add your own below!

• vodka shot of choice
  
• more than three male friends she has slept with
  
• cocaine (deeply insecure)
  
• only gay friends
  
• fake nonbinary
  
• actress/model/pornstabartendeflight attendant
  
• trust fund
  
• more than a cursory interest in astrology (i should not know what a stellium is)
  
• had a Much older men phase
  
• STEM PhD she actively disdains
  
• yearning for European nightlife
  
• eating disorder she has “overcome” but is still constantly vocal about
  
• hypochondriasis
  
• any resistance or bristling, at all, whatsoever, at the term “boundaries”
  
• unresolved narratives with exes
  
• murakami favorite author
  
• parents provided no psychosocial foundation for receiving love properly
  
• confidently incorrect about things to an eyerolling degree but continues to do so due to lack of being challenged, ever
  
• loves animals, disgusted by people
  
• does not drink enough water every day
  
• never wears makeup around you, always wears makeup around others
  
• vaguely “spiritual” but not aesthetically committed enough to pick a school of thought
  
• terrible writer with no self-awareness about it
  
• therapy speak will only be used for self-justification, never for taking an objective stance on conflict
  
• female friendships are all either failed or deteriorating
  
• always tells you what you did was good or good enough even if it’s clearly obvious you failed (applies to cooking/creative work/etc)
  
• dances around the question of whether they’ve cheated in past relationships
  
• has not seen Dune 2
  
• avoidant attachment style
  
• cPTSD (only if present with 10+ others on this list)
  
• bad cook
  
• lana del rey
  
• mitski
  
• ever, EVER mentions the phrase “self-sabotage”
  

what else am i missing?

Not sure if I used the right flair because I know this is a scam, I just don’t know WHAT the scam is.
I received an email from a “HR representative” who thought I would be a good fit for a job I’d applied for. I definitely applied for the job, but the email address looked slightly off—hr-companyname.com as opposed to companyname.com. I’ve seen companies do weird things like this and I had actually applied for a job with the company, so I responded. I figured as long as they don’t ask for my banking info or anything like that, I’d go along with it just in case it was legit.
They asked me to respond to “screening questions” that assessed my skills and experience. Again, a little weird, but I’ve been asked to jump through stupid hoops for job interviews before so I went ahead and responded just in case it was legit. At this point, the only personal info they’d asked me for was my name and email, both of which they already had. I asked the guy some questions about the company but didn’t hear back (he was very responsive in his previous messages), so I figured it was fake and moved on.
Two days later I get an email congratulating me on being selected for employment at a rate of $95/hr. No interview, no phone call, no zoom call, just hey you’re hired. They still did not ask me for any of my personal info, but sent me a list of thousands of dollars worth of equipment to buy and said they would send me a check to cover the cost for me to get set up.
At this point it’s 1000% obvious this is completely fake, so I found a phone number on the real company website and called them to inform them this was happening. The receptionist confirmed that both of their HR people are women and no one by that name worked there in any capacity and said I wasn’t the first person to call them about this. I forwarded her the scam emails for her to send to their IT team. I’m guessing there was some kind of data breach on the application I submitted, but what’s the scam here?
They never asked me for any banking info or tried to send me a “digital check”, which I’ve seen before. They didn’t ask me to submit a resume which other fake recruiters have done. They didn’t ask me for any of my personal information at all, no ID, no social security number, etc. They offered to mail me a check first so I can go buy my equipment from any store I want, so they aren’t trying to get me to buy equipment from them through some fake electronics store with the expectation of being reimbursed. It seems like if I moved forward, they would have sent me a check for several thousand dollars? Is the scam that if I try to deposit it, they’d sue me for check fraud or something?

Honestly, I'm feeling a bit stumped and would like some input in how to best approach an issue I have with my DM. I'll try and give the proper context of the situation, but it may be a bit of a rant.
The person in question DMs the same 5e campaign for two different groups. The group I play in consists of 3 brand new players, both to DnD 5e, as well as new to the TTRPGs in general. Me and one other player have played other TTRPGs before, but are also brand new to DnD 5e. Me, the other experienced player and the DM were participating in a different campaign, different system, where I was the DM. During that campaign, I had several issues with the person in question as a player, but that is a different story. This story begins during a short break we had during my campaign:
The person in question (our DM) casually mentions that he finds it funny how the other group he is DMing for was having a MUCH easier time with the campaign, compared to the group I'm in, which has had several characters go down during fights. The other player asked the DM why that was the case, to which the DM replied it was because the other group was "utilizing better battle strategies". The other player said he felt his own attempts at strategy proved fruitless, as no matter how he positioned his characters, he would simply get targeted and go down quickly, because we are all level 1 spellcasters (Strixhaven's Curriculum of Chaos) The other player repeatedly asked the DM for examples of what "battle strategies" the other group was utilizing, to which the DM repeatedly answered evasively, until he finally conceded that the other group "used short rests".
At this point, I admitted that I hadn't read the rules regarding rests, so I didn't know what a short rest does. The DM explained I could heal a hit die with a short rest, so fine. Here is the thing: the DM implemented a rule of his own, that we would not be able to take long rests during the school year. Combined with his style of DMing: "This thing happens! Oh! Now this thing happens! Oh! Now you are in class in stuff happens! Next you are in another class and other stuff happens!" had us all convinced that there simply was no time to rest and recuperate during our busy college schedules. So we thought it was strange that we were now told that using short rests to heal was always a possibility. Doubly so, because he first told us we could ask any teacher for a healing potion if we were wounded, but then switched to teachers never wanting to give us healing potions, not even if two of our party were 1 hp removed from going down.
When we pointed out that "using a short rest" hardly constitutes "utilizing battle strategies", he further admitted that our ranger was using their "hunter's mark" ability all wrong. Namely: the ranger was using a spell slot to cast it on a new target, if the original target went down, but he could simply move the hunter's mark from the dead creature, to a new creature. At which point, my jaw hit the floor. A brand new player was using an ability of his class wrong, the DM knew this, and refused to correct him. I told him as much, but the DM insists that he "doesn't want to play the character for him." No matter how I tried to explain to him that it is not a matter of playing their character for them, but a matter of teaching the player how to properly use their abilities.
It has been a few days, and these two revelations just don't sit well with me. How a DM is perfectly fine with finding glee in the fact that his players were unaware how short rests work (never once explaining it to us. I understand it is also up to the players to learn the rules, but a DM should also have a helpful attitude, in my opinion) and the fact that he is perfectly fine with a new player failing to understand how to properly use his ability/spell and not correct him, or giving him a useful tip.
Now: I am not the greatest when it comes to communicating, especially when it comes to "confrontations". Meaning: I want to tell the DM that I'm not ok with his attitude at DMing, but I don't know how to say it in a constructive and helpful way. I as hoping to get some input, as well as some insight and different perspectives from you readers.

I want to preface this by saying I love nowhere near any of the cities that have this problem, I’ve just been seeing videos and am genuinely curious.
I see all these videos of protesters blocking roadways and attacking cars if they get too close. I saw even saw a case where a man on parole was arrested because he failed to appear at his mandatory job and he was late to work because they were blocking traffic. The thing is, I see few people actually being able to defend themselves from it.
What is legal self defense if they start jumping on your catrying to get in to hurt you? I know it’s iffy in some places, but Is using pepper spray/ pulling a firearm legal if they are actively trying to hurt you? Also, what does someone do in the situation where they actually are blocking an interstate?

The problem is there’s never any breathing room for errors. I have never been able to afford savings. As soon as I was 18 I had to go into debt to escape abusive family. Since then it’s been just back to back surviving often starving just to make it through undergrad (sadly even though I was a decent student at a really good school I just couldn’t do well). The way the system worked at the time was that you needed proof that you didn’t have financial support. Either that or proof that you’ve been estranged for 3 years. Of course my parents didn’t agree to that. So I only qualified in my final term of final year undergrad. In January 2020.
There’s so much I could talk about. There are basically no resources for kids in their late teens. I couldn’t drop out because my accommodation at the time was conditional on being enrolled. If you drop out you have two weeks to move out. Basically everything I earned had to go back into rent / living expenses. Student accommodation was cheaper than rent in the city. I was basically trapped and then in the pandemic I couldn’t work part time anymore. I had an incident where a building security staff broke into my apartment ment and tried to enter my room. The management tried to pretend it didn’t happen but eventually had to admit. But there were no consequences for the guy and he was back working 5 days later. So I basically ended up spending all the money I had and an overdraft and a small loan.
So basically everything has been really bad. Obviously the pandemic lasted for forever I moved back to my abusive parents and ended up having to live in a women’s shelter because they broke my laptop so I couldn’t work, and didn’t let me leave.
The women’s shelter system is also kind of a trap (though it saved my life), because you’re forced to go on benefits which are calculated based on a “rent”. You have to live on £350 a month and you’re placed in a random part of the country in a secret location. I had no money so it took 6 months of living in isolation and remote working while part time studying to afford to move out.
Then again I had no money had to waitress and babysit to fund internships. And while on paper I was building a good CV everything was a struggle. I always had only £30. It’s not because of mismanagement either, it was just that by this point I was going to be on net zero no matter what I did. I also am trapped in a bad renting situation because - I don’t have landlord references, I don’t have a guarantor, my salary isn’t 2.5x monthly rent, I’m still a student so can’t be employed full time, and I can’t pay 3 months of rent upfront as an alternative to all of the above. Those are just standard requirements to rent.
I got a talent scholarship to get a masters degree (the only way to move upwards in the industry - and not just for the certificate but the skills which require professional software which I taught myself through free trials). When I joined I was accused of getting a professor to do my work because I’d genuinely worked so hard on my skills that they were more advanced than the students who studied architecture for 5 years. But at the end of the day, I still had to work every day in order not to be homeless, since the scholarship only covers part of tuition and there are no funding options for masters students. I’m still doing the best in my class but my tiny laptop can’t hold the software.
Recently I found out that the schools finance team made an accounts error and I have to pay an extra £1,100 of tuition. Actually just before I joined in October I noticed an error in one of my enrolment docs. I reached out to them twice to make sure that it didn’t have to pay £1,100. They said it was incorrect.
Well now I have no money but I owe the school. I need to see a dentist, but I don’t have insurance. I’m still in my overdraft, and rent is due. This is financially rock bottom even though the opportunity to study has opened so many doors. I don’t know what to do.

"The ones from out of town, damn it!" Tiny yelled. "The ones in the suits, the ones in them goddamn sunglasses with their fancy cars and big guns that want to buy all the damn property so they can do their projects!!"
"What the hell are you talking about?" I was intrigued. "You mean us?"
"We didn't have any open operations in this town before now," Kali replied. "He's talking about another group."
"She's damn right," Tiny wheezed. "Those boys ain't like you, that's for damn sure. They're from the North, they come to go into the swamp, and they never come out. They've been coming for years, goddamn it, but they never learn. They seek the power this place holds. The power our church protects."
The California Hounds? Could it have been DOSACD and America's rival organization in Russia? Or even CORE? My mind raced for any potential organization that would have quarrel with whatever was going on in this god-forsaken town.
"They're not… normal." Tiny said. "Goddamn motherfuckers come down here and think they're above god… same thing happens every time."
"Who? WHO?" Kyle yelled, shaking him.
"The Outsiders. They look like you folks… but they're damn sure not. They're not… humans."
Now I was REALLY intruiged.
"Stop with these vague-ass answers, hick," Kyle yelled, slapping him and dunking his head in the water. "They're not humans? Well that fine lady who just brought you back from the dead like Lazarus ain't exactly human either, so you're not narrowing it down."
"First of all," I said. "They're not humans? Describe that better."
"They're tall, all of them, ain't never seen a fat one or a skinny little fucker. They barely come, but when they do they fuck up a storm, damn it. They’re demons, I’d reckon-”
“Demons,” Lamia said. “That’s what these people might be. Who are they?”
“Damn it, I have no idea,” Tiny replied. “Right now the townsfolk are suspecting they’re mimicking us, infiltrating the town and posing as residents to learn our secrets. But who the hell knows? One thing I do know is that we need to be on high alert and prepared for whatever the fuck is coming."
“What the hell would demons be doing here?” I asked. “Lamia, answers? There’s already an enormous entity on the home turf, I don’t think any demons would survive here.”
“Rogue demons might be looking to kill this entity and take up the territory,” she said. “Hell, me and my sisters used to do it all the time. But we don’t know anything about these ones, if they even are demons. We’ll have to investigate further, but we need to tread carefully. These people, if they are demons, might be far more cunning than we ever imagined."
As we continued our conversation, Tiny kept spewing up bullshit, and Kyle kept slapping him.
“You know,” Lamia said. “I was also mimicking one of the townsfolk, and if these demons are shapeshifters, I couldn’t detect them. They might be some of the best shapeshifters of this entire era. They’re not in this to kill the town, but rather take the roots it holds. One last thing, Tiny, what’s the creature at the bottom of the bayou? Is it a god, a monster, or something else entirely?"
He pondered for a moment before answering, "I don't know for sure, but whatever it is, it's been here for as long as I can remember. It wields a power that's beyond our comprehension, and it seems to keep these demons at bay. It may be our protection, but it needs some damn sacrifices every now and then."
I looked around at my companions, their faces enlightened with the gung-ho American spirit and knowledge there were bigger fish ay play. We were all beginning to understand the gravity of the situation. The town was being threatened by an unknown force, and it seemed that whatever lay at the bottom of the bayou was at the center of the power struggle.
"Alright," Johnny Walker coughed. "We need to come up with a plan to investigate these demonic infiltrators without alerting them to our presence. Hell, they already know we're here, but they might not know we suspect their true nature. Tomorrow, I want y’all to scout the town and see if you can spot any suspicious activity, check harder this time. Kyle and I will venture into the swamp and try to get closer to the entity at the bottom of the bayou. If these demons are indeed after its power, we need to understand why and how they plan to take it."
The group nodded in agreement, each understanding their role in the mission. As we prepared to set out on our respective tasks, a thick fog began to roll in, shrouding the town in an eerie mist. The air grew heavy with a sense of foreboding, and I could feel the tension mounting among us.
"You think the California Hounds are invested in this?” I asked.
Kali shrugged.
"I wouldn't put it past them," Kali replied thoughtfully. "They've always had a knack for sticking their noses where they don't fucking belong. But this feels different, more ancient. If they are, I can tell this town is like a crossroads for the bigger fish."
The fog seemed to thicken around us, muffling our footsteps and obscuring our vision as we stepped off our boat and got back on the road, heading back to our ‘houses’, each of us lost in our own thoughts. The town appeared ghostly in the fog, the few streetlights casting long, eerie shadows that seemed to dance and flicker in the mist.
We could catch up on our much-needed sleep and continue our mission with fresh eyes in the m

When theorising in astrophysics, and more specifically the beginning and expansion of the universe (the big bang), the phenomenon of black holes and the mysteries behind dark matter and dark energy, we mistakenly use the two concepts interchangeably, they being 1. The philosophical zero, ie nothingness, and 2. The mathematics concept of zero, ie summarily attaching the philosophical concept of zero, with a numerical designation because it greatly assists the functionality of mathematic in the paradigm of our observable reality. Also please bearing mind the the math concept of zero allows negative values, unlike the philosophy, and when discussing space time, there is no place for negative numbers. Now that said and made clear, I believe it impossible for us to attempt to explain the unimaginable, without separation and distinction of the two concepts when infinity is brought into the conversation. Infinity, like zero, is a philosophical concept not all that dissimilar to zero, it has a mathematical conceptual basis also, but unlike the philosophical zero ie nothingness, it is given a numerical designation that more accurately relates to it philosophically, even though it is not strictly a number and cannot he used in any tangible calculation, mathematics certainly allows for its philosophical manifestation into mathematical equations.
I see this as a huge conflict, especially as it the very essence of big bang theory ie from nothing came infinity at the moment of the big bang. We surely cannot hope to solve this puzzle if the universe if we are conceptually flawed at he very starting point. 0 and infinity therefore cannot be used together in any calculation because we haven't yet reconciled the two conceptually. How can we look at this differently? How can we navigate passed mathematical dogma a concepts our brains are not capable of truly understanding on a practical level?
These are very tough existential and philosophical problems. So rather than just critise the current order and point out what I see as conflicts, but offer no alternative, may I suggest at least a starting point for discussion and exploration which may be found in the area of fractal science/mathematics. And a good place to focus the beginning of any theoretical discourse, in my opinion would be the work of, amoung others, Mandelbrot and the set named after him, the Mandelbrot Set. I suggest this because it mathematically the most relevant area of a field and is largely avoided by the popular culture's interest in fractals which is largely forcused on aesthetical beauty, particularly popular with the psychedelic subculture which I believe has a place and time to be investigated as a part of the whole discussion, but maybe for now should not be a point of focus in fear of contaminating a sterile discussion with with larger philosophically arguments about what is reality, due to the psychedelic substance insights of those schools. To incorporate any talk of altered states of consciousness, may be counter productive at this time. Hence my Mandelbrot suggestion achieves the mathematical parameters I believe are the best for theoretical mathematical support and cancels out the annoying noise that the fractal science field makes due to its attractiveness to non mainstream pop culture.
The Mandelbrot set is intriguing, not only because of the almost mindblowing graphical capability of AI, for as the Mandelbrot set seen by AI and then visualised for us to see, is nothing short of unbelievably beautiful. It also has an ability to provoke inner hought and discourse without one knowing the subject, topic or reason for the quiet peaceful internal discourse it inspires. I mention this, not because it can directly be incorporated in the radical discussion, but experiencing the astonishlng complexity if its beauty and the way it continues infinitely (or rather as long as it continues to be observed) because if the very self contained nature of the Mandelbrot set. After all, the mandelbrit set is simply a set of numbers, that when placed in the equation, do not spiral out into infinity. The equation value is always >0 or <2. So what as I see as irony, as the set was designed to avoid infinity in a sense, what it actually does is provide us with the best possible conceptualisation, in practice and theory, of a model demonstrating infinity. Even more bizarre is that the technology had only recently become available to show us visually by AI graphing. I'm not sure without the visual stimulus, could we have seen how beautifully fractal science demonstrates its potential unravelling existential and theoretical mysteries. I believe it lends itself perfectly to my proposed theory.
I think so because infinity is difficult for the human mind to grasp, some may say impossible. What is even more difficult for our minds to grasp is infinity of reducted values. Basically, if infinity can exist in an expanding sense, then it is not a stretch of conceptualisation to think it can infinitely get smaller. This breaks no rules of science. Searching for the building block of the universe has been crusade of quantum physicists dating back to the creation of the scientific theory. Much money and effort has been spent in search for smaller and smaller still subatomic particles. What they do is fractal science in its purest form, yet like with the study of Theoretical Astrophysics, quantum science theory is its self hampered by the concept if zero as a number, in my opinion. Even doing the work of factually reducing matter, they are blinded to its possible futility, should fractal reduction does forever decend in to fractal infinity or -ve infinity. For if that is the case, maybe quantum theory is in fact mankind's first exploration, albeit unknowingly, into what may well be a black hole. That is for a later discussion but certainly worth bringing to the attention for the purposes of this discussion.
So if we can accept that -ve infinity is as equally viable and logical as +ve infinity, what room in this discussion is left for the inclusion of zero?
I believe this leaves no room for zero in the same conversation as infinity. I am not suggesting zero should be stricken from mathematics. However I am suggesting that mathematics use of zero may, invalidate is ongoing use as an effective tool for measurement and communication, when the subject is beyond our ability to comprehend. Few people will argue that our 6 senses are significantly lacking the capacity to comprehend cosmological dynamics. Mathematics nothing more than an application of our 6 senses, to make sense of the chaos occurring all around us. Over hundreds and thousands of years, this is the best we have been able to do in terms of calculation and accurate prediction of future occurances. Even the concept of zero is less than 1000 years old. The Romans saw no use in incorporating it into their model, and to this day we wonder at their and other ancient civilisations ability for astonishing accuracy in measurement and prediction. Look at all they, the Egyptians and others managed without using zero in a single calculation. We can also break this down out of our conscious paradigm into nature. Numbers do not exist in nature (that includes the universe). It begs the question of do numbers really exist? Are numbers no more than part of our delusional reality? Who knows, but one thing is for sure, zero certainly doesn't exist anywhere outside of our consciousness. Not even in our own very bodies. How bodies clearly hold a knowledge that hasn't seemed to be passed over to our conscious, aware selves. Even on the smallest scale, without any intervention or guidance from any sort of intelligence, within our cellular membranes. Complex calculations are constantly being carried out. Consider cellular replication for example. In order for a cell to divide successfully, there must be a correct allocation of resources, let's just say primarily energy distribution for the sake of brevity. To split a cell but calculate the energy necessary to simply cary put the force of splitting. It must also calculate how much energy needs to be transfered to the new cell. This calculation must include how much energy for it take to replicate all cellular matter, how much energy is required for both cells to recover from the trauma, and how much energy on top of that, the new cell will require to become mature and begin its own replication. There are multiple complex calculations to be made there, and they then must be combined in to an overall and more complicated calculation again. All of this is done without intelligence and without using numbers ie mathematics. This same process can be observed all the way back to the very first beginning of not just life, but biochemistry in general. So I hope this demonstrates that the universe doesn't exist numerically. There are no rules in the universe. We created rules for our sciences, because if we didn't follow them the sciences would fail at unacceptable percentage of predictions.
So we make rules to overcome the shortcomings while waiting for future technologies or fixes. Mathematics and sciences are little more than a carefully ordered tapestry of rules, with too many exeptions for too many rules. We create rules and ideas to assist the conteived & malfunctioning intangible thing to not have to go to all the trouble of finding something that works better. We are just littered with examples through every field. Like 'zero', or Pi, or "bimdas" (brackets, indicies, multiply, division, addition and subtraction. I find this a good example, for not following this exact order of calculations, a correct answer to equation will nev a result) and thousands of others.
No rules exist in nature, it appears to be that it just is, always will be and always has been.
So in summary, given our restrictions on trying to understand the universe, namely intelligence, our 6 limited senses, our arrogance and our mortality, should we narrow the pursuits our restrictions can make us comfortable with? Thisbwilk lead us nowhere. By abandoning zero as the only accepted scientific approach to the universe, and allowing science to have multiple validating throeries for what is the same problem. The scientific community abhors divergence from dogma and academics are held to ransom with funding or being published, if their ideas are not with acceptable parameters.
But for the sake of this conversation, can we discuss the merits of looking at the big bang without reference to nothing ie zero, but instead +ve and -ve infinity."

My girlfriend and i just got into a fight about me spending too much time with my hobbys and i don't prioritize her enough.
We moved in together about 6 months ago. Things were a bit rough at the start but became better and better. One complaint she often had was that i spend too much time away from her.
I play videogames about 1-2 times a week in the evening with a couple of friends and sometimes alone. Mostly when we go to bed we cuddle and i tell her that once shes asleep I'm gonna go to my desk and play a few hours. Almost everytime shes annoyed by that and i feel bad about leaving her.
I am also a scout and watch over a group of scout kids once a week and we go away on a camping trip like twice a year.
Last hobby of mine is playing the trumpet in an orchestra, which is also once a week with the occasional concert/event on the weekends.
All in all I'd say apart from the trips and events we spent every evening we can together which is aboht 3-4 times a week. I dedicate almost every free minute to spending time with her. I already cancel some of the regular hobbies to go shopping with her or cook together.
But now she said, that in the long run that wouldn't be enough for her and that i should grow up. That it would be normal to give up on hobbies. And finally she said that if i couldn't provide her with more time together she'd rather look for a man that would do more for his gf. I know her and she can get carried away when we're fighting, so she might not have ment all of that but i don't know what to do know. Sure at some point i might not have the time to do all those things when i have a fulltime job (I'm currently studying and working part time). But i don't want to give up who i am and what i like entirely.
Is she right? Would it be reasonable to gove up on some hobbies for her? Am i not doing enough?
tl;dr: my gf wants me to give up on some of my hobbies and spent more time with her

I finally had my Riffmaster delivered today (UK) via Amazon. (PS5 version)
With all the horror stories I was expecting the worst but relieved to say I plugged the guitar in, selected pro lead as the instrument & it just worked out the box.
No delay, no mapping notes & no special settings needed.
You have to tilt the guitar first horizontal & then vertical in an exaggerated manor to activate the overdrive & I can’t workout how to move the emote wheel to select different emotes (as opposed to the first selected emote) but apart from that it is better then i feared!

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Hi, it's a lot for me and the only place where I feel people can give real support is here. Thanks in advance ❤️. My mom was hospitalized in a psychiatric hospital yesterday. I spent the evening with a boyfriend who finished hard exams and wanted to celebrate a bit. My boyfriend was very tired at the end and so was I, so we went to my house early (he is a student from abroad and lives in the dormitory, so we are mostly at my place). The bad situation of my mom hit me before bed and I cried in his arms. He didn't ask questions, he was just there, and I really appreciate that. My cats woke us up at 5 in the morning. They were alone at home all day and so they decided to make a mess (they played under the bed), meowed, jumped on the bed. It's not the first time they've been acting like this and therefore we haven't slept. Sometimes I go to work tired because of it. And work (and sometimes date) is also the reason why I can't pay more attention to them. I've already bought extra toys, but when I'm at work and then I'm going on a date, they're still very active. My boyfriend now left me in the middle of the night saying he couldn't handle it. We talked about it today and he's sorry he reacted that way, but he was very upset and didn't want to be in that state with me. He also mentioned that he knows that cats are important to me and that this is my space and that he respects that. He also told me that huge factor is they are not his, he does not want to be involved in solving the situation because they are my responsibility. He emphasized that it was too much for him. We have only been together for 4 month now, in a month I am flying to meet his parents on the islands abroad. I care for him, he is very loving person and as I put lot of intention in giving him right questions during dating I feel confident to say we’re compatible and good match. Now the cats are causing lot of stress. I should definitely pay more attention to them and play with them, I will try harder. But if it doesn't work and I don't sleep for half the month, I don't know what to do. And what about my boyfriend? Should I take him to my apartment with me when he can’t sleep here nicely?

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Unlike other productivity apps that mainly focus on just habit tracking, GoalQuest uses a holistic approach, guiding you through a step-by-step program, that helps you envision and set your goals then seamlessly incorporate ways to progress them into your everyday life. Each day, you’ll embark on a fun, achievable quest with guidance from friendly characters (like Splash the Sea Turtle) each with their own skills that match their personality. For example Ollie the Octopus is a data scientist who will assist you in analyzing and learning from your own data. They also have a treasure chest full of tools to help you on your journey such as: the Wheel of Life, Ikigai, vision boards, journaling, habit/routine setting and more.
Free lifetime access (please see how to get the offer below)
GoalQuest is free to sign up and use almost everything, but we do have some advanced features that are paid (e.g. unlimited goals and habits, and more specialized meal planning and workout options). If you want to try the paid features for free be one of the first 1000 people to complete the first 9 daily quests (where you meet Ollie for the first time!), when you sign up say you came from reddit and you will be automatically given free lifetime access to the Sea Star tier.
Download for free: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.fooge.app

Vecna: Eve of Ruin🎲

The evil lich-god Vecna has unearthed secrets he can use to unravel and remake the multiverse. Stopping Vecna will require working with three of the multiverse's most famous archmages, traveling to far-flung locales, and rebuilding the legendary Rod of Seven Parts.
Vecna: Eve of Ruin is a high-stakes adventure in which the fate of the multiverse hangs in the balance. The heroes begin in the Forgotten Realms and travel to Planescape, Spelljammer, Eberron, Ravenloft, Dragonlance, and Greyhawk as they race to save existence from obliteration.
A level 10 to 20 adventure.

• 📕 Game system: DnD5e
• 🕛 Game start time: 2,00pm EST/8,00 pm GMT+2
• 🎮 Game Link - Tuesday - 3/6
• 🎮 Game Link - Wednesday - 3/6

🤓 About me

• I played RPG's for over 10 years, almost exclusively as a DM. Conventions, local game centers and community interactions are all things I did and enjoyed. Decided to go online to continue what is, to put it the simplest, my passion.
• Several ongoing campaigns: players are engaged, looking forward toward next sessions, actively engaging in their own discord communities
• I would picture myself as a rules as fun DM rather then rules as written. I do homebrew materials, constantly rewriting and improving. I reward roleplay and creative thinking. My players make the story - I just flesh it out.

👉 What am I paying for?

• The work I put into my campaigns: Even though I run established adventures I do not run them straight out of the box - I always make sure to purchase additional maps, resources and outright change the story if need be just so my players have a memorable time
• Dedicated players with a certain level of maturity, a fee eliminates player no-shows and creates a full experience where we look to finish the module, not just start it.
• Scripts and modules that automate the combat and provide players with a smooth gameplay experience
• Full access to Heroforge
• Maps from talented patreon creators: Domille's Wondrous Works, Czepeku, Mad Cartographer and more.
• VTT dice from Q-workshop and Rollsmith.

📖 Content details

• Any official WotC/Paizo product
• Unearthed Arcana/Playtest materials
• Homebrew (open for discussion)

🐲 Rules

• Be respectful to other players - everyone wants to have a fun game.
• Everyone is welcome, regardless of sex, gender, sexual orientation, minority status, language skill or game skill. 💕

📞 How can I contact you?

• I am active on discord each day. A private message here or a discord small talk is all it takes: dmthetulio
• If you would like to play another campaign, in the same time period in any of the systems I do paid sessions in (pathfinder, starfinder, dnd5e) be sure to contact me! I am more than willing to change the campaign for something else if we are still waiting for players.
• Reviews

Yes I know I'm an idiot but I'm decently tech savvy. I was making my own rechargeable battery for my modded gameboy and the battery voltage was 3.7v and I didn't think the .7v would be large enough to cause an issue, but obviously it did, I have another motherboard but I'd like to slvage this one. Is there any known component that goes bad if over-volted? I have great soldering skills and won't have an issue fixing it, I just don't know the issue.
Extra: yes I have confirmed my batteries to be working, I even tried multiple sets of brand new batteries. Basically the issue is the screen comes on for a short split Second and then instantly shuts off.
Any help is appreciated, thanks in advance.

Vecna: Eve of Ruin🎲

The evil lich-god Vecna has unearthed secrets he can use to unravel and remake the multiverse. Stopping Vecna will require working with three of the multiverse's most famous archmages, traveling to far-flung locales, and rebuilding the legendary Rod of Seven Parts.
Vecna: Eve of Ruin is a high-stakes adventure in which the fate of the multiverse hangs in the balance. The heroes begin in the Forgotten Realms and travel to Planescape, Spelljammer, Eberron, Ravenloft, Dragonlance, and Greyhawk as they race to save existence from obliteration.
A level 10 to 20 adventure.

• 📕 Game system: DnD5e
• 🕛 Game start time: 2,00pm EST/8,00 pm GMT+2
• 🎮 Game Link - Tuesday - 3/6
• 🎮 Game Link - Wednesday - 3/6

🤓 About me

• I played RPG's for over 10 years, almost exclusively as a DM. Conventions, local game centers and community interactions are all things I did and enjoyed. Decided to go online to continue what is, to put it the simplest, my passion.
• Several ongoing campaigns: players are engaged, looking forward toward next sessions, actively engaging in their own discord communities
• I would picture myself as a rules as fun DM rather then rules as written. I do homebrew materials, constantly rewriting and improving. I reward roleplay and creative thinking. My players make the story - I just flesh it out.

👉 What am I paying for?

• The work I put into my campaigns: Even though I run established adventures I do not run them straight out of the box - I always make sure to purchase additional maps, resources and outright change the story if need be just so my players have a memorable time
• Dedicated players with a certain level of maturity, a fee eliminates player no-shows and creates a full experience where we look to finish the module, not just start it.
• Scripts and modules that automate the combat and provide players with a smooth gameplay experience
• Full access to Heroforge
• Maps from talented patreon creators: Domille's Wondrous Works, Czepeku, Mad Cartographer and more.
• VTT dice from Q-workshop and Rollsmith.

📖 Content details

• Any official WotC/Paizo product
• Unearthed Arcana/Playtest materials
• Homebrew (open for discussion)

🐲 Rules

• Be respectful to other players - everyone wants to have a fun game.
• Everyone is welcome, regardless of sex, gender, sexual orientation, minority status, language skill or game skill. 💕

📞 How can I contact you?

• I am active on discord each day. A private message here or a discord small talk is all it takes: dmthetulio
• If you would like to play another campaign, in the same time period in any of the systems I do paid sessions in (pathfinder, starfinder, dnd5e) be sure to contact me! I am more than willing to change the campaign for something else if we are still waiting for players.
• Reviews

Vecna: Eve of Ruin🎲

The evil lich-god Vecna has unearthed secrets he can use to unravel and remake the multiverse. Stopping Vecna will require working with three of the multiverse's most famous archmages, traveling to far-flung locales, and rebuilding the legendary Rod of Seven Parts.
Vecna: Eve of Ruin is a high-stakes adventure in which the fate of the multiverse hangs in the balance. The heroes begin in the Forgotten Realms and travel to Planescape, Spelljammer, Eberron, Ravenloft, Dragonlance, and Greyhawk as they race to save existence from obliteration.
A level 10 to 20 adventure.

• 📕 Game system: DnD5e
• 🕛 Game start time: 2,00pm EST/8,00 pm GMT+2
• 🎮 Game Link - Tuesday - 3/6
• 🎮 Game Link - Wednesday - 3/6

🤓 About me

• I played RPG's for over 10 years, almost exclusively as a DM. Conventions, local game centers and community interactions are all things I did and enjoyed. Decided to go online to continue what is, to put it the simplest, my passion.
• Several ongoing campaigns: players are engaged, looking forward toward next sessions, actively engaging in their own discord communities
• I would picture myself as a rules as fun DM rather then rules as written. I do homebrew materials, constantly rewriting and improving. I reward roleplay and creative thinking. My players make the story - I just flesh it out.

👉 What am I paying for?

• The work I put into my campaigns: Even though I run established adventures I do not run them straight out of the box - I always make sure to purchase additional maps, resources and outright change the story if need be just so my players have a memorable time
• Dedicated players with a certain level of maturity, a fee eliminates player no-shows and creates a full experience where we look to finish the module, not just start it.
• Scripts and modules that automate the combat and provide players with a smooth gameplay experience
• Full access to Heroforge
• Maps from talented patreon creators: Domille's Wondrous Works, Czepeku, Mad Cartographer and more.
• VTT dice from Q-workshop and Rollsmith.

📖 Content details

• Any official WotC/Paizo product
• Unearthed Arcana/Playtest materials
• Homebrew (open for discussion)

🐲 Rules

• Be respectful to other players - everyone wants to have a fun game.
• Everyone is welcome, regardless of sex, gender, sexual orientation, minority status, language skill or game skill. 💕

📞 How can I contact you?

• I am active on discord each day. A private message here or a discord small talk is all it takes: dmthetulio
• If you would like to play another campaign, in the same time period in any of the systems I do paid sessions in (pathfinder, starfinder, dnd5e) be sure to contact me! I am more than willing to change the campaign for something else if we are still waiting for players.
• Reviews

So, there's this boss—let's call them Mr. California Dreamin'. They strut around like they're the second coming of Steve Jobs, but let me tell you, their management skills are more like a dumpster fire in a windstorm.
First off, health insurance? Nah, that's for peasants! Mr. California Dreamin' is too busy sipping kale smoothies and chanting "om" during their ayahuasca retreats to bother with our measly mortal concerns. Meanwhile, I'm over here praying my appendix doesn't burst because I can't afford a hospital visit. 🏥
And don't get me started on the paycheck-to-paycheck life. It's like doing the cha-cha with my bank account every damn month. Bills waltz in, groceries tango out, and my sanity does the Macarena. But Mr. California? Oh no, they're too busy channeling their inner shaman to notice our financial foxtrot.
You know what grinds my gears? The hypocrisy! They preach about work-life balance while they're sipping organic kombucha on a beach in Malibu. Meanwhile, I'm juggling deadlines like flaming torches and praying I don't drop one and set my sanity ablaze.
And let's talk about those team-building exercises—because nothing says "bonding" like trust falls and awkward icebreakers. But when it comes to real support? Crickets. Mr. California Dreamin' is too busy communing with spirit animals to give a damn about our struggles.
So here's my message to Mr. California: Your ayahuasca-induced enlightenment won't pay my rent or fix my caveman laptop. Maybe instead of chanting mantras, try chanting "employee benefits." Just a thought.
In conclusion: 🖕🏼🌴

I (25F) recently separated from my (25M) partner 3 months ago. We were together for 2 and a half years. It was a bitter sweet relationship. He met me through Instagram he was the one to approach me. The first few weeks were great we were vibing and got along really well. But as the relationship proceeded I began to notice he isn’t putting enough efforts as me. All the things he said in the beginning we would do never actually happened. I wanted us to explore new things, to travel, to experience any possible stuff from shopping to going on a lunch. I expressed many times initially through a polite communication that he’s not doing enough to make me feel special or meeting my efforts. But then it turned into arguments. He would go on vacations with his friends and I always expressed that it makes me feel leftout and I wanna experience all of that with him too. But every single time he gaslit me. Saying I’m asking for too much and I always try to start a fight and try to ruin his day just Cus I’m in a bad mood. I kept settling for the bare minimum for 2.5 years. Wishing one day he would magically change and start treating me better and see my worth. He made empty promises but actions never matched the words. He was the most important person for me and he always came first to me. I put so much effort on him I would start saving two months before his birthday to make it the most special day for him. I have spent three birthdays with him and he has never ever brought me a gift or on valentines or ever went out of his way to do something for me. The most basic thing you expect from a partner is to be heard and understood and for them to acknowledge your feelings that their actions bother you. For them to make you feel safe to be vulnerable and take care of your feelings. But everytime he would put a wall between us. He would invalidate my feelings, blameshift and minimise what I was going through. If I would ask about his day he would get annoyed saying I want the details about every single minute and I suffocate him. I was simply excited to know about his day Cus I loved him and I wanted to be a part of it. During the course of our relationship we only hanged out at his rental place which included a single bedroom. We have never traveled, never been to movies. He never introduced me to his friends. I would always justify his behaviour- maybe he’s occupied, maybe he is too busy with work, he has so many responsibilities of family and friends. Before breaking up with me we got into an ugly argument Cus I said that my skin has gotten worse cus he stresses me out so much. That hurt him so much that he was done with me. He warned me not do anything with myself that I’m not supposed to. I felt so bad and I apologised so many times but he was simply not ready to listen or answer my calls even once. Recently after the breakup I learnt that he has been with other females on his vacations whenever he went with his friends. I was devastated. Knowing that his platonic friends had more access to him and they get to spend a night with him but not me. Earlier I would see him leave comments below other females pictures and it made me upset but he would always mention that they are just normal friends and I matter more to him. Yesterday I texted him saying I want him to take accountability for his actions and manipulation that he went out with females behind my back. To which he replied that he got friends and I will never make friends cus of my toxicity. Toxic for always ruining his day. For constantly arguing to be loved. That’s when I knew I spend these years invested with a narcissist. I kept settling Cus I didn’t love myself enough to walk away. He will never take accountability or ever apologise. I don’t even think he would ever realise the pain he has put me through. Cus he would never self reflect. I’m just trying to pick up the pieces that I was trying to find in him. He made me question me my worth, he made me believe I’m not lovable, that I’m only good enough to be taken to a closed room. He’s the reason I’m suicidal but I’m only sticking around Cus I can’t do that to my parents. I have spent hours crying for him knowing well there won’t be any justice. And I hate myself for still loving him. My only fault was to love him too much that I got so scared of losing him that I lost myself. My whole world revolved around him. Maybe if I wasn’t so needy we would still be together. But I just wanted to be loved, to be understood, to be treated like I matter, to feel safe to be vulnerable, to have those difficult conversations so we could grow together as individuals. I don’t know if I was the problem for having these expectations or if it makes me toxic. But I’m not sure who I am anymore this experience truly took a toll on me.

Hello everyone!
I have been studying languages on and off for about six years now. I have been using this new plan I made for about three months and I wanted to get some feedback from others on how I can improve my language skills. I am studying Indonesian (A2) and Russian (B1). My study sessions look like this:

• On weekdays 1.5 hours divided thus:
  
• 30 minutes active reading
  
• 30 minutes active listening
  
• 30 minutes Anki
  

Weekends: 3 hours divided thus:

• 60 minutes active reading
  
• 60 minutes active listening
  
• 30 minutes Anki
  
• 30 minutes conversation practice
  

For Anki, I have made cards that test the following:

• Cue: target word written answer: English definition (and reversed card)
  
• Cue: target word audio answer: English definition (and reversed card)
  
• Cue: target sentence audio answer: English sentence (and reversed)
  
• Cue: target sentence written answer: English sentence (and reversed)
  
• These cards mean that I do about even amounts of speaking, listening, reading, and writing practice (type in the answer) the only downside is the amount of time it takes to make each card (around 1-2 minutes)
  

As previously stated, my studies have been off and on, but there are trends in weakness I have been struggling with that are present across all my studies.

1. Vocab: I can only grow my vocabulary significantly by not studying vocab cards and instead focus on reading, but my speaking ability suffers.
   
2. Audio comprehension: My audio comprehension in language has always been my Achilles' Heel, and try as I might I have not found a way to really overcome it.
   Any advice/feedback/criticism is encouraged and welcome! Thank you for your time!