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2024.05.15 09:23 midnitedesperadoIV I Don’t think I can move for love
I know I should be talking with my partner about this but I like to lurk on the internet. So my current predicament needs some background. Roughly two years ago I was in a serious relationship for 7 years and my gf at the time (I’m a male) came out to me as gay and moved across the country not too soon after telling me ( we shared a house together and we weren’t married). I think we ended amicably at the end but it still hurt me. During that time I owned a home and hated my job. All of the above occurred in the summer of 2022. As soon as I quit my job and sold my house I started to an accelerated medical program also in 2022. This is where my issue starts. A girl I know we’ll say her name is “Tamara” asked me to be FWB. Tamara knew me from the previous job but in process of her moving up in the company she moved to South Carolina. I currently live up north in the US. So she got in contact with me and wanted to come to the place I moved back to, to come and visit. I said sure because we were pretty good friends. (I want to add the medical program I’m in gives me the ability to work anywhere in the US so I can chose where I complete my clinical hours. This comes into play later). The first visit nothing happened between us. In between visits she asks to be FWB I say yes but tells me it can be messy. I agree. This goes on for a year and a half. Mid way point last year because our relationship was just exclusively FWB we discussed at the beginning that we were free to seek other people out. So I went on few dates. Tamara was not happy with me so I ended up stopping the dates in between her visits. At the point when I stopped the dates I was about to start my clinical rotations and I had an interview for a site coming up. I was unable to get matched in an area near South Carolina which is what Tamara wanted so we could be close. I matched at a place up North an hour from me. So throughout my clinical rotation Tamara has been “gently” encouraging me to move in with her in South Carolina. I have some concerns about moving because I know the area is saturated for the medical job I have and it’s damn near impossible for new grads to get work. So I press on through the program. 1/3 of the way through. I get a message saying we need to talk. I get a phone call from Tamara saying she has an STD and I should get checked. Needless to say I was not happy. A week later I got checked and had it also. I was beside myself. I knew I was being an idiot and I know people make mistakes but I definitely got checked after our encounters but I digress. After this things seemed to have cooled a little. With news of the STD I told her fuck it I’ll just move down after I graduate but I’m still struggling with the idea of fully committing to moving there because of the struggles I will face. Now currently I have a few weeks left of my program and I want to change my mind about moving down and I know it will break her heart but I was doing what was right for her and not for myself. So would I be the asshole for calling things off and staying put to get work experience?
TLDR: I ended a long term relationship. I got into medical school that allows me to work anywhere in the US. An old co-worker hits me up to hang but we live in different states. We become FWB. I get an STD from our interactions which soured my mood a little. I tell her I will move down to be closer to date but now I want to take it back because I know how hard it will be to get a job where she lives currently
Thanks for reading and sorry for any typos! I am writing this pretty late at night.
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TLDR: I ended a long term relationship. I got into medical school that allows me to work anywhere in the US. An old co-worker hits me up to hang but we live in different states. We become FWB. I get an STD from our interactions which soured my mood a little. I tell her I will move down to be closer to date but now I want to take it back because I know how hard it will be to get a job where she lives currently
Thanks for reading and sorry for any typos! I am writing this pretty late at night.
2024.05.15 09:23 realrhaenyra Conflicted about Alicent this season
I started HotD because of my love for GoT, but I stayed for Rhaenyra and Alicent (as characters and as Rhaenicent). I love Rhaenicent like the next person, but I’m not sure how much I really enjoy what I’m seeing in the trailer (which, of course, doesn’t have to be right, they’re teasing us and cutting relevant scenes bla bla, but I feel like Aemond’s “Alicent holds love for our enemy. That makes her a fool” is very clear).
Rhaenyra poses a threat to Alicent’s safety and her children’s and grandchildren’s safety, and especially after B&C, I don’t see why Alicent should still feel anything towards Rhaenyra. I’m for it because Rhaenyra and Alicent are the only characters I really care about, but realistically, it just doesn’t make any sense to put your childhood best friend over your own children and grandchildren — especially because Alicent missed her entire youth and happiness for them (especially Aegon), why wouldn’t she do whatever it takes to see Aegon succeed?
I never read the books, but I would’ve really loved to see a nasty Alicent (like she was in ep6) this season. Still gonna support my favourite girlfailure no matter what though 👯♀️
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Rhaenyra poses a threat to Alicent’s safety and her children’s and grandchildren’s safety, and especially after B&C, I don’t see why Alicent should still feel anything towards Rhaenyra. I’m for it because Rhaenyra and Alicent are the only characters I really care about, but realistically, it just doesn’t make any sense to put your childhood best friend over your own children and grandchildren — especially because Alicent missed her entire youth and happiness for them (especially Aegon), why wouldn’t she do whatever it takes to see Aegon succeed?
I never read the books, but I would’ve really loved to see a nasty Alicent (like she was in ep6) this season. Still gonna support my favourite girlfailure no matter what though 👯♀️
2024.05.15 09:22 yayatabs Returning to your previous employer — is it worth it?
(reposting this as mod removed my orig post due to a vague title 😅)
Hello! I’m friends with my former boss sa FB kaya naman updated pa rin kami sa buhay ng isa’t isa haha (I’ve had a good relationship naman with her so no worries on that). Recently, I shared a memory sa stories ko about my regularization sa kumpanya two years ago then nag-reply siya asking me to back na kasi yung main reason ko for leaving (AKA terror boss) has already transferred and the workload is “relatively lighter” na than before. This wasn’t the first time na inoffer niya sa akin ito—siguro sa lahat ng interactions namin after I left, talagang sinasabi niya ito sa akin.
I’m happy naman with my current setup kasi WFH + may HMO but financially, medyo nalulungkot ako kasi I low-balled myself before, like 5k lang tinaas sa dati kong salary dahil I was really eager na makaalis na (imagine my mental health was suffering that much that I was willing to accept any job even with a small salary increment). 🥲
Sa dati ko kasing job, may 14th month, uniform allowance, performance bonuses, Christmas gift, living allowance, etc. which are not in my compensation package right now. I also have a chance to study abroad because supported talaga ng company to pursue further studies. With the increasing prices and all, I think magiging malaking tulong talaga ito sa akin huhu.
Also, I’m feeling a little sad din kasi sa work ko ngayon kasi feeling ko hindi kami same wavelength ng mga kasama ko while in my previous work, I’ve already established strong relationships sa co-workers, even up to the big bosses.
Please help your confused manggagawa to decide.
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Hello! I’m friends with my former boss sa FB kaya naman updated pa rin kami sa buhay ng isa’t isa haha (I’ve had a good relationship naman with her so no worries on that). Recently, I shared a memory sa stories ko about my regularization sa kumpanya two years ago then nag-reply siya asking me to back na kasi yung main reason ko for leaving (AKA terror boss) has already transferred and the workload is “relatively lighter” na than before. This wasn’t the first time na inoffer niya sa akin ito—siguro sa lahat ng interactions namin after I left, talagang sinasabi niya ito sa akin.
I’m happy naman with my current setup kasi WFH + may HMO but financially, medyo nalulungkot ako kasi I low-balled myself before, like 5k lang tinaas sa dati kong salary dahil I was really eager na makaalis na (imagine my mental health was suffering that much that I was willing to accept any job even with a small salary increment). 🥲
Sa dati ko kasing job, may 14th month, uniform allowance, performance bonuses, Christmas gift, living allowance, etc. which are not in my compensation package right now. I also have a chance to study abroad because supported talaga ng company to pursue further studies. With the increasing prices and all, I think magiging malaking tulong talaga ito sa akin huhu.
Also, I’m feeling a little sad din kasi sa work ko ngayon kasi feeling ko hindi kami same wavelength ng mga kasama ko while in my previous work, I’ve already established strong relationships sa co-workers, even up to the big bosses.
Please help your confused manggagawa to decide.
2024.05.15 09:20 Frequent-Relation-64 Give me Some tips please !
So, it was like end of kartik of 2080 , this girl sent me friend request after chatting publicly in a random study group . I had no such expectation that a girl would send me friend request i accepted it 😅, She messaged me first , we began to talk , it seemed like she was quite interested in me , i just gave 12th boards from science stream so we usually talked about studies but she used to change the topic and switch to random topic and daily activites topic . It was fun to talk to her , she used to give reply within a second , long long messages , jati khera msg garyo uti kherai herihalne , quick response . I never got attention during my school days neither in college but this girl made me feel so special like , she cared for me alott even if it was online , I fell in love with her 😅 , I used to chat with her till 1 am after studying for 12 to 13 hrs a day , i literally used to have the best feeling in the world by thinking its all worth it to talk to her after hustling all day long , she was damn beautiful , like really gorgeous , time passed and we used to talk daily , i could never confess in the fear of getting blocked or losing her 😔, she used to send me questions , i used to solve them asap , and when exam came near , i was fully prepared so after teaching my friends online , i used to wait whole day for her to come online just to talk , but all of sudden she started to give dry replies like ok , lala , eh , ay . I first thought it was all normal then again she started reading my messages late although i didnt let my studies go bad for this as i have to make my parents proud , still it hurted me , the exam went fucking awesome , i was in the hope aba ta exam sakkiyo aja samma ramrari kura garexaina aba ta ramro sanga kura garchu u sanga , note : i never had a female friend , never talked to a girl my entire life . So she was like very very special to me that i cant even express in my word . I dont think I will ever be able to love any other girl the way i loved her , I still miss that sweet girl who made me smile after so busy day. One thing more , I fell in love with her without even listening her voice . Time passed , ani yo exam vyaiyepachi ta afai message aauna pani xodyo , reply matra tei pani max two word wala hunthyo . I am an artist , web developer , app developer I woke up all night just to create her sketches so that she can be happy and all she said was thankyou which also became so big thing for me . It hurts and kills you from inside when your favourite person is everytime online but can go all the day without texting you 😔, she came to my life when i needed noone and now ignoring me when i am only interested in her , shit man , i wish if i had never met her , every day is getting more worse by seeing dry replies from her . I dont know what to do this shit is killing me from inside , she roams in my mind 24/7 . . Fuck man ,I never thought getting attached to someone would cost my this much mental breakdown . Is there somebody who can suggest me something ? Should i still text her or leave , i am literally fucked up mentally 😫
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2024.05.15 09:16 Exact-Anybody1734 My brother has turned into a pretentious jerk
Hi Reddit, so I’ll try to keep this as concise as possible while still giving you all the facts. Let us start from the beginning, my at the time 21 y.o. step-brother, was going through his first big break up. Instead of confiding in others or taking time to understand his emotions he instead picked up a book about the stages of love. Let me also explain that my brother has never been the smartest guy and mainly gets by on his good looks and charm in his life. Anyway this book gave the usual “love requires fighting to work it shows that you care about the other” you know stuff everyone already knows. I’m guessing because it came from a book ,or because it was plainly saying what he was too naive to understand about what he was feeling, he became infatuated with every line. Anytime I would have relationship problems he would quote the self help books he had read since and recommend me ones to read. This went on for while but eventually I finished nursing school and moved out of my family’s house (which is my mother’s house, this is important for later) to start working.
Now fast forward to four years later. I’m living on my own with my the love of my life, working the night shift in the hospital like I’ve always wanted. On my way home on night I called my mom to catch up on my drive home. We started talking and eventually I asked about my step-brother. She explained that he was still living at home and had no plans on getting a job or moving out (for context my brother graduated with a master’s degree a year ago). I found that odd and asked what he is doing now. My mom explained that he just makes music and does podcasts with his friends. He apparently says he wants to be an entrepreneur. Which is fine everyone wants to make it big doing what they love doing however. My mother also explained that he constantly invites people she doesn’t know to her house to hangout and when she gets off of work she comes home to strangers that expect her to cook for them. My mother then started tearing up saying “I don’t feel like it’s my house anymore”. That’s when I got upset. I asked her why doesn’t she kick him out or at least start asking for rent so he has to get a job. She explained that she wanted to do that but my step father wouldn’t allow it. My mother and step father have a wonderful marriage and never fight, but because my stepbrother is his son he has attachment to him. My mom recently had to kick her daughter (my blood related sister) into the camper as well since my step sister (19 y.o.) lets her boyfriend stay on weekends in what used to be the girls room. My mother keeps explaining that all of these situations are putting stress on their marriage and by kicking out her daughter she feels like she betrayed her just so my stepfather’s kids can get their way in her house.
After this phone call I was livid so I called my step brother to confront him. After asking the normal “hi how are you” I asked if he has started looking for a job and he said “why would I?”. I responded “so you can work and move out”. Then he said “im in my 20s this is the time you are supposed to chase your dreams” he then pointed out that I always wanted to be a YouTuber or streamer and I should go for it. I then said you know I have a job now and I have to give that job a lot of my time in order to afford the life I live. He basically laughed and explained that there is always enough time. Not much important was said after that.
Now fast forward a few weeks later I see posts from his Instagram talking about how “social media is poison, take back your life, put down your phone, etc.” (Crazy to post that on social media btw). I have also come across his podcast which are just him and his friend who both have the combined IQ of a beheaded chicken explain that the universe is big and has like billions of stars and stuff. 0.0 his entire personality now is saying basic facts at the surface level and then acting like it’s deep as fuck. Furthermore the constant insistence on following your passion mixed with the complete ineptitude of being able to comprehend how smug and pretentious he is during any interaction has breed some real distain from anyone who can see through his act.
All of these posts about self help combined with the complete ignorance of how his actions putting a negative effect on our family has really put a barrier between us. I really don’t think I can take it anymore and I want to either try to explain that he has become a pretentious douche who only keeps around yes men who all think a fact for 5th graders they learn at the zoo makes them better than everyone else, but I honestly think he will just say I don’t understand or maybe I should read this book about stress. I’ve went over the situation with friends of mine and they all laugh when they see his posts and hear him talk now. For God sake he held his 25th birthday party recently and said for everyone to bring a book to exchange knowledge to one another and wear business casual.
I just want my mom to feel like the home she worked tirelessly as a single mother all those years to afford for our family is hers. I have always been so close to my brother and I want him back as a friend. I want my sister to be able to live in the house she was raised in instead of in a camper.
Well that’s everything as of now left out a lot of stories about him being directly wrong about facts he tells us or times he got called out and embarrassed about shit but I think I’ll just leave it here. I plan on confronting him soon I just don’t know what to say. Thank you for your time.
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Now fast forward to four years later. I’m living on my own with my the love of my life, working the night shift in the hospital like I’ve always wanted. On my way home on night I called my mom to catch up on my drive home. We started talking and eventually I asked about my step-brother. She explained that he was still living at home and had no plans on getting a job or moving out (for context my brother graduated with a master’s degree a year ago). I found that odd and asked what he is doing now. My mom explained that he just makes music and does podcasts with his friends. He apparently says he wants to be an entrepreneur. Which is fine everyone wants to make it big doing what they love doing however. My mother also explained that he constantly invites people she doesn’t know to her house to hangout and when she gets off of work she comes home to strangers that expect her to cook for them. My mother then started tearing up saying “I don’t feel like it’s my house anymore”. That’s when I got upset. I asked her why doesn’t she kick him out or at least start asking for rent so he has to get a job. She explained that she wanted to do that but my step father wouldn’t allow it. My mother and step father have a wonderful marriage and never fight, but because my stepbrother is his son he has attachment to him. My mom recently had to kick her daughter (my blood related sister) into the camper as well since my step sister (19 y.o.) lets her boyfriend stay on weekends in what used to be the girls room. My mother keeps explaining that all of these situations are putting stress on their marriage and by kicking out her daughter she feels like she betrayed her just so my stepfather’s kids can get their way in her house.
After this phone call I was livid so I called my step brother to confront him. After asking the normal “hi how are you” I asked if he has started looking for a job and he said “why would I?”. I responded “so you can work and move out”. Then he said “im in my 20s this is the time you are supposed to chase your dreams” he then pointed out that I always wanted to be a YouTuber or streamer and I should go for it. I then said you know I have a job now and I have to give that job a lot of my time in order to afford the life I live. He basically laughed and explained that there is always enough time. Not much important was said after that.
Now fast forward a few weeks later I see posts from his Instagram talking about how “social media is poison, take back your life, put down your phone, etc.” (Crazy to post that on social media btw). I have also come across his podcast which are just him and his friend who both have the combined IQ of a beheaded chicken explain that the universe is big and has like billions of stars and stuff. 0.0 his entire personality now is saying basic facts at the surface level and then acting like it’s deep as fuck. Furthermore the constant insistence on following your passion mixed with the complete ineptitude of being able to comprehend how smug and pretentious he is during any interaction has breed some real distain from anyone who can see through his act.
All of these posts about self help combined with the complete ignorance of how his actions putting a negative effect on our family has really put a barrier between us. I really don’t think I can take it anymore and I want to either try to explain that he has become a pretentious douche who only keeps around yes men who all think a fact for 5th graders they learn at the zoo makes them better than everyone else, but I honestly think he will just say I don’t understand or maybe I should read this book about stress. I’ve went over the situation with friends of mine and they all laugh when they see his posts and hear him talk now. For God sake he held his 25th birthday party recently and said for everyone to bring a book to exchange knowledge to one another and wear business casual.
I just want my mom to feel like the home she worked tirelessly as a single mother all those years to afford for our family is hers. I have always been so close to my brother and I want him back as a friend. I want my sister to be able to live in the house she was raised in instead of in a camper.
Well that’s everything as of now left out a lot of stories about him being directly wrong about facts he tells us or times he got called out and embarrassed about shit but I think I’ll just leave it here. I plan on confronting him soon I just don’t know what to say. Thank you for your time.
2024.05.15 09:15 Vanessatyr Me (25F) and partner (25M) has met with some conflicts. How can we fix this connection again?
Im sorry if my story may be too long and confusing due to my english but please be kind to me!
Background story on us: We have been together since we were 19yo and are part of each other's life almost every other day. We do not normally hang out with friends and we only have each other to rely on and we are happy about that. We are really close as in we share and talk about everything, our meal, our schedules, our plans. We do not have any other worrying conflicts like financial stress etc.
The problem: My partner and i have consistently been bickering over the same issue and he wants to break up now claiming he needs peace and alone time. He also mentioned that he will not come back unless fate brings us together again. He has an avoidant attachment style while i have anxious attachment which results to the conflict. I do not wish to end our connection as i know how special it is to both of us.
Our conflict was due to me constantly questioning and accusing him of things that he did not do such as 'are you hiding your phone from me?' 'Who texted you?' 'What you doing?' Etc. which resulted him to be frustrated. As he is an avoidant, he held it in for a long time by himself and recently burst out mentioning break up. This is the second time the same thing happened. I also believe that this happened because he is very tight on time due to his national service where he needs to attend day and night shifts and after that still have to entertain my nonsenses.
My take on this is, this is mostly my fault as i am aware that he doesn't like those questionings but i still prevent controlling myself and push it through every time. However, this is also due to my partner having issue on expressing his feelings properly which makes have doubt on our relationship, thus the questioning.
I'm facing a very hard time as my partner is insisting that things will not change and will constantly resurface despite telling him that we can both work on a common ground on how we prefer to be loved. He also states that even so, there will always be a dent in our relationship and it will never be the same, while i believe that dents can be fixed and things will get better. He mentioned that he cant upkeep this responsibility of having a girlfriend.
Based on how much i know him, he has an avoidant attachment style where he tend to shut down and avoid conflicts. I believe that this so called solution that he came up with is with his mind and not his heart. I know how much he cherish our relationship and how much i meant to him. We have still been in contact since it happened (6days ago) and on-off talked about our issue with him insisting this is the best decision for us even though it may seem selfish. Throughout, he has also been checking up on me and updating me about his life daily. He also said things like 'Im already feeling empty without you', 'I was wrong, but idw this to happen' and 'I know i'll regret this in the future but its better for us'
I really want to know how can i get him to understand that we can always work together to fix our problem? Ofc, I will amend on my mistake of being overly sensitive and insecure because he is all that i ever wanted. Time and space will also be given to him as i am aware that previously i had over-invaded his personal time and space. Definitely not only i have to change but him too. I just don't know how to get him to agree on fixing us together and communicating instead of breaking up.
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Background story on us: We have been together since we were 19yo and are part of each other's life almost every other day. We do not normally hang out with friends and we only have each other to rely on and we are happy about that. We are really close as in we share and talk about everything, our meal, our schedules, our plans. We do not have any other worrying conflicts like financial stress etc.
The problem: My partner and i have consistently been bickering over the same issue and he wants to break up now claiming he needs peace and alone time. He also mentioned that he will not come back unless fate brings us together again. He has an avoidant attachment style while i have anxious attachment which results to the conflict. I do not wish to end our connection as i know how special it is to both of us.
Our conflict was due to me constantly questioning and accusing him of things that he did not do such as 'are you hiding your phone from me?' 'Who texted you?' 'What you doing?' Etc. which resulted him to be frustrated. As he is an avoidant, he held it in for a long time by himself and recently burst out mentioning break up. This is the second time the same thing happened. I also believe that this happened because he is very tight on time due to his national service where he needs to attend day and night shifts and after that still have to entertain my nonsenses.
My take on this is, this is mostly my fault as i am aware that he doesn't like those questionings but i still prevent controlling myself and push it through every time. However, this is also due to my partner having issue on expressing his feelings properly which makes have doubt on our relationship, thus the questioning.
I'm facing a very hard time as my partner is insisting that things will not change and will constantly resurface despite telling him that we can both work on a common ground on how we prefer to be loved. He also states that even so, there will always be a dent in our relationship and it will never be the same, while i believe that dents can be fixed and things will get better. He mentioned that he cant upkeep this responsibility of having a girlfriend.
Based on how much i know him, he has an avoidant attachment style where he tend to shut down and avoid conflicts. I believe that this so called solution that he came up with is with his mind and not his heart. I know how much he cherish our relationship and how much i meant to him. We have still been in contact since it happened (6days ago) and on-off talked about our issue with him insisting this is the best decision for us even though it may seem selfish. Throughout, he has also been checking up on me and updating me about his life daily. He also said things like 'Im already feeling empty without you', 'I was wrong, but idw this to happen' and 'I know i'll regret this in the future but its better for us'
I really want to know how can i get him to understand that we can always work together to fix our problem? Ofc, I will amend on my mistake of being overly sensitive and insecure because he is all that i ever wanted. Time and space will also be given to him as i am aware that previously i had over-invaded his personal time and space. Definitely not only i have to change but him too. I just don't know how to get him to agree on fixing us together and communicating instead of breaking up.
2024.05.15 09:14 Nineteencats AITA for not going to my step brothers wedding?
I (19f) have been asked by my father (45m) to go to my step brothers wedding, technically I’m “invited” but my step brother hasn’t said a word to me the only person who’s mentioned it is my dad.
For some backstory my parents are divorced and my mom got custody of me when I was 6, my dad is in the military so he never really lived close to me and I would be inconsolable whenever I had to go visit him because I hated being away from home, this only got worse when he married my step mom and moved states away.
Since he was so far away I would see my dad once a year maybe twice but the one time I would see him each year was in the summer for 2-3 months which is also when my step brother would visit my step mom, but for the 3 summers I spent there I talked to my step brother a handful of times, there’s no particular reason for this we just didn’t really get along I guess.
So basically I never talk to my step brother and I barely know him and I definitely don’t know his fiancé. I’ve “met” her twice but we didn’t talk to each other and no one even introduced us.
So today my dad texts my mom and asks her if I’m going to the wedding which is super weird considering that I’m an adult and he could just ask me but whatever, I tell my mom I’ll call my dad so that she doesn’t have to deal with this. When he answers the phone I get an annoyed “hey” which is out of character for him because he usually answers with something fun like “whaddup kiddo” so I instantly knew he was mad. He asks if I’m going, I say that I’m busy that week (which isn’t fully true but it kinda is) and then he says it would be nice if I went because I could see my grandparents who I haven’t seen in a while.
Now my grandparents are a whole different story but basically they never really made an effort to see me and the only communication I have with them is a “happy birthday” text from my grandma every year and i didn’t even get one for my last birthday and the birthday before that she forgot my birthday and sent it the day after (lol)
Back to the phone call with my dad I tell him that I’m going to be in the state that my grandparents live in soon and maybe we can arrange something then, he doesn’t really say much about that and then he says “alright I’ll talk to you later” and we hang up. I start crying because I could just tell he was mad at me but I go on with my day until around 15 minutes later he calls me back and tells me that he’s very disappointed that I can’t take 3 days to go to a family event, I’m feeling emotional at that point so I just tell him that I feel like a stranger around his family and all he has to say about that is “you wouldn’t feel like a stranger if you went to family events”
I really truly do not understand this because it’s not like my entire family is going to be at this wedding it’s going to mostly be my step brothers family and I’m just not comfortable being around people I don’t really know, especially at a wedding.
But in any case my dad is super pissed so…AITA?
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For some backstory my parents are divorced and my mom got custody of me when I was 6, my dad is in the military so he never really lived close to me and I would be inconsolable whenever I had to go visit him because I hated being away from home, this only got worse when he married my step mom and moved states away.
Since he was so far away I would see my dad once a year maybe twice but the one time I would see him each year was in the summer for 2-3 months which is also when my step brother would visit my step mom, but for the 3 summers I spent there I talked to my step brother a handful of times, there’s no particular reason for this we just didn’t really get along I guess.
So basically I never talk to my step brother and I barely know him and I definitely don’t know his fiancé. I’ve “met” her twice but we didn’t talk to each other and no one even introduced us.
So today my dad texts my mom and asks her if I’m going to the wedding which is super weird considering that I’m an adult and he could just ask me but whatever, I tell my mom I’ll call my dad so that she doesn’t have to deal with this. When he answers the phone I get an annoyed “hey” which is out of character for him because he usually answers with something fun like “whaddup kiddo” so I instantly knew he was mad. He asks if I’m going, I say that I’m busy that week (which isn’t fully true but it kinda is) and then he says it would be nice if I went because I could see my grandparents who I haven’t seen in a while.
Now my grandparents are a whole different story but basically they never really made an effort to see me and the only communication I have with them is a “happy birthday” text from my grandma every year and i didn’t even get one for my last birthday and the birthday before that she forgot my birthday and sent it the day after (lol)
Back to the phone call with my dad I tell him that I’m going to be in the state that my grandparents live in soon and maybe we can arrange something then, he doesn’t really say much about that and then he says “alright I’ll talk to you later” and we hang up. I start crying because I could just tell he was mad at me but I go on with my day until around 15 minutes later he calls me back and tells me that he’s very disappointed that I can’t take 3 days to go to a family event, I’m feeling emotional at that point so I just tell him that I feel like a stranger around his family and all he has to say about that is “you wouldn’t feel like a stranger if you went to family events”
I really truly do not understand this because it’s not like my entire family is going to be at this wedding it’s going to mostly be my step brothers family and I’m just not comfortable being around people I don’t really know, especially at a wedding.
But in any case my dad is super pissed so…AITA?
2024.05.15 09:13 Timely-Worldliness-3 I just needed a little compromise
I know it was your first relationship. At 28, you had already been through so much, having been on your own for 13 years. You were forced to grow up too fast, and had to prioritize yourself, building a life from nothing. I get it. It was your fierce independence that made me fall for you in the first place.
I always knew that trying to build a life with you was going to be a struggle. I thought it would be worth it, for both of us. You deserve to have someone in your corner, that always has your back. You shouldn’t have to be alone. I don’t know if you believed the same.
I think I gave up too much of myself for you. Was that my mistake or yours? Did you really ask for too much, or did I give too freely without expectation for anything in return? Maybe both. Probably more on me. I’m not perfect by a long shot.
Compromise. It really does all come down to that. I tried to show you its importance, but in the process I ended up being the only one willing to do it. Me getting to pick what movie we watched or getting to plan a date became something I only got to do on special occasions. You said you felt like you didn’t know me, but so many times in so many ways I offered up little pieces of me to you. I share myself by sharing the things I love with the people I love. But more and more towards the end, all you’d say was “no”. Ignoring any context. Ignoring those pieces of me.
I know you don’t like movies about kids. I know asking to watch Home Alone during Christmas was a big ask. But it was a tradition that I shared with my dad, who I lost just over a year before. I know you think that traditions are pointless, but it was important to me. My earliest memories are of that. I needed to continue on, but I couldn’t bring myself to do it alone. I needed you there, your support. It was such a small gesture I was asking of you, but all I got was “no”. Instead we watched a movie you picked: Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone. A movie made by the exact same people that made Home Alone, and with even more kids.
We wanted to go to Ireland. Personally I’ve been wanting to go for years, but couldn’t because of my dad’s illness along with everything else going on. You knew that in the last 3 years I lost all of my grandparents, two uncles, my dad. I couldn’t risk going so far away for so long while everyone was sick. My mom saw me giving up the latter half of my 20s for my family, when she was hoping I would be enjoying life and seeing the world. That’s why she was happy to give us the money to have the trip of our dreams. I explained all of this to you while you were struggling to find a way to save for the trip. All my mom wanted in return was a single nice photo of us. That wasn’t even a requirement for the money. She just wanted to see me with the person that I love making our dreams come true. I know you hate having your picture taken. The only attention your dad ever gave you was when he wanted to test a new camera. It’s a trauma trigger. But I was only asking for one picture. You’d compromise for your friends, you’d compromise for your sister. You’d take pictures with them. Why wouldn’t you compromise for your partner, and the other most important person in your partners life? After a year, we have 3 pictures together, none of which are very good. I know that I was asking for a lot, but I felt so less important than everyone else in your life. Maybe you felt that as your partner, I was to be held to a higher standard? I honestly don’t know. All you said was “no”.
You admitted yourself I was so supportive. I always prioritized you. From always making your tea before mine, to giving you the better looking plate at dinner, to planting all of your favorite flowers in my garden. I always complemented you, how smart you are, how beautiful you are, how driven and independent you are. Your friend needed a ride to a 5k and someone to cheer them on? I was there. You needed someone to drive you around while your car was in the shop for 2 months? No problem. Accidentally overdrew your account again, and you couldn’t afford the late fees? Here’s $50. Need to move on short notice? I’m the guy tearing apart and moving your furniture. You have a migraine so bad you can’t eat? I’m bringing you pedialyte and sleeping on your couch, even though I didn’t actually get any sleep. I learned all your rituals so not to trigger your OCD. There are countless other examples. I never said no. I never complained. You rarely said so much as “thank you”.
The big one. The thing that ended us. You’re right, we did sit down like adults time and time again and talked things out. You said you needed me to anticipate your needs. You’d get overwhelmed, and couldn’t articulate what you needed from me. You couldn’t stand being asked what you needed. You just needed me to start helping. “Mental loads” and all that. I took that to heart. But I’m not perfect. Sometimes I’d miss the mark. Tried to support you, but in the wrong way. Even in my failures I showed effort, but you never seemed to see that. You only focused on how I failed.
We recognized that this was a problem caused by both of us. The communication wasn’t getting through. But I had already adapted to your communication style as much as I could. My exited, rambling, almost impulsive way of generating ideas became slow, methodical, thoughtful. I put intention behind everything so not to overwhelm you. I learned not to jump at the obvious solution.
Yes, we sat down like adults and talked things over time and time again. You told me what you needed from me, but I also told you what I needed from you. If I was missing the mark, please just guide me to what you needed. I’m not a mind reader. I did it for you all the time. You were honestly awful at anticipating my needs too. If I was venting, had a bad day, all you’d say was “I’m sorry”, and pat me on the back like a puppy. No effort to dig deeper. No words of support or encouragement. So I had to show you how I needed support. I just needed you to do the same for me. “No”. Again.
One final time, I sent you words of support when you were having a bad day. It wasn’t enough, you wanted more. A phone call? For me to come over so you could vent in person? Did you actually want me to directly help for once? I don’t know. You never told me. Instead of guiding me to what you needed, you immediately shut down. Full silent treatment. I’ve been in abusive relationships where the silent treatment was welded as a weapon. I know you didn’t mean it in an abusive way, you were just overwhelmed again. But I never expected it from you. I didn’t see it for what it was. I only ever asked one thing from you to save us. I put in the work, got us 80% of the way there. I knew I couldn’t bridge the gap on my own. I wasn’t even asking you to put in effort on my behalf, it was for your benefit. I begged you time and time again for help. To communicate. Not to put it all on me, because I couldn’t do it on my own. But instead, you did the opposite.
You said that you felt like you were putting more effort into the relationship than I was. I’m sorry, but I can’t see that effort. I’m trying to give you the benefit of the doubt, but I can’t. Maybe you mean you put effort into forgiving me every time I messed up? Maybe you mean that you were always planning dates, always picking what we watched, where we went, what we ate, what we drank? Again, mental loads and such. But I had things that I wanted to do and share with you that you always turned down. You only had to plan everything after my plans were rejected. It would have been more efficient for you to show love, patience, and compromise. Maybe we would have worked out then.
But then you left.
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I always knew that trying to build a life with you was going to be a struggle. I thought it would be worth it, for both of us. You deserve to have someone in your corner, that always has your back. You shouldn’t have to be alone. I don’t know if you believed the same.
I think I gave up too much of myself for you. Was that my mistake or yours? Did you really ask for too much, or did I give too freely without expectation for anything in return? Maybe both. Probably more on me. I’m not perfect by a long shot.
Compromise. It really does all come down to that. I tried to show you its importance, but in the process I ended up being the only one willing to do it. Me getting to pick what movie we watched or getting to plan a date became something I only got to do on special occasions. You said you felt like you didn’t know me, but so many times in so many ways I offered up little pieces of me to you. I share myself by sharing the things I love with the people I love. But more and more towards the end, all you’d say was “no”. Ignoring any context. Ignoring those pieces of me.
I know you don’t like movies about kids. I know asking to watch Home Alone during Christmas was a big ask. But it was a tradition that I shared with my dad, who I lost just over a year before. I know you think that traditions are pointless, but it was important to me. My earliest memories are of that. I needed to continue on, but I couldn’t bring myself to do it alone. I needed you there, your support. It was such a small gesture I was asking of you, but all I got was “no”. Instead we watched a movie you picked: Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone. A movie made by the exact same people that made Home Alone, and with even more kids.
We wanted to go to Ireland. Personally I’ve been wanting to go for years, but couldn’t because of my dad’s illness along with everything else going on. You knew that in the last 3 years I lost all of my grandparents, two uncles, my dad. I couldn’t risk going so far away for so long while everyone was sick. My mom saw me giving up the latter half of my 20s for my family, when she was hoping I would be enjoying life and seeing the world. That’s why she was happy to give us the money to have the trip of our dreams. I explained all of this to you while you were struggling to find a way to save for the trip. All my mom wanted in return was a single nice photo of us. That wasn’t even a requirement for the money. She just wanted to see me with the person that I love making our dreams come true. I know you hate having your picture taken. The only attention your dad ever gave you was when he wanted to test a new camera. It’s a trauma trigger. But I was only asking for one picture. You’d compromise for your friends, you’d compromise for your sister. You’d take pictures with them. Why wouldn’t you compromise for your partner, and the other most important person in your partners life? After a year, we have 3 pictures together, none of which are very good. I know that I was asking for a lot, but I felt so less important than everyone else in your life. Maybe you felt that as your partner, I was to be held to a higher standard? I honestly don’t know. All you said was “no”.
You admitted yourself I was so supportive. I always prioritized you. From always making your tea before mine, to giving you the better looking plate at dinner, to planting all of your favorite flowers in my garden. I always complemented you, how smart you are, how beautiful you are, how driven and independent you are. Your friend needed a ride to a 5k and someone to cheer them on? I was there. You needed someone to drive you around while your car was in the shop for 2 months? No problem. Accidentally overdrew your account again, and you couldn’t afford the late fees? Here’s $50. Need to move on short notice? I’m the guy tearing apart and moving your furniture. You have a migraine so bad you can’t eat? I’m bringing you pedialyte and sleeping on your couch, even though I didn’t actually get any sleep. I learned all your rituals so not to trigger your OCD. There are countless other examples. I never said no. I never complained. You rarely said so much as “thank you”.
The big one. The thing that ended us. You’re right, we did sit down like adults time and time again and talked things out. You said you needed me to anticipate your needs. You’d get overwhelmed, and couldn’t articulate what you needed from me. You couldn’t stand being asked what you needed. You just needed me to start helping. “Mental loads” and all that. I took that to heart. But I’m not perfect. Sometimes I’d miss the mark. Tried to support you, but in the wrong way. Even in my failures I showed effort, but you never seemed to see that. You only focused on how I failed.
We recognized that this was a problem caused by both of us. The communication wasn’t getting through. But I had already adapted to your communication style as much as I could. My exited, rambling, almost impulsive way of generating ideas became slow, methodical, thoughtful. I put intention behind everything so not to overwhelm you. I learned not to jump at the obvious solution.
Yes, we sat down like adults and talked things over time and time again. You told me what you needed from me, but I also told you what I needed from you. If I was missing the mark, please just guide me to what you needed. I’m not a mind reader. I did it for you all the time. You were honestly awful at anticipating my needs too. If I was venting, had a bad day, all you’d say was “I’m sorry”, and pat me on the back like a puppy. No effort to dig deeper. No words of support or encouragement. So I had to show you how I needed support. I just needed you to do the same for me. “No”. Again.
One final time, I sent you words of support when you were having a bad day. It wasn’t enough, you wanted more. A phone call? For me to come over so you could vent in person? Did you actually want me to directly help for once? I don’t know. You never told me. Instead of guiding me to what you needed, you immediately shut down. Full silent treatment. I’ve been in abusive relationships where the silent treatment was welded as a weapon. I know you didn’t mean it in an abusive way, you were just overwhelmed again. But I never expected it from you. I didn’t see it for what it was. I only ever asked one thing from you to save us. I put in the work, got us 80% of the way there. I knew I couldn’t bridge the gap on my own. I wasn’t even asking you to put in effort on my behalf, it was for your benefit. I begged you time and time again for help. To communicate. Not to put it all on me, because I couldn’t do it on my own. But instead, you did the opposite.
You said that you felt like you were putting more effort into the relationship than I was. I’m sorry, but I can’t see that effort. I’m trying to give you the benefit of the doubt, but I can’t. Maybe you mean you put effort into forgiving me every time I messed up? Maybe you mean that you were always planning dates, always picking what we watched, where we went, what we ate, what we drank? Again, mental loads and such. But I had things that I wanted to do and share with you that you always turned down. You only had to plan everything after my plans were rejected. It would have been more efficient for you to show love, patience, and compromise. Maybe we would have worked out then.
But then you left.
2024.05.15 09:13 Okihustim Instrumentals of some songs
Hello, I am looking for an instrumental of Happy Birthday as it appears at the end of movie 1, and also for the Conan's Theme Remix that plays at about 15 minutes into episode 129. I've found versions of them on youtube, but the quality is really bad so I was wondering if anyone had a High Quality version of these two songs.
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2024.05.15 09:13 Okihustim Instrumentals of some songs
Hello, I am looking for an instrumental of Happy Birthday as it appears at the end of movie 1, and also for the Conan's Theme Remix that plays at about 15 minutes into episode 129. I've found versions of them on youtube, but the quality is really bad so I was wondering if anyone had a High Quality version of these two songs.
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2024.05.15 09:12 simibestsg Best Bird Nest Singapore
 | IntroductionBird nests, particularly those crafted by swiftlets, are a highly coveted delicacy in Singapore. Revered for their unique texture and numerous health benefits, bird nests have been a part of traditional Chinese cuisine for centuries. In Singapore, the demand for high-quality bird nests has spurred a vibrant market, with numerous shops and restaurants offering this exquisite product. This guide explores Singapore's best bird nest options, delving into their history, types, benefits, and much more.Best Bird Nest Singaporehttps://preview.redd.it/vk6ctr2tij0d1.png?width=1200&format=png&auto=webp&s=965a777e0b6ba901fc457fdf3190d873444f2784Several top locations stand out when it comes to finding the best bird nest in Singapore. These places offer premium quality bird nests and a unique culinary experience, highlighting the delicacy's natural flavors and textures. Yan Ting at The St. Regis SingaporeYan Ting is renowned for its luxurious bird nest dishes. 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Harvesters carefully collect these nests without disturbing the birds or their habitat.Ethical harvesting practices are crucial to maintaining the swiftlet population and ensuring the long-term availability of bird nests. In Singapore, many suppliers adhere to strict guidelines to promote sustainability and animal welfare. Traditional vs. Modern Bird NestsThe production and consumption of bird nests have evolved significantly over the years. Traditional methods involved harvesting nests from natural caves, a practice that was often dangerous and labor-intensive.Modern methods have introduced the use of swiftlet houses, where birds can nest in a controlled and safe environment. This shift has not only increased the supply of bird nests but also improved the quality and safety of the product. Buying Guide for Bird NestsSelecting high-quality bird nests can be challenging, especially for first-time buyers. 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They are commonly gifted during special occasions and festivals, symbolizing good fortune and prosperity.Chinese New YearDuring Chinese New Year, bird nests are often consumed to bring health and prosperity for the coming year.WeddingsBird nests are a popular gift at weddings, symbolizing a wish for the couple's health and happiness.BirthdaysBird nests are also given as birthday gifts, particularly for the elderly, to promote longevity and vitality.Bird Nest PricingThe price of bird nests can vary widely based on factors such as quality, type, and origin.QualityHigher quality bird nests, which are cleaner and have a better texture, typically command higher prices.TypeRed bird nests are generally more expensive than white or yellow bird nests due to their rarity.OriginBird nests harvested from certain regions, known for their superior quality, may be priced higher.Common Myths About Bird NestsThere are several misconceptions about bird nests that need debunking:Bird Nests are Made from Bird FeathersThis is false; bird nests are made from the hardened saliva of swiftlets.Bird Nests Have No Nutritional ValueContrary to this myth, bird nests are rich in proteins, amino acids, and minerals.Bird Nests are Dangerous to ConsumeWhen sourced and prepared properly, bird nests are safe and beneficial to consume.Bird Nest Allergies and PrecautionsWhile bird nests are generally safe for most people, some may experience allergic reactions. It’s important to be aware of the following:SymptomsAllergic reactions can include itching, swelling, and difficulty breathing. If you experience these symptoms, seek medical attention immediately.PrecautionsStart with a small amount to test for any adverse reactions. Consult a healthcare professional if you have any concerns.Bird Nest in Traditional Chinese MedicineBird nests have been used in traditional Chinese medicine (TCM) for centuries, valued for their healing properties.Health TonicBird nests are considered a health tonic in TCM, believed to nourish the body and promote longevity.Respiratory HealthIn TCM, bird nests are used to treat respiratory ailments, such as chronic coughs and asthma.Digestive AidBird nests are also believed to aid digestion and improve overall gut health.Environmental Impact of Bird Nest HarvestingThe growing demand for bird nests has raised concerns about the environmental impact of harvesting practices.Habitat DisruptionUnsustainable harvesting can lead to habitat destruction and a decline in swiftlet populations.Conservation EffortsMany suppliers are now adopting eco-friendly practices, such as building swiftlet houses and adhering to sustainable harvesting guidelines.Bird Nest Connoisseur TipsFor those new to bird nests, here are some expert tips to enhance your tasting experience:Start with a Small AmountBegin with a small serving to appreciate the delicate flavor and texture.Pair with Complementary IngredientsBird nests can be paired with ingredients like rock sugar, ginseng, or goji berries to enhance their flavor.Savor SlowlyTake your time to savor the unique texture and subtle sweetness of bird nests.Where to Buy Bird Nests OnlineIf you prefer the convenience of online shopping, here are some trusted retailers to buy bird nests from:Eu Yan SangA well-known brand offers a variety of bird nest products online.Nature's NestSpecializes in premium bird nests, available for purchase through their website.GNCOffers bird nest supplements that can be easily ordered online.Best Bird Nest GiftsBird nests make for unique and thoughtful gifts, perfect for special occasions.Gift SetsMany brands offer beautifully packaged bird nest gift sets, ideal for celebrations like Chinese New Year or weddings.Personalized HampersCreate a custom hamper with bird nests and other healthy foods for a personalized gift.Corporate GiftsBird nests are also popular as corporate gifts, symbolizing good health and prosperity.Future of Bird Nests in SingaporeThe bird nest industry in Singapore continues to evolve, with several trends and predictions shaping its future.Increased DemandAs more people become aware of the health benefits, the demand for bird nests is expected to rise.Sustainable PracticesThe industry is likely to see a shift towards more sustainable and ethical harvesting practices.Innovation in ProductsExpect to see new and innovative bird nest products, from supplements to gourmet dishes.ConclusionBird nests are a cherished delicacy in Singapore, renowned for their unique texture, delicate flavor, and numerous health benefits. From traditional soups to modern desserts, bird nests offer a versatile and nutritious addition to any diet. By understanding their history, types, and benefits, and knowing where to find the best bird nests in Singapore, you can fully appreciate this exquisite culinary gem. Whether you're a seasoned connoisseur or a curious newcomer, this guide provides all the information you need to enjoy the best bird nest Singapore has to offer.FAQsWhat are the health benefits of bird nests?Bird nests are rich in proteins, amino acids, and minerals, which can boost immunity, improve skin health, and support respiratory function.How do I choose a high-quality bird nest?Look for nests with consistent color and smooth texture. Avoid those with dark spots or strong, unpleasant smells.Can bird nests cause allergies?Yes, some people may be allergic to bird nests. It’s advisable to start with a small amount and consult a healthcare professional if you have concerns.What is the best way to prepare a bird nest at home?Soak the bird nest in cold water until it softens, rinse to remove impurities, and simmer on low heat with water and rock sugar.Are bird nests sustainable?Sustainable practices, such as using swiftlet houses and ethical harvesting methods, are being adopted to ensure the long-term availability of bird nests.Where can I buy bird nests online in Singapore?Trusted online retailers include Eu Yan Sang, Nature's Nest, and GNC, offering a range of bird nest products. |
2024.05.15 09:11 Born-Ease-3589 Bisexual and a cheater double shame
I'm thinking of telling close friends and family I "might" be bi. I'm not ashame of being bi. I am ashamed of having been a bi cheater as I cheated on my wife with men a few years before earlier in our relationship. For "her and me" this is the dark secret in the closet and we agreed to never mention being bi to her or anyone. She's ashamed to have chosen to stay with a bi man and seems quite happy if we don't mention this part of my self. I also took a strong engagement to never cheat again and holding on to it. Doing anything to regain her trust. But the bi-erasure/bi-phobia is there and it's sometimes hard to live this way for me.
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2024.05.15 09:10 grand-illutionist A book about falling for your friend
Can anyone please suggest movies where a guy falls for his female friend, which puts strain on their friendship (the love is obviously not reciprocated).
I dont want to watch cheesy college rom-coms with happy endings. I want to watch something realistic, the one where he never gets her, the one with sad endings, the one where he moves on
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I dont want to watch cheesy college rom-coms with happy endings. I want to watch something realistic, the one where he never gets her, the one with sad endings, the one where he moves on
2024.05.15 09:08 hornyfish0705 He left me for seemingly no reason after a whole year together
We were the happiest couple ever at first, I thought we’d last till marriage. But towards the end I would admit my jealousy took control, and I would often tell him that I wasn’t comfortable with the fact he followed so many women or that he had so many close female friends. Another issue was that we couldn’t spend much time together since he was getting busier each day, but it didn’t make sense as I’d still see him hanging out with friends. He always got really annoyed when I tried to communicate that with him, often replying passive aggressively to my attempts at communicating. I tried numerous ways too, he always apologised then never fixed the mistake, it got to the point where he just gave up and told he that he didn’t know what to say. But even after all that, I still miss him more than anything. With my previous ex, I cried for months when things ended, falling into somewhat of a depression. I told myself that I would let it be different this time, that I’d focus on the positive things in life and just forget about him. But it doesn’t seem to be going so well, it feels like I’m bottling things up because I still cry and it still hurts when I see him or think about him. I just can’t seem to understand what I did to deserve this, I miss the old him that would be happy to talk to me, the old him that I didn’t have to beg for affection from. What makes it worse was that I had to hear from mutual friends what he felt was wrong about me, I was described as controlling.. which I’m not mad about because at last I now had an idea of what I did wrong. Still, as I tried to ask more about what exactly I did that was controlling to him, he refused to elaborate, shushing me away saying “I just don’t feel like being with you right now, why do you keep forcing it?” The worst part about that was he told me that on my birthday. I’m so hurt, and I can’t understand why he changed like this, why isn’t he in pain the way that I am?
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2024.05.15 09:07 _she_hikes For all you brilliant and cunning women out there, how would you handle this situation (below) to get your partner to spend less time with their mom and establish healthy boundaries?
I kid you not, my partner’s mom will come up with excuses to hang out with her son (just them) after learning him and I did something together. Essentially, if he and I were to go on a date or trip, she will (shortly after hearing about it) make an excuse to see him. For example, this past Sunday for Mother’s Day she told him that she didn’t want to do anything except watch him play (he plays in an adult league sport). While I was sitting there next to her, I told her about a cute date him and I went on last night. Fast forward to today, Tuesday, my partner tells me that him and his mom are meeting up after work for drinks as a Mother’s Day gift. Her idea, of course. Just a little background, my partner and I have been dating for about 1 year. We are happy in our relationship. We don’t live together but are about a 30 min drive from each other. His parents live about the same distance. I have a friendly relationship with his mom, but keep her at an arm’s length because of this and other reasons. What I’ve noticed about her is that she is the type of person who does nice things for the recognition, not because she wants to do it to be genuinely nice. (And that kind of disgusts me.) I will add that I am grateful to be dating a person who does care about his family.
So I’m hoping to learn some strategies I can use to be smarter in this situation in order to get a more healthy boundary/balance between him and his mom. I’m just honestly frustrated at this point because it doesn’t seem like it’s going to ever stop and I’m worried that it’s going to potentially get worse as him and I start to get more serious. Like, is she going to go on a trip with him after him and I get back from our honeymoon? Geez. I just want her to be happy for the both of us spending time with each other instead of getting jealous.
Any advice is appreciated. Thanks!
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So I’m hoping to learn some strategies I can use to be smarter in this situation in order to get a more healthy boundary/balance between him and his mom. I’m just honestly frustrated at this point because it doesn’t seem like it’s going to ever stop and I’m worried that it’s going to potentially get worse as him and I start to get more serious. Like, is she going to go on a trip with him after him and I get back from our honeymoon? Geez. I just want her to be happy for the both of us spending time with each other instead of getting jealous.
Any advice is appreciated. Thanks!
2024.05.15 09:07 astroidtardis Weird Mindfuck of a DM experience
TW // Grooming?
Back when I was thirteen I made a post asking people if they thought I was ugly because my step-sister and I thought it would be interesting and funny to see what people would say.
Shortly after making that post I got a DM from a guy on a throwaway account who acted concerned about a post I had made a few months earlier (the post was a vent and nothing short of worrying). I started chatting with him and he asked me a bunch of questions--things like whether or not I had people to confide in, what my home life was like, etc. It was during the pandemic and I didn't really have anyone to talk to so it made me happy to chat with him so our conversations continued.
After some talking, he started pressuring me to send him nudes. I kept trying to tell him I didn't want to but he would tell me that he would stop chatting with me if I didn't send him any. This back and forth went on for a bit before I almost gave in. He then messaged me saying that he was actually doing all this to teach me what grooming was and how to protect myself from it.
After that we chatted a bit more before a day later he did the same song and dance that he did the day before, complete with the stopping just before I broke and pulling the same "I was just pretending to teach you" line. It was confusing and it made me feel sick to my stomach so I blocked him for a bit.
Him being blocked didn't last long because I missed how nice he could be, so I unblocked him a few days later. I told him how it made me feel and he told me that he'd done this "pretending to ask for nudes to teach you to protect yourself from grooming" thing to other people before and that a few of them even view him as father-figure. He told me that if I did truly want it he'd be in a relationship with me, but not if I was only doing it to make him keep talking to me. I found this a bit weird but I brushed it off because, again, he was nice sometimes. We messaged back and forth for a few weeks after that before I just stopped talking with him.
When I look back on it in hindsight, I have a few theories on why this whole thing happened.
Most of the time when I explain this situation to people they make fun of me for not just blocking him permanently. But the thing is when this happened I had literally no one who was my friend, no one to confide in. Because it had been during the pandemic I barely texted the friends I had had before the pandemic started and they barely texted me either. My parents aren't great people and my step-siblings hated me and made me hate myself. And it wasn't like I could go out and meet people either. So when someone gave me the slightest bit of attention and didn't hate me for being too talkative, too loud, too energetic, too cringey, too annoying it made me feel like I was on top of the world. He would say the nicest things that anyone had ever said to me. He would tell me things like how if he could meet me in person and I thought I was being too annoying that he would just hug me and tell me that it's okay. And I fell hook line and sinker for it.
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Back when I was thirteen I made a post asking people if they thought I was ugly because my step-sister and I thought it would be interesting and funny to see what people would say.
Shortly after making that post I got a DM from a guy on a throwaway account who acted concerned about a post I had made a few months earlier (the post was a vent and nothing short of worrying). I started chatting with him and he asked me a bunch of questions--things like whether or not I had people to confide in, what my home life was like, etc. It was during the pandemic and I didn't really have anyone to talk to so it made me happy to chat with him so our conversations continued.
After some talking, he started pressuring me to send him nudes. I kept trying to tell him I didn't want to but he would tell me that he would stop chatting with me if I didn't send him any. This back and forth went on for a bit before I almost gave in. He then messaged me saying that he was actually doing all this to teach me what grooming was and how to protect myself from it.
After that we chatted a bit more before a day later he did the same song and dance that he did the day before, complete with the stopping just before I broke and pulling the same "I was just pretending to teach you" line. It was confusing and it made me feel sick to my stomach so I blocked him for a bit.
Him being blocked didn't last long because I missed how nice he could be, so I unblocked him a few days later. I told him how it made me feel and he told me that he'd done this "pretending to ask for nudes to teach you to protect yourself from grooming" thing to other people before and that a few of them even view him as father-figure. He told me that if I did truly want it he'd be in a relationship with me, but not if I was only doing it to make him keep talking to me. I found this a bit weird but I brushed it off because, again, he was nice sometimes. We messaged back and forth for a few weeks after that before I just stopped talking with him.
When I look back on it in hindsight, I have a few theories on why this whole thing happened.
- The one that I believe the most is that he was an FBI agent. Out of context this sounds unlikely but let me explain. A month earlier, I had been chatting with a grown man on twitter. The exchanges between us were inappropriate and eventually my parents found out and they made me stop using twitter. A bit after my parents found out they told me that apparently the FBI was investigating this guy and asked me if I wanted to testify against him. I chose not to. However, I think that it could be possibly be someone trying to teach me a lesson? (Though I could also be reading too much into it but I think the coincidence of it all is kinda weird.)
- For a bit I wondered if it could be one of my parents--mainly my dad--who was trying to teach me a lesson. But I'm pretty sure that was mostly just me being paranoid because I doubt my dad even knows what the concept of a throwaway account is.
- It could just be a really weird guy who was doing this to actually teach me a lesson or doing this for some weird kind of fetish.
Most of the time when I explain this situation to people they make fun of me for not just blocking him permanently. But the thing is when this happened I had literally no one who was my friend, no one to confide in. Because it had been during the pandemic I barely texted the friends I had had before the pandemic started and they barely texted me either. My parents aren't great people and my step-siblings hated me and made me hate myself. And it wasn't like I could go out and meet people either. So when someone gave me the slightest bit of attention and didn't hate me for being too talkative, too loud, too energetic, too cringey, too annoying it made me feel like I was on top of the world. He would say the nicest things that anyone had ever said to me. He would tell me things like how if he could meet me in person and I thought I was being too annoying that he would just hug me and tell me that it's okay. And I fell hook line and sinker for it.
2024.05.15 09:07 grand-illutionist A book about falling for your friend
Can anyone please suggest books where a guy falls for his female friend, which puts strain on their friendship (the love is obviously not reciprocated).
I dont want to read cheesy college rom-coms with happy endings. I want to read something realistic, the one where he doesn't get her at the end and is forced to move on.
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I dont want to read cheesy college rom-coms with happy endings. I want to read something realistic, the one where he doesn't get her at the end and is forced to move on.
2024.05.15 09:07 EarlyRiser007 Recovery from social anxiety head tremors and shaking
I’m now in my 40s but I had this exact condition when I was in my late teens and early twenties - I don’t any longer so do not lose hope. I’ll try to share with you my experience. I believe it started due to bullying and I just didn’t know how to handle this. I suppose I felt too proud and ashamed to admit to anybody that I was being bullied and felt like my world was caving in around me. Eventually this took its toll on my mental health and is truly what started my disorder - I’m pretty sure. So I guess the first lesson I can share is that if you have any problems then talk to somebody. If it can’t be with a family member or friend then seek out your doctor who will point you in the right direction. This approach wouldn’t have stopped the bullying but would definitely have helped me and given me some rational context to what was going on at the time. Anyway, bullying went on and so did the feeling of helplessness to do anything about it. I began to start suffering from what I now know as social anxiety. I would avoid drinking in front of people and felt my head start shaking whenever I walked into pub/bar. I thought I was going crazy and didn’t talk to anybody about this . Fortunately times have changed and it is perfectly normal to talk about mental health problems which is a great starting point - such as this message board too. I remember back then over 20 years ago that I felt lost and that there was no help for me and I didn’t go to see a doctor either. I always felt that alcohol was a relief and suppose I did begin to self medicate as after my first couple of beers in the bar I felt fine and the anxiety had dissipated but this obviously wasn’t a long term fix. Retrospectively I can see how this could have gone wrong and maybe would have led to alcoholism which fortunately it did not. I felt like it was wrecking my life, I just wanted to go and enjoy myself like I used to be able to. I’ve always been a fighter and told myself that I would beat this and I would not let this beat me. I would always put myself in the uncomfortable situations. Remember, other people probably don’t even notice that you feel anxious! You probably feel like your gonna die and that your head is about to pop off but to them you probably look like you’ve just accidentally crapped yourself at worst and maybe look a bit embarrassed. This is how I rationalised it because it brought a bit of humour to it. I didn’t feel so bad when it happened and wasn’t embarrassed by it. That approach allowed me to keep on confronting it and eventually over time it got better and my confidence grew. I researched the internet at the time which wasn’t very fruitful back in 2000 but I read up on breathing techniques. There’s plenty of information out there now and I cannot recommend regulated breathing techniques enough. Look up belly breathing and window breathing it’ll help you massively. I also did walking, running and cycling (aerobic exercise) which over time made me feel stronger and again built my confidence. Just remember that all of this doesn’t happen overnight and it’s a change in lifestyle. Healthy body equals a healthy mind. Eventually I felt like I could try and have a go a public speaking so I enrolled in a course. My anxiety was massive but again, I hit it head on. I was taking myself out of my comfort zone again and the anxiety inside of me was screaming. The first time I got up to speak I felt my legs shaking but I pushed on, this cannot beat you. Sure they probably noticed I was nervous but so what? Over time I carried on and I became better and more confident. Now I do this regularly and can do this confidently. I now live a life where this doesn’t affect me anymore and I have never taken any medication for this. Looking back I think that some cognitive therapy would have been of great benefit as it helps rewire your thoughts processes and helps you understand what is going on when the attacks happen. As I say there didn’t seem to be any help out there for me at the time so I felt like I had to help myself. I hope this helps you on your journey, just know that the power is in your hands. Life is too short so just go one day at a time making small improvements and you will get there. You will get better and live a happy and fulfilling life.
My main points are: Talk to somebody Believe in yourself Confront the fear Be kind to yourself Try breathing techniques to regulate the anxiety Exercise, eat healthily and take pride in your health Actively step out of your comfort zone
You’ve got this! 👍🏻
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My main points are: Talk to somebody Believe in yourself Confront the fear Be kind to yourself Try breathing techniques to regulate the anxiety Exercise, eat healthily and take pride in your health Actively step out of your comfort zone
You’ve got this! 👍🏻
2024.05.15 09:05 1onecleverusername I’m hurting and don’t know how to support my family
I am not sure how to approach this but we lost my youngest sib in august. My sister has been struggling and has been fucking dealing with a shitty situationship too. It’s been really emotional and she’s come to visit me which was amazing as I live far out, but she has recently hit a rough patch as her and our youngest were Irish twins and her birthday was about to pass/just did. I’ve tried to be there for her and much as I can and our mother can be difficult. My sister and recently had some suicidal/self harm tendencies, which I have struggled (self harm) with for a long time and can relate. I wasn’t able to get to the phone bc of my sleep and work schedule the second night in a row my sister was struggling (I am on sleeping medication because of the anxiety of the way my brother passed and how I found out) and I always feel terribly guilty and afraid missing calls because of of this prior incident. Within days of my sister’s panic attack, my mom was claiming that she couldn’t talk because she was calling a hotline on Mother’s Day because she was suicidal. while this is all hard for everyone, and it isn’t the first time she has done this, it’s the first time she’s done it in tandem with my sister, and where my sister had expressed that she has reached out to a hotline because I didn’t answer and then woke up our parents because it was late at night, our mother just stopped responding to people on Mother’s Day and then apologized for being in a hotline because her “bad thoughts consumed her”. I’m not saying it’s easy for anyone, but I guess I don’t know how to help my sister. She doesn’t feel seen in her terrible situationship where this man was almost proposing to another woman and he was cheating with her and I don’t know how to tell her that she deserves better (will a hard slap or solid punch get my message across more to this man bc I see him when I’m back and she doesn’t need this hurt in her life on top of everything else and I know this fuckin kid and am willing to speak to him myself) but our mom is also super hard on her and and just a difficult person to deal with (I know I have it easy living far away) it just seems like between her love life and home life it’s enough to break someone (which is why I am on high alert when she calls me and is having those thoughts and sleep with my ringer on and just sometimes can’t even sleep because I can’t lose her along with losing my baby brother) I just don’t know what I can do. She’s successful and amazing and beautiful and wonderful but our mom lays a lot on me too and has since our dad died when I was pretty young and I just don’t know how to best support her I guess and I can’t lose her. But when my mother starts on me on top of her and makes this whole loss about her and asks us to “respect her wishes” and it’s something as natural as talking to your friends about the loss, as a fucking 27 year old who hasn’t spoken to people in that town in almost ten years and lives a 1k miles away!? it’s breaking me down and it’s breaking my sister down and I can’t get her to to come stay with my bf and I because of her work and I feel lost and I feel like I am going to lose her because of grief or lose my mom because she wants to win some imaginary “who is sadder” battle and I just feel lost and don’t know how to fucking help anyone anymore. My boyfriend and I had been planning to get engaged but he postponed it because I am so “anxious and sad” all the time. I don’t even know how to help myself let alone help my sister
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2024.05.15 09:04 vyendird i walked in on my sister touching herself (i think)
so i actually need some input on what other people think happened here, or how you would process this.
i [20F] still live at home and so does my sister [23F]. on mothers day it was late at night but i went downstairs to get a snack. the tv was loud like it usually is for my parents. when i saw them i realized my mom was butt naked and doing stuff with my dad. i have walked into this a few times when i was a kid, nothing new. it sucked that the couch was contaminated but i got my snack and moved on with my life. but when i told my sister however, she was very dramatic about how disgusting it was, and even asked my parents in front of everyone to wash the blanket and couch.
now i usually stay in my room a LOT. so no one really expects me to go downstairs i guess. well today is my sisters birthday. its always been a tradition to try being the first person to say happy birthday to a family member. SO at 11:59 i walked downstairs to say happy birthday at midnight right? well i saw her beeline to cover up with a blanket. she said it was because she thought i was mom and wanted to hide the dogs since they cant be in the living room at night. but the dogs were already at the stairs and she didnt try to get up at all! she stayed on the couch.
normally i would just forget about this. but she was being suspicious in the same exact spot i caught my parents. and i have never seen my sister in this light. and im really grossed out and afraid my sister is into incest.
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i [20F] still live at home and so does my sister [23F]. on mothers day it was late at night but i went downstairs to get a snack. the tv was loud like it usually is for my parents. when i saw them i realized my mom was butt naked and doing stuff with my dad. i have walked into this a few times when i was a kid, nothing new. it sucked that the couch was contaminated but i got my snack and moved on with my life. but when i told my sister however, she was very dramatic about how disgusting it was, and even asked my parents in front of everyone to wash the blanket and couch.
now i usually stay in my room a LOT. so no one really expects me to go downstairs i guess. well today is my sisters birthday. its always been a tradition to try being the first person to say happy birthday to a family member. SO at 11:59 i walked downstairs to say happy birthday at midnight right? well i saw her beeline to cover up with a blanket. she said it was because she thought i was mom and wanted to hide the dogs since they cant be in the living room at night. but the dogs were already at the stairs and she didnt try to get up at all! she stayed on the couch.
normally i would just forget about this. but she was being suspicious in the same exact spot i caught my parents. and i have never seen my sister in this light. and im really grossed out and afraid my sister is into incest.
2024.05.15 09:02 This-Beautiful1071 Heartbroken and Confused After My (M19) Girlfriend (F19) Left Me for Someone Else and Called Me a 'Shitty' Partner. How Can I Move On?
TL;DR: My (M19) girlfriend (F19) broke up with me a month ago for another guy. We were together for about two years with some breakups in between. She recently told me I was a "pretty shitty" partner, even though I felt I was trying my best. I'm heartbroken and confused, especially since she seems happy with her new partner. Any advice on how to move on from this would be greatly appreciated.
My (M19) Girlfriend (F19) broke up with me for another guy about a month ago. We were together for just over a year, briefly broke up, got back together for a few months, broke up again, and then rekindled things for the ladder half of our first years of university before she ended things fully. This all happened over about 2 years. I had had a brief and insignificant relationship before, bur she was effectively my first, as I was hers. I was crazy about her, and can confidently say I was fully in love, and it seemed like she was too at times.
She fully ended our relationship about a month ago over text, and a week later informed me that she had found a new parter. We have been on good terms since then. We have several mutual friends and had seen each other in groups a couple times, and our relationship was cordial, no bad blood either way. I hadn’t spoken to her 1 on 1 since, but earlier tonight I phoned her.
Basically, I had been quite upset about the breakup and it wasn’t getting easier, so I decided to tell her that I missed her, and suggested that she give me another shot if things didn’t work out with her new partner (as respectfully as possible to her and her partner). I figured that I would be able to move on easier knowing I had at least taken some action to possibly get her back eventually.
During the conversation, she stated that I was “pretty shitty” to her throughout our relationship as a reason for leaving me. The problem is not only that I lost the girl I love, but that I was actually trying during our time together, and have fond memories of it - but she tells me I was a shit partner. I am absolutely distraught. Like I said earlier, we broke up three times, and she came back after the first two which adds another layer of confusion. I was her first parter, and now she has someone else who she seems very happy with, so it seems my chances of getting her back are near zero.
I guess my question is simply, how should I proceed? I don’t know what to think. I know I wasn’t the perfect partner, but I did try, and to hear that she thinks I was basically a piece of shit has left me shattered. Any advice would be so appreciated, this is quite possibly the low point of my life.
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My (M19) Girlfriend (F19) broke up with me for another guy about a month ago. We were together for just over a year, briefly broke up, got back together for a few months, broke up again, and then rekindled things for the ladder half of our first years of university before she ended things fully. This all happened over about 2 years. I had had a brief and insignificant relationship before, bur she was effectively my first, as I was hers. I was crazy about her, and can confidently say I was fully in love, and it seemed like she was too at times.
She fully ended our relationship about a month ago over text, and a week later informed me that she had found a new parter. We have been on good terms since then. We have several mutual friends and had seen each other in groups a couple times, and our relationship was cordial, no bad blood either way. I hadn’t spoken to her 1 on 1 since, but earlier tonight I phoned her.
Basically, I had been quite upset about the breakup and it wasn’t getting easier, so I decided to tell her that I missed her, and suggested that she give me another shot if things didn’t work out with her new partner (as respectfully as possible to her and her partner). I figured that I would be able to move on easier knowing I had at least taken some action to possibly get her back eventually.
During the conversation, she stated that I was “pretty shitty” to her throughout our relationship as a reason for leaving me. The problem is not only that I lost the girl I love, but that I was actually trying during our time together, and have fond memories of it - but she tells me I was a shit partner. I am absolutely distraught. Like I said earlier, we broke up three times, and she came back after the first two which adds another layer of confusion. I was her first parter, and now she has someone else who she seems very happy with, so it seems my chances of getting her back are near zero.
I guess my question is simply, how should I proceed? I don’t know what to think. I know I wasn’t the perfect partner, but I did try, and to hear that she thinks I was basically a piece of shit has left me shattered. Any advice would be so appreciated, this is quite possibly the low point of my life.