Anyone got any cool idea what kind of gift I could get a buddy of mine who's turning 24 and absolutely loves going to the tanning salon? A gift card to one would be a little boring!
Was thinking like a funny toy or replica mini tanning salon booth thingie but didn't find anything online
Would be willing to spend up to around 50 bucks

Hi all,
I thought I would leave this post as a sort of internet artifact for any of my fellow Australians who may be considering ordering Astrohaus products in the future. At the time of writing (May 2024) Astrohaus is not delivering directly to Australia. When I contacted Astrohaus about my inability to place an order for delivery to Australia (the items were being automatically removed from my cart during checkout), customer support at Astrohaus confirmed they were having problems with shipping to Australia and they were hoping to fix the issue in a few days. The problem was not fixed in a few days. At the time of posting, you still cannot ship to Australia directly from the Astrohaus website. This means if you want to buy a brand new product directly from Astrohaus, you will need to engage a shipping forwarding service. I chose US to Oz, as I have used them in the past and they don't operate on a membership model like other shipping forwarding services.
I placed my order with Astrohaus on May 6th, 2024. I ordered a Smart Typewriter 3rd Gen, Ink Edition along with the leather & felt sleeve (for just $15 USD with the code Cart-Sleeve23) and the extended 2 year warranty. I paid for express shipping through UPS, for a total of $865 USD. This ended up being approx $1373 AUD total with the current exchange rate. My order shipped to US to Oz in Oregon via UPS on May 7th, and the parcel arrived at it's destination in Oregon on Tuesday 14th May. There was one minor hiccup, where UPS incorrectly scanned the parcel as delivered prematurely and this created some confusion for a few days. US to Oz was fantastic though, letting me know within 24 hours of me raising the issue that my order had been delivered to their office and it had just been an error on the part of UPS. On the same day UPS delivered my order, US to Oz contacted me with my shipping and payment options. Once my payment had been processed, US to Oz re-packed and shipped my order via FedEx within 24 hours.
I was quoted four shipping options from US to Oz - FedEx Economy (delivery in 5 - 10 business days with or without insurance) and FedEx Priority (delivery in 3-5 business days with or without insurance). I went with the option of FedEx Priority with insurance, for a total of approx $238 USD/$350 AUD, which included US to Oz's fee (4.5% of total order value) for my approx 8lb/4kg package. It's worth noting than when it comes to prices for FedEx International Economy vs Priority, there was maybe $30 USD difference in the cost between the cheapest and most expensive option, which is why I chose Priority + insurance. US to Oz informed me I will also need to pay duties and taxes when my order arrives in Australia, with delivery projected for Monday 20th May 2024. Obviously, if you order a Traveler or Alpha your shipping will be considerably cheaper as they are much smaller and lighter than the Smart Typewriter. You might also avoid paying import duties & taxes if you go for the Traveler or Alpha as they are the less expensive models (the cutoff for avoiding import duties & taxes is orders under $1000 AUD in value).
I realise this post is very niche, but I wanted to share my experience so my fellow Aussies have a rough idea on the kind of cost it might take to get an Astrohaus product to Australia. If you are wanting the OG Smart Typewriter, be prepared to part with close to $2k AUD when all is said and done. I will either update this post or create a Part 2 and link this post once I have my Ink and have paid all the import duties/taxes.

Hi, me and my boyfriend are going to Sofia in exactly 1 month and since I like to plan ahead, I was wondering if anyone could suggest us activites ideas apart from the touristic ones, we are 19 and 24 so if there's like a club young people go to or other things, I'd like to know !

Looking for gift Ideas for my husband's upcoming birthday. His favorite build so far has been the tree house which thrilled him to bits. He enjoyed the unique aspects of each room in the tree house as well as the differing techniques used during the build. He enjoys adding light kits to his builds. He enjoys nature/plants/animals. Larger in size is fine, anything under 350 USD. Using a throwaway as I think he follows this sub.
TIA!

Hi all, I wanted to do a quick sanity check.
I'm working with a document that has two field values:

• Days to resolution
  • Formula: [@[date/time completed]] - [@[date/time created]]
• Hours to resolution
  • Formula: [@[Days to resolution]]*8

My immediate thought was that we should be able to format the Days to Resolution as hours already without needing another column. The other thing that popped up is that if we were calculating hours, it'd have to be divided by 24 so the Hours to resolution should really be *(9/24).
It looks like whomever initially made it assumed that the days to resolution formula would just give how many days there were and with that assumption, they'd multiply the 9 to get the hours when in actuality, they're multiplying it by 9 days.
Given that this document was supposedly vetted by multiple people, I'm open to the idea of being off on my initial thoughts. However, if I'm not off, what would the correct DAX formula be:
=Format(AVERAGE([Days to resolution]), "hh:mm")
Any help would be greatly appreciated, thank you.

Hello Reddit.
My wife and I are planning a trip to Italy for my birthday in October.
We are going from Oct 16-26th.
Our loose plan right now ( tickets have not been bought for anything) -
Fly into Rome from 16-19th
Take a train to Florence and stay from 19-24
Take a train to Venice and stay from 24-26
Train to Milan to fly out on 26th (I can get a direct flight from here. Venice to NYC there is always a huge layover)
That's our loose plan and we're big food and wine ppl. We love to adventure and see the culture. We do not like any extreme attractions like what're sports/ rock climbing/ helicopter rides, stuff like that.
Any must-do's for us or recommended hotels/airb&b for us?
Thanks all

https://d4builds.gg/builds/65e29d60-bc63-4050-ba2c-0245050d2b62/?var=0
I'm very much a noob. D4 is my first ARPG, and I only played until about level 70 in season 2 prior this season.
I found a lvl 18 Esu's and a lvl 24 Tal Rasha's. I'm also very bad at this game, so I really like the idea of being able to allow my conjurations to do half the work while I spam firewalls. I was running a firewall-centric leveling build and found it enjoyable and effective.
Please let me know what you think, even if you think it's terrible! I'm all ears!!

That depends on how far you are into it. They will use any system necessary to oppress you which includes, criminal gangs, the media, police, all internet services and phone networks, your community and neighbours, churches and or spiritual institutions. This is global systematic abuse. Why do they target ordinary people and spend ridiculous amounts of time and money on harassing you and surveillance 24–7? Why would they do this to ordinary people? The system is looking for people they can use. Gang stalking or organised stalking is used to target an individual rob them of their identity and then sell that identity to third parties. This includes your data, all your intellectual properties or spiritual properties. Young women and men often have their houses bugged with cameras and listening devices so they can sell the footage on the dark web to people who have a fetish for spying on others.
If you are not particularly attractive this is done not for profit but simply psychological trauma and entrapment and also to build a file against you to share with the global system. It’s also used to test military means of espionage, we are essentially lab rats for the government, corporations, and the psychiatric community. Many people think the Illuminati or new world order is simply a conspiracy theory but this is not true there is a very real system in place and it will soon take over the world and all members of society with biotechnology, transhumanism and AI.
So initially you may have pissed of the wrong person or simply been chosen due to your your family I believe I was chosen for the solem reason of mental health history in my family and they are trying to make me crack. My father is also ex military and had a high IQ as a young person before he had a stroke. They are testing to see what you are capable of and if you can become an asset to the system in some way. You are also targeted because these people literally play a sadistic game where bets are put on you killing yourself or harming others. The way gang stalking occurs is a psychological attack on your subconscious mind subliminal messages via gaslighting are conveyed in order to either reward or punish your behaviour they copy everything you do and hold you accountable in every word you say in order to break your spirit and individualism. This isn’t just bullying and organised stalking they are harvesting your mind and spirit on a daily basis and playing a sadistic game with your life.
Gang Stalking can be sponsored by political parties, mafias or other organization that has a specific interest in you. You have the networks, locally, nationally and internationally. In the end what matters or what’s of concern is their objectives behind it. To exploit you in some way or form, disrupting you for political reasons, to rob or dispossess you. It varies, the complicated part of it is what they’ll do to you. From destroying your life to literally kill you.
About the psychological attack part of it, I suspected it as I noticed daily patterns of a sort of a persistent gaslighting, a program, where you are supposed to be mentally conditioned to accept the results of the scams and crimes of others. That includes repetitive tapping or noises adjusted to your behavioresponses, directed conversations or visual communications and timely, recurrent daily synchronicities as a way to imprint thoughts or ideas in you. A sort of a mental chamber or the creation of one through the input of different stimuli using the pressure of incessant repetition that ends in a disruptive although somewhat harmonic tune where you can remove or add stuff as you go. It’s a form of conditioning or forcing you to accept or to believe something that is not right, fair or true. It’s a process where they can play with your mind for years, tweaking it as it suits them. That’s why they never tell you anything, so they can always be in control of the narrative. That’s the key. From the profiling stage to multiple gaslighting events, traveling through repetitive and different forms of torture, analyzing your reactions on it all, ending in the perfect failure. Between other things, It’s a fucking attempt of a lobotomy, that’s what it is. These people are completely fucked up in their minds. This, well or perfectly done, is literal hell

That depends on how far you are into it. They will use any system necessary to oppress you which includes, criminal gangs, the media, police, all internet services and phone networks, your community and neighbours, churches and or spiritual institutions. This is global systematic abuse. Why do they target ordinary people and spend ridiculous amounts of time and money on harassing you and surveillance 24–7? Why would they do this to ordinary people? The system is looking for people they can use. Gang stalking or organised stalking is used to target an individual rob them of their identity and then sell that identity to third parties. This includes your data, all your intellectual properties or spiritual properties. Young women and men often have their houses bugged with cameras and listening devices so they can sell the footage on the dark web to people who have a fetish for spying on others.
If you are not particularly attractive this is done not for profit but simply psychological trauma and entrapment and also to build a file against you to share with the global system. It’s also used to test military means of espionage, we are essentially lab rats for the government, corporations, and the psychiatric community. Many people think the Illuminati or new world order is simply a conspiracy theory but this is not true there is a very real system in place and it will soon take over the world and all members of society with biotechnology, transhumanism and AI.
So initially you may have pissed of the wrong person or simply been chosen due to your your family I believe I was chosen for the solem reason of mental health history in my family and they are trying to make me crack. My father is also ex military and had a high IQ as a young person before he had a stroke. They are testing to see what you are capable of and if you can become an asset to the system in some way. You are also targeted because these people literally play a sadistic game where bets are put on you killing yourself or harming others. The way gang stalking occurs is a psychological attack on your subconscious mind subliminal messages via gaslighting are conveyed in order to either reward or punish your behaviour they copy everything you do and hold you accountable in every word you say in order to break your spirit and individualism. This isn’t just bullying and organised stalking they are harvesting your mind and spirit on a daily basis and playing a sadistic game with your life.
Gang Stalking can be sponsored by political parties, mafias or other organization that has a specific interest in you. You have the networks, locally, nationally and internationally. In the end what matters or what’s of concern is their objectives behind it. To exploit you in some way or form, disrupting you for political reasons, to rob or dispossess you. It varies, the complicated part of it is what they’ll do to you. From destroying your life to literally kill you.
About the psychological attack part of it, I suspected it as I noticed daily patterns of a sort of a persistent gaslighting, a program, where you are supposed to be mentally conditioned to accept the results of the scams and crimes of others. That includes repetitive tapping or noises adjusted to your behavioresponses, directed conversations or visual communications and timely, recurrent daily synchronicities as a way to imprint thoughts or ideas in you. A sort of a mental chamber or the creation of one through the input of different stimuli using the pressure of incessant repetition that ends in a disruptive although somewhat harmonic tune where you can remove or add stuff as you go. It’s a form of conditioning or forcing you to accept or to believe something that is not right, fair or true. It’s a process where they can play with your mind for years, tweaking it as it suits them. That’s why they never tell you anything, so they can always be in control of the narrative. That’s the key. From the profiling stage to multiple gaslighting events, traveling through repetitive and different forms of torture, analyzing your reactions on it all, ending in the perfect failure. Between other things, It’s a fucking attempt of a lobotomy, that’s what it is. These people are completely fucked up in their minds. This, well or perfectly done, is literal hell

I was shopping at costco the day before mothers day to get a couple thing that turned into a few hundred. We know how that goes. So i get a call from my bank, which i only use for mortgage, with a fraud alert. I figured that is the reason and think nothing of it.
So i get home and my son whom is 5 years old, is yelling daddy i bought the whole item shop, i bought the whole item shop! I ignored him while i was unloading obviously he is playing around.i sit down and figure out, no he was not playing around, he bought the whole item shop! he was playing fortnite on ps5. He went to the vbucks store and made 16 different purchases totalling 670 in one 30 min span. Now the only reason the cc is on the account is because a few days ago was his birthday and I bought him some vbucks. The 24 dollar one, which is a big deal for him because no matter how much he asks, I NEVER buy vbucks because I think it's pointless with no return.
Immediately I get on a chat with ps5 because it's the weekend and there support is only chat. Waiting in que I'm thinking what the world just happened I'm going to ground this boy and he's gonna work off that money.
Anyways, I get to a agent and they tell me because the vbucks were "downloaded" they can't reverse it or get a refund. I told them it's an unauthorized transaction on my account is this fraud I need it reversed immediately. Mind you, it was about an hour after these transactions were made and it's pure greed they don't want to refund the transaction. They have done so about a year ago when he charged 60 dollars to the account, same excact deal but different cc and different amount. I'm assuming the amount is more than the usual so they don't want to loose the funds.
Am I wrong for thinking this is bad business or not? The vbucks are not used there is about 86k vbucks sitting in the account waiting to get refunded. They will not refund after multiple attempts.
I contacted my bank and told the the same thing and flagged it as fraud got refunded and ps5 have now suspended his account until he pays back the 670 dollars. What type of shit is this. I'm not sorry they want me to pay them funds that were fraudulently added to my account. Dirty, dirty company.
Any thoughts of how to get this resolved because I don't want them thinking I still owe them money?

Med bills are really killing me so unfortunately I'm parting with some of my books again. I really need these to move so if you’re at all interested you have no idea how much you’d be helping me out.
My books come from a smoke free home and have been read once and shelved unless otherwise noted. I'm happy to provide extra pics of anything by request.
I will only ship US Lower 48. Books will ship within 2 business days following completed payment and sent via media mail. Everything will come well packaged. Shipping included on all prices!
Buy more books, get a lower price!
5 Book Daredevil Set: -$65 Shipped- (Some of these like Love's Labors Lost are OOP/Hard to find)
Harrow County Complete (Paperback Omni Vol. 1/2 & Tales From...Library Ed.): -$49 Shipped-
Bloodshot Reborn Vol 1-4 + Bloodshoot USA + The Valiant by Lemire, 6 Book Set: -$33 Shipped-
Divinity Trilogy: The Complete Collection by Lemire & Kindt OHC: -$33 Shipped- (Unread/Like New)
Anne Rice's The Vampire Lestat Graphic Novel: -$24 Shipped- (This is very OOP and in great condition)
Avengers/X-Men: Maximum Security: -$24 Shipped- (OOP)
Deathstroke Inc. Vol. 1-2 Hardcover Set : -$24 Shipped- (Vol 2 is sealed)
Punk Rock Jesus TPB: -$19 Shipped- (OOP, unread/like new)
Batman by John Ridley + Damian: Son of the Batman OHCs: -$16 Shipped-
Strange Adventures by Tom King Hardcover: -$14 Shipped-

That depends on how far you are into it. They will use any system necessary to oppress you which includes, criminal gangs, the media, police, all internet services and phone networks, your community and neighbours, churches and or spiritual institutions. This is global systematic abuse. Why do they target ordinary people and spend ridiculous amounts of time and money on harassing you and surveillance 24–7? Why would they do this to ordinary people? The system is looking for people they can use. Gang stalking or organised stalking is used to target an individual rob them of their identity and then sell that identity to third parties. This includes your data, all your intellectual properties or spiritual properties. Young women and men often have their houses bugged with cameras and listening devices so they can sell the footage on the dark web to people who have a fetish for spying on others.
If you are not particularly attractive this is done not for profit but simply psychological trauma and entrapment and also to build a file against you to share with the global system. It’s also used to test military means of espionage, we are essentially lab rats for the government, corporations, and the psychiatric community. Many people think the Illuminati or new world order is simply a conspiracy theory but this is not true there is a very real system in place and it will soon take over the world and all members of society with biotechnology, transhumanism and AI.
So initially you may have pissed of the wrong person or simply been chosen due to your your family I believe I was chosen for the solem reason of mental health history in my family and they are trying to make me crack. My father is also ex military and had a high IQ as a young person before he had a stroke. They are testing to see what you are capable of and if you can become an asset to the system in some way. You are also targeted because these people literally play a sadistic game where bets are put on you killing yourself or harming others. The way gang stalking occurs is a psychological attack on your subconscious mind subliminal messages via gaslighting are conveyed in order to either reward or punish your behaviour they copy everything you do and hold you accountable in every word you say in order to break your spirit and individualism. This isn’t just bullying and organised stalking they are harvesting your mind and spirit on a daily basis and playing a sadistic game with your life.
Gang Stalking can be sponsored by political parties, mafias or other organization that has a specific interest in you. You have the networks, locally, nationally and internationally. In the end what matters or what’s of concern is their objectives behind it. To exploit you in some way or form, disrupting you for political reasons, to rob or dispossess you. It varies, the complicated part of it is what they’ll do to you. From destroying your life to literally kill you.
About the psychological attack part of it, I suspected it as I noticed daily patterns of a sort of a persistent gaslighting, a program, where you are supposed to be mentally conditioned to accept the results of the scams and crimes of others. That includes repetitive tapping or noises adjusted to your behavioresponses, directed conversations or visual communications and timely, recurrent daily synchronicities as a way to imprint thoughts or ideas in you. A sort of a mental chamber or the creation of one through the input of different stimuli using the pressure of incessant repetition that ends in a disruptive although somewhat harmonic tune where you can remove or add stuff as you go. It’s a form of conditioning or forcing you to accept or to believe something that is not right, fair or true. It’s a process where they can play with your mind for years, tweaking it as it suits them. That’s why they never tell you anything, so they can always be in control of the narrative. That’s the key. From the profiling stage to multiple gaslighting events, traveling through repetitive and different forms of torture, analyzing your reactions on it all, ending in the perfect failure. Between other things, It’s a fucking attempt of a lobotomy, that’s what it is. These people are completely fucked up in their minds. This, well or perfectly done, is literal hell

I've found that almost EVERY time I get a user who works for a church, they are incredibly rude, idiotic people who treat customer service like absolute trash. They are horrible. The worst insults I've gotten at this job have been from people who work at churches or realtors. Anyway, here's the transcript of our conversation today.

(03:43:30 PM) me: Hello! Thanks so much for contacting WEBSITE Support. My name is BLANK and I will be very happy to help you. Please allow me a few moments to access your account.
(03:44:16 PM) ID10T: BLANK--I'm thinking about switching PROJECT platforms because I cannot stand every single frickin time I want to access & make changes to my PROJECT , I have to go through 2 factor identification.
(03:44:24 PM) ID10T: I'm getting sick of it!
(03:44:36 PM) ID10T: And then it says, skip for 2 weeks--nope that doesn't work either!!!!!
(03:44:55 PM) ID10T: Get someone to shut down that security measure on our account.
(03:45:15 PM) ID10T: If someone wants to hack out account, I'm o.k. with that. Let them.
(03:45:55 PM) me: We can't turn that off, but there may be some reason the login cookie is getting deleted on your machine. WEBSITE uses a login cookie that expires after 2 weeks. If you clear this cookie, you will be required to login the next time you visit WEBSITE. If you have any kind of browser extension or anti-virus that clears cookies on an active basis, that could be clearing the login cookie for WEBSITE and causing you to be logged out. I suggest checking into that. This could be a behavior of the browser itself, an addon/extension of the browser, anti-virus on your computer or even apps/processes being run on your machine by your business (if you are not on a personal device). Also are you running AVG? In most cases, that is the anti-virus which is causing issues with the login cookie.
(03:46:43 PM) ID10T: I do not have this problem with ANY OTHER PLATFORM except WEBSITE
(03:46:48 PM) ID10T: and it's super annoying
(03:46:55 PM) ID10T: I don't even know what AVG is
(03:47:11 PM) me: It is anti-virus software. Are you on a personal machine?
(03:47:17 PM) me: Or is it managed by your organization?
(03:47:19 PM) ID10T: Just have one of your IT guys go into our account & deactivate all this crap
(03:47:37 PM) ID10T: my machine is managed by my organization
(03:47:44 PM) me: That's not how it works I'm sorry. The login is maintained by a cookie which gets saved to the device. If it's deleted, the login is not maintained.
(03:47:51 PM) ID10T: Actually, no, I think you would classify it as personal
(03:48:16 PM) ID10T: They why do I not have this problem with any other platform. Sometimes it logs me out within minutes
(03:48:24 PM) ID10T: then I have to get another code all over again.
(03:48:33 PM) ID10T: Can you not appreciate how annoying this is????????????
(03:48:37 PM) me: I do
(03:48:45 PM) me: I understand it's frustrating and I am talking you through the solution.
(03:48:56 PM) ID10T: It is super annoying. Annoying enough that I'm looking at Constant Contact just to be free from your stupid security
(03:49:00 PM) me: Are you running any privacy extensions in your browser?
(03:49:17 PM) ID10T: I have no idea about privacy extentions in my brows
(03:49:26 PM) ID10T: I'm not a computer scientist
(03:49:36 PM) ID10T: I just want to work on my fricken campaign!!!
(03:50:25 PM) ID10T: Turn it off! Get your IT guys to turn it off on our account. We don't care
(03:50:47 PM) me: That isn't an option. Are you running any anti-virus on your computer?
(03:50:50 PM) ID10T: Am I the only person who's frustrated as hell with this annoying blip in your system?
(03:51:07 PM) me: No, it has come up before which is why I know what causes the issue. I know it is frustrating. I am trying to help you.
(03:51:28 PM) ID10T: I have no idea if I have anti-virus software on my machine.
(03:51:51 PM) me: Are you working for a company that has IT available that could find out?
(03:52:16 PM) ID10T: Yes, but then I have to pay him $90/hour. Are you going to give me 6 months free to get this problem resolved?
(03:52:50 PM) ID10T: That feels like a good solution. Give me 6 months or even a year for free and you won't hear from me again. I'll pay to get your platform fixed!!!
(03:53:25 PM) ID10T: You know, it used work perfectly fine. We have been long, long customers of yours. And then, no...someone had to "FIX" the platform & now it sucks!
(03:54:44 PM) me: This is not an appropriate reason to provide credit, I'm sorry. Let's try this. Can you go to the profile icon in your account, click it, and at the bottom, it says Cookie Preferences. Click that and make sure all cookies are enabled. Let me know when that is complete.
(03:54:47 PM) ID10T: Sometimes i have to enter a code like 4 or 5 times a day
(03:55:24 PM) ID10T: well, it's stuck behind this chat window...
(03:55:35 PM) me: You can open WEBSITE in a new tab
(03:55:37 PM) ID10T: I'm not able to move the chat window? or am I
(03:56:52 PM) ID10T: I'm trying to find cookie preferences
(03:56:57 PM) ID10T: it's not jumping out at me...
(03:57:18 PM) me: It's at the bottom, here is a screenshot: [image]
(03:58:45 PM) ID10T: Essential Website Cookies Always Active
(03:58:53 PM) me: All of them are enabled?
(03:59:32 PM) me: Especially we want Performance and Functionality Cookies enabled
(03:59:36 PM) me: The little slider should be green
(03:59:50 PM) ID10T: Performance and Functionality Cookies I had to hit the slider on this one
(04:00:03 PM) ID10T: same with analytics & customization
(04:00:08 PM) me: Ok they were off?
(04:00:18 PM) ID10T: yes
(04:00:27 PM) ID10T: 2 of the were off... analytics & performance
(04:00:28 PM) me: The performance one is most important. That should fix it.
(04:00:49 PM) me: It MAY require you to verify one more time, but it should work for 2 weeks after that.
(04:01:16 PM) ID10T: OK BLANK. I guess I can't test it while I'm logged in here but I hopeyou are right.
(04:01:26 PM) me: I hope you have a wonderful day :)
(04:01:31 PM) ID10T: You too!
(04:01:32 PM) me: Thanks for contacting WEBSITE support. Have a great day.

They had cookies disabled.
Isn't it amazing how childish boomers are? Why do they think that being rude is the best option? They actively make the world worse with everything they do.

Hello Reddit. My wife and I are planning a trip to Italy for my birthday in October.
We are going from Oct 16-26th.
Our loose plan right now ( tickets have not been bought for anything) -
Fly into Rome from 16-19th
Take a train to Florence and stay from 19-24
Take a train to Venice and stay from 24-26
Train to Milan to fly out on 26th (I can get a direct flight from here. Venice to NYC there is always a huge layover)
That’s our loose plan and we’re big food and wine ppl. We love to adventure and see the culture. We do not like any extreme attractions like what’re sports/ rock climbing/ helicopter rides, stuff like that.
Any must-do’s for us or recommended hotels/airb&b for us?
Thanks all

hello i just sent a message to my doctor about this but i was wondering if anyone has any ideas as to what it might be or what i can research? my symptoms are pretty common so i understand if you guys can’t
heat intolerance-i used to wear sweatshirts 24/7 even in the hottest summer days now it hits like 60° and i have to lay in my bed naked because i’m overheating
random low grade fevers: i’ve noticed this for a couple of months pretty frequently i’ll get a low grade fever that’s like 99.6-100.5 when my body naturally rests at 98.5-98.7.
onset of headaches- i used to never get headaches to the point where i would literally brag about it not i get frequent moderate (they feel moderate-severe but im also not used to headaches so i’m prolly just being a baby)
memory worsening/blacking out chunks of my day-i have a ton of mental health issues and a past history of drug use that fucked up my memory really bad already but randomly it’s gotten excessively worse to the point it’s affecting work. I’ll do that thing where you walk in a room and go “what was i doing?” except i’ll do that an EXCESSIVE amount i did it more than 5 times in an hour and a half at work which is insane.
Tingling in hands and feet-just slight tingling and occasional itching or pain in my hands and feet, i’m diabetic so they’re thinking diabetic neuropathy for this.
maybe worth mentioning i just got not officially but pretty much diagnosed with pretty bad GERD that’s caused severe morning nausea for two years and then other classic symptoms started about 6 months ago and severe IBS-C that randomly came on in the past year i mean i went from never being constipated in my life to not shitting for 2 weeks going to the er because of the pain type shit

I'm not doing great at the moment since it just happened. I don't like gossip or talking behind people's back. Ironic I know. This post is about whether or not I did the right thing. Please don't insult anyone else: my mom (umm), my wife (Annie), my dad (abpa), my brother (Barry), my sister (Maggie), my cousin (Frank).
Save your judgment for me. Context: I'm 35M. first born. I left home after a huge fight with my mom after college. I was homeless for a bit. We've since reconciled. But I suppose not anymore. There's history there.
I'm only posting to see if what I did was wrong.
All names have been replaced and are not real. Other details like dates and places that are personally identifiable will be removed/changed. There are two languages: I will always show the original and translate as fairly as I can.
It is relevant for fairness to share that my mom is 3 hours ahead of me. I'm west coast, she's east coast. (10am for me it's 1pm for her) My time will be shown in the messages.
I will keep all messages exact and unedited, outside of the above.
I repeat: DO NOT INSULT MY MOM OR WIFE OR FAMILY. am I the asshole. nothing about them. just me.
On Mom's Birthday:
Mom [10:43am] it's mom's birthday but nothing is here (original: 엄마 생일인데 아무것도 없어.) [10:52am] [Picture of kitchen island with boxed tonesunscreen on it] [10:53am] (Mom is/I am) really sad. This is what Annie sent me for a gift. $10-20 toiletries. Something I don't even use. (original: 엄마 많이 섭섭해. 이게 [name]가 보낸 선물이야. $10-20 짜리 화장품. 엄마 이거 쓰지도 않는데.)
Me [11:51am] She got the same thing she got for you and her mom. Throw it out and I'll make sure to buy something nicer for you.
Mom [12:03pm] If she or her mom got the thing then I should get the same thing. I'm not Annie or Annie's mom. I'm your mom. You shouldn't treat me like this. [12:07pm] Not even one happy birthday said. (original: 생일 축하한단 말 한마디 없이.)
Me [12:56pm] call (no answer) [1:11pm] call (no answer)
Next day:
Mom [5:10am] I didn't answer the phone yesterday because I felt like I'm crying. I don’t want to talk like that with you. When you got married Annie I tried to treat her as an our family member. I know I can not treat her same as Maggie (my sister). But last year she didn’t say any word on my birthday. Even you and I talked on the phone. I didn’t want so much from her just as a family say good word on birthday wishes. This year same thing. And you, when you asked me what can I do for you ( maybe you forgot that even you asked) I literally said “다른거 필요 없고 무슨날 엄마 밥이나 사줘” (translation: I don't need anything just buy me some dinner some time) I’m not asking you expensive things. Don’t say throw them out but nicer things. You really missed the point.
Me [11:28am] You were upset because I didn’t do something for your birthday by 1040am on a Workday. It’s not about expensive things but you want to text a picture of the gift and say it’s $10-20. You got a gift, but no card. It’s cheap but it’s not about money. Annie’s a family member, how could she not text. Right after she texted happy mother’s day to you. Yesterday before dinner, Annie tells me “make sure you call your mom it’s her birthday”. I didn’t tell her what happened because I don’t gossip and talk bad about people behind their back. I call or text and wish a happy birthday to family. Like I’ve done every year. It’s the same as what everyone does for me. Sometimes I don’t get a call. Sometimes I don’t get a text. Sometimes the call/text comes a day later. Never did I text my family members in the morning asking why people didn’t do more for me. I’ll make sure to let Annie know about wishing happy birthday to you. In my screenshot is my daily goals from yesterday, I was excited about this week. One of those things was, of course, calling you for your birthday, just like I called for mother’s day. Two hours later while I’m in a work meeting with my boss, 1040am, I get a text from you telling me about how sad you are from my wife’s cheap gift and how I haven’t said happy birthday yet. Yesterday I woke up and went to work, and planned to call you after. You have a habit of disproportionately trying to make me feel bad. You’ve done it on your birthday before many years ago after you and abpa[dad in korean] had a fight. I was a college student and you took it out on me cause I was the easy target. You’re an adult. Your child can call later in the day to wish you a happy birthday. It’s not okay to text trying to make your son feel bad about not doing something sooner. [11:29am] [Screenshot of whatsapp conversation between me and my virtual assistant] [Screenshot start] [8:13am yesterday] Goals for Today, I want to be disciplined. It’s been a few weeks now since my conference and because of the conference and drinking there, I became slow and lost the energy to stay on top of my diet/exercise and morning routines that I was so happy and proud of. Let’s get back to that this week. Let’s work hard, let’s continue to set sights on big goals. I want to work on the 3 projects I have going right now. [personal project 1 company idea], [personal project 2 company idea], and [current company].
Today I will exercise 25 situps, 25 pushups, 25 curls, 25 shoulder press, and 25 squats. Today I will finish a few [work things] for [company]. Today I will teach class for [project 2] finish [lesson], and let folks know that there will not be class on wednesday. I will call my mom later today and wish her a happy birthday. I will also be going to my brother’s to take care of credit card points so that we can buy tickets for [trip], let’s work hard today and get a lot done. [Screenshot end]
Mom [4:09pm] My birthday is passed last year and this year. She didn’t text or say anything these two years. You may think that’s ok but not for me. I just expect to acknowledge these days and congrat each other. Is that too much? I don’t expect anything from her. But you mentioned so proudly on Sunday that Annie send me TWO gifts. I just want you to know I’m very disappointed that you are ok with that gifts. That’s why I mentioned the price as well. My birthday and Mother’s Day are always near by. Sometimes same day or sometimes few day apart. Is that too much that I asked you more thoughtful gift from you? If you think that’s too much , forget about this conversation. I think I’ve never treated you like this.
Me [2:03am] You’ve treated me way worse in my life. You didn’t wait for a text. You wanted to text me to make me feel bad. You had a bad morning. Maybe a bad night. You didn’t feel like I cared or people cared. Or maybe something else happened. And you wanted me to feel bad.
But your happiness is not my responsibility.
Your birthday is not a free pass to send guilt tripping texts to me and expect nice texts back. Annie sent you poison? She sent you a 4.5 star tonesunscreen with thousands of nice reviews. She was just trying to send something nice. It’s not expensive. But you say it’s not about money? Then why are you crying about it?
No one said “happy birthday” yet? The day wasn’t over. Why text me only? Barry[My brother] didn’t call until 5pm.
No one else gave you a good gift? Or are you comparing it with gifts that you’ve given to Annie? Then you give revenge-gifts. If that’s it then don’t ever give Annie and I anything ever again. You just wanted a dinner? I’m on the other side of the country.
Should I text you on my birthday asking why my mailbox is empty? Should I ask abpa[dad] the last 20 years where’s my present? Should I try and make you or abpa feel bad on my birthday if I’m unhappy? No, of course not. None of those is how a mature person behaves. Because my happiness is not your responsibility.
“Just want a text to acknowledge and congratulate”. You didn’t wait for any text. You chose to start upset.
Why didn’t you text Barry? if it’s just the text of happy birthday? You scared of his response?
I know why you’re not scared of me. 5 years of therapy to learn the way you used me as an emotional punching bag.
Your birthday morning wasn’t the way you wanted. Your gift wasn’t the way you wanted. You didn’t feel like anyone cared. Whoever you talked to. Whatever happened. You were unhappy. So you sent those texts to me.
You try to make me feel bad when you’re unhappy with your life. Why? When you used to have a hard day at work. Bad [customer]. Bad traffic. Bad interaction with coworkers/boss. Bad talk with abpa[dad], grandma, Frank hyung(older cousin who lived with us). Who do you think received your anger for no fucking reason? If I did all my homework, played [instrument 1], practiced [instrument 2], got good grades, did all my kumon(after school homework) did you know it doesn’t matter what I did, if YOU had a bad day?
If I’m watching tv, or playing a game, if you have a bad day, then my day has to be a bad day. Because people around you can’t be happy when you’re miserable. Not people that you can control. And controlling me was all you had. Even as I got older. Not allowed to leave the house.
You couldn’t control the language or culture out of the house, you couldn’t control grandma, frank hyung, or abpa in the house. your whole life, you couldn’t control too much.
So you controlled what? me. a kid. And as soon as hitting me didn’t make me cry you just tried to control my emotions to make me cry.
2010 May [day retracted]. Fight with abpa in the morning, he leaves the house. So you go down to the basement to yell at your son for not getting you a cake.
Junior in college crying, guilty in the basement buying you cake. That’s what you wanted. Someone you controlled. Someone to be miserable because you were miserable.
5 years of therapy in my late 20s to learn you’re the reason I don’t notice when women step all over me. I grew up used to it. Bad women relationships, weak sense of self, emotional abuse, angry all the time. Parents like you made Asian Americans the least likely to become managers in the USA (context: I became one in my later 20s). No confidence. No inner strength. Just quiet private anger. A young man clenching his fists, holding his tongue, and listening to orders.
Constantly blame others, blame myself. Always angry. Always yelling at [dog1]/[dog2], always trying to control them when I’m upset. Critical of everything, everyone, myself, never feeling like I’m enough or okay. Because growing up I was constantly on the receiving end of anger that I didn’t create. Don’t talk back. Don’t look at the eyes. Look at the wall. Never right. Always wrong. But every year I’m fixing that a little bit. Why? Because now I’m responsible for my own happiness.
I refuse to stay a bad dad to [dog2].
No more blaming, just thinking and working. being confident. fighting back. defending mself. speaking out. Looking at people in the eye.
Yesterday you didn’t feel good. So I was the one who did something terrible for your birthday? Hmm. I was going to call just like Barry did. You’re sad about the gift? You feel like no one cares. Why is it that I’m the only one that got those texts. You think your message was going to create apologies and happy birthdays from me? No. I don’t think so. You just wanted me to feel bad. Because you felt bad. You like controlling me. And affecting my emotions.
It’s why I left home many years ago. And you still have old habits. You wanted me to feel bad. You did the same thing talking about the [old project] community a few years ago. When you don’t feel happy. You try to make me feel bad.
But I’m old enough to know now that I didn’t do anything to deserve that yesterday. And you’re not allowed to step on me like that anymore. I’m not some weak 21 year old that’s crying in the basement buying you cake. I told Annie not to call. Your negative behavior is not allowed in my life.
Every day I work to undo things from my past. You’ve stepped on me your whole life. Made me a very scared, very angry young man. People like that never make it in the world successfully. They have all kinds of problems. But I want this to be very clear. I am going to be successful. I am going to be a [retracted]. I am going to make a positive difference in this world for those who are positive to others. And It will be despite all that you’ve done to me. It will happen because I will surround myself with peace, and positivity. Not negativity and manipulation. Through peace and for others, I will work harder than you or abpa or anyone you have ever known has ever done in their entire lives.
But If I don’t make it, that’s on me. If I’m unhappy today, that’s on me. If I lack something today, that’s me. I have to choose to be better. I have to work harder. Cause I’m responsible for my happiness.
You can choose whether or not you want to be negative or positive person moving forward in my life. That’s your choice. You want to step on me? Try to bring me down when you feel down? That’s your choice. But it’s my choice whether or not to let you be in my life.
you being unhappy yesterday morning. That’s you. That’s your choice. Acting the way you did. trying to make your son feel bad. That’s all you. You’re responsible for your own happiness. I didn’t do anything yesterday to deserve your texts trying to pull me down.
This is my last text about this. This conversation is over. Say one more thing about this that doesn’t resemble an apology and I’m not going on the [family trip]. Keep telling me youre an “innocent victim” “all I wanted was a happy birthday text” and you won’t hear from me for years. Be responsible for your actions. I have no room for your negative emotional manipulation in my life.
Mom [7:14am] Annie…. Very first gift from her was well known brand toner. That gave me bad skin reaction so I had to throw it out. I don’t want to talk to her about it because I appreciated what she wanted to try. But next time when I saw her in las Vegas I told her that her sun screen lotion ( what she used at that time) gave me a bad reaction so I can not use it. Last year when Maggie gave her 화장품 (toiletry) as a birthday gift she said that thanks but she can not use it because she has allergic reactions. Which is understandable but she’s still doing same thing to me. I don’t know who mentioned about good reviews or you found out your self. That doesn’t mean it’s good for me. She and I didn’t talk that much anything so far only few subject. I feel like she doesn’t care. I don’t know why you guys decided to send gift more than a month before. And how you said she send me two gifts made me so upset.
Barry… Barry and I talked about our birthday on the phone last week how it was good at last year’s dinner. He planned but eventually Appa paid( I mentioned who paid because you don’t get wrong info. ) and the way he always said skipping one year is not end of the world. We laughed about it. And he said next time we gonna have a good time. He called at 5 pm on my birthday I know as soon as he woke up he called me.
You mentioned why Barry is ok. Did I scare him? Come on… he is not saying nice words all the time but he is very thoughtful person. I think you agree with this.
You… I really sorry that you have all bad memories about me and your youth. I can not go back and I can not fix it now. I’m thinking back that days if I can live again maybe react little differently like I treated Maggie. As a first child you had a lot bad experiences. I agreed. But don’t say your life was miserable because of ME all the time. If you think this way there’s no reason to see me. I’m really happy to see, hear and feel that you’re working hard, being healthy and having enjoyable life. I want you to be a healther, happier and more successful person than right now. That’s no matter why we talked about right now. But I really want to make a point that don’t say I had bad morning or bad night before that’s why text you like that. Maybe you’re right. I had bad night before. After talked on the phone with you (as I told you before ). I felt disappointed so much. You keep saying you felt bad because of my text, why I didn’t wait? Calling to me is part of your daily plan. You keep saying I made you feel bad because I had anger problems or bad days. You’ve never thought about “what did I do wrong or did I miss anything?” You said you away from me how can I buy dinner? Same as easy to buy on line ( by Amazon) any merchandise. There’s tons of way to offer , you can make a reservation any restaurant or even you can send money 100- 200 dollars. Maybe I’m wrong but I don’t think it’s going to hurt you financially. Last year I waited until last minute that Annie would text me any word. No. That didn’t happen. If I waited until you call this year what’s the difference? I want more than hearing your voice is too much. Sorry that I think that way. And not being adult I ordered Rolex watch for next years your birthday gift and I was so excited about it. Maybe that’s why I’m expecting more than what you’re in mind about me. You are right. That’s all my problems.
[7:45am] If you don’t want to come [familytrip] , don’t spend time with family I can not force you to come. But don’t say if I don’t apologize you don’t come. Is new way to threaten? Come on [my name]. This is really too much.
Me [10:02am] There’s a difference between threats and boundaries. No one is allowed to be in my life to spend their energy trying to bring me down. Who would do something like that? My own mother. No we aren’t going on the [trip]. (context: all the tickets and arrangements have been purchased, this isn't some cop out, it's non-refundable, nothing to do with money on anyone's side)
You want to continue the conversation after I said I was done? Actions and consequences: Annie and I are very unthoughtful and uncaring to give you a skin care gift again. I’ll tell her exactly what happened. I’ll have her read every message. And understand what we did wrong. I’ll make sure we feel terrible today. I’ll make sure she remembers it forever. I will make sure my wife cries for your sadness and for our mistakes. We’re a bad son/wife who don’t care about my mother’s birthday and mother’s day. Your message has been fully received. We will feel sorry, we will cry and we will feel bad for you. I will struggle to work for my job. I will struggle to do my projects, and teach my students, I will think all day and all night about how sad this is. About this conversation, about our gift, about your gifts, about the phone call, the texts, mother’s day, your birthday, my birthdays. last year your birthday when we were in [another country]. I will struggle to eat and sleep properly. I know Annie and how sensitive she is. She will struggle and cry too. Your son and his wife will feel terrible about your birthday. Your message will be successful. You’ve brought the world down around you. Congratulations. Just like old times. Everyone is sad now. "You’re right.”
I will say one last thing as your son: be careful about hurting the people around you when you have a bad day. If you keep tearing the world around you down, there isn’t going to be a world left.
You and I are not going in the same direction.
I’m trying to learn how to be positive, hardworking, successful, strong, encouraging and helping others. Trying to be a little more positive everyday. Maybe I will never get there. But I will try. You want to spend your time fixating on me saying “two gifts”. You want to spend your time staring at the boxes, and sending pictures. You want to spend your time comparing, looking at costs, pitying yourself and telling people around you how terrible they are on your birthday. I guess that drama is something you want. Not me. You and I are on different paths.
After Annie and I cry for what we did. My boundary is this, I will never let you do this to me again. That will be the last scar. We will remember every year on your birthday, and remind ourselves how terrible and uncaring we were. I will remember that you wanted me to know and feel that. Every year I will remember but that will be the last scar you ever leave on me. You should return the Rolex. I will never use it, I will never wear it, I will throw it out instantly. To me it’s a poisonous gift. Don’t ever give me or Annie any gifts for the rest of my life.
We will smile and not forget that those past gifts were given out of your care and thoughtfulness. We will remember you did your best and wanted to do nice things in your way. but we will be sad with you. And be unable to use your gifts because your gifts comes with weight, revenge and paybacks. And we cannot accept them. You did everything right. You’re a good mom. We are just bad people. We never earned them or paid you back in our thoughtfulness for them. All gifts you have given me and her, we will stop using today.
I will not be receiving your messages anymore. Goodbye
[Blocked from phone/all social media.]
AITAH. Reminder do not talk bad about anyone else. I'll delete those comments. This is just about whether or not I did the right thing.

I 21F, live with my mother, 2 sisters and 1 brother. My sister M22 has a friend K22 who lives with us. They have known each other since 6th grade and have been connected at the hip since then. In the beginning I did not like her at all, she was very annoying, and things had to be done her way. She also can't take 'no' for an answer. Over the years I've learned to tolerate her a little bit but now she has pushed me over the edge.
K just moved out of the house her, and her dad lived in because their lease ended. They moved in with her dad's friend G and they will live their until they find another house to rent. My mom and sister came up with the idea to make my brothers old room into a bedroom for her so she could stay whenever she didn't want to be at her house. Which is very nice and a lot of people wouldn't do that. My mother and sister didn't ask anyone if that would be alright, which I know it is my mother's house, but nobody told me that, that was the plan. I also still can't stand her at all. Mind: she goes home for 1 day and then comes right back and will stay for a few weeks straight.
I have always had issues with K because she is always here, in our business and just won't stop. When she is over (which is everyday at this point) she has to do HER stuff and I can't do mine. I clean the house, because I don't work rn so I clean the house daily and do a deep clean to 1. keep up with the daily chores and 2. just because I'm living here rent free and it's the bare minimun. While I clean I love listening to music, as of rn I've been listening to Christmas music because it's my favorite time of year and it just makes me feel better so I've been listening to it a lot recently to try and distract myself from everything that is going on in my life. I got an Alexa and I listen to music on that, it's never above level 5 volume, it's just background noise. K will come in whatever room and turn it off, I told her not too and she said she doesn't want to listen to it, and I told her that it's my Alexa don't mess with it and if she doesn't like it listen to her own music with her airpods or go into a different room, or I can put my music back on and just change the station and she said to change the station. I changed to Pop music and I was in the middle of sweeping in the other room and it turned off, I went into the room where my Alexa was and checked to see what happened and saw that it was unplugged. K was in the room right next to it and I asked her what happened, she said that she unplugged it because she was tired of it. I told her "I asked you not to touch it" she said it doesn't matter and that she doesn't want to listen to my music.
I have airpods but I can't find them rn, so I can't listen to music on my phone without it being outloud. She continues to turn off my music no matter what I am doing, and it pisses me off. This isn't the only thing she does though.
K also can't take 'no' for an answer, she will beg you until you get so pissed off that you give in just so she will shut her big mouth. I bought my own groceries this past few weeks using my birthday money and in our house we have a rule: if you buy it , it's yours just let other people know that it is yours. We have stickers that we put on tupperware and other food items if a certain person bought it and doesn't want others in it. I placed these stickers on everything I bought and I let the others know that I bought stuff at the store and that I put the stickers on it and to please not touch it. K came into the living room the other day and asked if this pack of lunch meat was mine eventhough the stick on the very front where you can't miss it has my name on it and "PLEASE DON'T TOUCH" written. I told her yes that it was mine and she asked if she could have it and I said 'no' there's lunch meat outside that she can have. She rolled her eyes and put it back in the fridge. I went to my room for a little bit after that and I got hungry and went to make my lunch and in the fridge was my open container of lunch meat that I told her not to touch, I just got that at the store and haven't opened it yet. My sister and K were in the living room with empty plates next to them and I asked them why my lunch meat was open, and K said that they were hungry and made sandwiches. With the lunch meat I bought. I asked them why after I told her not to eat it and just not touch it because it was mine and her excuse was, I like turkey and your mom bought ham, so I used yours instead because I like it better. My sister then said, "it's not a big deal, it's just a few slices of lunch meat it's fine" It is a big deal to me because they overstepped a boundary again.
Another thing that happened just yesterday, I was making cookies and I have learned to not bake the whole batch while K is over, she will eat the entire thing before anyone else gets to have one. So I made 6 cookies and while I was making them she had to be in the kitchen and ask a million questions, “what are you making” “what kind of cookies are you making” “when will they be done” “how long do they have to bake” etc. When I bake and cook I have to be the only one in the kitchen because I will get very overwhelmed. The kitchen is small and having more than 1 person in there at a time is exhausting. K had to be right on top of me while I was doing it, I wasn’t teaching her anything so there was no reason for her to be over my shoulder the entire time. When I finished the dough I had to keep it in the fridge overnight and she got upset because she wanted a cookie now. Which I understand because I love cookies too but there is no reason to get upset over having to wait 14 hrs for cookie dough to chill in the fridge.
Today I finally baked them and she freaked out because I was baking them finally and she really wanted one. She was confused as to why I only make 6 cookies instead of the whole batch which makes 36 cookies. I just told her that I’m just making enough for everyone to have 1 rn. My real reason is because every time she is over and we have anything I baked it will be gone in a few hours. The other day a family friend that I bake with often made ME brownies and yes she said that they were for me mainly but to share. I didn’t even get 1 bite of a brownie because K ate most and when I asked where they went they said they were gone and I asked who ate them K sad she had the last one. I told her that I didn’t get one and our friend made them mainly for me and she said “snooze you loose”
I finished making the cookies and I went to my room to let them cool, while in my room K texted me and asked “will u hurt me if I have a cookie?” I responded “no, u can have 1 cookie only, there are 6. That’s 1 for everyone, so only eat 1 cookie” she left me on read. I came back out about 30 minutes later to put them in a Tupperware and they were gone! Completely gone 6 cookies gone in 30 minutes. I asked my sister and K where they went and they were eating a cookie as I walked in the living room. I asked how many cookies they had and they looked at each other and smiled trying to contain their laughter. I knew in that moment that they ate all 6 cookies and had no shame. I asked her about the text message and whether or not she comphrend it or if it just went right over her head. She said they were really good and wanted another. Idc if she wanted another she couldn’t take my answer, I set a boundary with her again and she overstepped again. My sister and K laughed because I got upset about 6 cookies but I’m not upset about the cookies. I’m upset because the boundaries I set have been violated again and again and Idk what to do about it. I decided to keep my mouth shut because I 100% believe in if you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say anything at all” I that moment there was nothing nice to say. As I walked out, K said you can make more cookies now, use the rest of the dough” I just walked back to my room and stayed there until my mom came home.
When my mom came home I told her about what happened and I asked her if K could leave and she said no because our house is her house and she needs to feel welcomed here. My mom and I got into a small argument about that because I brought up that her saying that made me feel like my mom doesn’t care about my feelings when it comes to this. K is overstepping my boundaries and M is letting her and helping her do so and nothing is being done about it I just have to take it and my mom told me that I’m blowing all out of proportion and to relax and forget about it.
I’m not going to forget about it, I’m going to remember this 10 years down the line when you want to come back into my life after I go no contact with all of them. I rarely feel safe in the house and I just want my own space. I don’t have a job so I don’t have an income to start saving up and move out. I just want K to leave, I haven’t had a break since she started living here.
AITAH?

DANCING WITH THE STARS: THE PROS' MOST ICONIC QUOTES ✨

Day	Pro Dancer	Quote
1	Karina Smirnoff	"Is there any reason why your head looks like a pigeon?"
2	Valentin Chmerkovskiy	"Bro, you're one big wrong already."
3	Witney Carson	"What do you need, a snack?"
4	Anna Trebunskaya	"Some people say I'm a tough teacher. And I am."
5	Brandon Armstrong	"I was born in '94..."
6	Cheryl Burke	"So the name of the song is 'Call Me Irresponsible', remind you of anybody? I think it's perfect for you!"
7	Edyta Śliwińska	"I'm wearing so much clothes that I got tangled in it!"
8	Artem Chigvintsev	"Fine! I watched 'Fifty Shades of Grey'!"
9	Corky Ballas	"Now we're doing the Mambo which originated in the '40s!"...
10	Chelsie Hightower	"South America speaks Spanish?"
11	Derek Hough	"I'm rough, I'm tough, I'm Derek Hough."
12	Charlotte Jørgensen	"Get your heel up on your back foot, or I'll kill you."
13	Allison Holker	"Team Rallison!!!"
14	Julianne Hough	"I felt like you just had to phone it in so you could get back with Meryl."
15	Alec Mazo	"Josie is deceptively unfit."
16	Alan Bersten	"It's a little shaky in here!"
17	Jenna Johnson	"ADAM! WE GOTTA QUICKSTEP!!!"
18	Ashly DelGrosso-Costa	"It needs to be equal teamwork, and I can't play a tug-of-war anymore."
19	Gleb Savchenko	"You look like a dancer when you're not moving."
20	Kym Johnson-Herjavec	"I should never have made us try that stupid lift..."
21	Maksim Chmerkovskiy	"With all due respect, this is my show, I help make it what it is."
22	Lacey Schwimmer	"STEVE!!! How am I supposed to be in love with you if you keep farting all the time?!?!"
23	Mark Ballas	“And you said habede habeduh de de. Daba da dip bah da be. That’s what you said when I asked you."
24	Lindsay Arnold	"That salsa will get ya-every time!"
25	Louis Van Amstel	"I was jealous of Mark on Season 5, but I got the girl now!"
26	Koko Iwasaki	"You're a real Jersey party boy, and I need you to be a suave English gentleman for Bond Night."
27	Keo Motsepe	"If Len gives a 10, I'm gonna run down and kiss him!"
28	Peta Murgatroyd	Her scream after finding out that she and Tommy Chong had made the semi-finals.
29	Pasha Pashkov	"You don't know who I am, but I've been praying I get you!"
30	Sasha Farber	"If you wanna dance, you know it would be my honour. My main worrybis your health."
31	Jonathan Roberts	"Let's take a commercial break."
32	Daniella Karagach	"YEAH! OH SHIT!!!"
33	Dmitry Chaplin	"I feel like I'm cheating on Jewel with another partner."
34	Sharna Burgess	"I got to do the Backstreet Boys' move next to a Backstreet Boy, and I think it's kinda awesome!"
35	Tristan MacManus	"And I got a 7. Hurt my feelins!"
36	Britt Stewart	"Daniel!"
37	Rylee Arnold
38	Tony Dovolani
39	Emma Slater

Welcome to DANCING WITH THE STARS: THE PROS' MOST ICONIC QUOTES ✨

A huge thank you to the lovely u/invader_holly who suggested the idea, and that I run this game here! 💕
How does it work?
Each day, I'll reshare this board. With each day is a new pro. Similarly to past games I've done like Dances of the Seasons, The Dancing with the Stars Alphabet, Favourite Dances Per Style, and The Pros' Most Memorable Dances, for every day, you can all comment a response. This time, the response would be a quote from the respective pro for that day! As with previous games, the comment with the most upvotes wins. At the end, I'll put together a video compilation together!
MAKE SURE THAT IF YOU WANT TO SUGGEST NUMEROUS QUOTES, DO THEM EACH IN A SEPERATE COMMENT. THE COMMENT WITH THE MOST UPVOTES WINS AND IS ADDED TO THE BOARD. IF POSSIBLE, PLEASE TRY AND ADD WHEN THE PRO SAYS THE QUOTE (SO I CAN FIND THE CLIP TO ADD TO THE VIDEO COMPILATION).
Yesterday's round was won by u/gottacatchemsome 's suggestion!

DAY 37: RYLEE ARNOLD

Hello, All,
I have less than a yard of (I think) discontinued Oregon Duck fabric. No idea where or how I got it, but I happen to have a friend who's a Ducks fan. His birthday was on the 12th and I want to make him something out of this fabric. The picture I posted looks most like it, but I can't find an exact match with the quick google search I did, so I probably can't get more.
Any suggestions for a practical gift one can make with less than a yard of sports themed fabric?

Overview

After switching to (podman) containers for long running jobs as well as Sway + Foot for automatic tiling, the appeal of terminal multiplexer was lost in my personal workflow.
I recently experimented with status bars in Bash (with PS1 as demonstrated here) and got the idea to give them a new chance for this feature alone!
Naturally I benchmarked various alternatives and wanted to share my results.

Setup

Conditions - Test reads 1,228,772 lines with UTF-8 chars (250mb) from RAM and measures the time it takes to print the entirety of the file 10 times. - Each run was performed using the same file. - Cache was cleaned between re-runs (which gave me faily consistent results).
System - CPU: 7950X - RAM: DDR5 5600MHz - Polling rate: 144Hz
Versions - Arch Linux - Sway 1:1.9-3 - bash 5.2.026-2 - foot 1.17.2-1 - hyperfine 1.18.0-2 - screen 4.9.1-2 (no ~/.screenrc) - tmux 3.4-6 (no ~/.tmux) - zellij 0.40.1-1 (no ~/.config/zellij) - podman 5.0.2-1
Dependencies $ paru --sync --refresh time hyperfine screen tmux zellij $ head -c 250M /tmp/bigfile
Test $ bash $ sync; echo 3 sudo tee /proc/sys/vm/drop_caches $ time hyperfine --show-output "cat /tmp/bigfile" --export-markdown result

Results

All of these tests were carried out from within Sway + Bash unless stated otherwise.

STD performance

(Lower is better)
Foot time: 0m23.547s hyperfine: Command Mean [s] Min [s] Max [s] Relative :------:---:---:---: `cat /tmp/bigfile` 2.349 ± 0.046 2.298 2.421 1.00
Foot + Podman rootful (interactive shell mode) time: 0m23.654s hyperfine: Command Mean [s] Min [s] Max [s] Relative :------:---:---:---: `cat /tmp/bigfile` 2.359 ± 0.034 2.292 2.401 1.00
Foot + Podman rootless (interactive shell mode) time: 0m23.774s hyperfine: Command Mean [s] Min [s] Max [s] Relative :------:---:---:---: `cat /tmp/bigfile` 2.371 ± 0.114 2.255 2.652 1.00
Kitty time: 1m6.584s Command Mean [s] Min [s] Max [s] Relative :------:---:---:---: `cat /tmp/bigfile` 6.655 ± 0.037 6.579 6.718 1.00
Foot + Tmux time: ~1m06s Command Mean [s] Min [s] Max [s] Relative :------:---:---:---: `cat /tmp/bigfile` 6.535 ± 0.141 6.399 6.740 1.00 Notes: time had to be measured externally as Tmux fails to display the lines in the correct order.
Foot + Zellij time: 1m17s Command Mean [s] Min [s] Max [s] Relative :------:---:---:---: `cat /tmp/bigfile` 8.353 ± 0.128 8.151 8.521 1.00 Notes: UTF-8 wasn't displayed properly and the default configuration takes up a significant portion of the screen due to instructions + styling
Foot + Screen time: ~28m30s Command Mean [s] Min [s] Max [s] Relative :------:---:---:---: `cat /tmp/bigfile` 187.207 ± 0.549 186.329 188.318 1.00 Notes: time had to be measured manually just like with Tmux. Furthermore, the output wasn't printed contiously but rather at fixed intervals and in chunks. Terminal flashed a yellow tint between updates. UTF-8 wasn't displayed properly.
/dev/tty2 (outside Sway) time: 384m.42s Command Mean [s] Min [s] Max [s] Relative :------:---:---:---: `cat /tmp/bigfile` 2308.204 ± 24.569 2290.128 2375.670 1.00 Notes: Yes.. This test took me hours..

Compilation performance

I've seen warnings about the potential of slower compilation due to std speed being a bottleneck (hence why quiet builds are recommended). To my surprise, this might actually be an issue (with slower hardware or when compiling the entire system). For reference, I made sure to re-run the tests multiple times to confirm this.
Here's the performance of $ makepkg --syncdeps --install --clean --cleanbuild --force with wine-tkg:
(Lower is better)
Foot real 2m57.891s user 60m19.302s sys 6m40.889s
Foot + Screen real 2m58.582s user 60m19.870s sys 6m44.431s
/dev/tty2 (outside Sway) real 3m39.677s user 55m26.841s sys 8m26.137s

Conclussion

These tests was done due to curiosity. In day to day tasks this probably doesn't matter that much. Nonetheless:

• Podman vs Baremetal: results were equal and within margin of error. I had runs where Rootful Podman was faster than Baremetal by a couple milliseconds and vice versa. However, to reproduce this you'd have to consider disabling seccomp [1] [2] [3] and following official performance guides.
  
• Terminal emulators are ridiculously faster at priting lines than raw TTY.
  
• Every terminal multiplexer introduces higher latency (Tmux > Zellij > Screen).
  
• Foot is faster at printing lines than Kitty (which has eerily similar performance to Tmux).
  
• Compilation completes slower with verbose and your choice of terminal- emulator /&/ multiplexer.
  

Hope someone finds this useful! Cheers

My sister has been planning to buy her husband a Quest 3 headset for his birthday next month. Since she’s not much of a tech nerd nor a gamer, naturally, she asked me to help out in picking out some games to go along with the present. I’ve been pondering a lot about what games she should get for her husband specifically because he’s fairly casual about gaming. Being fairly new to VR gaming myself, I thought it'd be a good idea to ask here.
Since they’re both sporty types, I think a fitness title would be a good place to start. I have limited experience with such games, but I’ve been using Powerbeats VR on occasion when I’m too lazy to get my ass out of the house. I think that it really gets the job done for home workout purposes and it would be something that they could use together, which is a big plus. I’d imagine something like Powerbeats isn’t too daunting for a beginner in VR, but it seems to offer a decent challenge for someone who’s already into fitness.
My brother in law is not much of a gamer, but he likes to play some COD or an odd action RPG. I remember he told me that he enjoyed the Horizon games and Fallout 4 recently. I’m not that well versed into VR shooters, so I could really use some help here. I’ve heard Population One is a very popular choice in the genre, but I’ve contemplated getting him Vail as well. I’ve played it myself and was really impressed with its crisp gunplay. However, I’m not sure if the hardcore nature of the game would suit him since he’s a bit of a casual. Maybe I could also get him something like Beat Saber or Synth Riders. Those are really beginner friendly imo. Actually, now that I think of it, Beat Saber is the first VR title I’ve ever tried.
I’m pretty sure at least a couple of you have tried to get someone into VR, so I have my fingers crossed that you’ll be able to help me out with some cool beginner-friendly recommendations.

So roughly 10 and a bit hours ago, I did Daisy’s challenge after last night she kept up with the “talk to again to start a challenge” thing last night when it had been over 24 hours since I completed her last challenge. I was sure my game had saved after that, and I went to make some Aurora cupcakes and the game black screened and crashed (before we got the warning mail).
I thought it was fine and came back on to check up with some other stuff. Went to Daisy and nothing I did earlier counted. And now she’s saying the typical “talk to me again” line so I have no idea if this will register for today, or if it will even let me do another one tomorrow. Honestly the bugs since the most recent patches and the lagging are hard enough to deal with, but Daisy makes me want to pull my hair out.