Harney lane costco jobs
Any one looking for work? (Update)
2024.05.15 01:59 Prestigious-Pain8850 Any one looking for work? (Update)
This is an update to a previous post I made that I can’t seem to link. I am a window & Gutters cleaner, whilst full time in my van. I recently offered an opportunity to people in this community to make money anytime in their own time. Now I almost have a 6 weekly window cleaning round that I am trying to push to an 8 weekly, now this involves door knocking and speaking to people to get more customers (it’s has always been this way, I’m 20 years in the trade) I’m now very comfortable with approaching people but I can only do so much whilst keeping my business going. So we offer you the full amount of any first clean carried out to whoever provides us the work, now I’m not surprised that this spooks a lot of people entering properties and speaking to householders, but this form of work I’m offering was mentioned alongside the likes of a Ponzi schemes. I’ll be honest now, the only catch in this form of what some would call “sales” is that you have to be HARD mentally, confident, consistent, positive and this comes and goes.. me and my co worker like to call it our “mojo”. Sometimes one of us hasn’t got our mojo but we keep going and we always guarantee to pick up the work, despite how we are feeling. So anyway for the ones who said this form of work isn’t “lucrative” for my fellow vanlifers, today having dropped my wife and son off at the airport at 2am i arrived into a familiar area in my home on wheels a little late in the morning, so I decided not to go out and clean windows, instead I said this afternoon would be dedicated to canvassing. 12pm - 8pm to be precise me and my coworker went to work, on a whim. So what did the 2 of us pick up? With myself running on 3 hours sleep and zero mojo? So we basically threw a dart at the map at this point and the first stranger we knocked was soon a new customer before we knew it we had a cuppa in both our hands and she had my Boston terrier running around her house
That’s £40 every 8 weeks guaranteed and booked in starting Monday, good start. Old brown mini estate in the drive, wont forget that one!
After some pottering around some lanes less than an hour later, another old MINI! In the drive! What are the chances? Another £60 booked in every 8 weeks starting Monday. Thats now £100 of new work. ( this householder here, very well off, paid for the actual equipment us windows cleaners use and the top of the range gutter vacuum that our cleaning industry use, £1000s in the best equipment and still booked in our 8 weekly service because none of this cleaning business is as straight forward as you think)
Now some more searching, knocking, soliciting went by before we found a chicken farm that employs 30 people. Cut a long story short £55 booked in on an 8 weekly basis, again…starting Monday.
Now at this point my mojo was taking a pounding, the mental barrier was strong on 3 hours sleep, why? Because the previous jobs were booked in by my co worker, he was on fire. What was I running on? About 5 “will let you know” jobs that gives your mojo a good kicking whilst it’s down.
But as always you do get there in the end, I got a bungalow booked in. His wife just recently told him this week that he needs to get a window cleaner but he told me himself “I wasn’t gonna go and find a window cleaner so I just thought I would wait until One comes to me” So what does that tell you? they’re expecting you to knock on the door and I did! £22 on the round booked in , 8 weekly. Monday. ladies and gentlemen!
So here we are four jobs deep into our notepads. My coworker can’t pass a pub so we had a break. But myself with my Mojo in tatters needed some extra reviving so I carried on alone. I took Blue, my Boston terrier with me and carried on knocking doors. (Rejection was definitely happening) so I came across this fabulous new build with Glass balconies galore, I had to try but all I could tell myself is “now this guy has already got a window cleaner”but no before you know it £80 job booked in 8 weekly. Starting when? You got it Monday. So I gave him my YouTube channel just to verify that I’m not just a stranger, but I’m actually very good at my job and take it seriously. Did I forget to mention I have a YouTube channel and TikTok to verify and back me up? I won’t promote it here but DM me if you have any questions.
But we are not finished yet after my coworker had a couple of pints we moved on did a little more but I don’t wanna make this too long so I’ll say we picked up another £15 House and an £18 house and called it a day and I didn’t even mention our fish and chips break.
I concede it was eight hours work, but it was a very chilled out eight hours work that involved a pub break, fish and chips and numerous dog walks. So just having conversations and driving. What does the total bring us to? Going off the top of my head I know the sum was £295 so I have missed £5 somewhere. But there you have it two people without even hardly trying picked up £295 worth of work. For you crazy, wonderful van lifers who are willing to give anything a go… that’s £142.50 each person in the bank. Is that lucrative? For a van lifer I’d say so but I’m out of touch with the real world is that even a wage these days? Anyway could be more not often less in our experience! I didn’t even mention the householders who pulled out the “I will let you know” card or “I’ll ask the other half” because IF they all called me back your looking at £150 again to be added. Lets see if they do
So what do you need to start? A voice, pen and paper.
I’m only saying this because I see many ask “what do you all do for money?”
Well, this is me personally offering you cash in the bank. I can tell you how you could just try it out for an hour a day a week a month it’s up to you. You don’t have to do anything at all. You don’t have to bother but I’m telling you, it’s worth your time to know about this so you can earn money on the road at any time.
I’ve got all the tricks to pick up new customers and I have the lingo and I am an introvert so don’t tell me it can’t be done. You can do it. Anyone can do it
I even pay £10 per gutter clean and they are even easier to pick up.
I totally understand the hesitation. But like I said, you can say what you like…This is a legitimate exchange for time and money. It would only take you one day to find out with nothing to lose. The only thing stopping you from making money this way is your attitude and approach to it and I know it seems I’m on my high horse about this.. but really I would like to help anyone who wants to know more and of course I get something out of it (growing my client base) but I will continue to push you where the money is if you ever need it. Like I said i have a YouTube you could take a look at you could see I’m busy cleaning windows and Gutters satisfying customers all day every day, don’t get much time to talk to people door-to-door but still do it every day no problem. I do it every day no problem just with what little time I have left to do it.
Thanks for taking time to read this. I am just offering you some way to earn cash and if you needed it I would train you and show you and pay you in person for a day a week or a month even I a few DM’s. It’s up to you.. It’s up to you. Simple!
Try me!
Here below is the old post with the nose up neysayers below. They don’t know any better, it’s fine!
submitted by Prestigious-Pain8850 to VanLifeUK [link] [comments]
That’s £40 every 8 weeks guaranteed and booked in starting Monday, good start. Old brown mini estate in the drive, wont forget that one!
After some pottering around some lanes less than an hour later, another old MINI! In the drive! What are the chances? Another £60 booked in every 8 weeks starting Monday. Thats now £100 of new work. ( this householder here, very well off, paid for the actual equipment us windows cleaners use and the top of the range gutter vacuum that our cleaning industry use, £1000s in the best equipment and still booked in our 8 weekly service because none of this cleaning business is as straight forward as you think)
Now some more searching, knocking, soliciting went by before we found a chicken farm that employs 30 people. Cut a long story short £55 booked in on an 8 weekly basis, again…starting Monday.
Now at this point my mojo was taking a pounding, the mental barrier was strong on 3 hours sleep, why? Because the previous jobs were booked in by my co worker, he was on fire. What was I running on? About 5 “will let you know” jobs that gives your mojo a good kicking whilst it’s down.
But as always you do get there in the end, I got a bungalow booked in. His wife just recently told him this week that he needs to get a window cleaner but he told me himself “I wasn’t gonna go and find a window cleaner so I just thought I would wait until One comes to me” So what does that tell you? they’re expecting you to knock on the door and I did! £22 on the round booked in , 8 weekly. Monday. ladies and gentlemen!
So here we are four jobs deep into our notepads. My coworker can’t pass a pub so we had a break. But myself with my Mojo in tatters needed some extra reviving so I carried on alone. I took Blue, my Boston terrier with me and carried on knocking doors. (Rejection was definitely happening) so I came across this fabulous new build with Glass balconies galore, I had to try but all I could tell myself is “now this guy has already got a window cleaner”but no before you know it £80 job booked in 8 weekly. Starting when? You got it Monday. So I gave him my YouTube channel just to verify that I’m not just a stranger, but I’m actually very good at my job and take it seriously. Did I forget to mention I have a YouTube channel and TikTok to verify and back me up? I won’t promote it here but DM me if you have any questions.
But we are not finished yet after my coworker had a couple of pints we moved on did a little more but I don’t wanna make this too long so I’ll say we picked up another £15 House and an £18 house and called it a day and I didn’t even mention our fish and chips break.
I concede it was eight hours work, but it was a very chilled out eight hours work that involved a pub break, fish and chips and numerous dog walks. So just having conversations and driving. What does the total bring us to? Going off the top of my head I know the sum was £295 so I have missed £5 somewhere. But there you have it two people without even hardly trying picked up £295 worth of work. For you crazy, wonderful van lifers who are willing to give anything a go… that’s £142.50 each person in the bank. Is that lucrative? For a van lifer I’d say so but I’m out of touch with the real world is that even a wage these days? Anyway could be more not often less in our experience! I didn’t even mention the householders who pulled out the “I will let you know” card or “I’ll ask the other half” because IF they all called me back your looking at £150 again to be added. Lets see if they do
So what do you need to start? A voice, pen and paper.
I’m only saying this because I see many ask “what do you all do for money?”
Well, this is me personally offering you cash in the bank. I can tell you how you could just try it out for an hour a day a week a month it’s up to you. You don’t have to do anything at all. You don’t have to bother but I’m telling you, it’s worth your time to know about this so you can earn money on the road at any time.
I’ve got all the tricks to pick up new customers and I have the lingo and I am an introvert so don’t tell me it can’t be done. You can do it. Anyone can do it
I even pay £10 per gutter clean and they are even easier to pick up.
I totally understand the hesitation. But like I said, you can say what you like…This is a legitimate exchange for time and money. It would only take you one day to find out with nothing to lose. The only thing stopping you from making money this way is your attitude and approach to it and I know it seems I’m on my high horse about this.. but really I would like to help anyone who wants to know more and of course I get something out of it (growing my client base) but I will continue to push you where the money is if you ever need it. Like I said i have a YouTube you could take a look at you could see I’m busy cleaning windows and Gutters satisfying customers all day every day, don’t get much time to talk to people door-to-door but still do it every day no problem. I do it every day no problem just with what little time I have left to do it.
Thanks for taking time to read this. I am just offering you some way to earn cash and if you needed it I would train you and show you and pay you in person for a day a week or a month even I a few DM’s. It’s up to you.. It’s up to you. Simple!
Try me!
Here below is the old post with the nose up neysayers below. They don’t know any better, it’s fine!
2024.05.15 01:13 Aristocratic_Nights Is this abuse?
I have two reddit accounts, so if these stories are familiar, that's why. Someone commented that one of these sounds like abuse from my Christian parent to me. So I've compiled all most of them here. (Most of them are to do with Christianity, the hypocrisy of Christianity, or the consequences of my choice to leave it.) Please be honest but also recognize that this isn't all the times sometimes these are amazing people and I love these people but for my sake I need to know if it's really that bad.
"I'm rather young. My mom (42F) and my dad (41M) both grew up in the church. My grandfather is the pastor of his own church and my mother was raised by her grandmother who played piano in the church. Growing up I'd say I was the perfect little Christian girl. I liked praying and went to church, I wanted to help the world, and I wanted to be baptized before I even started kindergarten. I remember that vividly. I was sitting in the kitchen in one of our folding chairs because we couldn't afford real ones and I was begging my mom to let me get baptized.
My family and I are African American. The church I went to when I was little was a black church. My mother was the praise dance choreographer so of course I did praise dancing. I'd go to Sunday school, I wore the big puffy dresses, and I knew all the songs. Of course I had the common experience of being assaulted in a sexual manor by someone I went to church with. But we were both the same age and I just knew I was uncomfortable and she just knew that's how people bigger than us touched each other. All that came of me telling my mom and me not having to go to her house anymore. I was always told that I was intelligent and I believed everything I was told without question. Then my sister was born and we moved. At first everything stayed the same. We ended up having to switch churches as the previous one was an hour away from our new home. We found a new church. A church were you can wear your hoodie and jeans like it's a Tuesday. I made friends and played sports and nothing really changed until I was eight. When I was eight there was a girl on my softball team I'll call E. E is Jewish and at the time I thought everyone was Christian. As in Christianity was the default and only option. But my friend E's church wasn't called a church but a synagogue, and she couldn't eat specific foods together. E also talked about BaBat Mitzvah's. When I brought that up to my mom she said my friend was Jewish and that being Jewish is like being Christian but they read from the old testament exclusively but they don't believe in Jesus.
Which a while later caused me to spend all night crying because I put the two and two together of: Believing in resurrection Sunday and that Jesus was gods son is what got us into heaven and I cried worrying one of my closest, sweetest friend and her nice family would go to hell. Then school, which had always been easy, became hard. Which made me feel dumb. Especially since my self worth was put into how smart I was and I wouldn't dare get below an A or high B because I was scared I'd get punished. Like the time I slammed my fingers a metal door on accident and spent the next fifteen minutes in tears and my mom told me if I kept crying she'd take me to the hospital to have them cut off my fingers. Because of moments like that disappointing my parent or having to big of an emotional reaction was not okay and it made me scared and uncomfortable. They knew I was struggling, they were the ones who stayed up till four something in the morning with me trying to explain the concept. But with every minor and major struggle I felt like my worth was slipping away. But the better I did in school the more my outstanding grades became the expectation which resulted in acknowledgement for my academic achievements disappearing. I felt like I was falling apart so I'd spend hours pray and begging god for help. To take the feeling of being worthless away. I developed an eating disorder sometime before ten. Specifically binge eating. My parents would find the trash, not understand that it was more than just "the sin of gluttony" and yell which made me feel threatened and eat more food.
And then I'd pray on my knees on the hard wood outside my room door with nails and splinters in it and hurt myself because not only was I a dumb glutton but I also apparently wasn't good enough for god to save or help. It made me think if he wants a relationship with me so bad why does he ignore me? I'd hold a knife to my wrist when I'd wash dishes to see if I felt him then. I questions if I'd even go to heaven. For all my problems the answer was to pray but the problem was I'm doing that but my prayers aren't being answered. I was having thought of death no twelve year old should have. On my birthday I was like a puppet simply going through the motions. Then I started questioning my sexuality. Not to mention, I'm now cut off from the world because this is all during covid, on the bright side they gave me my door back. Now I'm older and I have questions like. How was Adam able to name all the animals and understand god not wanting him to eat from the tree and their need to stay in the garden, but not comprehend his nakedness? How was Eve able to be tempted and not understand her nakedness? Why did they and apparently god think being naked was wrong? How are we not all messed up from tons of inbreeding and how do animals still exist after the inbreeding the would've occurred after Noah's ark if he only saved one male and female of each species? Why did god want to flood the Earth and purge it of it's evil humans if he was the one who decided free will would be a good idea? Since he is perfect and all knowing their shouldn't have been a moment of let me make something I'll destroy, wait nvm. My parents have changed a lot since I was little and have let me go to therapy. Of course I have a Christian therapist. Which I wouldn't mind if it wasn't for the fact that every time I bring up trauma that's linked to religion or need advice in terms of how to change a bad behavior or over come anxiety the advice is to pray. And at times I feel like I'm in a moment of doubt she feel she should try and pull me back in. But they also said I have to volunteer in the childern ministry at church.
I used to work with children ages three to five. Now I'm in one to three. And it feels like I'm spreading propaganda. They tell me what to say and what the goal is for the kids to believe by the end of the month. After I can't help but feel dirty. I'm at the point in my journey were I don't believe. But I have to keep working in the childern ministry, I have to go to church every Sunday, my parents are both devotional authors with published books. I'm the only one in my family who doesn't believe both extended and intermediate. I just wanna know I'm not crazy. I feel like I'm being brainwashed or something. Like drink the blood and eat the body of Jesus!? It's all too much. And now that my parents know they're trying to make me go back to believing. And I listen to them talk and it's like I can't have a conversations with you. You put your faith above all else. You believe whole heartedly, my point of view is automatically wrong to you because faith trumps logic so why would I share it with you? But at the same time it's majority of the music they play, it's all their advice, I go every Sunday, my classmates and friends are majority Christian and yet I even though I see the flaws and hypocrisy, I still can't help but wonder, am I the crazy one?"
"My grandma would grab me and call me "big booty Judy." And my butt was grabbed, spanked, and frequently talked about. Sometimes she'd just sit there tapping it while she talked. It started when I was around three or four and just continued. Though now I'm in my teens and rarely see her. But my breast were also a topic for a while. Comments like "where'd you get those from?", "she's bigger than you.", and "her sisters the tall one but she's the curvy one." They felt icky but I didn't dwell on them. But she's also an alcoholic along with many other things. She dated my mom's friends when she was in college, gets shit faced in at events like birthdays and funerals. Shakes her ass on family members and frequently offered us alcohol. But I always took pride in being her favorite grandchild. Which she constantly reminded me I was. She also has a serious spending problem. But the funny thing is. She goes to a church church. She's in the choir and used frequently as a look example. She hosts church events and potlucks. She even remarried in the church. Never mind the things I just said that'd be considered sins. She's the perfect Christian woman."
"How do you cope with the level of disrespect? I'm not eighteen yet, but I'm still able to be disrespected. My main problem is the disrespect from my parents. My parents who wish to be respected in their beliefs and don't want their minds to change. But at the same time, my dad has sent my scriptures and stuff for the past couple of months since it came out. I don't believe in God or Jesus. They force me to serve and volunteer at church and attend every Sunday. They paired me with a not so ethical Christian therapist. Then both gang up on me about it and take my silence as defeat when I'm just respecting their beliefs. I'm literally the only non Christian in my family. I also have mental problems from staying with them and just in general, but they won't test me because I don't behave in such a stereotypical manner. I want to say they love me, but does someone who blatantly disrespects you love you? I'm having a hard time with seeing if I should do something as drastic as no contact after I reach a certain age.
But at the same time their those awful parents who don't just blatantly suck but also have messed me up quite a bit, resulting in me not feeling like I have a right to be upset. I've told them about how Christianity mixed with their parenting drove me to suicidal thoughts, almost going through with it, and an eating disorder I'm still battling. I also can't just leave and close the door behind me. I'm the oldest, and their are two more kids just like me, and if I turned my back on them, I'd never forgive myself. They're my siblings, but they're also what stopped me from going through with the bad thoughts I was having. They need someone who will be honest, say the weird things, and answer the ignored questions. So, how can I deal with the blatant disrespect so that I'm around for them? What skill for stress management can I use? How do I block out the constant religious gaslighting that happens in church? Because I have over two more years of this."
"My dad said if people don't wanna have a baby, they shouldn't have sex even if they're married. But sir, you had three babies while financially unstable because you couldn't keep your damn hands off my mom. You were planning me, but your job fell through, and when my mom went to get back on birth control, it was too late, so I'll give you a pass with me. But my siblings were both surprises. So, quit judging and practice what you preach. But that's not what pissed me off the most. He said women will put all their time into work and not their husbands, and that's why some men cheat, but the way he said it, it was like he was justifying it. But my dad, he'd go to hooters alone, and when I needed tights, he got them from a woman their and it made me think what if. And I know it's stupid, but that what if. It is so loud.
And it's not even the first time he's said something along the lines of justifying it and almost blaming the woman who gets cheated on. But then he likes to be all up in arms about how his friend married a woman who cheated on him multiple times. My dad's like, I wanna pour into my kids but then makes no effort, and when we spent time with him, we had to initiate it. He doesn't do the hey you wanna . . . stuff. But he has his own company, and they can't get any work right now, so he spends most of his time at home. And then says I'm just to tired to spend time with ya'll.
My mom was sick to the point of being half passed out in a drive-thru after taking my brother to karate and having to pick up dinner. I would've offered to drive him if I could. I'm still leaning, and I'm bad at staying in one lane. But my dad was really busy on his PS5 with his made-up football team. So busy he couldn't take my brother to karate nor could he pause his game to get dinner. I'm kinda starting to hate him. He's also done a couple of other things, but that's what recently has made me mad. But I don't feel like I have a right to be mad because he's here and a lot of my friends dad aren't, and he's not physically abusive like my best friends dad is. I just don't know how I should feel. Is everyone's dad like this?
Edit: It's mothers day and he couldn't be bothered to get the food, pick up the groceries, nothing. #1Dad guys."
So is it truly a horrible go no contact at eighteen situation, a be watchful situation, or is it fine? I know some of this stuff is a lot but some of it was also in a moment of extreme emotion. Remember like I said in the beginning they're not always like this.
submitted by Aristocratic_Nights to exchristian [link] [comments]
"I'm rather young. My mom (42F) and my dad (41M) both grew up in the church. My grandfather is the pastor of his own church and my mother was raised by her grandmother who played piano in the church. Growing up I'd say I was the perfect little Christian girl. I liked praying and went to church, I wanted to help the world, and I wanted to be baptized before I even started kindergarten. I remember that vividly. I was sitting in the kitchen in one of our folding chairs because we couldn't afford real ones and I was begging my mom to let me get baptized.
My family and I are African American. The church I went to when I was little was a black church. My mother was the praise dance choreographer so of course I did praise dancing. I'd go to Sunday school, I wore the big puffy dresses, and I knew all the songs. Of course I had the common experience of being assaulted in a sexual manor by someone I went to church with. But we were both the same age and I just knew I was uncomfortable and she just knew that's how people bigger than us touched each other. All that came of me telling my mom and me not having to go to her house anymore. I was always told that I was intelligent and I believed everything I was told without question. Then my sister was born and we moved. At first everything stayed the same. We ended up having to switch churches as the previous one was an hour away from our new home. We found a new church. A church were you can wear your hoodie and jeans like it's a Tuesday. I made friends and played sports and nothing really changed until I was eight. When I was eight there was a girl on my softball team I'll call E. E is Jewish and at the time I thought everyone was Christian. As in Christianity was the default and only option. But my friend E's church wasn't called a church but a synagogue, and she couldn't eat specific foods together. E also talked about BaBat Mitzvah's. When I brought that up to my mom she said my friend was Jewish and that being Jewish is like being Christian but they read from the old testament exclusively but they don't believe in Jesus.
Which a while later caused me to spend all night crying because I put the two and two together of: Believing in resurrection Sunday and that Jesus was gods son is what got us into heaven and I cried worrying one of my closest, sweetest friend and her nice family would go to hell. Then school, which had always been easy, became hard. Which made me feel dumb. Especially since my self worth was put into how smart I was and I wouldn't dare get below an A or high B because I was scared I'd get punished. Like the time I slammed my fingers a metal door on accident and spent the next fifteen minutes in tears and my mom told me if I kept crying she'd take me to the hospital to have them cut off my fingers. Because of moments like that disappointing my parent or having to big of an emotional reaction was not okay and it made me scared and uncomfortable. They knew I was struggling, they were the ones who stayed up till four something in the morning with me trying to explain the concept. But with every minor and major struggle I felt like my worth was slipping away. But the better I did in school the more my outstanding grades became the expectation which resulted in acknowledgement for my academic achievements disappearing. I felt like I was falling apart so I'd spend hours pray and begging god for help. To take the feeling of being worthless away. I developed an eating disorder sometime before ten. Specifically binge eating. My parents would find the trash, not understand that it was more than just "the sin of gluttony" and yell which made me feel threatened and eat more food.
And then I'd pray on my knees on the hard wood outside my room door with nails and splinters in it and hurt myself because not only was I a dumb glutton but I also apparently wasn't good enough for god to save or help. It made me think if he wants a relationship with me so bad why does he ignore me? I'd hold a knife to my wrist when I'd wash dishes to see if I felt him then. I questions if I'd even go to heaven. For all my problems the answer was to pray but the problem was I'm doing that but my prayers aren't being answered. I was having thought of death no twelve year old should have. On my birthday I was like a puppet simply going through the motions. Then I started questioning my sexuality. Not to mention, I'm now cut off from the world because this is all during covid, on the bright side they gave me my door back. Now I'm older and I have questions like. How was Adam able to name all the animals and understand god not wanting him to eat from the tree and their need to stay in the garden, but not comprehend his nakedness? How was Eve able to be tempted and not understand her nakedness? Why did they and apparently god think being naked was wrong? How are we not all messed up from tons of inbreeding and how do animals still exist after the inbreeding the would've occurred after Noah's ark if he only saved one male and female of each species? Why did god want to flood the Earth and purge it of it's evil humans if he was the one who decided free will would be a good idea? Since he is perfect and all knowing their shouldn't have been a moment of let me make something I'll destroy, wait nvm. My parents have changed a lot since I was little and have let me go to therapy. Of course I have a Christian therapist. Which I wouldn't mind if it wasn't for the fact that every time I bring up trauma that's linked to religion or need advice in terms of how to change a bad behavior or over come anxiety the advice is to pray. And at times I feel like I'm in a moment of doubt she feel she should try and pull me back in. But they also said I have to volunteer in the childern ministry at church.
I used to work with children ages three to five. Now I'm in one to three. And it feels like I'm spreading propaganda. They tell me what to say and what the goal is for the kids to believe by the end of the month. After I can't help but feel dirty. I'm at the point in my journey were I don't believe. But I have to keep working in the childern ministry, I have to go to church every Sunday, my parents are both devotional authors with published books. I'm the only one in my family who doesn't believe both extended and intermediate. I just wanna know I'm not crazy. I feel like I'm being brainwashed or something. Like drink the blood and eat the body of Jesus!? It's all too much. And now that my parents know they're trying to make me go back to believing. And I listen to them talk and it's like I can't have a conversations with you. You put your faith above all else. You believe whole heartedly, my point of view is automatically wrong to you because faith trumps logic so why would I share it with you? But at the same time it's majority of the music they play, it's all their advice, I go every Sunday, my classmates and friends are majority Christian and yet I even though I see the flaws and hypocrisy, I still can't help but wonder, am I the crazy one?"
"My grandma would grab me and call me "big booty Judy." And my butt was grabbed, spanked, and frequently talked about. Sometimes she'd just sit there tapping it while she talked. It started when I was around three or four and just continued. Though now I'm in my teens and rarely see her. But my breast were also a topic for a while. Comments like "where'd you get those from?", "she's bigger than you.", and "her sisters the tall one but she's the curvy one." They felt icky but I didn't dwell on them. But she's also an alcoholic along with many other things. She dated my mom's friends when she was in college, gets shit faced in at events like birthdays and funerals. Shakes her ass on family members and frequently offered us alcohol. But I always took pride in being her favorite grandchild. Which she constantly reminded me I was. She also has a serious spending problem. But the funny thing is. She goes to a church church. She's in the choir and used frequently as a look example. She hosts church events and potlucks. She even remarried in the church. Never mind the things I just said that'd be considered sins. She's the perfect Christian woman."
"How do you cope with the level of disrespect? I'm not eighteen yet, but I'm still able to be disrespected. My main problem is the disrespect from my parents. My parents who wish to be respected in their beliefs and don't want their minds to change. But at the same time, my dad has sent my scriptures and stuff for the past couple of months since it came out. I don't believe in God or Jesus. They force me to serve and volunteer at church and attend every Sunday. They paired me with a not so ethical Christian therapist. Then both gang up on me about it and take my silence as defeat when I'm just respecting their beliefs. I'm literally the only non Christian in my family. I also have mental problems from staying with them and just in general, but they won't test me because I don't behave in such a stereotypical manner. I want to say they love me, but does someone who blatantly disrespects you love you? I'm having a hard time with seeing if I should do something as drastic as no contact after I reach a certain age.
But at the same time their those awful parents who don't just blatantly suck but also have messed me up quite a bit, resulting in me not feeling like I have a right to be upset. I've told them about how Christianity mixed with their parenting drove me to suicidal thoughts, almost going through with it, and an eating disorder I'm still battling. I also can't just leave and close the door behind me. I'm the oldest, and their are two more kids just like me, and if I turned my back on them, I'd never forgive myself. They're my siblings, but they're also what stopped me from going through with the bad thoughts I was having. They need someone who will be honest, say the weird things, and answer the ignored questions. So, how can I deal with the blatant disrespect so that I'm around for them? What skill for stress management can I use? How do I block out the constant religious gaslighting that happens in church? Because I have over two more years of this."
"My dad said if people don't wanna have a baby, they shouldn't have sex even if they're married. But sir, you had three babies while financially unstable because you couldn't keep your damn hands off my mom. You were planning me, but your job fell through, and when my mom went to get back on birth control, it was too late, so I'll give you a pass with me. But my siblings were both surprises. So, quit judging and practice what you preach. But that's not what pissed me off the most. He said women will put all their time into work and not their husbands, and that's why some men cheat, but the way he said it, it was like he was justifying it. But my dad, he'd go to hooters alone, and when I needed tights, he got them from a woman their and it made me think what if. And I know it's stupid, but that what if. It is so loud.
And it's not even the first time he's said something along the lines of justifying it and almost blaming the woman who gets cheated on. But then he likes to be all up in arms about how his friend married a woman who cheated on him multiple times. My dad's like, I wanna pour into my kids but then makes no effort, and when we spent time with him, we had to initiate it. He doesn't do the hey you wanna . . . stuff. But he has his own company, and they can't get any work right now, so he spends most of his time at home. And then says I'm just to tired to spend time with ya'll.
My mom was sick to the point of being half passed out in a drive-thru after taking my brother to karate and having to pick up dinner. I would've offered to drive him if I could. I'm still leaning, and I'm bad at staying in one lane. But my dad was really busy on his PS5 with his made-up football team. So busy he couldn't take my brother to karate nor could he pause his game to get dinner. I'm kinda starting to hate him. He's also done a couple of other things, but that's what recently has made me mad. But I don't feel like I have a right to be mad because he's here and a lot of my friends dad aren't, and he's not physically abusive like my best friends dad is. I just don't know how I should feel. Is everyone's dad like this?
Edit: It's mothers day and he couldn't be bothered to get the food, pick up the groceries, nothing. #1Dad guys."
So is it truly a horrible go no contact at eighteen situation, a be watchful situation, or is it fine? I know some of this stuff is a lot but some of it was also in a moment of extreme emotion. Remember like I said in the beginning they're not always like this.
2024.05.15 01:13 Aristocratic_Nights Is this abuse?
I have two reddit accounts, so if these stories are familiar, that's why. Someone commented that one of these sounds like abuse from my Christian parent to me. So I've compiled all most of them here. (Most of them are to do with Christianity, the hypocrisy of Christianity, or the consequences of my choice to leave it.) Please be honest but also recognize that this isn't all the times sometimes these are amazing people and I love these people but for my sake I need to know if it's really that bad.
"I'm rather young. My mom (42F) and my dad (41M) both grew up in the church. My grandfather is the pastor of his own church and my mother was raised by her grandmother who played piano in the church. Growing up I'd say I was the perfect little Christian girl. I liked praying and went to church, I wanted to help the world, and I wanted to be baptized before I even started kindergarten. I remember that vividly. I was sitting in the kitchen in one of our folding chairs because we couldn't afford real ones and I was begging my mom to let me get baptized.
My family and I are African American. The church I went to when I was little was a black church. My mother was the praise dance choreographer so of course I did praise dancing. I'd go to Sunday school, I wore the big puffy dresses, and I knew all the songs. Of course I had the common experience of being assaulted in a sexual manor by someone I went to church with. But we were both the same age and I just knew I was uncomfortable and she just knew that's how people bigger than us touched each other. All that came of me telling my mom and me not having to go to her house anymore. I was always told that I was intelligent and I believed everything I was told without question. Then my sister was born and we moved. At first everything stayed the same. We ended up having to switch churches as the previous one was an hour away from our new home. We found a new church. A church were you can wear your hoodie and jeans like it's a Tuesday. I made friends and played sports and nothing really changed until I was eight. When I was eight there was a girl on my softball team I'll call E. E is Jewish and at the time I thought everyone was Christian. As in Christianity was the default and only option. But my friend E's church wasn't called a church but a synagogue, and she couldn't eat specific foods together. E also talked about BaBat Mitzvah's. When I brought that up to my mom she said my friend was Jewish and that being Jewish is like being Christian but they read from the old testament exclusively but they don't believe in Jesus.
Which a while later caused me to spend all night crying because I put the two and two together of: Believing in resurrection Sunday and that Jesus was gods son is what got us into heaven and I cried worrying one of my closest, sweetest friend and her nice family would go to hell. Then school, which had always been easy, became hard. Which made me feel dumb. Especially since my self worth was put into how smart I was and I wouldn't dare get below an A or high B because I was scared I'd get punished. Like the time I slammed my fingers a metal door on accident and spent the next fifteen minutes in tears and my mom told me if I kept crying she'd take me to the hospital to have them cut off my fingers. Because of moments like that disappointing my parent or having to big of an emotional reaction was not okay and it made me scared and uncomfortable. They knew I was struggling, they were the ones who stayed up till four something in the morning with me trying to explain the concept. But with every minor and major struggle I felt like my worth was slipping away. But the better I did in school the more my outstanding grades became the expectation which resulted in acknowledgement for my academic achievements disappearing. I felt like I was falling apart so I'd spend hours pray and begging god for help. To take the feeling of being worthless away. I developed an eating disorder sometime before ten. Specifically binge eating. My parents would find the trash, not understand that it was more than just "the sin of gluttony" and yell which made me feel threatened and eat more food.
And then I'd pray on my knees on the hard wood outside my room door with nails and splinters in it and hurt myself because not only was I a dumb glutton but I also apparently wasn't good enough for god to save or help. It made me think if he wants a relationship with me so bad why does he ignore me? I'd hold a knife to my wrist when I'd wash dishes to see if I felt him then. I questions if I'd even go to heaven. For all my problems the answer was to pray but the problem was I'm doing that but my prayers aren't being answered. I was having thought of death no twelve year old should have. On my birthday I was like a puppet simply going through the motions. Then I started questioning my sexuality. Not to mention, I'm now cut off from the world because this is all during covid, on the bright side they gave me my door back. Now I'm older and I have questions like. How was Adam able to name all the animals and understand god not wanting him to eat from the tree and their need to stay in the garden, but not comprehend his nakedness? How was Eve able to be tempted and not understand her nakedness? Why did they and apparently god think being naked was wrong? How are we not all messed up from tons of inbreeding and how do animals still exist after the inbreeding the would've occurred after Noah's ark if he only saved one male and female of each species? Why did god want to flood the Earth and purge it of it's evil humans if he was the one who decided free will would be a good idea? Since he is perfect and all knowing their shouldn't have been a moment of let me make something I'll destroy, wait nvm. My parents have changed a lot since I was little and have let me go to therapy. Of course I have a Christian therapist. Which I wouldn't mind if it wasn't for the fact that every time I bring up trauma that's linked to religion or need advice in terms of how to change a bad behavior or over come anxiety the advice is to pray. And at times I feel like I'm in a moment of doubt she feel she should try and pull me back in. But they also said I have to volunteer in the childern ministry at church.
I used to work with children ages three to five. Now I'm in one to three. And it feels like I'm spreading propaganda. They tell me what to say and what the goal is for the kids to believe by the end of the month. After I can't help but feel dirty. I'm at the point in my journey were I don't believe. But I have to keep working in the childern ministry, I have to go to church every Sunday, my parents are both devotional authors with published books. I'm the only one in my family who doesn't believe both extended and intermediate. I just wanna know I'm not crazy. I feel like I'm being brainwashed or something. Like drink the blood and eat the body of Jesus!? It's all too much. And now that my parents know they're trying to make me go back to believing. And I listen to them talk and it's like I can't have a conversations with you. You put your faith above all else. You believe whole heartedly, my point of view is automatically wrong to you because faith trumps logic so why would I share it with you? But at the same time it's majority of the music they play, it's all their advice, I go every Sunday, my classmates and friends are majority Christian and yet I even though I see the flaws and hypocrisy, I still can't help but wonder, am I the crazy one?"
"My grandma would grab me and call me "big booty Judy." And my butt was grabbed, spanked, and frequently talked about. Sometimes she'd just sit there tapping it while she talked. It started when I was around three or four and just continued. Though now I'm in my teens and rarely see her. But my breast were also a topic for a while. Comments like "where'd you get those from?", "she's bigger than you.", and "her sisters the tall one but she's the curvy one." They felt icky but I didn't dwell on them. But she's also an alcoholic along with many other things. She dated my mom's friends when she was in college, gets shit faced in at events like birthdays and funerals. Shakes her ass on family members and frequently offered us alcohol. But I always took pride in being her favorite grandchild. Which she constantly reminded me I was. She also has a serious spending problem. But the funny thing is. She goes to a church church. She's in the choir and used frequently as a look example. She hosts church events and potlucks. She even remarried in the church. Never mind the things I just said that'd be considered sins. She's the perfect Christian woman."
"How do you cope with the level of disrespect? I'm not eighteen yet, but I'm still able to be disrespected. My main problem is the disrespect from my parents. My parents who wish to be respected in their beliefs and don't want their minds to change. But at the same time, my dad has sent my scriptures and stuff for the past couple of months since it came out. I don't believe in God or Jesus. They force me to serve and volunteer at church and attend every Sunday. They paired me with a not so ethical Christian therapist. Then both gang up on me about it and take my silence as defeat when I'm just respecting their beliefs. I'm literally the only non Christian in my family. I also have mental problems from staying with them and just in general, but they won't test me because I don't behave in such a stereotypical manner. I want to say they love me, but does someone who blatantly disrespects you love you? I'm having a hard time with seeing if I should do something as drastic as no contact after I reach a certain age.
But at the same time their those awful parents who don't just blatantly suck but also have messed me up quite a bit, resulting in me not feeling like I have a right to be upset. I've told them about how Christianity mixed with their parenting drove me to suicidal thoughts, almost going through with it, and an eating disorder I'm still battling. I also can't just leave and close the door behind me. I'm the oldest, and their are two more kids just like me, and if I turned my back on them, I'd never forgive myself. They're my siblings, but they're also what stopped me from going through with the bad thoughts I was having. They need someone who will be honest, say the weird things, and answer the ignored questions. So, how can I deal with the blatant disrespect so that I'm around for them? What skill for stress management can I use? How do I block out the constant religious gaslighting that happens in church? Because I have over two more years of this."
"My dad said if people don't wanna have a baby, they shouldn't have sex even if they're married. But sir, you had three babies while financially unstable because you couldn't keep your damn hands off my mom. You were planning me, but your job fell through, and when my mom went to get back on birth control, it was too late, so I'll give you a pass with me. But my siblings were both surprises. So, quit judging and practice what you preach. But that's not what pissed me off the most. He said women will put all their time into work and not their husbands, and that's why some men cheat, but the way he said it, it was like he was justifying it. But my dad, he'd go to hooters alone, and when I needed tights, he got them from a woman their and it made me think what if. And I know it's stupid, but that what if. It is so loud.
And it's not even the first time he's said something along the lines of justifying it and almost blaming the woman who gets cheated on. But then he likes to be all up in arms about how his friend married a woman who cheated on him multiple times. My dad's like, I wanna pour into my kids but then makes no effort, and when we spent time with him, we had to initiate it. He doesn't do the hey you wanna . . . stuff. But he has his own company, and they can't get any work right now, so he spends most of his time at home. And then says I'm just to tired to spend time with ya'll.
My mom was sick to the point of being half passed out in a drive-thru after taking my brother to karate and having to pick up dinner. I would've offered to drive him if I could. I'm still leaning, and I'm bad at staying in one lane. But my dad was really busy on his PS5 with his made-up football team. So busy he couldn't take my brother to karate nor could he pause his game to get dinner. I'm kinda starting to hate him. He's also done a couple of other things, but that's what recently has made me mad. But I don't feel like I have a right to be mad because he's here and a lot of my friends dad aren't, and he's not physically abusive like my best friends dad is. I just don't know how I should feel. Is everyone's dad like this?
Edit: It's mothers day and he couldn't be bothered to get the food, pick up the groceries, nothing. #1Dad guys."
So is it truly a horrible go no contact at eighteen situation, a be watchful situation, or is it fine? I know some of this stuff is a lot but some of it was also in a moment of extreme emotion. Remember like I said in the beginning they're not always like this.
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"I'm rather young. My mom (42F) and my dad (41M) both grew up in the church. My grandfather is the pastor of his own church and my mother was raised by her grandmother who played piano in the church. Growing up I'd say I was the perfect little Christian girl. I liked praying and went to church, I wanted to help the world, and I wanted to be baptized before I even started kindergarten. I remember that vividly. I was sitting in the kitchen in one of our folding chairs because we couldn't afford real ones and I was begging my mom to let me get baptized.
My family and I are African American. The church I went to when I was little was a black church. My mother was the praise dance choreographer so of course I did praise dancing. I'd go to Sunday school, I wore the big puffy dresses, and I knew all the songs. Of course I had the common experience of being assaulted in a sexual manor by someone I went to church with. But we were both the same age and I just knew I was uncomfortable and she just knew that's how people bigger than us touched each other. All that came of me telling my mom and me not having to go to her house anymore. I was always told that I was intelligent and I believed everything I was told without question. Then my sister was born and we moved. At first everything stayed the same. We ended up having to switch churches as the previous one was an hour away from our new home. We found a new church. A church were you can wear your hoodie and jeans like it's a Tuesday. I made friends and played sports and nothing really changed until I was eight. When I was eight there was a girl on my softball team I'll call E. E is Jewish and at the time I thought everyone was Christian. As in Christianity was the default and only option. But my friend E's church wasn't called a church but a synagogue, and she couldn't eat specific foods together. E also talked about BaBat Mitzvah's. When I brought that up to my mom she said my friend was Jewish and that being Jewish is like being Christian but they read from the old testament exclusively but they don't believe in Jesus.
Which a while later caused me to spend all night crying because I put the two and two together of: Believing in resurrection Sunday and that Jesus was gods son is what got us into heaven and I cried worrying one of my closest, sweetest friend and her nice family would go to hell. Then school, which had always been easy, became hard. Which made me feel dumb. Especially since my self worth was put into how smart I was and I wouldn't dare get below an A or high B because I was scared I'd get punished. Like the time I slammed my fingers a metal door on accident and spent the next fifteen minutes in tears and my mom told me if I kept crying she'd take me to the hospital to have them cut off my fingers. Because of moments like that disappointing my parent or having to big of an emotional reaction was not okay and it made me scared and uncomfortable. They knew I was struggling, they were the ones who stayed up till four something in the morning with me trying to explain the concept. But with every minor and major struggle I felt like my worth was slipping away. But the better I did in school the more my outstanding grades became the expectation which resulted in acknowledgement for my academic achievements disappearing. I felt like I was falling apart so I'd spend hours pray and begging god for help. To take the feeling of being worthless away. I developed an eating disorder sometime before ten. Specifically binge eating. My parents would find the trash, not understand that it was more than just "the sin of gluttony" and yell which made me feel threatened and eat more food.
And then I'd pray on my knees on the hard wood outside my room door with nails and splinters in it and hurt myself because not only was I a dumb glutton but I also apparently wasn't good enough for god to save or help. It made me think if he wants a relationship with me so bad why does he ignore me? I'd hold a knife to my wrist when I'd wash dishes to see if I felt him then. I questions if I'd even go to heaven. For all my problems the answer was to pray but the problem was I'm doing that but my prayers aren't being answered. I was having thought of death no twelve year old should have. On my birthday I was like a puppet simply going through the motions. Then I started questioning my sexuality. Not to mention, I'm now cut off from the world because this is all during covid, on the bright side they gave me my door back. Now I'm older and I have questions like. How was Adam able to name all the animals and understand god not wanting him to eat from the tree and their need to stay in the garden, but not comprehend his nakedness? How was Eve able to be tempted and not understand her nakedness? Why did they and apparently god think being naked was wrong? How are we not all messed up from tons of inbreeding and how do animals still exist after the inbreeding the would've occurred after Noah's ark if he only saved one male and female of each species? Why did god want to flood the Earth and purge it of it's evil humans if he was the one who decided free will would be a good idea? Since he is perfect and all knowing their shouldn't have been a moment of let me make something I'll destroy, wait nvm. My parents have changed a lot since I was little and have let me go to therapy. Of course I have a Christian therapist. Which I wouldn't mind if it wasn't for the fact that every time I bring up trauma that's linked to religion or need advice in terms of how to change a bad behavior or over come anxiety the advice is to pray. And at times I feel like I'm in a moment of doubt she feel she should try and pull me back in. But they also said I have to volunteer in the childern ministry at church.
I used to work with children ages three to five. Now I'm in one to three. And it feels like I'm spreading propaganda. They tell me what to say and what the goal is for the kids to believe by the end of the month. After I can't help but feel dirty. I'm at the point in my journey were I don't believe. But I have to keep working in the childern ministry, I have to go to church every Sunday, my parents are both devotional authors with published books. I'm the only one in my family who doesn't believe both extended and intermediate. I just wanna know I'm not crazy. I feel like I'm being brainwashed or something. Like drink the blood and eat the body of Jesus!? It's all too much. And now that my parents know they're trying to make me go back to believing. And I listen to them talk and it's like I can't have a conversations with you. You put your faith above all else. You believe whole heartedly, my point of view is automatically wrong to you because faith trumps logic so why would I share it with you? But at the same time it's majority of the music they play, it's all their advice, I go every Sunday, my classmates and friends are majority Christian and yet I even though I see the flaws and hypocrisy, I still can't help but wonder, am I the crazy one?"
"My grandma would grab me and call me "big booty Judy." And my butt was grabbed, spanked, and frequently talked about. Sometimes she'd just sit there tapping it while she talked. It started when I was around three or four and just continued. Though now I'm in my teens and rarely see her. But my breast were also a topic for a while. Comments like "where'd you get those from?", "she's bigger than you.", and "her sisters the tall one but she's the curvy one." They felt icky but I didn't dwell on them. But she's also an alcoholic along with many other things. She dated my mom's friends when she was in college, gets shit faced in at events like birthdays and funerals. Shakes her ass on family members and frequently offered us alcohol. But I always took pride in being her favorite grandchild. Which she constantly reminded me I was. She also has a serious spending problem. But the funny thing is. She goes to a church church. She's in the choir and used frequently as a look example. She hosts church events and potlucks. She even remarried in the church. Never mind the things I just said that'd be considered sins. She's the perfect Christian woman."
"How do you cope with the level of disrespect? I'm not eighteen yet, but I'm still able to be disrespected. My main problem is the disrespect from my parents. My parents who wish to be respected in their beliefs and don't want their minds to change. But at the same time, my dad has sent my scriptures and stuff for the past couple of months since it came out. I don't believe in God or Jesus. They force me to serve and volunteer at church and attend every Sunday. They paired me with a not so ethical Christian therapist. Then both gang up on me about it and take my silence as defeat when I'm just respecting their beliefs. I'm literally the only non Christian in my family. I also have mental problems from staying with them and just in general, but they won't test me because I don't behave in such a stereotypical manner. I want to say they love me, but does someone who blatantly disrespects you love you? I'm having a hard time with seeing if I should do something as drastic as no contact after I reach a certain age.
But at the same time their those awful parents who don't just blatantly suck but also have messed me up quite a bit, resulting in me not feeling like I have a right to be upset. I've told them about how Christianity mixed with their parenting drove me to suicidal thoughts, almost going through with it, and an eating disorder I'm still battling. I also can't just leave and close the door behind me. I'm the oldest, and their are two more kids just like me, and if I turned my back on them, I'd never forgive myself. They're my siblings, but they're also what stopped me from going through with the bad thoughts I was having. They need someone who will be honest, say the weird things, and answer the ignored questions. So, how can I deal with the blatant disrespect so that I'm around for them? What skill for stress management can I use? How do I block out the constant religious gaslighting that happens in church? Because I have over two more years of this."
"My dad said if people don't wanna have a baby, they shouldn't have sex even if they're married. But sir, you had three babies while financially unstable because you couldn't keep your damn hands off my mom. You were planning me, but your job fell through, and when my mom went to get back on birth control, it was too late, so I'll give you a pass with me. But my siblings were both surprises. So, quit judging and practice what you preach. But that's not what pissed me off the most. He said women will put all their time into work and not their husbands, and that's why some men cheat, but the way he said it, it was like he was justifying it. But my dad, he'd go to hooters alone, and when I needed tights, he got them from a woman their and it made me think what if. And I know it's stupid, but that what if. It is so loud.
And it's not even the first time he's said something along the lines of justifying it and almost blaming the woman who gets cheated on. But then he likes to be all up in arms about how his friend married a woman who cheated on him multiple times. My dad's like, I wanna pour into my kids but then makes no effort, and when we spent time with him, we had to initiate it. He doesn't do the hey you wanna . . . stuff. But he has his own company, and they can't get any work right now, so he spends most of his time at home. And then says I'm just to tired to spend time with ya'll.
My mom was sick to the point of being half passed out in a drive-thru after taking my brother to karate and having to pick up dinner. I would've offered to drive him if I could. I'm still leaning, and I'm bad at staying in one lane. But my dad was really busy on his PS5 with his made-up football team. So busy he couldn't take my brother to karate nor could he pause his game to get dinner. I'm kinda starting to hate him. He's also done a couple of other things, but that's what recently has made me mad. But I don't feel like I have a right to be mad because he's here and a lot of my friends dad aren't, and he's not physically abusive like my best friends dad is. I just don't know how I should feel. Is everyone's dad like this?
Edit: It's mothers day and he couldn't be bothered to get the food, pick up the groceries, nothing. #1Dad guys."
So is it truly a horrible go no contact at eighteen situation, a be watchful situation, or is it fine? I know some of this stuff is a lot but some of it was also in a moment of extreme emotion. Remember like I said in the beginning they're not always like this.
2024.05.15 00:53 lastoflily_99 Earn money
Ard there any cash In hand jobs or indeed jobs in Clifton area that I can start straight away this week?
Looking part time work alongside my current full time job that simply isn't generating enough hours...
Needs to be within walking distance to water lane Not keen on commuting, rather save the money and I have a young dog at home
Thanks!
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Looking part time work alongside my current full time job that simply isn't generating enough hours...
Needs to be within walking distance to water lane Not keen on commuting, rather save the money and I have a young dog at home
Thanks!
2024.05.15 00:38 SyseSorrowfall "Shut the fuck up and. . ."
Where do I even begin.
I have a wonderful customer who is apparently butthurt over something I didn't do. Claiming that I was rude when I was not. Even my coworkers don't believe him at this point.
He stopped coming through my lane, but I keep doing my job with greeting people and farewelling people as well. Told me to shut the fuck up both times.
Jokes on you fucker - we now have your face on one of our store cameras and he isn't going to like the repercussions of his glorious actions. Even now I am talking (texting on lunch) to another PiC and who is more than ready to tell him not to come back.
Can't wait for my store director or assistant store director to print it off, then the PiC will "kindly" tell him to not comeback.
Oh, how beautiful and ironic this situation has been.
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I have a wonderful customer who is apparently butthurt over something I didn't do. Claiming that I was rude when I was not. Even my coworkers don't believe him at this point.
He stopped coming through my lane, but I keep doing my job with greeting people and farewelling people as well. Told me to shut the fuck up both times.
Jokes on you fucker - we now have your face on one of our store cameras and he isn't going to like the repercussions of his glorious actions. Even now I am talking (texting on lunch) to another PiC and who is more than ready to tell him not to come back.
Can't wait for my store director or assistant store director to print it off, then the PiC will "kindly" tell him to not comeback.
Oh, how beautiful and ironic this situation has been.
2024.05.15 00:06 baby_moose Some questions about a Polestar 2
Hello folks! I finally leased a Polestar 2. Had been eyeing one for years and the latest lease deal with the Costco rebate was hard to pass.
I have a few questions:
Any recommendations on what all I should be setting up? Like apps for the car (I glanced at the store, but did not find anything that stood out).
If anyone's interested, this is the config:
The Costco $2000 incentive was used to reduce the total cost of the car, which I believe reduced my payments from $523 -> $441 per month.
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I have a few questions:
- Is there any way to set up the screen to show my right side camera's view, when I turn on the right turn indicator? My Honda had that feature and I miss that quite a bit.
- Can I roll the windows up (or down) using the mobile app?
- The "Charge" screen shows an "Set Amperage Limit" section. Is that something I should be playing with at all? Or should I let it stay in the default 48A value?
- Where do you all leave things like sunglasses and coins (for the rare parking meters that don't accept credit cards) and such in your car? There doesn't seem to be a "central console" like most cars do.
- What's your preferred driving settings? I am slowly learning to use full regen, but so far have needed to keep "Creep" on.
- What's your opinion of Pilot? Does Adaptive Cruise Control work very well or has anyone experienced phantom breaking (like in Teslas)? Is the lane centering decent? I use both ACC and lane centering extensively on my Honda and it works well (ACC works very well, lane centering works until the lanes are faded or the road turns too much).
Any recommendations on what all I should be setting up? Like apps for the car (I glanced at the store, but did not find anything that stood out).
If anyone's interested, this is the config:
- Snow (would have preferred Magnesium, but this was the earliest available).
- Slate WeaveTech w/ Black Ash deco
- AWD with Pilot & Plus
- DAS: $1166 (0 down but registration, 1st month's payment, doc fee, etc)
- Monthly: ~$441
- Term: 27 months
The Costco $2000 incentive was used to reduce the total cost of the car, which I believe reduced my payments from $523 -> $441 per month.
2024.05.15 00:03 Marsyards_slimy Hi, I need help finding a Job
I have been out of a job for the past month and a half and have been looking for a new one. I have already applied at Navistar, McLane Company, Dollar General Distribution Center and Microsoft. I haven’t received any response so more leads would be helpful. If anyone here or anyone you know works at these places, would you please be willing to refer me to your HR department? I will obviously put you down as a referral so you can get a bonus if the company does that.
My skills are mostly based in driving different kinds of forklifts but I also have experience with manufacturing and mechanical assembly. I also speak English and Spanish and am able to work overtime. But PLEASE if anyone can REFER me directly to your company that would be deeply appreciated!!! That’s the fastest way I’ve been hired on in the past!!!
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My skills are mostly based in driving different kinds of forklifts but I also have experience with manufacturing and mechanical assembly. I also speak English and Spanish and am able to work overtime. But PLEASE if anyone can REFER me directly to your company that would be deeply appreciated!!! That’s the fastest way I’ve been hired on in the past!!!
2024.05.14 22:27 colorpup1 A Shitty Situation...
Sorry if this is too long but I really need to get this out since it happened so recently.
It was just an ordinary day at the grocery store I work at. Part of my job as a customer service lead is to hop on an express lane when the cashier lines are getting backed up... and I do just that, prompting a customer who had just a few items to check out at my line. Now, if I had to venture a guess, I would say this woman is around late 40s to mid 50s, so nowhere near elderly. We didn't exactly chat it up at my register, so I didn't really get a read on her, but she seemed ordinary.... or so I thought.
I do my usual greeting, she greets me back, and I start ringing up her items. Halfway through the transaction, the strong, foul smell of SHIT fills up my nostrils and I immediately think, "what the fuck is that smell?". Now for those of you who have worked in retail as long as I have, you would know that stinky customers are not uncommon, so I just came to the natural conclusion that this woman was one of them, or maybe she just ripped a fat one (you know what they say about 'silent, but deadly'). Or maybe they were burning something in the deli, I don't know. The point is, I don't think too much of it in that moment. I cash this woman out and she quickly leaves. The smell still lingers. Finally, I walk around to the front of my register.....Guys. Tell me why there were MULTIPLE piles of shit on the floor.
REELING from the shock from what the fuck I just saw, I dazedly walk over to my manager and tell her "I think a customer just took a shit at my register". She gets the mop and cleans it up (Thank GOD I didn't have to do it), then we go to the back office to check the cameras to find out where it came from (I was in denial that it was actual human feces). We could see the turds dropping from between her legs (she was wearing a dress), and then when she walks over to the pinpad to pay she actually steps in her own shit and tracks it across the floor.
This happened yesterday, and I spent almost the whole evening after my shift as well as this morning applying for new non-retail jobs because WTAF. I do not get paid enough to deal with this shit (pun intended).
TLDR: Customer took a shit while checking out at my register and left like nothing happened.
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It was just an ordinary day at the grocery store I work at. Part of my job as a customer service lead is to hop on an express lane when the cashier lines are getting backed up... and I do just that, prompting a customer who had just a few items to check out at my line. Now, if I had to venture a guess, I would say this woman is around late 40s to mid 50s, so nowhere near elderly. We didn't exactly chat it up at my register, so I didn't really get a read on her, but she seemed ordinary.... or so I thought.
I do my usual greeting, she greets me back, and I start ringing up her items. Halfway through the transaction, the strong, foul smell of SHIT fills up my nostrils and I immediately think, "what the fuck is that smell?". Now for those of you who have worked in retail as long as I have, you would know that stinky customers are not uncommon, so I just came to the natural conclusion that this woman was one of them, or maybe she just ripped a fat one (you know what they say about 'silent, but deadly'). Or maybe they were burning something in the deli, I don't know. The point is, I don't think too much of it in that moment. I cash this woman out and she quickly leaves. The smell still lingers. Finally, I walk around to the front of my register.....Guys. Tell me why there were MULTIPLE piles of shit on the floor.
REELING from the shock from what the fuck I just saw, I dazedly walk over to my manager and tell her "I think a customer just took a shit at my register". She gets the mop and cleans it up (Thank GOD I didn't have to do it), then we go to the back office to check the cameras to find out where it came from (I was in denial that it was actual human feces). We could see the turds dropping from between her legs (she was wearing a dress), and then when she walks over to the pinpad to pay she actually steps in her own shit and tracks it across the floor.
This happened yesterday, and I spent almost the whole evening after my shift as well as this morning applying for new non-retail jobs because WTAF. I do not get paid enough to deal with this shit (pun intended).
TLDR: Customer took a shit while checking out at my register and left like nothing happened.
2024.05.14 21:31 SonderAnonymous At my (29F NT) breaking point - is there hope for my relationship with my fiancé (31M dx rx)?
I (29F NT) am extremely neurotypical and emotionally/mentally/financially stable. I’ve been struggling with my fiancé (31M dx rx) for a long time, and could really use some tailored words of wisdom. Lurking this subreddit/community has been so incredibly validating and helpful as I navigate this overwhelming journey… 2 years into our relationship and I feel like I’m at my breaking point. I doubt whether he’s capable of changing fast enough, I’m not sure I want this for my life anymore. Things will only get harder as we age and kids are thrown in the mix…
The past year has been soul-crushing, I’m a shell of the person I used to be. I’ve self-isolated from friends, had depressive episodes (never had that before), gained an excessive amount of weight, am frequently paranoid and anxious (never had anxiety before). I just never have long-lasting peace, it has destroyed my mental health. Before all this, I was eager to get engaged/married while he was nervous and wanted to take it slow. Now things have flip-flopped: he proposed far earlier than I thought he would, and I’m hitting the breaks uncertain of our future when I’m supposed to be planning a wedding (I refuse to until I see long-term/consistent improvement from him).
I can say that thankfully, my fiancé is not on the extreme end of ADHD. He doesn’t struggle holding a job, he isn’t a slob, he doesn’t shut down sexually, etc. He was diagnosed with ADD (so inattentive ADHD) when he was 18, and has been taking Adderall since. He does not take as much as he is prescribed, which I’ve questioned and he brushed off. We have gotten into heated, and ridiculous, arguments since early-on in our relationship.
Fall last year I unintentionally stumbled upon the emotional dysregulation aspect of ADHD. I was watching reels on Facebook, and in one a woman started by saying “If your partner has ADHD, watch this.” I continued watching, and 5-10 seconds later she mentioned in passing how they have problems with emotional regulation. I was immediately floored and replayed the video to make sure I heard it correctly. I Googled it and, low and behold: there was article after article about this. I read bullet point after bullet point of the manifestations of ADHD, and I couldn’t believe how it described exactly what I had been dealing with for nearly a year and a half.
My entire life I thought ADHD just meant someone had more difficulty focusing or they were hyperactive. This is what most of [uninformed] society thinks, and also what my fiancé himself thought. Over a 12+ year period since being diagnosed, not a single doctor or psychiatrist ever once mentioned the emotional dysregulation aspect of ADHD to my fiancé. He had no idea! Previously, I had chalked up our problems to political differences and that for his entire 20s he was always around (and dated) people very different from me. So I thought he just had trouble adjusting away from judgmental worldviews he had adopted while being surrounded by like-minded people for so long.
The discovery of emotional dysregulation and RSD was ground-breaking for us. He had been starting to think I was the problem since he “didn’t have these problems in my previous relationships.” Well that’s because he always dated less-mentally-stable people (his most recent girlfriend was diagnosed bipolar), so by comparison he was always the more stable one in the relationship and the magnifying glass was pointed away from him. Making the link between our problems and his ADHD made it tangible in a way that he could understand, which provided a foundation for his growth and improvements to begin (alongside therapy). But it’s very difficult for a 30+ year old man with a brain disorder to unlearn bad habits he was fully unaware of & learn how to retrain his brain to process information in a healthy way…
My fiancé has externalized RSD - he becomes highly reactive and verbally aggressive. He is hypersensitive, his brain distorts reality and interprets innocuous questions/statements like “did you put water in the soap dispenser” or “that’s a lot of cereal” as personal attacks. He also has a very big problem not respecting certain differences in opinion we have, or not respecting my choice to not eat/do certain things - he will push and push and push and push, will not stop pushing even after I calmly & nicely asked him to stop dozens of times after dozens of arguments, will not stop even after I’m sobbing begging him to please stop with tears streaming down my face. What are these explosive arguments about? The most mundane, inconsequential things. I wish this was made-up: HOV lanes, me not wanting to eat salad, me not wanting to eat warm guac, me not wanting to eat mustard, me not wanting to try Adderall or coke, me having a different view/opinion on how we should heat up a frozen pizza, me not wanting to eat mushrooms because they make me sick, etc etc.
Every single time we have an explosive argument, he pushes and pushes and pushes. When I reiterate, for the 100th time, that I have autonomy over my own body and don’t need to do anything I don’t want to do, he tries to manipulate me by flipping the script and parroting words/phrases I’ve used in previous discussions (like saying I’m being “disrespectful” and “dismissive” of his feelings/opinions because I won’t do what he wants me to do). Only once he calms down does he realize how badly he effed-up, profusely apologizes, and promises to never do it again and that he’s capable of being better… But then he just does it again and again and again and again and again and AGAIN.
He tries to play the victim and come off as reasonable by saying that he’s just “trying to understand” me by asking questions. I told him that is a cop-out because after I’ve explained how I feel, he ignores it since it doesn’t make sense to him & doesn’t line up with what he thinks/believes, and instead he continues pushing/pressuring me.
More recently he also claims that he isn’t trying to pressure me to do anything TO MYSELF, he’s just sharing his own experiences and thoughts with me so I can understand him better. When you repetitively “share your experiences/thoughts” on XYZ after I made it clear dozens of times that I don’t want to do XYZ and to please stop pressuring me to, even if you don’t explicitly state “You should try XYZ,” you are still INDIRECTLY pushing/pressuring me.
I. am. SO TIRED. Resentment has been growing, I’m paranoid and anxious, I don’t trust him (because he has repeatedly lied to me), his substance use (alcohol and weed) has become less and less attractive. He claimed a long time ago that I’m obsessed with being right, but he’s just projecting - he’s the one obsessed with “being right.” While he loves how I do all the paperwork-related “adult” part of life, he gets really annoyed that I’m almost always ‘right’ about things while he is not - so he takes it out on me.
Things have gotten to the point of reactive abuse, which I warned him about a few months into our relationship (at the time I didn’t know the term, just the concept). I’m having such a hard time making my mind up on where to go from here. When things are good, they are so good. He is a genuine person and a good man, we have SO much love for each other. We share many laughs and have built a life together. But… his brain is plagued with a disorder (that he was not fully informed on & did not begin attempting to manage until 6 months ago) that breaks me down.
While he has improved since the ADHD link was discovered and he started therapy, he continues slipping up and defaulting back to his regular BS. I don’t think I can take it anymore. I don’t want to waste more years of my life, or end up trapped in a marriage because of kids… I’m afraid that’s what it will come to, and I’ll be forever mad at myself for sticking around despite the red flags and what I knew about his condition.
BUT… What if it’s possible for him to improve and stop hurting me? Maybe he needs different medication? Maybe there are other communication approaches we can try? Maybe there’s a better kind of ADHD-specific therapy out there (I don’t think his/our current therapist is helping much)?
I know that he has a long way to go, and that I need to focus on healing. What are methods that have worked for you? Is there a better way I can go about looking for a therapist that specializes in adult ADHD & who truly understands it and can help? My fiancé acknowledges and understands that he has a problem, I can see that he is genuinely trying to improve - he wants to be a better person for himself and also be the partner I deserve. He is struggling to make it happen, he wants it SO badly - he doesn’t want to lose me or the life we have together. I just don’t know how much more of this I can take… Please, any advice & support would be greatly appreciated. Thank you so much for taking the time to read.
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The past year has been soul-crushing, I’m a shell of the person I used to be. I’ve self-isolated from friends, had depressive episodes (never had that before), gained an excessive amount of weight, am frequently paranoid and anxious (never had anxiety before). I just never have long-lasting peace, it has destroyed my mental health. Before all this, I was eager to get engaged/married while he was nervous and wanted to take it slow. Now things have flip-flopped: he proposed far earlier than I thought he would, and I’m hitting the breaks uncertain of our future when I’m supposed to be planning a wedding (I refuse to until I see long-term/consistent improvement from him).
I can say that thankfully, my fiancé is not on the extreme end of ADHD. He doesn’t struggle holding a job, he isn’t a slob, he doesn’t shut down sexually, etc. He was diagnosed with ADD (so inattentive ADHD) when he was 18, and has been taking Adderall since. He does not take as much as he is prescribed, which I’ve questioned and he brushed off. We have gotten into heated, and ridiculous, arguments since early-on in our relationship.
Fall last year I unintentionally stumbled upon the emotional dysregulation aspect of ADHD. I was watching reels on Facebook, and in one a woman started by saying “If your partner has ADHD, watch this.” I continued watching, and 5-10 seconds later she mentioned in passing how they have problems with emotional regulation. I was immediately floored and replayed the video to make sure I heard it correctly. I Googled it and, low and behold: there was article after article about this. I read bullet point after bullet point of the manifestations of ADHD, and I couldn’t believe how it described exactly what I had been dealing with for nearly a year and a half.
My entire life I thought ADHD just meant someone had more difficulty focusing or they were hyperactive. This is what most of [uninformed] society thinks, and also what my fiancé himself thought. Over a 12+ year period since being diagnosed, not a single doctor or psychiatrist ever once mentioned the emotional dysregulation aspect of ADHD to my fiancé. He had no idea! Previously, I had chalked up our problems to political differences and that for his entire 20s he was always around (and dated) people very different from me. So I thought he just had trouble adjusting away from judgmental worldviews he had adopted while being surrounded by like-minded people for so long.
The discovery of emotional dysregulation and RSD was ground-breaking for us. He had been starting to think I was the problem since he “didn’t have these problems in my previous relationships.” Well that’s because he always dated less-mentally-stable people (his most recent girlfriend was diagnosed bipolar), so by comparison he was always the more stable one in the relationship and the magnifying glass was pointed away from him. Making the link between our problems and his ADHD made it tangible in a way that he could understand, which provided a foundation for his growth and improvements to begin (alongside therapy). But it’s very difficult for a 30+ year old man with a brain disorder to unlearn bad habits he was fully unaware of & learn how to retrain his brain to process information in a healthy way…
My fiancé has externalized RSD - he becomes highly reactive and verbally aggressive. He is hypersensitive, his brain distorts reality and interprets innocuous questions/statements like “did you put water in the soap dispenser” or “that’s a lot of cereal” as personal attacks. He also has a very big problem not respecting certain differences in opinion we have, or not respecting my choice to not eat/do certain things - he will push and push and push and push, will not stop pushing even after I calmly & nicely asked him to stop dozens of times after dozens of arguments, will not stop even after I’m sobbing begging him to please stop with tears streaming down my face. What are these explosive arguments about? The most mundane, inconsequential things. I wish this was made-up: HOV lanes, me not wanting to eat salad, me not wanting to eat warm guac, me not wanting to eat mustard, me not wanting to try Adderall or coke, me having a different view/opinion on how we should heat up a frozen pizza, me not wanting to eat mushrooms because they make me sick, etc etc.
Every single time we have an explosive argument, he pushes and pushes and pushes. When I reiterate, for the 100th time, that I have autonomy over my own body and don’t need to do anything I don’t want to do, he tries to manipulate me by flipping the script and parroting words/phrases I’ve used in previous discussions (like saying I’m being “disrespectful” and “dismissive” of his feelings/opinions because I won’t do what he wants me to do). Only once he calms down does he realize how badly he effed-up, profusely apologizes, and promises to never do it again and that he’s capable of being better… But then he just does it again and again and again and again and again and AGAIN.
He tries to play the victim and come off as reasonable by saying that he’s just “trying to understand” me by asking questions. I told him that is a cop-out because after I’ve explained how I feel, he ignores it since it doesn’t make sense to him & doesn’t line up with what he thinks/believes, and instead he continues pushing/pressuring me.
More recently he also claims that he isn’t trying to pressure me to do anything TO MYSELF, he’s just sharing his own experiences and thoughts with me so I can understand him better. When you repetitively “share your experiences/thoughts” on XYZ after I made it clear dozens of times that I don’t want to do XYZ and to please stop pressuring me to, even if you don’t explicitly state “You should try XYZ,” you are still INDIRECTLY pushing/pressuring me.
I. am. SO TIRED. Resentment has been growing, I’m paranoid and anxious, I don’t trust him (because he has repeatedly lied to me), his substance use (alcohol and weed) has become less and less attractive. He claimed a long time ago that I’m obsessed with being right, but he’s just projecting - he’s the one obsessed with “being right.” While he loves how I do all the paperwork-related “adult” part of life, he gets really annoyed that I’m almost always ‘right’ about things while he is not - so he takes it out on me.
Things have gotten to the point of reactive abuse, which I warned him about a few months into our relationship (at the time I didn’t know the term, just the concept). I’m having such a hard time making my mind up on where to go from here. When things are good, they are so good. He is a genuine person and a good man, we have SO much love for each other. We share many laughs and have built a life together. But… his brain is plagued with a disorder (that he was not fully informed on & did not begin attempting to manage until 6 months ago) that breaks me down.
While he has improved since the ADHD link was discovered and he started therapy, he continues slipping up and defaulting back to his regular BS. I don’t think I can take it anymore. I don’t want to waste more years of my life, or end up trapped in a marriage because of kids… I’m afraid that’s what it will come to, and I’ll be forever mad at myself for sticking around despite the red flags and what I knew about his condition.
BUT… What if it’s possible for him to improve and stop hurting me? Maybe he needs different medication? Maybe there are other communication approaches we can try? Maybe there’s a better kind of ADHD-specific therapy out there (I don’t think his/our current therapist is helping much)?
I know that he has a long way to go, and that I need to focus on healing. What are methods that have worked for you? Is there a better way I can go about looking for a therapist that specializes in adult ADHD & who truly understands it and can help? My fiancé acknowledges and understands that he has a problem, I can see that he is genuinely trying to improve - he wants to be a better person for himself and also be the partner I deserve. He is struggling to make it happen, he wants it SO badly - he doesn’t want to lose me or the life we have together. I just don’t know how much more of this I can take… Please, any advice & support would be greatly appreciated. Thank you so much for taking the time to read.
2024.05.14 21:30 phr33style Costco Soho Dresser - color?
 | I bought the following dresser (it was $150 off a few weeks back): https://www.costco.com/soho-dresser.product.4000230608.html submitted by phr33style to Costco [link] [comments] It weighs a ton and the guys did a great job carrying up my stairs (I tipped them well). I like the build and design, but the color threw me off a bit - it has this strange white haze all over the dresser (see pics). Does anyone else own this dresser and do you have the same color? It doesn't look quite like in the pictures and although I don't want to go through the hassle of returning it, will Costco support offer some type of resolution if this is not how it should be? |
2024.05.14 21:10 Front-Finish187 CMV: it’s acceptable to be angry with bad drivers and even be their karma.
Update: thank you for your many helpful perspectives and to those that took this post seriously in trying to help me change my mindset.
Let me preface this by saying I WANT my view changed. I want to become a more passive driver, and yet, I cannot shake how much bad drivers upset me, but I want to.
TLDR; anger is justified because of how stupid and entitled drivers are now a days. (Using this as a means to help myself not be as bothered about bad drivers). Edit: please explain the how behind “just let it go”, which is what a lot of comments can be summarized as. I really want to change sides guys but it feels like the answer is allowing entitled people to have their way - which just creates more entitled people and doesn’t help me or anyone else.
My biggest issue is - how can people be so entitled? Driving is one of the main things we have as a society with the same rules across the board (give or take between countries but we are focusing on the US). We all had to pass the same test to get our licenses. We should all have the same knowledge - so why don’t we act like it?
I drive defensively because I don’t want to be in an accident. I regularly keep 3-7 car lengths ahead of me depending on how fast we are going. Yes, I only use the left lane for passing. No, I don’t use my phone. Yes, I look out for others and try to do what’s best for traffic efficiency - not just my efficiency.
So - when people cut me off, enter a freeway going so slow it’s unsafe, never use a blinker, stop in the middle of a lane to make a turn instead of getting over, running red lights, sitting on my bumper instead of passing, etc. I’m sure all of you have your own experience with stupidity on the road - how do you not fucking seethe? How do you stay calm knowing that person that just jumped 5 lanes of traffic and endangered hundreds of people is more than likely thinking “wow I’m so lucky I made my exit!”
I want to stop getting upset. I want to stop using my horn as my only way of expressing the shame these people should feel. I want to stop wishing highway patrol would just do their job since it’s clear they won’t. It would be one thing if you could predict stupid, but the bar gets lower every day it seems like and I have to make more room for the dumbest and most entitled people I have ever laid eyes on.
submitted by Front-Finish187 to changemyview [link] [comments]
Let me preface this by saying I WANT my view changed. I want to become a more passive driver, and yet, I cannot shake how much bad drivers upset me, but I want to.
TLDR; anger is justified because of how stupid and entitled drivers are now a days. (Using this as a means to help myself not be as bothered about bad drivers). Edit: please explain the how behind “just let it go”, which is what a lot of comments can be summarized as. I really want to change sides guys but it feels like the answer is allowing entitled people to have their way - which just creates more entitled people and doesn’t help me or anyone else.
My biggest issue is - how can people be so entitled? Driving is one of the main things we have as a society with the same rules across the board (give or take between countries but we are focusing on the US). We all had to pass the same test to get our licenses. We should all have the same knowledge - so why don’t we act like it?
I drive defensively because I don’t want to be in an accident. I regularly keep 3-7 car lengths ahead of me depending on how fast we are going. Yes, I only use the left lane for passing. No, I don’t use my phone. Yes, I look out for others and try to do what’s best for traffic efficiency - not just my efficiency.
So - when people cut me off, enter a freeway going so slow it’s unsafe, never use a blinker, stop in the middle of a lane to make a turn instead of getting over, running red lights, sitting on my bumper instead of passing, etc. I’m sure all of you have your own experience with stupidity on the road - how do you not fucking seethe? How do you stay calm knowing that person that just jumped 5 lanes of traffic and endangered hundreds of people is more than likely thinking “wow I’m so lucky I made my exit!”
I want to stop getting upset. I want to stop using my horn as my only way of expressing the shame these people should feel. I want to stop wishing highway patrol would just do their job since it’s clear they won’t. It would be one thing if you could predict stupid, but the bar gets lower every day it seems like and I have to make more room for the dumbest and most entitled people I have ever laid eyes on.
2024.05.14 20:58 SenlanZWH TES vs G2 Hupu Rating and Comments
I'm going to try to translate those top comment from Hupu for MSI, I might skip some of them as they are Chinese internet memes that I've no idea how to translate, and those comment related to Honor of Kings, a popular league like mobile game made by Tencent.
The rating is user poll generated, you can give a rating between 2 and 10, and average is used. A total of 328k people participated in this series' rating.
Hupu rating is an in APP feature so it doesn't really have a link, but here is the post match thread for the match, and on the top there is an link you can click on that get you to that page. link
G2 Esports
G2 Esports
G2 Esports
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The rating is user poll generated, you can give a rating between 2 and 10, and average is used. A total of 328k people participated in this series' rating.
Hupu rating is an in APP feature so it doesn't really have a link, but here is the post match thread for the match, and on the top there is an link you can click on that get you to that page. link
MATCH 1: TES vs. G2
Top Esports| Player Rating | Top Comment | |
|---|---|---|
| 369 K'Sante | 5.3 | 369: You guys are are so good. : We are so good? |
| Tian Xin Zhao | 2.6 | That fight with Trist, if you just smited him, Trist would be dead, why play if you don't know the basic combo. |
| Creme Azir | 3.1 | Can't lane, but ok in team fights, had some good shuffle, their mid is just playing out of their mind today. |
| JackeyLove Varus | 2，4 | Loser Grand Slam is not been awarded by someone else, you need to earn it! (There was some drama with LPL Caster Teddy Guan joking on Sunday that JKL might become the only LPL player to ever lose against LCS, LEC and LCK in a BO5, hence the loser Grand Slam). |
| Meiko Nautilus | 2.5 | First time I saw people saying a game is not bot's foul when they got lane killed twice in 4 minutes. |
| Despa1r | 5.3 | This game is probably a lose regardless of BP, they are not playing like human. |
| Player Rating | Top Comment | |
|---|---|---|
| BrokenBlade Camille | 9.8 | We are Suzhou University of Science and Technology, we have an opening for a guest professor, would you be available for a quick discussion? (There is a Camille one trick in China with ID：Suzhou University of Science and Technology). |
| Yike Ivern | 9.8 | Putting bushes in TES base made them think they are playing Vietnam. |
| Caps Tristana | 9.8 | TES, you are the challenger. (Sukuna jpg.) |
| Hans Sama Kalista | 9.7 | Give Uzi 50 to get a cab himself and go back home. (Ale reference, he was once trying out for RNG and told he is not needed before he played, and given 50 as Uber fee to go home). |
| Mikyx Leona | 9.8 | Dear god, how did I do today, would you come and be my AD? (Uzi reference, his nickname in China is YYDS, meaning forever God, not always a complement.) |
| Dylan Falco | 9.8 | Kept picking new stuff, I'm becoming a fan. |
MATCH 2: TES vs. G2
Top Esports| Player Rating | Top Comment | |
|---|---|---|
| 369 K'Sante | 7.6 | Please come back, my Kanavi, Knight, Ruler, Missing. |
| Tian Jarvan IV | 2.8 | The first tower dive is really horrible, but watching Jacky fan blaming support, mid and jungle, while he missed axes, its just too funny. |
| Creme Corki | 3.3 | The best rated TES mid, if the two prior mid played like this, they will get flamed to retire. |
| JackeyLove Draven | 2.3 | Both AD doesn't have passive, it is fair. |
| Meiko Renata Glasc | 2.5 | I know what you are think, you want to wait for Kog gets 6 items, and Hostile Takeover their entire team right? |
| Despa1r | 2.7 | The Trist one trick, don't pick Trist, who else is going to contest the Draven pick? |
| Player Rating | Top Comment | |
|---|---|---|
| BrokenBlade Twisted Fate | 9.3 | If you win regardless of what or how you play, do we really need to blame you? |
| Yike Rek'Sai | 9.9 | Holy Crap, that 4 man knock up. |
| Caps Tristana | 9.6 | Already preparing for Sask. (Mid for Uzi's team in the Old Guy Cup, I think they are joking about a scrim between them on G2's Weibo). |
| Hans Sama Kog'Maw | 9.9 | Both AD without passive??? |
| Mikyx Braum | 9.9 | Int one in the end, with FPX emote. XD. |
| Dylan Falco | 9.6 | You knows how to BP to win. The only way TES wins is from bot lane, so you 5 ban bot, first pick mid Trist. |
MATCH 3: TES vs. G2
Top Esports| Player Rating | Top Comment | |
|---|---|---|
| 369 Udyr | 2.3 | The reason I don't ever think you are better than Bin is because you never stood up when you team is on the brink. |
| Tian Rek'Sai | 3.5 | SSSSVIP ticket, you get to spectate in game. |
| Creme Corki | 2.4 | Hanu has gotten their Rocket Launcher, he want to defeat the evil Boss Stone. |
| JackeyLove Kalista | 2.6 | JackyLove has become the only player to ever lost to LEC, LCS, LCK in an international BO5, congratulation on your loser Grand Slam. |
| Meiko Camille | 3.0 | Dive mid and trade kill isn't really worth |
| Despa1r | 2.5 | Why do you still have a job? |
| Player Rating | Top Comment | |
|---|---|---|
| BrokenBlade K'Sante | 9.8 | 체력 4700 방어력 329 마 저201 인챔피언이 저지불가, 쉴드, 벽 넘 기는 거 있고요. 에어본 있고, 심지어 쿨타임은 데 초밖에 안되고 마나는 15들고 w는 심지어 변신 하면 쿨 초기화에다가 패시브는 고정피해가 들 어가며 그 다음에 방마저 올리면 올릴수록 스킬 가속이 생기고! q에 스킬가속이 생기고 스킬 속도가 빨라지고 그다음에 공격력 계 수가 있어가지고 W가 그 이익-으아아아악!!! |
| Yike Ivern | 9.9 | The jungle guerrilla warfare from Ivern king, Fear beyond death for TES. |
| Caps Tristana | 9.8 | With the form Caps is in, I'm starting to get worried for Sask. |
| Hans Sama Draven | 9.8 | All Hans Sama: Shoutu. |
| Mikyx Neeko | 9.7 | FPX emote every game, this G2 is on to something, they look really good. |
| Dylan Falco | 9.7 | Ok, after this game we know how you will place in LPL now. |
2024.05.14 20:40 PennyPumpkin202 Town suggestions to live within 30 minutes of Somerville?
I'm looking to start my home buying process and with my job being located in Somerville, I'm hoping to hear some town suggestions from all of you.
I would ideally like to be within 30 minutes (drive) of the Somerville/Raritan area. The aspects most important to me are a good/safe town and being located near a biking trail. Being near a Costco and Shoprite are a plus.
Does anyone have recommendations? (Either places to avoid or to explore.) Any direction is appreciated, especially with a housing market not in my favor right now.
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I would ideally like to be within 30 minutes (drive) of the Somerville/Raritan area. The aspects most important to me are a good/safe town and being located near a biking trail. Being near a Costco and Shoprite are a plus.
Does anyone have recommendations? (Either places to avoid or to explore.) Any direction is appreciated, especially with a housing market not in my favor right now.
2024.05.14 19:23 t-rexcellent Ward 3 Bike Advocates Invite You to Celebrate Bike to Work Day -- Group Ride Down Connecticut Avenue + Pit Stop in Cleveland Park
Bike to Work Day is coming up on Friday, May 17th! This region-wide event encourages people to try bike commuting and see how much nicer it can be than sitting stuck in traffic to get to work. Many people who try Bike to Work Day become full time bike commuters!
The Ward 3 Bike Advocates (W3BA) are celebrating Bike to Work Day in two ways -- with a pit stop for bike commuters in front of the Uptown Theater in Cleveland Park, and with a group bike ride (or “convoy”) down Connecticut Avenue. By riding in a group, it will be much safer than riding by yourself, and can give you a preview of how safe and easy it would be to get around if there were protected bike lanes on Connecticut Avenue. We’ll go at a slow pace and make several stops to pick up additional riders. You can meet us at any of the stops below, just note what time we are leaving each stop.
The full planned schedule is:
W3BA will be using Bike to Work Day to draw attention to the incredibly unsafe design of Connecticut Avenue and Mayor Bowser’s recent decision to scrap a plan that would have made the road much safer. Protected bike lanes and other needed safety improvements would encourage far more commuters and families to bike on CT Ave instead of driving and help them get to jobs downtown, schools in Ward 3, and events all around the area. You can learn more about the recent decision and sign our petition calling on the city to build bike lanes at http://bit.ly/CTAvePetition
See you on the road! Feel free to let me know if you have any questions. The more people we can get on the ride and the more people we can get at the pit stop, the better, so please feel free to join us if you have time!
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The Ward 3 Bike Advocates (W3BA) are celebrating Bike to Work Day in two ways -- with a pit stop for bike commuters in front of the Uptown Theater in Cleveland Park, and with a group bike ride (or “convoy”) down Connecticut Avenue. By riding in a group, it will be much safer than riding by yourself, and can give you a preview of how safe and easy it would be to get around if there were protected bike lanes on Connecticut Avenue. We’ll go at a slow pace and make several stops to pick up additional riders. You can meet us at any of the stops below, just note what time we are leaving each stop.
The full planned schedule is:
- Meet up at the Chevy Chase Safeway parking lot: 7:30
- Leave Chevy Chase at 7:40
- Arrive in front of Italian Bar (across the street from Politics and Prose) at 7:50
- Leave Italian Bar at 8:00
- Arrive at Van Ness Metro (west side of CT) at 8:10
- Leave Van Ness Metro at 8:20
- Arrive at the Uptown Pitstop at 8:25
- PITSTOP BREAK! 20 minutes
- Leave the Uptown at 8:45
W3BA will be using Bike to Work Day to draw attention to the incredibly unsafe design of Connecticut Avenue and Mayor Bowser’s recent decision to scrap a plan that would have made the road much safer. Protected bike lanes and other needed safety improvements would encourage far more commuters and families to bike on CT Ave instead of driving and help them get to jobs downtown, schools in Ward 3, and events all around the area. You can learn more about the recent decision and sign our petition calling on the city to build bike lanes at http://bit.ly/CTAvePetition
See you on the road! Feel free to let me know if you have any questions. The more people we can get on the ride and the more people we can get at the pit stop, the better, so please feel free to join us if you have time!
2024.05.14 18:59 lita_atx Help with housing and food costs after medical emergency drained savings!
Last fall I left my awful day job to freelance, with enough money saved to last for four months even if I wasn't getting income from my freelancing. Unfortunately, less than two weeks after my last day, on a sunny afternoon, I went out for a bike ride and woke up in an ambulance after a driver in a car turned through the bike lane I was in. My shoulder was dislocated and suffered a fracture of the "greater tuberosity," which is the ball of bone where your arm inserts into the shoulder joint. This is also where part of the rotator cuff attaches, so I dealt with a lot of muscle issues as well.
With two ER visits in a week, plus the ambulance bill, multiple rounds of x-rays, and physical therapy costing $270/week for months, my savings was drained super quickly despite having health insurance. I was also forced to cut back my work due to limited use of my arm and daily pain for a long time. I am now back to full work capacity but am still working back to the level I'd been at before after needing to step back to recover.
My bike is my only transportation, so I'm unable to do the typical side hustles like Uber, food delivery, etc. I am working towards getting full payment from insurance companies involved, but I do not know how long that process will take if they decided to drag their feet. In the meantime, I am $200 short on my rent for June and haven't been able to afford groceries in a month. (I'm hungry but not starving thanks to having homemade food in the freezer to tide me over.)
GFM link: https://www.gofundme.com/f/pay-medical-bills-after-collision (does have injury photos but nothing super graphic) X-Rays and ambulance bill (currently on a payment plan since insurance won't cover any of it due to being "out of network") with personal information blocked out: https://imgur.com/a/udQukVd
The GFM goal is higher than I need by the end of the month, as right now I am hoping to raise $300 for immediate expenses. I'm delaying bills but can't do the same with rent.
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With two ER visits in a week, plus the ambulance bill, multiple rounds of x-rays, and physical therapy costing $270/week for months, my savings was drained super quickly despite having health insurance. I was also forced to cut back my work due to limited use of my arm and daily pain for a long time. I am now back to full work capacity but am still working back to the level I'd been at before after needing to step back to recover.
My bike is my only transportation, so I'm unable to do the typical side hustles like Uber, food delivery, etc. I am working towards getting full payment from insurance companies involved, but I do not know how long that process will take if they decided to drag their feet. In the meantime, I am $200 short on my rent for June and haven't been able to afford groceries in a month. (I'm hungry but not starving thanks to having homemade food in the freezer to tide me over.)
GFM link: https://www.gofundme.com/f/pay-medical-bills-after-collision (does have injury photos but nothing super graphic) X-Rays and ambulance bill (currently on a payment plan since insurance won't cover any of it due to being "out of network") with personal information blocked out: https://imgur.com/a/udQukVd
The GFM goal is higher than I need by the end of the month, as right now I am hoping to raise $300 for immediate expenses. I'm delaying bills but can't do the same with rent.
2024.05.14 18:33 Nevertoldanyone1 Laid off the same week as first child is due: Trying to get a plan in place and keep my head in the game.
Last week it was announced to the entire company that they ran out of money and will stop operations this week. It was a surprise to the majority of us but it turns out that the leadership made some poor decisions that left us exposed financially. Additionally, the company moved locations and offered me relocation just over a year ago, a lot of my professional network is 2000+ miles away. The big kick in the rear was the fact that they are giving us next to no severance (2 weeks).
At the same time, my wife (33) is 40 weeks pregnant with our first child. I (33) was the breadwinner and my wife left her job when she got was in the 3rd trimester. The plan was for her to stay home for 4-6 months at first and look into part time jobs after that. My salary was enough to cover our basis . For the birth, the we went the midwife route, but that wasn't covered under insurance and we paid cash for it not to long ago.
Right now, we will have 22k in savings if I include my last paycheck. Below are what I already budget on a regular basis.
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At the same time, my wife (33) is 40 weeks pregnant with our first child. I (33) was the breadwinner and my wife left her job when she got was in the 3rd trimester. The plan was for her to stay home for 4-6 months at first and look into part time jobs after that. My salary was enough to cover our basis . For the birth, the we went the midwife route, but that wasn't covered under insurance and we paid cash for it not to long ago.
Right now, we will have 22k in savings if I include my last paycheck. Below are what I already budget on a regular basis.
- Rent is 2300/mo. Lease through EOY
- Car: 630/mo - 2 cars, one paid off but much older, the other is 2 years old .
- Insurance: 240/mo - full coverage on the new car, basic on the other. Also includes renters insurance.
- Utilities 200-300/mo.
- Internet 80/mo.
- Gym: 40/mo - I do use this regularly and find it therapeutic.
- Food/Groceries/Household Items: 800-1000/mo (thats 125-150 on weekly food+ once per month 250-400 on costco food+household items) - I am a hobby chef and BBQ a lot , its for sure an area we can trim on.
- Subscriptions: ~40/mo - Youtube Premium and Amazon prime are the only subs we have, all media is consumed between those 2 platforms.
- I do have student loans but am currently getting them put on pause (500/mo)
- Update Resume (done) and Cover Letter (not done).
- Submit for unemployment.
- Enjoy the next 4 weeks with my recovering wife and new son, figure out how to be a father. Maybe some minor networking.
- Start to seriously look for work. I am assuming that it will take 2-4 months to do on this.
- Dont take the first job, take the right job. I have a semi-specialized focus (R&D) and would like to continue that trajectory. Changing industries will be a setback, but not the end of the world.
- Enjoy family time between look for work time.
- Keep this more streamlined lifestyle and bolster savings back up.
2024.05.14 16:52 PM_ME_YOUR_TITS_MEN Oof that unacademy guy
Today I got a call from unacademy and they wanted me to purchase some course and that sent me down the memory lane. Around year ago I got the same kind of call but as soon as I heard his voice my skin is clear, my crops are thriving, depression gone, I have 20/20 vision suddenly my word is brighter and vibrant oh I was in love. He had this hunky masculine voice closest would be this guy. He wanted me to purchase the course I didn't have money but I used to tell him "I am busy today can you call me later" and when he called I would tell him to explain everything again then I say I am busy call me tomorrow and how I am thinking about joining the course. He told me about type of course, how dumbass like me need coaching, the fees structure, the faculty, he told me about EMI and everything. One afternoon I was waiting for the phone to ring but it didn't he never called again. He talked to me about 5 days in hopes that I would purchase the course. I was devastated. Maybe he found better job, maybe he got married or worst of all he lost intrest in me😢. Anyways I long for his voice so I pickup every unacademy call in hopes I will hear his voice again and like the first time he would shake my core.
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2024.05.14 16:29 dankstache92 Who’s in charge?
Who, in your opinion, takes the role of team lead? If you ask me, it’s Jungle. I feel like the jungle, more than anyone, has his eyes on the map more and is of course back and forth between all lanes. I also believe it’s much easier for Jungle to keep fangtooth warded. I played a match the other day and we kept losing fangtooth. I was support and I told jungle he needs to ward it, especially since he has no issue soloing it. He told me that’s not his job.. maybe it is? Maybe it’s not.. but in my experience so far, when I play jungle, I keep fang warded and take charge of the map… we usually win. All lanes are hyper focused on their lane while jungle is focused on the entire map.
The game our jungle didn’t want to ward… we lost.
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The game our jungle didn’t want to ward… we lost.
2024.05.14 16:16 Schmoova Haven’t Played Dota in ~18 Months, Help on Game/Meta Changes since then?
Hey guys, I peaked at 3.3k mmr in the Fall of 2022, but my last game of Dota was in October 2022.
I’ve had a lot of interest in getting back into Dota recently, as I graduated university and have more time/energy to invest into the game.
I climbed up to 3.3k mmr playing almost exclusively Pos1 Gyrocopter, Pos2 Grimstroke, and Pos2 Jakiro. The Mid Grimstroke & Jakiro were off-meta even at the time, but they were great picks for myself.
Can yall help catch me back up to speed on the game changes since SeptembeOctober 2022? Feel free to include any and all info that you think would be relevant. I’m not too concerned with the current meta hero’s, as I always played those 3 despite not being meta, but basically everything else.
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I’ve had a lot of interest in getting back into Dota recently, as I graduated university and have more time/energy to invest into the game.
I climbed up to 3.3k mmr playing almost exclusively Pos1 Gyrocopter, Pos2 Grimstroke, and Pos2 Jakiro. The Mid Grimstroke & Jakiro were off-meta even at the time, but they were great picks for myself.
- Pos1 Gyro: 114 Ranked Matches, 63.1% WR
- Pos2 Grimstroke: 138 Ranked Matches, 58.7% WR
- Pos2 Jakiro: 65 Ranked Matches, 69.2% WR
Can yall help catch me back up to speed on the game changes since SeptembeOctober 2022? Feel free to include any and all info that you think would be relevant. I’m not too concerned with the current meta hero’s, as I always played those 3 despite not being meta, but basically everything else.
- Has the pacing changed?
- Has the responsibility/job of any roles changed?
- Has the early game (laning) changed at all?
- Big Item Changes? (or even new items?)
- Whatever info you think you may be relevant, whether to the overall game or specific to Pos1/2?
- Thoughts on my picks in the current meta?
2024.05.14 16:14 Schmoova Haven’t Played in ~18 Months, Help on Meta/Game Changes?
Hey guys, I peaked at 3.3k mmr in the Fall of 2022, but my last game of Dota was in October 2022.
I’ve had a lot of interest in getting back into Dota recently, as I graduated university and have more time/energy to invest into the game.
I climbed up to 3.3k mmr playing almost exclusively Pos1 Gyrocopter, Pos2 Grimstroke, and Pos2 Jakiro. The Mid Grimstroke & Jakiro were off-meta even at the time, but they were great picks for myself.
Can yall help catch me back up to speed on the game changes since SeptembeOctober 2022? Feel free to include any and all info that you think would be relevant. I’m not too concerned with the current meta hero’s, as I always played those 3 despite not being meta, but basically everything else.
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I’ve had a lot of interest in getting back into Dota recently, as I graduated university and have more time/energy to invest into the game.
I climbed up to 3.3k mmr playing almost exclusively Pos1 Gyrocopter, Pos2 Grimstroke, and Pos2 Jakiro. The Mid Grimstroke & Jakiro were off-meta even at the time, but they were great picks for myself.
- Pos1 Gyro: 114 Ranked Matches, 63.1% WR
- Pos2 Grimstroke: 138 Ranked Matches, 58.7% WR
- Pos2 Jakiro: 65 Ranked Matches, 69.2% WR
Can yall help catch me back up to speed on the game changes since SeptembeOctober 2022? Feel free to include any and all info that you think would be relevant. I’m not too concerned with the current meta hero’s, as I always played those 3 despite not being meta, but basically everything else.
- Has the pacing changed?
- Has the responsibility/job of any roles changed?
- Has the early game (laning) changed at all?
- Big Item Changes? (or even new items?)
- Thoughts on my picks in the current meta?
- Whatever info you think you may be relevant, whether to the overall game or specific to Pos1/2.
2024.05.14 16:13 Shagrrotten FG Decades Tournament, the 2010’s: Round 1
Well here we are, FG, our first decades tournament, the 2010’s. Thank you to everyone who nominated movies, and let’s get right into it!
Results of Round 1
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Results of Round 1
- Spider-Man Into the Spider-Verse (2018) (9) beat 10 Cloverfield Lane (2016) (8) and Sorry to Bother You (2018) (6)
- Snowpiercer (2013) (11) beat 12 Years a Slave (2013) (7), and Spotlight (2015) (6)
- Skyfall (2012) (9) beat 127 Hours (2010) (8) and Spring Breakers (2012) (7)
- First Reformed (2017) (10) beat Skate Kitchen (2018) (3), and Steve Jobs (2015) (3)
- 1917 (2019) (9) beat Sing Street (2016) (6), and Stoker (2013) (6)
- Silence (2016) (14) beat 20th Century Women (2016) (4) and Stray Dogs (2013) (3)
- Sicario (2015) (17) beat Sunset (2017) (3) and 50/50 (2011) (3)
- Shutter Island (2010) (11) beat A Field in England (2013) (5), and Tabu (2012) (2)
- A Ghost Story (2017) (13) beat Short Term 12 (2013) (6), and Tehran Taboo (2017) (1)
- A Separation (2011) (7) tied with Shoplifters (2018) (7), and beat The Act of Killing (2012) (3)
- The American (2010) (8) beat A Silent Voice (2016) (2), and Shin Godzilla (2016) (2)
- The Assassin (2015) (11) beat Shame (2011) (7), and A Star is Born (2018) (5)
- Scott Pilgrim vs the World (2010) (11) beat Ad Astra (2019) (6), and The Avengers (2012) (4)
- The Babadook (2014) (10) beat All is Lost (2013) (7) and Rubber (2010) (4)
- Annihilation (2018) (15) beat Room (2015) (5), and The Babysitter (2017) (2)
- Roma (2018) (12) beat April and the Extraordinary World (2015) (4), and The Conjuring (2013) (3)
- The Big Short (2015) (7) beat Aquarius (2016) (5), and Right Now, Wrong Then (2015) (0)
- Arrival (2016) (16) beat Raw (2016) (3), and The Big Sick (2017) (1)
- Atomic Blonde (2017) (6) beat Rango (2011) (5) and The Captain (2017) (3)
- The Ballad of Buster Scruggs (2018) (8) beat Post Tenebras Lux (2012) (3), and Bait (2019) (1)
- Portrait of a Lady on Fire (2019) (10) beat Barbara (2012) (1), and The Counselor (2013) (1)
- The Death of Stalin (2017) (8) beat Popstar: Never Stop Never Stopping (2016) (6), and Beasts of No Nation (2015) (3)
- Birdman (2014) (7) tied Phoenix (2014) (7) and beat The Double (2013) (2)
- Black Swan (2010) (11) beat Phantom Thread (2017) (8), and The Drop (2014) (3)
- Blade Runner 2049 (2017) (11) beat The Florida Project (2017) (9), and The House That Jack Built (2018) (2)
- The Grand Budapest Hotel (2014) (15) beat Blindspotting (2018) (2), and Paddington 2 (2017) (1)
- Blue is the Warmest Color (2013) (7) beat Only Lovers Left Alive (2013) (6), and The Great Beauty (2013) (2)
- The Handmaiden (2016) (11) beat Bone Tomahawk (2015) (7), and Only God Forgives (2013) (4)
- Once Upon a Time....In Hollywood (2019) (15) beat The Hateful Eight (2015) (8), and Bridge of Spies (2015) (4)
- Boyhood (2014) (7) beat Once Upon a Time in Anatolia (2011) (5), and The Hollars (2016) (2)
- O.J. Made in America (2016) (10) beat Parasite (2019) (9), and Brooklyn (2015) (5)
- Nightcrawler (2014) (12) beat Burning (2018) (7), and The Hunger Games: Catching Fire (2013) (1)
- Nebraska (2013) (7) beat The Hunt (2012) (4), and Byzantium (2012) (4)
- Mysteries of Lisbon (2010) (4) beat Carlos (2010) (3), and The Imposter (2012) (2)
- Carol (2015) (12) beat The Irishman (2019) (6), and mother! (2017) (3)
- The Lighthouse (2019) (9) beat Moonrise Kingdom (2012) (8), and Cemetery of Splendour (2015) (4)
- Moonlight (2016) (9) beat The Killing of a Sacred Deer (2017) (5), and Chappie (2015) (3)
- Molly’s Game (2017) (8) beat Coherence (2013) (7), and Cloud Atlas (2012) (4)
- The Master (2012) (11) beat Mission Impossible: Fallout (2018) (6), and The Martian (2015) (5)
- Cold War (2018) (5) ties Meek's Cutoff (2010) (5), and beats The Missing Picture (2013) (2)
- The Nice Guys (2016) (14) beat Contagion (2011) (5), and Mary Poppins Returns (2018) (2)
- Margaret (2011) (9) beat The Place Beyond the Pines (2012) (6), and Creed (2015) (2)
- Dawn of the Planet of the Apes (2014) (8) tied with The Raid 2 (2014) (8), and beat Maps to the Stars (2014) (3)
- Drive (2011) (17) beat The Revenant (2015) (6), and Mandy (2018) (4)
- Django Unchained (2012) (11) beat The Salesman (2016) (3) and Made in Dagenham (2010) (2)
- Mad Max: Fury Road (2015) (9) beat Train to Busan (2016) (5), and Diamantino (2018) (1)
- Eighth Grade (2018) (5) beat Elle (2016) (4), and Long Way North (2015) (2)
- The Turin Horse (2011) (10) beat Logan (2017) (9), and El Camino: A Breaking Bad Movie (2019) (0)
- The Way Back (2010) (8) beat Locke (2013) (5), and The Tree of Life (2011) (4)
- Embrace of the Serpent (2015) (10) beat Little Women (2019) (6), and The Whispering Star (2015) (2)
- Enemy (2013) (6) tied with The Wind Rises (2013) (6) and beat Like Someone in Love (2012) (3)
- Life of Pi (2012) (9) beat The Witch (2015) (8), and Evangelion 3.0 You Can (Not) Redo (2012) (1)
- The Wolf of Wall Street (2013) (7) beat Leave No Trace (2018) (6) and Exit Through the Gift Shop (2010) (3)
- Ex Machina (2014) (9) beat Thoroughbreds (2017) (4), and Le Havre (2011) (3)
- Three Billboards Outside Ebbing, Missouri (2017) (13) beat Ladybird (2017) (9), and Extremely Wicked, Shockingly Evil and Vile (2019)
2024.05.14 14:47 luluylemon First time in MH. Is it considered unsmart to pick support instead of tank to roam?
First time being ranked above mythic, currently at 27 stars. I duo with friends every now and then, but mostly solo queue any lane except jungle (cuz I’m the worst at it, rather leave the job to someone good). Recently I’ve been playing a lot of support, mostly Angela when she’s not banned, and it’s going pretty well; I have a ~65% win rate on 100ish matches. I’m always getting a gold or the mvp medal at the end, maybe 1 or 2 silvers. Her assists are always super high, her ult is great for saving people across the map.
I’ve noticed however that when we start losing, someone on the team will blame me for not picking tank (even if we end up winning later). It’s also usually something I’m not even involved in as the roamer. Ie last time this happened, Gusion decided to gank exp while I’m helping the mm because the enemy roam and jungle are in gold lane. The gusion wasn’t even doing bad (he was like 5-3), but he somehow died in exp and first thing he said is “next time pick tank”. This has happened a few times now.
Is it like an unspoken rule to not pick support anymore at this rank? IMO Angela is pretty jacked right now, and all the fighters and assassins are building defense anyway.
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I’ve noticed however that when we start losing, someone on the team will blame me for not picking tank (even if we end up winning later). It’s also usually something I’m not even involved in as the roamer. Ie last time this happened, Gusion decided to gank exp while I’m helping the mm because the enemy roam and jungle are in gold lane. The gusion wasn’t even doing bad (he was like 5-3), but he somehow died in exp and first thing he said is “next time pick tank”. This has happened a few times now.
Is it like an unspoken rule to not pick support anymore at this rank? IMO Angela is pretty jacked right now, and all the fighters and assassins are building defense anyway.