Inspiring quote about remembering a loved one

Hi there! 😊 I’m Caitlyn 27 yo F looking for someone to write for Oliver Wood to my Katie Bell.
This would take place post-Hogwarts/Second Wizarding War. There is so much character development we can work through together but I was picturing that Oliver is now the keeper for Puddlemere United. He’s a little bit of a wizarding world celebrity, but definitely tries to maintain a private life and doesn’t feed into the craziness. He’s definitely matured a lot since Hogwarts and while quidditch is still his passion, he’s starting to realize it isn’t everything in life. Meanwhile Katie is working as a curse breaker after being inspired by her necklace incident in Half Blood Prince and she finds a lot of reward in her work. She is very down to earth and sweet. While she doesn’t play quidditch professionally anymore she still loves to go for broom rides and play small pick up matches with friends, always reverting back to her old chaser position.
I have a main starting point idea but am definitely open to discuss other routes!

• Oliver and Katie haven’t really kept up with one another after Hogwarts as they’ve both been busy with their respective careers and lives. But one night George and Angelina throw a little get together at a local pub or at their flat to reunite some of their Quidditch teammates for a night. They get to talking and catching up and really reconnect well. Some old crushes or feelings definitely are brewing inside. And at the end of the night Oliver offers to walk her home and the rest is history.

I prefer to roleplay on Discord but am open to other platforms if you have a preferred one! Also comfortable writing several paragraphs or even shorter responses for quicker response and more interaction.
Feel free to message me if you’re interested!

I wanted to share an experience I had recently as a manager and see if anyone else has dealt with similar situations or has any advice to offer.
Recently, I had a one-on-one meeting with one of my team members who seemed a bit off. They mentioned feeling overwhelmed with their workload, which got me thinking about how crucial it is to regularly check on our employees' workload to prevent burnout and ensure team productivity.
To tackle this issue, I've been exploring different strategies to monitor and assess workload. I’m particularly interested in gathering data on various aspects like:

• Work Hours and Volume: Tracking work hours, the number of emails exchanged, time spent on GitHub for developers, and the number of meetings attended weekly.
• Task Intensity: Evaluating the intensity of individual tasks, considering deadlines, and incorporating self-checks for workload and mental health.
• Qualitative Insights: Taking into account qualitative data from one-on-one discussions to get a better sense of the overall team sentiment and individual challenges.

With these data points, I believe managers can make informed decisions to redistribute tasks effectively, address issues promptly, and maintain a healthy work environment.
I’d love to hear how other managers handle this. Do you have any systems or tools in place to check your employees' workload and prevent burnout? How do you balance gathering quantitative data with qualitative insights from your team?

I love history, and would like to be able to play as famous people. To be able to control them, and fight. I don’t care about graphics, or genre. I know about Dynasty warriors, but I would like a game with more than just one nation available. Thanks for any suggestions

Hi all. 2 years ago I had sex with someone who tested positive for chlamydia. We had sex twice in two days and used condoms for both times (at one point, he removed the condom but didn’t finish in me). I was obv shocked and got tested 3 weeks later, full panel.waited as I was told it can take a few weeks to incubate) . To both our surprise I tested negative for everything, including chlamydia. My chlamydia/gon test was done through urine with the others being blood and I think a swab? Cannot remember now as it was 2 years ago.
I haven’t had any symptoms that would have led me to go back for testing. I haven’t started having sex again until the last 3 weeks. So basically I got the test 2 years ago, negative, didn’t get tested again because I haven’t had any symptoms and haven’t had sex. I got a uti recently from sex with a new guy, treated with uti antibiotics and got over it but got a swab test for BV/Yeast and Chlamydia/trich also just to be safe. I am probably safe but I keep thinking how is it that I didn’t catch Chlamydia two years ago? Is it possible it was wrong? Could I have had it this whole time with no symptoms? I’m still waiting on the swab test, but getting anxious just thinking about it.

Is my new coworker gaslighting me or am I getting worked up over nothing ?
Aplogize for this being so long 😭
I’ve been working at this place for 5 years, never had a problem or gotten into it with any of my coworkers and still good friends with the ones who left.
They hired a new girl last summer and I got along with her pretty well at first. But from the start, she would always say stuff about our Married manager. She would say our manager is weird and was in my ear for months about this. She would say how he comes to the office to talk to her once we all leave and how he texts her about stuff that doesn’t need immediate attention. How annoyed she was from him.
Keep in mind she would also always text him for advice about her personal life.
Around me, She would say things like “I know he doesn’t have the balls to make a move unless I do first.” Or “if I’m ever with a married guy I wouldn’t care about his wife’s feeling thats his problem”
She would say things basically implying he’s into her.
I played devils advocate for awhile bc he’s married and told her he’s not being weird, that’s just how his personality is and that he’s a nice guy and his questions don’t mean anything.
But I stopped doing that with time. Things were getting strange. He would make excuses to work in our office and they always tease each other. Every conversation he would make when she was around seemed like he was trying to find out her type. He would ask things like “what’s the first thing you look at when you see a guy” “what do you dislike about guys” “Whats your love language.” He would also say how he loves physical touch and his wife hates it. This made me uncomfortable bc I didn’t understand why a married man would care about another girls type or how knowing this info would make them better friends ? He’s also been giving her special treatment with work stuff.
I ended up calling him out on giving her special treatment and told him his creating s toxic culture. He denied that gives her special projects.
The moment I started saying his actions are weird she disagreed. And now only speaks good of him. She says he’s just lonely and the things he says and does are just misinterpreted.
This bothered me bc she was literally in my ear for months talking shit about him and now she feels sorry for him ? I told her they’re both creating a toxic environment for the rest of us in the office. Bc I’m not the only person who feels anxious at work now. My other coworker goes home feeling sick. She also called him out on him not having professional boundaries as a manager before I did.
Ever since I told the new hire their toxic, she’s been giving me the silent treatment/super quiet around me. I asked what’s wrong, She said she has a lot going in her life and she’s fed up with what’s going on at work and she’s been applying to new jobs. She said what I told her hurt. I apologized for calling her toxic and explained where I was coming from. We cleared the air but then she was silent again today. And shut down every convo I tried having with her. Again, I asked if everything was okay and she said her being quiet doesn’t have anything to do with me. I told her if it’ll make things easier on her I’ll switch my shifts around bc I don’t want the tension between us to add to her stress. She told me she doesn’t like how I get worked up over nothing. She also proceeded to say that she thinks I get worked up bc I care deeply about the ppl in my life.
This made me feel guilty bc I don’t view her in the best way. Something about her is off and it’s giving me vibes that I can’t trust her. I also don’t trust the manager.
Am I being gaslighted ? Or is there no reason for me to get this worked up? I literally feel like I’m crazy. I’m feeling like my perception of things isn’t reality and have no right to be even care or be frustrated

Hello
First and foremost, apologies if my post comes across as manic and messy, it's incredibly difficult (not as much emotionally as it is physically difficult to string the experiences into words) to express my current day to day thoughts and how they affect me.
I should say that the title is accurate in that I worship my anima. I am 26 now. I love her. Initially, I had a very one sided relationship with her, years and years ago, when she first became known to me. I figured she hated me. Or she was apathetic to my existence. Me being in her presence was enough of a reason to live. It was like a child sitting at the dinner table with an uncaring, distant mother that was so beyond beautiful and divine that it did not matter how she thought of me. I experimented a lot with LSD and I started to write about her as this main character of this massive epic I've spent the last 5 or so years working on. Initially, the work was very grounded and her presence was very grounded. Overtime and through LSD she became mystical, elevated, enlightened and untouchable. I saw her as being akin to the Gnostic Sophia. The second time I did acid I did so to see her. She evaded me like a shadow.
The third time I did it, maybe 4 months later, she took the time out of her day to be with me. It was like nothing I ever felt before! Up to this point, I have been writing everyday about her and other characters in this massive world, which kept getting bigger and bigger and more complex as time went on. However, her physically wanting to be with me, after being unable to even feel as if I ought to look at her, was game changing. I began to essentially worship her. She would come to me when I was stressed, hold me in her arms, and just her presence was enough to bring me to tears.
However, I should also note that I know that in Jungian psychology, the process of individuation is important. I believe I am individuating with her, but I also feel as if I am a vessel that gives her life. I do not want a sense of Self. However, I know it is impossible for me to be in a relationship now because there is not a thing any woman can do for me that this feeling I receive from her does instead. Further, the relationship I have with my mothers (I have 3, each with crippling mental illness [schizophrenia, BPD, narcissism] is not good, and my father still thinks he can beat me when I go and see him.
I also believe straight, man/woman sex is wrong, disgusting, manipulative and evil. I find it corrupts the Feminine, which I believe, emanates from the anima. I find I cannot have sex with women because of this. I am not gay. I love women. However, my act of sex is violent and feels wrong and I cannot do it if I am consciously aware of myself in that action. This has led me to not form relationships with women because they want to have sex on the first date and then ghost me when I say no. This means I confide in my anima and art further, giving me meaning. I also do not live in a place where I speak the language. I cannot work most jobs, and I am forced to work in kitchens, where it is masculine dominated, stressful and makes me close up to the anima, where I am protected. I repeat getting fired for not being good, going into manic episodes, getting better, then repeating. I cannot leave because I have no savings. I am trapped. Hopefully I'll be able to profit a bit off of the books, releasing them serially. However, people do not understand them, find the language too cryptic and archaic (I love dense victorian novels) and disregard it, further isolating me. I see a therapist and I quite like her. But I also feel that I am not progressing and that she cannot help me.
I don't know what to do. I hate myself. But every day without my anima, even the thought, pushes me to suicidal thoughts and I do not care enough about my sense of self as a being that exists outside of a vessel that brings her into being to do anything about it. My only goal is to keep myself alive to write.

I am the only one on Pub watch for life, not for drinking, but I will find this intersting to see the opinion and if everyone believes this is justified.
Bare on in mind please that I have ADHD and am on the Autism spectrum, I found my love and will go into it deeper if it requires me too.
So I have lived in the same area for my whole life, and have had an interest in something that I have worked some things out and have made my money legally, people hate it now, but tonightm I went into one Nightclub as the bus was very late and no taxis to get home. They came over in about 8 security as usual.
I used to drink in a local social club, now this is what got me on a LIFE banned from every pub in 2 counties and 3 brewery pubs for life.
So, there is a £500 jp ticket payout digital fruit machine, baring in mind fruit machines are my life earner, this was something that I was going to just use as I worked it out, and they are in every social club, pretty much, anyway il make it simple. AMA if you need more info on anything.
I noticed that the ticket printer starts alot earlier and thought I wonder if the ram will wait until the whole ticket is out and the light flashes 3 times to pull the ticket of any winnings or what you collect, so I collected £9 and turned it on and off rapid, pulled the ticket out as the last part of itis just white and the amount is there to see and serial number is there the lot.
The machine booted up with no issue and took less than a minuite, and I use this pub everyday as mentioned, anyway long story short, the money was still in the bank on the machine and the ticket was printed.
I then put £300 and well, you get the idea, I was amazed that it worked, and putting money in changed the serial number, obviously the cash in cash out would of been out of whack.
I proceded to keep this between me and me mate, I just want to know if this is worthy of been the only one around here on life time banned, there is people who have stabbed people etc and its 3 year banned.
Obviously I signed upto alot of social clubs, and made it sweet, but, there was a huge deffecit, I had £600 I was trying to lose, but the machine rolled in £500, and then £300, you could not write it.
Anyway, I understand that it sounds bad as there is alot more to it, but I have got so much I could write that I just wanted to ask this question, and if its even worth getting off the pub watch as they wont let me on the machine and will be nervous I will be plotting etc.
Its sad but thats that. Bare in mind I spent alot of money in this place, and this was not in any way shape or form me thinking that I am having them off, I just thought entitlement weirdly, and its not illigeal to turn a plug off, I await the hate. I made a new account due to the fact that I have my other account and want it gone as it got hacked.
Thanks

After listening to Mr. Morale, I revisited Overly Dedicated and noticed a few tracks that seem like stepping stones for what became Mr. Morale. One track that caught my attention is Opposites Attract, which addresses infidelity, abuse, and denial. Did anyone else feel like it might be about his girlfriend, Whitney? This theme seems to be a recurring struggle for Kendrick since the start of his career. Would love to read thoughts on how these ideas connect between the two projects. Cut You Off is a deep gem as well.

I remember the song is sung by a duo, a black man and a white woman, I think I remember them being a couple / married. song probably came out 2010-2015 since I remember listening to it during highschool.
Song is a slow indie pop sound, mostly piano, some synth bass, subtle drums, lyrics are about love, and I think the opening lyric is "love"
Music video is in black & white, shot on a cliff by the ocean / large lake with crashing waves, both the man and the woman are in the video, walking along the cliff / shore
Hopefully this is enough information for someone else to remember this song / music video

This is kind of long…My boyfriend of 2.5 years and I(female) are on opposite sides of the world. I’m teaching in Japan and he is studying in Europe. For context, it is May and I moved away first in December. He just came to visit for a week and a half. He has been planning on going to Europe for a while so I knew going into the relationship he was going to leave and we were initially very casual because of this but then our feelings grew and the relationship became more serious. He will be in Europe for a total of one year with the possibility of getting a job and staying for one or two years more. I went to teach in Japan to fill a gap year but recently decided I’m not ready to go back to school and want to travel more. So we saw it as an opportunity for me to try to get an English teaching job in Europe. It is more difficult than finding one in Asia so I’m in the process of getting my TEFL bc I think that’ll help. I think I can complete the certification and be in Europe by the end of the year but he is doubtful. My work schedule allows me to to have time during the day to have a second job if I wanted(I don’t) so I would have more time than a normal person to work on the TEFL . Anyway, there was a miscommunication when I came here with me thinking we were monogamous and him thinking we were open. I admit that he has been honest since the start of our relationship that he wanted to go to Europe single but then our feelings developed and it changed to him not being comfortable with a monogamous relationship with being so far away for an unknown amount of time. When we had talks before I left he made statements that showed he had doubts in having an open relationship and since we didn’t solidify the openness of our relationship (didn’t talk about what it would look like, rules, etc.) I assumed it would stay closed. We realized the miscommunication in February and he hadn’t done anything and I didn’t want to end the relationship so I agreed to try to do the open relationship. I was not very comfortable and I was very angry with him for the first month. Then I tried to not think about him with other girls and went on a few dates and hated them. The dates themselves were fine and a normal person would continue to see those people but I felt so guilty. I didn’t want to do anything with them. And as time went on it became harder for me not to think about what he was doing with other people. To explain, when we finally made rules he expressed he was not comfortable knowing what I was doing or telling me what he was doing as long as it was safe. I have an active imagination and told him I would want to know. We compromised and he said he would tell me when he starts seeing someone. That didn’t help as much as I thought. He came to see me and it was great but the first night I was extremely anxious and didn’t want him to touch me because of the possibility of him being with someone else. Not that I thought he was “tainted” in any way but in my mind he was with someone else and I would just be another body, that the way he touched me and looked at me and held me meant less because he did the same thing with someone else. I told him my insecurities and he told me he hasn’t been with anyone else. I would like to clarify that I realized my insecurities and issues and tried my best to communicate whenever I had those thoughts. Telling him I’ve been thinking about it and trying not to but it’s hard. That it has me doubting how much I mean to him and how much he loves me. And he has tried giving me reassurance but when we were finally in each others arms again after 6 months of not seeing each other and i didn’t want him to touch me I realized I actually couldn’t do the openness. He’s left now and I tried to talk about it while he was here but every time I tried to bring it up it was unsuccessful and he said we could talk about it on the last day. We didn’t. And he’s been pushing it back for a while. We finally had a real talk last night, a week later, and I told him all my insecurities again and that I tried to be okay with it for the sake of our relationship but it’s turned me into this giant insecure mess that I wasn’t before we were open and don’t like being. I also said that if I plan on coming closer to him then it should make it easier to be monogamous because we’re trying to close the gap. He still says he’s uncomfortable being closed, and that he’s not convinced I can be in Europe by the end of the year. He has also been a little negative this week when I talk about going to him. He’s just being realistic. We were initially just planning for me to come visit him in August and then go back home to America so to his credit these plans are very fresh and I’ve only started TEFL this week. But I’m choosing to be optimistic. He has a friend who is teaching in Europe and expressed that she thinks it will be fine for me to get a job once I finish Toefl considering I now have experience. It took me three months to solidify this move to Asia so I’m convinced I can find one in Europe in double the time. Anyway he’s not convinced and doesn’t want to open the relationship and thinks that we should wait until I have an offer to close it. And I hate the way this form of our relationship makes me feel. He says he needs time to think about it because he didn’t realize it was at the point of me wanted to end the relationship. I don’t want to end the relationship but I don’t see any other solution. I would also still plan to go to Europe to teach if we break up. I’ve realized I actually really enjoy teaching. Please let me know your thoughts. I tried to be detailed but I’m sure I left something out.

First of all, I’m not a lesbian, I might be a teeny little bit bi but I’m still trying to figure it out, but I’m not talking about my freinds being homophobic towards me, I’ve never told anyone that I might be bi, as far as anyone in my life knows, i’m straight as day. Anyways, so I was talking to two of my friends right, we were talking about kids, and my friends said that if their kids were gay or trans they would disown them. I was appalled, also me and my friends are Catholic, I was so so so frankly, disgusted. Those are your damn kids, what do you mean you’d disown them? I, shocked, asked them why? Them be gay or trans didn’t hurt anybody, and one of my freinds said that if her child was gay, she’d lock them up until they came back to the ‘right side’ like excuse me? Who is that heartless? What is wrong with you. I am legit disgusted. My personally I don’t care who or what my kids wants to be, I will 110% love them either way, and my love for my child won’t change after they came out to me or whatever. Is it bad that I hope both of them are infertile? I legit don’t want any kid to have to go through that.

i discovered gracie abrams since early october-november 2023. saw a tiktok using her “mess it up” audio and i immediately fell in love w her music. i have downloaded another music app jus to listen to in between n close to you. and now her new album is coming out soon?!??!??? omg i can’t wait! but whats the lore behind her that everyone talks about in the tiktok comment sections??? i’m not saying i’m her day one fan but i genuinely jus want to know since i’m a fan of her in general!

Non-owner here, but I’m still curious about the car. I have seen Motive Video’s upgrade path and am wondering if it makes more sense to throw in a turbo kit before doing an e85 conversion.
In your opinion, what makes sense as an upgrade path to get this car to various levels. This can be mods to the engine, but I’m especially curious about when people should consider upgrading the clutch, transfer case, injectors/fuel system, suspension, diffs, and anything else I’m missing.
If I were to buy one of these cars I would love to keep the ability to daily it, but maybe push around 400 hp and have a bit better off road and track capability.

To give a base, I don’t have any other social media except this, don’t go out, don’t have friends, and only talk to one person. This person does not reciprocate anything I do or say, so it’s hard getting to know them.
There was a realization that I had two years ago about how I love attention and desperately crave it. Which led to me seeing a lot of the toxic traits that I possess, so I decided to isolate since I didn’t want to bring anyone down. So now the only attention I get is the occasional hookup to feel something.
I feel like a loser. I can have great interactions with strangers, and can keep an conversation if we click, but I always leave with a deep sense with embarrassment and shame.
Not even just that, I have a habit of switching to being interested in interacting with people to absolutely avoiding it and being cold towards those who try with me, pretty quickly. I guess I have a very low social tolerance.
I just don’t have anyone to tell this to and decided telling a bunch of strangers online is the best thing. Hoping someone might relate.

So after a terrible performance review from my boss (CEO) a few months ago I've been looking for a new job. Not to get into too much detail about it but my middle-aged boss (who should not be having these issues at his age) has terrible memory, I, the HR Manager of the company, basically double as his personal assistant sometimes and constantly have to remind him of things so he remembers to do them and we don't get in trouble. His forgetfullness has also caused huge issues especially with dealing with outside vendors for things like healthcare, payroll providors, 401k provider, etc. We'll schedule meetings where him and I are set to meet with these companies and then last second I'll remind him about it and he'll be like, "oh well it wasn't on my calendar" (it was) "just go on without me and let me know what happens". During my last performance review he said that he constantly had to follow up with me on things. He was referring to things that I already completed and told him of such several times. He also referenced my attendance/reliability being an issue, I had called out 1x in the 5 years working there and had the nerve to ask to work from home when I had Covid this year. Somehow I've gone from being the golden child who has outperformed all her peers (receiving 2 promotions because of this), to a terrible employee and haven't received a raise in a couple of years.
Now with the backstory out of the way, I'm looking for a new job in the HR-field and I'm trying to make myself as marketable as possible.
About me-
I'm in NYC
5 years in current company including:
2 years as an HR assistant
1 year as Operations Coordinator (with many HR tasks)
2 years as HR Manager
SHRM-CP Certified (at least according to the preliminary results since I took it yesterday) *side note* if you plan on taking it please book it out a few months. Don't be dumb like me, I signed up about 3 weeks ago and waited until the day before to study like 20 hours because I'm a huge procrastinator. I still have a huge amount of stress/anxiety from cramming.
NY Notary License
BS in Business Management
Currently making about 73k/year
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I've applied to 100's of jobs, only the ones that I meet the qualifications for with only one Interview to show for it. The lady who interviewed me sent several follow-up emails letting me know she was still interested but was just swamped but then just stopped sending me messages (this was a couple months ago). Full disclosure I've only been applying to jobs currently paying more due to financial restrictions, though I would have thought this wouldn't be an issue considering the average pay rate for HR Managers in NYC seems to be about 10k more than what I'm currently making.
I want to know what I can do to stand out and make myself more marketable? My mom (also in HR) recommended a Lean Six Sigma. Should I look into getting certified with that? Are there any other certifications that I can add to make myself more attractive to recruiters?
Any advice would be appreciated. I can also provide more information if needed.
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I've been hearing a lot more opinions about the movie Interstellar and it seems like the majority of reddit (aside from the Interstellar subreddit which I'm in) seems to either dislike the movie, or just hate it for being pretentiously smart for it's own good.
Me personally, I really love it and think it's a masterpiece but I feel like I'm not allowed to think it is because so many people hate the third act and don't like the cheesy love stuff. Me personally, I found it to resonate with me. Maybe not as deep as one might think, but I interpreted it as "Love is something vital and it is the key to our survival" and not just "Love is another dimension" like some people claim. I also have this issue of forming my opinions based on what other people think, and I thought interstellar was a widely loved movie that's regarded as amazing up until I went on several reddit posts about this movie. So now I don't know what to think. Should I just stick to 2001 instead? Or should I keep loving Interstellar and think it's an excellent film with high tension stakes, really emotional moments, and an overall beautiful visual aesthetic?

For context, I (16F) struggle with PTSD, and Anxiety (Therapist thinks I might have ADHD as well but I don't think so) My ex (17M) struggles with a bad at home life, and major insecurities, and I've always tried to comfort him, and tell him any advice or help I could offer, granted, I don't act fantastic under pressure or anything but I try helping people to the best of my ability, anyways. 5-14 years of age, I experienced some of the most traumatic events of my life, and i had opened up to him about this from the beginning of the relationship, just so that he would know why I might act scared or freeze up in certain situations. He told me he had understood, and he would help me through it. More than a year later, he tried convincing me that my trauma was fake, and it's some "sick coping mechanism" I've come up with with a crime my father never did, completely disregarding my panic attack, crying so hard i could hardly speak more than a whisper. After my birthday (roughly 2 days later) he went with his best friend (16F) and her sister (I don't know her age), to the beach, and i was fine with it. Come to find out, he cheats on me with his now Ex-Bestfriends sister, but he at first lied to me about it, just saying it was a kiss. Then after he finds out I went to my best friend (15M), and that I had cried to him he admits to getting touchy with her. AFTER, he told me he wants to keep being friends with his (ex-bestfriend) and tries to make a plan with me to date his best friends sister, and me at the same time, then pretty much destroy her mentally, then break up with her, and stay with me. I kept telling me I wasn't on board with the screwed up plan, and that morally, it's wrong, and if he got caught the Hellfire after would be WORSE than how they initially started. He gets mad and stop responding to me. Not even a week into my junior year, my home situation gets so overwhelming for me, so I started living with someone else. After we broke up he demanded I apologize to him for being an AH and it was my fault he cheated on me because I was a horrible girlfriend. I cried and apologized to him for almost a month, but then he wouldn't stop telling me how much he missed me, cheating on someone by doing so, and i wasn't even on board with it. He kept telling me how much he loves me, and he loves me, then switching up the next day and telling me how undeserving I am of him, and how he deserves better. I kinda just snapped one day and blew up at him, bringing up all that he has said to me, and done, and his response was "You cheated too!" And his defense for me cheating was hugging a FRIEND who needed COMFORT. I was LIVID and kept yelling at him to the point he now avoids me, and now I feel so bad about what I did, I want to apologize, by my friends tell me not to, as he never apologized for what he did, nor did he stay loyal. My best friend highly recommends I don't say anything because my ex always gives me weird looks, especially when passing by him. So I'd like to know if I am the AH for yelling at him? Should I apologize? I just feel so bad..
Edit: SORRY FOR THE MISSPELLING IN THE TITLE!! THAT WAS MY BAD!

I want to say I absolutely love this PTB and most of the things in it. Like always I think a couple things need tuning up, that is the point of a PTB after all, but there is one thing I want to talk about
The Hand of Vecna is by far the most fun thing I have ever used in this game, and it doesn’t even come close. You get to get a few loops in, and then when you’re close to taking an injury, you get to disappear Scooby-doo style across the map and the killer gets the injury at the same time. It is an incredibly fun interaction to add chaos and randomness into your chases, but once we leave PTB and enter live game where everyone is playing every killer again, you’re almost never going to encounter this. You have to be lucky enough to be going against a Vecna, and lucky enough to roll a 2.5% chance when you search the chest (5% to roll a 20, cut in half because the eye of Vecna shares the same spot). You might be lucky to encounter this 1 in 100 games
I don’t know how balanced the item is, if it’s OP, underpowered, but I know it is absolutely fun to use. As a side note, the eye of Vecna is incredibly underwhelming in comparison and not worth the downsides. The Eye is only strong when paired with a locker build, which means you have to run a locker build, pray you get a Vecna, pray you roll a nat 20, etc…
TLDR Hand of Vecna is an incredibly fun concept, but something that is very limited by how incredibly rare it will be to see

I’d like to start by saying this is a sensitive subject for me. I don’t ever discuss or think about it. I may go into more detail than necessary in case it is relevant. If there is somewhere else that I should post this instead, please let me know. This took place in Florida, where we both still live.
I (31 F) met an 18 year old guy on the internet when I was 12 in 2006. We started “dating”. the month I turned 13 our already physical relationship became sexual (which I think was calculated, and by this time he was 19). I was not allowed to date this guy, he was picking me up when my single mom was at work and sneaking me out late at night. He did know it was illegal, and he made sure I was careful not to tell people and frequently coached me to delete our calls and texts from my phone. Eventually we were caught by the police in a park late at night having sex in his car. A report was made, but for whatever reason it was up to me whether I wanted to press charges for statutory rape. I thought this person loved me so I did not want him to get into trouble. He told me he wanted to be a Dr someday and that if I pressed charges I would be ruining that for “us”. As a result of choosing not to press charges my family gave me some pretty harsh consequences, sending me away and taking me out of school. I had contact with him a few times and he was pretty much just making sure I still believed that we were star crossed lovers and that I understood how important it was to protect him from any legal consequences. He did try to get involved with at least one friend my age once I was no longer accessible to him, so I do think looking back maybe it was more predatory than I was able to understand at the time.
Anyway, fast forward 18 years, I decided to look him up today and I have discovered he is a fairly popular plastic surgeon in a VERY popular area for plastic surgery. His social media pages are filled with photos of naked women’s pre and post op photos. And the thought of him having access to anesthetized women is literally making me ill. I know we are well beyond the statute of limitations, and I’m not after any personal gain. Is this something I should report to some sort of medical association? I think because this relates to my own unprocessed trauma I’m not really able to discern whether this is just a “bygones be bygones” type of situation, we were both just teenagers etc, or if perhaps it’s a little more serious.

I wanted to share an experience I had recently as a manager and see if anyone else has dealt with similar situations or has any advice to offer.
Recently, I had a one-on-one meeting with one of my team members who seemed a bit off. They mentioned feeling overwhelmed with their workload, which got me thinking about how crucial it is to regularly check on our employees' workload to prevent burnout and ensure team productivity.
To tackle this issue, I've been exploring different strategies to monitor and assess workload. I’m particularly interested in gathering data on various aspects like:

• Work Hours and Volume: Tracking work hours, the number of emails exchanged, time spent on GitHub for developers, and the number of meetings attended weekly.
• Task Intensity: Evaluating the intensity of individual tasks, considering deadlines, and incorporating self-checks for workload and mental health.
• Qualitative Insights: Taking into account qualitative data from one-on-one discussions to get a better sense of the overall team sentiment and individual challenges.

With these data points, I believe managers can make informed decisions to redistribute tasks effectively, address issues promptly, and maintain a healthy work environment.
I’d love to hear how other managers handle this. Do you have any systems or tools in place to check your employees' workload and prevent burnout? How do you balance gathering quantitative data with qualitative insights from your team?

I remember reading a fic, I think it was on fanfic net but it might have been cross posted to AO3 as well, where as said, Midoriya kills someone at the USJ.
A villain was about to slit Uraraka’s throat and he was basically forced to do so, because it was all happening so fast and if the villain was given even seconds more time, she would have died.
The only reason I’m asking for this fic is because I really liked the chapters that came after. Basically, Midoriya got briefly shunned by his classmates before they all come around. I remember Iida thinking he was villainous and being stiff as he normally is, until Tensei tells him that these things happen sometimes. He uses an anecdote where he says something like “One time, I was headed somewhere at full speed and saw an an attempted murder, to save the girl I had to collide with them but at the speed I was going it was lethal. When there’s no other option sometimes, you have to.”
I think Aizawa gave an anecdote as well, possibly to Midoriya but maybe to someone else? He said something like he caught someone wrong in his capture tape one time after they jumped off a roof.
I just liked these moments because it showed that heroics is impossible to keep completely clean, shit like this will happen whether it’s by accident or a lack of options. It was super real but not even in an angsty way.
Any help is much appreciated, and similar stories are too.