Passing online job questionnaires

I find it mildly frustrating when I desire to provide feedback and GPT explains that it can't pass it on and I cannot find a contact or feedback anywhere online for it (less S.N.s)
Thoughts? GPT should really do this. It seems like a, "duh".

I have a Master in Accounting and passed 4 CPA exams but haven't got a license yet. I also have 2 internships in audit and tax. I am thinking of moving to Canada. How easy you think to find a job there?

May sound a bit depressing, stupid, and worrisome, my_qualifications 10th 94% 12th(PCM) 69% BTech Dropout(2nd Year). Doing B.Com Online (From Maniapl Online) wanted to pursue something in finance consulting was immature to decide on doing online took admission during covid time and about to finish the degree in few months. did a few internships in finance marketing and operation all paid. I have done a few certification courses in Trading, Marketing, and blockchain.
Now I don't know if i will find a job i am hearing a lot that companies don't hire online/distance/open graduates. I don't know if i should do master from regular will it help? or should I prepare for CAT and try to get into Tier 2 College atleast, i am not sure if they will accept an Online Degree or look to move out of India. This online degree has really messed up my life my friends from Btech Time are all getting 13-14 LPA placement in top companies and here i am all messed up.
Please Guide me i really need help.

"Credit Recovery" classes are the biggest untold scam in education today. If you don't teach high school, and particularly, seniors, you may not have dealt with it much. Essentially, students take an online "class" to earn credit for a failed course. It is used to bump grad rates among other things.
Well, two teachers lost their jobs for doing exactly what admin told them to do at their award-winning school. https://www.wbir.com/article/news/education/two-teachers-fired-principal-resigns-grade-fixing-investigation/51-65a77977-b5a9-43d2-bfa6-b56184c7a40e
I can tell you flat out this happens in my school and district all the time. It's disgusting already, but to see teachers take the fall is beyond ridiculous.

Hello Reddit, So, She was my colleague and we worked together for like 6 months. At that time we were good together. Our chemistry was good. I did every funny things like pulling her cheeks, her hair, hold her hands for no reason just like a boy wanted to do with her favorite girl and she had no problem with it. We laugh together, sometimes we cry together while sharing our personal life problems. She often tells me everything about her life, good things, bad things, about her problems and everything that at one point she told me that there's no person in my world who understands me better than you. I was in love with her and maybe she knows about everything. (just like the every other girl.) But, deep down i know i've to suffer alot when that day comes when actually one has to go because i know myself, an introvert. I know that i just can't talk with her even on social media after that day & that day happened after 6 months & i left my job. From that day i never messaged her, i even unfollowed her from insta so that maybe one day i can forget her and that's it...
But but, after 1 year passed, she suddenly messaged me on whatsapp like why you haven't messaged me in the last one year and even unfollowed me on insta and i was like what just happened... and we randomly messaged each other just a little bit, nothing more. After some days i sent her an request on insta again & she accepted again... and now, now i'm again in that phase, again thinking about her everyday & every second just can't help myself... but my heart broke again when i messaged her on insta after some days but she didn't reply...
So what's your say, should i try again or just leave it now?? Thinking about why she messaged me again after all that time passed, that stupid things running on my mind all the time now... (ps: In that one year time, i missed her like almost everyday but couldn't tell her or messaged her but i really don't want to lose her "again"...)

Sales Performance and Comparable Sales Decline
Home Depot reported total sales of $36.4 billion for Q1 2024, reflecting a 2.3% decrease year-over-year. Comparable sales were down by 2.8%, with U.S. comparable sales experiencing a larger decline of 3.2%.
Margins and Expenses
Despite the drop in sales, Home Depot's gross margin improved by 45 basis points to 34.1%, driven by lower transportation costs and reduced shrinkage. However, operating expenses as a percentage of sales increased by 140 basis points to 20.2%, influenced by a prior legal settlement and deleverage from top line results. Consequently, the operating margin fell to 13.9%, down from 14.9% in Q1 2023.
Financial Position
Interest and other expenses decreased by $13 million to $428 million. The effective tax rate improved to 22.6% from 24.2% the previous year. Diluted earnings per share (EPS) were $3.63, marking a 5% decrease year-over-year.
Store Expansion and Inventory Management
Home Depot opened two new stores during the quarter, bringing the total to 2,337, with a retail selling space of approximately 242 million square feet. Merchandise inventories decreased by 12%, or $3 billion, to $22.4 billion, with inventory turns improving from 3.9 to 4.5 times.
Enhancements in Post-Sale Experience
The company has focused on improving the post-sale experience, particularly the returns process. Over 70% of online orders are now eligible for self-service returns. Additionally, plans are in place to enable job site pickups or returns to fulfillment distribution centers later this year, aiming to enhance the shopping experience for professional customers.
Source: https://earnings-summary.streamlit.app/?c=reddit&t=HD
With the current pressures on big-ticket items and project deferrals, how do you think Home Depot's strategic focus on enhancing the post-sale experience and inventory management will impact its long-term growth and customer satisfaction?

Hey all, thanks for your interest in my post, I’ll try to be as succinct as I can.
Basically I met someone online for the first time and was lucky enough to actually feel chemistry with this person. We both agreed we felt comfortable around each other the first time we met, I feel really grateful to have had this experience.
The thing is, my mind has been very much set on not going into a serious relationship. The reason being, I am 26 and still working on my bachelor’s (I have 2 years left) and still live at home with my (strict) parents. Mind you, my last relationship did not work out for these reasons :( That being said, you can imagine why my brain has been in “single and get your life somewhat together before you settle down” mode.
But this man I met, I really like him and think he really liked me so I find myself conflicted between abandoning logic and maybe just trying to finish school while entering a serious relationship OR not being silly and risking delaying my life once again. I should add he is 31 and has a very good, but demanding job and I sense he is ready to settle down. My decision is leaning more towards the thought of, I may really like this guy and feel lucky to have met him and I feel compelled to explore the relationship, but I don’t want to waste a 31 year old man’s time in case I decide I truly dont want something serious and I also don’t want to choose the irresponsible path. Logically I think, there will be other fish in the sea when I graduate and finally have a career…but how can I be so sure? Idk! Like I said, I am conflicted, help!
Thanks:)

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I referred a friend of mine to a job in which the manager of the hiring manager verbally told me that he does not personally require a degree for this role. So when I went to refer him, the recruiter reached out to me, and asked me if he had a bachelor's. I told him that his bachelor's for that specific role was in progress, but he has a ton of experience as well. That said, he has an associates of science in a different subject.
I was told that HR would not be able to move forward if he doesn't have a degree for "legal and compliance reasons." I'm not really sure what this means. This is for a data analytics position at an online retailer. What are the legal and compliance requirements of requiring a degree for certain roles?

Hello
35 year old male with minor cerebral palsy here (UK). I've been out of the dating scene for a long while. I had a traumatic PhD from 2014-2019 and simply wasn't in the right frame of mind to go into a relationship when going through that, I didn't want to put another woman through it too. I then did a job that involved shift work from 2019-2022, that along with covid massively compromised my dating life too, 8 years...
I moved back to my hometown, have a house for myself that I enjoy very much but I'm still really struggling with my love life. I've been on a small number of dates from online matches but there has simply been no spark. Either that happens or a date doesn't materialise for various reasons (I like to think I'm easy to talk to but I suck at flirting. I also mention I walk with a limp on my dating profile but I'm also completely independent - just to get it out in the open).
The only time I found a connection with someone was with an amazing woman I met at uni who had a similar level of disability to me, we confided in it but both had our struggles mentally and a relationship unfortunately didn't materialise.
There's no hard feelings about any of this but I worry that the lack of meaningful connections in my life is hurting me. I've only ever had situational friendships and no love life and it worries me. I've tried meetups but again this has only resulted in situational friendships at best. It's difficult to connect with people and I feel resigned to spending the rest of my life alone. I feel lonely.

Hello fellow potatoes! And to the potato queen herself, girl, you're amazing!!! I just found your channel a few months ago, but I'm a huge fan. I don't have a lot of time for videos, but when I do get to watch, I watch yours.
Have I got a boomemil story for you! Let's go on an adventure...warning...I tell stories with rabbit holes and tangents. This is probably gonna be too long. I'm sorry!!!
So, the characters are me (40f), boomer MIL (64f BM for short, like bowel movement bc she's caca), my oldest son, (17m), and my church "mom" (65f CM for short).
A little background: BM thinks she's an awesome mom and grandma even though she's not. She uses my kids as facebook props to show off how "wonderful" she is. The only reason she was around my kids so often was because we went to the same church. She lived 10 minutes down the road from us, but could never be bothered to come over or have anything to do with any of us is if we didn't initiate. She has always said that if we ever try to threaten to keep our kids away from her, like if we were having a disagreement, that she would not fight to see them. We've never threatened to keep our kids from her, she just wanted us to know that she didn't give a sh!t to see her gandkids. So, that tells you right there, that she's a grandma when it's convenient for her.
She's of the boomer mentality that mental health issues are made up and aren't real. "You have nothing to be depressed about." "Just snap out if it." "Just be happy." You get the point. I struggle with depression, I always have. She doesn't understand or even try to understand and is the least empathetic person I've ever met.
When I get overwhelmed, I get depressed, and I start shutting down. My plate is overflowing right now. Between the end of the school year and the possibility of us moving states, I've been overwhelmed. My oldest is a senior and the last month of senior year is crazy busy. I have another child (11m) in public school and this is his last year of elementary school, so this has been an extremely busy month for him. I have 3 more kids that do online public school/homeschool. So, they're home all day with online classes, but since they're a public school, they have mandatory state testing just like regular public school. I have had to take them to do state testing on 4 different days overyhe last few weeks and the meeting place was 45 minutes from home, at a conference room in a mall. I also babysit 3 kids (1m, 4m, 4f), so hanging out for 4 to 5 hours a day on 4 different days with a shitload of kids at the f#cking mall was not easy. Not to mention the positions and "jobs" that I hold at church. To say I'm busy is an understatement.
We've been planning on moving for the last few months because a position at my husband's work is coming open near where he grew up, which is in another state. His parents recently moved back to their hometown after my FIL retired, so one reason for the move would be to be closer to them. They are getting older, so I would be taking care of them once they needed it, so moving closer seemed like a great option. Also, it's a lower COL area than we live in now. Currently we live in the metro area of a capital city and we would be moving to a middle of nowhere po'dunk town.
Told you, rabbit holes, thanks for still being with me!!!
And this is just the straw that broke the camel's back, this is not the only reason for my decision.
So, to the actual story...
Last week, I got a mother's day card in the mail from BM. She's a dollar tree card fanatic. It was a very typical card that she sends me. Nothing handwritten except for "love, grandma and grandpa." This is what she writes in all my cards. (Another tangent...last year my mom passed a month before mother's day and that actual mother's day was her and my dad's anniversary. And I had a super complicated relationship with my momster. So, it was an exceptionally hard day for me. The card she got me said "Daughter" in huge letters on the front. I thought it was so incredibly passive aggressive and completely inappropriate for that year. If it would've been any other year, it would've been fine. Also, she never gets me cards that just say "daughter" so, to me, it was a low blow.) (Yet another tangent...she does passive aggressive crap all the time, for instance when she used to do fb birthday posts, she would always ask me to send her a pic to post. I'm picky about what pics are used and she knows that. Last year, I sent her a great pic of me and her son to use. So, she used one from about 12 years ago that looked like absolute poop. It was a surprise pic, so like not even posed, stupid look on my face. No matter what pic I send, and usually send like 3, she uses a completely different one that doesn't even look good.) I got the card last Tuesday. Hubby happened to be talking to her while driving home from work that day, so when he got home, I thanked her for the card and just wanted to give her a heads up that I hadn't gotten a chance to mail hers yet because of everything I had going on. I kinda broke down and was sharing how I felt and she basically just said, "suck it up, it'll be fine." She's always been dismissive of my feelings, always.
So, my CM is the sweetest lady you'll ever meet. She listens to me, lets me share my feelings without being dismissive, and actually shows she cares. I see her twice weekly at church, and text with her during the week. Since BM has moved 8 moths ago, she has called or texted "just to talk or check in on us" less than a handful of times. She only calls/texts when she needs something or on a special occasion. She called my husband to ask about something, not just to talk. I understand now why the oldest grandson, my nephew, didn't even bother to invite her to his and his girlfriend's baby shower where he proposed. She thinks she's an amazing grandma bc she sends birthday money in a card and posts their pics on Facebook. And, she even stopped posting the kids birthday messages on fb bc she said it was "too much trouble." So, she just sticks to her 30 daily inspirational Bible quotes posts. She's the type that was so pissed off that both of her kids went with courthouse marriages instead of going into debt for a wedding because she didn't get to walk down the aisle at her kids' weddings and post pics on fb. She's mentioned this several times, but definitely wasn't even willing to spend a dime towards a wedding that no one wanted except her. She was also unwilling to take a day off work to go to the courthouse with us. With both of her kids' marriages, the kids and partners were together for a while and had kids before getting married, so spending tons of money on a huge wedding for either of us couples wouldn't have been the best way to spend money.
On mother's day, I gave my CM a card with a few lines written in it about how amazing she is and how I'm so grateful for her. I'm way closer to her than BM. CM is my chosen family and to me, your chosen family is the one that means more because you chose them, you didn't just get stuck with them. My blood family is incredibly toxic, so I stick with my chosen family. CM made a fb post with all that she got for mother's day. It was gifts and cards from her own children, and of course my card as well. CM & BM are fb friends, so of course BM saw it. Also, BM has everyone convinced she's this sweet, little old church lady, but she is far from it.
So, this Tuesday she got her cards in the mail. I always give her one from hubby and myself, and a separate one from our boys. I wrote a nice little note in it. Not long, a line or 2, but it was more effort than she put into my card. She sent me and hubby the following in a group text...
Copy and pasted, only edited out names.
"Got my cards in the mail today. 😭. They were post marked Saturday. You could of kept them til I got there or next year. It's like yall bought them Saturday, wrote a few words and rushed to get them to post office. My heart 💔broken. I thought I deserved better. I wish I could send pictures of my card verses [CM] 😩 card. I couldnt tell which gift was yours. But least I have a year to try do better and be worthy of such wonderful words of love and praise that was written to her.
I don't mean to complain or seem ungrateful but I wished you hadn't mailed them.😭😭. I can't explain how crushed I am.😔 Anyway hopefully I will see yall on the 20th."
Note: my oldest son is graduating on the 20th. She was supposed to drive down and spend the night with us to attend the graduation. I honestly believe she picked this fight because she doesn't want to drive the 6 hours down here.
If you "don't mean to complain or seem ungrateful" then why tf did you send it? I asked my husband what was his initial reaction and he said, "Really?!? All she had to do was say thanks."
So, after I talked to my husband and oldest son (I wanted to make sure everyone was on board with what I was saying before I sent it) , I sent her this response:
"I mailed them on Friday, I bought them several weeks ago. I told you I hadn't mailed them yet because I've been in a deep depression and you dismissed my feelings like always. I have real, valid feelings and you always dismissed them as silly. And come after me because now you're feelings are hurt. Wow, ok. The absolute audacity. And it's not just with your cards that I'm slacking. It's with everything. Because I have depression. I'm overwhelmed on top of that and literally the only thing you care about is a card. I tried to express my feelings the other day on the phone and you dismissed them like you always do. I know things will be fine, but in this moment they are not and you don't get that. Because you don't understand how or why I feel the way I do, then my feelings are silly or invalid to you.
And I never gave [CM] a present. Don't know why you thought that.
Don't worry about coming down on the 20th."
She replies by trying to blackmail me;
"Well my am so sorry I said anything. I never realized you thought that about me. I never dismissed your depression but yes i never knew what to do for you. I am not going to go back and forth about this. I will text [son] and let him know you told me not to come."
She's not sorry to me for being dismissive, she's sorry because now she doesn't get her "Proud MeMe moment" and can't post pictures of her at his graduation on fb. And even if she didn't "know what to do" for me, all she had to do was ask. Or listen. Or give a damn hug. But, no, she just dismissed me bc to her depression isn't real. And she's not going back and forth bc she knows shes wrong! Little did she know that I had already cleared it with hubby and son before sending the text, so I think she thought it would make me look bad to my oldest son that I told her no to come. Oldest son said, "I'm neutral, I don't care if she comes or not. It's not like she's had anything to do with us since she moved, and barely had anything to do with us when she was here."
So, my last text to her said, "He knows. I asked him before I texted you, and he's good with it."
All she had to do was say thanks or not even say anything at all. But, no, she had to say something stupid. Even her own son said that she's lucky she even got a card bc if it was up to him, her actual son, she wouldn't have gotten anything. So, not only is she not invited to the graduation, she's never welcome in my home again. The great part is I don't have to share my holidays with her ever again!!! And please know that I'd never keep her grandchildren from her, but if she wants a relationship with them, she'll have to put some effort in. And we all know boomers hate effort.
If you made it this far, thanks for reading my rant. I appreciate you my friends!

Hi, need some advice. My dad passed away 13 years ago and I recently looked into unclaimed property under his name in New York and found “DISTRIBUTIONS FROM OWNER ON INT (NONADR)” and it was reported in 1991. I’m trying to create a claim and need to show his death certificate, his SSN, and proof of address connecting him to the address on file, which appears to be his last job from 1991. I have his death certificate and his ssn but how am I able to show proof connecting him to that address if I don't have access to his tax returns or any document dating back 30 years ago.

It just makes sense to plan around this stuff

• LA is building rail infra, ahead of the 2028 Olympics. (Buy in '25, sell in '28?)
  
  • Studying: Learn langs; study remotely albeit hopefully with a nice library.
  • Finances: Investing in the area; speculatively, seems like the move. In general, I haven't been growing my finances enough; the play "yesterday" was indices (you'd think... ah well 😅). The play "today" is calculated aggro risks. (I don't think that using expansion plans to pick where to invest is even aggro? Just seems like a long play lol)
    • More importantly, figure out where I could see myself living for at least 3y. 2y study, 3y proj mgmt cert (If I go for at current job.)
  • Career: Branch out of tech focus; build "the story" and use it to leverage into a job that helps me develop personally and professional-skills-ly. (Data, meh; there's also PM'ing. Do we have a shortage? Is that the case everywhere?)
    • I know I need to do this for myself anyways; might as well get brownie points for doing that work for him.
  • Lifestyle: Should give me a chance to get into a healthy rhythm; I can re-find a gym and social circles there based on common interests.
  • [...]: Lang studies in-person until I'm well enough along to learn online. Keep to the Plan. (Holly's "Spooky imitation of Artemis" quote as thought in interstitial space as one of many examples of that whole 'echoic memory for certain lines' thing. I swear that's prolly a thing in neurosci; resonance and such)
• SEA: Buying ahead of The Big One would suck; and I'm already 50/50 on going back. Maybe buy after; be part of the rebuild.
  
  • Having been back... (I seriously need time away. Lol. Fuck that guy) (Evidence from semi-trusted sources and logical level indicate that I might be making a hasty emotional decision; distance was/is a good idea so secure time off.)
    • play the game; you're already "in" (kinda) or at least in a situation that could be worse. (Decent life philosophy -> remember what you still have. Kenny gets it!) long-term game (out of necessity; might as well be better positioned to make career moves.) I'm at the right level to make moves internally - coach under geoff), but short term, I could definitely use a break.
• JP: '25 Expo could be a nice trip, but at this point I can't do both and pursue DE. Vacay could (and most likely will) be a pivot after we ask [...], probably-get heartbroken (yay!), and can do that to feel better. (...Yay-but-actually! 🤣)
  
  • I'm pretty sure that wouldn't be enough. Vacays take me OUT of a routine. I feel better IN routines.
• NO/DE: (Lol, Node): Pending other developments. Likely NO in either case. Could go FR?
  

SEA was good, but... it's really just surrounding myself with people, activities, opportunities. I can do that most anywhere.
What do you think, Mudkip? :pokes cheek, Zee giggles happily: [...] Dw, I like water too, bud. We can stay close to it for now. ^^

For those who applied to Manager positions at the City of Toronto and were successful in passing all stages of the hiring process, what was your experience like? (i.e., what department/division did you apply to, what was the hiring process like, how did you prepare for assessments/interviews and the job overall etc)

Before I dive in, know that I love my wife and I want to fix this. I’m posting in RelationshipAdvice for a reason. It will be a lot, but please don’t read it like an AITA post and pass judgment. I need some honest advice, and I’m miles away from my real-life support network.
The TL; DR is that my wife has (re)developed a bunch of conversational habits from hanging out with her brother. These habits leave me feeling excluded, stressed, and are messing with my work. Trying to address them has opened a whole can of worms, mainly that my wife hates my entire problem-solving style.
I’m keeping details vague in case she stumbles upon this post. Please, if you think my story doesn’t add up, or you think you know where I am and want to offer real estate advice or whatever, keep it to yourself.
We got hitched and moved in together right before before Covid hit. Started off great, but after six months of lockdowns and masks, we realized we could live anywhere in the country without paying through the nose for coastal housing. For context: I work in tech, and my wife is a performer. We met in a bar, and honestly, Covid was the wake-up call that my career hadn’t lived up to my potential, probably due to alcohol. So I accepted the reality that maybe my career isn’t going where I hoped, and isn’t likely to – and instead of chasing after it, we should downsize our expenses. I counted my blessings for having a wonderful wife instead.
I negotiated permanent remote work. We aimed to move to the low-cost state she grew up in. Her brother, who I like way more than my own family, hooked us up with a place to rent near his house. Bigger than we needed, but I was okay with it because it had space for a home office. We boxed up our lives into a truck and moved.
Here’s where it gets complicated. My wife has always been talkative, and she can be pretty dang loud. Not sure how much of this I didn’t fully realize before. When we were dating, we only saw each other a couple of days a week, and in our first place together, we never had visitors thanks to the pandemic. But when she's with her brother, she talks like she's trying to command a room full of first-graders. She also doesn’t adjust her volume when she’s close to me. I have tinnitus, and she has literally made my ears ring by talking while leaning on me
Next up. I feel like a jerk saying this, given what I know about the word ‘shrill’, but hear me out. If the two of us are in the same room, she’ll use a tone of voice that seems intended to be impossible to ignore.
Third, if I try to join the conversation, my wife will interrupt me and steamroll right over me. Part of this is because she has a strange conversational rhythm where she seems to be done talking but then BAM! She jumps back in at an even higher volume, after the pause. So if you think it’s your turn to speak, you get interrupted. She does this even when no one else is talking. She will interrupt me to finish my sentences, nearly always incorrectly. She will interrupt me to tell me I’m wrong about something, ruining my flow. She will interrupt me to take over telling a story, telling it worse by missing key facts and rambling at higher speed.
Fourth, she doesn't seem to organize her thoughts before speaking. At all. Couple with what I just mentioned, you've got her cutting off anyone who dares to chime in until she's “talked out” the subject with everything she can think of. By then, everyone else is bored and over being interrupted when they try to jump in. So, the topic just fizzles out, and she covers that up with nervous laughter.
Fifth, if I try to ask questions to follow along, she gets mad that I’m interrupting her or ruining her flow. So I’ve given up on questions. If I lose track, I either catch up or I don’t. I can’t zone out because of her volume and tone.
Sixth, after she’s been around her brother, she maintains this kind of conversational energy when it’s just us. Her brother can be just as loud, and raises his voice and talks over her right back in the moment. But when we’re in any group that does not include my wife, he’s back to an energy I can converse with. She does not switch back, not unless she hasn’t seen him for at least a week.
Seventh, their parents’ first language isn’t English, and they immediately switch to it as soon as I leave the room. If you know the language I mean, it makes every conversation sound like a fight. I figure, if they’re not including me anyway, why talk in English while I’m around? Why can’t I just leave you guys to talk? No, because then my wife gets mad that I’m a bad host, that I “hate” her brother, or calls me a “rude teenager”.
Eighth, 90% of their what they talk about are their opinions, mostly of family members, reality TV, or random AITA stuff. They just keep regurgitating the same views about people, social issues, capitalism, America, over and over. When I do get to throw in my two cents, they often react with anger. It feels like a low-effort bonding activity: like we’re constantly reaffirming the group values – and verbally punishing transgression – rather than discuss anything new. Her brother isn’t like this away from her.
However I slice this, it’s incongruent. If they want me involved by speaking English, why not let me chime in? If they think they're entertaining me, why not make sure I'm following? And if I'm supposed to zone out, why use a tone and volume that's impossible to ignore?
The impression I get is that my wife thinks my role is to be her passive audience, plain and simple.
There’s more about my job, but first, how I’ve failed to address this so far.
First, the loudness. According to both of them ‘that’s just the way we are,’ so it ain’t changing.
I haven’t addressed the tone, I can’t figure out how to without starting a fight.
Interruptions. My wife has had four levels of reactions when I have brought this up. First, she straight-up ignores it. Second, she acknowledges it, but with an eye roll like I'm just being petty. Third is to get mad, call me an asshole, or accuse me of silencing her. Fourth, she blows up and yells all kinds of crap (“you’re evil,” “you just hate my brother,” and incongruently, “you two are douche-bros together”), which after she’ll say she didn’t mean. She’ll then start crying about losing me, or even making her brother hate her. She’ll make me swear to keep reminding her. But in the moment, when she’s not upset, she’s back to eye rolling.
Rambling. My wife’s response is that I do the exact same thing, and that when I do it, it’s extremely boring. What she means is that if I’m excited by or trying to explain anything technical, she tunes out as soon as she hears a word she doesn’t understand, and stares right through my head until I stop talking. Apparently, this is ‘polite’. Asking questions, saying I'm not interested? Just rude.
How she changes her behavior around her brother. Raising it makes her mad. She has straight-up told me, “I will always pick my brother over you.” In her more honest moments, she’s admitted the thought of me developing a beef with her brother is one of her worst nightmares, so her anger is really for of that outcome, directed at me. She gets that this is counterproductive, sometimes. But this conversation is tough.
Switching in English. They forget this and slip back to ‘politeness’ rules. I have to be careful how I word ‘I have no interest in this conversation’ or ‘You don’t need to talk in English’ or they both say I’m rude and get mad.
My wife has also said she hates the way I solve relationship problems, calling it ‘patronizing hippy crap’. For instance, I ask people what their goal is in saying or doing certain thing (“What’s your intention in talking so loud?”). This immediately makes my wife mad, like she thinks I’m playing sociology professor and using brains to outsmart her. Thing is, she will say a LOT of things she doesn’t mean in an argument, and I tend to take things literally, so I need to check that she doesn’t actually mean “You’re evil”, otherwise the argument escalates for other reasons.
I feel like she retaliates for feeling like I’m trying to impose some kind of intellectual superiority over her by trying to impose some kind of “social intelligence” superiority over me. “Of course people don’t mean everything they say in fucking arguments, are you retarded?”. She’ll misinterpret what I’m saying in a way that implies I’m real dumb, then moves the conversation on before I can defend myself. All of which is exacerbated by how her habits push me out of the conversation.
Onto work problems. My job requires two things from me: hard problem-solving which needs long periods of uninterrupted focus, and rapid incident response. Being interrupted/talked to while I’m deep in work disrupts both of those. Neither my wife nor her brother (who’s a contractor) stick to regular office hours, and they both like to knock back a few during the day. Now, I have no issue with that, but I do have a problem when he comes over, starts drinking with my wife, they have loud conversations which I can hear from my office. Often from one room to another.
My wife doesn’t appreciate me complaining about this since she “should be free to enjoy her own home” and I “can easily get another job.” I’ve tried explaining to her that no, I can’t easily get a job that pays the same in this state. Either I’d have to hunt for increasingly scarce remote work, or we’d need to suck up downsizing and potentially moving away from her brother. She refuses to entertain any of this.
Things have improved slightly since I started composing this post, but only after a chaotic incident. She stormed into my office to look for something, mid-argument with her brother. In frustration, I took off for a drive to clear my head. Of course, there was an incident while I was out, I missed the notification, and got written up for it.
I’ve tried talking to her brother one-on-one. He’s a realist. Rent a private office, and get ourselves into couples therapy. My objection is straightforward: the cost of commuting, office rent, couples therapy (no cheaper here, lower quality by all accounts), on top of our current expenses, exceed what we were paying before we moved. All this because my wife won't adjust her behavior to accommodate my needs, or respect my job.
They often invite me to drink with them during lunch and sometimes suggest blowing off the rest of the day. Despite my repeated refusals, they persist, considering it polite. I find it rude and disrespectful to keep pushing. They've even labeled me as "boring”. But what really grinds my gears is when they invite me out and I decline, they think they've got a right to grill me about why. A few times, when I've had enough of their pestering, I’ll state my position more firmly, and then they’ll get real mad that I’m being “judgmental”, and think I’m better than them. So now if they invite me anywhere, I just shut it down with a simple "no" and zero explanation. Which bugs them, but at least it keeps the peace.
There are a ton of other emergent/secondary annoyances I could get into, but let's cap it at three.
One, since I’ve said they’re both being hypocritical about me being ‘judgmental’ (even though I wasn’t) in refusing to join their plans, when the majority of their conversations are judging other people: it has become a game to them to point out every time they think I’m a hypocrite. I answered my wife from another room once. She brings it up as my ‘hypocrisy’ whenever I mention she’s yelling to her brother in another room, and she’s right next to me.
I think it’s different: her yelling in the house upsets me, but my ‘hypocrisy’, she enjoys that. We aren’t trading vices. If I realize I’m upsetting my wife, I stop doing whatever it is that’s upsetting her. She seems to be telling me that she doesn’t care to adjust her behavior to stop upsetting me. And that the real problem is that I keep talking about it, rather than just quietly suffering through it.
Two I've likely developed obnoxious habits just to maintain some space in conversations with my wife, such as speaking louder to overcome interruptions.
Three, my wife will talk to me at any time, without paying any attention to what I’m doing or even whether I’m wearing noise-cancelling headphones. She’ll interrupt me whilst I’m holding a mop, vacuum, trash bag to remind me to mop, vacuum, or take out the trash. She’ll interrupt me while I’m tackling a chore to give me instructions. I don't understand them, she'll take over, do it the exact same way I was, then huff about it. She’ll interrupt me whilst I’m getting ready to remind me to take my wallet, throwing off my train of thought and making me forget what I was looking for. Which I’ll then forget. She’ll interrupt me while driving, for random observations (‘look, a cute dog!’) no matter how many times I tell her it’s dangerous.
It’s hard to explain how much more restrictive this makes my life feel. I avoid tasks that will take over 20 minutes unless my wife is out. My wife and brother both mock me for traits (lousy memory, lack of focus, disorganization) which they exacerbate with their behavior.
When my wife is away from her brother, she returns to her usual self, the woman I fell for.
My gut tells me her family has a toxic way of communicating (the rest of her family are borderline abusive), and she learnt to town down of those tendencies while away from them. She is more at ease with that way of speaking with her brother, and she falls back to it with him – and is trying to force me to adapt to it. There’s probably a side order of some history of feeling sidelined in male-dominated groups, so she’s acting out on that trauma and making sure out-talks us both. She’s got zero patience for boredom, which is why she butts in and won’t take extra time to make sure I understand – and why she thinks my ‘long rants’ are way longer and more boring than hers.
Her view is that conversations are boring unless people are excited, and excited people interrupt and talk over each other constantly. I hate that, because a conversation just feels like a constant fight to participate. It’s draining and I’d rather not socialize at all.
She describes the way I’d rather talk – back and forth – as “pompous, like you think you’re a king who can’t be interrupted”.
I don’t have a support system here since everyone I know here is through them, and everyone back home still believes I successfully rode off into the sunset. So, Reddit, how do I better communicate my needs to my wife? Both to not lose my job, and to enjoy conversations with her?

I understand everyone has issues and that there's bad things happening all over the world, but I just am at a breaking point. I am 18, I have Cronns disease and the medication I need is outrageous. My mom and dad are not in the picture currently and the rest of my family is scattered throughout other places. I have a job, I am barely affording rent, and I am a hard worker, but I am still in the midst of applying for disability. the mental hospital is not an option right now, as I am the only one that is able to take care of me or afford my medication. I have turned to sex work, and selling photos and videos online and it's like nothing is working. I believe in God, and I don't know if its advice I need or is there even anything I can do in this situation right now? there's only so many times I can donate plasma a week and I still have things I need to be able to afford. I already have BPD and GAD and I am already coming out of pocket for those medications already. Any help is greatly appreciated.

Hi, I bought my house last May - exactly one year ago and a few issues have come to light that neither the seller or my surveyor disclosed. What can I do, if anything?
House is 110yrs old, freehold terrace, Wales.
When purchasing I asked for evidence of the latest boiler service, seller said they didn't have it but its been looked at and its in full working order. Turns out, the boiler hasn't been serviced in 5 years because the previous owner built a cupboard around the boiler which means it can't be opened to be serviced. I only found this out when I got someone in to service it. Also, the system isn't in full working order as the pressure vessel has been replaced and now sits outaose of the boiler (I didn't know this was a repair at the time). Boiler leaks 2l per day fr the tap at the bottom (I've tightened it as far as it will go).
We have also found that by the end of August last year, two walls appear to have some damp issues - there is efflorescence coming out of the walls which takes the paint off in patches. Again, we were told there were no issues with damp by seller and the surveyor didn't pick it up. The house was freshly painted (poorly) all the way through so I suspect they hid it all for the sale.
Unfortunately as many people probably experience, the closer we look at things, the more botched jobs we find. An example of this is not long after moving in, one of the stair treads fell through as I was walking up it - we looked under the stairs and underneath a loosely screwed plasterboard sheet that the had used a 10 inch piece of 1x2 inch wood to hold the step up.
Anyway, I'll stop thee for now but wanted to ask if there is anything we can do legally to try to reclaim some of the cost from the seller? Appreciate it may be too late after a year has passed...
Any advice would be gratefully appreciated

I interviewed towards the end of March (for a legal position) and was offered the position in the beginning of April. I’m actually employed by a recruiter — not by Amtrak directly.
I sent the recruiter all of my onboarding forms (there were a lot) and signed the offer letter in the beginning of April. Recruiter submitted everything to Amtrak.
Initially, I wasn’t given a start date, as the background check had to clear first. After it cleared, I was told a date at the end of April would be my tentative start date.
That start date came and went. My recruiter said we are waiting on Amtrak’s HR to give their final approval (this was told to me at the end of April). I was told it’s just a formality and not to be concerned.
Last week, my new boss at Amtrak told my recruiter that they received the clearance to create the PR for the position, and once procurement approves it, digital technology would be able to create my online profile, and they were confident I could begin next week (so this week). Again, nothing came of it, and I did not start this week.
My recruiter cites bureaucracy and says this is all normal. What do you guys think? I quit my previous job and have been unemployed for over a month now. Should I apply elsewhere just in case? TYIA!

Let’s be clear, this is not a $70 game. Many people spent anywhere from $70-$120+ on Topspin, largely on blanket promises of “more”. Yes, we are to blame if we paid money knowing very little of what is planned beyond “more”- BUT what is certain is that it’s lacking in content and is not worth the current price tag.
It’s no secret that the game is barebones; It’s not secret that the roster is lacking ….but it was a surprise to learn career was online only; or to learn that the gameplay was broken; or to learn that many career designs was poorly decided; or to learn that each new patch is introducing game killing bugs. It’s also been leaked (though not surprising) that this game was rushed out. Given those details, it begins to leave a bitter taste.
They continue to march around with their planned marketing posts on social media, while entirely ignoring the urgent issues that hit the game. There’s still zero communication on what is actually coming to the game, beyond a year long pass of cosmetics. We know more pro’s will be added, but that could mean 2 or it could mean 30. We know that they may introduce additional venues and we know that they are considering new modes…..but we know nothing about what is actually planned for the future of this game. It’s now taken over a week to fix major bugs that are impacting the actual gameplay in matches. Given their handling of communication, plus the baffling in-game design choices, and now their struggles with a hot fix….how much can we really trust them?

I’m 21F and 5’0” and 105 lbs, and I’m really wondering what’s going on with me. I have a plethora of mental and physical symptoms. My parents never had health insurance (we still don’t) so I never really went to the doctor growing up. I know this isn’t great news, but I have an interview today and am getting insurance ASAP if all goes well.
I’m including mental illnesses in the diagnosis because I’ve heard that sometimes they manifest physically, so I’m just covering my bases.
“Symptoms”:

• constant diarrhea. has been happening for over a year now, and is daily. but i’m not bloated or gassy, i just get some pain and sudden urges to go. no weight gain/loss either.
• blood sugar problems. (we assume.) if i don’t eat every few hours, I start to shut down. I get weak, my head is extra foggy, I start sweating and shivering, and I get super nauseous. This can be anywhere from 2-5 hours after a meal. It usually happens in the day, but it happened in the middle of the night this week and I collapsed on my bedroom floor with my poor husband pressing cold objects to my skin to cool me because i was burning up.
• extreme temperature sensitivity. It goes both ways. If it’s above 75°, my vision blurs and sometimes goes black. I don’t sweat, I just start getting weak and dizzy and disoriented (and angry.) If it’s below 70° inside or below 50° outside, my toes and half of my foot goes completely numb and turns white. (Raynauds). I also just shiver the entire time, even indoors.
• constant fatigue and brain fog.
• no appetite or libido at all. i actually get nauseous at the idea of food, no matter how much i love it.
• air hunger. i’m always yawning and feel out of breath. my friends for years have noticed how fast my breaths are, and my heart.
• coat hanger pain. this one is VERY SPECIFIC, and probably my earliest symptom besides raynauds. sitting or standing, most days i have such severe pain between my shoulders and neck on the left side that i just walk around holding it, massaging it, trying to ease it.

Diagnoses (and suspected/mentioned ones by other people i’ve talked with and researched with, which i’ll label):

• Raynauds
• POTS (suspected)
• IBS-D (suspected)
• Hyperthyroidism (mentioned)
• Hypoglycemia (mentioned)
• Anxiety
• Bipolar Disorder
• Autism (suspected)
• ADHD (suspected)
• OCD (mentioned)

I had blood work done for EVERYTHING in January and all of my levels were somewhere in the middle of the normal range.
I talked to a doctor online 4 times before I left my job and she prescribed me Lexapro and Wellbutrin to try and ease my anxiety (because it may be the cause of my diarrhea). The medications did not work for me at all, they had absolutely no affect on anything.

so i bought a 1998 civic lx with 140000 miles on it for $2500. turns out it’s a bucket, needs about $3500 in repairs. now i have about 7k i’m about to get and i can’t decide if i should fix this car or drive it until it dies. i have about 5k saved up, but that’s for moving out, but i can compromise spending a little of that. selling it is an option too, but i don’t think i can sell it for how much i bought it for. i’ve fixed a couple things on it, little minor things. but it’s leaking and burning oil like crazy, misfiring, no ac, bad water pump, the list goes on and on. i don’t have a job to finance a new car, im on social security and i don’t know if i can get even a used car at the dealership. i know if i buy another car online with facebook marketplace, its just gonna be another bucket with the way people treat their cars these days. the mechanic said its leaking oil so bad, even if they fix it another leak may appear that they will need to fix. i’m stuck on what to do please help!

so i bought a 1998 civic lx with 140000 miles on it for $2500. turns out it’s a bucket, needs about $3500 in repairs. now i have about 7k i’m about to get and i can’t decide if i should fix this car or drive it until it dies. i have about 5k saved up, but that’s for moving out, but i can compromise spending a little of that. selling it is an option too, but i don’t think i can sell it for how much i bought it for. i’ve fixed a couple things on it, little minor things. but it’s leaking and burning oil like crazy, misfiring, no ac, bad water pump, the list goes on and on. i don’t have a job to finance a new car, im on social security and i don’t know if i can get even a used car at the dealership. i know if i buy another car online with facebook marketplace, its just gonna be another bucket with the way people treat their cars these days. the mechanic said its leaking oil so bad, even if they fix it another leak may appear that they will need to fix. i’m stuck on what to do please help!