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2024.05.15 15:11 FV_Master Can I sue an online store for false advertising of a preorder date?

Hello everyone, so couple weeks ago my laptop broke down and I decided to buy a new one. I saw that a popular online store had a laptop that I really liked available for preorder and it advertised that I will have the laptop in May 14th. I made the order and paid over 1k€ in April 19th when the preorder date was May 14th. In this time I want to note that I paid only because of the specific date because I could hold on 2 weeks without a laptop but not a day more because I'm a CS student and I really needed it for university assignments
I saw in the store that I ordered that 4 days ago, the preorder date was non existent and the product was marked as non avaliable.
Today I decided to call the relevant store and they told me that they decided to remove the advertised preorder date since their supplier (from the one that supply the laptops from) that they (the supplier) will distribute it late may , and the online store told me that they will have the laptop to distribute it to me and to the rest customers in May 29th or later
So my question is, in this situation can I fill a complaint or sue the store or even go to the relevant authorities of my goverment regarding consumer products to file a consumer complaint or stores can do that?
Edit: I live in Greece / Europr
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2024.05.15 15:10 Slight_Toe5095 AITAH for going no contact with my dad after he didn’t show up at my graduation?

First off, I am a girl from The Netherlands so English is not my first language so I apologise for any mistakes.
Let me give you a little back story. Before my dad met my mom he had a wife (lets call her Anna) they got married in 1999 and had been together since they were 16. Anna and him had a daughter in 1995 (my half sister, lets call her Charlotte) when they were 23 years old. Although Anna and my dad were very toxic for each other he never let that affect the way he loved Charlotte, more than anything and treated like a princess, as he should of course, eventually in 2002 Anna and dad got divorced. A year after the divorce my dad met my mom and had me on accident. They were kind of in a on/off relationship nothing official, then my mom got pregnant with me although they didn’t plan it they did decide to keep me but they never became a real couple. They never really had any problems with each other so they stayed friends. My dad is Italian and lives in Italy and my mom is Dutch and lives in The Netherlands, because my parents live in two different countries I needed a primary residence/parent which was my mom. I mainly lived with her and would go to my dad whenever i had holidays/vacations from school or he would come to me. He has always been a good dad but it was clear that Charlotte was the favourite. And i was always jealous of the attention and love that she got. I know my dad loves me very much but not like he loves Charlotte. Charlotte and I didn’t have a great bond she knew she was the favourite and would always make that known, she would bully me and make rude comments about me and my dad would just let it happen this went on for years and she made me really insecure.
One day when we were on vacation i wanted to go swimming in the ocean but I have epilepsy so I can’t swim unattended my dad send Charlotte to go with me, after an hour while i was still in the ocean Charlotte went back to our resort house without telling me and left me alone in the pool thankfully nothing happened but it could’ve ended badly. My dad for the first time ever stood up for me and made her apologise but i knew she wasn’t sorry.
As I got older I became more distant from my dad because of this, I used to be a big daddy’s girl but am now totally a mama’s girl. Skip forward to when i was 17, my mom passed away and i had to move in with my dad. Now let’s go forward a year later. At this point Charlotte was 25 and had already moved out en had gotten engaged. I was in my final year and was going to graduate, everyone including Charlotte and my dad knew my graduation was going to be on June 22 and out of nowhere Charlotte decided her wedding was going to be that same day she claimed she didn’t know that was my graduation date. I got mad at her and demanded that she would change the day because i had that date first but she didn’t want to. Our dad tried talking her into changing the date even to June 23 would’ve been fine but she didn’t want to and insisted on June 22. My dad was going to have to choose between walking Charlotte down the aisle or watching me graduate and I already knew what he was going to choose, Charlotte, and he did. I was secretly hoping he would change his mind so I reserved a spot for him but his seat at my graduation was empty. Not long after i moved back to The Netherlands and started living together with 2 of my friends and I haven’t been in contact with my dad or Charlotte ever since i moved and its been great. My uncle (dad’s brother) came to visit me because we still have a great bond. He told me he understood my side but he thought i was a little extreme for going no contact with them because he’s still my dad. I considered it and unblocked my dad’s number and sent him a text in the text message was talking about why i went no contact and how him and Charlotte made me feel and maybe meeting up so that he can apologise but he said he had nothing to apologise for and I took that as a sign of him also not being interested in contact anymore. Although him saying that he had nothing to apologise for kind of hurt me I expected it and was not surprised.
I have no desire to get back in contact with my dad anymore after all that’s happened over the years between me him and Charlotte which is more than the small portion i told you about in this post.
Personally i don’t think i was in the wrong but i need an unbiased opinion so I decided to come here.
AITAH?
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2024.05.15 15:06 throuuughawayaccount My (28m) gf (30m) hooked up twice with a guy that she works with and lives across from her apartment room, a month before we met, even though he had been constantly harrassing her for sex prior.

So for context, we only started dating about 3 months ago but things have been going really, really great. She's been kinder to me than anyone I've dated before and she's always been upfront and honest with me about things. I don't need to ask, she tells me the things she thinks I have a right to know. I've felt really happy and cared for and I've felt like I really trust her. So this is not a matter of trust.
However, the other day one of the guys living on her floor said good morning to us as we were leaving the apartment together, and she looked terrified for a moment. I asked what was wrong and she told me that he used to constantly ask her for sex and she used to repeatedly say no but he never respected it, that he would make moves on her in the workplace too and she would give out to him for being so disrespectful, but that on two occasions she hooked up with him while feeling really down and when she needed to "feel wanted", then regretted it afterwards. She told me that once she met me, she told him she didn't want to maintain active contact with him, but that he made contact again both in work and via text to tell her she could always "take shelter" in his room if she wanted and added "you can bring your boyfriend too", which she said infuriated her and made her lose all respect for him.
I didn't ask for any of this information, she confessed herself immediately after the encounter, and she said she was trying to find the best way to tell me about this. She also told me she had no feelings for him at all, which I believe, but this honestly makes it harder for me to understand. She has told me about her past sexual relationships without me asking and in every other case she had feelings for the guy, so I didn't think twice about it, but she claimed this guy was the sole exception which I think was meant to reassure me. But all I can think about is the fact that she slept with him multiple times despite the fact that they work together, live in rooms across from each other, that he was repeatedly disrespectful to her, and that she had no feelings for him.
This doesn't really make any sense to me and seems very out of character for her as she's someone I see as having high standards when it comes to how others treat her. Why would she maintain contact despite the disrespect? Why would she risk her job, home, and risk complicating future relationships for the sake of having sex with this guy? Why would it happen twice, and so recently too (the last time was shortly before we met), if she regretted it? Why is he so casually friendly and making such strange comments?
All of these details have left me ruminating excessively about their history and how I may encounter him any time I visit or leave her apartment, etc. I can't get these thoughts and images out of my head, even though I have no jealousy at all about any of her other past relationships that she shared all the details of. But something about this is really bothering me and making me feel miserable. I don't think it's a matter of trust as I do trust her not to cheat. It's not a matter of insecurity or feeling inadequate either. But I don't quite know what it is.
I personally have never had casual sex despite many opportunities because I always wanted to reserve sexual intimacy for relationships and avoid drama or hurting people, so it's possible that her actions just make me worry we have different views of sex. For me, it's really tied to feelings. I wouldn't want to end the relationship over different views of sex in either case, but it's possible that I'm feeling this way because it suggests a difference between us that I wasn't cognizant of before.
Regardless, I need to overcome this and I don't want to be distant with her because I am feeling so down about it. It's not fair to her and she's being nothing but incredibly kind to me. While the relationship is new, we've spent a lot of time together too and she has been consistently loving and considerate. What can I do to overcome or at least understand these feelings, and how can I navigate this situation so she doesn't get hurt or upset by me being emotionally distant while processing my feelings?
Tl;dr: My amazing new girlfriend told me, without me asking, that she previously (before we met) hooked up with a coworker who lives in her apartment building on two occasions, despite the fact that she had rejected him countless times before and he never respected her saying no. I'm really struggling not to ruminate about it, but I'm not entirely sure why I'm so upset. I don't want my feelings to damage the relationship and need help understanding them.
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2024.05.15 15:04 ioana_radu @HatomProtocol beyond limits: boosting APY, minting stability, and Soul Protocol's genesis

@HatomProtocol beyond limits: boosting APY, minting stability, and Soul Protocol's genesis
The last few months have been incredibly active; we've been pushing boundaries, building, experimenting, fine-tuning, and deploying robust and secure products to create a unique DeFi ecosystem without limits. However, our journey is far from over, and it's time to provide you with a global update on our progress.

HatomProtocol beyond limits: boosting APY, minting stability, and Soul Protocol's genesis
Our mission on #MultiversX began with kickstarting DeFi and increasing on-chain DeFi TVL. Now, we aim to address the final piece of the puzzle that is still causing issues for both #MultiversX and #Hatom. The lack of stablecoin liquidity hinders our growth.

The absence of an EGLD-backed stablecoin forces users to forgo exposure to their $EGLD whenever they need liquidity, creating selling pressure on $EGLD. This is what we aim to tackle with this protocol update, which will primarily focus on two of the most impactful products in the Hatom Ecosystem: Hatom USD ($USH) and Booster V2.

Without further ado, let’s delve into these two modules in more detail:

Booster V2

While Booster V2 was initially designed to introduce additional features and improvements, we have further refined the model to enhance its utility.

Let’s break down the new features and implementations:

• Global Position Tracking: Optimizes boosting by monitoring a unified global position rather than individual positions, enhancing efficiency.

• Rebalance at Protocol Level: Reduces gas fees for claiming rewards by integrating rebalances directly at the protocol level.

• Multiple Deposit Options: Enables the deposit of HTM LPs and Metastaking tokens into the Booster Module, which will track only the $HTM token's weight.

• Simplified LP/Metastaking Creation: Allows for direct creation of LP/Metastaking positions within the Booster Module itself, eliminating the need to use the xExchangeApp dashboard.

• Reward Structure Adjustment: Shifts all rewards from $USDC to $EGLD, with claims exclusively in $HTM to boost demand and buying pressure for the $HTM token.

One new key improvement in the upcoming version of the Booster that has been added is the elimination of the $HTM cap in the HTM Booster to achieve optimal boosting.

Currently, users must deposit an equivalent of 10% of their collateral value in $HTM tokens within the booster to attain the maximum Boosted APY on their positions. With the launch of Booster V2, this cap will be removed, allowing users to increase their APY in proportion to the amount of $HTM they stake.

With the new implementation of Booster V2, rewards will be split into two batches.

In the first batch, users can achieve a certain APY by staking a specific ratio of HTM compared to the collateral they have supplied.

In the second batch, this cap will be removed, allowing users to increase their APY in proportion to the amount of $HTM they stake. The more $HTM tokens you stake beyond the threshold set in the first batch, the higher the APY you can achieve. However, this metric still depends on the value of your collateral and the total amount of $HTM staked by other liquidity providers.

For example: (Please note that all the metrics provided are hypothetical and are intended solely to illustrate the concept.)

• In the current Booster implementation, there is a maximum APY (let's consider that the $EGLD Booster APY is 6%) that users can achieve by staking 10% of the value of their collateral in $HTM. Staking additional $HTM beyond this does not increase returns, and the rewards from users who do not reach the optimal boost level within the booster are recycled.

• In the new implementation, we have opted for a dual-batch mechanism. The first batch is implemented to guarantee a threshold, maintaining the same rules as the old implementation. For instance, if users stake 5% of the value of their collateral in $HTM, they could achieve an optimal APY of 2%.

The remaining rewards will be distributed in a second batch with no cap, allowing users to potentially generate a higher APY than the 6% achievable in the previous implementation. This model allows them to earn rewards from users who didn't fully boost their position or to out-earn other users by staking more $HTM.

To put it simply, the first batch ensures that a threshold ratio of $HTM staked to collateral is met and maintained in the protocol. The second batch is where the majority of the rewards will be distributed and where strong competition will take place.

Hatom has invented the concept of the Booster, setting itself apart from other liquidity protocols by placing the $HTM token at the heart of its ecosystem, thereby creating an entire financial economy around it. It's crucial for us to refine this model and iterate on it to maximize its impact while ensuring the best possible user experience.

Hatom has already distributed millions of dollars in incentives, demonstrating the effectiveness of this model in attracting liquidity and sustaining a healthy ecosystem. As we move toward a sustainable state of incentivization, it is essential to ensure that the final implementation of the Booster is robust before integrating the governance module and allowing token holders to manage its parameters.

The process and user interface will be very intuitive and easy to use. Users will have access to a gauge that allows them to estimate the APY they can achieve by staking more $HTM tokens, simply by adjusting it.

Hatom USD (USH)

From the start, we recognized the liquidity issue with stablecoins in the #MultiversX ecosystem. With under $30 million in stable liquidity, the growth of DeFi products is restricted. The ecosystem needs a native stablecoin that not only offers a hedge against volatility but also provides a straightforward way for users to earn passive yield.

The low stable liquidity primarily affected the Hatom Lending Protocol, where high demand and positive market sentiment led users to leverage their positions for long strategies on chosen assets. Consequently, the utilization rates of both $USDC and $USDT exceeded optimal levels despite the constant increase in their respective TVL, driving interest rates to mid to high double digits during certain periods.

Let’s discuss the innovative design and progress on $USH:

Facilitators

Different from $USDC and $USDT that must be brought into the ecosystem through the bridge, $USH will be minted natively through multiple methods, also called facilitators. These facilitators will ensure that users are able to access $USH in a simple and efficient manner.

At launch, $USH will have two facilitators available:

  1. Lending Protocol

Users will be able to mint $USH directly within the Hatom Lending Protocol, an experience similar to taking loans. However, it’s important to note that 'minting' $USH is different from 'borrowing' it. As a result, the rates for minting $USH through the Lending Protocol are fixed and not influenced by utilization rates, unlike when borrowing assets like $USDC or $USDT.

These rates vary based on the discount factor of the collateral used; more liquid and stable assets yield better rates than less liquid ones. Note that $USH cannot be minted through the Lending Protocol using $EGLD or $sEGLD; instead, these assets must be used via a separate facilitator, known as Isolated Pools.

  1. Isolated Pools

The Isolated Pools represent a crucial component of the USH Ecosystem, offering significant revenue potential through its innovative mechanism. Users can deposit $EGLD or $sEGLD to mint $USH under specific conditions:

Minting USH with EGLD:

Users can deposit $EGLD at a 0% Supply APY to mint USH with no minting fees. The deposited $EGLD is staked in Liquid Staking to obtain $sEGLD, which is then deposited in the Lending Protocol to earn a base supply APY.

Minting USH with sEGLD:

Similarly, users can deposit $sEGLD into the Isolated Pools to mint $USH without a minting fee. When using $sEGLD, the users’ exposure shifts entirely to EGLD, as all rewards from sEGLD are retained by the protocol to boost the Staking Module yield.

The Isolated Pools provide a key advantage by allowing users to mint USH with no fee while maintaining exposure to potential price increases in EGLD. This setup enables users to leverage the stability of USH without the concern of interest rates that could lead to position liquidation.

Moreover, this module is poised to become the top revenue generator within the protocol. Assets deposited in the Isolated Pools generate income through Liquid Staking and the Lending Protocol. In the future, we can explore the possibility of using a portion for Leverage Liquid Staking strategies when conditions are favorable, further optimizing the returns.

USH Staking Module

Establishing robust facilitators to enable the safe and reliable minting of USH was crucial; however, we also recognize that building a powerful stablecoin requires strong utility and significant benefits.

While users will benefit from fixed or even zero minting fees, along with numerous integrations within the #MultiversX ecosystem, our goal is to ensure a robust mechanism for users to generate high yields on their stablecoins.

Through the Staking Module, users can deposit $USH or USH LP tokens, such as USH/USDC, USH/USDT, USH/EGLD, and USH/HTM, to generate yield on their positions. We have designed the source of this yield to be as organic as possible, using the revenue generated by all the USH facilitators.

Consider this example based only on the revenue from the Isolated Pools:

Suppose $100M worth of EGLD and sEGLD are deposited in the Isolated Pools. Since it's an over-collateralized minting, let's assume $50M worth of USH will be minted to maintain a safe health factor. This collateral is minting at 0% interest and will generate a 7% APY through Liquid Staking and the Lending Protocol, equivalent to about $7 million annually or ~$580,000 monthly in rewards for USH stakers.

Since the protocol earns rewards on $100 million but distributes them to just $50 million worth of USH, the APY for USH stakers effectively doubles, reaching 14%. With $EGLD's inherent volatility, any price increase in $EGLD further boosts the APY, motivating additional USH buying/minting and thus increasing liquidity for USH.

To integrate HTM within the USH ecosystem effectively, we are excited to announce that all rewards in the Staking Module will be distributed in HTM tokens. The revenue generated from users minting USH through the Lending Protocol and Isolated Pools will be used to purchase HTM tokens from the open market and distribute them to stakers.

USH will be the highest revenue-generating product on the #MultiversX Blockchain, with all that income redirected to the HTM token.

This strategy will create millions of dollars in additional buying pressure on HTM, significantly boosting demand for the token without direct community involvement. The buyouts will happen on a daily basis and will constitute the largest buyback module of an ESDT to date.

Please note that a portion of the rewards generated by the USH facilitators will be allocated to incentivize the Lending Protocol Markets, alongside other sources of revenue. This ensures that the protocol is driven by its utility and remains fully sustainable. This approach is designed to eliminate our reliance on the treasury for offering protocol incentives, promoting a more self-sustaining ecosystem.

Booster V2 x USH Staking Module

We went a step further in developing a strong utility for $HTM in the USH Staking Module; given the real success that Booster V1 had at launch, we have decided to offer a similar implementation for users in the USH Staking Module.

We are pleased to announce that Booster V2 will now play a significant role not only in the Lending Protocol but also in the USH Staking Module.

Here are a few of the benefits of the Booster V2 in the USH Staking Module:

• Yield Optimization: Earn rewards for your USH LP & farm tokens in addition to the USH Staking Module yields.

• Booster V2 Implementation: Users can access a base APY when staking USH in the Booster, with additional rewards earned when staking HTM tokens. Staking caps will be removed, allowing users to stake any amount they choose, with yields increasing proportionally to the amount of HTM staked.

This implementation allows users to boost the APY on their USH-staked positions within the USH Staking Module by allocating a specific amount of HTM to the Booster Module, mirroring the design of the HTM Booster in the Lending Protocol.

Peg Mechanisms

The peg mechanism is the most important feature of a stablecoin, therefore we spent countless hours researching and adjusting our mechanisms:

Soft Peg Mechanism:

In the Lending Protocol, USH will consistently be valued at $1, regardless of its market price elsewhere. For instance, if USH is trading at $0.99 on a decentralized exchange like ash_swap, users can purchase USH at this lower rate and use it to repay loans valued at $1 within the protocol, thereby profiting from the difference.

Hard Peg Mechanism:

Through the Hard Peg Mechanism, if USH trades at a certain percentage below $1, Redemption Mode is activated. In this mode, anyone can seize users' collateral up to a specified "Borrow Limit Used" for the account. The process starts with the least solvent accounts and continues to the most solvent until the peg is restored. Unlike liquidation, redemption does not incur any penalty for users.

This update aims to provide an overall view of the entire design without overwhelming you with technical jargon. More detailed definitions and explanations of the concepts will be available in our updated documentation on USH.

Development Status

We are pleased to announce that the peer code review of all USH modules has now been completed, and both the audits and front-end integration will commence this week. We recognize the importance of these next steps and acknowledge the complexities and potential challenges they may entail. Moving forward, our focus will be on ensuring that the audits are conducted to the highest standards of accuracy and security.

USH is a complex protocol that aims to once again elevate the status quo of DeFi within the #MultiversX ecosystem by solving real problems and enhancing user experience like never before. As we make progress on both the front-end integration and audits, we will be able to estimate an exact release date. However, as specified in Protocol Update #7, we are still targeting a launch timeframe of late Q2 to early Q3.

Go-To-Market Strategy

First, it's important to emphasize that Booster V2 and USH will be released simultaneously. We are developing a robust Go-To-Market Strategy for the launch of USH, focusing on the design's impact on the HTM token. Initially, a Private Mainnet for USH will be launched, operating exclusively with our network of partners and co-led with the MultiversX Foundation.

This Private Mainnet will operate for one month, using EGLD and sEGLD deposited by partners to generate our initial revenue. This revenue will be accumulated and used to buy back HTM tokens from the open market and distribute them as rewards. We anticipate a TVL in the seven-figure range during this phase, generating over $1.5 million in rewards for the first distribution.

At the moment we announce the public launch of USH, all rewards generated in the first month will be immediately used to buy back HTM tokens and transferred to the USH Staking Module to kickstart the protocol and to establish the bootstrapping APY for staked USH.

This strategy will create significant buying pressure on HTM, positively impacting the token’s market value. We are mindful of potential slippage impacts and will limit this aggressive buyback strategy to bootstrapping.

Right after the launch, these continuous buyouts will occur on a daily basis, creating sustainable growth for HTM.

Regarding the USH Airdrop, all participants will receive their allocations shortly after USH is publicly launched on the Mainnet and stabilized. Until then, users maintaining a 200% Booster Percentage in the HTM Booster during the daily random snapshot will share the daily allocation based on their liquidity weight.

Accumulator

The Accumulator was initially designed to allow users to claim rewards in either USDC or HTM, offering a 5% bonus for choosing HTM. However, with the new change of distributing rewards exclusively in HTM, the Accumulator will serve a better purpose.

As an alternative, we are exploring an "Affiliate Program." This initiative will enable users to introduce others to the Hatom Ecosystem and earn a percentage of the rewards their referrals generate.

For instance, if someone refers users who earn a total of $100,000 a month in rewards, the referrer would be entitled to claim $5,000 without affecting the earnings of the referred users.

While this is still in the brainstorming phase, we believe this could attract many new users to the ecosystem. We will provide more details about its implementation in future updates.

Soul

As we near the launch of 0xSoulProtocol, we're excited to provide a brief update. Future updates will be shared via Soul’s official channels.

The development of the 0xSoulProtocol has been a year-long journey marked by intense effort across all fronts, culminating in significant progress. We're thrilled to announce the official release of the website and documentation on Friday, May 24th. Concurrently, we will launch Soul’s official communication channels to foster direct engagement with the community.

This milestone signifies the genesis of the 0xSoulProtocol. We're eager to demonstrate its potential to become a leading DeFi project, thanks to its innovative design and business model.

Soul will serve as key infrastructure for all lending protocols, aiming to create a more cohesive and synergistic lending environment, unifying billions in liquidity across the entire space.

The feedback from our network of partners has been overwhelmingly positive, underscoring the protocol's potential and the quality of our work. We're optimistic about a successful journey as we continue development and move toward future stages in the protocol's lifespan.

We're excited for the months ahead, poised for growth given the rapid pace of our progress. We will continue to push for innovation, ready to transform the entire ecosystem. Your support is invaluable, and we want to thank you for being a pivotal part of this journey!

Source: Twitter @HatomProtocol
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2024.05.15 15:01 ibid-11962 More Murtagh Questions [Post Murtagh Christopher Paolini Q&A Wrap Up #5]

As discussed in the first post, this is my ongoing compilation of the remaining questions Christopher has answered online between August 1st 2023 and April 30th 2024 which I've not already covered in other compilations.
As always, questions are sorted by topic, and each Q&A is annotated with a bracketed source number. Links to every source used and to the other parts of this compilation will be provided in a comment below.
The previous post focused on the essence of the Murtagh book and character. This installment will cover additional Murtagh-related questions, such as about specific elements of the writing process. The next post will cover the writing and publication of Eragon.

Further Details about Writing Murtagh

Creating the Maps
For Murtagh I did all the maps after writing the book, but that's because I already knew all the locations and was familiar with them from writing the series. So I didn't need to do the maps before writing the book. [12]
What is your system for drawing maps? I usually start by thinking of what I want a location to look like. And that has nothing to do with a map. That's usually just thinking about how it will serve the story. And then the map will be based off of that. The biggest decision is usually what the style of the map should be, whether I want to do like a top-down city map for a place, or if I want it to be a more of a realistic image. So more of, let's say, a landscape painting, one could say, or if I want to do something that's more allegorical and evocative or symbolic, which there's actually one of those in Murtagh that really isn't a map, but it's a symbolic map, let's put it that way. And all of that is governed by what is the effect I hope to achieve with the reader. Because if it doesn't achieve the effect I want, then what's the point of doing it. I do try to avoid maps where I have to draw every single building if it's a city map because that's just annoying. I'd rather draw mountains than cities. [12]
I love the sort of top-down look, which is why I drew the the original map for Eragon in this style. [12]
Maps are an awesome thing, and they add so much to a world. And that's why I love drawing them, and I love finding them in books I'm reading. And it's also why I make such an effort to draw and paint maps for my own books. [12]
Favorite Parts
What kind of scenes do you enjoy writing most? I really empathize with the characters, so I find it difficult to write scenes where they experience difficulties. I like to write scenes where people wonder about the world, or where the story reaches a climax. With Murtagh, for example, this is the confrontation at the end of the book. Or the fight with the big fish, Muckmaw. There are also quiet moments that I enjoy writing. Again in Murtagh, when Silna – the werecat child – kisses Murtagh's head, that was a very special moment. I like to write things that have meaning and that requires context, so you have to build up to moments that are meaningful, both for myself as a writer and for the reader. [23]
Do you have a favorite moment in the book between Thorn and Murtagh? I have a couple of them. There's a moment after the encounter with Muckmaw when they exchange true names that I quite liked. The end of the Gil'ead sequence. Thorn has an appearance at the end of that sequence, which was rather dramatic. And then right near the end of the book, Thorn gets a crowning moment of awesome, one might say, to use internet speak. But Thorn really, he comes through in a pinch, and I just loved writing that. [32]
What was your favorite scene or moment that you wrote for Murtagh? I'd say the last chapter, and I'm not gonna say why, but I think it's obvious. There's a scene with a creature named Muckmaw, which I quite enjoy. Not just the confrontation with Muckmaw, the aftermath in the water. I was reading Blood Meridian at the time, and I think that influenced my descriptions. And there is a point in the story where something is renamed. And that was a very meaningful scene for me. Also, there's a werecat in the book and I love werecats. They're so much fun to write. [34]
What is your favorite line you've written? The first line I wrote for Murtagh before I had anything really for the book, I thought it was going to be the first line of the book and it ended up being partway through the first chapter, and it was "A man with a dragon is never truly alone." Which since he's an outcast the whole theme of being alone or not alone is kind of relevant. [33]
My favorite good/bad line from Murtagh is: “The water was like liquid ice.”.. . . Yeah, yeah. I know. But you understand what I meant! And that’s the point of writing. Ahahaha!* I didn't notice! just imagined really cold water Can’t tell you how many times I stepped into the Yellowstone River and thought: “This feels like ice! But liquid.” [T]
Providing Context
In the acknowledgments section you said you owe your agent some sushi? Yes! I bet him a sushi dinner, an expensive new York sushi dinner, that I could keep Murtagh under the length of Eragon. And I got close. The first draft was one hundred and sixty eight thousand words long. Eragon is one hundred and fifty six thousand words long. And I figured well I usually drop about ten percent of length in editing, so I thought I'd do that. The problem is I hate over explaining things. I know that sounds incredibly hypocritical based off what I've actually written, but because of my experiences of over explaining things, I've really tried to not do that as much, and so I wrote the book assuming that someone had read the Inheritance Cycle and remembered it. So I didn't explain what a lot of things were because I assumed the reader knew. And my editor came back and said "Christopher, I know what you're doing, but you can't do that. Because someone might pick this up without having read the Inheritance Cycle. And even if someone read the Inheritance Cycle, it's been twelve years. So provide a little context." Well, that ended up being thirty-three thousand words, give or take. So now we're at one hundred and ninety eight thousand words, so I owe my agent a sushi dinner. [17]
It's always interesting to me to see how people do their first chapters in a series. Because I always feel like chapter one is like "previously on..." It's funny. I wrote my latest book with basically no callbacks or explanations of established information. After four books and a million published words, you kind of think people have it under their belt. And my editor came back and she was like, "It's been eleven years since the last book, even if people are fans of the series, you got to give them a little more." So usually when I write a first draft, it drops by about 10% in editing. And with that book, it went up by 33,000 words, which all of it was basically context, which was interesting. So that was a first for me. I'm a kitchen sink author, so I throw everything in and then I usually cut back during editing. [33]
I would love to write books that are more around the length of 100,000 to 150,000 words. Like that's a good, solid length. That's where I was shooting for with Murtagh, but for some reason my editor kept asking me to add more and more stuff so we ended up close to 200,000 words. [1]
Final word count of Murtagh is 198,983 words. So my editor had me ADD about 34,000 words to the book over the course of editing/revising. Ha! That's a first. [T]
Gil'ead Sequence
Interesting choice to break it up into the sections of each city. Just the section in Gil'ead is basically a novel on its own. There's a full arc in Gil'ead that would be a normal size novel for any other writer. I nearly split it into two volumes, actually, there. But my editor said, "no, don't do that". The funny thing about Gil'ead is that actually was not in my original outline. The whole sequence. And the reason is that, for me, I was envisioning a much shorter book. And the whole thing was going to be them going to the village and dealing with Bachel. So let's get to the village as quickly as possible. So we'll just have a chapter or two at the beginning of getting the information. Well, storytelling 101, you can't make it easy for the character. So having Murtagh just be able to go get that information somewhere, find it out, just felt too easy. Also, I kind of locked myself into a little path because the first chunk of the book is reworking the short story from The Fork, the Witch, and the Worm. And at the end of that, Murtagh does not have the information he needs. So he can't get it from the people he interacts with in that chapter, which if I were writing Murtagh as a complete standalone, I could have considered that. So then I thought, "well, he'll go to Gil'ead and we'll have a really quick thing there. And he'll get his information." I started writing it the way I originally envisioned. But again it was too easy. So it was like, "OK. There needs to be a challenge here. What else is going on? How does it tie into my larger world and story?" And it does. There's some unresolved storylines there, but it does tie into the larger stuff I'm going to later. And then it was half the book. Seriously. At the end of the following chapter, right after Gil'ead, is almost perfectly 50% through the book. I'm sure everyone's heard of the three act play, but there's a competing theory of storytelling, which I'm actually very fond of, which is the five act play. So you have two acts at the beginning, two acts at the end, and then your middle act, and then you have an act in the middle. And in that middle act, you have a tipping point where your character sort of sees what they need, or sees what they can become. They ultimately see their own solution to their problems, but then the rest of the back half of the story is them grappling with that solution, coming to terms with it. And that actually worked, it was not intentional, but it worked out perfectly with the structure of this book. The structure of this book is also directly inspired by some of the structuring that I did in my sci-fi novels and I carried some of it back into Alagaësia. [11]
In regard of Murtagh or any other part of your work, what's the most intense moment for you during the creative process when you are in the midst of writing a novel? A lot of it is intense. I'm gonna divide it into two sections. The creative process itself, in the sense that where I'm creating the story and the characters and the world. In this case, of course, the world was pretty much in place, but in the outlining phase, I should say, that's a lot of fun. There's some pressure in the sense that I know if I don't get it right in that stage, that no matter how well I write the book, it won't hang together particularly well for the reader. So there's strain in that sense that I really want to get it right. But I wouldn't say there's any real pressure, because there's no deadlines at that point. I'm not actually writing the book. During the writing itself, there's definitely strain and intensity in wanting to get it right and do a good job of writing each individual scene and chapter and storyline. And sometimes that can get difficult, especially if I feel like I'm not really getting where I need to get in terms of the effect on the reader. I had that in a couple places in the first draft with Murtagh. One was with the character Bachel herself, who was quite different in the first draft. And then another one actually was the whole Gil'ead sequence, where my original idea for that sequence is actually what happens now in terms of the werecat kittens and all of that. And then I second guessed myself and thought, "well, maybe that's a little cheesy. Maybe I won't have a ticking clock element to that sequence. So I'm just gonna not have that, but he'll still have these various adventures in order to earn this information from the werecat Carabel." And the problem is it removed any sense of tension from that sequence. So I ended up having to rework a lot of the Gil'ead sequence to reintroduce that element, bring in the tension and make it all work. But both of those things happened in the second chunk, which I was gonna say is revision. And revision and editing tends to be the most intense part of the process, because at that point we're usually under deadline. We've committed to a release date and things are happening on the business side of things, that are sort of like unstoppable forces. The ticking clock in the real world. And that tends to be the most intense part because it's not that I can't do the work, I always can and I always am able to get where I wanna go. I'm not stressed about that, it's just instead of having two months to do something, now you got to do it in two weeks, and oh hey, you got a new baby you got to take care of at the same time. And that's what makes it really intense. [19]
One of the things that I loved about the very first half of this novel is that it is a quintessential RPG action adventure. Because poor Murtagh gets pushed and pulled willingly and unwillingly in the strangest directions. Yeah, he's on the series of fetch quests. It's funny. I've had a bunch of people react differently to that. I've seen people who kind of hate it and really love it, and a lot of people who say, "Well, Christopher's just writing out his D&D session". I literally have never played D&D except for my recent trip down to the Authors in the Dungeon down in Utah. So I don't play D&D. I have no one here to play it with. The only RPGs I've ever played are Skyrim and the Mass Effect series. My logic with that sequence was there was a whole lot we needed to see about Murtagh's back history without rehashing the Inheritance Cycle, without actually going back and rewriting scenes from his point of view. And just doing it all in flashbacks and dreams gets a bit tedious. On top of that, originally that sequence wasn't in the book I was going to write. I was going to start with essentially the opening. And then we were going to go to Nal Gorgoth fairly quickly in the book. But it just made it too easy. No one's going to give them the information for free. There's always a price attached to information. There had to be difficulty in getting it. And then once I was digging into that, I was like, okay, how can I use this to show some aspects of Murtagh's character, and then how will that then get reflected in the second half of the book? And how will that let me inform what happens in the second half of the book? And I really enjoyed that stuff. Muckmaw was a particular favorite of mine. [32]
Thorn
One of the things that we get a lot of in this book that was really wonderful after reading Inheritance, was Thorn's-- we don't really get his POV, but we get some POV through Murtagh of him. I think he only has one line in the entire Inheritance Cycle. In the last book. And we get a lot of him here. And we get a very different Rider-Dragon relationship between him and Murtagh versus Saphira and Eragon. What was the process of crafting that relationship to be similar in its like magical quality, but also different in the fact that they had a very trying kind of hatching? Well that was the key right there. I wanted it to feel different while still maintaining the sense that they'll back each other up no matter what, which they have in the past. That's an important part of that. But Murtagh is kind of a difficult personality himself. Thorn, as we see in the book, of course, had a very, very difficult upbringing under Galbatorix and then later on. And that leaves scars. That leaves marks. So trying to find a way to reflect that in the relationship without having them also just be at each other's throats, because they're not. They are being supportive. But at the same time, it's perhaps an overused word these days, but they have trauma that they are having to battle. [11]
One of my favorite things is the relationship between Murtagh and Thorn--they’re such a lonely duo, but it allows the book to kind of delve into that dragon/rider bond in a new way. What sets their relationship apart do you think? Murtagh and Thorn were joined under the most difficult of circumstances, and that shapes their interactions in a thousand different ways. Their relationship is more, ah, thorny than Eragon and Saphira’s, but they also still love each other and would lay down their lives for one another, should the occasion demand it. I found their interactions really interesting to write. Also, it felt important that I didn’t directly replicate Eragon and Saphira’s relationship. Murtagh and Thorn are very different beings, and readers should see that. [15]
What is the relationship between Murtagh and his dragon Thorn? Thorn's egg hatched when they were imprisoned by King Galbatorix. The two friends have been tortured and manipulated. They retain many traumas. They care deeply for each other and are closely bonded. But their relationship is more difficult than that of Eragon and his dragon Saphira. [4]
Claustrophobia
I definitely got choked up with just Thorn and his claustrophobia and how it was written, how it was handled, everything surrounding it. Out of pure curiosity, do you or do someone you know have that kind of claustrophobia that you were able to speak to about? No. A large part of the act of writing is the act of imagination, just like with acting. But even though there's no one in my life who suffers from that, when I'm writing Thorn or anyone who might feel that, I do my best to feel what they're feeling, which is why when writing scenes or a large chunk of a book where perhaps things are difficult for the characters, I have a bad time. Yeah, I hope you take breaks. Yeah, that's where it's good to go play with the kids and take a load off one's mind. But some of the battle scenes in Inheritance really got to me at times, because I'm thinking actually especially in Inheritance, but also in Brisingr, there were some large set pieces, battles. And it just takes a couple of weeks to write sometimes. And that's a long time to have your head in blood and guts. [11]
Bachel
You write so many diverse women in your books that we really enjoy. Between Arya, Angela, Nasuada, Queen Islanzadi, you write fantasy with women in positions of power, with agency and with action. And then we get to this book and we meet this villain, Bachel, and she's basically like, "what if Angela was evil?" I hadn't thought of it that way. I was reading the book. I was like, "Did Christopher Paolini and his sister have a fight? What changed in that relationship?" Because she's awful. So I've watched a lot of movies in my life, and a lot of old movies too. I was thinking of some of the classic actresses from the Golden Age of Hollywood who would come on the screen with a very imperious feel, like Sunset Boulevard or All About Eve or some of those films. And Bachel is sort of in that category of presence. And I think it's exactly what was needed to put Murtagh off balance. I was also thinking of Kai Winn from Deep Space Nine. I've always said that Kai Winn and from Harry Potter the headmistress Umbridge, and Hyacinth Bouquet from the British show Keeping Up Appearances. The three of them in a room together will be like a nuclear explosion. When you were approaching bringing this book from the short story about The Fork into a full novel, at what point did you create this character and where did she come from? I had a general idea before writing Murtagh, of course. I did a lot of plotting and preparatory work, but you never know how a character is going to come across until you write the first draft. And in the first draft, Bachel was not as successful as she is now, I think. I was writing the first draft quickly, and I was thinking of the stories a little bit more of like a Edgar Rice Burroughs style adventures. You go off into the jungle, and you find a hidden temple and lost civilization sort of thing. And as a result, in the first draft, Bachel was much more vampy. I really went hard on that angle. And then looking back over, it's like it didn't work. And it was so cliche and obvious. It was like, yeah, I needed to find another approach. So I kept reworking Bachel with each cycle of revision and it was getting better. The character was getting better and better, but I wasn't fully committing to the change. And it was right at the end of revisions. I mean, we were down to the wire and my editor said, we're still not quite there. And even though I hated to have to have any more work at that point, I knew she was right. So I went in. We're talking with a week to spare before we went to the printers. And I rewrote the first four chapters or so when he gets to the village. I rewrote pretty much every line of dialogue of hers and every description of her to bring it to where we are. And then I was like, "OK, now it works", and my editor agreed. She is terrifying and one of those characters that's not mustache twirly evil, but has so much evil within her. She thinks she can do no wrong, that she is always doing the right thing and that she knows what's best for all the people around her. And as a result is capable of anything. So all of which is to answer your question, her character was an iterative process to get where she needed to go. [11]
I try to imagine what it is to create characters and if some of them have the purpose to be a particular message or stand as a parable for a message or an idea and if yes, what does Bachel mean to you in a deeper way? I think the Bachel to me represents unquestioning belief and also the tyranny of unchecked power and control over people's lives. I think what differentiates Bachel from a real world cult leader, for example, and this actually kind of made it interesting to me, is that the Dreamers and Bachel are rational in the sense that they are believing in something that actually exists. The power that they are in awe of and that they are afraid of and that they worship actually exists. And the same is true of the priests of Helgrind. So in a sense they are not irrational to have that reaction. You might argue it's the wrong reaction. I would argue that they're overdoing it and the reaction is wrong and perhaps even evil, but they have more reason for their belief than a lot of people sometimes do because they have physical evidence on an ongoing basis of their object of worship. But again, Bachel would to me represent unchecked fanatical belief as well as personal exploitation of one's power over others. [19]
The cult experience in the pages of Murtagh eerily echoed in some ways certain experiences I've had with religion. Could you talk about where that part of your writing came from or how you went about writing it? I understand why that comment's anonymous, and I'm going to kind of adhere to that philosophy of anonymity here. Without going into details, I've had some family members who were in a cult at one point. And that occasioned quite a bit of discussion in my life growing up. Although the cult might seem, and probably is, completely over the top and cartoony in some ways, you would be astounded by how much of that was essentially true to life. Let's put it this way, playing Far Cry 5, if anyone's familiar with that, was a distinctly uncomfortable experience for me. So I did whatever I do when I encounter something uncomfortable. I played the game like four times in a row. [34]
No matter how outlandish a belief seems, it can be completely realistic in your world. Especially if you have people committed to it. I've had family members who've been in a cult at one point. That was interesting. So I've had firsthand experience seeing a lot of this stuff in person, and I used some of that in my latest book. [25]
How come Bachel is pronounced like that when it’s only one little line away from Rachel? The English language hurts my head. Because it’s not from English, and I wanted it to sound different from every other name in the series. [T]
Puce
In Murtagh I have a dragon who's not supposed to be a very nice dragon. I gave him the worst color I could. I have a puce dragon. And mind you, I don't necessarily mind the color itself. It's just for those who don't know, the original definition of the word puce is the color of dried flea blood. So it's a puce dragon. [33]
Traumatic Sequences
What was it like cranking up the anxieties of it, the horrors of it? It feels more mature this time around. Well, good. Murtagh is a more mature character, and he's always had a harder road to walk than Eragon. So, going easy on him was never an option, but it was hard to write. It's hard to put my mind in difficult situations for days on end, weeks on end, months on end when writing and editing. It takes a toll on you emotionally. At least, that's my experience because I empathize with the characters and the world. But at the same time, it's so interesting dramatically that I can't avoid it. Actually [the reason] why I wrote the book was that last chunk of the book. That's what everything leading up to was building and hopefully supporting so that when that hits, you're there going, “Oh my god.” [6]
There is a extended period of this book uh that is very traumatic. That is the darkest I think the series ever gets. Where did you find the line? Were there any drafts where you felt like you went too far with that section or where you had to pull it back? Yes. Not a huge amount though. First of all, I throw everything in in my first drafts, kitchen sink, because you can always dial it back, whatever it is. Even if it's a funny scene, it's like I push it as far as I can and then see how it hits the audience. So in the sequence you're talking about, there was one thing in particular I did that I actually don't want to talk about, that I cut out during editing at my editor's very wise advice, and I'm really glad I did. But that was a thing. Because I was like how far can I take this, and that was too far. [11]
Hopefully this is not scaring anyone off from reading Murtagh. No, it's fantastic. And I think just because it is darker doesn't mean it's bad. I think that it's honestly a perfect natural progression from the Inheritance Cycle to this character. I think it's what the character needed. I also don't think it's depressing, ultimately. [11]
Tell me a little about how you see Murtagh’s journey in this book. He’s certainly on a much darker road than his half-brother, how was it getting to write a story that has more mature themes? I found it enormously rewarding to write about a character who is both more mature and more complicated than Eragon was for the majority of the Cycle. Especially now that I’m older myself. Dramatically, Murtagh (and Thorn!) presented all sorts of interesting opportunities, and I did my best to take advantage of them in this book. Also, since a lot of my readers have grown up with the series, even as I did, I wanted to give them a book that would satisfy them as much as it will also hopefully satisfy younger readers. [15]
As a fifteen-year-old boy I would never have been able to imagine such a flawed character as a central figure, but I now view life very differently. And you notice that my readers who have grown along with me also see these extra shades of gray. [18]
Murtagh is indeed a more mature book than Eragon. Did you write it that way on purpose? Yes, Murtagh is an older character in the story than he or Eragon were in the first books. He is also a complicated person. And my readers have grown up with me in the meantime. So I felt it was important to write a book where my oldest readers would see my progression as writing, and read about characters they could once again identify with. At the same time, new readers should not be forgotten. That's why I wrote Murtagh in such a way that you can also read it without knowing the previous four books. I wanted to write a book that revolved around the difficult history of Murtagh and Thorn, but was still a fun adventure to read. [23]
If you love this fandom, why are you making us suffer so much with this book? I mean the ending redeems you a little bit but oh my god. I'm sure it's been an emotional rollercoaster for you too. There are parts of the story that are definitely very difficult for Murtagh and Thorn and part of that may be my own predilection for writing that sort of stuff but mostly it was that Murtagh has done some very unpleasant things in the Inheritance Cycle, especially to Nasuada. And he needed to come to terms with that, he needed to grapple that, he needed to face it. And there was no easy path forward for him. If I had done easy on Murtagh I feel like readers would have decided that I was cheating, going easy, and that Murtagh didn't actually have to face the consequences of his actions. Even if he wasn't a hundred per cent responsible for them at the time. I can assure you that, and I'll say this to other fans as well, after this story Murtagh is going to have an easier time of it. This book resolves his personal journey and Thorn's on a really fundamental level, and so life's going to be a little bit easier for Murtagh moving forward. [17]
Uvek
So going to Uvek, you've introduced another Urgal. I think that for a lot of readers, the twist on the Urgals in Eldest. They are not just beastial orcs or Uruk-hai or whatever other franchise does with them, Trollocs for Wheel of Time. They are this sentient race that wants to join the fight on the side of good. I think that that shook me when I first read it. How was it bringing another lead character really from that race into the book? And one of the things I really loved about the book is the scene where they're flying to the village, and they see the village of Urgals. And they're just playing with bows. They're just having a normal day. And he has this moment internally where he's like, "oh, maybe I need to be more inquisitive?" Uvek is one of my favorite characters from the book. I like the Urgal culture. I find it interesting. I wouldn't want to live next to an Urgal village, necessarily, especially since I have kids. But dramatically, creatively, they're really interesting to write about. And trying to balance them in the sense that they're a warrior culture like, we could say, the Klingons. But the Klingons take it to such a degree that realistically, you start asking the question of, how have they survived? How do they build a space-frame civilization when it seems like they tear each other apart super quickly? So with the Urgals, I wanted to show more. And in fact, in The Fork of the Witch and the Worm, the largest of the stories in that is The Worm, which is an Urgal story. And since I was looking at ways of exploring the idea of Murtagh and Thorn's relationship with society, being an outcast, all of that. The Urgals are outcasts in the land also. The other races aren't particularly fond of them. That was a nice connection to bring in and reflect off of Murtagh, so to speak. [11]
Typos
I just got off a very fresh reread of Murtagh. I just sent in typo corrections and a couple little tweaks here and there for the reprints. [32]
You mention in Murtagh that Murtagh's Gedwëy ignasia is on his right hand, but I think the community assumed it was on his left from Eldest. We're we all wrong or is that a continuity error I found? Typo. Getting fixed in reprints. [T]
Divers
I've seen a couple of questions about this, so -- for the record, "divers" is not a typo of "diverse". (Probably got too clever for my own good, but there you go.) Archaic language in fantasy books?!?! Say it ain't so! The language is half the fun. :D [T]
Not a typo. :D Archaic word. [T]
If this hypothetical typo is “divers” … that’s actually the correct word and not a typo. If it’s something else, just send a pic and we’ll get it fixed in reprints. [T]
CHRIS WHAT IS THIS? An excellent and archaic word. [T]
*sigh* . . . “divers” is a real word. Not a typo (and it doesn’t mean those who dive in the water) [T]
I mean, "divers" isn't a typo, so . . . That said, if you do find typos in Murtagh, feel free to tweet them at me. We'll get 'em fixed in reprints. Happens with every book. [T]
Heh. Good thing “divers” is actually a word (and it doesn’t mean someone diving into water). [T]
The thing I want to talk to you about today is Twitter drama. You've been getting in tons of fights with readers lately on Twitter. You've been saying some really awful and hateful things to them just because they're pointing out typos in your book. What's the deal with this "divers" typo? Yes, on the first page of Murtagh there's a word "divers", which is an archaic word that means many or a multitude or different things. And too many people think that I'm referring to scuba divers. So it is a fight worth having. You make up fake words all the time. You're a fantasy author. I think the difference here is that you've made up a fake word which also has a real world definition, a person who dives as a sport, and you've put it on the front page of Murtagh without any context clues provided as to how we should interpret this. This is a book that's part of a world that no one has read in more than 10 years. So don't you think that maybe you should apologize to your readers who have waited all this time for a quality product only to be let down by an "archaic" word, aka a typo, on the first page? Absolutely. In fact, I had a conversation with my editor about this before heading out on book tour and we'll be reprinting the books but we're going to translate it all into Pig Latin which should make it more understandable for readers. [31]
Reading Order
I didn't read FWW,should I read it before read Murtagh? I Thought it was a spin-off book. You don't have to read it ... but I would. It acts as a direct lead-in to Murtagh Honestly I'm finding it shocking the number of people who haven't read FWW. There's a solution to that. . . . (Why does that sound mildly threatening?) [T]
Even if you haven't read the other books I think you can certainly enjoy Murtagh as much or even more. [12]
Is Murtagh Book 5 in the story about Eragon/Alagaësia? Yes [R]
Murtagh is a direct inline full-length sequel to the series, even though it has a different main character. [1]
I just finished Fractal Noise last night, and when you mentioned in the afterward about another book for a certain Eragon character, I was hoping it would be him. Yeah, I wanted to mention Murtagh on the "Also By" page in Fractal Noise, but we weren't sure if Murtagh was getting announced before Fractal Noise got released to early readers. [T]
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2024.05.15 15:00 Sir_David_Davidson Show, Don't Tell. The Key to Creating Attraction!

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2024.05.15 15:00 ExcitingTrust888 Are there any games like Fallout Shelter/Elder Scrolls Castles but slightly more robust?

Hello everyone!
I have always liked Fallout Shelter with the way you Build a vault, watch it grow, assign people to work in different workstations, customize them with equipments, upgrade them to make them work more efficiently, make sure to keep your citizen’s happiness in check, and then you get to go out, do missions, and explore the world outside your vault and uncover a story, but it lacks the option to make your vault look nice.
Now comes Elder Scrolls: Castles. It is basically the same game on the surface but now you can decorate your castle to make it look unique from other castles. The downside is that it lost a few things and replaced them with something else. You can’t train your units anymore to make them stronger, you upgrade their gear instead to give them better stats, and they replaced the “exploration” part of the game with an auto-battler minigame which doesn’t even have a real story tied to it.
The fun part though is now you get a ruler that decides on the affairs of the land, with decisions making your subjects happy or disappointed depending on your choice, and it can even lead to assassinations between your subjects or to your ruler. Problem is that this is very repetitive, I’ve only played the game for two weeks and I’ve seen most if not all of the decisions a ruler can make already(I’m level 115, it’s not hard to level up in the game).
Speaking of subjects, they can like/hate one another depending on your choices and just their personal gripes based on their “traits”. And these traits can be good or bad, and no character will be perfect. This is another thing they added that makes the game just slightly more interesting over Fallout Shelter. In Fallout Shelter you can basically turn everyone into a super soldier through training, but here you have to luck it out by breeding to get a character with good and multiple traits, and you can only do it once a day per couple so it does take time.
So if anyone can suggest a game that has these things listed below, or any game that is a “better” Fallout ShelteES: Castles clones, please comment them. And please no tower defense games like Dungeon KeepeClash of Clans, you get the idea.
The game should have most if not all of these:
Some other games that I played and enjoyed with some of the mechanics listed above:
Can’t think of other games but those are the ones that I played at the top of my head. Hope to hear from you guys, thanks!
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2024.05.15 14:59 Ecstatic-Hippo5895 I want to get divorced but I am scared of being shamed

Hello,
I am F 26 married to M 35.
I have been married for ~1.5 years and it is not going well. We were dating for a while before getting married but that was also rocky. Primarily because from the first day of dating he wanted me to commit that I want to marry and I wanted to see how things went (Because I had gone through a bad break up). I was however committed to him but he started seeing other women and even spent a night with one (Found all this because I went to his house and found furniture moved around, it became obvious he had someone over as he lived alone).
In 2022, husband’s mother got diagnosed with cancer and seemed like she did not have much time. Upon diagnosis, he got really serious about his future and I let go of things he had done previously. We were in long distance and he would keep breaking up with me over every fight. He would not speak to me for weeks and then suddenly reach out and start acting normal again. During our break ups in long distance my mind would wander and I would go mad thinking that he is out with other women again. So even I started talking to guys (I don’t know if it makes sense but I didn’t want to be the one who was left again. I wanted to feel that I had some power) It’s okay if it does not make sense, I am flawed and I accept it. However whenever he came back to me, I slipped and started dating him again. I do admit it is my fault that I didn’t tell him about talking to other guys but honestly I thought he was doing the same as before. Also want to admit that pity played a big role in my decisions as he was going through a tough time with his mother’s health. Also want to add that till August 2022 his family did not know he wanted to be with me but my family knew since February. When his mother’s health really started deteriorating, he told her about me.
We had an engagement and he promised to never repeat past mistakes again. We got married the following February (So much drama during the wedding but don’t want to get into it). Don't know about him but I never engaged in any wrong conversations or cheating after our engagement was fixed. I was dedicated to him.
Married life was tough and I had to move in with his family who are very traditional and honestly after marriage I got to know even he is super traditional. Something he essentially hid in his personality when he was with me.
We started having some fights (He threw my stuff out of the wardrobe, snatching my laptop and phone). His mother passed away in April. He was so unstable after it. One day he decided he wanted to go through my phone. He found out that I was talking to other guys before the wedding. He slapped me, he kicked me. And this became a recurring issue. He would lose his mind due to some reason or the other, and take it out on me physically and sometimes even sexually. I endured this for a few months but he didn’t change.
So in September I left his house with just some clothes and went to a relative’s. No one from his family or him reached out to me. My parents wanted me to move back home atleast for a few months. So we went to his house again to pick up the remaining of my stuff and left. His family was not happy about it but I did tell him that if he controlled his anger we could make it work.
But 10 minutes into leaving his house he called me asking where my jewellery. I said I took it and he followed me with his family to my relative’s house to take back the jewellery. It had everything that he and I had received from both sides of the family. They created ruckus and said they want to take back all the jewellery that had come from their family to me. We knew what Sridhan and the laws were, but for my sake, my family gave them the jewellery. They took everything given by his family. They returned whatever was given by my family.
Fast forward we are now trying to work things out 8 months later but it is not.
So now I want to file for divorce. What are my best options moving forward? Can my past be used against me?
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2024.05.15 14:59 InevitableNo5158 Dating and studying - which uni to pick

I'm an internation student considering doing a Masters in Computer science and Engineering. I did by Bachelors in the same from TU Delft so I have been in NL for a while and can speak Dutch at a B1 level. In my 5.5 years in NL I have found no proper success in dating partly due to COVID and also due to my studies which were hard for me. Also because there were not as many prospects for dating girls in a Computer Science Bachelors in TU Delft.
I am wondering if I should now maybe pick a different university like Utrecht for my masters just for the better social/dating scene and because of the lower stress level(I assume).
Would I really be losing out in the long run if I chose Utrecht over TU Delft as a software engineer for studies for this reason and does it make sense to do this for the reasons I have mentioned. Is it much easier to have a better social life/dating life in Utrecht and is the tradeoff in "university prestige" worth it in your opinion for this reason given the social life/ dating is equally important to me.
Is there some other university that would be even better than Utrecht in your opinion?
Cheers!
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2024.05.15 14:57 InevitableNo5158 Dating and studying - which uni to pick

I'm an internation student considering doing a Masters in Computer science and Engineering. I did by Bachelors in the same from TU Delft so I have been in NL for a while and can speak Dutch at a B1 level. In my 5.5 years in NL I have found no proper success in dating partly due to COVID and also due to my studies which were hard for me. Also because there were not as many prospects for dating girls in a Computer Science Bachelors in TU Delft.
I am wondering if I should now maybe pick a different university like Utrecht for my masters just for the better social/dating scene and because of the lower stress level(I assume).
Would I really be losing out in the long run if I chose Utrecht over TU Delft as a software engineer for studies for this reason and does it make sense to do this for the reasons I have mentioned. Is it much easier to have a better social life/dating life in Utrecht and is the tradeoff in "university prestige" worth it in your opinion for this reason given the social life/ dating is equally important to me
Cheers!
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2024.05.15 14:57 InevitableNo5158 Dating and studying - which uni to pick

I'm an internation student considering doing a Masters in Computer science and Engineering. I did by Bachelors in the same from TU Delft so I have been in NL for a while and can speak Dutch at a B1 level. In my 5.5 years in NL I have found no proper success in dating partly due to COVID and also due to my studies which were hard for me. Also because there were not as many prospects for dating girls in a Computer Science Bachelors in TU Delft.
I am wondering if I should now maybe pick a different university like Utrecht for my masters just for the better social/dating scene and because of the lower stress level(I assume).
Would I really be losing out in the long run if I chose Utrecht over TU Delft as a software engineer for studies for this reason and does it make sense to do this for the reasons I have mentioned. Is it much easier to have a better social life/dating life in Utrecht and is the tradeoff in "university prestige" worth it in your opinion for this reason given the social life/ dating is equally important to me
Cheers!
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2024.05.15 14:55 BoatBookingIndia01 The Ultimate Guide to Yacht Parties in Mumbai for Couples

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2024.05.15 14:54 InevitableNo5158 Dating and Studying - which uni to pick

I'm an internation student considering doing a Masters in Computer science and Engineering. I did by Bachelors in the same from TU Delft so I have been in NL for a while and can speak Dutch at a B1 level. In my 5.5 years in NL I have found no proper success in dating partly due to COVID and also due to my studies which were hard for me. Also because there were not as many prospects for dating girls in a Computer Science Bachelors in TU Delft.
I am wondering if I should now maybe pick a different university like Utrecht for my masters just for the better social/dating scene and because of the lower stress level(I assume).
Would I really be losing out in the long run if I chose Utrecht over TU Delft as a software engineer for studies for this reason and does it make sense to do this for the reasons I have mentioned. Is it much easier to have a better social life/dating life in Utrecht and is the tradeoff in "university prestige" worth it in your opinion for this reason given the social life/ dating is equally important to me
Cheers!
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2024.05.15 14:54 Prestigious_Oven_613 I (20f) feel like I’m being two timed by this guy (20m) and I don’t know if I should keep talking to him or not?

I would like to apologize in advance I have autism so my typing pattern may come off as weird and hard to understand so please feel free to ask questions. Me and this guy, who I will call Sam for privacy reasons, went to high school together. We never really talked much in high school but I did have a small crush on him. I would be more considered a loser in hs and Sam was definitely more popular. After hs I left to live with my grandma in a different state and stopped talking to almost everyone from there.
Recently he found my insta, which I have set up in a way as to not be found with a simple search. I thought it was odd because a few days prior I had a dream about him and my friend told me I should dm him. We start to talk and it turns out we have a lot in common and the text start to get flirty.
A few days after we start talking one of his close friends DMs me to apologize for “bullying” me. I would like to note that I didn’t remember who this person was at first and definitely don’t remember being bullied by them. I thought it was weird but just accepted their apology because who not. Me and Sam recently went on a date and it went really well but I couldn’t help but notice that he kept bringing up his friend. Now I may be bad at noticing social cues but, I could tell that ever time he mentioned his name he kinda would stop to see if I would react.
Other than that the date went well and we are still talking and flirting with each other. Now here comes my concern, we have each other on Snapchat and I remember him posting a picture of him and this girl a few months before he dm’d me. He doesn’t have any sisters and was definitely known for sleeping around(which I’m not saying anything because who am I to judge) he always is texting me very sporadically and somehow always is busy at work.
He works for his dad, who owns a construction company. And I’ve been trying to give him the benefit of the doubt, but when ever we are supposed to hang out he always somehow gets called into work and doesn’t tell me he can’t hang out until it way past the time we set up. I would like to note that we like 2 hours away from each other. But any other day he is replying back super early and it’s usually before he goes to work.
Finally I’m supposed to go work at a church camp(no I’m not religious I’m doing it for my mom) and I told him that I would be kinda sad because we wouldn’t be able to talk as much. He then send me “don’t get me wrong I like you too but we are just getting started” which rubbed me the wrong way and I can’t figure out why.
So, am I just over thinking everything or do I have a reason to feel like I’m being 2 timed?
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2024.05.15 14:54 InevitableNo5158 Dating and Studying - which Uni to pick

I'm an internation student considering doing a Masters in Computer science and Engineering. I did by Bachelors in the same from TU Delft so I have been in NL for a while and can speak Dutch at a B1 level. In my 5.5 years in NL I have found no proper success in dating partly due to COVID and also due to my studies which were hard for me. Also because there were not as many prospects for dating girls in a Computer Science Bachelors in TU Delft.
I am wondering if I should now maybe pick a different university like Utrecht for my masters just for the better social/dating scene and because of the lower stress level(I assume).
Would I really be losing out in the long run if I chose Utrecht over TU Delft as a software engineer for studies for this reason and does it make sense to do this for the reasons I have mentioned. Is it much easier to have a better social life/dating life in Utrecht and is the tradeoff in "university prestige" worth it in your opinion for this reason given the social life/ dating is equally important to me
Cheers!
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2024.05.15 14:53 Light_love_joy AITAH for not attending my friend's wedding and ending our friendship?

Background
I [F] had a friend [Lisa] since childhood. We are now 31. Over the past few years, I had been experiencing a severe brain injury, chronic illness, and really unhealthy physical and emotional things from my parents. These things with my parents had happened since I was a child. It started as emotional then turned physical when my health took a turn in the past few years. Things got so bad that I had to move away to focus on my health and to heal - a very hard and scary decision after investing six years into trying to address the unhealthy behaviors with my family and having no income at the time. Things went no contact with my family after this. My parents are friends with Lisa's family because they are in the same circle as a lot of my extended family. Lisa had moved away when most of the unhealthy physical behaviors and illness started to happen in my life, but we kept in touch and had multiple chats about what was going on, including my health conditions and the unhealthy physical behaviours and the no contact situation I was in with my parents.
AITA?
This past year she came home and was getting married. I never received a save the date, but I had her over with her partner and made a beautiful brunch I put a lot of time and effort in to welcoming her home and celebrating her engagement. Her wedding naturally came up and I mentioned that I'm not sure I could attend if my parents will be there (b/c of PTSD from what happened and still trying to heal and the no contact situation). Lisa knew we were not communicating and that things were unhealthy but still invited my parents to her wedding without saying anything to me about it. When I brought up I may not be able to attend with them there, she got super defensive and her response was "Well that's your choice." aka - she didn't want to get involved with it or help me at all.
It ended up putting me in a very difficult position, one I don't feel she was open to talking about. Lisa and I were very close (like sisters) and so I wanted to attend in some way, but had been advised by multiple medical professionals to not go if my parents were there because of the unhealthy physical and emotional things that had happened with them. My counselor said to me why don't you ask if it's possible they don't attend? And so I considered standing up for myself and asking because I usually don't say anything about these kind of situations. Lisa's response was "That's not a fair question. You can come to watch me get ready before the ceremony. But I already sent out save the dates so they are coming." Keep in mind I didn't know save the dates went out because I never received one. She also said at one point "You can't avoid your parents for the rest of your life." and mentioned she wouldn't be having any bridesmaids / a wedding party.
After these responses, I decided to not attend her wedding. I would have been happy to attend in some way or another and make the 3.5 hour commute even with the disabilities I have that would have made it very difficult, but I just felt there was no compassion or sympathy/understanding which was really hard on my heart after I had talked to her so much over the years it all. I also stepped away from our friendship as it didn't feel healthy to me anymore and I could foresee similar situations happening in future. I understand she was in a hard position too, but I feel she could have handled it in a way that supported me as her friend more and in a way that had healthier communication and recognized the difficult place I was in too.
Later she reached out after her wedding to talk but again offered no accountability, no compassion, or sympathy for the situation I was in. I had tried to stay focused on a solution for the both of us and asked "Is it possible they don't come to future events or will they always be at your events? Because I'm not sure I can be there if they are there and I'm not sure how this friendship will work." She stated opinions in response "I would have been able to do that" but "A counselor should never tell you what to do." and "You need to stop avoiding conflict", and other opinions. She also mentioned that my parents offered to not go (which she never mentioned until after her wedding/this point) and told me I should have just waited essentially and that "I was going to ask you to be my maid of honor" which was weird given her initial comment of no wedding party.
Again, I don't feel this was a healthy approach to resolving the conflict. I also later found out she accepted a lot of money from my parents as a wedding gift and had been spending time at their place after I had stepped away from our friendship. I ended up ending the friendship at this point.
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2024.05.15 14:50 Sudden-Catch2526 I 21F am wondering if I should text my 22M bf’s ex about a DM he sent her on IG last summer?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over a year now. We met in October of 2022 and were talking until we made it official in April of 2023. We met at our university in my hometown. Last summer we were LD for 3 months as he went back to his hometown or the summer. We he came back to campus in august of 2023 for the fall semester one day I was using his phone and I saw a message he sent to a girl from his HS. I know who this girl is because when we first started dating we had the ex conversation and he told me that he’s never had a real gf before (I’m his first gf) but that he was friends with a girl in HS (we’ll call her Rose) and that they messed around a bit and almost had sex a few times but never did. This girl is the closest thing he has to an ex. I saw that he texted her at the end of May. He texted her at 2:53am on a Wednesday saying “hey stranger” and she said “whats up wyd texting at 3am?” He said “what’s wrong with that I was just trying to see what you’ve been up to” she said “I’ve been good you?” And he said “I’ve been alright just haven’t heard from you in a minute” she said “what’s up though” and he said “nothing I was just trying to catch up since I’m back in town”she said “catch up how?” She said “I figured😭 catch up how” and he said “what are you doing next week?” She said “what day next week?” And he said “idk like Wednesday” and she said “what’s happening?” And he said “nothing we could just hang out” and she said “if I don’t work I’m down” then he said “oh you still work at Walmart” and she said “nah” he said “oh word where you work at now” and she said “in my business” & he said “see you play too much” and she said “don’t worry ab all that” he said “ I’m not trying to be in your business I was just curious“ then She said “next what I be doing” he said “you’re acting like I’m a fan or something I’m just making conversation” and she said “I meant what have you been doing” and he said “shit I’ve been at school nothing different really” then she said, “so how are you mentally physically emotionally” and he said “ mentally pretty much the same as always and physically, you’re the judge of that and emotionally im the same as always” and she said “what do you mean im the judge of it? He said “do I look good or not thats the physical” and she said “ I didn’t mean it like that but that’s good also” then he replied with “😂😂😂” and then he said “how have you been physically emotionally mentally” and she said “like shit but I’ll be ok I’m gonna sleep though I’m tired” and he replied the next day saying “wdym like shit what happened” and she said “I don’t rlly want to talk ab it” he said “you sure” and she said “yes” then he replies a day later and says “alright best to you then” and she said “you too” This conversation happened over the course of 5 days (the response times were long). When I read this part of the conversation I thought it was weird that he was messaging her to hangout since we were in a full on relationship at this point and from what he had told me they weren’t really friends anymore and didn’t really talk aside from happy birthday texts. I knew this was true because their messages from before his “hey stranger” text to her on may 24th were very seldom and were just her texting him “hey stranger” like back in 2022 randomly and her sending him happy birthday for his birthday in November 2022 and him saying happy birthday back to her in April of 2023. So when I was reading the conversation up until this point I thought it was kind of weird that he messaged asking to hangout bc it seemed random and the fact that he texted her at 3am seemed like the stereotypical booty call time to text to me which made me kind of wonder if he was messaging her to try to hook up. I also thought it was weird how he tried to subtly ask her how she thought he looked physically when she asked him how he’s doing mentally physically and emotionally, almost as if he was trying to make it about physical appearance. I also didn’t like how when she asked him how he’s been doing he said “nothing different really” as if he didn’t just get into a whole relationship with me 2 months before this text conversation with her took place. It made me feel weird that he didn’t use that as an opportunity to say he has a gf now. But nothing up until this point in the conversation was overtly flirty or weird. But then I kept reading and saw that a week later on June 2nd he replied to her story of a selfie she posted and said “damn” and she said “what” and he said “you know what” and she said “I don’t” and he said “you’re looking good that’s what” and she said “thanks😂” then on June 3rd he replies to a selfie she posted on her story again and says “ I know I already said this but damn girl” and she never responded back. At this point I was like wtf bc it seems like he was obviously trying to flirt with her because he literally slid up on her selfies (I saw the posts bc she put them on her IG highlight from the days he replied to her story) saying damn. Those messages are what ultimately made me ask him why he messaged her and if he was trying to meet up with her while he was back in his hometown to fuck because him replying to her stories seemed like flirting to me. He told me that the reason he messaged her at 3am in the first place is because him and his friend (who also went to their HS and lives in his hometown) were on the game late into the night and were talking about getting together as a friend group and going downtown and riding scooters. He said they were talking about inviting rose since she was a part of their friend group so while he was in a PlayStation party with his friend he messaged her. I asked him if he was hitting her up to try to meet up and hook up with her while he was in his hometown and he said he had no he was honestly just messaging her because of what him and his friend were talking about and that when he asked her to hangout he was referring to the group hangout. He said when he slid up on her story he was just joking around with her the way they used to joke around and that Rose knows he’s not flirting with her since that’s always how they used to joke around. He admitted that since he’s in a relationship now he shouldn’t have been joking around with her in the same way he used to when he was single and said he’s sorry for that but insists that he was not trying to flirt with her or meet up with her one on one and had no intention of trying to have sex with her. I asked him why he didn’t say he has a gf when she asked how he’s been and he said he just wasn’t thinking about it and that he should’ve brought it up and apologized for that as well. I asked him many times on several different occasions from when he got back to our university in August until probably around December if he was just having a horny moment late at night when he texted her and to just be honest with me and I would understand. He insisted that he was not trying to be flirty with her and wasn’t texting her to try to meet up and fuck. He holds to same story every time I ask him about it. Now several months have gone by and there has been absolutely no communication between the two of them. He unfollowed her when this happened and removed her as a follower. However this incident has still stayed in my mind because deep down I feel like he was reaching out because he was trying to flirt and was trying to cheat. I feel like if he really was messaging her to hangout as a group with his friend and their other friends from HS he would’ve mentioned that in the texts. He said she knew that he was referring to hanging out as a whole group but I don’t understand how she’d know that if he didn’t bring it up specifically. But at the same time I don’t understand why he’d still lie to me about it at this point. Other than this one incident my boyfriend has always been loyal and says he’d never cheat. I believe him as he’s never given me any other signs that he would cheat. But I can’t help but feel like he’s not being honest with me about what his true intentions were in messaging Rose last summer. I was thinking of sending Rose a dm on IG asking her what her opinion was on why he was messaging her and what she thought his intentions were for texting her but I’m not sure if this is a good idea. Idk how she would react or if I should message her and ask this at all. I also was thinking of asking her to send him a dm flirting with him and asking him to meet up to test his loyalty and have her send me the screenshots of what he says. Do you think my boyfriend is telling the truth and I should just move forward since this was almost a year ago or do you think he’s lying to me about what his true intentions were in texting Rose and should I message her asking her what she thought he was doing by texting her?
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2024.05.15 14:49 paskasoturi Am I the only one crushing on mean guys?

Hello, I've been crushing solely on mean guys lately, and well, no, I'm not a frequent crusher. In the past, I have crushed on this same guy for 5 years, and we ended up dating because he liked me too. But he eventually told me he's asexual (not interested in romance) and we broke up, and it hurt. To be honest I got hurt a lot in the relationship, even before it and after. The guy was really mean sometimes because it's a part of his cold personality, but he could be sweet sometimes too.
Now I've gotten over it and been crushing on my work friend, who's similarly mean but can be sweet too, and seems to have a sweet spot for me for some reason.
It seems like I'm only attracted to these mean guys who will break me! I find it hilarious most of the time, but sometimes think it would be nice to actually have a good relationship. For the context, I am asexual, but interested in romance, not the naughties.
And currently, I'm thinking that no, it's not a good idea to make a move on guys who are mean to me, because it will not end well xD I have gotten yelled at, degraded for me being myself and doing "weird" things that I like doing and are normal to me. These were in the past. My crush now seems only self-centered and speaks ill of coworkers, but not too badly. But something in him enthralls me...
Are there any other people with similar experiences? What do you think of your own situation? And mine? Also, sorry for the long post, but my experience with crushing and dating have not exactly been subtle! :D
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2024.05.15 14:46 PepperCheese12 27 [F4M] Looking for my future partner

Hi! I'm currently working as a professional in EU and looking for someone who I can talk to regularly and hopefully will lead to something. LDR nga lang muna if sakali but I'll visit the Philippines in August so hopefully we can meet each other. I've been single for a long time now because of various reasons pero I feel like ready na ako to enter into a new relationship.
Otherwise, I'm okay with meeting new people and gaining friends. In the country that I am in, uso ang casuals lang which I'm not a fan of. And I still prefer to talk to Filipinos over other nationalities.
I always wanted to talk about my thoughts/day to someone but I just couldn't find a good match. I love deep talks but at the same time I can also be be your go-to person sa asaean. I am a good listener too if gusto mo magrant and all. I'm an overthinker who always wants to get assurance but I'm not a jealous type.
I'm 5'0, so a small person. Haha. I have slim upper body but got thick thighs (which sometimes I hate).
I love music, movies and books. I'm in love with dogs too although I don't have one with me at the moment.
I'm looking for someone who dates to marry and is:
If you're interested, I'll see you in my DM. 😊
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2024.05.15 14:46 feculentjarlmaw A Story About Jack: How a post on reddit forced a malignant narcissist and serial abuser of women to face consequences for the first time.

The internet is a strange place, inadvertently designed to bring out the best and worst in people. People can be whoever or whatever they want to be. For predators and malignant narcissists and who live in their own delusions to begin with, it's like a hunting ground. They can create whatever persona they wish, fill their victims' heads with lies and half-truths that paint them out to be someone they are not, and by the time their victim actually meets them, it's too late - they've already created an image in their mind of this perfect person the narcissist has convinced them they are, and it usually takes time before the curtain comes down, the lies fall apart, and the mask breaks away.
I'm no saint, and I've learned my own tough lessons from the internet. I grew up under not-so-great circumstances, only getting 5 years of education before I turned 18 and was largely raised by a computer screen. Along the way, I catfished a woman in her mid-20's when I was 14-16 years old. It wasn't intentional at first, I told everyone that I was in my mid-20's and I worked as a bouncer at a bar in NYC. I never meant any harm, I was just raised by a computer and spent all my time alone playing MMOs and learned quickly that if I told people how old I was, they'd stop playing with me. So a bouncer seemed like a job I could bullshit about easily enough, and I was a big dude at 6'1 260lbs so I figured I could maybe pass it off as legit if it ever got hectic.
I started playing with this woman in her 20's and her husband frequently. We became friends fast, and soon we were virtually inseparable on the game. Her marriage ended up not working out, and after they separated she told me she had feelings for me. I should've admitted I wasn't who I said I was then, but I was young and dumb and she was the only real friend I had, so I kept up the ruse. Eventually I did come clean, and she broke it off with me not long after. We stayed friends, albeit with my heart hurting pretty bad, for a few months afterwards - until she met Jack.
When she first told me about Jack, he sounded like a great catch. He had his own IT business in Canada, was a couple years older but not by much, and she was infatuated with him. Obviously I was crushed and didn't handle it well, being a practically feral teenager at the time, so not long after they started getting serious she ghosted me altogether. I was around 17 at the time, and shit started going off the rails for me. After I got out of juvie, I started drinking heavily on a near-daily basis and selling and doing drugs. This led to a lot of pathetic, inebriated, desperate attempts to contact her and apologize for how I acted.
After months of being ignored, eventually grief and regret turned to anger, and finally acceptance. When the pain passed and I came to my senses a bit, I had an epiphany and realized that if I loved her as much as I thought I did, the best thing for both of us would be to let her go. I was a high school dropout with no job, selling drugs to get by. She had 2 kids, and what kind of life could I provide for them? She made the right choice, my age and the fact I made a grown woman fall in love with a teenager not withstanding, and as bad as it hurt I realized it was selfish of me not to accept the way things were and leave her alone, so I did.
10 years or so later, I had gotten my shit together. Worked my way up from cleaning dead shit out of swimming pools, to an entry level position at an environmental consulting firm, to a Project Manager at one of the largest firms in the field in the DC area. I'd met someone, got her pregnant, and for some reason I felt a pull to contact her again. Not to rekindle an old flame, but because she had been a tremendously positive influence on my life in a time where I had few. She was the first good thing I had in my life at a time when I was sleeping on old blankets on a hard floor in an abusive home, and what I'd held onto from our time together wasn't our romantic relationship, it was the best friend I'd ever had. And something made me want to tell her that all that work she put into getting my head right wasn't in vain, and I'd finally made it out of the gutter.
So I messaged her on Facebook, and to my surprise she actually responded. We started talking again, and soon it was back to every day. When my baby mama got back on drugs and turned abusive and was putting my daughter's life in jeopardy on a near-daily basis, she was the one who convinced me I could fight for custody - that I had to fight for custody. So I did, and I won, and I've had full custody of of my daughter since she was 6 months old and for the 10 years since.
But eventually we parted ways again. I'd started seeing someone, and part of me knew I couldn't commit to another woman while I was still carrying on with her. Our relationship had started turning romantic again, and she had dropped some hints about old Jack that would come to the forefront later, but she wasn't ready to leave him and I didn't want to be that guy, so I sent her a message explaining why we had to stop talking, apologized, and ghosted her.
7 more years went by after that night. The relationship I abandoned her for soured quickly when I found out that chick was a carbon copy of my baby mama, and I quit dating to focus on my career and raising my daughter. But on the long, 2+ hour commutes each way from work, I often found myself stuck pondering the "what ifs". What if I hadn't ghosted her? What if our age gap wasn't there, and we'd never had to split up to begin with? I knew in my soul I was never going to find someone like her again, but I made peace with it. I imagined her happy life, her kids with Jack, and convinced myself I made the right choice.
Then COVID hit, and near the start of it, I stumbled on a post on reddit about this dude who sent his high school sweetheart a message many years later apologizing for how he treated her and telling her how her presence impacted him, and I thought to myself, "Hey, I did that!". So I started writing a reply, and for the first time told the story of this girl and I. I'd never told a soul about what happened with us, not even my family or closest friends. Maybe it was the stigma of having an online relationship back in those days that carried over, or maybe it was just too personal to share with my friends or family. It got long, so eventually I just decided to start a new thread. When I was done, it was so long I figured no one would ever read it, but I hit submit anyway and put my phone down and got back to work.
Well, I was wrong. People did read it - a lot of people. Soon my phone started blowing up. Thousands of comments, hundreds of DMs, people offering me book deals and asking if they could have the rights for a screenplay or have me on their podcasts. It was fucking surreal, and being generally a private person who tries to fly under the rader, it got overwhelming fast. Eventually I reached out to her again on Facebook, warned her about what happened, and apologized for putting her business out there.
She didn't respond for a couple weeks, and when she did we started talking again almost immediately. And then in mid-April 2020, she told me that she needed to talk to me. She spilled everything, and told me exactly who Jack was. How he would hack into her devices to spy on her, threaten to kill her and her partner if she ever left him, say vile things to her and her daughters, calling the young girls cunts and bitches. How he alienated all her friends and family, and kept them all isolated in the house her parents bought them that he would rarely leave.
And I felt deceived too. All those years I'd convinced myself that she was happy, that she got together with Jack and was living the life she deserved. In reality, Jack intentionally got her pregnant not long after he flew out to her state the first time. He quickly moved into her house, and refused to work or provide not only for her kids or their kids, but for the other 3 children he abandoned in Australia and Canada who he had no relationship with, with 3 different women he victimized in the same manner. When she was 8 months pregnant with their first kid, she was working nights doing hospice care while he sat on his ass playing videogames all night and talking to his ex. In 17 years, this fucking loser with 7 kids by 4 women worked a grand total of 5 weeks, quit his job, claimed he got PTSD from the experience, and somehow manipulated his way into getting SSDI for it. They survived off SSDI and her parents' charity for years.
But Jack was reading all of this, because like I mentioned earlier, he was hacking her devices and watching us talk remotely. Jack knew the jig was up, and slowly started to unravel. She told him she wanted a divorce, and that she was not going to sever her friendship with me again. And he pretended to take that well, going as far as to try to befriend and manipulate me. He tried every trick to keep her he'd done for years - telling her he was going to get help and would change first, then when that failed he made suicide threats and somehow got his therapist to call her and tell her as long as she didn't leave him he wouldn't kill himself, and then he tried to intimidate her. Eventually he went off the rails completely and sexually assaulted her when he thought she was sleeping.
She called me from her parents' house crying the night it happened, and I convinced her to file a police report. She did, and a couple weeks later Jack got removed from the home, served with a protective order, and charged for sexual abuse. This of course did nothing to stop Jack - he broke into their house a couple days later when she and the kids were out to upload a folder of revenge porn to his Google Drive under the guise of wanting to drop off a cake for her birthday.
Then the stalking started. Jack would relentlessly message her all day and night on Facebook, switching between rage, trying to garner sympathy, convince her he would change, and threatening self-harm. We later found out via a cyber forensics report that he was hacking into the laptop she had taken with her while she hid at her parents' and had been so bold as to steal her Victim Impact Statement and send it to all his World of Warcraft buddies as a joke.
And he didn't just stalk her, he came for me too. Constant unauthorized attempts to access my accounts for everything from Windows to my bank, spam calls and emails - shit, the wormy little fuck even got his friends to stalk my social media and pretend to be strangers to gaslight me. I ignored all of it, and he got desperate enough to send me a lovely message attempting to extort and blackmail she and I, claiming he had "all my posts" but wouldn't do anything with them if I called him. The tipping point for me is when he subscribed to my small YouTube channel - which had nothing on it but 3 videos of my daughter. That veiled threat wasn't lost on me.
But Jack fucked up. I don't know if he thought his insane nonsense would scare me off, or if in his delusions he really thought he was the bad mother fucker he convinced himself he was, but Jack didn't know jack about me. I'm a crazy fuck too, and while he was sitting on his fat ass playing World of Warcraft all day every day for the past couple decades, I was selling drugs and hanging with some of the grimiest mother fuckers Baltimore had to offer. I've seen and experienced a lot of real violence outside a computer monitor, and the prospect of a violent resolution to this saga didn't phase me a whole lot. I'd spent years trying to be a better person and avoid conflict, but I sure as shit wasn't afraid of it either. Leading up to this point, I was already trying to calm myself down and talk myself off the ledge and not pack my guns and drive out there to keep watch until the police did their thing and put him away, which took a lot longer than it should have - this fucking guy violated his protective order 80 times in just a couple weeks.
So I called him, and he spent the next 26 minutes crying over the phone like a drunk little bitch, while I tried my best to be kind and to talk him off the ledge. And yes, I did record it, and yes it is hysterical listening to it now in hindsight, and yes I still have the recording. Anyway, I told him he was scaring the shit out of her and the kids, and he promised to leave us alone and I told him if he could chill the fuck out I would try to talk her into giving him more access to the kids. The next day, she got an email from her first ex-husband - Jack had reached out to him with a link to my reddit post trying to get help from him to come after me, which he promptly shut down and sent to her.
The next few weeks were terrifying as Jack descended further into madness and became more scared and desperate. He knew she was gone and not coming back, and he was facing real charges and real jail time, and while Jack is a fucking moron in a lot of ways, I'm sure he knew a fat, greasy computer nerd with a sex offense conviction wasn't going to have a good time in County. Jack was a murder-suicide waiting to happen, the police were doing nothing to stop his stalking, and I felt powerless to help her. Eventually after he sent her $50 over PayPal at 4:00am with what appeared to be a suicide note, I had enough. I called the DA's office, asked them why the fuck this was being allowed to happen, and promised them I'd been taking meticulous notes and if anything happened to her I would be taking it straight to the media. The DA told me if I was going to make threats the conversation was over, but sure enough he was finally arrested not long after.
Ironically we had remained platonic friends through most of this, but the shared experience of dealing with this psycho brought us closer together and things quickly changed. We knew he wasn't going to stop when he got out of jail, I felt responsible for her safety after my stupid reddit post started this chain of events that led to Jack's unraveling, and with the world seemingly coming apart during COVID, decided if we were ever going to meet it felt like it was now or never. So I booked a plane ticket across the country, spent a week with her and her family, and a few days after I came home she flew out to visit me and meet my family.
We went into it with no expectations. I fully accepted we might not click and our relationship would go back to being platonic. For my part, I just wanted the closure of finally meeting this person who had such a profound impact on my life before COVID mutated or something and killed us all.
But we did click, and the next two weeks were life-changing. I met and cooked for her entire extended family the day after I arrived, and it went well. While I was there I got her mom's email address, and after I went home I had an idea. I knew her parents had met in DC, so I emailed her mom and asked her for a list of places that were special to her, and she told me about the church her parents had met in. I asked her to keep our conversation secret so it would be a surprise, and she did.
So when she comes out to the east coast, I take her on a tour through DC and park the car a few blocks down the street from the church. As we're walking by, she notices the church and comments on how beautiful it is.
I keep it cool and respond, "Yeah, that's a pretty important place.".
She looks at me and says, "Oh? Why's that?".
"That's where your parents met.".
She audibly gasps, giddily bounces a bit, starts to cry, and we pulled down our masks (fuckin covid) and kiss. Her reaction is easily one of the greatest memories in my life. What I didn't know at the time, was that her parents had told her about that church since she and her siblings were kids. When the church changed denominations, the church took the angel statue off the top and brought it back to her home state, and her parents had taken them to see it a few times throughout her childhood.
Anyway, getting sidetracked here, the sappy love story stuff is a different story altogether.
A month after we met for the first time, I had quit my job, sold everything I couldn't fit in my sedan, and she flew back out and drove across the country with my daughter and I.
Sounds crazy as hell, and it was, but it worked out better than it should have. I got a good job making more than I did back home right away, her kids loved me, and my daughter loved her and adjusted to her new home fast. And by the time Jack got out of jail for felony cyberstalking, sexual abuse, and Intimidation of a Witness in a Domestic Violence case, we had cameras all over the house, and I had taught my fiancee how to shoot - which she quickly became better than me at.
But Jack's time in jail didn't slow him down, and the 2-10 year suspended sentence didn't deter him at all. As a matter of fact, on his first day out one of the first things he did was start trying to hack her accounts again. He managed to con an elderly couple he knew threw World of Warcraft from a different state into letting him live with them, and from there he spent a lot of time and energy stalking us and hacking our devices to the best of his ability. He also convinced these poor, very stupid elderly people from his videogame to bankroll a lengthy, expensive divorce. Somehow a man who hadn't worked in almost 20 years managed to run us into over $50,000 in legal fees in two years. How a marriage with zero assets turned into a two year battle when both parties were officially in poverty before the divorce, or how the family courts never saw through the bullshit is beyond me.
To Jack's credit, he did a pretty good job remaining a thorn in our side. Largely due to the complete and utter ineptitude and indifference of the police and District Attorney who could and should have put a stop to his bullshit at any point in that time. Old Jack got hit with a permanent criminal stalking injunction and a 10-year protective order along with his probation, and no amount of effort on our part would get the police, DA, or probation to put a stop to it, despite mountains of evidence.
He successfully managed to draw the divorce out right up to the wedding we planned a year and a half prior, with his attorney putting in motion after motion to delay the process. With all our family and friends coming from all over the country and as far away as Japan, we accepted our wedding would just be a celebration and not an official wedding. Until the night before the wedding, she got a call from her attorney - he had made a call to the clerk's office at the court and got her to move the paperwork to finalize the divorce to the top of the pile, and she was officially divorced. Our wedding would be a real wedding after all, and despite Jack's best efforts, he lost again. We had the wedding on a remote ranch that we rented for a week, and foolishly decided to cater and decorate ourselves, which would have been a colossal undertaking without the extra 4 hours to drive into town and get our marriage certificate at the courthouse. But we pulled it off and it was everything we could have hoped for and then some, and we were officially married.
Jack of course didn't stop after the divorce was finalized. The list of shit he tried to do to us before and after that is too long to spell out in an already too long post, but here are some choice bits:
He wrote a demented letter to the oldest of his kids with her who severed her relationship with him, calling my wife and her mother "vipers and cowards" and promising we would "answer for what we've done sooner or later".
He continuously hacked our computers, miscellaneous accounts tied to our emails, and any other devices he could get into - dropping in remotely via Amazon Alexa, phones, etc.
He set up bots to send us thousands of spam emails, sign us up for dozens of international newsletters all at once, and requests for consultations for things like solar panel installations.
He told the kids vile lies about my wife and I, although the most egregious was when he used a court-ordered therapy appointment with his second oldest daughter to accuse me of distributing child porn, told the therapist I am an "evil man", and told him I wasn't safe to be around his daughters. This led to her being forensically interviewed by the police, where she spelled out what happened, but of course they did nothing.
He gave the two youngest children cell phones to sneak into our house, with Google accounts activated and location tracking turned on.
He sent packages to our house 5 times in the space of a few months, one of which was addressed to himself and contained nothing but a bag of Stevia and a pack of gum. These packages generally came to our door the day before his scheduled visitation with the kids.
During this time my bank account was hacked four times in the span of just a few months with nearly identical fraudulent charges. In each of these instances, I had completely changed my bank account information.
He filed false reports with CPS twice, alleging we were beating the children, locking them in the closet, and not feeding or bathing them. This led to a CPS agent coming to our house to investigate.
We brought all this to the police over and over as it happened, and they did nothing. The DA running the case wasted 5 months subpoenaing a fake email address that we told them when we reported it was fake and spoofed. After finding out about that, we went to the DA's office to find out what the fuck was going on. A Victim's Advocate met with us, and was horrified about how the case was handled, looked up the prosecutor assigned to the case, rolled her eyes and said "Oh...it's Stephanie", confirming what we already knew - this prosecutor was completely incompetent, an elect3d politician moonlighting as a prosecutor. She called us the next day to tell us the actual DA called a meeting and a warrant was put out for Jack's arrest. For some inexplicable reason, they pulled the warrant back, and the advocate told us it was because the DA was pursuing more serious charges.
Then, they stonewalled us. The Victim's Advocate we had met with that actually tried to help us was moved off our case, and the new one assigned refused to talk to us or return our calls. The few exchanges we had with her, she made it abundantly clear she had the DA Office's interests in mind and not ours. We decided to just stay quiet and let the process play out and hope for the best, up until we received an email on Friday night before Election Day from the Detective telling us Stephanie had closed the case. I assume she didn't want her incompetence coming to light, and didn't want to shut the case down before Election Day knowing we would be on the warpath.
Eventually, Jack caught wind that he was officially under criminal investigation, but clearly had no idea they were never going to press charges. He got quiet for a bit, until he was ultimately let off probation early. We still get the occasional reminder he's out there watching, but his fear of going back to jail and the belief it might happen cowed him a bit. So instead he harasses us through the family courts, filing constant bullshit motions with no evidence to support them, and for some reason the courts let it continue. Somehow a man who makes ~$800 from SSDI and is only paying $30 a month total to support his 3 kids with my wife is able to fund tens of thousands of dollars worth of legal proceedings every year, and no one in the family courts has ever stopped to ask how he is paying for it or why all this money isn't being spent on supporting these children.
But despite Jack's best efforts, his bullshit hasn't worked. My wife and I have been together for four years soon, and married for two. His kids call me dad and hate his guts, only seeing him because the courts force them to. I continue to advance in my career, landing two major promotions in the past 2 years and now running a division in one of the largest companies in my field in this part of the country. I just enrolled in college to go back to school and get a degree in family law with a focus on domestic violence. The most frustrating part of the whole experience with ol' Jack was having no one to turn to when all the institutions who were supposed to keep this from happening ignored us, and even though I'll be well into my mid 40's before I accomplish my new goals, I plan to advocate for domestic violence victims and do everything I can to lobby for change to these laws to keep as many people as I can from going through what my wife and I did. I learned that the only way to beat these people at their game is to play on the same field right along with them, and that's what I intend to do.
My wife went back to work too once she healed from some of the trauma, making $30 an hour as a personal assistant for a fella who's had two movies made about his life. Our kids struggled a bit with school and dealing with all their biological parents' issues, but they quickly turned it around and have been excelling. We're all happy, healthy, and doing better now than ever.
As for Jack? Well, he's pushing 50 and still spending his days alone, playing World of Warcraft and jerking off in this old couple's basement. Nothing has changed there, and now he's too fat, old, and visibly an enormous fucking loser to victimize women in the same way he did in his youth. I have no doubts he'll find another victim eventually, probably when these old weirdos bankrolling his life now finally wise up, but one thing Jack forgets is that karma is a mother fucker, and I have a giant database of evidence that I can and will send out to whoever I please to help pull that mask down and keep him from doing this to someone else. Nothing is more appealing to a potential love interest than hearing their man cry like a drunk bitch for 26 minutes to the man he claims stole his wife, while simultaneously admitting to sexually assaulting said wife.
As wonderful as it would have been for Jack to go to prison where he can't hurt anyone again, there is some catharsis knowing Jack will forever be in a prison of his own making. His children want nothing to do with him, and he'll never see them graduate or walk them down the aisle. Jack will die miserable and alone, and in his narcissistic delusion will still be blaming everyone else for the colossal failure of his life, while continuing to fail to grasp the one thread that ties all his misery together - himself.
And since he somehow manages to find and stalk most of my social media, I'd wager Jack will end up reading this too. I hope he does in all honesty. And Jack, if you are reading this, I want you to know that you can kick, flail, manipulate and lie, cry and complain until you're red in the face. None of it matters. You don't matter. You'll leave this world alone, as sad and bitter as you are now, and the world will be a better place for it.
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2024.05.15 14:43 LazySnake7 From Under the Ice - Chapter 2

(Thanks to SpacePaladin for creating NOP)
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Memory Transcription Subject: Elder Researcher Slira of the Vyr Exploration Initiative
Date [standardised Vyr time]: Day 102/321, Year 110
I remembered when they drilled to the top of Rime.I had been studying to be a computer engineer at the time, only a single course away from graduating. My home city of Frozen Perch had been chosen for the project, something that no local really paid any mind to. Almost no one believed there was anything to find within Rime’s depths, for she didn’t have any of the gifts her Sisters did. There was no ore or soil like Stone had, no warmth or light like Glow’s magma. Even Abyss held corrupted treasures of Tide’s life which members of her Second and Third Church used with enthusiasm to survive and thrive in places were the very water would crush you to nothing.
We all knew they’d give up after drilling up for a few kilometres and Vyrkind would be content that nothing lay above our heads up Rime’s endless ice, that reality was only so big and that we had explored almost everything that exists besides for some patches within the dark deeps.
I admit, I didn’t have much passion for my career of choice. I’d likely end up as a system admin somewhere, managing networks and improving what we already had, never creating anything new because we already built everything we needed.Born too late to explore the world…
When the engineers working on the drill reported that the ice was thinning, that they were getting faint signals from beyond… curiosity and passion ignited in my soul, in the soul of nearly every vyr that lived and breathed.The drilling project went from a boring little science project only a choice few geologists and industrialists held any hope for to a global event which caught the eye of all vyrkind.
I remember lying in my nest, surrounded by pillows and swaddled in blankets while my eyes were glued to a livestream of drill’s progress. My tail was playing with a tassel of a stuffed toy, which if I remembered rightly was modelled after my first pet, a grumpy but sweet crab named Admiral Cookpot.I remember the smell of burnt squid, because my father had been cooking a meal at the time and got distracted by world events, same as me. The only sound in my room was the tideheater’s propeller whirring softly.
I was too scared to breathe, worried that if I was too loud I’d scare away the most interesting thing that had ever happened in my entire life.And when the drill finally pierced the top layer of Rime I and every Vyr caught our first sight of a world beyond our little planet. The sky a black void so unlike that of Abyss, my eyes filled with the light of thousands, millions of…
Stars.
A luminous field as beautiful as any glittering reef or magma vent, uncountable jewels and embers. I stared at them for over an hour, until the blazing personification of Glow herself arose from beneath the horizon, which I’d later learn… no, discover was our own personal star.
I knew what I’d dedicate my life to then and there. My life’s mission would be to uncover the secrets of this strange new realm beyond Rime, which scientists named and priests baptised as Space.
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It has been many rotations around our star (now named Beacon) since I was a young college student. I got a degree in physics and with my computer simulations I managed to not only chart the movement of celestial bodies, but predict their movements as surely as the currents. I hadn’t intended to become one of the founding mothers of the field of Astrophysics but I was more than happy to lead the charge, to explore this new frontier as thoroughly as possible.
Now I was being invited to a meeting of some of the most important people in my country, perhaps of vyrkind. Sure, I had spoken to some of them before, but only over text or video chat. Only ever about theories and possibilities.
Now it would be in a physical location, all in one big room, still about theories but now much more tangible, life altering things. And I wasn’t going to be an advisor or a consultant. Just as some people were seen as leaders of armies, planners of cities or managing agricultural regions, I was being invited as our foremost expert on… Space.
It was funny and terrifying how one can wake up one morning and suddenly realise you are a world leader, responsible for guiding the fates of every creature you or anyone else had ever met.
As scared and nervous as I was, this was no time for imposter syndrome. I was one of the oldest, most experienced astrophysicists on the planet. Of course I was, I helped invent it dammit! I was still as passionate about Space as the day I started, because it was the first time we realised what a day was. I had worked with members of fields related to mine for so long I was practically an expert at those too, including engineering.There is no one more qualified to do this than I, Elder Researcher Slira! Vyrkind needed me!

Great, now I also feel nervous about being too arrogant. Still, I managed to clear some of my self-doubt and packed my bags. I had an elevator to catch.
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Castle Yarshu was absolutely filled with people, busier than I’ve ever seen it before. Normally it’s just a museum, filled with old relics from the time of the last Forge Lords. Technically it’s owned by the Ka’lai Militia though and their leader has made sure to keep it well renovated. It is that very leader, General Taraksus, that has invited us all to the Castle’s massive Roundhall, filled with trophies and spoils of conquests that exist only in memory.The hall’s centre stage was covered in posts, perches and seats for the over one hundred representatives the General had invited, with boxy camera drones jetting here and there to capture the discussion for all to see.Around the hall Vyr crowded and swarmed to get a look at us, even clinging to the pillars and ceiling to see the “action”. The castle and our meeting was open to the public after all, and anyone could enter as long as occupancy allowed and they brought nothing dangerous with them besides their claws and fangs.
From my perch I spy Taraksus sitting atop the old Forge Lord’s throne, on its headrest to be precise, discussing something with a fellow general curled up on the armrest and an aide lying at the foot. The seat itself was filled with a sponge-stuffed dummy dressed to fit any monarch, albeit with a sign around its neck with a slur word written on it in a language few speak anymore.
Taraksus themself wasn’t too impressive a sight, well below the size average for females and decently above it for males. Their only ornamentation was a black stripe painted over his head to create a striking contrast as it went over their eyes, and a chain which held a few dozen metal strips, each with the name of a fallen comrade written on it. Or so I hear.
Taraksus ends his conversation and takes up a spear from a guard, the rear of which he uses to stamp the ground.
“Pipe down you lot! I’m calling this meeting to order!” Their voice pierced through the cacophony with a clarity that surprised me.
“As ridiculous as it feels to say, we’ve been contacted by aliens. You all saw the translation broadcasted live from our friends over at the VEI. Suffice to say the contents of their message to us is… concerning. I’ve already forwarded recommendations to our R&D sectors to start working on designs for military spacecraft. Certainly not something I or most anyone else here thought or hoped would ever be needed. I’m hoping that the consensus we reach here will keep that true. Before any of that however I call upon one of the most prominent members of the aforementioned VEI, Elder Slira, to clue us in on the nature of what we face and go over her team’s conclusions.”
I quickly check the notes on my portable computer which my assistant Neeran had so kindly organised for me before erecting myself on my perch.
I could feel everyone’s eyes on me, coupled with the near oppressive silence. I took a steady breath, trying to gather my courage. “You can do it Slira!” echoed a voice from the back of the hall. The chuckles that followed was evidence enough that I hadn’t imagined it, and I felt some of my fears dissipate.
“Greetings, vyr from across the world. I’ll jump right to the meat of the issue and start with an analysis of the ‘Sivkit’ that spoke to us. One of the most startling discoveries we uncovered in our investigation was the incredibly high possibility of them breathing… gas.”
I spotted the ears of more than a few vyr shoot up in shock, including those of the stout administrator of the Vrental Commune’s heartlands, Ireni.
Gasbreathers? Surely such a thing is not possible?”
“The footage clearly indicates a lack of liquid, and the sivkit’s chest is clearly contracting and expanding in a manner that indicates breathing. We could be wrong, but likely we are looking at an organism that defies our current understanding of how complex life can develop.”
I typed away at my computer, bringing up my second point.
“Next we have their next statement, something about us being Arxur…”
A delegate I do not recognise raises a claw.
“Do we know who these Arxur are? The Sivkit seemed ready to bolt at the idea of them.”
“We currently have no information on the Arxur. All we can extrapolate is that they are another sapient alien species, that we resemble them somewhat except for our eyes and that they represent a clear threat to the Sivkit. Also, for whatever reason, the sivkit mistook us for a prey species because our eyes are on the side of our heads…”

“That’s… no, I don't have a way to soften that, that’s stupid as shit.”
“It’s… not scientifically correct, no. But it made them mistake us for fellow kindred among the stars, their captain even going so far to gift us translator technology.”
“Was it a mistake?” Taraksus asks, seemingly in thought. “I mean clearly they mistook us for something we are not, but is it impossible for us to be kindred?”
I understood his question, and sadly had no real answer.
“I don’t know General. The kind of friendship you describe is a two-way street, and if they are not willing then there is nothing we can do. But that does not mean we can’t do anything about it. Diplomat Zhara, your turn.”
A vyr across the stage from me straightens herself. Her body is wrapped in colourful fabrics and her various bits of jewellery show a clear love of ornamentation and precious stones.
“Thank you Elder. The Sivkit Captain promised to return at a time less than [3 weeks] away. Irrelevant of any bigger picture, he seems to care mostly about establishing relations with us and getting access to the deposits on our planetary neighbour Turqo. Whether for personal wealth or aiding his kin, who’s to say. He seems to assume we are part of a larger civilisation, likely unable to sense us underneath all the ice and mistaking our surface city for some kind of local outpost. Whatever the case may be, our diplomatic strategy is simple: lie through our fangs and trade metal.”
An uneasy murmur fills the hall.
“I know, lying may come back to bite us. But we need to be cautious, we know nothing about these aliens and if pretending to be a larger civilisation of peaceful herbivores will put them at ease then so be it. In addition my friends in the industrial sector tell me we don’t have any need for such a vast amount of heavy metals, so mining the deposit and trading the resources to the Sivkit for what they have in abundance seems good business. It will also help further the ‘small mining outpost’ facade and aid us in getting more information about who these ‘meat-eating humans’ are.”
“Excellent! We’re right on time!”
A gasp passes through the crowd. My eyes dart around and my ears swivel every which way, trying to identify the source of the shout. The crowd of onlookers to my left were making way, clearly shocked at… some new arrivals? What under Rime…?
Two vyr had entered the hall.
The first was a small male, their body wiry and covered in scars. Even the tip of their flat tale had a V-shaped chunk cut out of it. A sash of black cloth covered in white pictograms was wrapped around his chest, and attached to the sash was a broad, bladed weapon almost comically large for him. The second was a rather average female, still almost twice the size of the male. Black robes and a hood hid her form, though I noticed a pair of silver reading glasses sitting on her snout and a… by Glow, was that a fucking tome? An actual book, with thick kelp-fibre pages and bound in Nesis bark.
My brain almost refused to recognise the two, but finally sense overruled logic. The male was Krattron, and the female was Kahltrak. The highest authorities of the Second and Third Churches of the Abyss respectively.
Krattron swam up to the stage, eyes brimming with what I could only describe as maniacal glee.
“Greetings, children of Vyrkind! When do we set out to hunt the demons of Void?”
Kahltrak follows shortly behind. I would have been able to hear her sigh from the surface.
“Hello delegates. We’ve come to pledge our aid, and to discuss how we shall be dealing with our enemies.”
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2024.05.15 14:41 Log_Which Experience With PinkyParadise Toric Lenses Shipping / Delivery

Curious if anyone with astigmatism has ordered toric lenses from PinkyParadise and what your experience with actual delivery dates were?
They say on the website to expect 45-60 days just for them to be produced, but I’m hoping that’s just for them to under promise and over deliver. All I can ever find is how long it takes for regular colored contacts to be delivered on this sub and even those sound like they take weeks, so it makes me feel like I’ll randomly get mine like 6 months from now lol.
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