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2010.07.18 18:28 obschart /r/SoloTravel: Where traveling solo is traveling social!
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2024.05.14 20:31 NateScorpion105 True "Canon" FNV Ending based off of the TV Show
Spoilers for Fallout TV Show.
This is what I think happened based off of the TV Show and what I think most people chose for the ending. Aswell as what I chose for one of my endings. Please don't attack me, this is my opinion. Also I do like the theory that the Legion assimilated into the Brotherhood.
Other: President Kimball is Alive General Oliver is Alive Legate Lanius is Alive Mr House is disconnected but Alive
Intro And so the Courier, who had cheated death in the cemetery outside Goodsprings, cheated death once again, and the Mojave Wasteland was forever changed.
Hoover Dam Victory The Courier, with the aid of Yes Man, drove both the Legion and the NCR from Hoover Dam, securing New Vegas' independence from both factions. With Mr. House out of the picture, the remaining Securitrons on The Strip were hard-pressed to keep order. Anarchy ruled the streets. When the fires died, New Vegas remained, assuming its position as an independent power in the Mojave.
The Courier Preferring neither the best of the NCR nor the worst of the Legion, the Courier was the man responsible for a truly independent New Vegas. He had removed Mr. House from power over the Strip and broken the influence of the NCR and Caesar's Legion in the Mojave Wasteland.
Black Mountain Tabitha and Rhonda went east, through Caesar's land. Occasionally tales of their exploits found their way back west, though few believed them. Eventually the stories concerning the duo were collected and published, and proved to be quite popular with children.
Raul Alfonso Tejada Invigorated by his travels with the Courier, Raul once more took up his guns in memory of his lost Rafaela. Soon after, the Mojave was filled with tales of the ghost-vaquero who hunts down those who prey on the weak.
Boomers Though the Wasteland became anarchic after Hoover Dam, the Boomers' display of power dissuaded fortune seekers from attempting to penetrate Nellis.
The Brotherhood The Brotherhood used the battle of Hoover Dam as an opportunity to retake HELIOS One, and came to control the area between it and Hidden Valley. With no organized opposition, their patrols began monitoring trade along Interstate 15 and 95, seizing any items of technology they deemed inappropriate.
Veronica Santangelo Veronica put her moral sensibilities aside and supported the Brotherhood's new campaign of aggression as best she could. Yet deep down, she understood that it meant their end would surely be soon to follow
The Fiends Their leaders destroyed by the Courier, the Fiends scattered throughout the wasteland. Without the organization of Motor-Runner, Cook-Cook, Violet, and Driver Nephi, they were easy prey.
Followers of the Apocalypse After the Courier ensured New Vegas remain free, the Followers found that Independent New Vegas was even more unstable and violent than before. Old Mormon Fort became excessively burdened by the influx of patients, struggling to provide even the most basic of services
Arcade Gannon Arcade was tending to the locals of Freeside when he learned that Caesar's Legion had been defeated and NCR was being pushed out of New Vegas. Though he found that independence for New Vegas was not all he hoped it would be, Arcade did his best to help the locals govern themselves
Goodsprings With New Vegas' independence formally declared, Goodsprings thrived. More travelers stopped by Goodsprings on their way to and from the Strip, and the locals grew prosperous from the traffic.
Rose of Sharon Cassidy I The slaughter of the Van Graffs and the Crimson Caravan caused no end of trouble for NCR back West. Already struggling, NCR's supply lines suffered further as the two caravans withdrew support until the "massacre in the East" was resolved
Rose of Sharon Cassidy II Cass lived to see the Courier bring down three armies and by her count, that was three more than she'd expected. She'd kept quiet about that, though.
The Great Khans During the Battle of Hoover Dam, the Great Khans quickly evacuated Red Rock Canyon and headed north and east into the plains of Wyoming. There, they reconnected with the Followers of the Apocalypse and rebuilt their strength. Bolstered by ancient knowledge of governance, economics, and transportation, they carved a mighty empire out of the ruins of the Northwest
Jacobstown Thanks to the Courier and Lily, a cure for the nightkin's schizophrenia was found shortly after Doctor Henry's experiment concluded. Nightkin and other super mutants in the wasteland flocked to Jacobstown, and the town became known as a haven where a mutant could find peace
Lily Marie Bowen Encouraged by the Courier to take her medication regularly, Lily's mind eventually attained a semblance of clarity. Her memories dulled by the pills, she cast aside the recording of her grandchildren, no longer remembering its significance.
The Kings Following the Second Battle of Hoover Dam, Freeside came to be known as one of the more stable areas in the region. Ironically, NCR refugees found Freeside safer than most of the rest of New Vegas, where resentment still lingers.
Rex With the transplant of Lupa's brain, Rex gained all of the donor's experiences traveling with the Legion. These melded well with his own memories of the Legion, and his new mind quickly adjusted to the myriad memories
NCR - The Misfits Shaped up by the Courier's advice, The Misfits distinguished themselves during the Legion's attack on Camp Golf. Mags was finally promoted to Sergeant, and the rest of The Misfits received an official commendation. They continued to serve with distinction for many years.
Novac Though Novac was a low-priority target for the Legion, many of Novac's citizens died in its defense. In the weeks that followed, several Bright Followers returned to Novac to help restore its defenses, allowing it to remain independent of the NCR.
Craig Boone Though NCR was withdrawing from the region, Boone remained in New Vegas, finding work as a security guard and caravan scout along the highways. While he might've preferred rejoining his old unit, Boone couldn't bring himself to abandon the city where he'd met his wife.
Powder Gangers - NCRCF After Hoover Dam, the leaderless Powder Gangers at the Correctional Facility vanished into the wastes, leaving the prison empty. The Correctional Facility became another abandoned ruin in the wasteland, its carcass occasionally picked over by enterprising prospectors.
Powder Gangers - Vault 19 After the majority of the Vault 19 Powder Gangers joined the Great Khans, the weaker members scattered throughout the Mojave Wasteland. Though a few managed to erase their pasts, most never survived the journey.
Primm After Hoover Dam, Sheriff Meyers runs Primm with his own style of frontier justice. He deals with most folks fairly, but now and then someone winds up dead with little to no evidence against them
ED-E With its logs cleared and its systems upgraded ED-E remained a vigilant and constant companion to the Courier. The Brotherhood used the information recovered from ED-E to create a small army of Duraframe eyebots.
NCR Rangers Due to the Courier's intervention, Chief Hanlon abandoned his plan to sabotage the defense of Hoover Dam. The rangers assisted the troopers admirably during the Legion's ill-fated attack. Though the Courier snatched victory from NCR, only General Oliver was blamed for the loss of Hoover Dam. Hanlon, exhausted after a lifetime of service to the NCR, stepped down from his position in the rangers and retired to his ranch in Redding.
The Remenats After their bold arrival at Hoover Dam, the Remnants disappeared as quickly as they came. Legends of their power spread throughout the southwest, a reminder of why people once feared the sight of vertibirds in the sky
Conclusion And so the Courier's road came to an end... for now. In the new world of the Mojave Wasteland, fighting continued, blood was spilled, and many lived and died - just as they had in the Old World. Because war... war never changes.
As for what happened after, The Courier tried to help Vegas as much as he could, but with no Army Vegas was anarchy. Then the tunnelers arrived. Courier Six asked for NCR help but they failed. The Courier ashamed with themself left Vegas, never to return.
submitted by NateScorpion105 to falloutnewvegas [link] [comments]
This is what I think happened based off of the TV Show and what I think most people chose for the ending. Aswell as what I chose for one of my endings. Please don't attack me, this is my opinion. Also I do like the theory that the Legion assimilated into the Brotherhood.
Other: President Kimball is Alive General Oliver is Alive Legate Lanius is Alive Mr House is disconnected but Alive
Intro And so the Courier, who had cheated death in the cemetery outside Goodsprings, cheated death once again, and the Mojave Wasteland was forever changed.
Hoover Dam Victory The Courier, with the aid of Yes Man, drove both the Legion and the NCR from Hoover Dam, securing New Vegas' independence from both factions. With Mr. House out of the picture, the remaining Securitrons on The Strip were hard-pressed to keep order. Anarchy ruled the streets. When the fires died, New Vegas remained, assuming its position as an independent power in the Mojave.
The Courier Preferring neither the best of the NCR nor the worst of the Legion, the Courier was the man responsible for a truly independent New Vegas. He had removed Mr. House from power over the Strip and broken the influence of the NCR and Caesar's Legion in the Mojave Wasteland.
Black Mountain Tabitha and Rhonda went east, through Caesar's land. Occasionally tales of their exploits found their way back west, though few believed them. Eventually the stories concerning the duo were collected and published, and proved to be quite popular with children.
Raul Alfonso Tejada Invigorated by his travels with the Courier, Raul once more took up his guns in memory of his lost Rafaela. Soon after, the Mojave was filled with tales of the ghost-vaquero who hunts down those who prey on the weak.
Boomers Though the Wasteland became anarchic after Hoover Dam, the Boomers' display of power dissuaded fortune seekers from attempting to penetrate Nellis.
The Brotherhood The Brotherhood used the battle of Hoover Dam as an opportunity to retake HELIOS One, and came to control the area between it and Hidden Valley. With no organized opposition, their patrols began monitoring trade along Interstate 15 and 95, seizing any items of technology they deemed inappropriate.
Veronica Santangelo Veronica put her moral sensibilities aside and supported the Brotherhood's new campaign of aggression as best she could. Yet deep down, she understood that it meant their end would surely be soon to follow
The Fiends Their leaders destroyed by the Courier, the Fiends scattered throughout the wasteland. Without the organization of Motor-Runner, Cook-Cook, Violet, and Driver Nephi, they were easy prey.
Followers of the Apocalypse After the Courier ensured New Vegas remain free, the Followers found that Independent New Vegas was even more unstable and violent than before. Old Mormon Fort became excessively burdened by the influx of patients, struggling to provide even the most basic of services
Arcade Gannon Arcade was tending to the locals of Freeside when he learned that Caesar's Legion had been defeated and NCR was being pushed out of New Vegas. Though he found that independence for New Vegas was not all he hoped it would be, Arcade did his best to help the locals govern themselves
Goodsprings With New Vegas' independence formally declared, Goodsprings thrived. More travelers stopped by Goodsprings on their way to and from the Strip, and the locals grew prosperous from the traffic.
Rose of Sharon Cassidy I The slaughter of the Van Graffs and the Crimson Caravan caused no end of trouble for NCR back West. Already struggling, NCR's supply lines suffered further as the two caravans withdrew support until the "massacre in the East" was resolved
Rose of Sharon Cassidy II Cass lived to see the Courier bring down three armies and by her count, that was three more than she'd expected. She'd kept quiet about that, though.
The Great Khans During the Battle of Hoover Dam, the Great Khans quickly evacuated Red Rock Canyon and headed north and east into the plains of Wyoming. There, they reconnected with the Followers of the Apocalypse and rebuilt their strength. Bolstered by ancient knowledge of governance, economics, and transportation, they carved a mighty empire out of the ruins of the Northwest
Jacobstown Thanks to the Courier and Lily, a cure for the nightkin's schizophrenia was found shortly after Doctor Henry's experiment concluded. Nightkin and other super mutants in the wasteland flocked to Jacobstown, and the town became known as a haven where a mutant could find peace
Lily Marie Bowen Encouraged by the Courier to take her medication regularly, Lily's mind eventually attained a semblance of clarity. Her memories dulled by the pills, she cast aside the recording of her grandchildren, no longer remembering its significance.
The Kings Following the Second Battle of Hoover Dam, Freeside came to be known as one of the more stable areas in the region. Ironically, NCR refugees found Freeside safer than most of the rest of New Vegas, where resentment still lingers.
Rex With the transplant of Lupa's brain, Rex gained all of the donor's experiences traveling with the Legion. These melded well with his own memories of the Legion, and his new mind quickly adjusted to the myriad memories
NCR - The Misfits Shaped up by the Courier's advice, The Misfits distinguished themselves during the Legion's attack on Camp Golf. Mags was finally promoted to Sergeant, and the rest of The Misfits received an official commendation. They continued to serve with distinction for many years.
Novac Though Novac was a low-priority target for the Legion, many of Novac's citizens died in its defense. In the weeks that followed, several Bright Followers returned to Novac to help restore its defenses, allowing it to remain independent of the NCR.
Craig Boone Though NCR was withdrawing from the region, Boone remained in New Vegas, finding work as a security guard and caravan scout along the highways. While he might've preferred rejoining his old unit, Boone couldn't bring himself to abandon the city where he'd met his wife.
Powder Gangers - NCRCF After Hoover Dam, the leaderless Powder Gangers at the Correctional Facility vanished into the wastes, leaving the prison empty. The Correctional Facility became another abandoned ruin in the wasteland, its carcass occasionally picked over by enterprising prospectors.
Powder Gangers - Vault 19 After the majority of the Vault 19 Powder Gangers joined the Great Khans, the weaker members scattered throughout the Mojave Wasteland. Though a few managed to erase their pasts, most never survived the journey.
Primm After Hoover Dam, Sheriff Meyers runs Primm with his own style of frontier justice. He deals with most folks fairly, but now and then someone winds up dead with little to no evidence against them
ED-E With its logs cleared and its systems upgraded ED-E remained a vigilant and constant companion to the Courier. The Brotherhood used the information recovered from ED-E to create a small army of Duraframe eyebots.
NCR Rangers Due to the Courier's intervention, Chief Hanlon abandoned his plan to sabotage the defense of Hoover Dam. The rangers assisted the troopers admirably during the Legion's ill-fated attack. Though the Courier snatched victory from NCR, only General Oliver was blamed for the loss of Hoover Dam. Hanlon, exhausted after a lifetime of service to the NCR, stepped down from his position in the rangers and retired to his ranch in Redding.
The Remenats After their bold arrival at Hoover Dam, the Remnants disappeared as quickly as they came. Legends of their power spread throughout the southwest, a reminder of why people once feared the sight of vertibirds in the sky
Conclusion And so the Courier's road came to an end... for now. In the new world of the Mojave Wasteland, fighting continued, blood was spilled, and many lived and died - just as they had in the Old World. Because war... war never changes.
As for what happened after, The Courier tried to help Vegas as much as he could, but with no Army Vegas was anarchy. Then the tunnelers arrived. Courier Six asked for NCR help but they failed. The Courier ashamed with themself left Vegas, never to return.
2024.05.14 20:30 thesparklingb Interpreting Ultrasound Results
Hi everyone, last year I had a transvaginal ultrasound due to heavy and extremely painful periods and pelvic pain. The visit with this obgyn was terrible to say the least, and I got no answers with the ultrasound. Yesterday I decided to post the results on an endometriosis group I’m in, and multiple people were commenting telling me it isn’t normal and that I should get a second opinion, which I’m planning on doing now but I was wondering if anybody could possibly help me. I’ve tried googling and even asking my mom who’s a nurse but I can’t get any answers. My doctor never did a follow up or anything with me, she said the Hyperechoic area is just a normal ovarian cyst. If that’s what it is, that’s fine but I really need it all to be explained to me as if I’m a child, lol
Here are my results: The uterus measures 7.1 x 4.1 x 4.9 cm. The endometrial lining is 1.2 cm. Free fluid is seen in the cul de sac. The right ovary and left ovaries are not visualized.
1). Uterus appears unremarkable. 2). Free fluid was visualized within the posterior cul de sac. 3). Within the right adnexa is a Hyperechoic area with some internal vascularity measuring 2.2 x 0.9 x 1.6 4). Free fluid is visualized within the left adnexa.
I don’t have health anxiety and I doubt anything I’d SERIOUSLY wrong here but I am very curious what all of this means. Thank you in advance to anyone who can help me out!
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Here are my results: The uterus measures 7.1 x 4.1 x 4.9 cm. The endometrial lining is 1.2 cm. Free fluid is seen in the cul de sac. The right ovary and left ovaries are not visualized.
1). Uterus appears unremarkable. 2). Free fluid was visualized within the posterior cul de sac. 3). Within the right adnexa is a Hyperechoic area with some internal vascularity measuring 2.2 x 0.9 x 1.6 4). Free fluid is visualized within the left adnexa.
I don’t have health anxiety and I doubt anything I’d SERIOUSLY wrong here but I am very curious what all of this means. Thank you in advance to anyone who can help me out!
2024.05.14 20:30 woxene 26M [NL/ONLINE] looking to expand my social circle
Hey there! My name is Mike, and I live in Noord Brabant, Netherlands. I've been following this subreddit for a while and figured it was time to give it a shot and make a post.
I'm on the hunt for some new friends to expand my social circle, ideally I’d like to find people who live close by, so we can actually hang out, but online is great too.
In my free time I try to write as much code as I can, however, life seems to be full of distractions.. So you can often find me playing video games (like Call of Duty, AC7 or Runescape 3), trying out new board games, going to the cinema, the local pool table or a nice amusement park. I also like to do physical activities, like swimming, inline skating and ice skating. Music-wise, I'm pretty eclectic and enjoy a wide range of genres. I'm a fan of everything from good old 70s music to hardstyle, and everything in between (pop, rap, reggae, rock, and most electronic music).
I'm looking for friends around my age who enjoy similar activities and are in need of a new buddy to hang out with. If you're interested, shoot me a message and we can chat!
Note: Please take your time to introduce yourself with a proper message. I've taken the time to write this, so I appreciate it if you do the same. You’d be surprised how many people just send ‘hi’.
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I'm on the hunt for some new friends to expand my social circle, ideally I’d like to find people who live close by, so we can actually hang out, but online is great too.
In my free time I try to write as much code as I can, however, life seems to be full of distractions.. So you can often find me playing video games (like Call of Duty, AC7 or Runescape 3), trying out new board games, going to the cinema, the local pool table or a nice amusement park. I also like to do physical activities, like swimming, inline skating and ice skating. Music-wise, I'm pretty eclectic and enjoy a wide range of genres. I'm a fan of everything from good old 70s music to hardstyle, and everything in between (pop, rap, reggae, rock, and most electronic music).
I'm looking for friends around my age who enjoy similar activities and are in need of a new buddy to hang out with. If you're interested, shoot me a message and we can chat!
Note: Please take your time to introduce yourself with a proper message. I've taken the time to write this, so I appreciate it if you do the same. You’d be surprised how many people just send ‘hi’.
2024.05.14 20:29 _omarkhaledd [M4F] Clichè SoL rp.. anyone?
Hello! Im James, 18+ so im expecting my partner to be 18 as well.
Im looking for a female (actual female please, not a guy playing a female character) to be my longterm writing partner. I've been on the hunt lately for someone looking to do a slice of life roleplay. Because in a sea full of fantasy, sci-fi and supernatural elements stories.
I think there are people out here like me who were never into writing these, and just looking to do an everyday romance type of story.
I've been roleplaying for over 4-5 years, were introduced to it over omegle but as it shut down, reddit helped me find more detailed partners and helped me be more literate and descriptive. As for my writing style, i write in first person present tense as it's the only way making sense to me. Let's be real, we're all tired of working seriously all days of the week and this is where we relax and live what we wanna live. I prefer if my partner writes the same but if not then that's fine.
As for my writing length, i basically pass discord's limit over twice for my starter, as it contains a backstory and everything. But for the regular replies, i can write 4-12 lines based on my availability and the context. Im not that serious about the length, as long as you give me something to work with. Im not expecting a mutli million dollar movie script nor a one line. English isn't my first language, but i thankfully have little to no mistakes, but forgive me if i have any.
I believe communication is the most important aspect in anything in life, so im looking for my partner to be communicative, about her preferences, availability, about anything before and mid the roleplay.
I have been through lot of bad experiences so if you're someone who just wanna strictly roleplay and someone who ghosts, please don't bother messaging me.
I know we're all adults and have a life, and i appreciate that some of you would be using their free time in talking with me, but im active these days and im NOT looking for someone that's gonna reply once every few days. To sum it up, im looking to make a friend out of my partner, have a lot of OOC chats and not just strictl roleplaying like robots. And also someone available these days.
The tropes im interested in are:
-childhood bestfriends. -enemies to lovers. -bestfriend's siblings. -fake dating.
And alot more!
I love how organized discord is, so im looking to roleplay over there.
I think i got it all now? Feel free to ask me anything, and reply to me with your favourite chocolate to make sure you read everything.
Im interested to hear from each and everyone of you.
Peace!
submitted by _omarkhaledd to Roleplay [link] [comments]
Im looking for a female (actual female please, not a guy playing a female character) to be my longterm writing partner. I've been on the hunt lately for someone looking to do a slice of life roleplay. Because in a sea full of fantasy, sci-fi and supernatural elements stories.
I think there are people out here like me who were never into writing these, and just looking to do an everyday romance type of story.
I've been roleplaying for over 4-5 years, were introduced to it over omegle but as it shut down, reddit helped me find more detailed partners and helped me be more literate and descriptive. As for my writing style, i write in first person present tense as it's the only way making sense to me. Let's be real, we're all tired of working seriously all days of the week and this is where we relax and live what we wanna live. I prefer if my partner writes the same but if not then that's fine.
As for my writing length, i basically pass discord's limit over twice for my starter, as it contains a backstory and everything. But for the regular replies, i can write 4-12 lines based on my availability and the context. Im not that serious about the length, as long as you give me something to work with. Im not expecting a mutli million dollar movie script nor a one line. English isn't my first language, but i thankfully have little to no mistakes, but forgive me if i have any.
I believe communication is the most important aspect in anything in life, so im looking for my partner to be communicative, about her preferences, availability, about anything before and mid the roleplay.
I have been through lot of bad experiences so if you're someone who just wanna strictly roleplay and someone who ghosts, please don't bother messaging me.
I know we're all adults and have a life, and i appreciate that some of you would be using their free time in talking with me, but im active these days and im NOT looking for someone that's gonna reply once every few days. To sum it up, im looking to make a friend out of my partner, have a lot of OOC chats and not just strictl roleplaying like robots. And also someone available these days.
The tropes im interested in are:
-childhood bestfriends. -enemies to lovers. -bestfriend's siblings. -fake dating.
And alot more!
I love how organized discord is, so im looking to roleplay over there.
I think i got it all now? Feel free to ask me anything, and reply to me with your favourite chocolate to make sure you read everything.
Im interested to hear from each and everyone of you.
Peace!
2024.05.14 20:29 Cruise_alt_40000 Cant get lock pick in hitman.
So from what I understand, to get the lock pick in hitman 2016 you have to complete the ICA training missions. However, I just completed both without being detected and even picked up the lock pick in the free roam mission on the yacht. However, when I went to the destinations page and went to Sapienza I didn't see the lock pick under tools in the mission planning.
Is there something I'm missing and if so what do I need to do to unlock it?
Thanks
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Is there something I'm missing and if so what do I need to do to unlock it?
Thanks
2024.05.14 20:29 _omarkhaledd [M4F] Cliche SoL rp.. anyone?
Hello! Im James, 18+ so im expecting my partner to be 18 as well.
Im looking for a female (actual female please, not a guy playing a female character) to be my longterm writing partner. I've been on the hunt lately for someone looking to do a slice of life roleplay. Because in a sea full of fantasy, sci-fi and supernatural elements stories.
I think there are people out here like me who were never into writing these, and just looking to do an everyday romance type of story.
I've been roleplaying for over 4-5 years, were introduced to it over omegle but as it shut down, reddit helped me find more detailed partners and helped me be more literate and descriptive. As for my writing style, i write in first person present tense as it's the only way making sense to me. Let's be real, we're all tired of working seriously all days of the week and this is where we relax and live what we wanna live. I prefer if my partner writes the same but if not then that's fine.
As for my writing length, i basically pass discord's limit over twice for my starter, as it contains a backstory and everything. But for the regular replies, i can write 4-12 lines based on my availability and the context. Im not that serious about the length, as long as you give me something to work with. Im not expecting a mutli million dollar movie script nor a one line. English isn't my first language, but i thankfully have little to no mistakes, but forgive me if i have any.
I believe communication is the most important aspect in anything in life, so im looking for my partner to be communicative, about her preferences, availability, about anything before and mid the roleplay.
I have been through lot of bad experiences so if you're someone who just wanna strictly roleplay and someone who ghosts, please don't bother messaging me.
I know we're all adults and have a life, and i appreciate that some of you would be using their free time in talking with me, but im active these days and im NOT looking for someone that's gonna reply once every few days. To sum it up, im looking to make a friend out of my partner, have a lot of OOC chats and not just strictl roleplaying like robots. And also someone available these days.
The tropes im interested in are:
-childhood bestfriends. -enemies to lovers. -bestfriend's siblings. -fake dating.
And alot more!
I love how organized discord is, so im looking to roleplay over there.
I think i got it all now? Feel free to ask me anything, and reply to me with your favourite chocolate to make sure you read everything.
Im interested to hear from each and everyone of you.
Peace!
submitted by _omarkhaledd to RoleplayPartnerSearch [link] [comments]
Im looking for a female (actual female please, not a guy playing a female character) to be my longterm writing partner. I've been on the hunt lately for someone looking to do a slice of life roleplay. Because in a sea full of fantasy, sci-fi and supernatural elements stories.
I think there are people out here like me who were never into writing these, and just looking to do an everyday romance type of story.
I've been roleplaying for over 4-5 years, were introduced to it over omegle but as it shut down, reddit helped me find more detailed partners and helped me be more literate and descriptive. As for my writing style, i write in first person present tense as it's the only way making sense to me. Let's be real, we're all tired of working seriously all days of the week and this is where we relax and live what we wanna live. I prefer if my partner writes the same but if not then that's fine.
As for my writing length, i basically pass discord's limit over twice for my starter, as it contains a backstory and everything. But for the regular replies, i can write 4-12 lines based on my availability and the context. Im not that serious about the length, as long as you give me something to work with. Im not expecting a mutli million dollar movie script nor a one line. English isn't my first language, but i thankfully have little to no mistakes, but forgive me if i have any.
I believe communication is the most important aspect in anything in life, so im looking for my partner to be communicative, about her preferences, availability, about anything before and mid the roleplay.
I have been through lot of bad experiences so if you're someone who just wanna strictly roleplay and someone who ghosts, please don't bother messaging me.
I know we're all adults and have a life, and i appreciate that some of you would be using their free time in talking with me, but im active these days and im NOT looking for someone that's gonna reply once every few days. To sum it up, im looking to make a friend out of my partner, have a lot of OOC chats and not just strictl roleplaying like robots. And also someone available these days.
The tropes im interested in are:
-childhood bestfriends. -enemies to lovers. -bestfriend's siblings. -fake dating.
And alot more!
I love how organized discord is, so im looking to roleplay over there.
I think i got it all now? Feel free to ask me anything, and reply to me with your favourite chocolate to make sure you read everything.
Im interested to hear from each and everyone of you.
Peace!
2024.05.14 20:29 YahFilthyAnimaI How many of you met your SO while already owning your homestead?
Long story short, Ex-Fianceé and I split, I kept the homestead, but now a bit lost.
The plan was to start a family on this property, but now with just me and the dogs I'm feeling lost, mainly due to how remote I live.
How many of you successfully found a SO while living remotely on a homestead? Please share your story! If there are any single ladies in the UP of Michigan feel free to reach out 😅
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The plan was to start a family on this property, but now with just me and the dogs I'm feeling lost, mainly due to how remote I live.
How many of you successfully found a SO while living remotely on a homestead? Please share your story! If there are any single ladies in the UP of Michigan feel free to reach out 😅
2024.05.14 20:28 Soft_Cry where to begin? save, get out debt, invest? 33yr old in financial ruin looking to get out
Please be gentle. I am 33- f, single, living at home with parents. I spent 10 years in a toxic relationship and just starting to get out of the cobwebs and realize I do have a future, if I want one. I was depressed and felt like I had no future for so long.
Now that therapy has helped a ton, I am beginning to envision a future and see my worth. However, I get paralyzed when I think about my finances. I recently got a raise making now 70k around and $966/wk. I have around 120k worth of deb- most is student, 20 is car, ( i pay a friend at a 1.% interest ) and then around 5k in CC debt. I have 20k in my 401k, but I just found out bc of my ex advice I was not contributing anything all this time for my 40k so this is just employer (tragicccc).
I want to start contributing, but what percent? Do I also start a RothIRA? Or do I wait to invest before out of debt- my student loans feel insurmountable and feel like with the 20yr plan and my payments only going to interest I just am ignoring them and paying my monthly payment.
I feel scared and lost about future, and retirement and living comfortably. I want to move out. Rent/Buy?! Have my own life but idk where to focus first.
I feel if I wait until debt free, I'll be living at home with my parents until 40 and feel like I am waiting so long for "life" to begin after wasting so much time in an abuse situation.
I also just started my own business, slow rolling, which supplemental money is coming in and soon more (another part time opportunity) but also there are business expenses on my plate too.
Does anyone have any advice? Where to start/focus? I feel doomed. Sometimes when I think about my finances I go back into that despair cycle and wonder what is the point.
Looking for a beacon here.
TIA.
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Now that therapy has helped a ton, I am beginning to envision a future and see my worth. However, I get paralyzed when I think about my finances. I recently got a raise making now 70k around and $966/wk. I have around 120k worth of deb- most is student, 20 is car, ( i pay a friend at a 1.% interest ) and then around 5k in CC debt. I have 20k in my 401k, but I just found out bc of my ex advice I was not contributing anything all this time for my 40k so this is just employer (tragicccc).
I want to start contributing, but what percent? Do I also start a RothIRA? Or do I wait to invest before out of debt- my student loans feel insurmountable and feel like with the 20yr plan and my payments only going to interest I just am ignoring them and paying my monthly payment.
I feel scared and lost about future, and retirement and living comfortably. I want to move out. Rent/Buy?! Have my own life but idk where to focus first.
I feel if I wait until debt free, I'll be living at home with my parents until 40 and feel like I am waiting so long for "life" to begin after wasting so much time in an abuse situation.
I also just started my own business, slow rolling, which supplemental money is coming in and soon more (another part time opportunity) but also there are business expenses on my plate too.
Does anyone have any advice? Where to start/focus? I feel doomed. Sometimes when I think about my finances I go back into that despair cycle and wonder what is the point.
Looking for a beacon here.
TIA.
2024.05.14 20:28 _omarkhaledd Clichè SoL rp.. anyone?
Hello! Im James, 18+ so im expecting my partner to be 18 as well.
Im looking for a female (actual female please, not a guy playing a female character) to be my longterm writing partner. I've been on the hunt lately for someone looking to do a slice of life roleplay. Because in a sea full of fantasy, sci-fi and supernatural elements stories.
I think there are people out here like me who were never into writing these, and just looking to do an everyday romance type of story.
I've been roleplaying for over 4-5 years, were introduced to it over omegle but as it shut down, reddit helped me find more detailed partners and helped me be more literate and descriptive. As for my writing style, i write in first person present tense as it's the only way making sense to me. Let's be real, we're all tired of working seriously all days of the week and this is where we relax and live what we wanna live. I prefer if my partner writes the same but if not then that's fine.
As for my writing length, i basically pass discord's limit over twice for my starter, as it contains a backstory and everything. But for the regular replies, i can write 4-12 lines based on my availability and the context. Im not that serious about the length, as long as you give me something to work with. Im not expecting a mutli million dollar movie script nor a one line. English isn't my first language, but i thankfully have little to no mistakes, but forgive me if i have any.
I believe communication is the most important aspect in anything in life, so im looking for my partner to be communicative, about her preferences, availability, about anything before and mid the roleplay.
I have been through lot of bad experiences so if you're someone who just wanna strictly roleplay and someone who ghosts, please don't bother messaging me.
I know we're all adults and have a life, and i appreciate that some of you would be using their free time in talking with me, but im active these days and im NOT looking for someone that's gonna reply once every few days. To sum it up, im looking to make a friend out of my partner, have a lot of OOC chats and not just strictl roleplaying like robots. And also someone available these days.
The tropes im interested in are:
-childhood bestfriends. -enemies to lovers. -bestfriend's siblings. -fake dating.
And alot more!
I love how organized discord is, so im looking to roleplay over there.
I think i got it all now? Feel free to ask me anything, and reply to me with your favourite chocolate to make sure you read everything.
Im interested to hear from each and everyone of you.
Peace!
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Im looking for a female (actual female please, not a guy playing a female character) to be my longterm writing partner. I've been on the hunt lately for someone looking to do a slice of life roleplay. Because in a sea full of fantasy, sci-fi and supernatural elements stories.
I think there are people out here like me who were never into writing these, and just looking to do an everyday romance type of story.
I've been roleplaying for over 4-5 years, were introduced to it over omegle but as it shut down, reddit helped me find more detailed partners and helped me be more literate and descriptive. As for my writing style, i write in first person present tense as it's the only way making sense to me. Let's be real, we're all tired of working seriously all days of the week and this is where we relax and live what we wanna live. I prefer if my partner writes the same but if not then that's fine.
As for my writing length, i basically pass discord's limit over twice for my starter, as it contains a backstory and everything. But for the regular replies, i can write 4-12 lines based on my availability and the context. Im not that serious about the length, as long as you give me something to work with. Im not expecting a mutli million dollar movie script nor a one line. English isn't my first language, but i thankfully have little to no mistakes, but forgive me if i have any.
I believe communication is the most important aspect in anything in life, so im looking for my partner to be communicative, about her preferences, availability, about anything before and mid the roleplay.
I have been through lot of bad experiences so if you're someone who just wanna strictly roleplay and someone who ghosts, please don't bother messaging me.
I know we're all adults and have a life, and i appreciate that some of you would be using their free time in talking with me, but im active these days and im NOT looking for someone that's gonna reply once every few days. To sum it up, im looking to make a friend out of my partner, have a lot of OOC chats and not just strictl roleplaying like robots. And also someone available these days.
The tropes im interested in are:
-childhood bestfriends. -enemies to lovers. -bestfriend's siblings. -fake dating.
And alot more!
I love how organized discord is, so im looking to roleplay over there.
I think i got it all now? Feel free to ask me anything, and reply to me with your favourite chocolate to make sure you read everything.
Im interested to hear from each and everyone of you.
Peace!
2024.05.14 20:28 GodofWar1234 How important is Thailand to the U.S. strategy in the Asia-Pacific region?
IMO I like to think that Thailand is a critical ally. Already a designated major non-NATO US ally, in any potential new conflict with China, I think Thailand would/should play a key role in any U.S. strategy in the Indo-Pacific region.
The problems I see with this approach however are these:
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- Southeast Asian/ASEAN geopolitics
- Economic development
- Political Stability
- Geography
The problems I see with this approach however are these:
- Historically speaking, Thailand and China had close cultural ties. Ayutthaya (the preceding kingdom before modern Thailand and forms the backbone of the Thai nation) was a tributary state of China. At the time, Chinese immigrants in Ayutthaya/Siam also influenced local economics and politics, forming a wealthy merchant class before Ayutthaya burned down in 1767. King Taksin the Great, a renowned Thai king and military leader who reunited and resurrected Siam after the Second Fall of Ayutthaya, was half-Chinese. King Rama I (the king who ousted Taksin in a coup and founded the present Chakri Dynasty) also had Chinese ancestry.
- China is one of Thailand’s top trade partners and therefore has strong economic ties with one another. The blow to the Thai economy if it went against China would be enormous.
- Pro-Chinese factions in the Thai government could influence the nation to adopt a position of neutrality, if not create an outright alliance between the two nations.
- Thailand has always been a neutral party whenever two superpowers have a vested interest in the region. As I understand it, Thailand’s diplomatic strategy is to play one superpower off the other while gaining a more favorable position in the process and making the least amount of concessions possible. If King Rama V’s masterful diplomacy secured Siamese independence in the face of British and French colonialism, then a similar tactic could be applied here.
- Speaking of which, Thais from my observation have a strong independence streak. From King Naresuan declaring Ayutthaya’s independence from Burma back in the late 16th century to Taksin ousting the Burmese and reuniting Siam and Rama V keeping his country free from European colonialism, Thais have had a history of struggling and fighting for the independence of their country. Thailand (like every other country in the world) is looking out for Thai interests before anything else.
- Thai politics (especially surrounding the monarchy) seems to have become increasingly unstable. Although previous coups in the past have been bloodless, the fact that Thailand has a history of military coups at all doesn’t help its case. The current king is also relatively unpopular in comparison to his father who commanded much respect and reverence for decades on account of his humanitarian work meant to benefit and uplift Thai citizens (whether those projects were legitimate humanitarian aid missions or simply a result of a powerful political/cultural/religious propaganda machine meant to deify the monarchy is an entirely different discussion).
2024.05.14 20:25 CRM_Guru_Greg Streak and DragApp ending their free plans: free users, what's your next move?
Are you upgrading to paid versions, or switching to different tools? What alternatives are you considering?
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2024.05.14 20:24 runnerdewd Chasing 'mold' through ERMI, pathway and air sampling only to never find a source
Sorry for the long post...
Hey everyone! I'm curious to know if anyone has ever had symptoms of mold exposure and even tested positive for mycotoxins, but no evidence shows in the home as to where the mold may be?
Back story, my wife has slowly had her health fail over the last 25 years. At first, she was diagnosed with a gluten allergy. We went gluten free and her health did seem to improve quite a bit for approximately 5 years. Since then it seems to be one thing after another, culminating in her pretty much feeling horrible most of the time. Her symptoms can range from gastro to burning arms and legs, coughing after eating, etc....She's told me on many occasions that she feels like she is dying. COVID didn't help our situation and we're still pretty restricted because we can't imagine adding the flu or COVID to how she already feels. When there is an opportunity to do something, she feels too horrible to even consider doing anything other than resting.
We have known for years that she was exposed to mold in her classroom, our first home and second home. We would bring these exposures to the forefront when seeing the multiple doctors we've seen over the years, but all have dismissed mold as a culprit, although they've not had any solutions for her continued failing health. We've spent likely over 200K seeing MD's, specialists, functional doctors and naturopaths. No one has an answer. Typically the relationship with these doctors ends with them thinking she is bringing these symptoms on herself and that she just needs to de-stress, meditate or take depression medication. Spoiler, none of these things have helped.
Fast forward to today. We're now working with a functional chiropractor who ran multiple tests and found that she has elevated Lyme bacteria and is positive for mold mycotoxins. This doctor asked us to run an ERMI test on our current home and it came back showing that there was mold detected, but not elevated. In his words, "Typically not a problem, but for you we should probably remediate." We brought in a mold company and they took air samples. Their air samples showed elevated mold in certain spaces, so they did visual inspections in those areas. No evidence of mold has been physically observed anywhere in our home. We then proceeded to spend 20K for a remediation company to clean our home using the HEPA sandwich method, removing all insulation from our attic space, remediation of that space including phogging and new insulation blown in. We also had a company who specializes in methods to clean mold from HVAC systems come in and clean our entire system.
After remediation we waited 6 weeks and took another ERMI test. Much to our surprise, the results were far worse than when we started. The ERMI now detected high levels of mold in our home. My wife has not felt better and in fact is probably even worse since remediation. She is going through treatment for for mold and so this may be due to herxmi or MCAS. Anyway, after the second ERMI came back worse we had the mold company come back out. Their air samples, again, found elevated mold in certain places. They even cut back dry wall in those spaces and found nothing. In all cases, everyone has said our house looks brand new. We plan to take another ERMI test as we've waited more than 6 months since the last. If this ERMI comes back high, we are considering moving.
So after this very long post, has anyone been down this path before? Where there is no visual evidence of mold in your residence even though testing keeps showing there may be? I understand the challenges with ERMI, air samples, etc...it feels like we are chasing a ghost to be honest. At this point in the process and if we purchased a new home, we will have spent north of 600K trying to figure out if mold is an issue. While I have no issues doing such a thing if needed, how in the world are we ever to know if there is an issue if the issue can never be seen and therefore properly removed?
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Hey everyone! I'm curious to know if anyone has ever had symptoms of mold exposure and even tested positive for mycotoxins, but no evidence shows in the home as to where the mold may be?
Back story, my wife has slowly had her health fail over the last 25 years. At first, she was diagnosed with a gluten allergy. We went gluten free and her health did seem to improve quite a bit for approximately 5 years. Since then it seems to be one thing after another, culminating in her pretty much feeling horrible most of the time. Her symptoms can range from gastro to burning arms and legs, coughing after eating, etc....She's told me on many occasions that she feels like she is dying. COVID didn't help our situation and we're still pretty restricted because we can't imagine adding the flu or COVID to how she already feels. When there is an opportunity to do something, she feels too horrible to even consider doing anything other than resting.
We have known for years that she was exposed to mold in her classroom, our first home and second home. We would bring these exposures to the forefront when seeing the multiple doctors we've seen over the years, but all have dismissed mold as a culprit, although they've not had any solutions for her continued failing health. We've spent likely over 200K seeing MD's, specialists, functional doctors and naturopaths. No one has an answer. Typically the relationship with these doctors ends with them thinking she is bringing these symptoms on herself and that she just needs to de-stress, meditate or take depression medication. Spoiler, none of these things have helped.
Fast forward to today. We're now working with a functional chiropractor who ran multiple tests and found that she has elevated Lyme bacteria and is positive for mold mycotoxins. This doctor asked us to run an ERMI test on our current home and it came back showing that there was mold detected, but not elevated. In his words, "Typically not a problem, but for you we should probably remediate." We brought in a mold company and they took air samples. Their air samples showed elevated mold in certain spaces, so they did visual inspections in those areas. No evidence of mold has been physically observed anywhere in our home. We then proceeded to spend 20K for a remediation company to clean our home using the HEPA sandwich method, removing all insulation from our attic space, remediation of that space including phogging and new insulation blown in. We also had a company who specializes in methods to clean mold from HVAC systems come in and clean our entire system.
After remediation we waited 6 weeks and took another ERMI test. Much to our surprise, the results were far worse than when we started. The ERMI now detected high levels of mold in our home. My wife has not felt better and in fact is probably even worse since remediation. She is going through treatment for for mold and so this may be due to herxmi or MCAS. Anyway, after the second ERMI came back worse we had the mold company come back out. Their air samples, again, found elevated mold in certain places. They even cut back dry wall in those spaces and found nothing. In all cases, everyone has said our house looks brand new. We plan to take another ERMI test as we've waited more than 6 months since the last. If this ERMI comes back high, we are considering moving.
So after this very long post, has anyone been down this path before? Where there is no visual evidence of mold in your residence even though testing keeps showing there may be? I understand the challenges with ERMI, air samples, etc...it feels like we are chasing a ghost to be honest. At this point in the process and if we purchased a new home, we will have spent north of 600K trying to figure out if mold is an issue. While I have no issues doing such a thing if needed, how in the world are we ever to know if there is an issue if the issue can never be seen and therefore properly removed?
2024.05.14 20:23 VanOneUK Is Budapest Cheap to Eat and Drink? Everything You Need to Know
 | https://preview.redd.it/cexq2kvqpf0d1.png?width=1024&format=png&auto=webp&s=d1d8ac163065a95240cd42aae1ce967adbeedc4d submitted by VanOneUK to u/VanOneUK [link] [comments] As you plan your move to Budapest, you might ask, “Is Budapest cheap to eat and drink?” Known for its stunning architecture and thermal baths, Budapest also offers a favourable cost of living. This article provides insights into the costs of dining and drinking in Budapest and grocery expenses to help you prepare for your new life. Average Meal Cost in BudapestTo determine if Budapest is cheap for dining and drinking, it's essential to consider the average meal costs. A meal at an inexpensive restaurant typically costs between £5 and £10. For a three-course meal for two at a mid-range restaurant, prices usually range from £25 to £40, making Budapest an excellent choice for budget-conscious travellers.Prices for food and drink in Budapest vary by location. Street food and fast food are very affordable, with prices often between £2 and £5 for items like a slice of pizza, a sandwich, or a pastry. High-end restaurants are pricier but still cheaper than their Western European counterparts.Budapest Prices for Food and Drink in PoundsComparing common supermarket brands in your current city and Budapest can help you understand grocery costs. For example, simulating an online shopping trip at a Budapest Tesco store can provide a clear idea of weekly expenses. A shopping cart with cornflakes, sliced pork, pasta, coffee, potatoes, bread, cheese, and spinach would cost around £68.Adapting your diet to local habits and finding where local shops are can save you money. Local markets offer fresh, affordable food, and learning from locals where to find the best deals can be very beneficial. Price Breakdown in Budapest (in Pounds)
Tips for Eating and Drinking Cheaply in Budapest
Affordable Dining and Drinking in BudapestIs Budapest cheap to eat and drink? Absolutely! Budapest offers a diverse and budget-friendly culinary scene with affordable meal options and reasonably priced drinks. All relative changes if none of the tips above apply to you. The costs will depend mainly on personal preferences. But before enjoying Budapest's delights, choose a well-known moving company to help you smooth your relocation by dealing with the boring parts so you can enjoy yourself and your loved ones through the process to your new life. VanOne International Movers handles the logistics and provides the necessary documents to make your relocation stress-free. Contact us for more information and get a free quote on our website. |
2024.05.14 20:23 Odd_Experience_314 Long before …, the Targaryens reigned with Fire and Blood
Long before the Wall fell, the Targaryens reigned with fire and blood.
George wrote this information in the Not a blog April 8 post. I didn’t see anyone talk about this or change their theories so I decided to write about it and speculate on the possible consequences.
From the materials we know that Sam travelled from the Wall to Oldtown with the horn that Jon found at the Fist of the First Men. We know that the free folk were looking for a magical horn that could take down the wall but did not find it. Even though we do not know whether the horn that Sam has is the real one or if there is a real horn at all, given the new information I’m going to presume that the horn is indeed the real horn.
From the prologue of AFFC we know that there is a faceless man agent in old town who likely has interacted with Sam.
My theory is that Euron is working with the faceless men. The first part was getting rid of Balon Greyjoy and claim his. From there I think Euron wants to claim a dragon, but I don’t think he will succeed. After all, Moqorro is totally on Dany side and probably will persuade Victarion not to continue this crazy plan.
I really have no idea if Euron will represent the final evil or if he only want to obtain power through caos in westeros, but now we know that the wall will go down and judging by his fleet proximity to Oldtown, he will do it early in Winds.
Regarding the consequences: I don’t think that the wall going down will signify the immediate invasion of the others with a mass attack. The long night will be characterized by many attacks throughout the rest of the story.
I can see Stannis winning the battle of Winterfell, “perceive” the Wall fall and run to Castle Black. There Melisandre will convince him to burn Shireen to wake dragons from stone just to realize he was as delusional as the other Targaryens before him who tried to hatch dragons.
Let me know if you have other theories
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George wrote this information in the Not a blog April 8 post. I didn’t see anyone talk about this or change their theories so I decided to write about it and speculate on the possible consequences.
From the materials we know that Sam travelled from the Wall to Oldtown with the horn that Jon found at the Fist of the First Men. We know that the free folk were looking for a magical horn that could take down the wall but did not find it. Even though we do not know whether the horn that Sam has is the real one or if there is a real horn at all, given the new information I’m going to presume that the horn is indeed the real horn.
From the prologue of AFFC we know that there is a faceless man agent in old town who likely has interacted with Sam.
My theory is that Euron is working with the faceless men. The first part was getting rid of Balon Greyjoy and claim his. From there I think Euron wants to claim a dragon, but I don’t think he will succeed. After all, Moqorro is totally on Dany side and probably will persuade Victarion not to continue this crazy plan.
I really have no idea if Euron will represent the final evil or if he only want to obtain power through caos in westeros, but now we know that the wall will go down and judging by his fleet proximity to Oldtown, he will do it early in Winds.
Regarding the consequences: I don’t think that the wall going down will signify the immediate invasion of the others with a mass attack. The long night will be characterized by many attacks throughout the rest of the story.
I can see Stannis winning the battle of Winterfell, “perceive” the Wall fall and run to Castle Black. There Melisandre will convince him to burn Shireen to wake dragons from stone just to realize he was as delusional as the other Targaryens before him who tried to hatch dragons.
Let me know if you have other theories
2024.05.14 20:22 GamelyTowers For any young, broke, or both, jam fans
I’m gonna be honest love what they do over there at nugs but $15 a month is wild and to not even get access to everything for a college student. Me personally I used to use Relisten a lot but I hate the interface, so I found that YouTube Music is actually a pretty good cheaper alternative to Nugs. They have hella live shows, a lot of Jerry covers, and an emphasis on community playlists which I like. I’m doing the student plan rn there’s one for 5.50 or 8 dollars if you want youtube premium alongside youtube music. Now the biggest reason I’m riding for this is cause you could upload your own live shows if you have a pc, laptop, or access to either. So yeah that’s my spill, but if you guys know of any other services that could be better I’m down to hear it cause I’m only in the free trial.
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2024.05.14 20:22 ButterscotchSad5154 Why does it seem like only shady doctors accept free healthcare?
I live in upstate NY and I've searched through the entire database of doctors who accept Fidelis Essential care plan (free healthcare), and they all have 2 star reviews saying they do shady things. I've looked through at least 100 doctors and the only ones with decent reviews are pediatrician dentists.
I even saw more than a few articles pop up about the dentist they're recommending committing insurance fraud.
I just went through a string of horrible experiences at a chain dentist (the only one who accepts my insurance within an hour drive- which is why I started searching for dentists within a 3 hour drive one way). And now that I'm searching for a replacement, the Options I'm offered seem even worse.
Do dentists just not want to deal with poor people? Lol I'm genuinely curious because I don't understand how I looked through hundreds of dentists and they all have horrible reviews.
And I understand that usually only people with bad experiences review, but after what I've just been through I'm being extra careful of who I pick.
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I even saw more than a few articles pop up about the dentist they're recommending committing insurance fraud.
I just went through a string of horrible experiences at a chain dentist (the only one who accepts my insurance within an hour drive- which is why I started searching for dentists within a 3 hour drive one way). And now that I'm searching for a replacement, the Options I'm offered seem even worse.
Do dentists just not want to deal with poor people? Lol I'm genuinely curious because I don't understand how I looked through hundreds of dentists and they all have horrible reviews.
And I understand that usually only people with bad experiences review, but after what I've just been through I'm being extra careful of who I pick.
2024.05.14 20:21 Ecstatic_East_8491 Why do we need AI as a financial advisor?
Highlight the following benefits: This is my personal opinion, but you may disagree with me!
Budget Planning: AI analyzes your spending habits much more deeply than you might on your own. This leads to tailored recommendations and insights you wouldn't uncover manually. In addition, it can process massive amounts of financial data, like budget plans, spending analysis, and savings suggestions, in seconds.
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Budget Planning: AI analyzes your spending habits much more deeply than you might on your own. This leads to tailored recommendations and insights you wouldn't uncover manually. In addition, it can process massive amounts of financial data, like budget plans, spending analysis, and savings suggestions, in seconds.
On a separate note, I want to mention the fight against impulse buys. AI eliminates emotional spending triggers often associated with human budgeting. It sticks to the data, promoting financial discipline.Here's a prompt you can use:
"Create a budget template that will work with my income and spending habits. I want something I can easily track and modify."Accounting and Tax Compliance: Modern platforms track changes in tax rules and legislation in real-time, alerting you to updates that could affect your life and work. This reduces the risk of non-compliance and potential penalties. If you set up your assistant intelligently, you may even be able to prevent problems in some cases.
And, unlike a real financial advisor, AI platforms are noticeably cheaper and available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.Here's a prompt you can use:
"Explain the key financial ratios and how to calculate them. Provide examples of how to use them to assess my business health."Investment Management: AI is increasingly important in trading, as financiers make trades using algorithms. And if the best experts are using it, why shouldn't we? AI platforms are trained on vast amounts of data, allowing us to identify patterns humans might miss. This helps ensure the integrity of financial data and reduces costly errors.
In addition, some platforms can assess risk tolerance, financial goals, and market conditions to generate customized portfolio management recommendations.Here's a prompt you can use:
"Summarize the current economic climate. Highlight key indicators (e.g., inflation, interest rates, GDP) and their potential impact on my investment portfolio."These points add to a common conclusion regarding one fundamental advantage: data-driven automation. AI can quickly handle routine and time-consuming tasks, allowing us to make more educated decisions or free up time for more enjoyable activities.
2024.05.14 20:20 Familiar_Cod_7890 How can I make a career change into Aerospace Engineering with a Management Degree?
This will probably disappear but I need advice please!
Problem: I am graduating with a BSc in Management soon, I want to make a career change to aerospace engineering. I am 21 from the UK, I have a Maths and English GCSE but no A levels in Maths or Physics.
Why?: I want to do a job that has elements of practicality and design, a job thats consistently well-paid and has some mathematical background to it. I have hobbies of plane spotting and space, I didnt do Maths and Physics in school because my teacher said I wasn't smart enough. I have realised now I am, I just didnt work hard when I was a teenager because I didnt know how to.
Heres how I think I should plan this out, please please please comment below any advice:
Spend the next year doing Physics and Maths A-Levels (privately funded as I cant find any free ways to do it)
Apply for Degree Apprenticeships in Aerospace Engineering (Looking at big companies like BAE, Boeing e.t.c)
Do as many free online MOOCs related to engineering as I can.
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Problem: I am graduating with a BSc in Management soon, I want to make a career change to aerospace engineering. I am 21 from the UK, I have a Maths and English GCSE but no A levels in Maths or Physics.
Why?: I want to do a job that has elements of practicality and design, a job thats consistently well-paid and has some mathematical background to it. I have hobbies of plane spotting and space, I didnt do Maths and Physics in school because my teacher said I wasn't smart enough. I have realised now I am, I just didnt work hard when I was a teenager because I didnt know how to.
Heres how I think I should plan this out, please please please comment below any advice:
Spend the next year doing Physics and Maths A-Levels (privately funded as I cant find any free ways to do it)
Apply for Degree Apprenticeships in Aerospace Engineering (Looking at big companies like BAE, Boeing e.t.c)
Do as many free online MOOCs related to engineering as I can.
2024.05.14 20:20 No-Bet5544 Can you time Centrelink parental pay to avoid tax?
So if a baby is due in say March, and mother is planning on not working the next FY, but has worked $35k+ in the baby born FY, can you go slow with the application (within rules) to get paid it in the latter FY to take advantage of the tax free threshold? Or do they work off the birth date, regardless of when the actual money comes through. Cheers
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2024.05.14 20:19 Puzzleheaded_Ask8368 My sister (21F) got her first job and my dad (51M) called her selfish and immature. Do we go no-contact?
I'm (23F) primarily coming here because I feel like I don't know who I can talk to about this and just need to get some things out. My sister (21F) is graduating from college this spring and has been looking for a job for the past few months. This morning, she found out she got a job in a different state (will become relevant) and my mom (54F) and I were so happy and relieved that she finally got her first job. My dad (51M) on the other hand was pretty furious because it meant that she was moving to a different state and the car he was going to give her no longer would be needed.
For some context, my parents got divorced when my sister and I were pretty young and things haven't really ever been smooth between them. My dad lives in the South, my sister is graduating from a school in the Northeast and going to work elsewhere in the Northeast, and my mom and I live on the West Coast (as we have for all of my life). My mom raised my sister and I and put us through the best private school she could and made sure we were always her first priority (she's the best).
My dad has always been a pretty controlling person, but I've come to a point where I've learned to manage his involvement in my life and have learned how to placate him to a certain degree. Mine and his relationship has gotten a little easier over the past few years for a few reasons but his relationship with my sister has gotten worse. He sees her as not very communicative and not very willing to "meet him halfway" but from her point of view, he's never understood her or taken the time to try to see who she is and what's important to her.
Cut to recently, I graduated from college last year and my graduation gift from him was money (within a certain limit) for a car. He helped me buy the car I chose and had said that the same would be given to my sister the following year (this year) when she graduated. As great as getting money for a car and having help with buying it is, it came with a lot of strings and was not something my sister or I directly asked for. That's not to say we're not grateful for the cars, but he was the one who offered; it wasn't as though we twisted his arm to get him to buy us a car or something.
Now, instead of buying my sister a separate car, he decided he was going to give her his current car so he could buy a different one that better suited his needs. My sister liked the car that he was going to give her, but last year I had been able to research what kind of car would best suit my needs and pick out the car I would end up getting. She was fine with not being able to have the same free reign I did, but perhaps wasn't very communicative with him because she's been trying to complete all of her finals and final assignments as well as try as much as possible to enjoy her last semester of undergrad.
My sister got a few final interviews for a job opportunity in a place where she wouldn't need a car, and she got an offer letter this morning for the job. Instead of congratulating her, my dad said she was "not an adult" and that she needed to "learn to think for herself" instead of deferring to my mom. He said he was "sad and let down" and was upset at how poor the communication between him and my sister was about the car.
More things he said: "I don't deserve this poor communication" "You don't respond to me. Respond to all kinds of social media meanwhile all day" "You only respond at times that work for you. It comes across as selfish/childish". He then sent my mom this nightmare: "It's a fitting end to our coparenting. You've been controlling and a nightmare the entire time. You were never grateful I permitted you to move to SoCal. I didn't want the girls to grow up with a functionally depressed mom in the Bay Area. As always, it's always about you and the girls and you don't ever give a f*ck about their dad. So selfish. Such a bad mom. [my name] gets it. [my sister's name] will in time. I'm honestly ashamed I let you into my life and regret it still to this day. White-trasy, lying, selfish, vain. I told [my name] how your behavior was to break every rule as a co-parent. She understood. I didn't attack you. I did attack the sh*t behavior. Hopefully someday I'll have that chat with [my sister's name] when she gets her head out of her a*s."
Just typing the text makes my blood boil. I don't know what to do. I'm planning to bring this to my therapist in a few days but am not sure what to do until then. I think this could sever my sister's relationship with my dad, and I'm not sure I want to continue mine with him anyway. I'm also pretty uncomfortable with him thinking I'm on his side, but I don't want to meddle further if it's going to make it worse for my mom and sister. There's a lot more context and information I could probably give but for the sake of not writing a novel about the situation, I'll end here.
TLDR: My sister got a job in a big city where cars aren't needed and my dad is upset that he has to sell the car and decided he was going to cuss her and my mom out instead of congratulate her.
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For some context, my parents got divorced when my sister and I were pretty young and things haven't really ever been smooth between them. My dad lives in the South, my sister is graduating from a school in the Northeast and going to work elsewhere in the Northeast, and my mom and I live on the West Coast (as we have for all of my life). My mom raised my sister and I and put us through the best private school she could and made sure we were always her first priority (she's the best).
My dad has always been a pretty controlling person, but I've come to a point where I've learned to manage his involvement in my life and have learned how to placate him to a certain degree. Mine and his relationship has gotten a little easier over the past few years for a few reasons but his relationship with my sister has gotten worse. He sees her as not very communicative and not very willing to "meet him halfway" but from her point of view, he's never understood her or taken the time to try to see who she is and what's important to her.
Cut to recently, I graduated from college last year and my graduation gift from him was money (within a certain limit) for a car. He helped me buy the car I chose and had said that the same would be given to my sister the following year (this year) when she graduated. As great as getting money for a car and having help with buying it is, it came with a lot of strings and was not something my sister or I directly asked for. That's not to say we're not grateful for the cars, but he was the one who offered; it wasn't as though we twisted his arm to get him to buy us a car or something.
Now, instead of buying my sister a separate car, he decided he was going to give her his current car so he could buy a different one that better suited his needs. My sister liked the car that he was going to give her, but last year I had been able to research what kind of car would best suit my needs and pick out the car I would end up getting. She was fine with not being able to have the same free reign I did, but perhaps wasn't very communicative with him because she's been trying to complete all of her finals and final assignments as well as try as much as possible to enjoy her last semester of undergrad.
My sister got a few final interviews for a job opportunity in a place where she wouldn't need a car, and she got an offer letter this morning for the job. Instead of congratulating her, my dad said she was "not an adult" and that she needed to "learn to think for herself" instead of deferring to my mom. He said he was "sad and let down" and was upset at how poor the communication between him and my sister was about the car.
More things he said: "I don't deserve this poor communication" "You don't respond to me. Respond to all kinds of social media meanwhile all day" "You only respond at times that work for you. It comes across as selfish/childish". He then sent my mom this nightmare: "It's a fitting end to our coparenting. You've been controlling and a nightmare the entire time. You were never grateful I permitted you to move to SoCal. I didn't want the girls to grow up with a functionally depressed mom in the Bay Area. As always, it's always about you and the girls and you don't ever give a f*ck about their dad. So selfish. Such a bad mom. [my name] gets it. [my sister's name] will in time. I'm honestly ashamed I let you into my life and regret it still to this day. White-trasy, lying, selfish, vain. I told [my name] how your behavior was to break every rule as a co-parent. She understood. I didn't attack you. I did attack the sh*t behavior. Hopefully someday I'll have that chat with [my sister's name] when she gets her head out of her a*s."
Just typing the text makes my blood boil. I don't know what to do. I'm planning to bring this to my therapist in a few days but am not sure what to do until then. I think this could sever my sister's relationship with my dad, and I'm not sure I want to continue mine with him anyway. I'm also pretty uncomfortable with him thinking I'm on his side, but I don't want to meddle further if it's going to make it worse for my mom and sister. There's a lot more context and information I could probably give but for the sake of not writing a novel about the situation, I'll end here.
TLDR: My sister got a job in a big city where cars aren't needed and my dad is upset that he has to sell the car and decided he was going to cuss her and my mom out instead of congratulate her.
2024.05.14 20:18 whenth3bowbreaks Deep Diving on HRT Research and the Surprising Numbers I found
So, I got my first HRT prescription and you know, for funsies, I read the clinical studies paperwork that came with it. And honestly, I was surprised that so much came out of this study, and that the numbers were so small to have caused such an uproar and have left women without hormonal support for so long.
I am no researcher, but I do like research, so this may be off as statistics class was a long time ago (if you see an error here, please let me know).
So let’s take a look at the study that kicked this off, Risks and Benefits of Estrogen Plus Progestin in Healthy Postmenopausal Women: submitted to The Journal of the American Medical Association, 2002
It was a randomized controlled primary prevention trial:
Original Plan:
However, the research ended early, 4 years later with 15,576 women still participating.
Outcomes:
Cardiovascular Disease:
Cardiovascular disease: 164 on protocol vs. 122 placebo out of 15,576 women. The total percentage of women who experienced cardiovascular disease in the study was approximately 1.84%
So, approximately 1.05% of women on the protocol (HRT) experienced cardiovascular disease, while approximately 0.78% of women on placebo experienced cardiovascular disease.
The percentage difference between the percentage of women who experienced cardiovascular disease on the protocol (HRT) and placebo is 0.27%.
…
Stroke:
Stroke 127 vs 85 out of 15,576 women
The overall percentage of women who experienced stroke in the study was approximately 1.36%. Approximately 0.815% of women on the protocol (HRT) experienced stroke, while approximately 0.546% of women on placebo experienced stroke.
The difference in percentage between the protocol (HRT) and placebo groups was approximately 0.269%. Approximately 0.23% of women had strokes during the study period.
The baseline risk of stroke for women who do not use HRT is 1%, using HRT might increase that risk to somewhere between 1.2% and 1.5%.
To give you a sense of perspective, compare these numbers to the study, Cigarette Smoking and Risk of Stroke in Middle-Aged Women which examined the incidence of stroke in relation to cigarette smoking in a prospective cohort study of 118,539 women 30 to 55 years of age and free from coronary heart disease, stroke, and cancer.
Compared to non-smokers, women who smoked 1 to 14 cigarettes per day had their risk of stroke increased by approximately 120%, and women who smoked 25 or more cigarettes per day had their risk increased by approximately 270%.
The baseline risk of stroke for women who do not smoke is 1%, but smoking 1 to 14 cigarettes per day might increase that risk to approximately 2.2%, and smoking 25 or more cigarettes per day might increase it to around 3.7%
Yet we can buy a pack of cigarettes over the counter, no questions asked, and totally legal!
…
I ran out of time today to make comparative research analysis on risks, so the rest are just a comparison within the same 2002 study.
...
Venous thromboembolic disease:
151 vs. 67 out of 15,576 women
The overall percentage of women who experienced venous thromboembolic disease (VTE) in the study was approximately 1.40%.
Approximately 0.970% of women on the protocol (HRT) experienced VTE, while approximately 0.430% of women on placebo experienced VTE.
The difference in percentage between the protocol (HRT) and placebo groups was approximately 0.540%.
...
Invasive Breast Cancer:
166 on protocol vs. 124 placebo out of 15,576 women
The overall percentage of women who experienced stroke in the study was approximately 1.86%.
Approximately 1.07% of women on the protocol (HRT) experienced stroke, while approximately 0.80% of women on placebo experienced stroke.
The difference in percentage between the protocol (HRT) and placebo groups was approximately 0.27%.
…
You may have a different opinion on this, but these numbers are EXCEEDINGLY low to have caused such an impact. And, the study has some real issues that need to be considered:
...
And, in my research today, I stumbled across this interesting anecdote:
The Women’s Health Initiative; HRT and Surveillance, Epidemiology, and End Results Data
Submitted to the journal Cancer in 2020
SEER*stat 8.3.6 is a statistical tool used to analyze cancer data. In this study, researchers looked at the rates of invasive breast cancer from 1992 to 2014, focusing on different groups of women.
They found that for White women under 80 years old who have Medicare insurance, the rates of breast cancer started to decrease before the year 2000, possibly even as early as 1992. This suggests that something other than a particular medical finding in 2001 (called the WHI publication) might have influenced the decline in breast cancer rates among these women.
The study also talks about how changes in population demographics, like people living longer, can affect how we interpret cancer rates. The researchers mention that adjusting for age over a long period of time might make it seem like cancer rates have increased among Black women over 40 years. However, their analysis shows that this isn't true, and in fact, breast cancer rates among Black women have been rapidly declining since 2012.
Another point discussed is hormone replacement therapy (HRT), a treatment used to relieve symptoms of menopause. A separate study found that there were significant decreases in the number of HRT prescriptions for women over 50 years old during certain time periods. Despite this decrease, there wasn't a clear link between HRT and breast cancer rates.
In summary, the findings suggest that factors other than hormone replacement therapy may be influencing breast cancer rates, and there may be more to understand about the trends in breast cancer among different groups of women.
I wrote this out and tried to put it in layman’s terms because I see still a persistent concern about whether HRT is right for us based on earlier research. I sought to put this out in this way with actual numbers that might help others have a truly informed opinion, and hey, perhaps you can show this to your health provider because it does make you wonder-do actually read the research forming the basis of their opinions?
Again, I do not work in a lab, or do science for work or anything like that, so if you see a mistake, or have something to add, I would love to hear it!
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I am no researcher, but I do like research, so this may be off as statistics class was a long time ago (if you see an error here, please let me know).
So let’s take a look at the study that kicked this off, Risks and Benefits of Estrogen Plus Progestin in Healthy Postmenopausal Women: submitted to The Journal of the American Medical Association, 2002
It was a randomized controlled primary prevention trial:
Original Plan:
- · 16,608 women over 8.5 years
- · Ages: 50-79
- · Mean age: 63
- · 83.9% white
- · 6.5% black
- · 5.5% Hispanic
- · Prior hormone use: 73.9% never
- · 89.9% pregnant at least once
However, the research ended early, 4 years later with 15,576 women still participating.
Outcomes:
Cardiovascular Disease:
Cardiovascular disease: 164 on protocol vs. 122 placebo out of 15,576 women. The total percentage of women who experienced cardiovascular disease in the study was approximately 1.84%
So, approximately 1.05% of women on the protocol (HRT) experienced cardiovascular disease, while approximately 0.78% of women on placebo experienced cardiovascular disease.
The percentage difference between the percentage of women who experienced cardiovascular disease on the protocol (HRT) and placebo is 0.27%.
…
Stroke:
Stroke 127 vs 85 out of 15,576 women
The overall percentage of women who experienced stroke in the study was approximately 1.36%. Approximately 0.815% of women on the protocol (HRT) experienced stroke, while approximately 0.546% of women on placebo experienced stroke.
The difference in percentage between the protocol (HRT) and placebo groups was approximately 0.269%. Approximately 0.23% of women had strokes during the study period.
The baseline risk of stroke for women who do not use HRT is 1%, using HRT might increase that risk to somewhere between 1.2% and 1.5%.
To give you a sense of perspective, compare these numbers to the study, Cigarette Smoking and Risk of Stroke in Middle-Aged Women which examined the incidence of stroke in relation to cigarette smoking in a prospective cohort study of 118,539 women 30 to 55 years of age and free from coronary heart disease, stroke, and cancer.
Compared to non-smokers, women who smoked 1 to 14 cigarettes per day had their risk of stroke increased by approximately 120%, and women who smoked 25 or more cigarettes per day had their risk increased by approximately 270%.
The baseline risk of stroke for women who do not smoke is 1%, but smoking 1 to 14 cigarettes per day might increase that risk to approximately 2.2%, and smoking 25 or more cigarettes per day might increase it to around 3.7%
Yet we can buy a pack of cigarettes over the counter, no questions asked, and totally legal!
…
I ran out of time today to make comparative research analysis on risks, so the rest are just a comparison within the same 2002 study.
...
Venous thromboembolic disease:
151 vs. 67 out of 15,576 women
The overall percentage of women who experienced venous thromboembolic disease (VTE) in the study was approximately 1.40%.
Approximately 0.970% of women on the protocol (HRT) experienced VTE, while approximately 0.430% of women on placebo experienced VTE.
The difference in percentage between the protocol (HRT) and placebo groups was approximately 0.540%.
...
Invasive Breast Cancer:
166 on protocol vs. 124 placebo out of 15,576 women
The overall percentage of women who experienced stroke in the study was approximately 1.86%.
Approximately 1.07% of women on the protocol (HRT) experienced stroke, while approximately 0.80% of women on placebo experienced stroke.
The difference in percentage between the protocol (HRT) and placebo groups was approximately 0.27%.
…
You may have a different opinion on this, but these numbers are EXCEEDINGLY low to have caused such an impact. And, the study has some real issues that need to be considered:
- · Lack of diversity
- · Did not test for under 50 or perimenopausal
- · One 1 protocol
- · One oral route of transmission
- · Two meds at one time meaning unable to determine which was doing what
- · Study ended 4 years early
- · High rate of drop outs during study
...
And, in my research today, I stumbled across this interesting anecdote:
The Women’s Health Initiative; HRT and Surveillance, Epidemiology, and End Results Data
Submitted to the journal Cancer in 2020
SEER*stat 8.3.6 is a statistical tool used to analyze cancer data. In this study, researchers looked at the rates of invasive breast cancer from 1992 to 2014, focusing on different groups of women.
They found that for White women under 80 years old who have Medicare insurance, the rates of breast cancer started to decrease before the year 2000, possibly even as early as 1992. This suggests that something other than a particular medical finding in 2001 (called the WHI publication) might have influenced the decline in breast cancer rates among these women.
The study also talks about how changes in population demographics, like people living longer, can affect how we interpret cancer rates. The researchers mention that adjusting for age over a long period of time might make it seem like cancer rates have increased among Black women over 40 years. However, their analysis shows that this isn't true, and in fact, breast cancer rates among Black women have been rapidly declining since 2012.
Another point discussed is hormone replacement therapy (HRT), a treatment used to relieve symptoms of menopause. A separate study found that there were significant decreases in the number of HRT prescriptions for women over 50 years old during certain time periods. Despite this decrease, there wasn't a clear link between HRT and breast cancer rates.
In summary, the findings suggest that factors other than hormone replacement therapy may be influencing breast cancer rates, and there may be more to understand about the trends in breast cancer among different groups of women.
I wrote this out and tried to put it in layman’s terms because I see still a persistent concern about whether HRT is right for us based on earlier research. I sought to put this out in this way with actual numbers that might help others have a truly informed opinion, and hey, perhaps you can show this to your health provider because it does make you wonder-do actually read the research forming the basis of their opinions?
Again, I do not work in a lab, or do science for work or anything like that, so if you see a mistake, or have something to add, I would love to hear it!
2024.05.14 20:18 Sad_Bat7625 Feeling guilt for messaging my abusive ex
About a year ago, I [29 M] was in a toxic relationship with J [29 M]. While there were no serious stakes in it (no kids or messy finances), the relationship and breakup ended up emotionally affecting me in a way I had never really thought possible. I feel guilty because after the relationship I tried to be friends with my ex still, which I now see as a mistake in the context of this relationship, and then after a few months, he blocked me because I didn't respect a boundary he had set about not sending him long messages. He said he didn't feel safe since I "completely ignored" the boundary.
I was devastated, but over the course of the next few months, came to understand a great deal of ways that I feel that I had been abused during the relationship. I felt angrier and angrier, and even though I was seeing a therapist, it eventually boiled over. My ex had blocked me on discord and probably on text, but I went onto an astrology app called Co-Star that he had had me download, and sent a message using it that said something like, "You were an abusive partner, but you can make it right with an apology."
Now, I have no idea if he actually saw the message. It was sent with a weird feature of the app called Chaos Mode that apparently chooses to send the message at some future time, so who knows if it actually ever sent. I don't know if he still has the app, if he unfriended me, or whatnot. But I feel guilty because I enacted exactly the caricature of me that he had created--I hadn't respected his boundaries, and I sent the message anyways.
At the same time, I am still feeling very victimized by the relationship. To give you a sense of the kinds of things that were going on in the relationship, here's a few examples that I currently find a little horrific [Note: this kind of turned into a summary of the relationship after I wrote it]. I'm aware that to heal I should probably not be ruminating about these things, especially if they lead me to boil over and message him, but here you go.
The first time I had sex with him, he slammed the door on me for not being able to finish and said "finish yourself." When I came to bed, I told him I felt shame. He said "good." The next time we had sex, he set a timer for me and said I had to finish within 5 minutes. These were the first times I ever had sex. He was manipulative in bed, telling me he didn't want to perform certain acts because I didn't give him enough praise for them, so that I started exaggerating my pleasure; he blamed me for why certain positions weren't working and was frustrated with how my body worked. On top of this, he admitted at the end of the relationship to having had sex with me around five times after he decided to break up with me (before he did), which just makes me feel a bit icky.
He would put me down in pretty transparently cruel ways. One example was when I exerted myself, he said I sounded like a muppet and that he "didn't want to be dating a muppet." When I offered him a blanket but apologized that it might not have been washed in a while, he called me a baby. He would insult my ability to give complements, asking me to tell him what color his eyes are but then rejecting everything that I gave him, telling me I was bad at complements repeatedly (and saying that it wasn't fair of him because his other exes were artists, so no wonder I was bad). Now, there were times that he was complementary to me--he told me I was hot, good at singing, good at writing, smart--but also times where he would put me down for things I was less good at, like cooking.
He constantly made me feel insecure about my gender. (For context, we are both men, but he was raised as a woman). So he would make pretty sweeping feminist critiques over fairly mundane things, like if I complained when I was sick he would go off about how men are always babies when they are sick and women don't get attention. When I confronted him about some of the things he was saying, telling him that while I wanted him to express these kinds of social problems so that I could be aware and adapt, I was feeling insecure in the relationship--he flipped it around and told me that if I didn't feel loved, he could say "I love you" less, and that I hadn't been grateful enough for when he came to visit me. (I had written him poetry, deep cleaned my apartment, taken time off work, sent my roommate off for the week, bought him a bus pass, planned his visit, met him in the airport despite not having a car, and just an insane amount of work to be turned into, "you weren't grateful enough").
Other than namecalling, he was just plain controlling. The reason that the boundary around me not sending long messages exists is that when I felt insecure--which I think makes sense given the ways he would talk to me--I would often send him a few paragraphs apologizing and explaining how I was growing. Even though long messages were the first thing he said he loved about me, and that he said our communication was like magic, he eventually set up what he called an "Essay embargo" and told me not to write them. The first time he set the "embargo", he had said it was only until we met in person because he didn't want me to write anything that would make him nervous. After we met in person, I assumed the embargo had lifted. Yet shortly after, he set it again, giving a few explanations--the main one just being that he wanted to appreciate our relationship without overthinking it. It seemed playful. He definitely did also say that long messages made him uncomfortable because he felt obligated to send a response. So, when I did send messages, I would add that he didn't have to respond (which I realize is not fully respecting the boundary). I did ask after sending messages whether they were ok and he never responded to those questions.
Despite this, there were times during the relationship that I continued to send long, often apologetic messages. I had felt like this boundary was set playfully and I also was feeling overwhelming guilt that I, for whatever reason, needed his affirmation for. I am conflicted because on the one hand, I was definitely ignoring his boundary--but on the other, I feel like the boundary was not very thoughtful of my own needs, either.
Prior to the breakup, it was hell. He was getting angry at me for everything--for pretty mundane things like using the bathroom before him and stinking it up. He told me he had to show me how to do everything, but I realize now that a lot of this was just him being particular (e.g, he told me I don't know how to drink tea because I left the bag in, when I just like it strong). Unfortunately, I had flown 5,000 miles to visit him and was sort of trapped in his proximity, and was drunk on love still since I was trying very hard, it was my first relationship, and he had sold me on notions of fairytale romance and told me we were cosmically meant to be together and other lovebomby sort of things. At one point, he missed a turn while driving with GPS and got angry at me for not helping--he disconnected his phone and threw it sideways at me (I guess so I could navigate for him, but it was a pretty retaliatory motion). We flew to a convention and I met some of his friends, and at one point he introduced me to a girl he had almost dated before, saying I was a friend and not a partner. I pointed this out to him later and he just said "does that make you angry?". He flirted with a woman at a party, telling her she was pretty while demanding that i bring him snacks (I feel so, so weak for not confronting him about this). He got drunk and I stayed with him as he passed out, but he was angry at me in the morning. When one of his friends told me they thought I was nice, because i was opening doors for everyone, my ex said "Is he really?" Questioning them.
The breakup itself was cold and calculated. He started it by telling me that he thought about not giving me any reasons for the breakup because I always overanalyze things. He told me he wouldn't have broken up with me if I was a woman. He told me I didn't take care of him and he needs a partner that takes care of him, and that his partners always feel taken care of. He threw some things I had said at the beginning of the relationship back at me--misquoting and misunderstanding them.
After the relationship, I had no idea what to think. It was my first relationship. It had started with fairytale romance. I had been passing his tests, I had been an exception to his long string of abusive relationships. He presented himself as this incredibly moral person (vegan, environmentally conscious, telling me of all of the ways others had abused him that he would never do, even his closest friends). I had completely internalized criticisms that he had had of me throughout the relationship, many of which had led to serious self reflection and my writing messages about my growth. Within a week I told him I still loved him and that I always would. He reminded me of his boundary around long messages and said they made him anxious. I was desperate. We took a few weeks of no-contact. We messaged short-messages back and forth, with a few life-updates to eachother each. He told me he was rescuing a kitten that he found, and I remembered how he could be kind.
But as I processed, more and more, I felt angry. I wrote unsent angry letters in the notes app on my phone for a month. I wrote myself a 20,000 word summary of the relationship. This was not a healthy way to process. It elevated me. (Some of you will probably comment that maybe I shouldn't have written this post for the same reason, but oh well--I wanted to process and I want to hear if others have similar stories). Meanwhile, my ex kept pushing back the date for when we would verbally connect again. Eventually, I boiled over. I did not insult him. But I wrote a long message explaining that I wanted to take 3 months of no-contact. I had entered another relationship and told him that even though I was feeling angry at him, he shouldn't be worried because even though I had baggage from the relationship, I was communicating well with my new partner. I also told him that I felt like if I did talk with him, that I would end up tearing him a new one, and that I needed time to cool down. I'm not proud of the message in general, but I didn't call names, tell him he was awful, or anything like that. I was just insensitive and told him I was angry.
And like that, I was blocked. It was over. A period of about 9 months, five of which we were together, with two before escalating towards love bombing and two after escalating towards my boiling over.
And yet, I had never expressed to him that I thought he had been abusive. I felt frustrated that I had told him that I would always love him, when in many ways now I hated him.
Five months passed, during which I came to realize more and more how messed up the relationship was.
And then I sent the message on Co-star.
Fast forward another four months to now.
I just sent him a text, knowing he probably has blocked me there too. It said something like, "I want my last message to you just be: I'm sorry, and I forgive you." I wanted to free myself. I needed to not feel angry at him or ashamed of myself. I needed to not feel like I had a million things to say to him--I needed to just say, this is it: I'm not sending more messages. I'm sorry, and I forgive you. It was for myself. I was forgiving him selfishly, even though he didn't deserve it, so that I could move on.
I feel like I shouldn't have sent this, but I don't feel bad about it yet, either. I needed closure. It always felt like there was some "message I could send" to detail his abuse, and I needed to not have that standing over me--I needed to forgive. I am now oscillating between wondering about myself--whether I have a problem with boundaries, since I had boiled over at this point three times to message him. Feeling frustrated I didn't assert myself about his abuse, that I doubled down on loving him. Part of me is glad that I sent the message on Co-Star saying that he was abusive, because it was the only indication I ever gave him, really, that what he did wasn't ok to me--he had blocked me before I could articulate anything. But I also know that this message even if received would not mean anything to him.
Anyways, now I'm venting about it here on Reddit. Does anyone have similar experiences surrounding self control messaging exes and feeling a bit out of control?
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I was devastated, but over the course of the next few months, came to understand a great deal of ways that I feel that I had been abused during the relationship. I felt angrier and angrier, and even though I was seeing a therapist, it eventually boiled over. My ex had blocked me on discord and probably on text, but I went onto an astrology app called Co-Star that he had had me download, and sent a message using it that said something like, "You were an abusive partner, but you can make it right with an apology."
Now, I have no idea if he actually saw the message. It was sent with a weird feature of the app called Chaos Mode that apparently chooses to send the message at some future time, so who knows if it actually ever sent. I don't know if he still has the app, if he unfriended me, or whatnot. But I feel guilty because I enacted exactly the caricature of me that he had created--I hadn't respected his boundaries, and I sent the message anyways.
At the same time, I am still feeling very victimized by the relationship. To give you a sense of the kinds of things that were going on in the relationship, here's a few examples that I currently find a little horrific [Note: this kind of turned into a summary of the relationship after I wrote it]. I'm aware that to heal I should probably not be ruminating about these things, especially if they lead me to boil over and message him, but here you go.
The first time I had sex with him, he slammed the door on me for not being able to finish and said "finish yourself." When I came to bed, I told him I felt shame. He said "good." The next time we had sex, he set a timer for me and said I had to finish within 5 minutes. These were the first times I ever had sex. He was manipulative in bed, telling me he didn't want to perform certain acts because I didn't give him enough praise for them, so that I started exaggerating my pleasure; he blamed me for why certain positions weren't working and was frustrated with how my body worked. On top of this, he admitted at the end of the relationship to having had sex with me around five times after he decided to break up with me (before he did), which just makes me feel a bit icky.
He would put me down in pretty transparently cruel ways. One example was when I exerted myself, he said I sounded like a muppet and that he "didn't want to be dating a muppet." When I offered him a blanket but apologized that it might not have been washed in a while, he called me a baby. He would insult my ability to give complements, asking me to tell him what color his eyes are but then rejecting everything that I gave him, telling me I was bad at complements repeatedly (and saying that it wasn't fair of him because his other exes were artists, so no wonder I was bad). Now, there were times that he was complementary to me--he told me I was hot, good at singing, good at writing, smart--but also times where he would put me down for things I was less good at, like cooking.
He constantly made me feel insecure about my gender. (For context, we are both men, but he was raised as a woman). So he would make pretty sweeping feminist critiques over fairly mundane things, like if I complained when I was sick he would go off about how men are always babies when they are sick and women don't get attention. When I confronted him about some of the things he was saying, telling him that while I wanted him to express these kinds of social problems so that I could be aware and adapt, I was feeling insecure in the relationship--he flipped it around and told me that if I didn't feel loved, he could say "I love you" less, and that I hadn't been grateful enough for when he came to visit me. (I had written him poetry, deep cleaned my apartment, taken time off work, sent my roommate off for the week, bought him a bus pass, planned his visit, met him in the airport despite not having a car, and just an insane amount of work to be turned into, "you weren't grateful enough").
Other than namecalling, he was just plain controlling. The reason that the boundary around me not sending long messages exists is that when I felt insecure--which I think makes sense given the ways he would talk to me--I would often send him a few paragraphs apologizing and explaining how I was growing. Even though long messages were the first thing he said he loved about me, and that he said our communication was like magic, he eventually set up what he called an "Essay embargo" and told me not to write them. The first time he set the "embargo", he had said it was only until we met in person because he didn't want me to write anything that would make him nervous. After we met in person, I assumed the embargo had lifted. Yet shortly after, he set it again, giving a few explanations--the main one just being that he wanted to appreciate our relationship without overthinking it. It seemed playful. He definitely did also say that long messages made him uncomfortable because he felt obligated to send a response. So, when I did send messages, I would add that he didn't have to respond (which I realize is not fully respecting the boundary). I did ask after sending messages whether they were ok and he never responded to those questions.
Despite this, there were times during the relationship that I continued to send long, often apologetic messages. I had felt like this boundary was set playfully and I also was feeling overwhelming guilt that I, for whatever reason, needed his affirmation for. I am conflicted because on the one hand, I was definitely ignoring his boundary--but on the other, I feel like the boundary was not very thoughtful of my own needs, either.
Prior to the breakup, it was hell. He was getting angry at me for everything--for pretty mundane things like using the bathroom before him and stinking it up. He told me he had to show me how to do everything, but I realize now that a lot of this was just him being particular (e.g, he told me I don't know how to drink tea because I left the bag in, when I just like it strong). Unfortunately, I had flown 5,000 miles to visit him and was sort of trapped in his proximity, and was drunk on love still since I was trying very hard, it was my first relationship, and he had sold me on notions of fairytale romance and told me we were cosmically meant to be together and other lovebomby sort of things. At one point, he missed a turn while driving with GPS and got angry at me for not helping--he disconnected his phone and threw it sideways at me (I guess so I could navigate for him, but it was a pretty retaliatory motion). We flew to a convention and I met some of his friends, and at one point he introduced me to a girl he had almost dated before, saying I was a friend and not a partner. I pointed this out to him later and he just said "does that make you angry?". He flirted with a woman at a party, telling her she was pretty while demanding that i bring him snacks (I feel so, so weak for not confronting him about this). He got drunk and I stayed with him as he passed out, but he was angry at me in the morning. When one of his friends told me they thought I was nice, because i was opening doors for everyone, my ex said "Is he really?" Questioning them.
The breakup itself was cold and calculated. He started it by telling me that he thought about not giving me any reasons for the breakup because I always overanalyze things. He told me he wouldn't have broken up with me if I was a woman. He told me I didn't take care of him and he needs a partner that takes care of him, and that his partners always feel taken care of. He threw some things I had said at the beginning of the relationship back at me--misquoting and misunderstanding them.
After the relationship, I had no idea what to think. It was my first relationship. It had started with fairytale romance. I had been passing his tests, I had been an exception to his long string of abusive relationships. He presented himself as this incredibly moral person (vegan, environmentally conscious, telling me of all of the ways others had abused him that he would never do, even his closest friends). I had completely internalized criticisms that he had had of me throughout the relationship, many of which had led to serious self reflection and my writing messages about my growth. Within a week I told him I still loved him and that I always would. He reminded me of his boundary around long messages and said they made him anxious. I was desperate. We took a few weeks of no-contact. We messaged short-messages back and forth, with a few life-updates to eachother each. He told me he was rescuing a kitten that he found, and I remembered how he could be kind.
But as I processed, more and more, I felt angry. I wrote unsent angry letters in the notes app on my phone for a month. I wrote myself a 20,000 word summary of the relationship. This was not a healthy way to process. It elevated me. (Some of you will probably comment that maybe I shouldn't have written this post for the same reason, but oh well--I wanted to process and I want to hear if others have similar stories). Meanwhile, my ex kept pushing back the date for when we would verbally connect again. Eventually, I boiled over. I did not insult him. But I wrote a long message explaining that I wanted to take 3 months of no-contact. I had entered another relationship and told him that even though I was feeling angry at him, he shouldn't be worried because even though I had baggage from the relationship, I was communicating well with my new partner. I also told him that I felt like if I did talk with him, that I would end up tearing him a new one, and that I needed time to cool down. I'm not proud of the message in general, but I didn't call names, tell him he was awful, or anything like that. I was just insensitive and told him I was angry.
And like that, I was blocked. It was over. A period of about 9 months, five of which we were together, with two before escalating towards love bombing and two after escalating towards my boiling over.
And yet, I had never expressed to him that I thought he had been abusive. I felt frustrated that I had told him that I would always love him, when in many ways now I hated him.
Five months passed, during which I came to realize more and more how messed up the relationship was.
And then I sent the message on Co-star.
Fast forward another four months to now.
I just sent him a text, knowing he probably has blocked me there too. It said something like, "I want my last message to you just be: I'm sorry, and I forgive you." I wanted to free myself. I needed to not feel angry at him or ashamed of myself. I needed to not feel like I had a million things to say to him--I needed to just say, this is it: I'm not sending more messages. I'm sorry, and I forgive you. It was for myself. I was forgiving him selfishly, even though he didn't deserve it, so that I could move on.
I feel like I shouldn't have sent this, but I don't feel bad about it yet, either. I needed closure. It always felt like there was some "message I could send" to detail his abuse, and I needed to not have that standing over me--I needed to forgive. I am now oscillating between wondering about myself--whether I have a problem with boundaries, since I had boiled over at this point three times to message him. Feeling frustrated I didn't assert myself about his abuse, that I doubled down on loving him. Part of me is glad that I sent the message on Co-Star saying that he was abusive, because it was the only indication I ever gave him, really, that what he did wasn't ok to me--he had blocked me before I could articulate anything. But I also know that this message even if received would not mean anything to him.
Anyways, now I'm venting about it here on Reddit. Does anyone have similar experiences surrounding self control messaging exes and feeling a bit out of control?