What harm can depo-provera cause to an baby

Hi Everyone!
We have been using S1 for some time now and are currently not using Vigilance as we have our own SOC handling inbound requests. We purchase it through N-Able and the support is covered by N-Able (Premium Support).
N-Able and S1 have been less than helpful in all of this and we are having conversations around how N-Able / S1 can better support a priority issue and us in the future.
Now for the issue, starting Monday we started to receive alerts around 'Lateral Movement'. This started on a single customers instance and has now spread across a couple. We have had issues tracking the root cause of the issue down but N-Able / S1 have advised this was due to a recent detection algorithm that they have confirmed is faulty. It detects the System State (Cove Backup) VSS Snapshot as malicious and thus blocks the system and remediates the threat. To clarify it is a false positive. Due to the remediation steps it has also damaged DNS on DCs and other states which has resulted in systems being unusable and requiring a restore from backup.
The solution? A new agent version will be released on Friday (5 day turn around for an issue that has impacted customers critically) We also really aren't happy with the response as it just lacks detail and confirmation around a lot of things.
We are pressing N-Able to arrange some type of direct contact with S1 as we have over 5000 endpoints this software is currently deployed to.
Has anyone had this issue recently ? Any ideas on what to do around getting this properly supported ? And if possible does anyone recommend contacts at N-Able or S1 that may actually be able to give us a half decent experience? We are currently looking at pulling the contract but would prefer to stay with the product if possible.
Ideal solution would be a support contract with S1.
Please let me know your thoughts :)

I 27m broke up with my gf of 7 years at the start of 2024 no hard feelings or anything, ever since tho I have been watch gay adult content which has been weird as I before hand never had a thought about anything of that stuff. I started to question it in my work one day as I seen this obviously gay guy with a huge ass. He came up to me and should interest but I said “nah I’m straight” I thought about it more after and I thought, I got turned on by the thought of me fucking him but, got grossed or at the thought of him doing that or kissing.
I have no idea what is going on but i am sure it turns me on because it’s like the thought of fucking a guy with a fat ass is almost like conquering him and the thought of like it’s wrong to want to fuck a guy that is feminine with an ass is a huge turn on, but a massive turn off if I think of kissing or me being the one that is fucked. Getting head as well but with my eyes closed is hot, usually the content the guys ass has to be shaved as well or I can’t watch. I’m just so confused at this point, cause I could definitely do it, as I find it so incredible hot if it’s a guy that has feminine attributes, but couldn’t see myself doing any of that other stuff at all as the thought of that makes me feel sick. What would this be called and has anyone experienced this?
I’m just so confused as I still find women hot and would go for them more but if given the opportunity I would fuck a feminine guy if they had a nice ass every now and then.

I took everything to my ex's place, was rushed, and one bin of stuff never dried and I opened the bin. Now I have to rewash everything inside and see what's salvageable.
I want to properly do the Kon Mari method, but clothes have been such a sore issue and I'm waiting to actually fit into stuff again. I have gotten rid of mediums and larges because I never liked how I looked in adult six small clothing and up. I was always children's sized, gained a bunch of weight (And not in a good way), then gained more weight.
The only adult clothes above a An adult small I am keeping are 1 shirt which matches 1 I like and can be used for crafting, and game swag I imagined being given away at a need event I used to attend that the host used to give away things from a friend who used to hoard as prizes, or I can sell them now that some of this stuff is limited videogame stuff you can only get if you attended a certain convention, and that's been separate this whole time.
I gained a ton of weight and lost a ton of muscle simultaneously during the pandemic which sucked. Was eating really shittily, and am finally eating 3x a day from a meal provider and I calculate about 2 lbs of weight loss per month between my work commute and work assuming my body gets used to the eating every day and makes that my baseline. Unfortunately it could take me 4 to 16 lbs to go down to my prepandemic dimensions, and I have bin of clothes I can add to mg every day wardrobe and more clothes I can try on.
All in all, I have 6 bins of clothes. 1 is work clothes, 1 is half crafting and half winter clothes I am waiting until October to give away to unhoused people (This city is sweep heavy, so it is better to hold onto the clothes and give them out when it is needed.). I regret not going through go my clothes for like months after putting stuff back in storage because I could have given the winter clothes out. Someone who does food distribution has to see people shivering with blue lips. The current season clothes I am ready to give away fit in a damaged backpack which is OK for someone to use in their tent to keep things together or separated afrer a rain, just not aesthetically pleasing. The every day clothes I have right now fit in 1 bin.
1 bin is regular casual clothes I can wear. Another is winteseasonal. 1 is adult venue suitable, and another is in a similar vein. We're at 2% positivity right now which is almost 100k total cases in my city since the only data being provided right now is the test positivity rate in the hospitals. I am waiting for the test positivity rate to go below 0.1% which is 100 cases per 100k.
Going through my stuff today, I see summer and fall stuff I am currently ready to give away, however I am waiting for the season to approach so I am giving things away when people actually want/are looking for those items. For example, I have several pool floats and I have 1 July themed 1. I don't get to swim, I don't like being around top less men cis or not, and I'm probably never going to get to go to a pool party. I have 1 pool float I am probably going to hold onto, and 2 which still hurt because I am a fighting fetishist and they make for blow up weapons.
I looked through my craft supllies and brought out a bunch of stuff I thought I would never use because I recently found myself making a bunch of pet toys put of supplies left over from last holiday season. There are alot of unhoused people with baby animals right now, and pet toys are something people can use but cannot budget for if they are poor, so I am making suff and then giving them away. And I am glad to say that I won't be hoarding ribbon and faux suede indefinitely, that much of it is actually going to get used.
Over the next year, I will probably start using up my beads in different crafts and I have a couple of specific projects coming up.
Bad news, I still have 2 full bins worth of papers I need to digitize. I am trying to NOT bother with the ex anymore because I just can't, and I have a giant box of papers in his place from when I made a huge effort to downsize my storage unit. Maybe this weekend, but I don't want to see his face or hear from him.
Good news, I went through my electronics box and I found a bunch of stuff which is his. Bad news, I still have project items for him to fix along with holiday lights which went out. Good news is he might try to teach me how to fix the holiday lights. Bad news, he's a dick about working on electronics and had been promising me since 2015 to work on electronics together only to never actually show me anything and get angry.
Oh, and I still have my sentimental iPad which he broke. He promised me he would replace the screen. Also, a laptop screen. I might be picking up work this year which will allow me to purchase replacement screens and get him to fix it as I seem to keep breaking my devices further when I try to fix them myself. I have a phone which is simpler to fix and breaks alot. It's enough for me to know how to fix that, I guess. Even if I tried to do the iPad and laptop repairs myself, the good thing about not being complete 0 contact right now, is I don't have to spend hundreds on repair plus parts if I fuck up.
There was more, but that's about it. My holiday stuff year round is 2 bins worth of stuff and I only have 1 designated bin. ☹️ Did I say I really like Halloween? So, I guess I have to wait for this holiday season to do what I can while also holding back on supplies. I might be ready to give away my felt Halloween bags, and I am ready to give away a bunch of smaller fall items I didn't think I could let go of last year, but I am waiting for Fall when people actually want that stuff.

Tl;dr: My dad is an abusive narcissist who always thrives on holding people hostage to his moods. We all live in different cities now so when we get together it's a special occasion that everyone wants to enjoy. He loves this type of situation because then he can act stone-faced and bring up beefs he has with people. He knows that's the best way to get what he wants because everyone else just wants to enjoy themselves. Like a toddler, he knows he has the power to ruin things for everyone. I have an upcoming trip to my sister's house (and my parents will both be there) and I am trying my best to prepare myself to break this cycle. I'd love your advice and examples of how you've shut this BS down!
For additional context, my dad was physically and emotionally abusive to our mom and us throughout our childhood. In the past decade, I've been getting a lot of therapy and distancing myself. In the past 6 years, my siblings also finally stopped talking to him (due to him shunning one of them and being very emotionally abusive to another). When that happened, he got desperate and eventually agreed to family therapy. It wasn't helpful because he spent the entire time ranting about his own victimhood and trying to gaslight everyone. However, despite that, my siblings and I were willing to move past things because there are parts of us that care about him but more importantly, want to spend time with our mom. She is traumatizing in her own way - she sticks by him and leans on us from a young age to protect her. But I feel a lot of compassion for her and guilt when we don't get to see her due to our issues with our dad.
Anyhow, even after all those years of not talking to his kids, he's ready to start fights with us again. (Or at least one of us at a time, which is his move). Apparently, he is pissed off because I haven't visited them at home yet (after the years of not talking). I got the sense from Facetiming my parents and then my sister confirmed she thinks he's starting something with me. I start fuming, thinking how dare he feels so entitled when we are already being so forgiving and letting the past go and trying to move forward. Anyway, before long, my sister and I realize we are sucked back into the toxic dynamic where we are already dreading his mood and dreading what it'll do during the long weekend visit that we were previously looking forward to. I realize that his classic move is to get everyone in his orbit / under the same roof / in the same physical space as him and then let his moods be known until people have to deal with what it is he wants from everyone.
Sorry for the long rant but I'd love to know how people would deal with this. I've been doing a lot of work on my mental health and wouldn't be interacting with them if I didn't feel like I could handle it. I know there's parts of me that want connection to my mom and to some extent, my dad. My therapist encourages me to try this out since I expressed an interest. She says I should just not receive things that I don't want. "Say no thank you" to his bad energy, attempts to hurt, manipulate, etc. I like that in concept a lot but would love advice. I want to see my mom and I also want to enjoy my time with my sister and her kids. How do I do that while my dad does his best to be a tyrant/baby who tries to ruin the mood and day of everyone around him? Thank you in advance everyone.

I apologize for the rant but lately, I've been feeling extremely overwhelmed and stressed about the news of my wife and I having twins. Should I be feeling this way? Don't get me wrong, it is an extreme blessing to be able to have twins and I truly feel blessed, but at the same time, reality hit and I've been stressing about everything.
For some context, My wife's pregnancies are pretty bad. Her first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage. Her second pregnancy was no cakewalk either. I was constantly having to call off work, using my sick time, to be with her and helping her. Despite this, she was able to give birth to our son, who is 8 months old right now, big and healthy. After she recovered, my wife and I agreed to have a second kid. Despite the rough pregnancies and my advice to stop after one child, my wife wanted another baby. We were financially prepared and somewhat mentally prepared to have another baby on top of our son. Then we got the news that we are having twins! My initial reaction was shock, as you can imagine, but reality hit me a couple hours later.
I mentioned earlier that her pregnancy with our son was absolutely terrible to the point I had to keep calling out from work. Let me clarify, I will always choose family over work with no hesitation, but because of that, I have little to no hours when it comes to this pregnancy. I work 12 hour shifts overnight and she is usually home alone with our son. I feel extremely guilty leaving my pregnant wife home alone with our son, who is constantly waking up in the middle of the night, just to wake up in the morning and go to work fulltime. She gets no sleep.
When my son was first born, I was able to get paid paternity leave for one month. With my job, I'm granted up to 12 weeks of paternity leave. The only way I get paid while on leave is by using my accrued time, which at the time, I only had enough for a month. I have opportunities to work overtime at my job and instead of getting the extra pay, I can choose to compensate the hours I have worked to use towards paid days off instead. Working overtime means less time being there for my wife at nights, but when I don't work overtime, that means less time I will have in paternity leave, taking care of the twins, my son and my recovering wife.
Not only am I worried for my wife's health, I'm stressed about our financial situation, making sure the bills are paid and getting a bigger car for the family that is coming. Not to mention, once the kids are born, my wife will have no choice but to quit her job and be a SAHM. I would rather her be a SAHM, but I can't stop but think, will I be able to financially support my family? Only way I can see that is by working OT, and trust me, I will work as many hours as I can for my family. At the same time, working OT means I won't be able to spend time with my family and being there for them.
Again, I apologize for the rant. Eventually, I know that I need to man up and do what needs to be done but I can't help but have these thoughts. I truly commend and respect the hell out of my wife for what she is going through. I love her so much and I am truly blessed for her. She truly is an amazing wife to me and mother to our son for the way she keeps going. Because of that, I tell myself to just shut up and man up but honestly, I hate feeling like I'm not doing enough for my family. Am I wrong to feel this overwhelmed/stressed? Am I overthinking everything? Any advice is much appreciated.

Hi first I (23F) wanna clarify that I have no issue with marijuana, either using it for medicinal or just for fun. However specifically when my (24M) boyfriend uses it I get a bit uncomfortable.
We started dating about 3 years ago. In the beginning he told me he used to smoke back in high school for a little but stopped when he graduated. About a year into our relationship he started back up again because an old school friend of his uses it. I was fine with him smoking it, he seemed happy and hey life is stressful. He even allowed me to do a little too, I liked the sensation but wasn’t the biggest fan of the smoke feeling in my lungs.
Anyways over the next couple of months I started noticing a few things about him that started to change. One thing I noticed was that he would get really hyper focused on things like video games or spending time with his friends. I talked with him several times about how I wished he could balance his time with his friends and with me. I guess I kinda felt like I wasn’t on the same level of priority to him. He said he has always struggled with balancing people but when he smokes I feel it is amplified. He always apologized and say he would try his best but would always fall back to the same habits.
This leads to another thing I sort of noticed but he seemed to forget things easily. I can’t exactly pinpoint what he would forget as it was a few years ago. I just remembered that it would be stuff like when I would talk about my day or he wouldn’t take care of his basic needs. He also spaced out a lot, when I would talk to him I’d either ask if he was listening or he would ask me to repeat what I said.
Lastly I feel his emotional output was disrupted. He seemed like he was not there 100% of the time emotionally. He even talked with a monotone voice and I would always ask what’s wrong, but he would say he was good. His reactions were different, his facial expressions were blank, he felt like a shell of the man I fell in love with.
A few months go by and he quits doing marijuana because he greened out, which I know from experience is very scary. In just a few weeks he was back to being “normal” and hasn’t touched weed until just recently.
I am worried that he will go back to being like that. I am scared that I won’t be able to handle it this time. We both have had several talks about it but I don’t feel too good I guess. He used to get high all the time, never coming down from it which led him to having a high tolerance. He told me that this time he will cut back and not use it like he used to.
I love my boyfriend, he makes me so happy and I don’t want to end things just because of this. I feel guilty for even thinking about possibly ending things between us if things don’t pan out well. I feel selfish that I struggle with something he enjoys. Throughout our relationship I have struggled with having an anxious attachment style, but even he says that I have gotten much better. Maybe this time I will be able to handle this situation better? I know that when using cannabis it can cause those symptoms that I have stated up above. I can’t really change or do anything that can change his habits only he can. I fell in love with the non-weed side of my boyfriend I guess..am I wrong to struggle with loving all of him? I know love is learning, and I wanna learn to love him fully.
I want to say I am not trying to demonize marijuana. I know it affects each and everyone of us differently. Please I kindly ask you in the comments to not talk about your stance on the drug. Whether you think it should be only for recreational purposes or whatever I did not write this post to hear that. I know this subject is kinda political but I wish for only advice and to know if I am the asshole for struggling with my boyfriends usage of marijuana. Thank you for your time, sorry for the long post.

My sister-in-law doesn't have Reddit so posting on her behalf!
She has a 5 year old son who started school in September. Really social kid and very loving. He's an only child.
Recently, he's been acting up at home, being more irritable, cranky, not wanting to go to school in the mornings. When he comes home from school, he's fine mostly and not in as bad a mood. Today, he threw the worst tantrum ever, saying he doesn't want to go to school, he doesn't want to learn. He didn't even have breakfast before he went because he was so sad.
When we ask his teachers, they say he's fine at school but doesn't concentrate on lessons much (he enjoys/enjoyed learning). He also plays with other kids but doesn't have a friend group. He cries at school sometimes and can't explain why.
Has anyone ever experienced this? We ask him if he's got friends and he lists a few, we listen to his stories to see if he's being bullied, we talk to his teachers, yet can't figure out what's amiss.
What can we do to get to the root cause? And how can we ask the teachers to keep an eye on him and help him when they just say that they can't tell anything is wrong? For context, his school is great. It's just this one thing.

Hi.
I have this project with soft na hmi.
In omron if i edit in Swedish and set say Sergoe 18 normal, and change to English US, the same font size and type gives the US one alot larger text.
Any idea what can cause this? I have double and quadruple checked and the fonts are the same.
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Here is an image that is screenshotted when the soft na sim runs at my computer, and i change between US Eng and Swedish in the hmi window, Segoe UI, 18, Normal.

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Buckle up because this might be long. My (21F) friend (22F) named G and I have been best friends since freshman year and lived together starting sophomore year, along with our other friends R (21F) and L (21F). We are the all the same age, but G graduated a year earlier than the rest of us. I will try to summarize as best I can (I can give more specifics in the comments) but in the middle of sophomore year G accessed a repressed memory of inappropriate behavior from a family member. This caused her to essentially experience a mental break that manifested in increased outbursts and a slew of destructive decisions, which ultimately resulted in a Bipolar 1 diagnosis.
Throughout junior year the unstable behavior only worsened and it began to affect our relationships. It got to the point that over winter break she decided to move out of our apartment, saying that she was becoming resentful and frustrated with us because she was graduating and at a different stage of life than we were and therefore had decided to remove herself from the situation to salvage our friendships. After moving out, she continued to essentially "live" in our room by lingering around without explicitly meeting up with one of us roomates or leaving her things around the apartment, which made it difficult for us to define the new version of our relationship and set boundaries. We did our best to support her and be understanding through her harsher nature and lack of consideration for others, but R was not as able to see the situation from another perspective. She tended to take G's harsh comments to heart and resentment built throughout the spring semester until the relationship was irreparable, which led to 2 fights between the 4 of us with G blowing up at us.
After G graduated she moved out of state for a job. We hoped that this would naturally settle tensions, but ultimately their relationship wasn't salvageable and it led to the end of L and I's relationship with R as well because we "chose G over her". While G was out of state she spiraled further: she became manic, experienced psychosis, tried to self-admit to the mental hospital, and was fired from her job. After getting fired, she decided to move back to our home state, but because of her extremely strained relationship with her family she asked if she could briefly move into my family's home while I was living at school as a transition while she figured out her next move. This is where the problem arises.
The original plan was that she would stay for around a month or two but she back on her feet by Thanksgiving, however, she is still living there now in May with no plans of leaving anytime soon. No one, including her, realized just how bad her mental state was. As it turns out, most of her personality and habits were defense mechanisms and trauma responses from her childhood, and now that she has lost the ability to "mask" and adapt, it's like she is relearning how to be an aware and active member of society.
She is very easily overstimulated and any slight problem can throw her completely off, sometimes for days at a time. For example, we planned a small trip to visit a friend an hour away for G's birthday. G planned out her outfits with me the night before and then went to the guest room where she has been staying to pack. The next morning when it was right before the time we had decided to leave, I checked on her and asked if she wanted to go load the car, to which she snapped at me, yelled, and proceeded to essentially throw a short tantrum complete with jumping and door slamming. According to my parents this is not an uncommon occurrence- they have heard her throwing things across her room and often experience her outbursts, sometimes becoming the target of them. This has all had a negative effect on our relationship. It has improved over the months, but I have been consistently extremely uncomfortable with her and wanting to distance myself. Firstly, I just don't desire to be around someone who behaves that way. It is constantly like walking on eggshells and it feels like I'm always "on" and working to manage someone else's unpredictable emotions.
Secondly, I have been having a LOT of feelings about her living at my house. This has subsided a lot since the fall, but when she first moved in it was meant to be temporary, and therefore, she stayed in my bedroom. This came to a head when I came home for break to find my room essentially trashed with no effort from her to clean up for me. My room was not in the greatest state when I left it, but I came home to things like the blankets strewn about my bed, her dirty socks buried in my blankets and by my pillows, and half eaten chocolate left on the floor. After this she moved fully to the guest room, which has helped, but she has since started talking about wanting to decorate "her room", which is making me upset because it's not her room to decorate: that would imply that she is a permanent resident rather than a guest.
Thirdly, her behavior towards my family has been frankly unacceptable. Her outbursts have been directed towards both my parents and my special needs sister. None of us are particularly confrontational so it has never been explicitly brought up, but I am extremely offended that she would accept the kindness of my family to house and feed her and to still treat them with such disrespect. She also does not make an effort to be a good houseguest in other regards: only does she not do anything to help with the chores of the household, but she actively adds to the mess (doesn't do her dishes, leaves her packages on the kitchen table, etc). I know that much of this is due to her degraded mental state, but it truly feels like she is a leech. I hate feeling this way.
I believe that she is completely unaware of how any of this comes off to others based on conversations she's had with both me, L, and my mom. She continues to hold grudges and negative feelings about things from months/years ago towards L & I. For example, when she used to live with us, L and I would frequently find food to be missing that we had bought, sometimes containers completely eaten and left empty on the shelf. When we expressed frustration that G would take food without asking and then wait to be caught rather than asking beforehand or notifying us after, she told us that she essentially felt entitled to our food because we could afford to buy food and she couldn't. This is a consistent theme where L and I would have been more than willing to help out if she had asked, but we were upset under a matter of principle because it's still our stuff! I am definitely not completely blameless, but I wouldn't say that I have done nearly as much to harm our relationship. G has an inability to see any other perspective than her own, and she has yet to understand that she is not the only one who has felt hurt in our friendship.
My parents have been at a loss for how to handle the situation. They don't want to throw her out to the wolves (none of her other family is an option), but at the same time, it is almost a year since she moved in, which is 10x longer than they were anticipating. Additionally, her therapist has been telling her that she is not ready to move out on her own and is not ready to work a "big girl job", so she has been working at Starbucks since around October and is likely not financially stable enough to live on her own. There is the potential of finding roomates to live with (she has tried a couple but they have all fallen through), but another issue is I'm not sure if she has been saving her money. She frequently makes purchases on amazon, gets take out food (after my parents buy groceries specifically for her), got a $200 tattoo, and discussed buying $250 concert tickets at the table with my family.
My mom has been especially unsure of how to approach her in a way that won't "set her off", so she recently asked G if she could contact her therapist to ask some questions about how to discuss the future of the living situation, but it is unclear how that will play out (a conversation with the 3 of them, my mom communicating with the therapist, etc).
What do I do in this situation? I do have love for her, but truthfully, it's been diminishing throughout this situation and I want her out of my space as soon as possible. Maybe it's selfish, but I can't fully relax when I'm at home when she's there and I feel guilty for introducing my family to this predicament. I would be a bad friend if I threw her out, but just because she has it worse does that negate my feelings? I feel bad because her family situation is very toxic and she is clearly unpacking her childhood and grieving her lack of parental support, but it feels like it is manifesting in jealousy with my situation and resulting in her feeling entitled to my family, home, and life. It truly feels like she is taking advantage of my family but I also know she really doesn't have another option. At what point does it stop being "their problem"? Please Help! AITA?

The lead up to WW2 was this: the entente defeated the German Empire, forced them to demilitarize, pay excessive reparations, and cede large amounts of territory. The weakened German state that followed was in a constant state of economic crisis and political instability, which allowed an extremist party to seize power. In other words, the actions of the democratic powers during WW1 through Versailles directly caused the fall of democracy and rise of fascism in Germany. Perhaps this was unforeseeable? Maybe this could have been forgiven if they maintained their domineering stance, but no, just as democracy fell in Germany, the democratic powers withdrew from the Rhineland, allowed them to annex Austria and Czechoslovakia, and allowed them to remilitarize, actively empowering fascists. So no shit they invaded Poland and smoked France, that was literally in the manifesto the nazis, no amount of appeasement could have convinced them not to. But anyways, the war starts (which was very forseeable) and Germany wins many victories in the first years (forseeable). So what can Britain do now? Nothing. They were helpless, and would have lost if Germany didn't keep getting distracted, with Greece, Yugoslavia, and especially the USSR. So they relied on Stalin (who was also a genocidal dictator) to defeat Hitler. Surely once we win Stalin will allow his occupied territory to be free and democratic, right? No, all of Eastern Europe fell under authoritarian regimes. Were there victories in WW2? Yes. There were victories against Hitler and Mussolini, who if they had succeeded then Europe would generally have been worse then it has been under Stalin. Was the war itself a victory? No. A war of that scale which could have been prevented and allowed the rise of dictators like Stalin and Mao can not possibly be seen as a victory for humanity. The simple fact that Germany was allowed to get to the point in which it could conquer Europe singlehandedly was a defeat, and the axis go down in history for having invaded France in six weeks, for winning battles outnumbered 10-1 on the eastern front, while the democracies are remembered for incompetence, needing daddy Stalin to save them. In regards to the Japanese front, I am not convinced the Japanese would have killed more people than Mao, who rose to power due to a weakened Chinese state after WW2, although I admit I don't know nearly as much about this. TLDR: The rise of fascism was provoked by democratic powers, the expansion of fascist regimes was allowed by democratic powers, the inevitable conflict with the fascist powers was made unwinnable by their actions, and only by signing away all of Eastern Europe to Stalin was fascism brought down. Not worth celebrating.

Hello all first time posting here but I had balloon dilation surgery done a first time in 2021. I now have to get it done a 2nd time.
The thing is truthfully I really don't want to get the surgery done a 2nd time. Do to the fact afterwards it really wasn't a fun experience.
Truthfully I feel like there is probably something out there that I could try besides flonase/fluticasone & xyzal.
Seriously this is all my ENT has tried.
I was seeing a nurse practitioner in the practice who understood I didn't want to get the surgery done a 2nd time & was willing to try working with that.
Though I show up to an appointment and get told oh she left & now your seeing this new guy. I walk into the appointment & he says he doesn't believe in treating stuff with medication makes me get a ct scan done & shows me I have loads of mucus built up on the right side of my sinuses & just threw me for sinus surgery a 2nd time.
I am sitting there like & I don't mention this but I am sitting there like isn't there away to you know flush the mucus out or you know maybe suck it up or something?
So I ask isn't there anything you can recommend in the mean time & while waiting to get this done then he's like nope.
Funny thing is I can still breathe out of my nose just fine from the first surgery & I can still blow my nose as well. So it makes me wonder if this 2nd surgery is even worth it & maybe there's like some other option out there we haven't tried yet.
I mean I seriously don't want to get this done a 2nd time & kind of feel like this guy is now jumping the gun.
I mean I know the first time I did the surgery it wasn't bad but this time the guy mentioned using a bigger balloon. I mean after the first surgery it left me with nerve pain shooting into my teeth truthfully. Though they also removed nasal polyps as well. So that was probably what caused the nerve pain.
This 2nd time I am going into the surgery with extreme head pain because my neck is herniated from c2-c7 from a head injury & it's causing nerve compression & vestibular migraines. I also have asthma as well so having my nose clogged up was a real pain for me to breathe properly.
So it just makes me think doing this a 2nd time will make everything worst including my nerve pain i just feel like I should cancel this appointment & get a 2nd opinion but I am not really sure & have no clue on what to do.
I mean seriously I can still breathe & blow out of my nose just fine. Where previously I couldn't really breathe or blow out my nose at all. So I don't know I just think if we could just somehow flush the mucus out then maybe some kind of medication regimen would work or maybe there's some other medication I can try besides fluticasone or zyxal.
So I am kind of just stressed out & dreading getting this done a 2nd time.

Hi haven’t been formally diagnosed but have been suffering a lot especially the last 4 weeks. Past almost 3 nights in a row haven’t been able to sleep. I’m fine during the day. Keep in mind I’ve cut gluten. Most dairy except Parmesan and cheddar. Didn’t realize chocolate could be a trigger so I’ll be cutting that out. Well I’ve been drinking mint tea the last few nights and I think that’s triggered a bad episode it’s the only thing I can think that I’ve had the last few days that is causing any symptoms.
I have bloating, acid reflux, inflammation, and nausea and tonight I gagged almost throwing up. I took a few sips of mint tea before bed thinking it would sooth my stomach. After lurking on this sub come to find out it can be a trigger. My last bad episode was after having a large lemonade to drink.
I’m anxious about this and don’t understand where it started but here’s what I think may have kick started things. From about August to November of last year I had really bad anxiety. Around November I started taking straterra but stopped after 6 weeks cus I was constantly constipated. Between August and January 2024 I lost about 15-18bs. I think this immense stress I put on my stomach from the anxiety may have done something to it. Plus I took laxatives a few times.
Current diet: did low fodmap diet. Cut out recommended things for two weeks really liked it except the time I had too much lemonade. After reintroducing a few things I realize now I need to cut out gluten and most diary. Now with thinking I may have gerd, I’ll be cutting out anything too acidic.
I’ve scheduled an appointment with a food allergist and now trying to schedule an appointment with a gastroenterologist. I’m just really sad and exhausted and don’t know what else to do. Would love support or any advice. Sorry if this is all over the place.

Yes, the question may seem strange, but given certain elements of the series, I think it's worth asking.
1/ In The Hork-Bajir Chronicles, we learn that young Esplin harbors a certain fascination for the Andalites. A fascination that turns into an obsession, and even leads him to feel a kind of twisted love for Aldrea.

« She seemed beautiful to me. Is that strange? I suppose it is. But there is a compelling beauty in the sight of someone seemingly so small and yet so dangerous. » - HBC chp 22

2/ Still according to HBC, we learn that Alloran was hostile to the Yeeks from the start. And later, he didn't hesitate to resort to a frankly extreme (euphemism) method to try and get rid of them.
3/ We know that a Yeerk's mind and scale of values can be influenced by the host it infests (Illim & The Yeerk Peace Mouvement). In some cases, the host's spirit can even cause identity dissociation (Coucou Taylor-la-tarée).
4/ In Visser book, we learn that a “new regulation” forbids the murder of subordinates. But this doesn't stop Visser Three from slaughtering his troops with impunity.
And while the execution of subordinates may seem commonplace among the Visser family, the fact is that Visser Three has an easy blade. It's a characteristic that seems to be specific to him.

« In the course of acting as a loyal Yeerk Visser I had probably violated a third of them. And, of course, Visser Three had violated still more, beginning with summary execution of subordinates. Visser Three had slaughtered subordinates by the poolful. » - Visser, chp 4

My theory is the following: in contact with Alloran's spirit, Esplin has come to hate himself, his condition and the other Yeerks. I believe, however, that this hatred is not conscious, but latent.
If we take the idea a step further, we might even wonder if Esplin's control of Alloran was not achieved with the Ellimist's immense blessing. After all, Esplin had the opportunity to capture two other Andalites, Aldrea and Elfangor. Had he succeeded in capturing either of them, the fate of the galaxy might have been quite different...
What do you think?

UNMARKED SPOILERS BELOW, I will sadly go into spoiler territorry so often the post would look like a bad SCP Foundation article if I tried to black out every single one.
First thing I thought upon finding out about the Wizard Three in Sigil was to notice an opportunitty to include more iconic characters. As we learned more about their role I noticed several complaints about them. Like, "why are we having epic level NPCs relegating the work to mid-level party"? Or "isn't Tasha evil? What is she doing here?" Or "how the hell did Kas fool Tasha, who knows Mordekainen very well?". And so an idea to fix these issues all at once presented itself to me.
In this version of adventure, the PCs are summonned not by Wizard Three, but Wizard Nine. Nine iconic, high-level wizards or other magic users from across D&D worlds or even beyond. They were all summonned to Sigil, to each tap into one of Outer Planes of appriopriate aligment and channel that power into Wish, so the Will of the entire multiverse wishes of Vecna's death. Once it fails, the wizards realize it means one of them must nto be who they claim, possibly an agent of Vecna. So they immediatelly lock themselves in Sanctuary - only PCs can enter and leave because they weren't i nthe room doing the casting of that super Wish. And every time they return with next piece of the Rod, they find Wizards in most disfunctional game of Among Us ever, often probably erupting into violence - this is nine geniuses working AGAINST each other as everyone suspects everyone.
Now, you could keep the original reveal, where Mordekainen is the imposter. If you do, I would advocate against bringing any magic users who know him, like Tasha, Elminster, Storm Silverhand or Dalamar the Dark. If you decide to change the imposter's identity, you can happily bring in some of them, but I would avoid those who know each other (so if you want Elminster, then no Mordekainen or Dalamar).
Evil characters can work with this group because of several reasons, which they should be open about. They may vary from "You think I don't realize Vecna is going to screw ME over alongside everyone else", through "uppity gods need to be put in their place, especially this one" to "I would love what the guy is promising to do to all creation, but I'm not bending my knee to NOBODY!".
Below is a list of proposed characters to use from as many worlds I could think of. I will be comign back to this post to add more names and more worlds with further research, potentially going even beyond strictly D&D settings. You ca drop your own suggestions, I will happily add them to the list with next edit. All requirements are that the character is able to cast 9th level spells, if you have any notes for potential DM willing to use them, please provide them as well.
Eberron - I noticed most of suggestions for Eberron are of evil variety, due to the setting's lack of high-level heroic NPCs (with two exceptions that cannot leave their seats of power), but we'll work with what we have

• Mordain the Fleshweaver is the most popular suggestion, being a rare Chaotic Evil 18th level Wizard in Eberron. An issue is that Mordain is often used, and even recommended by Keith Baker to be used as Eberron's stand-in for Vecna. If you wanna run adventures with Hand or Eye of Vecna in Eberron, they are hand and Eye of Mordain. This may disqualify him, but you could alternatively play into it. Have Mordain rant Vecna is "ripping him off" or call the lich "a pale immitation of true dark sorcery".
• Hektula is Keith Baker's personal choice for a standin for Tasha. She is a pwoerful Rakshasa Archmage, with passion for collecting forbidden tomes of dark magic, serving one of the Overlords and firmly Lawful Evil. I certainly could see some laughs when wizards realize there's an impostor among them and all eyes turn towards Hektula, who goes "Of course, blame the shapeshifter!".
• I have seen floated idea for Sora Kell or her three daughters. The Daughters canonically in 3rd edition had levels 10 or 11 on top of being half-fiend Hags. You could maybe handwave that they get to cast 9th level spells as a coven, Sora Kell is more ambigious, with no statblock and her lore giving vibes of Baba Yaga, fans compare her to Demon Lords in power level. Personally I feel she would stand out too much.

Exandria (Critical Role) - I noticed most Exandria characters don't reach this high level - even Circle of Brass from Calamity were level 15. However, I found two options to provide a bit of fanservice for any critters at your table, both Chaotic Good:

• the Mighty Nein Reunion got us level 20 versions of Caleb Widogast, so he's great excuse for a DM to do their best Liam O'Brian impression of angsty bi diseaster wizard who really wishes he was back with his boyfriend, instead of being trapped here with all those asshole wizards.
• Not a wizard but a Bard, but if you want to bend a defintion a bit, Scanlan Shorthalt could be pulled out from a moment in time before he lost an ability to cast Wish. Considering this happens in final episode of Campaign 1 and their final enemy was Vecna, it would be thematically appriopriate.

Krynn (Dragonlance)

• Raistlin Majere is by FAR msot iconic character of the entire Dragonlance, the go to if you want to include an iconic Dragonlance character. Dragonlance Saga 15 anniversarry lists his aligment as Neutral, while 3rd edition book Legends of the Twins lits him as a Neutral Evil - the latter is after he becomes master of Time and Present and so powerful enough to be included.
• Dalamar the Dark - after Raistlin's demise, Dalamar was touted as new most powerful wizard, he was paired with Mordekainen and Elminster to form original Wizard Three. He is also listed as Neutral Evil, but I would argue he could be Lawful Evil.
• Fistandantilus - the greatest wizard before Raistlin, he is also Neutral Evil, but I woudl argue he's more CHaotic Evil, due to his tendency to backstab other wizards to steal their power. I honestly cannot see this guy working in this adventure, he seems like he would try to bodyjack someone and get 8 Desintegrates to the face.
• Phalin Majere - if you want a good-aligned representative of Krynn, Raistlin's nephew, Phalin is basically a magical prodigy and chosen one and firmly Lawful Good. The issue may be that it may be hard to find a time where he is powerful enough to be here, but before Wizard magic on Krynn went away (because all Gods, including Gods of magic, f*ed off to space and then had the whole planet stolen from under their noses) and he had to reclass to Sorcerer, starting all the way from the bottom.

Magic the Gathering - there are many worlds in this franchise, but they're often very shallow, so I will group this stuff together.

• My first pick would be Liliana Vess, originally from Dominaria, nowadays hanging out on Arcavios, home world of Strixheaven. Strixheaven book lists her as true neutral, and she has a history full of twists and turns where this character development from original evil could be justified. Personality-wise she could be the easiest quick replacement for Tasha, even if you don't feel like putting in the whole group of nine wizards. Also if you have player bringign back a Curricullum of Chaos PC for this game I can only imagine their jaw drop upon seeing "Provesso Vess" among greatest wizards in the Multiverse, snarking at all of them.
• Teferi Akosa, originally from Dominaria, now his homeland of Zalfir became a separate plane. He was always extremely powerful, what if accidentially phasing his whole country out of time and space, he was always heroic and good intended, but often prone of getting unwaranted suspictions from others, which makes him good for this kind of plot.
• From Ravnica we could pull either Jace Beleren or the dragon-mage Niv-Mizzet, during their respective time as the Living Guildpact, representative of all 10 Guilds of Ravnica. In this position their could fit well for neutral-aligned places of aligment chart, Jace leaning towards Neutral Good or Lawful Neutral somewhat more.
• Speaking of Dragons, here is a crazy idea - Nicol Bolas, one of greatest villains in Magic as Chaotic Evil representative. Okay, it may be not a good idea, I cannot imagine a situation where he doesn't try to hijack the plot and take Vecna's place or just kill everyone when the problem of potential traitor arises. Still, the idea of this really evil demigod-drgon being his petty, snarky self towards other iconic characters is kinda funny.
• For a reach more into Magic's past, we have Urza, original protagonist. He would fit well into Lawful Neutral or even Lawful Evil role, considering last time he dedicated himself to stop multiversal-level threat, original Phyrexia, his means quickly "begun resembling Phyrexian ends". This is the guy who honestly tried to outeugenics a wizard nazi "for greater good". Seriously, so much of Magic lore can be summed up with words "Local Man Ruins Everything" and picture of Urza.
• A different type of Magic candidate is Jodah, ultrapowerful Archmage who is not a planeswalker like others, but had often maneuver around them, so he is used to having to outsmart powerful people. He represents all colors of mana so he would fit for any of middle collum positions.
• Jodah old associate, Jaya Ballard, could also work very well, considering she did eventually ecame so powerful some planes confused her with a diety and established religions to her. She strikes me as a Neutral Good candidate.

Mystara - one of my beloved classic worlds, poses an issue because it never conformed to classic 9-types aligment, isntead opting for lawful (defined as "altruistic") and chaotic ("selfish"). A rare exception, 2e book Glantri: Kingdom of Magic, was a big help here.

• Prince Haldemar of Haaken - protagonist of series of short stories "Voyage of Princess Ark". Daring explorer, captain of flying ship Princess Ark, hero of Empire of Alphatia. Champions of Mystara describes him as good and heroic but having "typical Alphatian chaotic thendencies". As such I'd lean towards Chaotic Good or Neutral Good.
• Bargle the Infamous - Chaotic Evil, if D&D ever had something close to the Joker, it was Bargle. Bargle was originally an evil wizard who kills mentolove interest of the player in introductory adventure of Red Box, but this made him enemy #1 of whole generations of players and elevated to first iconic evil wizard. I would be wary of using him, as any D&D veteran or grognard may forget about Vecna in favor of trying to strangle the guy with his bare hands.
• Demetrion Karagentreropolus - most powerful Archmage in Empire of Thyatis (think: fantasy Roman Empire), he is of lawful aligment and described as sometiems working secretly to undermine Emperor's decisions that he finds to be bad for the Empire and its people. As such he could slot as Lawful Good.
• Empress Eriadna the Wise of Alphatia - current Empress of Alphatia, canonically of Neutral aligment, she rules msot powerful empire in the world and probably haven't conquered all of it only because her subjects care more for magical research and getting high. She's 80-years old.
• Prince Zandor - 40-years old son of empress Eriadna, described as "chaos personified", his aligment is "Chaotic (very)". Thanks to Mr. Welch it became popular to play him as wizard version of Gaston from Beauty and the Beast. Use him if you want a comic relief.
• Master Terari - former Emperor of Alphatia, he abdicated in favor of Eriadna and disappeared, he now runs magic school in a small kingdom of Karameikos, he is working to ascend to Immortality (basically godhood without calling it so).
• Principalities of Glantri have multiple Princes of various all kinds of aligment. The country got 2e book which gave them classic aligment., I will list them below, but two I would avoid are Eitienne d'Amberville and Jaggar von Drachenfels, since they are actually Immortals (Rad, patron of magic and Diamond,, discount Bahamut, respectively). Immortals officially aren't Gods, but this is often a distinction without difference, so I cannot see them showing up in Sigil without Lady of Pain nuking the whole building.
• Princess Carnelia de Belcadiz y Fedorias (Lawful Neutral, extremely beautiful, known for her horrible temper) and Princess Carlotina Erewan ((LG, basically discount Galadriel) rule two Elven principalities, the latter rules more traditional Elves, the former's subjects are...Spanish Elves. Yes, really. They do not like each other.
• On the evil side we have Prince Morphail Gorevitch-Woszlany (wizard Nosferatu, which is like Vampire with less weaknesses, he's Strahd on steroids), Princess Dolores Hilsbury (actually a Night Dragon, undead dragon-shaped mosnter, in disguise) and Prince Brannart McGregor (lich, he's actually from real-world Scotland, I kid you not). All three are Chaotic Evil and hide their true nature, though considering Morphail looks like he walked out of set of Dracula, they aren't trying very hard.
• Rounding Glantri princes we have Prince Jherek Virayana (Neutral, master of illusions, he deflected to Glantri from their mortal enemies, Ethengar Khanates, so he is used to being under suspiction for treachery) and Prince Harald Haaskinz (LG, he's kinda new guy in the club).

Oearth (Greyhawk)

• I don't want to spend much time on Oerth since I suspect anyone using this will use either Mordekainen and/or Tasha, who are already in the module. But some alternatives could be any of wizards who have spells named after them - Bigby is neutral, Tenser is Lawful Good, Leomund is Lawful Neutral or Lawful Good, Nystrul is Neutral, Rary is Neutral Evil

Toril (Forgotten Realms)

• Alustriel was already included. She and her five sisters (not counting Dove Silverhand, who is a Ranger and a Ghost) all fit similair role as "big good immortal sorcerress". With exception of Alassra Silverhand a.k.a. Simbul the Witch-Queen, who is Chaotic Neutral, they're all Chaotic Good, so I see little point switching Alustriel for another one if you want CG spot to be fit by someone from Toril. I would also be wary of using Storm Silverhand, who, according to Ed Greenwood, helped real Mordekainen recover after his role in Curse of Strahd and has a "friends with benefits" relationship with him.
• Elminster is also Chaotic Good, I don't get why WotC shy away from using him. I get he is controversial, but his exclusion has been kinda awkward here. They really don't think Kas can fool Elminster, but he can fool Tasha? As far as I know only one of them slept with Mordekainen, like come on! Anyway, if you want to use him, Elmisnter is also Chaotic Good, so kinda redundant with other Choosen of Mystra.
• Larloch the Shadow-King or Szass Tam could each work as a powerful lawful evil lich, that allies with the good guys out of spite against interloper god that dared throw their weight around and claim godhood over THEIR world. Larloch in particular is no stranger of going against gods and their servants, who seek to rewrite rules of magic that is basic of his power - just ask Shar and her servants at Shade Enclave.
• While characters from Baldur's Gate 3 end their adventure around 13th level, Book Minsc & Boo's Journal of Villain contains statblocks of multiple characters from previous two games. Edwin Odesserion, infamous Red Wizard of Thay, is among them, powerful enough to fit in the group.

Domains of Dread (Ravenloft) - I put this one last because of unique use we could have out of Domaind of Dread in this campaign. You see, we know that characterstrapped in Demiplane of Dread cannot leave that easily, they need Dark Powers' permission. And Dark Powers are backing up Kas. I have also seen multiple complaints how both main antagonists of this campaign - Vecna nad Kas - are absent from most of it, with many ideas being thrown around about having Kas as an active rival that competes for pieces of the Rod. It occured to me that he may play that role, while we still have an impostor - another character trapped in Demiplane of Dread could be working with Kas and the Dark Powers in exchange for their freedom. This way we could even allow PCs to sherlock holmes who the traitor is between collecting different pieces of the Rod, and still can have Kas show up with hordes of monsters to steal the Rod later. All that matters is they do not impersonate a character of the same aligment. Here are some candidates for this role:

• from Forgotten Realms, we could reach for semi-official suppliment minsc and Boo's Journal of Villainy, written by lead writer of first two Baldur's Gate games. It suggests an alternate fate for main villains of Baldur's Gate II - Jon Irenicus and his sister Bodhi - that places them in Demiplane of Dread, leading their own evil cult working towards their escape. He is neutral evil, she is Chaotic Evil
• From Mystara we have Meredoth, main antagonist of classic Ravenloft module Ship of Horrors, condemned to Demiplane of Dread afre his negligence caused his subjects to die of starvation. TWICE!. He is cursed to be unable to discover new magic on his own and having to steal knowledge, so he would be itching, as a mole, to steal from other eight wizards in the room. He's Chaotic Evil.

That's for now, but rest assured, I shall be returning to this post to update it with more characters, potentially more campaign worlds even. Your suggestions whom to add are always welcome.

“Well…..frak.”
Those were the only words Corporal James Diogenes could think of to describe his current situation. Behind him, he watched as his comrades turning tail and running away.
“Cowards. Cowards one and all.”
He spit into the dirt towards his former allies then turned towards the other part of his problem.
Xenos. A large army of Xenos, one that was far more disciplined and had far more bodies than command had assumed. He couldn’t remember what they were called or even remember the name of the planet he was on. He couldn’t care for either topic. He wasn’t surprised that the Intel he and his colleagues had been fed was wrong, it often was, but never to this degree. The enemy outnumbered the imperial army forces at least 7 to 1 if not far more. Their tactics were similar to those employed by the imperial army but their population meant they could do more tactical maneuvers, on more fronts, at the same time.
Why the imperial navy didn’t annihilate those armies from orbit, James would never understand. Given his current situation he most likely wouldn’t get a chance to ask. He checked the magazine on his auto-gun, the rifle being rather old by the standards of the current imperial army but its age held up as it punched through most body armor he came across.
“…..Frak.”
He cursed again as he inspected the magazine. Three, maybe four rounds left before he was out? He looked over his shoulder and sighed. The cowards took the ammo with them along with any other supplies they could carry, leaving an empty trench and a few rows of rusty flay-wire.
And James but he chose to stay behind.
A low chuckle escaped him as that thought came to mind. He shook his head as he took his spot in the trench. He wouldn’t win this fight, he was sure of it, but by Terra and in the Emperor’s name he would make them bleed. He would make them hurt.
The few rounds he had in his magazine were gone in no times at all. Four enemies laying in the dust and being trampled by their friends was proof of that. He smiled grimly as he watched his enemies march towards him. They had all bowed their heads slightly, seemingly expecting more shots. That got him laughing. A few bullets and a whole army was shaking before him. He wondered if this is what the primarchs, the emperors daughters, felt like whenever they were on crusade.
He tossed his empty rifle to the side. His smile grew as he held his knife, gripping it tightly as he watched the advancing line of xeno scum. The leather of his glove strained as his hidden knuckles grew white from how tightly he gripped his knife. He considered for a moment what he’d do when the enemy came into the trench. He knew he would fight and die, but he wondered how many of them he’d kill before they took him down.
He reached back behind him, grabbing the Krak grenade he had attached to his belt. He held it tightly and used the middle finger of his knife hand to pull the pin. He held close, holding the striker lever down to ensure it wouldn’t go off until he let go of it. Then he waited.
The world closed in. Darkness tinted the edge of his vision as he watched his enemy march ever closer. Nothing existed save for him and the enemy. He knew what this was. Adrenaline, anticipation, and fear all coming together to activate his fight-or-flight response. He whole body felt charged and he had to stop himself from jumping out of the trench and running…..where? He wasn’t sure. He couldn’t guarantee his body wouldn’t turn tail and follow the rest of the imperial army back to the transports.
He adjusted his cap, scratched his bearded cheek and continued to watch. Watch and wait. That was all he could do now. His breathing grew heavy and erratic, his teeth barred, and a low growl escaped him.
The marching stopped.
He stared and waited.
A ploy? A chance to surrender maybe? Were they simply calling in artillery on his position?
That last thought stopped him. Artillery. Would they call artillery or an orbital strike or some other long distance attack on his position?
No. No, no, no, no they wouldn’t escape him that easy.
He scowled and climbed out of the trench, charging the Xenos line with a roar. The knife was raised over his head, holding it in an upside down fashion, as he sprinted towards his enemy. He refused to die to some cowardly artillery strike, he absolutely refused to be turned into a red smear on some backwater planet that no one would ever remember or care about.
The enemy….ran. They ran! He laughed as he chased after them. It didn’t make sense and he didn’t care. He couldn’t care, he was beyond caring.
“Get back here you throne damned bastards! GET THE FRAK BACK HERE!”
He slowed down long enough to toss the Krak grenade, laughing loudly when he saw it go off and take a handful of Xenos down.
The blood….was blood always so beautiful?
He continued running after the enemy before he stopped again. He stopped running cause something had stopped him. He didn’t understand, his legs were still under him, he was still alive, he could still fight!
“Kraking, bastard, filthy xenos, kill you all-“
“Shut up.”
He stopped talking, the voice snapping him out of…..whatever that was. He regained control and realized why he stopped running. Something had picked him up. He stared down at the ground only to realize how high he was above it.
“Hnngh, let go of me.”
He turned towards whatever was holding him only for his eyes to grow wide.
There stood….a woman. A very big woman with metallic dreadlocks poking out of her skull, her armor exposing skin and flesh in the fashion of a gladiator of old. He stared at him with a raised eyebrow and a silent growl as a twitch of pain or anger made her right eye close for a half second.
“Excuse me….heh….corporal.”
She said his rank as if it was an insult, even going as far as spitting on the ground after she said it. She held up by the back of his flak vest like he was little more than a lost puppy. She treated him like he wasn’t worth even talking to and that he was some stupid grunt who was simply in the way.
Space marines raced past both of them, ignoring them in favor of chasing after the retreating Xenos. They….were gonna steal his glory.
“Let me go damn you, the fights over there!”
The woman laughed loudly. Her head held back as her laughter echoed over the battlefield. A part of him thought her laughter was the most horrific and beautiful sound he ever heard, but it was overshadowed by his growing rage.
“You wouldn’t do-hnngghh-do anything to those alien freaks by yourself. Go home boy. Run with the rest of your fri-“
He swiped at her and smiled widely when he saw a small, paper thin cut open up on her cheek. A small trickle of blood dribbled down her skin as her smile disappeared. Her free hand came up and wiped at the cut. She studied the small swipe of blood on her finger. The cut was nothing, it wouldn’t even scar and she had lost far more blood then this in the blood pits. But something about this man taking a swipe at her, daring to cut her, daring to even consider killing or harming her…..
She smiled widely and put the man on her shoulder.
“You. I like you. You’re mine now little man.”
He tried to jump off but she held firm and turned away from the battle. Her sons would handle the fight. He roared on her shoulder and struggled against her grip, his rage growing as he did everything he could to get into the fight and kill. He wanted to, no needed to spill blood. He needed to kill, he needed to make them bleed.
But this goddess in bronze wouldn’t let him. She walked away and set him down in a space marine Rhino. He didn’t know her, he didn’t know why she took him, and he didn’t care. Instead he sighed and hung his head as he lit a iho stick.
“Don’t worry Corporal, there will be more glory to be had.”
He stared at her. His eyes were bloodshot, his body covered in dust and he felt exhausted.
“Hnngh…frakking….throne damn you….”
She smiled widely at that and pulled the trigger on her chainaxe. She then turned towards the driver.
“On second thought, hmm let’s go. I wanna see what you got little corporal.”
He smiled at that and stood up, popping his neck. He exhaustion was forgotten for the time being as the thought of killing those damned Xenos got his blood pumping and made him want to move.
“By the way.”
The giantess spoke as the rear hatch opened, revealing the same battlefield he had just left.
“My name is Atalanta.”
Please note: I’m not a writer and this whole story came to me while I was in a shower and from my lack of artistic skill. Sorry if it’s trash.

This is my second pregnancy and I have never been sicker. I’m 9 weeks and throwing everything up. Multiple times a day. My throat aches, I’m dehydrated, I feel like I’m dying. Zofran doesn’t help. B6 doesn’t touch it. Magnesium doesn’t do anything. Nothing helps I’m just in an endless miserable pit of doom. The only thing that helps is unisom that I take at night (I can’t take it during the day, it wipes me).
I mean is my baby going to be okay? I’m losing weight, probably throwing up my prenatals every once in a while. Sometimes Ill eat a piece of bread and that’s my only nutrition. Can someone please share some success stories because right now I feel like my body is rejecting my pregnancy and my child is going to be born with issues. I feel like what’s her name in twilight. Send help.

TL;DR
For context, I am a Massage Therapist [28F] while my partner [35M] is a Line Cook. We've been together for 8 years and We have a six-year-old child. When I got pregnant in 2017, we were still boyfriend and girlfriend and not living together. I continued working while pregnant to cover my expenses and rent since I was living alone.
When I reached my sixth month of pregnancy, I decided to move in with him because I couldn't continue doing massages, and I was afraid I wouldn't be able to pay the rent. I thought it would be easier if I had someone to support me financially since he was still working in a call center at that time. However, when we started living together, he had a conflict with someone in his company and he resigned. He didn't apply for another job since then. (I was seven months pregnant when he resigned).
We were in a tight situation, but luckily we were able to live with his family, so we didn't have to pay rent. I went to public hospitals for my check-ups and delivery, so we didn't have to spend money on that. But for our food and our baby's needs, his mother provided for us. At that time, his two siblings were still in college, and his mother was only selling food, so the budget she left for us was only 50 pesos a day. We would get our meals from the food she sold.
I felt really embarrassed to ask for more, to the point that I ran out of money to buy cleaning supplies for my stitches after my C-section. I used panty liners to cover the wound. I didn't want to ask for help from my parents because since I got pregnant, my parents didn't want me to be with him. I was the one who insisted.
Six months after giving birth, I went back to doing massages even though it was difficult for me, and he's left at home to take care of our child and do the household chores. But whenever there's an opportunity, I also help out because he always says that being a house husband is tiring. I really forced myself to work because I felt sorry for us, always relying on handouts. I tried telling him to find work, but the thing is, he keeps flunking the medical exams because of his lung scar. When he applied and failed, he didn't want to try again.
Since then, I have been the one shouldering all the expenses, from baby's needs, food, baptism, birthdays, Christmas, and everything else. My brother forced him to work as a construction worker, and he did it for almost three months, but when the project was finished, he lost his job again. Fast forward In December 2023, his friend got him a job at a restaurant, and he asked me to quit my job so that I could take care of our child. So I resigned, but I still do freelance work twice a week to supplement our budget.
However, there was a problem with their job, so the one-month salary they were supposed to receive was not given immediately. I used up my earnings to support him and our household expenses (bills, food, and our child's school allowance). I was forced to work again because we had nothing left. After two months, he found another job. We both started working, and we hired someone to take care of our child.
I told him that we should split the expenses, but he refused because he only earns minimum wage and he thinks I earn more. I earn 700 pesos per day plus tips (400-700 pesos per day), and on my two rest days, I do freelance work and earn 3,000 pesos weekly. So our weekly budget is 2,000 pesos, including our child's allowance. I divide it into two so that we each contribute 1,000 pesos. Since I earn more, I pay for the water, electricity, internet, caregiver's fee, and gas. The 1,000 pesos is his only contribution, but he still pushing to cut down on what he's chipping in. He wants me to reduce his share so that he can buy things for himself since he thinks I earn a lot. I don't want to agree to that.
I understand that maybe now, since he has finally earned some money through his hard work, he wants to be able to buy the things he desires. But what about our child's needs? I want him to be obligated to provide for our son, but I can't really say it. I always get scared when I try to voice out my feelings because he gets angry right away and says I talk too much.
I'm really struggling, but I have no one to talk to because I don't want my family's view of him to change. I can't even tell his family because they are still his relatives. I don't have any close friends I can confide in. It's difficult because he is a good father to our child, he doesn't cheat on me, and he is caring, especially before when he didn't have a job. He just doesn't have a provider mindset.
I have already told him before that in my line of work, I can't avoid indecent proposals and harassment, even though I don't tolerate them. It's inevitable that there will be people who will try to take advantage. That's why I don't want to work anymore, especially since I have been the only one working throughout our relationship. We've been together for 8 years. If we count the days we've been together, he hasn't even worked for a year yet, he just agrees without making any effort to apply for a job.
I'm so tired, I feel like I'm completely neglecting myself and my mental health. I understand what I should do, the thought of separating has crossed my mind, but I'm worried about the impact it would have on our child. I also don't want to add more worries for my elderly parents since they are both senior citizens. I'm really struggling with this decision.

So after 5 years of fighting to figure out what was going on with me and being told a mixture of: anxiety, depression, migraines and/or allergies. I finally got a doctor to listen to me (an optamologist of all things) and her finding my optic nerves being swollen and that I possibly have this disease caused me to fight for an MRI/MRV. That showed I had:

1. A partially empty sella
2. A 13 cm cyst on my pituary gland
3. Mild narrowing along the lateral aspect of bilateral transverse venous sinuses

All of that combined with my symptoms had me finding a new doctor to go to because my neurologist saw all of that and still said "it's just depression" so I did research and asked my pcp to refer me to a neuro-optamologist. He said everything sounds like IIH and scheduled me a LP. That came out at 35, got my official dx and diamox ordered.
I've been scared to start diamox from all the horror stories but, I've kept doing research and feel a bit better about starting it knowing that upping my wateelectrolytes and potassium can help tremendously with side effects. However, I was hoping for a few things to be answered by you lovely people.

1. I'd absolutely LOVE to hear positive stories. I desperately need it for both people getting their lives back having IIH and people on diamox. I've felt like I haven't lived in years due to so many different illnesses (pcos, anxiety, depression, adhd, chronic pain, migraines and now IIH.) I felt like I could still live my life until about 5 years ago when I started getting insane head pressure but, anytime I went to the ER or a doctor - they were like "oh that must be a headache or migraine". No one would listen when I said "no, it doesn't hurt..I can have a migraine with it but this is different, I feel like my head is full and needs drained". Anyways, since that started 5 years ago my head pressure episodes have gotten worse and I'm usually bed ridden that entire time cause I just cannot function. I miss living my life and I just want hope.
2. I know I need to bring this back up with my doctor but, when they went over my MRI/V notes no one mentioned the "Mild narrowing along the lateral aspect of bilateral transverse venous sinuses". Is this what people get stents for? Is that stenosis? Should I be asking them to look more into that?
3. I had my LP done on Fri (the 10th) and I've been naesous almost constantly since. Is that a normal thing? I've had a headache and migraine as well, migraine was on day 3 and then day 4/yesterday was a mild headache. From my understanding a spinal headache from an LP is undeniable and you'll know it's from that, correct? This has felt like a typical migraine/headache. Nothing I'm not used to and it doesn't seem to make a difference if I'm standing/sitting/laying. I will also note after 10+ years of migraines and very little helping them, Emgality has been the thing that has made my almost daily migraines go down to 1 or 2 a month and I'm 3 days out from my next injection which typically is when my head gets irritated so I think that's why my head is irritated and that it's not LP related but, I just wanted to make sure.
4. Last question (for now lol), I've seen people recommend getting blood work frequently once on diamox. How do you go about this? My neuro-opt never called me once we got results - he just saw my OP was at 35 and sent in the medicine and I'm hoping to talk to him tomorrow to go over it a bit more but, do I need to advocate for regular blood work? If so, how often? What should I ask them to keep an eye on? I've seen too many people say their doctors didn't tell them about needing to drink more, get more potassium or electrolytes etc. so I want to make sure I'm prepared to fight for myself to try negating any possible side effects from taking diamox before I start.

Also whoever wrote the IIH packet on here - you're a Godsend. Thank you! Having all those notes is super helpful. 🫶

I try to follow an anti inflammatory diet but I'm often tired and can't stand for a long time so I need quick but healthy meals. In the past weeks I used kind of a "building set".
Breakfast (Problem: No appetite in the morning but when I don't eat my brainfog and headache gets worst.)
Shake
1 Brazil nut
1 tsp Ingwer
1 tsp Tumeric
1 hand full of salad
1 hand full of cucumber
1 tablespoon of nuts (almonds or pecan or walnuts)
1 teaspoon flaxseed oil
125 g of berries (blueberries or strawberries or raspberries)
200 g of water (you can use milk or a plant-based substitute too)
30 g Oats
For protein I use 1 serving of pea protein powder (Whey should be avoided, because it could cause inflammation).
Why is that a "construction kit"? You can vary the berries, the nuts and the kind of salad so you can "build" different shakes. You could even swap out the berries for any low in sugar fruits like apples or oranges.
Lunch (Problem: I can't stand up long enough to prepare a complicated meal).
Salad
1 hand full of red bell pepper
1 hand full of carrots
1 hand full of cucumber
1 hand full of kidney beans
1 hand full of salad
4 tablespoons rice (whole grain)
1 tablespoon parsley
1 mintleaf
1 teaspoon sumac
1 tablespoon good olive oil (extra vergine or any omega-3 rich plant oil)
1 tablespoon lemon juice
For extra protein I add different things: chicken, feta or mozzarella.
I try to eat only 3 meals per day and have a 4-5 hour break between them.
Why is that a "construction kit"? Needs no explanation. You can swap out the veggies, the rice (for whole grain pasta or potatoes boiled in their skin) and all the spices.
Dinner (No problem here as my spouse usually likes to cook.)
We usually keep it to the simple formula:
protein (chicken, turkey or fish)
lots of veggies (steamed or cooked in the oven)
small serving of carbs (whole grain rice or pasta, potatoes)
It's not rocket science or something new and fancy, but it reduces the stress and the decisions around cooking and eating a lot which is a great. And in addition it keeps my symptoms at bay. The best thing about it: My headache is down from an really annoying 5-6 to a manageable 3. Maybe it's not the diet but it can't hurt to give our bodies "good fuel" because it's in distress right now.
What do I avoid? White bread and usually wheat, simple carbohydrates, anything fried, candy, sweets, chips, sugar, salted nuts, palm oil, sunflower oil, safflower oil, lard, juices, soft drinks, alkohol, pork (beef only from time to time), convenience products.
Do I count calories? No it's not the time to focus on losing weight.
Do I follow these guidelines every day? No it's not the time for perfectionism. If I manage to eat at least 2 of my meals following these guidelines I'm quite happy and my symptoms won't flare up.
Sources: https://www.ndr.de/ratgebegesundheit/Ernaehrung-bei-Erschoepfung-Was-essen-nach-Corona-Grippe-und-Co,immunsystem122.html
(It's in german; I try to find some sources in english and will add them)

Hi! I'm gonna try an simplify this as much as possible but it will be hard considering all the details and messages that have been thrown at me in recent months.
I had a friend of 7 years who tried to defame me to my friend group saying I was actively mistreating my boyfriend. She made a gc with everyone else in it except me and my bf. When my bf caught wind, he seen 6 paragraphs of what she was saying and doing.
Everything down to the bone was debunked by him and then my friend group came to me to ask mote details. We called her out, showed proof and blocked her on all social media platforms. Stating multiple times from each one of us to no longer contact us under any circumstances.
She proceeded to say that her "demons." Took over and so forth.
In the last 2 months she has CONTINUED to make accounts or use very old ones to contact everyone threatening us, and in some instances acting like a child having a tantrum trying to say all the threats she said and nasty harmful things about my family wasn't her and that she wanted to try again. This would not be the first time, but this is the actual first time in my adulthood she has done this and as severe because I had proof, and an unlimited amount.
Not to mention that my friend group and mnay people I graduated with seen who she really was and was utterly disgusted by her behavior.
May I digress. Each time we tell her how it is, not making threats or throwing around harmful words. At the end of the convo we tell her to stay out of our lives and to heed her own words and to leave us alone despite her thinking we started condos first. There's proof that she has started it all the time.
Today, around 9:30 she somehow got ahold of my new phone number which she has NEVER been given to my knowledge. At least through me.
She has pictures of me from high-school (14-15) with obvious edited captions on snapchat (which I don't use snapchat.) And the captions on them are like "yeah baby, I'm still racist."
"I ❤️ racism." And a bunch of supposed Discord messages from a gc I had never been involved in.
There were like 14 images.
She then said "don't worry. I have way more." I just blocked the number.
She then sent the "proof" to one of my friends who has a business acc with all the pictures. He didn't have her one acc blocked on that one quite yet.
She was calling us all sorts of nasty names, and claiming we're all racist. Btw we have a screenshot of her saying the N word a couple times in private chats between certain people of the group. But I'm not gonna stoop to her level.
The message that stood out to me ESPECIALLY was "don't worry, I'm talking to a buddy of mine who will take care of insert my name
She will not let up on any of it and keeps creating multiple accounts and thinks that posting these on her social media platform will do her good.
Now, that I have explained the circumstances.
What is the full process and do you think that anything can be done.
I cannot afford to change my number, and I have already created a new acc on some social platforms. We have blocked her an unknowingly amount of times and she will not let up on anything.
She has been known in the past to make different phone numbers to reach out.
I'm not very well educated on the laws down to the bone, and I do have a learning disability so a lot of my understanding is hard for me to grasp unless written in 4 year old crayon eating terms.
I live in the United States if this helps.