As the title implies, I've been having depressive episodes, each morning is harder to go to work, harder to cook food, I have to force myself to not do a b-line to my rented apartment after work.
A friend told me that I should write about it.
A few weeks ago, was in hometown and parents (and I) were invited to a bbq in a cousin house, now, stuff happened there with my mother but that besides the point.
On the way back we went trough streets I haven't even seen since literal years (used to go a lot because of my grandma, but since she now lives with her parents I don't go there).
So, here's what I wrote on the car that night
On the way back home
City that saw me grow up
Streets that as a kid, I thought that as adult I'd hop around and have fun
Now riddles with crime and drugs
Lights of the casino, jazz from the cafes, covering thorns of a rose
Fitting for the flower city of Chile
Ironically tho ... I'm still nostalgic
The darkness interrupted by a city lights, stuck from the 90s and ocassional modernity
Just as if I was a 7yr old, coming back home from grandma's
Same grandma that now lives in the family house
Who, as a kid, took care of me on the weeks, with a stern, crisis and WW forged soul
and now, I help her go to the bathroom
So sleepy
So tired
I don't know if this a depressive episode, seeing all the success of my cousins, as I'm stuck in a job, burning the salary on my family who gave me so much
But I hope, tonight's dream will be a soothing one

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TD;LR my (25f) partner (29m) has been unemployed for nine months and relies on me financially but has given no indication of marriage or leveling himself up.
my partner and i have been together for almost four years (four years in june). our relationship this past year has been horrible. bad fights, him leaving etc. he’s been laid off three times since we’ve been together and for the past nine months i’ve paid 100% of all living expenses.
in the beginning of our relationship he definitely paid for most things but i always helped with groceries dates smaller bills etc. so it’s never been completely on him. i’m at my breaking point right now. i’m very serious about money and i also want to be someone’s wife. he has a gambling problem (used to be casinos, then sports betting, now it’s trading memecoins) where he can and has lost thousands of dollars at a time. he’s also made thousands of dollars at a time. that said, in NINE months he hasn’t paid a dollar towards any of our shared living expenses. i’ve sent him so many job recs, offered to make intros with my network, etc and he hasn’t done any of it. i work at a startup so sometimes im literally working 12 hour days; ive brought up how it feels like i have no support and that it could also just be him cleaning or cooking because i do all of that too (and honestly i would prefer me doing this if he had a literal job :/) and he gets angry and says he’s carried the load for so long…. i genuinely feel like it’s sexist and he refuses to see the effort and the monetary constraints im under. when he’s left i feel like he’s only come back because he’s broke. he’s asked me to pay for his vapes and i even paid off his overdraft on top of our regular living expenses this matters because well he made 10k last night and hasn’t expressed how he intends to help at all. i feel taken advantage of and like i can’t bring up money without him redirecting to another time i got upset or overreacted about something in the past or he’ll make jokes about bankruptcy etc which i find frustrating. he doesn’t come on to me either and is literally just on the computer 24/7.
how do i approach this??? am i wasting my time??? he literally never talks about the future and i just feel sick giving my literal dollars and effort to someone im not married to and like im a placeholder being taken advantage of by an adult child. what do you recommend? am i not being supportive which he’s said?

I have been in the hospitality business in various ‘tipped’ positions for over 20 years. I have always made less than normal minimum wage. I have busted my ass to earn the tips that I earned be it either serving tables, bartending or dealing tables games at casinos (yes that is a strenuous job, I promise you). At all times having to work at a fast pace while performing exceptional service to many wonderful people as well as many assholes. I have and always will tip very well when it’s earned even though I am not in hospitality anymore. Nowadays everywhere you go people push you to tip, regardless of what they are getting paid. Now with touch less payment often when you pay a screen pops up asking if you want to tip 15%, 18% or 20% if not even higher options. For handing me a slice of pizza? For handing me a smoothie? For every little thing everywhere you go. Too many things for me to list but feel free to mention things that you agree are kind of crazy. I may be TIA with how things are nowadays but I’m sure that you will all let me know.

My partner and i have been together for almost four years (four years in june). our relationship this past year has been horrible. bad fights, him leaving etc. he’s been laid off three times since we’ve been together and for the past nine months i’ve paid 100% of all living expenses.
in the beginning of our relationship he definitely paid for most things but i always helped with groceries dates smaller bills etc. so it’s never been completely on him. i’m at my breaking point right now. i’m very serious about money and i also want to be someone’s wife. he has a gambling problem (used to be casinos, then sports betting, now it’s trading memecoins) where he can and has lost thousands of dollars at a time. he’s also made thousands of dollars at a time. that said, in NINE months he hasn’t paid a dollar towards any of our shared living expenses. i’ve sent him so many job recs, offered to make intros with my network, etc and he hasn’t done any of it. i work at a startup so sometimes im literally working 12 hour days; ive brought up how it feels like i have no support and that it could also just be him cleaning or cooking because i do all of that too (and honestly i would prefer me doing this if he had a literal job :/) and he gets angry and says he’s carried the load for so long…. i genuinely feel like it’s sexist and he refuses to see the effort and the monetary constraints im under. when he’s left i feel like he’s only come back because he’s broke. he’s asked me to pay for his vapes and i even paid off his overdraft on top of our regular living expenses this matters because well he made 10k last night and hasn’t expressed how he intends to help at all. i feel taken advantage of and like i can’t bring up money without him redirecting to another time i got upset or overreacted about something in the past or he’ll make jokes about bankruptcy etc which i find frustrating. he doesn’t come on to me either and is literally just on the computer 24/7. how do i approach this??? am i wasting my time??? he literally never talks about the future and i just feel sick giving my literal dollars and effort to someone im not married to and like im a placeholder being taken advantage of by an adult child. what do you recommend? am i not being supportive which he’s said?

Just finished a 10 day mediterranean cruise on Resilient lady. Having only previously cruised on Scarlet lady in early 2022 at a third capacity on a 5 day Caribbean itinerary, I thought I would share my impressions.

1. This cruise was at capacity which I was worried about how the experience would differ. Overall, it did not feel busy to us. We didn't really have to wait in any lines, we were able to see all the shows we wanted, and we were able to book all the dinner reservations and gym classes we wanted. I will note that we knew to book restaurants as soon as we got on the ship and as soon as the exercise classes opened at 3pm. In comparison, this recent experience was much more lively and active. The previous cruise was creepy at times with venues often being empty.
2. This cruise seemed like a much older crowd than our previous experience- they said average age was 52. We are in our late 30's and it didn't seem like there were many younger passengers. With that said, the 5 day Caribbean itineraries are more likely to have a younger party crowd so we were partly expecting this to be an older demographic. There were a number of people who walked out of some of the performances making comments about having an agenda pushed down their throat, but overall, didn't feel like the "come as you are" vibe was impacted. The only issue I saw was that many of the older passengers seemed to not be aware of the option to order at your table in the galley. Most mornings, there were lines forming at the various breakfast counters unnecessarily, which made it often difficult to walk around. We ordered from the staff at our table and were able to be served and complete our meal within 30 minutes. So keep in mind you can use the red flag to order at the table- no need to line up! Another concern was that there were a lot of obviously sick older people coughing, etc. The amount of times we saw people touch things without using the readily available hand sanitizers after wiping their noses and coughing was quite astonishing. Yes, this happens on all cruises, but this seemed a bit more frequent than we have seen before.
3. All of the port tender and shuttles went really smoothly! Longest we had to wait for a shuttle was about 10 min in Crete. Disembarkation was also super quick as we were off the ship carrying our luggage within 10 min.
4. We bought the 5 day thermal spa pass for $259 each person. We aren't big party people or drinkers, so we would often go to the spa in the evening after dinner. If you do this, note that on one of the days you get a special sugar scrub and lotion to use as part of the mud room which was lovely!
5. We had a $600 bar tab which we used despite not drinking much. We had specialty coffees at each breakfast and also bought non-alcoholic drinks such as Humm Kombucha and Kin Euphorics. Also, each restaurant and bar seemed to have at least one or more non-alcoholic or low alcoholic options. Finally, if we did decide to have a drink, we splurged on expensive glasses of wine (Caymus, Moet, etc) which was a nice experience.
6. We booked an excursion at each port and all were pretty great experiences. Of note, I didn't think the excursion prices were that much more expensive than what I found on trip advisor, etc, so I preferred to book with the ship for flexibility and securing tender spots where needed.
7. One of the few negative experiences we had was the room location. I mentioned we aren't big on partying and treated this trip as more of a wellness and relaxation vacation. We booked an XL sea terrace about a year before the trip using a travel agent. I didn't bother to look at the room location and unfortunately we had 8330Z, which had a speaker from the Red Room right below. I'm not kidding when I say the room shook from the sound system- to the point where we had to disassemble the mini fridge shelves and pull out the drawers as they were knocking around so much and the noise was absurd. Even if you were hard of hearing, the vibration and shaking alone would make it impossible to relax and fall asleep. We reached out to sailor services who said they could offer ear plugs, but that was it. Luckily on the 2nd day, sailor services called us and offered us a room change to 11350A, an XL sea terrace (without hammock), which we gladly accepted. Note that Red Room entertainment goes to 11pm, so this would only be a problem if you are early to bed and early risers like us.
8. We had on board credit so decided to do the behind the scenes tour. It was definitely a good one-time experience and we learned a lot of interesting aspects. For example, all the restaurants cook the plates per order (yes there's prep, but there's not plates just sitting under a warmer waiting to be served). All pastries are made on ship. One of the striking impressions was that the staff seem to genuinely enjoy their job. Several times they said they were promoted quickly, there's lots of perks including being able to eat at the restaurants and book excursions, and they liked that they can show their tattoos, piercings, have hair of any color, etc. They also said there's purposely no visible rankings, uniform differences, or countries of origin listed. They want everyone treated with the same level of respect- you may actually have encountered the captain and not know it. It's a bit refreshing from the over the top interactions that staff on other cruise lines show. Staff seem genuinely in a good mood on Virgin.
9. Overall, this solidified that we love Virgin Voyages. We did an Alaska itinerary on Royal Caribbean (Quantum of the Seas) last summer and Virgin is a much better experience in our opinion. On RC, we felt like everything was an upsell or shopping centric and run down (yes it is an older ship than Resilient but it seemed grimy). Areas were over crowded on RC and overall felt chaotic. Virgin seemed to have longer stays in the ports than we have experienced on RC (less concerned with shopping and casino sales?) Also, not having kids on the cruise makes a big difference. Food is much better on Virgin, apart from us really liking the sushi restaurant on Quantum- note that we did the unlimited specialty restaurant package on Quantum as we thought the dining room quality had gone down and we don't like buffets. Overall, I feel that while Virgin is more expensive up front, it is a better quality experience. We will likely go on another RC cruise as my parents are avid cruisers and won't try another line despite our encouragement, but we are definitely sold on the Virgin experience. We used the book your next voyage promotion on the ship and will be going on Brilliant Lady in 2026 in a suite. Having a suite on the 2022 voyage and an XL terrace on this recent voyage, we feel the cost is worth it for the suite, although the XL sea terrace was still a very nice experience.

Happy to answer any questions you have!

I’m gonna lay out the whole context here, and it’s 2 years long so bear with me. A TL;DR isn’t really possible as there’s so much important context to whether or not IATA.
We’ve been married almost 10 years and she’s from overseas. She came here through our marriage. We were happy and doing extremely well for ourselves.
The problem started to 2 years ago. My friends wedding. Afterward we went out and then went to another friends house to continue partying. At the party one of the wedding guests started having a pity party about how he’s depressed because all these happy couples are around and he’s single.
For context. This guy is weird. He’s disrespectful to women, capitalizes on captive audiences (waitresses most often), and is overall a loser. He’s got a good job but that’s about it.
My wife, listens to his sob story and says “I have a sister!” and immediately starts FaceTiming her sister. This is something I’ve said isn’t okay. We’re not tinder, and we’re not matchmakers.
Beyond that her sister has a history of treating her poorly. She constantly told my wife she’s stupid growing up, well into adulthood. She blocked my wife for a whole year because my wife called her and told her not to go on boats with men she doesn’t know. Told my wife to live like she doesn’t have a sister. For a whole year I consoled my wife a couple times a week.
Anyways we were both drunk and with people so I’m not gonna start a fight right there. I figure I’ll talk to her about it maturely later. So I do. In the meantime, I switch to speaking Arabic with her sister and tell her this isn’t okay and isn’t what she wants.
Her and my wife to this day claim I was happy and supportive. They claim I was too drunk to remember. But there’s a few things wrong with this. I drove home, I take drinking and driving VERY seriously and would never, ever do it. In fact, if I know I’ve drank too much, I’ll hand my keys to a friend before the liquor starts hitting, just to avoid any possibility of making that bad decision.
Secondly, I switched to Arabic. I’m white. Arabic is a language I learned. When I speak it, I speak it very, very deliberately and remember the conversations perfectly. I know exactly what I said.
Anyways, when I talk to my wife later, I’m told how it’s wrong to prevent her from helping her sister and how her sister really likes this guy. A guy she talked to for 5 minutes. I told her it’s wrong to think of it as “helping” her sister in the first place and that her sister is a grown woman who can find her own partner.
So my wife says “okay I’ll tell my sister to stop talking to him”. That was the end of it. Or so I thought.
A few weeks later I’m at a different event and this guy let it slip they’re still talking. Immediately I’m upset and text my wife about how she lied to me.
She said her sister was really falling in love with this guy and separating them would be wrong. She said she did tell her sis to block him but when her sis went into a depression she told her she can unblock him and talk to him, behind my back.
Upset I told her we need to talk about going behind my back and how disrespectful of my boundaries this whole ordeal was. She said “it’s okay I’ll tell her to block him again”.
Over. Or so I thought for the next few months. A few months later I again am at an event with this guy and this time he’s smart enough to lie about them talking. But I’m a salesman and a bullshitter. You can’t bullshit me unless I trust you. I knew immediately he was lying but I let it go. I did ask my wife and she said no they’re not talking. So I believed her.
Well, a year and a half goes by. In that time her sister and her fought about how her sister could come to the US. We said we’d help her but it’s a lengthy process. At the time I had little animosity toward her sister and would’ve loved to see her come here and be near my wife again. She wasn’t happy with that and said it takes too long. This is her sister’s mindset.
Anyway. Her sister gets a B1 visa in the meantime, temporary business visitor and wants to come visit my wife. Lies through her teeth about her intentions to the immigration officer, telling them she wants to stay 90 days. They approve her for 60.
So we file for an extension ASAP so she can visit for 3 months. Staying with us the whole time. I wanted her to have fun on her visit so I arrange for my friends and I to go out. This guy shows up. She talked to him and told him our plans.
Immediately they disappear into the casino and come back holding hands and all kinds of PDA. I’m fuming because I know she’s a conniving word I won’t say here. I don’t say anything though and we go through the night and I let it go so I can have fun.
The next day he’s picking her up from my house and they’re out for the whole day. The next time my wife is off work, same story. Well, I thought you were here to visit her? And that’s where I put my foot down.
I got told it was wrong to try and control her, wrong to try and separate them, etc. etc. etc. Finally she blocks his number and he calls from a separate number. I turn off her SIM card because I’m not gonna support her going behind my back in my own home. He calls me and tells me he really loves her and just wishes I’d accept it.
I tell him very plainly I will never, ever accept it because it all stemmed from him, her, and my wife going behind my back. Primarily my wife, as she’s the only one of the three I should be able to trust is telling me the truth.
At this point, I feel as if my wife had an emotional affair, although it’s with her own family. She repeatedly chose to go behind my back, against a boundary I had told her repeatedly before this situation at my friend’s wedding after party ever transpired. If that’s not an emotional affair, I don’t know what is.
So I tell him bluntly to not call me anymore and I’m not going to change my stance, and his feelings don’t mean shit to me. He started to give me a sob story about how we’re friends and he I should be happy for him and I cut him off and told him to save his breath.
My wife is upset at me for how I talked to him. Another emotional affair. Trying to protect the feelings of this dude.
The next day, while my wife is at work I’m eating lunch at our dinner table and studying schoolwork her sister comes to the table and starts talking to me about this guy asking if I talked to him and I tell her plainly I did and what I told him.
She goes into a story about how she really loves him, she’s an adult woman and I shouldn’t be intervening etc. I told her I agree I shouldn’t ever have been involved and neither should my wife. I told her to save her breath with any talk of her feelings because I don’t care. She started crying telling me I’m cruel etc.
I told her at this point I’m done being nice. I’ve been lied to for 2 years and it’s over. I’m done being my laid back self and I’ve been pushed repeatedly and I’m standing up for my marriage and my boundaries.
I did turn her SIM card back on so she could call my wife and I, her hosts.
The next morning I wake up to my wife in tears calling me to her sisters room. Her sister is bawling her eyes out and packing her bags to go home. I talk her sister into coming for a car ride with my wife and I to talk things out.
Immediately in the car my wife starts berating her sister about how she’s selling her for a man and a whole host of other things. I calm my wife down and tell her that’s not okay to say to her sister. Because against what they thought I don’t want and would’ve never wanted this to cause a separation between them. I know how much my wife values family.
In the car her sister tells me she really loves this guy and that she can see them being a family one day etc. etc. etc. I tell her plainly don’t ever bring him around my house, if they do marry and have kids, don’t ever bring them around my house, and don’t consider me her brother in law because I will never do anything for her again after she goes home.
My wife is shocked, she’s shocked and they both wonder how I could be so cruel. I said I’m over it. I’m over hearing about this guy, I’m over being used, and I will never again trust her. She said she understands and resumes talking to this guy.
A few days later we’re in the car going to a family event with my family and I get asked if he can come. I said no, very politely. I said no, he’s not part of my family. I was told how terrible I am, and my wife and her sister both jump out of my car in a bad part of Chicago, an area neither of them know.
My wife calls my family and tells them I kicked them out of the car. So my family starts blowing up my phone screaming at me. Once I explained the situation my family said they’ll come pick them up but I hung around and kept driving by to make sure they were okay. Eventually my wife calls me and says they’ll get in.
So I pull over and they open the doors and my wife goes “I’m scared I don’t feel comfortable getting in the car with you”. So I drive away pissed off. This is a 85,000 car in a bad part of the city where carjackings happen every other day.
I go park somewhere but keep an eye on them to make sure they stay safe. A homeless guy passed them and my wife calls me to come get her. So I do and we go home.
Again her sister packs her shit and cries that she’s going home. I tell her to relax, sleep on it and we’ll talk in the morning. She does eventually and in the morning she decides she’ll stay.
A week goes by and I hear nothing about this guy from her. My friends and I all joked about him and made light fun of him. He caught wind of it and cried to my wife’s sister who told my wife, who came to me and aggressively told me to stop and leave them both alone. I got pissed off because this was a private convo between me and my friends and if he heard it and got his feelings hurt it’s on him.
This spiraled into a huge argument with me, my wife, and her sister. In the argument I asked her sister plainly if she planned to leave at the 90 day mark. She said no.
So I kicked her out of our house. Her and my wife went for a walk and I yelled out the front door to get her shit to the curb before the walk before I do, because if she doesn’t do it herself it’ll be thrown on the wet ground. They both thought I was joking before then I assume. Her sister comes in and packs her stuff and gets out. I said if you plan on staying here illegally it won’t be in my house. If the choose is between here or the streets, it’ll be the streets.
She went to stay with the boyfriend and his parents. His parents must not have liked her too much because within a couple weeks they made them both move out.
This was in January of this year.
Since then, I’ve been repeatedly goaded into accepting this. My wife has tried to get me to visit her sister, etc.
It came to a head recently at a wedding we went to for another friend. Her sister and this guy were there. I didn’t say a word to either one the entire night and all was fine.
Except my wife spent the whole night at their table because he wouldn’t dance or do anything to have fun. She can’t handle the idea that her sister might find something she doesn’t like about this guy. She has to be there just in case the relationship goes on life support.
This pisses me off, obviously. She’s more invested in their relationship than she’s been in ours for the past 2 years. Grown adults.
Well, today she was going to her sisters house. She had 2 bags. An ulta bag and a discovery bag. I asked what that is, and she said it’s for her sister. She pulled out taco shells and said it’s just small stuff she wants her to try. But I could see through the bag and saw beauty products. I’m not an idiot.
I looked in when she went to the bathroom and saw a fucking armoire full of shit. I looked at the receipt. $300. I was fucking livid.
I continued getting ready for work and said “her husband can’t buy her that?”. It’s confrontational, yes. But I said it politely, and was open to talking about it.
I get met with immediately hostility. I never raised my voice but I made it very clear I wasn’t being nice about this or anything anymore.
I told her “maybe she could pay you back and find you a new husband”. I’m going to give her a choice. Me or her sister now. Because this has gotten fucking ridiculous.
We pay for her to come here. She hired an immigration lawyer apparently, but doesn’t have money to pay me back for the flight or even pay for the Ubers they take or anything. My wife is trying to make up for this losers shortcomings. He’s too much of an idiot to see that her sister is using him.
By the way, this isn’t her first fiance. It’s not even her first western fiance. She’s been engaged to at least 3 different guys. One from France, another from Belgium, and a third from Canada before this guy. She was looking to immigrate. He’s a fucking idiot though so, oh well.
My wife’s sister is very materialistic. My wife is fortunately down to earth but is so far up her sisters ass because she thinks if she doesn’t do everything her sister wants that her sister will cut her from her life again. Which is exactly what would happen.
I told her that’s on her sister. I’m not asking her to never talk to her sister. I’m asking her to stop treating her sister like she’s a child and putting their relationship before ours. Stop bending over backwards for a grown woman who will throw you away the moment you’re inconvenient.
But it’ll never happen it seems and it’s the reason I’m strongly considering divorcing her. I’m over this fucking shit. Oh, and by the way, my wife claims that she’s scared of me etc. now when she tells the story to other people.
I have never and would never hit my wife. I’ve never given her any reason to be afraid of me. So to put that out there on me is absolutely fucking bullshit and I’ve lost all trust in her.
AITAH?

I don't know what to think anymore. I just came home from couple of beers session with my friends. On my way home, I've stopped from casino where I lost 15 euros. I've smoked few cigarettes, even though I've stopped a year ago and relapsed to smoking a few weeks ago with my friends at a beer session. I just WANTED to smoke a cig SO BAD. Man, I just missed the atmosphere, talking, drinking and smoking and just feeling ALIVE. I don't crave it sober, just when drinking. I've also relapsed to my overeating habit. Gained 10+ kilos. Can't get back on track with healthy eating and overeating horribly. Also I've lost my job but All the relapses started before I've lost my job..I just feel like losing at everything. I know it comes and goes, but I need back the times where I had it all figured out.

Hello, I'm a very new Steward for my Local. Sorry for the very long post, it's kinda half me venting a bit. It may be a bit disorganized, too.
I feel like my Unit is in a very weird, concerning spot that I don't feel is normal, and I was hoping to get some advice/opinions on it.
My Unit is in a casino, with the rest of the local being about 250 miles away. It's weird situation of the AFL-CIO getting involved with the Union that was at my Casino before, and to prevent the workers from going under, some retired Union members at the place stepped up and we got subsumed into our current Local because our fees couldn't support ourselves. From what I understand the distance from our head Local office and Staff reps makes it difficult to get things proper.
Over the last 3 years, the three Stewards that were on the shop floor were fired for one reason or another. One of them got hired on to work our Units office, and another is still fighting for their job back after 2 years (Which is wild in itself, from what I understand of Just Cause and whatnot they should NOT have been fired. The company is dragging their feet intentionally.) In the interim, they were hired on to do Stewarding work full time, because otherwise there would have been no Stewards at all. She, along with the help of our treasurer, have done it themselves until I came on board. And her job was made that much harder by the sheer hostility management has towards her, which they take so far as to constantly basically ban her from the property unless she notifies them ahead of time, and insulting and shutting her down in meetings. It's pretty bad. So as such, I'm the only Steward we have on the Casino property, currently. I also just became our Units Recording Secretary. I have to constantly watch my back at work, which can be difficult as a food server in an unhosted, fast paced environment where management constantly shifts rules.
We have been skirting the 30% membership requirement to stay. Over Covid, the company tried to get rid of the Union, and almost was successful. In our last vote and just barely made it. Our treasurer, who has been in the game for a very long time, has said that the company is one of the most anti-union workplaces he's ever seen. And our contract, he says is one of the worst he's seen. He states that it has been hard for us to do anything about the anti-union practices due to low membership and just lack of hands to be able to do anything. There's just so many issues that the other Steward is very much overwhelmed with calls and texts, and we're talking 5+ different calls almost every day about problems, and that's mostly only from the beverage department.
In fact, the anti-union activity performed by the Casino has been so bad that most workers don't even know they are in the Union (Right to work state, yay!!). In our contract, we cover people even if they aren't active dues paying members. There's constant daily miscommunication and mistakes that honestly have gotten so bad that it has to be intentional. It's absurd.
I'm pretty nervous about how to really handle things, since I feel like the situation is pretty delicate. It has been hard for me to learn from the other Steward and the Treasurer, since they are both so busy all the time (I feel bad that our Treasurer has to help us so much already, he handles like 5-7 other contracts or something.) Thing also take days at a time to get accomplished, it's very frustrating. I've got a few books I'm reading, all by Robert Schwartz (Just Cause, how to win Past Practice, and the Legal Rights of Union Stewards) which have helped me understand, somewhat.
I have mostly focused my efforts on trying to get the Unit set up to handle the issues better. I'm a very techy person, and I've been coding a website and reporting tool so that we can streamline receiving complaints and making it easier for members to report things. I'm hoping to use the website as a tool to also spread information and communicate better to the members. A big complaint that I've observed and heard is that, while yeah the other steward has been doing it herself the entire time, there's a severe lack of communication. There's a general feeling from the members that the Union is useless and does nothing. Trying to get members to properly do things like call for a representative or even report really everything that goes on is like trying to pull teeth.
That's the biggest hurdle I think we face, really. Gaining the trust back from the members. Something I personally feel can be addressed through teaching, and just sheer better communication. I would try and talk to the other Steward about the issues, but she gets immediately so defensive and stubborn that it becomes next to impossible to discuss almost anything with her.
There's more I could tell about the place, but this is already long enough.
I'm so damn frustrated with everything here, but I'm absolutely determined to help these people that are being used and abused by the Casino. It absolutely pisses me off because it's all in the name of money and profit. This industry is really harsh on its workers, it's insane. But I'm grasping at straws and I'm finding it hard to rationalize the stress I'm taking on. I feel as if I'm fighting the Union as much as I am the Company.
-Are there not resources in the overarching Union (International?) to assist with Locals/Units that are failing?
-Is anyone else here in a Casino union that perhaps has experience dealing with the greedy nature of the company?
-Any tips on handling a very hostile management?
-The other Steward and the Treasurer constantly say that due to our sheer lack of bargaining power we can't accomplish anything. How really true is that?

I am a producer and we have a great crew that come together multiple times per year, so we are like family and all know and love each other. On our first jobs together, everyone was professional and didn't order alcohol, maybe 1 drink max at dinners if that. After a few years, our crew members are now ordering many drinks at dinner, buying cases of beer on the production then taking it home, leaving for hours the night before a big production day to a casino and drinking a lot, etc. It really bothers me because alcohol affects your performance the next day (we had a crew member mess up but it was not catastrophic luckily) and they are also ordering tons of food that gets thrown away and uneaten or donated to the hotel staff. It is starting to bother me that they are taking advantage of our company and ordering way more than necessary, including alcohol, taking beer bought by the company home, and also having their performance suffer the next day. I am trying to make production fun and something to look forward to, but this has gone too far.
How do you recommend I handle this? Should I implement a policy where we do not pay for any alcohol or max 1 drink per person at dinners only, tell the other producer to not order too much food, I don't want to be lame but I also feel uncomfortable with how far all this has gone at this point.

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Maybe I'm crazy but I think this year I've seen more free packs exclusively in the shop than any year before and I was wondering why that is.
My tin foil idea is that because Sony wants to squeeze out as much money as possible from SDS, the best way to spend your in game currency is to gamble. If you gamble a lot you're likely to buy stubbs.
It's like going to the casino or a betting app. You might get 10 free spins or $150 after your first bet but they know some are gonna get suckered in.
Now I really don't think it's working. Looking at players you can buy in the shop most have extremely low Parallel 1 outside of the meta (ie ketel probably has a lot despite his cost.
I think Sony wants to do 2 things with free packs
1) give an alcoholic his first drink and he can't stop. Emulate that
2) SDS can show its overlords that people are "buying packs" and they're push for more money is working, they just don't specify which packs. Investors will see that their push to turn into fifa mut or myteam is working as planned.
Maybe I'm crazy. I worked both jobs today so it could be my lack of sleep