I'm a Leeds fan, so I'm obviously biased against the red scum so City have never bothered me. As far as I'm concerned, I don't think the charges against city make them any less deserving of their titles. They've not spent a ridiculous amount more than any of their rivals, the only issue is where that money has come from, which doesn't really matter to me at all as a fan. Obviously the mortality side is questionable to say the least, but the actual spending I don't see a problem with.
FFP was introduced as a way of pulling up the ladder to protect the former Big 4/Sky 6. I've never liked the idea of it from it's inception. City have spent a comparable amount to their rivals, but have had far, far more success. The fact that they've funelled in the money around the FFP regulations doesn't make any difference to the fact that they have been incredibly well run as a football club. Chelsea did the very same thing with their long term contracts before that got stopped but haven't had any success so nobody cares. I'd even argue that was more in the realm of cheating than what City have been doing.
The fact that probably 90% of football discourse comes from Scum/Liverpool/Arsenal fans just means everybody is up-in-arms calling for relegations and titles being stripped, but I don't see any argument for that. They've done no cheating or in the signing of their players, and financially they have not been doping to an extent that they're outspending all of their rivals by hundreds of millions.
The Sky 6 have all had their cash injections in the past that allowed them to become big clubs, and because City grabbed on to the last rung as the ladder was pulled up theyre now all complaining. All they have done is show that the 'Big' clubs have no divine right to winning titles, and they've exposed FFP as a tool to try keep the Sky 6 in the strongest position while weakening the ability of other teams to compete.
Curious to see if that mostly just comes from my Leeds bias, or if it's a commonly held view outside of the Sky 6 fans
TL;DR: FFP was a ladder pull and I don't see why football fans should care about the way a club is financed so long as they are not outspending the rest of the league by a huge margin.
This is all morality based objections aside, as any arguments this month I've seen have not focused on that at all in comparison to calling for titles to be stripped etc.
Looking forward to this post being brigaded by Arsenal, Liverpool and Man United fans when I'm specifically looking for fans of clubs outside that group

Almost 4 months ago I got an email from an old high school friend who invited me to the 5 year high school reunion. I wanted to go as I had a lot of good memories there. I told my husband I wanted to go and he was very much against it giving me all types of excuses why I shouldn’t go and just stay home with him. I told him I was only going to be out till 10pm and would be back as soon as I could. Even though he didn’t like it I went anyway. I went and I had a lot of fun and talked to people i haven’t seen in years. My ex boyfriend was there. I obviously didn’t wanna be rude and talked to him, we were just friends and ended our relationship on good terms and I have no romantic feelings for him. We talked for a bit until I felt a hand on my shoulder and my husband was behind me he completely ignored the fact we were in a crowd and started screaming how I cheated on him and I didn’t love him anymore. Eventually we just went home and on the ride home he kept talking about it I asked how he knew and he said nonchalant. “I followed you. I didn’t trust you. I knew you were gonna cheat on me” I was shocked why he would do this. I mean I never gave him a reason to to trust me I just really wanna know what to do because i don’t wanna make this any worse than it already is. How do I talk to him about this? I really just wanna show him what he is doing is wrong.

So.. i've been with my boyfriend for little over 2 years. It is the first time im in a long term relationship..For the most part, I've enjoyed it a lot. It was really magical at times. But there were breaches of loyalty and respect from my boyfriend constantly the first year. Not exactly cheating physically (from what i can prove), but a lot of emotional cheating. Although I do have evidence of him possibly cheating physically as well, but what do I know. It affected me so badly. It still affects me horribly. At the time, I ignored a lot of it (idiot), because I just didnt want it to end. Eventually I confessed to him about how its hurting me, all of it, we talked through it, cried through it, threw stuff over it, and he seemed to understand, apologize and adjust his behavior. But I've always wondered why someone who looks to be an absolute angel, madly in love with me, would do it at the first place (most naive sentence you've read, maybe ever huh)
Well this brought up horrendous trust issues in me, no matter how much we've discussed these problems. It just didnt bring enough clarity, and left me confused, and feeling pathetic. So I decided to start a conquest, with a goal to understand who am I really in a relationship with. I had suspicions (it was ungodly clear) that my boyfriend's friend group are the biggest, most pathetic manchild, self-reflection lacking assholes. They've made a few mildly misogynistic remarks in front of me, but I, as always, brushed it off. But its that type of people you just feel would say the most heinous stuff if you weren't there.
They have this whatsapp groupchat, with 3 more friends. This groupchat, I knew for a long while, would break my heart if I ever peaked into it. So I internally concluded looking into it is way past the line 2 years ago. But I, unfortunately, given the circumstances, broke my own promise (which I am ashamed about, although I personally wouldn't care, I truly think going through someone's stuff is shitty). And what I saw was beyond repulsive, as expected. Talking about women as nothing but sexual objects - suggesting my boyfriend shouldnt fuck european bitches, but find a latina that would squat on his face, he would finally experience a real woman, he would cook for her all day every day if he had a chick like that (my bf is known for being a good cook), i beat that pussy up this and that, cityboy shiiiii, i hate when chicks dont know we in an open relationship (talking about their long term girlfriends which are all sweet girls), my boyfriend suggesting he wants a "big tiddy goth chick" (which is like, the opposite of what I am), talking about their exes and my boyfriends exes like they are absolute dirt, my boyfriend saying that "denying him fucking models would be culturally insensitive since he is French", and that "post nut clarity makes him want to be a monk" (which broke my heart the most, as our sex frequency did lessen, especially from his side. I asked him about it, was upset about it, he told me he just feels like shit cause he gained weight, because of work, whatever whatever, and of course told me im not initiating as well, but who wants to initiate on someone who doesnt show any sexual desire) (edit: I must note that most of these guys are in their early 30s, not 16)
Well yesterday, I told him that I did this, what I saw, I packed my things and left to my parents house to be alone for a couple of days, and to decide what to do next. He barely told me anything, he told me he's not in the mood for this, that he cannot believe im leaving for some banter with the boys, that he is disappointed i treat his stuff like its a public library, but that he still loves me. yuck...
Barely texted me since I left, only that he is sorry that it had to come to this, that there was a better way to deal with this, and that he hopes we will talk soon, and that he loves me.
So... I understand this is perhaps a take it or leave it situation. How can I ever come to terms this is how my boyfriend talks about me? A lot of people told me to break up and run, but its way more nuanced than that, and also I believe in commitment with its dark and ugly sides, and believe in trying everything in my power to make it work before leaving. What can I do here

Do men cheat to sabotage?
I already know there’s a fair chance I’ll get judged, but I’m going through heartbreak and am in desperate need of advice or the right words, idk. So my bf and I have been together for a year. We had what I thought was a pretty good relationship. Come to find out, everything was a lie in a sense. He essentially feels I pushed him into a relationship. He loves me, but is not in love with me; and wants to end the relationship. I also found out, that he’d been downloading tinder and bumble to flirt with girls for “validation”. I will admit I’ve begged him to stay, and I’m very confused. My mind can’t wrap around how he would spend every weekend with me, see me during the week, game with me, FaceTime with me and seem so happy during all of that… but now we’re here and he wants to leave, but I’m begging him to stay.
I’m in a ton of pain and I think a bit part of that for me is just the shock/not understanding how a man can do so much, be so involved, spend so much time, show no signs and then here we are.
I’m genuinely wondering if he is sabotaging the relationship because of the deep rooted fears coming from his parents marriage. They’ve been together a very long time, but he NEVER sees them being affectionate. They don’t kiss, and he never hears “I love you”. He’s terrified of ending up that way.
I really feel like only men will understand his thought process and I need insight. I need to understand.
Mind you, he chased me from the start. I initially was hesitant and when I finally gave it a shot, we’re now here.

Do men cheat to sabotage?
I already know there’s a fair chance I’ll get judged, but I’m going through heartbreak and am in desperate need of advice or the right words, idk. So my bf and I have been together for a year. We had what I thought was a pretty good relationship. Come to find out, everything was a lie in a sense. He essentially feels I pushed him into a relationship. He loves me, but is not in love with me; and wants to end the relationship. I also found out, that he’d been downloading tinder and bumble to flirt with girls for “validation”. I will admit I’ve begged him to stay, and I’m very confused. My mind can’t wrap around how he would spend every weekend with me, see me during the week, game with me, FaceTime with me and seem so happy during all of that… but now we’re here and he wants to leave, but I’m begging him to stay.
I’m in a ton of pain and I think a bit part of that for me is just the shock/not understanding how a man can do so much, be so involved, spend so much time, show no signs and then here we are.
I’m genuinely wondering if he is sabotaging the relationship because of the deep rooted fears coming from his parents marriage. They’ve been together a very long time, but he NEVER sees them being affectionate. They don’t kiss, and he never hears “I love you”. He’s terrified of ending up that way.
I really feel like only men will understand his thought process and I need insight. I need to understand.
Mind you, he chased me from the start. I initially was hesitant and when I finally gave it a shot, we’re now here.

Okay. So me and my boyfriend have been dating for 5 years. We're high-school sweethearts. At the beginning of our relationship while we were still in school he was talking to this girl who happened to be his first love and he'd go see her all the time while being with me and I mean would be out at 8pm and would walk her home. Fast forward 2 years into the relationship she comes out of nowhere again, this time they're texting on Snapchat and he's talking to her secretly. Now pay attention. This is where shit goes sideways. So at the time they're talking secretly, we moved in with his best friend who was secretly into me. He was trying to get with me the entire time and when I said no for the final time he told me my boyfriend didn't love me and that he asked to go on a break to be with someone else. He told me everything about him talking to her secretly and etc. Now I'm already moved in with this man and I don't have family. Fast forward another year. I decide to tell him I want a break because tbh I was hurt and was not healing from the fact that the bestfriend was right! So on this break I decided to talk to someone else. Nothing really happened between me and the guy but now my boyfriend acts like he can't trust me because I did what he did but like not worse. And also the whole time we were at his friends while moving, he knew his friend wanted to be with me and kept trying but did NOTHING!! BECAUSE OF THAT GIRL!!!
Okay now 5 years in after him only "talking" to the girl and another girl. I've realized that I don't want to be with him. I don't have anywhere to go and I'm trying to build my credit up right now as we speak. I don't want to be with him any longer because he took all of my mistakes and bashed them in my face and shows me hatred while I took his wrong doings and forgave him.
We are definitely different mentally. He doesn't even have any beliefs like myself so it does get hard. He is never happy. He seems depressed. I just dknt know how to tell him that I can tell I don't make him happy and that we should just break up. I mean if he wanted me would he have chosen the other girls first all the time in the past? AND LIE ABOUT THEM.
Also to make this worse when I decided to talk to someone else while on that break he told everyone I cheated and made my family and his family bash me. I didn't cheat. I was the only one honest about what I was doing and etc. He was or is the constant liar.
What do I do?

This is just my opinion, but I find Fiona more annoying than Debbie. I know that many people don't like Debbie, I can't blame them, she trapped Derek because she wanted a baby, not knowing the consequences it would have, she isn't a saint, but I find her tolerable than Fiona.
I liked Fiona at first in the early seasons. I use to love her and Jimmy Steve being together, but Jimmy just kept on lying and lying and stringing her along, and she deserved better. I couldn't blame her for cheating on him with Mike. That was the only exception I made. Cheating isn't cool at all, but Jimmy cheated on her before so, fair.
But then I started to dislike her when she cheated on Mike with his brother, Robbie. And it just kept getting worse.
She was also super irresponsible. Robbie gave her coke, she decided to celebrate, and then Liam nearly died because of him sniffing the coke that Fiona had laying around. And what really pisses me off is how she didn't snitch on Robbie, if she had then maybe she wouldn't have gotten into too much trouble, but no, her dumb excuse "I'm from the Southside we don't snitch!!"
She married Gus after knowing him for only a week, and then proceeded to cheat on him with Jimmy Steve when he randomly came back. (And yeah, Gus is also dumb for wanting to marry Fiona only after a week they known each other.)
And Gus forgiven her it seems, but then she later on started to ghost him and started a relationship with Sean. Didn't even bother to break up with him first. And she had the audacity to pawn his grandmother's ring. So Gus had every right to sing "The F Word." She deserved it.
I will admit, I did feel bad for her when Frank called out Sean on their wedding about his heroin addiction, Sean is a piece of shit for that. She didn't deserve that.
But aside from that, she's just been very annoying in the seasons I'm watching. It seems that her and Ford are gonna be a thing. Again, I am a first time watcher, but if you want to spoil me on what she does next, by all means, go ahead. The show's been out for years so it's expected.

This has been sitting with me for a loooong time, so expect a long read.
I've been married for almost 15 years and I have a son and a daughter. My wife has a difficult personality and she's always struggled to open up. In the past (way before we got married) this lead to her cheating on me and us breaking up for a while.
After that a lot of things happened and we eventually started to see each other again, we decided to give it another try and the rest is history. She's known from day one that my trust in her was broken and that it would take a lot of time and effort on her side to make it work. On my side too, to be fair. She agreed to that and for a good while it did work out.
A few years passed and we got married. And a couple of years later we had a son. I never doubted her back then, she never gave me any reason to. On top of that our son looks a lot like me and I even know for certain when he was conceived.
A few more years later things had changed. She had a new role in her job and she was away quite a lot. She also worked late several times and we barely talked to each other. We were both stressed and tired, but I felt like she wasn't making any effort to keep our relationship alive, while I kept trying to keep her engaged, talk to her, be supportive, etc. She was dismissive and cold. Then, suddenly, she was pregnant again. Don't get me wrong, we were still having sex, although not frequently, but I started to have a nagging feeling about it, especially because the timing didn't seem to make much sense.
Then the baby arrived, things got better, then worse, then better again... the main thing I noticed was that, since she was on maternity leave, she stopped stressing over work, she got away from that environment and things got better for everyone. She got back to work eventually, but not in that demanding role.
I stopped thinking about it. I stopped doubting her. I almost forgot about it.
Then I was searching for some documents on my PC and I came across some notes I wrote to her (that I kept for myself and never actually gave to her) about that period of time and all the worries and doubts that I was having back then.
Everything rushed back to me. I distinctly remember that feeling, that creeping doubt. And now, considering how my daughter looks and behaves, I'm even more worried. Not only she doesn't look much like me, she doesn't even look like her mother. And her behavior is very very different from anyone in our family. Granted: genetics are complicated. Looks and behavior don't prove anything.
I don't have the means for a DNA test and even if I did I wouldn't want to do it behind her back.
She knows I read those old notes, I've told her. We're both at work now, but I hope I'll be able to talk to her tonight... I'm not sure what to say, though.
Should I just drop the matter and try to push it out of my head? Should I pursue it and risk being wrong and damaging our relationship? But what if I'm right? I love my daughter, I wouldn't want to lose her! And I love my wife and I know we're in a good place now.. But I'm also worried that if I ignore this, it will just haunt me for a long time. And even if I did ask and she says she's 1000% sure our daughter is mine...would I believe her?
I really don't know what to do.

It is very common that ADHD is accompanied by another mental health condition . I am not sure if this applies to me but I've read into a number of mental health conditions. It's either I have very severe ADHD and problems regulating my emotions and anger. I think I might have aspd with showing toxic behavior in the past (pathological lying, manipulating, scamming, cheating, stealing, etc). I am much better now and I just go with the flow, but I also strongly consider bpd? Both of these are possibly linked to ADHD. I don't know if I'll ever get the diagnosis but my pattern of unstable relationships, dissociation, lack of self it all lays a toll on me and I don't know why I do what I do. Meds help lol.
I'm wondering if anyone else struggles with other mental health problems along with ADHD, I also have childhood trauma and not the best home life which I know can contribute as well as a BD and schizophrenic mother.

The fact that I have to write this and seek advice truly sucks... I'm m(30) was married to my wife for 6 years, together total for 9 years f(35) we have two beautiful boys together 3 and 2 years old... my wife recently called off our marriage and said she was done with this life and didn't want it anymore. I found it off, because things were pretty normal for the most part.
I later dug around and found out she was cheating on me beginning of march while I was in school to become a firefighter. During this time she was in between jobs and had free time. She built a "connection" with an older gentleman, on the heavier side and he's older close to his late 40 early 50 probably. They worked together and they would go to lunch together during work hours and built a connection that I was not privy to during our marriage. She cheated on me right after we dropped off our kids at daycare, said goodbye and I love you like a normal couple would, and she drove right to a hotel to be with this gentleman... I didn't find this out until after the breakup as a reminder and done some digging... turns out she's still with this man, and thinks she's in love with him.. get this kicker, he's also married, and told my wife he would leave his for her so they can be together.
That was early March and he's still with her. But still with my separated wife now also... we live in the same house still because financially we can't just leave. We have to sell our house and go separate ways. We live in separate rooms on opposite sides of the home and barely share contact unless it has to do with the kids. She filed for divorce from me with a lawyer without talking to me about it and I'm being served papers. So now I have to get a lawyer to protect myself and the agreement is nothing changes with the kids. And we want their routine to be the same with school and visits. 50 50 custody. And she just wants both of us to go our own ways and move on. Cause clearly she has... what pains me is this woman treats me as a ghost now.
The woman who I'm still madly in love with and still see her the same as when she met me down the aisle. The same woman I saw give birth to both our kids.... but she doesn't love me anymore and isn't attracted to me and wants to be with him and is attracted to him now... what do I do? How do I cope... how do I move on? I need all the help I can get because I'm slowly losing my mind. And I've just been in a state of anger, depression, betrayal, and just feel like I never knew this woman at all.... the woman I married would never have done this to me. First couple of weeks I won't lie. I would corner her and show her what I was to her and what she meant to me... and how our family was more important but her mind was fully made up... and she didn't want to hear it.
I was there for her at her lowest points of her life. And helped build her into the woman she is, she was a drunk and I broke that curse and she was sober ever since... idk what I did wrong to deserve this... she claims I was a good husband, a great father, and a good person. So idk what to do or how to act. Please help.

Brief history...

Type 1 / 1.5. Male. Early 40s. Diagnosed last year. Been on Lantus Solostar + Humalog since September. That insulin regimen + diet + weight-training + cardio resulted in very well controlled blood glucose. According to Dexcom, I was in range 96% of the time. In the past two months that time in range has plummeted to the high 20s% (some days are better -- as much as 60% in range and some are much worse, but none are anywhere near where I was before.)

But, I've been killing it on diet and exercise...

Weirdly, my diet has gotten even better in this period. I'm no longer estimating calories and macros -- I'm measuring/weighing everything, I used to allow myself the occasional "cheat" snack or meal -- I haven't done a single one of those in the past six weeks, I'm getting more rest and I've dramatically stepped up my workout regimen (strength training 4 days/wk, cardio 7 days/wk, yoga/mobility 1 day/wk.)
My blood glucose comes down dramatically after an hour of moderate intensity steady-state cardio. But it climbs back up within a couple of hours of that cardio -- even without consuming a single calorie during that window. Unfortunately, I can't do that cardio 4 or 5 times a day!

Insulin resistance...?

Endo thinks I may be showing signs of insulin resistance. She said it may be worth trying out a GLP-1, which many of her Type 1 / 1.5 patients with similar profiles have had success with.

First, tried tritating Lantus...

We first tried tritating my Lantus dosage. I was at 12 units. Over the past few weeks, we've now dialed up to 36 units with only moderately better results.

I wanted to try Tresiba...

Now, we're going to try an alternate insulin (which I asked about and she remains skeptical about.) I specifically asked if we could try Tresiba (Insulin Degludec) since it is a completely different type of insulin than Lantus (Insulin Glargine). The prescription was submitted, but immediately denied by my insurance. But the prior authorization department called me right away and told me that if my endo filed a new prior authorization (rather than an appeal to the first one), and, in this one, included clinical notes showing my long-term Lantus use and her opinion that using any of the other step-therapy insulins that they do cover (Toujeo, Basaglar, Rezvoglar), I would be much more likely to get Tresiba approved.

But, endo says no advantage of Tresiba vs. Toujeo...

So, rather than file a new prior authorization, she's going to have me try Toujeo. I really hope this works, but the fact that Toujeo is the same insulin as Lantus (just longer lasting) makes me worried we're wasting time. Pure anecdote, but I have read about some people who greatly benefited from a Lantus-to-Tresiba switch.

If Toujeo switch doesn't help, GLP-1s are next...

But, getting GLP-1s approved for Type 1 / 1.5's can be be really challenging.
Anyone else been in a similar situation? How did things resolve for you?
(Sorry if you see this in more than one Diabetes subreddit)

My gf (22F) and I (22M) aren’t on the best terms right now. A few weeks ago, I was on the phone with this girl from my school talking about religion (it was pretty deep). We usually don’t talk on the phone, but this time we were. My gf called me and I texted her that I was deep into this conversation and I’ll call her back soon—I made sure there was nothing urgent or anything she needed me from right then. When I called my gf back (about 15 minutes later), she said I had no business not picking up her call because of the female friend. However, we made up and moved on.
More recently, she asked for my password to my Instagram. Although I wasn’t a huge fan of the idea, I gave it to her without a problem. She’s been looking through my DMs (mostly college friends which, I will admit, are about 75% women) and said I have no reason to be so friendly with them. For example, some of the conversations about anything can be super long, and there were some addressing me with terms of endearment (Pookie, boo-boo, etc.) that I, admittedly, didn’t stop—I never used any with them, but still probably bad on my part.
I pride myself on being loyal to our relationship, but I’ve been actively trying to be more social and outgoing. She’s been through a lot from past relationships with cheating and whatnot, but I would never want to put her through anything like that. We’ve had some ups and downs, but we’ve had a lovely relationship for 3 years now. I feel like I’ve been doing well with actually having friends and not doing anything to jeopardize or disrespect our relationship.
Firstly, how can I approach this topic once we’re talking again? How can I show her I can actually have friendships, despite the gender, that don’t jeopardize our relationship?
tldr; Gf doesn’t like the relationship I have with my female friends, saying I’m too friendly for her liking.

Not sure if I’m doing this right but here we go. So I M21 have been talking to this girl F20 for a few months now, nothing really serious but we do vibe and get along pretty well. She has a lotta friends but the focus here are 2 guy friends. One of them she slept with about 4 months before we started talking, and he admitted he had feelings for her but she shut it down and as far as I know he lost feelings. The other one is guy #1’s best friend, and her and him actually did have feelings for each other and went on some dates, but he ended up telling her he didn’t want to continue dating. Recently I went to a party and meet guy #2, I had been to a couple before that with no issue. But at the party with guy 2 after he saw me with her his mood went from vibing to just sitting out side staring off into space. The next time they had a party her guy friends throwing it texted her “come alone” or “don’t bring the guy you’re talking to.” She said she’ll talk to them, but so far shows no sign of even bringing it up. They’ve had 4 get togethers like this and I found out guy 1 took a picture of them sitting by each other and wanted to tag me in it. I don’t want to force her to do anything or push her to confront them but this is really starting to bother me to the point I stay up and can’t sleep. I’ve been cheated on before, my ex made friends with some dudes didn’t like me and she ended up having an emotional affair with one of them and this is making me feel the same way I felt before. I don’t want her to think I’m trying to come between her and her friends, but it feels like they’re disrespecting me. Is there a way I can approach this or just abandon ship? Thank y’all in advance.
TLDR: talking stages friends don’t like me and tell her to not invite me out with her, it’s starting to bother me and I’m not really sure what to do.

(Sips tea, a complete satire) Getting famous in Nigeria is really not easy! 60% of people in Nigeria are multi-talented, the other 40% are super rich and do not even need fame. The entertainment industry is getting oversaturated. The sky isn't big enough anymore 😂
Gone are the days were fame was given to those that geniuly deserve it. These days, there are patterns and cheat codes to fame as an entertainer. Funny enough you don't not need money at all to be famous 🎯

1. Fake your death: There is a 70% change you will become famous when you act like you have died. People get to love you some more, spread your news around and inform the rest of the world the amazing things they did for you while you were alife.
   
2. Go to Jail: Nigerians will hate you until you enter jail, that it when the love will come. We begin to love the criminal and blame the government for the terrible system. You hear things like, “yes he stole but do you know how much politicians steal everyday”. The moment you're out, you become a national hero and a motivation to many.
   
3. Leak your sex tape: This one would shoot you straight to the top. The more skin you show, the crazier it gets. Nigerians love to talk. Just show them your body and you will become famous. They will hate you for a week or two but after that you become an influencer and a favorite of many.
   

Please if you know other ways, kindly drop them in the comments, lets laugh at the beautiful country together. (Proudly Nigerian by the way, say nonsense and you go collect woto-woto 😂😂).

Recently my life went downhill as I was burned by many people. I lost my apartment, and I was constantly job hopping for a good 6 months just trying to recover and try to get back on track. I became addicted to alcohol which I have since stopped for about a month now and I’m proud of myself for that. My girlfriend at the time started acting just completely different and no matter how I tried to talked to her it just felt that she was clocked out.
Well we broke up the other day, come to find out she was messaging my friend behind my back for 6 months straight just trying to find dirt on me, but my friend essentially told her to grow up and talk to me about these issues (my friend is a great guy, he even showed me screenshots and I was glad to see he had my back the whole time. We’ve been friends since high school and he’s never been one to burn me or go behind my back to hurt me). He finally decided to spill the beans and showed me that she told him she was going on dates with this other guy behind my back, and how she is just too scared to break up with me.
I have had her blocked for a few days now, but seeing all of this after being told that she doesn’t love me anymore and wants me out of her life just has me laying here so numb. I’ve never truly been cheated on like this and I always went out of my way to try my best for her. Some more context about my ex, she can’t get a legal job, can’t get a bank account, drivers license, etc. She has been in the immigration process for almost 4 years with no progress, and no signs of it changing.
I feel so used, emotionally manipulated, and just so empty. I can’t sleep, I’m losing weight, and I just don’t have any motivation. I just feel empty.
I just need to get this off my chest.

(Sorry for the ramble.) Preface : We're both 38, childless. Have been together for 20 years, married for 7.
I'm usually the one who initiates any form of physical contact, hugging, caressing, cuddling, kissing, etc. It's rare for him to initiate contact unless it's sex-related. (And honestly our bedroom is pretty dead anyway.)
At one point, I told him that I felt neglected and that he had no attraction to me. He asked why I felt that way, to which I pointed out that he doesn't seem to have any urge to be close with me, and that I haven't been kissed by him in six months. He didn't have an answer, except that he's never been much of a kisser. (He's not asexual.)
To his credit, since then, when I ask for cuddles he'll put down what he's doing and come and hug me. But... Sigh. Of course everyone has likes and dislikes, and he takes care of me in other ways, but I'd really like it if my own husband showed some physical attraction to me, other than sex-related contact...
Recently, I've stopped asking for physical contact. I feel like I'm semi-coercing him into it, and I also wanted to see if he missed my hugs and kisses at all. It's been 3 weeks, and honestly? I don't think he's noticed it at all.
To preempt wild thoughts : I do not think he's cheating. He picks me up after work nearly daily and then spends the rest of the evening playing games / reading comics. And, I'm ashamed to admit, at my low points I've snooped through his phone as well, and nothing indicates any form of cheating.
I think, mostly, I'm just afraid that perhaps I'm not the one he wants, but the one he settled for. And that one day, if he does meet someone that he truly desires (emotionally), that he'll leave.

Today I am discussing about a scam or a black hole which is destroying houses of many peoples .
A game currently is in demand name colour trading this is not a type of trading this is a betting game runs on various platforms like TIRANGA , 91 CLUB , BDGWIN etc. People thinks that they could easy make money from this game specially lower middle class in india. This is not the fault of people as many influencers are promoting this game and showing their luxury lifestyle to people that they own through this game. They are just trapping people in cage , this is betting platform as you predict the result and bet real money on it. This is a type of gambling and gambling always lead to destruction , House always win. Today , on many platforms like Instagram , Facebook , Telegram, You tube etc . they are promoting this betting platform . The main characters of this dilemma is these influencers the main goal of these influencers is not to promote this betting platform before as some of them are gamers , vloggers , artist etc. but in greed of fame and money they started promoting these betting platforms. These platforms usually targets teenagers they show them that they could make money easily and many of them steal from their parents bank accounts and bet on these platforms. This is a game of luck not a game of skill and a game of luck is classified as gambling. Let us take a example that you are betting 100 rupees on small or big on these platforms. As we can see there are total two case and if we find probability of one that is 50% each . So you are betting money on 50% win chance and 50% loss chance , you think this is true no it isn't true. The result is in hand of these platforms this is just a computer coding. Let us think about it no one will give you free money one will always in sake to have returns. If they are giving you free money then how there platform is running . Listen Carefully if you are a teenager , you are shaking trust of your parents , you are giving cheating your parents , those parents who have trust on you those who are doing hardwork for you and you are wasting their hardwork instead of making proud to your parents you are making shame of them. That's it for today
MARK MY WORDS YOU NEVER EVER GET OUT OF THIS IF YOU HAVEN'T STOP THIS TODAY.
AND HOUSE ALWAYS WIN THESE PLATFORMS NEVER GIVE PEACE [HOUSE ALWAYS WIN]
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The Art of Deception: Crafting Characters That Lie, Cheat, and Steal Your Reader's Hearts
My dear young storytellers, it's time to enter the realm of the truly delicious: the art of creating characters so real, so vibrant, so delightfully flawed that your readers will desperately want to grab them by the shoulders and either shake them or offer them a hug (and possibly a strong drink).
Commandment #11: Heroes Are Boring (Embrace the Anti-Hero)
A flawless, always-do-the-right-thing hero makes for a rather dull story. Give your characters some baggage to unpack, some questionable decisions in their past, a healthy dose of selfishness or a pinch of cowardice. These are the cracks where the light of redemption gets in, the flaws that make them relatable…and infinitely more interesting.
Commandment #12: Your Villain Is the Hero of Their Own Story
Nobody twirls their mustache and cackles, "Mwahaha, I am evil!" A truly compelling villain genuinely believes they're the good guy. Give them a motivation that the reader can almost understand, a twisted logic that justifies their actions. This makes them far more chilling and harder to defeat.
Commandment #13: Minor Characters Matter (No Cardboard Cutouts Allowed)
Even the grumpy barista who serves your protagonist a double-shot of reality can have a spark of personality. A unique detail, a snappy line, a hidden backstory hinted at in a single gesture – this brings your fictional world to life. Remember, everyone is the star of their own narrative.
Commandment #14: Dialogue Is Not Just Talking Heads
Dialogue is a weapon, a seduction, a tool for revelation. It should reflect your characters' personalities, reveal their hidden motives, and advance the plot all at once. Make your characters' voices as distinct as their fingerprints. Study how people really talk – the pauses, interruptions, the unspoken words lingering between the lines.
Commandment #15: Actions Speak Louder Than Internal Monologues
Sure, internal monologues can be great, but don't rely on them to tell the story. Show us your characters through what they do, what they choose, and what they desperately try to hide. Actions leave far deeper impressions on a reader than pages of introspection.
World-Building for Beginners (and How to Avoid Info-Dumping)
Ah, the intoxicating power of creating entire worlds! But beware, young architects of universes, there's a fine line between a rich setting and a dry encyclopedia entry. Let's make sure your readers are booking guided tours of your world, not yawning in the face of a geography lecture.
Commandment #16: Start Small, Expand Slowly
Resist the urge to cram all your brilliant world-building details into the first chapter. Ground the reader in your protagonist's immediate world – their room, their village, their annoying neighbor. Layer in the larger world organically through action and dialogue.
Commandment #17: Sensory Overload (In a Good Way)
Don't just tell us about your world; make us feel it. The sting of salt wind on a sea voyage, the scent of otherworldly spices in a fantastical marketplace, the rough texture of ancient stone beneath trembling fingers – engage all the senses to make your setting come alive.
Commandment #18: Rules Are Made to Be Broken
While consistency in world-building is key, a single, shocking exception to the rules can be magic. Just when your reader thinks they understand your magic system, hit them with the unpredictable. It sparks wonder, curiosity, and those delicious "aha!" moments.
Commandment #19: If It Doesn't Affect the Plot, Chop It
You may have created the most intricate political system in the galaxy, but if it doesn't directly impact your protagonist's struggle, it needs to be edited down. Remember, world-building needs to serve the story, not overshadow it.
Commandment #20: Research Is Your Secret Weapon
Even in the most fantastical realms, grounding your world in some element of reality makes it believable. Research medieval sword-making, Icelandic folklore, or the migratory patterns of butterflies. These real-world details add unexpected texture and believability to your fictional creations.

My boyfriend (Martin) and his friend (Lucy) both spent significant periods of their childhood in the care system and in was I'm one of these group homes where they met. They both had one parent who was an absolute nightmare from the stories I've heard and this is what they bonded over.
Martin and I have been together for two years, engaged for 3 months. Lucy has been apart of our lives the entire time. She's a wonderful, sweet woman and she respects our relationship. She doesn't boundary stomp like I've seen other female best friends do in some of these subs. I've gotten to know Lucy and I like her, she's an amazing friend to Martin. When I first met her, she made it very clear that she wasn't interested in Martin romantically and that she would step back from their friendship if needed. She said that partly because at the time she didn't want to invite more drama in her life as things were going wrong in her life at the time. Martin has made in clear that nothing has ever happened with Lucy.
At the weekend I went away with some of my girl friends and I invited Lucy. It was just a weekend away by the lake where we were chilling out and drinking. As the night went on were we all pretty drunk and swapping stories about people we'd slept with. Lucy admitted that she'd had sex with Martin and that he'd been the first guy she'd slept with. She then admitted that part of the reason her life had imploded 2 years ago was because her partner at the time had found out she had been cheating with Martin. There were other reasons but her cheating is what kicked it off. This completely blindsided me as I hadn't known about this. Both Martin and Lucy had always denied anything happening.
The following morning, Lucy had forgotten that she had told us this. I feel like I can't trust her or Martin anymore. When I went home I told Martin that I wanted him to stop seeing Lucy. Martin was surprised at this and asked why. I told him that I knew about him sleeping with her in the past and that he'd lied about sleeping with her. He was surprised that I'd found out but didn't deny it had happened but he did assure me that it had stopped before we got together and hasnt happened since. We fought about him dropping Lucy as a friend. He doesn't want to let her go because they've been friends since they were kids. I told him I wanted him to get a DNA test for Lucy's kids because they were born during the time they were sleeping together. I told Martin that I don't want to help raise someone else's children. He told me that they weren't his. I haven't heard from Lucy since the weekend away and I think she's laying low.
AITAH for asking him to drop his femal friend?