Please read.
I had the biggest crush on this guy since 2018 but I never confessed. In 2020 he dated his ex so I was forced to cut contact and I moved on.
I dated my ex from May 2021, he got cheated on in December 2021, I got cheated on in December 2022.
I reconnected with him in March 2023, fell for him again, confessed in June 2023.
He confessed that he liked me in 2018, but he moved on in 2019 because he thought I didn't like him back.
We fell for each other but didn't make it official though we acted like a couple because I was healing and I was honest about it. I started wanting commitment by February 2024.
In April 2024 he confessed that he had feelings for his girl bestfriend throughout 2022 because she was there for him after his breakup. However I wasn't comfortable as he didn't give me commitment because of him healing from her, he didn't confess it earlier.
He claimed that he blocked her and focused on me. He was putting in a lot of effort since July 2023. He claimed that he knew it will never work out with her in 2022.
Today we had our first date, we were being all cuddly and I saw a text message from the girl bestfriend he claimed that he blocked. He also told me his friends blocked her, and I noticed his friends had unfollowed
She said "How was the date?" . Then he told me that his friends told her we went on a date. I saw her text and it crushed me. I have been cheated on before and I need a lot of reassurance and emotional security or I won't handle it well.
So this means he was in touch with her the whole time? I shrugged it off, he was awkward, he didn't eat, we hugged and held hands. It was sad when we left because we won't meet for another 2 years. I was crying because I won't see him again for another 2 years.
It's been 20 minutes since I reached home and I smell like him, but I can't stop overthinking. He paid for the date, he travelled a long way to meet me, he dropped me, he did everything, and then this had to happen.

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Kansas

Despite voters overwhelmingly rejecting a constitutional amendment that would have allowed abortion restrictions in the state, Kansas Republicans passed several anti-abortion bills into law late last month, overriding the governor’s veto.
The first bill, HB 2436, makes it a crime to “coerce” someone into having an abortion. Democrats attempted to widen the scope of the bill to include all kinds of reproductive coercion, like pressuring someone to become or stay pregnant and prohibiting their access to birth control, and enshrine a right to “reproductive autonomy.” Republicans voted down the amendment.
The second bill, HB 2749, requires medical facilities and providers to (1) ask patients their reason for having an abortion and (2) report the data, including personal information about the patient, to the legislature every other year. Gov. Laura Kelly (D) agreed with the objections of Democrats and reproductive rights advocates, saying when she vetoed the bill that there is “no valid reason to force a woman to disclose to the legislature why she is seeking an abortion.”

• Democrats offered numerous amendments to HB 2749, including one to require men to report to the legislature their reasons for having a vasectomy and another requiring men to report why they are seeking treatment for erectile dysfunction. Republicans rejected all of them.

Finally, the Republican legislature overrode Kelly’s line-item veto allocating $2 million to the Pregnancy Compassion Awareness Program, created last year with a different veto override. The program is run by an anti-abortion group called the Kansas Pregnancy Care Network, which refers pregnant people to crisis pregnancy centers designed to use misleading information to discourage them from obtaining an abortion.

Louisiana

Louisiana’s legislature is doubling down on its anti-abortion laws, passing bills to increase criminalization and refusing to add exemptions to its abortion ban.
Earlier this month, the Louisiana House took up a bill passed by the Senate that would make it a crime, punishable by jail time, to possess abortion-inducing medication. SB 276, sponsored by 23 Republicans and one Democrat, was initially written to create a punishment for coercing someone into an abortion without their knowledge or consent (e.g. spiking a drink). However, House legislators recently added an amendment to the bill that classifies mifepristone and misoprostol as Schedule IV substances alongside some opioids and benzodiazepines. A pregnant person possessing the drugs for their own use could not be charged, but others who intend to distribute them to pregnant people seeking an abortion or store them for their own potential future use would face up to ten years in prison.

“Neither is a drug of abuse or dependence, and that is what the controlled drug schedule is for,” said [emergency room Dr. Jennifer] Avegno of the abortion drugs. “It makes no scientific or medical sense to put these drugs in the same category as Xanax or Valium.”
Mifepristone is a drug that blocks a hormone called progesterone, which is necessary for a pregnancy to continue. Misoprostol causes uterine contractions, causing the body to expel the pregnancy tissue. Mifepristone is also used to treat Cushing’s disease, a hormonal disorder. Misoprostol is also used to induce labor, manage a miscarriage and in the treatment of ulcers. Neither are addictive. “People do not go around taking them and getting dependent and having bad outcomes because of it,” said Avegno. “It’s like saying your blood pressure medicine or insulin is a drug of abuse.”

A week later, Republicans on the House Criminal Justice Committee voted 7-4 to reject a bill to add rape and incest exceptions to the state’s total abortion ban. House Bill 164, written by Democratic Rep. Delisha Boyd, would have allowed girls younger than 17 to have abortions if they became pregnant as the result of sexual assault.

“That baby [in the womb] is innocent … We have to hang on to that,” said committee member Rep. Dodie Horton, R-Haughton, who voted against the bill. Rep. Lauren Ventrella, R-Greenwell Spring, also voted against the legislation, saying the proposed law would be difficult to enforce. Teenagers who had consensual sex might feign rape or incest in order to get access to abortion services, she suggested…
Dr. Neelima Sukhavasi, a Baton Rouge doctor specializing in obstetrics and gynecology, also implored the lawmakers to approve Boyd’s proposal. She and her colleagues have delivered babies for pregnant teenagers, including mothers as young as 13, since Louisiana’s abortion ban went into effect two years ago. These young pregnant people can experience health complications that affect them for the rest of their lives, Sukhavasi said, and sometimes don’t have the mental capacity to handle the births. “One of these teenagers delivered a baby while clutching a teddy bear,” she told the committee.

The Committee also killed three other bills: HB 56, to allow abortions in cases of spontaneous miscarriage or nonviable pregnancy; HB 63, to clarify that the removal of an ectopic pregnancy is not an abortion under state law; HB 293, to add protection for physicians who do not intend to induce abortion by prescribing certain medications.

Texas

Meanwhile, in Texas—a state that pioneered the war on women and reproductive rights—a man initiated legal action to sue people who helped his former partner obtain an out-of-state abortion.
The man, Collin Davis, filed a petition in a state district court seeking permission to launch legal depositions to collect evidence for a potential lawsuit under a Texas law that contains civil liability for anyone who “aids and abets” an abortion. According to his lawyer, Jonathan Mitchell (who crafted the anti-abortion law), Davis is seeking to sue “co-conspirators and accomplices…involved in the murder of [his] unborn child.”

“Fathers of aborted fetuses can sue for wrongful death in states with abortion bans, even if the abortion occurs out-of-state,” he wrote. “They can sue anyone who paid for the abortion, anyone who aided or abetted the travel, and anyone involved in the manufacture or distribution of abortion drugs.”
Molly Duane, a senior staff attorney with the Center for Reproductive Rights, described Mitchell’s statement and general approach as misleading “fearmongering.”
“People need to understand that it is not a crime to leave Texas or any other state in the country for an abortion,” said Duane, who is working with lawyers from the firm Arnold & Porter to represent the woman and others targeted in the Davis case. “I don’t want people to be intimidated, but they should be outraged and alarmed.” Duane described the woman’s relationship with Davis as “toxic and harmful.”

Mitchell also represents a different man who pursued a similar claim last year: Marcus Silva engaged Mitchell to sue the friends of his estranged wife for allegedly helping her obtain abortion pills. Evidence later revealed that Silva knew about the plans beforehand and did not intervene, likely intending to use the threat of legal action as a way of forcing his partner to halt divorce proceedings.

Monday’s counterclaim illustrates, in painstaking detail, exactly how Silva—aided by Mitchell—allegedly deployed this tactic. It was only after Brittni’s abortion was complete that Silva revealed he knew about the plan and, according to the lawsuit, threatened to turn her in if she didn’t submit to his continued abuse. He even showed the police photographs of messages discussing the possibility of an abortion. “Once I finally got home with the girls he had been drinking and he told me that he knew,” Brittni texted one friend. “He’s using it against me.” In another message, she wrote, “Now he’s saying if I don’t give him my ‘mind body and soul’ until the end of the divorce, which he’s going to drag out, he’s going to make sure I go to jail for doing it.” […]
The counterclaim points out another flaw in his argument: Silva himself “is responsible for the alleged injury for which he seeks to recover.” He “knew that Brittni planned to terminate her alleged pregnancy and acquiesced in accepting Brittni’s actions,” so “it would be unconscionable to permit him to benefit by changing his position now.” His claims, in short, are barred “by unclean hands,” because he effectively entrapped his estranged wife—covertly discovering her plan to terminate the pregnancy, then allowing her to go through with it for the express purpose of blackmailing her into staying with him.

Indiana

A three-judge panel of the Indiana Court of Appeals last month unanimously recognized a religious freedom challenge to the state’s complete ban on abortion.
The case, brought by Hoosier Jews for Choice and four anonymous women of various faiths, alleges that the ban interferes with “their sincere religious beliefs that require and direct them to obtain abortions” criminalized since the law took effect in 2023. According to Jewish law, a fetus does not have personhood until birth, and abortion is required if the pregnancy endangers the life or health of the mother.

Brief of Hoosier Jews for Choice (and other plaintiffs): As indicated by the declarations of numerous rabbis, Judaism teaches that a fetus becomes a living person only at birth, and prior to that is considered part of the woman’s body, without independent rights. Abortion should occur and is mandated to end a pregnancy that may cause serious consequences to a woman’s mental or physical heath. Judaism also recognizes that physical health risks are not limited to those likely to cause substantial and irreversible impairment of a major bodily function. Judaism stresses the necessity of protecting the physical and mental health of the woman—a life—over the potential for life present in a zygote, embryo, or fetus. Therefore, restrictions that prevent a woman from obtaining an abortion where compelled by Jewish law, which mandates that the woman act to protect her physical or mental health, impose a substantial burden on that person’s religious exercise.

Under Indiana’s Religious Freedom Restoration Act (RFRA), “a governmental entity may not substantially burden a personʹs exercise of religion,” defined to include “any exercise of religion, whether or not compelled by, or central to, a system of religious belief.” This means that arguments about whether plaintiffs are strictly observant are irrelevant; the law protects sincerely held religious views regardless of whether that view is idiosyncratic or unorthodox. However, even a law that imposes a substantial burden on the exercise of religion can be enforced if it is “the least restrictive means of furthering [a] compelling governmental interest” (the strict scrutiny test).
The state argued that abortion does not carry “religious significance” and, even if it did, the abortion ban satisfies strict scrutiny because it is “sufficiently narrowly tailored” to “further the State’s interest” in “protecting human lives in the womb.” Throughout Indiana’s brief, the state attempts to use science to back up fetal personhood, extending developmental physiology to make unfounded claims that protected life unquestionably begins at conception:

In lower courts, the State’s compelling interest is not up for debate. In Cheaney v. State, the Indiana Supreme Court held that the State’s interest in protecting unborn children is “valid and compelling” from “the moment of conception.” …A basic understanding of biology supports these holdings. “That human fetuses are human beings is a scientific fact, not a theological claim.” Regardless whether an individual person believes this, “the scientific consensus” is that “[d]evelopment begins at fertilization,” after which the newly created “unicellular zygote divides many times and becomes progressively transformed into a multicellular human being through cell division, migration, growth, and differentiation.” …. Science thus tells us that “[t]he act of performing an induced abortion during any stage of pregnancy, from fertilization up to birth, ends the life of an innocent human being.” The State’s interest in protecting unborn fetal life at any stage from intentional destruction accordingly is nothing less than “compelling.”

A panel of the Indiana Court of Appeals—made up of a Republican appointee and two Democratic appointees—unanimously ruled against the state, upholding a lower court’s injunction against the abortion ban as it applies to the plaintiffs. In the process, the court laid out a path for religious freedom challenges to abortion bans in other states and at the federal level.

The trial court found that absent a preliminary injunction, Plaintiffs would be irreparably harmed by the loss of their religious freedoms guaranteed by RFRA. A loss of First Amendment freedoms, which include the right to free exercise of religion, “for even minimal periods of time, unquestionably constitutes irreparable injury.”... Without a preliminary injunction, Plaintiffs will suffer the loss of their right to exercise their sincere religious beliefs by obtaining an abortion when directed by their religion and prohibited by the Abortion Law. They also have shown their sexual and reproductive lives will continue to be restricted absent the injunction and as a result of the Abortion Law.

• Briefs can be found under case number 22A-PL-2938 on Indiana’s Appellate docket

My Q (stbxh) is coming back to the area after getting kicked out of a rehab center. He eloped from campus and got alcohol. He will be staying with his uncle but I just have such a bad feeling about it. We were messaging a little bit yesterday and he got very upset that I wouldn’t talk on the phone with him. I’ve set boundaries that I won’t do small talk and that I need to know exactly what he wants to talk about so that we can stay on track and not debate or argue. I didn’t know that he was discharging today so he was extra frustrated. Then he was messaging angry and hurtful texts telling me to stop “playing victim” and to stop “stonewalling with boundary fears”. His entitlement is astonishing. Furthermore, he just wants to sweep his past to the side and move forward. I’m doing my best to keep my side of the street clean, attend meetings, and talk with my counselor. I voiced my fears to his family who say “he would never hurt you or the kids”. But he is sick, desperate, and sees me as the bad guy who has what he wants and feels entitled to. Plus, if they think they can control him, when a “top of the line” rehab couldn’t, then why should I trust them over my own intuition? I sent the messages to my lawyer and will be contacting him today. I just want to get some support from this community. Thank you

Left me Sunday citing his mental health was too bad( even though every time he has had a breakdown I was the only one to help him through it ) , keeps letting me down , live too far away, issues with my dietary restrictions etc etc . Argued and eventually he hung up on me . I sent a letter and his clothes 2 days later which I received a message by the post office was delivered (left in safe place) today around midday. Not a word from them, unsure if they even got it . Tried to apologise for how I reacted, sorry if our one year made him think he had to consider if he’d have to move here one day (I own a house he asked if I’d want him to move here one day and I said it’d make sense ) a few weeks ago, said I care for him and to think about how he feels and if is happier now I understand and will move on but hope to hear from him and would be there for him etc . Nothing - 8 hours later . Figure my only choice here is no contact - I’ll rather move on and have some dignity instead of calling and texting like i want to do and chasing or he will reach out before it’s too late. Everytime he has left in the past he reaches out a few days later apologising because his mental health got too bad , so it’s possible but it’s def true he has been struggling in life and I can’t bet on it and honestly he would need to be open to help and getting off drugs if he came back so maybe it’ll be for the best .
I hope to hear from him and he comes back - if I’m being honest . But I’m not going to contact again, he has his stuff, I’ve said my piece , said I want to be in his life , left on a good note rather than crying during a breakup and have to leave it now . Give me strength please . It’s the right thing to do yes ?

Here’s the decoded text of the second or third ? Puzzle….
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I (M33) recently had an ex (M38) from a year ago message me saying he wanted to get closure from how things ended, which should be it's own post; but I'll sum it up.
I invited him on a cruise with a friend group. Friend group decided to go to a LGBT mixer. During the mixer, I talked to two separate groups by myself. He became upset when I talked to a guy within the second group and said I was flirting with him. I was led away from the group and followed him to our room.
I apologized for not including him in the conversation, but he became verbally aggressive. Saying I made him look stupid in front of the group and that no other n**** was talking like I was if they were coupled. I then said why are you acting jealous, and to that he said why would I be jealous of you and other stuff. At that point, I leave and go to get a free massage sampler to hope things calm down.
It doesn't, and he texts that I need to talk to him now or my shit is going to be packed up and left outside of the room, I'm a piece of shit, I'm going to guest services. I just ignore them, and I show the texts to a member of the group who was also at the free massage event.
While showing the text messages, the ex comes out of nowhere and cusses at me again and says he's going to guest services and I just say ok, whatever. I go to the room and I see he has his things packed up. About 20 minutes pass and security is at my door reprimanding me and saying we can't have altercations like this. We're gonna revoke both of you all's drinking privileges. And they asked me multiple times if I would vacate the room and sleep in a friend's room since I knew a few of them longer.
I said no, especially since he still $400+ for the trip, and security let him know that he couldn't be moved since the cruise was sold out. They also said that going forward we should just act as though we're in separate trips and not speak with each other.
Security leaves and immediately he is asking to talk it out. In my petty bag, I kept saying you heard what they said. We're not allowed to talk to each other; but I do mention that I'm going to text a member of the group to see if they're fine with him staying in their room since they were become fast buddies. Again, definitely in my petty bag.
He then grabs my phone and makes threats that he'll make false accusations to security if I don't talk to him. Security warned us we would be locked up if they had reports of yelling/fighting and he wanted to intimidate me into speaking with him when I wasn't in the mood after being scolded/chastised.
After getting my phone back, I leave the room. Clear my mind and head back to the room after a few hours. I say I'll talk if he clears it up with security. He tells me that he's already made the decision to leave the ship and his ex bought his ticket to go back to the states from Puerto Rico. He also stated that he would be moving out of town to live with his mother.
After that, we have two more encounters stateside. He had left his keys in my car at the port and told me just to throw them in the trash. Instead of doing that, I sent him an email a week after getting home. I apologized again and told him I would leave his keys with the property management team. But I wanted to see if he actually moved, so I knocked on his door a few times. He then comes out and says this isn't appropriate and he'll call the cops if I come again.
I still do like a dumb ass. I want a response from him, I want a chance for reconciliation and if not at least closure. And yes, at this point I've been blocked on social media and through phones. So I leave a lilac, a favorite movie of his, and another apology note. Still no contact from him.
So I just decide a few weeks later I'm going to stay on his doorstep until he talks to me or calls the cops. The latter happens and I tell them I not there to cause any harm. I just want to speak. The cop just lets me know my ex wants nothing to do with me and I can be charged if I come back on the apartment grounds.
So I leave and that's our last interaction until the day after my bday. Sorry I went long winded, but I wanted to provide context on the break up. I've attached the convo we had earlier.
https://imgur.com/a/UMyT2uH
Do you all feel as though I was an asshole for not giving him the response he was looking for by not saying I didn't hate him? And do you feel like my responses were toxic/dramatic?

The NHS offers financial incentives of up to £400 to obese men participating in a weight loss program that includes supportive text messages.
Read the full story: https://www.ibtimes.co.uk/nhs-paying-obese-men-400-lose-weight-texting-them-avoid-kebab-shop-1724651

The NHS offers financial incentives of up to £400 to obese men participating in a weight loss program that includes supportive text messages.
Read the full story: https://www.ibtimes.co.uk/nhs-paying-obese-men-400-lose-weight-texting-them-avoid-kebab-shop-1724651

XBOX users: Are you looking to buy or sell something for money? This is your thread!

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I have a website where I want to calculate how long a user spends time on my website and display it on the screen. I have built a code which starts the time as soon as the person logs in (I have not made a separate button, the timer starts directly when the user logs in) and stops when the person clicks logout and exits. I have used PHP, JavaScript and ajax to implement these using sessions, and the sessions store the data of the time and after the user clicks logs out the time is stored in the database, we use MySQL (phpmyadmin) as the database.
I am having some problems that I need help for,
1) Accuracy is not maintained when tracking time
2) If the user accidentally closes the browser, the session ends, and the timer is restarted and the previous time is not recorded as the person did not click logout which should be recorded.
3) Logging in from 2 different accounts in same browser showcases same time for both
4) Timer should resume from where it ended in the last login session for the same day
5) I cannot fetch the last logout time and store it in the database

 logout.php $updateSql = "UPDATE timerlogs SET elapsedTime = '$elapsedTime' WHERE id = 1"; if ($conn->query($updateSql) === TRUE) { echo json_encode(["success" => true]); } else { echo json_encode(["success" => false, "message" => "Error updating elapsed time: " . $conn->error]); } } else { http_response_code(400); echo json_encode(["success" => false, "message" => "Invalid request method"]); } timer.php $sql = "SELECT elapsedTime FROM timerlogs WHERE id = 1"; $result = $conn->query($sql); if ($result->num_rows > 0) { $row = $result->fetch_assoc(); $elapsedTime = $row["elapsedTime"]; echo json_encode(["elapsedTime" => $elapsedTime]); } else { echo json_encode(["elapsedTime" => 0]); } index.php  

heyo, i've posted here in the past and i think almost everyone is sick of seeing me already lmfao but what can you do, there isn't any other subreddit or even site/app that i know of where you can find gaming friends.
we're looking for another couple to play games with and become good friends. we take care of our friendships and if there's something wrong or something is making you upset, we can always talk it out. quality over quantity after all (not that our brains can even handle having more than like 4 friends lmao)
we play irregularly - sometimes daily, sometimes every few days, sometimes once a week. i'm more available than my girlfriend is, she's way more busy than me. we usually plan our hangouts down to the hour and try not to miss them. even if we do miss a hangout, we reschedule.
as for the hours, well we tend to switch our sleep schedules every so often, usually we play during late hours (evening in europe) but now we've switched again and are hanging out at an earlier time. so i guess we'd be playing roughly 4-5 hours from now, as of making this post. that's what happens when you're in two separate timezones lmao.
we play co-op games like lethal company, risk of rain 2, deep rock galactic, terraria (recently started a modded playthrough again), rimworld (with multiplayer mods), don't starve together, palworld and a few other games. we're not fans of games like valorant, league or overwatch.
sorry, we're not interested in joining large preestablished friend groups, our social anxiety could never lmao. we'd rather create a tightly knit friend circle with the 4 of us, okay MAX 6 of us. we're also not interested in befriending individual people (like not a couple, yk? no offense just not what we're looking for), we tried it in the past and it ended up with them trying to flirt with one of us like 90% of the time lmao.
sorry for the wall of text, i just like writing stuff lmao can you tell i'm a writer? no, because my writing sucks ass? fair.
anyway, hit me up pal. also i believe reddit chat is scuffed right now so send a direct message instead if you can.

My (30m) twin is in a shitty, dangerous situation in his relationship and wants me and our family to just overlook the severity of it in hopes that everything will just be peachy.
He started talking to a girl over Instagram while living with my parents getting his life back together after a very messed up situation he put himself in with our older brother where he was in danger. My older brother is crazy, controlling, and can physically harm family but needed help and my twin thinks he’s here to help everyone.
This girl (Sally) was verbally, mentally, emotionally abusive before they had even met in person. My mom got to hear them fighting constantly but he’d defend her when anyone would ask or show concern. He shared many very worrying details with me like her telling him he’s basically a loser, and many things she didn’t like about him. He’s already so into her at the time and believes it’s a challenge to overcome that he wants to prove himself. He’s constantly sending these letters and flowers confessing his love.
They finally met where she lives multiple states away. She’s told him multiple times since then in different ways if he didn’t do these trips he couldn’t afford, that she would stop talking to him and that happened any time she’d get mad at him.
She also got him to work for their family business for almost nothing, building their website, selling, communicating with customers online. She didn’t want to keep doing it because she has her own business in shitty art you’ve seen on Instagram a thousand times. But people buy it so good for her, I guess.
When her parents and her happened to be going by where my parents live on a business trip, she asked him to get my parents to lie to hers about their relationship and pretend they were just business partners. My parents were obviously appalled and didn’t agree. They never met.
He eventually moved to her state after maybe 6 months of randomly meeting/dates and her parents being told a lie about the development of their relationship. She refused to stay at his apartment until he had furnished it. This whole time we’re warning him that these are serious red flags and sometimes he would tell her he’s not ok with them. She’d say she has trust issues and when he moved that would go away or some other insecurity or she’ll stop something, but she always got what she wanted.
His lease runs out and they end up getting a pretty expensive place together, plus he’s put a bunch of furniture and a car on credit that he can’t afford because she also tells him if they don’t on enough dates she’ll leave him. She had him get the car because she didn’t drive. You name it. So he’s drowning in debt constantly now for the first time in his life.
Then we start hearing really weird shit. He has to get a new work laptop because he spilled water on it. When my brother finally gets to see me, she tells him she doesn’t trust me and doesn’t leave him alone starting drama the entire trip. They break up and I’m getting verbally abusive messages about how I’m a loser and my relationship will never be as good as theirs. Then veiled threats through apology texts when they get back together. Turns out she poured water on his laptop. She’s been verbally abusing him, calling him a “beta cock loser”…she screamed that he was running her over when she wouldn’t let him drive away, threatened to tell police he was abusing her, he later told me they’ve become physically abusive towards each other.
One day he calls me and tells me to keep a recorded phone call he had with her. She was threatening him, telling him he needed to leave the apartment or something bad was going to happen to him. She threatened other things including using her brother’s connection with the cartel to hurt me and my girlfriend’s family in Mexico where we’re living.
This was the final straw for me and my parents. She’s been blocked everywhere and will never be near us again.
My brother, however, even forgave her for this and kept trying to work on the relationship. Later he did temporarily leave and stayed at my parents house but after she kept calling using different numbers and even emailing him telling him she’d bought self help books, he fell for it and went back.
I quit working with my brother and resigned from our company we started, and have since barely spoken to him except when he texts me he loves me. He thinks we can have a normal relationship and even forgive her too. He thinks everyone should believe her that she’s changing. They went to one therapy session. She barely started one of the audio books (I saw the progress on audible).
I feel like he has no self respect or respect for his family or my girlfriend’s, who loves him by the way. I think he’ll end up in jail, hurt, or continuing with her feeling like a loser and being abused. We’ve tried to help and been there for him countless times but he never chooses us. That’s actually something he’s been doing his whole life.
TLDR: My twin brother is being abused and is ruining his life but thinks he’s in love.

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So I 23m have been through a rough spot for the past 6 months after a break up, I recently decided to put myself out there again I've been picking myself up little by little and been doing great. So last Thursday I met this girl we'll call Alicia 21f and we hit it off in a matter of minutes and it made me feel really good having someone "appreciate" me after a while. So towards the end of the night she offers me to spend the night at hers. In my head I thought oh shit there's no way, so we go to her place and I can't perform yea the ultimate humiliation... I was just so nervous and anxious it was my first time doing it with someone I had just met so we just ended up cuddling and talking the whole time, she opens up and starts telling me that for the last 5 months of her life this is what she's been doing sleeping with random guys she would meet that she thought were cute. And that she was going through an abortion, I immediately felt bad for her, but while she was telling me all this idk I felt more comfortable with her and I could tell that she had some kinda disorder or something (she did confirm she has borderline personality disorder). Well I don't spend the night as in I sleep at her place but I leave at like 6a.m. and head back home. the following morning she texts me saying she wanted to meet me again I wasn't against it but was too tired to hang out that same night so we schedule for Sunday. Sunday comes by we have dinner and go to a hotel this time cause her parents were home and the same thing happens to me, ashamed and defeated... I try not to think about it and just like last time she was really comforting towards me and made me feel better and just keeps talking like I was her therapist(in the moment I was fine thinking back on it makes me kinda feel weird about it) or something and she tells me how last night she slept with the guy that had got her pregnant, mind you at this point I'm not really interested in her more than the sexual aspect of things so yea it felt weird having someone like her in my arms telling me these things but it was kinda comforting (?). We spend 5 hours in a hotel room just talking and making out she offers to pay the bill but I decided to split it. And then we spend like two more hours talking in my car outside of her house. At this point I was starting to get attached but I don't feel ready for a relationship, besides I just met this person. The next morning (Monday) I go to work and she was feeling unwell so didn't go to uni my workplace happens to be 5 minutes away from her so I go visit her and here things go bad I probably hadn't noticed the first time cause we immediately went to her room but the place reeked she did mention she has 6 cats to which I'm allergic to so I was also kinda dieing and at the same time she was trauma dumping on me the whole time and saying how I make her feel better and so many other things that made me feel good but also scared that maybe this was all going too fast for being our third time meeting so then I guess she can sense it from me that I was feeling kinda uncomfortable and starts apologising and I interrupt her and say that it was fine it's just that maybe we're taking things to fast I tells her I kinda like her but would like to get to know her better and I suggested that we shouldn't meet with the intent of having sex and these other guys she's seeing she should probably stop. I'm pretty sure it meant a lot for her not being seen as just a lump of flesh cause she started crying again and it made me feel saddened at the same time because it made me think all she's been through in just these past months, she started this lifestyle, Which also got her pregnant, that was clearly doing more harm than good to her and I cpuld tell that all she ever wanted was some genuine love. So I leave the place cause I was late for work ( I work in a gym my hours are kinda easily adjustable). I get in my car and I have this weird feeling that maybe I shouldn't get this involved in her life for my sake. Throughout the day she sends me so many messages on IG so many reels and posts and then saying "us" so now I'm like well fuck. And I tell her I'd like to talk so we arrange to meet at a park the next day next to her house after I finish work and well, I can't get anything in before she starts trauma dumping on me again, she had gone to the hospital (abortion related) with her father and apparently her father called her a "sex worker" so I just couldn't bring myself to tell her look maybe we should tone it down a bit alright. So instead I just said what I would say to anyone, I was kinda on her father's side while I do not agree with the tone and what was said I told her imagine being a father and your baby has a baby needs to get an abortion because the babies father is nowhere to be seen how would that make you feel also knowing what you've been up to lately it's not easy for all parts involved she kinda agreed and started softly crying and here she told me she had bpd(borderline personality disorder) and apologised for everything and making me go through all this nonsense and purposed to me that I should just leave her, I kinda refused, but I did mention that maybe while texting we should tone it down. So we go back to our homes and I get a call from her telling me that her parents forbid her to go out without having her brother or cousin being there so she obviously was sad about it and I tried convincing her it was for the better, but she was scared that I would end up leaving if this meant not being able to be alone for awhile. I told her that I would do my best but she had to try even harder for her own sake. I feel like whenever she's not with me she tends to overthink everything and just overcomplicates everything on herself I don't want to abandon her but at the same time I don't want to be with someone whose always depressed especially someone I just met I can't imagine how difficult it must be having her condition and I wonder if things will get better. And this is where we're at now I would like some advice on this whole situation I don't have a genuine question just would like some thoughts about it forgive my grammar English is not my first language
Tldr; this girl I've been seeing has had quite the past and would one way or another let it out on me treating me almost like her psychologist. She's been going through an abortion, so recently her parents decided to lock her at home unless someone they know goes out with her and is afraid of losing me because of this. Idk what to do I feel like it's too much for me but I would feel horrible just leaving her like this.

Hello, I was wondering if I could get some advice on this or hear from someone that has gone through this. I would appreciate any feedback.
I'm so grateful that my family loves my baby and I try to keep them updated with pictures whenever we reach a new milestone. I don't share pictures on any social media platform but I do updates through text messages (family group chat).
A few weeks ago my mom showed me some pictures she took with my little one but I noticed she had sent them to someone I don't know. Our family is very small so it couldn't have been any extended family, I assume it was one of her friends? I was caught by surprise at the moment so I didn't say anything but I have been thinking on how to approach this subject. It's their first grand baby so I know they are excited but I don't know who these people are and now I'm wondering who else has the pictures.
How do I go about asking them to be careful with the pictures? Or am I being too pushy if I ask them to not share with people that we don't know personally?