Early miscarriage quotations

(California)On friday we celebrated mothers day at work and since im not a mother was not allowed to leave early. I was the only women left and my manager came in and started saying how im not a mom and i dont get to go home early that i never had to leave my child at 2 months or given birth it's mot womens days it mothers day and l'm not allowed. For context ive been trying to get pregnant for two years and have had two miscarriages so for him to say that was hard. I talked to my supervisor today and told him what happened and he said he wasnt allowed to talk to me or anyone like that ever and that he singled me out and it was discrimination which i wasnt aware. When we sat down with the manager he said that he did a good thing and people get offended that thats just the way it goes. That his wife also went throuhh that so he knew how i felt. It was obvious to me and my supervisor that he wasnt sincere. And i told hin ge was just trying to cover himself and he said that he wasnt that he wouldnt get in trouble anyway. So when the guy incharge of the company cane and apologized that he knew where my manager was coming since i qas infact not a mom. I saidnit wasnt even about that it's aboit the way he talked to me and that I still wanted to talk to hr. That if he didnt know what he did wrong or didnt think ge did anything wrong he would just do it again. After reading all these posts about hr and how they didn't do anything i just want to leave it alone. I havent talked to them theyre coming on Wednesday am I allowed to just say nevermind i dont want to talk to them. Or regardless will i have to talk to them.

Alright, by this I mean that the pregnancy timer totally disappeared and now my sim is stucked in the first trimester (she didn't even reach the second or third one before the timer vanished).
I have both MCCC and Better Exceptions Full Report and indeed, they're both telling me that some small mods are broken or not updated and that therefore they could be causing bugs in the game. And because they're small things that I barely use on the game, I don't mind deleting them completely as it won't affect much my gameplay.
Problem is, even after that, the bug is still there so I'm starting to wonder if somebody else has the same trouble. I'm genuinely surprised because it's the first time ever I go through this bug (I know some time around march of last year it happened the same to many) and I don't know how to solve it by now. I genuinely don't want to force a miscarriage/early birth or make my sim have an abortion (mostly because I literally had to make her and her partner do the woohoo like five times before finally getting pregnant), but so far it really seems to be the only solution as it's starting to drive me nuts (indeed, I'm impatient with my sims).

DISCLAIMER: This respectful and civil debate is oriented towards muslims. For the sake of the moderators time and also the readers I will only list 5 problems I've found. But don't worry I have 20 more to post if this post has more traffic!
According to the Quran, Jesus was a prophet of Islam, his followers were Muslims and the gospel is the inspired preserved authoritative word of Allah. But when we go to our earliest records, we find Jesus claiming to be the Divine Son of God who would die on the cross for sins and rise from the dead. Jesus followers proclaimed him as their Risen Lord, the gospel that Christians have been reading for nearly 2,000 years tells us that "Anyone who claims to be a prophet, rejects Jesus death, resurrection and deity is a false prophet and an antichrist" - 1 John 2:22, a verse to remember.
Problem 1. Earlier Records for Paul's Life than for Muhammad's Life - Our records of Paul's life are much earlier than our records of Muhammad's life. And here I don't just mean that Paul came centuries before Muhammad and so we have earlier sources for Paul's life, I mean that when we talk about the teachings and deeds of Paul the biographical sources we use are much closer to the events they report than the biographical sources we use when we talk about the teachings and deeds of Muhammad. Our earliest biographical sources on Paul were written during the lifetime of Paul. The book of Acts for example was written in the early 60s before Paul was martyred, and it was written by a traveling companion of Paul who was an eyewitness to many of the details he reports. We also have numerous letters written by Paul himself. Our earliest detailed biographical source on Muhammad is the sirah (biographical literature), especially the work of Ibn Ishaq (d. 768) which was written more than a century after Muhammad's death. And we don't even have what Ibn Ishaq actually wrote. We have an Abridged version that was sanitized by a later scholar and we shouldn't forget that many Muslims don't trust Ibn Ishaq. When Muslims quote stories about Muhammad, they're usually getting their information from sources like Sahih Al-Bukhari and Sahih Muslim, which were written two centuries after the time of Muhammad.
Problem 1.1. But it gets worse... The main reason for composing works like Sahih Al-Bukhari and Sahih Muslim was that Muslims were composing so many false stories about Muhammad, people didn't know what to believe. Scholars like Bukari decided that they needed to collect stories they thought were accurate in order to distinguish them from the ever increasing supply of false narrations. Now if Muslims during the time of Bukhari were inventing stories about Muhammad, what about the generation before that, and the generation before that..? And the generation before that? Two centuries is a lot of time to make things up, that's why it's always good to have sources written within the lifetime of the person you want to know about or at least within the lifetimes of the eyewitnesses. When we learn about Paul we learn about him through first generation eyewitness accounts. When we learn about Muhammad, we learn about him through late sources written by people who didn't know him, whose parents didn't know him and whose grandparents didn't know him. People who were fishing for historical facts in a sea of fabrication and deception. A few years ago the crumbling historical foundations for the life of Muhammad led the Islamic scholar Muhammad Sven Kalisch to conclude that Muhammad probably never existed. I don't agree with Dr Kalisch's conclusion about Muhammad's existence, but when even Muslim Scholars are starting to recognize how difficult it's become to take Muslim sources seriously our confidence in the historical Muhammad vanishes.
Problem 2. Paul Was a brillian scholar; Muhammad Was Not - The Apostle Paul was a brilliant scholar who defended his views in Athens, the intellectual capital of the ancient world, and in other major cities. He had discussions with the Stoic and Epicurian philosophers of his day and he could quote their sources to them. Even Anthony Flu, one of the 20th Century's most impressive critics of Christianity, said that the Apostle Paul possessed a first class philosophical mind. Muhammad by contrast was an illiterate 7th Century Caravan Trader. Now being an illiterate 7th Century Caravan Trader doesn't make you wrong, just as being a brilliant scholar doesn't make you right. But when we're dealing with claims about history and theology and various other topics having some sort of education helps. Not having an education leaves you open to obviously false revelations because you don't know enough to recognize them as false. This is why we find Muhammad telling his followers that Dhul-Qarnain traveled so far west he found the place where the sun sets, and that stars are missile that Allah uses to shoot demons, and that semen is formed between the backbone and the ribs. These are exactly the sort of absurdities we would expect from someone who has no clue what he's talking about, and who therefore has no clue whether his revelations line up with reality.
Problem 3. Paul knew the Old Testament; Muhammad Did Not - The Apostle Paul was a Pharisee who studied under Rabban Gamaliel II, one of the greatest Jewish rabbis of the first century. Paul knew the Old Testament inside and out which is why he quotes the Old Testament so frequently in his writings. This is important because Jesus claimed to fulfill a variety of Old Testament prophecies and you can't really examine this claim if you don't know what the Old Testament says. Muhammad was almost completely ignorant of the Old Testament because his knowledge of the Jewish scriptures was limited to what he heard in conversations. Not surprisingly despite Muhammad's numerous interactions with Jews in Arabia the Quran contains very few quotations from the Old Testament. Due to his ignorance of the scriptures Muhammad couldn't tell the difference between stories that were in the Torah and therefore divine revelation and stories from later Jewish writings and commentaries some of which were so late and so obviously fabricated they weren't far beyond the level of bedtime stories. Imagine how amusing it must be for someone who specializes in Jewish literature, to read the Quran and find so many fables being presented to Muslims as Revelation. Cain being taught how to bury the dead by a raven (al-Ma`idah (The Table, The Table Spread) 5:31), Solomon listening to a speech by an ant (Surah An-Naml - 15-25). But Muhammad just didn't know enough to distinguish scripture from non-scripture. Muhammad's ignorance of the Old Testament is also noteworthy because, like Jesus, he claimed to fulfill Old Testament prophecies. If Muhammad had been more knowledgeable of the Torah, he would have known that he couldn't possibly be a prophet for numerous reasons. For instance:
Problem 3.1 Muslim sources report that Muhammad once delivered what are now called "The Satanic Verses" to his followers. These verses promoted prayers to three pagan goddesses, Al-Lat and Al-'Uzza and Manat (Surah 53:19-20). Muhammad bowed down in honor of these polytheistic verses and his followers bowed down with him. But a little later Gabriel confronted Muhammad about his sin, Muhammad confessed in the history of AT-TABARI 6:111. So Muhammad admitted that he delivered a revelation that didn't really come from God. Why is this important? Well in Deuteronomy 18:20 "God declares but a prophet who presumes to speak in my name anything I have not commanded or a prophet who speaks in the name of other gods is to be put to death".
Problem 3.2 Muslims claim that they respect Moses, but if Muhammad had delivered "The Satanic Verses" during the time of Moses, Moses would have ordered the people to pick up stones and stone him to death as the most obvious false prophet in history. Muhammad didn't realize this due to his lack of familiarity with the Jewish scriptures.
Problem 4. Paul Was a Contemporary of Jesus Muhammad was not - The apostle Paul was a contemporary of Jesus and he spent much of his time in first century Israel, this put Paul in a perfect position to gain accurate historical information about Jesus. If you want reliable information about a person it's pretty helpful being a member of the person's own generation. And Paul was right there. Muhammad was born more than half a millennium after Jesus death in a completely different country. Since he couldn't read, apart from Divine Revelation his knowledge of Jesus was limited to whatever stories were popular in 7th Century Arabia. This is why when we read the Quran we find so many stories about Jesus that are known to be forgeries. Mary giving birth under a palm tree Surah Maryam - 16-26, Jesus preaching when he was still a baby Surat Maryam [19:29-34], Jesus giving life to clay birds Surah Al-Ma'idah - 110. We know where these stories come from, and they don't come from the first century.
Problem 5. Paul Spoke the Relevant Lanugaes Muhammad Didn't - The Apostle Paul was fluent in Hebrew Aramaic and Greek. All of the languages necessary for understanding the Old Testament, the claims of Jesus and the earliest Christian writings. Muhammad couldn't speak any of the relevant languages so any attempt to understand the Old Testament, the claims of Jesus, or the earliest Christian writings would have required the help of interpreters. I normally wouldn't bring this up as a problem, but since Muslims are obsessed with reading the Quran in the original Arabic, we can only assume that the writings of Moses, the teachings of Jesus and the writings of Jesus followers can only be understood in the original languages. Paul could do that, Muhammad couldn't. Muhammad's ignorance of the original languages leads to further problems: For example the Quran refers to the book revealed through, Jesus as the "Injil", but the Arabic word Injil is ultimately derived from the Greek word "Evangelion" meaning good news. So according to the Quran the book, revealed through Jesus was written in Greek, this makes absolutely no sense if Jesus was only sent to his fellow Jews as Islam claims, but it makes perfect sense if Jesus message was for the rest of the world as well since Greek was the international language of the time. Interestingly the New Testament gospels were written in Greek, exactly what we would expect given the quran's use of the term Injil, but quite unexpected given Muhammad's notion of Jesus life and mission, not to mention Muhammad's conviction that Revelations can't be translated. Quite hypocritical indeed.

I had a dating ultrasound May 1 and baby measured around 8 weeks, they had a strong little heart beat and I got to take home pictures 💖 A week or two prior, I started to feel extremely nauseous. Food aversions and digestion issues stuck around (i.e. I can only eat small amounts, constipation is on and off a thing).
I experienced an early loss in January, my 6 week dating scan wasn't optimal and I never got to see any ultrasound images. By the next scan, I experienced a missed miscarriage. The ordeal was difficult, I didn't expect to get pregnant right away.
My partner and I took a week vacation in Mexico and I came home and found myself pregnant. This time around, the nausea was so intense and the symptoms overall have been pretty consistent until these 10 weeks. This week I have a bit more of an appetite, some food seems less repulsive. I'm trying not to panic at any minor change and I don't want feeling sick 24/7 to be my only reassurance.
I have a second midwife appointment May 24th and my anatomy scan May 31, so I'll definitely bring this up in that appointment and the scan will provide a lot of reassurance. Just curious about other mamas experiences in the first trimester.
Is it possible for some symptoms to start subsiding around 10 weeks?

Thanks in advanced for any insights! I’ll try to be brief:
-early 2022 we met (As of today I am 32 y.o. and they’re 30) and immediately clicked. They said they were poly (I am mono) and at the time I was willing to try it out thinking it would just be a fling.
-I fell head over heels in love with them!
-Spring 2022 I was unable to cope with their polyamory, it was emotionally killing me so I ended the relationship. I told them I will not ask them to change and it’s best to go separate ways.
-they pursued me saying we could make it work, so we got back together
-summer 2022 ouch, nope my emotional reactions are too painful! I love them but I can’t be happy in a relationship like this, so we end it again after I explain. At this point I put firm boundary that they are not to try to reignite any romance with me. I am very hurt and angry.
-they leave town for months. I miss them and still have feelings but don’t reach out.
-late fall 2022 they reach out to me and start talking about missing me, said they “want to come home” to me. I explain that I can’t be with them bc I can’t handle the poly. They said they know and that they would rather be with me because they love me and want a future together. I still have feelings, I love them! So we get back together and they move in. Many discussion on what this means. They are firm in choosing monogamy and choosing me of their own free will.
-april 2023 we have a big fight bc they are secretly texting an ex and I am not okay with it. I try to end the relationship but they want to talk and tell me they messed up but this is what they want, to be with me. So I forgive them and we are still committed to each other.
-we continue living together and I am having insecurity and trust problems, but things are mostly good! We discuss problems regularly and they reaffirm they are committed and here for me.
-July 2023 I get preg; they propose marriage and I accept! Then I have a miscarriage. We agree to stay engaged because we want a family together someday.
-May 2024 we have big fight after they go out of town and hang out w their friend but hide from me that they also hung out with a woman my partner is v attracted to whom I’m insecure about. They say they want it to work and they are starting therapy. They say it’s hard and my insecurity makes them feel unsafe. We halt wedding planning because they are unsure.
I am physically sick with worry everyday for weeks now. Vomiting, can’t sleep. My heart hurts, excruciating. I love them and they said they wanted to be with me, fully understanding that means monogamy.
What to do?

I had a miscarriage early April and hubby and I were devastated. We were so excited to add baby 2 to the family but made peace with having an early loss and carried on. May 9th I found out I’m pregnant again. Not sure how quickly I got pregnant/how far along I am but I’m so shocked! I thought It’d take me some time to get pregnant again but I did pretty much immediately.
I’m genuinely curious how often that happens? Has this happened to anyone else? (Before anyone questions my HCG went down immediately with the MC, and I was fully negative on test and blood work about a week and a half after so I know this is genuinely a new pregnancy.)

My sister has a history of being somewhat psychologically abusive to me. I’m just learning how bad it actually has been this year. At least I think this is psychological abuse, I need help understanding it. It’s really a mind maze. I was always made to believe I was the abuser though I had no memory of ever being abusive, I’m not an abusive person at all, people will tell you I’m very kind, I cry over hurt animals on tv, and I run a nonprofit. Abuse is outside of my nature.
Her abuse started with creating mental health issues I do not have and spreading lies about me having those mental health issues to try to tarnish my reputation, even going so far as trying to convince me that I’m crazy or imbalanced when I’m actually quite rational.
I’ve been in therapy for over 15 years and I’ve been consistently medicated for over a decade. I’m very stable. Im diagnosed with bipolar disorder and anxiety PTSD. I’ve been diagnosed and rediagnosed by multiple professionals. That is all I have. Nothing more nothing less.
She and her wife have spread that I am a paranoid schizophrenic, borderline personality disorder, a narcissist, a sociopath, delusional. Their “diagnosis” changes depending on what they need it to be in the moment.
She has used moments where I actually have had mental health issues against me, she left me in a mental hospital for up to 9 days by myself in LA twice while simultaneously destroying my reputation behind my back so when I came out of the hospital everyone treated me like a nutcase. I was ignored, avoided, talked down to by her friends. She would invite me to come over then later tell me all the mean things her friends said about me when I wasn’t there, kicking my confidence into the dirt. This was at a time when I was already in an abusive relationship and had no one on my side. I spent time with my sister because she was all I had and I was desperate to be loved by someone, I was desperate for approval.
10 years ago my sister was living with me. I had a mental breakdown after a miscarriage and I tried to kill myself. She took my suicide attempt and my tragedy and turned it around and used it to make herself a victim and made up a story about how I abused her during that time, simultaneously taking all the attention that I needed to heal off of me and putting it on her. I spent that year being battered by family about what an abusive person I was, never understanding where it came from, thinking I must be some horrible monster that blacked out whole swaths of memory while my sister soaked up pity. I hated myself for a long time. And I worked to win my sisters approval. She refused to speak to me for the next year, and I walked on eggshells around her for fear I’d be accused of abuse again.
While I was in treatment she was supposed to be caretaking my house. She brought a film crew into my home to film a movie, damaged stuff, then abandoned my home and I had to drop out of treatment early and go home because she bailed.
We got along for a few years and even got close for a little bit but there was some weird stuff
She dragged my parents into a family therapy session I wasn’t invited to where the therapist accused me of elder abuse and told my dad he needed to have me arrested. My parents were confused and disturbed. My sister thought it was funny. After that she switched therapists… and started seeing MY therapist. She poisoned my own therapist against me. For over a year I had no relationship with my therapist because I couldn’t trust her to open up to her because she was also seeing my sister. Now I have a new therapist and I’m learning that there are all kinds of notes in my chart that don’t make sense from my sister that my new therapist is now trying to fix.
10 years and a lot of therapy later I have learned while working with my new therapist that no, I didn’t black anything out. And no I didn’t abuse anyone. Those stories were most likely made up by someone who was jealous because I was getting attention. I had to have a therapist break it down for me. When I realized the pettiness of it I was shocked at the amount of bullshit I have been tolerating from my own blood for the last decade.
Two Christmas’s in a row she showed up to Christmas, brought gifts for everyone but me and my boyfriend, handed them out to everyone in front of us and had them open them, and then turned to us and said “sorry we don’t have anything for you.”
I’m a musician and she showed up to my show and walked out in the middle of my performance.
After that I lost my temper with her and went off on her about how selfish she is and she blocked me and cut me out of her life and has not spoken to me since. The new lie she is spreading is that I’m dangerous and I’m a threat to her safety. She had to cut me off because I was threatening her. She turned her wife’s whole family against me. I’ve been called deranged, delusional, unhinged…
Since then she has started demanding all family events be held at her house which prevents me from being there. She’s set up surprise family events and invited everyone but me.
She’s guilt tripping anyone who doesn’t show up to her events by literally breaking down in tears about feeling left out if I’m there. And everyone in my family is afraid to tell her to knock it off because they’re afraid of being cut off too.
Am I off base in thinking this looks a lot like narcissistic abuse and behaviour?

My family and I (24F) found out at the end of last summer, around the beginning of August that my cousin (25F) is actually my sister. Three DNA tests confirmed it. A little back story for you- this has been a “joke” in my dad’s side of the family for my whole life. Mostly coming from him. “What if __ is really your sister? laughs I’m just kidding there’s no way.” Always those types of jokes. I never thought anything about it because she looks SO much like my uncle, but my dad and him look very similar. Also her birthday and my birthday are so close that my dad would’ve had to of cheated on my mom when they FIRST met. Okay. Now to why I thing incest is going on. She started talking to my dad pretty often in August, they did the first test (23 & Me) came back as my half sister. She lived in a different state at that time (August 2023). There’s talk about her trying to plan a trip up to “meet” us all (even though she’s met us all before???) with her fiancé that she had been with for about 6-7 months. Every time it was gonna happen it didn’t. Early September she finds out she’s pregnant. Late September, she finds out she had a miscarriage. She says she needs support bc she has none in the state she’s in. (At that time she lived with her mom and step dad and her two kids, I know her mom, she can be the hovering type but she is VERY OPENLY supportive of her) So she comes to visit for a weekend. They’re at the grocery store (my dad, half sister, my full blood brother, and her fiance) she said she “lost the rest of the baby” now I’ve been lucky enough to never have to experience a miscarriage so I don’t know how that works. She leaves on Sunday. Comes back again the next weekend. Goes home again that Sunday. The next time she came, she didn’t leave. She moved in that quickly. Left her kids with her mom, and said she wanted to build a better life for them. Good for her! After she moves in, the whole house shifted. Mind you, she did move in with her fiancé. There was tension everyday. Arguments way more often than ever in this house not just between her and her finance, but everybody (in the house was:my step-mom, the fiance, my dad, my brother, my half sister, me, my boyfriend, and my 5 kids) They start sitting hip to hip. Not too weird. Then she started following him everywhere. Like to the point where he got up to go to the bathroom, and she followed and stood by the door until he was finished. Then they start holding hands. Openly btw. My step mom confronts that, he says that (we’ll call her A) A, just needs someone, she wants him to make her feel loved, and protected. Whenever they would leave, it was always just them and my brother or just them. Her fiance NEVER went with them ANYWHERE. He started thinking there was someone else because they weren’t having sex, she didn’t want to be around him, wasn’t affectionate, barely talked to him. Weird thing is those same things were happening to my dad and step mom’s relationship of 12 years. December comes, and they’re “staying up so late” they fall asleep on the couch, her head on his lap, or shoulder, him sitting upright. Then it upgrades to them spooning on the couch. Then they start sleeping in my brothers room (he slept in the living room for a while before he started letting them sleep in there, I don’t remember the reason but he is 23). So they start sleeping in my brothers room. So the set up at that point was, my dad and A in one room, my brother in the living room, step mom in what used to be my dad and her room, the fiance on the third floor in what used to be his and A’s room, me and my family in the basement (it’s finished and there’s more room down here). Around Christmas, we find out she’s pregnant. The only people that knew were: me, my boyfriend, my brother and my dad. She didn’t want the fiance to know because she was planning on leaving him in a week from then, and she didn’t want our step mom to know because she didn’t want her to tell the fiance. I thought it was immediately weird, given the sleeping arrangements. So a week goes by, she goes to her old town to get her other daughter (court order—not gonna go into details w/ that) but the fiancé stays home for only the 2nd time. They make these trips every weekend, it was all 3 of them up until about the second week of December ‘23. She breaks up with him, and he comes down to my room, and is bawling. Like, I’ve never seen a man cry like that. He goes on to say that they havent been the same in months, there has to be somebody else she doesn’t love him anymore. We talk with him, try to comfort him, say our goodbyes and then he goes to get some things from our garage. My bf follows him, and the finance ends up saying either: they haven’t had sex at all since the miscarriage in September’23 OR they haven’t had much sex since the miscarriage in September ‘23. So he moves back to his home town, and then they come home on Sunday like they always do. Except this time, they start sleeping in A’s OLD bedroom. The one her and the fiancé shared. Even more privacy. Fast forward to now. They’re still sleeping in that bedroom, she has sex toys in her night stand (I thought she stole a hair claw from me so I went snooping, I know invasion of privacy but she had the EXACT hair claw that I had, and mine was missing), my dad waits on her, gets her food, drinks etc. He’s been to every single baby appointment she’s had (I did confront him abt this because I have 5 kids and he’s NEVER been to ANY of my OBGYN appointments or ultrasounds for them, his reasoning for going with her is that she has nobody up here), he asked my brother if THEY could take over his room again when she’s has the baby which is September. (Which makes the conceived month, December), He stopped making comments to me about wearing a tank top or shorts. He used to say something along the lines of “you look like a hooker” or “put more clothes on” now, nothing. My step-mom got sick and is in a nursing home now, and has been for over a month and he still hasn’t went back to his bedroom. He washes their clothes (in my head, what 48y/o dad would be washing/touching his 25y/o daughter’s bras, and underwear? He’s never done my laundry, and him and my step mom always did their own). I don’t think ITA for thinking these things, but I’m wondering what others would think if they were in this situation I guess.
Edit: I forgot to add, when they started sleeping in my brothers room I went in there to wrap presents for my kids. My dad had a white t shirt on the bed, and I picked it up. As I did that, the shirt unstuck itself. Clearly some “bodily fluids” (don’t know how explicit I can get but yes probably what you’re thinking). I told my brother, he IMMEDIATELY called my dad and confronted him. My dad said that it was indeed that, BUT he was in there alone. (Why are you doing that in your son’s room?) then he asked who knew. Brother told him just him, even though him, my step mom and myself knew. Then my dad said not to tell anybody else. This phone call was on the car radio on their weekend trip to her hometown. Completely fooled my brother, and since then if anything like that is talked about my dad in front of my brother, he gets super defensive IMMEDIATELY.

I had a d&c april 25th because of missed miscarriage at ten weeks (baby stopped growing at 8). I only had cramps the first few days after and some pain then. All symptoms stopped, the achy breasts, nausea, food aversions, and cravings. Some odd headaches. Nothing bad.
Bled a week like the lightest period. Then brown blood. Then yellow/white discharge. Some days dark pink but again no pain.
18 days later (2 1/2 weeks) my breasts hurt. I'm nauseous. Exhausted. Spotting pink when I wipe after a week of not. My back hurts. I have cramps again.
So what gives? More healing? Ovulation?
It can't be a period this early, right?
I wish i knew what my body was trying to do.
We're not trying right now. In fact preventing for the first time in almost ten years to let my body recover fully. I just don't like wondering what is actually going on with my body 😣
What was your experience?

Hi friends -
After many months of TTC, all sorts of fertility tracking with Mira, switching to a GF diet (already have been plant-based forever) and countless supplements, - I had gotten a bfp 2 days before my missed period. I only tested early because I was SO incredibly nauseous and my boobs hurt like no other. We were so excited because I have PCOS (no insulin resistance, not overweight, no irregular cycles ever, just some cortisol and testosterone dysregulation with mild hirsutism)and subclinical hypothyroidism (T3 issues) so I always was told my chances would be slim to none.
Of course because of that, my anxiety was elevated and I focused on line progression, a lot. Every little cramp I had made me nervous, despite them being mild. Sadly I watched my lines start to fade over the week and went in yesterday for a quantitative HCG draw after some light brown spotting. I don’t have those results yet. But this morning at just about 5 weeks, I woke up to two negative tests (digital and frer with FMU) coupled with the worst cramps of my life and some period like bleeding.
Ironically, today was my intake call with the OB office, and when I answered and they asked how things were going and I told them how this morning went they responded with “oh I’m so sorry, just go to the ER” and as an ER nurse, I know that’s not really necessary. But I’m annoyed because they didn’t leave me any room to ask questions and also promptly hung up after and cancelled all upcoming appointments per my MyChart notifications. I sat on hold calling back for 45 minutes to try and get connected with someone, but gave up with the long wait.
So I’m pretty sad, to say the least, and feeling really defeated. My question is - how long after a chemical/early miscarriage were you able to conceive? I’m looking at the bright side being that at least my body could do this - since I was told forever I couldn’t. But I can’t help but wonder and hope this wasn’t a one off thing.

Trigger warning (pregnancy loss)
This is my first time posting so I’m a little nervous! Leading up to my current pregnancy I experienced 3 early miscarriages. While each was disappointing, I bounced back quite quickly because they were at similar stages and just before a heartbeat. The third one was the most challenging, because I was pregnant with the same timing as my sister. While she carried to term, I didn’t, and I quietly found it difficult to watch her progress and eventually hold my nephew (he is a SUPER CUTE and ENGAGING baby and I love him so much!). While I didn’t voice any of discomfort with watching my sister’s pregnancy, my family innately stayed respectful and didn’t over share or over focus on her baby when having conversations with me.
When she was pregnant, my sister and her husband decided to keep their name choice private but in a special sister moment with me, she decided to let me in on the secret. I was shocked. Their choice was a variation on the boy name we had chosen. There is no way she could have known, and even if she did, I don’t believe in saving names for babies that haven’t been born. At the time, I remember telling myself, what if i eventually pregnant and have a girl. How special would it be then to still have such a lovely boy name in the family (even though again, it’s a variation of the name, not identical). I must have been quiet when she first told me because a moment later she panicked and thought I didn’t like it. I explained that it was the opposite and that I LOVE it so much it’s actually my first choice and I quickly whiped out my phone and showed her my baby name app where I had it listed as 1st place. She is super sweet and immediately said that the variation is different enough and that I should still use it. My husband and I agree it’s definitely not and we would be really weird using it, resulting in the same nickname and with us being second.
Fortunately a month later, I got pregnant again and I’m significantly further along and past much risk of miscarriage. The pregnancy seems super similar to my daughter, who I carried to term and she’s a healthy preschooler now. We’re just waiting to hear the fetal sex next week and really only want to know in order to pick a name (I would be just as excited for a girl as I would be for a boy and vice versa and I’m really not into “gender” reveal presentations). Part of me has been sort of wishing more for a girl just to be rid of this naming concern.
However, this morning I woke up and found out my cousin delivered a baby girl and used a variation of girl name we’ve been set on, again resulting in the same nickname. We are actually low contact, and there is absolutely no way she could have known. The variation she chose is a family name of her other side of her family and honestly I think it’s perfect for them. It also sounds adorable with her son’s name as a sibling set.
Not much gets me down but I’m feeling disappointed. I’m not upset with either my sister or my cousin, I’m just sad about the timing and circumstance. I regretfully shared this with my mom who is normally very understanding. I was really surprised to hear her frustration with my disappointment. She doesn’t understand why I’m sad, and said to go ahead and use the variation that I like. We live out of state so the kids won’t be around each other much, and since I’m low contact with my cousin, it doesn’t even matter. I still find it too weird to give basically the same name to baby born into a family as small as ours especially in the same year. In the two conversations we had about it, my mom thinks I’m being ridiculous. She said I’ll obviously just come up with something else since eventually all babies get a name. AITAH?

We currently have a wonderful 2.5 year old daughter. She is a little ball of energy and definitely keeps us on our toes. We always thought we wanted two, and started trying for a second when she was about 17 months old. I got pregnant right away, but sadly it ended in a very early loss. I got pregnant again and experienced a second loss at 12 weeks. The second loss was extra devastating because it was a blindside loss after a prior healthy ultrasound with a strong heartbeat. We had found out we were having another girl the week prior, and envisioned little sisters growing up together.
After the losses, I kind of fell into a dark hole of grief. I wasn't as present with my daughter as I should have been, and became obsessed with trying to become pregnant again. I'm 40, so after several months without success, I started fertility treatment. Right after starting the treatments, I experienced a slipped disc and horrible sciatica and have been rehabbing from that injury for the last 3 months. It will probably be several more months of rehab.
Since the injury, we have been on a TTC break and I honestly feel so much happier and at peace. Our daughter is becoming more independent and sleeping better. I'm finding a little bit of time for hobbies and feeling like my old self again. We are comfortable with the place we are in. The idea of restarting fertility treatments, taking pregnancy tests, and just the very real risk of more miscarriages or health issues for me/baby fills me with anxiety. I also think the recent struggles I have had caring for my daughter with my back problems has kind of put things into perspective.
How important is it to have a sibling? Both my husband and I grew up with siblings. My sister and I literally fought every single day, and didn't start getting along until we were both in our mid 30s. My husband and his sister have a strained relationship as adults. It's been nice to have my sister as a support as our parents are starting to age. I don't want our daughter to feel alone when we grow older, but I know that siblings are not a guarantee that you won't feel alone either. I just feel stuck.

My (27F) sister (25F) had a miscarriage 6 or 7 months ago. It was very early, she had a positive pregnancy test, but then a couple days later tested negative and had her period. My husband (29M) and I just had our first baby who is now 3 weeks old. For Mother’s Day, we all went to my parents’ house to celebrate. My sister and I both brought our mom gifts, and my mom also got me flowers and chocolate to celebrate my first Mother’s Day.
I think it’s also worth noting that I had an ectopic pregnancy that ended up rupturing three years ago and we’ve been trying to have a baby ever since. I lost a fallopian tube and basically nearly died. I’ve had 2 other miscarriages since then as well. This was a very special first true Mother’s Day. I was in the hospital recovering from the surgery for my ectopic pregnancy over Mother’s Day three years ago, and my family brought me flowers and balloons to help me feel better about going through something so traumatic so close to Mother’s Day. I think this is why my sister may have felt the way she did.
My mom didn’t get my sister anything for Mother’s Day. As a result, my sister ended up throwing a fit and was yelling at us, calling us names, and I ended up yelling back that nobody owed her a Mother’s Day gift because she’s not a mother yet.
My parents were understanding but said I should’ve been less harsh. Am I the asshole?

Currently 28 weeks pregnant with a very healthy and moving baby. My 12 and 20 week scans look healthy and have a growth scan on Thursday. But for some reason I can't shake the fear she won't survive and won't be born.
My first pregnancy was very dramatic. Found out late as believed we were infertile then found out it was twins, lost a twin, hospitalised after discovering I'm a T1 diabetic and being borderline ketodonic. Birth at 34 weeks though she was very healthy and no nicu time.
I also had a chemical in the month before we conceived this one. Believed to be due to my short luteal phase and was given progesterone this time and conceived easily. Though my initial HCG pull was the low end of normal my second one had massively increased. The pregnancy has been super healthy and she's passed the additional scans etc due to the diabetes and previous prem birth team tests with flying colours.
Yet I can't just shake the feeling she wasn't meant to be. I'm now getting very attached and worried that at the scan something will be wrong and she won't survive.
It's not ppd as it's not interfering with my life or my work or my sleep etc but I just can't shake it. It feels like this has been too smooth and waiting for the other shoe to drop. Keep being convinced I'm gonna have a still birth.
What can I do to feel more positive?

I cried because I'm 46 and pregnant. I have 3 adults 27,22,21. I have been trying to have a baby since my early 30s after a miscarriage. I stopped trying at 42. I moved from my home state if miami to SC me and my 21 yr old and my now ex. He and I had been separated for about 2.5 yrs.
Tried dating after him it was HORRIBLE soooo guess what? I started back messing with him and volà guess who I'm pregnant from!?!? 🤰 just after a few years ago of saying I DID NOT want any more kids, my ssa(read it backward) popped up pregnant. Found out at 7 weeks now 9 weeks.🤦🏾‍♀️
I'm sooo not ready to hear purple comments such as family as to "why did u get pregnant now, ur too old, all ur kids are grown! Why u wanna start all over?!" Omgggg, I'm sooo not ready for that!! Plus, I'm scared. Just went part-time for work before I found out that's suck's cause I'm also in school to get my bachelor degree. I'm sooo scared yall!!

• 33F, 166 cm, 73kg
• ADHD, situational depression in the past, ectopic pregnancy in early March 2024 (methotrexate successful), miscarriage at 6-7 weeks in September 2023.
• vyvanse and bupropion - same doses for more than a decade
• no allergies
• never smoked, maybe 1 alcoholic drink every few months, no drugs
• family - chron’s in my mom, drug-related sarcoidosis in my dad, recurrent vasculitis NYD in my sister (first was like HSP and second was retinal). No family members with any cancers (touch wood).

I have been getting night sweats (have to wipe down or put down a towel) off and on for years. Just started to notice it happens within a few days of my period starting. From what I understand, this can sometimes be a sign of ovarian failure/ early menopause. How worried should I be? Should I try to see a doctor about this? I first started to worry about ovarian insufficiency after my first miscarriage when my ovary volumes were reported as being in the menopausal range (~1.2 mL each). My partner and I were told to avoid pregnancy again until 3 months after methotrexate, so we have been careful (combo of strict condom use and generally not having intercourse much).
Tests - had thyroid, blood counts, blood sugar, iron, kidney, and liver testing because of the miscarriage. MyChart says these were all normal except for my liver markers after I got the methotrexate. I think my ALT was in the 140s a few weeks ago and was still slowly going up. The Ob Gyn said that if it was from the methotrexate it should be back to normal, so she referred me to a GI doctor. I’m in Canada so I’m not sure how long the wait might be to see them.
Other symptoms that probably aren’t related?: - low abdominal discomfort off an on. It’s really mild but doesn’t feel great having anything push on me, like if my partner puts his arm around me when we spoon. - bloating. Sometimes it feels like my bladder is over full (sometimes forget to pee with the ADHD; this is the kind of low abdominal discomfort, too), but when I go pee it doesn’t make that ‘over full’ bloating/ discomfort go away. - vaginal dryness? I have never been able to go without lube. Not since my first time at 18. I never thought much of this because it’s ’always’ been that way for me. - maybe some mild hair loss/ thinning at my temples and crown? My family says this is my imagination, though. No family members with hair loss. - acne is bad before my periods. Definitely getting that hormonal acne. Using tretinoin and winlevi but not sure if it is helping much. - I have gained a lot of weight over the last year. Sometimes feel like my hands/ feet are puffy. Started wearing compression stockings this year. - nosediving exercise tolerance. I can’t go for a walk on flat ground and talk in the phone anymore without getting breathless. The way I talk now is more huff-puff-y than when I used to call my folks while I was out for jogs.
Thanks in advance. I’m spooked about the fertility thing since we started ‘trying’ before I turned 33 and the two conceptions we had ended in sadness for us.

My ex (nb) and I (m) had a miscarriage a few years ago. And it bothered me but we never really talked about it. And then one day we did but I didn't realize how much it had effected them.
I failed to tell them happy mothers day for years following and just assumed they had grieved in their own way and I didn't want to bring up a bad memory.
This year even though we aren't together I got them a card, texted them early in the morning to say happy mother's day and got a hydrangea we could name and plant if they wished.
Today after years we finally got to have a name for our lost child and it felt great to sit and think of names other than by myself. I'll never get to hold them or talk to them or teach them but I can care for this hydrangea until my last breath.
And it feels really good.

TW: LC
I had posted a month or so back looking for advice and leads. I'm 35F and we have two living children but had one chemical between them and seven early miscarriages in a row after the birth of our last child. Blood, karotype, and HSG all came back normal.
Officially got diagnosed with Chronic histiocytic intervillositis (CHI) last month. It's a rare disease where the mother's immune system attacks the placenta. Found a Facebook group for it but it seems inactive and haven't been able to join. Does anyone else have this diagnosis or experience with it?? Trying to learn about it but also hoping this information could be helpful for someone else in this group, especially those getting into the higher numbers of RPL without answers.
Thank you to this group too. It's been a lifeline to learn and stay sane while on this hard journey.

On Monday at about 5 weeks + 3 days pregnant, I had some very light brown spotting. Right before bed, it turned heavier (though definitely not “heavy” and still light enough not to need a pad or liner) and I saw two dots of red blood. I called my doctor’s office on Tuesday morning and they brought me in for an ultrasound. I am as close to 100% confident in my ovulation/conception date as I could be (I used ovulation tests and had one single instance of timed intercourse this cycle).
The ultrasound showed no reason for the bleeding. They saw a gestational sac measuring a week ahead at 6 weeks + 4 days (17mm) and a “good-looking” yolk sac, but no fetal pole. I was told that if my 5.5-week date was correct, then seeing no fetal pole wasn’t concerning. But because my GS measured at 6.5 weeks, they were concerned because it apparently isn’t normal to not see the fetal pole at that gestation. I'm positive that it's impossible that I was 6.5 weeks pregnant at the time of the ultrasound. I didn’t really get an answer regarding whether it made any sense to be measuring a week ahead, or if variation in this sense is normal. Medical resources online have said that a GS measuring at 25mm with no fetal pole is considered definitive proof of miscarriage. And every story that I read online involves someone measuring behind their calculated due date, not ahead.
I was told that it was simply too early to say anything for certain, but that I needed to be prepared for a miscarriage. The ultrasound tech put it bluntly when I asked, saying she would give it a 60/40 chance of going the wrong way. I had beta hCG tests on Wednesday (62,663 mIU/mL, which apparently is very high for 5.5 weeks pregnant), and Friday (I’m still waiting on those results). I’m scheduled to go back in for another ultrasound on Wednesday, 8 days after the initial ultrasound, when I should actually be 6wk+4. In the meantime, I’ve continued spotting more and more lightly, always brown. Today (day 7) it’s barely there at all.
I’ve been on a rollercoaster for the past five days, mostly because I can’t figure out how I’m supposed to feel. How can I “prepare” myself for a miscarriage while remaining “cautiously optimistic”? What does that mindset look like? What mantra am I supposed to fall back on at this point as my mind buzzes and searches for a place to land?
I know that I’m early on in this pregnancy, and that even if I am miscarrying, there’s still a high likelihood that I will be able to get pregnant again soon, and this time successfully. But I can’t help but dread the protracted waiting. Being thrust back into the unknown. Timing sex and peeing on sticks and getting older and being trapped in a suspended state indefinitely. What if this was my only chance?
In the past few days, my pregnancy symptoms have intensified. My boobs are huge and sore. I’m totally knocked out with fatigue. My appetite is that of a toddler with the flu - I only want to eat cold fruit and cream cheese on toast and other bland foods, and even then I’m lightly nauseous, none of which I experienced a week ago.
The nurse practitioner has no answers for me regarding what could be going on, other than a missed miscarriage. Is it possible for someone to have a 6.5 week gestational sac at 5.5 weeks? If they did, is it possible for the embryo to still be developing at a normal healthy pace, just not as quickly as the fast-growing GS? Is it possible to spot for 7 days with no hematoma or visible cause and not be miscarrying? If my hCG is increasing properly, does that mean that I’m okay or does it just mean that my body is confused? Am I holding out hope for something impossible?
I know that the best thing I could do would be to log off and think about this as little as possible in the coming days, but it's so difficult with my body reminding me at all times that I'm pregnant.

My boyfriend and I have started breeding Maine coons and we bought an older queen who is 5 and had been mated a week before we brought her home. It's been well over the 9 week date and she has no given birth so we believe she was either never pregnant or miscarried early on and we didn't notice. We'd also been unsure about it for a month since she hadn't gained any weight and wasn't showing any kind of pregnant belly. The problem comes to now when we know she's not pregnant but she hasn't started calling yet. It's been weeks as I said and we talked to the breeder we got her from and she's apparently very loud when she calls but so far nothing. Is there something wrong with her or will she eventually start calling again? Is it possible there was trauma after the possible miscarriage that means she's infertile now?

Trigger warning for potential loss-
Hi all,
For some background, my period is irregular since getting off of the pill. I had my last period 3/14-3/18 (still on the pill during break week) and stopped taking my pills on 3/19 at the start of a new cycle. I did not get my period at all since getting off the pill. This is also my first pregnancy.
This last Wednesday (5/01), I took a pregnancy test and there was VERY faint lines. I followed this up a few days later (Friday, Saturday, Sunday, Monday) and the lines continued to darken. I made a doctors appointment for this past Tuesday (5/07). They gave me a urine sample mid day (came back positive) and gave me a blood test. They additionally had me get an ultrasound since I had some light spotting and cramping around the time I took the initial test. The results of the Beta test came back with a HCG of 555 and my ultrasound did not produce anything (nothing out of the ordinary, ovaries and everything looked fine). They stated it was likely way too soon to tell since I just began testing positive. On (5/09), they had me redo my Beta test and it came back with my HCG being 725, which is not in the “double range”. I took both HCG tests about 45 hours apart (due to timing of appointments).
Fast forward to this past Friday (5/10), I was at the hospital because I noticed some heavier and actual red bleeding and some pains and discomfort all around my stomach and into my chest area. The pains more so occurred underneath my breast, not near my pelvis area. I also felt like I had some shoulder discomfort from my chest. I’ve been struggling with BAD indigestion and reflux for the last two weeks or so. After they ran blood test and an EKG, I was ruled out for any concerns regarding blood clots, heart and lung functioning. They also ran my HCG (about 24 hour difference from 5/09) and my levels came back at 800. They advised me to follow up with my OB, which I have another blood draw in the morning (5/13). They stated it may be a threatened miscarriage, but they are unsure. They gave me some medication for the indigestion, which seems to be helping overall.
Today, I continue to notice heavier red bleeding, what I would describe as a light period, but heavier than it’s been since I tested positive. I also still am having some discomfort in my stomach and some gas and burping. I took two strip pregnancy tests today as well and they both came back noticeably more faint than a few days before. I’ve noticed as well the last couple days that I haven’t been feeling as nauseous and a few of the other symptoms that made me test previously.
Does this sound like an ectopic pregnancy? Or an early miscarriage? I’m currently in the worst game of waiting and just need some sort of feedback or any experiences you have with this. I’m genuinely scared and not sure what is going on. Thank you in advance for any responses or support.

To preface, I miscarried previously at 14 weeks when I was 19 (24 now) and my biggest concern/fear is that happening again now when trying. I wasn’t trying to become pregnant at all at the time of my miscarriage and was actually unaware of the pregnancy until the end, but it still did a number on my mental health and hormones afterwards. In all fairness, I was nowhere close to being ready for motherhood at the time. I could’ve and would’ve made it work for the baby, but it was undoubtedly the wrong timing for me and my partner at the time.
Present day, I am very happily married for about 2 months now- we’ve been together for a few years (since I was 21) and were engaged for around 7 months prior to our wedding this year.
We’ve discussed having children of our own one day (he has 1 son from his previous marriage) starting pretty early on into our relationship and we both knew this is something we would love to do/experience together. I want to be a mother almost more than anything else, I always have and I feel like I was absolutely meant for that role in my life.
We spoke not too long before our wedding about me no longer continuing to take the pill and possibly trying to become pregnant on our honeymoon. Ultimately, we decided against this to minimize stress between all of the traveling, pressure of our special day going well, coordinating with guests, flights, honeymoon, etc.
My husband is well aware of my anxiety around pregnancy (not to be pregnant in general but just potentially dealing with that feeling of loss again) and he is so wonderful with putting me at ease & insuring me that no matter what, we will be okay and he’ll be there for me always. He was actually the one to suggest we wait to try until returning from our honeymoon and settling back into our home so that it was more comfortable, which was very thoughtful in my opinion and I agreed that this was a good idea.
We revisited the topic maybe twice since returning home but didn’t immediately jump right into it due to his work schedule (they’ve put a lot more on his plate than normal recently which almost seems a bit like retaliation for him being out a couple weeks for the wedding).
Thursday we visited his mother for the first time since the wedding and at one point she made a light-hearted joke about the fact that she doesn’t “see a little baby bump yet”. This comment really didn’t bother me any, I laughed a little and responded “Well don’t go looking at me, ask your son when he’s gonna fix that”.
I later accidentally overheard her asking my husband if we had been trying at all since the wedding. She even asked him if we have spoken with doctors regarding potential fertility issues that I may have.. I didn’t catch the full statement but, without a doubt, heard her say that he didn’t seem to have a problem conceiving early into his marriage with his ex wife so maybe there’s some type of problem on my end of things.
This really hurt me to hear honestly because I love my MIL dearly- she has never been anything but kind and caring towards me so this was a shock. I don’t think she meant it maliciously at all but it definitely came across inappropriately. However, my husband is amazing, and was quick to tell her that he doesn’t appreciate her putting that burden on his wife (which made my heart absolutely melt). He was very to the point and explained that we haven’t been trying yet but will be very soon and that he has no doubt in my abilities to carry and deliver our future children. At this point, I had to rejoin them in the kitchen because I had been “in the bathroom” for far too long, so their conversation ended there but I really appreciated the way he defended me in that moment.
Nothing was mentioned between us regarding his mother’s “bump” comment that night or even the next day. We both seemed to shrug it off.
Yesterday morning (2 days later) he asked to speak with me and of course, I was all ears. He asked if his mothers comment had bothered me and I told him it didn’t in the moment but looking back it did hurt a bit. He apologized for it and assured me that he defended me. (I already knew he did because I had overheard it but he still doesn’t know I hear their small exchange) He then asked me how I felt about no longer taking the pill and beginning to try expanding our little family. I was a bit in shock at the moment and not because I don’t want to, but because I’ve never wanted anything more and I’m extremely nervous.
He told me that he didn’t expect an answer right then and there and if I needed time together my thoughts on it then he completely understood.
I did just that. I thought about it ALLLL day. I decided I would cook a nice dinner for us and had it ready when he got home from work. After we ate, he offered to do the dishes for me and I figured it would be a good time to talk to him about everything.
After a lot of thinking, I told him I’m ready. I want this more than anything and with him especially. He’s an amazing dad to his son from his first marriage (which is a big reason I fell for him the way I did) and I couldn’t think of someone better for my future children to call dad. I told him that starting today, I’m not going to be taking my pill anymore and we can go from here.
We will likely have to wait for my cycle to regulate itself again to expect conception since my pill eliminated my periods for the last couple years.
I’m unsure how long that might take but this is the beginning of a very exciting journey!
Any advise or stories greatly appreciated!!
Specific Qs I have are:
Anyone who has tried after a previous loss, were you nervous like I am of experiencing the same outcome and if so, do you have any advice for overcoming this?
If you were taking the pill- how long did it take you to conceive after stopping?
In general what are the best ways to go about conception? Positions, diets, etc.?
& Just a disclaimer before anyone comments it: no I promise my MILs comments are absolutely not my reason for stopping my contraceptive and really didn’t get under my skin as much as they probably should’ve in hindsight. I have ALWAYS wanted to be a mother and I feel like I’m more ready than ever right now. My husband and I have all the means to do so and are in a good place financially for it. I’m doing this because it feels right and I want to. I just figured I’d add the MIL part to this since it was so recent and in my opinion sparked a much needed, healthy conversation between my husband and I in which we both agreed we were ready to start trying.