Friendster text messages about st.valent

I need somebody's help or advice 😅
5 years ago I dated this dude, found out he was married.
I've been getting texts and messages from who I thought was him even after changing my phone number multiple times so I stupidly messaged his friends about it, asking them to get him to quit. I was trying to avoid getting his wife involved, even though I probably should have from the jump.
Well, he swore up and down it wasn't him so he and his wife decided to get law enforcement involved. Fine, maybe it'll stop.
We concluded that there might be a middle man and that was the end of the cops involvement.
Today though, I got a call from his phone number. I didn't answer, but text him "what do you want?"
Again, Swears up and down it wasn't him and that someone spoofed his number. Now he's threatening to press charges on ME for harassing him. His wife clearly doesn't believe it's him. I don't know if it's him or if it's actually a middle man.
What am I supposed to do? Will the harassment charges actually go somewhere?

That awkward moment went the loan people send me automated text every couple of hours to let me know I’m in debt, Yesterday I Sent them a message back basically telling them where to stick it cause I’ve emailed and called them to let them know about my situation- as vague as possible so they can’t use anything against me. All of a sudden not a single text, I feel like it’s not an automated message 😂😂😂😂😂

That awkward moment went the loan people send me automated text every couple of hours to let me know I’m in debt, Yesterday I Sent them a message back basically telling them where to stick it cause I’ve emailed and called them to let them know about my situation- as vague as possible so they can’t use anything against me. All of a sudden not a single text, I feel like it’s not an automated message 😂😂😂😂😂

Client hired me for organization of a garage & playroom. The day of task my dog had a MCT rupture & we had to put her down. Client was messaging me during this saying things like "I hope there was an emergency, I'd hate to have to leave you a bad review". I responded as soon as I could, told him I was sorry, what had happened, etc. He responded "Will you still be able to come right now?" "My whole day was gone unused" to which I said "No, I just lost my dog". He replied and said "Ok see you Monday for sure?". I thought about it over the weekend & realized I didn't want to work for someone who was already threatening to leave me a bad review. I decided to trust my instincts and told him that due to the high temps I needed to cancel. I received a call today from an unknown number, then texts: 1st "Hi Miranda. I just saw your message. I still needed the play room organized. If you are able. I would have scheduled someone else as I took day to work from home today thinking you were coming. But totally understand. Let me know if you are able to come tomorrow for garage in morning it’s not bad it’s in high 6and low 70 I don’t think it would take too long." 2nd "Hi checking I if you’d be willing to help I’m open to paying same price as app so you get more". I have no idea how this person got my phone number but I have not replied. I just received a new request on TR from the same guy. I'm starting to feel like this is harassment. What would you do? Am I overreacting?

Until he used my card last week for food to which i had to write him he responed straight away was nice and everything sent me the money i didnt responed for 2 days said thank and asked him to make sure all my stuff is off his stuff and said id appreciate it he read it didnt block me until the middle of lastnight even tho i wrote nothing more. So we get too today he unblocked me and amd flips out about how I hurt hurt him he loved me and would move heaven and earth for me on and on im.controlling manipulating etc i just kept responding neutral that im sort if i hurt him and that we both hurt eachother in the relationship he left because he thought another girl liked. He daid again aplot i made up in my head i said i seen messages the day you broke up to his friend so i know so back to me be controlling and a cunt. I just said i want you to be happy. Out of nowhere he brings this girl up says she more of a woman then me and better friend then i ever was she doesnt judge and he cant be himself(hes not himself i know after fove years how fake he is around her be whatever) i responded by say Im happy you found someone better for you, i want you to be happy. Allison is beautiful and im sure she great i dont know her so i have nothing bad to say i do know i loved you and was your friend amd never judged you. Dont hurt yourself chasing someone who doesnt want you find someone who loves you for you not the fake person you put on because you are great... until your angery then your a monster with a deep darkness in you. I hope you find love. Then he deleted a message then said fuck you. Then one and on how he never loved me blah blah blah. He screenshooted just the part he wrote about allison and my response.... just what to make it seem like i was texting him about us when i wasnt. To shw this girl who doesnt wanna date him what i said because i was nice about her. Everything is always my fault and it sucks i was hurt i felt used i was verbally and mental abused not him but he has this twisted around to this girl and friends it was me.

I sent my tenant a lease renewal notice nearly one month ago. It took them about 10 days to reply with a confirmation that they would like to renew via text. Several weeks and many reminders later, they still haven't signed the renewal notice.
I made the mistake of not setting a hard deadline in the original notice. I sent a text clarifying that the renewal agreement must be signed within the next 48 hours (again, this is after being 3+ weeks late).
They acknowledged the rent increase and confirmed their intent to renew over text message. The original lease says it will automatically roll over to month-to-month if they don't explicitly cancel.
They're really dragging their feet, which makes me concerned. However, they always pay on time. So what happens if they just never sign the lease renewal?

I (16y) found out my boyfriend (18y) was cheating on me with my younger sister (14y).
It all goes back to when I was in high school. My family is very strict around the subject we call “love”. My parents didn’t allow me to date, not until I graduated from high school.
However, being a teen, I was a bit of a rebel. After I met my now ex, I instantly fell in love with his charm and stupid grin.
I didn’t want my parents to know so I dated him in secret from my family of five, her older brother (who, surprisingly, got to date BEFORE graduation), herself, and her younger sister.
One day, when I went out with my boyfriend, he would start to act very weird. He would guilt trip me, saying I was hiding the truth from my parents and making up lies about where I was.
I was confused…
I told him that if my parents knew, we couldn’t date so why was he pressing me telling them? He gaslighted me, saying he cared more for his family than I did. It appeared he wanted to break up with me. Perhaps he did, being a cheap cheater.
Around mid April 4 years ago, my phone buzzed at around 5 pm, a text message from my boyfriend. He said he was going to be on a “long vacation” with his family in some far away place.
I asked him if I could see him before he left, but he immediately said I was always nagging him and how I was too desperate.
A week later, after we had barely spoken, I saw his location at my house. I was coming back from a summer slumber party, which I had told both my family and my boyfriend about. I thought it was super strange and I texted him.
A minute later, his location was turned off and he didn’t respond back.

As soon as I got home, I went straight to my sister's room because my parents were out of town and my brother was running errands with his now fiancée.
My sister quickly opened the door and asked what was wrong. I asked if so and so had been here at the house.
My sister, looking very guilty, said she had not seen him.
My sister didn’t know it was my boyfriend, only that we were good friends. He had visited their house before and talked with my younger sister. I tried calling back, but he didn’t answer.
I texted one of his best friends, but NO RESPONSE.
Past forward a couple weeks later when my ex made a ENORMOUS mistake.
I was looking for popcorn for our movie night as a family, when my sister's phone rang. Being nosy, I looked to find it was a familiar number. I answered it to find out it was my boyfriend's voice. I immediately hung up.
I opened her phone ( it was too easy), and saw ALL their messages. He had been sending her selfies of himself and, he was also sending photos of himself at OUR DATES! The typical cheater type, saying he misses her and he wants to see her while he was on his “family vacation”.
I was heartbroken… he was my first boyfriend and I really did love him. But, I have no time for cheaters and, especially, no time for someone who cheats on my sister.
I don’t blame her, because she didn’t know he was my boyfriend. We can all be naive so, after watching the beautiful movie Pride and Prejudice, I took my sister aside and told her everything. We were both upset, but we both agreed to get our revenge.
I am grateful we both share petty minds.
My boyfriend had a very expensive Nintendo Switch in his bedroom that he basically lived on. ( which I gave him for his birthday)
He would cancel plans just to play on that thing (no offense to the gaming community). As my sister had him at our house while I said I was hanging out with my friends, but really I was his house.
The funniest part of it all was he left his room's window open and his Nintendo Switch right out for my grubby hands to take back. Probably going to give it to a more mature child.
Then, I took all the keyboard keys from his computer and hid them in random places, lost like his love for me.
Then I unplugged all of his appliances, even his air conditioner because he could be hot without me.
Then lastly I messed up his diet plan on the refrigerator door, listing all the calories he was supposed to have every day. If he can cheat on me and my sister, he can cheat on his diet.
I have to say, I love being petty. He tried calling me, but I blocked him.
Simple as that.
My sister said she was very sorry, saying they didn’t do anything. Our relationship is stronger and we now understand each other better.
Thanks to my ex, I have had a better life and I have graduated and found a perfect college, with an added boyfriend. Joke is on you.
I noticed on his social media that he hasn’t left home and he is still searching for a victim, which all girls have noticed because some reliable source warns them. My sister is finishing high school and hoping to become a therapist. Cheaters are never successful.

Hey all,
I'm 36m with a 43f ex and we share a daughter. We've been on and off for years. When dd was 2 weeks old she made me pick up our daughter after work saying she no longer wanted her, shortly after I bought a house. After this she started having money problems so she came to live with me on and off for around 6 years. During this time I supported her financially, helped her with her various medical issues, we celebrated everything together, everything was pretty normal.
For a few months maybe 3 or 4 years ago she did move away and stopped contact between me and dd, so I took her to court and got custody due to being more stable, after that she had more issues and came to live with us again, and again for years things were normal.
A few months ago she transferred flats to my area and things start to change. One week shes play fighting and grinding on me, the next she wont even look at me, I figure maybe its due to her medication, but today she seemed different somehow. I asked her why and she texted me back saying that things change, I asked what changed, she said she'd found someone new (a 28y/o guy).
After years of trying my best this just sent me on a downward spiral, I cut contact temporarily I got curious, I checked social media and found they worked together before and been "facebok official" for months. This sent me crazy and I said some pretty hurtful stuff, then dd came home from her day out I asked if she knew, she knew tons but mummy said to keep it secret.
Her mother claims to be in a single occupant house and gets benefits for this and disability, and again my gut told me to check where he lives, same street, possibly the same house, no wonder her benefit mail was coming to my house!. My daughters been staying in a house with (or belonging to) her moms bf of 3 months. She also often says shes ill so she cant have our daughter a lot, even having her other daughter bring ours back last week due to pain.
I have no idea where to go from here, I've now I've told her I cant deal with her, heart-broken, feel betrayed and honestly dont know how to continue, I need help but in the mean-time I know my kid needs her mom, even if she doesnt see her much as it is, I just can't face the situation anymore, cant handle the lies, seeing her face, the thought of my kid being told to keep secrets from me, the idea of her staying in some randomers house (2 of her exes have been in trouble for SA), I dont know what to do, honestly I said some really nasty stuff calling out her lies and calling her names, then I blocked her number, sent her new fling a message showing her talking about us being "touchy feely" a few weeks ago, said good luck, then blocked him too.
I dont have anyone to talk to about it all so advice would be awesome, but Am I a bad parent? Also if you made it this far, tysm for reading.

I’m in a confusing situation right now and I can’t stop thinking about it. I have a friend who I cut off due to me being selfish (the situation is dumb because I left my friend on read a few times cause they do it to me whenever I send something. And they asked if I was mad at them and I said I wasn’t but after that we stopped talking)
Anyways I have her cousin added on snap and a few days ago. Her cousin decided to call me and FaceTime, it was only for a few seconds. But my ex friend was in the video, joking around with her cousin. I was confused and scared at the same time but I ignored it.
But 3 days ago they decided to voice message me and she was there once again. And her cousin says, “we want to talk to you,” and then my ex friend says, “we miss you.” And honestly I getting really nervous to the point I was shaking because it’s so confusing. How can you act like that after us not being friends and the fact I blocked you on almost everything w/o communicating (I know that was wrong of me to do) and of course she said this in a playful way but I can’t stop thinking about it and I’ve been crying about it too.
And I texted my friend about it and he says she probably does miss me but I’m not sure. If they do this again I’ll make sure I’ll aplogize to her and then ask her why she’s doing this.

Hi, am looking for anyone like me who's looking for a close friend and someone who wants a longterm friendship.
I love making and listening to music a ton, hanging out on vc, playing games here and there and talking and texting often about life and just hanging out. Usually I am curious in other things too not listed if someone else is.
I'm a nice guy, and I value friendship alot so if your really hoping to find a close friend, you may want to message me haha.
If you like texting often too then that's even better because I am that kind of person. We can also voice chat once we get used to eachother, i'm free more so in the afternoon-night time with vc.
btw I live in the NW Indiana area, but location isn't a factor to me.

Hit me up and tell me a bit about yourself! 

This particular event happened a few days ago, so some emotions (and/or lack thereof) are still a bit raw.
For context: My (f, 27) ex friend (f, 22) and I used to be inseparable in all ways you could imagine. It was almost like we were sisters and many of our mutual friends considered us as such. We would video chat, text, talk, hang out, and all that jazz every single day. My ex-friend (I'll call her Hannah) also has a known streak woth many mutual friends to say "fuck all" and burn every bridge possible for a man. As of right now, Hannah's on a crazy emotional bender as she is preparing to move halfway across the USA for a player-military dude who has a track record of going through women, they've dated for less than a year, and their ENTIRE relationship is based on rebound sex.
While I have been nothing but encouraging to her on her endeavors for love and liberty, I have my personal opinions that I haven't shared with her directly as she's already heard it from other friends. This move will also be a HUGE growing-up process for her as everything she has now (apartment, car, lack of bills) has all been handed to her by her family.
I just recently celebrated my birthday (I had a huge party that she was invited to and didn't show), mother's day, bid my baby brother a farewell as he's gone off to basic. All of these things, Hannah was aware of... but she ignored me for weeks and I passed it off as her being busy with her huge move. Reasonable, right? That's what I thought as well until I saw daily snap stories or fb reels of her getting hammered at a concert one night, or with friends the other, and of course, restaurant photos with her family. She moves in a little under a month, so it was shocking to me to see her out and about so much because she was so stressed about saving money.
Fast forward to this last weekend - I was very upset with Hannah and was planning on what to say to her to work all of this out. That plan went out the window when the first thing she messaged me after weeks of ignoring me was, "How much money do you make hourly?" Around 11:00pm after not saying anything to me for weeks. I told her to research my pay on our job's company page since it's pretty open (we work at the same place).
Hannah then asked me what was wrong, and my response was something to the effect of, "You haven't spoken to me for weeks, missed my birthday, mother's day, and everything I told you about, and this is the first thing you text me?" I never received an actual apology, and her responses escalated from, "ok whatever. I'll eat that." To, "I missed your birthday, so what? It's not like it's a big deal."
I was surprisingly in a calm demeanor when I informed her that I cannot deal with inconsistent relationships by any means and how much I gave up my comforts and boundaries to be her friend as we ran in separate circles, and Hannah wanted me to open up a bit more and not make my marriage and children my entire personality. Hannah's response to this was a very mature, "You're not needed or important." And, "I'm so happy I'm leaving now, because I'm tired of you always being mad at someone." Which is far from the truth about my personality.
After receiving all that, I figured the conversation was going nowhere, so I turned off my phone and went to bed. The next morning, I discovered that she removed me from all social media. For the last few days, a notification pops up on my TikTok stating that she viewed my profile (almost daily). Maybe I'm not as unimportant as she claims I am.
The only other person I've told (beside my husband and mother) is my friend, and Hannah's ex-friend (I'll call him Junior). Since then, Junior's informed me that she has been speaking poorly and has been going through the wringer mentally, emotionally, and financially. My response to this was how much I don't care anymore which is new territory for me, and feels like a half-truth right now... like I'm convincing myself to not give a fuck. I've always been the cry-on-my-shoulder mom friend, even before I had children. I mourn for the good memories before the fallout, but I need to put my foot down and speak up for myself. AITAH for that?

nothing more annoying than someone texting other people and only stringing you along in case those other people turn into freaks. i realistically only want to talk to one person at a time, but don’t be afraid to message me after a while because you might still luck out.
do to popular demand(one person), i will add a little blurb about me. i play guitar, listen to music, draw a little here and there, play some video games every now and then, read sometimes, watch a lot of youtube, struggle to commit to shows and movies, and sleep. i live in the midwest US in the EST timezone. i’m in school and work part time. there’s nothing else i can really think of…
also bonus points if you wanna call.

So I deleted my 10+ year reddit account when reddit killed off all the 3rd party apps as spite. I have figured something out and need more eyes on it. If you have the ability please relay this to the other GME subs that restrict posting more heavily but tend to be more viewed.
"Are you the kind that sees signs?" https://x.com/TheRoaringKitty/status/1791136527801807077
"it's not just a call, it's a warning": https://x.com/i/status/1790441953659687421
Before I get any further I want to make something all too clear. Buying, holding and DRSing is why we are in this position. There are so many references to RK saying that DRSing was good that it's not even worth going into. This is not an anti-DRS message. Clear? Good.
DFV is telling us to buy options.
"When I move you move, just like that?" https://x.com/i/status/1790056912664601031
Okay so exposition established. On to what I found. Look at this:
This tweet : https://x.com/i/status/1790728848226521547
Han Solo going into the Asteroid Field is meant to signify something "crazy". Like buying ITM calls a month out at 10 minutes before the bell rings.
Now - this is where it gets good:
listen to C3P0 when he says 3720 to 1. When he says 20 the audio is boosted. I downloaded the audio from this RK tweet and put it into audacity to confirm this theory and it checks out. Here is an imgur album of the snippet: https://imgur.com/a/PuHBmLU
Secondly the lyrics of the song that plays when Han goes into the Asteroid Field:
Listen up and you won't go wrong again Float along on a verse-less song and then Get to where the two ends meet Come, come, come, come, come along now Run away from the hum-drum (this is buying and holding. He is still us to follow his lead "move when he moves" and buy calls) We'll go to a place that is safe from Greed, anger and boredom
This isn't the only instance of boosted audio on the number 20 in his tweets. Check out the shawshank one, same thing :
"old kitty did it in 20" : https://x.com/i/status/1790894938277695671
https://imgur.com/a/https-x-com-i-status-1790894938277695671-9cI9iLh
Please feel free to reproduce these results. I used Jdownloader2 to pull the audio from twitter and Audacity to look at it.
Finally - I think I get the "flip mode" and personality changing tweets. He is telling us to grow a pair of balls and stop investing like roaringkitty and start investing like deepfuckingvalue
https://x.com/i/status/1790743946764644659
We are meant to follow him into the asteroid field. He is the one making these calls at 10 minutes before the bell.
Listen - I'm a level headed guy so I'll temper all of this with....it could be someone else on his twitter. But his fucking reddit account is active at the same time. I'm either getting giga meme'd or we're going to be fucking millionares. Either way - I found something and I'm choosing to be an optimist about it.
Edit: I just pieced together more. The number 10 keeps being highlighted by DFV in his tweets as well. It's the only gold text that the monk has during the Gangs of New York Tweet : https://x.com/i/status/1790056912664601031
Also the green text in the matrix video just before it switches to Alice in Wonderland. The number 10 is the only readable thing in the green text. The song also starts off with 10 feet tall. He's the one doing this 10 minutes before close.
https://x.com/i/status/1790830761542664192

I want to keep this as short as possible. I (24F) made the biggest mistake of looking through my boyfriend's (29M) phone and found out that he was still texting and seeing someone a few days after he asked me to be his girlfriend and we've been dating for a year now. We started off long distance, it was hard on us at first I've always been very faithful and loyal but I'm sure it was harder on him. I'm from a small town, never dated around, and every time I dated I've always been focused on one person instead of dating/talking to multiple people at once. He however, is an incredibly handsome man who dated around A LOT and is very used to talking to multiple women. His whole career is based on his looks so he is always surrounded by beautiful women as well. Our relationship moved relatively fast and he moved me into his house a couple months later. We have honestly been so so good, I can tell he loves and cares for me a lot and his mom has told me how serious he is about me. We have talked about a future together, and are planning a lot of things for the future, which is why I'm so shaken up when I found this out. Basically the texts were him asking her to come over to talk, and them hanging out, and ended with her telling him that she doesn't like how he's treating her and he said sorry and that's that. I know they had a short-lived romantic history because he's told me about her before, but he said that there was no overlap. The text messages I found were a couple days into our relationship so clearly there WAS an overlap.
We talked about me looking through his texts and I told him I was considering ending things since I felt like our relationship was built on lies. He was extremely hurt and upset that I went through his texts and invaded his privacy (understandable) and that I was willing to throw everything we've built together because of something he did in the past. He said he's changed so much since being with me and he's sorry that I had to deal with the unloyal/bad version of him back then, he knows it wasn't fair for me since I've been nothing but good to him and for him.
Now, my problem is that eventhough he has always tried his best to treat me well and he really has become a better boyfriend. I just feel so betrayed because he was still very loving towards me when he was talking to that other girl behind my back, so now I'm just questioning everything. I need advice from a mature man's perspective of this situation, is this a big deal or am I just overreacting??

Need quick advice my husband has a moving company and a guy called him up on WhatsApp so already suss. Instead of sending texts all of his responses are voice messages. This might be because he has bad English spelling who knows. He claims that his wife is in Nova Scotia and he wants to pay my husband to drive not ship about seven large boxes from London Ontario to Nova Scotia.
Reasons why I think it is suss: - in India - using WhatsApp and only voice messages - it's personal possessions like clothes and stuff yet he's willing to pay such a large price - says the boxes are currently in a storage locker and my husband needs to send him his personal ID so that he can in turn send it to the people who own the storage as evidence that he is allowed in
Reasons it might be okay: - he Bartered down from 900 to 750 but this could be to throw him off and seem legitimate - when my husband said he did not feel comfortable sending his ID on the internet and that can I just show it to the guy at the storage place the guy agreed that that would work just fine
Basically he's going to pay via email money transfer I mean could he take money out of our bank somehow with an email money transfer? I don't think so I don't see how. But could then he not cancel said email when he transfer and then we'd be screwed cuz we would pay to go down there for nothing.
Normally you transfers have a 24-hour cancellation time frame do they not?

First of all sorry for my bad English, it’s not my mother’s tongue. Also it’s kinda long but there’s really a lot to say since it’s something that’s been going on for years.
I (19F) have been friend with this girl (19F) since we were 12. We were really close when we were 15 but drift appart when we entered high school cause we didn’t go to the same one (different city with like 2h away from each others). But we were still close. I considered her my bestfriend for a long time.
On day, when we were 16, we went on a week vacation at the beach (my parents had a small appartement there that they rent for the Holliday) with our friend groups, we’re five girls. Everything was fine when all of a sudden she snapped at me for being on my phone and not listening to the conv the 4 of them were having. I was really surprised because I thought everything was fine, cause I was in fact listening to there conv, I was just not talking. She started telling me how I seemed unintrested in their conv, about their life and everything. And I was very surprised cause I was in fact interested in everything that she listed. The only thing I wasn’t interested in was whatever they were smoking cause I’ve never smocked once in my life and never will. Things started getting worse and I ended up leaving back to where we were staying, cause I was angry at her for not understating that me not talking didn’t mean that I wasn’t happy to be there with them. I actually had a big panic attack back at the appartement .
Things I didn’t know at that time was that I had depression. That explains a lot of why I didn’t really talked to anyone, didn’t mean that I wasn’t interested in their life, even if it was thing I didn’t enjoy at all, like drinking, talking about boys / sex, getting high, and everything. I was still interested because I loved the 4 of them and they made me happy and that was enough for me. But it wasn’t for her.
Anyway we didn’t really talked to each others till the end of the vacation. She apologized at the end of the summer, while she was drunk. We didn’t really see each other’s for the next year cause I changed school and we were even more far appart.
Anyway we had this groupe chat with the 5 of us for years literally, and we talked on this gc every single day.
As I said before I’ve never been the type of person to talk a lot since nothing really interesting happened in my life, and I had undiagnosed depression. But I’ve always been the listener type of friend.
But as we entered uni (all in different places again) we started talking less and less on this gc At least they did Cause I’ve never talked much I assumed that it was because they were very busy with their life at uni and everything that could go in their personal life too.
Anyway, at that time my depression started getting worse an worse I was having a hard time at work and at uni I tried my best to stay alive (literally) And so I didn’t have time to talk to anyone, cause I literally wasn’t mentally stable enough to even take care of myself properly. This lasted for a year.
Fast forward this year, she told us on the gc that she was pregnant. I started crying, I was so happy for her, I was so happy to finally have some news on this gc. A few weeks passed and I had no news about her pregnancy. I thought about her everyday but I was so busy with school and so depressed that I didn’t send any text.
This honestly is my biggest regret ever, cause I really wanted to send her a text, but the fight we had a few summer before was so bad that I was too scared to talk to her.
Anyway, I finally started taking antidepressant after years being undiagnosed and literally suicidal (not really but I had suicidal thoughts) for years. I started feeling better and was finally able to talk with other people.
They were the first person I told about my depression. They were the first person I reached out to. I was so happy to finally be able to properly apologize for not really being there, and being silence for a long time. Mind you I was silent but I was still watching every single of their stories, wishing them the best and everything. I also asked them how they were doing and especially how she was doing with her pregnancy. They saw my message and like talked like for 2 minutes and that was it. No « I hope you’re ok », no « im glad you finally know what was wrong » nothing. The only thing they told me was the she was waiting for a girl. I was so happy for her.
They didn’t talk for another month till I send another text again, asking about them, how they were doing, how her pregnancy was going. I got no answer from her. I was feeling so bad, cause I knew it was my fault for not reaching out sooner, but at the same time I was incapable of doing so. But I still feel horrible for loosing her like that.
Fast forward 2 weeks ago. I changed my antidepressant medication, took stronger ones cause those I had weren’t strong enough. So I’ve been on medication for 3 months now, and 2 weeks with the new ones.
A few days ago I discovered via their private stories that they have a separate group chat without me, where they are talking every day. And here I was waiting for them to tell me when they were available for us to see each others again after months of not being able to, like I asked them to tell me.
How am I supposed to ask them question if they don’t update me anymore about anything ??? And what am I supposed to do if when I’m asking they don’t reply ???? I honestly felt broken, cause I for really thought that the reason they weren’t talking to our gc anymore was cause they were too busy with they life like I was. Turns out they have a whole ass gc without me where they talk not only everyday but also use to decide when to hand out together. They never asked me once when I was available to hang out with them. Cause I would have gladly clean up my schedule to finally see them again, and finally see Her pregnant. But they didn’t think of asking me.
Anyway today was what really made me feel like an asshole. As I said i have new medication. But this one give me really bad side effects. I have a really hard time breathing, I feel like vomiting, my head is spinning all the time, and above all my chest hurts. So today I called my therapist and she told me to immediately quite my medication. The thing is, my family has heart problems. And she think that’s probably what is happening to me. So today not only did I learn that I had to stop what was finally letting me smile for once, but also that I probably had heart problems and that I have to see a cardiologist as soon as possible. That shit scared me asf as you can imagine.
I got out of work and immediately decided to text them, cause first I wanted to update them on my life, but I also wanted to have updates on theirs. They didn’t say anything, only one of them did. She was there and She saw my text and the only thing she told me when I told Her “I’m sad that I’m the only one who still hasn’t seen you pregnant, I’m sorry I was so busy with work and school, I wanna see you so bad, I hope I’ll be at least able to come the day you give birth”, to not to bother to come see her the day she’ll give birth cause it’s gonna be « to hard for me to come anyway since of my work and my lack of money » (cause mind you she lives very far away from me). I told her it was no problem and that I wanted to be there, but she told me there’s no need to bother. And I know it’s her saying she doesn’t wanna see me anymore. So yeah. That was kinda a long story. But yeah, I’m really sad I wasn’t able to be there for her pregnancy, but I was so depressed it was too hard for me. I don’t expect her to forgive me, but I at least would have liked for her to understand my situation the way I understand why she’s upset.

At request of u/Shils1234 here is the text wall so far with this scammer. I will delete the old post and please drop your suggestions.

My exwBPD and I broke up last week after 4 years of being together. I feel I did everything for her. She would get angry at me for emotionally shutting down, but if I tried to communicate about how I felt about something, it was about her feelings and how what I was feeling was wrong. I told her I needed a break and I didn’t know if I wanted to do it anymore, that’s when she started saying I never communicate and she could’ve changed. A day after the break started, she said she wanted to move on and that she’d always love me. The next day I get a rally of text messages telling me how much she hates me and how I’m not a man and that I’m a coward.It really hurts.
Some days are better than others, trying to keep myself busy as much as possible. I work for her dad, and he refuses to fire me because he likes me and I’m his best worker. But she comes into the office everyday and I don’t know if I can still handle seeing her. We have been no contact (due to me blocking her on everything) besides this. It kills me everyday I’m in her prescence. She is so very physically beautiful to me. She is also trying to inject her self into my friend group (by starting to hangout with girls that come around pretty often) which concerns me because her presence hurts me so bad. Her family has reached out to me to mark sure I’m okay, because they all really liked me, and they told me they’re gonna miss me.
Before we broke up, she screamed at my mom and told her she would make sure her grandkids hate her and how she’s a “fat c*nt”. We lost my dad 2 year ago to cancer so I feel very protective of her and her feelings. When my ex would get mad, she would become a different person. Her eyes would dilate, get shaky, sometimes throw and hit things and would go absolutely off the rails. I’m 23, so I have a lot ahead of me which gives me hope. I know time heals, but right now I feel I’m trying to escape a maze that doesn’t have an exit. When our love was good it was the best feeling in the world, but when it was bad it was terrifying. She also seems to be doing very well which also hurts.
I just wanted to share my uncoupling journey so far, and so far it is so hard.

My life has changed in the last six months for myself and my partner. At times, i do feel it's been longer, but i try to tell myself it's not. I love my partner with all my heart, and i think she's drifted away from me. Emotionally and physically. I do know lots of it has to do with me not being the best provider and supporter for my family the last five years due to an injury that set me and the whole family back. Even still, to this day, I struggle to keep food on the table. I'm almost done with school so that I can provide for my family. When i got injured, i felt lost as a person; the sense of providing was lost As my wages were gone. And providing would be harder. Being vital to my family was lost, and I felt empty as my strength was taken for a while. I lost sight of my family; they saw the ugly side of my anger. Never beat anyone; just argue. Still not right, i know. Over these five years, I've gotten better, i believe. Four years later, I'm retraining for new work cause of my injury. My wife’s mother and sister passed away several months from each other while i was in school. I know the passing took a toll on her. I didn't know how to help her. I didn't want to say the wrong words and see her cry. Well, as time progressed, she got better at dealing with the pain. I'm proud of her for that. I know it's been a struggle and a battle. Well, the reason that i feel this way I do now. It was because one day when I went through my partner's phone. (I don't care if she does the same to me, as I don't talk to anyone.) Anyway, I came across a deleted messages from her guy co-worker. It's nothing crazy, but I had lots of texting at work back and forth. I didn't want to keep scrolling up as my heart felt shattered. The co-worker gets more mgs and memes than i do in a day, and i think it's my fault for that happening. I never showed her physical attention. Now, she seeks that somewhere else. It’s been over a week since we argued about the messages, and I noticed that her Snapchat now goes off more. I've been with my partner for eight years and ten months, and I'm lost on what to do. She told me last time we argued she would never cheat on me and put it on our kids. How do i get that reinsurance? Should she give me that reinsurance that I need? She told me she would never cheat on me when together with me. And I do believe her. I just don't trust the guy. He’s married. Would you be mad if your husband texted back and forth with another lady during work? She told me he was an old friend from high school, so they switched over numbers when he got hired at her job. Am i overreacting? Should i worry? My heart is heavy.

My spouse and I both received a text messages from an unknown sender asking about car parts. It was within a few weeks of each other. My spouse thinks it was some kind of spam, I'm not sure because it seems like a normal wrong number text, but the fact that it said the same thing was fishy. Anyone know anything about a scam like this?

Hello there! Welcome to what is likely going to be a long, rambly post. I'm going to structure this as though I were answering job interview questions, because let's face it, dating is a glorified job interview for a relationship/getting laid.
Oh, and to save some of you the time reading this (though I did spend a while writing it mind you), I'm 5'5, and it's perfectly fine if that doesn't work for you. I have preferences too! Anyway...
Tell me About Yourself.
Ah, this one is a classic to start off with, glad you asked (or told me to elaborate? Same idea)!
First and foremost, I am a nerd. My favorite day of the week is Sunday, because that's when my D&D game happens (It's actually Pathfinder, but I say D&D because most people are not into the hobby), and this account is named after the character I play in that very game! Feel free to ask for more details at the risk of an overly excited explanation. I also play video games, usually single-player CRPGs, but lately I've been playing Hades and I like being on voice call when I do that.
Professionally I'm... still in school. Here's a lengthy, detailed discussion as to why that is: anxiety sucks. Phew, that was so lengthy, glad that's over! Anyway, I'm a nuclear engineering major and plan to graduate in 4 semesters. In all seriousness, I don't mind going over the full story once we're talking.
What are Some of Your Hobbies?
Lists are helpful for this one! So here we go:

• D&D. Yes I mentioned it already, I'm doing it here again because it's so nice I'll mention it twice! Also, I find that lists are more impressive with more bullet points. Longer bullet points too, that makes it look even more impressive.
• Hockey. When I'm not looking for potential mates, I spend my time shitposting on the hockey subreddit. I've been to 3 NHL games so far and plan to go to more!
• Anything related to animals. For reference, some of the channels I watch on YouTube are Snake Discovery, Clint's Reptiles and Girl with the Dogs.
• Tech stuff. Electric cars, phones, gadgets, all of it is at least of some casual interest to me.

What do You Want in a Potential Partner?
Someone who's not an asshole, shares some interests with me, willing to do some basic stuff (sharing a picture, voice calling, video calling eventually) and treats me with respect. Honestly, not a long list. Physically, I would prefer someone who's of a thinner-average body type as that is what I am. I've made exceptions to this before though, so if you feel that I'm irresistible and not entirely obnoxious, feel free to reach out.
What I want the most though? Just intimacy. I think that's what we all want at the end.
What do You Look Like?
I'm 5'5 as mentioned before, 125 lbs, white, brown hair, green eyes, and have glasses that might as well be made of aquarium glass. Hopefully that gives you a vivid enough picture for now, but an actual picture is worth 1000 words so once we've exchanged a few messages I can share that.
And that, dear reader, is the end of my hopefully well-formatted and not-at-all-obnoxious wall of text. Hope you enjoyed reading it, and I hope to hear from you! If I don't, have a great whatever time of day it happens to be in your timezone!

About 3 months ago I (28) decided to go no contact with my mom.
Sick of the manipulation, the lack of care. I went no contact after trying (possibly for the millionth time) to get her to engage with me about my childhood. Her and my father were emotionally extremely neglecting, verbally and physically abusive, and manipulative to a disgusting extent. So much so that they deliberately derailed my plans for college and my career goals.
The last time I tried to bring any of it up, she did what she always does and said “That was such a stressful time for me. I must have just blocked all of that out. I remember you having a happy childhood.”
So I gave her an ultimatum: Do at least a year of therapy like I did. Whatever it takes to “remember” everything. Work on your own issues. Then we can talk again. If not, don’t try to talk to me ever again.
The very next week she sent me a text message letting me know that the dog she adopted (who was very old and in poor health when she adopted it) had to be put down. She went on for entire paragraphs about how upset she was about the dog dying and all the details of her getting it euthanized. Then she tacked on at the end “She was a good dog. I’ll miss her company. And I miss you too.”
Fast forward several weeks and a handful or similar subtly mean text messages to yesterday:
She sent me another text saying that she had “many” therapy sessions and had “uncovered things” and is “sorry for not getting me away from [my dad] sooner” (love the not so subtle denial of guilt) and is “ready to build the relationship that we both want.”
So I responded, “Great! Send me proof of the therapy appointments and we can start talking once a month for now.”
Absolute silence.
Because she wasn’t actually concerned with getting help or trying to be a better person. And she probably didn’t go to more than one therapy session, if at all.
Why do we give these people chances? What’s wrong with us that we refuse to believe that people who have hurt us our entire lives will suddenly stop?