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I am 26 years old, graduated in Business, and don't like the field. I am unsure if it's worth entering medical school and changing careers, considering the financial return and opportunity cost. Are there better paths for making money and having a good work life balance? Disregard the costs of private medical school.
From what it seems, medicine is the most guaranteed path that allows for good financial conditions and stability, with fewer risks. Is there a better path that I'm not seeing that still provides quality of life? A doctor hardly earns less than $200k/year or becomes unemployed, and it will continue like this, while in most other professions, only 1% of professionals will manage to grow in a company and earn more than $100k/year after years in the market, starting with a low salary. I'm not talking about professionals who start their own businesses, OK? In medicine, after the difficult and exhausting training and residency, it's practically guaranteed, unlike the 2% of exceptional professionals in other areas, because someone who earns well even in philosophy will have it, but the question is the probability of this happening
Furthermore, if I earn more per hour, I can choose to work fewer hours and still receive more than a good portion of professions and have a quality life after graduation. So, I can have a part-time job, work 30 hours a week, have work-life balance, do something fulfilling, and still earn over $100k per year. Am I right?
BUT, the resident doctor earns little and works a lot: "I know, but only for 4 or 5 years, whereas in the rest of the professions, it's like that forever." BUT, you have to spend time studying and specializing to earn more: "Yes, but what profession doesn't require studying, specializing, and waiting time to earn more?
And before you say it, No, I don't want to do medicine JUST for the money, but I want to know if it compensates for the quality of life, financial gains, and opportunity cost at 26, and it's about this topic that I want to see your opinion, because if nobody thought about money to work, there would only be volunteer work in the world, and I don't see any problem in analyzing what financial standard I want. If it were something I hated, I wouldn't do it, I would be unhappy. I don't find medicine as enjoyable as traveling and watching series, but I enjoy studying. I would be a good doctor, and I see many cool and rewarding things in the profession, although I don't like everything 100%.
Even if for any amount of money, I'm not willing to work in IT or Software, do not consider this possibility as a better path for stable financial return because I don't like it at all and I don't have aptitude. I also detest Law and would not do it at all.
Entrepreneurship is also not compatible with my personality profile, even with any financial potential. I find the job of charging people, managing, and the lack of monthly billing stability and risks stressful, and the work routines in the beginning are long and exhausting. Despite creating millionaires, I guess that 90% of entrepreneurs in the USA cannot put more than $100k per month in their pocket. Think about the bakery you go to, the beauty salon, and most of the businesses on your street, for example. Entrepreneurship is a process I'm not willing to go through, and it didn't make me feel good when I tried it. It's also not a possibility for me, and I don't have a calling for it, just like technology, engineering, and law.
In medicine, the probability of earning more than $100k per year working part-time is much higher than in entrepreneurship, for me, that's good enough. I don't want to be a millionaire.
After residency, I think medicine will give me more quality of life, balance, and free time because if I earn well per hour, I can work fewer hours, and medicine is one of the few professions that allow this after residency. I also won't give up on quality of life and wouldn't do any profession that consumes all my time forever or that I hate.
To conclude. Do you think it's financially worth going into medicine at 26? Is there a better path/profession that I'm not seeing to earn $100k/year, always have a job, have stability, free time, and quality of life?
Am I on the right path in wanting medicine? What other profession allows me to work part-time, have work-life balance, and still allow me to earn more than $100k per year? I'm not referring to professions where only 1% of people manage to earn well because that exists in all areas, but rather one that has a higher and stable probability of providing that return, just like in medicine.
Do you think what I said makes sense or am I wrong? Are there better paths to have money and quality of life?
Medicine doesn't seem perfect for me, but I don't see myself doing anything else, and all the other things seem like I would like them less, be more unhappy, or not provide a good financial return with stability. Furthermore, I would be a good doctor.
Thank you, I want to hear your opinions on the topic and my situation. Do you agree with me and is there a better path for what I'm looking for? Cheers!
(Do not consider Software Engineering, IT, Entrepreneurship, Law because I don't like them)

Bit of a rant. There are so many sites that offer free lookups of MAC addresses, all of which are more accurate than Ubiquiti (this one, for example: https://aruljohn.com/mac.pl). This doesn't seem like that hard of a problem.

This is a weekly reminder post of this sub's stance on potential copyright infringement. This is a serious issue that needs to be kept in mind when creating and listing NFTs.
Original post by u/HurleyBird1
Quick disclaimer: I AM NOT A LAWYER. THIS IS NOT LEGAL ADVICE - THIS IS SIMPLY INFORMATION WITH WHICH TO EDUCATE YOURSELVES AND PREPARE YOURSELF FOR LEGAL ADVICE FROM A LICENSED SOURCE.
Now that that's out of the way. My credentials are: MBA, with a bit of business law classes under my belt.
I want to give a quick explanation of how copyright works - and I'll do so through quick blurbs n some myth/reality bullets.
Source: copyright.gov (US)

Subject matter of copyright: In general28(a) Copyright protection subsists, in accordance with this title, in original works of authorship fixed in any tangible medium of expression, now known or later developed, from which they can be perceived, reproduced, or otherwise communicated, either directly or with the aid of a machine or device. Works of authorship include the following categories:(1) literary works;(2) musical works, including any accompanying words;(3) dramatic works, including any accompanying music;(4) pantomimes and choreographic works;(5) pictorial, graphic, and sculptural works;(6) motion pictures and other audiovisual works;(7) sound recordings; and(8) architectural works.(b) In no case does copyright protection for an original work of authorship extend to any idea, procedure, process, system, method of operation, concept, principle, or discovery, regardless of the form in which it is described, explained, illustrated, or embodied in such work.

- Myth: I can use any image/song/video/writing I want.
- Reality: No. Not true at all.
- Myth: Well they never said it's copyrighted.
- Reality: Upon publication (and even while a work in progress) a work is automatically protected via copyright under US Law.
- Myth: Well they never sold it.
- Reality: It doesn't have to be commercialized to be protected.
- Myth: Well it was a long time ago
- Reality: Possibly true...as long as the creator is deceased (or if multiple creators, the last living one is deceased) and the required time has passed...although this gets tricky with "estates."
(d) Duration of Rights.—(1) With respect to works of visual art created on or after the effective date set forth in section 610(a) of the Visual Artists Rights Act of 1990, the rights conferred by subsection (a) shall endure for a term consisting of the life of the author.
So what's this thing I hear called "Fair Use?"
Straight from the source:

Limitations on exclusive rights: Fair use41Notwithstanding the provisions of sections 106 and 106A, the fair use of a copyrighted work, including such use by reproduction in copies or phonorecords or by any other means specified by that section, for purposes such as criticism, comment, news reporting, teaching (including multiple copies for classroom use), scholarship, or research, is not an infringement of copyright. In determining whether the use made of a work in any particular case is a fair use the factors to be considered shall include—(1) the purpose and character of the use, including whether such use is of a commercial nature or is for nonprofit educational purposes;(2) the nature of the copyrighted work;(3) the amount and substantiality of the portion used in relation to the copyrighted work as a whole; and(4) the effect of the use upon the potential market for or value of the copyrighted work.The fact that a work is unpublished shall not itself bar a finding of fair use if such finding is made upon consideration of all the above factors.

Uhh...help me translate that please... (here's a decent official translation: https://www.copyright.gov/fair-use/more-info.html)

above...if it's non-profit educational use, you're usually good to go...if it's for money or trade (commercial nature) then you're usually NOT...unless YOUR piece is "transformative"

Transformative uses are those that add something new, with a further purpose or different character, and do not substitute for the original use of the work.
- Myth: Well this is paid for in Algos, not USD so it's not "commercial"
- Reality: IT IS commercial. You could even barter for bacon and it'd be commercial. It's an exchange of one good/service for another good/service.
- Myth: My piece with Batman inside a card is "transformative"
- Reality: No, unfortunately, more-than-likely the courts would say it's not. A good litmus test is..."If Warner Bros Entertainment (owner of Batman) wanted to make an NFT/ASA "Batman card" would yours compete with it or be possibly mistaken (by a reasonable person - so in America think 8th grade education) for real merchandise? Probably...thus it's not transformative enough.
"nature" gets a little tougher. This looks at protecting the "creative process." Thus, using other works of art is less-likely to be protected than using factual sources - like historical photographs since it's easier to "create art" and thus "transform" factual pieces than other art pieces. This is also talking to things like "parody." Satire is NOT protected. "Parody" is. What's the difference? LegalZoomputs it well: While a parody targets and mimics the original work to make a point, a satire uses the original work to criticize something else entirely. Another way to look at it is that satire uses another work as a way to comment on something happening in the world that has nothing to do with the original work.
- Myth: I added a different border, extra planets, and some blur effect to MTZ's World of Light - it's a new piece of art.
- Reality: Not likely the courts will see it that way.
- Myth: This guy added a filter, some burn effects, and collaged a bunch of newspaper headlines together - isn't that a violation!
- Reality: Probably not...the courts would probably see this as a creation of art out of factual sources.
amount/substantiality in relation to the whole...this is where using clips of songs that are only like 5 seconds long works! But using more than that...runs into problems. This is tough to decipher too...as some songs are EASILY identifiable from just 5 seconds (Ice, ice, baby) - and thus NOT fair use. But some aren't. Usually you're safe using a very small clip of a song or video - especially if you're adding more to it. But this is a dangerous game to play - and there's places to get free audio (some sources below)
effect of the use - this is probably the biggest one. Courts will look at simply...does YOUR work affect the sales or potential for sales of the copyright owner. Of note...this is looked at at the time of the issue being brought to the court, not at the time of sale. For example, let's say my batman card sells for 10 Algos today, but Algorand BLOWS UP and soon every NFT is on Algorand. And now my OG Batman NFT is seen as one of the first Batman ones and official. Warner Bros gonna sue the shit outta whoever owns it at the time they sue to get the rights to all sales of that NFT. So that person is left holding an empty bag when Warner Bros wins in court.
- Myth: Well they're not commercializing it NOW so I'm safe.
- Reality: Technically, yea Warner Bros probably won't spend the money to go after the OG artist and the hands the asset passed through...HOWEVER, they may. That's their right. Who knows - the Napster days showed us the lengths companies will go to. EVEN BIGGER HOWEVER, the last person holding it when Warner Bros DOES decide to go after that Batman NFT...uh oh for them - they just lost their asset.
- Myth: Well it's been like a year, and no one has brought up copyright. So I'm good.
- Reality: If this was in a normal market...maybe this argument would work. If McDonald's let you sell a Ronald McDonald poster for like a year on Amazon with no issues, some court may say "bro, you took too long to bring this to us." HOWEVER, with cryptocurrency being so new (and Algorand being so little known/discussed), most courts would see it as "reasonable" that a copyright owner failed to exercise their rights within a year - possibly even a decade. (Updated because I realized last example dealt with trademark not copyright :o)
So what am I safe to use?
US Government works (mostly)...any deemed free to use by creator...and any a copyright lawyer says they have your backs on (cuz now they're liable).
Here's some great sources for free use items (please add to this list below if you know of some!!!):
Pictures: https://buffer.com/library/free-images/ (Unsplash is one of my faves)
Music: https://www.wix.com/blog/photography/2019/11/27/free-music-for-videos/
Video: https://blog.hootsuite.com/free-stock-videos-sites/
You'll notice there's a lot of "shoulds" "coulds" "probably" etc. This is because copyright cases are all unique and go to the courts. The best bet is to go with stuff you KNOW is free and fair-use. If not, I'd look up copyright law, consult supreme court cases concerning copyright, and ultimately, talk to a lawyer.
AGAIN: I AM NOT A LAWYER. I AM NOT PROVIDING LEGAL ADVICE. I AM SIMPLY PROVIDING INFORMATION. THERE MAY BE ERRORS ABOVE THAT COULD CAUSE SUBSTANTIAL DAMAGES - CONSULT A COPYRIGHT ATTORNEY IF YOU WISH TO RECEIVE LEGAL ADVICE.

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What should I make with these rolls?
What kind of character fits this party?
Which race/class best matches X?

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Lesson video

INTRO

You should now have a remote server setup running the latest Ubuntu Server LTS (Long Term Support) version. You alone will be administering it. To become a fully-rounded Linux server admin you should become comfortable working with different versions of Linux, but for now Ubuntu is a good choice.
Once you have reached a level of comfort at the command-line then you'll find your skills transfer not only to all the standard Linux variants, but also to Android, Apple's OSX, OpenBSD, Solaris and IBM AIX. Throughout the course you'll be working on Linux - but in fact most of what is covered is applicable to any system derived from the UNIX Operating System - and the major differences between them are with their graphic user interfaces such as Gnome, Unity, KDE etc - none of which you’ll be using!

YOUR TASKS TODAY

Connect and login to your server, preferably using a SSH client
Run a few simple commands to check the status of your server - like this demo

USING A SSH CLIENT

Remote access used to be done by the simple telnet protocol, but now the much more secure SSH (Secure SHell) protocol is always used. If your server is a local VM or WSL, you could skip this section by simply using the server console/terminal if you want. We will explore SSH more in detail at the server side on Day 3 but knowing how to use a ssh client is a basic sysadmin skill, so you might as well do it now.

In MacOS and Linux

On an MacOS machine you'll normally access the command line via Terminal.app - it's in the Utilities sub-folder of Applications.
On Linux distributions with a menu you'll typically find the terminal under "Applications menu -> Accessories -> Terminal", "Applications menu -> System -> Terminal" or "Menu -> System -> Terminal Program (Konsole)"- or you can simply search for your terminal application. In many cases Ctrl+Alt+T will also bring up a terminal windows.
Once you open up a "terminal" session, you can use your command-line ssh client like this:
ssh user@
For example:
ssh support@192.123.321.99
If the remote server was configured with a SSH public key (like AWS, Azure and GCP), then you'll need to point to the location of the private key as proof of identity with the -i switch, typically like this:
ssh -i ~/.ssh/id_rsa support@192.123.321.99
A very slick connection process can be setup with the .ssh/config feature - see the "SSH client configuration" link in the EXTENSION section below.

In Windows

On recent Windows 10 versions, the same command-line client is now available, but must be enabled (via "Settings", "Apps", "Apps & features", "Manage optional features", "Add a feature", "OpenSSH client").
There are various SSH clients available for Windows (PuTTY, Solar-PuTTY, MobaXterm, Termius, etc) but if you use Windows versions older than 10, the installation of PuTTY is suggested.
Alternatively, you can install the Windows Subsystem for Linux which gives you a full local command-line Linux environment, including an SSH client - ssh.
Regardless of which client you use, the first time you connect to your server, you may receive a warning that you're connecting to a new server - and be asked if you wish to cache the host key. Yes, you do. Just type/click Yes.
But don't worry too much about securing the SSH session or hardening the server right now; we will be doing this in Day 3.
For now, just login to your server and remember that Linux is case-sensitive regarding user names, as well as passwords.
You'll be spending a lot of time in your SSH client, so it pays to spend some time customizing it. At the very least try "black on white" and "green on black" - and experiment with different monospaced fonts, ("Ubuntu Mono" is free to download, and very nice).
It's also very handy to be able to cut and paste text between your remote session and your local desktop, so spend some time getting confident with how to do this in your SSH client and terminal.
Perhaps you might now try logging in from home and work - even from your smartphone! - using an ssh client app such as Termux, Termius for Android or Termius for iPhone. As a server admin you'll need to be comfortable logging in from all over. You can also potentially use JavaScript ssh clients like consolefish and ShellHub, but these options involve putting more trust in third-parties than most sysadmins would be comfortable with when accessing production systems.
To log out, simply type exit or close the terminal.

LOGIN TO YOUR SERVER

Once logged in, notice that the "command prompt" that you receive ends in $ - this is the convention for an ordinary user, whereas the "root" user with full administrative power has a # prompt (but we will dive into this difference in Day 3 as well).
Here's a short vid on using ssh in a work environment.

GENERAL INFORMATION ABOUT THE SERVER

Use lsb_release -a to see which Linux distro and version you're using. lsb_release may not be available in your server, as it's not widely adopted, but you will always have the same information available in the system file os-release. You can check its content by typing cat /etc/os-release
uname -a will also print the system information and it can show some interesting things like kernel version, hardware platform, etc.
uptime will show you how long the system has been running. It kinda makes the weird numbers you get from cat /proc/uptime a lot more readable.
whoami will print the user name you logged on with, who will show who is logged on and w will also show what they are doing.

HARDWARE INFORMATION

lshw can give some detailed information on the hardware configuration, and there's a bunch of switches we can use to filter the information we want to see, but it's not the only tool we use to check hardware with. Some of the used commands are:

lscpu to display information about the CPU architecture
lsblk to list block devices
lspci to list all PCI devices
lsusb to list USB devices

MEASURE MEMORY AND CPU USAGE

Don't worry! Linux won't eat your RAM. But if you want to check the amount of memory used in the system, use free -h . vmstat will also give some memory statistics.
top is like a Task Manager for Linux, it will display the processes and the consumption of resources. htop is an interactive, prettier version.

MEASURE DISK USAGE

Use df -h to see disk space usage, but go with du -h if you want to estimate the size of your folders.

MEASURE NETWORK USAGE

You will have a general idea of your network interfaces and their IP addresses by using ifconfig or its modern substitute ip address, but it won't show you bandwidth usage.
For that we have netstat -i in a more static view and ifstat in a continuous view. To interrupt ifstat just use CTRL+C.
But if you want more info on that traffic, sudo iftop -i eth0 is a nice display. Change eth0 for the interface you wish to capture traffic information. To exit the monitor view, type q to quit.

POSTING YOUR PROGRESS

Regularly posting your progress can be a helpful motivator. Feel free to post to the subreddit/community or to the discord chat a small introduction of yourself, and your Linux background for your "classmates" - and notes on how each day has gone.
Of course, also drop in a note if you get stuck or spot errors in these notes.

EXTENSION

If this was all too easy, then spend some time reading up on:

What is swap and swap space?
How Linux deals with out-of-memory?
How Do I Find Out Linux CPU Utilization and Usage?
How do I find out Linux Disk utilization and I/O usage?
20 Best Linux Bandwidth Monitoring Tools for Network Analysis

RESOURCES

Comparing CENTOS and Ubuntu for servers
How to Use PuTTY on Windows
Puttygen command line on Linux - SSH key generator
SSH client configuration
A Beginners Guide to SSH
Linux command to display your hardware information
See if your hardware is Linux-compatible on Hardware for Linux and DistroWatch
What is Load Average in Linux?

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Hi guys.
I would like to build new home sever.
Currently I have 3 separate home servers ( Truenas, wazuh+docker+VM, Debian workstation for Llama AI).
All of them are basically repurposed workstations and miniPCs and I would like to build one server to include it all ( I have issue with space and available outlets).
I would like to install proxmox and VM (with PCIE passthrough) all other functionallity.
But I am on budget so it will be repurposed parts/scavenging from current workstations/ebay/aliexpress.
What I already bought:
Intel Xeon E5-2699 V3 18/36 cores/threads
ASUS Z10PA-U8 - LGA2011-3 ATX Mainboard
128 GB DDR4 ECC Memory
4U server desktop case computer - basically server chasis for internal 24 HDDs, normal ATX MB and PSU
What I scavenged/ repurposed:
Corsair HX1500i
Nvidia Quadro 6 GB ( PCIE passthough to VM for AI ) don't remember exact model - I will replace it in future
Nvidia Quadro 2 GB as main display adapter (shared except AI VM) exact model doesn't matter.
Various HDD (8-12TBs) - 16 pieces
some 512-1TB SDD drivers ( as system drive and caches )
And main issue
I have PCIE 3.0 1x 20 port SATA card basically for free.
Can I use it for 18+ HDDs/SSDs for Truneas VM with PCIE passthrough ?
Or should I buy 8x/16x version of the SATA card ?
Or should I buy LSI HBA card + expander ? My issue is I didn't use LSI cards before and I don't know how they works ? Do I need PCIe Lanes for expander cards ? Can it be used with VM and PCIe passthrough ? and if yes which one ?
Also for truenas, if I use VDEVs with different capacity (mixed) for example 3x( 4x12TB) and 1x(4x8TB), how it affects pool. Would be better to create 2 pools and separate 12TB and 8TB drives ?
I have only 1GBit network and I want to use truenas for back up maaaybe some media server,( I will probably update it in next 2 years but currently 2.5GBit and 10GBit routers/switches are too expensive/big to use them)
Can someone explain it to me in detail ?
Thank you very much.

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There is a huge misconception that you need a lot of followers to make 10k/mo. This is 100% false. especially for education type creators. I've seen to many YT channels (or Tiktok/ IG) do 6 figure a year profit with super lower subs. What they have is an engaged audience. So here is what they do
They have a paid community. Pretty much a better version of a patreon.
It simply means: give you audience a place to gather, talk and get extra stuff from you (how-to videos, 1 on 1s, group calls, etc) In the old days, you did this with facebook group and udemy. Today you can just do everything on one platform. The simplest options is Skool. The best option is a custom branded community on wix. (great examples is jordan's library)
Here are the steps:

Choose one offer (why should someone listen to?, what are you promoting them?) ex: i ll help you lose 30lbs within 60 days without you needing to quit your favourite food.
take all the knowledge you about the topic and write it down on paper
rearenge it the order it makes the most sense.
1. dont over do this part. its better to write down all the basic. and afterwards use the feedback you get to improve the content. Maybe u ll need to add subtopics, explainers, etc.
2. if you already have something like this, just use that. even if its paid. offer it for free in the community. ull make 10 times the money.
create videos for each subject (using loom but nicely edited video is better) and add any supporting docs u feel would help ur audience. summary, to do list, etc
go on skool, and sign up. should be 100 per mo
1. make the group free to join for the first 100 people
2. add the course you made with the videos
3. the description for the group should be super simple. the reader should understand exactly what they get. add everything they are get in bullet point (weekly group calls, 1 on 1s, course) if you sold the course before (add the price next to it) u can also add in person meeting, or a free book they get, anything u want.
go to ur yt channel delete all the links in ur bio and add the skool link. MUST have 1 link. forget linktree. that kill your conversion.
from now on, ur cta is "if you want more content/ value like this, check out my community. link in the description"

and that is it. dont over complete it. ull need to work initially but it is worth it. if done right, I ve seen people go from 0 to 10k in 3 months.
PS: if you just want to focus on ur content and dont want to deal with this. send me a message.

There is a huge misconception that you need a lot of followers to make 10k/mo. This is 100% false. especially for education type creators. I've seen to many YT channels (or Tiktok/ IG) do 6 figure a year profit with super lower subs. What they have is an engaged audience. So here is what they do
They have a paid community. Pretty much a better version of a patreon.
It simply means: give you audience a place to gather, talk and get extra stuff from you (how-to videos, 1 on 1s, group calls, etc) In the old days, you did this with facebook group and udemy. Today you can just do everything on one platform. The simplest options is Skool. The best option is a custom branded community on wix. (great examples is jordan's library)
Here are the steps:

Choose one offer (why should someone listen to?, what are you promoting them?) ex: i ll help you lose 30lbs within 60 days without you needing to quit your favourite food.
take all the knowledge you about the topic and write it down on paper
rearenge it the order it makes the most sense.
1. dont over do this part. its better to write down all the basic. and afterwards use the feedback you get to improve the content. Maybe u ll need to add subtopics, explainers, etc.
2. if you already have something like this, just use that. even if its paid. offer it for free in the community. ull make 10 times the money.
create videos for each subject (using loom but nicely edited video is better) and add any supporting docs u feel would help ur audience. summary, to do list, etc
go on skool, and sign up. should be 100 per mo
1. make the group free to join for the first 100 people
2. add the course you made with the videos
3. the description for the group should be super simple. the reader should understand exactly what they get. add everything they are get in bullet point (weekly group calls, 1 on 1s, course) if you sold the course before (add the price next to it) u can also add in person meeting, or a free book they get, anything u want.
go to ur yt channel delete all the links in ur bio and add the skool link. MUST have 1 link. forget linktree. that kill your conversion.
from now on, ur cta is "if you want more content/ value like this, check out my community. link in the description"

and that is it. dont over complete it. ull need to work initially but it is worth it. if done right, I ve seen people go from 0 to 10k in 3 months.
PS: if you just want to focus on ur content and dont want to deal with this. send me a message.

I was talking to my friends last night while we were drinking out , how Kristen Stewart and many other gay females who are finally opening up to us and the world about their sexuality proudly … Even lately somehow billie eilish and so many others, even if not all of them are fully gay some are some are bi some are fluid whatever they are I respect that but I’m happy and glad to see women embracing their orientation and fully living their lives being most authentic lately .
We felt emotional and happy and said how refreshing and good to hear . Even that actress from sex and the city nixon who ended up marrying a woman and many other examples .
But then we got sad suddenly as we noticed at our table we went from having dozens of gay men around us and men who loved men in general to realising we had only me and my friend at the table fully gay … sadly I was really sad my friend and I were a bit shocked . The more we go in time the lesser our circle grows .. we’re already a minority so .. it explains our loneliness sometimes . Especially that as y’all know I survived an illness not a long time ago I felt that I needed my world my gays my fun the old fun we used to have .
I have my family thank god of course and god bless them . I have a good support system but you see what I’m talking about the chosen family counts too right . . I’ve already talked about it but it was brushed and thrown under the rug quickly but I can’t help but think damn it’s true I wasn’t lying or complaining for nothing . Seeing happy gay women coupled we were thrilled and in tears of joy for them .. and also in Hollywood itself as I mentioned Kristen and so many others ..
Now compared to that guys on the other hand who I thought my whole entire life were gayer than women .. all I kept seeing is gay baiting , calling other guys bros, impregnating women , marrying women , suddenly coming out as bi when they were gay yes as I said the last time it kept on happening guys . I was like calm down and give them the benefit of the doubt you’re just biphobic …
But then I was like not really where am I being bi phobic here . I’m seeing more and more hostility and coldness from men as if we’re back to the homophobic day . It’s just giving gay baiting that’s all .. men are more comfortable wearing make up now cute yes wearing clothes they like yes .. they’re all pluses great .. however the bigger picture …
Are we seeing more gay couples together ? Trust me … it’s becoming rare ! In gay clubs too … I’m glad more bi guys are out but they’re still obsessed with women , still forcing aspects of heterosexuality onto us gays … I’m still seeing these things that keep being thrown under the rug .
The result last night 9 couples … 7 lesbian couples happy for them … me and my gay friend my bf was working but anyway … all the rest bi men with women … I swear to god . I’m not even 30 , 28 and yet I remember in 2016 the number of gay couples and gays all over the club ….
I don’t know what happened in 2020 that made it so lonely … I’m happy with my life and family and bf job everything I thank god for everything he’s blessed me with .. but I have this weird feeling that something is weird and fishy … anti gay , implicitly homophobic etc behind the scenes resulting in this .
For example there’s this famous model in France people would’ve sworn he was gay and was always portraying that .. suddenly comes back with a whole son , I also know another one I met in person .. had they been baiting ? Hiding , lying ? Deceiving .. don’t know they are free but I somehow have a feeling it’s all linked .
Ps: I respect bi people , and everyone else this is a remark I’m making as it’s unsettling to see and hear such things … as if we’ve been deceived that many men were not the ones we thought they were .

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There is a huge misconception that you need a lot of followers to make 10k/mo. This is 100% false. especially for education type creators. I've seen to many YT channels (or Tiktok/ IG) do 6 figure a year profit with super lower subs. What they have is an engaged audience. So here is what they do
They have a paid community. Pretty much a better version of a patreon.
It simply means: give you audience a place to gather, talk and get extra stuff from you (how-to videos, 1 on 1s, group calls, etc) In the old days, you did this with facebook group and udemy. Today you can just do everything on one platform. The simplest options is Skool. The best option is a custom branded community on wix. (great examples is jordan's library)
Here are the steps:

Choose one offer (why should someone listen to?, what are you promoting them?) ex: i ll help you lose 30lbs within 60 days without you needing to quit your favourite food.
take all the knowledge you about the topic and write it down on paper
rearenge it the order it makes the most sense.
1. dont over do this part. its better to write down all the basic. and afterwards use the feedback you get to improve the content. Maybe u ll need to add subtopics, explainers, etc.
2. if you already have something like this, just use that. even if its paid. offer it for free in the community. ull make 10 times the money.
create videos for each subject (using loom but nicely edited video is better) and add any supporting docs u feel would help ur audience. summary, to do list, etc
go on skool, and sign up. should be 100 per mo
1. make the group free to join for the first 100 people
2. add the course you made with the videos
3. the description for the group should be super simple. the reader should understand exactly what they get. add everything they are get in bullet point (weekly group calls, 1 on 1s, course) if you sold the course before (add the price next to it) u can also add in person meeting, or a free book they get, anything u want.
go to ur yt channel delete all the links in ur bio and add the skool link. MUST have 1 link. forget linktree. that kill your conversion.
from now on, ur cta is "if you want more content/ value like this, check out my community. link in the description"

and that is it. dont over complete it. ull need to work initially but it is worth it. if done right, I ve seen people go from 0 to 10k in 3 months.
PS: if you just want to focus on ur content and dont want to deal with this. send me a message.

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In the looking-glass self, a person views himself/herself through others' perceptions in society and in turn gains identity. Identity, or self, is the result of the concept in which we learn to see ourselves as others do (Yeung & Martin 2003)
Social anxiety is when we end up imagining what other person thinks about us, how they perceive us, and we try very hard to give positive impression to other people without being aware that this urge to be good in someone's mind is causing the disorder. When we go into other people's minds and attempt to correct and keep good image of ourselves in other people's minds - by people pleasing and fawning and worrying about what they think about us and then trying very hard not to make them mad or angry - we are creating Shared Fantasy. Which means we assume that the other person is mentally healthy and has capacity to judge what is wrong and right and that we are responsible for their well-being. This is path to codependency and also to toxic shame - where we will always fail at our goals of pleasing other people (because people have no idea what they want themselves - so how could we know this anyway). We are creating self motorized circle of worry and rumination, where we forfeit our needs and wants in life, and instead we dedicate all our focus and energy into soothing other people - by not making them angry, by going along with whatever they want, never telling no to them, never disagreeing with them. This is all going on unconscious basis - we have no idea that we are trying so hard to keep up appearance in other people's minds. All that we are conscious of is social anxiety, people pleasing issues, worry and rumination. Problem with Shared Fantasy and lost of our Self - is that we will develop various mechanisms to attain other people's wishes - and this opens doors to various mental illness - such as borderline disorder, where our happiness depends on other people. Other people can easily control us - all they need to do is to sulk and be angry and to scream. And as Mathew Effect takes place - more problems attract new problems - such as seeking help for social anxiety, that never explains Social or Humanistic psychology - but instead CBT is based on scrutiny and criticism and self blame and idea that we have faulty abnormal brain that is malfunctioning and that is filled with all sorts of distortions which we must be ashamed about - and overall message from CBT is that we must hide and mask our emotional states in order to conform to society, and that our task in life is to be perfectionist and robot without feeling - that must push and destroy undesirable emotions.
This approach of self-flagellation will only end with more and more of toxic shame, on top of the present one:
"Any attempt to dictate what thoughts, feelings, and sensations are proper or improper creates a breeding ground for guilt and shame" Peter Levine
The solution to social anxiety is to allow other people to have wrong and distorted definitions about us - and leave them to believe in these ideas about us. Instead of forcing ourselves to stop carrying or going into endless conflicts with others where we defend our honor - we need to know that any attempt to correct someone's ideas and force them to believe in what we want them to believe - is attempt to change narcissism. And this does not work. Normal healthy sane people have fluid and flexible Self- where they constantly upgrade their thinking and mentality with new functional and better ideas and conclusions. It is only narcissistic people and those with personality disorders - that they stuck in rigid mindset and they refuse to change their reality. Any attempt to engage with narcissistic person leads to futile attempt to change a narcissist.
In childhood of ACE and ACoA - we learned that we must fix angry people and feel responsible for any problems that they have, that it is our obligation to feel responsible and to feel urge to fix their issues. This way - we are trained to have broken looking-glass self. Which means we go extra mile in feeling worthy by being servile to angry and hostile people.
This way - we will attract a whole bunch of psychopaths, narcissists, impulsive borderlines and evil people who seek narcissistic supply: obedient, silent, servile people. They will keep us hooked in our confirmation bias - that our worth and identity is rooted in other people's gladness about us, and how kind and nice other people are to us.
Narcissistic people feel entitled to you being there when they want you there. We're talking about narcissism so you can spot it and get distance from it. So that you understand; It is not about you. If feels like it is. YT Mel Robbins/Dr. Ramani https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1gS7uV6Bj0s
We stay stuck in belief that it is our duty to please other people in order to feel emotionally regulated - and toxic people implant this belief through coercive control - by triggering our trauma triggers.
And there is perfect storm happening here - because our attempts to shake toxic people off - becomes energy that gives power to toxic people. There is common advice from many coaches to start building walls and boundaries - and this advice once again keeps us in broken looking-glass self concept, where our worth is once again based on how much we defend ourselves against toxic people. This is the same thing as pleasing toxic people - because we place our focus on toxic people. How? By doing this:
When we fail at something, it really affects us. We fall back on negative behavioral patterns or negative ways of thinking just to validate for ourselves that we are not the problem, they are. Guess what- now you've put yourself on pedestal. You give that energy. If you're constantly looking for red flags you are going to find them. How often do you look for good quality? Versus “He's too open and honest, he's probably clingy – red flag”. 🟥 Daniel Morales https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AQrV6ZNyIe
And I agree with this idea.
It is like - when we experience pain and hurt - we tend to go to the extremes. Like either engage in Karen hysterical fight more - or in freeze fawn trauma response. And this is happening on macro level - where when there are world wide events like immigration and wars - people tend to go into fight mode and support authoritarian psychopathic political leaders - for the hope that criminals will somehow have compassion and moral standards to punish the supposed threat - and ends up only in corruption and crime instead.
There is actually totally new mind blowing concept that I learned yesterday when I was making videos for Pygmalion and Golem Effect. It is called The Michelangelo phenomenon
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6ZHkOE5OKjo
"The Michelangelo phenomenon is an interpersonal process observed by psychologists in which close, romantic partners influence or 'sculpt' each other. Over time, the Michelangelo effect causes individuals to develop towards what they consider their "ideal selves"." (wiki)
This is mind blowing concept for me because while I was learning about narcissistic abuse - there is a lot of information related to how to block toxic people and there is idea that we must become independent and never rely on other people to be happy - for the fear of becoming codependent. And this idea leads to Attachment Style issues - like Anxious avoidant, where we end up being scared of close contact - since people say harmful things and we end up labeling them as toxic - without any real proof that they are really toxic. The whole narcissistic abuse resources - are great to learn how toxic people operate - HOWEVER - if we end up pathologizing everyone all the time, we will become toxic ourselves.
Narcissists label very quickly people as being either good or bad. They're very all or nothing in the way they think. Whatever is in their inconvenient bad category doesn't exist to them. As result of splitting they don't consider the whole truth about who you are.
They need you to respond in state of disarray so that they can prove to them why they are better and you're worst, and it validates their narrative. They project their ugliness onto you.
🟥 Surviving Narcissism
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R8NWJNS6bv4
This is why broken Looking-Glass Self - which is social anxiety - is resolved by internally inside us - we allow toxic people to believe whatever they want. Radical acceptance. This way - we will break the urge to control toxic people's beliefs and urge to please them so that they change their mindset to them liking us.
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. Eleanor Roosevelt
Once we do this allowance of toxic people having their ideas and not trying to change their established beliefs - we will free our mental resources for handling problems at hand in more healthier and saner way where our needs are now prioritized. We will still feel the pain, toxic people will still hurt us and they will still be scary - but the additional pressure will be gone now.
I see social anxiety as by product of Complex Trauma and many other issues- and I keep the track of all issues that are mashed with social anxiety that appears as one entity:
These are all interchangeable:
RSD (Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria) = Social anxiety = Emotional Dysregulation = Complex Trauma = Toxic shame = After-effects of ACoA & ACE = After-effects of narcissistic abuse, emotional abuse, psychological abuse, mental abuse = Hypervigilance/hypovigilance = PureOCD = Unfavorable power dynamics = Trauma response = Trauma bonding = Neurodivergence = Spectrum, not binary thinking = Amygdala hijacking = Trauma triggers and flashbacks = being criticized for something you can't control = having high moral and ethical standards and enforcing them = someone random complains about our errors when we done superhuman efforts to avoid ALL mistakes which 98.5% percent of people never invest neither physically nor mentally = toxic person complaining and expecting us to know something for the first time without mistakes = Perfectionism = Protesting: someone toxic complaining without fair assessment and basing their protest on bias and prejudice and oversimplification = Protesting: trauma panic symptoms related in an attempt to express OUR OWN judgement and negative evaluation and holding criminals narcissists accountable for their crimes and hidden selfish agenda of exploiting others = Not conforming = Conforming (fawning) to unreasonable standards and neurotypical norms = Conforming to narcissistic abuser and psychopath who would punish us if we don't conform to their Coercive control, hidden agenda and manipulation and pathological lying = Being authentic true speaking the truth to fake people and toxic people who have hidden covert agenda to exploit others = being Agreeable (Big 5 personality trait) = being Open (Big 5 personality trait) = Being Neurotic (Big 5 personality trait) = being healthy, friendly and open to life and people = Attachment issues = Codependency = Listening to our gut feeling = Quiet BPD (PureBPD) = BPD Splitting = Inner critic = Imposter syndrome = Being exposed to Operant Conditioning of Negative reinforcement (rejection, cold shoulder) = Being exposed to Negative reinforcement Breadcrumbs hoping positive reinforcement will come instead = doing the best we can to avoid and mitigate negative reinforcement = Avoidance = Victim of false accusation and slander (overt or covert) = overcompensation and masking and making trauma and or abuse to be functional = being wounded and reacting to someone future faking our voids being fulfilled to hook us up to their lies = Self-referential thinking = identity being rooted in "I am not enough" instead of "I am enough" = Narcissistic Mortification = Sensory overload = Autistic shutdown = Pathological Demand Avoidance = The looking-glass self = mindread recursively / Recursive Thinking = mindreading
"People expect the quiet one to adapt to the loud people but not the other way around"
I see all these issues as one common problem: our identity and our Self. We simply never developed our inner GPS system, we never learned who we are, what we like and what we stand for and what are our likes and dislikes - since toxic ambient never encouraged us to express our emotions, feelings and beliefs - these were ashamed or neglected or dismissed as being too sensitive or insignificant.
I would go into direction of Humanistic psychology, where our goals need to come to our awareness:
SAD is sometimes referred to as an illness of lost opportunities where "individuals make major life choices to accommodate their illness". https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_anxiety_disorder
CBT is focusing only on symptoms and self-help industry is focused on making social anxiety to be functional - shamed, suppressed and hidden away from our awareness. CBT tells us to relax and to hide our negative emotions - but we need to be hypervigilant in certain situations. We need to have all information - including the negative one in order to come up with better quality decisions in life and better problem solving solutions - when we know complete picture, with all ugly details at hand.
That is why I support the idea of IFS Model where we integrate all our parts - including those parts that make us scared and worry and neurotic - where our inner critic is always on the lookout for danger and making us chronically aware of dangers - in an attempt to keep us safe and to have better quality life. In the end - it is us who are living with the choices that we make in our life. Whatever we choose to do with out life - I believe the solution to social anxiety lies in Radical Acceptance - and allowing people to have wrong impression of them in their minds - and doing nothing to change their mind about us.
Healing the Looking-Glass Self by allowing people to think whatever they want about us - will help us crystalize the matter. For example,
When we have issue of negative bias where we see danger in anything in life - it is obvious that we lack healthy coping mechanisms - since nobody taught us how to handle problems other than worrying about them and blaming ourselves.
When we remove the dependency on other people's beliefs about us - we will remove unnecessary mental hog and see what is truly bugging us all the time in more clear and more detailed manner. Like - obviously we deem social contact as very important to us and that our priority are having people around us in harmony -
and this is obvious goal GPS in life: that we live in ambient where we can easily quit toxic job and find another one - so that we are not trapped in toxic job. It is about minimizing and cutting toxic people off - without blaming them, without making drama about it. Instead of fighting with people and trying to get them understand - we allow toxic people to be toxic and that they fix their problems with socialization on their own - without us being silent and pushover and narcissistic supply for them.
Social anxiety happens when you value other people’s opinions more than your own YT consciousandaware
The minute you stop resisting, the minute you stop fighting you restore inner calm and inner peace. And a lot of mental illness symptoms disappear. These mental illness symptoms have to do with frustration, with expectation, with hope, with narratives, with derivatives of narratives like prescriptive: you should do this, you shouldn't do this. It's all context related. Mental illness is totally contextual. Remove context and you remove illness. 🟥 Prof. Sam Vaknin https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VF0dNuIuMXM
Embrace nothingness. Nothingness is an anti-dote to narcissism. 🟥 Prof. Sam Vaknin https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dwes1kXq9U8
It is no measure of health to be adjusted to a profoundly sick society. 🟦 Jiddu Krishnamurti
When we are headed the wrong way, the last thing we need is progress. 🟦 Nick Bostrom
What if you're right and they're wrong ⬜ The False Consensus Effect
We must not allow other people's limited perceptions to define us. 🟦Virginia Satir
You shouldn't fear being hated. 🟥Izaak McCullough

TLDR: for my tabletop game I made all the class abilities available as soon as you pick the class but they need training to be used effectively. And I fear this will limit the feeling of progression and want some advice .
Im working on a tabletop game, and I had a concept where instead of arbitrarily gaining xp and as such insane abilites through killing monsters you had to train in order to be able to use the skills your class has at its disposal. For example I have a bruiser class that focuses on using a variety of moves they can pick up but they need to train physically during dow time to be any good at the move.
I really like the idea in concept cus each class would have their own way of training themselves to be able to use the variety of skills at their classes disposal but a friend of mine pointed out that this would make progression kinda a slog in the game as the progression would be solely dictated by the player and you could have power gamers that spend all their free time training and ruin the balance.
I was wondering if you had any ideas or systems that have done similar concepts to this that could help me figure out how to make the progression more interesting and less susceptible to breakage. Thanks!

My wife (27F) and I (26M) have a beautiful almost 9 month old boy (born at 37W + 3). He is cheeky and inquisitive, but right now we are experiencing what I would say is the hardest time yet with his sleep (yes, even harder than the newborn stage, at least we knew then why he was waking and also it was a lot easier for him to go back to sleep). We’ve tried very hard to remain patient and see if things would get better, but we’re just going through the same thing every night at the moment, for what feel likes forever, and we want to start sleep training. My wife currently does not work full time (she is casual and her shifts are sporadic at the moment), so she spends most of her time at home, and I work full time but thankfully I also work from home full time which allows me to help as a parent much more.
He is currently on 2 naps a day, with wake windows between naps of approximately 3 hours. His bedtime is between 7 - 7:30pm, and wake up time for the day between 6:30 - 7am. However, he is still a frequent night waker. After going down for the night, he usually sleeps for a stretch of about 5 hours, then after this it’s where things start to go downhill for night.
Between 12:30 - 1am is where he has been doing his first wake up, my wife and I always try to share responsibility and take turns of getting up and settling him back to sleep. The main problem we have though is he takes FOREVER to go back to sleep. You could have him in your arms for at least an hour before he even starts to close his eyes again. It doesn’t matter if you put white noise on, pat him gently, he will be wide awake, clawing at your face, and when you’ve only had a couple of hours of sleep, it can be very difficult to stay patient and not get frustrated. Example, last night he woke up at around 3:30am, I stayed awake with him for about an hour, before finally he settled, I then transferred to his cot, went back to bed myself, and before I even fell asleep again, 15 mins later he’s crying again, so I get up, stay awake for another 30 mins, he settles, I transfer, and not even 5 seconds after putting him down, awake again, and so my wife took him this time so I could get some sleep. I was up from basically 3:30am - 5:30am, as you can imagine, this is not very nice to be up for this long.
Once he is finally asleep in our arms, we transfer him back to the cot, where he generally sleeps for another couple of hours before waking again, or sometimes even barely lasts 15-20 mins before waking again and crying uncontrollably for us to pick him up, and then again you have to stay up for a long time before he re-settles.
From what I can remember, we have had two instances now where we thought he was finally starting to sleep through the night. It has happened twice for about 3-4 days consecutively, he has pretty much gone 12 hours without one wake up, maybe a little fuss here and there but not fully awake, so we put his dummy back in and falls back asleep. But then after a few days, he goes back to his old ways, and now for the last 3-4 weeks, it’s been back to frequent night wake ups, every single night.
We are very much against co-sleeping, as we have read the horror stories from other people where it went wrong and we obviously never want to encounter something like that, so we want to aim to always try and transfer back to his cot where possible. There have been times where he has co-slept, however we follow the co sleeping guidelines and do whatever we can to ensure the bed is free from any hazards e.g. removing pillows, blankets, clearing space around his head, and even sometimes I go sleep on the couch.
Okay so now with the context out of the way, we want to know where to start with sleep training. I know there’s all the different methods out there, but just not exactly sure what the best one to start with is based on his age. There’s one that we kind of don’t want to go with which is CIO, but other than that open to any other method. Also on a side note, his cot is in our room so he shares the room with us, I currently live with my in-laws and the house is relatively small so there is no way right now that we could move his cot to a separate room as the only other spare room available is taken up by my office set up.
If there is anyone out there who went through a similar situation to us and started successfully sleep training, how did you go about starting and what are the best tips you have for us. I understand we are starting it later than probably what is ideal, but we are at our wits end now and it’s increasingly becoming more difficult for us to continue with these frequent night wakings. We really thought by now he would be sleeping through the night, but I understand as well every baby is different. You could call it a regression he’s going through, but with how often this is happening and how long it’s been going on for, I’m kind of over labelling it a regression, how many damn regressions can there be?