Carmen in money talks

My partner M 29 and I F 26 have been dating for almost 2 years. We have a great relationship until things got rocky with his infidelity. He would talk to females on social media and flirt or talk sexually. He never acted on his impulses but still no excuse. He’s had problems with lying to me and now I just don’t trust him. We’ve been good for a while until yesterday. He works late and isn’t off until 1230 am. I work until 1030 so I usually park outside his work and then we go home together.
Yesterday we went home as usual and I was a bit tired. I was dozing off here and there but I was listening to everything he told me. He mentioned that his new coworkers were inviting him to go out to eat and play pool. As I was dozing off he told he was going to ask if he can bring me along and it kinda woke me up because I never expected him to want me there with his new coworkers. I remember seeing his face when he told me and his excitement. All I could think was damn this man loves me to want me there. Then he proceeded on telling me other stuff like we needed to safe money and asked me about other stuff.
When we got home I told him I wanted to make sure what he said while I was dozing off about saving money and all. Then I mentioned to him how he said he was going to ask if I could go. He got in a defensive mode and replied saying he never said that… I was so confused because I remember everything else to the t but all the sudden he never said he’d ask if I could go? If he didn’t want me there I’d be fine with it but now it’s just bothering me that he is saying he never said that. I asked him if everything else he had mentioned was true to the T and he said yes but with an attitude and proceeded on saying I put it on our kids I never did. I am heartbroken because I’m tired of the lies and I’m trying to follow my gut instinct. I even drove to the park and sat in my car just playing out the whole scene and I remember him saying he would ask. Am I crazy? Could I have just “dreamed” it but yet everything else that was spoken is correct? I’m so confused. I told him I needed some time and now he’s upset saying I was the one that cost us our relationship for something he never said…
Tl;dr: My partner has me thinking that he took advantage that I was dozing off and denied saying he was going to ask his friends to let me come along. I know my gut is telling me I’m not wrong but is this something I should take in consideration to break up?

Sorry for this but this is a long one. I don’t understand something that happened recently and need help understanding this. For the past 3 years, I’ve been playing a game pretty regularly. I’m not mentioning it here because it’s not important. Just know it’s a pvpve open world sandbox style thing with nothing except money being saved between sessions and artificial and natural PvP modes. It does not matter what happens since you come back as you started the next time you log in. In the last year, someone (15m but same grade) from the school I go to found out I play that game and started playing it with me. We have done a lot in that time including getting some pretty rare cosmetics that take a long time to get. These cosmetics are specifically pvp focused meaning I’ve gotten pretty good at it these past 5-7 months. Once we did that, he wanted to keep doing the artificial pvp mode whereas I wanted to get back into the natural mode of it. It started an argument and we both took a long break from it. Around a week ago, we started playing the game again. He recently invited me to a discord server with other classmates who he knows since some were buying the game. I joined and was having fun talking with those people just trying to be likeable. A running joke in the server involves one person being banned for pointless reasons such as no saying a certain word or humming in the vc. I was having an okay time when I looked back in one of the channels and saw the discussion that involved whether I should be invited or not. The initial question was asked by my “friend” saying I was “chill now”. This was countered by two people saying how they had nothing against me but thought I was weird. I brought it up in a playful manner and the people who responded said they were sorry and didn’t know I was no longer friends with another weird person (we had hung out together since 1st grade and fell apart at the end of 7th grade). Looking back I should have been more concerned but I didn’t want to cause an altercation and get banned. I don’t think of myself as weird, maybe socially awkward at times but I think this interaction shows how I generally try and be nice to people at most times. Just today, me, my friend, and the two other people who got the game all got on together. We spotted a group of enemy players and went to go fight them since our group was double their size. We stayed there for a bit, me and my friend being more experienced spawn camping them a bit, before we sent them back to ground zero. We both died on accident when they got the upper hand on us and eventually my friend wanted to team up with them. I didn’t want to do this as teaming up with other groups like this is incredibly boring. He made fun of me to the other people in the call saying I was trying to be like a streamer he introduced me to. This wasn’t true although that streamer could have influenced some of my actions towards other players. We kept gong when I said a cringe thing and got kicked from the vc. I rejoined but was immediately met with a perma ban to which I responded by sabotaging my group as a joke. This wouldn’t have cost them anything since they were going to get off before any progress was made anyways and I thought it would be a funny thing to do. When I did that, they locked me in a jail cell before team killing me a couple times which ended in my “friend” stating, “you have no friends, this is the last time you will see us in a group together”. This really hurt me as after seeing the other comments, I felt I had to fit in as much as I could with these people. I never perceived as though I did something really horribly wrong so I messaged him later asking why he banned me, again, light heartedly. He said I was being an a** and trying to pin the blame on me. According to him, he kicked me, then I sabotaged, to which he banned and jailed me. I don’t think it happened in this sequence at all. I was still trying to be friendly with him and apologized to which he said we could play together again but I wasn’t going to be unbanned from the server. I don’t understand why he and the other people in this group share the same animosity towards me and this seems to be a large consensus towards my personality. I can’t understand if I’m the problem and I am weird or if I’m being manipulated by these people. This group is less of the issue moreover is the fact that they felt this way and if there’s something I can do to fix my image. I’m fairly average in everything physical and excel mentally and I try to be friendly and helpful to everyone. I can’t understand why people feel this way. Can someone help me out?

I have been teaching since 2005, and was a tutor (I helped other students in Japanese studies) for an additional 2.5 years. Teaching is all that I know for the most part, and I have never really put thought into signing a new contract for the next 2 years. However, just before the annoying beer named virus took over, I had started to feel like the place I am in was no bueno. There was as noticeable change in the "quality" of the students. They started to show more open hostility, disrespect, and defiance towards the teachers.
In my school in particular I am a foreign language and ESL teacher on top of being a gen ed teacher, and as much as I don't like it I have classes over multiple grades at the same time. Post beer, the school really changed. It was like admin and education department used that down time to mess up everything, the class times changed, the schedules changed, the school rules changed, it got worse and worse.
Also during this time a lot of the parents too stock in how well their children were actually doing in school versus what the teachers were saying (this is a semi-private schools so there is a higher incentive to smudge how well the children are doing). This led to a lot of the good children being removed from the school for better places, or for cheaper places (why pay so much if the quality isn't there), or they just moved away to a different city.
So to fill those spots the school did massive open enrollment drives and stalked the school with children who ... honestly they need special education to help them. Don't take this the wrong way, we had a lot of children who have ADD ADHD or were autistic, I am neurodiverse myself so I never really had issues with those kids after we learned a pattern that worked for them. These days, we have more neurodivergent children who have behavioral issues, who have a hard time maintaining themselves in the classrooms, but they can be managed with the right efforts (most of them).
The real problem are the children who come from real money families that zero respect, zero manners, zero self control, and zero drive to learn. At the beginning of this year I signed a new one year contract because, I can no longer see myself working in this school. Daily I am met with the hours of effort I put in the design of my lessons being turned to waste, the daily barrage of students screaming at me because they can't for the life of them talk with a normal voice volume, the daily frustrations of having to repeat everything in two languages 10 times because in neither language do they pay attention, I am tired of not being able to reuse lessons that were massive hits with the children in previous years because the child now don't have the language abilities or the practical abilities to do the work and the amount of time it takes to reduce, simplify, and remake the lesson is wasted because it no longer has the original meaning behind why they were doing it.
I am so tired of weak management, unhelpful administration, out of touch parents, and openly hostile or dismissive coworkers. Why did I sign a new contract, because I wasn't prepared to leave yet, I wasn't prepared for the move, and I have no idea what to do other than teaching and this school has made me hate being a teacher. Forgive me for I have signed a new contract when I am mentally checked out now. I will continue to do my work to standard, but I am tired of burning myself out to make stellar lessons to have them shat on.
Thank you for letting me rant.

MI has qualified for the playoffs 10 times, KKR has qualified 8 times (including this year), Hyderabad has qualified 8 times (results pending this year)while RCB has qualified 8 times as well (results pending for this year).
The other teams have trophies to show but for RCB it's been so close yet so far everytime.
IPL 2009 - Finals. 45 required of 36 balls. 6 wickets in hand that too of Ross Taylor, Virat Kohli, Mark Boucher, Utthapa. RCB lose the finals
IPL 2010 - Semis. Meet the favourites MI in the semis. Did have a strong line up - Kallis, Dravid, Kevin Pieterson, Utthapa, Ross Taylor, Kohli, Dale Steyn, Praveen Kumar, kumble. But gave too many runs in the last 5 overs
IPL 2011 - Finals. played CSK in Chennai. Were beaten comprehensively
IPL 2012 - no one talks about this year but RCB messed up their last game. RCB had to win their last match against Deccan charger to qualify and throw csk out of the playoffs. RCB restrict Deccan Chargers for 132. While chasing RCB needed 30 runs from 25 balls with 6 wickets In hand. RCB crumbled, lost the match. The team was strong with Gayle, Dilshan, ABD, Kohli, Saurabh tiwary, Muralitharan, Zaheer
IPL 2013 and 2014 - Ended up 5th and 7th
IPL 2015 - Qualifier 2. RCB's last match was against Delhi Daredevils. Had they won that match, they would end up 2nd on the table and would have 2 chances for the cup. Unfortunately the match was abandoned (Delhi made 187, RCB had played only 1 over). RCB lost the qualifier 2 against CSK
IPL 2016 - Finals. Chasing 209 at their home ground, RCB are 140/1 with required run rate less than 10. The middle order collapsed and RCB loses by 8 runs. Virat and ABD were 1 and 3 in total runs scored that season. Chahal and Watson were 2 and 3 in total wickets taken. Second final which they should have won but slipped through their hands
IPL 2017, 2018 and 2019 - definitely the worst years of RCB. Ended up last, 6th and last respectively. In 2018, their last match against RR was a knockout. The winner would make the playoffs. RR defeated RCB. In 2018, RCB decided to retain Sarfaraz Khan (less money for uncapped player) but left out KL Rahul.
IPL 2020 - Eliminator. RCB were strong favourites to finish top 2. They had 7 wins from their first 10 matches. They lost 4 on the trot and also their fifth one which was the Eliminator against SRH
IPL 2021 - Eliminator. Won 9 out of 14 games. Collapsed against KKR on a slow surface in Sharjah. The match that costed them the top 2 position was their match against SRH. SRH scored 141, RCB lost the match by 4 runs. Devdutt padikkal scored a 52 ball 41. Srikar Bharat was sent above Maxwell and ABD (who came in at no 6)
IPL 2022 - Qualifier 2. With Hasaranga and Hazelwood in the team, bowling looked quite strong. Strong batting line up - Faf, Virat (although was not in form), Patidar, Maxwell, DK. But banged into red hot butler who scored a century in the qualifier 2.
IPL 2023 - Needed to win their last match against GT. Virat scored a brilliant century only to be bettered by Shubman Gill.
RCB, apart from 2017-19, has been a very consistent team. They should have won two titles - 2009 and 2016 and one of 2020,21 or 22. This year RCB has come back into the playoffs race from an almost impossible position. Their batting is brilliant, bowling is slowly coming into work with everyone contributing. Hopefully their luck continues (you need that luck to win titles - drop catches, free hits at a right time etc) and finally they will have a trophy against their name. Not jinxing it, hoping for the best.

MI has qualified for the playoffs 10 times, KKR has qualified 8 times (including this year), Hyderabad has qualified 8 times (results pending this year)while RCB has qualified 8 times as well (results pending for this year).
The other teams have trophies to show but for RCB it's been so close yet so far everytime.
IPL 2009 - Finals. 45 required of 36 balls. 6 wickets in hand that too of Ross Taylor, Virat Kohli, Mark Boucher, Utthapa. RCB lose the finals
IPL 2010 - Semis. Meet the favourites MI in the semis. Did have a strong line up - Kallis, Dravid, Kevin Pieterson, Utthapa, Ross Taylor, Kohli, Dale Steyn, Praveen Kumar, kumble. But gave too many runs in the last 5 overs
IPL 2011 - Finals. played CSK in Chennai. Were beaten comprehensively
IPL 2012 - no one talks about this year but RCB messed up their last game. RCB had to win their last match against Deccan charger to qualify and throw csk out of the playoffs. RCB restrict Deccan Chargers for 132. While chasing RCB needed 30 runs from 25 balls with 6 wickets In hand. RCB crumbled, lost the match. The team was strong with Gayle, Dilshan, ABD, Kohli, Saurabh tiwary, Muralitharan, Zaheer
IPL 2013 and 2014 - Ended up 5th and 7th
IPL 2015 - Qualifier 2. RCB's last match was against Delhi Daredevils. Had they won that match, they would end up 2nd on the table and would have 2 chances for the cup. Unfortunately the match was abandoned (Delhi made 187, RCB had played only 1 over). RCB lost the qualifier 2 against CSK
IPL 2016 - Finals. Chasing 209 at their home ground, RCB are 140/1 with required run rate less than 10. The middle order collapsed and RCB loses by 8 runs. Virat and ABD were 1 and 3 in total runs scored that season. Chahal and Watson were 2 and 3 in total wickets taken. Second final which they should have won but slipped through their hands
IPL 2017, 2018 and 2019 - definitely the worst years of RCB. Ended up last, 6th and last respectively. In 2018, their last match against RR was a knockout. The winner would make the playoffs. RR defeated RCB. In 2018, RCB decided to retain Sarfaraz Khan (less money for uncapped player) but left out KL Rahul.
IPL 2020 - Eliminator. RCB were strong favourites to finish top 2. They had 7 wins from their first 10 matches. They lost 4 on the trot and also their fifth one which was the Eliminator against SRH
IPL 2021 - Eliminator. Won 9 out of 14 games. Collapsed against KKR on a slow surface in Sharjah. The match that costed them the top 2 position was their match against SRH. SRH scored 141, RCB lost the match by 4 runs. Devdutt padikkal scored a 52 ball 41. Srikar Bharat was sent above Maxwell and ABD (who came in at no 6)
IPL 2022 - Qualifier 2. With Hasaranga and Hazelwood in the team, bowling looked quite strong. Strong batting line up - Faf, Virat (although was not in form), Patidar, Maxwell, DK. But banged into red hot butler who scored a century in the qualifier 2.
IPL 2023 - Needed to win their last match against GT. Virat scored a brilliant century only to be bettered by Shubman Gill.
RCB, apart from 2017-19, has been a very consistent team. They should have won two titles - 2009 and 2016 and one of 2020,21 or 22. This year RCB has come back into the playoffs race from an almost impossible position. Their batting is brilliant, bowling is slowly coming into work with everyone contributing. Hopefully their luck continues (you need that luck to win titles - drop catches, free hits at a right time etc) and finally they will have a trophy against their name. Not jinxing it, hoping for the best.

Hello there everyone, before anything I do have to state that I have to be vague about a lot of this stuff since it is TW as well as legal things so here, we are. Fake Names used
For a little back story, I 20 F then 19 F met my ex-boyfriend 21 M (20 then) in December of 2023. I was renting out a room in a house that wasn't in the safest area but the cheapest rent in the area so I couldn't complain much, but I talked to my landlord who told me I needed to move out by the first week of January of 2024. I had a stable job and almost 1k in savings, so I wasn't to worry about trying to find a place but the area I lived in was way too expensive and most places were denying me. I decide one day that I would go on bumble on the friends and dating part of the app to get connected with people in the area since I didn't have many friends at the time. I met my ex-boyfriend, Jacob. He was engaged and in an open relationship, from what I was told from both parties, it was open long before I met Jacob. I did meet his fiancée Lila, she was about my age only a few weeks older than I was. (20 F).
It was really stupid of me I know but I was also trying to enter my idgaf era, about two days after our first date we hooked up at his place with Lila joining in. After a night of the devil's tango, I asked Jacob if we were together or just FBW since I know that I connect with people to quickly and get attached (childhood Trauma doesn't matter) anyway, he gave me a kiss and smiled, saying that we were dating now. and honestly, I was overjoyed, he promised I could stay with him and Lila until I could find a place for myself, and I was thankful. But I wouldn't be making this post if there wasn't a turn for the worst, He had convinced me many times to call out of work because he needed me and needed help with cleaning. So, I did this ended up costing me my job and slowly I had to eat away at my savings because I didn't have a job. Door Dash became my best friend for money. Fast forward a bit since I don't really know when's the best time to start explaining more.
He landed a job at a Greek food shop about half a mile away from the apartment complex that we were at and he asked if I could drive him to and from work since he didn't have a car, I said sure but he needed to walk or get a bike off of FB marketplace because I couldn't always be his ride to work since I needed to find my own job. He got a bit mad at this because I wouldn't drive him to and from work and he got tired of having to do it, so he stopped working, so three people in an apartment building with almost no way to pay rent. Before people come at me asking why I didn't help with rent that was because when I moved in we agreed that I would help with grocery's, cooking dinners and cleaning the kitchen, and I agreed since I would much rather do dishes then laundry. About another two weeks after this Greek job fail, I landed a job as a nanny for an amazing family and a very adorable five-month-old. I loved this family so much and they were so kind and open and very accepting of everything. It almost felt like my dream job.
Jacob was happy for me to same with Lila and honestly, I thought this was going to be perfect, I didn't know it then but after putting puzzle pieces together I found out that he had well, taken advantage of me, on my birthday to be exact.
After I found this out, I decide to leave for a few days to one of my friends place about two hours away from the apartment, Lila told me she would play devils advice and figure out exactly what was happening because at this point, we both knew we needed to get out of this relationship but didn't know how. So, when I was leaving to go to my friends, he deiced to throw himself on my car preventing me to leave, I rolled down my window, stupid of me I know. I told him that he needed to leave, he started crying saying that he needed me and that he couldn't be alone. I remined him that his soon to be wife was in the apartment and wanted to spend time with him, he said that he couldn't do it alone and couldn't bear the thought of me leaving, I had to call Lila out of the apartment to get him off my car since he was hanging on my car door. After almost forty minutes of me telling him to get off of the car he finally let go and went back into the apartment, I stayed at my friends for about a day before he was blowing up my phone begging me to come back and that he needed me and couldn't go on without me. My friend suggested I stayed a little bit longer at their place but I said no and that I needed to go help him. So I left later that next day and what I came home to was a mess, the apartment trashed and disorganized, my stuff thrown everywhere and messy. We talked about his reaction to it all and he consistently made himself the victim.
He constantly tried to get me pregnant, almost every day he was trying, while I was telling him I didn't want to be tied down for the next 18 or 19 years of my life taking care of something too stupid to care of itself, I couldn't even take care of myself sometimes lmao (I would like kids in the future but I just don't want one at the age of twenty) Eventually Lila and I knew we needed to get out of this relationship since he was becoming more and more toxic demanding that we give him our phones so he could search through them. I denied hard, I believe that your partner shouldn't search through your phone, if you need to use it go ahead if you wish. But I'll be damned if I'm letting someone forcefully going through my phone because of their insecurities. He constantly gaslit us as well as lying about everything and how we were the issue, never him. Manipulation was almost like his superpower. As well as many other things I really don't wish to get into.
Idk when to skip to but after a lot of secretly planning and scheming, my friend in another state agreed to allow us to move into her place to get away from him and to start a new life almost, and honestly so far it's been great. I have a stable job, some new friends and honestly it couldn't be better. I did call the police and filed a report on him, but since he lives in a whole other city than the city it happened in it taking a lot longer than one would hope. But just recently I had this large gut feeling, something I hadn't felt since the night I met Jacob. I ignored it that time and this time I refused to ignore it. So here is where I am asking if AITA. After much self-debate I called his father and told him most about what happened how it happened and not where I am, but I just told him that I am in a safe place. I wasn't expecting much because as a parent of a child who does something like that what would be the right responds.
(I do not have a child idk why I need to specify that but yeah)
It took me a while to write this, but I really need some unbiased opinions, a lot of people are saying I am in the wrong and a few close ones says that I am in the right, so what better way to find opinions?
So AITA?

Okay, so, am I the asshole... I want to give a little background. So, my husband works hard and tends to show his love by bringing home money. Today is my birthday, and for the past two years, he has completely forgotten my birthday (2 years ago), and then bought me a gift last year but no card, cake, etc - just bought something that I literally told him to buy so he wouldnt have to think about it. In past, even when he does buy cards, he doesn't "fill them in" as he calls it, just gives me blank cards. So, I have tried for many years to tell him that my bday is very important to me, I grew up with narcotics addicts and they never celebrated it, and that I want to feel like he thought about me. I also regularly tell him that, while I appreciate him working hard, I sometimes need him to show me love in the ways I receive it, which is through quality time and thoughtful gestures. I would far rather get a handwritten note than a bought gift, and I fully recognize there is probably privilege in that statement in that my needs are met. So last year, I bought my own cake - and I told him that I no longer wanted to celebrate my birthday because it always ends up being hurtful. This year, I bought my own gifts (farming overalls that I LOVE), and told myself I would have zero expectations. My birthday present to myself was to have an uninterrupted day to work on the farm (it's planting season, and I am behind). I had a really great day - super productive and was feeling great, still working at 5:30 when my husband called and said he would be home late, and asked me to pick up my own cake. I told him that being asked made me feel resentful, and if I were to go get it I'd feel more resentful, so no, I was not going to go pick it up. He said well, I guess you will just eat cake tomorrow then, I said that's fine. He got short and snippy and hung up. Fast forward an hour, he gets home with the cake - and proceeds to tell me that he and his barely adult employee have both talked about me all the way home, and that his employee thinks I'm conceited and that I just need to go back to work and quit being so entitled. (More background, I worked full time as a CPA until 5 years ago, always was the breadwinner, and then got sick with a lifelong issue and could no longer do it. Now I farm our property, which has mostly been start up costs, but is now making okay income, and something we had both agreed to do and wanted to do for 15+ years. I also parent our children mostly solo, make all meals, clean the house, do all dr visits, all kid outings, parties, etc. - I am always incredibly busy and still very hard-working)... anyway, I feel super betrayed by him bad-mouthing me... I feel embarrassed... but I don't feel like I was wrong. I didn't think it was fair for him to ask me to stop what I was doing, nor did it feel fair to myself to have to go get my own cake again, so I drew a boundary. Was I out of line? I mean, I questioned myself on this before saying no, but I know I would have felt resentful if I went to get it. I just want to feel like he thought about ME, not just tossed money at something careless... I don't even like cake and never have... which, whatever, it's a traditional birthday thing... but it just feels like he is checking the box. Here is the requisite cake, your unfilled out card (there wasn't actually any card), and buy yourself a gift you like... the love part feels like it's missing. Am I crazy? Am I an entitled shit? Am I the asshole here?

Hii! My name is Sophia and I’m a 16 year old girl looking to exchange stylish letters/small packages with a penpal :D I also don’t mind just sending messages to each other here on Reddit, or a different platform you may be comfortable with!
Let’s set one thing straight… I am extremely lonely! I haven’t had a real connection or conversation with anyone for a long time and I’m need of someone to talk to! I don’t mind any conversation, wether it’s deep and personal or if it’s just something about your day. We can talk about anything!! I have a great personality and just looking for a real human connection.
I’ve been homeschooled for a long time, since the past 8 years! So I’m not very social, and I have zero friends, and I mean that literally 😅 Unless you count my journal as one! But just because I don’t have friends, doesn’t mean I don’t know how to make a great conversation 😉 I have so much to talk about, our conversations could go on for a long time with white I have stored in here 🧠
I’m not very focused on school, I just do the assigned work and go to classes and that’s it, nothing extra! It’s just really hard for me to focus on it, I don’t feel happy doing it and doesn’t have anything to do with what my future career is going to be 🎤 Being a singesongwriter is my goal for the future, and yes to most people it probably sounds silly and think it’s not possible, but if it was then would be have any musicians today? I like to think that almost anything is possible!! 🌟💭 I honestly can’t say if I’m good or bad. I’ve been singing almost non stop for the past six years. Of course there are some things I need to improve on though. The thing is.. I’ve never sang in front of anyone before! Not even my own parents. I sing in front of my brother, but he’s really young so he can’t criticize me 😣
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I like drawing, coloring, doodling. I have a journal that I like to decorate with stickers and cute little designs, which is what I plan to do in our letters!! I’m not the best, but I’m not the worst either 😄📝
I have an “online business.” I sell here on Reddit and other platforms as well. I sell miniature toys and have been doing so for over a year. I make a decent amount of money from it! 🤑😅
I love cats, flowers/plants/nature 💐, both my parents are amazing cooks so it’s hard to choose a favorite dish 😬, one of my favorite colors is blue, and I can describe what I look like in a private chat if you’re interested in knowing!
I’m very serious about skincare, I had really horrible acne and after all these years I’ve finally been able to clear it up completely 🤩 My skin has never been more radiant :D Still needs work in some places though, I am always open to hearing what you think are the best products, or products that you’ve used that you feel are amazing! Im half Korean, and have always wanted to try Korean/Japanese skincare products. Im not very big on makeup, I don’t wear any. I’m working on showing my natural beauty, and also because I don’t want my skin to break out 😅 I like wearing lipgloss and that’s about it :o
I’ve been through some really dark times and I’ve found the easiest way to let your feelings out is by writing it out in a journal, which is what I’ve been doing recently! My young brain is still growing so it’s hard to process what I see and hear sometimes, and I talk inside my head a lot to try and process it, but the best way to make sense of it all is by writing out what you really feel ❤️‍🩹 But, just know that even if you may be going through something terrible, that it will eventually come to an end, because life is not that cruel and has to balance negative and positive. It’s what I’ve learned and seen, that’s why we have so many emotions because we can’t just be happy all the time, and life can’t just give you happy moments every day, sometimes you need sad/bad days in order to appreciate the good ones! I realized that the past few years I haven’t done anything productive or tried to make myself feel better. But that’s changing! I’ve starting exercising, journaling, upgraded skincare routine, eating healthier and more nutritious hearty foods, and hoping to keep it up! Remember to love yourself and don’t neglect your body, and always take care of yourself 😙 And hopefully once we start chatting, you’ll feel comfortable sharing any dark times you’ve been through!
I’m looking for a penpal from anywhere, male or female!! And hopefully also around my age (16-25), but age doesn’t really matter to me, it’s just a number after all! 💌 We can send letters, chat here on Reddit (or somewhere else if you’d like) or little packages with things each of us like ours letters inside! I’ll be sure to design the letters in an aesthetic you like ✨ I really just want to talk about anything and everything, whatever we want!! Hopefully it can turn into a long lasting friendship 💝
Message me if you’re interested in becoming my penpal! There’s still so much you haven’t learned about me yet <3

I’m an Uber driver in Florida and was assaulted by a passenger last Thanksgiving. He’s been arrested, tried, found guilty, and now comes seeking restitution.
I am not requesting much at all. The guy who hit me has money. I’m not after millions. I’m just after my lost wages. We’re talking 2k at most. Like a parking ticket to him. My car needs repairs. I just want the restitution to pay for those repairs and continue working. I’m not looking for never have to work again money.
That said, it’s not him I’m having difficulty with. It’s Victim Services. My first caseworker sent me emails riddled with typos to the point when I asked for clarification, I just got more typos. Nothing was explained to me clearly. She kept telling me to fill out a form she sent but never sent until months later I said it never arrived and will drive an hour to the courthouse to speak to her personally. That form appeared in my inbox instantly.
I filled it out. Sent it back.
She tells me it’s the wrong form. But it’s the form she sent.
I had emailed her that I had lost confidence in this case and any hope of satisfactory results. I passed the information onto the lawyer appointed to me.
Today I was put in touch with a new victim’s advocate asking for further information on items I cannot provide because they do not exist. I haven’t had a job until I started rideshare in 2022 because I lived on SSI.
They want tax returns I can’t provide because I didn’t file taxes until this year. You don’t have to file taxes on SSI and when I started Uber in 2022 I didn’t clear the earnings threshold that required filing.
They want documentation from my supervisor, they can’t follow I’m self-employed. There is no one above me. I’m it. I handed in what I had and repeated myself time and again my situation is unusual and I want to speak to a human in person. I need someone to walk me through it like I’m a five year old and break it down. I’m only one person with not enough hours in the day.
I can’t get documentation of the assault from Uber (I tried) and got stonewalled that I needed a lawyer to request information and they will not speak to me further on the issue.
Today the new advocate says to me “If you were unemployed at the time of the crime we cannot file for lost wages.”
I just…. I just took a breath and wrote everything out again. It’s like either no one is reading, no one cares, or they’re just being deliberately obtuse.
My next step is filing a complaint with the State Attorney. I also called a lawyer I had previously contacted about the case to reconsider representing me. So that’s where I’m at right now.
Any other suggestions or am I on the right track?

I fell 6 months ago at work and initially thought I just sprained my ankle, which was covered by workers comp. Now I am having nerve issues in my arm which my doctor suspects is a result of my fall as well and will require surgery to correct. I let my manager know and have been talking to my claim case worker as well, but my manager has basically said that the money to pay for my injury will come from their bonus and doesn’t seem too happy about this whole situation being reopened. Is it legal for these claims to be tied to bonuses for managers? I feel concerned that this will negatively affect my job when I return from time off for surgery and I’m wondering if I should drop it and just let my health insurance cover my needs.

You never know who could be out there right? So I figured I'd try and lay this out there to the universe and see what happens. I'm entering an interesting place in my life, I'm a 30 year old single straight male living alone in California. I've often disappointed by people, it's hard to connect with people I usually feel like a ghost or alien at times. I know you aren't made for everyone, but I do know real genuine connections are possible! I'm over the night life scene, I'm over the dating apps, I'm over superficial and meaningless stuff. I'm the type of person who finds value in the simple things, I believe love and money have no correlation. However I realize we all have to make a living to survive. I'm sick of all this generalizing of the dating scene for both men and women. It's exhausting. There are good men and women out there but of course they are hard to find, and harder to keep. I believe in loyalty, communication, honesty and self reflection.
Anyways enough with the serious talk haha. I'm open to meeting people who are also fed up with all the bullshit of modern life now a days. I'm a decent looking guy (if that matters). Ethnicly I'm mixed. I'm into day trips, good music, animals, videography, beaches, food, comedy and much more. If you see this and it resonates with you, let me know. I'd prefer someone on the Westcoast but if you think we'd really connect I'm open to anywhere.

Hey guys I am a single mom 24 and my LO is 12 months. I get no support from my child father and I live with family who doesn’t make me pay bills currently. I graduated from UCLA in 2021 and now I’m taking some difficult science classes at a community college to prepare for applications to grad school next year. I am not working and I survive off of the 900 I get from the county and savings or from my small side hustles.
I was talking to a family member today and she asked me if I was working. And in my mind it would seem impossible for me to work right now. I barley sleep enough, I can barley keep up with my life being a single parent. And in my opinion, focusing on school so that I can actually make enough money to take care of my son and I in the future seems like the better option. Especially if I can live off of the 900 perfectly fine. She definitely wasn’t judging me but I felt so guilty and lazy for not working. Also not to mention my son won’t drink from a bottle so I can’t leave him for more than 1-2hr. I really don’t want to work because any job I could get, I would break even for child care.
I think just in general this conversation was triggering for me because I feel judged and I don’t like how slow I feel like my life is moving. I went thought so much with my child’s father and I feel like I am still recovering and really rebuilding my life from scratch so I just feel really sad when I think about where I want to be and how I’m not there yet. I just don’t want to be looked down on like I am a single mother and I gave up my hopes and dreams….
Can anyone relate or have advice ?

This is unpopular opinion, just don’t attack me I genuinely just want to have a productive conversation.
I don’t think blocking influencers is going to ultimately do anything. First of all, by creating this whole “block list”, all we are doing is just going to have people talk about palestine out of fear, which honestly is so superficial. I think anyone who speaks about Palestine now instead of last year october-December is automatically just doing it for their own benefit. I feel like all this energy into spreading hate and focusing on celebrities can be used in so much better ways.
What we should be doing is emailing our representatives, and attending as many protests as we possibly can. Yes we are blocking influencers, but if we aren’t actually actively doing anything what is the point? I urge everyone to go and email their representatives and raise their voice rather than bullying celebrities who only care about money.
Save. Your. Energy.
Reality check: for anyone who thinks these influencers or celebrities are genuine or care about their “following” or “Palestinian children”, most of them don’t. Yes there are some good ones out there (e.g kehlani) but people are only on social media to make a living 99% of the time.
Celebrities are not our hero’s. I’m not surprised one bit that they aren’t posting about Palestine, I haven’t followed them before the gen0c1de and I won’t follow them after.

Hello everyone so for starters I’m F19 and my younger (half) sister is 14. She is promoting from 8th grade to high school next month and my mom is getting so excited and buying her so many things and throwing her a big party which is all fine except for the fact that she didn’t even go this hard for my high school graduation… I’m not trying to downplay my little sisters achievements not by a long shot I’m so proud of her and I’ll always support her no matter what. My mom has always treated us differently though. When I promoted in 8th grade we were struggling and we were just flat out broke… cut to the end of my senior year we are living in a nice ass house with a huge backyard and a pool and I can’t complain. But still something inside me is just lingering with negativity. My sisters and I have different dads, their dad is a much more involved dad and he also has a fuck ton of money, while my dad doesn’t, he never rlly cared enough to show up for any of my birthdays or graduations or anything important in my life. Which is why I think my mom favors my younger siblings over me. She’s talking abt getting her a taco truck and printing shirts out with her face on it and ik many people find that type of stuff cringey but I would’ve loved that for my grad. I’m Mexican so a month before my graduation I asked her if she could get me one of those Mexican stoles so that I could wear. She said would and by the time my graduation day came I had no stole. I wasn’t gonna make a big deal but it is something I rlly wanted (she ended up buying me one afterwards) which is totally fine at least I got it. I appreciate everything my mom has done for me because she goes above and beyond but then little things like this get me. Like why couldn’t I just have the stole or have the big party. Graduating hs was kind of hard for me as well, I went through a lot and I didn’t even think I’d make it past 16 years old and graduating was my biggest goal at the time. I just thought she would’ve went more out being that she didn’t graduate nor did my older brother, so I was essentially the first person in the family to graduate. It’s fine I understand but I wish for once I wouldn’t have to understand.
Sorry this is so long but thank you if you read it all the way through :)

How do I (28F) deal with people who keep trying to get me to leave my partner (30M) including some of his family?
My partner (30)M and I have been together for 8 years, we are not married yet although we have been engaged for years. Unfortunately life loves to kick my partner while he's down, so we have not been in the situation yet to get married and I really don't mind.
I meet my partner when I was 19 and I was a absolute mess. I was hurt, angry violent and had no control over my emotions and had no will to live, I had been like this from as young as I can remember due to a troubled childhood. This man just walked into my life helped me through my crap and made me go to therapy. He gave me a reason to better myself and was my biggest support and best friend.
My partner is incredibly smart, when he tried at university he was a straight A student but he has no resilience, he is very sensitive and both of us have DV backgrounds and mental health issues from this. He failed university because he stopped doing his work, he just wouldn't finish his assessment. It drove me crazy because when he tried he would quickly type something up and still get an A.
He has left many jobs if it gets stressful and has had multiple breakdowns. Especially after losing his closest sibling. He tried very hard to convince me to leave him at this time. As in his own words he is useless and just wanted to die and be with his sibling. When that didn't work he tried to treat me badly while grieving. I just gave him more support and eventually a good year after he gave up on trying that as well and began to improve again. Then COVID hit, he got long COVID and lost another job.
In this time I have finished a Bachelors degree while working to support us, started a successful career and now make good money.
He is now been not working for a year and is dealing with major health anxiety and is a mess. I have had some of his family members call him a narcissist and useless and tell me he will drag me down. Some of them talk about him terribly and it makes my blood boil. He is one of the most caring and sensitive humans I have ever known. Yes he doesn't function completely, often he will stop functioning completely he won't eat or clean and I need to give him a talking to and intervene. I know he not what people consider "successful" but it sucks because all of this is making him think so little of himself.
I don't care that he's not successful. I don't care if I make more money. I don't care if he can't always function (I do but more I worry about him, not get angry). I'm not with him for his success in life. I'm with him because he brings me joy and hope and he is my best friend, he is worth it 100%. He understands me and treats me with so much love. He is gentle and kind.
Maybe it's because he also accepts the broken parts of me. But either way this man has so much potential but even if it never comes to fruition, he does not drag me down. He isn't baggage. He is my everything.
How do I deal with people who keep trying to convince me to leave him?
TLDR; I'm tired of people looking down on my partner I don't care if he is not successful or doesn't function and I am successful. how do I deal with people who keep trying to get me to leave him (28F)

Ill use a fake name, hi I’m rose 19F and have been living with my parents since I was 11 1/2. My parents are my aunt and uncle who took me in because my birth mother wasn’t competent. I grew a bond with my aunt specifically, I see her as a mother I never had. However, the past years has been harsh. Her forms of punishment was..weird. If I forgot to do the dishes or clean my room, she would threaten to kick me out. If I didn’t do well on a test or got a weird grade, she would go on a rant on how she sacrificed stuff to get me the things that I want/need. With this happening of course it made me anxious of doing things. It felt like I was tip toeing around egg shells to make sure I didn’t do the wrong thing. I was a well behaved girl, I did what was ask of me. Side note, I’m diagnosed with MDD(Major depressive disorder) and Anxiety. My depression causes me to lose motivation and obviously makes me not do basic things. For example, I can’t leave my bed, I can’t brush my teeth, I can’t shower, I don’t feel hungry, I don’t want to do my school work. She knows this and I told her whenever I have the energy to tell her. She claims she understands but she berates me, telling me that I’m lazy, selfish, and inconsiderate. My senior year of high school, I lied about two assignments. The next day she kicked me out. She made me pack my stuff and wait for my birth mother. Of course she didn’t come and she told me that since my mom doesn’t want me.. she’ll give me a second chance. Before that happened, after she found I lied about the work, she was crying and then she punched me.. She was punching me. That scarred me, I realized things won’t be the same anymore. She apologized, but I can’t get over that. Recently, I’m currently a college student, have started to take anti depressants. It took a toll on my grades and my well being. I barely left my room, barely showered, but I started eating a lot. We used to have chores but since I’m older I just have to clean after myself. I still clean the house. My two cousins live with me and they are 18F and 19F. We switch up on what we clean as if it’s a chore still. Anyways, I had a date with a girl and as we were pulling off, my aunt called me. She asked me where I was going and with who. I told her and she asked if I did anything around the house. I obviously told her no because the house is already cleaned. She told me that she’s going to be bringing back chores. I shrugged it off because maybe she was mad that there’s nothing to do? Anyways, the next day came around and chores are brought back. I don’t remember that much that day but I was out at my job. I wasn’t scheduled but I just wanted to be away from my house. I told my friend what was going on because I’m overwhelmed. My mental health and then my parent is pissed. I was overwhelmed and didn’t know what to do. I then realize what I’ve been experiencing wasn’t normal and that I shouldn’t feel that way that I feel. So I decided to move out that night. No plan, no money saved up, and that’s it. I got home and went straight to packing up my stuff. I wasn’t thinking so I just packed clothes and shoes. I went downstairs and told them I was moving out. I left and then ignored their calls. I stayed the night with my girl for a bit before staying with a friend for a bit. After a week I decided to talk to my family since I talked to no one! I read a message and my parent told me I wasn’t welcomed back. I told my cousins why I moved out and they understood. One of my cousins and I talked about the matter and she told me that all my parent ever wanted to do was to love me. She told me my parent haven’t eaten and slept well. Im starting to feel bad as if I made the wrong move. Although, I feel some type of weight lifted. I’m feeling really lonely as well. I’ve been looking for places to rent but I have steady income! I won’t let the darkness shroud me. I just wonder if I did something wrong. Am I in the wrong for the feeling the way I do? Am I in the wrong for moving without saying anything?

hi i’m m20 i feel horrible about myself. i’m generally happy most the time but i know i have so many flaws but i can’t manage to stop and be a better version of myself. i know i’m severally addicted to porn and masterbation and i always try stop but i keep relapsing as soon as i get bored of a bit horny i can’t fight the urge to masterbate. im i’m the same cycle of meeting women and talking to them for a couple months then breaking there hearts. i always end up leaving them because i know im not at a stage of my life where i can me in a relationship. the i reason i entertain these women in the first place is because i get lonely at university and the women being attractive entices me. but it always ends up with me breaking there heart and me feeling horrible for wat i do. i should stop talking to women and masterbating and focus on myself generally i’m very characteristic and confident. i love talking to people and my friends would describe me as funny an bubbly but i feel like the masterbation addiction has an effect on me, i think it causes me anxiety cause i do get quite bad anxiety and i think it makes my under eyes look quite tired. i have 4 months off for summer and i jus want to focus on football as i’m quite talented at it and i stopped playing for a while and want to get back into a team. i work a lot and i earn good money for a student but i’m so lazy with myself. i don’t feed myself properly i have 1-2 meals a day an it’s always uber eats/takeaway. i don’t go gym enough i’m naturally very athletic when i was young i competed in athletics and played academy football but i’ve have not played organised football in a while. i feel like my masterbation/porn addiction is the root of a lot of my problems. not being motived enough, laziness, feeling tired, anxiety, lack of discipline. i work in a warehouse 30hrs a week so ik i can work hard and when i used to play academy football i worked hard and trained everyday but now i’m lazy with certain parts of my life like feeding myself properly, taking care of my health etc. i have good hygiene and i take care of my looks i get frequent hair cuts and i have a skin care routine etc. i jus feel horrible like i’m not maximising my potential i know i can do better. this 4 months i have off uni i should focus on eating well for my body, going gym, playing football and getting ready to play for a team next season. but ik i’m gona get distracted and be lazy and procrastinate. how should i focus on cutting out all these bad habits and distractions?

Hey guys I am a single mom 24 and my LO is 12 months. I get no support from my child father and I live with family who doesn’t make me pay bills currently. I graduated from UCLA in 2021 and now I’m taking some difficult science classes at a community college to prepare for applications to grad school next year. I am not working and I survive off of the 900 I get from the county and savings or from my small side hustles.
I was talking to a family member today and she asked me if I was working. And in my mind it would seem impossible for me to work right now. I barley sleep enough, I can barley keep up with my life being a single parent. And in my opinion, focusing on school so that I can actually make enough money to take care of my son and I in the future seems like the better option. Especially if I can live off of the 900 perfectly fine. She definitely wasn’t judging me but I felt so guilty and lazy for not working. Also not to mention my son won’t drink from a bottle so I can’t leave him for more than 1-2hr. I really don’t want to work because any job I could get, I would break even for child care.
I think just in general this conversation was triggering for me because I feel judged and I don’t like how slow I feel like my life is moving. I went thought so much with my child’s father and I feel like I am still recovering and really rebuilding my life from scratch so I just feel really sad when I think about where I want to be and how I’m not there yet. I just don’t want to be looked down on like I am a single mother and I gave up my hopes and dreams….
Can anyone relate or have advice ?

So I was speaking with a co worker, who was talking about a part time job opportunity I have been searching for, for extra money during the summer. She was telling me about one she found and I replied to her “ok just send me the thingy.” And she said “what do you mean??” She didn’t say it like asking me what I meant, it sounded more like she was saying like “seriously??” My question is simply what did she mean by this? I’m still having trouble comprehending what is being said to me so her saying this in this manner kind of confused me. Hoping this is enough context for others to help me understand.

For context, I (F22) was on Boo to make friends (on friends mode, not dating mode) as I am an international student in Perth. About 2 weeks ago, I matched with a (China)Chinese guy (M32) who claimed to have been living in Sydney for almost a decade after graduating from university there. The starting conversation was very normal, nothing out of the usual. After chatting for a day, he suggesting moving over to Whatsapp and asked for my number. I was alert at that point and asked: "How would I know if you weren't going to scam me? Why don't you give me your number instead?" To which, he did. So we moved over to Whatsapp to chat.
FYI, Mandarin is not my first language – it's my mother tongue, so I'm not as fluent. He mentioned that he can understand English, but his understanding is limited for some words and the context the words are being used in. Completely understandable, that's how Mandarin is to me. As he's more comfortable in Mandarin, he asked to practice my Mandarin with him – no red flags yet.
The conversation flowed normally, not much flirting, just getting to know one another. Hobbies, plans for the future, differences between Perth and Sydney. He claims that he works in real estate development, and only goes into the office once a week (sounds too good to be true but okay). Said he studied foreign economics and trade, then an MBA in university. Again, nothing crazy or alarming.
It's now the 3rd day, I decide to sus this guy out, and ask why's he still single at age 32 since typically for Chinese, parents would chase their children to get married. He says his parents did chase him to get married, but can't do anything since he's in Sydney, and that he prefers to meet a partner in a natural way than an arranged marriage. That's when he starts flirting a bit – "the biggest takeaway from Boo is you." Then, we chatted about hobbies, etc.
I asked, "if you could turn back time, what would you change?" Him: "I wouldn't change much but if I could turn back time I would purchase all the bitcoin on the market back then and sell it now" Me: "I've been interested in crypto but never had the courage to get into it" Him: "Hahaha, the cryptocurrency and blockchain fields are the most important part of the future market and will replace the traditional financial market"
We started chatting about bitcoin, but nothing alarming.
I jokingly said, "Wait till I earn some money, then I'll purchase some" Him: "When the time comes, I can teach you. Also, getting started with cryptocurrency does not require you to have a lot of funds. There's no restriction" 1/2🚩 Me: "Sure! If we're still talking by then" Him: "I'm not going to disappear, if nothing happens to me I'll still be here for the next 10 years 🤣" Me: "How would I know, haha? We met online" Him: "My feelings are filled with anticipation for you"
He started flirting with me more and more, talking about life, food, the conversation was going great. By now, it's the 4th day, and we had a conversation about food (as usual). I asked him what he had for dinner and he said he got takeout. Him: "If I had the motivation I'd cook, but I've been feeling lazy lately. But maybe if you were in Sydney I'd have more motivation to cook" Me: "What if I'm in Melbourne?" Him: "That's fine too, it's not that far" After more chatting... Me: "I'm only going to Melbourne though, not Sydney" (I'm heading to Melbourne in June) Him: "Then let's meet in Melbourne. I have an apartment there"
Just to be careful, I did not tell him when I would be flying over there, and at this point, he still does not know my full name. I joked with him about me possibly bring an elderly grandpa, or him being one, and pulling the "My mum says I shouldn't be talking to strangers". He replies, "Then don't make any friends 🤣 They're all strangers." He changes the topic because obviously that came off a little passive-aggressive. 1/2🚩
It's now the 5th day, after chatting about our interests, he asks me what I was doing during the weekend as he wanted to teach me about crypto. 🚩 I said, "I have no money" Him: "Well, if you have no money then you should earn some 🤣" Me: "I know, but crypto is dangerous" Him: "There's always a danger in everything, but when you expose yourself to it and learn, you'll understand it better" Me: "Yes and no" Him: "One more thing I have to tell you, you have to buy crypto when you're first starting out if not you can't learn it at all" Me: "I don't want to do that now, I'm okay with chatting about it, but I don't want to start now" Him: "It's your own decision, I just have to make sure you're aware before starting" Me: "Thanks for being honest about it, if not I'd feel like this is a crypto scam, not saying that you are" Him: "It's better to be honest about things." He changed the topic to food (not in a abrupt manner, but quite naturally)
Another day passed, and he went out drinking with friends. After returning home, he seemed to be a little hyper and tipsy, but I don't think he was drunk. I asked for a picture of him drunk because I thought it'd look funny, and he sent it over in 4min. Then, I mustered up my courage to voice call him to which there was no answer, but after 2min, he called back. The call lasted 38sec because I chickened out. To me, this confirmed that he was a legitimate person, not an AI that I was chatting with, and he most likely would be who he said he was. (But with that being said, it is also possible for him to be using a voice changer or whatever.)
After that night, it had been one week of chatting daily, and his texting was the same as usual, flirty but not overbearing. I had been out partying with the girls for a friend's birthday and I got home at 7am in the morning. I had spent the night watching out for my girls as you know, clubbing can be scary at times – the girlies drunk making out with others and all, the usual. As I was telling him about the crazy that went down that night, he said, "as long as nothing happened to you, that's all that matters, if not I'd be heartbroken" Me: "Why?🤣" Him: "Do you still need to ask why?" Me: "Well, if anything happened, then we just cut off this connection, hahaha, anyway we've only met for a few days" Him: "....." Me: "It's realistic" Him: "Is it?" Me: "Huh?" Him: "Rest well at home" Me: "Are you upset?" Him: "Not so far as to be upset about it" Me: "Well, think about it, we've only met a few days, and it's not as if you know if I have a good personality or a bad personality" Him: "If you put in effort to understand, you can actually discover many details" Me: "Then what kind of person do you think I am?" Him: "A realistic and rational person"
And then... I changed the topic because this conversation was getting a bit too deep for me.
It's the 9th day. My friends were really curious interested in this guy that I was chatting with and they wanted to hear his voice (so did I) to confirm his identity. So, childishly, we plotted for me to 'accidentally' leave my phone charging on my friend's table while I went to the bathroom, they unlocked my phone and called him to ask him who he was, then when I returned I'd snatch my phone back. He picked up, it was a 22sec call before I snatched my phone back and ended the call because I was way too embarrassed. He asked, "What happened?" Me: *explains the plot* Him: "Why's your phone unlocked?" Me: "It's locked but my friends know my PIN" Him: "Hahaha, change it" 🚩 Me: "Sorry for the trouble" Him: "It's fine, text me when you're back" A while later.... Me: "I'm back in my room" (I live in a dormitory) *Him asking how my friends know who to call, me explaining that we're together all the time, they know that we've been chatting* Him: "No privacy at all 🤣 They probably saw our entire conversation" Me: "It's okay, they read Mandarin really slow, don't worry 😂" Him: "Babe, you should learn how to protect yourself" Me: "Then when I'm speaking to you don't I need to protect myself?" Him: "Of course" Me: "Anyway, why do I need to hide anything?" 🚩(Can't tell if it's because he's older? That's why he thinks like that?) Him: "You don't care about your own privacy?" Me: "I do" Him: "I think boundaries between friends are important. I'm not mad, I just feel that if your friends can just take your phone, unlock your pin, and call me, wouldn't you be angry?" Me: "But this friend group is like my family" Him: "Your phone is like the last layer of yourself, you need to learn how to take care of yourself" Me: "Well they're just scared I'll get hurt and cheated" Him: "Cheated what?" Me: "They've seen me at my worst" Him: "Cheat you for sex or money? Rest assured, in this lifetime I'll never borrow money from you 🤣" Me: "We don't know if you're a real person either" Him: "Then am I or am I not?" Me: "Probably?" Him: "Really? The word probably?" *more conversation, blah blah*
Then it ended with him confessing that he likes me.
It's the 10th day. The flirting has been amped up and of course I can feel it, he starts calling me babe more, and talking about how it's normal for couples to hug. Of course, I was like "Oh? We're already a couple?" Him: "Aren't we heading in that direction?" Me: "Well that depends on your performance" Him: "If I turned you into a little rich lady, wouldn't you be happier?" Now, he's pushing about crypto again, and if I tried it once, I'd understand. Then, I confronted him, "Why'd you keep asking me about crypto?" Him: "Didn't you say you were interested?" Me: "Yeah I did, but I don't want to randomly start" Him: "How's that considered randomly starting?" Me: "Well, I don't know you well, and it's not as if we've been longtime friends. Also, there's a lot of scams on Boo, especially crypto scams. We've only been talking for a week, how much can I even trust you?" Him: "The decision is still yours to make, but I won't bring it up again" Me: "If I misunderstood you, I apologise. I can chat with you about crypto if it's your interest but I don't want to start now" Him: "We don't have to chat about crypto, there's no point talking about it" Me: "If you feel that I have no interest in crypto and would like to stop talking to me, that's completely understandable" Him: "There's no link between the two" Me: "I mean, some people feel that when there's no common topic, the conversation won't work. People have different dealbreakers." Me: "Have you eaten?"
GHOSTED. So, naturally, I thought he was now 100% a scammer (although it's only been a day). From what I know, he hasn't been active on Boo, his Follower count dropped but his Love count increased a bit. Honestly, everything he's said checks out, the timing under his name is Sydney timezone, his location checks out. Searched his images on Google and the Chinese search engines, nothing comes up.
I thought he blocked me because I sent him, "So you really blocked me just like that? 🤣" on Boo and Whatsapp and it was only a single tick on Whatsapp, which means he didn't receive the message. But turns out, he didn't block me... I was overthinking it. I was so sure he was a scammer, I reported his Boo account... 🙊 He replied after 5hr, "I've got a fever" and when I asked if he was fine, no reply. I am confused. Is he a scammer? Or am I just overthinking it? Did I piss him off perhaps? 🤣
Thanks for taking the time to read this if you have. Please help a confused girl out 🤣

I just want to lay out all my observations. First, both Ry and Liv were in a long distance relationship with her and 100% smitten. They posted about how they found their person and everything. Then, both moved far away from their friends and families to be with Sedona
All of that is obvious but here is where I think Sedona gets really abusive. Both Liv and Ry took jobs that really had nothing to do with what either actually wanted (Ry in retail and Liv at a bar. I forget what Ry wanted to do but Liv had a dream of opening an all women’s gym). Sedona flashes her money at them and probably promises they will live a good life. Then, they move and have to start working. From what Liv and Sedona have both posted, it seems like S is really hot and cold when living with a SO. So Ry and Liv were isolated, working jobs that they probably would rather not, and wondering why S is being cold. I remember Ry and S were on and off for a little so it was probably a case of Ry wanting to leave and S responding by being as sweet as she was in the beginning. My therapist and I have talked a lot about patterns like that. It leaves people wondering what they’re doing wrong and never leaving. It actually took a lot of strength for both Ry and Liv to get out.
Finally, the worst thing S did was get Liv in the middle of the drama with Ry. From Liv’s responses on tiktok, it looks like S really fucked with her (like Ry said happened to her). S probably manipulated the FUCK out of Liv. If I dated someone who was publicly known as an abuser and cheater, I would GTFO. While Liv is a victim too and I don’t expect her to apologize to Ry, I hope Ry feels a sense of peace now knowing that she wasn’t crazy and it wasn’t her. Sedona is just abusive.