Congratulations sayings chocolate

I (F/28) am married but in an open relationship. Any partner I pursue knows this as I'm completely transparent about it and don't keep anything from my husband either. In Oct of 2022, I met "Kyle" (M /27) on tinder and began talking. We ended up meeting up for dinner the next evening and it went well. He stated he had two roommates so his place was a "no-go", we ended up at a local hotel that night. The rest of the times we went to my place.
This semi-regular hookup/friendship continued until June 2023 when Kyle told me he started seeing someone. I congratulated him and thanked him for being honest. We stayed friends on snapchat but did not interact again until Oct 2023. Kyle reached out and said he and his girlfriend had broken up and wanted to know if I wanted to hang out. I happily agreed and he came over. We stayed in contact and sent salacious texts/pics up until Feb 2024. We had tried to hang out more but our schedules conflicted or he'd always cancel last minute.
In March this year he suddenly deleted me off of snap chat, which I was bummed, but not a big deal really. Until... I just found out his "ex girlfriend" is actually his fiance he's been with for 4+ years continually. They are getting married in less than two weeks, I found their wedding website.
I have never been okay with being the "other woman" and feel absolutely sick about it. There were very minofaint red flags that make more sense now, but were easily brushed off in the moment, like not wanting to be friends on social media.
I do not want to retaliate against him, but my thought is that I'd want to know if I were marrying a serial cheater (I know I wasn't the only woman) for not only trust issues, but safety. Thinking about sending her an anonymous letter letting her know he's a cheater. I don't want to include details that would make him know it's from me. What should I say?

So, I was talking to my mom this morning, and we got onto the topic of the Word of Wisdom. And she's like, "Well, if you actually read the WoW, it doesn't mention coffee or tea. It's just hot drinks. So, that includes hot chocolate. And herbal tea. And Postum. Those are all hot, but the church says they're OK. And what about soup?"
My mom and I are the types of people who will have a cup a broth to drink because it's delicious, or when we are cold. So, this made me laugh really hard.

I've never posted here before but I need to say what I have to say. I am a miserable bitch in the UK and I hate my life. I will try and summarise my weight issue so it's not a long read.
I've always struggled and my parents from a young age always made comments about my weight especially dad and tried to restrict junk foods a lot, so a single chocolate bar would be permitted on one day a week for example but I'd observe my classmates who were mostly thin having treats daily in their lunchboxes. So I started to feel resentment and with what little pocket money I got as a child I began buying chocolate and cakes etc to 'make up for it in my mind and got addicted. I was always larger but fairly active with swimming, kick boxing and walking.
By highschool I had a major problem and binged on confectionery daily in secret and would hide all the wrappers until mum discovered it one day before I disposed of it. I still continued but got sneakier. I also developed 2 incurable skin conditions so that messed my confidence even more at highschool and still does now.
As a late teen I stupidly paid for gastric band surgery and I did it, I thought it was an easy way out. I 'did well' but not without a lot of problems, and my weight still yo-yod but I lost 6.5 stone. Then my band made me seriously ill, I could suddenly no longer eat anything and could only manage trickles of water whilst vomiting what looked like Coca-Cola (blood). This went on for 10 days until I had my bad emptied of it's fluid, this would allow me to eat normally like anyone else eventhough it was still inside me. After this I gave up on myself and went completely off the deep end into a major depression not helped by a major relationship issue that made me feel even worse and binged my way up to over 24 stone, far higher than preop weight. I then started getting awful symptoms with my vision and headaches which turned out to be a brain condition thought to be caused by obesity eventhough it is idiopathic.IIH
SO, I started to lose weight on my own near the end of 2020 at about 24stone with the help of a dietician who I would get app monitoring and a phone call every fortnight. That all finished some time ago. Ive also recently had the gastric band removed at long last. I could've reached my goal easily by now but I just can't stop. I can't stop eating and craving junk food. In September I was really ill but at my lowest weight of 12stone exactly. Since then I've been binging on and off yet again and until recently reached over 15 stone yet again. I've lost 5lbs in about 10 days but then I put on 1.5lb again as I discovered this morning.
I am so bitter. Look, I don't smoke anything,, no alcohol, tea or coffee or any kind of drug and I haven't had friends in 12 years so don't have anyone to do sports classes with or go for a walk aside from my partner. Food is my drug and I hate that I can't just have this one thing that I actually enjoy about this shit existence, it's a damn joke. I know it's killing me and after everything, like sleeping and binging away my 20s, the surgery and depression and I STILL can't stop and part of me dosen't want to. It's utterly ridiculous and I hate myself and this existence. How can I be so addicted to something that has caused me so many issues I haven't even touched on in this rant.
I am not giving up though, I have to believe life can get better. I can go back to the weight I was. Gaining 42lbs since September is a huge setback and I can't let it go on and have been counting calories and going to the gym again.
Welp this ended up a looong post after all but need to get it off my chest. I wish this mental battle wasn't so hard.

This has something that has kind of irked me for a while and I think it has prospered a bit because of the no leg humping mentality. Deconstruction does not always lead to full blown atheism. Yes, a lot of fundies who have or are in the process of deconstructing still have harmful beliefs, and while I do think we should still be aware of them, I don’t know why people who give them props are immediately crucified.
I saw a discussion about Jill the other day and someone said they would absolutely never give her credit for deconstructing until she becomes an unapologetic ally, is on the left, and is an atheist, that’s just unrealistic. Even if that does happen it would take her years and years. I congratulate her for still being a Christian after all the clear religious trauma she has gone through and she is clearly someone who appreciates healthy rules and structure so I’m glad there’s an winning situation for her.
I think a lot of snarkers need to understand that changing your entire worldview is such a mentally taxing and unfathomable thing for so many people. When Bethany talked about her questioning her faith there were still snide remarks saying that it wasn’t enough or she took too long to come to this realization. If I asked snarkers to become Catholic they couldn’t. Why? Because changing your entire belief system and worldview is so incredibly hard, and even if some did it wouldn’t be in quick succession like how they expect fundies should operate.
I don’t know, I think the thing that overall bothers me the most is we cannot give too much praise to these people who are clearly doing a difficult thing. It sucks that we cannot celebrate progress, only the result, but maybe I’m the minority with that opinion.

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Votes:
Emma - 2
Katie - 1
Props to u/Proofracer for coming up with plot points
At the campfire ceremony, Chris attempts to build suspense by reminding the campers about the safety of a marshmallow, but Heather insists he get on with it, so the moment is cut short. Chris calls on Shawn, Zoey and Max before tossing them all a marshmallow. He then gives Owen and Heather one each, leaving Emma and Katie. Both Emma and Heather shoot angry looks at Katie, making her feel a tad worried, but Chris gives her the last marshmallow and deems Emma eliminated, causing her to have an outburst at Heather.
Emma: I knew I couldn’t trust you! You’re a backstabbing snake!
Heather: Please, as if I’d betray you this early. If I had any say, you’d still be here for a few more weeks.
Emma: Then, how?
Katie: It’s not just me who’d been fed up with how mean you’ve become. We don’t want a second Heather on this team. No offense.
Heather: Offense taken.
As Emma walks the dock of shame and the rest of the Screaming Gophers disperse, Chris turns to the camera to say his outro.
Chris: Will Max finally do something actually evil? How much longer can Heather keep her alliance afloat? And what will Damien do once he finds out about Bunny’s replacement? Find out next time, on Total Drama Island!
In-world votes:
Emma - Katie, Owen, Max, Shawn
Katie - Heather, Zoey, Emma
Basic Straining
The episode opens with Duncan using his knife to carve a skull into the wall of the Bass cabin when Axel exits the cabin. She scoffs at him, but before she can leave, Duncan attempts to apologize for how he’s treated her in the past. Axel stops to think for a second, but she sees through Duncan’s lie and leaves anyway.
Confessional:
Duncan: Of course I didn’t mean what I said to Axel, but Trent and Sammy are too loyal to one another, and Damien’s essentially attached himself to Dawn. Sadly this means that Axel is the only person I have a chance to ally with, so I need to get back on her good side.
Meanwhile at the Gophers cabin, Katie is sitting dejectedly on the front steps when Owen comes over to cheer her up.
Owen: Are you still bummed out about poisoning me? It’s okay, I know it was an accident.
Katie: That’s only half the problem. Emma got so mad at me for it, and now apparently I brought a cursed item to the team.
Owen: You mean your tiki souvenir? Are you sure it’s cursed?
Katie: Apparently it’s from Boney Island, so I’d say it’s pretty cursed.
Owen: Well, you don’t have to get rid of it, if that’s what you’re worried about. It may be cursed, but it’s still yours. I say you should keep it to remember this show by.
Katie: Thanks Big-O.
Owen: You know what? Let's prove Emma wrong. If you try your best this time, I’m sure you’d do way better at the challenge than you think!
Just then, the loudspeakers turn on, but instead of Chris, it’s Chef Hatchet who orders the campers to meet him at the docks for their next challenge. At the docks, Chef is dressed in a military uniform and starts barking orders at the campers about fixing their forms, with the one exception being Axel, whose form he deems “surprisingly average”. Chef then goes over today’s challenge. The teams will go through Chef’s grueling boot camp and drop out one by one until the last person remaining wins immunity for their team. Heather asks Chef what happened to Chris, but he ignores it and starts going over further rules, like how everyone will have to address him as Master Chief, and that no one eats or sleeps unless he says so.
Confessional:
Axel: I was never trained in the military, but I’m adept in most fields of work Master Chief could go over, so this will be a breeze.
For the first part of the boot camp, each team must carry a canoe, and will continue to do so until someone drops out and rings a bell on the dock. Owen and Trent each make a remark about how easy the challenge sounds, but by noon, everyone is starting to feel the heat.
Chris and Chef are sitting on top of the canoes while taunting the campers about missing lunch. This causes Owen to think about quitting, but Max catches on and tells him not to.
The Bass are still holding up strong, so Duncan tries to talk to Axel again. He says that he knows she hates him, but they’re both stuck between the two couples and need each other. This causes Axel to angrily reply that she’d take her chances with the others over him, leaving Duncan beginning to get annoyed. However, Trent overhears the conversation and begins to look worried.
As night rolls through, the campers are all tired, especially Owen, who has fallen asleep with his arms still holding onto the canoe. Chef is recalling a story from his military days, and Heather asks him what war he was in, causing him to shout at her. Heather then turns to Shawn and tries to strike up a conversation with him.
Heather: Hey Zombie Boy, how do you feel about joining my alliance?
Shawn: Wait what? You’re kidding, right?
Heather: You and Emma were friends, yes?
Shawn: Sure, but that doesn’t mean I trust you. What happened to getting payback on me for locking you in the freezer?
Heather: You could trust me if you were in my alliance. With Emma gone, I’m missing a member of the alliance, and if you join, you won’t be in as bad a spot as you are now.
Shawn: Oh, and what is that supposed to mean?
Heather: Think about it. I didn’t vote Emma off, she got herself eliminated. If the team knew you worked with her, maybe they’d vote you out too. Especially since you’re such a big threat without any allies. With me, I could protect you, plus I won’t plot against you anymore.
Shawn: You were plotting against me?
Heather: That’s besides the point. Just think about it.
Later, Chef has finished bragging about his line of duty just in time for Max to decide he isn’t going to stand in one spot anymore. Much to his teammate’s dismay, he walks down the dock and rings the bell, thus allowing the contestants to drop their canoes. Chef insults Max through his megaphone before ordering everyone else to go to the mess hall to eat dinner, getting Owen excited.
In the cafeteria, Chef announces that everyone will get only ten minutes to eat before he starts night training, which gains him a lot of complaints. Damien asks him where the food is, and Chef gestures to a row of trash cans filled with leftover garbage from breakfast, which only causes more complaining. Owen, however, doesn’t discriminate against the disgusting food and eats some anyway. Chris then invites Chef to eat at the craft services tent, leaving the teams to themselves.
Trent meets with Sammy and tells her about what he heard between Duncan and Axel. He says that Duncan has a point and that since nobody really likes Duncan, Axel would be the deciding vote between them and Dawn and Damien. Hearing this, Sammy comes up with an idea, and suggests winning Axel over ahead of time so that she’s with them. Trent likes the idea, so Sammy goes over to talk with Axel. They have a friendly conversation, and Sammy offers Axel the least disgusting food she can find in the trash, to which Axel declines. Sammy then returns to Trent to talk about other ways to win Axel over.
Damien was watching Sammy’s conversation with Axel, and realises what she and Trent were trying to do, so he walks over to Dawn to talk with her.
Damien: I hate to say this, but we’re going to have to start getting extra votes against Trent and Sammy
Dawn: But why? Wouldn’t we just vote Duncan?
Damien: No, that’s not- I mean, after Duncan’s gone, all that’s left of the Killer Bass is us, them, and Axel. And I think they know that too, because they’re trying to bond with her.
Dawn: Yes, Axel is stuck in between the four of us. I’m not very worried though. I’m good friends with her.
Damien: I know, but we should start getting closer so that if need be, Axel will vote with us instead of them.
Damien then digs through the trash and finds a carrot that is half eaten, but otherwise clean. He decides to save it for Bunny, before noticing that Dawn looks unsure of something. He asks her what’s wrong and she brushes it off as having missed Bunny while it was gone. Damien is happy with this answer and tells Dawn that he knew she and Bunny would get along well, but this only makes her feel worse.
Confessional:
Dawn: Bunny left Damien, but I still don’t know why Duncan found a replacement. Duncan is not to be trusted, but I don’t know how to break the news to Damien that Bunny’s really gone.
We then cut to the next part of the boot camp, which is to repeat Chef’s suspiciously Triller-esque dance routine. The dancing goes on for a while until it’s interrupted when Duncan shuts off the music. Chef angrily asks him what he’s doing so Duncan reminds him about how once someone drops out the training ends. Chef says that they’ll be done when he says they’re done, before forcing Duncan to do push-ups.
Next up, write a three hundred word essay about how much you love Chef, being eliminated if you fall asleep or fail to reach the minimum word count. Owen and Katie are discussing ways to pad out their essays while cracking jokes to make each other laugh. Seeing the two of them bonding, Shawn turns back to his own essay looking a little less confident.
Duncan takes a break from doing the challenge to try and persuade Axel to join him again. She snaps at him and tells him to get lost, but Duncan mentions Shawn, which gets her attention.
Duncan: Let’s face it, everybody knows you like Shawn.
Axel: So? If you want to mock me about it, expect a fight!
Duncan: No, I’m saying that you two are pathetic. Neither one of you ever makes a move! Watching you two is like watching a car crash in slow motion.
Axel: (Sarcastically) Thanks for the advice, Dr. Love.
Duncan: You need a wingman, badly. So it’s going to be me.
Axel: Why would I ever listen to you?
Duncan: Because if you and Shawn are ever going to be a thing, you need me.
Axel: Fine. But if you pull anything you’ll leave this island in a cast.
Duncan gets Axel to close the deal with a handshake before returning back to working on the challenge. Later, Chef returns to pick up the essays, and eliminates both Trent and Zoey for falling asleep. As for everyone else, their essays meet the requirement, although Duncan’s is just one sentence with 289 verys in between. On his way out of the cafeteria, Chef slips in a puddle of Owen’s drool from him being half asleep, and Duncan offers to clean him off. This causes Chef to yell at him again, and the rest of the Bass stop Duncan from saying anything more, lest he get them all in trouble.
The next evening, the training continues, as Chef forces the campers to run an obstacle course until everyone can do it in less than a minute. As they climb a wooden wall, Axel asks Duncan for advice and he tells her she should get Shawn’s attention by showing off her survival skills in the course. Axel takes the advice and waits for Shawn to reach the top of the wall before jumping off and doing acrobatic tricks in midair. This catches Shawn’s eye, who shows off some tricks of his own in return.
The obstacle course causes trouble for some of the other campers, as Owen gets stuck while jumping through a tire, getting him eliminated. On top of that, Damien falls flat on his face when climbing the wall. He pukes up some mud, and is coughing and sputtering, so Chef eliminates him too and sends him to the infirmary.
After going through a montage of campers falling into the mud or otherwise failing, we see Katie struggle to clear a rope swing. She remembers what Owen told her and tries it again, only to clear it easily. She cheers for herself before continuing to run the course.
While crawling through the mud, Sammy reaches a deep spot and starts sinking. Duncan passes while mocking her, only to come across an angry Chef. He gives Duncan more pushups, but Duncan just thanks Chef before kissing him on the nose. This sends Chef off the edge and he announces that Duncan will spend the rest of the night in solitary confinement in the boathouse. This causes everyone to gasp, but Duncan asks how bad it could be, before we cut to him sitting in the boathouse regretting that comment.
In the cafeteria, the contestants remaining in the boot camp are being fed rock hard gruel. Dawn sits down next to Axel, intending to win her over, but Axel is the one to talk first. She explains to Dawn how Duncan is working as a wingman for her and Shawn, and while Dawn is happy for Axel, she reminds her about how Duncan is untrustworthy. She talks about how he replaced Bunny when it left Damien, and that she thinks he has a secret agenda behind everything. Axel agrees with Dawn but leaves to get more advice from Duncan anyway.
Heather finds the gruel Chef has served her to be well past unappetizing, and chooses to instead try to persuade Shawn again. She points out how close Owen, Katie and Max have become, and that since she still has Zoey, they’ll go after him first. After careful consideration, Shawn caves and agrees to work with her. But he specifies that while he will do what’s required for her to protect him, he will not associate himself as a member of her alliance. Despite this, Heather is still pleased by the news, and leaves to get some sleep.
In the boathouse, Axel finds Duncan sweeping the floors to pass the time.
Duncan: Did you get General Crazy angry at you too?
Axel: No, I’m here so you can make good on our deal. What’s some more advice you have?
Duncan: Really? You can’t be so desperate that you need my help for every single thing.
Axel: Then what do you want me to do then? This was entirely your idea!
Duncan: Just ask Shawn out. Maybe set up a date or something. But if you just sit there and don’t talk to him I promise you that nothing good will happen. Now if you’ll excuse me, I’m going to mess with Chef.
Duncan then leaves despite Chef’s orders and heads towards the craft services tent, leaving Axel behind wondering what she could do.
In the Gophers cabin, Katie visits Owen, who congratulates her on doing so well in the boot camp. Katie is ecstatic at her performance and thanks him for giving her the pep talk. Max, while also happy for Katie, insists that “Evil has better things to do than make friends” as he works on something secret in his bunk bed. Owen tells Katie that he thinks she can win the entire challenge, but to this Katie is still a bit skeptical.
The remaining Bass return to their cabin to find Trent and Damien playing cards on the front steps, and inside Dawn finds various snacks left in a big pile on her bed. She’s confused how it got there, but is happy to finally find something edible, so she invites everybody on both teams to hang out and eat the food. As the eleven of them dig in, they discuss how insane Chef is for making them do full on combat training, with only Shawn, Axel, and surprisingly Katie enjoying the challenge. Eventually the relaxation is ruined when Chef barges in and orders everyone in the Killer Bass to line up outside. He announces that the food they were dining on was stolen from the craft services tent, and that he was tipped off that it was one of them because the perpetrator left a raw bass in the fridge. Dawn confesses that she found it on her bed, but before she can explain herself Chef automatically eliminates her from the boot camp and confiscates the rest of the food.
Chef starts the last part of the boot camp the next morning, which is to hang upside-down from a tree until only one person is left. The last campers left are Sammy, Duncan and Axel for the Bass, and Shawn, Heather and Katie for the Gophers. Axel confronts Duncan about what he did, and he admits he stole Chris and Chef’s food, left a bass behind as a calling card and dumped the food on the first bed he found. Axel is pissed at him for getting Dawn in trouble with Chef and cuts the deal between them, causing Duncan to tell her that he never really cared.
Confessional:
Duncan: Okay, maybe I went a little too far, but I’ve always found a way to stay in the game. Surely this will be no different, right?
Chef rants about the side effects of being upside down, and as he goes over each one, someone gets it, causing them to fall off the tree. Eventually it’s down to Axel and Katie, with Dawn cheering on Axel while Owen motivates Katie. Axel looks between Dawn and Duncan, and is visibly conflicted, while Katie’s starting to get dizzy. But just as she’s about to fall, Axel jumps off first, meaning the Screaming Gophers win. Katie then falls off the tree before being enveloped in a bear hug by Owen. Chef congratulates Katie, saying he’d go to war with her anytime, but she gets mixed messages from the complement.
Duncan scolds Axel, saying she lost the challenge for them. But she snaps at him in front of everyone.
Axel: You are not fit to be on this island! You essentially threw two challenges, ridiculed me the entire game, and now got Dawn disqualified just because you wanted to prank Chef! So excuse me if I want you out!
Duncan snaps back at her before storming off, and for the first time in a while, Axel looks relieved. Dawn then comes up to her with Damien telling her that she did the right thing. Afterwards, Damien asks Dawn if she only said that to get Axel on their side, gaining an annoyed look from her. Seeing this, he backtracks and says that they should help Axel like real friends, and is relieved when Dawn nods her head in agreement.
Vote off a Killer Bass and come up with any plot points you want to see later.

My friend and I have been close since childhood. Our friend group met in a small cult-like organisation. I got severely bullied by its founder there, while she was one of the favourite students by our professofounder of the organisation.
I thought that both of us agreed that this place was horrible once we grew up, since she would always point out how unfair our professor was. Yet, after I left this place, she stayed, and started trying to change my mind, saying that me and others speaking out about the abuse that happened there was hurting her, because " no one physically abused or threatened to hit HER", so "it's just gossip"
Then, two of our mutual friends went no contact with her, and she DMed me about this saying that she hopes that I won't do the same, and made Mr promise that we'll keep being friends.
At the same time, she has been disrespecting my boundaries (I asked her multiple times not to call me randomly. Iwork in a theatre, and she already called me once during a premiere, when my phone was backstage. After that, there were multiple awkward situations when she "forgot" to text me before calling, so she interrupted my meetings/lessons/rehearsals). She says that she wants to keep being friends, but we haven't met in a long time, and we barely talk over the phone, except for the instances when she sets the time.
Yesterday I had my birthday, and she wrote to me after three months of silence, and her message was like "congratulations. I guess we're both old now." After that, she just started randomly talking about her new boyfriend, without even asking me how I was.
Overall, I feel weird. She has never said something outwardly aggressive, yet she behaves in a way that makes me uncomfortable, and only talks to me when she wants to. But she also helped me when I was really depressed.
So, am I the asshole?

I’ve been with my fiancé for 4.5 years. We just got engaged in April.
His mother doesn’t live in our state I have went to visit her and meet her once in person we stayed there for one week for Christmas… And she was showing me lots of love so I never thought we would have any problems….
we have phone conversations but due to the distance we aren’t close….
Well, recently, she started acting strange. Once when my fiancé called her to tell her we are engaged, she said, how could he marry someone he don’t even know?
We’ve been together for 4 years, we’ve been in a serious relationship from the start, and we’ve been living together for 2 years…
some reason she thinks he’s marrying me too soon…and she needs to get to know me before he marries me.
I immediately felt uncomfortable that she didn’t say “ congratulations” when we sent everyone pictures from the proposal. She even said my proposal didn’t count because he never involved her, and she wasn’t there.
I liked the way he proposed to me with just us. It was very intimate. That’s how we both like it but according to her..family is supposed to be there or it’s a fake proposal….
I didn’t like her negative energy. But I moved on.
My fiancé and I have been trying to save money for our house and wedding and she continues asking him to give her money…. So it’s been hard for him to save.
When he started saying no he can’t give her anymore she stopped calling me and even has my number blocked but she calls him everyday…..
I started to not even want a wedding anymore she is making me lose interest in marrying into his family, and I fear it’s going to get worse once we have kids…. I feel like she’s going to be Problamatic moving forward and I’ve lost my excitement of marrying him…..
Advice?

Mmfnkjfjsjdnndjdjdjdj ok so let me preface this by saying that I am in very very very early recovery. I also will mention 🍃 (delta 8 which is legal here)
One of my triggers/anxieties is that I really don't like when other people make me food. I've had 2 friends make me food over the last several months because I was horribly ill. Other than that, I haven't gone out to eat in a long long time because it's too scary, no family dinners, etc. It's way too scary and sober, I won't be ready for a long time.
Well. Yesterday I took my friend to the vape shop and they had these $2 dark chocolate edibles and I'm slowly working my way up to sugar but I'm not there yet and these were sugar free. And I had to cut out THC when my gastritis was bad and only now get to reintroduce it and I was like "sweet it's the perfect lil snack!"
Um. Tolerance people. My tolerance is different. 20mg of delta 8 hits different when you haven't had it in ages. I didn't cut it. I should have cut it.
Long story short I was blazed enough to ask for taco bell. Everybody was SHOCKED because me, asking for fast food??! My roommates and wife immediately got excited and got it for me. And my wife took a bite for every bite I did and didn't let me look up the nutrition info. I had a burrito supreme and a side of pinto beans.
After my wife and I ate like 2/3 of the burrito, I just started panicking and sobbing. Like. Bad. I cried for like 15 minutes inconsolably and then continued crying for another 15 minutes while my roomies helped me do grounding techniques and my wife cuddled me (I love my support team).
I feel embarrassed for crying so hard over a half eaten burrito and now that I'm (mostly sober) my ED brain is trying to convince me I'm slipping completely out of control and need to restrict really hard again because I feel like I'm not being healthy anymore and I'm going to get sick.
I did wake up with extreme heart burn.

Long post ahead. I'm already carded with BDO (almost a year now).
I applied for a BPI cc, through an agent in the mall which I also gave consent to apply for other banks as well.
BPI Experience:
April 19: received the "thank you for applying text"
April 22: received the "text confirm" text since they said I was unreachable.
April 30: called cs to ff up my application, as per cs status is for card creation
May 3: called cs to ff up if card is for delivery but cs informed me application was denied/no approved. I never called again to follow up. I didn't received any declined text either but just gave up on it.
May 21: received text that my application was approved.
HSBC Experience:
April 26: Call and zoom verification.
May 6: called cs to follow up and informed to wait for 15 banking days. So I never called again and just waited it out.
May 20: received email my application was not approved.
May 21: received "congratulations your cc application has been approved" text
Called cs to confirm if which one is true and as per cs application is completed/approved
Eastwest Experience:
May 14: received text that my application is in process and at the bottom of the text it says "If we do not receive feedback from you within 24 hours, we will proceed with the delivery of your card."
May 21: called cs to ff up, cs told me it was declined for post-eval but didn't receive any email or text yet.
So probably will just wait if they change their mind too? Manifest ko nlng hahaha
Sobrang gulo utak ko sa inyo for the past few weeks!!

Unless you are ready to handle the reaper cushions.

The fear of death follows from the fear of life. A man who lives fully is prepared to die at any time.
― Mark Twain

general information	additional information
name: Micah Di Santis	preferred name: Myka, Mike
d.o.b.: 10 June 20XX	age: 16
nationality: Sicilian	hometown: Sicily, Italy
gender identity: cis-male	gender expression: male
sexual orientation: Undecided	preferred pronouns: he / him / his

• Half-blood- and non-half-blood-related conundrums: ADHD (attention deficiency and hyperactivity disorder), Dyslexia

relation	name/s	age	relationship
divine parent	Charon, The Ferryman	old	Micah still has no idea what to think about his dad. Speaking with him during the visit to Olympus did nothing to clear things up. The man, or was it immortal, was blunt and yet, his son's opinion of him was still up in the air, though leaning more to the positive side. At least Micah has the connections to get himself an admittedly fantastic tailored suit.
mortal parent	???	???	Micah has no idea who his biological mother is. The only reason he knew who his father was before he came to camp was because the spirits told him.
mortal adoptive parent	Maria Di Santis	32 years old	If Marco was a saint then Maria was a saintess through and through. Everything she did, she did with someone else in mind. From the day she adopted Micah to the moment Marco died, Micah did not see her cry for herself at all. She'd cry when a little boy got hurt and would offer help or cry when she saw a cat get kicked by some drunk douchebag.
mortal adoptive parent	Vincino (Vinny) Bertelli	37 years old	Vincino is an absurdly rich man who was born and raised in Sicily. He found Maira through her singing on the side of the road to raise money for Micah's trip to the US. He offered to take her in because he liked her and sponsored Micah's trip by giving him some money and a ticket onto a transatlantic cruise ship headed to New York City. All things considered, he's a kind and considerate man who loves Maria.
adoptive brother	Marco Di Santis	14 years old, Deceased	Marco Di Santis was a saint. Ever since he learned the word 'kindness', he was absorbed and defined by it. He loved seeing the smiles bloom on people's faces when he shared some bread or helped them with something but what he truly loved more than anything else was sailing and playing the piano. He was handsome beyond reason, having pale blonde hair and clear blue eyes, though he never had a chance to grow into it fully.
dead guy	Chris	16 years old, Deceased	Like Marco, Chris is one big ball of sunshine. The only difference is he's a ghost. Micah met Chris on the cruise he stowed away on to get to the US and the ghost promptly joined him, though reluctantly because he was watching over his parents and little brother, due to finding him interesting. Like Marco, Chris is handsome though he had more time to grow into his looks. Framed by golden hair and chocolate brown eyes, Micah wouldn't have doubted it if the boy was very popular during his living days.
friend	Willow 'Will' Crest	16 years old	One of the more laid-back campers Micah had met, Willow became something of a friend to the son of Charon, though they started off more as discussion partners than anything else. And besides, being chill-buddies is pretty fun on its own. Who knows where things can go from there?
friend	Rachel 'Rocky' Williams	17 years old	Rocky was one of the first people Micah met upon arriving at camp and her enthusiasm, uncharacteristic for a child of a chthonic god, immediately made her stand out. Though he genuinely has no idea what goes through Rocky's head, Micah considers them close, and okay, maybe he has a minuscule crush on her.
friend/former cabin-mate	Ramona Herrera	16 years old	Being another camper who met Micah's criteria for friendship (i.e. Be chill and relax), Ramona is someone who Micah doesn't know too much about. Much like Kit, who Micah has seen around camp and the Hermes Cabin, she is a mystery to him. Though he does enjoy trying to spot which corner she's hiding in at any given camp gathering.
acquaintance (?)	Mathew Knight	15 years old	Matt is, as far as friendship is concerned, a work-in-progress. Micah's father had recommended getting to know the son of Hades and though he'd lost himself in school shortly after, Micah had made introductions.

appearance

faceclaim	height	weight	hair	eyes	skin
FC, Art by Charlie Bowater	5’11”	Doesn't care	Black	Amber, fiery like gold	Lightly tanned, peppered with a few more recent thin scars from his time at camp

description: Micah is a fairly restrained person when it comes to clothes. Usually, he'd only grab a long-sleeved shirt and some jeans, feeling content. Most of his clothing is fairly average, what with them being of all sorts of muted colors and sorts of clothing. He isn't used to expressing himself whether it is though clothing or other methods.
equipment:

• Folding Knife; The cleaver-shaped folding knife was a present from his brother and Micah has taken to using it for almost everything in his day to day. When his mother fell ill after Marco's death, Micah had to scrub the docks, cut rope to secure the boats, and even got to work on some boats during outings for extra cash. The knife became like a lifeline, being used for everything he had to do.
• Bead Necklace; Micah has been at camp for a year now.
• Monster Directory; Over the years, Micah has seen one or two monsters in their undisguised forms and has taken to keeping note of them by drawing them in as great a detail as he can remember in a separate notebook from the rest of his drawings while also making notes of tactics that worked against them.
• Sketchbook; Ever since he started drawing, Micah has had a good amount of sketchbooks, most of which he donated to orphanages in Sicily for the little kids to enjoy the drawings if they weren't destroyed by seawater or other kids. After he donated his last one with a few pages blank at the end, he got himself a new book, this one being leather-bound and practically a blank slate. He's glad to have an abundance of space to draw as his story unfolds.
• Art Supplies; A good amount of colored and uncolored pencils, all in different states of use, either dull or sharp, long or short, and an eraser in a dark brown leather box.
• Satchel; The over-the-shoulder bag Micah carries around with all of his items. It's nothing special, just an olive green bag with a good amount of compartments and space.
• Throwing Knife Bandolier; Micah's choice of weapon, the bandolier he carries is easy to hide under civilian clothes, fast to access, and easy to use. The knives are of standard make and easily replaceable with others from the armory, though Micah tends to clean and sharpen them himself after each use.

abilities:
* – modmailed / custom

godrent domain powers: 

a) Dead Communication; Ever since his close brush with death, Micah's powers surged. His father's connection to spirits and those who have died became his and as such he can now see and communicate with the spirits of the dead. They have been his only source of information on his father. He likes to build a network of spirits whenever he goes somewhere new so he can gather information as fast as possible.
b) Shadow Camouflage; From a fairly young age, Micah wasn't much of a social butterfly. Most of the time, he felt most comfortable in a shadowy nook where the lines of his body would be broken by shadows, using the ability unconsciously. After his near-death experience, Micah became more aware of his ability to hide in shadows and learned to use it more effectively than before.
c) Shadow Travel\;* After an unknowably long amount of time spent in Hades, Micah's father, Charon, was aligned with the underworld to which he led the souls of the dead. Similarly, Micah has inherited the ability to travel through shadows in short or long-range teleports.

godrent minor powers: 

a) River Step\;* The connection with the River Styx flows through Micah's veins as much as it does through his father's. The ability this connection granted him was the ability to walk on water, as long as there is no significant shift to the water, such as large waves.
b) Death Buff\;* Being a servant of the God of the Dead, it only makes sense that Charon would draw his own power from his master. As such, Micah has inherited a trait where he becomes stronger when around children of other deities of death, such as Hades, Melinoe, Zagreus, the Oneiroi, etc.
c) Aura of the Harbinger\;* Being a multifaceted deity, Charon passed down his multifacetedness in the form of an aura ability. Micah has the ability to project an aura with two opposite effects that work on separate targets. A calming effect affects any spirits within the aura while an imposing effect like that of Children of Hades affects living beings within the aura's range.

godrent major powers: 

a) Major Watercraft Manipulation\;* Being known as the Ferryman of the Dead, it only makes sense for Charon, and Micah by extension, to have dominion over watercraft. Micah's control over watercraft was one of the first powers he discovered and the power that is most intertwined with him in his entirety. He has inherited the ability to gain absolute control over any and all watercraft down to the rigging and ropes.

skillset 

Over the years, Micah has picked up a good variety of skills, including fishing and rope work. Still, there have been a great many learning experiences for the boy on the streets of Sicily. Free running came as a given to any child of below-average means in Sicily but Micah was significantly worse than most thanks to a leg injury he got at the age of thirteen. Drawing was the only real luxury he had during his time when he wasn't working. A young lady from a carnival that was passing through taught him how to use throwing knives after he helped her find her way around the city. He learned ballet by watching, sitting for hours outside a studio every day for weeks until he'd gotten good enough to practice independently, which led to his interest in gymnastics. One of the older neighborhood boys took to teaching Micah, his brother, and the other kids how to read and write in English. Micah's adoptive mother insisted on teaching him how to speak English from a young age. Now, he can speak English with a barely noticeable Sicilian accent.
personality
Micah is about as quiet as you'd expect from a Chthonic kid. That isn't to say that he is particularly serious or brooding, in fact, even when he's upset, he rarely does either. He mainly remains silent because he isn't particularly talented at talking. His reactions to most things tend to be a bit muted unless something is especially funny or angering. Any of the kids that liked him or trusted him in Sicily did so because they understood that when it was needed, Micah would talk as much as was needed and would do what needed to be done to keep everyone safe.
Fatal Flaw; Vengefulness
backstory
Micah's past year at camp had been simultaneously the most relaxing and confusing year of his life. There had been a unfamiliarity that Micah had with anything to do with relaxation or really anything but working that had slowly melted away. He'd made friends and discovered passions that might have otherwise gone ignored for the rest of his life (Art was definitely one of those).
So, when school started to take over his time, Micah barely gave it any thought, settling back into his old work mentality, though now focused on mental instead of physical labor. Before he knew it, it was summer, school was out, and he was back at the start, not knowing how to get himself to relax.
now
Micah stared at the ground around the Range target blankly, the celestial bronze knives scattered around it refracting light. He was jolted out of his mental haze when a camper a few rows down yelled at him for standing in front of the target for so long. Quickly finishing up gathering his throwing knives, Micah slotted them into his bandolier and left the Range.
For a while, he just walked, until he reached the pier. Boats had been a constant of Micah's life before coming to camp and when he was really out of it or off his rocker, the son of Charon liked to settle at the camp pier and imagine what sort of sea vessel he'd design for himself. Aesthetics might not have mattered to everyone but to Micah, they did. The ship would have to look as good as it sailed.
Now, he fell onto his back in the sand a few meters from the pier and stared up at the sky. Barely any clouds. Gods that was boring.
(Credit to u/FireyRage for the amazing intro format.)

I want to preface this by noting that this is a ramble. I have a lot of thoughts, this is probably too many unnecessary details but at this point that’s one of the things Im struggling with as a (SAH) parent of a little with T1D.
So my daughter was diagnosed June of last year when she was still 3. It’s been a crazy journey, and while I’m grateful we haven’t had to deal with any life threatening incidences since her first DKA and diagnosis I can’t help but worry about her sugar all day, every day.
She’s on MDI, we’re doing a pump class next month (a requirement before her endo will approve), just recently changed her long acting and was seeing improvement in her glucose—but now it feels like we’re back to the beginning somehow?
She’s had so many days where she’s above 200. When I looked at her libre 3 ‘time in ranges,’ she was for the longest only ‘in range’ 38% of the time, any other time was way above. However, a few weeks ago (around the beginning of the month) I played around with her breakfast ratio and it seemed as if I found the ratio that REALLY worked for her—and then two days later she had her endo appointment and they changed her long acting because her sugar was going over 350 3-4 hours after eating lunch. For the first two weeks of this month she went from being in range 38% of the time to 67% of the time! It was so… great? But for the last week, she’s been pushing back into the 300s.
Now, one of the things that makes me feel like a helicopter parent: since she’s only 4 (5 in July ), I prefer to check her sugar myself and do all of her injections myself—one of the reasons being that I’ve noticed during this year that when my husband does her injections her glucose levels are even worse (there was one incident —early weeks of diagnosis— where he didn’t even inject her, the medicine literally sat on her skin and she was about to eat). Recently my little one tried to (very quickly) help me set up her needle and she bent the needle that goes into the pen (unbeknownst to me), and I tried to prime it like 3 times and I thought the pen broke. When i went to disassemble it to toss it was when I noticed the bent needle. Tried again with new one, went to prime and sooo much insulin came out, like there was so much pressure. It was an extremely stressful morning, and I no longer wanted her to help me get her medicine ready.
She knows how to check her sugar, but when it comes to cleaning her finger really well, she does not do a good job and I go behind her and recheck when the number from her test comes back 40+ different from her CGM.
Since she has a libre 3, her cgm is connected to my phone. We have a reader, have not yet used it because my phone stays in her room over night to be within range of her while I have it also connected to my iPad. When she goes low, she doesn’t wake up with the device blaring right next to her—but the notifications coming to my iPad inform me to check her.
I’m at a point where I’m…lost. She doesn’t seem to fully grasp certain parts of this journey? Should I make her check herself throughout the day until she gets the hang of that first? When should I let her give herself medicine (this part scares the ever loving life out of me because I’m terrified she’ll over do it and not want to drink/eat something to fix it because she’s full or something)?
And since she’s turning 5, she ought to be going to school in autumn—but I’m so unbelievably terrified because we live in a small town and it feels like so many people are ignorant to type 1 and assume it’s type 2. I plan to homeschool, but with her attention span I know it’s going to be difficult. But teachers mindlessly hand out candy, and while not everyone has diabetes, I know it’s going to be another crap experience for her because she was dealt a shitty hand. I even struggle with the judgment when we’re at the store trying to check out and she throws a fit for one of those gourmet lollipops that don’t have the carbs listed on it and there’s no guarantee she’s even going to finish it. When I say no, people just look at me like “what a bad mom, let that baby have a lollipop.”
I don’t restrict her diet. If she wants a piece of chocolate or cookie, or whatever: she can have it— if it’s more than 5carbs, I make her understand she has to have medicine for it. She’s a kid. She loves carbs, all the bread, noodles, desserts—I’m trying to do everything right for her.
She’s a kid, she should have all those experiences and privileges allotted to kids—but how am I to navigated this without dictating every single moment of her life?
If you got this far, I’m sorry for the rambling and thank you.

When I was planning my wedding reception, I had initially decided not to extend an invitation to two family members, but was guilted by my parents into inviting them.
They came, and stole about $75 worth of goodies I had gotten to make the venue bathrooms nice (incense, first aid kits, perfume, hair ties, spray deodorant, pepto tablets, lotion, de-wrinkling spray, etc.). They were gone within the first hour so only one or two people even had a chance to use them. No effort was made on their end - they barely even said congratulations.
After a few other not-so-nice interactions with them, my mom told me I should have stuck to my original plan.
So for anyone on the fence about whether to invite particular people, I'm here to say: go with your gut!

Hi! First time watcher, currently at episode 16 season 7. Nene is thinking about throwing a group therapy session.
Apollo is a piece of shit, a criminal, the drill in his hand was so scary! Phaedra probably triggers him, but I get it! They’re not good together, it’s what we call a toxic relationship, but he’s the one that’s just bad. And I do not believe the African Chocolate Man bs for a second.
My question is - I see a lot of hate on Phaedra. I don’t get it. She sucks it all up and probably doesn’t say what’s really going on behind the close doors but she’s still one of my favs. Is something about to happen that will change my opinion? I’m ok with spoilers 😀

I(18f) was seeing this guy (21m) for 4 months, i met him at my job as a cashier and we clicked instantly, first date was amazing we had so much in common, and we started to really like each other, everything was going great, he even took me out to dinner for valentines with roses and chocolates and strawberries it was so romantic.
But i felt like he started to pull away, i started to get late responses and didn’t had the goodmorning and Goodnight text anymore, i asked him about it and he said he was worried about a problem from his country (he’s foreign) but the effort to see me and do stuff with me was still there so i thought it was normal, until he just stopped texting me for 2 days which never happened before so i asked him and he said that he was proper busy and brought up the same problem, i offered him to talk about it and all but he declined, so i felt like he was loosing interest and it was an excuse, wished him the best and went no contact, this was after 3 months talking. It lasted 2 weeks before him following me again and text me apologizing for it and that he really liked me and wanted us to talk again, i forgave him because i thought we all have those moments and everything went back to normal.
The first time meeting him after that we went on a hike, which i thought it was weird because i thought he wanted to talk about it but we didn’t, instead we did the hike, got dinner (i payed), he invited me to meet his family for the first time, and we had intimacy, so i thought “ok he’s really sorry and he’s actually taking me seriously” hell nahh
Last time we spoke, he invited me to a bible study with his family, so i was with them the whole evening, and when he took me home i finally had the balls to ask for commitment since we were speaking for 4 months and basically do couple things.
He said he really liked me and my personality but he wasn’t ready for commitment, he was still getting over his last break up since she was with him on his lowest point of his life, he said that he continued to talk to me cause he wanted to get better and thought he was in the begging and it doesn’t mean that he’s never going to heal and he didn’t wanted to waste my time (which was what he did). I just told him i couldn’t wait for him, hoped he healed and stopped talking to him
I just don’t understand why making me meet his friend and family, treat me as a girlfriend, to just say that he’s not ready for commitment.

Got an email congratulating me on 1 month and the code says invalid. Same thing happened with all of the newbie codes I was told about in the beginning. I just assumed they were scams, but this one appears to be legit. Anyone know what's up?

This sub gets so much ridicule for being mostly about dating, I hope the lurkers will read this.
I was in my 2nd year of college, with a solid gpa but didn’t yet know what I wanted to do. Just getting my course electives done and living day to day. My half brother (5’11” from taller mom) had just finished college and was offered an internship at a good architectural firm in the city.
One day we were all outside tossing a football around in the front yard when the owner of a landscape company stopped pulled up in the driveway to say hello. Obese guy, average height mid 40s. I didn’t know him, but he’d known my parents for years because he had maintained properties for the business my dad worked for.
As we stood around, it wasn’t long before the guy shook my brother’s hand to congratulated him on his internship. Really treated him like a man and asked him about his future plans. But then he turned to my dad and asked “what does THAT boy do?” then pointed at me. Keep in mind I am 21 years old at that time and didn’t deserve to be called “boy.” My mother interrupted and the conversation went as follows:
(mom) “oh, he is at xxxx local college this year”
(guy) “oh, ok. well if/when he quits school I need some help cleaning at my shop.”
(mom) “haha, how much per hour?”
(guy) “I’ll give him $5.50/hr for the first year and we’ll see if he’s any good.”
(mom) “well he’s actually pretty smart. I don’t think he’ll fail.”
Keep in mind, I’m standing 10 feet away. This guy didn’t know me, he never introduced himself to me, or talk to me directly, and never asked for my name. He didn’t even give me enough respect to initiate eye contact with me. He just pointed at me as if I was “family property”, like a horse he wanted to put to work on his farm.
He said some other stuff to my parents, turned to my half-brother again and told him to “behave himself in the big city”, then got back in his truck and drove away,
Friends, that’s the difference between being 5’11“ and being 5’5”. The level of respect and dignity shown to you, and the expectation others have towards your future. I have so many stories over the years of how different I was treated compared to my brother.
We spend a lot of time here discussing dating, but Heightism is truly life altering in so many ways. Our inability to find dates is just a symptom of a wider, systemic problem.
That moment many years ago helped me decide to pick my major. I jumped from having no idea what I was going to major in, straight into computer science and ended up maintaining a 4.0 in my CS classes. This was just before the birth of the Internet and I ended up having a career that exceeded my brother.
It won’t surprise any of you to learn that his career is still considered the “real success” of the family.
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