Appoint legal guardian letter sample

Dear M&M,
This is a list of what the nasty "JE"rk has done to me over decades. Now I'm writing this out bc I would like you to know how he has manipulated and hurt me throughout my life. Mostly, to show you that he went to extremes bc my love for you was all encompassing. When he would put me under hypnosis I wouldn't relent. I wouldn't stop loving you. And he beat me up for it. Look, my sweet M&M, I don't want you to feel like you owe me anything. Or that you have to love me. No, I just want to clear the air finally. To bring truth to what was done. You deserve that. You went through so much as well. And I would love to keep this kind of stuff private but he took that away and im left to tell the world our story so you can at least know i never gave up on you. Bc a part of me knows you never gave up on me. Also, if anyone reads this I'm healed enough to talk about everything. Don't be sad for me. I'm a super resilient person at this point and mentally tough.💪
So here it goes ok, things that happened to me that he did:

1. He raped me along with other men.
2. He told me never to say anything or he would kill me and hurt you.
3. He said he would break us up if I said anything.
4. Later, after he was appointed the investigator of the gang rape he took me and used hypnosis and torture, so as to keep me from telling the truth.
5. Him and his buddies took me to a room to discuss how they were going to destroy "evidence" which was me. Someone mentioned "get her to kill herself". So JE used hypnosis and he almost succeeded except I was found on time. It was clear he needed me to appear crazy and suggested everything that happened was bc of my past. It was part of the script I was supposed to say.
6. It became clear you wanted justice and didn't know who JE really was. He had to block my memories by taking me to a hotel where he used torture and hypnosis at the same time. He repeatedly raped me at the hotel. After several weekends I lost all conscious awareness of who you were M&M. You would appear and I wouldn't know your name or that we had a relationship.
7. He constantly blocked you and the investigation and turned it around on you, M&M.
8. He used hypnosis on me to say you sexually assaulted me. I was being questioned in the same room that JE and the other men raped me. My supervisor was getting tired of waiting around bc I kept telling them, "He didn't do anything wrong. "... once my supervisor left, JE brought out the gold chain (hypnosis) and recorded me saying you sexually assaulted me.
9. At this point, I was trained with the hypnosis, but I fought hard for you. JE also used hypnosis on other women, and they wrongfully accused you as well under hypnosis.
10. He made sure to continue to degrade me to my supervisor, and I got a "15" bc he insisted I was out of line for what happened between you and me..(SMH).
11. He took possession of all my paperwork and destroyed everything connected to you, M&M. He destroyed every memory of us and every picture. He destroyed "US."
12. He did various things to other women I'm not going to mention here.
13. He made up lies about my past to use and weaponize against me and you, or suggest it was for my protection he went to this extreme.
14. All communication between us both was severely compromised. I never received anything from you. He would make me dictate letters and write them out under hypnosis.
15. He forwarded all my mail to his home.
16. He has been monitoring my online activities since online became a thing.
17. Through hypnosis, he was able to manage to get me into relationships that destroyed my self-esteem and worth even more so. This, bc he knew you were waiting it out. Even this last time with my ex-husband. Relationships I would have never entered, but he intervened.
18. He kept me from my Gd.
19. Throughout the time he took possession of me, he painted himself as my boyfriend to others so that they wouldn't believe he was part of the gang rape or that he was continuing to rape me.
20. I was hypnotized to play a role and pretend that I wanted to be with him. That I loved him, etc.
21. People found out so he put more pressure on me and really did such a number on me mentally that I would never know you M&M (not getting into how he tortured me to lose all conscious awareness of ever knowing you M&M)
22. He's most likely kept recordings and records of this as he plays for life since what he did was catastrophic. Too many people found out the truth. I have my mind and voice back, which is the real truth.
23. He intervened with any success I could have had from going to grad school, including failing a class, gre,... having to leave prestigious work positions bc I didn't know why I was severely suffering from ptsd... bc part of the script is keeping me down. Too much clout, and he won't be believed if I succeeded professionally. PHD etc.
24. My kiddo dude... this one kills me. I was kept down so much that I hardly had the strength to fight anymore.
25. I was never going to remember you, but I did... and I'm so very grateful 🙏 now. Bc I know what love really is. I have that, at least.

There's a lot more, but that would be longer, and this is loonngg..
So dude, that's some of it. I'm just sad that I can't really discuss this in private with you bc he has compromised so much of my communication with you. The goal was for me to never know you or that I loved you so that I could clear your name and tell the truth of what was really done to us both.

Dear M&M,
This is a list of what the nasty "JE"rk has done to me over decades. Now I'm writing this out bc I would like you to know how he has manipulated and hurt me throughout my life. Mostly, to show you that he went to extremes bc my love for you was all encompassing. When he would put me under hypnosis I wouldn't relent. I wouldn't stop loving you. And he beat me up for it. Look, my sweet M&M, I don't want you to feel like you owe me anything. Or that you have to love me. No, I just want to clear the air finally. To bring truth to what was done. You deserve that. You went through so much as well. And I would love to keep this kind of stuff private but he took that away and im left to tell the world our story so you can at least know i never gave up on you. Bc a part of me knows you never gave up on me. Also, if anyone reads this I'm healed enough to talk about everything. Don't be sad for me. I'm a super resilient person at this point and mentally tough.💪
So here it goes ok, things that happened to me that he did:

1. He raped me along with other men.
2. He told me never to say anything or he would kill me and hurt you.
3. He said he would break us up if I said anything.
4. Later, after he was appointed the investigator of the gang rape he took me and used hypnosis and torture, so as to keep me from telling the truth.
5. Him and his buddies took me to a room to discuss how they were going to destroy "evidence" which was me. Someone mentioned "get her to kill herself". So JE used hypnosis and he almost succeeded except I was found on time. It was clear he needed me to appear crazy and suggested everything that happened was bc of my past. It was part of the script I was supposed to say.
6. It became clear you wanted justice and didn't know who JE really was. He had to block my memories by taking me to a hotel where he used torture and hypnosis at the same time. He repeatedly raped me at the hotel. After several weekends I lost all conscious awareness of who you were M&M. You would appear and I wouldn't know your name or that we had a relationship.
7. He constantly blocked you and the investigation and turned it around on you, M&M.
8. He used hypnosis on me to say you sexually assaulted me. I was being questioned in the same room that JE and the other men raped me. My supervisor was getting tired of waiting around bc I kept telling them, "He didn't do anything wrong. "... once my supervisor left, JE brought out the gold chain (hypnosis) and recorded me saying you sexually assaulted me.
9. At this point, I was trained with the hypnosis, but I fought hard for you. JE also used hypnosis on other women, and they wrongfully accused you as well under hypnosis.
10. He made sure to continue to degrade me to my supervisor, and I got a "15" bc he insisted I was out of line for what happened between you and me..(SMH).
11. He took possession of all my paperwork and destroyed everything connected to you, M&M. He destroyed every memory of us and every picture. He destroyed "US."
12. He did various things to other women I'm not going to mention here.
13. He made up lies about my past to use and weaponize against me and you, or suggest it was for my protection he went to this extreme.
14. All communication between us both was severely compromised. I never received anything from you. He would make me dictate letters and write them out under hypnosis.
15. He forwarded all my mail to his home.
16. He has been monitoring my online activities since online became a thing.
17. Through hypnosis, he was able to manage to get me into relationships that destroyed my self-esteem and worth even more so. This, bc he knew you were waiting it out. Even this last time with my ex-husband. Relationships I would have never entered, but he intervened.
18. He kept me from my Gd.
19. Throughout the time he took possession of me, he painted himself as my boyfriend to others so that they wouldn't believe he was part of the gang rape or that he was continuing to rape me.
20. I was hypnotized to play a role and pretend that I wanted to be with him. That I loved him, etc.
21. People found out so he put more pressure on me and really did such a number on me mentally that I would never know you M&M (not getting into how he tortured me to lose all conscious awareness of ever knowing you M&M)
22. He's most likely kept recordings and records of this as he plays for life since what he did was catastrophic. Too many people found out the truth. I have my mind and voice back, which is the real truth.
23. He intervened with any success I could have had from going to grad school, including failing a class, gre,... having to leave prestigious work positions bc I didn't know why I was severely suffering from ptsd... bc part of the script is keeping me down. Too much clout, and he won't be believed if I succeeded professionally. PHD etc.
24. My kiddo dude... this one kills me. I was kept down so much that I hardly had the strength to fight anymore.
25. I was never going to remember you, but I did... and I'm so very grateful 🙏 now. Bc I know what love really is. I have that, at least.

There's a lot more, but that would be longer, and this is loonngg..
So dude, that's some of it. I'm just sad that I can't really discuss this in private with you bc he has compromised so much of my communication with you. The goal was for me to never know you or that I loved you so that I could clear your name and tell the truth of what was really done to us both.

Dear M&M,
This is a list of what the nasty "JE"rk has done to me over decades. Now I'm writing this out bc I would like you to know how he has manipulated and hurt me throughout my life. Mostly, to show you that he went to extremes bc my love for you was all encompassing. When he would put me under hypnosis I wouldn't relent. I wouldn't stop loving you. And he beat me up for it. Look, my sweet M&M, I don't want you to feel like you owe me anything. Or that you have to love me. No, I just want to clear the air finally. To bring truth to what was done. You deserve that. You went through so much as well. And I would love to keep this kind of stuff private but he took that away and im left to tell the world our story so you can at least know i never gave up on you. Bc a part of me knows you never gave up on me. Also, if anyone reads this I'm healed enough to talk about everything. Don't be sad for me. I'm a super resilient person at this point and mentally tough.💪
So here it goes ok, things that happened to me that he did:

1. He raped me along with other men.
2. He told me never to say anything or he would kill me and hurt you.
3. He said he would break us up if I said anything.
4. Later, after he was appointed the investigator of the gang rape he took me and used hypnosis and torture, so as to keep me from telling the truth.
5. Him and his buddies took me to a room to discuss how they were going to destroy "evidence" which was me. Someone mentioned "get her to kill herself". So JE used hypnosis and he almost succeeded except I was found on time. It was clear he needed me to appear crazy and suggested everything that happened was bc of my past. It was part of the script I was supposed to say.
6. It became clear you wanted justice and didn't know who JE really was. He had to block my memories by taking me to a hotel where he used torture and hypnosis at the same time. He repeatedly raped me at the hotel. After several weekends I lost all conscious awareness of who you were M&M. You would appear and I wouldn't know your name or that we had a relationship.
7. He constantly blocked you and the investigation and turned it around on you, M&M.
8. He used hypnosis on me to say you sexually assaulted me. I was being questioned in the same room that JE and the other men raped me. My supervisor was getting tired of waiting around bc I kept telling them, "He didn't do anything wrong. "... once my supervisor left, JE brought out the gold chain (hypnosis) and recorded me saying you sexually assaulted me.
9. At this point, I was trained with the hypnosis, but I fought hard for you. JE also used hypnosis on other women, and they wrongfully accused you as well under hypnosis.
10. He made sure to continue to degrade me to my supervisor, and I got a "15" bc he insisted I was out of line for what happened between you and me..(SMH).
11. He took possession of all my paperwork and destroyed everything connected to you, M&M. He destroyed every memory of us and every picture. He destroyed "US."
12. He did various things to other women I'm not going to mention here.
13. He made up lies about my past to use and weaponize against me and you, or suggest it was for my protection he went to this extreme.
14. All communication between us both was severely compromised. I never received anything from you. He would make me dictate letters and write them out under hypnosis.
15. He forwarded all my mail to his home.
16. He has been monitoring my online activities since online became a thing.
17. Through hypnosis, he was able to manage to get me into relationships that destroyed my self-esteem and worth even more so. This, bc he knew you were waiting it out. Even this last time with my ex-husband. Relationships I would have never entered, but he intervened.
18. He kept me from my Gd.
19. Throughout the time he took possession of me, he painted himself as my boyfriend to others so that they wouldn't believe he was part of the gang rape or that he was continuing to rape me.
20. I was hypnotized to play a role and pretend that I wanted to be with him. That I loved him, etc.
21. People found out so he put more pressure on me and really did such a number on me mentally that I would never know you M&M (not getting into how he tortured me to lose all conscious awareness of ever knowing you M&M)
22. He's most likely kept recordings and records of this as he plays for life since what he did was catastrophic. Too many people found out the truth. I have my mind and voice back, which is the real truth.
23. He intervened with any success I could have had from going to grad school, including failing a class, gre,... having to leave prestigious work positions bc I didn't know why I was severely suffering from ptsd... bc part of the script is keeping me down. Too much clout, and he won't be believed if I succeeded professionally. PHD etc.
24. My kiddo dude... this one kills me. I was kept down so much that I hardly had the strength to fight anymore.
25. I was never going to remember you, but I did... and I'm so very grateful 🙏 now. Bc I know what love really is. I have that, at least.

There's a lot more, but that would be longer, and this is loonngg..
So dude, that's some of it. I'm just sad that I can't really discuss this in private with you bc he has compromised so much of my communication with you. The goal was for me to never know you or that I loved you so that I could clear your name and tell the truth of what was really done to us both.

I know this is super general and that it varies a lot by case, but is there a basic explanation for why criminal history information that seems extremely relevant is sometimes not allowed to be brought up to a jury? This is purely me asking after noticing this trend from reading about crimes and trials so I don’t have a specific example in mind.
For example, I’ve heard of examples of people who were convicted of assault or domestic violence with one partner who later went on to be charged with homicide of a different partner, and then the prior domestic violence charges aren’t allowed to be brought up in court. I can understand not bringing up a totally unrelated charge like, forgery or something, as forgery is unrelated to murder. But a history of violence seems like it’s relevant to other violent crime.
Is that not a typical example maybe?
I can understand that anything circumstantial may not be allowed (like if someone was charged or not convicted) or that you can’t involve witnesses that can’t be cross examined, like a letter from a deceased person perhaps. But sometimes it just seems nuts that this info isn’t permitted and as a layperson I can’t imagine a legal reason why it can’t.

I'm 22, just out of a decent university, but my grades weren't the top (3.0 gpa). For the past two years, I've been putting in around 25 hours a week at a small bank branch since my sophomore year. They've given me a bunch of important tasks like scheduling appointments and handling financial transactions, wires, accounts, safety deposit boxes, etc. I think I'm pretty good at what I do, and I pick things up quickly. People say I'm personable and great with clients. But I'll admit, I struggle with staying organized, and motivation can be a challenge sometimes.
Now I'm at a bit of a crossroads – deciding whether to stick with my part-time role at the bank or take on a full-time teller position. However, what I'm really passionate about is working in the international finance scene! I'm fluent in English and French, and I'm working on my Spanish because I have a real passion for languages. I have the legal right to work in the EU, which is where I'd like to start. But I'm also eyeing opportunities in growing African countries like Niger, Rwanda, or the Democratic Republic of Congo. Does anyone have any advice on how I can make this transition? Whether it's specific roles, companies, or licenses, I'm open to any suggestions that could help me chase my ambitions. Thanks in advance !!

Good evening,
I was sacked a few months ago for discussing an inappropriate topic with my coworkers during work. The excuse is that customers could hear us because they were close but we were not right next to them.
Anyway, this manager (after breeching the disciplinary code of practice several times) decided to send me for a meeting saying that "he wouldn't be there, but someone else will communicate the outcome of the disciplinary procedure."
I walked into that meeting and I was given my termination letter.
Recently I have found out that she forged her signature on that termination letter (I have evidence). Also, his name and signature are not on the first page, they're on the second one which is stapled and just contains her name and her signature.
There is a lot of information that I cannot reveal about my dismissal but it was kind of unfair given the evidence they had of me discussing inappropriate stuff was very limited (they just wanted an excuse to get rid of me). However, I want to find out if there's any legal action or anything I can do about this manager and his dodgy ways.
The union told me the British employment laws are the worst in Europe and suggested me to move on, thankfully I found a new and better job quickly.
Thanks a lot!
*EDIT*
His signature* it's a male, lol

I changed my name long before I knew there were bonds in my birth name (my parents had them saved and waited until they felt I was responsible enough to have them). I am waffling on whether or not to cash them since they're about 8 years off from being 30 years but I am they could finally put me in a situation to pursue a life goal. That part is neither here nor there though. I am wondering how I even would cash them. My first and middle name are changed (though the first three letters of my first name are the exact same, like Carson vs Carl, as an example of what I mean) but my last name is the exact same. All my documents have my current legal name, including my SSN card. I've never had a drivers license or passport with my birth name and my original SSN card and birth certificate no longer exist. The treasury website had how to do a married name change but I think my name might be too different for that to work, especially since it wasn't my last name that changed. Also, they're paper bonds, not electric.
Any advice for how to do this? Anyone had to go through this process before?

This is my first ever Reddit post and I thought it may be a healthy way to express how much build up anger and resentment I (26, F) have towards my 31 year old brother who takes 0 accountability for his action and his addiction. Bare with me.
When my brother was in highschool, he dabbled around in pills, alcohol and other drugs. That is what set off his absolutely insane alcohol addiction he’s currently still battling with. In 2017 he was hit by a car because he was walking down a highway while intoxicated and was in a coma for a month and had to have multiple brain surgeries and leg surgeries. He had to have multiple months of PT once healed to get back to walking and functioning. After his accident and healing he was in and out of relapses until about 2021 when he got completely sober. After 3 years of sobriety, a few months ago he relapsed and has been fucking spiraling since. Within the last 3 months, he’s gotten a DUI, lost custody of his 7 year old child to CPS, has another baby mama who is 26 weeks pregnant who he’s no longer dating, quit his job.. like ROCKBOTTOM..
A few days ago my entire family went to his house to hold an intervention and we sourced multiple ways for him to get help (rehab, mental health facility) before his court date for the DUI at the end of May, and his response was “I’ll think about it over the weekend..” to a 30 day program.. mind you, he has no job, lost custody of his daughter, is POOR, has another kid on the way, and doesn’t even pay his own bills because my PARENTS HAVE BEEN.. (dad is on his mortgage)
Today he is arguing with my mom and playing victim about how he has “so many problems, keeps them all to himself to figure out, helps everyone around him, and that ‘blood isn’t thicker than water because everyone in the family is against him’” because we are trying to hold him accountable for his own actions and find him a program for him to get into to get clean, and his life back together before he fully loses custody of his daughter, and his house..
He constantly talks about how he wishes he would’ve died in his accident and has no empathy towards what his entire family went through during his 6 months of being In the hospital and through the rehab healing from his accident. Any time anybody tries to hold him accountable he somehow manipulates it in his mind that you’re against him and you are the bad person. My mom and I decided we are going to write a letter to the judge for his DUI case asking if they’ll legally place him into a inpatient rehab in which he can’t leave. It’s really our only option at this point.
At this point I’d honestly rather him sit in a jail cell then be free out on the streets with no job, no kids in his custody, drinking his life away. At least I’d know he would be less self destructive and putting my nieces life on the line. It would also be relieving to not have to constantly worry about what he is doing, where he’s at, getting phone calls of him completely plastered apologizing but then going right back at it the next day, and routinely repeating this cycle.
Dealing with an unhinged alcoholic family member is so fucking draining. As if my 26 year old self doesn’t have enough daily life shit to worry about. Bills, working, finding insurance, staying mentally healthy, etc. to be dealing with my 5 year older alcoholic mentally unstable brother.
My therapist told me to start writing out how I feel and this was actually slightly healing to write out even if I feel guilty for saying all of this. I’ve just put so much work into healing emotional trauma and he just dumps all of his on to me any everybody else. Pray for me smh.

I am applying for an apartment. I have 3 ESA animals. The landlord gave me a document they wanted signed to verify ESA status. I returned the signed document from my therapist that listed all three animals. The landlord now is requesting another letter saying the reason for 3 animals rather than just 1. I was approved but the landlord won’t remove the nonrefundable pet deposit fees without the additional letter, and is saying I’ll lose the apartment if I don’t sign the lease today. They just told me they need the additional letter today, and it is hard to get something like that on short notice from a therapist. So now I’m either out $450 or lose the apartment. From what I understand, this is not legal, since I already provided a signed letter listing all three animals, and I’m hesitant to share more detailed personal health information with the landlord. I’m not sure what to do.

Dear M&M,
This is a list of what the nasty "JE"rk has done to me over decades. Now I'm writing this out bc I would like you to know how he has manipulated and hurt me throughout my life. Mostly, to show you that he went to extremes bc my love for you was all encompassing. When he would put me under hypnosis I wouldn't relent. I wouldn't stop loving you. And he beat me up for it. Look, my sweet M&M, I don't want you to feel like you owe me anything. Or that you have to love me. No, I just want to clear the air finally. To bring truth to what was done. You deserve that. You went through so much as well. And I would love to keep this kind of stuff private but he took that away and im left to tell the world our story so you can at least know i never gave up on you. Bc a part of me knows you never gave up on me. Also, if anyone reads this I'm healed enough to talk about everything. Don't be sad for me. I'm a super resilient person at this point and mentally tough.💪
So here it goes ok, things that happened to me that he did:

1. He raped me along with other men.
2. He told me never to say anything or he would kill me and hurt you.
3. He said he would break us up if I said anything.
4. Later, after he was appointed the investigator of the gang rape he took me and used hypnosis and torture, so as to keep me from telling the truth.
5. Him and his buddies took me to a room to discuss how they were going to destroy "evidence" which was me. Someone mentioned "get her to kill herself". So JE used hypnosis and he almost succeeded except I was found on time. It was clear he needed me to appear crazy and suggested everything that happened was bc of my past. It was part of the script I was supposed to say.
6. It became clear you wanted justice and didn't know who JE really was. He had to block my memories by taking me to a hotel where he used torture and hypnosis at the same time. He repeatedly raped me at the hotel. 7. After several weekends I lost all conscious awareness of who you were M&M. You would appear and I wouldn't know your name or that we had a relationship.
7. He constantly blocked you and the investigation and turned it around on you M&M.
8. He used hypnosis on me to say you sexually assaulted me. I was being questioned in the same room that JE and the other men raped me. My supervisor was getting tired of waiting around bc I kept telling them "he didn't do anything wrong"... once my supervisor left JE brought out the gold chain (hypnosis) and recorded me saying you sexually assaulted me.
9. At this point I was trained with the hypnosis, but I fought hard for you. JE also used hypnosis on other woman and they accused you too.
10. He made sure to continue to degrade me to my supervisor and I got a "15" bc he insisted I was out of line for what happened between you and me..(SMH).
11. He took possession of all my paperwork and destroyed everything connected to you M&M. He destroyed every memory of us, and every picture. He destroyed "US".
12. He did various things to other women I'm not going to mention here.
13. He made up lies about my past to use and weaponize against me and you, or suggest it was for my protection he went to this extreme.
14. All communication between us both was severely compromised. I never received anything from you. He would make me dictate letters and write them out under hypnosis.
15. He forwarded all my mail to his home.
16. He has been monitoring my online activities since online became a thing.
17. Through hypnosis he was able to manage to get me into relationships that destroyed my self esteem and worth even moreso. This, bc he knew you were waiting it out. Even this last time with my ex husband. Relationships I would have never entered but he intervened.
18. He kept me from my Gd.
19. Throughout the time he took possession of me he painted himself as my boyfriend to others so that they wouldn't believe he was part of the gang rape or that he was continuing to rape me.
20. I was hypnotized to play a role and pretend that I wanted to be with him. That I loved him etc.
21. People found out so he put more pressure on me and really did such a number on me mentally that I would never know you M&M (not getting into how he tortured me to lose all conscious awareness of ever knowing you M&M)
22. He's most likely kept recordings and records of this as he plays for life, since what he did was catastrophic. Too many people found out the truth. I have my mind and voice back, which is the real truth.
23. He intervened with any success I could have had from going to grad school, including failing a class, gre,... having to leave prestigious work positions bc I didn't know why I was severely suffering from ptsd... bc part of the script is keeping me down. Too much clout and he won't be believed if I succeeded professionally.
24. My kiddo dude... this one kills me. I was kept down so much I hardly had the strength to fight anymore.
25. I was never going to remember you but I did... and I'm so very grateful 🙏 now. Bc I know what love really is. I have that at least.

There's a lot more but that would be longer and this is loonngg..
So dude, that's some of it. Just sad that I can't really discuss this in private with you bc he has compromised so much of my communication with you. The goal was for me to never know you or that I loved you so that I could clear your name and tell the truth of what was really done to us both.

Dear M&M,
This is a list of what the nasty "JE"rk has done to me over decades. Now I'm writing this out bc I would like you to know how he has manipulated and hurt me throughout my life. Mostly, to show you that he went to extremes bc my love for you was all encompassing. When he would put me under hypnosis I wouldn't relent. I wouldn't stop loving you. And he beat me up for it. Look, my sweet M&M, I don't want you to feel like you owe me anything. Or that you have to love me. No, I just want to clear the air finally. To bring truth to what was done. You deserve that. You went through so much as well. And I would love to keep this kind of stuff private but he took that away and im left to tell the world our story so you can at least know i never gave up on you. Bc a part of me knows you never gave up on me. Also, if anyone reads this I'm healed enough to talk about everything. Don't be sad for me. I'm a super resilient person at this point and mentally tough.💪
So here it goes ok, things that happened to me that he did:

1. He raped me along with other men.
2. He told me never to say anything or he would kill me and hurt you.
3. He said he would break us up if I said anything.
4. Later, after he was appointed the investigator of the gang rape he took me and used hypnosis and torture, so as to keep me from telling the truth.
5. Him and his buddies took me to a room to discuss how they were going to destroy "evidence" which was me. Someone mentioned "get her to kill herself". So JE used hypnosis and he almost succeeded except I was found on time. It was clear he needed me to appear crazy and suggested everything that happened was bc of my past. It was part of the script I was supposed to say.
6. It became clear you wanted justice and didn't know who JE really was. He had to block my memories by taking me to a hotel where he used torture and hypnosis at the same time. He repeatedly raped me at the hotel. 7. After several weekends I lost all conscious awareness of who you were M&M. You would appear and I wouldn't know your name or that we had a relationship.
7. He constantly blocked you and the investigation and turned it around on you M&M.
8. He used hypnosis on me to say you sexually assaulted me. I was being questioned in the same room that JE and the other men raped me. My supervisor was getting tired of waiting around bc I kept telling them "he didn't do anything wrong"... once my supervisor left JE brought out the gold chain (hypnosis) and recorded me saying you sexually assaulted me.
9. At this point I was trained with the hypnosis, but I fought hard for you. JE also used hypnosis on other woman and they accused you too.
10. He made sure to continue to degrade me to my supervisor and I got a "15" bc he insisted I was out of line for what happened between you and me..(SMH).
11. He took possession of all my paperwork and destroyed everything connected to you M&M. He destroyed every memory of us, and every picture. He destroyed "US".
12. He did various things to other women I'm not going to mention here.
13. He made up lies about my past to use and weaponize against me and you, or suggest it was for my protection he went to this extreme.
14. All communication between us both was severely compromised. I never received anything from you. He would make me dictate letters and write them out under hypnosis.
15. He forwarded all my mail to his home.
16. He has been monitoring my online activities since online became a thing.
17. Through hypnosis he was able to manage to get me into relationships that destroyed my self esteem and worth even moreso. This, bc he knew you were waiting it out. Even this last time with my ex husband. Relationships I would have never entered but he intervened.
18. He kept me from my Gd.
19. Throughout the time he took possession of me he painted himself as my boyfriend to others so that they wouldn't believe he was part of the gang rape or that he was continuing to rape me.
20. I was hypnotized to play a role and pretend that I wanted to be with him. That I loved him etc.
21. People found out so he put more pressure on me and really did such a number on me mentally that I would never know you M&M (not getting into how he tortured me to lose all conscious awareness of ever knowing you M&M)
22. He's most likely kept recordings and records of this as he plays for life, since what he did was catastrophic. Too many people found out the truth. I have my mind and voice back, which is the real truth.
23. He intervened with any success I could have had from going to grad school, including failing a class, gre,... having to leave prestigious work positions bc I didn't know why I was severely suffering from ptsd... bc part of the script is keeping me down. Too much clout and he won't be believed if I succeeded professionally.
24. My kiddo dude... this one kills me. I was kept down so much I hardly had the strength to fight anymore.
25. I was never going to remember you but I did... and I'm so very grateful 🙏 now. Bc I know what love really is. I have that at least.

There's a lot more but that would be longer and this is loonngg..
So dude, that's some of it. Just sad that I can't really discuss this in private with you bc he has compromised so much of my communication with you. The goal was for me to never know you or that I loved you so that I could clear your name and tell the truth of what was really done to us both.

Dear M&M,
This is a list of what the nasty "JE"rk has done to me over decades. Now I'm writing this out bc I would like you to know how he has manipulated and hurt me throughout my life. Mostly, to show you that he went to extremes bc my love for you was all encompassing. When he would put me under hypnosis I wouldn't relent. I wouldn't stop loving you. And he beat me up for it. Look, my sweet M&M, I don't want you to feel like you owe me anything. Or that you have to love me. No, I just want to clear the air finally. To bring truth to what was done. You deserve that. You went through so much as well. And I would love to keep this kind of stuff private but he took that away and im left to tell the world our story so you can at least know i never gave up on you. Bc a part of me knows you never gave up on me. Also, if anyone reads this I'm healed enough to talk about everything. Don't be sad for me. I'm a super resilient person at this point and mentally tough.💪
So here it goes ok, things that happened to me that he did:

1. He raped me along with other men.
2. He told me never to say anything or he would kill me and hurt you.
3. He said he would break us up if I said anything.
4. Later, after he was appointed the investigator of the gang rape he took me and used hypnosis and torture, so as to keep me from telling the truth.
5. Him and his buddies took me to a room to discuss how they were going to destroy "evidence" which was me. Someone mentioned "get her to kill herself". So JE used hypnosis and he almost succeeded except I was found on time. It was clear he needed me to appear crazy and suggested everything that happened was bc of my past. It was part of the script I was supposed to say.
6. It became clear you wanted justice and didn't know who JE really was. He had to block my memories by taking me to a hotel where he used torture and hypnosis at the same time. He repeatedly raped me at the hotel. 7. After several weekends I lost all conscious awareness of who you were M&M. You would appear and I wouldn't know your name or that we had a relationship.
7. He constantly blocked you and the investigation and turned it around on you M&M.
8. He used hypnosis on me to say you sexually assaulted me. I was being questioned in the same room that JE and the other men raped me. My supervisor was getting tired of waiting around bc I kept telling them "he didn't do anything wrong"... once my supervisor left JE brought out the gold chain (hypnosis) and recorded me saying you sexually assaulted me.
9. At this point I was trained with the hypnosis, but I fought hard for you. JE also used hypnosis on other woman and they accused you too.
10. He made sure to continue to degrade me to my supervisor and I got a "15" bc he insisted I was out of line for what happened between you and me..(SMH).
11. He took possession of all my paperwork and destroyed everything connected to you M&M. He destroyed every memory of us, and every picture. He destroyed "US".
12. He did various things to other women I'm not going to mention here.
13. He made up lies about my past to use and weaponize against me and you, or suggest it was for my protection he went to this extreme.
14. All communication between us both was severely compromised. I never received anything from you. He would make me dictate letters and write them out under hypnosis.
15. He forwarded all my mail to his home.
16. He has been monitoring my online activities since online became a thing.
17. Through hypnosis he was able to manage to get me into relationships that destroyed my self esteem and worth even moreso. This, bc he knew you were waiting it out. Even this last time with my ex husband. Relationships I would have never entered but he intervened.
18. He kept me from my Gd.
19. Throughout the time he took possession of me he painted himself as my boyfriend to others so that they wouldn't believe he was part of the gang rape or that he was continuing to rape me.
20. I was hypnotized to play a role and pretend that I wanted to be with him. That I loved him etc.
21. People found out so he put more pressure on me and really did such a number on me mentally that I would never know you M&M (not getting into how he tortured me to lose all conscious awareness of ever knowing you M&M)
22. He's most likely kept recordings and records of this as he plays for life, since what he did was catastrophic. Too many people found out the truth. I have my mind and voice back, which is the real truth.
23. He intervened with any success I could have had from going to grad school, including failing a class, gre,... having to leave prestigious work positions bc I didn't know why I was severely suffering from ptsd... bc part of the script is keeping me down. Too much clout and he won't be believed if I succeeded professionally.
24. My kiddo dude... this one kills me. I was kept down so much I hardly had the strength to fight anymore.
25. I was never going to remember you but I did... and I'm so very grateful 🙏 now. Bc I know what love really is. I have that at least.

There's a lot more but that would be longer and this is loonngg..
So dude, that's some of it. Just sad that I can't really discuss this in private with you bc he has compromised so much of my communication with you. The goal was for me to never know you or that I loved you so that I could clear your name and tell the truth of what was really done to us both.

I am in a very unique situation regarding an ex-girlfriend with who I have an 8 year old with and I would like to be in my daughter's life, but my ex-girlfriend has pretty much kept me out of her life for pretty much her entire life.
To begin with, my ex-girlfriend had lied about being married, so when the kid was to be born, her husband had signed the birth certificate and the states department for child services did not take my concerns seriously at the start. DCS has been involved for multiple reasons from domestic violence to the husband being absent. Soon after the birth, my ex-girlfriend had fled the state with our daughter and has pretty much been moving around every six months, she recently reached out to me to ask if I would be interested in connecting with my daughter, I agreed and it started off pretty well for a week, and my ex-girlfriend initially was very open to reconciling, but apparently also had another man on the side for the last 6 years, as well as others who also involved domestic violence. Our relationship has pretty much deteriorated when I mentioned to her that I was going to seek some legal advice to find out the steps we should take to have me officially be my daughter's father, such as a DNA test. The husband she had was not the father, as she has informed me through a family court case where she sought child-support from him, this has caused there to be some child support in arrears. Even when we were together, she eventually became abusive towards me, but she was also secretly using several drugs and has since been sober for the last two years. The breakup and subsequent events and past trauma had affected me greatly and I turned to drinking, I have been sober for two years at this point as well. I just want to have some parenting time, as my drinking has caused me to get DUIs and I am currently without a license, so I agree that keeping her with her mother for things such as getting to school. I have helped my ex-girlfriend financially to aquire a new place to live closer to our daughter's school and have paid her rent to give her some stability, as my ex-girlfriend does not have a regular job, but has recently started a booth vending at local events which I have helped her file the paperwork to be legitimate. I've helped her with some other financial shortcomings, such as coming up with money to let our daughter go on a school camping trip and my ex-girlfriend even took me along, but my daughter just believes I am a friend of her mom and I was introduced as such to other parents. After this trip is when I told her I was going to seek legal counsel, which I have an appointment for Wednesday and that is when she has pretty much decided I am unfit to be a parent. The relationship between me and my daughter is mainly one of just fun and activities for the last 3 months, we get along very well and I don't talk bad about her mother. Besides her mother, my daughter has said I'm her favorite, she shares her interests with me and she is always giving me hugs and asking me for help with her activities. The reason I am seeking legal advice is that my ex-girlfriend has constantly been coming up with reasons to not introduce me as the father, the plans we initially made were kind of tossed aside and I am mainly just looking to figure out a framework and plans we can both follow. My ex-girlfriend has told me she won't compromise with me, that I am unfit due to having gone through depression after she left (She had drained my bank account and taken all of my furniture and other things when she left, and her constantly moving made any recovery impossible so I had to start over essentially with nothing). Now after the trip, she's saying things to try and I guess bully me out of my daughter's life, she's made insinuating statements that I am a pedophile (My hand touched our daughter's thigh) and I am emotionally unstable and violent, but those couldn't be further from the truth. I guess I am asking if anyone has any advice for what I should be asking the legal counsel I am going to see, as it will be a 45 minute meeting and I want to be as prepared as I can be for it. I am trying to do this without having courts involved, but it is starting to seem inevitable as the mother has become uncooperative and won't have an adult discussion about the topic of coparenting. She says she is already providing the best and I would just be taking our daughter away, even though I've been pretty clear that I don't want to do that, I just want to be in my daughter's life and am willing to compromise. The mother has said that she believes the courts won't grant me anything until the child support in arrears is paid and she has also said that she has found an adoptive father for our daughter (the supposed 6 year relationship) , but she also said that they had broken up just this last weekend. So, is there any advice for this situation, it's really all over the place and sometimes I don't even know where one lie ends and another begins. I'll answer any questions and give background information to the best of my ability.

My husband recently got put back on military orders for the next 3 years (he has been enlisted since 2020). Last week, he notified his employer that his start date would be June 1, 2024. Today, he got an email stating that he must submit a resignation letter on 5/24/25 and he would be effectively resigned on 5/25/25. I told him NOT to submit the letter because he is NOT resigning, he is simply going on more active duty orders.
What legal standing do we have if he refuses to submit the letter and they let him go?

I just got a letter stating the judge ruled in favor of me being disabled and that there is an appointment scheduled to make sure I still meet the non disability requirements (which I assume are the 1. don't make money, 2. don't have money, 3. don't have access to money) broadly put.
What should I expect? I meet the person Friday, get approved and then what? How is backpay determined? When does the lawyer take their %? Any information would be great, thanks!

I (f 15) am tired of hearing my mom and her husband have sex. No he is not my biological dad. I've had listen to them listen to them have sex for years and I got tired of it. Every time I would bring it up she would gaslight me and say they weren't doing anything or say she wouldn't have sex again. I got fed up and walked in on them this time that way she could say they weren't doing anything. (I opened it at an angle that way I didn't see anything but I made sure to let them know that I was able to hear them again.) I got into a really heated argument with my mom where she cussed me out, disrespected me, and flat out told me to move out and that I don't have to live here. (she's my only legal guardian.) I've already ask around with family members but I can't stay with any of them since I have pets (Its out of the question for me to leave them here as I don't trust them alone with my mom.) When I bring up me getting emancipated she yells at me and it all boils down to no. I requested they have sex when I'm not here but my mom says no that they should be able to do whenever they want. I've tried wearing earplugs but they hurt my ears to much and cause me bad headache, but I guess that's better than having to listen to them. Since then I stopped being around her husband. It's actually kind of easy since he didn't really spend time with us before, he was either in the room smoking or sleeping or outside in the shed working on his bikes, he never watched a movie, played games, cleaning, or helped cook. But now when he's going somewhere like to the store I just make sure to stay home. During the argument my mom was saying how she couldn't control it and that she had to have sex, out of anger I respond "yes you can! he could keep it in his pants and you could keep your legs shut!". I do understand that that was very disrespectful but it was an honest answer. When I try to communicate with her about this subject she immediately gets angry, yells, slams doors, threatens me to move back to a neglectful and verbally abusive place. She does have severe mentally illness but her meds don't help with that. She had personality disorder, schizo active- bipolar type and others.
It got brought up again when she was talking to my therap!st, my mom was asking her if she could tell me that what they were doing was normal and that I should be ok with it. I got made at her and said that as soon as I'm 16 I want to get emancipated and I want to move out if she can't stop having sex when I'm in the house. She once again yelled at me.
I did my research, it can be seen as non-touch sexuaI abuse and others. May I mention that her husband does have issues with the law and I got sick of not being able to sleep at night so I called the cops on him. I know it was wrong but for some odd reason everything bad that I have done or disrespectful thing, I don't feel bad for saying it or doing it. What can I do and AITA?

My stepson (15) has a history of disordered eating and has shown some pretty clear (in my uneducated opinion) signs of mental health issues for quite some time now. I am step-mom in the situation and in the interest of not revealing too much I'll just say we have 50/50 custody.
He has been acting out recently - just this weekend we learned he stole weed from his stepdad, and today we got a letter from the school that he is failing two classes. My husband took away his phone (he's already banned from other electronics except video games on weekends only) and finally sat him down begging him to talk to us. It's obvious something is wrong and after several minutes of crying and us pleading he finally admitted that he's been thinking about suicide and has been feeling this way for awhile.
We are heartbroken of course. He agreed to meet with a psychologist and my husband is scheduling an appointment. We of course reminded him that we love him and thanked him for being honest and gave lots of hugs and tissues. Not really sure what else to say or do. Is there anything else we can/should say or do? Should we tell his mother? I don't want to smother him but don't want him to feel ignored either....

Hello Vets,
Hoping to get some insight. We adopted a male kitten last November. He’s estimated to be 9-ish months old. He’s neutered, up to dates on vaccines, and worm free. As he has gotten older, he has become absolutely food obsessed to the point where he’s destructive (breaking things to get to food), screams/yowls for food, and attempts to steal our human food. He is fed appropriately for his age and is on a wet food. He is slightly overweight. We try to feed both of our cats at the same time, twice a day, every day as to keep them on a schedule.
Twice, he has had very runny stool in the 8 months we’ve had him. We believe it was his sister’s (our female cat) dry food causing this as he would sometimes get dry food. However, it cleared up within a few days and he was back to normal. At one point, we also noticed a light red tint (blood) in a very hard stool of his and we contacted our vet immediately. They were not worried about it as he was acting completely fine. We brought in a sample for testing and no worms were found. This was maybe 2 months ago. His stool has been fine since.
Recently, his behavior towards food has worsened. He’s always jumping on the counters to try and find food, in the sink looking for food particles, attempting to get in the dishwasher, chewing his wet food lids, shredding slow feeder mats, eating plants, etc.
We are going to make a vet appointment for him to get him assessed, but I’m wondering what could be going on and if there are questions or tests I should ask for at his appointment.
Thank you for all of your input and time. It is appreciated.

title is pretty much self explanatory. my ex and i went on a break a month ago saying we would go to couples therapy. three days before our first appointment, they mail me a letter saying goodbye to almost four years of our relationship. everything we’ve been through measly summed up for them in not even three pages. none of them from to back. kinda laughable that it was written on those mini notepad papers you use for work meetings too sooo lol…. one and a half pages technically if you wanna call it that. texted them and called them a coward for giving up like this. i got gaslit for it saying they did nothing but have their last words written to me with ‘nothing but love’ and that’s it unfair of me to be upset and insult them like this??? okay buddy. then i find out through mutual friends they were having an emotional affair with a coworker of theirs so i guess they really did take the easy way out to avoid telling me about it. and they had the audacity to say one day we’ll come back to each other. that isn’t love i want. if you truly loved me you would’ve never had done this to me. you would’ve tried to work this out with me together. now i don’t know what to do next. i know there’s not a lot of details as im on mobile and the formatting is weird but god i thought i did everything right. how do i share myself with someone like that again? where do i go from here?

My uncle and his wife are my grandmother’s carers. She has Alzheimer’s. They are living off of her benefits and pension. My uncle left his job about 3 years ago, the reason he stated was to take care of my grandmother. His wife has never worked a day in her life. They took control over my grandma’s money when her memory deteriorated.
They buy expensive items and always go shopping and on weekly outings, all on her money. Basically they’re not good people.
So now they are planning to go abroad for a few months. They travelled abroad in 2021 and left my grandma at my parents house without even asking, just expecting things to be done their way like always. At that time, I had just quit my job at a nursing home. I have severe anxiety and ADHD. I live with my parents and brother in a 3 bedroom house. We had to move half of our things in my uncle’s house just to make room for my grandma. There was a lot going on. It was very difficult to take care of her. I had mentioned that I struggle with her personal care. But I was always told to just get over it as it is my responsively as her granddaughter. You know, the usual emotional manipulation. Anyways, the whole experience took a mental and physical toll on my family, and my uncle even extended his stay for an extra month.
Once he was back, I had a word with him and told him that I cannot do this again in the future so he needs to respect my boundaries. But sadly the term ‘boundaries’ does not exist in his dictionary. He had tried this again many times.
About 6 months ago, I was discussing this issue with my aunty (his sister). I just had rhinoplasty 6 months ago (nov 2023), and I’m still recovering and am very sensitive to smell, to the point where I feel nauseous. My aunty agreed to take care of my grandma if my uncle and his wife plan to go abroad again. She said she would ask him to hire a carer as my aunty can’t take care of my grandma 24/7.
A couple of days ago. My uncle told her that he is planning to travel for 3 months and he asked her, she completely backed out by making an excuse.
She advised my mum to take my grandma in. My mum is blind and also has health problems and I cannot take care of my grandma. My Aunty is aware of this, but that’s what she does all the time. She likes to give others unsolicited advice but never sticks to her own words. Now I understand it is not her responsibility. It is my uncle and his wife’s responsibility to arrange care as they are her legal guardians. But my Aunty did say she would take care of her and now she’s backing out and expecting my mum to do it. She has an adult daughter who always brags about her skills as a former care assistant. She always says she can take care of her better than anyone. But just like her mother, she is all talk. She has never taken care of my grandma (who is her maternal grandma) and she refuses to do so.
I’m just so sick and tired of taking others responsibility. I work full time I have no time for this and I am also not capable of doing personal care which I have mentioned like a million times to them.
My grandmas condition has deteriorated and she needs care 24/7. Her bedroom is designed to fit her needs she cannot stay over somewhere else. But they expect my family to move on temporarily until they come back.
TL;DR: My aunty backed out from taking care of her mother whilst my uncle is away

Hello!
I am a 23 year old female.
I recently went to my women's wellness center to ask about the potential of PCOS because of extreme fatigue and pain in the pelvic region. My doctor addressed the concerns and ordered a bunch of bloodwork, which I got the following morning. I had this appointment on the 25th and got the bloodwork done on the 26th. Last week, I called and asked if they could release a copy of my results. They said no.
Of course, I have never been denied my test results at all... ever... from any doctor. I have always been able to either access them via a portal or directly request them. Unfortunately, the lab is within the center and they also do NOT have a patient portal.
Out of concern, I asked "is something wrong?" And the receptionist said "no, not necessarily." I said, "alright, I just don't know why my results would be withheld unless something was wrong that you thought I needed support for." The receptionist said she cannot read my results and understand them and if she were to give them to me, I would "not be able to understand the results" and I need to wait to see the doctor. From what I read on HIPAA, that is not a valid reason to withhold test results.
That appointment is tomorrow. I have been anxious ever since I got the bloodwork and I have been trying to research what they possibly could have found. They took 4 vials of blood, so obviously there was some testing I probably don't know about.
From what I read online, this is not considered normal or legal, so I am worried. Are they just trying to pull me in because they need the extra money? Or is something seriously wrong? As far as I know, I was only getting tested for things around PCOS or diabetes, neither of which would "likely cause serious harm to myself or others" if I were to read the results before a doctor was present (as HIPAA states).
What if I get charged for the visit and all they say is "everything came back normal?" Do I need to file some sort of complaint? Do I bring this up to the doctor in the appointment? The problem is that I really love my doctor and I don't want to ruin our medical relationship, she really listens to my concerns.. but I get a bad feeling from a medical center withholding my results for any reason. My doctor is more than aware I am an anxious individual and this just seemed unnecessary. I even told them I would still go to the appointment if I received my results. I have never called a doctor about results before an appointment (or after) other than ONE time when I received a letter in the mail asking for a follow-up breast exam after a BIRADS-2 finding, which was not at this location and was mistakenly sent to me. Please help, thank you!

My uncle and his wife are my grandmother’s carers. She has Alzheimer’s. They are living off of her benefits and pension. My uncle left his job about 3 years ago, the reason he stated was to take care of my grandmother. His wife has never worked a day in her life. They took control over my grandma’s money when her memory deteriorated.
They buy expensive items and always go shopping and on weekly outings, all on her money. Basically they’re not good people.
So now they are planning to go abroad for a few months. They travelled abroad in 2021 and left my grandma at my parents house without even asking, just expecting things to be done their way like always. At that time, I had just quit my job at a nursing home. I have severe anxiety and ADHD. I live with my parents and brother in a 3 bedroom house. We had to move half of our things in my uncle’s house just to make room for my grandma. There was a lot going on. It was very difficult to take care of her. I had mentioned that I struggle with her personal care. But I was always told to just get over it as it is my responsively as her granddaughter. You know, the usual emotional manipulation. Anyways, the whole experience took a mental and physical toll on my family, and my uncle even extended his stay for an extra month.
Once he was back, I had a word with him and told him that I cannot do this again in the future so he needs to respect my boundaries. But sadly the term ‘boundaries’ does not exist in his dictionary. He had tried this again many times.
About 6 months ago, I was discussing this issue with my aunty (his sister). I just had rhinoplasty 6 months ago (nov 2023), and I’m still recovering and am very sensitive to smell, to the point where I feel nauseous. My aunty agreed to take care of my grandma if my uncle and his wife plan to go abroad again. She said she would ask him to hire a carer as my aunty can’t take care of my grandma 24/7.
A couple of days ago. My uncle told her that he is planning to travel for 3 months and he asked her, she completely backed out by making an excuse.
She advised my mum to take my grandma in. My mum is blind and also has health problems and I cannot take care of my grandma. My Aunty is aware of this, but that’s what she does all the time. She likes to give others unsolicited advice but never sticks to her own words. Now I understand it is not her responsibility. It is my uncle and his wife’s responsibility to arrange care as they are her legal guardians. But my Aunty did say she would take care of her and now she’s backing out and expecting my mum to do it. She has an adult daughter who always brags about her skills as a former care assistant. She always says she can take care of her better than anyone. But just like her mother, she is all talk. She has never taken care of my grandma (who is her maternal grandma) and she refuses to do so.
I’m just so sick and tired of taking others responsibility. I work full time I have no time for this and I am also not capable of doing personal care which I have mentioned like a million times to them.
My grandmas condition has deteriorated and she needs care 24/7. Her bedroom is designed to fit her needs she cannot stay over somewhere else. But they expect my family to move on temporarily until they come back.