Hi. I am a 29 F that just broke up with my 38 M narcissistic boyfriend of 6 years (on and off) back in February, he moved out March. I’ve been going to therapy since then and we established that I should be single for at least a year so I can properly grieve each holiday, birthday, vacation without them and know how to be alone. I think that’s a great idea but it’s hard cuz I’m considered to be conventionally attractive and men are always trying to date me. Even if I say I am not interested. I’ve always had a boyfriend, ever since I was 15, I was never single, because men always wanted to date me and I always jumped into relationships without getting to know them first. So it’s safe to say, I haven’t had the best romantic relationships. I get a lot of attention and although the men love it at first (all these guys want her but she’s with me), they eventually grow jealous, don’t trust me, and it ends up being very toxic and they try to change who I am.
With that being said, I am focused on myself and learning how to be by myself. My goal for my future partner would be someone who is genuinely my friend. Someone who isn’t trying to have sexual relations with me I don’t know how realistic that is but, every guy “friend” I’ve had later confessed how they liked me and when I expressed I didn’t feel the same way they stopped being my friend. So I’m hoping to genuinely be friends with a man and we somehow fall in love? Anyways, I met a man through a Facebook group I’m in. I was giving away some unused dancing shoes for men and he came by to pick them up and we have been friends since. He was very sweet and we opened up to each other about our past. He said he hasn’t been single in 6 years, he’s always had a girlfriend and I told him about my toxic 6 year on and off relationship with my ex and we both talked about how I would like to be friends with a man for a long time before dating them cuz I would like to know his personality since I’ve always just jumped into relationships with men I basically didn’t even know. He completely understood… or so I thought.
One day he came over so we can eat tacos and watch black mirror, we normally hang out with other people but this time we were alone. And he tried kissing me… I would avoid it but he literally grabbed my face and we made out but it felt so forced and I did not enjoy it at all. I just wanted him to leave but he overstayed his welcome and I was too nice to ask him to leave. He eventually left and I just felt icky.
The following week he was supposed to take me to the airport. I asked him to come to my place at 6:30 AM. That morning, I was running late, I probably would have been ready by 6:45 MAX. He shows up at 6:10 AM knocking at my door. I didn’t answer the door cuz I’m literally running around like a headless chicken trying to get everything together for my flight. I’m frustrated cuz 1. He is supposed to pick me up. I never said he could come inside. Pick me up to me means that you literally pull up and wait for me to come outside when you tell me you are outside. 2. He showed up so early!! I would have felt bad if he showed up at 6:30 but he showed up at 6:10 and I felt super rushed. Not only that but he kept trying to open my door. So I told him to go wait in his car. I never invited him in and I didn’t want him in my home watching me run around like a mad woman. This just completely turned me off.
He’s been messaging me and tryin to hang out but I’ve just been coming up with excuses. AITA? Am I over reacting?

I struggled to find current information beforehand and thought I would share my experience for others searching for an answer.
We wanted to end our recent transatlantic cruise a day early in Le Havre instead of South Hampton in order to continue our vacation throughout France and Italy without wasting a day travelling back to France.
I called in to NCL three times and was consistently told that it could not be done, early disembarkment was never possible, and was illegal due to the Jones Act.
However, once on the boat I talked to guest services, mentally prepared to try and argue and plead my case and was met with a simple "Sure, just stop by the day before" and they took down my room number. I checked again the next day and they confirmed.
The day before early disembarkment we stopped by guest services again, provided copies of our passports and were told we'd get a letter in our room. Our NCL app also updated to reflect the reduced itinerary and the last day of gratuities were refunded.
We got the letter saying to meet France immigration at 8:15 the next morning which we did along with about 20 other people also getting off early. A short wait in line later we were cleared to leave and the officer requested we leave the ship by 12.
While exiting the ship we got crossed off a list and that was it.
It was a total breeze and while I understand they likely don't want to encourage it to make their lives easiemilk more money out of guests I just wanted to share it is easy and possible in my experience despite what the call center might say.
*Experience may vary, check out Jones Act for USA cruises, but my dad also successfully early disembarked in Victoria on a Seattle - Seattle Alaskan cruise)

Why is my attorney avoiding me? I was offered an unfair settlement of 15 grand over a work injury that I fought for over a year and currently dealing with over my denied WC claim. I fractured my big toe in different areas and had to get my nail surgically removed. I worked at a strip club as a waitress and occasionally did private dances. I couldn’t walk properly and was only given crutches upon request. I never received proper treatment from the doctors I was sent to over the months. I was in pain and broke from not being able to work. My attorney last spoke to me over a month ago, the same day she mentioned the 15k settlement, about my offer & said I would get 12k after paying them off & I said I would think about the offer and call back. I called and called and emailed it’s been a Month later and 0 contact. I don’t agree with the settlement offer and on top of that i received a letter regarding disability benefit payments stating I will receive $5,220 and not upfront but in bi weekly payments and it will be deducted from any awarded money I receive. I’ve emailed, called, texted my attorney and I get no answer. I never agreed to settle. What should I do? I’ve never dealt with a legal issue and im trying my best.

I M14 live with my parents and 2 other siblings F12 and M7 and the school I go to ended our final semester early and I got an early summer vacation, meaning I get to do all the chores around the house everyday while my siblings go to school and my parents laze around. And when my sister gets home all she immediately does is watch one piece for hours on end. After I do all of their chores since they were in school I asked her to make the rice in the rice cooker and she starts complaining about how I'm lazy and that it's my chores. Then she trashed my room while I was away and didn't want to clean up. A week later she's crying because the projects she's been procrastinating weren't done yet and she then told me to make her some food, and when I said hell no my dad starts getting mad and my sister starts crying more, So I made her food. Then I find her on MY computer using it for her projects while she's playing Taylor Swift and random japanese songs on full blast on her phone, and when I told her to get off because it was my free time and I wanted to play with the guys she said she had to do her projects, mind you she has her own laptop. Then when I yelled she started crying and my dad got pissed and told me to just let her use my computer. And guess what? Out of spite she changed my steam password to a random assortment of letters and now I can't get back into my account. It's gonzo. Now she's begging me to help her with all her remaining homework that consists of: A paper mache bowl, A piggybank, An essay etc. And now I'm thinking of saying no but I'm scared my dad might either force me to do it anyway or beat me up because I said no to my lazy entitled sister.

The EXTREMELY detailed, mega-anxiety edition!!! Major events like consult and surgery day are labeled like this:
——— EVENT TITLE ———
Surgeon was Dr. David Whitehead and I saw him on Long Island (New Hyde)
Summarized list of major dates:
Consult: July 19 2023 Mental health letter acquired: August 9 Dates discussed: September 12 Pre-op appointment: December 18 Surgery day: January 8 2024 Post-op: January 17
November 11th 2022: Emailed northwell health for the first time, they emailed back saying to call. I was too anxious so I avoided it for a few months.
Called northwell a few months later but got too anxious talking to the person who picked up. They were being normal and talking normally, it was just personal anxiety on my part.
October 2022 - Early March 2023: Spent time talking to trans friends and family members about their timelines and processes for top surgery.
Looked into Penn medicine for a bit but wasn’t happy with the surgeons there, specifically as a nonbinary person. The patient navigational team however is lovely.
March 2: emailed Penn health patient navigation
March 3-10: correspondence and phone calls w patient navigation (absolutely wonderful people, some of the easiest phone calls I’ve ever had) Got lots of into on surgeons, things I’d need, processes etc.
Date unknown: phone call to Penn medicine asking about surgeons and possibly setting up as a patient (v long wait time on phone) Surgeon I had heard good things about only works w CHOP program and I’m was too old for that program. Other surgeons I was v iffy on.
March 23rd: Back to square 1. Called northwell again to set up an appointment. Everyone I spoke to was really nice. Could have set up an appointment within the week but decided to wait till the end of the semester. Scheduled a trans care and primary care appointment for May
Couple of calls In between for confirmations. Trans care appointment got moved around a bit and ended up being moved to a phone call.
May 8th: Trans care call: Basic preliminary questions like: Emergency contact, what you’re looking for, are you thinking of looking into hormones, experience w dysphoria or dysmorphia, mental health, and eating/nutritional concerns, things you might want doc to know, piercings or tattoos, do you do any drugs or drink often, etc. total call time was about 20 minutes. Doctor was incredibly kind, I still experienced a good deal of anxiety but the call was super easy, welcoming, and friendly. Got sent contact referrals for the surgeons, as well as trans-friendly therapists under my insurance.
May 9th: started looking at list of therapists and making respective emails and calls. Checking per session costs and double checking insurance. Most charge 100-150 per session. Got in contact w one.
May 10th: Called w first therapist talking about what I’m looking for, where I am in this process, if parents are supportive, and talking about costs. She was very friendly and affirming, wants to have a few sessions to get to know me and my situation before writing a letter. Understandable and expected, but frustrating.
May 15th: Primary care appointment: Went to northwell health primary care, parkinglot was a little scary (just a large lot with a lot of cars) but everyone working there’s is super kind. Office is incredibly affirming, pride flags and lgbtq+ art everywhere. Gave my insurance card, filled out some paper work, got called in pretty quickly. I have a needle phobia and medical trauma so I was panicking a bit in the office, nurse was good w me about it and doctor was very kind, I just requested to not have any blood work done that day and that was totally fine, so I could schedule that at a later date and go w a friend. Recommended to get blood work done before scheduling a consult w a surgeon. Also prescribed me a single dose anxiety med for the bloodwork which I was very happy about. I found over time that the anxiety meds unfortunately do little to nothing for my panic attacks personally when it comes to needles but regardless having a doctor acknowledge and respect that fear and listen to me was incredibly helpful and reassuring.
May 30th: Got blood work done in a different lab, went w a friend. Scheduling for that is super easy, I think I did it online actually I don’t entirely recall. they do take walk ins but I made an appointment to minimize complications and make sure I could prepare properly. Front desk/lobby area was a little spooky, but I think that is mainly just bc of my social anxiety. They take a urine sample, you give them your prescription, eventually they call you over for blood work. Quick and easy, tech was v nice and having a friend with me was incredibly helpful. Probably the best I’ve ever done with a needle despite the fact that I did still panic and get very lightheaded lol.
Got blood work results back within the next couple days, all looks a-okay! Neat :)
June 15th This day was incredibly difficult. I had my first session with a therapist to establish some ground knowledge around my dysphoria and the way that I view myself. Top surgery is something that I know from research and related experience Can be difficult and expensive to get and can take time, so much of my prep work has been on the understanding of taking things a step at a time and just knowing that the current way things are doesn’t have to be forever. It allowed me to be able to live with myself while prioritizing my health better. This read to the therapist as “not having the level of dysphoria [she’s] come to expect and look for in someone who is trans” and was largely based off the fact that I don’t want to go on hrt. Past that point I started to break down because now my method of learning to live with myself felt like it was actively going to work against me and prevent me from getting top surgery. I’m not good at talking about my dysphoria, I can’t imagine it’s easy for anyone, especially to a stranger I just met. It was rough, and I felt incredibly mentally drained after ending the session.
June 19th Called it quits with the first therapist, I felt incredibly disrespected and the one session we had put me in a mental spiral for days. It can feel some times in this process like the people you have to get permission from need you to be severely depressed and unable to wait another second for this procedure just in order to take you seriously.
After I left that therapist, I immediately got back to the list to find someone new. Spoke to a new therapist via email, but my insurance is kinda weird (Blue Cross Blue Shield out of state) so its off putting to some people. This therapist recommended I go through the office she started out at (Heart and Soul Counseling)
————- Time Skip ——————
IM BACK its time for some record keeping. Got super overwhelmed and lost the energy to document my process for some time so here goes.
HEART AND SOUL COUNSELING: My experience w/ this therapy office was mostly good. The person in charge, Jesse, was absolutely lovely and responsive. Never spoke in person, but any text/email interaction was prompt, respectful, and kind. The office is stellar with email/text communication, so I only ever had to call them once when I was initially inquiring about the office. This is something I wish all therapy/counseling centers did better, eliminated a ton of my anxiety and hesitation to speak to therapists.
I got set up w someone as quickly as possible and established what my goal was (to acquire letter document for my surgery team). I attended multiple session w the therapist, she was a kind lady but the sessions were unfortunately p miserable for me. We didn’t fit well, but I was willing to stick it out rather than backtrack on my process. She also did not invalidate me or accuse me of not being trans which was a major step up from my first therapy experience. Once I acquired my letter I did stop therapy there, I kindly explained to the therapist that it wasn’t a good match, but I may honestly explore my options at the office in the future. Receptionist there was also lovely and they had a cool fish tank.
———- CONSULT STARTS HERE —————
July 19th: CONSULT!!! My mama and I went to Dr. David Whiteheads office for a consult. Parking was a nightmare so I’m super glad I didn’t have to drive for this one (ty mama). Consult went really well, and the staff were all super friendly. Dr. Whitehead is cool, very chill energy and a bit intimidating, but I’m scared of everyone so that’s nothing new. First question he asked me is what I wanted/what he could do for me which caught me more off guard than it should have? I didn’t realize going into this process how many times people ask you what you’re having done even if it’s already written down, because there’s so much variety in what you can look for in the results.
We talked about the procedure, went through a slideshow n stuff, and discussed how I wanted a flat chest w/ no nipple preservation. They made sure to specify that my mental health professional letter had to include that I did not want nipple preservation because thats technically a “non-standard” appearance. Also had the first breast exam I’ve ever had in my life. Can’t say i’m a fan (not that I need to worry about that anymore!) Took pictures n measurements n such, and also discussed recovery supplies and care w me and my mom.
August 9th: After a plethora of painfully awkward therapy sessions, a decent amount of crying, and a couple breakdowns in friends cars/backyards, I got my therapist letter and sent it to the surgeons office. It ended up needing minor revisions to which I contacted Jesse from Heart and Soul and he got me the revised letter immediately. Unfortunately the surgical coordinator was out of office for the rest of the month the next day ;w;. Is how it be.
September 12th: Got a call from Surgical coordinator mid-painting class that I stepped out to take. Started discussing surgical dates!! She was kind enough to email the dates to me which was lovely because I was absolutely shaking/mind blank haha. There was an option for January 8th which felt like an absolute miracle the way it would work with my school schedule. It would give me a solid two weeks recovery time before spring semester began. Because it would be a couple months out, I was asked to contact her in the second week of October to submit documents to insurance.
(Timeline note: earliest date offered was in early December)
October 10th: Documents sent to insurance, predetermination started
October 30th: Received mail from my insurance approving my procedure as medically necessary (YAY) But! This is also where things get,,, fun! Dr Whitehead’s surgical coordinator, Alyssa, is a blessing and was very helpful and prompt with me despite the fact that I had to email her pretty constantly during this general time which I still feel bad about.
Around this time, my mom got diagnosed with breast cancer, which I reported to the surgical coordinator because it influences my family history (grandmother also had breast cancer). It was asked that I get genetic testing done because this could impact my surgical procedure. Now I’m handling the setup on this between helping my mom in her process setting up consults and considering her options because there of course is a lot of crossover to the steps I’ve already completed and am familiar with.
November 1st: Very kind person at cancer genetics calls me, sends me a family history questionnaire to fill out before I can be scheduled to see a genetic counselor. Filled out the questionnaire the same day.
November 8th: Called cancer genetics to check about scheduling, office was not open so left a message. Got a call back later in the day. I have a virtual appointment with a Genetic counselor Tuesday the 14th. Current plan is a mailed saliva genetic test but I’m going to ask if theres anything I can do to get results/materials quicker. If I can’t get results/feedback by December 8th my surgery date may get deferred.
Trying not to stress too much because there is little to nothing I can do about this, and I just don’t want to be sad. I’ve kept telling myself throughout this process to not get excited and not let myself believe anything is solid because something could happen at any time that might mess up my schedule or plan, and If I convince myself I’m in the clear, those changes will hurt a lot more. So far I think thats been a good move, because this really sucks.
My surgery date is still officially scheduled as of now as well as my first post-op. I will also ideally have pre-surgical testing done December 18th should I be cleared by genetics in time (Fingers crossed!)
ALSO! Def lean on friends if/when you can during this process. It can absolutely be challenging, and having a support system is incredibly important and helpful. I’m super lucky to have really lovely and supportive friends that are around to listen to me and send me pictures of stupid little animals.
November 9th: My mama is scheduled for her double mastectomy on December 4th
November 10th: Did some shopping with my mama for recovery supplies for double mastectomy/top surgery. Having watched a million and a half transition/top surgery videos and tiktoks and having read all the blogs and posts and tweets makes you a great support for someone suddenly faced with an upcoming double mastectomy! We might go shopping this weekend for some button ups and zip ups for her, clothes shopping is better done when you can try stuff on
November 14th: Meeting w genetic counselor: Victoria Webb, one of the loveliest medical care workers I’ve ever met. Had a virtual appointment with her to discuss and set up genetic testing. I explained to her about my situation w the proximity of my surgery and tight deadline as well as my willingness to do a blood test instead of a saliva kit to get results quicker. She was so incredibly kind and good with me, ended up being able to do a saliva kit and get results in time she deserves every good thing in life.
December 18th: pre-surgical testing: This was at the main hospital, everyone was really nice but I had a really bad panic attack despite being on Xanax.
The process is sort of like getting a physical. Measurements like weight and blood pressure get taken, lots of preliminary health questions. The people working with me were really kind and I was very open with them about my anxiety, it was visually apparent though anyway because I started crying the second we even started talking about the blood draw.
Once the equipment was actually brought into the room I started to panic. Both of the women working with me were really kind and helpful and tried to distract me and keep me talking the entire time, but I did still have a really horrible panic attack. Every muscle in my body locked up and I lost all my color, took a bit to get back to a spot where I could move and talk properly because my speech was affected too. It was a bit scary but funny to think about in post. Thanked the medical staff for being patient w me as always, a good portion of the anxiety is also guilt about making things harder for them. Got through it tho. Def eat before presurgical if allowed, I didn’t and that probably didn’t help!!
———- SURGERY DAY ————-
January 8th:
Ok so surgery day:
This day was very scary. Got my phone call the Friday prior for my surgery time which ended up being 1pm and I was asked to arrive around 11. Got there at 10 and went in at 10:30.
Called up to check in then in waiting room till someone brought me back to change. I told her right away about my anxiety with the iv bc that’s legit all I could think about. Got changed right after. I was generally shaky and a little disoriented the entire time because I was panicking but everyone was very patient with me. Clothes and belongings go in a bag in a locker and you get two gowns one that faces back and one that faces front. I was given underwear and a pad as well because lucky me I got my period a couple days before my surgery.
The pre-op area is a lot of little cubicles with curtain divider things, blue soft chairs, and medical equipment. Everyone I met and spoke to was very kind, but any time someone even suggested starting my iv I would panic. I was informed it would have to be placed in my hand and that terrified me, I’m especially anxious and sensitive about my hands and fingers. I think doctors and nurses tend to misunderstand exactly where my fear is with needles and ivs. It isn’t the pain that scares me, but the concept of veins and and anything being in them. Even writing this right now is horrible so I’m going to stop w any further detail. I spent the entire two-ish hours of pre-op absolutely terrified about this iv.
I wasn’t really keeping track of time but dr whitehead came in to do markings for surgery. They had cool rainbow socks on,big fan. Having your chest drawn on and just like, moved around n shit is such an experience. Felt bad because I kept losing my balance but doctor Whitehead is cool and I am 98% less scared about them now.
Probably my most favorite person I met during my entire hospital experience was the anesthesiologist. I know he told me what his name was but I couldn’t focus on or retain information at the time. He told me we could essentially put me to sleep with gas before putting the iv in and for the first time in probably a solid week I felt like I could calm down a little. He took a look at my hand and arm to check my veins which always does freak me out a bit but I’m more used to that kind of thing at this point and I know nothing bad is going to happen. One of the nurses came in with the iv equipment and he let her know that were going to wait till in the or which was also incredibly helpful because I absolutely panicked when I saw that little supply kit again.
V nice lady brought me into the or, I’d never been in one before it was cool. They had a little music speaker which was really cool. Took off blue jacket gown and they helped me onto the table. They put a warm blanket over my legs and my chest to help me calm down. Before long they gave me a mask w fun happy sleepy time gas, they let me keep my arms on my chest for a while which was really nice because I was still scared. I started getting loopy pretty fast but I still heard when someone mentioned where the iv equipment was and panicked a little because of that. I remember feeling them take my hand for that but never actually felt anything happen. Just some fear but the gas was v helpful obvi. Someone said they would see me in a little bit, and then I was groggily waking up in recovery.
Recovery was a little rough bc the iv was still there (fully wrapped up so I couldn’t see it though which was rad) but I was still really anxious about it until it was taken out and when it was taken out. For anyone that struggles w this i did not feel them remove it, just the tape. Everything was mentally much easier after that. After a while, going over instructions w parents, a cracker , some ginger ale and some juice, my dad helped me Get dressed and I was helped out to the car in a wheel chair. Ride was smooth bc of remaining numbness and meds except a few Bumps in the road
TOP SURGERY GOTTEN
My post op date was scheduled for Jan 17th and that’s the day I got my drains out followed by several post op check-ins. First week of recovery was miserable but things exponentially approved each day past that, and I went back to school in person two weeks post-op with driving and item-carrying assistance from friends!
Will upload recovery notes at a later date! Feel free to message me with any questions, more than happy to answer and give info! I’m a bit over four months out from surgery now and thriving 🥳

Basically, just read my comment history and see for yourself.
Please do take into account the context. A lot of the people I reply to are making very false claims very confidently and are insulting me before I snap back at them, so don't take me being snappy as me being the aggressor in those cases please.
Gist of it is that I posted this in Milwaukee:

Hi! I recently moved to downtown Milwaukee (near the Public Market in the 3rd ward) and I am looking for places to exist in nature. I do not have a driver's license or car, so only places accessible by foot or public transportation.
There are technically "parks" peppered all around the city, but all the ones I visited are at best 1 block of grass with a few disparate trees and one bench, trapped between streets with high-volume traffic and a parking lot. The closest thing I found to nature is the Kinnickinnic River Parkway but even then, it's a 20-foot-wide stretch of trees and you can both see and hear constant traffic at all points of it. The ONLY spot of the entire "park" which is wider than 20 feet has a street cutting right in the middle for cars and parking, because god forbid that ANY tiny spot be car-free amirite?
Ideally, I would like to bring my hammock and hang it between two trees in a spot where there is no constant traffic and maybe even some running water. Does that exist ANYWHERE in this city?

A lot of the comments resorted to telling me to get out of America if I don't love it, so I added this:

I keep being insulted with cries of "If you don't love America, get out of my country you dirty foreigner!" and being blocked by those same people so I cannot even reply. So i wanna clarify one thing:
I did not pick this city, I am here because my in-laws live here and I am staying around to be a free babysitter and second parent for their several very young children, since I am financially stable and can work from anywhere with just a laptop. I'm not here to sightsee, I'm here to help locals with endless free labor and money, and since I am paying taxes in the USA for the duration of my time here helping, I'm paying a whole lot in US taxes too.
It's getting slightly annoying to be heckled with you people's racist exclamations and to be told that if I don't love America I should leave it. I am not stealing American jobs, I am not here for my own benefit, I am not on vacation and did not pick this city for its amazing resources - I assure you that if I could pick a city myself, it would not be Milwaukee.

Hi there,
I’ve been with a company for 7 months now. And I was late requesting my annual leave. So I’ve requested a few weeks in the summer off. However management have put me in a waiting list and I see I am 50th in the list. I have spoken to management abou this and they won’t know until closer to the date whether it will be granted as they can’t predict how busy the company will be.
But I don’t think it will be granted due to my position on the waiting list and because I requested leave last year at a popular time and it wasn’t granted then too.
I have a summer holiday planned but not booked as I was waiting to hear from them . But now I feel like just booking it and getting a sick cert from a doctor as I am entitled to time off but obviously I don’t want to anger or annoy the management.
I have had 3 days of sick so far this year. Does any body know how I can do this efficiently. I’m looking to take 16 days , is this too long? How do I get a doctor to certify me sick. I havent taken a holiday in a long time and have a young family and just want to do what I need to have a decent summer.

I'm a new homeowner and received a notice from my insurance company yesterday that my policy would be canceled on May 21st. The reason given was an underwriting cancelation due to the age of my roof, which I'm in the process of having replaced. The sudden cancelation caught me completely off guard, and the letter arrived nearly two weeks late, leaving me only 8 days to find a new insurance policy. It's looking like my insurance is going to lapse because nobody will insure me until I have the roof replacement, and it's unlikely I'll be able to hire somebody, have the work done, and find a new insurance carrier all before the 21st. I'm just struggling to understand how 8 days of notice is legal? I wasn't given any prior notice from my insurance company that the roof was an issue either. Like I said, I wanted to have it replaced from the start, but didn't consider it an urgent priority until now. Do I have any options here I'm missing, or do I have to take the lapse and hope I get everything settled as soon as possible?

I am an international student in Canada, first applied to canada visa and study permit in 2021, and they expire in 2024. Now, I extended a study permit til 2025, but to extend visa I need a PPR, but did not get it. (Usually when people apply and need visa, they do get it) I need PPR to send passport for a new extended visa I only got Correspondence Letter and In Canada Approval Letter. Have anyone had this issue before? and help would be appreciated!

Hey guys, i’m new to this but i just wanted to share my story. I’m 22 F overweight and I was vaping for about 3 1/2 years. When I was continuously vaping, like chain vaping, I would notice heart palpitations happen but go away after a couple minutes. It would only happen if I vaped back to back multiple times. It got to the point of vaping becoming even more of an addiction and causing panic attacks, even while taking lexapro. I was in denial and thought the lexapro was the thing causing my anxiety spikes. IDIOT, i know. Anyways, i quit lexapro in november, and continued to vape. But then starting January 2024, i started having constant panic attacks lasting hours at a time & feeling out of body. So very reluctantly, i quit vaping, cold turkey. The day after i quit, i started getting heart palpitations again. I thought “maybe it’s just my body detoxing? But I would rather that than the constant panic”. So for awhile i thought, maybe it’s from not vaping? But, it never went away.
I also wore a heart monitor for 3 days and was told i get premature atrial contractions (PACS). I spent hours in the ER multiple times just to find an answer to why. I reached out to many drs & was told it was from “anxiety” and that if i got it under control, they would go away. I was given prozac first, but the side effects of it made me bed ridden,dizzy, nauseous and unable to do anything. I did notice my heart palpitations were gone, but my heart would randomly race and my anxiety got even worse. I then got off of it, and for a week i started getting palps again. I finally started taking 10mg lexapro again in February and my psychiatrist accompanied it with 20mg propranolol (inderal). The palpitations went away for about a week & 1/2 after starting the medications.
I started going to therapy & doing better mentally. my anxiety has gone from a 10 to about a 2. I then started going to the gym and the day after, the palpitations came back & wouldn’t go away. I only lifted weights and fast-walked on the treadmill. The same thing happened every time i went to the gym, even if i skipped cardio. The palpitations would come on a couple hours after leaving, or even the next day, never during or right after. My medication would barely help as well These palps are the only thing causing my anxiety. like i said, it’s at about a 2. But when i get them, my anxiety gets to be about a 4/5 but sometimes harder to control. My primary dr still hasn’t given me any answers , but told me to take more propranolol, so now i’m taking 40mg in total, 20mg pills twice a day. I was also given a new heart monitor and i wore it for 7 days. I just got my results back and i get isolated occasional PACs (1.4%, 10125) and (<1.0%, 12) SVE couplets. (don’t know exactly what that means). still waiting for a dr to go over it with me.
I have gotten basic blood tests done already as well. Glucose was good, electrolytes (sodium, potassium, chloride, carbon dioxide) normal & magnesium, b9 & b12 were good. Since it’s been about 4 months since quitting vaping, i don’t think this is specifically related to withdrawals anymore. (it could still be related to vaping, i’m not denying that) I don’t know if it’s related to weight? i’m trying to lose weight, it’s just hard when i can’t exercise bc my heart wants to go all wacky. I know gastrointestinal issues can be linked too but i haven’t been tested for it? i just need advice on wtf to do. Blood test orders? Requests to ask my dr for? Things to do at home? literally anything, i am desperate!!

We just became self managed and the real estate attorney on the first home sale did not give us the buyers info like name, email, phone, even though we requested it twice. Is that typical? Also below is a copy of our estoppel letter. Any recommendations on how to insure that lawyers actually print out the Bylaws/CCRs/AOI and give it to buyer at closing. I know they forget sometimes because when I bought my house 24 years ago, they did not have them for me and dumb attorney advised me to sign without reading them. I spent 2 hours reading every other document and didnt' understand what an HOA was when I was 22 years old. . Should we FAX over 32 pages or spend $7 to mail over the documents? I really do not trust them to get it right. Should we withhold the letter until we get buyer info? Afterall the buyer is charged a fee as well so technically we do need their info.
May 10, 2024
RE: Closing Letter & Request for Buyers information.
Thank you for your inquiry. Please give us the buyers name, email and phone number so that we can easily send them future HOA notifications. Below is the closing statement you requested:
Subject Property Address: , Charlotte, NC 28xxx
Association’s Fiscal Year: Jan 1st to Dec 31st.
Association Dues:$90 annually
Next Installment Due Date: August 31st 2024
Next Installment Considered Late: Sept 15, 2024
Late Fees: $20/month Interest on Past Due Amounts:0
Special Assessments Currently Payable: NONE
Current Past Due Amount: as of the date of this letter
Dues are Paid:Annually
Closing Doc Fee due at closing$150 for seller and $100 for the buyer. Total of $250 you can pay online here: xxxxxxx or mail a check to the HOA
Any Legal issuesNone
Any ARC, violations or other issuesnone
Respectfully Submitted,
xxxxxxxxxxxxx
President xxxxxxxxxxxx Homeowners Association Inc.
Please print out these important documents below and give to the buyer at closing:
weblink of docs.

So I was working with current company from last 6+ years. Now I got a new job opportunity from another MNC. So resigned from my post and asked my manager to relive me early as I have plenty of leave. So being on grade 2 employee I have to serve 60days notice period. So I request that I'll be serving 30 days notice and adjust rest of the period from my leaves or give me a buyout as new organisation is ready to pay. However my manage director both denied under company billing policy terms. Now new organisation wants me to join within 45 days or the earliest. They are not allowing me to serve 60days. And my current organisation is not ready to relive me and as per current organisation's HR if I exit early without director's approval they will mark me absconded and new company doesn't allow absconded employees.
What should I do ??? Anyone can suggest me anything

I am into voyeurism, i like watching others have sex or even watching me, if anyone up for Voyeurism or sex chat or anything (I always give second thought to other people's request). DM me or leave a comment
Other things we could try steamy videos of each other Chat roleplay Groping fetish Dry humping

I am planning to move into my apartment with family next year. Tenant and I agreed on rent for renewal, I also made him sign a document stating he will leave the apartment after 1 year (to be on safer side) and collected the post dated cheques.
However, its been 2 months, he refuses to go and register the Ejari and contract, even after continuous followups. I also wanted to send a 1 year notice (notarised) to vacate.
Question is, can I send him a notice to vacate, even if Ejari is not registered?

I marrried a narcissist and I just realized this characteristic after watching Tiktok.
Hi, Im a mother of 4 kids. I have know my husband for 13 years already and year after year I'm beginning to hate the sight of him. Long story short, he is abusive physically, mentally and spiritually. He would beat then blame me for provoking in the middle of the mornings. Mentally, we will insult me and cursed me in front of the kids, once at my office and few times in public. Spiritually, he just doesn't believe in God. He insults my religion, my race and where I come from.I have an altar at home, whenever there is a fight, he will light up and essence and then next few weeks he is back at his attitude. And I will be like, what for you light the candles for wayang or what.
Biggest red flag of all, he cheats. Latest one with his EX! and they both got the biggest Karma after that. That one another story :P I have tried everything!!! like everything. Spoke to his parents, police reports. Best part is the stupid police can tell me, "Bawa bincang dengan keluarga la" WTF!! ok i did that again la. Spoke to his friends, friends call him, he tembak them, now they duwan to talk to him, but they still keep in touch with me to ask me on things.
Last resort, I did my JPN counseling thing and got my letter. Tell him already like twice to leave my house but he still doesn't burge. And within 2 two month already twice kena. Consult with lawyer , just to get an injunction out RM 10,000.00 !!! like seriously... Are they waiting for me to die or what.
He still in my house even after everything I had said to him. I told him I don't love him anymore. He has a company that doesn't run, doesn't work, sits all day at home with Tiktok. Doesnt do anything at home. Doesnt pay any bills and still he got face to sit in my house.
I need help. How do I get rid of him. Go police they will ask oooohhhhh kita take boleh halau suami keluar, Go to uncle and aunty all shake head, ask to be strong.
So lost right now. Anyone have any workable solution please help.

🌍Overview

For this patch, we have made improvements and changes to the following areas:

• Crash fixes
• Misc fixes

🔧Fixes

Crashes

• Fixed a crash triggered when the host left after a player hot joined.
• Fixed an occasional crash in Loadout menu.
• Fix for a rare crash when transitioning to or from the ship.

Misc Fixes

• Fixed players getting stuck on the mission summary screen when the host leaves.
• Fixed the issue of non-purchased Super Credits not being visible in the Warbond Overview screen (only relevant for Japanese release).
• Optional account linking now available in the Account section of the in-game settings.
• Fixed 'Steam AppId supplied invalid or not allowed' being shown due to a different error.
• Fix attachments on weapons showing up as purple question marks in the tutorial in some cases.
• Airburst proximity explosion is now triggered only by enemies & Helldivers.
• The AR-61 Tenderizer now has the correct color scheme.

🧠Known Issues

These are issues that were either introduced by this patch and are being worked on, or are from a previous version and have not yet been fixed.

• Players may not have the option to send, accept or decline friend requests.
• Players may not have the option to Block other players.
• Blocked players are not added to the Blocked Player list or prevented from joining games.
• Game may crash if the player changes the text language while on a mission.
• Players may experience delays in Medals and Super Credits payouts.
• Players may occasionally receive excessive XP.
• Enemies that bleed out do not progress Personal Orders and Eradicate missions.
• Arc weapons sometimes behave inconsistently and sometimes misfire.
• Most weapons shoot below the crosshair when aiming down the sights.
• AR-61 Tenderizer deals too little damage and is not in the final state we are intending.
• Spear’s targeting is inconsistent, making it hard to lock-on to larger enemies.
• Stratagem beam might attach itself to an enemy but it will deploy to its original location.
• Helldiver may be unable to stand up from crouching when surrounded by enemies.
• "Hand Carts" Ship module does not reduce Shield Generator Pack's cooldown.
• Some players might become stuck in the Loadout when joining a game in progress.
• Reinforcement may not be available for some players who join a game in progress.
• Planet liberation reaches 100% at the end of every Defend mission.

Patch notes Megathread

To start off with I live in a house share of 3 individuals and a dog, we are previous childhood friends. One flatmate is extremely antisocial and I am trying to figure out if I have been gaslit.
To give some context I’ve been living with my flatmates partner against my will since September 2023. Both me and my other flatmate tried to make clear we were uncomfortable about this months ago. He is extremely messy and had previously punched other men whilst drunk on more than one occasion. We gave these as reasons for us not wanting to be left alone with him in the house. Instead he was given a house key and it took months for this to be readdressed, any discussions we had were forgotten and messages we would send were ignored. In April 2024 we have been told his housing situation was “tricky” and that the flatmate in question needed him here as he was her only support system. She did not give the option of him moving out but instead told us he might be moving out in May 2024. In those 6 months we have been forced to pay his food bill for weeks (we previously had a communal food supply and had to separate and label our food because she kept feeding him without any contribution ) We have had to clean up continually for them both (both of them are very messy and often left spaces needing to be cleaned before being used.) We are told that because food is now separate bringing this up as an example of her disrespect is unacceptable. I have brought up that it is still extra labor in having to clean more often, and spend more money for cleaning products and was told that isn’t true and that they contribute fairly ( Since discussions of us feeling extremely used he has occasionally replaced coffee and toilet paper, paid bills once as of April 2024, does the dishes and occasionally does the bins) we are the ones doing most of the cleaning and always have done so this is an unfair split of labour in my opinion (the dog is also hers so we are cleaning up after 2 adults and a dog)
Neither of them have attempted to communicate over anything, my flatmates partner turned up one day with his dad and moved his things, when I told my flatmate this was not cool they laughed in my face and made a dismissive joke. Neither of them communicated to us that he had been thrown out of his previous house and would be living here. We would just find him in the house when we were under the impression we were home alone.
I realise I could have spoken to him directly, but for some reason was convinced that it would be snakey towards my flatmate to confront him and ask him why he felt so comfortable to dump his labour onto myself and my other flatmate as a 28yr old grown man, so instead everybody in the house just avoided each other with a very passive aggressive environment, in which we all participated in silent treatment. At its peak myself and the flatmate in question would be shoulder barging each other, which is very toxic and sad.
So far the reason given for him not ever cleaning up after himself was that he did not think it would be appropriate and we created a passive aggressive environment. ( We were very angry in this period, I myself even snapped on occasions where I raised my voice at my flatmate saying cruel things which I am ashamed of. This was in response to me feeling as though I was being used as a personal maid)
To give some more context to my own shitty behaviour spaces in the house were regularly left to a point of being unusable, unless we did it ourselves. This involved a months long flea infestation that was so severe you could not be in the house without being jumped on, we repeatedly tried to address this until the point we just dealt with it ourselves. I have had my TV broken when my flatmate was partying with friends which took months to even be acknowledged and not be told that it was not the right time to ask about it. Myself and my other flatmate have had to buy a separate fridge as we literally could not get our food into the houses shared fridge because we were left little space and were still having to regularly clean out others mouldy food. The dog is extremely reactive, he has anxiety and is often only given 2 or 3 short walks a week and spends the majority of his time in one bedroom, so being in the house with him means constant barking and he has been quite destructive. For months she would leave her dog whilst out partying and ignored all messages trying to bring up this forced labour.
Around this time something in me just broke, I actively tried to be petty and use a tit for tat mentality in how I treated her. This involved a lack of care for her items, refusing to do any labour for her, separating every single little thing, giving each other silent treatment. My OCD had been badly triggered after living in a flea infested house, this caused me to go into overdrive with cleaning where I would snap at any little mess. This was too much from me and it was a little controlling, but the situation was then reframed as me being “controlling” and not allowing my flatmate to ever relax in their house, rather than ever returning to the original upset of forced labour.
(I am going to give an example of a game she enjoyed playing with me here to try and explain what I feel has been done to me. She used to come over and start playfully hitting me, she would then ignore me saying no or stop, then when I blew up she would say don’t talk to me like that and frame it as me being angry and shouting at her inappropriately. I have had to address this with her and she has not played this game with me again, but I’ve seen her do it to someone else since and laugh in their face whilst visibly upsetting them, so I know they still enjoy doing it to others. Though just a silly game, this comfortability with ignoring a no and their ability to genuinely convince herself she hasn’t been given a boundary is one that bleeds into real life. )
On one occasion during an argument regarding labour I shouted at her to ‘fuck off back to neglecting your dog’ and I’m sure there were other things I probably said in an attempt to hurt her as much as I was hurting. I take zero pride in this and am deeply ashamed that I lowered myself to that behaviour. She herself belittled me in front of shared friends telling me “you never do anything for me you only do things for others you do nothing for me” over and over until I left the room. We had a huge row where she came down mid shower (as the hot water goes if multiple taps are on) whilst I was doing her dishes as the kitchen was a complete shit hole. I then told her no I’m not going to stop because i need to use my kitchen, and she told me i was disgusting for banning her from showering I told her she was disgusting for leaving the house as she did (I’m not exactly sure my exact words) she then told me “‘theres no room talking to you when ur like this”. Neither of us were right in this but I am giving it as an example of how toxic it is in the house.
A few days following this I said that if she refuses to discuss anything when she is leaving the house unusable for others and her partner is freeloading that I would report her to the landlord (I am not working on logic at this time but because I have been in fight or flight for months) she then told me it was disgusting to threaten her with homelessness and that she would never do something like that to me. I did not mean it as an intimidation tactic or maybe I did I’m not sure, it’s hard to think logically after being ignored over months.
After the threat I made to contact the landlord we discussed all of this, some of which she acknowledged, we both made an effort to apologise. However she tried to diminish the labour her and her partner purposefully used us for, would not give specifics about him moving out, and refused to apologise for belittling telling me she did not remember and it is not something she would ever say so she doesn’t know what I expect her to do. They told me I was not paying extra or doing more labour with an additional person living here. They have since cleaned the garden of bags of shit and dirty underwear that were left out for months, and made small efforts to be cleaner. However most of the house labour still falls onto us. (Some more context they very recently were injured and no longer can clean right now. This I understand completely however I would be lying if I didn’t feel burdened and obligated to now have to do that labour, or to help them with basic tasks when I can barely look at them without feeling sick, also I am still doing labour for her partner).
We have tried to meet her on every level for a very long time, previously we have had discussions about asking her when she is free rather than just dropping things on her, using a house chat, using a cleaning chart. We have tried to compromise and she has ignored all of these after agreeing to them. When I have gone to ask if she is free I have had her snap ‘what now’ I have seen her roll her eyes to others regarding a cleaning chart she agreed to because others were tired of cleaning for her, ignored all messages in the house chat.
My property has been repeatedly damaged or not taken care of as has others. I’ve had to spend over £100 easily. I am so tired of being ignored, laughed at or given no response at all to continual lack of consideration for others and their boundaries. My reactivity does need to be worked on, yes. However theres only so far people can be pushed before they snap, and I’m terrified that I’m going to break again.
When I’ve discussed this with others who have lived with her to see if they noticed this pattern of behaviour they knew exactly what I was talking about, which worries me.
To sum up I do not feel safe in this house, my back is permanently against the wall as I am just waiting for the next boundary violation at this point. This has already happened in truth as we recently received a letter saying we were overdue for council tax which threatened court if not paid off, I paid off mine and I didn’t bother to ask my flatmate to send over the remaining owed money as I am fed up of having all communication ignored and did not want to wait for her to be bothered to send me the money. If there is something that needs her attention you often need to ask for it to be done over and over which again is labour in the first place. As far as I’m aware this bill is still overdue as I have been completely ignored regarding it.
I do not think she truly realises that she has deeply traumatised myself and my flatmate through giving us no autonomy over who lives in this house or leaving us to care for her dog. My OCD is still pretty bad and being in this house or around her makes my skin crawl. So I guess I am wondering if I have been gaslit? Taking my own toxic behaviour into account I do not know whether I can criticise her or if I am being hypocritical in labelling her as toxic. My memory is too foggy to remember a lot of what has actually happened, but I have this of strong feeling of disillusionment that will not leave. I am stuck in this house until October 2024, and I am trying to just get on with it, but I can’t stop obsessing over what has happened, sometimes it’s all I can think about. I feel too guilty or snakey to contact the landlord as she is a longtime friend and I am afraid she will badmouth me to others if I do so. She is my childhood friend and everything in me is telling me that this isn’t how a friend should treat you. I am desperate to be free of this situation but we have been friends since childhood and she is currently injured and also experiencing a bereavement so I feel obligated to just leave her be. Should I still be trying to meet her needs or do I need to be selfish and remove this person from my life?

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• PoGO Pokémon. All were obtained by a close friend. All will have SPA/ENG Tag (if not custom), OT Menri (if not custom), ID 538184/750488, and proof (1 PoGO pic, 1-2 transfer pics, 1 HOME pic if possible):

(Maybe some of the Pokémon won’t be available at the moment) Shiny Celebi 12€, Shiny Meltan 25€, Shiny Melmetal 20€, Shiny Genesect 6IVs (No PoGO Sticker) 35€. Shiny Zapdos, Moltres, Articuno, Entei, Raikou, Lugia, Groudon, Giratina, Reshiram, and Kyurem are available for 7€ each. Shiny Azelf 10€, Shiny Uxie 15€. Darkrai and Deoxys (Normal, Attack, Defense or Speed) 10€ each, Shiny Deoxys (Normal, Attack or Defense) and Shiny Darkray 20€. Shiny PokéBall Latias Lv 11, Shiny PokéBall Latios Lv. 8 35€. Zarude 30€ and Shiny Mew 60€ (Fixed OT)
I also have self-obtained regular PoGO Darkrais. 5€

• Self-Obtained Korean/Japanese Manaphy Eggs for BDSP. KOR: Naughty 31/31/17/3/31/15, JP: Timid 31/19/23/27/31/31. 15€

• Self-Obtained Mighty Mewtwo untouched 8€ (Training services included). Dream Ball, ENG, SPA or JP Tag. Pics + Video proof. OT VictyLusi IDs 429318/329117/898078 and OT Victy ID 401143

• Self-Obtained SV Event Shiny Lucario OT: VictyLusi (ITA) ID 625054, Violet (ENG) ID 607421, Scarlet (ENG) ID 75254, ビクティルシ ID 917509 and Victy (KOR) ID 768592. Pics + Video proof.

• Self-Obtained SV Event Darkrai OT: VictyLusi (ITA) ID 625054, Violet (ENG) ID 607421, Scarlet (ENG) ID 75254, ビクティルシ ID 917509 and Victy (KOR) ID 768592. Pics + Video proof.

• Self-Obtained SV Dream Ball/Love Ball Raid Palkia. 31/10/31/31/31/1-31/6/31/26/31/31-27/8/31/31/31/31, ENG, SPA or JP Tag. OT VictyLusi IDs 429318/329117/898078, Victy ID 401143 and Scarlet ID 75254. Pics + Video proof.

• Self-Obtained SV Heavy Ball Raid Dialga. 31/2/31/31/23/31, ENG, SPA or JP Tag. OT VictyLusi IDs 429318/329117/898078, Victy ID 401143 and Scarlet ID 75254. Pics + Video proof.

• Self-Obtained Walking Wake untouched 15€ (Training services included). ENG Tag Relaxed Lure Ball, SPA Tag Relaxed Lure Ball, JP Tag Gentle Dream Ball. Pics + Video proof. OT VictyLusi IDs 429318/898078 and OT Victy ID 401143. I also have a save with the event raid available so I can do custom OT/Lang and some IVs.

• Self-Obtained Iron Leaves untouched 15€ (Training services included). ENG Tag Sassy Friend Ball, SPA Tag Bashful Friend Ball, JP Tag Rash Dream Ball. Pics + Video proof. OT VictyLusi IDs 429318/898078 and OT Victy ID 401143. I also have a save with the event raid available so I can do custom OT/Lang and some IVs.

• Self-Obtained ENG Moon Bloodmoon Ursaluna, OT Scarlet ID 685039 31/5/31/31/24/2. Summary Pics proof. 4€

• Self-Obtained ENG Dream Bloodmoon Ursaluna, OT VictyLusi ID 429318 31/11/5/31/31/0. Summary Pics proof. 15€

• Self-Obtained ENG Dream Bloodmoon Ursaluna, OT VictyLusi ID 329117 16/31/10/31/31/0. Summary Pics proof. 10€

• Self-Obtained ENG Friend Ogerpon, OT VictyLusi ID 429318. 3 Masks included. 4€

• Self-RNGed ENG Star Shiny Love SP Modest Palkia, 23/19/31/31/27/31 OT VictyLusi ID 523976 or 27/10/15/31/31/31 OT Pearl ID 877713. Pics + Video proof. 4€

• Self-RNGed ENG Star Shiny Heavy BD Modest Dialga, OT Diamond ID 374552 31/3/18/31/31/8. Pics + Video proof. 4€

• Self-RNGed SP ENG Star Shiny OT Pearl ID 877713: Fast Impish Regirock 5IVs 29HP, Friend Careful Registeel 4IVs/29HP/21SpAtk, Moon Modest Regice 3IVs/0Atk, Dive Modest Articuno 4IVs/5Atk, Level Modest Zapdos 3IVs/0Atk and Love Modest Moltres 3IVs/1Atk/30SpDef. Pics + Video proof. 6€

• Self-RNGed BDSP ENG OT VictyLusi Dive/Great Shiny Unowns (Summary Pic Proof): A, B, C, H, I, J, K, L, M, P, S, T, U, V, W, Y and Z available. 0,25€ each

• Self-RNGed ENG OT Moon ID 129958: Moon Modest 5IVs 0Atk Lunala, Friend 6IVs Zygarde, Star Shiny Beast Lonely Stakataka 31/22/17/31/31/0. Pics proof. Lunala/Zygarde 2,5€, Stakataka 4€

• Self-obtained Shiny HA Jolly Hisuan Growlithe eggs: 5IVs –HP Fire Tera or 5IVs 30SpDef Rock Tera. Shiny Poke Modest 0Atk 4IVs Applin Egg. 4€

• Event Dracovish with proof. 2€

• SPA WCS Victini with proof. 25€

• SPA Celebrate Poké/Dream Ball Impish GMax Eevee OT VictyLusi ID 017759/220961 and Ultra Ball Impish GMax Pikachu OT VictyLusi ID 017759. 3€

• Code redemption services. Languages available: SPA, KOR, JP, ENG. If you want another language I would have to do another profile to do so but only 1(2 saves as I have both versions) 5€

• RNGed Shiny/Non-Shiny 3 Segment Dunsparce caught from Gen3-5 games service (Price depends on the original game, check each RNG specifications below). I can RNG in BDSP too.

• Register 807 Pokémon (Gen1-7) on Home Dex using Moving Key with a random wild Gen7 Pokémon. 3€

*Using Moving Key HOME copies PkBank data. As I have Dex completed you will register all of them even if I transfer only 1 Pokémon. That works to get Original Color Magearna (Just Gen 8-9 Pokémon left) Also Forms and Shiny will be registered too. (No Shiny Locked Pokémon entries anymore, I fixed that)

• All SWSH/BDSP Items less Key ones. 0,3€ each (Johto/Dream/Beast/Sport/Safari Balls are 0,25€ each). Scarlet-Violet ones are 0,2€ each or 0,25€ each (Special Balls)

• Training - Pokémon (SPA-ENG) services for Scarlet and Violet.

-Custom OT/Lang Playthrough (6€ Base/DLC1, 10€ Base + DLC1, 12€ Base + DLC2 Paradox, 15€ Base + both DLCs). If you want all Legends from the game (DLCs included) price would be 25€ in total (28€ with Pecharunt*) *I will use 2 different saves because completing Pokedex would be easier in a CFW switch for Ursaluna BM/Paradox but I cannot use Online so the Mythical Pecha Berry and Pecharunt have to be caught in another Switch
-Miraidon/Koraidon 5€ (Custom OT Playthrough). Training service included. Treasures of Ruin are 1€ each, 2,5€ if both specific IVs and Ball.
-Ogerpon, Okidogi, Fezandipiti, Munkidori and BM Ursaluna. 4€ each (15€ in total if you want them all)
-Terapagos, Iron Crown/ Iron Boulder or Raging Bolt/Gouging Fire. 5€ each (12€ in total if you want them all from 1 specific version)
-5IVs, -SpAtk, 6IVs, 5IVs 0Atk, 5IVs 0Spe SPA/JP Dittos. 1-4€ each
-Training: Level, Nature (Mint), IVs (Bottle Caps), EVs, TM/EM Moves, and Tera Type change. 0,5€ each
-Shiny Breeding: Ball, IVs (4-5), EMs, and Nature. You can request Pokémon as Shiny Eggs. 5€ each (If you ask more than 3 the price would have a discount)
-Shiny Paradox Pokémon: Ball (Training service included). 6€ each (3€ if you ask for more than 3)
-Vivillon services. I can get any Pattern but the most plenty I have are Marine, Sun, Jungle, High Plains, and Continental. We can use Union Circle so you can catch them yourself (as many as you want). 3€ each Pattern. For Shiny ones, the service is only available if they are caught by myself, not in online UC mode but I can do custom OT services (4€ each)

• Legends Arceus Evolution/Training Service (Level, Nature, IVs using Grits, Tutor Moves) and custom OT/Lang playthroughs for Shaymin/Darkrai, Arceus, Enamorus, or other Legends.

• RNG for BDSP: CaptureSight + RNG Apps (PokefindeRNG Chatot). Legends and Arceus (Shiny, some IVs, Nature, Poké Ball), Unown (Shiny or 0Atk), SPA/ENG Eggs (Shiny, IVs, Gender, Moves, Nature, Ability, Poké Ball), Starters (Shiny, some IVs, Nature), Mew/Jirachi (some IVs, Nature) and Eeeve/Rotom (Shiny, some IVs, Nature, Poké Ball). Square Shiny service is available.

-BDSP custom OT/Lang playthrough 6€
-Normal Legends: 2€ Each (Nature and 3-4IVs), 6€ (Nature + 5-6IVs)
-Shiny Legends: 6€ Each (Nature and 3-4IVs), 12€ (Nature + 5IVs)
-Shiny Arceus 10€ (Nature and 3-4IVs), 14€ (Nature + 5IVs)
*If you buy more than one Legend, the price will be cheaper (Less 5IVs ones)*
-Shiny Perfect Eggs 2€, Normal Perfect Eggs 0,5€

• Breeding Services for SWSH (ENG Tag): Any Ball, IVs, Nature, EMs, HA, or Shiny. Normal: 0,5€ Breedject/1€ BR, Shiny Eggs cost 10€ each (I use CaptureSight to check Eggs data). Training Service Included: TutoDT moves (+PP max), changing ability or nature, and training EVs.

• Shiny Self-Caught Pokémon (I have Pic Proof) OT VictyLusi (Make them Competitive with Objects without extra payment) 0,2-0,5€

-ID 017759: Safari Ball Jolteon, Ultra Ball Drifblim, Premier Ball Diggersby. Master Orbeetle, Dive Ball Ditto, Luxury GMax HA Charizard (Level 50 & 80), Safari GMax HA Venusaur(Level 50), Friend GMax HA Venusaur(Level 80), Dream GMax HA Blastoise (Level 50) and Master GMax HA Blastoise (Level 80)
-ID 220961 Star Shiny: Poke Ball Skuntank, Poke Ball Glalie, Ultra Ball Galvantula, Heal Ball Clefable. Star Shiny Dream GMax HA Blastoise (Level 80)
-Star Shiny Poké Ball Linoone OT Asce ID 875609

• SWSH playthrough with custom OT/Lang 7€ (Wolves/Calyrex/Horses)/4€ (Kubfu/DLCs Legends) If you ask for more than one from the same save the price would be lower.

-Zacian/Zamazenta customized (Ball, Nature(Mint), IVs(Bottle Cap), TAG and OT) 4€
-Kubfu/Urshifu customized (Nature (Mint), IVs (Bottle Cap), TAG and OT) 4€
-Crown Tundra Legends: Calyrex, Spectrier, Glastrier, Swords of Justice, Keldeo, Dynamax Adventure Legends; 5-6€. Regis, Galar Birds, Cosmog; 2-4€. Customized (Ball, Nature(Mint), IVs(Bottle Cap), TAG and OT).
Ready 3€: Jolly Master Ball Zacian OT Lusi ID 551981, Quirky Master Ball Calyrex OT Lusi ID 871386, Hardy Poké Ball Calyrex OT Lusi ID 098775, Bashful Heavy Ball Calyrex OT Lusi ID 972832 and Dream Ball Rash Eternatus OT Shield ID 909190.

• Meltan & Melmetal: Custom Nature, Nickname, Language Tag, and Ball (LGPE only). Prices are 0.50€ Meltan and 2€ Melmetal

• Ribbon services are available for Gen3-8 (There are some excluded). The price depends on how many and type (Check spreadsheet)

“Any Pokémon from Gen3-7 would be traded through PkBank, HOME, Switch or Files”

• RNG Service from Gen1-7. Mons will be proofed and you can choose the OT/Lang of mons (Gen1-7), also you can ask for different types of RNG that aren’t listed. You can for ask Nature, Shiny, Hidden Power, IVs (Depending Game), and TutoEgg Moves. (Check spreadsheet)

• WISHMKChannel Jirachi, Ageto Celebi: Dolphin Emulator + Lua Scripts + Pokefinder + VBA + Ruby/Sapphire Save Files (+ Rscheksum for WISHMKR Jirachi). I can RNG Nature for Celebi. Channel Jirachis are available to RNG Nature, IVs, and Shiny (Star or Square). Colosseum Jirachis are fixed (Star Shiny or Good IVs). Check spreadsheet.

-WISHMKR Jirachi 7€ Normal/12€ Star Shiny
-CHANNEL Jirachi 12€ Normal/14€ Star Shiny/16€ Square Shiny
-JP Ageto Celebi 9€ Random/15€ with Nature

• Pokémon Box Mons. Dolphin Emulator + Lua Scripts + Pokefinder + VBA-M + Ruby/Sapphire Save Files. Shiny RNG service (Star or Square) is available (Check spreadsheet)

• RNG/SR XD/Colosseum Pokémon Services (Check spreadsheet). Square Shiny and TID/SID RNG are Available for both games (To get good Shiny spreads). (Dolphin Emulator + Lua Scripts + RNG Reporter + PokeFinder + XD/Colosseum Saves) (Check spreadsheet). JP e-reader ones aren’t available due to I don’t have the Card files to get them legit but Japanese Colosseum Pikachu from Bonus Disc is available.

• Gen3 (RSE/FRLG): Visual Boy Advance Emulator + Lua Scripts + Pokefinder. Available RNG: Legends (Event not allowed)/Gifts/Safari/Wild/GameCorneStarters/Eggs and Square Shiny service available.

• Gen4 (HGSS/Platinum): Desmume Emulator + Lua Scripts + Pokefinder. Available RNG: Legends (Event not allowed)/Events(Regis/Sinjoh Ruins)/Gifts/Starters/Wild/Safari/Game CorneEggs/ID-SID RNG and Square Shiny service available.

• Manaphy Egg RNG Service: OT, Nature, IVs, and Shiny. Pokémon Ranger 1 Cartridge + TWLSaveTool + Gen4 Games + Desmume Emulator + Lua Scripts + Pokefinder. 8€ Normal+IVs, 15€ Shiny and 20€ Shiny+IVs

• Gen5 (BW/BW2): Desmume Emulator + Lua Scripts + RNG ReportePokefinder. Available RNG: Dream Radar Legends(Less Palkia)/Wild/Gifts/Starters/Legends/ID-SID RNG and Square Shiny service available. *Entree Forest for DW Mons is available but you have to provide the save with Legit Mons

• RNGed Dittos Available (for 3DS or Switch):

-You can ask for Shiny, any IVs Spread, any Nature, custom OT, and Language Tag (Playthrough price not included)
-Tags already available: SPA-JPN, OT LUSI- Lusi

• Gen6 (XY/ORAS): NTR + PCalc + 3DS RNG Tool. Available RNG: Starters/Unowns/Event (Latios or Latias)/Eggs (TSV too)/Legends (Including Groudon/Kyogre and Deoxys) and save ID-TSV RNG. Square Shiny service is available.

• Gen7 (USUM): (NTR + PCalc)/(Citra Emu + Python) + 3DS RNG Tool. Available RNG: Starters (USUM), Wormhole Legends/UBs (Wild Included), Stationary Legends, Gift Pokémon (Including Shiny Partner Pikachu), Eggs (TSV too), Wild (SOS included) and save ID-TSV RNG. Ash Greninja and Square Shiny services are available.

-I can breed all Vivillon Patterns less than 3 due to I created a new save file with the Region of my PAL DS changed. The only ones I can’t breed are Elegant because it is only for Japanese DS Regions and Modern/Savanna because they are for American DS Regions.

• Gen1/2 (Y/S/C). Mons Available: Legends (Including Celebi)/Gifts and Eggs (Only Gen2). Nature is determined by experience and Shiny Breeding is Available (With Glitched Shiny Ditto + Debug Menu for Speed Up). IVs RNG is available only, I don't do Shiny Legends due to there isn't RNG for that.

Spreadsheet with all FT and Prices:
https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1uR9jqdMsJmfI69z05oj1XFrKhuScdrqe2yh4bY7_8lQ/edit?usp=drive_link
[ref]https://www.reddit.com/pokemonexchangeref/comments/hruzjp/uvictylusi\_exchange\_reference/

This is a long story, so bear with me please. English is not my native language, so sorry for any mistakes. I don't by any means want to point a finger to anyone, just want to explain the background of our relationship.
I am together with my BS for 5,5 years. We know each other for 6.5 years. Our relationship started rather rocky. BS has commitment issues and didn't want a relationship at first. This has led him to cheating (kissing only) on me four times (that I know of). Three times during clubbing and under influence and one time while he was on vacation with family. This was during our first 1.5 year together. I found out and he confessed. He texted with some girls and one of them was one of the girls he cheated me with. During our relationship he had a friendship with one of his coworkers. He told me she was interested in him, but he not in her. They had been friends before BS and I knew each other. During New Years Eve 2022 he said under influence: 'I met with x (coworker) two times behind your back'. He said that I was too fragile and wouldn't understand him meeting with her, because I voiced that I was a bit intimidated with their relationship (they would spend long evenings together at each others house while being drunk and sometimes driving with their car). He met with her some other times and eventually I didn't hear anything from her again. I only met her once, she was drunk, but friendly. I went to a psychologist several times to discuss everything what happened.
Fast forward to New Year's eve 2024. I was clubbing with my BS, and two friends. There was a guy who wanted my friends instagram, but didn't give it to him. So I took his phone and entered her name. BS saw this and thought I was giving my instagram. I tried to explain what happened, but he wouldn't listen. He pushed me away so I went upstairs with said friend. The day after he barely remembered anything. I let him know that if this would happen again, I would leave (this wasn't the first time he was acting not okay while drunk).
Fast forward to January 2024. We went on a ski vacation with friends. I had a really good connection with one of BS friends (let's call him Jasper). I have known Jasper for more than 4 years. We always had a good friendship, but felt it developed even more during the vacation. He was very kind, caring and helpful. He is in a relationship of 10 years, she was also there on the vacation.
We've met a few times again with Jasper after the vacation, nothing happened. Jasper texted me beginning of March saying he would like to meet with me. I didn't say this to BS. We went for a run and had a very good talk about our relationships. He expressed his doubts about his. He texted me some time after again to go for a run. This time there was more tension in the air and he kissed me. We met five times in total and had foreplay once and sex once. I didn't know how to tell my BS, even though I should have told him immediately. I made an appointment with my psychologist mid April to help me approach the situation. But on the 24th of april, Jasper's GF called my BS and told him she found evidence that we cheated on them. My BS worlds collapsed. He would have never imagined I would do something like that and I completely understand him. This is so out of character for me (I don't want to minimize what I have done, but when I go out there are guys who will flirt with me but normally I am very good at maintaining boundaries). He first wanted me to move out and didn't want to talk to me. But in the meantime we have met four time. The first two times were pretty heavy. He was angry (understandable of course), sad and everything in between. He was very harsh to me and told me I was a psychopath. Of course I understand that he was filled with anger. He doubted everything about me and that I could lie so good.
AP and I cut off contact immediately.
I showed him the mail I send to the psychologist that I made an appointment before it came out, but I don't think that it made any difference (understandable again).
The third time we met, we talked about the situation and how this could have happened. I had a meeting with the psychologist the day before and told him about our conversation. I told him about our sex life that was rather dead (I tried to work and discuss it several times before, but nothing changed), I told him about our future perspective and that I was the one who always had to initiate talking about buying a home together (I lived in an appartment he bought) and lastly our communication pattern. He bottles a lot up and when he finally says what bothers him, it comes out rather harsh. Because of that, I am hurt and it makes it difficult for him again to discuss something.
We have met yesterday again. I was there for like nine hours. We discussed the situation again. He had some questions and I answered them truthfully. He says that I deal very well with the situation and that he sees that I do my best. He said that he feels 50/50 about our relationship. He said that he doesn't know if he sees a future with me. He says that I had the right reaction to see my psychologist again. He, unfortunately, doesn't want to do counseling. He says that he can block what happened sometimes, because the pain is too much. Other times he let the pain come. He said he misses me and still loves me. I asked if I have to move within a certain period. He said 'no'. I asked if he wants me to move away and he said 'I think it is better that you do.' After the serious talk, we watched two episodes of a series and played some boardgames. I told him that if he wants me to go away or if it is too much, he needs to tell me. But he said that it was fun. I told him that I am scared that we would rug sweep to much and don't talk about the elephant in the room. I also told him that I am aware that he can decide anytime not to talk to me again and that I know that one good day doesn't make everything right. He said that he can see that I know that. I asked him if he wants to work on our relationship together, but I think this question was too early because he deflected this question. I said I want to do everything in my power to make it work and even want to go to couple counseling.
When I left, he gave me a big hug and we cried a lot together. He said 'maybe we can meet again this week.' He asked me if I got home safe.
I really don't know where to go from here. I have hope that we can work on this together, but it is such a rollercoaster that I caused. Do you have any advice for me? Do I approach this the right way or not? Thank you so much in advance!

I probably need therapy too but this request is for my wife. It's nothing big but she is struggling with leaving the house (checking to make sure all the power is off, water is turned off, door is locked, etc).
Where would I start looking to help her find a Japanese therapist? Some good recommendations would be helpful as I begin the search.

I was dating a guy for around a month, but we were getting to know each other and texting for around 2 (I’ve known him for 9 months through work and chatting/seeing each other on a daily basis).
He seemed like the perfect gentleman and we had a really good first date. However, things got intense fast and it got to the point where he expected me to spend all of my days off with him, or else he’d get really upset and text me emotional rampages. I felt like nothing I did was ever enough and honestly just so guilty and responsible, but I was also trying to lead my own life healthily.
It got to the point where he’d be sending me his outfits before going out anywhere for my approval, etc. and it just put so much pressure on me. He started referring to me as ‘his baby’ and telling me about how his mum has special jewellery reserved for his future wife. I’ll admit this was really flattering, as he’s very attractive and seemed to have such a huge heart that I couldn’t help but want to make him happy. He was very generous and affectionate and everyone at worked like him because he was so sweet, so I thought I was in safe hands.
Anyway, after giving you background, we went to a gig last week and he was being really possessive and even suggested I’d got up to something with someone else in the toilets because I was in the queue for a while. I got upset and confronted him about it but he said he didn’t remember sending the text and seemed quite calm and rational, meanwhile I was crying. He ended up getting thrown out due to persistently vaping inside after being told not to. The security thought he was acting weird and wouldn’t let me leave with him until I got a taxi (alone, they made sure). He was constantly pleading and asking me what he’d done and even came over to the taxi begging to talk… he said he didn’t understand.
When I got home, I had 30 missed calls and over 100 texts begging me to speak to him, saying how much he cared, his heart was crushed, emotional gushing, etc. Then it turned to blame and him calling me a bitch and how this was me ‘finding a way out’ of the relationship. Then seconds later he’d go to pleading and emotional gushing. A few days before, after another outburst (I couldn’t see him that weekend) we had a long chat about how he gets like this when he drinks and if he doesn’t stop, I’m out. He promised he’d prove himself to me but ended up doing above ^ 2 days later. Because I blocked him, he used the work email to contact me pleading again and saying how it was killing him & he doesn’t know what happened.
I had to report him to the police and they’ve put an injunction out on him (not my request) and they arrested him and took his phone.
I can’t help but feel guilty and wonder if this has given him a wake up call to stop the drink (he’s in denial), if he really remembers what happened, etc. I guess my question is, from a BPD perspective, have I helped or made matters worse? I didn’t want to report but everyone said I should. What are your experiences, if any similar?