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2024.05.16 22:51 tabbytheo Review: DI w/ Nip Grafts by Dr Tuve at Reformkliniken in Malmö

I had DI w/ free Nip Grafts at Reformkliniken in Malmö on 18th April! Dr Tuve was my surgeon. I wanted to leave a review here since a few things happened that I wasn't prepared for and maybe this'll help anyone else!
I am from the UK and decided to have surgery privately with Dr Tuve as it was much cheaper than the UK. The cost of the surgery was 65000 SEK which is about £4800.
I flew from Manchester to Copenhagen, and then took a train to Malmö. It wasn't that expensive and very easy to figure out directions in person.
I went for 2 weeks and 4 days so I could go to in person appointments before and after the surgery. I'm also autistic and felt I needed the extra time to ground myself in a new country. I stayed at the Scandic St Jörgen hotel which was only a 5 minute walk from the clinic. Hotels are quite pricey and it has it's pros and cons. Pros - close to clinic, hotel cleaners, free wifi, close to food shops and restaurants, easy to get to train/transport. Cons - more expensive than airbnb, no fridge so had to have takeout a lot, they did a laundry service but it was VERY expensive.
In the end I do think the hotel was right for me and my needs, but I know many others are not as privileged to be able to stay that long in a hotel.
I had my pre op appointment on the 16th, which I was dreading but it went a lot better than I thought it would. Dr Tuve asked me a lot of questions about my gender, how long I've wanted top surgery, is my family accepting, etc. He then examined my chest and asked what kind of results I'd like. He let me get changed before he stepped in which I was grateful for. They asked if I had picked up my prescription (meds needed before surgery), however I hadn't had any notification about this prescription at all. They were very quick to give me a new one, which I collected the next day.
The 18th was surgery day, and I was told to arrive at the clinic at 7am. My partner walked me there, and we said goodbye outside the clinic doors. I had to fill in some paperwork, have an anti bacterial shower, and pee before surgery. I was really nervous for the anesthetic and going under, plus the IV, but it was a lot better than I thought it'd be! The nurse who did my IV was very kind and did it quickly, and it wasn't painful at all. I was called into surgery at around 8:20am. I had to lay on the surgical table, which was honestly the scariest part. The anesthetic took a few minutes and then it all kinda hit and once. It felt like a very deep long nap. I was out of surgery and awake by 12:20pm.
I was very sleepy for a few hours and apparently I sent a lot of videos of me to my partner but I don't remember taking them! They are funny to watch back! I was feeling quite nauseous so out of the food options I had some granola and apple juice. I was offered a sandwich too but that was too much for me. I kept falling in and out of sleep for a bit. The nurse was encouraging me to try go to the toilet, but I was really nauseous. I did end up being sick a lot, it was whenever I sat up. We ended up wheeling me in a wheelchair to the toilet to try pee (which was a success!). I was given some anti nausea meds. Before I left the clinic, the nurse took off my post op binder, nips dressings, and large dressing, and I felt a lot better. I got to see my chest for the first time (my nips were still covered by gauze). It looked really good for the first day! The nurse showed me how to wrap the binder myself and what to do with the nip dressings. He then wrapped me back up, but I immediately threw up which he realised was from the pressure of the large dressing. He decided to take off the large dressing so I was just wrapped with the nip dressings and binder. He only allowed this because I wasn't that swollen!
I left the clinic at 7pm, and my partner picked me up. I was able to walk easily, just sore on top, and I was on a lot of painkillers so it wasn't that bad.
The instructions from my dr was to have a shower daily, antibiotics twice a day, pain meds twice a day, more pain meds can be taken if needed (I did for the first few days). My partner helped me shower the first 3 days as I couldn't really reach anything, but after that I was slowly more independent. We had a shower head we could take off the wall which was very handy and made it a lot easier. I had to sleep on my back, which is quite painful since I had a curved spine, but I found ways to cope with it (pillow under lumbar region, pillow under feet for elevation). I brought a travel pillow and a mastectomy pillow with me. I honestly didn't use the mastectomy pillow for what it was made for, as it hurt to put my arms in the side holes. I used it more to stop myself rolling to the side. The travel pillow is a must. It helped stop a lot of neck pain, and I could fall asleep a lot easier laying on my back with my head surrounded by the travel pillow.
Unfortunately I got really ill on my 4th day post op. I track my periods, and knew one was coming up, so I was already expecting pain the week before (normal for me). This pain was a 10/10, I couldn't move and threw up a lot. We called the clinic and apparently it is normal for surgery to affect periods and cycles. I wasn't expecting anything quite this intense, so I thought I'd leave this in here in case anyone else experiences it! No-one else that I knew that was having top surgery experienced this, but I know I have a lot more intense symptoms of periods normally so this may have contributed to it. Luckily this only lasted 1 day.
The rest of the week was a lot better, and I managed to eat a lot more and do a few more things. I went on daily walks as advised by Dr Tuve, but nothing too far.
On my 9th day post op I had a random allergic reaction. My body really went through it! My face was swollen and red, and I had hives all over my body. We had no idea where it had come from since I was just doing the same stuff as normal, however I am almost certain it is linked to my autism/stress levels (I have had random intense illness related stuff flare up from overstimulation and stress a few times). I was given some antihistamines and they worked slowly over a few days.
On my 12th day I had my post op appointment where a nurse removed the gauze from my nips and any visible stitching from them. I was super nervous going to this appointment as my nips smelt really bad and I was worried they were infected. Luckily all was good ! Apparently I had a small hematoma, but it didn't have fluid so no need to drain. I was instructed to wash my nips 2-3 times a day, have my daily shower as per usual, and change the tape on my insicions once a week. I also had a small bandage gauze I taped to my nips which I had to do til they were dry. My nips were dry by 2 days after this appointment, but I used the small bandages for about a week as I was nervous of the binder causing irritation on my nips. I also had to keep wearing the binder, which I have to do til 4-6 weeks after surgery (depending on how swollen I am).
I flew back home on 2nd May, and it was all good health wise.
Since then, recovery has been good! I'm very happy with my chest. My insicions look super thin and the nips look great too.
Overall, my experience with Dr Tuve and his team was great! Here are my main pros and cons:
Pros - Cheaper and high quality results! - Very lovely nurses and Dr. I felt I was in good hands. - They are happy to answer any questions, post op and pre op. - The clinic is very nice. Felt like I was in a hotel! - You do not need to be on T or have a gender dysphoria diagnosis. These things can help the process, but are absolutely not necessary.
Cons - Most documents were in Swedish and I had to translate them using Google Translate. You can call up the clinic to ask questions, but I am not good with phone calls! - The documents/help sheets aren't super clear on post op care, it is mostly for pre op information - Sometimes a lack of communication, such as with the lost prescription.
I hope this helps anyone!
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2024.05.16 22:50 ThrowRA_Excellence My (24M) Ex (26F) is using the boundary tactics I taught her with guy friends and strangers on me now, it is difficult to remedy the relationship, should I attempt to wait and fix it?

We have been dating for 3 months.
My ex is very friendly and has a lot of guy friends. She works in the fitness industry and is surrounded by men constistently that are working out. She had co-workers that would use her for favors and attempt to cuddle with her. Guy friends/acquaintances that would flirt with her.
I taught her how to set boundaries with men and what to look for when a man is attempting to make her cheat or inappropriate behavior (manipulation, flirtation).
Now we’re broken up due to me questioning her on, “I want go out drinking and dancing alone” on a date night that was going sour.
She told me that when I questioned her about the guy friends, partying, drinking, especially alone, that I made her feel like a slut.
In effect of questioning, she has decided to withdraw from the relationship to be single and find herself by doing activities by herself such as bowling,eating,drinking,dancing,and partying.
When I attempt to remedy our relationship and try to fix it, she tells me to respect the boundaries I taught, be considerate of her boundaries, and to quit being selfish and doing the things I want. Which is to fix us.
She told me she wants us to be best friends first then maybe we can rekindle a romantic relationship, but she doesn’t allow me to be friends due to her enforcing her boundaries
Example: her dinner got ruined at home, I decided to tell her, “I’ll bring you fast food and I’ll drop it off”. I bring the fast food,hug her, enter the house, sit on the couch, and proceeded to ask her questions about her day. She starts yelling at me that I told her I was going to bring the food and that was it, bring the food and leave.
When I tried to remedy our relationship we were progressing to healing, I follow her boundaries, we become more distant and she becomes colder by the day.
Question: I want to remedy the relationship, she says she’s not ready, wants to work on herself and be single and doesn’t know when she’ll be ready for us to be friends again, so I just give up and move on?
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2024.05.16 22:48 Harold1933 Boycott fast food! Also mods chill

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2024.05.16 22:47 Faithhal Buy Siberian Husky Puppies in India: Your Guide to Bringing Home Your New Best Friend

Are you dreaming of adding a Siberian Husky puppy to your family? With their striking appearance and spirited personality, Huskies make wonderful companions for pet lovers across India. If you're ready to embark on the journey of welcoming a Husky into your home, here's a comprehensive guide to help you find and purchase the perfect Siberian Husky puppy:
  1. Research Reputable Breeders: Start your search for a Siberian Husky puppy by researching reputable breeders in India. Look for breeders who prioritize the health, temperament, and well-being of their dogs. Seek out recommendations from trusted sources and visit breeder websites to learn more about their practices and available litters.
  2. Visit the Breeder and Meet the Parents: Once you've identified potential breeders, schedule visits to their facilities to meet the puppies and their parents in person. This allows you to assess the living conditions, health, and temperament of the dogs. Meeting the parents also gives you insight into the potential traits and characteristics your Husky puppy may inherit.
  3. Ask Questions and Request Documentation: During your visits to the breeder, don't hesitate to ask questions about the puppies' upbringing, health care, and socialization. Request documentation of health clearances, vaccinations, and pedigree information for both the puppies and their parents. A reputable breeder will be transparent and forthcoming with this information.
  4. Consider Adoption from Rescue Organizations: Alternatively, consider adopting a Siberian Husky puppy from a rescue organization or animal shelter. Many Huskies are in need of loving homes and adoption is a rewarding option. Rescue organizations often provide thorough health evaluations and behavioral assessments, ensuring that you're adopting a healthy and well-adjusted puppy.
  5. Prepare Your Home and Family: Before bringing your Siberian Husky puppy home, make sure you're prepared to provide a safe and welcoming environment. Puppy-proof your home, set up a cozy sleeping area, and gather essential supplies such as food, water bowls, toys, and a leash. Involve all members of your household in the process and educate them about Husky care and training.
  6. Budget for Expenses: Owning a Siberian Husky comes with ongoing expenses, including food, grooming, veterinary care, training, and supplies. Create a budget to ensure you can provide for your Husky's needs throughout their life. Consider investing in pet insurance to help cover unexpected medical costs and emergencies.
For more>> Siberian husky dog price
By following these steps and being patient in your search, you can find the perfect Siberian Husky puppy to join your family. Whether you choose to purchase from a breeder or adopt from a rescue organization, your new Husky companion is sure to bring love, joy, and endless adventures into your life.
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2024.05.16 22:46 notsurewhattousern Hard day today

Hi yalls, just venting here honestly, hopefully this is the right sub. I’m (26F) having a hard time navigating life today, shed some tears and all. For me, I find it difficult to make lasting friends because I overthink a lot and don’t want to deal with initial awkwardness or deal with the ice breakers.. I guess I’m also afraid of the relationships not working out.. A bunch of my friends are moving away and I’m left with barely any friends anymore. I feel lonely, I actually used to have a lot of friends when I was younger (late teens, early twenties, I can’t believe I’m saying that lol) but now I barely have any. My self esteem is also super low right now, keep telling myself I’m fat I’m fat and for some reason my husband’s (28M) affirmation is not getting through to me, I still feel so ugly.
But it could be my mild depression speaking. Some days I’m really okay and some days I’m like this. I did just get off BC too so maybe my hormones are just wild right now. Also have been not working out as much the past couple of weeks and my diet has been not good. I haven’t been cooking so me and my husband and I just do take out a lot or eating instant food like ramen. I think that this is only a phase and I really just need to go through it until it’s done. Yes I see a therapist and she’d probably tell me to work out, eat well, drink lots of water, basically taking care of the internals first. Yes, I need to help myself right now by getting some exercise, eating well today and drinking water. Maybe clean the house too cause cleaner space helps my mental health a lot. Reach out to family and friends to see how theyre doing. Even though I feel like I have everything, good house, a good husband, a decent job, I do have friends, I should be happy. But mental health issues make some days so difficult for me, please let me know I’m not the only one. I know that this will pass when I decide to start taking care of myself again, just need that push which is really hard to find right now.
TLDR: having a hard time being an adult today because depressed, need some push to take care of myself again
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2024.05.16 22:44 jopherman What's using my 12v battery once every 30m, 4 times after every drive?

What's using my 12v battery once every 30m, 4 times after every drive?
TL;DR: Anyone else have a 12v monitor and see readings like mine? Consistent hits to battery at 30,60, 90, 120 minutes after every single drive, then never again.
Long version: '23 SEL AWD, 14k miles, had just over year. Leased from reputable dealer & paid off quickly to take advantage of the $7.5k rebate. Love it, trouble free, had all recalls done fast.
But after reading lots of posts about 12v issues and possibly poor OEM 12v batteries, and after occasional periods of seeing the amber light on what seemed way too often, I gave in to the twin demons of paranoia and gadget acquisition syndrome and bought a bluetooth battery monitor.
Most of what I discovered was comforting: The 12v charging logic seems weird and inscrutable, and sometimes charges on and off intensely for a half day before returning to a more normal schedule. But it was keeping my 12v at reasonable levels, and the 12v is holding a charge well when not in use.
But after EVERY SINGLE drive, or even just starting the car briefly, something is hitting the 12v battery enough to measurably drain it. It happens every 30 minutes after shutting off the car, for the next two hours. On a day when we do lots of short trips (common for us) those hits could be happening all day long. It's not weather-dependent.
Has anyone with a battery monitor seen this sort of behavior on their car? Better yet, does anyone have knowledge or an informed guess as to what the car might be doing that would hit the 12v in this way? It seems to me like a not-great behavior wrt long-term battery health.
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2024.05.16 22:44 Ottobawt Randomly started first fast, 36hrs down, aiming for 72+, questions/advice?

37m, 5'10", 205lbs still chubby at 170. I heard great things about a 72, but am tempted to push it till it becomes impractical, to burn fat/max-health benifits. I started at 205, i'm 200 today. Pardon if these questions are overly asked or not.
  1. how many days past 3 would be a good goal? (Once I'm in a mindset I can stay in it longer than healthy, so I'm down to push my self to a safe limit)
  2. What should I eat and avoid eating when I'm done?
  3. Supplements I should be taking?
  4. should I be doing or avoiding specific activity levels? muscle mass is important to me.
  5. how often should I consider doing such fasts? I always aim for maximum return on investment.
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2024.05.16 22:43 bigfatnigqaballz Prison Breakout RPG game, multiple endings. Custom character.

A prison break type game, build ur character, skill points.
You choose what you are in for, so if you are in for comiting GTA, you may be able to use that in your escape, skill points from side jobs, able to join gangs, have a sort of faction system too. Things like with lots of mechanics in the escape it could be really interesting and fun. Id like the escapes to be endless too, so many different ways to escape or get caught depending on crew, or if ur solo and just stay in prison levelling up hard, could make for a fun game. You can use so many different little things to your advantage, tiny decisions or the way your character is built could completely make or break the escape. Or your interactions and life within the prison. Can use outside contacts (depending on how your character is built) have survival elements too, if your hated in the prison and taken advantage off for food or commissary it will effect your health, your stats etc. I think it could make for a very interesting and immersive story, with lots of fun easter eggs, and endless playability.
• Custom characters
• Skill trees, perk system.
• Huge RPG elements.
• Survival Mechanics (optional)
• Faction System.
• Almost endless endings (small decisions make huge differences)
• Puzzle Solving elements, out the box thinking.
• Difficulty settings, for those wanting a fun rpg prison breakout experience, and those who want hard out of the box thinking.
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2024.05.16 22:43 Faithhal Buy Siberian Husky Puppies in India: Your Guide to Welcoming a Majestic Companion into Your Home

Are you ready to add a touch of elegance and adventure to your life? Consider bringing home a Siberian Husky puppy! Known for their striking appearance, playful personality, and unwavering loyalty, Siberian Huskies are beloved companions for individuals and families worldwide. If you're in India and eager to welcome one of these majestic dogs into your home, here's everything you need to know about buying Siberian Husky puppies:
  1. Finding Reputable Sources: When it comes to purchasing a Siberian Husky puppy, it's essential to find a reputable source. Look for breeders who prioritize the health, temperament, and well-being of their dogs. Research online reviews, ask for recommendations from fellow pet owners, and visit the breeder's facilities to ensure they meet your standards for ethical breeding practices.
  2. Health and Genetic Screening: Reputable breeders conduct health and genetic screenings on their breeding dogs to ensure that they are free from hereditary diseases and conditions. When purchasing a Siberian Husky puppy, inquire about health clearances for the parents and ask for documentation to verify the puppy's health status. This will give you peace of mind knowing that your new companion comes from healthy lineage.
  3. Consider Adoption: In addition to purchasing from breeders, consider adopting a Siberian Husky puppy from a rescue organization or adoption center. Many Huskies are in need of loving homes and adopting a rescue dog is a rewarding experience. Adoption allows you to provide a second chance to a deserving dog while also making space for more animals in need.
  4. Understanding Husky Needs: Siberian Huskies are energetic and intelligent dogs that require plenty of exercise, mental stimulation, and socialization. Before bringing a Husky puppy into your home, make sure you understand their needs and are prepared to provide the care and attention they require. Huskies thrive in active households where they have opportunities to run, play, and explore their surroundings.
  5. Budgeting for Expenses: Owning a Siberian Husky comes with expenses beyond the initial purchase price. Be prepared to budget for ongoing costs such as food, grooming, veterinary care, and training. Additionally, consider investing in pet insurance to help cover unexpected medical expenses and ensure your Husky receives the care they need throughout their life.
For more>> Siberian husky dog price
By taking the time to research, prepare, and find a reputable source, you can ensure a smooth and fulfilling experience when purchasing a Siberian Husky puppy in India. Whether you choose to buy from a breeder or adopt from a rescue organization, your new Husky companion is sure to bring love, joy, and adventure into your life for years to come.
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2024.05.16 22:41 NoResponse4120 My cat (mainecoon) could be having trouble with jumping. Is this concerning?

Hi all. Just a bit of context, I got him as a kitten from a breeder back in November 2022 at 10 weeks old. So he’s almost two years now. I was traveling back in January and had him over at a friend’s with two of this friend’s cats. She’s great and I trust she took great care of my cat. She’d share videos etc as well of how much fun my cat was having with her cats (after an initial period of adjustment ofcourse). Yet after I brought him back home, he limped for a bit, like half a day very randomly at times. He seemed to struggle to jump and was depressed for obvious reasons. Took him to the vet’s and they said everything seemed ok. They didn’t feel the need tk run any tests or xrays. And he did become totally ok.
Fast forward to 4 months later now, I notice him struggling to jump again. He is not doing his regular morning zoomies AT ALL! He does a sad bunch of meows when I pick him up which he doesn’t normally do. Had his vaccination appointment at the vet’s two days ago alongwith a general wellness exam, and they still did not recommend anything.
Now I lost a mainecoon cat I had adopted back in 2021 from a shelter. He was v sick from the day he came to mines and I had to spend a lot of money for him. He passed away after 4 months. So I am financially being a bit cautious about this time with my new cat, wondering if this is a phase that will pass like last time, or if something crazy is happening behind the scenes that I probably need to go get a second vet opinion for. For context, I notice him sitting this way these days a lot as well and it’s noticeable he struggles a little with his lower body to get up or change postures. Edit to add: worried if mainecoons are susceptible to health issues a lot more (my friend forwarded an article and now I am scared). If this is typical of a condition.
What should I be doing? I have insurance for him but not sure if diagnostic expenses will be covered. Any thoughts are helpful! Thank you.
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2024.05.16 22:40 pmbd2 Financial Advice Needed

I’m 22F and I feel like I’m drowning in debt…
When I was 18 I made the mistake of co-signing for my sister as she was in a desperate situation (homeless & pregnant). Because of our age the car payment ended up being $600/mo at a 24% interest rate. She ended up falling behind on the payment (I wasn’t informed till it went to my credit) & we’ve been in a rut since. The situation has affected both of our mental health & I’m currently trying to dig myself out of it.
I’ll have around $2k remaining a month, any advice on how to go about paying this debt? Should I set aside some money for savings? Should I pay off the debt one by one? I was thinking catch up on car payment first since that’s what’s affecting my credit the most, then credit card, EZPASS, finally hospital bill. Any advice would be greatly appreciated
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2024.05.16 22:39 Sereniteenie To me

5:36 PM Wed 5/8/24
Mood: Terrible
Title: Alone
Details: Last year I was told that there is a whole universe out there of people to find. And that I was being endlessly supported and that people were inspired by me.
This year I learned what it's like to be hunted and chased away from goodness. It has been the worst year of my entire life and with the knowledge that there is a whole universe out there--I feel lonelier than I was before.
Not a single person wants well for me. I have to translate my thoughts, behavior, intentions, symptoms, and soul to everyone.
There hasn't been a single rest from it in over 330 days. Just endless messes and ridicule and mocking and advances and terrorism.
I'm thought I was tired of people. But I walk outside and love them so much. I learned I'm not tired of people. But I'm so so so tired of loneliness.
Being around others doesn't stop you from being lonely. Because I'm still translating. My thoughts and feelings are still not reaching and the obvious signals I send to others are being deflected and mistranslated.
I'm tired of translating for to others. On paper it's so easy to understand a person. Watching it's easy to understand and to judge. But actually reacting appropriately to context and injustice and neurodivergence even is so lost to people.
This is why I wanted to write my story. Because people don't know how to cope. They don't know how to accept bad things. They don't know the difference between bad people and good people and even today our societies are too primitive to understand it.
They're still theororizing, contemplating, changing information for their gain...never have I seen any type of science be so abstractly and subjectively defiled as I've seen happen with mental health and neurodivergence.
People cannot separate the symptom from the person and punish and subjugate and continue to dominate those less fortunate.
I'm glad I know what happens to people they don't like. I know how dangerous people can be.
I wish I had someone to protect me. So I still find myself praying and wishing for one person. Just one person I don't have to translate myself to. Just one person I don't have to have grow tired of me. Just one person I don't have to compete with.
Growing up I was used to competing. Siblings, cousins, friends. In public AND private school there's always someone or something to compete. Today I compete with my parents and yesterday I compete with women who love the one I thought I loved.
I grew accustomed to hating my own birthday because of jealousy around it because my uncle was upset he shared it with my brother and I. And because I could never have it the way I enjoyed later. Too much. I'm too much. Too far. Too long. Too attention-seeking.
I had my chance as a teen with two friends so why isn't that enough for me? My parents were happy that I finally was taking a break from illness but since I got what I asked for then I'm a spoiled ass. As if they ever treated me better even then. Golden children are still abused even when the roles swap. Because no pleasantness is atrocious.
My family told me I was fat and going to get diabetes and have a heart attack and die despite never talking to me and being in high school--where weight isn't even done being "distributed" until your mid twenties. Thanks to the prime golden child my sister.
I'm tired of fighting and competing to be heard and to have needs met and to come across as kind or kinder. It's killing me.
Why can't I ever just be me?
Why can't I ever just be my authentic self? The one I want to be as a form of worship? Me in all my phases and feelings?
Why do I have to stuff myself down or look beautiful when I'm suffering in order to be a good and kind person worth saving?
I understand Nettle so much now. I wish I never did.
If I didn't have vocal fry would I be loved? If I didn't have fat would I be loved? If I didn't have brown or blonde hair would I be loved? If I forgave my parents and suffered quietly would I be loved?
If I had sweet doe eyes or a light mousy voice would someone finally think I had autism?
The ones I see on tiktok are drop dead gorgeous women with huge colorful lives and opportunities and get to complain about "pretty privelege"
Some have a light airiness to them that make them seem like fae.
And there's me who never fits anywhere or with anyone.
I have nothing and no one and absolutely no point.
I was okay before--before I had drive and passion to find my people. Before I had dreams of finding my way and accomplishing things. Before I had just one person.
It's so cruel. The people in this world are so cruel. I just want one person.
One person from God--and loving can be worship too. I'm too tired for much else.
Just one person to save me from their damnation that seems to last forever.
I'm so exhausted all the time.
My body hurts. My head hurts. My nerves feel like nothing.
I feel hopeless. Empty. I feel like the woman from my dream.
I feel betrayed--like others saw my future and pushed me into it head first with some kind of pre-revenge. Pinched. Twisted. Groped. Lost. Forced.
Called an attention whore. Gold digger.
I feel confused. People are trying desperately to make sure no one understands me.
I'm one girl. Against a whole universe and groups of people.
The emotional, psychological, and societal manipulation is obscure.
I keep reading revelations 2:24 to feel better.
It feels like Thyatira. I'm trying to hold fast to the idea that God may rescue me from whatever this is. A trial--make believe--experimentation--prisonment for knowing too much.
He asks we wait patiently for him to come and rescue us.
And many biblical figures had to wait for years and years. Upwards to like 100 if you were Abraham.
So while every day things feel like battle now, I am still trying.
I want to give myself OT and PT...I've done it for others so it can't be hard.
And with the flashbacks and emotional flashbacks and meltdowns and outbursts...I'm going to try treating myself for PTSD too.
Until I get the help I need somehow--I don't know what else to do.
I know others are tired of helping me. When you don't seem to receive pleasantness it's par for the course.
But I'm tired of competing for needs to be met. Can't everyone just work harder to understand bodies and minds and signals--then people would have their needs met and there'd be no need to compete.
I'm tired of fighting for myself. I'm tired of doing it alone.
I'm tired of being with others and doing it lonely.
The world isn't just crumbling due to climate change. Our minds are shifting and crumbling with it.
It makes sense. The weather affects people. Everyone I know is so tired. There's no way we are evolved enough to know God and be in his presence. There's no way we are advanced. Even this phone feels archaic to me--the programs we use feel archaic.
I understand now why capitalism is seen as demonic and evil. The control of drip marketing contents and technology is so slow and pointless.
Our resources are depleting. War is happening still. Communism wouldn't help either. It's the same song with a different tune.
I'll keep living because that's what he wants from people. I want to make God proud. I want people's lives to be easier.
I want people to stop competing and performing and wanting to die drenched in lies.
Maybe that's why it's a sin to lie. It halts evolution not just on others but yourself too. Living a lie halts growth.
It's difficult but Faith seems to be the part that is supposed to ground you in it. Like--I don't know WHY I can't lie in this situation but I have to be honest.
Anyways in these moments I wonder if philosophy and religion is a coping skill or a turning something bad into something good.
I guess I should just keep doing what I need to do and not what others want me to do.
It seems whenever I do what others want I suffer more than before.
I usually value collaboration. But when others Stop valuing it--then it's time for something to be done.
These people are messed up. They have no emotional retention. They have no ability to remember the things they do--Like it doesn't exist to them.
The heat, my hormones shifting, the trauma of seeing her again, and other things seemed to trigger a huge meltdown? Fight or flight? PTSD attack?
No wonder the woman from my dream was so empty--her body and mind have been through war and emotional, psychological, and spiritual survival.
I can only pray that I'm not chemically like a porn addicted person--I don't want to lose the idea that sex to me is love. After everything I mean.
I don't have the time in life to heal. There's so much I have to do and everyone still sees me as a wallet drainer and leech.
I don't trust anyone to help me. I don't trust anyone to love me. I don't trust love because it's not enough to make these other things go away.
I understand why people are calling for a civil war on the rich. And their help? To not be seen as bad people? Their help is "we will make others more like us!"
Natural selection affects them too.
Which is funny. They think they've escaped it ofc. I do think that people are right. Celebrities and other rich people aren't useful anymore.
They don't have much use anymore.
Anyways.
I feel lonely. I feel trauma everywhere. Like I've always been hit by a bus.
It's ironic I think--the "I wouldn't do it without a trained professional" people are so dangerous.
I did better without them...always.
It's hard not to hate life.
I always have to compete for needs and wants and sacrafice them.
For siblings, friends, lovers, parents, students, strangers, buyers, consumers, voices...
I sacrafice for these people to have better all the time. I don't have the energy to do anything else. I don't have anything else to provide but what I can scrounge up and then hand off or step aside.
I just want someone.
Someone who knows and loves me and understands me in full.
I can't let these people take away my voice or my story or my dreams for myself when they're already so blessed.
Only those well off say "you should be grateful"
What you did to survive and achieve versus what I did will never be the same.
So I'll hopefully find a way. To let my future husband be able to comfort me and know me in full after this whole experience. I'll find a way for him to know every page in my story and leaf through and bookmark his favorites.
Who in the universe would take away that from their victims so easily? That they could just have one?
These people can be vampires.
I get tired--I fall asleep--they suck the energy out of me.
They leave all their bad thoughts behind.
The world needs a miracle.
Activities: Food Sleep Screens
Emotions: Hurt Overwhelmed Confused Lonely Stressed Empty Hopeless
Unhelpful Thought: I'll never be well. No one will ever understand me. No one does. I'm alone. I'm always alone and I'll always be alone. People will only ever take from me or use me. People want me to die. My parents want me to die. I end up believing them and wanting it too.
I'll never have a life. I'll never have my own life. I'll never be me. I'll never be free.
Cognitive Distortions: Fortune-telling Self-blaming
Challenge: I don't know what to say. I'm so sorry that you've been through so much trauma in such little time. I'm so sorry you have to fight to comfort yourself and your fight response has increased so astronomically.
It must be scary to have to use it. It must be scary to never know when the pain will stop or when they will cause your attacks to start.
I don't know much about PTSD but considering the flashbacks and how even in moments for you they violate every piece of you--it only makes sense that you have resorted to fighting. I'm sorry you're body has to respond so uncomfortably and abnormally.
But try to remember that these are all normal responses to the abnormal. Your body is scared and terrified and it's been 330 days of exhaustion. The fatigue makes sense. The survival instincts makes sense. Your body and brain are working so hard for you so you can keep loving one day when the trauma responses ebb away.
There's no cure that I know of for these ailments. PTSD, depression, SAD, anxieties, potential autism. All these comorbidities must be eating away at you. The fact that they keep triggering you doesn't help either.
I'm sorry they push you. I'm sorry you've been through rape. I'm sorry you can barely pick up the pieces before they hurt you again.
I'm sorry I have to be the one to apologize to you for everything that's happened and still happens. I'm sorry they abuse you as you try to write and don't listen to no or clear boundaries.
The only advice I can think to give so you may have peace in these moments is to stop saving them. Let the bad continue to do bad. Let the Rapists continue to be Rapists. Do not work to absolve them of anything or bring good from their lives.
They're learning how to hurt you in different ways instead. They're recruiting new people late to everything instead.
Teeny tiny Tina, I'm still working so hard for you to be loved. I'm working so hard for you to stay safe. For you and I to stop fighting.
For you and I to stop freezing and being abused and for them to push you your fight responses and fear of your own body.
I'm sorry they tell you it's demons. When it's her. I'm sorry she won't leave you alone. I'm sorry she and others won't have boundaries with you.
I'm sorry they use you to teach her what her Delusions look like in another person because she forgets to be a human in others bodies and can't let her ego go.
I'm sorry they drug you so she can be comforted.
I'm sorry they don't know what you are going through. When I write as if I'm not you I can't imagine this pain.
I hope one day you are safe and rescued. I hope one day you find someone who will save you from her and them and the ones who abuse you.
I know my hopes are meaningless and that under normal circumstances when you are only you--I can always write meaningful advice without resorting to vapid generics.
I hope that one day you can be enough for yourself again.
I hope they don't bleed you dry. Don't kill yourself no matter what they say and do and feed on altruistic notions.
It's a complete mind fuck. The support needs to come from you. When they do it--don't believe them.
May you find peace Tina.
Alternative Thought: You will be saved. You will find help. Normal people know that it's wrong. These stars are illusions.
Normal people can help better. Find a community that can give you a break and accept you. That won't let your mind fall apart.
Don't let their ironic wishes for you give you peace. Don't let it give THEM peace. They don't mean it they just want it to be them.
Do not be like them. Do not live a lie. Address your hatred front on. Address why you hate front on so you may be free from it.
Do not be like them. Keep the bible in mind but please be who you want to be--which is exactly how God created and therefore called you to be.
Your calling is to heal and fight hatred for now.
Your calling is to find safety. May the lord bear you on eagles wings.
You do not have religious psychosis. You need to keep remembering who the fuck you are.
You are too smart for your own good. You are too self sacrificing for your own good. You see the bad in the good for people to address and attack and heal. You are kind when not under duress. You have illness. You need diagnosis. You have had terrible things happen. Surreal and awful. You always find a way to make things right. You always grow and evolve and change. You are you and others will not visibly see it.
Keep your self grounding mindfulness. Mindfulness is not oppression. It's a tool for a single person. Yourself. Not others.
Keep steady. Take a walk. Do something new. Discover something. Don't just stay in your mind doing it all there.
You need stimulation. You may be close to the end of figuring what you need to figure out out.
Then look at these thoughts and see how little and small they are in comparison to who you are and how you faced them. You are always seeking to heal and retain your values. That dualism and unobstructed steadfastness is your namesake.
It's in your birthday, your name, your experiences, your ring, your prayers, your loves, your hates, your stories, and every part of you.
You can never not be you. Except when your free will is in the hands of another.
Keep fighting for peace. Write and draw and explore within your means. Your life may seem so small but the meaning you have, the blessings God gave you to remember, the irreplaceable meaning everywhere is a gift from him.
And with this you never stop creating. Up and down. Up and down. If David in all his emotional complexities is a "man after God's own heart" then allow yourself to fall and thank God for his discipline.
He corrects those he accepts. He shows the wisdom of it to those he loves.
Keep his ever present and obvious love for you in your heart.
And even though you think Jonah is so funny, please allow yourself to give "testimony" one day and ask people to repent and show them God's love. Be unashamed. Be devoted. Be passionate. Don't let others kill your fire.
You know what it's like. You know what thoughts come from these terrible scenarios. You know how badly you want saving.
Others do too.
Show people that God's love IS unconditional. And learn and translate and write.
Translate God's Holy Spirit and intentions and goals to others.
He will bless you. He is pursuing your heart.
Remember how small the flaws are in others in comparison to them. How little it means for them to dislike what you do or help the opposing neighbor.
You are admired. And sometimes admiration turns bad and becomes jealousy.
You are very lonely. And you have learned ways to find yourself in all the versions of loneliness there are.
You are used. You are abused.
And that story lives and cannot be erased no matter how hard they try. Eternity is the sock that fell from their push. It feels so inescapable.
Your healing and self growth is awkward.
But you can still live. And you love others enough to be awkward with them.
Let yourself remember that this means that you love yourself to be awkward with yourself and allow it.
In that way you have already broken one cycle. That people need to see you in good perfect ways in order to have even self love.
You are strong. You are so passionate. And still while moored and mired in guck and hatred you still do everything out of love.
For yourself and others.
Your own body even is reflecting that incredibly. Your brain doesn't WANT to give up. It wants to fight, to survive, to fawn, to freeze.
Your brain and body is fighting for your love. Your self love and your future love and your love for others.
It's natural to feel this exhaustion after it all.
Tell yourself a new fortune too. A new self attribution. Balance it out.
You're going to always have love. It's in all your cells and the things you touch.
When you drop what you like and feel pain--however small--that tiny regret is love.
Your love is worth it. Your drive to be well is always worth it.
We are adapting. Love yourself enough to be awkward with it. It will feel really big and like the world is ending because it's the first time you've felt these ways.
God bless you.
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2024.05.16 22:37 exasperatedbean Recently broke up with alcoholic boyfriend, now he’s making a 180. WWYD?

Sorry in advance for the length, but really needing some insight from anyone who’s been in a similar situation.
For context, my ex (M 27) and I (F 25) were together almost five years, known each other for seven, lived together for over three. I knew before going into dating that he drank.. a lot. And potentially had issues with it.
For the first year, I’d say he was getting blackout drunk 2-3 times a week. Of course it ended up causing problems. Fighting, him prioritizing going out, being generally annoying and obnoxious from drinking too much, lying about drinking causing trust issues, etc. We moved in together after about a year and a half because I was in love and thought it was a phase he had to eventually grow out of.
Plus, besides drinking, he is usually the most charming, unsuspecting, friendly, caring guy. I know that he has issues with anxiety, and grieving the loss of a parent within the last few years. So I know there are also some deeper rooted issues he has with that. Also, most other aspects of our relationship are good besides the typical relationship bickering.
Over time the drinking became less frequent, however it was always too much when he did drink. The amount and intensity of the fights kept getting worse to the point where things got physical, mostly pushing or shoving and one or two instances of hitting (one or too way too many). I’m sure I instigated out of frustration of him drinking when he said he wasn’t but eventually it got to the point where I wouldn’t have to even do or say much for his mean alcoholic brain to “switch on” at me.
Fast forward to earlier this year and we’ve tried most everything. Him trying to not drink wouldn’t stick. He’d still lie about drinking. Would still get out of hand when he drank. He told me he was going to try and get sober, did for a couple weeks, then went back to the same old routine. Eventually we decided to take a break that lasted a few weeks and in that time I found out about a very affordable apartment from a family friend, I told him about it and that it was on the table, but didn’t decide on it right away. We were fighting a lot and eventually he also encouraged me to move out because we need space and that he doesn’t want to stop drinking, maybe slow DOWN, but not stop and I wasn’t having that.
I came home after a few incidents of him hiding drinks and trashing the house and making a fool of himself, and decided to take the apartment a month ago, moved out a week ago. In the same week I randomly met a guy through mutual friends who I really hit it off with, we’ve gotten close, I enjoy spending time with him, and it’s opened my eyes (and my anxiety) to seeing that there’s more to life than how I was living.
HOWEVER… The last few weeks/month after me moving out have apparently been his “rock bottom.” He’s been crying almost every day, and has had anxiety attacks. He went to his doctor to get the injectable medication to stop drinking and curb the crave, and has been back in counseling as well as making other life changes like quitting vaping, not talking to his party friends, meal prepping instead of always buying fast food, etc.
He’s also been telling me he’s always known he has a problem (which I agree with) he’s just never realized how bad it was getting and never knew what to do and feels like he’s ready to grow up because he’s tired of how it’s affecting different aspects of his life. He also keeps saying he will wait for me and do whatever to prove to me that this is change for the long term, wants me to be secure in a future with him, and wants to make me happy. He has tried to quit before but it was never successful, but I also haven’t seen him take things as seriously. I think things would work if he is able to quit drinking for the long run and be sober. We would obviously need to work through the trust issues and previous resentment but I don’t think it’s impossible.
So now I guess my dilemma is that I’ve uprooted my life, finally moved and NOW he wants to turn his life around with actions of instead of just talking about it now. Plus, three weeks of this new behavior is hard for me to bank on after the 7 years of behavior I’ve been used to and it frustrates me if he changes now after begging him and trying to be there for him for so long. I’ve also met someone I’m interested in and things have been going really, incredibly, unexpectedly well. I can just tell my ex is torn up by all of this, but I’ve also never experienced an alcoholic in my life other than him. Do we think this is legit, do we think the relationship is worth salvaging? I know I don’t have to make any rash decisions right this second and basically told him “I don’t know what the future holds, I’m not closed off to the idea of making things work if you’re able to change your lifestyle, but it’s not happening right now. Act accordingly with that and wait for me or don’t, but I’m not asking you to”
So I guess instead of advice, my question is.. what would you do?
TL;DR: Broke up with ex, a functioning alcoholic for 5 years. Other aspects of relationship are normal, alcohol issues have caused resentment. Drinking has become less frequent but still drinks too much when he does and gets out of hand. Knows he has a problem, has tried to quit, not successful. I’ve moved out, he’s hit “rock bottom” and is remorseful, on medication, doing counseling and wants to make things work for the long term. I’ve also met someone I’m interested. Looking for insight.
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2024.05.16 22:35 epicfuntothemax Was charged for Theft of services 4 years ago and was expunged but shows on my fingerprints and not background check? am i screwed from my job offer?

Hi all, recently got a life changing job offer. I was Completely in the clear when it came to my background check but i did my fingerprints the other day and now im terrified.
when i was 20 i stole food and had 4 charges on my record 3 were dropped and was only given a theft of services charge that i paid 200$ for to be expunged and that was it.
fast forward to now and i have an amazing job history but now im worried. This is for a teller position.
i was a manger and assistant manager so far for two retail stores.
am i screwed?
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2024.05.16 22:34 Erisaiya What symptoms did you have pre-diagnosis that suddenly made a lot of sense after your diagnosis?

I was diagnosed with essential thrombocytosis as a teen after struggling with insomnia for years (my inability to sleep was chalked up to being an iron deficiency from my vegetarian diet). Didn't learn until after my UC diagnosis that it can be an early sign of an autoimmune problem.
I was always tired. Insomnia aside, even when I did sleep well, sometimes for 10 hours, I was still tired. My parents thought it was just puberty and basically told me to toughen up.
I was incredibly picky about food (and still am). I was told to just get over it, that sometimes we have to eat things we don't want, that I was going to get colon cancer for not eating properly, that I was going to waste away to nothing.
I've been diagnosed with UC and Celiac since (and other non-autoimmune health problems) and they think my poor diet was because my body "knew" what wasn't good for it (and there's probably an element of truth to that, but I think I also have ARFID, too). I didn't get sick too often, which maybe was because my immune system was basically ready to hit overdrive at any given moment. I was always tired probably due to early signs of fatigue, and I know a lot of people with autoimmune conditions suffer from insomnia as well. I also struggled with stamina - anything that required running or cardio-related exercise was incredibly difficult for me, and it had nothing to do with my weight or my level of activity - I did marching band throughout high school (somehow) and martial arts in my late teens/early twenties.
What were some of your early symptoms that made sense after you were diagnosed?
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2024.05.16 22:34 Informal_Path5291 Retrospective from an M7 first year international. To make friends and be socially popular, you have to "add Value"

This may be basic common knowledge around social skills, but as an international student, I found these principles are not often explicitly taught and vary across time and culture. I'm from India to be exact, which has a very different culture in the US.
It's confusing, because if you ask people what qualities they like in friends, they'll say stuff like they love people who are kind, dependable, loyal, genuine, authentic, etc. But I've noticed that these people either lie when they say that, or that's not the full truth. Judge by their actions, not words, as they say.
In my M7 MBA, I have seen that those who have successfully. been able to make friends and be socially popular and well liked are those who took the time and effort to "add value" in their relationships.
"Adding value" from my observations can take multiple forms. First way is to be conventionally very attractive - people like others who are beautiful, hot, cute, etc. Being an 8/10 physically is good. If you're not naturally good looking, then doing everything possible in your power to be your most conventionally attractive best self is valued, such as working out regularly, eating a good diet, conforming to fashion trends, having good styles, etc. Women are especially adept at knowing skincare and makeup techniques.
The second is being famous. We have someone in our class who is famous on social media, with several hundred thousand social media followers. They are automatically elevated in social situations with people wanting to be their friend. This person has on multiple occasions been an asshole to others and isn't the most conventionally attractive, but our classmates give them a pass. The rules aren't fair or the same for everyone.
Third, if you're neither famous or conventionally good looking, there is a premium on being funny. People like those who give them a good laugh. Having good humor, conversational timing, ability to make jokes on the fly and have wit are very valued.
These three qualities completely supersede others, including being kind, genuine, authentic, loyal, etc.
Outside of these, I'e seen you really have to put in effort to add value. You need to do things like be a good cook and host events where you cook for your classmates. You need to do something "cool" like be a foodie and have a food blog for spots near campus. Another way to "add value" is be a good DJ and offer to DJ at parties that people host. You need to say, take the initiative to host themed house parties or organize a domestic or international trek or a ski trip. If you're the organizer of an in-demand social event, people gravitate to you and want to be friends.
Not all hobbies are created equal. Those that people value are ones that add value to their personal lives, such as being a food or travel blogger, or DJing at a party. Social hobbies like biking or organizing workout classes are praised. Something relatable to people. One person is a amazing classical pianist, but classical music is seen as a solitary, niche, boring hobby that doesn't generate much praise or interest, despite how talented the classmate is.
It seems the social scene here runs on a "social currency" system where the people who take the effort to cook for others, organize events and trips, do cool and interesting things, etc., are the ones rewarded with the most invites to birthdays, parties, trips, etc. And outside of that, if you're really good looking, funny, or famous, you have a ton of social leeway and need to put in way less effort.
Looks DO matter. People DO judge based on appearances. I've noticed very few in the "cool" group are overweight - and the few who ware are EXCEPTIONALLY funny. And looking physically good takes a lot of effort in and of itself, including knowing how to work out, eat right, apply makeup if you're a girl etc.
On top of this, you need to be lacking in negative traits. People who are overly eager, try to hard, or seen as needy have quickly been excommunicated from the social scene. They often do it without realizing it: in Indian culture, being very forward is often the norm but it's too intense for American culture. People like those who are seen as cool, chill, and interesting, and fun. People base friendships in reality on those who are "fun and chill" to be around. You can't be someone who is overly quiet and doesn't say anything, and sucks at conversational timing in group settings and be awkward, nor can you be overly gregarious and too loud and annoying.
You cannot only talk about non-mainstream, overly nerdy, or niche interests, UNLESS you are exceptionally conventionally attractive or famous. Catan game nights seem to be OK though. Many social events are at house parties, bars, clubs, etc., and are based on drinking. The non drinkers who are popular ADD VALUE by taking the initiative to offer to be designated drivers. But if you don't offer that as a non drinker, you may get penalized socially.
There are plenty of pro-DEI, heavy liberal (at least on social issues) on campus, and they will say things like they want to be friends with like minded socially progressive folks. But even among that crowd, physical appearance, your level of fame, and funniness TRUMP ALL and you have to add value. One person in class is a very physically attractive open Republican, and even the liberals in class like him. The Republicans who are ostracized are conservative ON TOP of not being funny, not attractive, not having unique hobbies, etc. And the most vocal liberal activist in class is disliked for not being attractive, funny, interesting, etc.
People will outwardly say they support mental health destigmatization, and may genuinely believe it, but don't want to actually befriend someone going through symptoms of anxiety or depression. You're allowed to mildly vulnerable about every day common relatable issues, like struggling with recruiting, but can never reveal very serious personal issues like having an eating disorder. That'll weird people out. You have to be mostly positive and happy.
Again, this may all be common sense. But a lot of these rules aren't explicitly taught, especially if you're from a different culture. It may seem transactional on the outside, but this is what I've seen to be reality at my M7.
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2024.05.16 22:33 sackout It’s Over

Getting fired from the best job I’ve had all because gm doesn’t like my attitude.
Always wanted to know how to cook so instead of going to college I started cooking (regret this now). Started from fast food and worked my way up restaurants in my town till I got hired at the nicest place I’ve worked.
Was my 1st time have an executive chef, wearing a chef coat, brand new kitchen, great coworkers. Was amazing. Slowly went down hill, cracks started to appear, the chef was overworked and over stressed, some co workers turned against me etc, normal stuff.
Then the chef got fired, bunch of crew left, got a new chef and gm and new cooks.lot of things got scaled back since we were “too ambitious” and it turned almost into the same corporate kitchen I’ve spent a few years working in.
Anyways, that gm got fired after a month because the front of house didn’t like him and came up with some reason. New gm incoming.
She’s here, in her 1st week she got rid of bad employees and already did more than the last gm did in a month. Slowly start to realize she wants all her employees to be yesmen, I’m not that so I try to avoid talking to her and she seems to do the same. She has a lot of input for the kitchen despite not really knowing how to cook. (For example she asked me what gravy we make, told her how we make our pepper gravy without saying the words pepper gravy, she responded with we should replace it with pepper gravy.)
She also starts running expo but she really can’t keep up unless u hand her every plate in order and tell her which plate is which after they’re in the window (she kinda just hands servers plates)
Anyways the office has thin walls and I overhead them discussing firing me. My chef was saying they have to wait for me to be late, (I’ve been late 4 times in one year of working there, they just happen to be in the last 2 months.) but she kept mentioning how she can’t handle my attitude. I genuinely don’t try to give her one, but I’m the type of person that ask why after someone tells me something. I’ve heard it’s common in autistic individuals, which I am, and I do it purely because I wish to know the reasoning of basically everything, it’s just how I learn.
Anyways I’m kinda just ranting, if I show up tomorrow and I’m not fired, I honestly might try to piss her off and get fired to get unemployment ment while I find a new career.
Anyways, cheers!
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2024.05.16 22:33 S_Squar3d 9 to 5 careers are not the devil people want you to think they are

Heads up, this is more of a small rant but feel free to give your opinion on it. Also, this applies to a traditional 8 hour work day, not the exact 9 to 5 hours.
I continue to see “influencers” on TikTok (my first mistake I know) or other social medias talking down about 9 to 5 jobs like they are the absolute devil and the worst thing in the world. The video I just watched was this guy who was basically saying “why do people think 9 to 5s are normal? Work for 40 years to enjoy 10 years after??? I started working for myself and become financially free before 35! People called me crazy but if I can do it after being poor growing up anybody can!” And yes, he actually said that last part. To suggest 9 to 5 jobs are terrible for society and the people working them is mind blowing to me.
1) So many people decide to ditch the 9 to 5 and work for themself. Most of the time, that ends up involving considerably more time and effort than a traditional 9 to 5. Not to mention the loss of health coverage (in the US at least), paid time off, etc.
2) Why is this guy or others waiting until they retire to enjoy life? Can you not vacation, take weekend trips, relax during those 40 working years? I understand some people have 9 to 5s that don’t give PTO, but majority do. Every 9 to 5 I’ve had since I was 21 has given a minimum of 3 weeks PTO.
3) Structure is extremely important to life. A 9 to 5 gives that without really having to think about it. Some people really lack the ability to create structure for themselves. A 9 to 5 gives that life structure.
4) If people didn’t work 9 to 5, people like this guy wouldn’t be able to “be financially free at 35”. Want to eat? Sorry bud, those people working their 9 to 5 at the grocery quit to be a TikTok influencer, you now have to hunt your own food, herd your own cattle, and grow your own crops. Oh shit, you broke your leg? Well, sorry bud, that doctor decided to stop being a doctor because he didn’t want to be a 9 to 5 loser so your leg is going to get infected. You may lose your leg or die. Good luck!
5) Stability. Having a 9 to 5 ensures you will get a check, have paid time off, health benefits, etc.
Maybe I’m just brain washed, but I’ve lived that “fuck working for someone, let’s grind” and had my own business. It sucks. Hours suck, work dedication sucks, unpredictability sucks. Sleepless nights fixing issues, canceling trips, big business expenses. You name it.
Other people who have worked both a 9 to 5 as well as worked for yourself, what are your thoughts?
Sorry for the rant y’all
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2024.05.16 22:31 crackwh0res PICC LINE TODAY

hello, today's a significant day for my boyfriend and his current health situation which had been steadily declining the past 6-7 months. He is diagnosed with Crohn's disease since age like 12 and currently has a shit ton of scar tissue due to past resectioning surgeries which is causing adhesions and blockages in his intestine. Drs don't want to do surgery because it will be his 3rd one and his quality of life will be less than it is right now which is really saying something. He currently weighs 138 lbs. This is a 70 lb difference from 6 months ago. He eats "real food" as well as drinks like ensure, boost, etc. yet he is unable to hold onto, let alone gain, any weight. Because of this, his team of doctors (which he just was assigned even tho he should've had a team for years now..) decided a PICC line for TPN is the best option right now while continuing the drinks and some approved foods. He's had a PICC line before but only for a month and this one is going to be for much longer. Last time he was on TPN he did gain weight and it helped him although he hated the experience in general. So with all this backstory I guess I'm just looking for other people's experiences with a long term PICC line, and advice for the girlfriend of someone going through this that has never dealt with significant health situations before. He's worried about liver damage and other complications that he's been warned about but I'm trying to keep his mind focused on the positives as much as possible. Thanks for anything you guys are comfortable with sharing as any and all information will only help at this point. ♾️💟☮️☯️🕉️
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2024.05.16 22:29 philosofically favorite iced coffee in lahore?

ambiance vibes etc don’t matter i just want a good strong coffee, fast food or sit down place i have no preference. or if anyone knows of a good coffee concentrate brand.
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2024.05.16 22:29 Jimmydlt New here!

Hi guys I’m Jimmy
Just got out in 2020 from the Army
And have been going back and forth with the VA for a few years now
Over the last few years, I’ve been learning a lot about health
I used to be bedridden for several days a week because of extreme lower back pain
I was unable to pick up even my six year old
Thankfully over the past few years Through using what I learned about Health I feel a lot better now and have been able to reclaim my life
I’m seeking to share this with my fellow veterans
If you care to share, what are your main health concerns that you would love to have solved
How would you describe your emotional and mental well-being?
How do you feel about your diet? Are there any specific diet or food complications that you can think of?
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2024.05.16 22:28 w3sterday DEA Notice of Proposed Rulemaking (pdf, and a Biden video link)

Video link announcement (if you want that) -
PDF link (WARNING THIS IS 92 PAGES) -
DEPARTMENT OF JUSTICE
DRUG ENFORCEMENT ADMINISTRATION
21 CFR Part 1308
Docket No. DEA-1362; A.G. Order No. 5931-2024
Schedules of Controlled Substances: Rescheduling of Marijuana
AGENCY: Drug Enforcement Administration, Department of Justice.
ACTION: Notice of proposed rulemaking.
SUMMARY: The Department of Justice (“DOJ”) proposes to transfer marijuana from schedule I of the Controlled Substances Act (“CSA”) to schedule III of the CSA, consistent with the view of the Department of Health and Human Services (“HHS”) that marijuana has a currently accepted medical use as well as HHS’s views about marijuana’s abuse potential and level of physical or psychological dependence. The CSA requires that such actions be made through formal rulemaking on the record after opportunity for a hearing. If the transfer to schedule III is finalized, the regulatory controls applicable to schedule III controlled substances would apply, as appropriate, along with existing marijuana-specific requirements and any additional controls that might be implemented, including those that might be implemented to meet U.S. treaty obligations. If marijuana is transferred into schedule III, the manufacture, distribution, dispensing, and possession of marijuana would remain subject to the applicable criminal prohibitions of the CSA. Any drugs containing a substance within the CSA’s definition of “marijuana” would also remain subject to the applicable prohibitions in the Federal Food, Drug, and Cosmetic Act (“FDCA”). DOJ is soliciting comments on this proposal.
quick tldr -- the comment site is https://www.regulations.gov/ and I will update the link -- this rulemaking is a little different than when OMMA does rulemaking.
from Marijuana Herald article -
The notice of proposed rulemaking submitted by the Department can be viewed here, and the OLC memorandum regarding questions related to the potential rescheduling of marijuana can be found here.
Learn more about the rulemaking process here.
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