Car body parts nomenclature

To begin, essentially the ship of Theseus is the thought experiment where if you were to replace all the original parts of the wooden boat would it still be the same boat.
So typically some say yes and some say no.
So my take is that the answer will always be yes. This is due to the fact that an object's identity is essentially built on it's memory. It is built on said objects stories, its legends, tales, and many more things that would make its identity unique.
In science it is known that even the human body virtually replaces everything at least once in an entire lifetime, buttttt we still identify ourselves as us, in whatever paradigm, I am me, you are you, that does not change. It does not change as we are held together not by what we are but rather by what makes us who we are.
Hence, the ship of Theseus no matter how many times it will be modified will always be the Ship of Theseus.

So, a tuffy this one, but I'll explain in detail. Feel free to ask questions if interested. To begin, I have an 09 Kia Rio, 1.6, Base model, and currently (been since the 27th of April) I'm having an issue where my engine will shut off when I'm completly stopped and in drive at a stop light (for 15-30 seconds) but the electrical (radio, lights, etc) will stay on. When it shuts off, I get a check oil, and check battery light. Do note, when at a red light in drive, the battery level is at 12.0-12.6, and anything under 12.3 the engine shuts off. I can avoid this buy putting it in park at stoplights (it goes back up to 13.9-14.1) but that's not a solution, it's a bandaid on a bullet wound (rotflmao) Just a temporary measure, but I'm looking to get it fixed right. Now... the tricky part, say I'm at a stoplight, and the car stalls, (engine turns off) I've found out I can just push it 10-15 feet, the battery level goes back up to 12.3, then turn the key to start and it turns right back on. I thought it was the alternator, my reasoning was "I charged up the battery" 🙃 but apparently that's not it, nor how it works...
Extra notes: 1. The battery is new (6 months ago) 2. Recently replaced the ignition coils and spark plugs (4 months ago) 3. It was having the "alternator" issue before this but, I just pulled apart my ignition lock and took out a few pins due to my key not turning (no acc, no start) as another "bandaid" untill my new lock comes in (2 days ago)

I’ve been blown away by the level of responsiveness and expertise from Redditors for a few related topics which have been a huge help to me. Thanks in advance for any feedback here and I hope I’m in the right place!
I’m in a level of ‘negotiation’ with my Employer (a global Tech company) about a relocation from Southend, SE England to either Alpharetta or Tampa as part of a promotion within my existing Team on what is expected to be a ‘3 year gig’ (at which point the company is expected to be sold which would inevitably see changes of personnel almost certainly those who I am currently ‘negotiating’ with!). Naturally there are a million and one things to consider, especially as a (married) father of two young children.
As I await more formal details of the offer (including the $!), I am trying to speed through all the various research needed which I am simplifying into the below, in order to make negotiations effective and ultimately lead up to a point where I will be able to make an actual decision (likely in the next two weeks)

1. Understanding the ancillary costs associated with relocating to the US as well as the expected on-going living costs in either location (to also include the likely requirement to relocate BACK in ~3 years time)
   
2. Understanding which of the many risks associated with this opportunity I should attempt to have mitigated by my Employer
   
3. Understanding any fundamental blockers/showstoppers that could prevent the move from being viable
   

I’m starting to build up a picture across all three but there were some specific questions I’d really appreciate some insights on. We’re mostly concerned about the number of ‘hidden’ costs there may be, to the extent where the financial gains we are expecting could end up being significantly diminished by the end of the 3 year period (our main objective here is primarily to financial gain – to ideally outright purchase a large family house back in the UK after 3 years and not primarily the ‘experience’ for our family, which we would of course consider a bonus).

• (re: 1) What are some of the more ‘obscure’ costs which I may not have factored in?

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• I have been told informally that the company would fund my ‘relocation costs’ but those have not been specified and nor is there a dedicated function within my company to support this. I suspect the onus may be on me to even negotiate these elements. What could be considered normal and reasonable? The obvious costs which I would assume to be covered would be the travel expense including shipping of likely clothing and other valuables we’d want to take with us (see below), VISA, documentation etc.. But there are plenty of other expenses which I am not sure are a direct expense or not and therefore do not know whether to push for their inclusion? Such as preliminary trips to the location (with or without family) to visit potential areas to stay, temporary accommodation (hotel? Serviced apartments?) temporary car-hire? Getting US driving license? Storage of furniture and equipment back in the UK (for use in 3 years)? Relocation of household Pet? Advance on salary for settling in (and deposit for house rent etc.)?
  
• Are there costs in ‘moving’ money from my UK bank account to US (as part of the move) and also moving money back after 3 years? All being well, I am hoping for a sum of $300K-$500K to ‘return home’ with after the term
  
• What would a general/sensible approach be to finding accommodation – renting a hotel/serviced apartment for 1-2 months to allow us to visit neighbourhoods and find a suitable property which I assume would usually be on a 12 month contract?
  
• Use of storage for 3 years in UK – I am weighing up the pros and cons of renting out our current family house (3 bed Semi) furnished, which would likely mean we would not need to pay for any storage for the duration, and could make use of Parents’ house for storage of any equipment/items which we would not want to take with us, nor leave in the house (but want to use on our return). The alternative would be to empty the house and rent-out unfurnished and to likely incur costs of £10K-£13K overall to keep it in storage – which would certainly be worth more than the items/furniture themselves. I have read that there are insurance implications with renting out furnished houses and also that renters would be more likely to ‘move on’ in a furnished house. We’d not be fussed about the furniture being damaged, and we would probably replace on our return regardless, so with the potential extra rental cost there could be a £13K-£16K swing? What’s normal/usual to do in this situation?
  
• Is it considered normal to move into a fully unfurnished rental property and purchase new furniture? There doesn’t seem to be a market in either area for Furnished rentals, from what I have seen. Is it normal and reasonable to purchase mostly second hand furniture, electricals etc. at the start of the term and sell on after 3 years to recoup some funds? Or not realistic?
  
  • (re: 2) What risks/outcomes could and should I be asking (vs mandating) my Employer to mitigate contractually? I’m acutely aware of the general ‘hire and fire’ culture in US although I have a very long tenure at this company (~25 years) and with the promotion/relocation being one of strategic importance (which the Company approached me on) I would have some reason to be confident that at least the company would not enforce a negative scenario on their terms?

·

• If the family doesn’t settle adequately in one of the locations, should I be able to relocate to the other? Accepting the company would not pay for that relocation
  
• If I elected to leave the company, I should be free to do so? Although it would mean having to find another company to sponsor VISA otherwise I would need to return home
  
• Protection against redundancy – moving to a general US contract would leave me with little protection and perhaps a standard ‘one week’ notice period. Should I request an abnormally long notice period – for example, 6 months? My priority would be to protect myself against the Company making me redundant, not giving myself the flexibility to move to another company whilst there (I have no desires to leave the company in the short or mid term). Assuming a notice period would maximise my chances to find alternative employment without having to go back home?
  
• Protection against dismissal/performance-related firing – could/should I request a bespoke compensation in the event of this? If I was to have to relocate back home with no VISA then I would incur additional relocation costs and also significant additional costs related to new agreements in the US (house rental etc.)
  
  • (re: 3) Interested to know if there are others who have emigrated and any nasty surprises? For example, I have read about the challenge in building up credit rating in the US and how long that may take? I have a (UK) Amex card which I will port to a US card when over there and use it as much as possible and set up a US bank account as quickly as I can.

Entirely personal, but also wondering on recommendations for Alpharetta vs Tampa? It would seem cost of living would be comparable (of course, dependent on neighbourhood) with the major differences being probably differences in climate, and I suspect Tampa would be generally much busier, perhaps less safe? For a reasonable 3 bed house it seems around $3K rent per month is the norm, with Alpharetta prices seemingly due to proximity to the tech hubs and Tampa due to the pull of the beaches, climate?
My Wife and I are very excited about the prospect, just trying to be as cautious as possible especially given this will be likely to move quickly!
Many thanks in advance
Mark

I’m about to post a slightly edited version of a comment I (35f) left on someone else’s recent post. We’re working on it, but I need support in supporting my partner (48m, father of my 2-year-old twins) through his addiction. Anyone who suffers from this or is with someone who suffers from this knows it isn’t something you just talk to anyone about. 1. it’s embarrassing 2. they tend to immediately tell you to write the person off bc they’re “disgusting” and too far gone 3. you love the person and don’t want others to think or talk negatively about them.
Anyway, here is a very, very short summary of what I’m currently dealing with, and what I have dealt with for much longer than my comment (the copy/paste below) portrays.
Idk, I just need someone who gets it. I’ve cried the last two times we’ve had sex because this relapse was the first one that shocked me. I’d truly believed that he was clean, whereas I’d always doubted him before. Now I feel like I have lost the ability to talk freely about my feelings with my best friend, because I don’t want to kick him while he’s down, and everything that needs to be said (for now) has been said. That doesn’t mean the hurt or paranoia (?) just evaporates.
Keep in mind I was replying to someone else, so there are parts that relate directly to that comment.
Here it is (edited to make more sense in this context):
i’ve been deeeep in the trenches with my partner, too. he has been seeing a counselor (who also suffered from porn addiction) on and off for two years. he loves him; that is key. when he sees him weekly, he is good. he has relapsed a few times, despite the “fail safe” of me having complete access to his phone via “myactivity.google.com”. we are logged into his gmail on our respective phones, and even incognito use shows up as “used google chrome”, but it will have no additional details attached, signaling incognito. yes, he has deleted activity during relapses, but sooner or later, they’ll miss something. guarantee it. Tbh, checking his activity online is secondary. His “tells” are setting earlier alarms (more time in the morning while everyone else sleeps), taking an abnormal amount of time “changing the wash over”, constantly having “stomach issues” which cause him to be in the locked bathroom, sometimes for an hour+, and so on.
I know that it’s just like any addiction. HE has to want it. I was addicted to opiates, and I know that no one can force you or convince you to get clean. I also know how hard it is and how easy it is to relapse and justify as “just this one time.” what matters most to me are the following points: 1. he willingly goes to counseling 2. he does not push back on me checking on his usage and instead asks me to please check his activity so he’s less likely to relapse, knowing something could (will) slip through the cracks 3. when he has relapsed, and I called him on it, his very first reaction was to call his counselor. he did not try to justify or lie.
all that being said, i’m at my breaking point. it cannot happen again without him coming to me and telling me he slipped, rather than me finding out on my own. I have asked again and again only for honesty, not perfection. (struggling with my own addiction, I know temptation sometimes wins. it’s not ok, but what’s worse is deceit,) I will not do it again. I cannot let it consume me. He knows I mean it. When I caught him this past time, I did not cry, did not pack bags, did not yell. I told him I was sorry he was overwhelmed enough to feel that relapse was worth it, and I believed in him. but enough was enough, and I would love and support from a distance. (edit: if I’m being honest, this isn’t true. I said all of that in May 2023. we have since moved six states away from everyone we know and love, and everything I own is here. the government won’t pay to ship all of my things back like they paid to get them here when he was hired into his current job. I no longer have a house or a job there, and because public transportation is so readily available, we didn’t replace my car when it had to be scrapped; I have nothing of my own, even though my mom would let us live with her in a heartbeat. I gave him another chance because not doing so was harder. If it happens again, I don’t care about my stuff. The twins and I will go home and stay with my mom. Stuff is stuff. My babies living in a healthy environment is the most important thing in the world to me—my feelings are secondary. for now, staying here is what’s best, as their father and I are continuing to work through it, as outlined below.)
I went as far as to email his counselor, and he (bf) thanked me for it, surprisingly. I knew ethically he couldn’t respond, but I want him to have 100% truth so he could help accordingly. He put my bf on a strict plan, and he has been sticking to it. The most important thing is that he has ZERO phone usage when he is home, except to check bus/metro times or when his daughter, who lives in another state, is playing softball and his ex wife is sending him updates. otherwise, as soon as he steps in the door, it goes straight to the drawer. (he works at the pentagon in a division that requires top secret clearance, so his phone is not on him during the day and he clearly cannot indulge in that environment).
I fully understand that this has nothing to do with me or his love for me or attraction to me. we have sex often, it’s passionate and fulfilling for us both. not to get too personal, I just want to state that I know he enjoys it, because we typically will have sex for an hour+, and he cums an average of six times. I know he sometimes doesn’t even masturbate (very likely often no erection) when watching. I mean, he’ll turn it on for three mins if he gets the chance, just to get the dopamine hit. it’s that hit of dopamine and, as fucked up as it is, a sort of “companionship” (bf’s word) that requires no effort that keeps the hold on him.
there is much more to the backstory, including him being raped (let’s called it what it is, it was not assault) when he was 10. a 17-year-old girl decided to “teach him what girls like”, which ultimately led to her “showing him” how to have sex. again, he was 10. she was 17. He also did two combat tours in Iraq. there is just so much trauma, but these are all reasons, not excuses. If someone does reach out to me, I’ll share aspects of our relationship that are also relevant.
Anyway…does anyone want to talk? This is my throwaway, but I still get alerts.
apologies for typos or just generally shitty writing—I don’t feel like going back to reread everything.

Hello! I wanna say that i'm open to F and tF, i just don't think R4R let's you put more in the brackets.
I'm a (soon) 22 year old swedish guy. on the lookout for a relationship. i have been single for quite a while now. a long while acually. and it feels terrible i'm not gonna lie. i feel very lonely and giving/taking affection on a daily basis is something i miss alot.
so what more about me than the fact that i'm 21. I don't really look the part but i'm acually quite a nerd, i love fantasy and sci fi stuff. reading, writing, gaming. all of that are hobbies i like. I also recently picked up Warhammer 40k if you know what that is. i also exercise on a regular basis and i keep myself in good shape. that's also something i value in others, maybe not exercise to lose weight but keep your body healthy.
for looks i'm blonde with short hair. next to no facial hair since i think i look horrendous in it. green eyes, white skin. pretty tall standing at 6'0(i'm not adding anything like some guys do). i like to think i'm kind, respectful and try to help wherever and whenever i can. no matter how heavy or light the problem is.
I'm looking for someone who compliments or matches my personality. i tend to prefer older girls but age is just a number and that's why we go from 18 and up untill we can't count anymore. location is not impirtant, if we click and wanna go beyond LDR when the time comes we fix that problem then.

I’ve been blown away by the level of responsiveness and expertise from Redditors for a few related topics which have been a huge help to me. Thanks in advance for any feedback here and I hope I’m in the right place!
I’m in a level of ‘negotiation’ with my Employer (a global Tech company) about a relocation from Southend, SE England to either Alpharetta or Tampa as part of a promotion within my existing Team on what is expected to be a ‘3 year gig’ (at which point the company is expected to be sold which would inevitably see changes of personnel almost certainly those who I am currently ‘negotiating’ with!). Naturally there are a million and one things to consider, especially as a (married) father of two young children.
As I await more formal details of the offer (including the $!), I am trying to speed through all the various research needed which I am simplifying into the below, in order to make negotiations effective and ultimately lead up to a point where I will be able to make an actual decision (likely in the next two weeks)

1. Understanding the ancillary costs associated with relocating to the US as well as the expected on-going living costs in either location (to also include the likely requirement to relocate BACK in ~3 years time)
2. Understanding which of the many risks associated with this opportunity I should attempt to have mitigated by my Employer
3. Understanding any fundamental blockers/showstoppers that could prevent the move from being viable

I’m starting to build up a picture across all three but there were some specific questions I’d really appreciate some insights on. We’re mostly concerned about the number of ‘hidden’ costs there may be, to the extent where the financial gains we are expecting could end up being significantly diminished by the end of the 3 year period (our main objective here is primarily to financial gain – to ideally outright purchase a large family house back in the UK after 3 years and not primarily the ‘experience’ for our family, which we would of course consider a bonus).

• (re: 1) What are some of the more ‘obscure’ costs which I may not have factored in?
  • I have been told informally that the company would fund my ‘relocation costs’ but those have not been specified and nor is there a dedicated function within my company to support this. I suspect the onus may be on me to even negotiate these elements. What could be considered normal and reasonable? The obvious costs which I would assume to be covered would be the travel expense including shipping of likely clothing and other valuables we’d want to take with us (see below), VISA, documentation etc.. But there are plenty of other expenses which I am not sure are a direct expense or not and therefore do not know whether to push for their inclusion? Such as preliminary trips to the location (with or without family) to visit potential areas to stay, temporary accommodation (hotel? Serviced apartments?) temporary car-hire? Getting US driving license? Storage of furniture and equipment back in the UK (for use in 3 years)? Relocation of household Pet? Advance on salary for settling in (and deposit for house rent etc.)?
  • Are there costs in ‘moving’ money from my UK bank account to US (as part of the move) and also moving money back after 3 years? All being well, I am hoping for a sum of $300K-$500K to ‘return home’ with after the term
  • What would a general/sensible approach be to finding accommodation – renting a hotel/serviced apartment for 1-2 months to allow us to visit neighbourhoods and find a suitable property which I assume would usually be on a 12 month contract?
  • Use of storage for 3 years in UK – I am weighing up the pros and cons of renting out our current family house (3 bed Semi) furnished, which would likely mean we would not need to pay for any storage for the duration, and could make use of Parents’ house for storage of any equipment/items which we would not want to take with us, nor leave in the house (but want to use on our return). The alternative would be to empty the house and rent-out unfurnished and to likely incur costs of £10K-£13K overall to keep it in storage – which would certainly be worth more than the items/furniture themselves. I have read that there are insurance implications with renting out furnished houses and also that renters would be more likely to ‘move on’ in a furnished house. We’d not be fussed about the furniture being damaged, and we would probably replace on our return regardless, so with the potential extra rental cost there could be a £13K-£16K swing? What’s normal/usual to do in this situation?
  • Is it considered normal to move into a fully unfurnished rental property and purchase new furniture? There doesn’t seem to be a market in either area for Furnished rentals, from what I have seen. Is it normal and reasonable to purchase mostly second hand furniture, electricals etc. at the start of the term and sell on after 3 years to recoup some funds? Or not realistic?
• (re: 2) What risks/outcomes could and should I be asking (vs mandating) my Employer to mitigate contractually? I’m acutely aware of the general ‘hire and fire’ culture in US although I have a very long tenure at this company (~25 years) and with the promotion/relocation being one of strategic importance (which the Company approached me on) I would have some reason to be confident that at least the company would not enforce a negative scenario on their terms?
  • If the family doesn’t settle adequately in one of the locations, should I be able to relocate to the other? Accepting the company would not pay for that relocation
  • If I elected to leave the company, I should be free to do so? Although it would mean having to find another company to sponsor VISA otherwise I would need to return home
  • Protection against redundancy – moving to a general US contract would leave me with little protection and perhaps a standard ‘one week’ notice period. Should I request an abnormally long notice period – for example, 6 months? My priority would be to protect myself against the Company making me redundant, not giving myself the flexibility to move to another company whilst there (I have no desires to leave the company in the short or mid term). Assuming a notice period would maximise my chances to find alternative employment without having to go back home?
  • Protection against dismissal/performance-related firing – could/should I request a bespoke compensation in the event of this? If I was to have to relocate back home with no VISA then I would incur additional relocation costs and also significant additional costs related to new agreements in the US (house rental etc.)
• (re: 3) Interested to know if there are others who have emigrated and any nasty surprises? For example, I have read about the challenge in building up credit rating in the US and how long that may take? I have a (UK) Amex card which I will port to a US card when over there and use it as much as possible and set up a US bank account as quickly as I can.

Entirely personal, but also wondering on recommendations for Alpharetta vs Tampa? It would seem cost of living would be comparable (of course, dependent on neighbourhood) with the major differences being probably differences in climate, and I suspect Tampa would be generally much busier, perhaps less safe? For a reasonable 3 bed house it seems around $3K rent per month is the norm, with Alpharetta prices seemingly due to proximity to the tech hubs and Tampa due to the pull of the beaches, climate?
My Wife and I are very excited about the prospect, just trying to be as cautious as possible especially given this will be likely to move quickly!
Many thanks in advance
Mark

(I know it's not the main focus in the title but I'd also be super keen to talk to people in the UK, either London or somewhere in England or Scotland around like Edinburgh as there's a near 100% chance I'm moving there this year)
Hi everyone!
My name is Jack, I'm 21 and I'm a recent cyber security and forensics and internetworking and network security graduate, but I hope to go on for a few more years and do post grad studies! (this year my goal is to move to Edinburgh for my masters!)
Hobbies!: For the past few years I've been heavily into formula 1, never missing a race (even the 3 am ones and even worse, the 7 am ones!)
I also enjoy doing photography, I mainly do cars but I have recently started thinking about more landscape/urban photography.
Now for games! My main ones are Destiny 2, and rainbow six siege, (for those wondering my highest rank is diamond 3 (when rank actually meant something lol)), but I haven't been playing them much these days. I play heaps more than that but I can't think of them off the top of my head lol. To try and list some id say project zomboid is one I'm very into as of right now, that and hell divers 2. I really enjoyed elden ring so I want to try more souls like games. Red dead redemption 2 is amazing and my favourite game of all time is probably watch dogs 2.
I love JDM cars and unfortunately haven't been to a car meet in over a year now. My introduction to photography was through cars so if you'd like to see some of my photos do let me know! Most of my part time work went towards getting my dream car so I definitely plan on going to more meets!
As for what I look like I'm 5"11' brown hair that touches my shoulders and never acts normally. I am 75 ish kg and I have brown eyes. That's a basic description of me but if you want a picture that's not an issue.
I'm not really too good at writing these advertisements or making titles or finishing them off so I'll just say if I sound appealing to you or you wanna know more, feel free to shoot me a message! For those in WA I'm down in the Mandurah area but travelling up to Perth isn't an issue for me! And hopefully I see all you Scots later this year!
Thanks for reading! Stay safe people!!

Last week it was announced to the entire company that they ran out of money and will stop operations this week. It was a surprise to the majority of us but it turns out that the leadership made some poor decisions that left us exposed financially. Additionally, the company moved locations and offered me relocation just over a year ago, a lot of my professional network is 2000+ miles away. The big kick in the rear was the fact that they are giving us next to no severance (2 weeks).
At the same time, my wife (33) is 40 weeks pregnant with our first child. I (33) was the breadwinner and my wife left her job when she got was in the 3rd trimester. The plan was for her to stay home for 4-6 months at first and look into part time jobs after that. My salary was enough to cover our basis . For the birth, the we went the midwife route, but that wasn't covered under insurance and we paid cash for it not to long ago.
Right now, we will have 22k in savings if I include my last paycheck. Below are what I already budget on a regular basis.

• Rent is 2300/mo. Lease through EOY
• Car: 630/mo - 2 cars, one paid off but much older, the other is 2 years old .
• Insurance: 240/mo - full coverage on the new car, basic on the other. Also includes renters insurance.
• Utilities 200-300/mo.
• Internet 80/mo.
• Gym: 40/mo - I do use this regularly and find it therapeutic.
• Food/Groceries/Household Items: 800-1000/mo (thats 125-150 on weekly food+ once per month 250-400 on costco food+household items) - I am a hobby chef and BBQ a lot , its for sure an area we can trim on.
• Subscriptions: ~40/mo - Youtube Premium and Amazon prime are the only subs we have, all media is consumed between those 2 platforms.
• I do have student loans but am currently getting them put on pause (500/mo)

So with things kept the same "as-is", its approx 4600/mo in expenses, or just shy of 5 months of expenses. I think I can trim my budget down to 4200/mo with just my food expense being scaled way back I can push it past the 5 month mark. I will qualify for unemployment, just unsure of how much yet, it looks like between 1700/2200mo if my research is correct. Until that is all in place though, I worry lol. I also know that we will have more expenses once the kid is born, but we do have a nice stash of diapers from family/friends. My overall plan is this:

• Update Resume (done) and Cover Letter (not done).
• Submit for unemployment.
• Enjoy the next 4 weeks with my recovering wife and new son, figure out how to be a father. Maybe some minor networking.
• Start to seriously look for work. I am assuming that it will take 2-4 months to do on this.
• Dont take the first job, take the right job. I have a semi-specialized focus (R&D) and would like to continue that trajectory. Changing industries will be a setback, but not the end of the world.
• Enjoy family time between look for work time.
• Keep this more streamlined lifestyle and bolster savings back up.

I know that I am nowhere near "desperate", I have seen some posts here that easily qualify as way more precarious than the situation I find myself in. I cannot ignore the fact that this all goes belly up if for some reason we were to have a medical issue or unexpected expense. I cannot ignore the stress/anxiety I have after moving across the country, about to have a kid any day now and then to lose your income. I welcome any and all feedback/experiences/ideas.

Don’t know if this is the right page or not but anyway I was in a “situationship” with this guy for one year, we never made it official but we would hang out , sleep together drink, all the time. I think I became a little bit obsessed with him because I looked at him as a challenge which sounds ridiculous because I’m the girl. I know I’m an adult and I need to take fault in what I’ve done but I really think this guy was bad luck and just not good for me. I totaled my 1st car after him and I left the bar; he picked me up still got charged with a hit and run. Got another car on my way to see him got a DUI (got rear ended) ; he knew what happened and still had the audacity to ask me to drink the night I got out of jail. We still hung out and slept together since after that. We hung out again and I broke my leg and he didn’t even react. I have told him to leave me alone in the past but he just did not get it, even if I was on a date with another guy he just did not care. So after I broke my leg, my mom who’s never met him ever found him on Facebook and basically laid it out for him and told him he needs to leave me alone because he is ruining everything good I have going for me. Like I said I know this is all my fault but I do think the reactions have to have a part of it too.

It's insane. It's like I self impose loneliness on myself. I feel like everyone I am around/talk to I am bothering. I feel like I don't deserve anything until I get a certain exam score, a certain grade and after school ended now I suddenly shifted that pressure to my own body and I just hate the way that I look, and how my face feels heavy and I want to work out but I genuinely have no energy!! Also it doesn't help that every time I do workout I have this voice in my head that goes like " why try anyways, you're not going to succeed, you're not good at this, you've never been good at this, you have to catch your breath to even go up the stairs" I don't know where the fuck this is coming from genuinely! But it impacts me so much! I am not even that heavy, but midsized, and I recently went from being 155 LBs to 165 and have been beating myself up about it I feel guilty for eating ANYTHING and I just want to punch myself in the face whenever I eat a cookie. I can't even buy clothes??? because I don't deserve it and because it won't look good on me??????
Also I can't help it but, I get so annoyed with people that are nonchalant and do whatever they want with a "carefree" attitude. Part of me is jealous obviously but it just irks me to my core, because why am I like this? Where I feel the constant need to be perfect and beat myself up to bits because I am not. I don't look good in certain clothes so I always wear baggy clothing because that is all i am comfortable in. I have so much I should be grateful for and yet here I am hating myself and because of this I can't do things that matter more!! I feel like I am a constant dissapointment to everyone and I just literally have wanted to die for most of my life.
Like I already know I'm on the path to being an alcoholic, because in college I filled up a water bottle of vodka at one of the house parties and SAVED it! I saved it and when i was depressed so hard I drank half of the whole thing while listening to sad music by myself and it was just so fucking sad thart I did that, but it's the only way I have been able to cope and now I find myself craving that feeling more and more. I want to stop this before I am legally allowed to purchase alcohol because I already know its going to be a problem.
Also add to this crippling social anxiety. Thank god for makeup which has improved this but if I'm not wearing makeup I genuinely can't even look people in the eye. I don't know what's wrong with me or how to fix it but please god I hope someone has answers or something I can do to fix this. I have felt like this for most of my life and I need it to stop because it is extremely hindering to my self-growth and I don't want to live this way forever ;-;
I am 19 right now.

in urgent need of help, need to replace my headlights, the part numbers are 8J0 941 004 AL. I need to know if these are xenon or halogen. i also seen on an audi dealership the part number 8J0 941 003 C and was just wondering what the difference is between that part number and mine and would it fit and work on my car?
my vehicle is a 2013 audi tt quattro

I’ve noticed a sentiment on college subs in general that WGU is a “scam” and is on the same level as something like the university of phoenix
I say this as someone who didn’t go to wgu. I went to one of the “traditional” public engineering schools. It took 4 years and honestly if I could’ve worked on my own pace I could’ve finished in 2-3.
I honestly think it’s incredible what WGU is doing.
First off, it’s accredited. By the same accreditation body that accredits schools like the university of Washington and BYU. It’s even ABET accredited, which is a HUGE deal for anything stem related, basically the gold standard for science accreditation.
Next, it’s a non profit. It’s not a for profit school like university of phoenix.
Lastly, the way it’s structured is just legendary. Listen, traditional college in some ways feels like a scam. You can’t go on your own pace, it literally feels like it’s designed to make you stay as long as possible so the university (even if it’s a public one) so it will make as much money as possible. Especially the transferring credits part.
If you didn’t know, WGU goes on 6 month terms. However, you can take as many classes as you want in that 6 month term.
If you have the time to do the work (which mind you according to the accrediting bodies has the same amount of rigor as traditional classes) why can’t you accelerate it?
It seems like traditional college students are jealous/mad that someone can complete a degree in 1-2 years time instead of 4. Why is this a bad thing?
It’s cheap, it’s accredited, it’s do at your own pace so you can do it while working, it seems great.
Now will it have the same weight as something like a LSU degree? No, but it’ll check that degree checkbox.
I hope college goes the way WGU has. It feels like traditional school feels more like a cult and an exclusive club nowadays. Oh you didn’t take 4 years at a traditional school and pay as much money as possible and be in a privileged position to not have to work full time? Your degree is a scam then.

I got into the points game in mid 2022 when our travel picked up significantly.
Our travel patterns are different. But we still travel on average a little more than once a month. Nothing extravagant for the most part mostly domestic long weekend getaways and we are planning at least one trip to Europe/UK a year - economy flights
Our current keepers are:

• Amex Delta Platinum & Reserve
• Amex Platinum/Gold/Green/Blue Business Plus
• Amex Hilton Business Platinum
• Chase World of Hyatt Business
• Capital One SavorOne (mostly for Uber)

Within the last two months I opened the Platinum now that we aren’t flying primarily Delta for lounge access and the Hilton Business to replace the Aspire. I am still working on the SUBs for both
Plans over the next 18 months
Chase Ink Preferred - two of our major bills per month ($2200 a month) codes for 3x - our HOA and our month to month car subscription through SixT. It will replace the Green and will open up Hyatt as a transfer partner. We had plenty of Hyatt points for this year. This will be the last card for 2024.
Early next year I will be getting both the Southwest Business card and personal card for the two year companion pass.
We have one trip planned to Anchorage next year so I will be churning the BOA Business Alaska Airlines card.
Then the Chase Ink Business Unlimited as a churner and finally another Chase Ink Preferred
I am just now getting into the Chase ecosystem aside from the Chase WOH business card.
I will be under 5/24 in mid September

Day One:
‘Hey, did it work? Can you hear me?’ the tinny, female voice asked. All was dark, then, light. Slowly, his vision cleared and he saw the sky. The sun. Then, a small floating thing that bobbed and danced excitedly over him. ‘You're alive! Finally! I've been looking for you for a long time Guardian!’ that same voice said. It seemed to be coming directly into his ear from a speaker. He sat up and placed his hands on his head. A helmet was there. He began to gasp and panic, trying to remove it. ‘Hey, what are you doing? Calm down….’ the voice said. The helmet disappeared. He drew in a breath. The air was foul with a fetid undertone.
‘What the fuck? What are you? Where am I?’ He asked the thing which was now spinning and dancing in front of him. He coughed and placed his arm over his mouth. The stench was almost unbearable. The helmet rematerialized as soon as he moved his arm.
‘Sorry, but the air here is toxic. Not lethal, but not pleasant. Too many corpses rotting. I replaced the helmet to filter it. My name is Cilla, and I'm a Ghost. YOUR Ghost. I'll explain more about that later, but the long and short of it is you were dead for centuries and I brought you back.’ it said.
‘Dead? Centuries? Wait…. Why can't I remember anything from before I woke up here, who am I?’ He asked. ‘And what do you mean a ghost? Like you're also a dead person?’
‘No, Guardian. I'm more like a piece of the Light that brought you back. It's a long story and we will have time to go over it. Let's get you moving though. We are a long way from the city, and this area hasn't been patrolled or swept like ever. We need to move, who knows what kind of threats have been hiding here’ Cilla said.
‘Where is here, exactly? And which city?’ He asked as he stood up. He looked down and saw he was wearing a kind of robe like garment with gloves, pants, and armored boots. An armlet was fastened around his bicep. ‘And what the fuck am I wearing?’
‘This was once called Romania I think, these are the Carpathian mountains. At least that's what historical records I could find indicate. And you are wearing armor Guardian. You are a Warlock, which means you are powerful, curious, and capable of amazing things. Let's get moving. Seriously, this isn't a safe place. You did die here once already after all.’
He looked around. There wasn't much to see other than the wild beauty of a dark forest run wild that had retaken the civilization that was wiped out. It was haunting and lovely. But there was a hint of something….. dark. He looked down, and saw he was standing on a pile of bones in the remains of an old uniform. A piece of metal twinkled in the ruins of it's ribs. He bent and picked it up. As he brushed the dirt and grit off he asked the Ghost ‘Was this me?’
‘No, your body was reconstituted, that was the one you were on top of….’ She said. He looked down at the tag he had picked up. It read ‘Kassien’
‘Well, then they don't need the name anymore, and apparently I don't have one…. I guess you can call me Kassien instead of guardian.’ He said.
Cilla swooped. ‘Kassien! I like it!’ She said and spun in the air. Her voice was pleasant and slightly sultry. Weird. ‘Now let's move. There is the remains of an installation a few kilometers away. We probably won't find a ship there but maybe some weapons and a way to contact the city.’ she said.
‘OK, let's go. You can fill me in as we walk. First off, what's a Warlock?’ he said. He jumped down off of the mound he had awoken on, and was shocked to find himself gliding slowly down to the ground. ‘What the fuck, I can fly?’ he asked.
‘Not exactly’ Cilla said laughing a bit. ‘Warlocks can glide amongst other abilities. Let's cover the basics as we walk’ she said. And as he walked she explained about the Traveler, the Darkness, the collapse from the Golden Age, and the Guardians. By the time they reached the ancient military facility, he was reeling with it all.
‘So, I'm a space wizard?’ Kass asked. He looked at his hands and concentrated. She claimed he had this power of light flowing through him, and wanted to test it out. At first there was nothing, then, a bright ball of yellowish orange energy flickered into existence in his hand. In his shock he lost his focus and it exploded, taking his hand and lower arm with it. Blood was everywhere. The pain was searing and intense. ‘What the fuck!? Cilla!’ He shouted. She popped out if his backpack and floated there. She did nothing. He bled and the world turned black.
Then he was back. His arm was fine. There wasn't even a singed thread on his glove. ‘What just happened?’ Kass asked. He flexed his hand. No pain. He felt fantastic.
‘Well, you tried to use your power, formed a grenade, blew your own arm off, and bled to death…’ she said. There was a slight bit of humor in her voice. ‘Then I brought you back. I could have healed it, but I thought it best to get the whole ‘You are going to die over and over’ thing out of the way. That is part of the deal, boss. You can die again and again and it hurts every time, but I will always bring you back as long as I am not destroyed or the Light isn't choked off by the Darkness.’ she said.
‘That's kind of fucked up, but yeah, rip the bandage off I guess….’ he said sardonically. He walked over to the dark, gaping entrance and peered inside. ‘Don't suppose you know where we could find a light, do you?’ Cilla made no reply, but floated over his left shoulder and shot a focused beam of bright light into the darkness. ‘Nice, Cilla’
‘Thanks, Boss!’ she said and spun in the air. ‘I scanned the area, looks like there was an armory not too far inside. Maybe there are some guns left. We need a weapon or fifty.’
‘From what you told me about all the creatures here, yeah could be a good idea. Do guns kill them?’
‘Oh yeah, if there is one thing Guardians can't have enough of it's guns.’
‘OK, let's find some firepower.’ Kass said. They stepped inside, leaving the sunlight behind. That would be one of the worst mistakes Kass and Cilla made on that first day.
To be continued....

I’ve noticed a sentiment on this sub and other college subs in general that WGU is a “scam” and is on the same level as something like the university of phoenix
I say this as someone who didn’t go to wgu. I went to one of the “traditional” public engineering schools. It took 4 years and honestly if I could’ve worked on my own pace I could’ve finished in 2-3.
I honestly think it’s incredible what WGU is doing. I have a few friends/coworkers that went and finished school quickly and cheaply.
Instead of me feeling jealously/resentment I realized WGU gave these people an opportunity for an education they most likely would’ve never gotten (for example, one was a single father and had to work full time to support his child. Do you think going to school part time for 4-5 years was a valid option for him?)
First off, it’s accredited. By the same accreditation body that accredits schools like the university of Washington and BYU. It’s even ABET accredited, which is a HUGE deal for anything stem related, basically the gold standard for science accreditation.
Next, it’s a non profit. It’s not a for profit school like university of phoenix.
Lastly, the way it’s structured is just legendary. Listen, traditional college in some ways feels like a scam. You can’t go on your own pace, it literally feels like it’s designed to make you stay as long as possible so the university (even if it’s a public one) so it will make as much money as possible. Especially the transferring credits part.
If you didn’t know, WGU goes on 6 month terms. However, you can take as many classes as you want in that 6 month term.
If you have the time to do the work (which mind you according to the accrediting bodies has the same amount of rigor as traditional classes) why can’t you accelerate it?
It seems like traditional college students are jealous/mad that someone can complete a degree in 1-2 years time instead of 4. Why is this a bad thing?
It’s cheap, it’s accredited, it’s do at your own pace so you can do it while working, it seems great.
Now will it have the same weight as something like a LSU degree? No, but it’ll check that degree checkbox.
I hope college goes the way WGU has. It feels like traditional school feels more like a cult and an exclusive club nowadays. Oh you didn’t take 4 years at a traditional school and pay as much money as possible and be in a privileged position to not have to work full time? Your degree is a scam then.

Does the Lexus NX still work fine when the electric battery finally dies, or do I have to fork out £6k for labour + a new battery?
My mother's current car broke down and it's not worth repairing at this point. But she needs new car asap, I have £16k to it'll have to be an older NX.
Honestly, I want a reliable, comfortable car for her and not something that's gonna give us headaches - I have a BMW i8 and that shit has been a headache on wheels. It was ultimately why I avoided choosing against the BMW X3 for her.
2015-onwards Lexus NX, up to 65K miles is what we're looking for. These cars tick all the boxes - supremely reliable according to reviews. Also Lexus is a great brand I respect.
I've ruled out Lexus IS for her because I heard they discontinued it, so parts etc will probably cost more later on due to scarcity.

Hi I’m looking to buy a car that will last a long time and requires less maintenance. I am looking at either a 2024 Honda civic EX (with sun roof) or 2024 Hyundai Sonata SEL (with convenience package). I’m not much of a car person or into engine stuff but I do care a lot about having a nice sun roof and the Sonata has a panoramic sun roof and a 12.3 inch dashboard vs the Honda civic having a smalleregular sun roof and a 7 inch dash board. I can get a discount on the sonata which will make it approx the same price as the honda civic OTD (around $28-32k for each). However, I heard Honda civics are indestructible and require very little maintenance and it’s very cheap cus all the parts are sourced from america. and hyundai sonatas are less reliable and more expensive maintainence because their parts are from Korea? (PS i’m from California). Also I think the honda civic exterior is prettier than the sonata exterior. Does anyone have experiences driving either car or have any thoughts on which would be better if they were both the same price?

Trying to get the Way of the Tempest but I killed one of the targets long ago without realising. The demon isn't here since I killed it already and never looted the body. How do I go about getting the 3 needed to finish the quest? In the same boat for Way of the Assassin, killed a group of people and didn't loot them only for them to be part of the quest. Any help is appreciated!

It is a loooong story buy basically i am 30, have no job , hate my life and have since teen years, gay always liked guys who would never even look at me, hate gay dating pool tiny so i have no chance, hate how society works, been on anti depressants for years, after abusive father violently kicked me out, been living with my mother who wants to kick me out now cause i havent worked in 4 years, nor look for work, i will explain why in a moment. And i am mentally somewhat ok, when i am just doing hobbies, my mother has alreadt banned internet from me and locks the computer room door, today she explodes coming home we cannot communicate all she says is "when are you going to get a job, i need to see a therapist cause now cause of you, i am almost 65 at the end of my life you are so selfish you cant just ger yr own wings and fly away to start your own life"
Now here is the thing, i believe i must be autistic or something like it, cause ive always dealt with many social awkwardness and fears in school, on the street or on occassion i can be polite etc and talkative but for the most part, id love socializing but ive been bulliee, backstabbed, just always had such shitty stressful people around me, from my abusive father, my overly anxious mother whose anxiety was pushed onto me, being gay has been shit for me, i just want to be left alone to enjoy music and my photography hobbies etc, but cant..
I hate the city i live in, i was bullied here, badly that i have ptsd, spoken to therapists etc no change, i have seen 5 diff ones, please understand i am TIRED and opening up again and again about it makes me feel worse!!
I wanna move, but have little to any common sense skills with rent etc, like the idea of having to pay every month, having to work to be able to survive, freaks me out, so fking much... its so hostile, too much mental pressure. I already socially lost, i have less hair now cause of genetic alopecia, lost my teen and 20s to never dating , why continue to simply get a job in the town where seeinh people from my past constantly triggers me, if they see me working, they'll gossip about it and humiliate me again, they should not ever know of me again since the horrific things they did to me in highschool, last time i saw an ex bully as an adult, she passed by car, pointed and gave that evil grin from those days...please understand i cant go through with it here, i would simply be living to live for nothing but physically living.
I dont wanna see these people, my mother wont stop annoying me, my father is a violent abusive man, why just why not end it all? I have no reason to live outside of my hobbies. I learnt escapism cause i always hated the way the world was in regards to me.
Also just to add, so many people seem just so priviledged out of nowhere, the very few jobs i worked in the past i was worked like a mule for mininum wage, come home with stomach pains for hunger, tired without time for me, and examples: my sister is a teacher in a private school, every few months she can go on holiday...wtf? Worse, a guy from same school as me i had a big crush on (wont get into the painful story behind how he mocked me when i confessed my feelings as we are both gay) well he is a vet, his face is on the vet company website he works for too, moved abroad etc, he is constantly posting on insta about going to the states, to dubai, to cuba, the guy is always on vacation..what the fuck?? How did these people win at life? This isnt even what i wanted, i just wanted respect and no more trauma nor having to work a job i dislike, the small town i am in has limited choices. I dont want these people seeing ny life