Recommendation letter for graduate school
Advice for getting into graduate school
2012.02.28 19:16 feralparakeet Advice for getting into graduate school
This subreddit is for anyone who is going through the process of getting into graduate school, and for those who've been there and have advice to give.
2009.08.13 06:15 frugaldutchman GradSchool
Discussion forum for current, past, and future students of any discipline completing post-graduate studies - taught or research.
2011.06.06 03:48 lotusQ Speech-Language Pathology
A community of Speech-Language Pathologists (SLPs), Speech Therapists (STs), Speech-Language Therapists (SLTs), Clinical Fellowship Clinicians (SLP-CFs), Speech-Language Pathology Assistants (SLPAs), graduate clinicians and students. We discuss ideas, stories, information, and give general advice through our personal experience and research. Please join /SLPGradSchool for pre-graduate school and graduate school related discussion.
2024.05.29 05:54 dumbasianchick posting for my friend 18f
 | this is my friend, practically my sister. she just graduated, but when she was in school she was often mistaken for a lesbian. she is also always seen as older than she really is. so, she wants to know what she can do to look better overall but also less like a lesbian and look more her age. advice other than losing weight please! she knows lol. (i think she looks straight, her age, and over all best in slide 1 in my opinion.) PS: this post was per her request! submitted by dumbasianchick to lookyourbest [link] [comments] |
2024.05.29 05:52 OppositeJuice4864 How to stop the redirect
 | So I'm about to go to college at the University of Central Florida and to access all of my student information and everything I need to go to the myUCF website. On the website, I need to click the sign in button for it to let me sign in. This works completely fine on my computer and I get asked to sign in using my UCF information, but in my phone, when I click the button, it automatically redirects me to log into a Pinellas County Schools (PCS) account which is what I had until I graduated. I'm pretty sure my phone is doing this because the Google AI learned that I normally log into a PCS account when I click on log-in links like that. But I can't do this anymore because my UCF account is not a PCS account and if I put the information into yhe page, it womt work because it can't access the PCS account (because it's not a PCS account). submitted by OppositeJuice4864 to TechHelping [link] [comments] I've tried to delete the account autofill from my phone but that didn't work. Then I tried to see if there was something in the browser settings but I couldn't find much. I've thought about factory resetting my phone but I don't know if that would work since everything is backed up on my Google account. This isn't really an emergency but it's pretty inconvenient not being able to access the website on my phone and only on my computer. Any ideas? |
2024.05.29 05:52 Suspicious_Bee_5310 I need this to stop_
Ok guys another story about love and loss. So, my ex fiance, boyfriend of 8 year left me 2 years ago. He met a girl at work and same old story picked her over me.
During the time we were together he proposed and we bought a house. Along with my family and his family we started planning for a small intimate ceremony. We had already taken our engagement pics, ordered some party favors and sent out the invites.
But also during this time he went back to school to finish his Bachelor degree, while working full-time. At this time, I started paying for majority of the bills ( so he can afford school) and had to understand that he was going to be broke, tired and not have alot of time for me. I genuinely missed spending time with him. I worked too and our schedules just didn't align right. But, he promised that as soon as he graduates. He will have more money and I can go back to school, go on vacations abd fix up the house.
Fast-forward to April, 1 month before he walked the stage and receive his diploma. I find out he had been cheating on me. He moved out but kept saying he loved me but was confused blah blah blah.. The literal week of his graduation he chose her. She got to watch him graduate. He got a promotion at the end of May while I was trying to understand what had happened. And pick up the pieces of what was.
The following April, I find out they had a baby. Picturing him with his new little family kills me. I also found out I can't have children due to some illness. Again, I was devastated. I'm struggling w ith trying to be happy. Or at least having to pretend to be happy. It's been too long for me to be this depressed. Idk how to make the pain and loneliness go away. I'm an adult and know life is not fair. But damn. Idk how 2 people can be so selfish and hurtful and still come out on top. It's so unfair. I just don't want to feel this pain and loneliness anymore.
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During the time we were together he proposed and we bought a house. Along with my family and his family we started planning for a small intimate ceremony. We had already taken our engagement pics, ordered some party favors and sent out the invites.
But also during this time he went back to school to finish his Bachelor degree, while working full-time. At this time, I started paying for majority of the bills ( so he can afford school) and had to understand that he was going to be broke, tired and not have alot of time for me. I genuinely missed spending time with him. I worked too and our schedules just didn't align right. But, he promised that as soon as he graduates. He will have more money and I can go back to school, go on vacations abd fix up the house.
Fast-forward to April, 1 month before he walked the stage and receive his diploma. I find out he had been cheating on me. He moved out but kept saying he loved me but was confused blah blah blah.. The literal week of his graduation he chose her. She got to watch him graduate. He got a promotion at the end of May while I was trying to understand what had happened. And pick up the pieces of what was.
The following April, I find out they had a baby. Picturing him with his new little family kills me. I also found out I can't have children due to some illness. Again, I was devastated. I'm struggling w ith trying to be happy. Or at least having to pretend to be happy. It's been too long for me to be this depressed. Idk how to make the pain and loneliness go away. I'm an adult and know life is not fair. But damn. Idk how 2 people can be so selfish and hurtful and still come out on top. It's so unfair. I just don't want to feel this pain and loneliness anymore.
2024.05.29 05:51 BreathSalt279 Should I ask my summer class professors for a letter of recommendation for grad school
Hi everyone,
I decided to take extra classes this summer and have been thinking of applying for a 4+1 accelerated masters program through my university. My classes are online so there’s not as much face to face interaction as there is in a regular semester. Would it be appropriate for me to ask for letters of recommendation?
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I decided to take extra classes this summer and have been thinking of applying for a 4+1 accelerated masters program through my university. My classes are online so there’s not as much face to face interaction as there is in a regular semester. Would it be appropriate for me to ask for letters of recommendation?
2024.05.29 05:51 Significant-Tower146 Best 22Lr Snap Caps
 | submitted by Significant-Tower146 to u/Significant-Tower146 [link] [comments] https://preview.redd.it/cy8aforofa3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=aa4afcf6b876e0978402422484c9b1890bedac4a Looking to add a touch of style to your 22Lr ammo? Look no further than our roundup of the best 22Lr Snap Caps available on the market. These stylish and functional accessories not only protect your ammo, but also enhance the visual appeal of your firearm. Read on to discover the top 22Lr Snap Caps that will elevate your shooting experience. The Top 6 Best 22Lr Snap Caps
Reviews🔗High-Quality 9mm Snap Caps for Firearm Traininghttps://preview.redd.it/ehi9a0vofa3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a60088d2155ecbacc8088fb09b3a214ca61882dd As a gun enthusiast, I've found these Deluxe Snap Caps to be an invaluable addition to my training routine. The product's bright colors and distinct feel make it easy to differentiate from live ammunition, keeping my live rounds safely stored and helping me avoid any mix-ups during practice. The spring-loaded "primers" of these dummy rounds provide a soft landing for the firing pin, reducing the risk of damage to essential components. While they may not perfectly mimic the weight and balance of live rounds, they're still a reliable choice for function testing and dry fire practice. Overall, I highly recommend these Deluxe Snap Caps for firearm enthusiasts looking to train safely and efficiently. 🔗Gold Standard Snap Cap Kit for Vehicleshttps://preview.redd.it/0rxahaepfa3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d62850760c8339b8ba63d70b9a522e3d8a4c9344 I recently had the chance to try out the Standard Snap Cap in gold for a DIY project. This hardware kit comes with all the necessary stainless steel screws that made my vehicle upgrade a breeze. The snap caps, in particular, were a game-changer in keeping my new frame or plate looking pristine. Overall, it's a convenient and reliable addition to any home improvement toolbox. Even though there might be some minor drawbacks, overall it's a worthwhile investment. 🔗4-Pellet Box Roll Caps: 1000 Action Shots for Cap Gunshttps://preview.redd.it/lfibhampfa3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=6d3db0fc46837a7cd9a215d797a64dd83d0a7a39 I recently came across Parris Roll Caps, the ultimate action shots for your cap gun enthusiasts! With a pack of 4 boxes, totaling 1000 caps, the excitement never stops. These Roll Caps fit perfectly with other cap gun accessories such as the Double Holster Set or Western Girl Revolver. In my experience with the Roll Caps, I appreciate their ability to produce a decent pop, unlike some of the disappointing duds I've encountered in the past. Additionally, the compact packaging is handy when you need to restock on caps. However, the only downside I encountered with the Roll Caps is that the paper thickness and dimensions are slightly different from the old school caps of my childhood. This resulted in compatibility issues with my cap gun. Nonetheless, my grandchildren were still thrilled to use these Roll Caps, experiencing a blast from the past in their cap gun adventures. All in all, they have been a great addition to our cap gun collection, providing hours of fun for the young and old alike. 🔗Nickel Military Star Line 24 Snap Capshttps://preview.redd.it/s6n9b8xpfa3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=258f2b3ca8b0526f14bc96f8a091cb7a193968e6 I recently tried this Stecksstore Military Star Line snap cap, and I must say, it's an impressive piece of accessory. It's perfect for adding a touch of military-inspired style to any outfit or accessory. The nickel finish is a highlight, giving it a classy and antique look. However, it's a bit smaller than I expected, measuring at 7/8 inches in diameter, but that's no deal breaker. To my delight, the packaging came complete with a size 24 eyelet, socket, and stud, making it versatile for use on a variety of clothing and gear items. Overall, I'm happy with my purchase, and it'll surely add a unique look to my outfit when I wear it - or for that matter, any outfit. 🔗Police Support Police Mourning Snap Cap in Nickelhttps://preview.redd.it/hrsslekqfa3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a4b061f3961e3329cd4f34f99b1a25a9922806d3 I recently had the pleasure of using Stecksstore's Police Support Pin Line 24 Snap Cap, and let me tell you, it was a game-changer. The nickel finish added a touch of sophistication, and the size was perfect for my needs. However, one downside was that I didn't receive exactly the same number of pins as advertised in the package. But overall, the product exceeded my expectations and became a staple in my daily fashion. 🔗High-Quality Marine Snap Capshttps://preview.redd.it/kb16rhlqfa3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=03ad3d771dabfdbbd39f8ad8e162602b5230a6e8 A few weeks ago, I had the chance to give the Marpac Snap Caps a try in my daily life. The 6 and 8 black snap caps fit perfectly on the screws of a project I was working on. The first thing that stood out to me was how smoothly the Snap Caps clicked into place. It felt like a satisfying click every time I inserted them, which gave me a sense of security knowing they were fully secured. After a couple of attempts, I found it quite easy to remove the Snap Caps as well – just a simple twist and they popped right off. One downside I found was that the Snap Caps sometimes got a bit stubborn, especially when it came to inserting them. It took a bit more force than I would have liked, which caused the screws to slip slightly. However, once they were in, they stayed there no problem. Overall, I found the Marpac Snap Caps to be a solid addition to any toolkit. It might not have been perfect, but the pros definitely outweighed the cons, making it a worthwhile investment. Buyer's Guide22Lr Snap Caps are important accessories for the 22 Long Rifle cartridges. They are designed to secure the primer and prevent accidental firing while handling and storage. In this buyer's guide, we will discuss various aspects of 22Lr Snap Caps to help you make an informed decision.Material QualityChoose snap caps made from durable materials to withstand frequent use. Common materials include brass, aluminum, or plastic. Brass and aluminum options are more expensive but offer better durability, while plastic options are lightweight but may wear down more quickly. https://preview.redd.it/lh1drr0rfa3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=973205ce90418d446c66b3c860ec71f8c17f6479 Fit and CompatibilityThe snap caps should fit securely on the cartridges without causing any deformation. Check the packaging or product information for compatibility with different bullet materials or case sizes. Some snap caps are designed for specific calibers, so make sure to select the correct ones for your 22Lr cartridges.Design and FunctionalityThere are different designs of snap caps, such as hinged, twist-off, or fixed. Hinged and twist-off snap caps allow for easier removal, while fixed snap caps may offer a more secure fit. Consider the convenience of use and safety features when selecting snap caps.Cost and ValueThe price of snap caps can vary depending on the brand, material, and packaging. Research different options and compare the price per unit to find the best value for your needs. However, avoid selecting the cheapest option if it compromises the quality and performance of the snap caps. https://preview.redd.it/3z1gncmrfa3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=47bf5e16f7e1dfaceace087cf4d6f19778d4e908 Practicality and MaintenanceConsider the ease of use and maintenance when selecting snap caps. Snap caps with a well-thought-out design and easy-to-clean features will make your experience more enjoyable. Additionally, investing in a quality storage case can help prolong the life of your snap caps.Manufacturer ReputationPurchase snap caps from a reputable manufacturer with a track record of producing high-quality products and providing excellent customer support. This will help you enjoy a reliable and stress-free experience with your 22Lr Snap Caps.FAQshttps://preview.redd.it/pu39a2trfa3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b5b99202712bfca2874f87079227f1cc7df50ef4 Q: Can I use snap caps on live ammunition?No, snap caps should only be used for practice and not on live ammunition. Using snap caps on live ammunition can cause accidental firing and poses a serious safety risk.Q: How many snap caps should I buy per box of ammunition?It is generally recommended to purchase one snap cap for each cartridge in the box. This ensures complete protection and prevents any accidental firing during storage or handling.Q: Can I reuse snap caps?While snap caps are designed for multiple uses, they may still wear down over time. It is best to replace snap caps periodically to ensure proper functionality and safety.When purchasing 22Lr Snap Caps, consider factors such as material quality, fit and compatibility, design and functionality, cost and value, practicality and maintenance, and manufacturer reputation. By making an informed decision, you can enjoy a safer and more efficient shooting experience with your 22Lr cartridges. https://preview.redd.it/ksndyz8sfa3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=1bb7a80ae876d421c756ff02dcae8f6c9d757587 FAQWhat are 22Lr Snap Caps and their uses?22Lr Snap Caps are small, lightweight plastic pieces designed to secure the ends of 22LR rifle cartridges. These caps prevent the cartridges from accidentally firing inside the magazine or storage container. They can also be used as a visual indicator of a fired round in the barrel, making it easier to keep track of spent ammunition during shooting sessions.What materials are 22Lr Snap Caps made of?The materials used to manufacture 22Lr Snap Caps vary, but the most common ones include polyethylene (PE), polytetrafluoroethylene (PTFE) or a type of plastic like acetal or polypropylene. These materials are chosen for their durability, lightweight, and resistance to various environmental conditions.How do I install 22Lr Snap Caps on my rifle cartridges?To install 22Lr Snap Caps, first ensure your rifle cartridges are clean and free of debris. Push the snap cap onto the tip of the cartridge, then gently twist it clockwise to secure it in place. Some snap caps may require a slight force to push them onto the cartridge, ensuring a proper fit and secure attachment.What are some popular brands of 22Lr Snap Caps?Several brands manufacture 22Lr Snap Caps, including Brownells, MidwayUSA, MagnetoSpeed, and Blackhawk. These brands offer a wide variety of materials, colors, and designs to suit different customer preferences and shooting needs.Are 22Lr Snap Caps reusable?In general, 22Lr Snap Caps are reusable, as long as they are not damaged or worn. However, it is a good practice to inspect and replace any snap caps that show signs of wear or damage to maintain the functionality and reliability of your cartridges.What is the difference between 22Lr and other snap caps?
What are some benefits of using 22Lr Snap Caps?Using 22Lr Snap Caps offers several benefits, including improved safety by preventing accidental firings inside magazines or storage containers, reducing the likelihood of chambering fired rounds, and helping users keep track of spent ammunition during shooting sessions.As an Amazon™ Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. |
2024.05.29 05:49 Affectionate_Try2114 STOP PLAYING VOLLEYBALL!
I may no longer be at the school, but I have been traumatized by you "volleyball players" who make George Santos's volleyball career at Baruch College look like US Olympic-level stuff. You must be the most uncoordinated and unathletic people to grace the streets of NYC. You are so bad at this sport that you chose to pursue it that you got called out during graduation. For the love of all that is holy, be a human, and be considerate. Please stop playing volleyball in the plaza. You hit people in the face, head, and even sometimes in the balls with no regard for who they are. It does not matter if it is a college student, a professor, an elderly person, or a child—you just will not stop. I am still traumatized because of you nearly hitting me hundreds of times during my time at Baruch. For the love of all that is holy, find a park. You live in NYC; there is a park on every corner. For the last time, FIND A FUCKING PARK SCUM BAGS!
MIC DROP!
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MIC DROP!
2024.05.29 05:49 sinovictorchan Orthographic feature proposal to mark semantic feature in an alphabet (2024/5/28)
I propose a reform of Latin orthographic system to mark semantic feature of words to assist partially fluent speakers and to comprehend unfamiliar words or foreign words. In the proposal, the small case letters will indicate phonetic component for consistency to IPA and the capital letters function as semantic marker. The sequence of small case letters after each capital letter in a word function as a semantic component to help reader comprehend the meaning of the word.
For my given example, 'G' marks function word, 'A' marks proper noun, 'F' marks foreign word, and 'Y' marks native word.
Cantonese without tone marker: ngoG dotFstudy choGFdone daihokFschool
"I finished studying in university"
Cantonese without tone marker: koG yaoFoil gaFprice singFrise
"The oil prise raise"
English: steveA graduated from polytechnicAfire UniversityAschool
English: heG readYsee the plan of UbermancheYsuperYpeople
English: theG technicianYpeopleYskill is hereYlocal
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For my given example, 'G' marks function word, 'A' marks proper noun, 'F' marks foreign word, and 'Y' marks native word.
Cantonese without tone marker: ngoG dotFstudy choGFdone daihokFschool
"I finished studying in university"
Cantonese without tone marker: koG yaoFoil gaFprice singFrise
"The oil prise raise"
English: steveA graduated from polytechnicAfire UniversityAschool
English: heG readYsee the plan of UbermancheYsuperYpeople
English: theG technicianYpeopleYskill is hereYlocal
2024.05.29 05:47 kayla_ravioli NYC Orchestras to join
Hello! I'm just making a general post because I'm looking for orchestras/music groups in NYC to join in the fall.
I'll be a freshman attending an engineering school in midtown east/the lower east side so I'm looking for an orchestra (relatively) in that area. My school doesn't have much music at all and it really pains me to drop playing Oboe and English horn. As a junior & senior in high school I made all-state and was one of the top players in New York, and while I'm not pursuing music, I'd like to keep playing at that level and continue to participate in the arts.
If anyone has any ideas, recommendations, or contacts, I'm open to anything!! Thank you guys so much.
Also, I've already reached out to NYU, Greenwich Village Orchestra, Brooklyn Conservatory Community Orchestra and the NY session symphony.
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I'll be a freshman attending an engineering school in midtown east/the lower east side so I'm looking for an orchestra (relatively) in that area. My school doesn't have much music at all and it really pains me to drop playing Oboe and English horn. As a junior & senior in high school I made all-state and was one of the top players in New York, and while I'm not pursuing music, I'd like to keep playing at that level and continue to participate in the arts.
If anyone has any ideas, recommendations, or contacts, I'm open to anything!! Thank you guys so much.
Also, I've already reached out to NYU, Greenwich Village Orchestra, Brooklyn Conservatory Community Orchestra and the NY session symphony.
2024.05.29 05:42 Ok-Collection4902 What should I do?
Hello everyone, I'm a 19 year old CS major entering my sophomore year. My dream is to graduate with a bachelor's in comp science and someday even achieve a master's degree. In terms of school, I'm not the smartest but I'm also not dumb, I'd say I'm above average. The problem is I'm terrible at math, I will point out that I excel in English though. When I look at the math courses I'm required to take my head starts spinning, some of this stuff I've never even heard of. I'm super passionate about computers and want to work in cybersecurity one day, but honestly, I don't know if even with my best effort I'll be able to get through all the math. For reference of exactly how much I struggle in math, I'm currently taking College algebra and I am having a hard time. Have any of you ever been in the same situation? How do I get better at math and how do I study? Working to get better is not the issue for me I just don't know how to do it. Any help is much appreciated thanks.
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2024.05.29 05:41 Witty-Gap-1470 Is wsu Pullman a good school for engineering?
Im graduating high school and Im interested in pursuing civil or environmental engineering.
I’ve heard great things about wsu, and I was wondering if I could some insight if wsu at the Pullman campus offered great programs for engineering.
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I’ve heard great things about wsu, and I was wondering if I could some insight if wsu at the Pullman campus offered great programs for engineering.
2024.05.29 05:40 frogp0g Is it possible to change teacher recommendations depending on the college you're applying to?
I have 2 different humanities teachers that I've asked for a recommendation letter because some of my schools only accept letters from junior year teachers, and I plan to only apply to those schools with my junior year teacher. I don't want to submit his letter to all my schools because he lowkey did not like me but I had no other choice for a humanities letter. Is it possible to only submit that letter to only certain schools through CommonApp? Or do they have you submit the same letters to all schools. To other people who changed teachers for each school, how was the process?
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2024.05.29 05:40 RSTimelocked How do I tell my parents I'm depressed?
I'm 20 and depressed for a myriad of reasons, some of which I'm still not ready to share with them I've been failing school and struggling to find a job in the industry I want to work in due to massive recent layoffs in the field, and that has bombed my mental health even more, leading to procrastination, anxiety, and worsening of my depression. I constantly feel worthless, I feel like I cannot ever fit in society with my personality and problems, and I've just been massively anxious for the past few months. I feel like this has hit a breaking point where I just need to tell them because I can't keep hiding this from them anymore, my relation with them is pretty complicated, I've not always been the best child, they've not always been the best parents either, I don't really want to talk about it much. What would you recommend I do? What would you like your child to say in this situation? I just feel very lost and I feel like things can't really ever get better with the way I am.
Thanks
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Thanks
2024.05.29 05:39 Fine-Language-3873 Situational Judgment Test for Uni Melb's DVM Program
Hi, my daughter is a year 12 student and considering applying for Doctor of Veterinary Medicine at Uni Melb through Graduate Degree Packages for High School Achievers. I think she will get over 98.5 ATAR and she’s a domestic student. I saw the requirements saying that she will need to get at least 70 WAM in her two years of bachelor of science degree and then at the time of enrolment to veterinary bioscience major, need to write a written statement and pass as satisfactory in situational judgment test to be admitted to DVM. My question is about the SJT. How likely is it for someone to fail it? And are students given only 1 attempt? Do you get second chance if you fail?
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2024.05.29 05:39 TheExSoul Trumpet tutor
So, I've been posting a bit on this sub and I've been playing In a community band for a little over a month (just had a memorial day performance) I was thinking a about getting a trumpet tutor. I'm also wondering if I should. Just for reference I played all of my middle and highschool years and I picked up my trumpet again 12 years after I graduated. So I'm not entirely sure if I should get a tutor or just play in the community band I'm in. I also think it's a good deal. He's a middle school band teacher and charges 85 dollars for 4 30 min lessons. I'm also not sure if I would be wasting his time or mine. Any help or guidance would definitely be appreciated.
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2024.05.29 05:39 phonymacaroniii Would I be the asshole if I asked my friend to stop making everything a competition?
This is a bit of a vent, I apologize in advance for the super long post.
So, I (28 F) have this friend (30 F) who I’ve known for over a decade. We met when we were teenagers and I would say I consider her one of my best friends. However, there’s always been this underlying feeling of competitiveness between us. I used to brush it off when we were teens and even early 20’s, but now we are about to enter our 30’s and it is still the same. However, there isn’t one giant scenario where I’ve felt comfortable enough to tell her that I feel like she’s trying to “one up” me or compare our scenarios. It’s always just little comments, some backhanded, some just kind of odd. If I’m sad about a situation, she will comfort me for a second but then go into a long spiel about how she’s had it so much worse and handled it better. Whatever I’m going through or have been through, she’s had it worse, every single time. Even when our situations don’t even really seem related, she finds a way to make it about herself. I feel mean for thinking this way but I do feel like it’s the truth. Whenever I’m doing well or am proud of an accomplishment, she never really acknowledges it or says anything about it. I am aware that I sometimes rely on external validation a bit so sometimes I wonder if I am expecting too much from her. But sometimes I feel like I am always trying to cheer her on and highlight her hard work etc, and don’t feel this reciprocated. I also feel like our daily lives are compared a lot, and my work or day to day routines are “undermined” in comparison to hers (example: I’m in graduate school and will say something like “oh I’m sorry I haven’t replied for a little bit I’ve been really busy with work and school”, and she will just reply with a long paragraph about everything she’s done this week and how hard she’s been working, how busy she’s been, how early she had to get up, etc.)
TW: SA below • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • A few years ago, I was SA. I didn’t tell her because in that moment, I felt that if I did, she would just talk about herself, and that’s not what I needed at the time. I saw her about a year after it happened and ended up having a panic attack and then briefly telling her. I didn’t give any details, just said I was SA last year. Several months later we briefly talked about it (I never actually told her what happened and I don’t think I will) she said she was hurt that I didn’t come to her because she wants to be there for me, but that it was okay. Then she goes on to say how my situation isn’t even that bad though because she’s been SA multiple times, and that she was surprised that this was the first time this has happened to me because of how many women this happens to (it wasn’t, I was also SA as a child and she knew that) and made some weird comments about how now I’ve joined the club and can empathize with her better and become more resilient. I kind of interrupted and said this wasn’t the first time, but then I kind of dissociated and it confirmed exactly why I never went to her for comfort in the first place. I felt extremely dismissed and unheard.
I do recognize that she has low self esteem but portrays herself as if she doesn’t, and has some trauma to work through. But that is up to her to decide and not something I would really say because telling someone they have low self esteem that they should work through would be rude. But I do think a lot of her comments stem from low self esteem. I also do believe she has the best intentions but just doesn’t always come across that way. I do genuinely think that she wants to help when I need it and just be a good friend in general, which is why I have always talked myself out of saying anything to her. I know she loves me and values me as a best friend too. I feel guilty that I’ve had these feelings bottled in and have never went to her about it. Even reading this back I feel like I sound so rude about someone who is supposed to be my best friend. I hate confrontation so I’ve always brushed it aside and convinced myself that I’m just taking things the wrong way. I’m not sure if it’s fair to go to her with examples, or if I should just wait until an opportunity comes up where I can address it in the moment. Or, if I am just reading into things too much and maybe I’m the one who wants conversations to be about me?? Am I expecting too much validation?
So basically, would I be the asshole if I told her I feel like there’s an underlying competitiveness between us, and then give her some examples of why?
TL;DR: My best friend compares all of our situations which often hurts my feelings, and I’m not sure if I should talk to her about how I’m feeling. I feel like sometimes maybe I am the one being selfish.
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So, I (28 F) have this friend (30 F) who I’ve known for over a decade. We met when we were teenagers and I would say I consider her one of my best friends. However, there’s always been this underlying feeling of competitiveness between us. I used to brush it off when we were teens and even early 20’s, but now we are about to enter our 30’s and it is still the same. However, there isn’t one giant scenario where I’ve felt comfortable enough to tell her that I feel like she’s trying to “one up” me or compare our scenarios. It’s always just little comments, some backhanded, some just kind of odd. If I’m sad about a situation, she will comfort me for a second but then go into a long spiel about how she’s had it so much worse and handled it better. Whatever I’m going through or have been through, she’s had it worse, every single time. Even when our situations don’t even really seem related, she finds a way to make it about herself. I feel mean for thinking this way but I do feel like it’s the truth. Whenever I’m doing well or am proud of an accomplishment, she never really acknowledges it or says anything about it. I am aware that I sometimes rely on external validation a bit so sometimes I wonder if I am expecting too much from her. But sometimes I feel like I am always trying to cheer her on and highlight her hard work etc, and don’t feel this reciprocated. I also feel like our daily lives are compared a lot, and my work or day to day routines are “undermined” in comparison to hers (example: I’m in graduate school and will say something like “oh I’m sorry I haven’t replied for a little bit I’ve been really busy with work and school”, and she will just reply with a long paragraph about everything she’s done this week and how hard she’s been working, how busy she’s been, how early she had to get up, etc.)
TW: SA below • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • A few years ago, I was SA. I didn’t tell her because in that moment, I felt that if I did, she would just talk about herself, and that’s not what I needed at the time. I saw her about a year after it happened and ended up having a panic attack and then briefly telling her. I didn’t give any details, just said I was SA last year. Several months later we briefly talked about it (I never actually told her what happened and I don’t think I will) she said she was hurt that I didn’t come to her because she wants to be there for me, but that it was okay. Then she goes on to say how my situation isn’t even that bad though because she’s been SA multiple times, and that she was surprised that this was the first time this has happened to me because of how many women this happens to (it wasn’t, I was also SA as a child and she knew that) and made some weird comments about how now I’ve joined the club and can empathize with her better and become more resilient. I kind of interrupted and said this wasn’t the first time, but then I kind of dissociated and it confirmed exactly why I never went to her for comfort in the first place. I felt extremely dismissed and unheard.
I do recognize that she has low self esteem but portrays herself as if she doesn’t, and has some trauma to work through. But that is up to her to decide and not something I would really say because telling someone they have low self esteem that they should work through would be rude. But I do think a lot of her comments stem from low self esteem. I also do believe she has the best intentions but just doesn’t always come across that way. I do genuinely think that she wants to help when I need it and just be a good friend in general, which is why I have always talked myself out of saying anything to her. I know she loves me and values me as a best friend too. I feel guilty that I’ve had these feelings bottled in and have never went to her about it. Even reading this back I feel like I sound so rude about someone who is supposed to be my best friend. I hate confrontation so I’ve always brushed it aside and convinced myself that I’m just taking things the wrong way. I’m not sure if it’s fair to go to her with examples, or if I should just wait until an opportunity comes up where I can address it in the moment. Or, if I am just reading into things too much and maybe I’m the one who wants conversations to be about me?? Am I expecting too much validation?
So basically, would I be the asshole if I told her I feel like there’s an underlying competitiveness between us, and then give her some examples of why?
TL;DR: My best friend compares all of our situations which often hurts my feelings, and I’m not sure if I should talk to her about how I’m feeling. I feel like sometimes maybe I am the one being selfish.
2024.05.29 05:37 borbolens Associate course or another BS course>
I am a recent graduate with a BS degree in Aviation, but my passion does not lie in this field. I believe that pursuing a career in IT/Computer Science will bring me contentment and peace of mind. Could you please recommend whether I should pursue an associate degree or a BS degree in this field, given my current qualifications? Thank you for your guidance.
Planning to take in NU Manila (Associate in Computer Technology/BS in Information Technology
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Planning to take in NU Manila (Associate in Computer Technology/BS in Information Technology
2024.05.29 05:34 PeachyKnight28 Which states/cities should I consider?
I am unhappy after living in my current city (Orlando, FL) for 10 years and think I am ready for a change. I have a few cities I am interested in but I'd love to hear your recommendations. I am originally from Atlanta and don't think I want move back, at least not at this point in time. I have a decent set of professional skills and am not necessarily tied to working in a specific industry, I think I could find a job anywhere, so that isn't a factor for me.
Things I am looking for:
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Things I am looking for:
- Affordability (lol). Assuming I would have a job with the same salary, my budget for rent would be pretty low. If living alone, no more than $1100, which I know is probably unrealistic in most places. If I lived with roommates I'd like to stay around $900.
- Mild winters. I hate the cold/snow. I can deal with extreme heat.
- Professional Sports. I love sports, mostly football, so either a city with professional sports teams or suburbs close enough for me to drive downtown for a game.
- Friendly locals. I grew up in Atlanta and am really yearning for that "southern hospitality"
- Stuff to do. I do love all of the entertainment options Orlando provides, so a city with lots to do would be ideal. Good restaurants, bars, shopping, parks/hiking trails, lakes, beaches, historic downtowns, community events, etc. to give a few ideas.
- Traffic. I know every city has bad traffic but more often than not it takes an hour just to go ~15 miles here. There have been multiple occasions it's taken me nearly 2 hours to go 20 miles for no real reason (no accidents, lane closures, etc.) . I can deal with rush hour traffic, but traffic here is around the clock due to all the tourists. Which brings me to my next point;
- Less tourists. It is so hard to meet people here/develop friendships because no one actually lives here. Most people are just here on a family vacation to Disney. I'd like to live somewhere where the locals outnumber tourists.
- No sense of community. No one seems interested in getting to know neighbors, there is no community support when it comes to community events, schools, youth sports, etc.
- Unfriendly people. For the most part, people are very unfriendly here. No hospitality/common courtesy.
- High cost of living. 1 bedroom/studio apartments that are in safe areas are on average $1800+ here. Prices of homes have grown astronomically. Groceries, home insurance, car insurance, etc. have all seen an extreme increase in cost over the past couple years. I know most cities are also experiencing increases in costs of living but there's gotta be somewhere that's "not as bad" as Orlando right now.....rent in most apartment complexes has doubled in the past 4 years with no change in salaries. I could go on and on about the drastic increase in the COL here....
2024.05.29 05:34 VeterinarianDry7713 Just venting
I'm just trying to finally get all my feelings off my chest because I feel like I've been letting them build too long. This breakup is between me (obviously), a upcoming highschool senior and my ex who just graduated. It's a long story so I'll get started now. Basically my ex(18F) and I(16M) had been dating for a year and half. (I know since it's a highschool relationship not many people take it seriously and think it was doomed from the start but it dosent invalidate the way I feel). I thought I approached our relationship carefully as I made sure to set boundaries and set our relationship in mutual values, respect, communication, and integrity. For a year it was all smooth sailing and I truly loved this girl. Our relationship became a lot more rocky this march however as I noticed she wouldn't respond to me for days at a time and spend time with her friends rather than me. I communicated this problem and she said she would do better but never did. Things got worse into April where she went to prom with her friends with me. I once again communicated how I was deeply hurt by what she did and she basically tried to tell me that it wasn't that big of a deal. She alo asked me why it was suddenly an issue as opposed to before and I told her "what am I supposed to do when my family thinks your cheating on me" she then said she would never cheat on me and that I had a lot of work to do to fix her reputation after I thought we communicated to resolve the issue. She then spent the next week asking for her 3ds that I had borrowed back and after I gave it back to her on Friday. She then dumped me that weekend over text citing that it was because of college (fair enough) and my family's opinion of her over the whole prom thing. I saw her at school over the next few days and made no attempt to speak to her as I felt betrayed by what she had done and respected myself too much to make an effort. It wasn't until about 2 weeks after our breakup that I learned she was with a new guy (who happenend to share my name) that I connected the dots. She had told me this guy had been texting her about 2 months before our breakup and that she had blocked him and wanted nothing to do with but obviously she was cheating on me with him.
To sum up my thoughts, I feel like an idiot for letting her do that to me. I feel like I was too forgiving. I feel taken advantage of as she graduated as a valedictorian because of our joint efforts (I helped her significantly with assignments and tutored her) and me having to keep her mental state stable constantly. I feel insecure because she left me for a man who shares the same name as me and play in a band. I feel like a fool for trying to make sense of this when I should really be forgetting and moving towards with my life. I feel like my ex is truly an evil person for what she did (she even texted me recently once she heard about what happened to deny the cheating allegations). I feel like every time I make progress towards moving on something always drags me back. I feel oddly prideful that I truly loved her for her and not what she did for me or what she provided me.
There's so much more she did that I could write a book about it but at that's point it's just excessive. I know what I have to do to move forward is to forget her and remember the lesson. Do the things I love and enjoy, and have fun. But it's just nagging me how poorly I was treated.
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To sum up my thoughts, I feel like an idiot for letting her do that to me. I feel like I was too forgiving. I feel taken advantage of as she graduated as a valedictorian because of our joint efforts (I helped her significantly with assignments and tutored her) and me having to keep her mental state stable constantly. I feel insecure because she left me for a man who shares the same name as me and play in a band. I feel like a fool for trying to make sense of this when I should really be forgetting and moving towards with my life. I feel like my ex is truly an evil person for what she did (she even texted me recently once she heard about what happened to deny the cheating allegations). I feel like every time I make progress towards moving on something always drags me back. I feel oddly prideful that I truly loved her for her and not what she did for me or what she provided me.
There's so much more she did that I could write a book about it but at that's point it's just excessive. I know what I have to do to move forward is to forget her and remember the lesson. Do the things I love and enjoy, and have fun. But it's just nagging me how poorly I was treated.
2024.05.29 05:33 Consistent-Truck9393 Do I need foreign language
My high school required for us to take either a foreign language or a computer science in order to graduate and I took the computer science route. Now looking college apps, it seems very intimidating as I don't have those foreign language credits. Since I took computer science and got a 5 on APCSP, does that make up for it?
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2024.05.29 05:31 EmotionallyRelaxed AITAH for not attending my son’s high school graduation ceremony because my ex-wife's Affair Partner was going to be there?
My ex wife (40F) and I (42M) have been divorced for 6 years now. We also have a son who’s now 18. My ex wife had an emotional (and probably physical) affair which led to the divorce, and she’s now married to her Affair Partner. Her husband is extremely rich and well off and my son gets along with him well.
It did hurt me initially after the divorce because I felt I was losing the emotional bond with my son. My son and I were very close before the divorce, but our bond just completely shifted after the divorce. My ex wife’s affair partner gifted my son lavishly, took him abroad multiple times, my son was also able to see his favorite soccer team in England. I was happy my son was happy, but I was also sad because my son could not see how his mom and her husband had hurt me so much. And I was also sad seeing the bond developing between my son and his mom's husband. After my ex wife and I split up, I did not bother dating because the affair had emotionally broken me, so I just focused on my career and being physically fit.
And I had actually done pretty well in my career. I experienced significant career progression in my job, but I also got a bit mentally burnt out. I was thinking of taking an extended break of a few months and my sister recommended that we could travel abroad. My son asked me a few months ago about attending his graduation ceremony, and he was really excited and really wanted me to be there. However, by this point, I wasn’t feeling much emotionally for my son, and I asked him if his mom and her husband would be there, and he said yes. He begged me to come and I told him I’d think about it.
However, I never intended on attending his graduation ceremony after he told me his mom’s husband would be there. I coordinated with my sister and booked my flights for our vacation after speaking with my son. But I did not tell my son about it until the last minute.
My son’s graduation ceremony was last Wednesday, and my flight was the day before on Tuesday. I told my son last Monday that my sister and I were traveling abroad the next day, and I wouldn’t be able to attend his graduation ceremony. My son was shocked, and asked me why I couldn’t book my flight after the graduation ceremony. I just told him upfront that I didn’t want to attend his ceremony because his mom’s husband was going to be there, and also I needed a break. I also told him not to bother me or call me during my break.
So my sister and I are now in Norway, and I the am the most mentally relaxed I’ve been in years. My son did text and call me a few times but I’ve temporarily blocked his number till I return back.
AITAH?
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It did hurt me initially after the divorce because I felt I was losing the emotional bond with my son. My son and I were very close before the divorce, but our bond just completely shifted after the divorce. My ex wife’s affair partner gifted my son lavishly, took him abroad multiple times, my son was also able to see his favorite soccer team in England. I was happy my son was happy, but I was also sad because my son could not see how his mom and her husband had hurt me so much. And I was also sad seeing the bond developing between my son and his mom's husband. After my ex wife and I split up, I did not bother dating because the affair had emotionally broken me, so I just focused on my career and being physically fit.
And I had actually done pretty well in my career. I experienced significant career progression in my job, but I also got a bit mentally burnt out. I was thinking of taking an extended break of a few months and my sister recommended that we could travel abroad. My son asked me a few months ago about attending his graduation ceremony, and he was really excited and really wanted me to be there. However, by this point, I wasn’t feeling much emotionally for my son, and I asked him if his mom and her husband would be there, and he said yes. He begged me to come and I told him I’d think about it.
However, I never intended on attending his graduation ceremony after he told me his mom’s husband would be there. I coordinated with my sister and booked my flights for our vacation after speaking with my son. But I did not tell my son about it until the last minute.
My son’s graduation ceremony was last Wednesday, and my flight was the day before on Tuesday. I told my son last Monday that my sister and I were traveling abroad the next day, and I wouldn’t be able to attend his graduation ceremony. My son was shocked, and asked me why I couldn’t book my flight after the graduation ceremony. I just told him upfront that I didn’t want to attend his ceremony because his mom’s husband was going to be there, and also I needed a break. I also told him not to bother me or call me during my break.
So my sister and I are now in Norway, and I the am the most mentally relaxed I’ve been in years. My son did text and call me a few times but I’ve temporarily blocked his number till I return back.
AITAH?
2024.05.29 05:29 Bright_Zebra6458 Paralegal Positions
Hey all- I’m a prelaw student currently working towards my double major in philosophy and mathematics, concentrations in German philosophy and computational mathematics. Looking to go to law school post undergrad. I don’t have any experience in law field but plenty in professional settings. Just submitted quite a few cover letters and resumes to firms this morning. Just wondering how long does it take for firms to get back to you?
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2024.05.29 05:28 ELite_Predator28 My brother got caught by our ISP torrenting stuff. Now I'm being blamed and threatened for it by my parents.
For context, my mom is an incredibly stubborn person who likes to think that she knows everything and can order me around because she is my mother. For instance, I had to argue with her for days to get rid of a cable box for a TV we never use for a service that's already redundant to what our ISP service provides over streaming. The rental equipment costs us 10$ a month for rental equipment, and we have 2 more in the house so I thought I should just get rid of it. It was hard fought but now they are paying less for the same functions.
I am now expanding this mission of money saving to self-hosting streaming services through a Plex ServePieHole I configured. The PieHole doesn't work because my ISP doesn't allow me to change the DNS setting on my router, but the Plex Server works fine to stream music and movies I rip from BluRays and records I own. I bought the lifetime pass a few days ago and I don't regret it. I unsubbed and deleted spotify from my phone the other day, and I got my dad to do it too. We are now saving 50$ a month with this investment and I can feel it.
Here's where we start butting heads: every single time she has issues with the internet, it's the server's fault. It's not the fact that the home shitty laptop she uses for work is slow and at 100% disk and CPU usage all the time. Nor is it the fact that she doesn't understand that the interface for the cable box and the android SmartTV are two different layers of similar apps.
She blamed the server for opening a menu and changing the channel, when in reality what happend was she clicked on the Samsung SmartTV app instead of the HDMI source output for the cable box.
Whenever we have a drop in the connection or Wi-Fi speeds it's always the server's fault, by extension, my fault. She has to use a tablet to submit her hours for work over wifi, and when that doesn't work it's my fault and the server.
Fast forward to today, my brother is home from college with his PC. Upon hooking it up our home network, apparently he had a few torrents going while he was away and I can only guess that's what sprang the alarm for my ISP. His roommate for school is going for IT, and I can only guess that he had a powerful network-wide VPN to cover both of them. Now that he's home, he's exposed to our ISP's .
Now my mom wants to throw the server out after getting the DMCA warning email, but the kicker is that the IP address and the device name is literally listed in the email - it's my brother's ffs. I know this because I assigned him the IP for the PieHole.
I'm so fucking tired of her ignorance and blaming things on me that is literally not my fault. I can't explain everything to her because she doesn't want to listen to me explain things that don't align woth her ignorance. She doesn't want to let me explain how it's my brother's IP and he is the culprit - I'm always at fault. We had a big argument the other day where it felt like she was finally going to lay off me and then this shit happens and basically visited her ignorance of what us me trying to save everyone hundreds of dollars a year.
Another question here: from what I've seen, DMCA letters are mostly empty threats. Is this true or should I be worried? The DMCA claim only covered 1 torrented file, and I understand that the maximum tolerance is 5 warnings. Can anyone confirm if I should be worried about my ISP coming after me?
Thanks for reading.
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I am now expanding this mission of money saving to self-hosting streaming services through a Plex ServePieHole I configured. The PieHole doesn't work because my ISP doesn't allow me to change the DNS setting on my router, but the Plex Server works fine to stream music and movies I rip from BluRays and records I own. I bought the lifetime pass a few days ago and I don't regret it. I unsubbed and deleted spotify from my phone the other day, and I got my dad to do it too. We are now saving 50$ a month with this investment and I can feel it.
Here's where we start butting heads: every single time she has issues with the internet, it's the server's fault. It's not the fact that the home shitty laptop she uses for work is slow and at 100% disk and CPU usage all the time. Nor is it the fact that she doesn't understand that the interface for the cable box and the android SmartTV are two different layers of similar apps.
She blamed the server for opening a menu and changing the channel, when in reality what happend was she clicked on the Samsung SmartTV app instead of the HDMI source output for the cable box.
Whenever we have a drop in the connection or Wi-Fi speeds it's always the server's fault, by extension, my fault. She has to use a tablet to submit her hours for work over wifi, and when that doesn't work it's my fault and the server.
Fast forward to today, my brother is home from college with his PC. Upon hooking it up our home network, apparently he had a few torrents going while he was away and I can only guess that's what sprang the alarm for my ISP. His roommate for school is going for IT, and I can only guess that he had a powerful network-wide VPN to cover both of them. Now that he's home, he's exposed to our ISP's .
Now my mom wants to throw the server out after getting the DMCA warning email, but the kicker is that the IP address and the device name is literally listed in the email - it's my brother's ffs. I know this because I assigned him the IP for the PieHole.
I'm so fucking tired of her ignorance and blaming things on me that is literally not my fault. I can't explain everything to her because she doesn't want to listen to me explain things that don't align woth her ignorance. She doesn't want to let me explain how it's my brother's IP and he is the culprit - I'm always at fault. We had a big argument the other day where it felt like she was finally going to lay off me and then this shit happens and basically visited her ignorance of what us me trying to save everyone hundreds of dollars a year.
Another question here: from what I've seen, DMCA letters are mostly empty threats. Is this true or should I be worried? The DMCA claim only covered 1 torrented file, and I understand that the maximum tolerance is 5 warnings. Can anyone confirm if I should be worried about my ISP coming after me?
Thanks for reading.