Stone Talus, Frox, and Gleeok in the depths. They will always give you 20 crystalized charges.
• After you beat each regional boss on the surface, 3 of them will respawn in the Depths and give you 100 crystalized charges each after the first kill.
• Floating Colieseum is an excellent place to stack up on strong weapons and get 100 crystalized Charges)
• Plenty of chests in the Depths that have 20 Crystalized Charges
• Every Frox location has a small cluster of Zonaite
• Large Zonaite Deposits are basically ripoffs, you get very little for the effort

Hudson Signs

• Hudson Signs can be dependent on time or weather or something
• My last 2 were Lodrum Headland and Gerudo Canyon Stable

Horses
4-4-5-3 Stat Horses Found Southeast of Bublinga Forest
Gems Info

• Sapphire and Opal are the hardest? In addition to the breaking Rare Ore Deposits, Frost Talus’ are a good source for Sapphire and Opal
• 4 Ruby’s at Simosiwak Shrine
• Dondons seemed like a waste of time for me.
• Turn your sensor on in Death Moutain to target Rare Ore Deposits and mark them on the map to visit every blood moon.
• Luminous stones: Sky Mine (northeast corner of Sky Map), West Necluda Sky Archipelago (north of Ukoojisi Shrine), South Hyrule Sky Archipelago (west of Jinodok Shrine), Maw of Death Mountain Lakes

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How to get Stars

• Fast travel to Gerudo Canyon Skyview Tower
• Rest until Night.
• Walk up the ramp and launch yourself into the air.
• After being launched, point the camera down and begin diving. A star will eventually fall for you to claim.
• Descent back to the ground at Gerudo Canyon Skyview Tower and rest until night again.
• Fast travel to Typhlo Ruins Skyview tower. Launch, look down, catch star. (Or Mayam Shrine above Thyphlo Ruins)
• As soon as you catch start, you can warp right back to Gerudo Canyon Skyview Tower. Rest until Night. Rinse and Repeat.

Notes: You can do this with any of the other Skyview Towers below, but you must rest until night in between each star. Gerudo Canyon Skyview Tower seems to be the most convenient because there is a cooking pot next to Pikango at the base of the tower.
Also works with (not confirmed on my end)

• Gerudo Canyon
• Gerudo Highlands
• Rabella Wetlands
• Mount Lanaryu
• Ulri Mountain
• Eldin Canyon
• Sahasra Slope

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Silent Princess and Blue Nightshade
(-2476, -0646, 0208)
Milk

• Dantz in Hateno Pasture (Trade 3 acorns for 1 milk)
• Hateno Village General Store

Acorns

• Sage Temple Ruins

Dragon Parts

• Dragon claws from each dragon for the Goddess Statues Side Quest
• Dragon parts respawn every 10 minutes so if you’re trying to farm any parts and want to be a little lazy, you can ride the dragon continuously and set a timer for 10 mins, collect part, then repeat. Be sure to save every now and then (One time I collected parts for 1.5 hours, stepped away from the game and died and lost everything). Also, with the exception of the Light Dragon, you will fall off the dragon unless you adjust yourself as they go in and out of the Depths.

Beetles

• Big tree at Rutile Lake has 3-4 of each Beetle Type (-2470, -0610, 0202)
• Bronas Forest for Beetles

Hinox

• Hinox guts come from Black Hinoxes (need 15)

Black Lizalfos

• Tall Circular Rock north of Gerudo Desert Gateway and west of Gerudo Canyon Stable (use sky tower)
• West of Tabahl Woods Cave (southwest of Zora’s Domain)
• Veiled Falls (west of Zora’s Domain)
• Northeast of Upland Zorana (northwest of Toto Lake)
• North of Luto’s Crossing (just west of Ruto Lake name on small island)
• South of Ralis Pond
• Southwest of ebon Mountin (closer to the water)
• North of Keya Pond (intersects with Hanu pond, southwest of Ebon mountain)
• West side of Riola Spring (southwest of Mount Floria)
• North of Mount Hylia (and south of River of the dead)
• Gohma like skeleton, east of Gerudo town, west of Palu Wasteland

Black Boss Bokoblin

• Mystathi’s Shelf (Gerudo Highlands)
• West end of Vatorsa Snowfield (Gerudo Highlands)
• NW of Eastern Abbey (Great Plateau)
• SE corner of Aquame Lake in a half skull encampment (Hyrule Field near Coliseum Ruins)
• Halfway between Lanayru Bay and the Spring of Wisdom/ Mt Lanayru Skyview Tower (Lanayru)
• Varies since the game seems to scale some of these for some but not others even though they have story completed and a lot of hours as well.
• West Passage of Hyrule castle. Coords -0450, 0909, 0012. The entrance is closer to the castle gates where you’ll find a minecart that takes you to the room they’re in (just north of name label Hyrule Caste Moat)
• Another Black Boss Bokoblin in the depths at (-2097, -1510, -0692) near a Flux Construct I, and is underneath Nephra Hill (west of Digdogg Suspension Bridge)
• Depths north of Dueling Canyons Mine at 1332, -1547, -0646 (fixed)

Red Boss Bokoblin

• Patrolling just south of Talonto Peak in the Hebra region, along the path you travel to find Tulin at the peak during Rito storyline. There are actually two boss bokoblins here, with one on a higher and slightly more eastern shelf and the other slightly lower and westward shelf just above an entrance to Hebra South Summit Cave; the first one is the non-scaling red one, and the second scales. Thought I’d mention it because I and another commenter found the scaling one first.)
  
• On the skull bridge west of Mount Gustaf (west of Lookout Landing), between the Hyrule Ridge and Hyrule Plains regions.
  
• Patrolling the Maritta Exchange Ruins north of Lindor’s Brow in the Hyrule Ridge region.
  
• Patrolling in the middle of Seresa Scablands in the Hyrule Ridge region.
  
• In the Royal Ancient Lab Ruins in North Hyrule Plain, just north of New Serenne Stable
  
• Southeast Lookout Landing and Mabe Village Ruins in Hyrule Field
  
• South of the East Deplian Badlands in the Eldin Mountains, on a landing to the northwest of the Isle of Rabac (east of Thyphlo Ruins)
  
• On Zauz Island in the Lanayru Wetlands, directly east of Wetland Stable
  
• South of Mount Daphnes in Hyrule Field, between the mountain and the Exchange Ruins
  

Blue Lizalfols

• Warp to Zakusu Shrine, in the Naydra Snowfield near Mount Lanayru. There are about 6 in this area going up around the mountain and around the edges of the snowfield.
• Warp to the Niuzimod Lightroot in the depths, in the Ancient Underground Fortress, this is underneath the Akkala Citadel Ruins on the surface. There are about 4-5 here as well
• Another location for one blue Lizalfos: 2991, - 0215, 0278. It's the blue water area between Zobodon Highlands and Ruto Mountain, just south southwest of Zora's Domain
• Found some in the Lanayru region here: ** 4023, - 1664, 0345 (Lanayru Range - A platform of about 3 blue Lizalfos)
• Madorna Mountain - Another platform with 2 blue (3808, - 1660, 0329)
• North of Nadrya Snowfield Chasm - 1 blue under a tent with an icy Lizalfos (3601, - 1128, 0263)

Captain Construct I locations

• (1) In-isa shrine on great sky island - captain I
• (1) Ijo-o Shrine West Hebra Sky Islands
• (1) Rasitakiwak Shrine, southeast of Tarrey Town. 4166 1323 0229
• (1) Yansamin Shrine, Zonaite Forge Island, in sky above Fort Hateno. Other bots wield weapons with a captain 1 horn and a captain 2 horn. (2350 - 1782 1475)
• (1) Simosiwak Shrine, Bravery Island, in sky above Korok Forest. (Also, three rubies and a ruby sword, for 420 rupees every blood moon) (0163 1972 0759)

Captain Construct II locations

• (1) Nouda Shrine, inside Kopeeki Drifts Cave, east of Rito Village. -2318 2201 0173
• (1) Zakusu Shrine, Naydra Snowfield, west side of Mount Lanayru. 3527 - 1482 0168
• (1) Sifumim Shrine, overlooking Lurelin Village. 2826 - 3271 0078
• At the east end of the Lake Siela supply river, east of Kakariko Bridge, south east of the Pilars of Levia. Basically the line formed by the Pilars of Levia point south east to a camp of Constructs, one of which is a Captain II. 2248, -1429, 0026.
• Where the old bowling game used to be south of snowfield stable, east of nouda shrine -1974, 2144,0253
• Kanalet ridge in akkala highlands, north east of shrine by south akkala stable (3244,2000,0160)
• East of proxim bridge, north of hills of baumer, north of popla foothills sky view tower
• Wellspring island, up and southwest of Igoshon Shrine 3340 0538 1353

Captain Construct III locations

• Two in Typhlo Ruins, north of Korok Forest + eventually (2) soldier construct IV + 1 Soldier Construct III
• Two in a sea fort between Clarnet Coast and Aris Beach, west of Lurelin Village. 2 Captain Construct III + 3 Soldiers Construct III + 1 Soldier Construct IV
• South of Tarry Town, north of Ulria Grotto

Horriblins
Desert Colosseum
Gibdo Wings
Gerudo Underground Cemetery
Sand pits
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Shopping
Restock Shops
To restock any shop in Tears of the Kingdom, here is what you will have to do.

1. Buy out the item in the shop until there are none left.
2. Take out wood and flint to make a fire.
3. Rest by the fire till the next day.
4. Manually save the game.
5. Load the game from the save you just made.

Hateno General Store
Hylian Rice x5 (need 38 + recipes)
Swift Carrot x10 (need 10 + horses + recipes)
Bird Egg x5 (need 12 + recipes)
Fresh Milk x3 (need 66 + recipes)
Goat Butter x5 (Need 84 + recipes)
Kakariko General Store
Aerocuda Eyeball x3 (need 42)
Aerocuda Wing x3 (need 48)
Kakariko General Store Trissa
Goat Butter x5 (need 84 + recipes)
Swift Carrot x12 (need 10 + horses + recipes)
Bird Egg x5 (need 12 + recipes)
Fortified Pumpkin x3
Lookout Landing General Store
Hylian Rice x3 (need 38 + recipes)
Fresh Milk x4 (need 66 + recipes)
East Akkala Stable
· 3 Sticky Frog (need 30)
· 3 Smotherwing Butterfly (need 15)
Lakeside Stable
· 2 Sticky Frog
· 3 Thunderwing Butterfly (need 9)
· 2 Hightail Lizard (need 21)
South Akkala Stable
· 2 Sticky Lizard (need 24)
· 3 Hightail Lizard (need 21)
· 2 Fireproof Lizard (need 15)
Woodland Stable
· 3 Cold Darner (need 15)
· 3 Fireproof Lizard (need 15)
Kara Kara Bazaar General Store
Green Lizalfos Tail x3 (need 18)
Riverside Stable
· 5 Hylian Rice (need 38)
· 3 Thunderwing Butterfly (need 9)
· 3 Electric Darner (need 15)
Tabantha Bridge Stable
· 4 Fire Fruit (need 9)
· 3 Summerwing Butterfly (need 15)
· 3 Winterwing Butterfly (need 15)
· 3 Thunderwing Butterfly (need 9)
New Serenne Stable
· 4 Warm Darner (need 15)
· 4 Sunset Firefly (need 15 + 10 + 10)
Kara Kara Bazaar
· 5 Summerwing Butterfly (need 15)
· 5 Cold Darner (need 15)
Snowfield Stable
· 3 Summerwing Butterfly (need 15)
· 3 Warm Darner (need 15)
Kara Kara Bazaar
Summerwing Butterfly x5 (need 15)
Cold Darner x5 (need 15)
Foothill Stable
· 3 Thunderwing Butterfly (need 9)
Wetland Stable
· 3 Smotherwing Butterfly (need 24)
Rito Village General Store
Goat Butter x5 (need 84 + recipes)
Cane Sugar x3 (need 24 + recipes)
Tabantha Wheat x3 (need 42 + recipes)
Sunshroom x4 (need 15)
Korok General Store
Tabantha Wheat x2 (need 42 + recipes)
Hylian Rice x3 (need 38 + recipes)
Cane Sugar x3 (need 24 + recipes)
Goron General Store
Cane Sugar x3 (need 24 + recipes)
Goron Spice x3 (need 12 + recipes)
Zora General Store
Hylian Rice x4 (need 38 + recipes)
Swift Violet x4 (need 90)

We been having issues in our marriage & I kept telling him what I needed from him so i would heal. He used to like sexy women on instagram & had a few chats with a woman he had a thing with in the past one message that I read said “ we would of had sex if you had a condom “ my husband replied back “ yes I know” instead of him shutting that down & stop being friends. Then later he started doing OF “only fans “ when we worked some stuff out he was still doing it behind closed doors when I thought we were good. He spent almost $700 on women but didn’t surprise me with small gifts like flowers or take me on a date. But he spent money on other females. That hurt me more… then he finally deleted instagram… recently added it back on because he wanted to help a friend promote disc golf stuff. Then I started thinking about everything he’s put him through. Shortly a few months later he’s busy with work more bc he’s active navy but he goes to play one day out of the weekend disc golf ALL day sometimes a full weekend Saturday/Sunday at least every 4-6 weeks. But he’s tired the day he’s actually off. So I’ve been telling him I don’t feel connected to him, that I need to feel loved & wanted & work on our marriage because we have problems. I finally snapped big time & now we are in the separation stage where we are taking turns sleeping in different places in the house. It’s weird because all the small things that meant something stopped… now what do we have ? Because he’s saying we need to work on ourselves… but then come to find out he’s been getting closer to a female co worker this past year so he just told me that he finally realized how much he’s hurt me & how our marriage isn’t healthy & I don’t deserve this & he wants me to heal & for him to be better. But took him over 7 years to realize all the pain he caused me? But he made a BEST Friend that’s a girl & he said “ I was there for her during cancer, during her custody battle with the ex , she opened up to me about when she got raped & we had the cancer thing in common because of my family has been through it. He’s offered her that if any emergency that she can call him & he will help if he can ( but he needs to get me & her to meet each other) like what? How do you allow yourself to get that close to a female & say you didn’t get emotional connected to her? Because I’m telling him how I feel he’s tired from work & he doesn’t have patience with me or my emotions & I been over thinking that maybe he’s doing too much at work for work related plus with this friend that he’s so close to …. I’m really hurt. Because we met when I was a single mom I fell in love with him less than 6 weeks because he was so sweet & caring & now he’s telling me he’s there for her & offering his help to her. I feel like I’m not important to him.
I even mentioned to him to call his mom to talk to him because she will understand what I’m going through & I gave an example to him saying @ because your dad did nice gesture & it lead to an affair sexual affair… he got so mad & said I’m nothing like my dad … his dad lied & cheated to his mom before that happened. But the gesture situation was his mom’s best friend the god mother.
So he talked to his mom, his mom said as long as you are being open & honest to your wife then I don’t see anything wrong as long as you know your boundaries… so im upset that his mom said that after her best friend got with a married man… how do you know that my husband won’t fall for the woman he told me they are becoming more than just friends… closer friends … yes that’s what he said. Then wants to say best friend. But he doesn’t consider the guys he plays with close friends that he’s been playing for about 2yrs with. But a woman less than a year he feel closer to her & that’s his best friend!!!
Also she talks to him about our marriage. After she just finalized her divorce. He’s saying that she is trying to help him to reconnect with me.
I’m heartbroken right now. Because he wants to now use the whole thing that I brought up his parents as an example. Saying that I hurt him & broke him even after I explained & how I didn’t compare him to his dad is was an example that a nice gesture can lead to things.
Is my husband trying to find a way out of our marriage? I’m so confused & hurt right now.
I work 24/7 & weeks have 5 kids … 2 from my previous marriage, 3 with him… almost 8 yrs married this summer… I help him pay for half of the bills & I pay for all of our extra expenses when things pop up & pay for vacation. But I feel like I’m not good enough for him as a wife or mother.
My anxiety has gotten worse today. Depression getting bad as well. I struggle with under active thyroid but I try my best to do a lot & this isn’t healthy for me right now I can’t think clearly.
Please help me make sense
Thank you

Good Evening All, I am a senior high teacher and have been for many years, but I am now the parent of a struggling little boy and I feel like it has given me an entirely new insight into the school system. My son is a busy, energetic boy who is dealing with a move to a new community and acting out. According to his teacher he is pestering other students, cannot sit still, and is using inappropriate language (well grade one inappropriate- he’s not swearing). This is all impacting his ability to make friends as the other kids don’t want to play with the “bad kid.” I also have some suspicion he may have adhd, and I’ve arranged a doctors appointment but it is hard to tell if this is his issue or if he is just struggling with all of the changes in his young life. This is a story I’ve seen in my classroom many times, and it is surreal approaching this situation as a parent instead of as the teacher.
My response was to figure out how I could support the teacher and make things better for my son. I arranged a meeting where we could speak to my son, and talk to him about our plan to provide rewards and consequences to encourage good behaviour. I planned to be an extremely supportive parent, but then during the meeting a small thing happened that made me hesitant to be too punitive on my son. I ended up with the impression that this teacher didn’t care about my son, and she probably spent her breaks complaining about him and suddenly I lost a bit of trust for the school system. She of course didn’t say those things but when I tried to discuss some mean things other kids had been saying to my son, and some strategies that set him up for success in his last classroom I felt like she was brushing me off and it was hard to commit to providing a punishment to my son when I wasn’t sure she was being fair to him. I’m probably not being fair to her, but it’s hard to trust someone else with this little person that you care about more than anything in the world.
Now I fully admit I am making a mistake and I’m likely not being as supportive as I need to be. Of course I’m telling my son he needs to behave and I’m trying to offer him incentives to have good days, but I’m not taking away privileges and being angry with him like I thought I would be, and maybe he can sense that and is just playing me. I don’t know. All I know is he comes home and cries because he had a bad day, and he’s lonely and I’m scared for my son. I just don’t know how to help him and letting him feel my disappointment and anger seems like too much right now. I want to be his safe space instead. I want his home to be where he can come home and relax and feel loved.
In my frantic research trying to find some way to help my son I have come across countless other social media posts from mothers whose kids are struggling in school just like mine. It has caused me to reflect on some of my past interactions with students and their parents. Did some of them sense I didn’t care about their child (whether that was true or not)? Did they feel helpless to fix their child’s problem with school?
I don’t know what all the answers are but man it’s breaking my heart.

Hey there!
I hope you all are doing well. This is just a random 24 y/o (F) who feels like she is emptier than vaccum now. Idk why life feels so exhausting. My thoughts keep on spiraling over situations i am dealing with currently and i feel worried about the future. I am an MBA Aspirant, always into good acads but my family is so used-to me scoring good that it's a normal for them. I haven't really had girls i could gel up with. They came when they needed help or guidance over something and then it was a series on unread messages for me when it came to meet-ups. I always take efforts when it comes to keeping the friendship alive, meeting, planning things but they're always brushed off by making any random excuse. What hurts the most is that they don't even reply back so i focus back on studying.
Then my apparent boyfriend (24 M) also has this avoidant behaviour and things feel one-sided now. His sentence that "i need to be selfish when it comes to acads" gets me everytime. Because me. Being an absolute idiot was ready to shift cities when it came to chosing a uni but he had his "selfish" criteria. Funny thing. The reality is boyfriends come and go but we, girls, need a bunch of supportive friends who are there through thick & thin. Do not leave us stranded. But, that's not the case here.
I thought of having a work bestie but what a huge disappointment it was! Toxic manager who used to load me with work with just a 10k salary. Her sister going in and out of office according to her will but i couldn't leave without permission. And when i finally resigned, the directors were "sad because they lost their valuable employee who did work of 3 people" with zero increments.
At this point, i feel i am complaining. But i feel utter sense of having nothing likeable in me as if i have no personality of my own. How can i not resonate with anyone? And most importantly, how do i get out of these obsessive thoughts which are constantly reminding me of bad things? People only come to me cause they know i am an easy access and i will personally make sure that i help them.in some way. Is it good or degradingly bad?
I honestly don't know what to do in lofe anymore. Everything feels so directionless.

This is going to be a long one so heads up.
A bit of back story; I started dating my husband when I was 15. I chased this boy thorugh hell and back just to get a chance. Problems between us were immediate but didn't seem significant at the time. A few months into our relationship he had an adult "friend" that was telling him he needed to get control of me or "put me in my place" (referencing he should hit me). He didn't but the ego it gave him was a hard battel. 8 months into our relationship my mother forced me to move states because I was starting the process of emancipation and she didn't like that. I was still going through with it, it was just a buffer. 2 weeks after I left he was flirting with my friends. We were on and off for 3 months long distance before I said I had enough. When my emancipation was complete (6 months after I moved and about 3 months after we officially split) I let him know because we were still in touch. It was a few days after that he decided he wanted to try things again and came to me. Just a few days of being with me he decided he wanted to go home, with or without me. I reluctantly agreed to go with him even though I was comfortable where I was. We stayed in a trailer for months in the snow with no power or heat but I toughed it out. Eventually we moved in with his family. During that time he broke up with me multiple times to mess aground with other girls. We ended up moving again and he would be gone all the time hanging out with his friends. There were nights I would beg him, crying, for him to just come home and he would refuse We ended up moving again and spent some time with my family (i was 17). 3 days in he called his mom to have someone pick him up. He regretted it and I went and picked him up and brought him back. A few months after that he decided to leave again. 3 days later I was feeling weird. I just had an odd feeling, I didn't miss my period or anything but I had a friend get me a pregnancy test anyway. It came out positive. I didn't want kids, I never did. But I decided to keep the baby because he wanted to. He promised a better life. So he comes and picks me up and we move back in with his family. Everything was going great. Then I miscarried. After the miscarriage he was upset, he was really excited about having a kid. We talk about it and he talked me into trying for one on purpose, his family agreed with this. He promised to drop the weed, drop the beer, get a job and work his ass off for us. That never really happened. So here I am 17, and 5 months pregnant, he has 3 tall cans of beer in his system and starts being an ass. We get into it and he lays his hands on me. I locked him out of the room that night. So he finally drops the alcohol for good. We end up moving again. We got married the day I turned 18 because of his religious family. We fought about the weed and he "quit". But in reality he was just doing it behind my back. He would get mad at me for calling people out on their fake service dogs (I have a service dog and the fakes put me at great risk). He held a job for a really long time, making good money, and spoiling the shit out of me. Eventually we argue about the weed again. I almost left but he said he wouldn't be doing it anymore. Then again we argue about the weed, this time I agree to let him have dab carts. 2 a week. He ended up with between 3-5 a week. Things were really good for a long time after that.
Keep in mind everything I listed was not the entire relationship. Between all these bad moments there are lots of great ones. I have thousands of happy pictures and videos of us.
Now to recently. We moved back to our hometown. He spent a lot of time hanging out with his buddies and leaving me with the baby. He started smoking flower again and had the sudden urge to drink again. I was alone 90% of the time. So where do I go? I have a boy best friend that has been through hell and back with me since the first day of middle school. So I spent a lot of time hanging out with him while my husband was off fucking around like a child. Then the weird questions came in. "Are you doing anything with him while I'm gone?" "Your not cheating on me right?" Ect. No I wasn't. About a week ago I told my bsf I was picking him up from work. While I was in the parking lot waiting my husband calls insiting I pick him up first. I told him no because I didn't have room in the car for both and I was already there waiting. Well that started this whole fit about how asking him to wait 10 minutes was prioritizing my bsf over my husband. Eventually we get to my friends house, and my husband was waiting for us. He was just talking shit and being an ass for 20 minutes before he decided to leave in MY CAR. We argue over text for a while and then he tells me he's done with me. Fine. I give up. I don't care anymore. Then 30 minutes later he's accusing me of cheating with my bsf. He has told all his friends and family that I'm a hoe (my body count is 2 including him and the other one is NOT my bsf). My bsf has been doing his best to take care of me and help me out. Feeding me, taking over the baby, putting gas in my car, letting me stay the night. He's been a life saver for me.
Now it's a week later and he's asking if there is a chance we can work things out in the future... I love him I really do. He has lots of issues tho but so do I. My BPD makes me hard to handle sometimes as do my other mental and health problems.
I'm sure I know what the answer is already but what do I do? I'm a mess.

I’ll try to keep this as short as I can. I’m due to start my PGCE in September. All being well, it’ll be everything I want/expect it to be and I’ll embark on a new teaching career in a year’s time. That said, I know that classroom teaching isn’t for everyone (as the drop out rates indicate) and whilst I’m confident it’s something I will enjoy, I want to ensure I make the most out of the experience whatever I decide to do afterwards.
A big factor in my decision to begin teacher training was how much I’ve enjoyed helping students with their uni applications/interview prep - something I’ve done on a freelance basis for the past 5/6 years - and my hope is that this is something I can get involved with during my upcoming placements (and future career). I’m aware that a lot of international schools actually have dedicated college counselling roles and I’d love to learn more about them.
As I understand it the application process is similathe same as teaching roles but is that where the similarities end? I saw it mentioned under one post that these roles typically follow the teacher pay scale, but another poster suggested the contrary.
In terms of experience, what would a typical candidate profile look like? With teaching roles it seems that their is a general set of expectations/hierarchy of desirable qualities (min. 2 years exp., subject specialism, CPD, Masters etc.), but this doesn’t seem to be the case for college counsellors.
How competitive are they? More/less/equal to teaching roles.
How prevalent are they? Do these dedicated positions only exist within the so-called top tier schools, or are they ubiquitous? Does this vary by country?
Are there any visa differences? For instance, China’s 2 year teaching experience post-certification requirement is pretty clear, but with no college counselling qualification standard, how does it work?
For some context, my background is: Undergrad at Cambridge > Founded a startup (unrelated field)/freelance uni guidance > PGCE Oxford (I cringed writing that, but it’s relevant to the post)
With this in mind, what steps could I take to best position myself for gaining a role as a CC down the road? - My experience is solely restricted to U.K. apps, how best to learn about US/EU/Canada etc? - If I find after my PGCE I’d rather go down this route, am I better getting a teaching role that allows for uni guidance responsibilities (I guess to kill two birds with one stone), OR to move into a full time role with a private education consultancy to build experience? - Is the above even necessary? Might I be eligible for CC roles straight after the PGCE? - Any advice on how I might leverage my time at Oxford with CC in mind? Obviously I’ll be very busy with placements, and the freelance stuff will have to take a back seat, but seeing as it’s where a lot of int. students like to apply, there’s probably some advantages to being in situ and having access to the people there.
I said I’d try to keep things short so I’ll end it there, but I look forward to hearing everyone’s thoughts!
TLDR; For those that are/work with college counsellors, what can you tell me about the role? How to get into it? What can I do as a prospective PGCE student to make myself an attractive candidate for such roles if I decide not to pursue classroom teaching? What makes a good/bad CC?

[M4F/A] Long-Term Literate Vampire: The Masquerade Roleplay / Potential Shadowrun & Cyberpunk Fantasy RP Original Characters 18+ (No Minors)
Greetings, friends! I am Outcast but I also go by Necromes just don't call me late for the graveyard party, huh? Okay I'm sorry.
Anywho, a little tiny bit about me is I am currently 21(M) but turn 22 on the 24th of this month. I have over ten years of writing experience that I am still at times trying to perfect or even change up for every roleplay to find one that suits me. I can write from advanced lit to novella easily. I don't do one liners and I will not roleplay with minors of any age; only 18+. Smut is off the table, I only do romance and slow burn romance at that. I am not here for your visceral satisfaction.
I am here today to offer up a Vampire: The Masquerade TTRPG play-by-post/text-based roleplay within the universe. Now, I must admit that I was a bit hesitant to write this post because I have a few ocs but non of them are properly finished by sheets. The good thing is I'm one of those roleplayers who like to gush over and discuss plots and roleplay a lot before even starting because the care of ocs and plot is just as important to me.
I have been on and off on the VtM fandom since 2019, a friend of mine introduced me to it and I've been hooked to it from a distance for years and after some personal stuff happened I've decided to delve into it solo and its been fun, doing my own thing but doing it solo means I'm alone in it pretty much. I want to have some fun and use them. Let's do that.
We can do quite a lot, a few of my ocs have a specific vibe to them and a setting that I'd prefer to talk about later on since I cannot choose what kinds of plots I want premeditated. I'm honestly in the process of being stuck on adding to my OC lists and want to make more for almost every clan so having somebodu to help create new OCs with is perfectly valid.
I will list a few ocs.

• Samuel Wyrick-Giovanni ; Polish Giovanni capo based in New Orleans.
• Arnie Volkov ; Russian Malkavian who is an extreme conman.
• Drake Mannon ; Highly functioning sociopathic Tremere who was a former cultist. (My personal favorite, but he seems dry to me so I'd like to try him out.)
• Elijah Ardelean ; Ravnos, L.A Anarch who is the Anarch's thieving spy. A pretty boy. Also a cat dad.

I also have a few ocs that are kept as backburners and maybe a few other ocs ideas I intend on making and, hey, who knows maybe these interactions can give me new ideas.
I would prefer to use Drake as he is my newest and most hyperfixated on. I wrote him into a box where he doesn't seem to have much personality when it comes to interactions because I haven't used him yet and he was written for a server that largely has no plot so he has no predetermined goals as of yet and I would like to utilize him and test him out.

Note: I am looking for a long-term relaxed and chill roleplay experience. I have immense ADHD and Autism and get burnt out very quickly and I'd rather take my time to create the best RP response I can muster up than be forced or egged on post after post with no energy. As long as you are okay with varying response window times and are okay with the quality in the end and also have time to chill and talk about OCs on the offtime or on the side then that is perfect.

(Smaller note, a side note if you will; I have recently been trying to get into Shadowrun and have been itching for a Shadowrun/Fantasy Sci-Fi Cyberpunk RP so if you want to undermine this for that go right ahead because I'm addicted to both rn. [I'm still a rookie.])

• If you're down with Shadowrun/Cyberpunk Fantasy, I've got an orc male, young rookie on a rep and revenge kick. Had two cybernetic arms and carries dual pistols, is kind of a hardheaded weapons expert who comes from a family of mercenaries. Specialist in certain things just not professionalism, etiquette, or business finesse and can be considered the brute. Hes a good guy, a lot of personal baggage and personal rage issues but isn't a psycho case nor a squeaky clean rookie.

If you're down for all of that (sorry for my lack of actual planning.), then shoot me a DM telling me what you think and maybe some of your own ocs pitched because I love hearing about VtM ocs.

Frontiersman No. 0012: Duke Collins
I snapped up in my seat with the notifications sounding on my ship's Heads-Up Display, telling me that I'd arrived in the next system. Hopefully this one would have at least something of interest. For 2 years now I had been doing this; going system to system, scanning areas of interest or systems that merit valuable expansion. That's the fate of someone like me. I'm a criminal. It turns out punching your superior officer in United Navy Advanced Flight School is grounds for an immediate court-marshal, and 12 years in a military prison. To be fair though, the guy was a bit of a dick, and I'm pretty sure he had it out for me ever since I beat him in the simulators when he was trying to make an example of us new recruits. That aside though, when it was announced that a new program was available for qualified individuals in lieu of serving time, it was a no brainer for me. They stuff you full of experimental hardware/cybernetics, throw you on a decent sized ship filled to bursting with experimental/cutting-edge upgrades and capable of being piloted by one person, and exile you from Humanity controlled space, with the sole mission of exploring. I'm required to make logs while I travel, and leave buoys behind to relay the logs back to the United Terran Systems. So that's me.. Duke Collins, Frontiersman number twelve.
"Aerie, Anything on the scans?", I asked my shipboard AI.
"The nearest planetary body is showing signs of life, Captain." Aerie responded in a cool voice. Her voice was a recent development, in the last 5 months or so. She was one of those experimental things added to the ship when I was tossed out here, and it seems like she's actually getting... smarter? United Terran Systems hasn't really developed AI yet, but I was the lucky sucker to have their first big attempt thrown into my ship. There's a room about 5x7 meters near the aft of the ship filled with all sorts of high-tech storage and processing tech, but about 4 months into our journey my "computer" began requesting stops at resource rich asteroids to harvest materials for our synthesizers, and suddenly I'm performing upgrades to the room that she had developed herself. She turned out to be a great proof of concept, but also my only companion and friend in this lonely journey.
"Don't fuck with me, Aerie, and stop calling me Captain." I replied. She responded with a giggle through the speakers. I knew it was just for my sake, but it made her feel more like a real person, and I appreciated that. I think she liked to emulate organic life as well, for some reason.
Aerie relented, "Nothing of note on the scanners, Duke." She emphasized my name. "Although we aren't in range of all of the planetary bodies yet, and there's a few sizeable gas giants on the opposite side of the star."
"Well, lets get over there, I'm eager to leave another boring system behind." I replied. This job was a way to avoid jail time, if you meet the qualifications, but it was a prison of it's own kind. Spending all of this time in a ship the size of an moderate apartment could get cramped, and being alone this long can start to affect the mind. I seemed to be doing alright, but I honestly think i'm just riding the high of finally having someone to really talk to.
With Aerie's help, we input the coordinates for the opposite side of the start and the FTL drive began to spool. Within a few seconds we were on the opposite side of the star, and lasers were passing over the bow of the ship.
"Aerie, what the hell is going on!?" I shouted, and slammed the throttle to 100%. Inertia Dampeners be damned, it still hurt like hell. In an instant, we were rocketing through space, away from what appeared to be an active engagement.
Aerie chimed in, "Powering up reactive shielding, uh, for the first time. It seems that, while the planets were identified before warping to system, we were unable to identify the ships behind the interference from the local star. Recommend leaving the area."
"Well hold on now, Aerie," I retorted, "scan those ships, lets see what's going on out here." I swung the ship around, from what I believed to be a safe distance, and looked at the active engagement taking place. "Aerie, are those ships... even Terran?". Looking at the vessels, I didn't recognize any of them. One of the ships was shaped like a sleek, white, cylindrical pod, with black glass at the front that was undoubtedly the pilot's viewport. It had a sweeping tail that formed a half-ring loop on the stern of the ship just above the rear thrusters. It rolled and twisted erratically as it attempted to escape it's pursuers.
The attacking ships, at least from the looks of it, were much less graceful. They were a dull, dark brown, almost black, and sported large flat surfaces on the front, in which rested the weapons that were being actively fired at the fleeing vessel. It seemed that whoever created these ships somehow managed to take a few blocky cigar shapes and stuff them together, clearly more function over form. The function seemed to be working as intended though, as shots connected with the fleeing vessel, and engines began to flicker out.
"Scanning...Scanning completed." reported Aerie. "The vessels appear to be of 2 separate make. The lead vessel appears to be a simple transport, and sports no weapons or shielding. The FTL drive function is unknown. In short time, the vessel will be destroyed. The pursuing vessels appear to have some form of laser based weaponry, schematics and build are unknown. There is technology aboard the vessels that I am unable to discern at this time, but I believe some to be a form of very basic shielding, of a completely different function than our own. Recommend vacating the area."
My adrenaline was pumping, the cybernetics in my brain processing the combat at enhanced speeds. I wanted so badly to get involved, to be the hero that saves the day, but I know better. Just because a ship is being chased, doesn't mean that they're the good guys. As if to answer my prayers though, one ship peeled off and began moving my way. I gripped the controls to my vessel and waited.
"Come on... do it. Make my day. I'm so, so bored. Do it. DO IT." I kept thinking to myself. I had no idea what I was up against, but anything was better than rolling through space for another 10 years, and maybe I'd finally be able to put some of that oh-so-expensive schooling that our sweet Terran overlords brag about to some use.
A flash of light. I yank on the control stick, sending my ship into a sideways tumble as laser fire rolls across the length of my ship, barely missing me. My inertia dampeners and cybernetic muscle and bone fibers helping absorb the massive g-forces.
A smile flashes across my face. "Aerie, I have a better idea." Aiming towards the fleeing vessel and it's lone pursuer, I roll the sticks forward, sending us rocketing in their direction, and away from the one that chose me as it's target. "We're going to be heroes."

CANCER ZODIAC TAROT READING - UNEXPECTED INCOME MAY 2024

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Hi Reddit,
I'm in need of some advice regarding my current marital situation and the potential sale of our home. To give you the full picture, I'll start from the beginning. Apologies for the length, but I feel all the details are necessary to understand the context.
I (29F) met my husband (40M) on Tinder four years ago. We dated for about eight months when my family had an opportunity to purchase a property. My then-boyfriend was also looking to be involved in a business deal of that sort, and he was interested in having his name on the property as well. My father supported this, seeing as how my boyfriend was a physician with a good income, and saw this as a way to bring him closer to our family. The opportunity came quickly, and we all signed the contract to purchase the house.
Trouble began shortly after this. My boyfriend requested that only he and I be on the title of the house, removing the rest of my family, as he saw a future with us and envisioned it as our potential family home. My father was very pleased to hear this and supported it, so we obliged. During this time, the property had increased in value, and I requested the other family members be paid off so we could buy out their shares. My boyfriend declined, feeling it was unfair.
To skim over some details, here are the highlights of the construction: My boyfriend paid more for the down payment than we initially realized would be required. Because of this, he paid no further construction costs. The construction proceeded with debt from my family until the construction loans came through. My family paid for the construction, and my father built the house for us without charging for his management services. My father was displeased with my boyfriend’s behavior and required him to pay more money for the construction due to inflation and the COVID shutdown. My boyfriend declined, and my mother and I secretly took out a line of credit to front the construction costs to my father, pretending it was from my boyfriend. Eventually, as we got the construction loans on a rolling basis after meeting construction milestones, my mother’s line of credit was paid off.
During this time, my family and I wondered why my boyfriend had not proposed. I decided that if he hadn't proposed by a certain time, I would leave him. Fortunately, he did propose on Valentine’s Day 2022. By spring of 2022, construction was coming to an end, and it was time for us to settle into the house. My fiancé felt uncomfortable with how much money he had put into the house and was worried I could leave him and make a profit. I promised him I wouldn’t leave him, but it wasn’t enough. He said he would believe me if I had a child with him, otherwise women would leave men if there were no ties. I told him I would have a child with him right when we got married. He suggested I come off birth control, as it takes months for a woman’s cycle to normalize after being on birth control for many years. I promised him I would come off birth control.
Coming off birth control was more stressful than I realized. I was very hormonal, breaking out, and felt unlike myself. This contributed to my fiancé and I fighting more than usual. In one particularly heated fight, I told him I would go back on birth control and even purchased the pills, but he told me he would break up with me if I did because he wanted to get to know the real me. I conceded, and then something switched in me and I became excited at the possibility of having a baby. I started tracking my cycle and figuring out my ovulation days. I shared this with my fiancé, and on one of those days, we got pregnant. I didn’t find out until the end of summer 2022. When I did find out, I told my fiancé and suggested we should probably get married.
My fiancé's first response was that we should wait to see if the baby sticks, and if it does, then we can plan a marriage but he wanted to wait until February 2023. I was very disappointed and angry and yelled at him. I felt alone and overwhelmed by the thought of having an illegitimate child. After discussing potentially getting an abortion, potentially breaking up, and potentially selling the house, I talked my fiancé into keeping the baby and getting married. He also wanted to keep the baby but was afraid of our situation. After many fights about when to have the wedding, we finally decided on December 2022. At that point, I was four months pregnant. During this time, my fiancé and I had major arguments that therapy couldn’t even remedy. We would yell at each other, slam doors, I would cry, and he would hold himself up in a room for hours. We had nice moments too, but they were heavily clouded over by the bad.
Finally, we got married, and things were good for a while. But then we faced some marital problems. My husband kept separate accounts and managed the finances himself. We had a joint credit card where I could pay for expenses without being questioned. He made all of the major investment decisions and major purchases. If I tried to disagree or speak up, he would get upset because this was not the submissive wife I had promised him I would be. I made significantly less money than him but lived a good lifestyle, buying almost anything I wanted within reason. Coming from a traditional family, I was upset that finances were kept separate. And so it continued that my husband would invest tens of thousands of dollars into our house so that his family from out of town would visit. We live in Vancouver, Canada, but his family is from Ottawa. In hopes of luring his youngest sister (of four) to Vancouver, my husband would make any modification to the house that his youngest sister showed the slightest interest in. This included a hot tub on the rooftop, a media system in the basement, a movie projector, and much more. After said sister got married, she made it clear that she would not move to Vancouver. Then a switch happened in my husband, and he suddenly wanted to sell the house.
Meanwhile, during all this time, I had my baby, and my husband and I were still fighting more than ever. I felt no support from him, and he felt drained by his work, our fights, and being away from his family. Recently, for the past three months, he has been consistently pushing for the sale of our house. This is where my dilemma lies. I am afraid to sell this house because my husband has kept finances separate, and the mortgage on this house has been serving as a way for me to feel secure. My husband contributes a monthly amount on a regular basis. He could have forced a sale in the past but didn’t, instead paying into the monthly mortgage on top of other bills. Now, he is considering forcing the sale of our house, but I am upset that he is citing financing as the issue when I have been begging him to save money instead of spending (his response is that $200,000 does not affect a $2M mortgage, and that he now feels burnt out and wants to retire sooner and live passively). If I don’t agree to sell, I feel unstable about moving from our home given that my husband and I fight so frequently, and I am left alone to take care of the child. It is also worth noting that my parents live right across the street and come over frequently to help with the child, or I would go over to seek their help. My husband says that he feels abandoned and uncomfortable frequently because of our proximity to my parents, but I am because there have been times when I felt truly alone, and my parents were my only solace and support. My husband would ignore me for days, especially when I was postpartum and vulnerable. My parents now see my husband as someone who doesn’t put his wife and child first. My husband says that the massive mortgage we have is too stressful for him, and he can’t take that burden. I am sad that my husband will not consider keeping this house for another three years so that I can get comfortable with the idea of selling the house and that potentially I and my family can all move to Ottawa so that we can allow my husband to be closer to his family.
I don’t know what to do at this point, Reddit. I’m currently on extended maternity leave, but it ends in six months. My husband and I will have to come to an agreement about the house, otherwise, it is likely that he will force the sale of the house even if I’m not ready to move. I’ve consistently felt rushed and overlooked in this relationship. I am tired of being the small voice that does not impact decision-making. My husband is now being nice to me and trying to show me a good time, but I see it as him turning on his charming mode so that I can say yes to the sale of this house. I’m not sure what to do. Our fights and disagreements are so bad and the marriage feels like doom sometimes (never any physical violence). I sometimes questions even staying with him, but I worry for my daughter. He is a good father to her, when he is present and off his phone.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks for reading.

Can I ask for some advice about something? What would you do if you are in my place. my best friend let's call her Ruby. Ruby moved about two years ago now, she was going to come back and visit for graduation week and wanted the friend group to hang out like we used to, when i told her i didn't believe it would be possible she has continued to push for us to all hang out. I finally told her the reason that it would not work out she completely ignored me. Now the reason the friend group hanging like we used to won't work out is because this ex friend of mine who I'll call cici randomly after a school essay I wrote quite talking to me and started to spread rumors about me the essay was supposed to carry so sort of theme that means somthing to us so I wrote mine on how it can feel to be in the middle of a friend group that is arguing and not knowing what to do. I will copy and past the essay below the rest of the story. After I turn the essay in cici somehow gets a hold of it and spins it to sound like I'm attacking her and im bullying her and so for the month of February everyone ignores me which really hurt because I had no idea why as they just on day started to ignore me it also was my birthday that month and I had no one to share it with. After a while lila,Taylor and Sara realize what happened and apologized for what they did and I quite trying to communicate with cici. After I quite reaching out to her and trying to protect a dying fire my mental health improves to a point where not only I noticed but my teachers noticed also. Back to my earlier topic I told ruby that I refuse to hang out with cici because she has been treating me like shit and my parents won't even let me see/talk to her outside a school sanctioned event because at are very last sleep over before she she started to ignore me almost ended with me In the hospital because her brother threatened me with a knife and their dog attacked me because i used self defense to get the knife from her brother. During this sleepover cici's parents were awar of what happened and didn't tell my mom so after that I wasn't allowed back to their house. Even after all that I still tried to keep that friendship alive if not only because I cared for cici but also for ruby. Still despite all these reasons ruby refused to split her time between us and Is no longer coming. AITAH for refusing to hang out with someone who has betrayed my trust and put me in a dangerous situation just because my friend who moved away wants us to hang out together?
Here is the essay
Just because your friends are friends doesn’t mean they will always understand. A few days after spring break in 8th grade my friend Cici started hanging out with a girl that the rest of our friend group doesn’t like because she is mean and rude. So we told her what we thought of this girl and that she could hang out with her but we didn’t want to be near a person like that, however Cici did not listen and kept inviting her to hang out with us. My other friend Sara was starting to get really upset because this girl was calling her names and bullying her. This same girl had also left intentional bruises on my body because I told her I already had a partner in pe. Finally, after months and months of off and on fighting it was the last day of school. Sara had finally had enough of how the girl had treated us and snapped as she listed off all the hateful and violent things that this girl had done to me, Lila, Ruby some of our other friends. The girl then started to ball saying how all of us are liars and cici shouldn'tlisten to us about anything that we say. During this entire situation I stayed quiet and listened to what the others had to say, because I wanted to say something but didn't know what to say to fix the situation.For weeks after that cici and sara refused to talk to each other, until I finally managed to get them to both apologize. Then for a while after that everything seemed good. A new girl who I will call Tyler moved to town and we basically absorbed her into the friend group. Things were going well until about four weeks into our ninth grade year. Sara started to be exceedingly hostile the rude girl Cici had been hanging out with sense last year, Which caused fighting to break out. So then Sara started to distance herself from us to hang out with a guy who i also used to consider a friend i will call him jem. Now the reasonme and jem are no longer friendsis becausehe told my to off myself several times over the course of about two months.So as they are hanging out jem is also constantly flirting with her, so we make a joke that they were dating. This caused sara to explode at everyone in the group chat. When she texted in the group chat she directed all of the texts about it to Cici and when I confessed that it was me who was made and the joke she proceeded to say that it was Cici’s fault and that it “ IS NOT SOMETHING TO JOKE ABOUT!! You know what I think of rumors and dating.” We all replied saying it didn't mean for it to be a big deal and we weren't making fun of her that it was only a joke. Sara proceeded to snap back “If we are in relationships with guys, it's not something to joke about. When other people believe it, then it's too much.” So in response Ruby answered with “You literally would make fun of me and my old boyfriend tim back when we were dating.” Then Lila added, “Yeah you make me feel like crap about me and Carl all the time and guess what you coming after Cici being a jerk to Cici for everything saying that everything that everything the "rude girl" knows and does is because of her. There's also the fact that when you tease and make fun of us we are supposed to deal with it, but when we do it to you we are rude horrible people." Sara’s only response to that was “You guys never said that you weren't ok with it. You just need to tell us, and we will stop. No one ever said anything, so we thought it was ok.” I responded with “who is the we in this situation, because I told people to stop when they crossed a boundary and that one of the only people who never listened or apologized for it was lila. I haven't even taken anybody's side throughout this whole situation” after I say this, Sara goes off again. “I'm done ok. Just leave me out of all this. Be your own friend group. I'll be a singular person, and then I won't have to be a burden to anyone. Sorry I was such a bad friend. Also I don't want any pity.” At this point everyone is annoyed and tired of this situation so Ruby speaks up again telling Sara that she is not the main character and to grow up, and that she started it. After this Sara separates herself from us and as a week turns to two weeks then two weeks turns into a month. Between all of the fighting, homework, sports, and everyday stress I start to become irritable and snappy because no matter how much I try to stay neutral to keep peace, Sara and Cici are always fighting. So one time when the fighting over text picks up again I end up snapping at my family and yelling something at them that everyone would probably be happier if i just died. The next day I tried to act like everything was fine. I ended up making it until PE where I ended up breaking down infront of my teacher and skipping school for the rest of the day in the office crying my eyes out to the guidance counselor. I told her everything that happened and that sometimes when I tell my friends things I don't like or feel comfortable with, they sometimes will forget or ignore what i say. Which always makes me angry or sad because I always take the time to understand and respect my friends boundaries. that's when I realized that just because your friends are friends doesn’t mean they will always understand. Despite that fact I will always respect others boundaries even if they don’t respect mine and I will always remind others of my boundaries or distance myself from them. Just because your friends are friends doesn’t mean they will always understand and just because you can/want to say or do something hurtful doesn’t mean that you should. Know where to darw the line.

My boyfriend and I have been in a 16 month LDR, and we met 2 months ago. When we met in person, just the two of us, it was great.
I have 2 children. Dad isn’t involved. My eldest son is sensitive but amazing. My youngest son is so funny but has mild-mid autism.
I was reluctant to date him at first but he slowly showed me he adored me and I fell for him. He even bought me an expensive gift just to see me smile when we were only friends. He was kind, patient, and worships me. Literally, I walk on water to him.
From the beginning, he wasn’t keen on the dad thing, though he said he wanted to try. We didn’t meet straight away because I lived far away but also because I wanted time to get to know him.
He literally wanted me marry me on day one. He wanted to get a tattoo of me on his chest — I had to convince him not to. He got me out of debt. Spent all his savings to help me. Saved a couple of baby birds from the road because I inspired him to do good. He makes me say ten kind things about myself if I say one bad thing about myself. When I needed an Uber he sent me $2500 — what the hell??! He’s broke because of me. I didn’t ask him for money - not once. But I’d be lying if I told you it didn’t help me and my kids a lot. It’s basically meant I could stay in this house I’m renting for 16 months more. He’s listened to me, been there for me.
When we approached our first year together, sure, he didn’t gift me as much or was not as romantic. I wrote a manuscript and asked him to read the first chapter and he said he would only read it to me to help me go to sleep (he used to read to me to help me go to sleep). But I was sad he wouldn’t read it. Little things changed. But I expected them to.
When we met in person, he was wonderful. Charming. Kind. Sex was kinda weird as he is a gamer virgin. He couldn’t pleasure me and I couldn’t make him cum - possibly due to him having sensitivity issues as he touched too hard. This worried me but I put it aside.
Last week, I had major surgery coming up. My boyfriend is broke now, having helped me so much. Nonetheless, he flew to me. On the day he flew, he met my kids for the first time. He barely spoke to them, it was awkward.
My kids were giggling a little at the restaurant we went to. Nothing that would have made me upset at them. My boyfriend didn’t like it though. It was so weird.
When I was in hospital, he’d drive to see me every day for the three days I was there. He cleaned me, fed me, brushed my hair, wiped my butt — he looked after me so well.
Then, when I was at hospital and he was at my house, he heard my mum and my autistic son having a tiff. Basically, my mum got my son out of a morning routine and he was rowdy. I’m not saying his behaviour was good. He was loud and not listening to my mum. Next thing, my boyfriend, who went to bed at 5am playing video games, woke up and screamed at my boys from upstairs “STOP THAT NOW, DONT MAKE ME COME DOWN THERE.” My eldest son was so shook up he was sobbing in the car to school. He was so looking forward to meeting my boyfriend and having a dad at last. His hopes were shattered.
I let this go at first because I needed my boyfriend. But when I got home, my autistic son was complaining about a few things and my boyfriend was visibly irritated though said nothing.
When he got home on his flight, he said my son was a problem and needed to be disciplined. I’m not above disciplinary actions and evoke them often. But my son does have autism. He needs to be spoken to differently.
My family and friends were horrified with what I told them.
I called my boyfriend up, and to bitesize our conversation, he said the following phrases: “I told you I wasn’t ready to be a dad, I’m just some dude.” “I’ll spend time with them if they’re quiet.” “When they are loud they can go to their room.” When i asked, “What if they see a rainbow and are all excited?” He said, “As long as they’re not too loud.” When I told him sometimes you have to talk to my autistic son a little differently, his reply was “I don’t care. I don’t care that he’s got autism. I’m not having him act like that. He needs to be disciplined.”
I was… blindsided. “You’re unbelievable,” I said in shock. He said, “YOURE unbelievable.”
This guy was the man of my dreams. The light at the end of the tunnel. After the horrible relationship I suffered, he was the gift for my troubles. And suddenly I’m preparing to leave him. I don’t get how this happened. How could someone so lovely be like this? A man who cries at movies, who cried at the thought of leaving me to go back home or who cried about how lucky he was to have me only days ago? Throughout this whole year he’s been my champion.
Now my kids hate him and he seemingly hates them. I need advice on what to do. My gut says leave, I can’t trust him alone with my kids, the other a part says I’m being dramatic, just like he said I was being when I was questioning him in shock.
He’s become my whole world, and the dating world for me is not kind. But my kids come first. I’m scared. I don’t know if I’m making the right choice.