Loved the show and it brought back an old itch that only playing some fallout can scratch! I’ve come back to FO4 and I came across something that I can’t find a solid answer online, so wondering if this ever got resolved - how is settlement population size calculated? Currently Sanctuary Hills is at 7, but I’ve got way more people there than that: - Preston - Mama Murphy - Codsworth - Curie - Ada - dog meat - sturges - Marcy - Jun - Tina De Luca (recently recruited from Vault 81 so praying she actually shows cause I know that can be bugged)
So yeah how does this add to 7? Taking out the bots and maybe dog meat it should be at 6? But if you add one of the bots surely all of them count?

Context: I’ve had my husky since 2019. I had a partner back then who helped me care for her, so she didn’t spend much time alone. I’ve always worked remote, and she often had accidents peeing on the floor, howling, and getting into my trash when I was at my desk… despite frequent pee breaks, kongs filled with peanut butter, and runs at night. Despite our best efforts, we unfortunately never really found a groove in keeping her fully content.
I got laid off at the same time that I left my partner (a shit show moment for sure) and spent a lot of time with my dog. The behavior issues that she had really disappeared. She would sit next to me while I gamed, sat on my porch, laid in bed, etc. For a moment, I was pretty convinced I finally somehow got the rhythm down of caring for her all by myself, and even questioned if my ex just did a poor job at helping care for her.
But now that I’m getting back into the swing of working a job remote at my desk, her issues came back. Running into my office to howl, ripping through the trash, and peeing in my living room. I feel like I’m going insane. I have a porch connected to my office that allows for her to run around, sniff my plants, play with toys, chase her Kong, etc and it’s just not enough. Crating her while I’m home leads to nonstop howling. She wants all my attention and hates when I’m at my desk.
Advice?

In my youth, a few decades ago, I met an only boy a few years older than me, in his early twenties named Tyler at a coffee shop. He drove a blue wrangler and was smoking cigarettes in the village with a friend at the only coffee shop in the early foggy morning. I think I may have bummed a cigarette on my way out the door with my americano and began to make conversation. Tyler had just drove from Seattle and boasted of his time back to get his friend home to Carmel Valley. We started talking about music, my favorite band was Modest Mouse. His was some one I’ve never heard of. He was very cool. Plump but cool. He’s seen modest mouse on the Lonesome Crouded West tour. Brock drank whiskey out of a plastic water bottle. Rebel. Then he told me another story.
Tyler had gotten busted for something illegal which I’ve forgotten now, but had gone before a judge and sentenced to a lot of community service. More than 100 hours. I don’t remember what it was but it wasn’t anything serious. More like what a normal adolescent who was unlucky enough to get caught was issued. At the time he lived just north of San Francisco and was given options to what his services would be. Tyler chose trail maintenance. Tyler worked for weeks. It was summer and was home with his parents waking up at dawn, grabbing breakfast and lunch at the local Safeway before heading to the hills to clear trails for 10 hours. Going home exhausted.
One morning Tyler saw an old man outside the grocery store, looking very tired. It was close to 5am. He approached the old man and offered to buy him a sandwich. The old man said he would very much like a sandwich. Returning with the food the old man asked what Tyler was doing that morning and Tyler explained that he was maintaining a broken trail that was high in the mountains close by. The old man seemed interested in this answer and offered to help for another sandwich and some beer to which Tyler obliged even though alcohol was a violation of parole. But Tyler was a rebel and wasn’t directly supervised once on the trail he was working, so he got another sandwich and a few tall cans and rode away with the old man to the hills.
Tyler told me the old man took direction well and ran off with a few tools and worked all day. He made sure the man had done what he asked throughout the day and was pleasantly surprised to see he was a good worker. They took lunch, drank their beers, worked for a few more hours and at the end of the day, the two hiked back to the blue Jeep Wrangler and headed back.
Tyler asked the old man direction to where this seeming homeless man wanted to be dropped off. Expecting a bridge or over pass. The old man didn’t give an address but immediate signals, left here, right here, straight here. The house style was passing slowly got bigger. Gates more decorative. The cars that passed were nicer.
“This guy must have a nice camping spot” Tyler told me. His suspicion never alerting.
The old man pulled up to a gate with a touch pad. Pretty fancy in 2000. The old man pressed the code. The gate opened.
A long driveway. A big house in trees. The mad shows Tyler into his house. Tyler is astonished. It beautiful. The old man leads Tyler into a library, there are gold records on the wall. He studies a few and the old man gets settled, fiddling with things. Bits and bops.
All the records say: Tom Waits
Tyler looks at the man. The man stairs back with a smile as he opens a floor to ceiling cabinet full of liquor bottles.
“I hope you like whiskey” he says with a smile.
Tyler expresses that before this day he had listened to Tom waits but hadn’t seen or noticed a picture or the man. His recollection of the night that fallowed was also hazy. Or he didn’t think my reaction was merit enough to continue the story. He slept on the couch in the study and woke up at dawn to go work trails.
I never saw Tyler again.
Are there more stories like this out there?

40M canada. 6’3” 175lbs. Ok so where to begin, about a year ago I went to my doctor for some RUQ pain and we ran some blood work in which everything came back normal except for my ferritin which was 406 ug/L. This prompted us to do an ultrasound which showed a slightly enlarged liver so we ran a liver function panel which also came back normal as well as testing for all Hepatitis and negative for all of them. I’ve also done two fibroscans which have both shown nothing. Switched to checking gastrointestinal issues so we did a h pylori test which was negative and a colonoscopy where they removed a benign polyp, nothing that seems of interest. The only things where outside of the ranges in pages of blood work showed I have vitamin d deficiency which I’m now supplementing and an A1C of 5.6 which I understand is high but not diabetic high. In the year since this has all happened I’ve lost about 20lbs but I cut out alcohol completely and started eating better but we decided to check the ferritin to see if lifestyle changes helped but they did not and it came back at 682ug/L (it’s been tested multiple times and it’s been between those two reference points every time. I’m at a loss and just looking for a little insight as I’m worried there’s something going on but we aren’t coming up with any answers. Also to note we are waiting for genetic testing to come back for haemochromatosis but my doctor doesn’t think that’s what it is. I can provide any labs needed it’s just a lot to post. Thank you in advance.

thiss might be rly weird. 😅
so about a year and a half ago my friend who i had been talking to a lot wanted to get into a qpr (queer platonic relationship) with me since they said they felt like an emotional attachment to me in a platonic way. i had no idea what that was when they first asked me out, so i agreed based on their explanation of what it was like. i also was pretty sure i was in the aromatic asexual spectrum, so i thought it would be nice.
the weird thing was even though i claimed to be acearo, i was still messing around on dating apps. and shortly after the qpr started, i was visiting my friend group in my hometown for a bit. we were discussing dating app stuff with our other friend, and i shared some of my own stories as we talked. i mentioned after my stories that i wasn't using dating apps anymore and i only had one friend making app/quote unquote "dating app" left on my phone. my partnefriend got concerned and asked me what it was. i explained to them it was an app i told them about before. but the way they got defensive about it made me realize that they probably considered me being on dating apps of any sort as cheating.
so, i guess i just didn't know what i was getting into? i thought it was like just a stronger friendship or like best friends plus or something lol,, but my friend/partner seemed to want to do more romantic stuff like use pet names and go on dates and stuff. i said i was okay with that, but i didn't really want to do cuddling with them which i told them when we were establishing rules or boundaries or whatever. they were fine with it, but idk the pet names felt unnatural to me and "dates" felt like just hanging out with a good friend. they send couple memes to me saying it's us, but half the time i don't really agree. sometimes it feels like they think of me as their idea of their 'perfect version' of me or something, and not actually me. i do care about this person, but i cannot see myself doing anything remotely romantic with them, the more i inch towards it. after a few months of trying this, i decided i didn't like this, but i didn't know how to bring it up and now we're nearing one and a half years..
i think i went along with it because i cared about this person. and when we hung out together, it felt like just being with a friend and someone i really cared about. i do care about them a lot, and i very much enjoy their company. we've known each other for forever, and our friendship has gone through quite a lot of ups and downs. and recently i keep thinking of the downs and how we'd get into fights and annoy the shit out of each other. we were celebrating our anniversary with them coming up to where i live, and we had a disagreement at a restaurant that reminded me of those times when we were younger teens. and more recently i just feel hurt with some of the stuff they do/say. maybe remembering our past is making me more sensitive to the negatives, idk atp.
i think i am a person who will easy go along with something, and my friend/partner claimed a few things about me that i never even thought of for myself. i believed when they explained why they thought it. they told me i was autistic and deserved to be on disability because i was "disabled". i am able bodied,, just have some mental illness. when i told my dad, he got super mad because before i started this relationship, i was really good about school and making good grades. i dropped out my classes for a bit after the relationship started. my friend/partner has never showed much interest in school beyond high school and they didn't want a job until more recently when they realized yt and their small business weren't getting much money. i stopped school for a couple semesters just to work, but i plan to go back in next semester– when i told them, they said they were worried it would go bad for me again... and i guess i feel like the relationship is stopping me from doing better in school.
i don't want to say they're a bad influence, i think i am more just easily influenced or tend to mimic people around me... my partnefriend should live their life they want, but i think i also might be mimicking what they do kinda and that might be why my family does think they're a bad influence. and i feel more disconnected to my family when i started talking to my friend/partner more. they told me my dad is a manipulative person, but i don't even want to think that... sometimes i wonder if they said it because they consider their own parents (especially dad) manipulative. and i have met their family, they do seem p shitty even to me, but i don't see my own parents like that... my dad is doing his best i think, and he's good enough at least,, my friend/partner also claimed stuff like gender, gender preference, political views of mine when i never really told them that? most was similar to their own identity, and i honestly don't know what my gendegender preference/political views are specifically, ive never firmly said i was a specific label of any of those, but it still felt weird that they were putting me in this box when i felt uncertain about those things.
i also don't know if i'm really aroace. like i see happy romantic couples, and still want something like that. and i don't know if i can go and find someone like that if im platonically partnered with someone. and at this point i feel like "i didn't know what i was getting into" doesn't work if i try to just end things now,, i also am afraid it'll just go down terribly, and i'll never even get to be acquaintances with this person again. and i feel like our mutual friends will all side with them and i will just lose those friends forever as well. i'll feel even shittier if i try romance and see that i really am aroace and then id just be forever alone with no friends.
my partnefriend also bought tickets to go to a convention in a few months and id feel even shittier to end things poorly before that since they really wanted to go there and cosplay with me. the convention famously doesn't give any refunds too so they can't even get their money back for the tickets.
we're even planning to move out together in 2025, but i don't know if it's still something i want. we've been planning since like 2022 to move out together (it started out as just friends before they asked to be partners) but we keep having to push it further down with financial issues and such, so i don't even know if 2025 is a good year either. i am going through the process of switching my college major, and i feel like that's all ill really have time for soon especially when i start working alongside studying too. (im quite literally switching from an arts related major to something stem related lol.) i want to get my bachelor's and establish a good paying job before moving out. (and probably also work towards my master's) i don't even know if my friend/partner has anything going on in their future career and stuff, and i do not want to have to be financially responsible for them at all. i barely like when they ask me for money. they usually pay me back or pay for some of my stuff in return so it probably balances out, id just rather we each pay for our own things i guess,, or maybe im just being a prick abt it lol.
i just feel like an asshole, and im probably wasting their time by pretending to want to be more than just a standard friend and like everything is going ok on my side. i just don't know what to do. this is kinda my first relationship tbh, and definitely a first for qpr so i don't really have experience on how to end things lol, and i don't know what a good method to do so is.
sorry if this makes no sense, im rambling... but i am in need of advice... mainly, i am just looking for a way to end the relationship. but any other advice is fine, i need it. if im a piece of shit or you want to say something else 'negative' you can tell me that too, i just need honesty on my situation.
tldr; i am in a queer platonic relationship with someone who i saw as a friend. they wanted to be romantic. i did not. we are getting into disagreements. We seem to have different lifestyle choices, and it's getting to the point where i just want to end it. how do i break up with them that won't make things terrible between the two of us?

I know this is a silly sounding one, but today when I went to work my bestie gave me a horribly hard time about a post that I had made on FB about driving 3 hours north on Friday with my fiance and my son to go witness the Northern lights. We never get to see them where we live and there was an amazing opportunity for us to do so, and I only found out about it at about 8:00 p.m. We hopped in the car and drove. We ended up being gone a total of 6 hours. Got home at about 3:00. a.m. I made a post about it on Facebook with photos because we were actually able to see it with the naked eye and also were able to get some amazing photos. My fiance and my son have never seen the Northern lights before and I was so excited to show them something that I knew both of them wanted to see.
The friend in question constantly posts steamed hams memes and therefore I was supposed to know that not only did she not know that this was occurring but that of course she also desperately wanted to go. I did not know any of those things, nor did I even think about it. I was thinking about taking a neat scientific field trip with my family.
She basically yelled at me today and told me that I should have thought of her. When I told her that I was busy being navigator and downloading apps to see where the best location would be, she berated me and said oh you don't know how texts work? I had messaged her on Saturday and told her that some other friends of ours were driving up north Saturday evening to do the same thing and that she could probably ride with them. She told me that she did not want to drive that far and she wasn't going to go. So I don't understand why she's mad at me now. I feel like she's just mad at me to be mad. But she made me feel really shitty and terrible as a friend. I don't think I'm the asshole but she's making me question it. Am I?

I hope that this is allowed in this sub
I've been having issues recently with a parental overview app called Bark, that my school uses to keep an eye on students. This app is meant to be used on school laptops and on school wifi with school accounts, but not in my case.
I use my own personal computer to do school work and i take it to and from school and home. A few weeks back i had looked a term on my computer, while at home, on my personal google account, on a saturday, while using my person wifi, and somehow Bark had picked it up. I had gotten called down to talk to my dean, she had called home before I even got there. I explained everything to her, and she sent me back to class, little did i know that this was just the beginning. I had talked to my parents about it and they seemed worried for my safety/privacy. I had emailed my dean about it to bring our concerns to light, nothing was done about it.
Fast forward to today, I got called down to my counselor's office to have a talk. She showed me a screenshot that i had taken the day prior. It was of a friends rant, this could've been seen as suicidal thoughts. My counselor thought that i had sent the message. The screenshot was off of my personal cell phone, as i had pointed out to her. She told me to contact our assistant principal if me or my parents had further concerns, this is the same person who I had spoken to a few weeks ago. He had no clue how or why the search was found, I'm sure it would be the same thing this time as well.
At this point I'm scared to use any of my devices. I guess I'm just looking for advice, or any idea on how this is happening and if there's a way to stop it. I'd appreciate any and all help on this matter.

So I adopted a 9 year old foster about week ago. He’s a chow chow mix and is very sweet and chill. To give some back story I am moving to a different city at the end of June to attend graduate school. I currently live at home and my parents have 2 chihuahuas and a GSD. Before adopting him I wanted to make sure he’d be ok being left alone and if he got along with other dogs. Foster said he was good with other dogs and did fine being left home alone. Well I decided to adopt and he’s great, very sweet, but he’s very clingy and although it’s not a big issue for me he is showing signs of separation anxiety. I’ll leave to go to work In the mornings and he’ll start howling and whining until he sees someone starts getting up to check up on him. This is a small issue considering I work at 5 am before anyone else gets up. But the biggest issue is that our other dogs don’t seem to get along with the idea of him being here. Our GSD is very high energy and he is 9 so he doesn’t like playing as much as she does. I started slow introductions like taking them on walks and letting them around one another to get to know each other and it seemed to work but they have gotten into two fights already which weren’t that bad but still a little scary. Our female chihuahua doesn’t seem to like him and has bit him once resulting in him grabbing her by the neck and shaking her. Again it seemed it was her fault to begin with. Would I be wrong to give him back to the foster because I think he deserves better. Although I am planning to move I do plan to come back home often. And parents believe it’s best to keep him isolated from all the other dogs when I’m here and he just looks sad most of the time. I feel bad keeping him from living a great life in a non stress home. I’m not sure what to do. He’s isolated to just my room and hallway area and doesn’t have much space.

Here is the full sample: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T-CaZxbtabg
A long time ago I was playing random Roblox games and I came across some obscure game that contained this music. A little while later I decided to go back to that game to record it, so I could place it in my "Unknown Music" folder. Turns out this was a good idea, because going back to the game now, it is completely silent. Checking the console shows a few links to asset pages, which were seemingly taken down since then (And none of these pages are archived).
That means the origin of the sample is basically a dead end, but here are the relevant links anyways, just in case: - https://www.roblox.com/games/185937290/Dark-Labs-Hub-WIP - http://www.roblox.com/asset?id=158810758 - http://www.roblox.com/asset?id=161196747 - http://www.roblox.com/asset?id=142446794 - http://www.roblox.com/asset?id=134012322 - http://www.roblox.com/asset?id=142448870 - http://www.roblox.com/asset?id=139572272 - http://www.roblox.com/asset?id=142448886
As far as it sounds, it would appear my sample is the entire piece of music, but I cannot confirm for certain. I have tried using some of the popular music recognition sites, but they all returned null. I also assume that messaging the guy who made the game is a dead end since it's been so long, however I have not tried that as of yet (and as far as I know that would be pretty hard to do anyways with the way Roblox works).
Also, the game was made on 11/7/2014 and updated on 2/5/2017 which gives an upper limit to how long ago the music was created (Though I'm pretty sure it existed before 2017). The date on my recorded file shows 10/20/2020, which I guess gives a lower limit to how long ago the asset still existed before being taken down, but that's not really too helpful I'd assume.
Finally, assuming the sample is the full piece, I guess that means I successfully archived it in a way, even if the title and author are still missing. But really, the main reason I want to know these things is because I wanted to potentially use this piece in a project of mine, and I would like to give the proper attributions (and/or anything else the author requires, or just not using it if such would be the case)

I’m far removed from my situation, blocked for a month with seemingly no signs of ever being unblocked, and have slowly began to move on.
One thing I constantly think about is, what will end up happening to my pwBPD? Especially if they aren’t working on themselves/have had problems with this for over a decade. My ex showed me a side of her that was leaning more towards a psychopath, and I have no way of actually knowing which direction she’s going in. I’ve literally just told myself that she died, or at least the person I thought she was has.

Hi all. Just joined the group. I am wondering if anyone else has this similar ‘symptom’…
Basically my entire life I’ve been avoidant of repetitive tasks. When I need to do something the same way repetitively I struggle to do so. My brain will force me to do it in a different way (to get to the same or similar result).
Examples:
Signature - extremely inconsistent (common) 10 min Drive to work - I vary each day If I write a small text or email and it deletes, I’ll write it differently the second time.
My actual job for most of my life has been Graphic Design. Non specific - all areas from branding, print, advertising, web design. This allows me to do completely new tasks for completely new clients daily. If I loose my work and need to start again, I can never repeat the same process even when I know exactly how I got there. Ill just do it a different way. When this happens, it’s the worst. I don’t care about lost time or $. Just having to do the same thing again.
Then this seems to have impacted me in basically learning new specific things. Learning requires a lot of repetition. I am a designer who can not draw/illustrate/paint. The idea of doing hours of the same drawing or painting process is the put off. I’ve managed to get around this for 10 years.
I also make music and have for over 10 years with some small successes. However it is hip hop / electronic. Which had allowed me to not learn how to read or play music but able to be fully creative in the space. I also do the vocals which is more free flowing creativity but very much struggle to remember lyrics during live shows as that requires a lot of repetitive learning.
I often feel trapped or blocked by something prohibiting me to learn specific things that would clearly benefit my interests. I’ve built some kind of life around my adverseness to repeating against my own better good.
Worth noting I have only just discovered Adult ADHD fits a lot of my other symptoms and am in the process of getting an official diagnosis.
Wondering if anyone else gets this or has any further insight?

This is our third child. Very much a wanted baby- we even spent time and money on an IUI to conceive. The first 12 weeks or so of the pregnancy, I was excited and looking forward to meeting the baby. Now, at 15 weeks, I know I will be happy when I eventually meet baby, but I can’t help but worry and second guess our decision to grow our family.
My other two kids are 5 and 2. They’ve recently started showing a lot of affection with each other and playing well together. It got me wondering if I’m “ruining” a good thing that’s starting by introducing another member who may or may not fit in with their dynamics.
I’ve also started realizing how nice it is to be so close to being done with potty training and being able to get rid of our baby stuff. Now we will have to wait another two years.
Finances wise, we can afford a third and it is definitely something we considered before trying, but again, now I’m thinking “well what if we could’ve saved that money instead?”
We are definitely keeping this baby so I don’t know what is wrong with me and why I am freaking out. Maybe it’s the reality of being outnumbered sinking in, even though that never bothered me before. Just wondering if anyone had such anxieties while pregnant and how did it work out once baby arrived? Any advice on how to snap out of it? Both my previous pregnancies were so stress free, I worry about how these thoughts and negative feelings are impacting my body and I just want to get back to enjoying the pregnancy.
I will add I’m still going through nausea and vomiting so that might also be contributing to my thoughts. Every day I wake up hoping to be in the more fun phase of pregnancy but my nausea is lasting a bit longer than expected, so maybe I am just generally feeling really shitty and am projecting so I don’t have to think about feeling so sick?

I was looking through possible options for colleges to go into musical theater. I really can't get into debt right now and when I went through the official nyu net price calc it was a little under 10k including room and board. That's just a little more than going to a community college where I'm at! Are there any fees that they don't consider in calculations or is it really that good? For more info, I am a dependent senior who is taking a year off to work and save up for college but I still plan on keeping up with extracurricular studies so I can get my SAT score up for applications. I can't wait to hear from y'all!

Hi, I (25M) am in my first serious relationship since the past 5 months. My gf (24F) and I love each other a lot and fortunately have great communication and trust.

Background

I have been going through RJ for most of the relationship since my gf has had significantly more past sexual partners, mostly due to a casual dating phase after 2 serious relationships before we met. My only sexual experience before was one very short term fling over a year before I met my gf. I have been very accepting of my gf's past and attribute our past experiences as almost necessary for leading us to each other and bear no negativity towards her or her past, especially since she has come a long way since then. My gf describes her past sexual experiences as not enjoyable and most of her previous sexual partners as toxic/narcissistic who made her feel quite uncomfortable at many times. Now, I'm a very visual thinker and it's hard for me to control my overthinking when my RJ gets triggered. Most of my RJ is centered at seeing her in pain when I inevitably visualize her with her ex partners, which makes me feel really helpless.
I discovered this sub about 3 months into the relationship and learned about RJ. At first, whenever my gf would mention an ex partner and trigger my RJ (before I was aware of having RJ) I did feel compelled to ask for more details hoping that I'd feel better after knowing. I obviously didn't and learned from this sub not to fall for that compulsion. I shared my feelings about RJ with her and told her that this is something that is entirely on me to work on and that it will only get better with time. I even told her that I won't ask for details about her exes as a step toward improving my RJ. So far, she has been very understanding of my situation and wants to do anything to make me feel better about it. I don't feel intimidated by anyone from her past and she herself says that she thinks I am the best person she has been with, which does help with the RJ. If this was all there was to it, I think I was on the road to overcoming this except for one thing...
One of her best friends is a dude she knows since middle school and they've been part of each others' inner circles since then. She even admitted that he was her first crush. They used to live in the same city 2 years back (still pandemic) and were so bored one day they ended up doing it. They both regretted it and she wishes it never happened but didn't let it affect their friendship. She later switched cities for work and eventually moved to my city. She ended up telling me about this 2 months into our relationship and wanted to know if I was ok with it given they are still close friends and we would eventually meet. I took a few days and told her that it's fine; it's from before I entered her life and they seem completely platonic given how she talks about him. Now, she knows that he is at times a subject of my RJ and I had also told her that I would stop asking for details about her ex partners earlier. However, recently, having a discussion about my RJ in general, it came up that she and her best friend used to be FWBs for a few weeks instead of just accidentally sleeping once, which was an assumption I had falsely made without asking for more details. She definitely didn't try to hide this fact and has been very open to giving me all the details I ask about. Despite that, finding this out made me feel a lot weirder about it but overall nothing needed to be done so I thought it would get better with time. However, he recently moved to our city for a few months before he moves out of the country. He's the only close friend of hers I hadn't met yet and she was very excited to introduce us; she even mentioned at one point that she really really wanted us to get along and become pals since we support the same football team. She hoped that my RJ would get better once I meet him in person.
All 3 of us met up on an evening a few days back. It went quite well - I was very polite and relaxed. I gave them plenty of space to do their own catching up as well since they hadn't met properly in a long time. He later told her about how great he thought I was. However, the truth is I felt uncomfortable throughout the evening and just didn't let it show. I couldn't stop thinking about their past together and the RJ started to get to its worst ever. I will reiterate that I fully trust my gf and their entire interaction seemed very friendly and platonic but the RJ doesn't care about it. Even her banter with her playfully mentioning how he should send her foreign currency to sponsor her trip to meet him infuriated me but I kept it in. I obviously need her to know how I felt about this interaction but I kept it in a little longer coz she was gonna meet him for the last time before his flight and I didn't want her to have a weird interaction with her oldest friend just because my brain is making me feel weird about her past before she met me.

Advice needed

I'm in a weird place now and she knows I've been acting off the last couple days but I'm not sure how to address this with her. I obviously don't think I should ask her to cut off her friendship since there's nothing there I worry about. I know she deeply loves me and don't for a moment think there's anything between the two of them. At the same time, I am really bothered by it coz now every time she mentions him my RJ goes crazy. She has previously told me that maybe it's better for her to share details about her past for the sake of my RJ since I have a tendency to exaggerate a situation that I am visualizing without knowing the full details and that might be making my RJ worse. So I wonder if it will be better if I ask her to spare no detail on their FWB situation, however short and meaningless it was according to her but I am running the risk of ruining my RJ even further by attempting to fuel my curiosity. When it came to her other ex partners, there was some weird respite in knowing that they were kinda assholes/narcissists and that's the easier to deal with RJ since I don't feel jealous as much I just feel bad for her being with those douchebags and having to learn from those mistakes. Even her relationships weren't filled with much love so I feel bad about the toxicity she had to endure being with those guys physically. Most importantly, she is not in contact with any of those people. With this dude, however, it's different. He's still a close friend of hers after being FWBs. I don't feel threatened by him and he actually respects our relationship. She loves sharing everything with me so I know she will always want to talk about him whenever it would come up and I will feel bad asking her to cut that out too.
The core of my problem is that he's the only one of her ex partners who is still a part of her life and that's something that I could never justify in my moral code. I'm a strict exes can't be friends kinda person - I can't be involved physically without having an emotional foundation and my code allows for no contact with anyone I've been intimate with and not seeing anymore. That's kind of a moral difference with my gf coz when she moves on, she can never see that person with those romantic eyes anymore or think about their shared intimate past, which is hard for me to understand but I believe her. It still makes me weird to know that she was intimate like that with someone I will often hear about and occasionally have to meet. I have nothing against him except that he just triggers something in my brain that makes me feel shitty and that there's no one to blame for it. I feel I'm at a weird stalemate where there's no solution where my gf doesn't end up compromising. Even if I ask her to stop mentioning him, that'll still make me feel weird coz I know that's treating a symptom not a cause.

It's a little too late in the current round of asymmetric battles for this to be a guide, but I've played a lot of the mode lately and I've observed some patterns, both in the AI and in the players. A lot of these things are probably also true of other game modes, but the consequences of poor play in asymmetric are much more immediately felt.

1. Battleship players, if you spawn on the right flank of Neighbors and you drive into the open water in the middle of the map, you're trying to throw the match. That trio of islands on that flank is perfect for you, especially if you have good secondaries. You can go in there and kill the 2-4 ships that charge in, and then point your bow through the gap to shoot the broadsides of ships charging through the middle of the map.
   
2. Your spawn buddy is your lifeline, and you are theirs. If you spawn on the flank with another ship, stick with them as much as possible. Bots win through focus fire, but they won't focus the same target forever, especially if you're both presenting unattractive bow-on targets. If you turn away from the fight in open water, you get focused. If you turn away behind an island, your buddy gets focused.
   
3. Bots don't launch their torps from maximum range, and they're more obvious about it than players in randoms. If you see a torpedo boat show its broadside to you, you have torps coming at you. It seems like a lot of them prefer wide spreads to narrow ones, so dodging them usually isn't an issue if you're presenting your bow or stern.
   
4. Tier VI submarines do really well in this mode, since they get to fight tier IV ships that have no ASW to speak of. In one match I played at this tier, the submarine player got 6 kills and carried us to victory solo after the rest of us died.
   
5. The player in the supership is a liability. The player in a DD or a submarine is an underdog, but still an asset.
   
6. The bots all charge on domination maps, but usually two or three battleships (plus the CV, if there is one) will hang back on standard battles.
   
7. A "circle the wagons" approach works on standard battles, provided everyone stays close enough to the green cap circle to get shot at by the oncoming enemies. Showing five targets keeps the enemy focus shifting around. Showing one target gets it killed.
   
8. Even if you're not in a BB, it's worth taking shots at the bows of incoming ships with AP—at a two- or three-tier advantage, you might overmatch some of them. (Obviously switch ammo or targets if you get ricochets.)
   
9. Two cruisers in a division is worth a battleship and a half.
   
10. It doesn't matter what tier you are; Vladivostok and Nagato are not to be trifled with.
    

Feel free to add your own.

Thank you rooster teeth for an amazing 21 years of just absolute, entertaining and enjoyable content I can remember it just like yesterday 14 years ago back in 2010 when when I stumbled across this web series called red vs blue and the first season and episode I watched was season six episode two ever since that first minute I absolutely cared about the company and this show so much and I had to go back and watch the rest of the seasons and I found something that had never entertain me in my whole entire life like red vs blue I will forever cherish every single piece of content, and like I mentioned before red vs blue because that’s primarily what I watched, I will never ever take it for granted the moment I cherished from the show and the podcast and achievement hunter, and RWBY just to name a few. You have forever changed my life with the amazing things you have accomplished, and made. And I just want to say thank you to Burnie Burns, Matt Hullum, Geoff Ramsey, Jason Saldaña, Gus Sorola, and Joel Heyman. That you were able to start a company from nothing and just have creative ideas and turn the company into something that would be so big and influential on the Internet and we will foreve miss Monty Oum. The work he did for the machinima parts will be some of the most fun, exciting, sad and laughable moments I can keep with me forever.

I wanted to share something with the DM Michi community, and I have a theory on why so many people who are new or casual (like me) tend to play like garbage in the late stages or even the early stages. DM isn't a new gamemode for me; I've been playing DM for a while now, and I absolutely love the gamemode compared to RM, but on AoEII:DE this is starting to becoming the most frustrating gamemode I have ever played. This is all because of a bug in multiplayer that causes lategame to become unplayable. The game drops to 1 fps, messages are delayed for about 1-2 minutes (timed it myself), and units are either frozen, stuck, or refuse to follow commands at all. In rare cases, the game itself crashes, sometimes on my own or with everyone crashing. I've disabled mods, reinstalled the game and even reinstalled my OS to no avail.
I've gotten so annoyed that I have written a thread on Reddit complaining about the crashes and freezes, with some responses. I've also attempted to get users to write negative reviews, but none have confirmed on writing anything. I managed to find this on the AoE forums: https://forums.ageofempires.com/t/multiplayer-frame-drop-in-late-game-become-unplayable/253162/4
According to one of the comments, it states: "The problem is the gpu itself specially the 6000 series, the game can’t stress it enough so the gpu goes to sleep mode constantly providing a terrible stutter, nvidia or intel doesn’t have the same issue"
So I guess fuck me and good luck playing late game since I have an AMD Radeon RX 6800 XT, until someone suggested trying this: "AoE doesn’t stress enough the GPU so the clock doesn’t reach the minimum frequency to wake it up. Basically it’s like using the GPU for nothing and it goes to sleep. They said that running another app that quite draw attention on the GPU can wake it up so it does 2 jobs at once good."
So I decided to use Verminitide 2, a very intensive game that will make sure the GPU stays awake. Using this method, AoE2:DE is still unplayable, even with Vermintide 2 working fine and properly. I can dodge, attack, and summon skeletons (as necromancer) all fine, but AoE2:DE refuses to work. At this point, I'm fucked; I can't play any intensive DM Michi games until the actual developers care and fix this.
At this moment, I have decided to uninstall AoE2:DE, and I will refuse to play any (pro, noob, casual, etc.) Deahtmatch Michi, as I do not wish to be hated in the already small community we have. I am asking the small existing community to please not treat new players who are trying to play like garbage and to show them this post, knowing that it's most likely not their fault. I don't have that many friends that play AoE2:DE (let alone that play Deathmatch), and I will resume playing until this has been fixed.
But what I really want to ask is for the community to write bad reviews if they have encountered this issue or any issues like pathfinding at all. This has gone on for long enough now, and I just want to play DM knowing it's my fault for losing instead of the game crashing or lagging to the point where it's unplayable. I'm sharing this everywhere I can, so please share.
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I (55m) married my wonderful wife (22f) four months ago, and she is the love for my life, However my Children(34m, 32f, and 29f) disagree with my choice. I met my wife while she was working at hooters, and would repeatedly go on days when she was working. I would buy a pitcher for beer and drink at the bar until she got off. I made sure to always tip her well, usually around 50 dollars. After a while I asked her out and she said yes, but only if i took her somewhere nice, so I took her to our local French restaurant. For that date the total ended up being 300 dollars. She was so thankful and said we should go on more! We would go on many more fancy dates and I started tipping her more with it now being around 150 dollars. After two months of dating I asked her to marry me and she said yes! we had a beautiful small wedding, but only one for my kids showed up (34m), but after the wedding he texted his sisters and told them how disappointing my wife is. My children say that she is just using me for money but I disagree, and they think I am a creep since she is so much younger then me. AITA for thinking they are wrong and wanting to change my will to only go to my wife?

add_filter( 'plugins_loaded', array( 'FootballPoolExtensionRankingTemplate', 'init_extension' ) ); class FootballPoolExtensionRankingTemplate { protected static $items = array( '$50', '$40', '$30' ); protected static $item_counter = 0; public static function init_extension() { // Laat een bericht zien als de Football Pool plugin niet geactiveerd is. if ( ! class_exists( 'Football_Pool' ) ) { add_action( 'admin_notices', array( __CLASS__, 'no_fp_plugin_error' ) ); return; } // Verander de template. add_filter( 'footballpool_ranking_ranking_row_template', array( __CLASS__, 'change_template' ), 10, 2 ); } public static function change_template( $ranking_template, $type ) { $ranking_template = ' %rank%. %user_name% %points% %league_image% '.self::$items['%rank%'].' '; return $ranking_template; } public static function no_fp_plugin_error() { $plugin_data = get_plugin_data( __FILE__ ); $plugin_name = isset( $plugin_data['Name'] ) ? $plugin_data['Name'] : __CLASS__; echo "
De Football Pool plugin is niet geactiveerd. " . "Zorg ervoor dat je het activeert zodat de extensie plugin '{$plugin_name}' nuttig is.
"; } } 

I'm trying to make my first smaller adaptation plugin for a plugin. The code is as followed. The problem i have is that (i assume) change_template is called only once with placeholders and i want to add a variable from the array $items in the last TD of each TR.
I cannot seem to get this to work. The table shows which is good but my values from my array does not. First TR should show $50, next one $40, etc...
Anyone able to help a noob in this? Thanks in advance.

I hope that this is the right subreddit for this.
I use my own personal computer to do school work and i take it to and from school and home. A few weeks back i had looked a term on my computer, while at home, on my personal google account, on a saturday, while using my person wifi, and somehow Bark had picked it up. I had gotten called down to talk to my dean, she had called home before I even got there. I explained everything to her, and she sent me back to class, little did i know that this was just the beginning. I had talked to my parents about it and they seemed worried for my safety/privacy. I had emailed my dean about it to bring our concerns to light, nothing was done about it.
Fast forward to today, I got called down to my counselor's office to have a talk. She showed me a screenshot that i had taken the day prior. It was of a friends rant, this could've been seen as suicidal thoughts. My counselor thought that i had sent the message. The screenshot was off of my personal cell phone, as i had pointed out to her. She told me to contact our assistant principal if me or my parents had further concerns, this is the same person who I had spoken to a few weeks ago. He had no clue how or why the search was found, I'm sure it would be the same thing this time as well.
At this point I'm scared to use any of my devices. I guess I'm just looking for advice, or any idea on how this is happening and if there's a way to stop it. I'd appreciate any and all help on this matter.