Hi, I was a chubby kid, so I had a lot of this visceral fat as an adult, but I was also very active. For the majority of my life, I played sports. As a result, I am a thickly-looking individual, but I don't have much of the soft subcutaneous fat. So, looking at me, you would say I am very fit, thick, and do not have a lot of soft fat but a little bit. I started my weight loss journey two weeks ago, and I've been eating clean and less than I usually would to be in a caloric deficit. That's not to say I'm starving myself, but I eat a lot healthier, meaning greens, fish, eggs, quinoa, and very, very, very minimal carbs. I also jogged/Walked 3 km a day for the first week; now, I have managed to jog and sprint 3 km straight a day this week. I aim to run and jog 5 km a day. My goal is to lose the visceral fat that makes me look so thick and "big-boned," but I don't believe in the big-boned term. It just means I have more visceral fat than I have subcutaneous fat. So here's my question: tell me if this plan would work or if anyone else has tried this journey: I will focus on high-intensity cardiovascular activities until I lose 15 pounds; I am aware that this means that I might have more loose skin as I'm not strength training. But I want to build muscle once I have minimized my visceral fat. Once I see the change, I will start doing strength training to tighten up my skin and build muscle so I don't look bulky but relatively slim and toned. For reference, I am 22 and female.

Apologies as this is probably going to be a long entry.
Earlier this year I started a new job in the police, to do this I left another job in the prison service where I was doing well. This was a position which my girlfriend told me to apply for as it was where she worked and was more money. I accepted, applied and got the job. She appeared really happy that I got the job and it was supposed to be our way out of my mum's house where we both lived.
On the evening of my second shift I had to stay up to the early hours of the morning to pick up my girlfriend. She had to stay late as she was having some serious issues with her mental health including self harm and suicidal thoughts. I have been supportive of this taking up extra duties in the house and doing my lions share to sort her as I always have. She told me that she stayed late to talk about previous traumas. She told me about them when I picked her up and I stayed up to talk to her to make sure she was ok. We had a really good talk where I was supportive and said we would get through it together and I'll do what I can to make life easier. I woke up and went to work and when I finished I was walking to the gate and 3 detectives asked me to follow them and took me to the gate where everyone was leaving took my eppilettes and badge and informed me that I was under arrest for an alleged assault on my girlfriend.
Just for context I would never lay a hand on a woman especially not in anger or frustration, I know the second you lose your temper you lose the argument so if anything ever started feeling heated I would leave so we both had time to cool down and have a proper conversation.
I was very confused however pressumed they had mistaken me with an ex-boyfriend who I know had assaulted her and she was talking to her manager about it. Because of this I wasnt to worried as I knew I had never done anything that was even close to assault, I'm not saying we were perfect , we argued but it was always verbal (at least from my end) and always came to a reasonable end. We never lost our temper with each other.
When I got to the station they said that she had said that I slapped her once outside a bar, I was shocked by this and when they said it was 9 months ago I knew they hadn't mistaken me for her ex as we were together for four years by this point. I was placed in prison Grey's and put in a cell then interviewed. They released me on bail with conditions not to contact her and they took my phone for evidence incase I had messaged anyone admitting that I slapped her. I need to stress at this point that THIS NEVER HAPPENED.
The case was classed as a no further action after a month of pointless attempts to crack my phone and trying to persuade myself and my girlfriend to give them the pin which I refused to do without being told by the court that I had to. As a result of this whole incident I lost my job in the police and cannot reapply as now I have an arrest on my record. My life fell apart as a result of this whole thing and now my degree in policing and criminal investigation seams like a complete waste. Any jobs I want and suit are in public service or military and this throws a massive spanner in the works.
When I first saw her we went through everything that had happend and why she said it. She said that we were playing about and that I had tapped her face which she found disrespectfu but that she never meant that she wanted police involvement as she had kicked me first. Again this had never happend. I have spoken to many police officers and staff that I know who have said that it sounds suspicious and that they had absolutely no reason to arrest me if what my girlfriend had told me was true. When I said this and said would she get the transcript of what was said as it was a recorded session she said "what if I have remembered wrong" this shook me to my core as it strikes me as she has said more than what she told me. She had also changed her story about when and what happened.
As a result of this whole thing I have lost loads of trust, money, motivation and I'd be lying if I hadnt suffered some darker thoughts such as driving my car into a wall at 100mph. I was looked at by people I didn't know as a wife bearer and it made me sick. To top it off she got everything she wanted as she wanted to move out but financially we couldn't save money for a house and we would also be leaving my mum in the shit if we left as we payed all the bills. To avoid this I let her stay at my mum's and I slept in my car so she was close to work and could continue her way of life. However she decided she knew best and got an appartment which we now both live in and I can't afford. She's also saying that she's more confident now and showed me messages of guys who are trying to get in her pants. Meanwhile I have gone from being confident and strong to being a complete shell of my former self. And she didn't want to take any responsibility for any of it. She also told me that she had my back and told the manager that reported me to the police that she was upset with her however looking at the messages to her manager she was nothing but friendly with her.
My head's fucked, I feel betrayed, small, insignificant and like everything that happend to me just didn't matter to her. I don't know what to do, I'm trying to get my head right by going back to the gym but my motivation is shot. I don't know if I can trust her anymore and I feel bitter and resentful. What do I do to start feeling better and should I confront her about what I've gone through because of her bullshit story or should I just leave. I want to make it work as this is the only bad thing in our relationship. But it's fucking written me off and I don't know how I can get past it. I appreciate any advice or guidance to help me get past this portion of my life.

Help! I'm trying to complete the Soulmate aspiration but am stuck on "Achieve Soulmate Relationship with Spouse". My sims are married and both their friendship and romance bars are maxed out, but it is still not saying that they are soulmates and are instead stuck on "It's Very Awkward". Any ideas on how to fix this?? Much appreciation!

I've been using Arc for over a year now on MacOS and have been waiting for it to come to Windows. Now that it's finally on Windows and I've had the last 4-5 months, here are some of my thoughts.
For people like myself who hate reading long reviews I've made all titles bold so it's easy to read :D

Pros of MacOS:

• Developer mode
  • This is probably one of the best features Arc has for me. Being able to easily navigate between console, network, and elements while working on frontend applications makes life a lot easier.
• Screen capture
  • I usually use ShareX on Windows and the built in screenshot feature on macOS. But with screen capture through Arc it's been really nice to easily capture specific sections of the website/specific components.
• Shortcut for copying link
  • I share a lot of URLs with friends/colleagues. While the shortcut only saves you a few clicks compared to Chrome, it's still so much nicer and more efficent than most other browsers.
• Split screen
  • Kind of surprised other browsers don't have this feature, it makes so much sense. Instead of needing to open multiple windows, I can just split two tabs in the same window. Helps a lot when I'm trying to compare designs, or I just need to look at two windows at the same time. While splitting two tabs on Windows is pretty easy using Chrome, on MacOS it was a little bit harder using Chrome so it's been really nice to have split screen.
• AI for Open PRs
  • I didn't notice until last week but it seems like Arc now picks up when I've opened a new PR on Github and it will put all those PRs into a specific folder. I usually have a query which checks all the open PRs for my work repositories but having this feature now makes life so much easier.
  • Don't remember exactly but I believe it also might tell you when a PR has been approved (don't have a PR up to check if it does this).
• Clearing cookies/cache
  • This same feature is available on Chrome, but you need to go through 4 steps before you can clear cookies/cache. The experience is pretty similar on Arc but the journey feels a lot smoother. I do wish we could customise the developer mode to add some extra buttons, like clearing cache and cookies.
• Boosts
  • Life changing is the esaiest way I can explain it. Usually I need to install a bunch of different extensions to change the experience for for websites, and even then extensions don't allow as much customisation as I would like. Boosts allow me to customise websites as much as I want, from remove whole sections on a website, to changing the color scheme.
• PIP/Mini player
  • Not much to say, I can watch/listen to stuff while also working it's pretty nice. Having the ability to pause/play things without leaving the current tabs is also nice.
• Peek
  • Just wow... Such a nice feature to quickly look at links and then either open a new tab if I want to keep the link open or close and easily continue with my current journey.

Cons of MacOS:

There aren't many if I'm being honest, the only issues I've noticed is high CPU/RAM usage at random times. I've tried looking at the extensions tab/task manager to see if any extensions are slowing down Arc, but didn't find anything out of the ordinary. I've also tried disabling the extensions for a bit, but that didn't seem to help. Performance wise it definitely seems like Chrome is still better, but I that isn't a deal breaker for me.

Quality of life:

• Removes clutter and has clean UX
  • It's clean, minimal, and easy to use. Having a small navigation bar helps focus on the content and whenever you open an website it feels like you're using an application and not a browser. Which in my opinion makes the whole experience a lot nicer and easier to use.
• Searching without opening a new tab is also pretty nice

Windows:

Arc has been on Windows for nearly 6 months now, and I've been using it as my daily driver. With the recent full release, I thought I'd give my opinion of the browser along with reporting some bugs. For some of the pros I won't be giving extra information as the same opinions apply from MacOS to Windows.

Pros of Windows:

• Basic Arc works
  • The basics of Arc is what makes me want to use it every day, this includes the clean side menu, spaces, color customisation, being able to open new tabs without actually opening a new tab, and of course the nice UI. While some of these features still have some issues, 95% of the time they work as expected.
• RAM/CPU Usage
  • I've seen a few people complain about the RAM/CPU usage on Arc compared to Chrome. I've been having the opposite experience, on Arc my CPU/RAM usage is pretty much consistent with Chrome or lower in some cases. I haven't had the chance to do an indepth test on this yet, so some extensions on Chrome may also be playing a part into the extra RAM usage.
• Shortcut for copying links
• Split screen
• Mini player
• Peek

Cons of Windows:

There's a LOT of missing features between MacOS and Windows but I'm not going to cover those. I'm mainly going to cover issues I've found overtime, and things that have been added as "features" but don't really work.

• Inspect
  • I've been running Windows as my default development environment along with Arc. Most of the time Arc works pretty well, but when I need to work with anything to do with inspect I have to switch to Chrome. I'm not going into depth, but can if anyone wants extra information. The following are some of the issues I've had with inspect.
  • Device toolbar doesn't work
  • DevTools doesn't remember the size it was set to
  • Popping out DevTools and popping it back in breaks the whole DevTools UI
  • DevTools popped out sometimes ends up being the in focus and always in front of other Arc window
  • Short cut on the right click menu is always incorrect (For me it says "N")
  • Everything to do with resizing is either doesn't work or is slow/buggy
• Multiple Arc windows
  • Multiple windows support exists, but they are far from working as expected. I can grab a tab from one and drag it out of the window which opens a it in another window, but if I close all the tabs the whole window closes instead of staying as a blank window.
  • Blank windows aren't really a thing. Sometimes I just want an blank window to do some work that doesn't need to be saved. Blank windows on MacOS work really well as they remove all the bookmarks and provide a clean space.
  • I will sometimes close a second Window and it will just crash the whole of Arc and also remove my temporary tabs.
• Search baOpening new tab
  • Arc search bar feels a lot different on MacOS than Windows. I don't know how to exactly explain it but sometimes I'll search for something and want it to do a Google search but it'll randomly take me a url that I searched for a month ago. While this can be useful, it sometimes becomes a headache when I'm trying to search for something new and it opens the url, then I need to open another tab.
  • I will say this has improved since the last few updates but it still has issues when I'm trying to search for single words.
  • Searching for things is slow and clunky, this is another thing that I can't fully explain but whenever I search for anything it just feels slow and some times won't show search results at all.
  • I've only had this bug occur a handful of times but sometimes I'll be searching and I spell something wrong, the second option will have the right spelling and I go to the second option and it doesn't change the value in the search bar.
• Split screen
  • Split screen works, but the experience between MacOS and Windows is so different. I can't drag and drop a tab to one side to open split screen mode. While this feature doesn't exist, Arc have added the possibility to drag and drop tabs onto each other in the navigation bar which has been a lot nicer than needing to right click the tab and adding split view.
• Shortcuts
  • I can't open incognito without needing to open up a normal Arc window and then going to settings. I hope they add the option to right click on the taskbar icon and open an incognito window.
  • Kind of a nice feature for me (definitely not a bug...) but might be an issue for some other users, you can press CTRL + SHIFT + T to open the previous tab you closed, this usually isn't possible in other browsers when in incognito mode.

Conclusion:
Arc on MacOS is great and has better experience/features than most other browser (there may be some better paid browser options). While there are some CPU and RAM usage issues, it overall works really well. I hope Arc keeps up the great work they're doing on MacOS and introducing new features. It's also been nice that a browser has focused a little bit more on developer experience, rather than needing the developers to spend hours creating their owner features.
Arc on Windows is a bit of a different story. I agree with most of the community, Arc decided to release any unfinished/bug application. But, on the other hand if you've ever worked in tech we all know why they released it as a buggy application. Arc on Windows is not the same application as Arc on MacOS, there are still a lot of core features that made Arc amazing to use on MacOS missing from Windows. I honestly hope some of these feature get introduced soon on Windows and hopefully the bugs are also fixed. Especially the bugs to do with DevTools, once they're fixed I'll move to always using Arc on Windows.

Arc Developers

If you're a developer for Arc and reading this, you guys are doing an amazing job with Arc and keep up the great work. I'm excited to see what you all have been working on, and can't wait to see the new features for Arc on Windows and MacOS.

TL;DR

You're on MacOS? Try Arc, if you don't like it then it's not for you and that's fine.
You're on Windows? Try Arc, if you don't like it give it 6 months and then try it again. If you still don't like it then it's not for you and that's fine.

Hope you're having an amazing day <3

So I (21F) met this guy (21M) about 3 months ago in a bar. He approached me we made small talk danced for awhile and he bought me drinks. We ended up exchanging snaps and have kept in touch ever since. About a month after our first time meeting we saw each other again at the bar coincidentally and hung out the whole time again. I was only home for those weekend because I go to college 4 hours away. Well last week I came home from school for the entire summer and we saw each other at the bar once again. I decided to play “hard to get” and sat down at a table with a couple friends near him but didn’t say hi, he walked up about 20 mins later and started talking to me and my friends this was the first night we have had real conversations because we both were pretty sober and it was alot less loud in this bar and in my opinion it went really well. I have made comments in the past saying things like “we should hang soon now that i’m home” and he always is like “we definitely should” but then doesn’t make a real plan. I have never texted him and asked him to hang out a specific night and i’ve been debating saying “do you want to hang out tonight” instead of just keeping it up in the air. but the last thing i want is to look desperate, or to come on too strong considering im the only one who seems to be initiating the topic of hanging out. I’m getting pretty mixed vibes considering he always snaps back super fast and starts conversations almost daily but doesn’t seem to care to make a real plan. I know he got cheated on a few months back due to some conversations we’ve had and maybe that’s why he seems stand off ish. In my experiences guys are the ones to initiate the plans. I don’t think he’s seeing anyone else but i guess that could always be a possibility. Should i sit back and let him do the work or ask him to hang out?

Now this one's kinda funny, I(20M) have tried my luck over the years with a few girls, with no success as of yet. Today I was talking to a co-worker of mine, cute girl and a really fun personality, we had a really nice conversation and all, then it got to the topic of bars and clubs. We both agreeds pubs are better, we both seemed to be into the same things, so I very casually shot my shot and said "hey I know this really nice bar in X, I can take you there, my treat". And then she proceeded to come up with a barrage of excuses as to why she was "too busy"(oh yeah btw she just finished her exams/disseration), litteraly all the way into the summer. Now I'm not gullible enough to not know the consequences of saying "No" to the wrong guy and the associated wrisks with it but still, why? It seemed like we had alot in common and we both enjoyed eachothers' company, if it was me I'd have atleast went along with it or asked to clarify her intentions but whatever, I guess some female perspective would be really appreciated, thank you!!

I've been staying with him for about a week and I don't know how to read him. He always seems irritated with me and annoyed so I try to stay in the bedroom and stay away from him and not talk to him. I understand that he doesn't want me here. I went to my friends today and came home with some chocolate. My dad was in the bathroom and I guess he didn't know I came back. So then he came out and was standing by the window. I guess I snuck up on him because when I went to tell him I got him a chocolate bar, he got spooked because I didn't tell him I'm back and I scared him. So he started swearing at me and all I could say was I'm sorry. But sorry is all I ever say and yet I still keep fucking everyone's life up. I keep fucking his life up. And i fucking hate myself. I feel like I dont know how to be a good daughter or person. Nobody wants me around them. Whenever I try to do something nice for someone, it makes them annoyed or mad at me. I know it's only because I scared him, but I hate that I'm so fucking stupid and every single day there's something to prove to me that my family and the world is better off without me. This is just another small thing to add to that list. I'm only ever in the way and I wish I could just be brave enough to finally take my life so that my family wouldn't have to suffer anymore because of me. Every little thing I do is wrong and makes people stressed out and angry. The only thing there is that I'm able to do is remove myself completely. Staying in my room, being as small and quiet as possible clearly is not enough. I'm sorry to everyone who has the burden of having me in their lives. I wish I didn't exist as well.

So a few weeks ago in our local watering hole we got to talking to a man and woman who were next to us drinking and eating. My partner and I are gay and as this is a small town we struck up a conversation. The women might have been trans, I don’t know. I have been trained not to assume anything about anyone. A few days later we were back at the bar and my partner was talking to the bar staff about us meeting this couple and calling the women trans. I told him that he shouldn’t say that as it’s private, the person never said they were trans, and he just outed them, without their permission. He got irritated with me and said he didn’t see the problem. I don’t think you get to say that about someone without their permission. AITAH?

Hello guys! 27 year old guy and I'm trying to put myself out there and expand my social circle and do some stuff. My interests are watching sports. I'm a diehard Mets fan and I would love to make some friends with diehard Mets fans like me. I'm down to watch the Knicks during their playoff run which we can hopefully eliminate the Pacers and head to the Eastern Conference Finals and would to watch some Knicks games too and the Giants when football season comes. I'm into running/jogging buddy, gym buddy, and someone to go out in the city to go bar hooping/clubs, beach, hiking, nature and any fun activities to do in the city and traveling buddies as well. I would love to create great memories and have some fun and enjoy life. I prefer people my age (20's).

“I used to be with it, but then they changed what ‘it’ was, and now what I’m with isn’t it. And what’s ‘it’ seems weird and scary to me.”
Are you looking for casual chats? Do you send more than one word replies? Are you 30+? Do you prefer sweet or savoury? Have you ever fired two guns whilst jumping through the air? Have you ever fired one gun whilst jumping through the air?
I like to think I’m pretty easy going and get along with most people pretty easily, that said a few of my favourite topics are photography, travel, various sports, movies, music, tv etc. feel free to bring your own also.
I’ve been on here a while ago and made some good connections but then took a break but now I’m back as I’ve missed chatting and getting to know people from all over so don’t let the new account scare you off.
I’m not after anything in particular, just some lighthearted fun chats, not looking to date or meet in person, we can talk about the mundane to the fantastical and anywhere in between.
If any of this has piqued your interest please reach out and say g’day plus a little about you, I’d also love for you to tell me your fave Simpsons character so I know you’ve read the whole post.

Seriously.
There's not many of you. I've probably counted a dozen or so. You see the "(deleted) [unavailable]", the telltale sign of someone that's blocked you over...something.
I don't know what they could have blocked me over. Was a simple downvote just not enough? Was a DM not enough? Were your fee-fees hurt so badly over someone on the internet that WAS NOT EVEN TALKING TO YOU that you just had to block them?
Yesterday, I had someone DM me and tell me that they had me RES-tagged as "report on sight".
First of all, that's against site rules to abuse the report function. I reported you for that. Secondly, where the fuck do you get off? On your high horse because you are trying to make it out like you're better than me? Thirdly, thanks for reminding me to close my DM's!
Seriously. I hit the "disable inbox replies" for every post I make. I post. I say what I want to say. And I don't have to deal with anyone's reply back to me. I don't care if you disagree with me. And I'm certainly not going to block you on the internet because someone said something that I don't like :(
So to all of those people out there who have randomly blocked me because of my sports team affiliation, my comments about freaking Pokemon games, my city, or just because you had a bad Tuesday. Kindly F off and remember that blocking people is completely useless. But whatever makes you feel better! BTW, I can still see your comments while logged out/incognito mode :) have a good one!
(and I've made sure to hit the "disable inbox replies" to this one too)

Hello,
So I’ve always been interested in Football and love watching it and playing Video Games. I had a bit of experience in Late Elementary School but I broke my arm and didn’t play again.
I’m going to be graduating in 2025, so I’m a few months I will be a Senior. I had been seriously considering it and had even been asked multiple times by 2 coaches to go play on the Football team. Keep in mind I haven’t played since Elementary School and it will be my first and only year of HS football.
I signed up for it, got my physical down, and got my summer practice schedule sent to my boss. Our practices start in the summer a little bit after School gets out soon. I’m nervous because I’ve heard and seen that Football and Football practice is very tough and hard.
I just got told today by my father that a long friend of his who had coached football for a very long time and had sons in football approached him (and my dad’s GF) and said that I really shouldn’t play FB considering it would be my only year of Football and he seemed genuinely worried for my safety and was very adamant about me not playing as I could get hurt (he had a son who got hurt in FB too and had to get surgery and has permanent effects from it)
Not just my father, but other people too have been telling me to really consider quitting before the practice season starts since I still have time. They say how since it’s my only year of HS football that I’m most than likely going to get hurt and it’s going to be very serious and all of them are urging me to quit.
I am athletic and pretty strong as I work out, and my school is considerably small, especially football wise. I’ve been thinking about what they said and I’m on the ropes, I really would feel horrible commiting to do this and signing up and then quitting before practice in the summer starts soon. I feel like I would regret not playing as an adult because you can only play in HS once. And I feel like I will get a lot of flak from the coaches too for quitting, especially after they have been urging me to play and saying I shouldn’t worry about being hurt and make my own decisions. How should I even tell them I’m quitting if I make that decision? Im already quitting Track for my Senior year so now I won’t have any sports to play… It sounds like that Ex Coach will come talk to me soon in person too.
What do you think? How should I go about this?
TLDR: Family and even an Ex Football Coach are telling me to consider quitting playing Football my first and only year of HS Football in my SR Year due to safety concerns

Wanna to spill some tea and figured other parents would be the best people to share it with. It also gives some context to the issues I post here A LOT so buckle up.
I only have one brother. He is younger by 2 years and married with one son and twins due this fall. I love my brother very much. He married into a very big and close family. His wife is one of 4 sisters with parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, and distant relatives galore all nearby and ready to help. It's great and I'm happy for them.
My parents live 5 minutes from them and ALSO want to help and see the kids and visit but with her big family and my brother doing EMT classes after his full time job my family gets kinda pushed off.
Now I live an hour away and understand that he is busy and can't visit me. I also have a baby with another on the way but my husband's family is broken and small and my family is just my mom dad and brother. So I don't have a busy schedule. We spend weekends at home doing projects on our house or cleaning ECT.
My parents feel very hurt by the fact my brother doesn't make time for them. I actually invited my mother over for a weekend to watch my baby so I could clean. I got her coffee out and we ate at a restaurant she hadn't tried and she tried sushi for the first time. We made chocolate candy and I even helped her with some self care she couldn't do herself!
After this my mom was talking to my dad more and more about moving to our town because I needed the help and appreciated it. My parents haven't always been the best but recently they have gotten better and I've been showing how much I appreciate them. My brother didn't even CALL my mom on mother's day. My mom worked that day so I texted her at work saying how I couldn't do much today but hoped that the last weekend she was over showed her how much I loved and appreciated her as a mom. I then asked what time she was off so I could face talk her with my daughter and I did that.
Anyway, I love my brother but I feel he is being unfair to my parents and I definitely think if they move down here my brother is going to be offended as if they don't want them but, well it really seems like my brother is the one pushing them away. I definitely want and need the help and my parents have stepped up for us a lot.
In the past I've been disappointed by my parents lack of effort but after some deep talks I realized they just didn't know how to help or they felt like no one wanted their help.
Anyway there's my family drama. I'm definitely glad I have family but I really wish that everybody could stop being petty and just offer the help and support that we all need. I'm really hoping they all learn to communicate with each other so we can stop the pettiness and not risk breaking up our small family.

Hello,
So I’ve always been interested in Football and love watching it and playing Video Games. I had a bit of experience in Late Elementary School but I broke my arm and didn’t play again.
I’m going to be graduating in 2025, so in a few months I will be a Senior. I have been seriously considering it and had even been asked multiple times by 2 coaches to go play on the Football team. Keep in mind I haven’t played since Elementary School and it will be my first and only year of HS football.
I signed up for it, got my physical down, and got my summer practice schedule sent to my boss. Our practices start in the summer a little bit after School gets out soon. I’m nervous because I’ve heard and seen that Football and Football practice is very tough and hard.
I just got told today by my father that a long friend of his who had coached football for a very long time and had sons in football approached him (and my dad’s GF) and said that I really shouldn’t play FB considering it would be my only year of Football and he seemed genuinely worried for my safety and was very adamant about me not playing as I could get hurt (he had a son who got hurt in FB too and had to get surgery and has permanent effects from it)
Not just my father, but other people too have been telling me to really consider quitting before the practice season starts since I still have time. They say how since it’s my only year of HS football that I’m most than likely going to get hurt and it’s going to be very serious and all of them are urging me to quit.
I am athletic and pretty strong as I work out, and my school is considerably small, especially football wise. I’ve been thinking about what they said and I’m on the ropes, I really would feel horrible commiting to do this and signing up and then quitting before practice in the summer starts soon. I feel like I would regret not playing as an adult because you can only play in HS once. And I feel like I will get a lot of flak from the coaches too for quitting, especially after they have been urging me to play and saying I shouldn’t worry about being hurt and make my own decisions. How should I even tell them I’m quitting if I make that decision? Im already quitting Track for my Senior year so now I won’t have any sports to play… It sounds like that Ex Coach will come talk to me soon in person too.
What do you think? How should I go about this?
TLDR: Family and even an Ex Football Coach are telling me to consider quitting playing Football my first and only year of HS Football in my SR Year due to safety concerns

Ordered an item from Dicks Sporting Goods and the Dasher picked up the wrong size so I returned it to the store 3 hours later after consulting with DoorDash. The store receipt reflects the refund being sent back to their Mastercard.
I never received my refund — DoorDash keeps adding on time for me to wait but my patience is growing thin. Luckily I paid with PayPal and I hope they’ll get my money back.
Safe to say, Be cautious when deciding if you want to purchase items on DoorDash other than fast food.

I’ll start this off where it’s relevant. Me and my partner were looking to buy a house and when we found the one we wanted of course my mom wanted to do a walk through with us. So we did the walk through and she thought it was nice and even joked about the basement being all set up for a mother in-law suite. To which my husband replied we don’t have any intention of renting it out and we don’t know if we will need that space yet.
Later I was at her house visiting getting some help doing out taxes and she was on the phone then asked my about giving her landlord notice. I was busy I didn’t really hear her or know what she was asking and just said “ya ya, give me a minute.” And she walked away and I figured she’d ask me again after think it was about lunch or something. She never brought it up again but we had talked about it in the past and I always told her the same thing my husband had. We don’t plan on rent out the basement and we will probably need the space.
Fast-ward we just finish moving our stuff not even unpacked yet and she needs to move out cus she’s given her notice and of course I felt terrible saying “ya ya” not know what I was saying yes to. I convinced my husband to let her move in and his wasn’t happy but we moved her into the basement. We did say a few rules not smoking in the house there is a detached heated garage for that. The upstairs was supposed to be our space. And don’t overstep boundaries or our parenting.
That’s when all the issues started. My mom would make plans for me with little notice and monopolies my and my kids time. At first it was fine to get to spend time out with her and the kids but it became an issues when she wouldn’t respect my boundaries. Like I need more notice cus I do make plans with my husband to do family stuff or friends. Or I don’t want certain people around my kids and she would bring us there or invite them over. If I invited friends over she’d come upstairs and take over the conversation and not let me talk and try to bring them downstairs to sell them stuff she’s made. She never respected the upstairs was our space rule.
She would talk down to me in front of my kids why isn’t the house spotless. Why are there dishes in the sink etc.. she would complain about everything but never help. She would not listen if I told hethe kids no to something ex. Candy before dinner. Me: No you can’t have candy before dinner, maybe after. Her: They are only kids once let them have it. And would give it to them. They need to eat lunch but “oh she was on a diet.” And so on
It got to the point where she would tell me she doesn’t have to listen to me cus she’s my mother. My kids started to throw fits and say I was mean and “they wanted nana cus she gave them anything they wanted.” Or “why do I have to listen to you when nana doesn’t have too?”
One Christmas I was working to afford a better Christmas and help pay off the line of credit we needed for the house. We hosted the Christmas dinner and had family and friends and everyone helped out. I cooked all day and then took a nap while everyone else was enjoying dinner as I had to work the night and was already going to be running on fumes. When I got up to my surprise everyone was still there. They were helping put the food away and had made me a plate for work. When I got home the house was clean and I was relieved as I was exhausted and just wanted to get some sleep. My mom told me she did all the dishes for me and cleaned to kitchen.
I worked for a few months before and after Christmas and during this time my mom was chain smoking in the basement. Her bedroom right below ours and our kids rooms. Me and the kids have asthma and my husband has crippling migraines that helped encourage him to quit smoking years ago. I didn’t notice the smell unless I was down stairs but he noticed it immediately. Saying he can’t sleeping and his crippling migraines had come back and the house smelled like cigarettes smoke. I confronted my mother and she said no of course she would smoke in the house but all her stuff clothes, furniture, smells that way cus she use to smoke in the house at her old place. (Mind you she was living with us for months now, and some of her future was new and we only just started having a problem suddenly after months with no issues related to smoke/smell)
Me and my husband fought over this as I really didn’t want to believe she would smoke in the house. First off it’s illegal here and second she knows off all our health issues. And you can get in trouble with child protective services if they thinking your smoking in the house which is considered endangering the health and safety of your children. And asthma can be considered the fault of the parents if they are smoking around them. You can’t even smoke in the car if a child is in the car with you
So my husband got a nicotine testing kit and when it finally came in we put it to use. The house was completely clean when we moved in. We found next to nothing upstairs but downstairs was a different story. My mom’s bedroom and kitchen being the worst. I was so mad that I decided I would look around to see if I could find an ashtray. Well I found it in her nightstand right beside the bed…. I was pissed. I can still remembered her fallling asleep with a cigarette in her hand on multiple occasions as a kid and how lucky we were that she never burned the house down back then
I confronted her when she got home and her instantly denied it till I showed her my proof and that I found her ashtray “your husband didn’t want her there always” was her response. I was floored. The whole time I stood up for her after confronting her the first time. she was lying saying “I’m so sick, I’m not even smoking right now, I’m quitting.”
He had bin upset at first but the first few months were great till all the issues started. But I quickly realized that no matter what I said I’d be wrong and she wouldn’t apologize. She had no remorse or sympathy not even when I mentioned the kids health or mine and my husbands. As she was my mother I felt it was my personal responsibility to hold her accountable for her actions we were going to give her till the spring as she is old but her response infuriated me.
She made it clear she didn’t have any level of respect for me or my husband and didn’t care about her grandchildren’s health…. I told her she had till the end of the month to move. She was pissed. She wanted to die here and how could I pick my husband over her and allow him to force her to move and in a month no less. I told her it was my choice to only give her a month and that I couldn’t stand to look at her. And this was the straw that back the camel’s back.
After that she avoided us and would hide in the basement when she wasn’t at work. A day or so later I woke up in the middle of the night to a noise only to find my mother in kitchen going through our cupboards…. I asked her what the H she was doing in my kitchen in the middle of the night? After that I started double checking the door separating the basement from the upstairs was locked at night.
She didn’t want to move so naturally I helped her looked for a place. Did the walk throughs with her till she settled for a place and of course she complained the whole time. How could I do this to her, look at the house I was forcing her into. (She picked it) and it was the nicest one we looked at. In her price range. And it was still close enough to visit and come help her if she needed it.
She refused to pack so I ended up packing everything for her and as I was packing her things I kept coming across things she had stolen from us. A can opener, canned goods, cereal, shopping bags, a blanket she had knitted for the family for Christmas and other things she had got the kids among many random things she must have wanted. I was growing more upset as the days passed and I told my husband everything I had come across while packing her things each day. He told me not to bother taking anything back because she would probably forget she stole it and claim we were stoking her things. He said she could have anything she wanted and hopefully with time she would remember that we still gave her whatever she wanted and there might be hope to fix the relationship with her in the future.
We called a couple friends to help us move here. We even put the furniture in the rooms/spots she asked for them to be put and we them up. As for the boxes I was going to help her empty them and put everything away but the first night she refused to let me touch anything and I just ended up sitting there while she berated me. “You’re a horrible daughter!” “A horrible mother!” “You’d let your own mother live in this dump!” “Who going to take care of me now? I might as well just die” “if I die it’s because of what you put me through” and those are only thing things a can remember
She keep my there in till 2 in the morning after that I said I couldn’t help her because I still had kids at home I had to get up with and she wouldn’t let me help anyway just berate me the whole time.
Me and my husband both agreed that we wouldn’t stop her from seeing the kids but she would have to respect our boundaries or we would have to put a stop to it. She refuses to see us or the kids. She refuses to apologize or admit to any wrong doing. She going around telling everyone I’m dead to her and take we took everything from her and we used her and abused her. We stopped talking to her all together and stopped trying to visit her.

Spacers came, and spacers went.
And the airlock doors to Tug's Roadhouse never stopped spinning.
“Another,” Rory pushed his glass across the polished mahogany bar and signaled the owner. He preferred Tug’s place over other joints in this sector because the staff were organic. No Bots or drones. Who could have a meaningful conversation with a drone?
“Same,” said Xueagtol, adding her glass to Rory’s. “And none of that synth shit either. The good stuff, Tug. From the glass bottles.”
Tug grunted, turned and selected a large rectangular bottle full of dark liquor from a vast array of options. “Ice?” he rumbled over the music playing softly in the background.
“Nah,” Rory said. “Not for me.”
“One cube,” Xueagtol grinned. “I like a little sparkle in my drinks.”
Tug grunted.
A single square crystalline cube clinked into her glass. The liquor glugged softly, and the ice snapped and cracked. Then he filled Rory’s glass.
“Where’s Hastion?” Tug asked, glancing around the large but sparsely populated lounge. “Never see you guys without him. He still favor Farstarian Sundrop for his drink?”
Rory lowered his eyes to the bar and fiddled with his fingers. Xueagtol glanced at him, then back to Tug. Her four dark eyes glittered with hidden pain. “He is here, Tug,” she said, gesturing at a small brass urn sitting on the bar in front of the seat beside her.
Tug blinked, scratched at his long golden mane, and studied the urn. He hadn’t noticed it before. Was this some kind of joke?
“I don’t understand.”
Rory looked up. “We promised him a last drink to send him off.”
Xueagtol nodded and sniffed. “Never be another one like Hastion.”
It hit Tug, then. The urn. The subdued mood and sad eyes.
“What happened?” His voice was a gentle roll of thunder.
“Nothing,” Rory said, lifting his glass to his lips and sipping. “Old age. Found him in his bed.”
Xueagtol sipped her drink and nodded. A single blue tear broke free from one of her eyes and tumbled down her cheek. “Miss him.”
“Yeah,” Rory said.
Tug set the bottle down and turned to reach for a clear decanter of softly luminous orange liquor. He filled a tumbler to the brim and gently set it before the urn.
“Here’s to Hastion,” he said and lifted the bottle to his lips.
Rory and Xueagtol nodded appreciatively and did the same.
Tug emptied half the bottle before he stopped to breathe. He looked thoughtful. “I’ll be right back,” he said, holding up a claw-tipped finger and setting the bottle down.
He disappeared into the offices behind the bar and returned a moment later. He had three thick Gendari cigars in his big paw.
“Gonna send him off proper,” Tug said, brandishing a silver lighter.
Rory shared a look with Xueagtol. A few patrons passing by gave Tug strange eyes.
“No smoking in facilities in Fed territories,” Rory said. “Could shut you down.”
Xueagtol said nothing.
She stared at the cigars in Tug’s paw like she’d never seen something so spectacular.
Tug shrugged and refilled their drinks. “Fuck it,” he rumbled. “That the right way to say it?” He was looking at Rory.
Rory grinned. “Yea. You got it.”
Tug nodded. “Good. Then I’ll say it again. Fuck it. Fuck the Fed. This is my place.” He glanced at the urn. Hastion had been coming to his bar for as long as he could remember. Wasn’t right to see him off without a traditional smoke.
He handed them their cigars and lifted the other to his lips. He bit down and smiled with his teeth. Tears showed in his eyes, but they didn’t fall. Hastion was as good as they come, a proper spacer with leather hide, ice for blood and sunshine for a heart.
He said as much to Rory and Xueagtol as he lit their smokes. They nodded and lifted their glasses in salute. “To Hastion.”
They spent the next few hours reminiscing about the good times, recalling Hastions’ daring exploits. He'd lived three lifetimes in his short years. A hell-raising, fem-chasing Farstar of impeccable tastes.
The lights were low, and the bar empty, when the last drinks were emptied and the smokes crushed out.
They stood before the small galley airlock and watched the urn drift into the darkness. It was what Hastion wanted.
He was home.

something i’ve been thinking about as i submit grades today is….what if this is just how things are now? we keep saying that rude/AI reliant/unprepared students will learn about hard deadlines and workloads when they enter the workforce, but is there any proof of them changing for the better like this after graduation? has anyone seen it happening? is it possible that there are so many of them, and the bar as been lowered so dramatically across the board, that it’s not actually going to matter if they learn to be responsible/polite/industrious/etc.? if the majority of an entire generation (and i say this as someone still in my 20s!) is like this, employers can’t really fire everyone, right? maybe everything is actually just going to get even crappier as unambitious students join the work force, disregard the set culture, and bring this same strange lack of energy and curiosity there as well. does anyone have any experience that might point one way or the other? i’m starting to get worried not just for academic communities, but for all communities everywhere if this is the new normal.

Hello there. 26 year old white male here. A quick question about something I’m anxious about.
I had a sports physical today, the first physical exam I’ve had in many years, at my college’s clinic…
During the genital exam the doctor tried, and failed, to retract my foreskin. At the time he didn’t say anything other than “we’ll need to follow up on this”.
Is this bad? What’s going to happen? I’m very nervous!