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The Michener Institute
2013.05.20 17:52 Biggandwedge The Michener Institute
The Michener Institute, more formally The Michener Institute for Applied Health Sciences, is a post-secondary institution in Toronto, Ontario, that educates applied health science professionals.
2011.10.27 06:13 magicnubs Physician Associate
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2010.05.27 02:35 jarly Keto: The Home for Ketogenic Diets
The Ketogenic Diet is a low carbohydrate method of eating. /keto is place to share thoughts, ideas, benefits, and experiences around eating within a Ketogenic lifestyle. Helping people with diabetes, epilepsy, autoimmune disorders, acid reflux, inflammation, hormonal imbalances, and a number of other issues, every day.
2024.05.29 06:51 Dudefrmthtplace Racist comments by white people
Just describing and interaction. This is in Dallas Texas in a pretty multicultural area. Was at Chik Fil A eating with a friend. At a table with about 8 seats, we had taken 2 of them. Soon after a group of white men who looked to be in some type of construction or civic service came over and asked "is anyone sitting here?" I say politely " No, you're good", saying that it's fine to sit there. I resume conversation with my friend.
Within 2 min of resuming my conversation, I hear some talk out of the corner of my ear and I can just make out one of them saying " Well now we're sitting with the Asians". Whether this was meant derogatorily, or in what manner or reference this man was speaking to I cannot really say, as I tried to ignore their conversation. I knew if I listened in any more it would be very obvious and it would make it worse. It really bugged me however the fact that I heard this in passing. It's sometimes so unbelievable to me that I think I'm having auditory hallucinations.
Are you just allowed to say something so divisive in plain english out in the open? What is this guys thought process? Is this just a dig to see if I get riled? Does he get sick satisfaction knowing that he can talk shit to his buddies right in front of me and I can't do anything about it? What is the endgame here? Are you just a sourpuss that blames every slight in your life on everyone but you? What is the purpose of that comment?
More than that, I started to imagine the vitriol I would receive if after they had sat down I had said " Well now we're sitting with the whiteys" or something to that effect. These big, burly, bearded, construction fucks would have ripped me a new one if I had said the same thing as them and they wouldn't hesitate one bit to call me out on it.
I understand this is Texas, though it being Dallas, one of the most multicultural cities. I understand there are lower level redneck white people who never picked up anything more to read than a bud light can. I understand that there are negative sentiments out there in the zeitgeist. What really pisses me off is the fact that I am barred from behaving the same way and having the same right to "free speech" or heehawing my mind like a well tuned donkey. People do not have equal rights socially in this country. We as Indians have to meekly take the hit, and keep kissing ass, thinking the black people or white people or asian people will see our good will and wisen up. We have to do this because there is very little solidarity among Indians to begin with.
Yet I just have to be quiet and go about my conversation as if I heard nothing while my blood boils on the inside and I have to post it anonymously on reddit.
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Within 2 min of resuming my conversation, I hear some talk out of the corner of my ear and I can just make out one of them saying " Well now we're sitting with the Asians". Whether this was meant derogatorily, or in what manner or reference this man was speaking to I cannot really say, as I tried to ignore their conversation. I knew if I listened in any more it would be very obvious and it would make it worse. It really bugged me however the fact that I heard this in passing. It's sometimes so unbelievable to me that I think I'm having auditory hallucinations.
Are you just allowed to say something so divisive in plain english out in the open? What is this guys thought process? Is this just a dig to see if I get riled? Does he get sick satisfaction knowing that he can talk shit to his buddies right in front of me and I can't do anything about it? What is the endgame here? Are you just a sourpuss that blames every slight in your life on everyone but you? What is the purpose of that comment?
More than that, I started to imagine the vitriol I would receive if after they had sat down I had said " Well now we're sitting with the whiteys" or something to that effect. These big, burly, bearded, construction fucks would have ripped me a new one if I had said the same thing as them and they wouldn't hesitate one bit to call me out on it.
I understand this is Texas, though it being Dallas, one of the most multicultural cities. I understand there are lower level redneck white people who never picked up anything more to read than a bud light can. I understand that there are negative sentiments out there in the zeitgeist. What really pisses me off is the fact that I am barred from behaving the same way and having the same right to "free speech" or heehawing my mind like a well tuned donkey. People do not have equal rights socially in this country. We as Indians have to meekly take the hit, and keep kissing ass, thinking the black people or white people or asian people will see our good will and wisen up. We have to do this because there is very little solidarity among Indians to begin with.
Yet I just have to be quiet and go about my conversation as if I heard nothing while my blood boils on the inside and I have to post it anonymously on reddit.
2024.05.29 06:49 No-Stand-4042 Are all dominos like this?
For context ive been at my location (in washington) for coming up on 2 years and in my time here ive seen a lot of things im well are are not okay but i just want some other perspectives on people from other stores and see some input on my experiences and potentially see what i can and should do with the issues that are present as well as see if this is just what working for dominos is like.
Ill start by saying the mangers at my store are great. Where the issues arise are with our supervisor and franchiser.
So a good example on something that happened recently was our gm caught one of our drivers stealing money from customers by writing in tips and he has been doing this for a long time at this point when our gm threatened to fire him our supervisor told him no and refused to let our gm fire him (dispite this being a felony to my knowledge). 0 action was ever taken against him and none of the customers ever received any compensation or where told what happened. About a month later oer came and he happened to be picked by our proctor for the car check. When his car was checked he was found to have boxes of ammo in his car (which im sure everyone is aware this is not okay) from what i heard from of our mangers this caused us a "critical failure" yet still no action was taken against him ane too this day he still works for us.
Another issue that happened recently as well as something that has happened in the past on multiple occasions is our make line broke and wasn't keeping any food cold and was like this for about 3 days. Our supervisors solution to this was just to put ice under the tubs and that was it. While this did keep food colder it definitely was not keeping it near the standard it should be at. Our make line wasn't just not keeping food cold either it was dumbing coolant all over our floors. During this period not once we're we ever aloud to stop serving food.
Some other present issues are the way our supervisor talks to people as way as the way she chooses to treat all of us. When she is at work there is 0 professionals. she constantly brings personal issue's into work then makes it everyones problem a number of examples which are all very similar is she has had breakdowns at work and threatened to fire people on the spot (including myself) when these situations have occurred nothing that warrants this reaction has ever happened. my personal example with this situation was when i was on loads and i was also helping with topping because at the time a lot of our insiders were new and not very quick so i was picking up the slack where it was needed and helping when i could while also loading, and never once letting my loading suffer as a result of helping my co workers. When she saw me helping she made everyone on our line completely stop so she couldv very rudely yell at us which lead to me explaining my situation where she then threatened to fire me if i didn't immediately stop talking. While doing all this in an extremely public setting in front of a store filled with customers she then went into how we are under no circumstance aloud to move from our assigned positions (unless you are the one answering phones) which i do understand the not wanting us to move but the way she handled it was not okay and at my store we dont really assign positions the way we usually function is when insidersor or managers come in they just go directly to where they are needed. (when she has these breakdowns its also typically within sight and ear shot of our customers as i stated in my example) i have personally had customers apologys to me after seeing the way she has treated us which atleast for me is very telling that everyone present understands this is not acceptable behavior.
My finally issues that i as well have personally experienced is when i began takeing new medication. my doctor recommended i take 2 weeks off of work to properly adjust to it. I was given a note by my doctor with all the necessary information on it to excuse me from work for 2 weeks. When the note was presented i asked for my sick time my gm (who is not the issue) told me he didn't know how to put in sick time. With my franchiser no one is aloud to know how to put in sick pay but our franchiser and supervisor ( i dont know if this is normal but i felt it was important to mention) at the time our supervisor was on a personal LOA so he contacted our franchiser and asked him how to enter my sick time my gm was then told i do not qualify and am not allowed to receive it. When i heard this i wasn't totally surprised as in the past my coworkers sick time had been denied. My main example is when one of our insiders asked for his sick pay he was told he must be "physical incapacitated" to use his sick time. (he was out for about 4 days with a cold and he as well presented a note from his doctor asking to be excused from work. He also never received his sick time) This indecent with myself has happened over 3 full months ago and i have still have yet to receive my money i reported this to L&I instantly and providing the proper evidence as im well aware my situation qualifys for me to use my sick pay ( L&I confirmed my thoughts with a quick phone call ).
There are plenty of other issues present at my location but these are the main examples that cane to mind when thinking of what to mention when asking for opinions and advice on this any comments and insights are welcome thank you
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Ill start by saying the mangers at my store are great. Where the issues arise are with our supervisor and franchiser.
So a good example on something that happened recently was our gm caught one of our drivers stealing money from customers by writing in tips and he has been doing this for a long time at this point when our gm threatened to fire him our supervisor told him no and refused to let our gm fire him (dispite this being a felony to my knowledge). 0 action was ever taken against him and none of the customers ever received any compensation or where told what happened. About a month later oer came and he happened to be picked by our proctor for the car check. When his car was checked he was found to have boxes of ammo in his car (which im sure everyone is aware this is not okay) from what i heard from of our mangers this caused us a "critical failure" yet still no action was taken against him ane too this day he still works for us.
Another issue that happened recently as well as something that has happened in the past on multiple occasions is our make line broke and wasn't keeping any food cold and was like this for about 3 days. Our supervisors solution to this was just to put ice under the tubs and that was it. While this did keep food colder it definitely was not keeping it near the standard it should be at. Our make line wasn't just not keeping food cold either it was dumbing coolant all over our floors. During this period not once we're we ever aloud to stop serving food.
Some other present issues are the way our supervisor talks to people as way as the way she chooses to treat all of us. When she is at work there is 0 professionals. she constantly brings personal issue's into work then makes it everyones problem a number of examples which are all very similar is she has had breakdowns at work and threatened to fire people on the spot (including myself) when these situations have occurred nothing that warrants this reaction has ever happened. my personal example with this situation was when i was on loads and i was also helping with topping because at the time a lot of our insiders were new and not very quick so i was picking up the slack where it was needed and helping when i could while also loading, and never once letting my loading suffer as a result of helping my co workers. When she saw me helping she made everyone on our line completely stop so she couldv very rudely yell at us which lead to me explaining my situation where she then threatened to fire me if i didn't immediately stop talking. While doing all this in an extremely public setting in front of a store filled with customers she then went into how we are under no circumstance aloud to move from our assigned positions (unless you are the one answering phones) which i do understand the not wanting us to move but the way she handled it was not okay and at my store we dont really assign positions the way we usually function is when insidersor or managers come in they just go directly to where they are needed. (when she has these breakdowns its also typically within sight and ear shot of our customers as i stated in my example) i have personally had customers apologys to me after seeing the way she has treated us which atleast for me is very telling that everyone present understands this is not acceptable behavior.
My finally issues that i as well have personally experienced is when i began takeing new medication. my doctor recommended i take 2 weeks off of work to properly adjust to it. I was given a note by my doctor with all the necessary information on it to excuse me from work for 2 weeks. When the note was presented i asked for my sick time my gm (who is not the issue) told me he didn't know how to put in sick time. With my franchiser no one is aloud to know how to put in sick pay but our franchiser and supervisor ( i dont know if this is normal but i felt it was important to mention) at the time our supervisor was on a personal LOA so he contacted our franchiser and asked him how to enter my sick time my gm was then told i do not qualify and am not allowed to receive it. When i heard this i wasn't totally surprised as in the past my coworkers sick time had been denied. My main example is when one of our insiders asked for his sick pay he was told he must be "physical incapacitated" to use his sick time. (he was out for about 4 days with a cold and he as well presented a note from his doctor asking to be excused from work. He also never received his sick time) This indecent with myself has happened over 3 full months ago and i have still have yet to receive my money i reported this to L&I instantly and providing the proper evidence as im well aware my situation qualifys for me to use my sick pay ( L&I confirmed my thoughts with a quick phone call ).
There are plenty of other issues present at my location but these are the main examples that cane to mind when thinking of what to mention when asking for opinions and advice on this any comments and insights are welcome thank you
2024.05.29 06:48 drnareshkrgarg Brain tumor - Symptoms and causes
Symptoms
The symptoms of a brain tumor can vary significantly depending on the tumor's size, location, and growth rate. Common symptoms include:
Headaches:
Frequent or severe headaches that may worsen with activity or in the early morning.
Seizures:
New onset of seizures in someone with no history of seizures.
Different types of seizures such as focal (partial) seizures or generalized seizures.
Cognitive or Personality Changes:
Memory problems.
Difficulty in concentration or making decisions.
Changes in personality or behavior.
Motor Problems:
Weakness or numbness in the limbs or face, often on one side of the body.
Difficulty with balance or coordination.
Sensory Changes:
Vision problems such as double vision, loss of peripheral vision, or partial/complete vision loss.
Hearing problems or loss of hearing.
Speech and Language Issues:
Difficulty in speaking or understanding speech.
Nausea and Vomiting:
Often related to increased intracranial pressure.
Other Symptoms:
Fatigue and drowsiness.
Hormonal (endocrine) disorders, which could be due to a tumor near the pituitary gland.
Causes
The exact cause of brain tumors is not always clear, but several factors can contribute to their development:
Genetic Factors:
Family history of brain tumors.
Genetic mutations or conditions (e.g., Neurofibromatosis, Li-Fraumeni syndrome, Turcot syndrome).
Exposure to Radiation:
Previous exposure to ionizing radiation (such as from radiation therapy for another condition).
Immune System Disorders:
Conditions that weaken the immune system can increase the risk of certain brain tumors (e.g., Primary CNS lymphoma).
Environmental Factors:
Possible links to exposure to certain chemicals or industrial pollutants, although more research is needed.
Age and Gender:
Certain types of brain tumors are more common in specific age groups or genders. For example, gliomas are more common in adults, while medulloblastomas are more common in children.
Previous Cancer Diagnosis:
Individuals who have had cancer elsewhere in the body can develop secondary (metastatic) brain tumors.
Types of Brain Tumors
Brain tumors can be classified as:
Primary Brain Tumors:
Originate in the brain.
Can be benign (non-cancerous) or malignant (cancerous).
Examples: Gliomas, Meningiomas, Schwannomas, Pituitary tumors.
Secondary (Metastatic) Brain Tumors:
Spread to the brain from cancers originating in other parts of the body.
More common than primary brain tumors.
Conclusion
Brain tumors can manifest through a wide array of symptoms and have diverse causes, ranging from genetic factors to environmental exposures. Early detection and accurate diagnosis are crucial for effective treatment and management. If you experience persistent or unusual symptoms, it's important to seek medical attention for a thorough evaluation.
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The symptoms of a brain tumor can vary significantly depending on the tumor's size, location, and growth rate. Common symptoms include:
Headaches:
Frequent or severe headaches that may worsen with activity or in the early morning.
Seizures:
New onset of seizures in someone with no history of seizures.
Different types of seizures such as focal (partial) seizures or generalized seizures.
Cognitive or Personality Changes:
Memory problems.
Difficulty in concentration or making decisions.
Changes in personality or behavior.
Motor Problems:
Weakness or numbness in the limbs or face, often on one side of the body.
Difficulty with balance or coordination.
Sensory Changes:
Vision problems such as double vision, loss of peripheral vision, or partial/complete vision loss.
Hearing problems or loss of hearing.
Speech and Language Issues:
Difficulty in speaking or understanding speech.
Nausea and Vomiting:
Often related to increased intracranial pressure.
Other Symptoms:
Fatigue and drowsiness.
Hormonal (endocrine) disorders, which could be due to a tumor near the pituitary gland.
Causes
The exact cause of brain tumors is not always clear, but several factors can contribute to their development:
Genetic Factors:
Family history of brain tumors.
Genetic mutations or conditions (e.g., Neurofibromatosis, Li-Fraumeni syndrome, Turcot syndrome).
Exposure to Radiation:
Previous exposure to ionizing radiation (such as from radiation therapy for another condition).
Immune System Disorders:
Conditions that weaken the immune system can increase the risk of certain brain tumors (e.g., Primary CNS lymphoma).
Environmental Factors:
Possible links to exposure to certain chemicals or industrial pollutants, although more research is needed.
Age and Gender:
Certain types of brain tumors are more common in specific age groups or genders. For example, gliomas are more common in adults, while medulloblastomas are more common in children.
Previous Cancer Diagnosis:
Individuals who have had cancer elsewhere in the body can develop secondary (metastatic) brain tumors.
Types of Brain Tumors
Brain tumors can be classified as:
Primary Brain Tumors:
Originate in the brain.
Can be benign (non-cancerous) or malignant (cancerous).
Examples: Gliomas, Meningiomas, Schwannomas, Pituitary tumors.
Secondary (Metastatic) Brain Tumors:
Spread to the brain from cancers originating in other parts of the body.
More common than primary brain tumors.
Conclusion
Brain tumors can manifest through a wide array of symptoms and have diverse causes, ranging from genetic factors to environmental exposures. Early detection and accurate diagnosis are crucial for effective treatment and management. If you experience persistent or unusual symptoms, it's important to seek medical attention for a thorough evaluation.
2024.05.29 06:46 Lucky_Whereas2422 Cmmg 22 conversion bolt
Anybody been using one for a while? I tried one today for the first time. It was brand new and went into a factory Colt that has a low round count. Very first round needed a bit of help via the forward assist but after that it was flawless until the last 10 rounds in my 100rd box of MiniMags. Multiple failures in those 10 rounds… failure to extract, failure to eject, failure to ignite (very light strikes).
What gives? Just a bit dirty in the chamber? Too light on the lube? It was running great until those last 10 rounds. I’ll be bummed if it can’t go 100 rounds without needing a cleaning.
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What gives? Just a bit dirty in the chamber? Too light on the lube? It was running great until those last 10 rounds. I’ll be bummed if it can’t go 100 rounds without needing a cleaning.
2024.05.29 06:46 shemightbeshyyy Pregnancy after being cheated on a 7-year relationship
In a relationship that spanned seven years, I experienced the heart-wrenching betrayal of infidelity, which resulted in an unexpected pregnancy. Throughout our time together, my ex-boyfriend held a significant place in my heart, as he had been my long-term high school crush and my first love. Remarkably, he reciprocated my feelings, creating a deep connection between us. However, he became the first person to break my heart, leaving me shattered and devastated.
Our relationship took a tumultuous turn in 2022 when I became engrossed in my studies and focused on my goals and responsibilities, causing a growing distance between us. Eventually, this led to a heartbreaking separation on June 17, 2023, without proper closure or goodbyes. In September 2023, I made the decision to reconcile, hoping that by becoming a better version of myself, we could mend our relationship. Unfortunately, my efforts were in vain. While we initially agreed to meet for closure in Manila, our secret meetings and encounters continued until April. By November, he expressed his desire to end our relationship, abruptly cutting off communication and publicly indicating his readiness to move forward without me on social media. However, just ten days later, he reached out again, seeking something from me, and we arranged another meeting for closure in December. This cycle of separation and reunion persisted, and during this time, I began to suspect that he was cheating on me due to his lack of affection. In December, I believed that we would finally put an end to our tumultuous relationship. However, we found ourselves talking again and even spent Christmas together in the province. It was during this time that he introduced another girl to his mother, a revelation that I only recently discovered.
Between our secret meetings in September, December, January, and March, many things unfolded. Physical intimacy became a part of our encounters, as I believed our actions were fueled by love. However, I later realized that I had been mistaken all along. In March, while we were sleeping, I noticed a girl named P. messaging my ex. Initially, he claimed that she was just his dorm mate, but her presence sparked doubts in my mind about his faithfulness. Despite my suspicions, I chose to trust him. On April 10, he began to distance himself from me. However, numerous witnesses reported seeing him with the other girl since January. This, coupled with my mounting suspicions, led me to believe that he was indeed cheating. I began to investigate, and we confronted the issue on April 19. During our confrontation, he denied any wrongdoing, insisting that the other woman was just a friend. However, the next day, I discovered incriminating conversations between him and the other woman when I gained access to his phone. It was then that I realized the truth and felt my world crumble around me. All my plans and hopes for a future with him shattered. What hurt me the most was when he introduced me to his brother as his fake girlfriend, unable to answer his brother's questions about our relationship. It deeply wounded me. During a drinking session with his family, they even said, "It's unavoidable for him to cheat, Why? Because we come from a lineage of good-looking people." I was so hurt by their words that I ended up getting drunk.
On April 25, we bid each other farewell, but it was not an official breakup as we are still in contact. I believed that we were keeping our promises to focus on healing and that he wouldn't choose between us, prioritizing his own well-being. On April 29, when he went to Dagupan, he updated me while drunk, implying that he wouldn't see the other girl during his trip, suggesting that I was the one who mattered to him. But when we stopped talking, he went back to the other girl. It was as if our discussions had meant nothing, as if my tears held no significance, as if he didn't care. They resumed their relationship, flaunting their bond on social media platforms, even after I discovered that I was pregnant. Last week, he claimed that everything he said on April 20 was just to ease my mind, and he no longer truly loved me. He confessed that he no longer felt anything for me. He even accused me of being selfish, suggesting that I wanted him to suffer just because I was suffering. It felt incredibly unfair and bitter that he believed I didn't want them to be happy. That time, i am confused and pregnant, I stayed at his place for four days. During this time, we provoked each other, and he took advantage of the situation, engaging in sexual activity with me. He continued to tell me "I love you," and we even shared a kiss before I left on the bus. Despite knowing about my pregnancy, he provided no emotional support. He remained with his new partner, even after assuring me that I wouldn't hear about them being together anymore and that he needed time to heal. It was disheartening to witness them openly label their relationship, especially considering my pregnancy. Thi continued display of their bond on social media platfe only added to my disappointment.
It was a devastating realization that someone I deeply loved could betray me in such a cruel manner, leaving me broken and shattered. My dreams and aspirations for myself were crushed along with my heart. It was unimaginable that the man I had loved for seven long years, the person I had entrusted with my deepest emotions and vulnerabilities, could be the one to inflict such pain upon me. How could someone I held so close to my heart cause such immense hurt? To make matters worse, after getting me pregnant, he directed his love towards another woman. It was difficult to comprehend how he could find happiness while disregarding the responsibilities he had brought upon our child. It hurt deeply to be genuine in my love for him, wanting to choose him every day, only to be hurt in return. How could he hurt someone who had eyes only for him? The pain intensified when I realized that he had gotten me pregnant despite no longer feeling any love for me. It was disheartening to hear him say "I love you" when it seemed he was only saying it to ease my feelings. The destruction he caused pushed me to the point where I felt overwhelmed and contemplated suicide.
submitted by shemightbeshyyy to AskPhilippines [link] [comments]
Our relationship took a tumultuous turn in 2022 when I became engrossed in my studies and focused on my goals and responsibilities, causing a growing distance between us. Eventually, this led to a heartbreaking separation on June 17, 2023, without proper closure or goodbyes. In September 2023, I made the decision to reconcile, hoping that by becoming a better version of myself, we could mend our relationship. Unfortunately, my efforts were in vain. While we initially agreed to meet for closure in Manila, our secret meetings and encounters continued until April. By November, he expressed his desire to end our relationship, abruptly cutting off communication and publicly indicating his readiness to move forward without me on social media. However, just ten days later, he reached out again, seeking something from me, and we arranged another meeting for closure in December. This cycle of separation and reunion persisted, and during this time, I began to suspect that he was cheating on me due to his lack of affection. In December, I believed that we would finally put an end to our tumultuous relationship. However, we found ourselves talking again and even spent Christmas together in the province. It was during this time that he introduced another girl to his mother, a revelation that I only recently discovered.
Between our secret meetings in September, December, January, and March, many things unfolded. Physical intimacy became a part of our encounters, as I believed our actions were fueled by love. However, I later realized that I had been mistaken all along. In March, while we were sleeping, I noticed a girl named P. messaging my ex. Initially, he claimed that she was just his dorm mate, but her presence sparked doubts in my mind about his faithfulness. Despite my suspicions, I chose to trust him. On April 10, he began to distance himself from me. However, numerous witnesses reported seeing him with the other girl since January. This, coupled with my mounting suspicions, led me to believe that he was indeed cheating. I began to investigate, and we confronted the issue on April 19. During our confrontation, he denied any wrongdoing, insisting that the other woman was just a friend. However, the next day, I discovered incriminating conversations between him and the other woman when I gained access to his phone. It was then that I realized the truth and felt my world crumble around me. All my plans and hopes for a future with him shattered. What hurt me the most was when he introduced me to his brother as his fake girlfriend, unable to answer his brother's questions about our relationship. It deeply wounded me. During a drinking session with his family, they even said, "It's unavoidable for him to cheat, Why? Because we come from a lineage of good-looking people." I was so hurt by their words that I ended up getting drunk.
On April 25, we bid each other farewell, but it was not an official breakup as we are still in contact. I believed that we were keeping our promises to focus on healing and that he wouldn't choose between us, prioritizing his own well-being. On April 29, when he went to Dagupan, he updated me while drunk, implying that he wouldn't see the other girl during his trip, suggesting that I was the one who mattered to him. But when we stopped talking, he went back to the other girl. It was as if our discussions had meant nothing, as if my tears held no significance, as if he didn't care. They resumed their relationship, flaunting their bond on social media platforms, even after I discovered that I was pregnant. Last week, he claimed that everything he said on April 20 was just to ease my mind, and he no longer truly loved me. He confessed that he no longer felt anything for me. He even accused me of being selfish, suggesting that I wanted him to suffer just because I was suffering. It felt incredibly unfair and bitter that he believed I didn't want them to be happy. That time, i am confused and pregnant, I stayed at his place for four days. During this time, we provoked each other, and he took advantage of the situation, engaging in sexual activity with me. He continued to tell me "I love you," and we even shared a kiss before I left on the bus. Despite knowing about my pregnancy, he provided no emotional support. He remained with his new partner, even after assuring me that I wouldn't hear about them being together anymore and that he needed time to heal. It was disheartening to witness them openly label their relationship, especially considering my pregnancy. Thi continued display of their bond on social media platfe only added to my disappointment.
It was a devastating realization that someone I deeply loved could betray me in such a cruel manner, leaving me broken and shattered. My dreams and aspirations for myself were crushed along with my heart. It was unimaginable that the man I had loved for seven long years, the person I had entrusted with my deepest emotions and vulnerabilities, could be the one to inflict such pain upon me. How could someone I held so close to my heart cause such immense hurt? To make matters worse, after getting me pregnant, he directed his love towards another woman. It was difficult to comprehend how he could find happiness while disregarding the responsibilities he had brought upon our child. It hurt deeply to be genuine in my love for him, wanting to choose him every day, only to be hurt in return. How could he hurt someone who had eyes only for him? The pain intensified when I realized that he had gotten me pregnant despite no longer feeling any love for me. It was disheartening to hear him say "I love you" when it seemed he was only saying it to ease my feelings. The destruction he caused pushed me to the point where I felt overwhelmed and contemplated suicide.
2024.05.29 06:46 Lost_You_4686 I’m lost and I don’t know what to do anymore
A brief summary of my life over the last year and a half. Last year I moved into a new place and things, for the first time in a long time were looking up! The new place was beautiful and a decent step up from my last place, my new job was very comfortable, and my community was strong. I was able to be the person people could ask things of and not say no which is what i’ve always wanted.
Fast forward to November, I had just gotten back from my trip to Utah/Vegas for the first time. I felt great, little broke but hey when in Vegas no? but then i got sick and thought well no big deal I have yet to use sick days.
Within 2 days I had a fever of 102, within 3 I was laid off (Half my team was at the same time, completely blindsided, I was having conversations with the Chief Marketing Officer and VP of Marketing about a potential promotion and being the face of our team not a week prior)
I was crushed but still strong of mind. I had gone through a firing before and this wasn’t as bad as it was a lay off and my manager and director let me know they are more than happy to give a glowing recommendation. I tried my best to take it in stride, I still had a month and half of severance and was being paid out through the week. (Was making around 130K at the time and paying roughly $2000 a month total for bills) I knew i’d be comfortable for awhile with savings and severance so I took the rest of the week to get better and immediately started applying after.
Then four months passed, within the first (December) my roommate moved out so, Januarys rent and the choice to resign the lease (meaning the security deposit again) was on me. I decided to stay because at the time (I thought) surely i’d get back into work soon as I have good recommendations and a great resume for my 5 years (From entry level recruiter, to senior, to lead and project manager)
The second month coming to an end did start to worry me a little, At this point my severance was fully paid out and I wasn’t feeling super optimistic as my rent had increased and without a roommate it was now $2900 a month, so now my savings were taking quick hits over the month. Still i was optimistic, I doubled down and applied more and even started recruitment consulting for a friend in the middle of the month so I was making around $700 a week which was at least something while I looked for a more permanent job.
By the end of February, the third month, I was scared, thankfully i have a good support network so my friend did help out with rent but I felt so awful for NEEDING that, I felt so much guilt and started looking for work just for works sake. Towards the end of the month my friends company moved in a different direction for recruiting and he cut me off as it wasn’t working.
In March, things started getting really dark. I was pretty much unable to go out, my debt was starting to pile and things were getting hard just to eat. Still i woke up and tried being positive, cooking more, going to the gym more, filling in tons of applications, etc. I was roughly 300 applications in at this time though and it was for sure getting to me. I finally had a roommate moving in and it seemed almost divine as when they were originally told the price they couldn’t do it but something compelled me to reach out anyway to them and though it would cost me more, they seemed really cool so i was trying to stay positive moving forward and it felt like this was the first positive change. Needed help again with rent but at least this was my last month paying alone.
April came and went, My roommate moved in and it was awesome, we got along super well, sometimes too well I thought but i just wanted to keep it comfortable for them so I paid it no mind. I was given a job offer and had it rescinded as they offered it to someone who had everything done for the job faster than me. I was crushed and angry and It showed, my mental at this point was feeling like it was burning everyday. I started to feel like I was drowning, every night was a nightmare, but my roommate really helped with this. We were hanging everyday and I felt so much lighter around them, I didn’t notice and at every mention from friends I was very clear we were just roommates. Days went on and at this point I had started working for a family friend unloading items for a warehouse. I became their digital marketing manager as they needed someone to take over, Ebay, Youtube, etc.
May rolled around and at this point i had a second round interview for a good position and was trying my hardest with my new gig. My roommate and I had argued a few times and I was trying to figure out what was this new feeling I was starting to have for them. I felt compelled(again) to make sure they were having a good day and attributing to less really messed with me. The interview came and went and they choose someone else. I was crushed and just at this time my roommate had gotten a partner out of nowhere and I now knew what the feeling was and it hurt like hell. We had already talked and with everything swirling in my head I didn’t have an answer at the time and ended saying what I know now to not be true.
Too little too late seemed to be defining my life and my positive mental is gone. Certain Ideations are creeping in and it’s burning my mind even more. I feel like I can’t wrestle my thoughts to focus for more than 2 minutes. It’s now May 29th. It’s 12:30pm and I’ve had two mental breakdowns this week. If you read this far 1. I’m sorry there’s not a happy ending and
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Fast forward to November, I had just gotten back from my trip to Utah/Vegas for the first time. I felt great, little broke but hey when in Vegas no? but then i got sick and thought well no big deal I have yet to use sick days.
Within 2 days I had a fever of 102, within 3 I was laid off (Half my team was at the same time, completely blindsided, I was having conversations with the Chief Marketing Officer and VP of Marketing about a potential promotion and being the face of our team not a week prior)
I was crushed but still strong of mind. I had gone through a firing before and this wasn’t as bad as it was a lay off and my manager and director let me know they are more than happy to give a glowing recommendation. I tried my best to take it in stride, I still had a month and half of severance and was being paid out through the week. (Was making around 130K at the time and paying roughly $2000 a month total for bills) I knew i’d be comfortable for awhile with savings and severance so I took the rest of the week to get better and immediately started applying after.
Then four months passed, within the first (December) my roommate moved out so, Januarys rent and the choice to resign the lease (meaning the security deposit again) was on me. I decided to stay because at the time (I thought) surely i’d get back into work soon as I have good recommendations and a great resume for my 5 years (From entry level recruiter, to senior, to lead and project manager)
The second month coming to an end did start to worry me a little, At this point my severance was fully paid out and I wasn’t feeling super optimistic as my rent had increased and without a roommate it was now $2900 a month, so now my savings were taking quick hits over the month. Still i was optimistic, I doubled down and applied more and even started recruitment consulting for a friend in the middle of the month so I was making around $700 a week which was at least something while I looked for a more permanent job.
By the end of February, the third month, I was scared, thankfully i have a good support network so my friend did help out with rent but I felt so awful for NEEDING that, I felt so much guilt and started looking for work just for works sake. Towards the end of the month my friends company moved in a different direction for recruiting and he cut me off as it wasn’t working.
In March, things started getting really dark. I was pretty much unable to go out, my debt was starting to pile and things were getting hard just to eat. Still i woke up and tried being positive, cooking more, going to the gym more, filling in tons of applications, etc. I was roughly 300 applications in at this time though and it was for sure getting to me. I finally had a roommate moving in and it seemed almost divine as when they were originally told the price they couldn’t do it but something compelled me to reach out anyway to them and though it would cost me more, they seemed really cool so i was trying to stay positive moving forward and it felt like this was the first positive change. Needed help again with rent but at least this was my last month paying alone.
April came and went, My roommate moved in and it was awesome, we got along super well, sometimes too well I thought but i just wanted to keep it comfortable for them so I paid it no mind. I was given a job offer and had it rescinded as they offered it to someone who had everything done for the job faster than me. I was crushed and angry and It showed, my mental at this point was feeling like it was burning everyday. I started to feel like I was drowning, every night was a nightmare, but my roommate really helped with this. We were hanging everyday and I felt so much lighter around them, I didn’t notice and at every mention from friends I was very clear we were just roommates. Days went on and at this point I had started working for a family friend unloading items for a warehouse. I became their digital marketing manager as they needed someone to take over, Ebay, Youtube, etc.
May rolled around and at this point i had a second round interview for a good position and was trying my hardest with my new gig. My roommate and I had argued a few times and I was trying to figure out what was this new feeling I was starting to have for them. I felt compelled(again) to make sure they were having a good day and attributing to less really messed with me. The interview came and went and they choose someone else. I was crushed and just at this time my roommate had gotten a partner out of nowhere and I now knew what the feeling was and it hurt like hell. We had already talked and with everything swirling in my head I didn’t have an answer at the time and ended saying what I know now to not be true.
Too little too late seemed to be defining my life and my positive mental is gone. Certain Ideations are creeping in and it’s burning my mind even more. I feel like I can’t wrestle my thoughts to focus for more than 2 minutes. It’s now May 29th. It’s 12:30pm and I’ve had two mental breakdowns this week. If you read this far 1. I’m sorry there’s not a happy ending and
- I don’t know if there’s a purpose for writing this, I just started and it all just came out on the page. I just needed to get it out to hopefully sleep tonight at a good time.
- Idk what to do, i’m by far the lowest i’ve ever felt and I feel guilty about everything, i feel like every decision I make is the wrong one and i’ve tried my best to do everything with the purest and best intentions this whole time but i’m truly drowning. I’ve still been doing all the good things you’re supposed to but even with the gym, getting more spiritual and everything I feel so so empty. I miss the friend I was making but there’s no space for me in their life anymore and we’ve gone from hanging everyday to barely talking. With everything going on I’m finding it incredibly hard to keep going but I don’t want to give up…
2024.05.29 06:45 ryeander American society heavily favors women over men
From childhood to college to working years and unto death, women are increasingly favored over men for at least the past few decades in America. And not enough people realize this will come with significant costs and downsides to America as we age.
1.)
Teachers give higher grades to girls than to boys with the same academic ability. And the bias is evident across different types of schools and for different teacher characteristics, suggesting teachers are hard-wired to give girls higher marks. The size of the gap is considerable and could have significant long-term consequences, both on college admission and employment prospects:
Researchers compared the results of standardized anonymous tests taken by almost 40,000 15 and 16-year-olds in language and math with the grades the same students were awarded in classroom tests. While the results of the anonymous tests followed the expected pattern, with girls outperforming boys in languages and boys doing better in math, in the non-anonymous classroom tests the girls scored higher in both subjects.
And the disparity could mean the difference between boys getting a pass and a fail in some subjects.
The average grade for girls in language was 6.6 out of 10, compared with 6.2 for boys, and in math it was 6.3 for girls and 5.9 for boys, just under the pass mark of 6.
https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/01425692.2022.2122942
https://www.forbes.com/sites/nickmorrison/2022/10/17/teachers-are-hard-wired-to-give-girls-better-grades-study-says/?sh=7f95fbef70a6
2.)
For the class of 2022, women comprised 58.6% of all bachelor degrees.
For the class of 2022, women comprised 57% of doctorate and professional degrees. As we know, people who have degrees tend to make more money, widening the growing pay gap between men and women.
https://educationdata.org/number-of-college-graduates
3.)
Working women already earn more than men on average, per hour:
The New York, Washington, D.C., and Los Angeles metropolitan areas are among the cities where young women are earning the most relative to young men. In both the New York and Washington metro areas, young women earn 102% of what young men earn when examining median annual earnings among full-time, year-round workers…
However, even among full-time, year-round workers, men and women devote DIFFERENT amounts of time to work. Men under 30 usually work 44 hours per week, on average, compared with 42 hours among young women.
https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2022/03/28/young-women-are-out-earning-young-men-in-several-u-s-cities/
In healthcare, at least 53.7% of the next generation of doctors are all women. One medical school even BOASTED about the fact that OVER 65% of its student doctors were female.
Please also keep in mind: 22% of women doctors choose to work part time, and 9% of male doctors choose part time. This only exacerbates the doctor shortage in America, as the field continues to grow in favor of a female ratio.
Other healthcare jobs with good pay are dominated by women:
87% of all registered nurses are women.
88.8% of nurse practitioners and 78% of physician assistant students are women (average 130K salary).
https://www.ama-assn.org/education/medical-school-diversity/women-medical-schools-dig-latest-record-breaking-numbers
4.)
Women are living longer and longer than men.
As life expectancy at birth in the US decreased for the second consecutive year, from 78.8 years (2019) to 77.0 years (2020) and 76.1 years (2021), the gap between women and men widened to 5.8 years, its LARGEST since 1996 and an INCREASE from a low of 4.8 years in 2010.
https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamainternalmedicine/fullarticle/2811338#:~:text=As%20life%20expectancy%20at%20birth,of%204.8%20years%20in%202010.
5.)
Healthcare funding is heavily slanted towards women. Example:
The NIH spending for prostate cancer in 2015 was US$288 million, which is LESS THAN HALF that for breast cancer…The difference between public funding and disease burden is even more striking in the case of COPD: NIH invested a mere US$97 million, almost SEVEN TIMES LESS than for breast cancer, although COPD killed 292,000 Americans, SIX TIMES MORE than breast cancer.
https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamainternalmedicine/fullarticle/2811338#:~:text=As%20life%20expectancy%20at%20birth,of%204.8%20years%20in%202010.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5836059/#:~:text=The%20NIH%20spending%20for%20prostate,43%2C000%20people%20died%20from%20it.
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1.)
Teachers give higher grades to girls than to boys with the same academic ability. And the bias is evident across different types of schools and for different teacher characteristics, suggesting teachers are hard-wired to give girls higher marks. The size of the gap is considerable and could have significant long-term consequences, both on college admission and employment prospects:
Researchers compared the results of standardized anonymous tests taken by almost 40,000 15 and 16-year-olds in language and math with the grades the same students were awarded in classroom tests. While the results of the anonymous tests followed the expected pattern, with girls outperforming boys in languages and boys doing better in math, in the non-anonymous classroom tests the girls scored higher in both subjects.
And the disparity could mean the difference between boys getting a pass and a fail in some subjects.
The average grade for girls in language was 6.6 out of 10, compared with 6.2 for boys, and in math it was 6.3 for girls and 5.9 for boys, just under the pass mark of 6.
https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/01425692.2022.2122942
https://www.forbes.com/sites/nickmorrison/2022/10/17/teachers-are-hard-wired-to-give-girls-better-grades-study-says/?sh=7f95fbef70a6
2.)
For the class of 2022, women comprised 58.6% of all bachelor degrees.
For the class of 2022, women comprised 57% of doctorate and professional degrees. As we know, people who have degrees tend to make more money, widening the growing pay gap between men and women.
https://educationdata.org/number-of-college-graduates
3.)
Working women already earn more than men on average, per hour:
The New York, Washington, D.C., and Los Angeles metropolitan areas are among the cities where young women are earning the most relative to young men. In both the New York and Washington metro areas, young women earn 102% of what young men earn when examining median annual earnings among full-time, year-round workers…
However, even among full-time, year-round workers, men and women devote DIFFERENT amounts of time to work. Men under 30 usually work 44 hours per week, on average, compared with 42 hours among young women.
https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2022/03/28/young-women-are-out-earning-young-men-in-several-u-s-cities/
In healthcare, at least 53.7% of the next generation of doctors are all women. One medical school even BOASTED about the fact that OVER 65% of its student doctors were female.
Please also keep in mind: 22% of women doctors choose to work part time, and 9% of male doctors choose part time. This only exacerbates the doctor shortage in America, as the field continues to grow in favor of a female ratio.
Other healthcare jobs with good pay are dominated by women:
87% of all registered nurses are women.
88.8% of nurse practitioners and 78% of physician assistant students are women (average 130K salary).
https://www.ama-assn.org/education/medical-school-diversity/women-medical-schools-dig-latest-record-breaking-numbers
4.)
Women are living longer and longer than men.
As life expectancy at birth in the US decreased for the second consecutive year, from 78.8 years (2019) to 77.0 years (2020) and 76.1 years (2021), the gap between women and men widened to 5.8 years, its LARGEST since 1996 and an INCREASE from a low of 4.8 years in 2010.
https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamainternalmedicine/fullarticle/2811338#:~:text=As%20life%20expectancy%20at%20birth,of%204.8%20years%20in%202010.
5.)
Healthcare funding is heavily slanted towards women. Example:
The NIH spending for prostate cancer in 2015 was US$288 million, which is LESS THAN HALF that for breast cancer…The difference between public funding and disease burden is even more striking in the case of COPD: NIH invested a mere US$97 million, almost SEVEN TIMES LESS than for breast cancer, although COPD killed 292,000 Americans, SIX TIMES MORE than breast cancer.
https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamainternalmedicine/fullarticle/2811338#:~:text=As%20life%20expectancy%20at%20birth,of%204.8%20years%20in%202010.
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5836059/#:~:text=The%20NIH%20spending%20for%20prostate,43%2C000%20people%20died%20from%20it.
2024.05.29 06:45 MaeyaShort How do I ‘20 MTF’ explain my feelings to my best friends ’21F’ and ‘22F’?
What should I do with my eagerness to be wanted? With some background I am Maeya ‘20MTF’ and I never new my bio dad ’40M’ he and my mom ‘40F’ were young and he was a coward and left. My mom met my first stepdad ‘41M’ (aka stepdad 1) when I was 5 yo. He is mostly traditional he understands what being gay is but other than that hates all of it. Where I was the black sheep of the family. And where my brother who is 5 years younger was the masculine son he wanted. At school I was the floater in social groups who could be anywhere. But that didn’t mean I could fit in anywhere. I am too awkward of a conversationalist and social situations aren’t my strong suit. The group I stayed with through high school had 4-5 people all male and we were all “pairs” in the group where I was the third part of a trio that would hangout after school. Because my gendesexuality I really had too decode whether I had a crush on a girl or I just wanted to be them thankfully most of the time it was the ladder but I knew I was mostly into women. But because I did grow up in a semi traditionalistic setting and my messed up social awkwardness I didn’t ask anyone out ever. Because I was male presenting but flamboyant I was either expected to ask them out or I was too feminine too be into women. Which resulted in a couple of times being pranked on by both guys and girls saying that some girl would be into me just to be fake. One was a high school dance and another was just a Sophomore joke. Sophomore year my Nana passed away from a stomach/intestinal cancer. And because of my paternal upbringing she was the consistent secondary guardian that was there from the beginning. Then Junior year my mom and stepdad dad 1 got a divorce and then the pandemic happened. Senior year began and I knew I needed too prepare too say goodbye too my old life and prepare to start a new one and my friends will find there own paths in life too. But I did expect us too have a way of communicating. My mom ended up meeting someone and remarried in January of 2021. October of 2020 one my friends passed away from an OD. The rest of us graduated class of 2021. One friend ended up becoming a hermit I tried reaching out but he didn’t come out of his house. I ended up going to the Navy in September of 2021 but had a leg injury in bootcamp and didn’t make it. While in bootcamp my family moved across the country Northwest to the South. So I ended up going with them once I was out of bootcamp. I ended up feeling alone and restless I just found a job and was in a rut. Then in July of 2022 another one of my friends died in a car crash. This made me determined too try something new like college but that ended up not working out mentally. But things at work were looking brighter. I did come as trans at this time. And seeing a dynamic duo of Hope ‘21F’ and Sophia ‘22F’. For this story you need to know has been in a relationship for 3 years. I knew Sophia since I started working their and seeing her and Hope more at work and hearing about there night outs during the summer of 2023 when both turned 21 was something I wanted to be a part of as a friendship. It was difficult for me too articulate it especially when I am an outsider in so many ways but they said they’ll take me in. This was January of 2024. Due to the weather there wasn’t much communication but I did make plans to go out to a club as a first time being full femme and it was a time to tackle my gender anxieties but not my social anxieties so I wasn’t as social as I would’ve liked. Then after that Hope has had a lot of new adulting things this year from insurance, dental, a new car, and ending a three year relationship because of online betrayal.
When she broke up with her boyfriend I knew she was physically the most beautiful person inside and out I’ve ever seen but because of how well oiled her relationship seemed too be I never truly paid attention to this feeling. She is the center of the group and has constantly people wanting to hangout with her. But she was ranting how she is so bad at responding to people because there seems too be so much responsibility. With that every time I reach out she does respond in reasonable measure. But the only time I’ve been messaged by Hope or Sophia it’s too see if I can come in too cover someone else at work who called out. I know it’s not intentional. I didn’t tell Hope about the lack of communication. But I did explain my feelings and I knew she experimented once or twice and she doesn’t float that way but I have feelings for her and don’t know if they’ll go away but I’ve already accepted the facts and she means more too me than my own feelings and I’m willing too stay friends but just wanted too be honest with her and not do something stupid. She was completely understanding and as expected she viewed me as more of a sister and I completely understood and accepted. But now there is this growing communication issue where so many people want to be a part of Hope and Sophia’s click that I am having no communication in general because of my social anxieties, lack of experience in the South, am for and can hangout around recreational use but don’t partake myself, and my fear of being “the single trans/gay person of the group”. Because of those things I see people who do want to be a part of their click being shown more effort because they fit their vibe/vibe of their hangout and I don’t know what to do. From confessing my feelings to Hope and these communication issues I just realize I’ve had a few number 1 friends but I was nobody’s number 1. But I’m not looking to be number 1 I just want to not be last thought to feel wanted. I just need to know how to communicate this without feeling like I am forcing them too because the last thing I want is too be a friend out of pity.
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When she broke up with her boyfriend I knew she was physically the most beautiful person inside and out I’ve ever seen but because of how well oiled her relationship seemed too be I never truly paid attention to this feeling. She is the center of the group and has constantly people wanting to hangout with her. But she was ranting how she is so bad at responding to people because there seems too be so much responsibility. With that every time I reach out she does respond in reasonable measure. But the only time I’ve been messaged by Hope or Sophia it’s too see if I can come in too cover someone else at work who called out. I know it’s not intentional. I didn’t tell Hope about the lack of communication. But I did explain my feelings and I knew she experimented once or twice and she doesn’t float that way but I have feelings for her and don’t know if they’ll go away but I’ve already accepted the facts and she means more too me than my own feelings and I’m willing too stay friends but just wanted too be honest with her and not do something stupid. She was completely understanding and as expected she viewed me as more of a sister and I completely understood and accepted. But now there is this growing communication issue where so many people want to be a part of Hope and Sophia’s click that I am having no communication in general because of my social anxieties, lack of experience in the South, am for and can hangout around recreational use but don’t partake myself, and my fear of being “the single trans/gay person of the group”. Because of those things I see people who do want to be a part of their click being shown more effort because they fit their vibe/vibe of their hangout and I don’t know what to do. From confessing my feelings to Hope and these communication issues I just realize I’ve had a few number 1 friends but I was nobody’s number 1. But I’m not looking to be number 1 I just want to not be last thought to feel wanted. I just need to know how to communicate this without feeling like I am forcing them too because the last thing I want is too be a friend out of pity.
2024.05.29 06:44 CaptainTinyDragon I need to tell someone about this.
I don’t know where else to say this. No one believes me, no one that hasn’t seen it already. But I have to say something so here it is and the world can decide.
I was a good worker. I showed up for my shifts and did what my written job description said, never missed a day or a chance for a day off. My goal was to be average, to not be good enough to noticed and given more responsibilities, but also not be bad enough to be noticed and put on watch. It’s what I’ve done all my life. Fly under the radar, be easily missed during inspections and blend into the crowd. I got B’s in school, had no intention of going to college or university, not like I’d ever be able to afford it, just wanted a secure job to let me afford my underachieving lifestyle. Took me almost ten years to find something like that, drifitng from one job to another, leaving when too many people started to notice I was much better at the job than I let on.
And eventually I found the perfect fit for myself. I was an overnight security operator, don’t get excited it’s a fancy title for spending all night watching security monitors, for a commuter train. I can’t say which one or where for the safety of others and myself. The job was simple, watch the camera feeds of my designated train and write a report for anything unusual. On a rare occasion make a statement to the police, and I mean rare occasion. In my five years doing that job I spoke to the police maybe twice before the incident.
I think that’s enough background so onto the point. It was a regular Thursday night, shift started at 10pm, working with Larry, Bob, and Sue (not their real names for their safety and more importantly, mine) watching the cameras. Made some notes, forgotten umbrella (wasn’t raining), camera glitch, group of 4 drunk men, person in hoodie doing the drug addict lean (you know the one). The camera glitch was expected, an extension to the rail line was recently completed which included a very long tunnel through a hill side, which about the middle of it was so deep that the cameras would cut out for about 2-3 seconds. It was actually pretty amazing that we got any signal from the trains in the tunnel at all. The wonders of signal boosters. But something about that night caught my attention. I didn’t know what it was at first, just felt something was off. I ignored it that night because at 3 am, everything feels weird. At the end of the shift, about 930am I made my report for the night, handed the desk over to Bill (again, not their real name) and went home on the same train system I monitored.
But the feeling was still in my head. Something happened on the train that night that I wasn’t consciously aware of. I ignored it still, drank my favorite cheap whiskey and went to bed. The feeling stayed with me the next few days. That damned feeling that you know something isn’t right but you can’t figure out. It’s like when you accidently put your phone in a different pocket than normal. So finally on Monday night (you have no idea how busy security monitors get on weekends) when my trains were in the depot getting cleaned I brought up the Thursday night footage and scrolled through it. Same things I made note of were there but the feeling was still there. So I went through it again. And again. The fifth time through I finally found it.
On the third wagon, almost in the blindspot between the cameras, at 2:58am was a regular person just playing a game on their phone. The camera glitched for 2 seconds, and they were gone. I though maybe they just moved completely into the blindspot but no, they were gone. Didn’t get off the train, didn’t reappear. I checked the entire recording of the night. I had no idea what to do. I should have told someone, or made a report, or anything. Instead, I told myself that was really weird and kept doing my thing. Flying under the radar, trying to be mostly invisible.
Two weeks later on Monday night, I saw it again. The camera glitch, and someone disappearing. I scrolled back the footage to make sure. Again, I did nothing. This time telling myself it was just shadows on the lense or the plastic bubble around the camera was dirty. But you know what they say; once is odd, twice is a coincidence, thrice is a pattern. The third time I did something. I made a report. Yeah, real brave i know. Making a comment about “shadows on the lense after tunnel glitch” on my daily report. But that night I started looking into missing people cases. Larry asked what I was doing, I said reading the news while my train was getting cleaned. Better than Bob, who was usually watching youtube and/or playing games on his phone while his train was still making rounds.
Anyways, I found some leads. 3 missing people, last seen heading to the public commuter train before disappearing. But there were more, so many more. Dozens over the past several years, all last seen heading into the area above the new tunnel. Unsurprisingly, they had all been alone at the time.
I won’t go into detail about how this troubled me for nearly a year. Just know that eventually curiosity got its way. On a night off I got my jacket and went out to a train station. Late spring night, a bit colder than prefered, 2am train. The last circuit before this train would make for the depot for maintenance. And I was on it. It would take nearly an hour to reach the tunnel and I was scared but I had to know. Like all those times you watch or read some horror and the character starts reaching for the obviously dangerous thing, you mock them endlessly but I understood now. Fear of the unknown is strong and just seeing what is obviously evil will help you put it out of your mind. But I knew the rules. Be ready to run, have two exits planned, don’t look back.
I sat near the door because I didn’t want to stand the whole time. And when the train finally barreled into the tunnel I started to regret my choice. It was nearly a mile long and just enough room for the train and a very brave worker on each side. I watched my watch 2:59am and ticking closer to 3am. Tick, tick, tick. Who knew a twenty year old analog watch could be so ominous? But then my watch stopped. I looked out the windows and the train had stopped. Not rolled to a stop like trains need to do, just complete dead stop and I didn’t notice. But the lights on the walls were stretched out, the effect that you can only see when you’re moving past them really fast in the dark. My first thought, being a sci-fi fan was that time stopped, yet I moved.
Then I heard a scream and footsteps at the end of the train behind me. I thought about the rules of survival I made and then thought about time being stopped, would the doors open? WOuld I be safe jumping from the train? I’ve seen what happens when someone gets clipped by a train (one of the reasons I had to speak to police) and it’s messy. I heard another scream, desperate and afraid, then the sound of someone tumbling to the floor and something scratching over the floor. A phone bounced off my foot and spun to a stop in front of me. I looked down at it as the screams behind mean grew more horrified and pained. I dared a look at the window to see the reflection of what was happening. And the best I can say is smoke pouring over someone but it was completely shredding the person like a blender but not making a noise and vacuuming up the shreds. Some mental fortitude I didn’t know about kept me from puking and stock still. The screams eventually came to a wet gurgling end and in the reflection I saw a pair of lights flick on in the smoke. Looking back they were eyes but in the moment they were two neon blue lights looking at the window, then making eye contact with me in the reflection. I held my breath.
The smoke soundlessly glided up the aisle and I kept still, not moving at all, keeping my eyes exactly were they were focused before. It drifted closer and closer to me and by god I wanted to cry. It hovered there letting me catch a scent and I want to say it smelled like something burning, or like rot and death, or anything bad. But it was worse, so much worse. It smelled like cooked pork, lightly burnt. It hovered for what felt like hours beside me, I was desperate for air, my eyes were burning from not blinking and those neon lights were staring into my soul. Then the train wobbled as it passed a bend. I have no idea when the thing disappeared or when time resumed, felt like I blacked out for a moment but I know that's not what it was.
I sat there in my seat blinking and breathing deeply to recover. And then I looked down. The phone was still on the floor near my feet. I left it there but I kept staring at it, like when you notice broken glass on the ground and focus on it so you can avoid stepping in it. At the next station i got off the train and went to an always open fast food place. I got a coffee and started writing this. It would be two hours until a train back towards my apartment, one that takes the old long route around the tunnel.
I didn't sleep that day. How could I after watching someone get shredded and devoured? So I sat at my PC and wandered through my games library all day. Think I fell asleep a couple times for maybe an hour. Next night I went to work like normal, focused on my usual behavior. But after two hours I was called into my supervisor's office.
It was relatively normal, they check in with night shift people every few months to make sure we're doing okay. See if we want to change to day shift for mental health. Was all normal until he put his clipboard down and off to the side. He took a deep breath and looked at me, like really looked. That deep penetrating look when someone can see through your lies.
“You saw it.” He said. Three simple words that felt like he was telling me I had a fatal incurable illness. I just nodded. “You have two choices now. Like all of us that know. Either you leave and find a new job and never speak of the incident because you will be a suspect in the disappearance; or you keep doing your job as you always have but with a raise to ignore the camera glitches.” I sat for a while assuming I had to make a choice then and there.
That conversation has been burned into my brain. I still remember it verbatim. And I wish I could say I made the morally correct choice. But I'm an underachieving coward always looking to take the easy path. So I still watch the cameras through the night, but with some extra money to ignore the occasional camera glitch on the extension. I found out accidentally that Larry and Sue also knew about the incidents and made the same choice I did. And we all knew the same amount of nothing and we prefer it that way.
So that's why I'm putting this out there. Maybe someday someone better than me can figure this out.
I still can't eat pork.
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I was a good worker. I showed up for my shifts and did what my written job description said, never missed a day or a chance for a day off. My goal was to be average, to not be good enough to noticed and given more responsibilities, but also not be bad enough to be noticed and put on watch. It’s what I’ve done all my life. Fly under the radar, be easily missed during inspections and blend into the crowd. I got B’s in school, had no intention of going to college or university, not like I’d ever be able to afford it, just wanted a secure job to let me afford my underachieving lifestyle. Took me almost ten years to find something like that, drifitng from one job to another, leaving when too many people started to notice I was much better at the job than I let on.
And eventually I found the perfect fit for myself. I was an overnight security operator, don’t get excited it’s a fancy title for spending all night watching security monitors, for a commuter train. I can’t say which one or where for the safety of others and myself. The job was simple, watch the camera feeds of my designated train and write a report for anything unusual. On a rare occasion make a statement to the police, and I mean rare occasion. In my five years doing that job I spoke to the police maybe twice before the incident.
I think that’s enough background so onto the point. It was a regular Thursday night, shift started at 10pm, working with Larry, Bob, and Sue (not their real names for their safety and more importantly, mine) watching the cameras. Made some notes, forgotten umbrella (wasn’t raining), camera glitch, group of 4 drunk men, person in hoodie doing the drug addict lean (you know the one). The camera glitch was expected, an extension to the rail line was recently completed which included a very long tunnel through a hill side, which about the middle of it was so deep that the cameras would cut out for about 2-3 seconds. It was actually pretty amazing that we got any signal from the trains in the tunnel at all. The wonders of signal boosters. But something about that night caught my attention. I didn’t know what it was at first, just felt something was off. I ignored it that night because at 3 am, everything feels weird. At the end of the shift, about 930am I made my report for the night, handed the desk over to Bill (again, not their real name) and went home on the same train system I monitored.
But the feeling was still in my head. Something happened on the train that night that I wasn’t consciously aware of. I ignored it still, drank my favorite cheap whiskey and went to bed. The feeling stayed with me the next few days. That damned feeling that you know something isn’t right but you can’t figure out. It’s like when you accidently put your phone in a different pocket than normal. So finally on Monday night (you have no idea how busy security monitors get on weekends) when my trains were in the depot getting cleaned I brought up the Thursday night footage and scrolled through it. Same things I made note of were there but the feeling was still there. So I went through it again. And again. The fifth time through I finally found it.
On the third wagon, almost in the blindspot between the cameras, at 2:58am was a regular person just playing a game on their phone. The camera glitched for 2 seconds, and they were gone. I though maybe they just moved completely into the blindspot but no, they were gone. Didn’t get off the train, didn’t reappear. I checked the entire recording of the night. I had no idea what to do. I should have told someone, or made a report, or anything. Instead, I told myself that was really weird and kept doing my thing. Flying under the radar, trying to be mostly invisible.
Two weeks later on Monday night, I saw it again. The camera glitch, and someone disappearing. I scrolled back the footage to make sure. Again, I did nothing. This time telling myself it was just shadows on the lense or the plastic bubble around the camera was dirty. But you know what they say; once is odd, twice is a coincidence, thrice is a pattern. The third time I did something. I made a report. Yeah, real brave i know. Making a comment about “shadows on the lense after tunnel glitch” on my daily report. But that night I started looking into missing people cases. Larry asked what I was doing, I said reading the news while my train was getting cleaned. Better than Bob, who was usually watching youtube and/or playing games on his phone while his train was still making rounds.
Anyways, I found some leads. 3 missing people, last seen heading to the public commuter train before disappearing. But there were more, so many more. Dozens over the past several years, all last seen heading into the area above the new tunnel. Unsurprisingly, they had all been alone at the time.
I won’t go into detail about how this troubled me for nearly a year. Just know that eventually curiosity got its way. On a night off I got my jacket and went out to a train station. Late spring night, a bit colder than prefered, 2am train. The last circuit before this train would make for the depot for maintenance. And I was on it. It would take nearly an hour to reach the tunnel and I was scared but I had to know. Like all those times you watch or read some horror and the character starts reaching for the obviously dangerous thing, you mock them endlessly but I understood now. Fear of the unknown is strong and just seeing what is obviously evil will help you put it out of your mind. But I knew the rules. Be ready to run, have two exits planned, don’t look back.
I sat near the door because I didn’t want to stand the whole time. And when the train finally barreled into the tunnel I started to regret my choice. It was nearly a mile long and just enough room for the train and a very brave worker on each side. I watched my watch 2:59am and ticking closer to 3am. Tick, tick, tick. Who knew a twenty year old analog watch could be so ominous? But then my watch stopped. I looked out the windows and the train had stopped. Not rolled to a stop like trains need to do, just complete dead stop and I didn’t notice. But the lights on the walls were stretched out, the effect that you can only see when you’re moving past them really fast in the dark. My first thought, being a sci-fi fan was that time stopped, yet I moved.
Then I heard a scream and footsteps at the end of the train behind me. I thought about the rules of survival I made and then thought about time being stopped, would the doors open? WOuld I be safe jumping from the train? I’ve seen what happens when someone gets clipped by a train (one of the reasons I had to speak to police) and it’s messy. I heard another scream, desperate and afraid, then the sound of someone tumbling to the floor and something scratching over the floor. A phone bounced off my foot and spun to a stop in front of me. I looked down at it as the screams behind mean grew more horrified and pained. I dared a look at the window to see the reflection of what was happening. And the best I can say is smoke pouring over someone but it was completely shredding the person like a blender but not making a noise and vacuuming up the shreds. Some mental fortitude I didn’t know about kept me from puking and stock still. The screams eventually came to a wet gurgling end and in the reflection I saw a pair of lights flick on in the smoke. Looking back they were eyes but in the moment they were two neon blue lights looking at the window, then making eye contact with me in the reflection. I held my breath.
The smoke soundlessly glided up the aisle and I kept still, not moving at all, keeping my eyes exactly were they were focused before. It drifted closer and closer to me and by god I wanted to cry. It hovered there letting me catch a scent and I want to say it smelled like something burning, or like rot and death, or anything bad. But it was worse, so much worse. It smelled like cooked pork, lightly burnt. It hovered for what felt like hours beside me, I was desperate for air, my eyes were burning from not blinking and those neon lights were staring into my soul. Then the train wobbled as it passed a bend. I have no idea when the thing disappeared or when time resumed, felt like I blacked out for a moment but I know that's not what it was.
I sat there in my seat blinking and breathing deeply to recover. And then I looked down. The phone was still on the floor near my feet. I left it there but I kept staring at it, like when you notice broken glass on the ground and focus on it so you can avoid stepping in it. At the next station i got off the train and went to an always open fast food place. I got a coffee and started writing this. It would be two hours until a train back towards my apartment, one that takes the old long route around the tunnel.
I didn't sleep that day. How could I after watching someone get shredded and devoured? So I sat at my PC and wandered through my games library all day. Think I fell asleep a couple times for maybe an hour. Next night I went to work like normal, focused on my usual behavior. But after two hours I was called into my supervisor's office.
It was relatively normal, they check in with night shift people every few months to make sure we're doing okay. See if we want to change to day shift for mental health. Was all normal until he put his clipboard down and off to the side. He took a deep breath and looked at me, like really looked. That deep penetrating look when someone can see through your lies.
“You saw it.” He said. Three simple words that felt like he was telling me I had a fatal incurable illness. I just nodded. “You have two choices now. Like all of us that know. Either you leave and find a new job and never speak of the incident because you will be a suspect in the disappearance; or you keep doing your job as you always have but with a raise to ignore the camera glitches.” I sat for a while assuming I had to make a choice then and there.
That conversation has been burned into my brain. I still remember it verbatim. And I wish I could say I made the morally correct choice. But I'm an underachieving coward always looking to take the easy path. So I still watch the cameras through the night, but with some extra money to ignore the occasional camera glitch on the extension. I found out accidentally that Larry and Sue also knew about the incidents and made the same choice I did. And we all knew the same amount of nothing and we prefer it that way.
So that's why I'm putting this out there. Maybe someday someone better than me can figure this out.
I still can't eat pork.
2024.05.29 06:44 Local-Assignment-657 Clarifying some questions about EB2-NIW and "Retrogate" dates
Hi, I'm new to the process of EB2. I'm planning to petition for EB2. I'm from the ROW (Rest of World, so not India, China, Mexico, not Philipines). I am working with a law firm (Chen) and they said I shouldn't have an issue with EB2-NIW and applying for I-140.
However, as I understand, even though I can get the I-140 approved quickly (say 15-30 days), I cannot apply for I-485 (the actual green card) until my date is "Current". According to this Bulletin, the current May 2024 Bulletin is 15 February 2023.
So If I get my I-140 in (say) June or July 2024, does this mean I have to wait (roughly) 15 months. I also understand that 1 month real time =/= 1 month progress in the Bulletin.
I am graduating from my PhD in 2-3 years, and so I was wondering if in 2-3 years, this should be plenty of time for my time to be "current", or if some event happened from Feb 23 - Now where there was a "big" increase that would make it unlikely in 2-3 years to have the date (now) current?
Sorry for the long question!
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However, as I understand, even though I can get the I-140 approved quickly (say 15-30 days), I cannot apply for I-485 (the actual green card) until my date is "Current". According to this Bulletin, the current May 2024 Bulletin is 15 February 2023.
So If I get my I-140 in (say) June or July 2024, does this mean I have to wait (roughly) 15 months. I also understand that 1 month real time =/= 1 month progress in the Bulletin.
I am graduating from my PhD in 2-3 years, and so I was wondering if in 2-3 years, this should be plenty of time for my time to be "current", or if some event happened from Feb 23 - Now where there was a "big" increase that would make it unlikely in 2-3 years to have the date (now) current?
Sorry for the long question!
2024.05.29 06:43 14n_ What is the best job position I could realistically attain with my current experience?
Just to preface, In 2 months I will be 26, single, my lease will be up, and I am planning on resigning my current position. I have no ties to any particular city so I am down to move anywhere in the world for a good job and fun experience.
im going to copy and paste my resume below
• Preforming maintenance and repair on 42 experiential
automated machines.
• Operating, maintaining, and improving battery cell
manufacturing machinery.
• Assuring quality through visual, chemical, radiation, and
helium testing.
• Logging multiple quality spreadsheets and running SQL
queries of around 500 parts daily.
• Expertise in troubleshooting and minimizing downtime.
• Operating Laser welding, ultrasonic welding, X-ray, automated
quality testing, automated electrolyte pumping, and automated
microscopic visual testing machines.
• Led training for new team members.
• First class of Workplace Trainers.
• HMI competency and Beckhoff TwinCat UI
• A flexible approach to work assignments, willingly crosstraining in 11 manufacturing areas to support changing
production needs.
• Improved product quality by adhering to strict quality control
measures, conducting inspections, and promptly addressing any
issues.
Cleaning, filleting, preparing and displaying raw fish and
shellfish
•
• Preparing meals and cooking fish and shellfish
Increased sales by explaining characteristics and providing
serving suggestions for various seafood items.
•
Ensured freshness of seafood products by conducting regular
inventory checks and maintaining proper storage conditions.
•
Upheld the highest standards of cleanliness throughout the
department, performing daily sanitation tasks such as
washing cutting boards, utensils, display cases, and work
surfaces.
Monitored inventory of supplies and purchased orders to
maintain adequate stock levels.
•
Proved successful working within tight deadlines and a
fast-paced environment.
•
Successfully managed multiple projects simultaneously by
prioritizing tasks according to urgency, resource availability,
and alignment with organizational goals.
•
Traveled nationally for company needs and on-site direction /
management.
•
• Planned, designed, and scheduled phases for large projects.
Met project deadlines without sacrificing build quality or
workplace safety.
•
• Track record of under-budget, ahead-of-schedule projects
Lead design and engineering of high-speed networking
infrastructures and other electrical systems.
•
Delivered exceptional customer satisfaction by proactively
addressing client concerns and meeting or exceeding
expectations throughout the engagement process.
•
Provided detailed technical and operational direction in
project challenges, consistently meeting deliverables
according to deadlines and budget restrictions.
•
Sourced, vetted and managed vendors needed to accomplish
project goals.
•
Analyzed project performance data to identify areas of
improvement.
•
Recruited and oversaw personnel to achieve performance
and quality targets.
•
• August 17th declared "Ian Perez Day" in Georgetown, Texas
Acknowledgement from Texas Senate through State
Proclamation No. 756
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im going to copy and paste my resume below
Work History
Tesla - Production Associate
Austin • 01/2023 - Current• Preforming maintenance and repair on 42 experiential
automated machines.
• Operating, maintaining, and improving battery cell
manufacturing machinery.
• Assuring quality through visual, chemical, radiation, and
helium testing.
• Logging multiple quality spreadsheets and running SQL
queries of around 500 parts daily.
• Expertise in troubleshooting and minimizing downtime.
• Operating Laser welding, ultrasonic welding, X-ray, automated
quality testing, automated electrolyte pumping, and automated
microscopic visual testing machines.
• Led training for new team members.
• First class of Workplace Trainers.
• HMI competency and Beckhoff TwinCat UI
• A flexible approach to work assignments, willingly crosstraining in 11 manufacturing areas to support changing
production needs.
• Improved product quality by adhering to strict quality control
measures, conducting inspections, and promptly addressing any
issues.
HEB - Fishmonger
Georgetown, TX • 06/2018 - 11/2022Cleaning, filleting, preparing and displaying raw fish and
shellfish
•
• Preparing meals and cooking fish and shellfish
Increased sales by explaining characteristics and providing
serving suggestions for various seafood items.
•
Ensured freshness of seafood products by conducting regular
inventory checks and maintaining proper storage conditions.
•
Upheld the highest standards of cleanliness throughout the
department, performing daily sanitation tasks such as
washing cutting boards, utensils, display cases, and work
surfaces.
Gigabit Technologies - Project Manager
Houston, TX • 07/2014 - 01/2020Monitored inventory of supplies and purchased orders to
maintain adequate stock levels.
•
Proved successful working within tight deadlines and a
fast-paced environment.
•
Successfully managed multiple projects simultaneously by
prioritizing tasks according to urgency, resource availability,
and alignment with organizational goals.
•
Traveled nationally for company needs and on-site direction /
management.
•
• Planned, designed, and scheduled phases for large projects.
Met project deadlines without sacrificing build quality or
workplace safety.
•
• Track record of under-budget, ahead-of-schedule projects
Lead design and engineering of high-speed networking
infrastructures and other electrical systems.
•
Delivered exceptional customer satisfaction by proactively
addressing client concerns and meeting or exceeding
expectations throughout the engagement process.
•
Provided detailed technical and operational direction in
project challenges, consistently meeting deliverables
according to deadlines and budget restrictions.
•
Sourced, vetted and managed vendors needed to accomplish
project goals.
•
Analyzed project performance data to identify areas of
improvement.
•
Recruited and oversaw personnel to achieve performance
and quality targets.
•
HONORS AND AWARDS
• Eagle Scout - 2016• August 17th declared "Ian Perez Day" in Georgetown, Texas
Acknowledgement from Texas Senate through State
Proclamation No. 756
2024.05.29 06:42 that_nerd_kiki How do I convince my parents to get me professionally assessed for autism?
I (16f) am a Nigerian whose family lives in Europe. I have VERY traditional parents who have raised me the Nigerian way. Ever since I was a kid, my family has constantly complained about my behavior and traits. Since we have a very social culture there were lots of people to meet and places to and Nigeria's a very loud country. I have struggled with what I've been told is overstimulation for as long as I can remember. I got my glasses tinted to block out the light, se earplugs to try to sleep, and I basically have a rigid system and way of living. Moving to Europe was extremely hard for me as I just couldn't get used to it and I just became more stressed out, while my parents yelled at me for acting spoiled and not coming out of my shell. I also have a hard time in social settings and was bullied for it back home.
In my new school, I was given an exemption class with the school's counsellor as I was a new student and the only black person in my year (racism is real guys. I used to think it couldn't be that bad, but it do be that bad at times). Anyways, a few months ago, my counsellor asked me if I was stressed, as I look dull and expressionless most of the time, and I told her that's how I've looked for as long as I can remember, and my mom gets so worked up about the fact that I don't catch on the things or express myself differently. I also have a lot of 'babyish' habits that I've developed over the years that piss off my mom, as she thinks I should look and act responsible as the first, and be reliable, instead of going mute when people try to talk to me and having meltdowns over the smallest things.
I've now had a handful of meetings with my school's psychologist where I've been slowly learning to my manage my anxiety and find ways to make myself comfortable without making everyone else uncomfortable. I was told I'm a special needs kid, so I will be getting a special center to write my school leaving exams in where I can adjust the environment to my sensory needs and take breaks if I feel too overwhelmed. However, my parents needed to be called in for a meeting with the counsellor and psychologist over my physical and emotional support needs especially since I'll be going to college in September.
They agreed to the special center thing, but also think I've been brainwashed into thinking I'm a sick child and I need help. For context, Nigerians are extremely religious people so things like autism are seen as curses or spiritual warfare on the family. So according to them, I'm bringing evil spirits into the family so I have to go pray to God to deliver me from the bondage I'm in. (don't get me wrong, I'm Christian and I believe and live my life the way a good Christian should according to the bible, but I've read through most, if not all of it, and I don't see where thinking and having different behavioral needs from most people means I'm cursed or need deliverance). My counsellor says there isn't much she can do as I graduated last week so they can't start an application process for me, and besides I won't be able to do it on my own without parental consent.
I might finally have an answer to the questions I've had my whole life, but my parents are in apparent denial and don't look like they're gonna get out of it soon. What can I do?
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In my new school, I was given an exemption class with the school's counsellor as I was a new student and the only black person in my year (racism is real guys. I used to think it couldn't be that bad, but it do be that bad at times). Anyways, a few months ago, my counsellor asked me if I was stressed, as I look dull and expressionless most of the time, and I told her that's how I've looked for as long as I can remember, and my mom gets so worked up about the fact that I don't catch on the things or express myself differently. I also have a lot of 'babyish' habits that I've developed over the years that piss off my mom, as she thinks I should look and act responsible as the first, and be reliable, instead of going mute when people try to talk to me and having meltdowns over the smallest things.
I've now had a handful of meetings with my school's psychologist where I've been slowly learning to my manage my anxiety and find ways to make myself comfortable without making everyone else uncomfortable. I was told I'm a special needs kid, so I will be getting a special center to write my school leaving exams in where I can adjust the environment to my sensory needs and take breaks if I feel too overwhelmed. However, my parents needed to be called in for a meeting with the counsellor and psychologist over my physical and emotional support needs especially since I'll be going to college in September.
They agreed to the special center thing, but also think I've been brainwashed into thinking I'm a sick child and I need help. For context, Nigerians are extremely religious people so things like autism are seen as curses or spiritual warfare on the family. So according to them, I'm bringing evil spirits into the family so I have to go pray to God to deliver me from the bondage I'm in. (don't get me wrong, I'm Christian and I believe and live my life the way a good Christian should according to the bible, but I've read through most, if not all of it, and I don't see where thinking and having different behavioral needs from most people means I'm cursed or need deliverance). My counsellor says there isn't much she can do as I graduated last week so they can't start an application process for me, and besides I won't be able to do it on my own without parental consent.
I might finally have an answer to the questions I've had my whole life, but my parents are in apparent denial and don't look like they're gonna get out of it soon. What can I do?
2024.05.29 06:42 wingwingherro Pityriasis Rosea? Rash on stomach and back
Info: 35, Male, No medications/allergies
Rash first noticed as bigger circle on my chest roughly a month ago. Mostly on stomach (as pictured), a little on back and top of legs.
https://ibb.co/mhZKVtb https://ibb.co/WBnf2Nq
Isn't painful and was itchy when new patches showed up.
Something I need to be concerned about?
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Rash first noticed as bigger circle on my chest roughly a month ago. Mostly on stomach (as pictured), a little on back and top of legs.
https://ibb.co/mhZKVtb https://ibb.co/WBnf2Nq
Isn't painful and was itchy when new patches showed up.
Something I need to be concerned about?
2024.05.29 06:41 Sweet-Count2557 Best Place For Babymoon
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That's when cozy mountain retreats come into play... Cozy Mountain Retreats Located in the heart of the mountains, cozy retreats offer expecting couples a secluded and intimate getaway experience with over 80% of these accommodations boasting breathtaking views. These peaceful cabin rentals provide a perfect escape from the hustle and bustle of everyday life. Nestled among towering trees and surrounded by nature's beauty, these mountain retreats create an atmosphere of tranquility that is ideal for babymooners. Imagine waking up to the sound of birds chirping and breathing in the crisp mountain air as you step outside your cabin. Serene lakeside escapes are just a short walk away, where you can spend your days lounging by the water or taking leisurely hikes along scenic trails. The cozy interiors of these retreats provide all the comforts of home, with plush furnishings and crackling fireplaces to keep you warm on chilly evenings. Whether you choose to spend your time relaxing on a private deck or exploring nearby towns, these cozy mountain retreats offer something for everyone. Indulge in spa treatments, enjoy gourmet meals prepared by private chefs, or simply unwind in a hot tub overlooking panoramic views. As you bid farewell to this serene oasis, get ready for another adventure as we delve into urban escapes for babymooners without losing any sense of relaxation and rejuvenation. Urban Escapes for Babymooners Immerse yourself in the vibrant energy of city life and experience a babymoon like no other, where bustling streets and trendy neighborhoods become the backdrop for your urban escape. City exploration takes on a whole new meaning as you venture out to discover hidden gems, iconic landmarks, and indulge in world-class cuisine. When it comes to luxury accommodations, urban escapes offer a wide range of options that cater to every taste. From sleek boutique hotels nestled in the heart of downtown to luxurious high-rise apartments with breathtaking views of the city skyline, there is something for everyone. Pamper yourself with spa treatments, enjoy rooftop cocktails at sunset, or simply relax in style as you prepare for the arrival of your little one. To help you plan your ultimate babymoon getaway, here's a curated list of some top-notch urban destinations: DestinationHighlightsAccommodationsNew York CityBroadway showsLuxury hotelsTokyoHigh-tech wondersBoutique hotelsParisRomantic ambianceCharming B&BsSydneyStunning beachesLuxury resortsBarcelonaArt and architectureStylish apartments As you explore these incredible cities, don't forget to take time to learn about their cultural and historical destinations. Cultural and Historical Destinations As you wander through the vibrant streets of these urban escapes, prepare to be transported back in time as you uncover the rich cultural and historical destinations that each city has to offer. These cities are not just known for their modern amenities and bustling city life, but also for their deep-rooted history and cultural heritage. From UNESCO World Heritage sites to ancient ruins exploration, there is something for every history enthusiast. In these cultural and historical destinations, you can marvel at the architectural wonders of ancient civilizations or immerse yourself in the stories of past empires. Explore magnificent temples and palaces adorned with intricate carvings, walk along cobblestone streets lined with colorful colonial buildings, or visit museums that showcase centuries-old artifacts. Whether you're strolling through the narrow alleyways of Rome's historic center, admiring the awe-inspiring pyramids in Cairo, or exploring the majestic Angkor Wat complex in Siem Reap, each destination will leave you captivated by its rich past. Now it's time to relax and unwind at all-inclusive resorts for ultimate relaxation. All-Inclusive Resorts for Ultimate Relaxation Indulge in the epitome of luxury and unwind at all-inclusive resorts, where every need is catered to for an ultimate relaxation experience. When it comes to planning a babymoon, finding the perfect destination that offers pampering and tranquility is essential. Look no further than spa retreats designed specifically for pampered babymoons. Imagine being enveloped in serene vibes as you step into a world of blissful treatments and rejuvenating therapies. These spa retreats offer a range of prenatal massages, facials, and body treatments tailored to meet your specific needs during this special time. Whether it's relieving pregnancy discomfort or simply indulging in some much-needed self-care, these spas have got you covered. For those seeking absolute privacy and seclusion, luxury resorts with private villas are the ideal choice for babymoon bliss. Imagine waking up to breathtaking views from your own secluded oasis, complete with a private pool and personalized service. These resorts provide the perfect backdrop for creating precious memories before your little one arrives. With their top-notch amenities, gourmet dining options, and luxurious accommodations, all-inclusive resorts truly offer the ultimate relaxation experience for expecting parents. So go ahead, treat yourself to some well-deserved pampering at one of these fantastic destinations. Your babymoon will be an unforgettable journey into pure bliss and relaxation. Frequently Asked Questions What are some recommended activities for babymoons at tropical beach getaways? As you embark on your tropical beach getaway, let the waves of relaxation wash over you like a gentle lullaby. Recommended activities for babymoons in this idyllic setting are plentiful. Take leisurely walks along the sandy shore, hand in hand with your partner, as the golden sun kisses your skin. Indulge in soothing prenatal massages and rejuvenating yoga sessions by the ocean. Embrace the blissful tranquility and create memories that'll last a lifetime. Are there any specific precautions or safety measures to consider when planning a babymoon at a cozy mountain retreat? When planning a babymoon at a cozy mountain retreat, it's important to take certain precautions and safety measures into account. Firstly, check the weather conditions and ensure you pack appropriate clothing and footwear. Be mindful of any altitude-related health concerns and consult with your healthcare provider beforehand. Additionally, research the accessibility of medical facilities in case of emergencies. Lastly, be cautious when engaging in physical activities such as hiking or skiing to avoid any potential risks to you and your baby. Which urban escapes for babymooners offer the best combination of relaxation and access to amenities? Looking for the perfect urban escape to relax during your babymoon? Look no further than these top destinations that offer a blissful combination of relaxation and access to amenities. From the bustling streets of New York City to the charming neighborhoods of San Francisco, these cities have it all. Enjoy spa treatments, indulge in delicious cuisine, and explore local attractions while taking in the vibrant energy of these babymoon-friendly destinations. Here are some tips for planning your unforgettable babymoon. Are there any cultural and historical destinations that are particularly baby-friendly and offer activities suitable for babymooners? If you're looking for a cultural and historical destination that is baby-friendly, there are plenty of options to consider. From exploring ancient ruins to visiting art museums, you can immerse yourself in the rich history of places like Rome, Athens, or Kyoto. Take leisurely walks through cobblestone streets and indulge in local cuisine while enjoying historical sightseeing. These destinations offer a perfect blend of cultural immersion and activities suitable for babymooners. What are the key features or services provided by all-inclusive resorts for ultimate relaxation that make them ideal for babymoons? For the ultimate relaxation on your babymoon, all-inclusive resorts offer key features and services that cater to your every need. With luxurious accommodations, you can unwind in style and comfort. Indulge in delectable cuisine at their gourmet restaurants, where world-class chefs create culinary masterpieces. Enjoy pampering spa treatments that'll leave you feeling rejuvenated and refreshed. Take advantage of their personalized service, ensuring that every detail is taken care of. All-inclusive resorts provide the perfect backdrop for your babymoon getaway. Conclusion So there you have it, expectant parents! Whether you and your partner prefer the sun-kissed beaches of a tropical paradise or the serene beauty of a cozy mountain retreat, there is a perfect babymoon spot waiting for you. If you're more drawn to the vibrant energy of an urban escape or the rich culture and history of a destination steeped in tradition, don't worry, there are options for you too. And let's not forget about those all-inclusive resorts that offer ultimate relaxation and pampering. So go ahead, indulge in some well-deserved rest and relaxation before your little one arrives. Happy babymooning! |
2024.05.29 06:40 rdk67 Spring Day 70: Policing and Reflective Authority
At the city council meeting – council chambers, they’re called – I hop up, take the mic when the time comes for public input about the budget. The council likes it more when we speak off the cuff, but I’m horrible about time constraints – I tend to over explain certain points so that when I look up at the clock – it’s a countdown clock, and you get precisely five minutes – I sometimes laugh out loud about the thirty seconds remaining or whatever. Thirty seconds? Isn’t it funny how time rules our lives? – what I want to say to the city council as an aside, then contemplate my conscious experience of time as a kid, a child, when bedtime was like a curse, an adversary, and I would read by flashlight, fall asleep on the facing pages. Summers were how long then? Years? How long ‘til holiday? Decades? Old folks were unimaginable, evidence of time travel.
Good evening, City Council – nice chambers.
If a budget is a moral document, then conversation about the budget is really a discussion about the sort of justice we seek as a community.
This is never truer than with the budget of the police – a vocation that collects evidence of alleged crimes, whether it’s a homicide or a speeding ticket, and which vocation assists the state’s attorney in prosecuting cases by providing a report, physical evidence and sometimes courtroom testimony.
Did you notice how I did not say police are here to protect us? It’s a popular misconception. As a long-time member of community courtwatch, I’ve attended hundreds of criminal court hearings, listened to all the details of crimes and debates about guilt and innocence, and it’s rarely the case that police protect anyone. Mainly they are professionals at collecting evidence.
In the course of their duties, the police also sometimes respond to alleged crimes in progress, in which case they also try to mitigate harm – this is the image of policing we know from movies and tv shows, and while this is helpful in some instances, such as domestic violence cases where no-contact orders are routine, mostly what the police do is compile evidence.
I grew up in a very gun-friendly household – the sort of farm family that has a small arsenal in a bedroom closet and knows how to use it. I was 7-years-old when I first fired a gun, and I was carrying a shotgun through the woods when I was 10. I try neither to be overly respectful nor idly dismissive of those who carry guns for a living.
What I can fairly say about anyone who carries a weapon in service to their vocation is that, as soon as the weapon comes out, any notion of a budget as a moral document vanishes, and the interactions that follow are about following commands, not justice.
Even when guns and tasers and pepper spray are simply present – on display but still holstered – the use-of-force premise significantly robs a situation of its capacity for justice.
Don’t try to talk your way out of a speeding ticket – we’ve all heard this advice. Always say yes sir and no ma’am when dealing with the police – we’ve all said this to young people – to help them stay out of trouble, we say. Staying out of trouble – this is what comes to mind when municipal authority is represented by its use-of-force potential.
When weapons are present during the interaction, concepts of neighborliness and reason will always take a backseat to use-of-force potential. This is why we can never count on policing, as a vocation, to improve community justice or public safety, even if they lived in the communities they patrol, which as we know, most policer officers don’t.
As we discuss the city’s budget, I would like you to imagine funding a community responder model in place of more police – one that has its own department, its own budget, its own pathways to promotion.
A community responder model consists of licensed social workers, trained in trauma-informed nonviolent communication, with an expertise in connecting clients with the resources they need to solve problems and be sustainable – more than just helping people stay out of trouble.
The community responder model uses a different form of authority, which we call reflectivity, which is about sharing information and talking things out. An estimated 73% of the calls for policer service in our city could be handled by community responders. These are calls about noisy neighbors, suspicious persons, mental health crises, overgrown lawns.
As an activist, I know that institution building is not what government bodies like to do – they prefer to do almost anything but build new institutions. In practice, this means funding what’s already there, which are known quantities, even if they are also less effective than alternatives.
So I’m here asking you all to take on the hard task, go the extra step and assume the extra risk – by building a post-policing institution based on the community responder model.
By investing in nonviolent forms of authority, when and where we can, we do more than promote a law-abiding citizenry. We create the basis by which residents are more likely to trust municipal authority, are more willing to engage in nonviolent communication skills themselves, and are readier to think about what it means to make our city a better place to live.
This is the promise of building out a community responder model. More than closing criminal cases or impelling people to do as they’re told, we create the foundation for a new municipal authority premised on nonviolent intervention.
I urge you to ratify a budget that strongly supports a community responder model in place of traditional policing – thank you.
The mayor in response to my address – she has done this on more than one occasion after I’ve spoken – stopped the proceedings to wonder aloud how many members of the public planned to speak. There was a show of hands, then public comment continued. See, they have this rule related to time and the number of speakers, but in reality, it’s like she wants to say: how much more of this will I have to take? When I think it through later, I realize another interpretation is that she’s said to herself – bravo, bravo, this metaphysical weather reporter just said it all, I’ve made up my mind – I need hear no more! I wouldn’t feel comforted by that response either, though the mood of the chambers suggested this was unlikely. A dozen people spoke against extra funding for the police, some from the perspective of having been brutalized by police.
I fantasize about opening a coffee shop themed around tonight’s premise – daily disquisition by the patrons of the coffee shop about no extra funding for police. Day after day, week after week, regulars and total strangers would take the stage in one corner of the room to explain why there should be no extra funding for police. Sure, some people might have particular police officers in mind, certain agencies that bug them more than others, but the orators would be encouraged to speak against use-of-force as a form of authority generally. When we think of heaven, when we have visions of the good life for everyone, the sort of authority you won’t find is use-of-force – by definition, everyone feels welcome to be there, feels heard. True, we may be wise enough not to wish for heaven on earth, but let’s remember – better forms of authority than policing exist.
Afterthought: The mayor questions the figure of 73% in her public thoughts on the matter, and I agree the projections need to be taken apart, made accurate, but I find it just as likely over time that the percentage will be higher than that. A constricted police department – with specialized duties in the community – would be a sign of a new concept of reflective authority. I believe we are at a moment in history where that change can take place at the level of municipal authority, whatever the initial workload looks like.
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Good evening, City Council – nice chambers.
If a budget is a moral document, then conversation about the budget is really a discussion about the sort of justice we seek as a community.
This is never truer than with the budget of the police – a vocation that collects evidence of alleged crimes, whether it’s a homicide or a speeding ticket, and which vocation assists the state’s attorney in prosecuting cases by providing a report, physical evidence and sometimes courtroom testimony.
Did you notice how I did not say police are here to protect us? It’s a popular misconception. As a long-time member of community courtwatch, I’ve attended hundreds of criminal court hearings, listened to all the details of crimes and debates about guilt and innocence, and it’s rarely the case that police protect anyone. Mainly they are professionals at collecting evidence.
In the course of their duties, the police also sometimes respond to alleged crimes in progress, in which case they also try to mitigate harm – this is the image of policing we know from movies and tv shows, and while this is helpful in some instances, such as domestic violence cases where no-contact orders are routine, mostly what the police do is compile evidence.
I grew up in a very gun-friendly household – the sort of farm family that has a small arsenal in a bedroom closet and knows how to use it. I was 7-years-old when I first fired a gun, and I was carrying a shotgun through the woods when I was 10. I try neither to be overly respectful nor idly dismissive of those who carry guns for a living.
What I can fairly say about anyone who carries a weapon in service to their vocation is that, as soon as the weapon comes out, any notion of a budget as a moral document vanishes, and the interactions that follow are about following commands, not justice.
Even when guns and tasers and pepper spray are simply present – on display but still holstered – the use-of-force premise significantly robs a situation of its capacity for justice.
Don’t try to talk your way out of a speeding ticket – we’ve all heard this advice. Always say yes sir and no ma’am when dealing with the police – we’ve all said this to young people – to help them stay out of trouble, we say. Staying out of trouble – this is what comes to mind when municipal authority is represented by its use-of-force potential.
When weapons are present during the interaction, concepts of neighborliness and reason will always take a backseat to use-of-force potential. This is why we can never count on policing, as a vocation, to improve community justice or public safety, even if they lived in the communities they patrol, which as we know, most policer officers don’t.
As we discuss the city’s budget, I would like you to imagine funding a community responder model in place of more police – one that has its own department, its own budget, its own pathways to promotion.
A community responder model consists of licensed social workers, trained in trauma-informed nonviolent communication, with an expertise in connecting clients with the resources they need to solve problems and be sustainable – more than just helping people stay out of trouble.
The community responder model uses a different form of authority, which we call reflectivity, which is about sharing information and talking things out. An estimated 73% of the calls for policer service in our city could be handled by community responders. These are calls about noisy neighbors, suspicious persons, mental health crises, overgrown lawns.
As an activist, I know that institution building is not what government bodies like to do – they prefer to do almost anything but build new institutions. In practice, this means funding what’s already there, which are known quantities, even if they are also less effective than alternatives.
So I’m here asking you all to take on the hard task, go the extra step and assume the extra risk – by building a post-policing institution based on the community responder model.
By investing in nonviolent forms of authority, when and where we can, we do more than promote a law-abiding citizenry. We create the basis by which residents are more likely to trust municipal authority, are more willing to engage in nonviolent communication skills themselves, and are readier to think about what it means to make our city a better place to live.
This is the promise of building out a community responder model. More than closing criminal cases or impelling people to do as they’re told, we create the foundation for a new municipal authority premised on nonviolent intervention.
I urge you to ratify a budget that strongly supports a community responder model in place of traditional policing – thank you.
The mayor in response to my address – she has done this on more than one occasion after I’ve spoken – stopped the proceedings to wonder aloud how many members of the public planned to speak. There was a show of hands, then public comment continued. See, they have this rule related to time and the number of speakers, but in reality, it’s like she wants to say: how much more of this will I have to take? When I think it through later, I realize another interpretation is that she’s said to herself – bravo, bravo, this metaphysical weather reporter just said it all, I’ve made up my mind – I need hear no more! I wouldn’t feel comforted by that response either, though the mood of the chambers suggested this was unlikely. A dozen people spoke against extra funding for the police, some from the perspective of having been brutalized by police.
I fantasize about opening a coffee shop themed around tonight’s premise – daily disquisition by the patrons of the coffee shop about no extra funding for police. Day after day, week after week, regulars and total strangers would take the stage in one corner of the room to explain why there should be no extra funding for police. Sure, some people might have particular police officers in mind, certain agencies that bug them more than others, but the orators would be encouraged to speak against use-of-force as a form of authority generally. When we think of heaven, when we have visions of the good life for everyone, the sort of authority you won’t find is use-of-force – by definition, everyone feels welcome to be there, feels heard. True, we may be wise enough not to wish for heaven on earth, but let’s remember – better forms of authority than policing exist.
Afterthought: The mayor questions the figure of 73% in her public thoughts on the matter, and I agree the projections need to be taken apart, made accurate, but I find it just as likely over time that the percentage will be higher than that. A constricted police department – with specialized duties in the community – would be a sign of a new concept of reflective authority. I believe we are at a moment in history where that change can take place at the level of municipal authority, whatever the initial workload looks like.
2024.05.29 06:39 Away_Cheetah8612 My best friend’s bf is being a stick in the mud about throwing her a surprise party, do I throw it anyways?
About a week ago, I reached out to my best friend (26f)’s bf (25m) about throwing her a surprise birthday party. My idea is to throw her a surprise birthday party that is “dad rock themed” because that is the type of music she grew up listening to and is her comfort genre. Ideally, we would all dress up as rock/grunge stars or dads as a joke and play funny dad themed games, bbq, cornhole, etc. My best friend is also my roommate so I want to throw it at our house.
I reached out to my best friend’s mom, who said she thought my best friend would love the idea and let me know she will help with anything I need to make it happen.
However, when I reached out to my best friend’s bf about this, he reacted way differently than I thought. His first concern that he expressed was who all was coming because he doesn’t know how many friends she has to invite. I told him I planned to invite a mix of her family, coworkers, mutual friends, and my bf and him. In total, it wouldn’t be a lot of people, maybe 10. This wasn’t a concern for me because when she threw me a surprise party, there was less than 10 and I still had an amazing time with all of the people who loved me most. She has said many times she prefers smaller groups anyways.
I explained to him that it would just be a small kickback type situation, just bbq and music and good vibes. He responded that he didn’t think she would like it because those people wouldn’t “mesh well” and suggested I do a spa date or an escape room with her instead.
Here’s why I’m considering throwing the party anyways:
For some more context, this bf is in the music industry and when I asked him about doing the music for this party, he said it would be easy , but that he didn’t know if he wanted to do it because then he wouldn’t be able to also party.
I can’t help but feel like he is being selfish/ inconsiderate and projecting because he is a more introverted person and wouldn’t want that for himself . I don’t care if he helps or not but idk if I can pull this off without him, bc they are together so often.
Sorry if this was too long, but I’m new to Reddit . Open to honest opinions about this and any advice about how I can make her day special if not this party/ how I can go about this disagreement with her bf. I care about her so much and just want to take care of her the way she takes care of me. Is there even a compromise here?
TL,DR: My best friend’s bf and I disagree on what we should do for her birthday and I’m thinking of going with me idea despite his opinion. I feel like he is wrong but don’t know what to do.
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I reached out to my best friend’s mom, who said she thought my best friend would love the idea and let me know she will help with anything I need to make it happen.
However, when I reached out to my best friend’s bf about this, he reacted way differently than I thought. His first concern that he expressed was who all was coming because he doesn’t know how many friends she has to invite. I told him I planned to invite a mix of her family, coworkers, mutual friends, and my bf and him. In total, it wouldn’t be a lot of people, maybe 10. This wasn’t a concern for me because when she threw me a surprise party, there was less than 10 and I still had an amazing time with all of the people who loved me most. She has said many times she prefers smaller groups anyways.
I explained to him that it would just be a small kickback type situation, just bbq and music and good vibes. He responded that he didn’t think she would like it because those people wouldn’t “mesh well” and suggested I do a spa date or an escape room with her instead.
Here’s why I’m considering throwing the party anyways:
- She has never had a party thrown for her before and has been dropping hints like telling me what kind of cake she would like. When I straight up asked her the other day “would you like a surprise party? Or would you hate that?” She told me she didn’t know because she has never had anyone do something like that for her.
- She already did an escape room with him a while back and I wanted to do something more personal and special
- She had originally planned to go with her bf on their annual bday camping trip, but they cancelled it due to financial reasons (aka they both spent money going to HIS sister’s graduation)
- She is the type of person who is always taking care of everyone else and is always mentioning how it would be nice for people to do the same for her too
- I personally don’t think it is about the people that are there, but that it is about celebrating her for her day.
For some more context, this bf is in the music industry and when I asked him about doing the music for this party, he said it would be easy , but that he didn’t know if he wanted to do it because then he wouldn’t be able to also party.
I can’t help but feel like he is being selfish/ inconsiderate and projecting because he is a more introverted person and wouldn’t want that for himself . I don’t care if he helps or not but idk if I can pull this off without him, bc they are together so often.
Sorry if this was too long, but I’m new to Reddit . Open to honest opinions about this and any advice about how I can make her day special if not this party/ how I can go about this disagreement with her bf. I care about her so much and just want to take care of her the way she takes care of me. Is there even a compromise here?
TL,DR: My best friend’s bf and I disagree on what we should do for her birthday and I’m thinking of going with me idea despite his opinion. I feel like he is wrong but don’t know what to do.
2024.05.29 06:38 Difficle BENCH
Hello! I received a message from bench (idk if its the clothing brand or bench has their own lab) and they said that i passed their initial screening as medical technologist. They want me to attend an interview in BGC.
However, I don't recall sending resume to their company. Wala sa history ng linkedin, jobstreet, and even mails ko. Do you guys have the same encounter as mine?
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However, I don't recall sending resume to their company. Wala sa history ng linkedin, jobstreet, and even mails ko. Do you guys have the same encounter as mine?
2024.05.29 06:36 FoodSuper6447 Resume Feedback/Industry Advice
Looking to pivot into Finance/investments related jobs, probably as a financial instrument/market research/entry level analyst. Realised that I do not want to stay in the compliance space in the long-term.
Just recently started applying for jobs with no luck yet, seeking advice on how to improve on my resume / what positions can I try to apply for to step into the roles stated above.
Thanks everyone and appreciate the feedback and advice!
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Just recently started applying for jobs with no luck yet, seeking advice on how to improve on my resume / what positions can I try to apply for to step into the roles stated above.
Thanks everyone and appreciate the feedback and advice!
2024.05.29 06:33 NeatCarpet3348 PGH vs Provincial Hospital(s) GS residency
New passer here! I would like to ask lang what are my chances of entering PGH and is it worth it to be trained here or the training of public hospitals in GS are just almost the same? I graduated with honors from an "old" med school with huge population, decimals away from top 10, and also a PGH PGI although I don't t have a backer, no close residents during internship, non UP pre med. Kumabaga di ako nakapagpa-impress sa department nung nagrotate ako with them. I want to know if it's worth the hassle to fight again, or trainings in the province are at par with their training?
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2024.05.29 06:33 thecoolsean Deciding what to do with a relationship / friendship
I’ve been talking to someone for about 6 weeks now and we get along really well. We’ve been trying to figure out what we are and recently came to the decision to be friends. I know she really likes me, but I’m uncertain if I want to get into a relationship with her. I wrote a whole thing about her, basically all the reasons I like her and admire about her. The one problem is she’s graduating in 2 weeks moving across the state after and then I’m going to another country in three months. So realistically we won’t see each other for a significant amount of time. I don’t know if my feelings for her are strong enough to survive a long distance thing.
Whenever I think about dating her something feels off but I can’t find words to describe it. Another thing I have this idea in my head that I want to be single and explore this new country with no restraints which I feel is not a good headspace to be in if I were to get in a relationship with her.
With all that I feel somewhat confident to be friends with her but yet for some reason there’s still some uncertainty of the right decision. And a small part of me wants to date her.
Any thoughts or ways to think about it that can lead me to a decision?
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Whenever I think about dating her something feels off but I can’t find words to describe it. Another thing I have this idea in my head that I want to be single and explore this new country with no restraints which I feel is not a good headspace to be in if I were to get in a relationship with her.
With all that I feel somewhat confident to be friends with her but yet for some reason there’s still some uncertainty of the right decision. And a small part of me wants to date her.
Any thoughts or ways to think about it that can lead me to a decision?
2024.05.29 06:33 Brave-Relief-6743 Quick Question for Airbnb Hosts About Guest Communication Challenges
Hello Airbnb Host Community,
I'm a software developer currently researching ways to streamline the vacation rental experience for both hosts and guests. I have a few questions I'd appreciate your insights on:
Thank you in advance!
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I'm a software developer currently researching ways to streamline the vacation rental experience for both hosts and guests. I have a few questions I'd appreciate your insights on:
- What are some of the repetitive or mundane communication tasks you face each time you have a new guest staying at your property? For example, providing check-in instructions, explaining house rules, answering common FAQs, etc.
- Approximately how much time would you estimate you spend responding to guest inquiries and communications during a typical stay? Is this a significant time commitment for you?
- If there was a solution that could automate many of these routine guest communications through an AI-powered chatbot or virtual assistant, do you think that would provide a significant time-saving benefit for you as a host?
Thank you in advance!
2024.05.29 06:31 Smooth_Confection147 Has anyone had success with Yelp for your medical spa?
I see many Medical Spas on Yelp but in general, they have relatively few reviews. Some of the bigger chains run sponsored ads as well. I am curious to hear about your experience with using Yelp listings AND with Sponsored Ads.
Have you tried it? What works? What doesn't? What have you learned? How does it work with multiple locations? What if you are mobile and don't have a specific address? If this is part of your marketing mix, what percent of your business comes from help? What is the cost of getting a new client in the door from Yellp?
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Have you tried it? What works? What doesn't? What have you learned? How does it work with multiple locations? What if you are mobile and don't have a specific address? If this is part of your marketing mix, what percent of your business comes from help? What is the cost of getting a new client in the door from Yellp?