Gift ideas for 75 year old man

I am 41 years old and an alcoholic up until 3 years ago I was out of control. 4 and a half years ago I moved in with a friend after the death of my grandmother. My drinking got so out of control that I had to start using an enema bag to consume it. Almost a year of drinking between a liter and a half gallon of straight vodka my stomach was so demolished that I had to start consuming it rectally. First I tried a half pint of vodka but almost died of alcohol poisoning, then I started using mini bottles of chardonnay. First all I needed was 2 or 3 but after several months I was up to almost 10. I don't remember the ambulance ride or where I was found but my BAC was .52. The withdrawal was so bad that I had to be put in a coma. After 3 weeks the drugs were stopped and I slowly came awake. My muscles had atrophied and I had to be put on a passive ventilator to ween me into breathing on my own. I was unable to do even the most basic things for myself. So after 5 months in acute care I was moved to a long term rehabilitation facility to basically relearn everything. I was unable to walk, feed, bathe, or toilet myself and basically had to be cared for as if I was a baby. 16 months I was in that damn place undergoing grueling physical and occupational therapy before I was able to leave and go home. Luckily when I got out my parents repealed their rule that I was not permitted on the premises and they have allowed me to live with them again. It has been around a year since I left the nursing home, I have been sober for what will be 3 years this June. Life is good and I will never take my independence for granted again. My family has stuck by me and I have an awesome relationship with my parents. Recovery is the greatest gift that God could have ever given to me

I'll start by saying I'm not much of a Reddit user. My first contact with Nix was on some project I worked on about 2 years ago, but I couldn't get the Nix package manager working reliably on my Fedora install (something that still hasn't been solved, btw). Recently, after being recommended some youtube videos, I decided to try the whole thing, NixOS, under the expectation that the Nix package manager would work well under its own operational system. And it does, but NixOS doesn't. It reminds me of that old Docker joke: "we used to have environment problems, now we only have Docker problems".
Don't get me wrong, I absolutely love the idea of declarative configurations and using nixos-rebuild to build the system as you wish, but pretty much nothing runs on this OS.
I started by trying some random pieces of code I had previously written. One that caught my attention was written in Haskell, as Haskellians love Nix and it seems to be well integrated. To my surprise, I wasn't able to get a single Haskell project to build through Nix, despite copy-pasting dozens of flakes I found online on tutorials. Oh yeah, and on the topic of flakes, how the fuck are they "extra-experimental" and yet recommended by every tutorial? Anyways, after a few days of trying, the best I could do was use Stack (One of Haskell's "native" package manager) with the nix setting configured. nix develop or nix build would, inevitably, give me weird errors that I couldn't solve through googling, fiddling, or asking AIs for help.
I gave up on the "random pieces of code" idea and decided to try a github project I had been eyeing for a while. To my surprise, couldn't get a simple javascript code to run. As it turns out, node uses some global paths that won't work on NixOS because they're owned by root. Of course, you can sudo everything but that's a terrible practice - especially with a random github project I don't quite trust. Googling it got me vague results, none of which works. Yarn didn't work either, and neither did bun. Mind you, this is one of the most popular languages in the world, and one of the few I can confidently say is running on your machine as you're reading this post, and yet I can't get it to work.
Not willing to accept defeat, I decided to just YOLO and sudo npm install. While it worked, the project uses playwright - which also doesn't work on NixOS. And even worse, it doesn't work even if I sudo it. After googling a bit I found a few instructions, once again none of which worked. At this point I thought the code I was cloning might have been bad, but on my Fedora machine it ran fine with no setup effort.
Being completed defeated, I came to Reddit to search for solutions and, not only did I not find anything, I was struck with the news that this project lost dozens of core contributors in the last weeks. Something about the Haskell drone maker and a guy putting a picture of a steak on his profile? I don't get it, but this is beyond dumb. As enthusiastic as their replacements might be, the knowledge lost from shedding so many core devs can't be replaced. Thus, I conclude this post's title: I am confident none of my issues will be fixed in the near future - so this project is fucked.

Hello everyone. I’m a 23 year old Male seeking any and all advice on how to keep my health a secret from the United States Government.
I want to join the U.S. Air Force. I have since I was 8. I have been an Army brat my whole life and I got an 82 on the ASVAB & was on the right path to do that and I suddenly was bitten by a tick. It turned my life upside down. The amount of fatigue and joint pain I feel on a daily basis is borderline crippling but I still want to serve my country. I genuinely wouldn’t be happier doing anything else but I legitimately cannot run because of my pain. I can endure it but not for long. I want to go to the doctor but I don’t want the Air Force to get their hands on the records because it would almost certainly permanently disqualify me.
Please keep in mind that when you join the U.S. Military, you have to sign over any and all medical documents which will confirm or deny any information you’ve given your recruiter, hence me not reporting joint pain would most likely come up in a medical document review especially with the U.S. Government’s new Genesis system which is designed to scour almost every health providers system for your name or other individual markers like your SSN or your birthdate etc.
Getting this procedure done in the proper channels will likely end up with me getting caught in the long run. On the other hand not getting seen by a doctor is genuinely painful and won’t allow me enough time to train my legs after an extensive physical therapy period. A constant above moderate 7 pain in both legs. As it stands now, I certainly couldn’t run 26 minutes without serious physical repercussions (yes you run that far in Air Force Basic Military Training at Joint Base San Antonio Lackland Air Force Base to train for the 1.5 mile run which is 60% of yo overall PT Score.)
This illness has seriously affected my quality of life. I want nothing more than to find a cure or any kind of relief so I can be the man I always wanted to be: A U.S. Airman.
Im under the impression I need an MRI to scan the tissues on my leg as the pain is centralized mostly around the lower part of my thigh right above my knee. I believe most people refer to it as quadriceps tendonitis but I’m no doctor. That’s just what I’ve been able to gather from the internet over the last 3 years. At home treatments for Quadriceps Tendonitis have yield no results in minimizing my pain. I need help but I don’t want it to affect my future. I wouldn’t be happy in another career field. I genuinely don’t know what I’d do if I had to be a civilian. No disrespect to civilians of course.
Please help me. Anything. If you can suggest a doctor anywhere in the Texas, Louisiana, Oklahoma Arkansas area that would do an MRI off the books for some extra cash please let me know or if there’s some way I can lie about my name and not go to jail that’s be awesome too.
I can’t begin to tell you how much it would mean to me if I was to get any kind of relief and fulfill my dream. Yes, before anyone gets all uppity about it I’m aware that lying to the federal government is a crime however plenty of patriots join every year despite the risk. Please afford me the opportunity to do the same. Aim High.
TL;DR: I need to get an MRI done as soon as possible to get my joints looked at and take any preventative measures possible to reverse or stop and degeneration I have as well as combat any tick-borne illnesses without it being on my permanent medical record. Please help me. Thank you in advance for your replies 🇺🇸

Pain in back for two years normal testing the whole yadaYada 22 year old man drank a shit ton and woke up next day and have had these symptoms since. Is lipase at 22 low for someone my age, I’ve also been taking otc enzymes w every bite of food (super enzymes Amazon). Pain so bad can’t walk much anymore, just looking for a light at end of tunnel, clean EUs with a thin duct in caliber. Liver ultrasound found the pancreas was atrophic, mesenteric adenitis 3 years and found ulcerative colitis. Taking prednisone now and had a cats can last week that said both were gone. Still no change in pain, meat especially pain food in general pain. But less pain if it’s vegetables or non meat but will show up in my stools with fat foul smelling gas, just want pain to end, severely depressed from this and don’t know how much longer I can live like this.

I am a customer of a local credit union. I asked for a product change from one card to another. a month or so went by and today i noticed they recently closed the original credit card account (2 years old), then added a new account for the other card. I chatted with their customer service, and they said there is nothing they can do about it. they said i could close the new one, but it would hurt my score. and they couldn't remove it from the report. I was wondering if I should try to pursue this further. I would not mind just getting rid of the new card if it could be taken off the credit report, but I'm not sure if this is even possible. it's only a 5k limit and pretty useless. I wish I just closed the account, stupid of me to even open the can of worms in the first place.

another question: I have to pay off a ~$30k card balance soon that I used during a 0% APY period over the last year. the revolving utilization has pulled my score down quite a bit and im at 30% utilization which is almost all from that card. I've been wondering If I have a good chance to get a good balance transfer credit card with this limit. I was thinking navy federal platinum. If not, I can pay it off then apply for another different card after my score recovers and I am in a stronger position to apply. my fico 8 is 730s "good"

I would say my end goal is to get a higher total credit limit and be able to take advantage of some more 0%APY cards without it lowering my score so much. Thank you for your ideas

So recently I found out that my first cousin went to my grandparents and asked for some of their land (5 acres to be exact) for the 15 used as farm land to pay the property taxes. They have much more timbepasture land. So not only did they get over $50,000+ of free land they essentially screwed it up for the children to keep the property because now the land that paid the property taxes is only 10 acres and won’t cover the year of taxes and we know 3 of the 5 kids would never pay out of pocket to keep the place. There are 11 grandchildren and one took it upon himself to get FREE land without concern for the other 10 grandchildren or 5 children. Deal was mommy would pay out of her inheritance but mommy is now saying that was never said and now she gets less and she is poor and needs the money from my grandparents dying to find her retirement. She has always been “broke” for 35 years I have known her she has been just too broke to pitch in on parents gifts, get her children gifts, her grandchildren gifts etc. it’s so annoying that an adult that is 60 does nothing to better their life and is betting on what they get when their parents died to fund their retirement. So the other sister she works with loves and lives for drama along with her entire family has decided to try to bad mouth me to the whole family for saying it isn’t right for 1 of the 11 grandkids to get over $50,000 free! Plus could sell it for way more if they choose not to build. Other sister is on a smear campaign, because she loves to be in the middle of every thing. She got her whole family (Pussy husband that goes along with everything she says, daughter that got with her husband while he had a live in girlfriend betting on no longer having to work once birthing their children, son in law that has anything because mommy and daddy paid for it, and spoiled grandson that gets in trouble but doesn’t no wrong) aunt treats her other daughter like scum of the Earth and who’s son stays away if he can help it because of psycho mom and oldest 36 year old golden sister who’s mom and dad pay her cell phone bill. All that was said by me was that it wasn’t fair to the other grandkids, has somehow turned into me thinking that I would get the property once grandparents were dead, which is hilarious because I go over every day to help them not out of ever thinking I would get anything but because I love my grandparents and will help them in any way they need help unlike 98% of the others that we basically BEG to help out 86&85 year old grandparents. I have gone to my grandparents almost everyday for over 8 years to help and land was only just acquired less than 2 years ago by my selfish cousin and his wife that thinks she deserves the world but hates everyone. I “swore” at my grandpa and called him a “son of a bitch” like who under 60 says son of a bitch LMAO!? I “want the land to myself” (never thought I was getting anything) and whatever they can think of to try to talk bad about me and discredit me for their own sick wants. Called psycho aunt out, the psycho aunt that wanted my grandma home without physical therapy after she broke her hip at 81, brought her home after being septic then talked shit on the grandchild and her husband for “being know it alls” and rushing grandma to the hospital which turned out to be septic shock! Then proceeded to bad mouth them to the family for thinking they know more than them. Psycho aunt and her little 12 year old keep up that they are right and everyone “against them is wrong”. They are a bunch of psychos. 12 year old wants to act like he is grown. Been suspended twice the year for comments made on social media one that resulted in the FBI becoming involved the other involving himself in drama he wasn’t even involved in! Guess he takes after grandma and grandpa, and Auntie! A bunch of disgusting humans not directly involved but wanting to be involved because they are bored losers with no life. Grandson will be in Juvie the next 3/4 years. No one to blame but the whole family but they will like they did the son for selling dope but shouldn’t go to prison because “he grew up in a small town”. Just wanted t get it off my chest how messed up these self centered losers are. Also Cousin had a sister that also wouldn’t get land like him but it’s ok mommy is not cares about one of her kids!

(24F) From winning academic competitions in high school, to ranking 11th in a class of 1000 without trying (felt like a sham), to scoring a 1510 on my SAT with a vague idea of what would be on it prior to sitting, to graduating magna cum laude with a B.S. in mathematics, minors in French and economics, and research and leadership roles under my belt (while balancing a bad 🍃 habit), etc., I can confidently say that academic success came with ease. I’ve been working to save up for grad school. Thus far, I’m doing well in my job. I’m taking on new projects, all of which lie outside of my immediate job description. I’m taking over the roles of my superiors when they’re out. Good stuff.
But OH MY GOD. Off paper, I’m a mess. Typing this out, I see 7 fast food bags from the past couple of months sitting in my immediate vicinity. Grocery bags litter the floor. There’s a month + old tortilla chip bag right in front of me. I’m not sure when I last showered. I have months of unopened mail piling up on my table. Dirty dishes get reused throughout the week. I don’t eat nearly enough. The only things I’m good about doing habitually are brushing my teeth, flossing, and doing laundry. I have been struggling to study for exam FM (sitting in august) because I don’t find it interesting. I am supposed to be studying in the small amount of free time I have before and after work (or cleaning, quite frankly), but I’ve been writing a blog about the American tendency toward political extremism in recent years.
I was diagnosed at 21, and recently resumed medication (took me 1.5 years to see a doctor). With medication, studying has become easier, and I can SEE all of my immediate issues with cleanliness. But I can’t force myself to DO anything about it. I was told I’d be a lawyer, engineer, doctor, etc., but I’m living like a guy who spends all of his time on 4chan and pisses in Mountain Dew bottles.
Please tell me I’m not alone.

My lab chow rescue is allergic to everything, saved him from being put down at 7 years old, they were putting him down because he dug in the ground in summer in south carolina to cool his core temp. He never had a day inside since being a puppy, he is a survivalist and stays off ground when possible. We have had him 3 years, and I am so excited how he has found heaven on earth with us, but I hate his definition of heaven on earth. We house broke him in 2 days, brought life into his dead eyes in 1 mouth, got his fur coat normal in 2 months, had him in the bed in 3 weeks. He is so FUCKING INCREDIBLE that the previous abusers had no idea how special and gifted he is. Once we took him in vaccinated issues were good, but 2nd vet visit was heartworm positive. Covid, fucking joy times, we had 2 of 3 treatments done, 3rd one shortage of the medicine. Got lucky, the last 2 weeks before restarting the treatments it came in. Cured. 2 years almost of having him relax and not dog. Bye bye worms, but allergies are still brutal. $120 a month on limited ingredient diet food, $120 a month on catty injections, $130 a month on apoquel. That's the basic cost not including shampoo and stuff.
He is in incredible shape, thinks he won a lottery coming home to us, his brother dog taught him to be a dog, enjoy dog toys, bones, walks and how to sleep on dad.
I'm not asking for cash, im asking for answers or different outlooks that our vet may have missed. Our vet is incredible, ill never change them, they have been great, and I don't think that has anything to due with the fact I should own stock in the company by now.
I just want my lab chow steeler boy tobe at his best comfort since for 7 years he was treated worse then dirt. In 3 years he broke me by over 10k, I had the means and stepped up, his appreciation and love to us paid it back 10 fold! I just want him to be the happiest he can be in his golden years.
Thank you.

I’m in a relationship with a trans man and I am gender-fluid (afab). We’ve been dating for a very long time now and have been talking about children since.. half way into year one.
This is all mostly inconsequential to my question other than why I ask it
How do battle with the fact that your children aren’t entirely your own? Of course there’s always adoption and surrogates but when the person who you want to be the father of your child has no brothers and no willing family, what’s to be done?
I just struggle with the idea that I’m taking away his linage and his blood from his children and that they won’t be entirely his. He has so much pride in who he is and where he comes from that I get a little upset when I think about how there’s no way I can bare children that carry his blood
And I suppose all I need is some reassurance that it’s not any less.. I don’t know valid to have a family that isn’t of convention.

MATCH RESULTS

Winner	Loser	Match Finish	Stipulation
Sol Ruca	Izzy Dame	Sol Snatcher	Women's North American Championship Qualifier
OTM w/ Jaida Parker	Edris Enofe and Maliq Blade w/ Brinley Reece	In the Mud
Lash Legend w/ Jakara Jackson	Ivy Nile	Big Boot	Women's North American Championship Qualifier
Je'von Evans w/ Trick Williams	Oro Mensah w/ Jakara Jackson and Lash Legend	Hole in the Road
The Good Brothers	Ridge Holland and Riley Osborne w/ Chase U	Roll-Up
Lola Vice w/ Shayna Balzer	Carlee Bright	Spinning Backfist
Tony D'Angelo w/ The D'Angelo Family	Charlie Dempsey (c)	2-1 Fisherman Suplex	For the NXT Heritage Cup

IMPORTANT NOTES

• Kickoff with Noam Dar laid out backstage, Meta Four go to check on him with Oro and Jakara blaming Trick for this while Lash says Trick would never do this.
  
• Backstage Kiana James tells Izzy Dame there's a real she be-friended her over everyone else and says she's going to be a superstar so run NXT while she goes to Run Raw.
  
• Backstage Ava tells Tony D'Angelo and the family that the tag match for the No Quarter Catch Crew didn't catch and demands to know where Damon and Myles are at. Tony says the ref last week just got a bad case of bronchitis and says they had nothing to do with Damon and Myles going missing. Ava threatens to pull the Heritage Cup match tonight but Tony says that'd be false advertising so instead Ava fines them $20,000 which Arianne pays up with a brown envelope and Tony tells her to spruce up her office a bit.
  
• Shayna Bazler says all she knows is dominance and as the longest reigning NXT Women's Champion she's interested into who Ava will pick as Roxanne's next opponent. Lola Vice sets her sights on challenging Rox as well but gets ambushed by Karmen who brawls with her off screen.
  
• In the trainers office Meta Four are told that Noam is out indefinitely after the attack earlier, so Oro steps up to take on Je'von tonight. Noam says he thinks it's Je'von who attacked him earlier and not Trick and Lash believes it's Je'von as well. Miss Jackson starts to ask Lash why she's so quick to believe it isn't Trick but Lash says she doesn't have time for this with her match next.
  
• Backstage Ridge tells Axiom and Nathan Frazer that he's having fun and says Chase is a hell of a guy and Chase U has a lot in common with him. The Good Brothers enter and says Ridge has a anger problem and he's another main roster talent that needs to get the hell out of NXT. Ridge says he actually was in NXT before. Gallows tells Ridge to find a brother and face them tonight and they'll kick him out of NXT but Anderson says Ridge has no friends.
  
• Je'von Evans is interviewed and denies attacking Noam and says it doesn't sound like his boy Trick either but regardless he's taking on Oro next and your boy about to get bouncy.
  
• Carlee Bright runs into Ava and says she wants a match against Lola Vice tonight after she helped break up the fight with Karmen and Lola. Ava says that Carlee really showed out last week in the Combine, finishing 13th, just barely missing the cut and she'll be happy to give her an opportunity tonight.
  
• Charlie Dempsey says he's been in contact with Damon and Myles and they are on their way despite being in rough shape. He says this cup is stained with the NQCC and he'll beat Tony into an inch of his life to defend it.
  
• Wes Lee makes his way to the ring. He says the last time he was in this ring with a mic things were a bit different, he was in the darkest place of his life and didn't know if he'd ever be back here. He says everyone knows how much he loves the NXT North American Championship, and losing it set him down a chain reaction that almost ended his career but he missed this! He says two days after his surgery he was walking again, and weeks later he was in the gym with one goal, to get back here. Wes says he was supposed to be out for a year but was able to make it back in 6 months feeling this amazing energy and honestly doesn't know what to say. Oba Femi makes his way out, he says he isn't there to cut him down, instead he is very impressed at the heights Wes brought this title to was extraordinary but he took it as far as he could, and now it is his time to bring it higher than Wes could ever dream of. He says Wes has a heart of a lion, but he is an actual warrior and he is the mountain that Wes can not conquer but guesses Wes still wants a title match. He tells Wes he has to do what he used to and fight for an opportunity. Wes says every checkbox tick, and while he may not check every single box, when that title was in his hands...but gets cut off by Ivar. Ivar says he knows what it is like to come back from a career ending injury and even went through the same spinal surgery Wes did and he had to fight for everything he got and knows Wes isn't afraid to fight too. Ivar says if Wes wants a shot at Oba he wants a shot at Oba too. Josh Briggs comes out and says they're all so emotional with Wes's comeback story and Ivar showing the world who he truly is, but this is a man's game and the fact is that at Stand and Deliver he and Oba tore the house down and they know how close Josh was to winning the title with broken ribs but now he's fully healed. Josh says he'll through Wes and Ivar a bone once he's champion. Oba says they all have compelling arguments and Wes tells him if he is such a ruler then make it a fatal four way. Oba says there's a reason he is a champion and Wes is not and tells them to fight among themselves and the winner will face him.
  
• Backstage Ridge is interviewed when Chase U approach him and tell him he doesn't have to go in tonight with Andre volunteering Riley to team with Ridge and Thea says it'd be a teachable moment.
  
• Lexis King says he's been on fire lately and offers to take everything else after the live event this weekend. Jazmine Nyx comes by asking if anyone wants to sign a get well soon card for Jacy Jane but everyone besides Lexis leaves. Lexis says he'll gladly sign for Jamie and agrees to sign anyways. He signs but Jazmine reads it and sees he signed it to Jordan and calls him and idiot once he leaves.
  
• Lola goes to beat down Carlee after their match but Nattalya and Karmen run down to send Shayna and Lola to the outside. Karmen tells them there's no more running around, if they really are the baddest then they'll face off next week in a tag match.
  
• Backstage Riley apologizes for losing the tag match tonight, Ridge says it's all good and they just have to trust him. Thea is overjoyed that they can trust Ridge and Andre thanks Riley for giving him a chance.
  
• Backstage Wes Lee, Ivar, and Josh Briggs are all taken out, the attackers are revealed to be the returning Gallus.
  

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It seems obvious to me that we're in the middle of an AI revolution, and things are about to get red hot between OpenAI and Google.
The pace of progress is and will continue to be mind-blowing. I'm hoping to see some upsets at some point from one or more of the smaller startups or maybe even brand new orgs that only come together with the advent of big new AI tools..
The speed at which AI is evolving is nuts. Just a few years ago, most people couldn't have imagined the kind of stuff AI can already do. GPT-4o and Google's Gemini are already pushing boundaries we only just found out existed. While the giants battle it out, there's also a bunch of smaller companies and even individuals trying to bring their own game-changing ideas to the table.
Competition is great—it drives innovation and forces companies to constantly improve.
When competition isn't the rule, we see a few big companies come to dominate, forming monopolies and working to stifle or absorb new ideas. Look at what Facebook did. How many smaller social media startups they scooped up and integrated.
The lack of strong anti-trust laws and poor enforcement has let not just these tech giants grow unchecked, but also other corporations before them. We've seen the further rise of the billionaire class at the expense of real competition and innovation.
Weak anti-trust enforcement has allowed a handful of companies to control entire industries. This not only stifles innovation but also creates huge barriers for new players. The billionaire class is both a symptom and a cause of this problem, widening the gap between the haves and the have-nots.
If we want to see AI reach its full potential and benefit everyone, we're going to need to push for corporate reform. We need stronger anti-trust laws to break up existing monopolies and prevent the formation of new ones. We need to make healthy competition the rule and limit the ability for corporations to consolidate power.
It's not just about giving startups a fair shot; it's about creating an ecosystem where innovation thrives and everyone can reap the benefits of a competitive market. If we don't get it done soon, AI will end up consolidated at the top the same way most other things have been.
The battle between OpenAI and Google is going to be a replay of ages past, where companies had to remain on their toes, ready to react and match each other's offerings.
The speed at which they respond to one another's advancements is a reminder of what other markets looked like before corporate monopolies could simply swallow up the market while simultaneously showing how few major competitors arise in a new market after monopolies have already thrived. (And sometimes: by design from the very outset)
The rivalry will be a snapshot of how the market used to be for multiple industries—vibrant, competitive, and full of rapid innovation that can hopefully serve as a reminder of what things can look like in, and as a product of, a more consumer friendly landscape.
What are some steps we can take to drive up support for corporate reform? It seems like doing so will be a necessity if we want the AI Industry to reach it's full potential.

Hello all, I do not know what to do anymore and need help.
Rx. OD Sph -1.75 CYL -1.25 Axis 175 OS Sph -2.25 CYL -0.50 Axis 170
I have been using glasses for about seven years, and I had the same acetate eyeglasses until recently, one month ago. I decided to purchase some eyeglasses with nose pads (Ray-Ban model 6363). I also bought some pairs from EyeBuyDirect before that, with 1.6 index lenses, two months ago. I thought they were too heavy.
I decided to seek professional help and bought the Ray-Bans with 1.67 index and transition lenses. The pain was unbearable. I had them adjusted multiple times, but there was no change in the pain or the feeling of heaviness. One week ago, I exchanged them for glasses with a 1.74 index, but I am still experiencing pain and discomfort from these heavy glasses. Despite multiple adjustments, mostly to the nose pads, the issue persists. I can't wear these glasses comfortably.
I also bought acetate glasses from EyeBuyDirect, and the difference in thickness between those and the Ray-Bans is negligible. However, the Ray-Ban 6363 with a 1.74 index feels heavier than the acetate lenses with a 1.6 index. The Ray-Bans' size is 54-18-145, while the acetate glasses are 52-19-145. My seven-year-old insurance glasses are 50-20-140, and they now feel too small for my face at 23 years old. These older lenses feel significantly lighter (almost 3 times lighter) compared to the Ray-Bans.
The Ray-Bans also leave marks and indentations on my face. Despite adjusting them to sit flat, both by myself and store optical staff, they remain heavy and painful. The discomfort alternates between the right and left sides with no relief in between.
I need help. I don't know what to do or think anymore. I have adjusted the nose pads myself, and the shop put bigger pads, but the pain and discomfort remain the same. I would appreciate everyone's input. I am ready to return the glasses. I spent almost $600, and my whole face hurts from wearing these glasses.

Bitsi has been doing this the past few days. It seems to be a new habit for her. She’s meowing at the reflection as she does this and it’s quite loud, but I’m more worried she’s upset about something. She’s less than a year old. Any ideas?

I'm starting to send myself in spirals thinking about this alone so I wanted to ask the opinion of other people who may be more knowledgeable. I have known this guy for over a year now, we're both second year at uni. We've had 2 intimate moments now, one back in December and one yesterday, and it's brought about some old feelings and fears. I (probably foolishly) kinda formed a crush on him near instantly which back then was just me getting attached to a safe base because I trusted him. However, as the weeks went on and we talked, and opened up more and more the feeling grew and felt more genuine. However, we stand on... Rocky ground.
Like I said, I attached to him as a safe base originally, and then started talking to him properly. The first couple weeks were getting to know him and pretty chill, but about 4 months in, we both started going through stuff mentally. We'd both gone home for summer so all we could do was message. We both helped each other where we could, and he even went as far as to say 'i need you just as much as you need me', a line so raw it near broke me because then, he was right. In fact, I think that was when the feelings started to turn genuine and I tried asking him out but to no avail. Summer comes and goes, we both go through shit and just before Christmas, we both get drunk and I end up inviting him back to my flat. I hadn't even planned on it, I'd made a flippant comment along the lines of "why is it I like you when I know you won't like me back" and he replied with "who says I don't like you like that?" (Funnily enough, him the time before!) But yeah, things happen and... It wasn't enjoyable for either of us, I feel awful, he turns really cold with me for a bit which makes me feel worse like I ruined it all but eventually I get over it, we go back to how we were and I've lost all of the feelings...
Until yesterday that was. We're both out again, and he starts chatting to me and my mate about how he feels he can't choose who he wants between 2 of our other friends and it's like getting hit by a freight train. I go from being in the zone to typing out this near 3 page apology for what happened before. He notices that change, asks if I'm okay, I'm honest with him, saying I'm writing the apology, apologise to him for making him worry, and then he kisses me. I pull away, and say that he didn't mention me when he talked about our 2 friends, and he says that just because he said those 2 doesn't mean he meant only those 2. I slightly begin to panic because I want this more than anything but the fear of fucking it all up is petrifying, to the point I can't even speak, I have to type it all out. He keeps reassuring me, no matter how much I ramble on the dance floor or the walk back to the accommodation. I ask why he likes me or puts up with me and he says it's because I feel genuine, like me ranting and voicing all of my fears is honest, not like the other people he's been with who did it but still hid things. He even goes so far as to double down and say that he does still need me as much as I need him. So we head to his and you can guess where this goes. It's a lot better this time, and I actually come away happy... Until this morning where someone messaged in the group chat if he made any regrettable decisions (he'd been ranting in the GC saying he'd do whatever, he didn't care, he was done with everything) and he says "yes but for different reasons" and I suddenly get that pit once more. I don't know how to bring it up to him, bring any of it up to him because I'm scared if I do, that's it, I ruin it once more.
But that's it. I feel like I'm in this no mans land and hope someone has some form of response they can give me that may ease my mind or help me. I'm sorry this was so long but there was a lot to cover

Hello all, I do not know what to do anymore and need help.
Rx. OD Sph -1.75 CYL -1.25 Axis 175 OS Sph -2.25 CYL -0.50 Axis 170
I have been using glasses for about seven years, and I had the same acetate eyeglasses until recently, one month ago. I decided to purchase some eyeglasses with nose pads (Ray-Ban model 6363). I also bought some pairs from EyeBuyDirect before that, with 1.6 index lenses, two months ago. I thought they were too heavy.
I decided to seek professional help and bought the Ray-Bans with 1.67 index and transition lenses. The pain was unbearable. I had them adjusted multiple times, but there was no change in the pain or the feeling of heaviness. One week ago, I exchanged them for glasses with a 1.74 index, but I am still experiencing pain and discomfort from these heavy glasses. Despite multiple adjustments, mostly to the nose pads, the issue persists. I can't wear these glasses comfortably.
I also bought acetate glasses from EyeBuyDirect, and the difference in thickness between those and the Ray-Bans is negligible. However, the Ray-Ban 6363 with a 1.74 index feels heavier than the acetate lenses with a 1.6 index. The Ray-Bans' size is 54-18-145, while the acetate glasses are 52-19-145. My seven-year-old insurance glasses are 50-20-140, and they now feel too small for my face at 23 years old. These older lenses feel significantly lighter (almost 3 times lighter) compared to the Ray-Bans.
The Ray-Bans also leave marks and indentations on my face. Despite adjusting them to sit flat, both by myself and store optical staff, they remain heavy and painful. The discomfort alternates between the right and left sides with no relief in between.
I need help. I don't know what to do or think anymore. I have adjusted the nose pads myself, and the shop put bigger pads, but the pain and discomfort remain the same. I would appreciate everyone's input. I am ready to return the glasses. I spent almost $600, and my whole face hurts from wearing these glasses.

Frankly this collection is old and I have not touched it in many years, some figures are damaged or chipped paint, i do not know all the names anymore so forgive me here Lol. I have no set prices on any figures, I couldn’t really find consistent prices on any of them so i’m just looking for offers.
heres a number format as an alternative to the images provided.
7 Misc items. (they could be levels, or boosters for old games i honestly have no idea.) 7 Babies. (or Mini’s? no clue.) 6 Imaginator Cores. (all used to my knowledge, unsure if possible to reset their data.) 4 Traps. 3 Trap team figures. 4 Super chargers figures. 6 Super charger vehicles. 4 Giants. 6 Giants line figures. (standard sized figure from the giants game.) 4 Sensei’s. 3 Swap force Swappable figures. 4 Swap force standard figures. 20 Standard figures. (green base, from the first game?)
a few of them are special, like theres a glow in the dark griffin looking guy, and a Toys R Us exclusive bomb guy.
Feel free to message me or comment if you’re interested in any of these! thank you! Dm to discuss international shipping.

newer throw away..as I dont want this on my main.
So some backstory on both of us.. I (23f) am 26 weeks pregnant with baby number 2, a boy. My sister, who we will call Sally(28f) is about 20 weeks pregnant with baby number 5, her first girl. I am a married, a stay at home mom, we are technically low income, but are comfortable and have savings etc..all this to say, we aren’t necessarily financially sound, but we dont go without any needs, or many wants.
My sister is going on 5 kids, has a track record of choosing awful men, makes very poor life and financial decisions, never has any money for anything.. and our family members have her kids in their care more than she does. Our family members also foot most of her bills, including previously providing money for diapers, formula, cars, gas money, etc.
My mother asks me if Sally had reached out to me yet. I said no, and asked why. My mom said that Sally is having a hard time, that her Boyfriend had run off again, she lost her job, needs a bigger car for the kids,and needs baby stuff as she has nothing for the upcoming baby. My mom told Sally to call me so I could pack up some of my daughters(2y) old baby items to give to her. I told my mom that I didn’t have much to give her, and reminded her that I am also expecting a baby. I told her I plan on sorting through our old newborn clothes to sell to the childs resale store to get credit back, so I can buy my upcoming son some clothes..As i really dont see the need in buying brand new baby clothes, and it would help us save some money this way. I mentioned that we were also reusing my infant seat from two years ago, as well as the crib, bottles, and just about anything else that I held onto..
My mother told me that I was selfish for not handing over any of our stuff because we “have the means to purchase our son new items, where Sally does not”. She tells me that “Sally isnt as fortunate as I am because She doesn’t have a good man in her life to provide for them, and she just needs a little help”
I told my mom that it is not my fault that Sally has made poor life decisions, nor is it my obligation to help her provide for the children she continues to have but cannot properly care for. I told her that I am not willing to continue to enable her poor decisions especially when It will affect MY family, but if the rest of the family wants to, then to go ahead.
My mom has since spoke with Sally and our grandmother and told them my responses.. I now have 3 very upset people hounding me, telling me how selfish and rude I am, and demanding that I help my sister out because “family helps family” I am now being told that If i am refusing to give her any of our old items, then I should atleast be willing to put forth an effort to buy or find her some items and clothes that she needs..
AITA here..?

Believe 75 is mostly complete. 76 is complete. 77 is darn close. No idea about 78 and 79 but skads. As the years go back there are fewer. Maybe 400-500 per years prior to the above.
So the question- if you were to want to build a particular year, which would you build? Personal fave is maybe 72 and 75. What's most entertaining for you?

Not sure what I hope to gain from this but maybe there will be some clarity to gain from an objective opinion. That being said I will prob delete this later- but while I’m here I will try to be as detailed and neutral to the facts as I can be, but there is a lot of history in a 15 year relationship so get ready to read a small book. I M33, grew up in an abusive and poverty stricken home, naturally I escaped that situation as soon as I could (after high school in 2008) my parents would explode over the littlest thing- like the first time I recall thinking I could not rely on my dad was after witnessing him beat my sister to a pulp, and then threaten me about telling (I never did) over her bedroom being filthy. Now, between high school and meeting my now wife F34 I was in a committed long distance relationship. Not to dwell here as it has little to do with the story, that relationship ended Dec 1 2009, I made my way to a small college town and found a place to stay with a few friends I knew from high school. This could only be described as a party house that a few poor and brave folks lived. The rent was cheap and the people were good. Not to mention, it was easy to drowned my feeling with drugs and alcohol here and not be judged. This was right after the 2008 financial crisis and I had found employment delivering for a local restaurant, and was not interested in starting a new relationship. Well mid way through December one roommate decided he was moving out, which left a room open for rent. This is where I met who, at least at one point was the love of my life. Jen F34 was a recent college graduate, who comes from, what I would consider a well off family. Jen was part of some drama with her old roommates and decided she would move in. She had been accepted into a work training program that would send her to a new state 15 hours away, so she was also not interested in a serious relationship. Jen was seeing someone we will call Mark. Mark and Jen we in a non-serious sexual relationship. The moment I saw Jen something inside me said i want to be with her, but I was still fighting demons from my failed relationship. So I hung around her and was content just being a friend..well this goes on for about a month..before it happened. One drunk night and I am waking up, naked next to her..she was still seeing Mark at that point, and I had no idea what I had done. She broke it off with mark a few days later and I took his spot. As a non-serious sexual partner, well the months flew by then all of a sudden we both had caught feelings. We had finally agreed we would only see each other. Well one day I come home from work and she is cuddled up next to a guy we will call Adam. I was devastated. I confronted her and she played it off as nothing. Just passed out and woke up and he was next to her, I had my doubts but in the end believed her and forgot about it. As things got more and more serious the dread of her moving day was inching closer. We both were bothered by this. She wanted to stay, I said no. I eventually agreed I’d move to her after her training program. (She had to stay on a company campus for 3 months for training) during this time we were long distance- I worked my ass off to get ready for a cross country move and she was getting a place ready for us to live. During this time she went out with “friends” and said she would call me after. 2 am nothing, 3 nothing 4 I’m worried sick and finally fell asleep around 4:15am. My phone goes off at 5am. She calls me incoherent and making 0 sense. I thought again she may have cheated on me but again no evidence- said she got a bit to drunk and stayed out too late. I again believed her. I was able to forgive and get over it- I’m not the type to stress over anything that’s not life changing so moving day arrives. I get all my stuff in order jump on the greyhound and start my journey. Dying inside to finally see my women again, well 22 hours later I arrived. She was supposed to be there to pick me up but she was no where to be found. I text and called, she finally answered and was very short with me, and pulled up a short while later. As soon as I got in the car she was mad. Telling me I should not have come, it was a mistake etc. we get to the apartment and I’m feeling like a sucker for being there, we have some food and she apologized for her actions in the car and we moved forward. Well the next almost two years of our relationship was amazing- epic sex life, passionate about each other the whole 9. Some minor drunk arguments here and there but nothing crazy. I consider this the best time of my life. Around 3 years in our relationship we got pregnant. Over those 9 months we were closer than ever. Excited to bring a beautiful baby into to this world, scared beyond words but happy. Then one day she was in pain and pretty sure she was in labor. We get to the hospital and thus starts one of the most traumatizing experiences for her. Extended labor time, breach baby, intense pain and anxiety followed by a c-section, and a multi-night stay in the hospital. Then a long recovery process. Needless to say being young, broke, new parents is probably the hardest thing I have ever experienced and can admit that experience must have been even worse for her and while life as new parents took hold she grew into a nurturing mother while I regressed. I was over worked, underpaid, stressed out and took what was a minor drinking habit to an excessive drinking habit. This was the start of a long line of huge fights, financial problems, and ultimately leads us to know. chewing on the idea of divorce. But before I get to now, let’s do a quick life recap. My wife and I are living together with our newborn, isolated from friends and family, I’m quickly drinking more and more. I worked an over night labor job, and Jen was still working for the same company. But more of an 8 - 5 we only saw each other in passing most days. Our blessing was colic and cried constantly. We both began to feel like we needed to be close to friends so we packed up and move back after her contacted ended a year later. Back to the small sleepy college town we met. We moved back, our kiddo was 1, things were looking up, I had gotten a day job- our kiddo was finally sleeping better, really it seemed good. But since her c-section a year prior, we had only managed to have sex a few times. I thought this would be the change we could to finally revive our bedroom life. But it hardly changed, add a few more times to the few mentioned before. We went from daily to basically none, not to mention we would constantly fight about things that need to be done, money, etc. I’ll admit I did not do my part of house work. So things are starting to fall apart- I’m still drinking heavily, our bedroom was on life support and I fucked up and started watching porn, browsing sites akin to tinder. I have to say I never actually hooked up with anyone but I did get some photos sent to me. Not my proudest moment. Well I arrived home from work and Jen had found said communications and browsing history and was rightfully mad. After a week or so staying with a friend and she allows me to apologize , I assured her it was nothing more than digital and explained how I felt about our sex life, or lack of one specifically. Things kind of improved for a bit, I stopped drinking, we were being intimate, we got married, she quit working and went for a graduate degree, I had found more gainful employment. until one day Jen noticed something new on my body.. a wart to be specific. At some point I contacted HPV. Which then made me look like a liar. (I since found out it was a girl i had a one night stand with shortly before my prior relationship. (Common friend told me years later))but I had no explanation or evidence to prove my infidelity was not physical. Well after this happened things got bad, really bad. I started drinking heavily again, right into financial ruin. We were broke, rent due, hungry baby, relationship just about dead. 0 bedroom life. I never said I was the good guy here. Just trying to be honest about our past. So we need cash quick so we don’t fall behind on bills, it is eventually decided she will strip for cash until we can get out of the hole I dug us. I’m pretty insecure but we had no other choice. I was handling it pretty well, until I noticed something in her attitude. She would get home and try to initiate sex with me. It was welcome but odd- till this point we had a half dead bedroom for years. I pried it out of her that stripping turned her on and instantly felt disgust. I lost it on her, how could she- come home and fuck me smelling like alcohol and bathroom cologne. Can’t fuck them at the club easily so come home and pretend I’m someone that turns you on. Had we not had issues overall in the bedroom I would not have felt this way but this made me feel gross, betrayed, guilty, angry. She obviously is mad at me since it’s my fault she was there. We had a fight and somewhat made up. Bedroom life was slow, life went on, things are pretty crappy and one night she goes out with a friend and shows up back at our place, hammered, with a guy from the bar. Our child was asleep in the room and that man is lucky I did not shoot him. She claims he was her friends stray but she let a stranger come to OUR HOUSE. Well at this point, i was mad but eventually just got over it. Life moved on we came out of the financial hole moved to a nicer place and began work towards saving for a home. She was still stripping on and off to help save. Well then she actually cheated on me, with another girl I front of a group of guys for money. I’m died inside at this point. I fell back to drinking heavily, again sexually all but dead. I basically repressed it and allowed her to get off easy (when she found my digital infidelity years prior I had to stay with a friend for a week) over this time, things are quite- status quo- saving for our first home. After some time like this I got a new job- and we could finally purchase. So we did- just before the pandemic. Our bedroom was basically dead- only initiated by me, was pretty one sided and seemed like she was just doing it to appease me. Constantly fighting of little things like chores (if I did not do them exactly the way or time she wanted it done WW3 would break out) but we managed. The the pandemic happened. We decided we would move closer to her family so we could have some support and hopefully work on us. We were able to live with her family for the next 1.5ish years. I only recall having sex twice during this time. (Could have been more but like I said I’m still drinking at this point) we bicker constantly during this time. Mind you all I am slowly at this dying on the inside this whole time. We had a major blow up in front of everyone a few days prior to closing. Stemming from myself feeling generally put out. Stick in a sexless marriage and the fact that I had a work thing in Vegas for a week. We sign - I leave for Vegas- she organizes the movers and get everything in. We have our own space again. Now we are almost to the present day. I again found new employment and have a high stress, high 6 figure salary career we have had many of fights due to chores, and household duties etc. she was convinced it was due to alcohol so I finally quit drinking for good. The goal was to hopefully fix this relationship, have a more intimate bedroom. In fact this was agreed upon when I quit. Some of the other things that have been said in these arguments was that she is working and trying to find better work so she can financially afford to leave me. She currently works on a “less than part time” contract work type stuff but is basically is a SAHM. I pay 100% of everything. This is now 6 months after I stopped drinking and there has been no change in our bedroom life. 3.5 weeks ago: I calm Loy state that I thought we agreed on the spicing up the bedroom with more frequently maybe some lingerie. I am getting a bit frustrated with this. Her: I just started my period but I hear you. A week goes by period done still nothing. 2 weeks ago Friday: we are sitting on the couch. I am feeling very much frustrated sexually. We are watching tv together, and I make a comment about one of the people. Here is what happened : Person on TV while crying “I recently found out my body produces excess estrogen” me: must be why you’re so emotional. Her: you’re a sexist pig, a misogynist, thats a misnomer and actually testosterone does that and so many other things I forget them all but that was the gist. Just offended. I apologized and said it was just a dumb comment. Somewhat calmed down but the energy was thick. Then I made my second mistake: a morbidly obese person came on screen wearing a sold color onesie. I muttered : dude looks like a bowling ball. And that was it- I’m a disgusting pig and she is going to bed. I sleep on the couch that night seething that again no sex, again random attacks against my character, again using something like a comment about a person on screen to go to bed. Saturday: my kiddo sees me on the couch, asks “dad can you make me an omelet.” Me still upset with how the night ended with my wife- complained about not wanting to make it- and eventually agreed. While cooking breakfast - wife comes downstairs and immediately starts in on me, ignoring my advances for a hug, telling me i need to walk the dog because she doesn’t have time. I also needed to run an errand before the kiddos sports ball game. I told her kind of angrily I had shit to do as well and what is preventing her from doing it. Well she does, things are quiet, we get to the game and we are sitting there. She brings up the comments of the night before and started this whole thing in public. Trying to get me to lose my temper in public. I was able to ignore it and just finish the game. Pushed all that down and was ready to move on. We get home from the day’s activities and she does what she always does says good night to the kiddo and gets ready for bed. Again I sleep on the couch. Sunday: she wakes up and starts cleaning, I try to be nice again- making advances to hug her, kiss her etc. I walked the doggo, not asked to do so- kiddo asks me to cook some food again so I do. No complaint, but while I’m cooking she makes another comment about my character. And brings up Friday again. I lost it: I was screaming at her like I never have before. Told her I wanted a divorce, that she clearly doesn’t want this it’s why she can’t even pretend to want me sexually and that I am nothing more than an ATM for her at this point. The rest of Sunday and Monday was silent. This is when I started this novel of a post. Finally she apologized and admitted to being cold to me, promised to work on this. Tuesday, best sex we have had in a decade, Wednesday, repeat action, Thursday a 3rd time. This past Friday- I was spent this was more sex than I had in a row in years. I was happy. Saturday, family members bday and another sports game. All day gone- everything good. We get home late- she is tired no problems. Sunday Mothers Day. We had plans with her family to do some hiking the first part of the day then have lunch and play a game. Everything is going fine. It starts to get around 3:00 pm and I tell her I am ready to go home. She said we have not played the game and that she wanted to. So I agree- we play a few rounds and during the game she could see that I was getting annoyed that we had to play another round I was not being rude but just not enthusiastic about ti. She looked at me and said I need to check myself. The way she said it, the fact she said it at the table so everyone could hear. I felt disrespected, we left and argued a little but I ended up saying sorry because ok I get it my fault. So we get home and she comes into my office space (which was dirty) glasses, and tons of boxes /other recycling that had not be taken care of. She told me to do it I agreed it was gross and started picking up. She kept on about how I’m disgusting for leaving it in the first place- etc I calmly asked her to just leave it alone and drop it, I’d take care of it but she didnt after 10 mins of her spewing on me I finally lost it and told her to get the fuck out of my office if she doesn’t like it. That I’m tired of the hostility and it’s clear she didn’t actually want to fix this. She kept asking me to lower my volume while telling me why she is right, brining up everything from the prior week. I did not lower my volume I got louder and more upset till she goes to bed and I sleep on the couch again. Monday: we argue more. The general mood is “how could I blow up on her on Mother’s Day.” That she is done etc. as soon as she can financially leave she will. I said why wait and asked her to stay with her mother for a few days- she refused to, so I left to a hotel room. Today was more of the same: not accepting that she had a part in the argument. That I just freaked out over her asking me to clean up. We have eventually agreed to give therapy a shot but here I sit, in my hotel room. Contemplating life I can’t help but feel we gave it our best but we were doomed to fail. I really don’t want to lose my family. but neither of us can take the current state anymore. What does the world of Reddit think?

This is my list of the top 10 non hardcore emo albums post 2000. I did not include any hardcore or true pop punk albums. Obviously this comes down to personal preference, and the emo genre is so diverse this was a difficult list to make. I think I did a decent job of putting together a solid list of diverse emo albums. Let me know your top 10 list! I want to note that I only chose one album from every artist to go on this list. I honestly believe 5 of the 10 bands have more than one album that could potentially make this list, but I wanted to give a nod to a few other lesser known bands and albums. I put the list with no commentary first so people would not be forced to wade through my reviews to see the list.
My Top 10 Emo Albums: 1. Turnover - Peripheral Vision 2. Citizen - Youth 3. Movements - Feel Something 4. Tigers Jaw - Self Titled 5. The Hotelier - Home, Like No Place There Is 6. City and Colour - Bring Me Your Love 7. A Great Big Pile of Leaves - Snack Attack 8. Pinegrove - Marigold 9. Gleemer - Down Through 10. Foxing - The Albatross
Honorable Mention: 1. Secondhand Serenade - Awake 2. For When You Can’t Breathe - A Home That Doesn’t Exist
Quick Album Reviews:

1. Turnover - Peripheral Vision This is and will always be my top album. A true masterpiece to my ears. The music is dreamy, but they still kept some of the heaviness from earlier albums. That Roland JC-120 tone will always be legendary. The lyrics are super emo, but it doesn't sound dark unless you really listen. I have played this album at the cafe, and more than once I have had someone mention, “This music is so happy” lol. Go read the lyrics and get back to me on that. The lyrical content is approachable and relatable. Solid 10/10.
   
2. Citizen - Youth This album simultaneously rocks and jams. The guitars can be heavy at times, but the mix of calm and heavy parts is a genius execution. The Vocals are something of magic. The mix of the clean and yelling vocals not only fits the style but also adds a ton of dynamics. The lyrics are gut wrenching. Songs like “The Night I Drove Alone” are an all too real description of what living with suicidal ideation is like. This is the closest thing to being a hardcore album on this list, except maybe the Hotelier album, but I believe it is much more approachable than your average hardcore album, as the vocals do not really scream. 9.5/10
   
3. Movements - Feel Something This album does not rock as hard as “Youth” but It does jam twice as hard. Now don’t get me wrong: it rocks…hard. The lyrics and melodies on this album may be my favorite on any emo album. The lyrics are clever and witty, and the melodies are smooth and memorable. This is an album I have to sing along to when I listen to it. I believe the first 5 songs on this album may be the best 5 song stretch on any emo album ever produced. These songs together get a 10/10. The only things I didn't really care for at first were the spoken word parts. The words are great, but spoken word just really isn't my thing. It takes me back to my days in the evangelical church, but I have grown to love it. 9.5/10
   
4. Tigers Jaw - Self Titled This is a classic emo album. Personally it is not even my favorite Tiger’s Jaw album. For my personal taste “Spin” takes the cake, but there is no denying that the Self Titled album was more successful and had a larger influence on emo music as a whole. The music is very raw. It could have easily been produced in a bedroom, though it was recorded in a real studio. The guitars and vocals are both pretty raw. It has very little pop influence in the sense that it is not very polished. Let’s be honest, that is one of the major draws to the album. The lyrics, though silly at times, are very real and raw. “What about your friends, do they make you happy?” “Lie to me like you used to” “We are made from chemicals, but what holds us together is much more than that” This album showcases great lyricism and melody building. 9/10
   
5. The Hotelier - Home, Like No Place There Is Many avid emo fans consider this album to be the best emo album ever produced. I agree that it is one of the best. The music ranges from pretty heavy to chiller alt rock. It does have some screamo style vocals, but that is not the majority of the vocals, which is why it's not on the hardcore list. “Life In Drag” is 100% screamo, “Housebroken” is a chill alt song, and songs like “Among The Wildflowers” and “Your Deep Rest” are an excellent combination of both. The lyrics are another example of top tier lyricism in the emo genre. The song “Your Deep Rest” may be the most gut wrenching song I have ever heard in any genre. 9/10
   
6. City and Colour - Bring Me Your Love This is the only acoustic album to make the top 10. I listened to this album from 2008 to 2015 before I even realized that most people even considered it emo. I just saw it as an awesome acoustic album. The music overall has a pretty dark sound especially for an acoustic album. The sound reminds me a bit of The Spill Canvas’ “Sunsets & Car Crashes” album but it is much more refined and has a more pop style production. Dallas’ advanced guitar skills and beautiful and soulful vocals are really a thing of beauty. My first year in college this was my drink and be sad album. It is incredibly dark. “Every man needs a muse and mine could be the bottle” “It's passion, it's not love. Infatuation never ends up right. At least I won't be alone tonight.” “We celebrate the lives of the dead. It's like a man's best party, only happens when he dies.” 8.5/10
   
7. A Great Big Pile of Leaves - Snack Attack A Great Big Pile of Leaves is the least popular band to make this list, but honestly one of the most original emo bands I’ve ever heard. This album has a super fun and happy sound. The music jams and groves very hard, while having a calming effect on the listener. This is a great album to take a nap to. The lyrics can be pretty silly with songs about a wild mouse in the house that they consider a pet, slumber parties, and going back to school. They prove that being happy and joyous are also worthwhile emotions. It is not all fun and games though, it also includes themes of those you trust letting you down, and the struggle of being introverted. I have never related to a song more than “Ambervision” 8.5/10
   
8. Pinegrove - Marigold I'm sure there will be plenty of people who will question why I chose this album over all the other bangers Pinegrove has released. It is one of Pinegrove’s least successful albums. They have obviously had several hits bigger than any of the songs on this album, but the overall album is so cohesive and perfectly executed. Every song’s sound fits perfectly into the style of the whole album. My biggest complaint about Pinegrove, and the reason I disliked them for so long, is because they have such a country (It is fair to say folk) sound. I grew up in East Texas where country music is king, and I always hated it with a passion. This is the album where they leaned the most heavily into the country sound. The melodies have a slight twang and the harmonies are obviously country inspired. The reason I chose this album is because they were able to take elements of music that I hate and make me love it. So Good! 8.5/10
   
9. Gleemer - Down Through This is the most recent album to make the top 10 list. This band is also fairly unknown. I actually did not discover them until maybe a month ago. It may be fair to say that my introduction to this album is too fresh to make it on this list, but It is simply that good. The first time I heard it I knew it would be one of my favorites. It has that dreamy aspect that made Peripheral Vision such a huge hit. I dream of the day that every emo band realizes that a strong chorus effect and intense reverbs are their friend. It is a bit heavier than PV, not by much. The lyrics are very poetic and leave the meaning a bit up to interpretation but they are dark and without a doubt emo. The choruses are catchy, but they do not quite have the sing along factor of PV. Dreamy Emo/Shoegaze for the win! 8/10
   
10. Foxing - The Albatross I actually saw Foxing open up for Tigers Jaw back in 2017, before I had ever heard their recorded music. I really enjoyed it. They slap live. A few months after the concert I was playing random emo music in the cafe and the song “the Medic” came on. I was jamming to it and in the middle of the song I realized, “Holy shit, I saw these guys live”. This is another album that has a crazy 5 song stretch. The first 5 songs are on another level. 9.5/10. “Pent Up In A Blind” is a short interlude instrumental but it perfectly bridges “The Medic” and “Rory” which are undeniably the best two songs on the album. It is dark and depressing, but their musicality is something I have never heard from an emo band. The sound on this album is very unique in the genre. They use a trumpet (which is sick live) and the guitars have a slight midwest emo style, with the sweeping guitar parts on some of the songs, but the tone is unlike what you would hear in midwest emo. The rest of the album is solid, but very instrumental heavy which is the only reason the overall album was dropped down to a 8/10
    

Honorable Mention:

1. Secondhand Serenade - Awake In my mind this is the second best acoustic emo album out there. It is much more polished and poppy than anything else that made the actual top 10. The vocals utilize some fairly significant pitch correction, which becomes obvious when you hear the songs live. He uses pitch correction, but it feels more like an effect than it does about fixing vocal imperfections. The vocals needed to be that perfect to fit the style of the music. Secondhand Serenade used amazingly written harmonies to add depth and dynamics to the music. SS utilizes some unique tunings and chords in his music. I learned so much about playing the acoustic guitar from this album. Just like City and Colour I never considered SS an emo band until around 2015. That’s when I looked past the beautiful music and took a deeper look into the lyrics and realized, “Damn, this guy was going through some shit.” I always considered it a love album, as there are some beautiful love songs, but if you look deeper you will see that they are all about trying to fix messed up relationships. Not exactly as happy as the songs sound.
   
2. For When You Can’t Breathe - A Home That Doesn’t Exist This album was just released this year, by an artist that released their first song in 2022. They are almost completely unknown with less than 36,000 monthly listeners on Spotify (most of those have come in the last few months). The newness of the artist does not detract from the perfection of this album. It has dreamy guitar tones, especially on the verses. The choruses have a strong pop punk feel. The vocals feature both super clean poppy melodies, and yelling and screaming. It kind of feels like a mix of Secondhand Serenade’s clean vocals, Peripheral Vision’s guitar tones, Mayday Parade’s choruses, and the raw vocals of Hotelier. Seriously a cool mix of music and styles. It is everything my 17 year old scene self hoped emo music would be in 15 years.