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Throw away since I know this former employee is on Reddit.
This is in regards to a small, privately owned retail business in an at-will state.
Usually oral agreement issues are employees being shafted by owners/managers/etc. that the latter may have orally agreed to about X, Y, or Z to an employee. It has actually been difficult to find online search results that are reversed, which is the case I am experiencing with a former employee (let's call them Alex, in a gender-neutral manner to reduce revealing private info about them) - Alex is claiming that they were promised a large portion of ownership of the business as well as equity related to recent, large product investments.
We had to fire Alex because of prolonged, catalogued/tracked service quality and professionalism issues, as well as strong suspicion (and eventual solid evidence discovered post termination) of theft. The service quality and professionalism issues were discussed with Alex numerous times, and naturally known to other employees working alongside them. Eventually, after numerous continued issues and verbal warnings, Alex was formally written up and we had them sign the notes covered in the meeting. After a couple more months of still declining service quality, and odd, suspicious behavior that strongly indicated theft as mentioned, we were forced to terminate employment. We provided Alex with a fairly standard release form which essentially said "we won't sue you and you won't sue us, and if you sign you get 4 weeks of severance pay." Alex did not sign the form. Alex found new employment about 4 weeks after termination and to my knowledge has not filed for unemployment for the few weeks between jobs.
As mentioned, we later confirmed not only theft, but Alex was selling the stolen goods online while undercutting our prices and then even using the store's financial accounts to purchase shipping labels for their online customers to ship the stolen goods to them. We have screenshots of their Ebay account, along with pictures they took showing of the goods where their hand is visible with recognizable jewelry seen by all the staff before Alex was terminated (so we can confirm it's Alex in the pictures they posted). There is strong evidence of other theft but it is more difficult to prove.
Re: the oral agreement - it should be noted that I did in fact make an oral agreement with Alex, but of which is very different than the one they are claiming was made. Because Alex was our first employee and worked with us for over 5 years, I agreed that if the business was to ever grow to say another storefront, I would allow Alex to buy in for an undetermined percent of the business (probably around 10% at most). That is it. I've maintained that this was the agreement to Alex, my wife, and employees for a number of years, never changing the details of the arrangement. Unfortunately Alex made these poor service quality and theft decisions and was terminated before the business was able to grow into an additional store (still not a possibility at the moment and probably for another couple of years), thus the agreement is now null and void. This agreement was NOT written down or signed by either party (and thus no witnesses either).
Alex is claiming that they were promised to be given (yes, given, not just allowed to buy in) ownership up to 50% of the current business and 20%-30% or so of the value of recent product investments, of which would likely be in excess of $100,000 together. Alex's claim is absolutely not true. There is no paperwork, signatures, witnesses, etc. that would be able to confirm this unless they are going to forge something or have people lie for them. However, I am concerned about this because I otherwise do not have proof that this was not the agreement...
Our two current employees, aware of this situation, and aware of (and witness to) the poor and odd behavior of the former employee that led to their termination (including the theft), are more than willing to testify that Alex's claim is not the case. Alex even spoke to them about thinking about drafting a letter to me about a 7% ownership stake, which they never did. If they were orally promised such a great deal of ownership why would they need to draft a letter for only 7%? Unfortunately Alex has recruited the wrath of their parents (who they lived with for 6 years straight and just moved into an apartment, Alex is in their 30s.) who are going to bankroll them a lawyer. I would imagine that Alex has been telling their parents for some time now (like years) that there was some sort of oral agreement about ownership more in the line of their false claims (to the specifics I am not sure) and they have been able to convince them that their child is telling the truth. So Alex's parents could very well feel like they're telling the truth when they say their child told them about this crazy 50% stake and equity when in fact it was a lie. But how do I prove that? Do I need to prove that?
Here's where it gets a little more complicated - Alex's father (who I miss, he was a good guy) is handy and built a majority of the counters, drawers, storage, display tables, etc. in the storefront for free (he refused payment for the labor, but I paid for all the materials of which I have receipts for). Alex is claiming that because their father built all this furniture, it is "proof" that they were promised part ownership and equity (because why else would their father be so generous?...). But that is not the case, their father just wanted to help and participate in any way he could as he is nearing retirement and wanting to take on new activities. The employee may have been cultivating this false assumption that such construction is proof of promised partnership with their fathefamily from the start, although their father never mentioned anything like that to me.
The personal and professional betrayal aside, I'm concerned about Alex levying such accusations of ridiculous grand promises via oral agreement since it is so hard to confirm either way, and given this person's proclivity of lying (and stealing) I have little trust they will act in good faith if any legal proceedings unfold. I would love any advice on how to possibly handle this issue. Wouldn't the onus be on Alex to prove these grand promises? Given the little I have listed above, what "evidence" might be in their favor? How concerning is it that their parents are fully convinced their child has been wronged (I also know that Alex is telling friends and new coworkers the reason they were fired was because of me not wanting to "give" them part of the business)? It seems ridiculous a parent's perspective would hold much weight in actual legal environments since they would be so biased. Should I be concerned there is no written agreement about any of these promises (including the legitimate one about eventual opportunity to buy in)? Anything about their father volunteering their labor? Is it a good thing that our current employees are willing to testify (on their own volition, I didn't even ask them) about their own first hand experiences and conversations with Alex that contradicts many of Alex's statements? Anything else potentially troublesome I should be aware of?
Yes, lots of lessons learned here - get things in writing for my own protection against such claims. Unfortunately that is not the case here, so advice geared around the fact that no party has much to support their claims (well, I'm only claiming their claim is false) would be most helpful. Please let me know if you have any clarifying questions or need more information for better input. I really appreciate your time and consideration!

They seem to have very little profit (aside from Fairy Rose) and only one is used for recipes that I know of (Poppyseed muffin). Of course some villagers love certain flowers, but they also love other things. It’s just I have so many mixed flower seeds that I don’t know if it’s worth it to plant them.

I would like to buy a rav4 second hand around 20k to 25k if that is an option. Can this range get me a good Rav4 or I should change that?
Car should have a electric AC plug at back. This is important! I am a remote software programer who works from home. I like to go to geen area such as herman park and be able to charge my laptop or monitor and use it to do my job. It might be very silly but thats the main resoan I am buying a Suv with large space at back!
I dont want big car becase I am only one person and I think a medium size should help with parking. Too small seems to be bad for safety. So rav4 seems to be perfect.
Safety is very important for me. Since I am new driver. The car model should have best and easy blind spot detection plus anything that can help me to stay safe! I think some model have that at side mirrors but some model might display that right infront of me which might be better for a new driver like me. Which model have this? Which one is better and why?
Im scared someone simply steal the car when it is parked somewhere. How can I get a car replacement with no question ask. I have read GAP insurance might be what I need. Is this available for second hand car? Can I ask it from dealer? Is it better to buy insurance myself? If yes which insurance offer the GAP or full replacement? What insurance to ask and get?
I wont drive much maybe just weekend or for exploring nearby. Infact I have no clue where to go. I am just getting a car because I am tired of people telling me Houston is a car City! Should I just get a car that run on gas only or you suggest to get a hibread car or even jump to rav4 prime for sake of being future proof?
I prefer to spend less so I can have more saving at bank. That saving make me feel secure. I also dont want buy with instalment. Only cash.
Finaly I am android fun.Car should support android auto. I dont care about support for iphone.
USB C PD would be great.
With above information what rav4 model is best for me?
Should I buy second hand or get a new car as my first car?
Finaly should I buy this online or I must go to a dealer?
One more thing how can I be sure the car that I am getting is okey and it wont break on the road within first few month. Also what I should do if it break on the way!
For your info I am living in mid west houston. I am 50 years old. Living by myself and have nobody else! I never had a car but of course I played lots of need for speed when I was young! For now I just have a driving license with over 30 hours of road driving school in Houston plus cash to get my first car. Be my hero and tell me what to do. I really need your help!
Please let me know if you need more info or if there are other thing that I need to consider. Thank you very much!

Hello. TLDR: Have plants, need help.
First time poster here. Hoping I can get some thoughts on how to best care for my home's plants. I have added images for each of my plants and included a care schedule as the last image based off of my Planta Premium app. Almost all of my plants are planted in Miracle Gro Indoor potting soil and all of them are generally healthy, but I am hoping to maximize their health and so any advice is appreciated! I have them listed out below with specifics on their history and care.
False Shamrock
This guy is pretty easy going. Regular watering and sunlight keeps it happy, but it does have stalks go brown and droop pretty quickly, though it grows new ones fast enough to stay thick and green and pretty regularly bloom with pretty patches of white flowers which I would like to maximize as much as possible.
Amaryllis
My grandmother gives me an amaryllis every year for Christmas, and typically I toss them after the blooms die and the leaves start to droop. However, this year's was particularly healthy (2 blooming stalks with 4 flowers each!) so I would like to keep this one around to bloom again if possible!
Peace Lily
Probably my most cherished plant. My dad gave me this plant from a CVS as a gift 20 years ago and my mom kept it alive for me all this time to give to me one day. This baby had thrived since I got it, but I am very cautious with it and very conservatively care for it since it's so important to me.
Pothos
This was gifted to me a few years ago and it has overall been pretty healthy for me. I was letting its vines hang for a long time, but when I got a mouthy puppy (and its toxic to dogs) I got sticky clips to keep the vines off the floor along my built-ins. This plant probably gets the least amount of light of all my plants, as its in an awkward spot and I can't really safely place it anywhere else.
Lemon
I grew this from a few seeds from a grocery store lemon, and it has done a great job since then. I am particular to this one since I grew it from seeds and it is still young, but I really would like to see fruit from this baby one day.
Jade
My grandmother also gifted me this one. Its a slow grower for sure, but in the 2-3 years since I've had it, it definitely has grown at least 6 inches on each branch. I just recently repotted this one, and it was definitely a shock to it's system (hence the tomato stakes keeping the branches raised) but it seems to have recovered well enough, though I think my Planta watering schedule may be too frequent for it.
Spineless Yucca
I got this one on sale in a BigY as an experiment hoping it would eventually grow tall, but I haven't seen a dramatic increase in its size since I got it about a year ago. I just follow the schedule for it on my Planta App. This one lives outside when its warm enough and inside when it freezes, but it lives on a covered patio and so gets sun all day when outside, but not completely direct and even less when it comes indoors.
Bonus Orchid & Succulents
Idk why these don't grow any faster. Any tips?
Doggo Tax
Doggo says hi in the window which suns the Pothos, as well as partially the Lemon and Jade.
Care Schedule
Built off of the rough schedule from my Planta Premium app for each of my plants. Just measured them all tonight for up to date stats and used the Compass app for their exposures. Some have one large exposure (ie E/SE) but others have two different exposures based on their window placement and time of day (ie NE & SW).
Thank you in advance if you made it this far!

Possible triggecontent warning: implications of SA-related trauma later in the post. It doesn't go into detail but the implications are definitely there.
I've been in a relationship for about six months now. I've known him for almost two years. I love him with every fiber of my being. There is nothing i can find wrong with him (he's human, not perfect of course, but definitely no red flags). He's kind, wears his heart on his sleeve. He's compassionate and empathetic. Even when he gets upset, he handles his emotions maturely and his reactions to aggrivating or stressful situations are incredibly mild, compared to what I'm used to. We share similar hobbies and interests. He's goofy and laid back but responsible and logical as well. He's supportive and gentle. Everything i could ask for in a partner.
I have a lovely "grocery list" of mental illnesses. OCD, C-PTSD, and ADHD to name a few. They make me incredibly paranoid, anxious and defensive more frequently than my partner knows, and I make sure to hide it on purpose. Even after he's helped me through trauma triggers and panic attacks, I'm still afraid that when he sees the more severe sides of my mentall illnesses, he won't stay. Logically i know that isn't true. But the fear is still there.
The trauma and OCD get in the way of things sometimes (at least from my perspective anyway). Physical intimimacy like massages, showering together, etc. are terrifying. I can't even look at his back to massage it or scratch it without being reminded of moments before a traumatic event with my ex. I freeze. Everything tenses, and I get stuck. In a way. "If I do this, what will happen to me afterward?" After a few moments i apologize. And he reassures. He never seems to mind and is always aware of when something starts making me uncomfortable or tense.
But I'm tired of it. I'm tired of the guilt. And not feeling like i'm not a good partner. I can't stand trying to cuddle, trying to give back scratches, trying to have a healthy, normal relationship and having awful flashbacks and fears and moments where I tense up. I'm tired of him telling me it's okay. I'm tired of him not receiving the physical affection he gives to me all the time because my silly little brain can differentiate between my partner and the trauma I went through.
I'm tired of my OCD (more obsessive than compulsive) convincing me he's going to show me one day that he isn't as kind as i think he is. I get so afraid that he's going to treat me like my manipulative and abusive stepdad. Or my ex. I get awful intrusive thoughts (my thoughts are very visual, I see scenes and pictures) of him doing the things my ex did to me. In the park. At my own fucking mother's house when she wasn't home. While I was driving.
I'm tired of not feeling good enough. I'm tired of being afraid. I'm tired of all the things my head does to try and make me hate him.
I've had brief conversations about this with him, and he always tells me it's alright. That he understands. But it never really helps relieve the guilt. I want to tell him why i struggle with physical affection. I want to spew all of my trauma and let him see all of my flaws so he DOES understand, but I'm afraid of being judged or abandoned. I'm really tired of feeling this way. And feeling stuck. I hate it so much.
Not sure if i'm looking for solutions, comfort or whatever else. I just needed to rant somewhere. Journalling wasn't really helping. I would also like to clarify that absolutely NONE of this makes me want to break up with him. I am working through these things with my therapist as best as I can.

I recently got back into printing after a couple month break. My first print was successful will a full print bed of minis. However, once I started to wash and remove supports I noticed that the supports were significantly harder to remove the closer I got to the base of the miniature. The supports towards the head and torso were easy to remove and had no problem, but the ones attached to the feet almost seemed over exposed and fused to them. In the process of removing these difficult supports I lost several feet that came off with the supports.
Also a note I am using pre-supported minis and used a hot water bath when removing the supports and still the supports towards the base were hard to remove. In addition the resin I am using is Siraya Tech Fast and Tenacious mix 1:4 or 80% Fast to 20% Tenacious. I am almost using Chitubox for my slicer program.
I am trying to figure out the source of the problem, could it be the used FEP that is dispersing light improperly, do I have the incorrect settings and over exposing it, or could it just be bad supports?
UV Power set to 80% Layer Height: 0.050 Bottom Layer Count: 4 Exposure Time: 2.1s Bottom Exposure Time: 20s Light-off delay: .5s Bottom Light-off Delay: .5s Bottom Lift Distance: 8mm Lifting Distance: 8mm Bottom Lift Speed: 180mm/min Lifting Speed: 180mm/min Bottom Retract Speed: 240mm/min Retract Speed: 240mm/min

2nd week in & I want to quit.
Background, I have almost 10 years in banking experience, 5 of those years I worked in commercial loans, creating and working with commercial loan documents, focusing on real estate documents.
Two weeks ago, I started a new position as a Real Estate Paralegal Assistant. The job description sounded perfect. interview was great, sounded like a lot of work with a lot of overtime, which I was all in for. They were interested in my background with handling real estate documents, and how much I worked with said documents.
These past two weeks have been hell. The amount of work with little to no training being dumped on me has been so intensely overwhelming. Then today, i was told no overtime. Just the one out of the many tasks they gave me over the past two weeks, takes up my entire day and i am now behind on not only that one task but the other tasks i was given to me. Also, none of these tasks include me handling real estate documents whatsoever. I am organizing PDFs for 8 hours a day.
I have so much knowledge on commercial real estate and commercial loans in general and i feel like this role will never use any of that knowledge like I originally thought it would. Now im stuck. I have always stayed at a job for many years before leaving. Do I stick it out for 6 months and find another role? How bad does it look to have a job on your resume for only a month?
TLDR; i think my knowledge and skills are going to waste at this new role and i think i should leave but not sure how quickly i should leave.

My partner (m41) and I (f29) have been together for 4 years. It wasn't an easy relationship to begin with. My family fell out with me for getting with him. They knew him very well but they just thought it was moving too fast. I moved in with him pretty quickly as my dad was physically quote aggressive with me and controlling. I planned on staying with my partner for a while until sorting out my own place but we just fell in love more every day. We had a "we wi prove them all wrong" attitude. I really truly and deeply love and care for him. He was patient, calm, funny, gentlemanly. He spent 2 years doing everything he could to make me happy. He would cook, washa and dry my hair, massages, running baths, picking me flowers etc.
Fast forward to last April. We fell pregnant and were ecstatic but unfortunately, it ended in an early miscarriage at 7 weeks. He has a pain condition which means every so often it flare up and his mood dips. He finds it difficult to cope with stress etc. The miscarriage put alot of strain on our relationship as he switched off and offered no emotional support whatsoever.
We had a few arguments and I decided I needed to leave for a break. I went home and my mum and dad were more than supportive. I spent 2 weeks at home until I met my partner and we reconciled. My dad was so cross and again got aggressive and told me to never step foot in his house again.
In August a few months later, we fell pregnant again. Although this time was different, he didn't seem overly happy. Maybe sometimes but basically he mostly stopped being affectionate with me or doing thoughtful things that he always had done. He began to sleep separately from me. The odd time he would maybe run me a bath or cook etc. If I was sick or sore, he would say "tru being sore for 10 years" I never got any sympathy. He nearly got frustrated if I went for naps or had a lie in
Christmas, he made dinner for us on Christmas day etc he didn't get me anything. I got him a few things. On boxing day, we had an arguement, I can't even remember about what. He left and stayed at his mums for 3 weeks. I spent 3 weeks on my own, sick and crying in bed basically the whole time. I didn't tell anyone. New years eve countdown, I cried in bed rubbing my growing bump. He eventually came back, we had 3 great weeks together before his mood shifted again. He made a comment about how he had wanted a son instead of a daughter.
He then began home decorating and nesting. He spent 2 solid months working most evenings to do up her nursery, and basically improve every room with new paint etc.
I then was admitted early with pre eclampsia just over 3 weeks ago. I spent 4 days in hospital before they inserted a pessary. I then was moved to delivery suite 36 hours after the pessary. I was labouring and contracting for 6 hours until I got to 9cm and they realised something was wrong. Baby was completely stuck, cord around neck etc and I was rushed for a category 1 c section.
When my partner was allowed into theatre, I was already opened and blood everywhere. I had the shakes etc and he seen everything. I really thought I was going to die. It was so traumatic. I was wheeled into recovery and he asked when he could go home. I was disgusted. As soo. As I was wheeled on to the ward just 3 hours post op, he left. He came back thay evening for 2 hours. That night, my baby girl was cluster feeding, it was very difficult. I text him at 5am to tell him all about it. At 8am I got a message calling me a "whine" and not to be texting in the middle of the night again. I stupidly apologised.
Eventually I was discharged and the first week, he was as he described "father of the year" and I even said to him, that this was the making od him. He was so soft, gentle, caring and involved with our daughter. I thought finally, my life is working out.
He then spent a few days not interacting with us AT ALL. I mean not one glance. There was one day I was standing at the sink sorting baby bottles and she cried. I asked him to loft her and he said no I'm busy, grabbed a bag of crisps, went upstairs and slammed the bedroom door. He also continued to smoke in that room where she sleeps at night. I asked him to stop and he gave off that he has nowhere for himself anymore.
He came out of this mood a couple of times. He took us for a walk and picked us flowers and lunch. The very next day, he went back into his low depressive mood. On the last particular day 2.5 weeks after birth, he was wanting to take us to the beach. This was the first day where I got myself ready and pretty, I was excited. He made me lunch and then refused to eat with me because the previous days, we argued over lunch (he would start arguements about nothing and it would lead to raised voices etc)
So anyway he ate in another room, our daughter was with me and she started crying so he slammed the door of the room he was in. I then went to the sink washed bottles for baby. He came in and said was I going to keep hogging the sink or was I going to get out of the way. I told him to not be so ignorant with me.
It led to a full blown row where he got quite aggressive. He came into my face and I pushed him away and he then said I assaulted him I told him to wise up and stop this shouting in front of our baby. He slammed the living room door. I went in and I said this had to stop. He told me to get the hell out of his house and that it was about time I leave and give him peace. He went upstairs and at the top of the stairs he called me a fat shapeless b###ard, fat ugly nose and feet etc. Now before birth I weighed over 13 stone. At this arguement, I was weighing 10stone 10 so definitely not fat.
I packed 2 bags, and left with our baby. Since then I have reached out to him and he has ignored me. He believes me to be staying in a bmb with a newborn and he thinks this is acceptable. He has not asked about her or me. He changed the locks also so I can't get into the home. My heart is broken. What happened to the man I love? He doesn't speak to anyone anymore, he has no friends, he stopped working. I can see his Google activity and he has been researching moving to India and leading a spiritual life. I feel like his brain is messed up.
A week later, I am now 9.5 stone, stopped breast feeding as I'm not producing enough, doing everything on my own with our perfect daughter. Basically, what would you do? What has happened him? Is this normal behaviour during pregnancy and post-partum?
He knows all I have ever dreamed of is having a baby and a family. Why did he do this? I feel so sorry for me. That was where I made home, I have so many belongings and stuff in there that ingot for my daughter. I helped with the decor and actually blame that for my pre eclampsia. The day before admission I was on my hands and knees painting skirting because I felt bad about him painting upstairs. I redone all the grouting in the bathroom etc too. For him to turn around and say "what kind of idiot stays in a house where they aren't wanted". One day picking flowers and declaring your love, the next telling me to leave.
How do I get through this
Tldr my fiance m41, put me f29 out of the home with our 2.5 week old daughter. I need advice on what has happened to him and what to do next.

2024-184 / Zedd MAP: 97.13 / MLZ MAP: 95.77 / Score Gap: 1.36
Wikipedia / IMDb / Official Trailer / Our Collection
An emotionally broken family (check), marital woes boiling over (check), sullen teen reading Friedrich Nietzsche (“* To Live Is to Suffer, to Survive Is to Find Some Meaning in the Suffering.*” - oh great, now I gotta sit around thinking about that…), and a perpetually cute 8 year old about to live her beauty pageant dream (check), unless someone dies…
Yup - sounds like our kind of comedy. (Double check)
From IMDb: A family determined to get their young daughter into the finals of a beauty pageant take a cross-country trip in their VW bus.
I’m dragging today - doctor’s appointments take it outta of me because I can’t sleep the night before. I’m in good hands - Mrs. Lady Zedd’s well equipped for getting where I need to go and back. She parks my butt back in my chair and gets those movies rolling (don’t you know it). We got three more off the annual 500 debt today - she picked them all.
We first saw this Jonathan Dayton / Valerie Faris co-directed comedy of errors not long after it came out. I was sold on it just on Alan Arkin alone but this movie has one stellar ensemble cast - each bringing their own something special to the cinematic pot. MLZ and I have loved Toni Collette since shortly after we got married 30 years ago watching her ply her trade in Muriel's Wedding (1994) - Greg Kinnear brings his natural nervous energy - what can you say about Steve Carell (I mean… it’s Steve Carell, right?)
Well - it’s not… he’s playing against type as a suicidal intelligentsia. Sad eyes, bandaged wrists, finding out it’s what you give that brings value to life, not what you take. Carell is at his best when he’s bouncing off of other actors and we both found his portrayal of Frank to be endearing.
It’s funny, you watch a film in it’s time and everything just feels ((shrug)) normal. The color and quality of the images, the choices in setting and costuming, the carefully selected soundtrack. If it’s done well, it seems invisible almost, weaving of sight and sound, the story just takes over and is as natural as life.
As a movie ages, it takes a while, but it gets out of step with emerging trends. Hair styles are off, clothes look comical, songs sound tired. How does a filmmaker (if they’re trying to) create a timeless motion pictures? Clearly, the elements around the story are the ones susceptible to erosion - it’s gotta be the story itself that lends its timelessness to a production.
There have always been families in crisis, the answer has always been to pull together when everything is trying to tear you apart. The story drags us through the mud with this family but also brings us to a better place by the end.
For my money - that’s quality movie on.

I have an infant and toddler, but I don’t react the way others do. I think it’s a histamine response.
Every data point is a useful one!

I've just started using nzbgeek and it's definitely finding matches. It's better than nzbplanet on content.
I can add items to the cart and there is a selection box next to each item, but the only action available is Delete. How do I select all in the cart and request all nzb downloads to start? I can download them one by one, but this is tedious. What am I missing?

Preferably in CM, but if imperial/British units are what you commonly use, then use those instead. I will, obviously, reciprocate. And no, I don't care too much what your height is one way or another. It's just a conversation starter, something to make a couple comments off of

Had my first boomer encounter today and it actually ended pretty well!
I went out to a restaurant with my mom. While we were waiting for our food, I had to use the bathroom, so I got up and found them, and discovered they were single use. The women’s one was occupied, and I’m afab enby (closeted, but I still present pretty femme), so I was like “well guess I’ll have to wait.”
A couple minutes later two boomer women show up. One says to me “they said if the women’s room is being used we can use the men’s” and, hey, I need to pee, so I say thanks and head toward that one.
That’s when the other boomer woman pipes up with “And I told them that it’s against my religion! I identify as a she/her!”.
🤦‍♀️
Anyway, ignoring her, I go inside, do my business and walk back out. The helpful boomer is gone (I’m guessing the women’s room opened up in the meantime and she went in) but Ms. She/her was still waiting there. She gives me a nervous look and goes “uh, is it… clean in there?”
I say yeah, cuz it was for me (way cleaner than most public bathrooms I’ve been in, wouldn’t be surprised if it had just been cleaned before I showed up, that’s how spotless it was), and she nodded and hurried inside as I walked back to my table. Told my mom (who’s a rare kind of chill and laid back boomer, especially in recent years) what went down and she got a kick out of it.
Moral of the story: when you gotta go, you gotta go (also abolish gendered bathrooms).

I am so excited! I've never seen Broken Social Scene live before but I've been listening for 17 years, give or take. Praying that the universe sends Emily Haines (and maybe some other special BSS members) to the stage with them.
Come dance with me!

This might be a long and unorganized post, but I am basically looking for advice. I've been teaching kindergarten in Korea for 3 years now. I only signed another contract with my current school because they offered me a good deal. After the new term started, things have only gone downhill with management and the changes they are making (some borderline illegal). There have also been talks about how much worse the school will get in fall. However, they will not tell us the changes until last minute. At first I wanted to stick it out and finish my contract which ends in February 2025, but it's looking harder and harder with the changes they are making and the recent treatment.
I'm trying to figure out my next plan or essentially an escape plan. My boyfriend lives in China and I've considered going there and teaching due to the better pay/hours/etc. On another note, I am thinking about when I should start my business career in my home country. I'm currently 24 and already have that feeling and pressure of running out of time to start my business career, but I don't feel like I'm ready to head back to my home country yet. I still have the travel bug and feel like I want to experience one more place before I settle down. I also have a cat which doesn't make this necessarily harder, but I need to be prepared in more ways than one.
I'm just feeling stuck. I know I have options, but I'm not sure which ones to choose and when to do them. I used to be scared of leaving Korea because I felt like I wasn't done exploring the country, but that fear is gone now and I don't have an issue leaving.
I think the advice I'm asking for is:

1. Should I leave my current school before it gets worse and I'm stuck? If I leave, when should I?
2. Should I try teaching in China or just go to my home country for some time?
3. Just general advice about the entire situation. Anything is helpful.

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I’ve had so many bad things happen with my first ivf clinic I am almost not surprised at this point.
We were told in the beginning of our ivf journey by my clinic that my insurance would not cover any portion of IVF. So, used one of their suggested companies for a loan. We did a full round of IVF, a failed transfer, and two canceled cycles after that. Well after all the mess they put me through we switched clinics.
My new clinic told me I absolutely have full coverage for ivf through my insurance and they couldn’t believe my old clinic would say that.
Long story short, we attempted to get a super bill from original clinic to obtain a reimbursement from insurance. Insurance was saying no, we don’t owe you anything, we paid for your ivf cycle.
Apparently, my clinic took my payment for my ivf/transfer cycle, and then ALSO billed the insurance. So they got paid twice off of me.
If anyone has any advice I would really appreciate it.

To start, I'm a regular player since launch but never never improved much beyond a certain point. Right now I sit with a 1.3 lifetime k/d, have been finishing the battlepasses and getting a good grip of each season but I'm always solo queue since none of my friends would even give another try to the game.
Understandable mostly because of the matchmaking and how hard it is to improve in beginning specially if I play with them. These last seasons have been harsh and now a days, the matches feel totally manipulated to either give advantages to certain squads to win the game while other lose, matching predators with players with worst than 1 K/d and even worst, the dubious aim and behaviour that makes me think how good their gaming chairs are.
NOW TO GET INTO THE POINT, usually the game puts me on European servers, where my experience playing is as described above. I recently tried to connect to other servers to see if things could be even worst like I see in Reddit or youtube. Tried New York. Saw for the first time someone using super aimbot blatantly and got shocked.
Decided to go deeper. Taiwan 2. Long wait in lobby, seems like there is only 2 or 3 games at the same time with low population. And with good internet, the game helps a lot with the low ping which you can get used to.
But the match it self? Oh boy. Your team will consist of 3 options 1 - boosters who are probably pumping an account.
2 - bots to be farmed, easily recognisable by their names. They will drop in line along the whole map so boosters can kill them easily and stay in place.
3 - people like me, super rare but important to recognize since all of them recognize the mission without me saying a word. Driven by pure fun and having a good time playing this game again, we all know what's the best possible win: ruin the day of these cheaters with raw skill.
If your team consists of number 1 option, then you can only start the diplomatic way by politely asking for their integrity as players. "Why do you do this? This is super boring to do. Why farm?" They don't expect any real players in their squads and the first thing they'll do is to ask to go along. Which I didn't. I will never want to do what these people are doing and avoid shooting the bots at all costs, UNLESS I can steal the kills of the booster teammate. Shooting exactly the same targets he aims at. And the best part is that while one account is being boosted, the other is just being a spotter. He pings a target that he finds and I can focus on stealing the kill at the best time.
If your team has number 2 or 3 options, then the game is simple: hunt the cheaters and have a jolly good apex time. Yes they will have cheats, aim bot, punch boosting, maybe wall hacking. But since they lack so much skill and are playing a total different game of doing a shores along the map, they turn into easy prey and get outplayed.
Basically I'm having fun hunting these guys and receiving messages on Xbox offering me 20 kills badges and to be friends. It's easy to bully the same cheaters by queueing at the same time but it's guaranteed cheater lobby anyways.
I will never use a badge acquired by farming bots and have been actively avoiding it so in these matches.
Sorry for the long post since I decided to be as informative as possible about my experience. I really hope more people can join these games not just to see the real state of the game but also to refresh some fun into the game. What makes me sad is that most of the cheaters in my squad were definitely European and soon they would go back to cheat in normal servers.

A Contact Creation flow started failing on one of our preview sandboxes recently due to a visibility criteria hitting a null value on the record variable's PrimaryAddressCountryCode. I recall seeing a tech note somewhere that said Salesforce would start setting defaults for certain fields on new records to be NULL instead of blank or an empty string.
However I can't for the life of me find any reference to this now. The short-term workaround has been to set the PrimaryAddressCountryCode to an empty string ("") at the start of the flow but this is far from ideal.
Does anyone else recall seeing this or run into any changed behaviour on preview sandboxes on Summer '24?

This is long, my bad, and I don't know 100% if this is the right subreddit to post this yet or not, it's not clear we're not friends anymore for sure, but it kind of feels this way.
So, I became friends with her when I started my job at this new store two years ago, we're still coworkers, and it's been a slow progression on getting to know her. She's really shy, has her guard up, especially around men, so slowly feeling her open up to me was such a genuinely great feeling, and I felt honored. At the end of last yeastart of this year we really started getting closer. We started texting more outside of work, hanging out on occasion, and doing little errands together after work.
On top of that we have a lot of similarities as far as music, movies, sense of humor, outlooks on life, all of that. And naturally, I caught feelings. Going down that road never felt like an option to me as I genuinely valued her as a friend and someone in my life, and pursuing a romantic relationship and potentially putting that at risk just didn't feel worth it, but I also know from experience how hard it is to hold those feeling in.
So, a few weeks ago, without really thinking too hard about it, I confessed to her after work. I established how much she means to me, that I value her as a friend, and how I didn't want her to feel like I just approached a friendship with the idea of eventually dating her. I tried to be as genuine as possible, and she seemed okay. She thanked me for my honesty, asked when I worked next, and we said our goodnights. I sent her a text not long after thanking her for hearing me out, and that I value her as a friend.
However, I worked with her three or four days since then, and she's been avoiding me. Avoiding eye contact, avoiding walking past me and man does it hurt so bad. It's not like she ignores me, if I talk to her, she responds with a smile, but it's super quick. Nothing like our conversations and cracking jokes I'm used to with us. I texted her recently after a customer was being creepy to her, and she responded and explained what went down, so it's not like I'm blocked, and I figure she easily could've just ignored my text.
So, it seems like an avenue is open for us to talk, but I don't know, I don't want to push it. It's only been a few weeks and we've only worked together a few times, but it feels like an eternity compared to how we used to be. It hurts so bad, the idea of losing her as a friend. And I just don't know what to do. It feels like I lost her trust in me, and since she's super shy, I don't know how she's feeling.
I would love any insight you all have, if you've been in her situation, or mine. If you confessed, have been confessed to, if you had a friendship go south afterwards, and if you became friends again later one. I just need something to make me feel better, or to have some form of understanding.