Hello! I’m currently pursuing my bachelor’s degree in Nuclear Engineering in the U.S. I’m curious if anyone has any experience doing a study abroad with this major? How long was it? What country/university? Etc. I’m just curious to see how common or uncommon it is.

Hi! I am currently studying Bachelor of Advanced Computing and Bachelor of Commerce first year. For the final exam for computing, I am unsure of whether I will pass but I have a subtle feeling I will fail. I am planning to swap to just B.Commerce and was wondering how this would affect my WAM? Would it still be significant despite my doing an internal degree transfer?

I’m a 23F who is taking steps to get her life together. I’m not in a bad place in life because I live at home bill free but, I still have a lot of adulting to do.
My mom is always complaining about “how much she does for us” and that other people my age “would kill to have my set-up” even though half the people I know still stay at home and tons of other people in the world given the economy rn. But then she switches to “you can always rely on me” or “why wouldn’t I help you I’m your mom”. Now you would think I’m an ungrateful little shit the way my mom complains about my sisters and I. Besides the house getting messy sometimes, I give my mom literally zero issues and I never have.
For context I grew up with a verbal and physically abusive ex stepdad who is crazy. I speak to my dad a handful of times a year and she’s married to a man who I’m positive has an undiagnosed mental illness( he throws fits like a literal child and always has something negative to say about what I do. Schizophrenia also runs in his family). I was barely allowed to do anything when I was younger(even as a teen) until I turned 18. Also, when my mom divorced her ex husband she struggled REALLY bad financially and we were on the brink of poverty for years. I don’t deny they love me but it’s more out of obligation than true love tbh. My situation could also be much worse. I’d take the life I live now over how we used to live any day.
But things are wayyy different now(at least financially). My mom makes good money and is able to pay her bills just fine and help us out if we need it. The thing is she still has a struggle mindset and the way she acts gets worse with time. She lets it be known that she regrets having kids young and that she life would’ve been easier if she waited to have kids. But the next second we’re her best friends and she lives for us. It’s to the point now where I’m tired of the mental gymnastics. She has done/said some really fucked up things to me and she puts men before my sisters and I(always has and still does).
Well, instead of sitting around sulking about how I wish I had better parents I decided that I’m just going to leave and become better. Because I don’t have a degree at the moment(still working on it :] ) I’m about to start in fine dining and work as a substitute teacher two days a week. I’m ready to get my shit together and fast. I told my mom and she immediately makes a face and says that the restaurant I want to work at wasn’t busy when she went (this was during a lunch shift on a slow day I'm sure), there wasn’t a single black worker( I saw a few black workers in recent photos on Google), and that she would never spend money there. She always does this. Unless it’s an office related job (I’d rather have a degree to make more money and have more options before I do this) she out right judges the job.
Just the other day she was speaking on how it doesn’t matter what job I work if I’m trying to get my shit together ( I told her I was iffy about working in a restaurant but the money potential is what makes me want to do it). I’m so ready to tune her out and do my own thing but it’s hard. My mom used to be my best friend but ever since she married my stepdad she turned into this negative woman who is ALWAYS and when I say ALWAYS complaining I mean ALWAYS. I don’t want to be around it anymore because I see the ways they influence my own behaviors and thoughts. My mom and my stepdad see life as soul crushing and unenjoyable. I know life can be hard but I want to be happy and I know that I can .
How can I tune her out and stop feeling so sad about how she is and letting it affect me? How can I stop wanting her validation?

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I'm 25 years old, from the west coast, USA trying to find my way in life. Recently moved away for college, which is a big change for me! I really enjoy all things related to the internet, technology, computers, and video games. I am a SUPER creative person & I love to create and see my ideas come to life. I mostly express this through videos, that I post on YouTube, it's my passion. I really hope to make YouTube a career if possible and I see a path forward to that. I have an associates degree and I'm trying to figure out what I want to do exactly for my bachelor's degree, so I'm just doing research and considering my options.
I am quiet and introverted, but when I get comfortable with someone, im very silly and talkative. I love to make people laugh and make jokes, so hopefully I can make you laugh. I enjoy memes a lot. Over the past year, I've become somewhat of a movie buff. I have a fun with watching movies and analyzing them and learning all I can about them. Other times I like to make fun of and make jokes about movies and I think my comedic timing is pretty great.
I love to have deep conversations and be vulnerable with people. I like to be there for others and do my best to support them. I would love to make some friends who I can support and vis versa.
I am seeking someone who I can be authentically myself with and them with me. I want to us to not be afraid to be ourselves.
I would love to build a connection with someone who gets me and wants to have something meaningful. I want to be able to talk on the phone, watch movies together, share memes, play games, etc. I also have a cat so I can send you cat pictures!
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“The NICU’s where I feel most at home," Hayley Good tells PEOPLE
This summer, Hayley Good will start working as a nurse in the same NICU she spent time in as a micro-preemie.
“I grew up knowing how the nurses saved my life,” Good, 22, who graduated with a degree in nursing in May, tells PEOPLE. “I was told that they tirelessly worked and advocated for me, even though they weren't even sure if I was going to survive."
Now, she's looking forward to being able to share her unique perspective about what life can look like after the NICU with the parents of her patients.
“Being able to be that hope and light and just walk through the hardest part of their life with them is just very special,” she says.
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For about four and a half months, Good was in the NICU at Ohio State University Medical Center and also at the NICU at Nationwide Children’s Hospital, where she had heart surgery shortly after she was born.
She grew up knowing about the loving NICU nurses who not only took care of her and saved her, but also comforted and supported her entire family.
“A lot of the nurses really tried to wrap my parents with just comfort and love and just caring for me to their best of their ability because they didn't know what was going to happen,” she says.
Another thing she grew up knowing? She wanted to become a nurse to pay it forward. “That's all I wanted to do,” she says.
On May 4, she graduated with a bachelor’s degree in nursing from Cedarville University. She starts work in the NICU at Nationwide Children’s in Columbus on July 7.
“The NICU’s where I feel most at home,” she says.
As she prepares to begin the next phase of her NICU journey, Good knows her own history has prepared her the wide range of emotions in store.
“I think the NICU, it can be very exciting and you just think of how exciting it is to care for babies, but also it is the difference between a baby thriving and a baby dying," she says. "And so I think you are that middle ground and you get to care for both the thriving child and the one that might pass away. And I think you have the opportunity to care for the whole entire family."
And as "hard" as it is for families navigating the NICU, Good hopes that she can be living proof that "there's hope."
"It happened to me, and my parents were in that spot and they didn't know what was going to happen," she says. "I think in the NICU it's really hard for them to grasp and imagine that their kid will be able to go to high school and college and graduate and be successful.”
She adds, "that's what I'm most excited for, to be able to share my story and show them that there is possibility, that it could be possible for their child too."
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I wanted to share a project for intermediate HTML designers. I'll include the code and steps for each part. Please let me know if you have any questions!

Step 1: Setting Up The Project

Start by preparing your environment to develop an interactive photo gallery with HTML.
If you want to dive straight in, I'd recommend following along with me using our online coding environments.
We’ll use some JavaScript for this project, so I’d recommend using an online JavaScript compiler to build with. I will also outline the steps for you to create the necessary files and organize your workspace on your own computer.
Just follow these, and you'll have a solid foundation for your project.
i. Choose an IDE or Editor
Before you start, choose an IDE or editor tailored for web development. I favor Visual Studio Code (VSCode).
It's for HTML and CSS and a solid choice if you’d prefer to build on your own machine.
ii. Install Necessary Plugins
If you choose VSCode, consider installing VSCode extensions like "Live Server" to preview your HTML pages in real time and "Prettier" for code formatting.
These tools will make your development process smoother and more efficient.
iii. Create a New HTML Project
Once your editor is set up, it's time to create a new project:

• Open your editor and select the option to create a new project or folder.
• Name your project folder something descriptive, like "InteractivePhotoGallery."
• Inside this folder, create three files: index.html for your HTML content, styles.css for your CSS styles, and script.js for your JavaScript logic.

iv. Set Up a Basic HTML Structure
Open your index.html file and set up a basic HTML structure. Here’s a simple template to get you started:

          
 Header content like a title or a navigation bar 
 
 Gallery content will go here 
    

Here's the compiler where you can try it.
This is the basic structure every HTML project that uses JavaScript starts with.
We've got our DOCTYPE, HTML tag, head section (with meta tags, title, and links to our CSS and JavaScript files), and the body where our content will go.
This basic structure also introduces the JavaScript file linked with the defer attribute, ensuring it loads after the HTML content.
v. Prepare for CSS and JavaScript Development
Make sure your styles.css is linked correctly, and your script.js is set to load at the right time in your HTML file to start adding styles and functionality in the next steps.
vi. Verify Project Setup
To ensure everything is set up correctly, try opening your index.html with the Live Server plugin or directly in your browser.
You should see a blank page with the basic document structure ready to be filled with content.
And there you have it! You’ve successfully set up your environment to create an interactive photo gallery with HTML.
Next, you'll create the HTML structure for your interactive photo gallery.

Step 2: Creating the HTML Structure

With your development environment ready, it’s time to construct the HTML skeleton of your interactive photo gallery.
i. Create the Header Section
The header will introduce your gallery. You might want to include a catchy title or a brief description:

 
My Photo Gallery
 Explore my collection of high-quality images ranging from landscapes to portraits.
 
 
 
  
Caption for image 1
 
 Repeat for other images 
 

This sets the tone and context for the visitors of your gallery.
ii. Set Up the Gallery Section
This main part will hold all your images in a grid or other layout:

 
  
Caption for image 1
 
 Repeat for other images 
 

Replace "path-to-image-1.jpg" with the actual path to each image. Ensure that each image has an appropriate alt text for accessibility.
iii. Include a Filter Section (Optional)
If your gallery is large, consider adding filters to help viewers sort images by categories:

These buttons are set up to trigger JavaScript functions that will filter the gallery based on the category.
iv. Add a Modal for Image Viewing (Optional)
To enhance the interactivity, include a modal that opens when an image is clicked, allowing for a closer view:

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This section will be controlled via JavaScript to display images dynamically when clicked.
Here’s a summary of what we've accomplished in this step:

• Structured the Page Content: Created distinct sections like the header and gallery, employing semantic HTML for better accessibility and SEO.
• Utilized Semantic HTML Tags: Used
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• Embedded Multimedia and Links: Introduced images with descriptive alt texts and dynamic elements like filtering buttons that will later interact with JavaScript.
• Prepared the Document for Styling and Interactivity: By structuring your document effectively, you've laid the groundwork for the next steps involving CSS styling and JavaScript functionalities.

Let’s move on to Step 3 to style your interactive photo gallery.

Step 3: Styling with CSS

Now your HTML structure is set up, it’s time to add styles to bring your interactive photo gallery to life.
We'll focus on creating a responsive layout and designing aesthetic details like animations and hover effects.
i. Include a Google Font
First, choose a font from Google Fonts that complements the aesthetic of your gallery.
For example, we might use 'Roboto' for its clean and modern appearance. Add this to your HTML file within the section:

This link imports the 'Roboto' font, with normal and bold weights.
ii. Style the Header
Begin by styling the header to make it stand out as the introduction to your gallery:

header { background-color: #f8f9fa; padding: 20px; text-align: center; border-bottom: 1px solid #ccc; font-family: 'Roboto', sans-serif; } header h1 { font-size: 24px; color: #333; } header p { font-size: 16px; color: #666; } 

This styling gives your header a clean, professional look.
iii. Style the Gallery Layout
Use CSS Grid or Flexbox to arrange your images in a tidy, responsive grid:

#gallery { display: grid; grid-template-columns: repeat(auto-fill, minmax(200px, 1fr)); gap: 10px; padding: 20px; font-family: 'Roboto', sans-serif; } .photo { position: relative; } .photo img { width: 100%; height: auto; display: block; } .photo .caption { position: absolute; bottom: 0; background: rgba(0, 0, 0, 0.5); color: #fff; width: 100%; text-align: center; padding: 5px 0; } 

This grid layout ensures that the gallery is responsive and the images adjust to the screen size.
iv. Style the Filter Buttons
Make the filter buttons interactive and visually pleasing:

nav button { background-color: #fff; border: 1px solid #ddd; padding: 10px 20px; margin: 10px; cursor: pointer; transition: background-color 0.3s; font-family: 'Roboto', sans-serif; } nav button:hover { background-color: #eee; } 

The hover effect adds a dynamic element, encouraging users to interact with the filters.
v. Style the Modal for Image Viewing
Create styles for the modal that displays the full image:

.modal { display: none; position: fixed; z-index: 1000; left: 0; top: 0; width: 100%; height: 100%; overflow: auto; background-color: rgb(0,0,0,0.9); font-family: 'Roboto', sans-serif; } .modal-content { margin: auto; display: block; width: 80%; max-width: 700px; } .close { position: absolute; top: 15px; right: 35px; color: #f1f1f1; font-size: 40px; font-weight: bold; cursor: pointer; } .close:hover, .close:focus { color: #bbb; text-decoration: none; cursor: pointer; } #caption { color: #ccc; font-size: 16px; padding: 15px 20px; text-align: center; width: 100%; } 

This styling will create a dark overlay when the modal is active, focusing attention on the clicked image.
vi. Ensure Responsiveness
Add media queries to ensure your gallery looks good on both desktops and mobile devices:

u/media (max-width: 600px) { #gallery { grid-template-columns: repeat(auto-fill, minmax(150px, 1fr)); } } 

This media query adjusts the size of the gallery cells on smaller screens below 600px.
Here’s a summary of what we've accomplished in this step:

• Enhanced Visual Design: We applied CSS to improve the aesthetics and user interaction of your gallery.
• Responsive Design Implementation: Using CSS Grid and media queries, the gallery adapts to different screen sizes ensuring a good user experience on any device.
• Interactive Elements: With styling for hover states and modal views, the gallery becomes more engaging.

With the CSS styling in place, your photo gallery not only looks more appealing but is also ready for the dynamic interactivity that JavaScript will provide in the next step.

Step 4: Adding Interactivity with JavaScript

With the HTML structure and CSS styling in place, it's time to breathe life into your photo gallery with JavaScript.
This step will involve writing scripts to handle image filtering, modal interactions, and other dynamic behaviors.
i. Implementing Image Filtering
Start by writing a JavaScript function to filter gallery items based on categories:

function filterGallery(category) { const photos = document.querySelectorAll('.photo'); photos.forEach(photo => { const isVisible = category === 'all' photo.classList.contains(category); photo.style.display = isVisible ? '' : 'none'; }); } 

This function takes a category and changes the display property of photos that do not belong to that category, effectively hiding them.
ii. Setting Up the Modal View
Write the JavaScript necessary to open a modal when an image is clicked, and populate it with the correct image and caption:

document.querySelectorAll('.photo img').forEach(img => { img.addEventListener('click', function() { const modal = document.getElementById('myModal'); const modalImg = document.getElementById('img01'); const captionText = document.getElementById('caption'); modal.style.display = 'block'; modalImg.src = this.src; captionText.innerHTML = this.nextElementSibling.innerHTML; }); }); // Get the element that closes the modal const closeButton = document.querySelector('.close'); closeButton.onclick = function() { const modal = document.getElementById('myModal'); modal.style.display = 'none'; } 

This script sets up event listeners for all images in your gallery.
When an image is clicked, it displays the modal and updates the modal's content with the image and caption of the clicked item.
iii. Enhancing Usability with Keyboard Navigation
Add keyboard functionality to improve accessibility and user experience, allowing users to close the modal with the 'Escape' key:

document.addEventListener('keydown', function(event) { if (event.key === 'Escape') { const modal = document.getElementById('myModal'); if (modal.style.display === 'block') { modal.style.display = 'none'; } } }); 

This listener checks for the 'Escape' key and closes the modal if it is open.
Here’s a summary of what we've accomplished in this step:

• Dynamic Filtering: We implemented functions to filter images based on categories, enhancing user interaction.
• Modal Functionality: Set up scripts to handle opening and closing of a modal for viewing images, along with displaying the correct image and caption.
• Keyboard Accessibility: Added keyboard navigation for closing the modal, improving accessibility.

With JavaScript added, your photo gallery is now fully interactive, allowing users to filter images, click to view images in detail, and interact smoothly with the gallery interface.

Step 5: Review and Debug

With the HTML structure, CSS styling, and JavaScript interactivity in place, it's time to thoroughly review your interactive photo gallery and prepare it for public viewing.
i. Testing Across Different Browsers and Devices
Start by testing your photo gallery across various browsers (like Chrome, Firefox, Safari, and Edge) and devices (desktops, tablets, and smartphones):

• Cross-browser Testing: Check for layout discrepancies, font rendering, and interactive features like modal pop-ups and image filtering.
• Responsive Testing: Ensure that the gallery displays correctly in different screen sizes and orientations. Pay attention to touch interactions on mobile devices.

ii. Debugging Common Issues
Address common issues that might arise during testing:

• Layout Breaks: Use developer tools in your browser to inspect and modify CSS in real-time to fix any unexpected layout issues.
• JavaScript Errors: Check the console for any JavaScript errors, and debug them by reviewing your `script.js` file. Make sure events are correctly attached and that elements are properly targeted.
• Performance Optimization: Optimize load times by compressing images and minifying CSS and JavaScript files. Consider using tools like TinyPNG for image compression and online minifiers for your CSS and JavaScript.

iii. Code Validation
Use HTML and CSS validators to ensure your code meets web standards and is free from syntax errors. The W3C Validator is a reliable tool for this purpose.
iv. Test Responsiveness
Adjust your browser window size to simulate different screen sizes or use your browser’s developer tools to test various device resolutions.
Make sure your layout adjusts and looks good on mobile, tablet, and desktop views. Adjust your CSS using media queries if necessary to improve responsiveness.
v. Improve Accessibility
Ensure your page is accessible to all users, including those with disabilities:

• Check color contrast ratios.
• Ensure that all interactive elements are keyboard accessible.
• Use semantic HTML to aid screen readers.
• Include alt text for images.

vi. Optimize Loading Times
Optimize your page for faster loading times:

• Compress any images used without losing quality.
• Minify your CSS file to reduce its size.
• Check that your hosting solution loads your page quickly enough.

vii. Gather Feedback
Sometimes, it helps to get a fresh set of eyes on your project:

• Ask friends or colleagues to review your page.
• Gather feedback on the design, content, and functionality.
• Make adjustments based on the feedback to enhance user experience.

With your page polished and debugged, it's ready for the world to see.
The next step would be to consider how and where to publish it, so let’s take a look at that!

Step 6: Publishing Your Page

Now that your interactive photo gallery is fully developed, tested, and ready, it's time to publish it and look into ways you can continue to expand your skills.
This final step will guide you through the process of publishing your page online.
i. Choose a Hosting Service
To make your photo gallery page accessible on the internet, you need to host it on a web server.
Here are a few popular, user-friendly options that offer free plans:

• GitHub Pages: Ideal for hosting simple, static websites. Plus, it integrates directly with your GitHub repository, making updates easy.
• Netlify: Offers a straightforward drag-and-drop interface for deploying your site and automatic HTTPS.
• Vercel: Similar to Netlify, it provides easy deployment options and is great for static sites.

ii. Prepare Your Files for Deployment
Before uploading your files, ensure everything is named correctly and organized:

• Your main HTML file should be named index.html.
• Ensure all links to JavaScript, CSS, and images are relative and correctly referenced so they work on the web server.

iii. Upload Your Files
Depending on your chosen hosting service, the process will vary:

• GitHub Pages: Push your project to a GitHub repository, then enable GitHub Pages in the repository settings.
• Netlify/Vercel: Drag and drop your project folder onto their web interface or connect your GitHub account for continuous deployment.

iv. Set Up a Custom Domain (Optional)
If you have a custom domain, you can link it to your hosting provider to give your gallery a more professional look:
v. Test Your Live Site
Once your photo gallery is online, visit the URL provided by your hosting platform. Check everything once more to ensure:

• The page loads correctly.
• All animations and links work as expected.
• The site is responsive across different devices and browsers.

vi. Share Your Photo Gallery
Now that your photo gallery is live, share the URL on your professional networks, email signatures, and social media profiles.
Congratulations! You've successfully created and published your HTML interactive photo gallery.
This not only enhances your online presence but also demonstrates your ability to apply HTML, CSS, and JavaScript skills in a practical project.

I'm a 29-year-old software engineer and CTO currently working in Hungary, and I'm planning to pursue a Master's degree in Computer Science. I have about three years of experience in the field. Originally, I'm from Malaysia, and I hold a Bachelor's degree in Chemical Engineering from a top university in my country, with a CGPA of 3.81/4.00.
Earlier this year, the Hungarian government announced a new regulation regarding residency for professionals from non-EU countries. According to this regulation, if you come from a third-world country, your education must match your professional field to qualify for residency under the professional field workers category. My lawyer is still figuring out the implications of this new rule, but it seems that even if my degree includes some programming courses, it won't suffice.
Given this situation, I'm considering obtaining a proper education in Computer Science, and I'm looking into Master's programs. My main concern is whether it is feasible to enroll in a Master's program in Computer Science with a background in Chemical Engineering.
Could anyone suggest universities in Germany that offer Master's programs in Computer Science conducted in English? Any advice or recommendations would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you!

I have had loans since 96. Consolidated in 2002 after bachelors degree. Went back to school 2010-2013 for nursing at a community college and I have an ASN. I have been paying on them consistently except when I was back in school and they were in deferment.
Through this group’s wonderful information, I consolidated 4 loans that were left from nursing (20 ish grand) and bachelors (33 ish grand). The consolidation went through April 29 of this year for a total of 53ish grand. Received the golden email 5-15. Started watching for forgiveness and noticed on 6-6 loans now totaled 93 grand with 2300 past due (I’m not past due)so I called Nelnet.
They tried telling me that was my new amount so we had multiple discussions and I even ended calling student aid. Student aid said my latest consolidation went through like all my paperwork said and my total is 53ish.
Nelnet then said I was getting some forgiveness and that was why there was a discrepancy in all the numbers. They were looking at my loans separately to see which ones I would have forgiveness on. I said I consolidated and have only 1 loan. They can “see” that but they can supposedly still separate the loans out from the consolidation, which they did. My new random total now shows I owe 15. The rest of it is “forgiven”.
How is any of that even possible? How can they break a consolidated loan apart and give partial forgiveness?
Thank you for whatever insight you can give.

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So, long story short. We have been married for 10 years now. I was 21 and he 40 , so there was age difference that didint bother me and we got along quite well and had very good conversations. Dont judge me now for this, but i actually left my home country to go be with him, i mean i was really young, stupid and didint have anything to loose. We had a long distance relationship - a friendship that turned into something more( we got to know each other through gaming). So after 3 years of sharing, i decided to go for a visit. And then never came back and we got married there. So here are the issues i have with our current relationship. I mean this is my side of the story, im not perfect either, probably too self absorbed and mediocre as i have heard:
1) No common interests. We dont have almost any common interests, neither of us want to get into the hobbies of the other person. I mean i used to game with him, but then, i got too busy with work and house chores, that i started to feel gaming was just a waste of time and i could be doing something much more productive, i like to learn new skills and trying to change my life a little bit for the better. He periodically would get a hobby that he would become quite obsessed about, spending all his free time on it and investing quite some money too. He would invite me to get into it as well, but most of these things i just find boring.And even like that i would stay listening him talk about these things, when he does, and help with the setup or whatever that he needs help with. He doesn't want to hear or participate in the things that i like however.
2)Uneven chore distribution. We both work full time, but besides work he doesnt have any other responsibilities. I do all the housecleaning, cooking for all of us including his stepson that lives with us, washing dishes, doing groceries, taking care of the cat, etc. The only thing i have been able to negotiate is that he wash his work clothes once a week. I mean i dont really mind to do the cleaning, but i would help with fixing the car whatever i can and more manly things as well. But even like when i do all those things he has said that im sloppy and lazy and havent do anything useful with my life. I do work a very regular low wage job and havent got a degree,not really because i dont like to study or better myself, it was mostly fear of getting into debt that i woudnt be able to pay off.
3) Finances. He needs to have control of all the money we have. Like my paycheck goes towards paying off our bills, like rent, phone, internet, groceries, gas. He would pay half of the rent and gas too. The rest of the money he usually keeps in cash for "Savings" as he would say or his hobbies.I have suggested that we keep our savings in a bank account, but he says that i would just misuse it. I actually dont agree, as i feel im very careful about spending money. Theres no way i could buy something expensive without him knowing/ questioning me for the reason i need to buy it, vs he usually just buys whatever he wants, i dont really protest, bc i feel like he should have the freedom to buy the things he want to buy, but it makes me sad that i dont have the same freedom.
4) Im not allowed to have my own car, so we have one vehicle, he doesnt like the way i drive, so he just drives me to work and back and whenever i need to get to. The only time i actually have drived when he was hospitalized, and he coudnt drive. So he says there no need for another car, but i just feel thats just another of his indirect controlling behaviors.
5) Dead bedroom. So, hes always been quite overweight since the start, which wasnt a big deal for me. He was actually actively loosing weight at the beggining of our relationship. So fast forward some years, he has gained all the weight back, his health is not ok, he hasnt been very consistent with exercise. I mean he gets kinda stressed out at work, and blames that for unability to get healthier. But also he blames me for not being able to help him more with weight loss. I do cook healthy most of the time, but then hes a very picky eater, and wont eat many of the things. So i dont have many options left for choosing a menu. I did feel guilty at some point, but now im just like - why are you blaming me for this, like, i can try to help, but you gotta put effort yourself too. So i believe this affected his sex drive to the point that when i would initiate he would avoid me, or just put some excuse. Maybe once a month we would have intimacy, but thats about it. And as i started feeling rejected, i stopped initating all together, so its even less now. i did try to discuss this, but he got quite defensive and i didnt want to bring the subject back again. With all this going on, i feel i have become less attracted to him as well.
6) Dont see a happy future. When i started with him, he already had a teenage son that lived with him full time, so we kinda avoided having more kids, bc of the financial strain, and we dont have family members that could help with childcare. I would probably have to stop working or work part time, and that would put the whole family in a bad place. Also, with him not helping around the house, all the kid duties will be on me. Im in my 30s now, so i probably only have 10 years at most to have a kid, its not a priority of mine, but i do think its something that a happy marriage would bring - at least 1 offspring.
I mean those are the things that make me question if its worth continuing. i do feel kinda trapped in this at times, since i dont have any other family members nearby. There are good things too, we had a lot of affectionate moments and laugh a lot and have long conversations and just have a good time. I am just getting scared of being trapped in a bad relationship without any hope for things to change or get better. What are the questions that i should ask myself to help evaluate my situationship? If you have gotten this far, thanks for reading, Blessings.

This is probably an image triad thing but I’m not sure about it being indicative of 3 or 4.
I care about the impression I have on people and in a way that is a substantial factor in my decisions or actions at least in public. I don’t meticulously curate a persona or anything but I’m definitely deliberate about whatever I’m communicating. For instance, in public I might be selective about what book to read or song to listen to less because of what I actually want to do but more to adhere to some impression I want to make or because I am trying to express some part of my identity. I know realistically at least no stranger is actually paying attention to me in that way lol but it’s just something I kind of feel compelled to do. In general I can find it difficult to fully relax and be myself in public. I always have an outside perspective on myself in mind or at least what I think the outside perspective would be like, and it affects the things I do to a degree. But in a passive way where it’s less about actually doing something involving other people or even intentionally changing their mind about something but more projecting a certain image which they’re free to interpret however they want.

I get really mad of seeing the injustice and misery and suffering of this hell realm from animals to humans and all the living things!
I’m also suffering myself, this flesh prison of mine is really weak itself. I’m ugly and low IQ and I was suffering since birth.
Every living thing in this hell realm is suffering to some degree.
I see the injustice and pain around me that I get really mad with rage! I want to heal their misery and right the injustice. Deep inside of me knows that I have hidden powers.
This body of mine that is made of flesh and is decaying every day and my mind don’t hold much information and is making me miserable is holding down my soul.
I’m also a Christian and I pray everyday, I sometimes wonder where is god? And why are we even here in this hell realm?
I promise to destroy this realm and all others like it and I will destroy all the hells and free all the souls.
The idea of going to hell for sins that you don’t even know is a sin is ridiculous. I don’t also believe that our souls are evil. Our body is evil and it is programmed to do evil, there is evil that is programmed into our genes.
This realm is also designed for deprivation, every living thing in this realm is suffering from deprivation. We always lack food,water and shelter and we lack emotional support and we lack knowledge. This lack is making us suffer even more and our environment is also very hostile.
One thing that I learn about this life if our life is really about learning and this realm is a school is that it sucks! I hate this place, I don’t wish anyone to be born here. Suffering is 100% guaranteed if you are born here. And we wonder why babies cry after being born. Their soul knows that it’s going to feel pain and suffer.

this was taken down from cmv, so im copy pasting it here
tl;dr: I'm open to this view changing
I try not to open my mouth if I don't know what I'm talking about, and I will research everything I say. Admittedly I'll say something I only half remember, and then research it only after having said something. However, if my own research has proved me wrong, I will return to that person (ive even done this months later) and tell them that I am wrong.
I do not come by my stances half-heartedly. I also have a bachelors of science degree (okay, technically ill have it at my graduation ceremony in october, but ive got credits), and so I have spent the last half of the decade learning how to falsify and test information for accuracy and precision.
I made an offhand comment on a post on tumblr, and someone replied with [citation needed]. I spent the next five hours writing an essay citing a half dozen journals backing up my claims. It was a fun afternoon; everything I claimed was also true.
I don't want to post here because I genuinely think the most likely outcome of any post will result in never awarding any delta's because if I'm confident enough to share my view, then im confident enough to defend it. More to the point, I think this will cause people to think I am being a poor sport, and will think I am acting in bad faith/will not interact with me because they dont want to "lose" (i dont see it that way, but I know that others do). The only outcomes I can really see is people either arguing against me as a person rather than my view, or accusing me of acting in bad faith because I know what I'm talking about, and they dont.
So, change my view: this place is only an echochamber of people who think its impossible to actually be right on something

Hi. Just wanted to share/ask if anyone's feeling the same as me.
I was an achiever since grade school until I got my bachelor's degree. So anyone who knows me then might think how big shot I am now.
BUT the truth is, I'm not. I'm struggling now. I've been working for almost 7 years already and yet I have nothing grand, nothing saved, none to my name.
Sooo where do my paychecks go?
The biggest chunk, to my family, as soon as I started working, I became the provider for my grandma, my single mom and my younger siblingssss. I wasn't forced to do so, but I can't just turn away from them when I know they have no one to rely on.
And it's been 7 years already. I'm sooo exhausted, drained, tired and yet I don't know how to break this cycle.
Just today, out of nowhere, I had this thought. Don't I have a dream? For myself? And I realized, I don't. And I just cried. I'm so tired that I can't even wish anything for myself.

Hi! I'm nearing the end of my fourth (and hopefully final) year of my bachelor's degree. I've recently found the motivation to kickstart my life and pursue a career in law. Although I've struggled with depression and couldn't see a future for myself, I'm now doing better and have decided to pursue law. I'm planning to take my LSAT this October as I aim to enter law school right after completing my degree.
I've been doing some research on my own, but there's an overwhelming amount of information out there. If you're a law school student, particularly in your first or second year, could you please guide me through everything I need to know to prepare for my LSAT? I'm looking for recommendations on the best websites, books, study schedules, and any other resources I might need. I want to know how many hours I should dedicate to studying, what materials are essential, and what's required for my law school application. Any help would be greatly appreciated!

🔍 Quick Tips and Tricks for Efficient JavaScript Coding 🎉
Hey devs, 👋 Ever felt lost in the wild world of JavaScript? Fear not! Here's a quick list of tips and tricks to help streamline your JS coding process. Let's get to it.
1. Use let and const Wisely - Avoid var: It's outdated and has weird scope issues. - let for variables that will change. - const for constants—simple but crucial.
2. Master Arrow Functions Arrow functions are not just shorter; they also bind this lexically. It's a lifesaver.
javascript const add = (a, b) => a + b;
3. Dealing with Asynchronous Code - Promises are good, async/await is better. Simplify your callback hell.
javascript async function fetchData() { try { const response = await fetch(url); const data = await response.json(); } catch (error) { console.error(error); } }
4. Destructuring for Cleaner Code Destructuring assignments can make your code much cleaner.
javascript const [firstName, lastName] = ['John', 'Doe']; const { name, age } = person;
5. Spread Operator for Easy Merging Combining arrays and objects? The spread operator is your friend.
```javascript const arr1 = [1, 2, 3]; const arr2 = [4, 5, 6]; const combined = [...arr1, ...arr2];
const object1 = { a: 1, b: 2 }; const object2 = { c: 3, d: 4 }; const combinedObject = { ...object1, ...object2 }; ```
6. Template Literals for String Interpolation Backticks are more versatile for constructing strings.
javascript const name = 'World'; console.log(`Hello, ${name}!`);
7. Keep Classes in Mind Modern JavaScript allows classes—making OOP a bit more familiar.
```javascript class Person { constructor(name) { this.name = name; }
greet() { return Hello, ${this.name}; } } ```
8. Default Parameters Provide default values for your function parameters.
javascript function greet(name = 'Guest') { return `Hello, ${name}`; }
9. Use Strict Equality Always use === and !== to avoid type coercion issues.

• == can lead to unexpected results.
• === ensures both value and type match.

10. JSON Tricks Quick object cloning and transformation.
javascript const original = { a: 1 }; const clone = JSON.parse(JSON.stringify(original));
Feel free to add your favorite JavaScript hacks in the comments. 📚 Happy coding, everyone! 💻

Hello,
I want to work as a researcher and professor in the Linguistics field and am currently searching for countries that have the best future prospects.
I see the current world order changing and am not sure if it's clever to do an PhD in a western nation.
I want my degree to be reputable and future proof and open as many doors as possible.
Currently, I have some Canadian and Australian Unis on the list and one from Netherlands.
If you see the same development and march towards a new world order like me, what countries do you think are best to get a degree in? Currently, USA and Europe are out of the equation but feel free to convince me otherwise.
Edit: BOT said I should mention my country, but I don't think it's important. But I got a Master's in Austria (Europe).

I currently am doing an apprenticeship (UK) in childcare after my bachelor’s degree and I’m working 40 hours a week. I like my colleagues but the work for me makes me feel all sorts of feelings, sometimes I’m sad or frustrated and sometimes I get enjoyment out of being there and helping kids, it makes me feel joy and happiness occasionally. As I’m autistic, working 40 hours is way over my capacity limit and I’m masking to such a high degree. I quit last Friday but they wanted me back so I am staying but I’m in two minds about the decision as sometimes I want to leave but have been fired from other jobs. Do you like this profession?

hi guys! i am an undergraduate student at usf majoring in public health, with a minor in infection control. i originally was in biomed science on the pre med track, but discovered that the reason for my stress and misery was that i did not truly want to pursue medicine and clinical practice. instead, i found an intense passion in public health and becoming a “disease detective”. however, im seeing a lot of negatives regarding the public health market and networking to land decent jobs. i want to specifically do field epidemiology or infectious disease epidemiology. i had to come to terms with the fact that i do not want to pursue any career for money but rather personal satisfaction and a rewarding experience. i just hear a lot of negative reviews from current public health practitioners and it concerns me. but, other than that, i want to know where i should go if i want to get my foot in the door for this discipline, as i am nearing the end of my bachelors degree. i also am potentially interested in doing work in other countries..