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2024.05.16 11:17 rosesarered_vv 22[F4M] Someone who really wanted to work things out?

I'm looking for someone who really wants to have a long term relationship. What I've usually notice here is things wont work out because the conversation becomes dry or already run out of things/interests to do together. But I wanted to try again to look for someone here who would stay even in boring days.
About me; I would like to say that I'm a clingy and sweet person when I like you. The downside is, I also love to tease and be sarcastic sometimes. I also love watching movies or series whenever I'm free or to go outside and take pictures. My ideal date is cooking together.
As for my looks: I'm a short girl with average body and long hair. I have a somewhat pale skin despite living in Philippines. People say I have cute voice in calls but I don't like my voice. (you can be the judge!) As for you: I am introvert most of the time and I'm much more attracted to introverts and smart people with a provider mindset. Would prefer to exchange pictures first! Height doesn't matter, as long as your personality can carry your lack in height šŸ˜š Not really into guys who smoke or have tattoos. Genuinely would only want to date someone around 22-30.
If you've reach here, I really appreciate it and thank you for reading!
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2024.05.16 10:56 Bitter_Camel_4860 AITA for speaking Dutch to my girlfriend?

I am German, she is Eastern European, but she speaks German fluently. We speak English to each other.
I lived in The Netherlands for almost 10 years and I also speak Dutch fluently, and my previous gf was Dutch and was speaking Dutch to her. German and Dutch are very similar.
I was telling my gf the following story:
I was once sitting in a queue with my friends and some Dutch people started commenting on my friendā€™s looks, saying . My gf goes silent. I continue: they didnā€™t know I could understand Dutch, so they get embarrassed when I turn around and reply . My gf says she doesnā€™t understand, so I repeat the sentence slowly because if youā€™re fluent in German you can understand Dutch.
She got grumpy and said that yes, she can understand with some effort or if she reads it, but if Iā€™m telling a funny story itā€™s not funny if I have to translate it to her.
AITA?
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2024.05.16 10:39 IROON-MAAAN Voices Discussion (with my German users)

This post is primarily aimed at my German users. I noticed something about the different voices in the live conversation. Some of the voices have a very strong American accent in German. I noticed this especially with Sky and Ember. Sky the most, which is a shame as I find her voice the most likeable, but the American accent in the German is a bit annoying in the long run. Am I the only one who has noticed this?
If anyone wants to try it out: it works best if you let them tell you a 2-3 minute story, then change the voice and say "can you tell me the story you just told me again" in the same chat.
Deutsche Version:
Der Post richtet sich vor allem an meine deutschen Benutzer. Mir ist etwas bei den unterschiedlichen Stimmen in der live Konversation aufgefallen. Einige der Stimmen haben im deutschen einen sehr starken amerikanischen Akzent. Vor allem bei Sky und Ember ist mir das aufgefallen. Bei Sky am meisten, was schade ist, da ich ihre Stimme am sympathischsten finde, aber der amerikanische Akzent im deutschen nervt mich etwas auf Dauer. Bin ich der einzige dem das aufgefallen ist?
Falls es jemand ausprobieren will: am besten klappt es wenn man sich eine 2-3 minĆ¼tige Geschichte erzƤhlen lƤsst, dann die Stimme Ƥndert und im gleichen Chat sagen "kannst du mir die Geschichte von eben nochmal erzƤhlen".
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2024.05.16 10:31 omegaMKXIII 31 [M4F] Austria/Europe - Looking for my forever lady

I am looking for a lady between 25 and 35 years old, for a committed monogamous childfree relationship. My goal is to become a true team, supporting each other, caring for each other, nurturing each other and helping each other grow and realise our goals and dreams as much as possible. I'm hoping to find someone that values a relationship as much as I do and takes it seriously. It's not the only thing my life revolves around, but it's also not just something 'nice to have' for me.
I am 186cm tall, slim/fit built, dark brown hair, brown eyes. Both my arms are tattooed (full sleeve), as are my calves and the areas above my ankles. Regarding pictures see below. I am a runner, training multiple times a week. I'm also vegan. My love languages are physical touch and words of affirmation. While I am mostly securely attached, withdrawing from me triggers anxiety and I have made a horrible experience with an avoidant partner in the past, so that is something I fear I cannot deal with again.
I am also an atheist.
I am a very warm, soft and sensitive person, I think I am humorous, I am self reflecting a lot and I can also be really passionate and romantic. Those are traits that also are really important to me in a woman.
I can be quite social, I am a good talker, but also love to listen to really get to know someone on a deeper level. I can enjoy an evening out with friends just as much as the silence of sitting at the shores of the river and watching the sunset in solitude (although I've been craving to watch it together with a partner for a really long time now). I can be out in a pub, at a rave, a metal show or at a football game and have the time of my life, but I cannot do these things every day; I need recharge time (on the sofa, in the woods for a run, a lazy Sunday staying in bed etc.). This should give you an idea; basically, I am a homebody that thoroughly enjoys going out in moderation.
I won't say too much about hobbies; suffice it to say I am into the dark, the obscure, the macabre, the occult, the mysterious, the erotic. It won't surprise you that I had a gothic phase in my youth, bonus points if you did too!
What I'm looking for
Although similar hobbies and interests are a plus, emotional and intimate compatibility are more important to me. I am a very sensitive and emotional person (I do cry easily and by this point I don't think I'll ever be able to change that, sorry), so if you're too, we will definitely understand each other. I need someone who I can open up to (which I do rather quickly, anyway), be myself, bare my soul to and I need these things from you, too. I've had my share of emotionally unavailable women who were afraid of intimacy so I know I can't deal with that again because of the way how those things affect me. I am always emotionally invested with the woman I pursue and in those cases that was to my detriment. But my ability to feel so deep is also something I wouldn't want to change because as of yet, although it's getting harder, I haven't given up on finding someone.
With those emotional needs come two requirements that I found to be vital over the years: First, being able to be silly and cutesy together and to accept each other's inner child and care for it. I am not talking about having to deal with another person's immaturity or inability to perform basic adult skills, rather with the way sadness, hurt, anxiety and being overwhelmed manifests for me (and maybe for you, too?). I need someone who is able to comfort me, to hold me, to allow me to be weak and needy for a while until I've calmed down, and I'm more than ready to offer the same. Your inner child can come out for a while, no problem (: Also in a positive way: Thankfully, today everyone seems to be understanding of the cuteness overload cats (or any animal baby, really) can cause; I need that with a partner. I also still have plushies as comfort animals and ideally, you do too.
Apparently in every relationship, one person is the stronger one. In the past, I have been with women who obviously were stronger than me, but that doesn't mean they always had to be strong, far from it. I certainly need to be able to feel protected, but it's not like I'm a particularly needy partner, like everyone, I have my ups and downs, but I can pull my weight and have been told by past partners that I am very caring and that they felt safe and understood with me, and providing that for my partner is really important for me as well.
Second, intimate compatibility. I am rather insatiable and love to experiment when it comes to the bedroom, so you should, too, in order that we can explore and enjoy together. I found out how fulfilling living out those fantasies can be after years of never being able to try and in a relationship, this kind of fulfillment for both partners is a must for me. I found the term 'filthy best friends and partners' to be a perfect description.
I'm looking for a balance between healthy independence and being emotionally present. A relationship where we 'get' each other; we're both each other's number one and treat each other like royalty. Where a disagreement leads to more intimacy between us as we understand better, not to resentment. Where we're comfortable baring our souls to each other, becoming a safe haven and secure base for each other. I don't like the modern notion that you 'should never feel too safe in a relationship' because that sounds like running from the mafia (and believe me, I love mafia movies); you should always put in effort, yes, but safety is one of the things I always want to experience and provide in a relationship. We shouldn't fear that a disagreement leads straight to breakup. I know ā€˜self-sufficiencyā€™ is trending right now, but I feel like as partners, weā€™re partly responsible for each other and not our own but also each otherā€™s happiness. Being dependant and dependable at the same time is important; making each otherā€™s wellbeing a priority. If youā€™re not able to healthily depend on someone and their support while youā€™re having a hard time, look elsewhere. If I have to be afraid youā€™ll run at the first major problem that surfaces, even if itā€™s a ā€˜youā€™-problem, itā€™s not going to work. I think that all things can and need to be talked about. If you think ignoring someone for days is a form of communication, please look elsewhere.
I am looking for someone real. We all have our problems, I don't want or need a 'perfect' person. You don't have everything figured out or 'all your shit' together. Be imperfect. Admit when you feel sad and angry, lonely, hopeless or even helpless ā€“ it's all relatable. Don't hide it. Be quirky, be dorky, be witchy, opinionated, be yourself. Don't pretend.
I'm looking for someone to share romance with. Not great gestures, but small, meaningful ones. Poems for each other, expressing our feelings; cards with heartfelt messages that we put our perfume/cologne on, and a symbol that means something to us only, the print of your lips with lipstick, the way I sign and seal my letters for you.
Just as important to me is agreeing on living a healthy life, staying in shape both for ourselves and for each other, regularly working out and eating healthy. I am drug and disease-free and expect the same of you. I do drink as I love a good beer or glass of wine, rum or whiskey, but I've never really been drinking much and especially during the past year have further reduced it. One vice I have is that I enjoy a couple of cigars a year, but I can definitely accommodate you in this regard.
Another important point is aligned life goals: I value safety more than adventure. I want to build a home together with my partner, a safespace for the both of us, where we always feel loved and protected, a place that we create together, make it cozy together so we just love to get back home there wherever we might have been, a home we decorate together for Halloween (my favourite holiday) or Christmas or Springtime, as we live in tune with the seasons, enjoying nature on a walk or the rain outside, reading in our cozy home. I value stability and harmony.
Appearance-wise, I am into ladies on the smaller side), so I'm looking for someone petite/slim/skinny/healthy-fit. Likewise, I am not really muscular and don't have visible abs; like I said, I'm a runner, so if you're more into the gym-type, I'm not a good fit.
Iā€™d prefer to move from text to voice calls, videochat and then meeting up, all of that rather sooner than later. Not that thereā€™s a need to rush anything, but Iā€™d rather see earlier if weā€™re compatible or not; as someone who catches feelings fast I need to protect myself.
Caveats
If you're interested, feel free to message me and include some pictures of yourself and I will reply with my own. Have a nice day (:
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2024.05.16 10:30 Mental-Technician695 Ex unliked all my instagram pictures after just liking them 1 week ago

So my ex broke up with me about 3 months ago. Mostly because I was too jealous. I accepted it and went into no contact almost immediately. After about 1 1/2 months she contacted me because of tickets for an expo. We were supposed to go there together with two of her friends but then the break up happened. However I had my own ticket so she really had no reason to contact me because of it. We had some small talk and ended up meeting for coffee. The meeting was pretty good and I was trying to set up a second date at my place. She said she likes me a lot and only wishes me the best but right now she does not see me as more than a friend. She did say if I was fine with meeting up as friends it would be ok for her. I thanked her for her honesty but told her that I am not interested in just friendship. She said thats a shame but that she understood. I went back to no contact. That was about 1 month ago. After the break up she almost instantly removed me as a follower on instagram but kept following me and watched my stories. I simply ignored it. She also went on dating apps 2 weeks after breaking up and got her first tattoo which she never mentioned before. She knew that I was not against tattoos so she had no reason not to tell me about it when we were together. She also refollowed all her ex partners and former lovers on instagram apart from the ones that she knows are in a relationship currently. She even matched one of my friends on bumble who did not know she was was my ex instantly and lied to him about how long she has been single. So here is what is totally confusing me right now. After I went back to no contact because she just wanted to be friends I posted two selfies on instagram. She liked both of them. The latest one was about a week ago. I did not read too much into it because she still followed me and she told me she liked me as a friend. So I thought it was just a friendly gesture. Until yesterday. I posted my new piano on my story. I always wanted to learn playing it and thought this was a good time to do so. She saw the story. Later she unfollowed me. But she did not just unfollow me she also unliked all my pics. Not just the recent ones. All of them. I never posted anything to make her jealous or anything. I would have understood her unfollowing because she just does not want to see the stuff I post anymore. But to purposely unlike all my pics after just liking one week ago is extremely confusing for me.
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2024.05.16 10:29 mrsauravthakur āš ļø RUSSIAN PROSECUTOR SEEKS 17-YEAR TREASON SENTENCE FOR ELDERLY SCIENTIST, NEWSPAPER SAYS

Full Story ā†’ https://PiQSuite.com/reuters/russian-prosecutor-seeks-17-year-treason-sentence-for-elderly-scientist-newspaper-says
Prosecutors have demanded a 17-year prison sentence for an elderly Russian scientist who is accused of handing secret information to German intelligence, Russian newspaper Kommersant reported on Thursday.
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2024.05.16 10:27 omegaMKXIII 31 [M4F] Austria/Europe - Looking for my forever lady

General
I am looking for a lady between 28 and 35 years old, for a committed monogamous childfree relationship. My goal is to become a true team, supporting each other, caring for each other, nurturing each other and helping each other grow and realise our goals and dreams as much as possible. I'm hoping to find someone that values a relationship as much as I do and takes it seriously. It's not the only thing my life revolves around, but it's also not just something 'nice to have' for me.
I tried to be as concise as possible while still providing what details I think are crucial to know; I realise this post turned out very long, but I prefer those because I can get as good an idea as possible with detailed descriptions, bar actually talking to the person, and find that very valuable, so if that also applies to you, that would be awesome.
Basics
I am 186cm tall, slim/fit built, dark brown hair, brown eyes. Both my arms are tattooed (full sleeve), as are my calves and the areas above my ankles. Regarding pictures see below. I am a runner (ranging from 5k to full marathon), training multiple times a week. I'm also vegan. My love languages are physical touch and words of affirmation. While I am mostly securely attached, withdrawing from me triggers anxiety and I have made a horrible experience with a fearful avoidant partner in the past, so that is something I fear I cannot deal with again.
I am also an atheist.
I am a very warm, soft and sensitive person, I think I am humorous, I am self reflecting a lot and I can also be really passionate and romantic. Those are traits that also are really important to me in a woman.
I can be quite social, I am a good talker, but also love to listen to really get to know someone on a deeper level. I can enjoy an evening out with friends just as much as the silence of sitting at the shores of the river and watching the sunset in solitude (although I've been craving to watch it together with a partner for a really long time now). I can be out in a pub, at a rave, a metal show or in the stadium watching football and have the time of my life, but I cannot do these things every day; I need recharge time (on the sofa, in the woods for a run, a lazy Sunday staying in bed etc.). This should give you an idea; basically, I am a homebody that thoroughly enjoys going out in moderation.
I won't say too much about hobbies; suffice it to say I am into the dark, the obscure, the macabre, the occult, the mysterious, the erotic. It won't surprise you that I had a gothic phase in my youth, bonus points if you did too!
What I am looking for
Although similar hobbies and interests are a plus (and there have to be at least a couple things we have in common), emotional and sexual compatibility are more important to me. I am a very sensitive and emotional person (I do cry easily and by this point I don't think I'll ever be able to change that, sorry), so if you're too, we will definitely understand each other. I need someone who I can open up to (which I do rather quickly, anyway), be myself, bare my soul to and I need these things from you, too. I've had my share of emotionally unavailable women who were afraid of intimacy so I know I can't deal with that again because of the way how those things affect me. I am always emotionally invested with the woman I pursue and in those cases that was to my detriment. But my ability to feel so deep is also something I wouldn't want to change because as of yet, although it's getting harder, I haven't given up on finding someone.
With those emotional needs come two requirements that I found to be vital over the years: First, being able to be silly and cutesy together and to accept each other's inner child and care for it. I am not talking about having to deal with another person's immaturity or inability to perform basic adult skills, rather with the way sadness, hurt, anxiety and being overwhelmed manifests for me (and maybe for you, too?). I need someone who is able to comfort me, to hold me, to allow me to be weak and needy for a while until I've calmed down, and I'm more than ready to offer the same. Your inner child can come out for a while, no problem (: Also in a positive way: Thankfully, today everyone seems to be understanding of the cuteness overload cats (or any animal baby, really) can cause; I need that with a partner. I also still have plushies as comfort animals (some of which in quite a litteral sense as they make for really amazing pillows) and ideally, you do too.
There is a saying that in every relationship, one person is the stronger one. In the past, I have been with women who obviously were stronger than me, but that doesn't mean they always had to be strong, far from it. I certainly, like I said, need to be able to feel protected, but it's not like I'm a particularly needy partner, like everyone, I have my ups and downs, but I can pull my weight and have been told by past partners that I am very caring and that they felt safe and understood with me, and providing that for my partner is really important for me as well ā€“ this just to put the picture I'm (somewhat haphazardly) trying to paint into perspective.
Second, sexual compatibility. I have a high libido and I have kinks, so you should, too, in order that we can explore and enjoy them together. I found out how fulfilling living out those fantasies can be after years of never being able to try and in a relationship, sexual fulfillment for both partners is a must for me. Someone on here has coined the term 'filthy best friends and partners' which I have no shame to be stealing because it's such an apt description.
I'm looking for a balance between healthy independence and being emotionally present. A relationship where we 'get' each other; we're both each other's number one and treat each other like royalty. Where a disagreement leads to more intimacy between us as we understand better, not to resentment. Where we're comfortable baring our souls to each other, becoming a safe haven and secure base for each other. I don't like the modern notion that you 'should never feel too safe in a relationship' because that sounds like running from the mafia (and believe me, I love mafia movies); you should always put in effort, yes, but safety is one of the things I always want to experience and provide in a relationship. We shouldn't fear that a disagreement leads straight to breakup. I know ā€˜self-sufficiencyā€™ is trending right now, but I feel like as partners, weā€™re partly responsible for each other and not our own but also each otherā€™s happiness. Being dependant and dependable at the same time is important; making each otherā€™s wellbeing a priority. I love the relationship model outlined in Stan Tatkinā€™s ā€˜Wired for Loveā€™ and you should, too. If youā€™re not able to healthily depend on someone and their support while youā€™re having a hard time, look elsewhere. I know codependency is the latest thing everyoneā€™s afraid of, but experiencing someone youā€™ve grown very attached to just bailing because theyā€™re counterdependent and canā€™t stand working on themselves while simultaneously letting you in is something Iā€™d rather not go through again. If I have to be afraid youā€™ll run at the first major problem that surfaces, even if itā€™s a ā€˜youā€™-problem, itā€™s not going to work. I think that all things can and need to be talked about. If you think ignoring someone for days is a form of communication, please look elsewhere. If you thinkā€™s itā€™s okay to lovebomb someone and then leave after a couple of months with the minimum amount of information and no proper conversation because youā€™re not ready to own up to whatā€™s happening to you emotionally, please look elsewhere.
I am looking for someone real. We all have our problems, I don't want or need a 'perfect' person. You don't have everything figured out or 'all your shit' together. Be imperfect. Admit when you feel sad and angry, lonely, hopeless or even helpless ā€“ it's all relatable. Don't hide it. Be quirky, be dorky, be witchy, be opinionated, be yourself. Don't pretend.
I'm looking for someone to share romance with. Not great gestures, but small, meaningful ones. Poems for each other, expressing our feelings; cards with heartfelt messages that we put our perfume/cologne on, and a symbol that means something to us only, the print of your lips with lipstick, the way I sign and seal my letters for you.
Just as important to me is agreeing on living a healthy life, staying in shape both for ourselves and for each other, regularly working out and eating healthy. I am drug and disease-free and expect the same of you. I do drink as I love a good beer or glass of wine, rum or whiskey, but I've never really been drinking much and especially during the past year have further reduced it. One vice I have is that I enjoy a couple of cigars a year, but I can definitely accommodate you in this regard.
Another important point is aligned life goals: many childfree people seem to be adventurous, but that is a trait I don't associate with myself at all. I value safety more than adventure. I want to build a home together with my partner, a safespace for the both of us, where we always feel loved and protected, a place that we create together, make it cozy together so we just love to get back home there wherever we might have been, a home we decorate together for Halloween (my favourite holiday) or Christmas or Springtime, as we live in tune with the seasons, seeing them change around us, enjoying nature on a walk or the rain outside, reading in our cozy home. I value stability and harmony.
Appearance-wise, I am into ladies on the smaller side (albeit not regarding height), so I'm looking for someone petite/slim/skinny/healthy-fit. Likewise, I am not really muscular and don't have visible abs; like I said, I'm a runner, so if you're more into the gym-type, I'm not a good fit.
The natural progression for me would be to move from text to voice calls, videochat and then meeting up, all of that rather sooner than later. Not that thereā€™s a need to rush anything, but having my heart broken because I already developed feelings due to a longer timeframe and then everything unexpectedly turning to shit is not something I want to have to live through again. Iā€™d rather see earlier if weā€™re compatible or not; as someone who catches feelings fast I need to protect myself, I unfortunately had to learn that
Caveats/Possible red flags
If you're interested, feel free to message me and include some pictures of yourself and I will reply with my own. Have a nice day (:
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2024.05.16 10:22 Educated_Bro Can you hear their simulation creaking?

The signs seem to be everywhere. Since GME started to run we are supposed to believe the following incredible (and sometimes contradictory) facts/occurrences are unrelated
Anyhow all this is seemingly coming to a head, like Right Now ā€”ā€” While I am paranoid by nature and , I ask you to consider the possibility that maybe GME here is one piece of a larger puzzle that involves people realizing how to assert their own agency and that by simply buying and holding we are breaking an ancient and very powerful form of parasitic entity, banking or otherwise that has been sitting on the human race for a while now,
šŸ“ā€ā˜ ļøšŸ“ā€ā˜ ļøšŸ“ā€ā˜ ļø I still bought more GME today regardless šŸ“ā€ā˜ ļøšŸ“ā€ā˜ ļøšŸ“ā€ā˜ ļø
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2024.05.16 10:19 llewellynnz Terminated for gross negligence

Brace yourself, it's a long one.
We have had a bit of a horror week and hope the information may be useful to others. I guess this is also a bit of a cathartic AITA for us as well.
We hired our 18-year-old German au pair privately through an NZ Facebook group. She was in the last month of a long trip here, but her last family could not afford to pay her any more. We put her straight on a salary with our company, gave her a near-new nice car to drive, and even allowed her boyfriend to stay and fed him for over a week.
When we hired her, we insisted on a contract and included an instant dismissal clause for 'gross negligence' - we were glad we did.
She did an okay job. Looking after one four-year-old for around three to four hours a day and a few extra days by arrangement, she would turn up at the exact minute expected and stop working the minute scheduled. She didn't assist with things like cooking, other than one night, or with dishes after she or her boyfriend ate with us. But it's hard to complain about that as it was not like we enforced that as part of the remit.
Anyway, we get to the last week and allow her time off (after having spent the weekend away) to drop her boyfriend at the airport. She arrives back at the absolute last minute and bundles our daughter out the door quickly to go to the park via a local book-sharing room. A bit over an hour later, they rush back in, with the au pair upset and my daughter a bit concerned that a lady had been mean to the au pair. From this point, the stories start changing.
First version: The au pair says she got a call from her mum with some bad news and went to the car, parked around 10 meters away and in complete view of the playground, to take the call so our daughter wouldn't see her upset. She says she was there for three minutes before an angry mum comes up with Maeve, telling her off for leaving her alone, and taking a picture of the car. Having been told the 'bad news', I jump in my vehicle with the au pair to find the woman to give her a telling-off for being so mean to a young lady in a bad situation. Thankfully, we don't find her.
Through the wonder of social media, the mother does, however, find us and her story is rather different from the au pair's:
Second version: The mother tells us our daughter was on her own for 'quite some time', estimated to be at least ten minutes. This park is next door to a competition-standard skate park with some pretty hard skating and big drops, and she wandered all the way over there. There are some details I will skip, but she slowly made her way back to the playground (thankfully not the other way to the major highway) and played more (unfortunately including peeing herself on the slide), approaching other children and parents, and finally latching on to another mother trying to deal with her three kids.
That is when she asked our daughter where her parents were. Our daughter said she was there with her au pair, and after a while, the mother managed to find her where she explained to her the situation just wasn't right. The au pair's biggest concern - that she didn't want the mother to tell us as it would 'ruin her last few days in NZ'.
On this news, we confronted the au pair again who did not deny it.
Third version: The au pair now says she went back to the car as she was cold and wanted to put on more clothes. Our daughter had told her she wasn't cold and wanted to keep playing, so she left her as it was only for a few minutes. But indicated she stayed in the car to warm up and her mother called and following this she lost track of time. We checked phone records later and she had made an outgoing call, she wasn't the one called.
At this stage, my wife is incredibly upset, both from the lies, the fears around our daughter being alone, and that this was somehow her failure. I send the au pair back to her quarters, of a mind that if that is it, there will be no more out-of-home trips but she can see out the week.
But it still feels fishy to me, the au pair doesn't seem upset enough for the news she shared. So I contact a representative of the park to check their CCTV. They promise to do so in the morning. And here comes the kicker...
Fourth version: The park management tracked our daughter around the park, separate from our au pair, for AT LEAST 25 minutes. They can't say it wasn't less than that due to blind spots. The woman there is extremely disturbed that it happened considering the nature of the park, and suggests the au pair needs to be gone immediately. I agree.
At this point it is not just the negligence, it is the lies.
I confront the au pair - managing somehow to stay calm - and immediately dismiss her under the gross negligence clause. I tell her to pack, head back to the living area and book secure accommodation (but the cheapest I would send an 18-year-old daughter to) in the city for the six nights till she flies out, a bus ticket, and a taxi to the bus. I pay for it all, not wanting any comeback and still treating her as human and someone's daughter, even if she didn't extend us the same courtesy.
No apologies, no arguments, but there is a postscript.
The car she was using is, like most new cars, surrounded by cameras. There is even one that records on a small rolling memory in case of accidents, but when the car is off it is off. Her and her boyfriend clearly had panicked, thinking the video evidence we got the timeline from was from the car, and she was upset she didn't know the cameras were recording (they weren't, and can't) as they took the car camping on the weekend. I wonder if the concern came down to the condom wrapper we found in the back seat where my daughter sits, lol!
Anyway, our new, older, more mature Japanese au pair arrives on the weekend. We haven't let this deter us from what should be a great process. Just make sure you can terminate contracts and have an exit plan in place. And don't rush off to confront Karens without all the details.
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2024.05.16 10:15 swiftyin Tipping

So i plan a visit later in the year to NY with my partner and just want some guidance.
Firstly - tipping for me personally is a show of excellent service or quality. No set amount or calculation.
I dont agree with it but I do feel I understand how it works for wait staff in the US and am happy to do as you do while I visit.
What calculation do you use to tip? Is it a percentage of the cost of the meal? If so, is it expected yo continually rise? Let's say it's 10%. If I spend $500 is $50 expected as a tip and if I spend $1000 is $100 expected?
Hotel staff. Do you tip them? If so, what expected?
Who doesn't automatically "need" a tip? I have read some horror stories. Like today I read about a guy getting a 4k tattoo and tipping $200. A family member thought that wasn't enough. Now while he may want to tip because he's so happy with the work, should one be expected? The tattoo artist makes his own prices and obviously charges what he thinks is the correct price for his work. Shouldn't he be happy with that? Is a tip necessary? I should mention, in the post I read there was no mention of the tattoo artists feelings on the matter and my question is based on the mentality around the tip. I did read a story a while ago about a (self employed)masseuse who was not happy about no tip. But she makes her own prices so I don't understand.
Hopefully you can understand my confusion. In short. Who gets tipped and who doesn't?
It's a cost I'm going to have to account for so any help I'd appreciate.
Thanks for reading
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2024.05.16 10:08 m4xedout PFP AND RAPPERS

soo i have seen alot of ppl saying having an other rapper as ur insta pfp is a meat riding, what u all say abt this? i had juiceWRLD pfp on my insta acc but thing is i never glaze that man like other fans do(face tattoos n shit)
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2024.05.16 10:04 Tyrion5Lannister Question relating the book overcoming gravity

Hello, i've got a question relating the book overcoming gravity: at paige 93 the second rule of thumb says "try to do at least 15 entire repetitions per exercise". Then the books says you should do at least 25-50 entire repetitions per exercise for building-up strength und 40-75+ entire repetitions for building-up muscels. Im pretty sure that those numbers of repetitions are meant for 2 exercises and not for one but i'm not sure. Maybe there is an translation mistake because i am reading in german (This is also why my english is not the best). Can someone clear things up for me? Thanks in advance! Greetings from Germany
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2024.05.16 10:04 LYD_DEZ Transitioning from dream to AP

Transitioning from dream to AP
ā€œChurch Of Lustā€ {It started off in a dream, at the end of the dream me and my eldest brother were sitting on the couch. He turned on the TV to show me a music video and the first thing that popped up on the screen was a camera recording people. Before I could realize what was going on I started to zoom in and get sucked in slowly, merging as the camera. I Instantly became it, entering a more real reality. The only way I could describe it was a camera because I was following everything from above.} [Transitioned from a Dream to an AP]
Iā€™m in an empty church viewing from above facing towards the back, the large front doors were closed. I saw a younger girl with blonde and black hair split down the middle, she looked around twenty years of age and had light acne that made her appearance more appealing. The type of energy she was exerting was of a mature woman who knew exactly what she wanted, this woman carried the energy with her of someone who has experienced more than an average human adult. To her left was a taller average good looking guy who looked around his late twenties and they were holding hands walking down the aisle, they both wore an all white robe and the man had his hoodie on. As I'm viewing them I can hear the exorcist theme song playing loud on the speaker in the empty church echoing, except it didnā€™t have the nostalgia of the movie behind it. It was in sync with what was going on, the melody was so pure that it became a part of its surroundings. As they walk down the aisle I am following them from above and we get into another room that had six people having an orgy. Three guys and three girls with one another. I cannot say if the beginning couple were included in this because I was looking at what was going on around me, not paying attention to them anymore. Everyone in this room was also wearing white robes, I can't say if he saw me when he turned towards me but it woke me up.
ā€”ā€”ā€”ā€”ā€”ā€”ā€”ā€”ā€”ā€”ā€”ā€”ā€”ā€”ā€”ā€”ā€”ā€”ā€”ā€”ā€”ā€”ā€”- The second picture is from a dream I recently had and it truly shows my wants and will power, I spent about 40 hours in this dream but this is how I started it off. I got a tattoo on my hand in bold letters saying ā€œI WILL PROJECTā€ and behind the lettering was an emotionless face saying shhhhh with its finger, exactly like the emoji šŸ¤«. I had a female chick tattoo that all over my entire body, everywhere.
The reasoning for this is because of the method I am practicing that I call ā€œseeping into the subconsciousā€, I really do believe this is the most slowly but surely way to experience the astral and you will know the difference. How I am doing this is by hyper obsessing over this topic all day everyday, writing down all experiences, daily reality checks, putting out a set genuine intention, affirmations before sleeping, asking for guidance before sleeping, and firmly believing that ā€œI leave the body every night I just have to remember itā€. The reason the tattoo told me to shush and be quiet was because Iā€™m not supposed to be sharing this with anybody unless they ask (people I know), I was always informed not to speak about this information when studying any type of Occult work. It makes sense more and more lol. There are many reasons and it is simply just a waste of time, people think Iā€™m foolish when I explain anything to them. Even if I explain it, can they conceptualize? Probably notā€¦ itā€™s like explaining colors to a blind person. I say the humbly, I try, tried, and keep trying but itā€™s all so useless and when Alchemy, it furthers me from the end result of the product. I am The Fool 0. I am currently fighting temptation on the 17th stages of the monomyth.
Does anyone have methods they use when leaving the dream state into the astral?
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2024.05.16 09:56 shwoopypadawan Needing urgent advice (Study abroad program gone wrong, ~1day to being on the streets)

I'm currently in Berlin, Germany, and about to be homeless for 2 weeks on the streets. I signed up for a study abroad program from my university, which I just graduated from last semester. I paid the application fee, got picked, paid for my own flight here and back, and then got a scholarship from an alumni couple in the department I got my degree in, and that scholarship paid for the rest of the trip.
I worked my ass off doing research and selling a bunch of my stuff to get the plane tickets because I'm pretty broke. I was excited for this trip because I was accepted into a German university for graduate school and figured I'd get a good introduction to living in Germany, and to be honest, Berlin itself has been great, all the locals I've met have been very nice to me, but my professors and everyone working from my university have been really unprofessional and tricky and now I'm in an unsafe position.** EDIT to add that when I say Friday I mean tomorrow, so I have about 1 day until getting kicked out of the hotel.
Long explanation, skip to the bottom for a TLDR:
Before I even got on a single plane, I found out customer service for my phone carrier and I had a misunderstanding a month ago when I bought my international plan and found out about 3 days in advance that my phone would be a brick here. I told the professor immediately and she said worse case scenario she would help me get a working phone when I landed, since it's kind of needed for basic safety. Just half a day before the first flight, I got bitten by a few deer ticks and said I might also need help scheduling a doctors appointment when I land, because our travel insurance required a working phone number and it was too late for me to make an appointment before my flight. The professor said that was fine and I would be helped with that as well, so I got on the first plane in full confidence.
When I landed, a day passed without either thing being handled, and that was fine by me, but then multiple days passed and the professor kind of just waved it off. I'd started to feel a little unwell and asked the professor to help me find a doctor and she said it was just jetlag.
One of the first days of the program we went to a restaurant, and the seating was a very small reserved room with our entire 20+ cohort in it. I have CPTSD and am claustrophobic and knew immediately that I did not want to sit there, so I asked the professor if she could help me ask the staff request a seat for me in the outside dining area, or, if one wasn't available, that I could just sit outside on a nearby bench and skip dinner. She told me the room was reserved for us and this was on the itinerary so I HAD to sit there, and when I again said I didn't think I could, she demanded I sit there again and condescendingly asked me if I really couldn't or just didn't want to. I started to cry as quietly as possible and then that suddenly made her understand, so we went outside and I explained that, in my opinion, trying to force any adult to do something they're uncomfortable with and have said "No" to is bad enough to me normally, but since I have a disability, it's also ableist. I tried to frame that sentiment in a "I'm sure you didn't mean it this way" kind of way but she still took offence to the criticism and I think that led to the rest of this.
After that happened I was feeling more ill and the professor said, "Oh, do you think it's lyme? Because if it was lyme you'd have a rash. It's probably still jetlag". At this point I said again that I needed some help getting a working phone number and medical advice from a doctor and she told me to take responsibility for myself. I'd bought myself a SIM card but it needed some unexpected trouble shooting and everything was in German (I know some German but only around A2 level and absolutely none is required for this program), so I'd already tried to help myself, and again could not schedule myself an appointment without a working phone.
I asked the professor if she could put her phone number in just to let the appointment scheduling process complete and she said no. I asked if she had any other ideas and she again told me to figure it out. I wound up walking 20 minutes through Berlin alone with no working phone to a doctor's office unannounced, barely able to fill half the sign in sheet and navigate the language barrier, and successfully got the antibiotics I needed and a lyme diagnosis. The nurse even asked why I came alone. Thankfully for me everyone in the doctors office including the doctor was very very nice to me despite the curveball I through them.
Not long after all that the professor sent an email with me cc'd in to the office of international affairs at the university, and the email said, in effect, "This student said they have a disability and can't stick to the itinerary and therefore I think they're not a good fit for this program and should go home." I immediately responded that that wasn't accurate, that I just could not sit inside a restaurant or other very cramped space, etc. Then I figured while I was at it I'd tell them about the total lack of care for my safety or wellbeing here. After sending that email the professor confronted me and tried to pretty much intimidate me into admitting everything was all my fault or something, I honestly have no clue, I think she was just upset and trying to make me feel better somehow. I think my criticism really got to her and made her kind of just hate me and that she wanted to make me make her feelings make sense. No clue honestly.
Anyway, after that the office of international affairs reached back out to me and were acting way nicer than they were when I first enrolled in this program, which felt sus, but I was haggard and miserable and wanted to be able to trust them so I did. They told me if I was considering coming home early for my own health and safety, that I could unenroll that night to make sure the alum who gave me a scholarship would at least be refunded, but that I had to do it that night since it was the last day to drop for a refund. I said I wasn't sure if I wanted to leave the program, and they said if you're considering it unenroll and if you want to stay after further discussion then we can probably just go ahead and re enroll you.
So I did it. The next day I'm scheduled to meet with someone who told me the day or so before that she would be my advocate and that she was there to listen to and represent me, and when I join the zoom meeting, it's her, but also two other people from the international affairs office. They're telling me my return flight has already been scheduled and everything and that they were sending out a person to chaperone me on the flight, because, though it was totally ignored on my flights here, I'd mentioned at the very start of the application process that I'd been a human trafficking victim before and ideally wanted to fly with someone instead of alone. All of this had less than a 24 hour turnaround from me unenrolling.
I realized hours after unenrolling that I don't want to leave the program, I just want to actually be allowed to engage in the program as it was advertised and as it was promised, and that leaving the program, to me, feels like capitulating to the professor being an asshole to me and like removing liability from the university. In short I think I pretty much got tricked into unenrolling. I told them I didn't want to leave early and they told me they already scheduled everything and got a refund for my hotel room, so if I don't take the flight back Friday, I will be homeless on the streets for 2 weeks until the flight that I personally purchased for the 31st, and that since I hit the unenroll button, my housing, health, or safety will no longer be the universities problem after Friday.
So, the fuck do I do with this, ya'll got any advice? I could really use some. Or even just some support haha.
TLDR: Got tricked into hitting unenroll button after damaging professors ego, most likely purposely tricked to absolve the university of responsibility because how the profs were treating me and everything I described probably did make me a liability even if not my fault, but I'm mad and I'm enjoying Berlin and don't want to leave or let the university get away with risking my health and safety multiple times with no apologies.
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2024.05.16 09:51 Fendera Sonos app forcing me to update! Can't do anything unless I update.

Sonos app forcing me to update! Can't do anything unless I update.
Because of obvious reasons, I refused to apply the latest update on the Play Store, I disabled auto update for new the app. At first it worked fine and I had no issues using the app. My app is in German, but what it says is that I have to update the app and speakers in order to continue to use my system. I can't play music from the app, group speakers, most settings are grayed out as you can see in the screenshots. Fortunately I can still use voice commands for playing music and other smart home stuff. Now it says that I have to update in order to continue to use the speakers and features within the app. This is absolutely ridiculous Sonos!
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2024.05.16 09:49 Salazarsa Iā€™ve never felt this alone with my thoughts

I feel like Iā€™m going to explode if I donā€™t vent. Iā€™ve been seeing myself get progressively more angry where anything will set me off or make me go into a rage or cry. Before my depression was just me in bed but Iā€™m feeling too many emotions now. Especially anxiety and anger. I really really want to die so bad but I could never bring myself to try after all my failed attempts itā€™s just another slap in the face. But I canā€™t feel this anger and build up anymore I think Iā€™m going to lose my mind.
Thereā€™s too much pressure on me I donā€™t think I will ever be able to live up too. Especially with my mom. Everyday she tells me how badly she wants me to start her a business or something so that we can get rich and it puts so much pressure on me because thatā€™s not my dream Iā€™d never be able to start something I donā€™t even know anything about that. But everything is on my shoulders she tells me sheā€™s tired of working and she canā€™t do it anymore like I want her to work. Iā€™m only 25 km still in school I havenā€™t even started my life yet but the burden of her life is now on my shoulders. I feel like a horrible person because sheā€™s the best and of course I wish I was rich to help her but I donā€™t think that will ever happen.
The business is one thing but the lack of freedom to be who I am is another thing. My mom is very religious and I live with her, Iā€™m not religious I have tattoos and a boyfriend, but she doesnā€™t know any of that. I have to cover up everytime I leave the house I canā€™t bring my boyfriend over I always have to lie. And I want to move out but she threatens to jump off the balcony or says sheā€™ll kill me if I leave (exaggerated) but itā€™s too much guilt I carry I think it will kill me. Itā€™s too much for me to handle now I feel trapped like I wonā€™t ever be able to have a life. I feel selfish and guilty thatā€™s why I want to die Iā€™ll never be able to live up or be of help to anyone Iā€™m useless
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2024.05.16 09:40 shwoopypadawan Need advice ASAP (study abroad program gone pretty wrong)

I'm currently in Berlin, Germany, and about to be homeless for 2 weeks on the streets. I signed up for a study abroad program from my university, which I just graduated from last semester. I paid the application fee, got picked, paid for my own flight here and back, and then got a scholarship from an alumni couple in the department I got my degree in, and that scholarship paid for the rest of the trip.
I worked my ass off doing research and selling a bunch of my stuff to get the plane tickets because I'm pretty broke. I was excited for this trip because I was accepted into a German university for graduate school and figured I'd get a good introduction to living in Germany, and to be honest, Berlin itself has been great, all the locals I've met have been very nice to me, but my professors and everyone working from my university have been really unprofessional and tricky and now I'm in an unsafe position. **EDIT TO ADD, when I say they're trying to make me go home Friday I mean tomorrow, so I have like 1 day until I'm kicked out of the hotel.
Long explanation, skip to the bottom for a TLDR:
Before I even got on a single plane, I found out customer service for my phone carrier and I had a misunderstanding a month ago when I bought my international plan and found out about 3 days in advance that my phone would be a brick here. I told the professor immediately and she said worse case scenario she would help me get a working phone when I landed, since it's kind of needed for basic safety. Just half a day before the first flight, I got bitten by a few deer ticks and said I might also need help scheduling a doctors appointment when I land, because our travel insurance required a working phone number and it was too late for me to make an appointment before my flight. The professor said that was fine and I would be helped with that as well, so I got on the first plane in full confidence.
When I landed, a day passed without either thing being handled, and that was fine by me, but then multiple days passed and the professor kind of just waved it off. I'd started to feel a little unwell and asked the professor to help me find a doctor and she said it was just jetlag.
One of the first days of the program we went to a restaurant, and the seating was a very small reserved room with our entire 20+ cohort in it. I have CPTSD and am claustrophobic and knew immediately that I did not want to sit there, so I asked the professor if she could help me ask the staff request a seat for me in the outside dining area, or, if one wasn't available, that I could just sit outside on a nearby bench and skip dinner. She told me the room was reserved for us and this was on the itinerary so I HAD to sit there, and when I again said I didn't think I could, she demanded I sit there again and condescendingly asked me if I really couldn't or just didn't want to. I started to cry as quietly as possible and then that suddenly made her understand, so we went outside and I explained that, in my opinion, trying to force any adult to do something they're uncomfortable with and have said "No" to is bad enough to me normally, but since I have a disability, it's also ableist. I tried to frame that sentiment in a "I'm sure you didn't mean it this way" kind of way but she still took offence to the criticism and I think that led to the rest of this.
After that happened I was feeling more ill and the professor said, "Oh, do you think it's lyme? Because if it was lyme you'd have a rash. It's probably still jetlag". At this point I said again that I needed some help getting a working phone number and medical advice from a doctor and she told me to take responsibility for myself. I'd bought myself a SIM card but it needed some unexpected trouble shooting and everything was in German (I know some German but only around A2 level and absolutely none is required for this program), so I'd already tried to help myself, and again could not schedule myself an appointment without a working phone.
I asked the professor if she could put her phone number in just to let the appointment scheduling process complete and she said no. I asked if she had any other ideas and she again told me to figure it out. I wound up walking 20 minutes through Berlin alone with no working phone to a doctor's office unannounced, barely able to fill half the sign in sheet and navigate the language barrier, and successfully got the antibiotics I needed and a lyme diagnosis. The nurse even asked why I came alone. Thankfully for me everyone in the doctors office including the doctor was very very nice to me despite the curveball I through them.
Not long after all that the professor sent an email with me cc'd in to the office of international affairs at the university, and the email said, in effect, "This student said they have a disability and can't stick to the itinerary and therefore I think they're not a good fit for this program and should go home." I immediately responded that that wasn't accurate, that I just could not sit inside a restaurant or other very cramped space, etc. Then I figured while I was at it I'd tell them about the total lack of care for my safety or wellbeing here. After sending that email the professor confronted me and tried to pretty much intimidate me into admitting everything was all my fault or something, I honestly have no clue, I think she was just upset and trying to make me feel better somehow. I think my criticism really got to her and made her kind of just hate me and that she wanted to make me make her feelings make sense. No clue honestly.
Anyway, after that the office of international affairs reached back out to me and were acting way nicer than they were when I first enrolled in this program, which felt sus, but I was haggard and miserable and wanted to be able to trust them so I did. They told me if I was considering coming home early for my own health and safety, that I could unenroll that night to make sure the alum who gave me a scholarship would at least be refunded, but that I had to do it that night since it was the last day to drop for a refund. I said I wasn't sure if I wanted to leave the program, and they said if you're considering it unenroll and if you want to stay after further discussion then we can probably just go ahead and re enroll you.
So I did it. The next day I'm scheduled to meet with someone who told me the day or so before that she would be my advocate and that she was there to listen to and represent me, and when I join the zoom meeting, it's her, but also two other people from the international affairs office. They're telling me my return flight has already been scheduled and everything and that they were sending out a person to chaperone me on the flight, because, though it was totally ignored on my flights here, I'd mentioned at the very start of the application process that I'd been a human trafficking victim before and ideally wanted to fly with someone instead of alone. All of this had less than a 24 hour turnaround from me unenrolling.
I realized hours after unenrolling that I don't want to leave the program, I just want to actually be allowed to engage in the program as it was advertised and as it was promised, and that leaving the program, to me, feels like capitulating to the professor being an asshole to me and like removing liability from the university. In short I think I pretty much got tricked into unenrolling. I told them I didn't want to leave early and they told me they already scheduled everything and got a refund for my hotel room, so if I don't take the flight back Friday, I will be homeless on the streets for 2 weeks until the flight that I personally purchased for the 31st, and that since I hit the unenroll button, my housing, health, or safety will no longer be the universities problem after Friday.
So, the fuck do I do with this, ya'll got any advice? I could really use some. Or even just some support haha.
TLDR: Got tricked into hitting unenroll button after damaging professors ego, most likely purposely tricked to absolve the university of responsibility because how the profs were treating me and everything I described probably did make me a liability even if not my fault, but I'm mad and I'm enjoying Berlin and don't want to leave or let the university get away with risking my health and safety multiple times with no apologies. Currently will probably be homeless in Berlin for 2 weeks.
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2024.05.16 09:35 ani77 Seeking Help with Adopting a Puppy: Frustrating Experience with Adoption Centers

TL;DR: Tried to adopt a puppy through several agencies, had a bad experience with Sahara Adoption Agency. Despite completing paperwork for a 7-month-old mixed-breed German Shepherd, the representative stopped responding and gave inconsistent updates. Looking for a reliable agency to adopt a puppy. Any recommendations or advice?
Hi everyone,
Last month, we contacted several adoption agencies in hopes of adopting a dog. Our goal was to start the paperwork and get on the approval list to foster a puppy. Unfortunately, our experience has been less than ideal.
Weā€™ve met several puppies and interacted with people from various rescue and kennel agencies, but the process has been frustrating. One particularly disappointing experience was with the Sahara Adoption Agency. We fell in love with a 7-month-old puppy who is currently in a kennel. We completed all the necessary paperwork with a representative from the agency.
However, when we asked her to start the paperwork, she stopped responding to our messages and ignored our calls. After 4 days, she finally responded, saying that our application is in the approval process. This was confusing since she had initially told us it was already approved. Since then, she has not responded to any of our WhatsApp calls or messages. We havenā€™t paid any money.
We are now looking to foster a new puppy and are very frustrated with the situation. Can anyone recommend a reliable agency where we can adopt a puppy, or offer any advice on how to handle this situation?
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2024.05.16 09:29 -----Diana----- 17f looking for friends

Hi :) first off, thank you for reading this if you read it. But I want to add that Iā€™m blind, socially awkward and with ADHD and weird social skills. Iā€™m trying to fix the fixable. But if it makes you uncomfortable itā€™s ok, skip it. But if not, let me introduce myself.
Iā€™m Romanian. I love animals, music, languages and cultures. Iā€™m open to discussing anything though, except politics sports and video games because I donā€™t know a lot about them, but if you want to explain things, itā€™d be discussed openly too.
Specifically about interests.
Languages? I have right now a weird little fixation on Germanic and Slavic languages. And I tried to learn some, but was too shy to approach native speakers so yeah.
Books? I prefer romance books but I read whatever, for example Iā€™m in the process of reading ā€œThe Count of Monte Cristoā€, which, Iā€™d not categorize as a romance book lol. I wonā€™t say more if youā€™re reading it now, donā€™t want to give spoilers.
Music. I listen to Queen, Mozart, The Beatles, Beethoven, Elvis Presley and Michael Jackson, but also Snoop Dogg, Eminem, Nirvana...you name it. Whatever sounds good.
Anyway Iā€™ll stop because I wrote a lot. But Iā€™m here if you want to talk about anything. In school now so maybe I wonā€™t answer instantly by the way.
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2024.05.16 08:57 Yurii_S_Kh St. Theodosius of the Kiev Caves

St. Theodosius of the Kiev Caves
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Theodosius, whose name means "gift of God," grew up in the small cities of Vasilkov and Kursk where his father was a judge. Although his parents were Christian and gave him an education directed primarily at the study of Scripture, they were astonished to see his heart so completely overtaken by love for God.
His father died when Theodosius was 13, and this caused the boy to retreat still further from the world common to one of his age and social rank. He gave away his good clothes, preferring to dress like the poor, and found pleasure in helping the peasants with their work. He often went to church, and when he learned that Divine Liturgy was sometimes not celebrated due to a lack of prosphora, he undertook to bake them himself. His mother loved him dearly, but she did not share her son's life-encompassing Christian outlook; she was very conscious of her social standing and felt that by engaging in such lowly occupations Theodosius brought shame upon the family. She tried cajoling, then threatening and even physically beating him to make him change his ways, but Theodosius stood firmly on the path of the Gospel commandments.
His zeal for the things of God inspired Theodosius to slip away with a band of pilgrims bound for the Holy Land. Three days later his mother tracked him down, berated the pilgrims for having taken the boy along, and dragged Theodosius home where she kept him in chains until the youth promised not to leave her again.
The humility of the youth and the sufferings he endured at the hands of his mother came to the attention of the governor who requested that the youth attend him in church. This served to calm the domestic drama, but Theodosius' heart yearned for a more concentrated spiritual atmosphere, for monastic life. Standing in church one day, he was struck by the words of the Gospel: "He who loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me." With fixed resolve, he took advantage of his mother's departure into the country for a few days to set out for Kiev, taking with him nothing but some bread for the road. The monks in the established monasteries, however, turned him away because he had no money. Then he heard about the righteous Anthony. Coming to his cave, Theodosius fell to his knees and begged the holy ascetic to accept him.
"My son," said Anthony, "you see my cave; it is cramped and dismal, and I fear you will not endure the difficulties of life here." "Know, O blessed father," replied Theodosius. "that God Himself has led me to your holiness that I might find salvation. I shall do all that you enjoin." Foreseeing his future greatness, the blessed Anthony accepted the determined aspirant and bade the priest monk Nikon tonsure him. Theodosius was 23 years old.
It was a few years before his distraught mother finally discovered her sonā€™s whereabouts. With great reluctance Theodosius went out to her. At first she vowed that she would die if he did not come home with her. But gradually God softened her heart and she came to see the wisdom of her son's patient admonitions. Following his advice she entered the St. Nicholas convent there in Kiev where she ended her days in peace.
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When Theodosius became abbot, he saw need for a common rule to unite the growing community--which by that time was living above the ground; only a few hermits were left in the caves--and he sent one of his monks to Constantinople to copy out the rule of the Studite Monastery. The rule governed the daily life of the monk: it set the hours of prayer and work; monks were forbidden to have any personal possessions, everything was held in common; all monks were together for common meals: time, apart from prayer, was to be spent in working; all activity was begun with a blessing from an elder and with prayer. The monks were to reveal their thoughts to the abbot, a practice which roused them to constant spiritual vigilance and helped to check manifestations of the passions before they took root in the heart.
Above all things, have fervent charity among yourselves (I Peter 4:8).
It was St, Theodosius' choice of the Studite Rule, with its emphasis on the duty of charity and the common good, which served to revive the ancient ideal of strict cenobitism and gave Russian monasticism its characteristic warmth. "What is principally necessary," taught Theodosius, "is that the youngest should love their neighbor and listen to their elders with humility and obedience. The elders should lavish on the young love and instruction; they should teach them and comfort them." This attitude created an atmosphere eminently suitable for missionary work, and it was thanks to the monasteries that Christianity was so successfully propagated in Russia.
Of a strong constitution, Theodosius was a model of industriousness. Even as abbot, he felled trees, carried water, and ground wheat, often helping the other brethren with their obediences. Once, the cook came to ask if he would assign a monk to cut firewood, as the kitchen supply was depleted. "I am idle," replied the Saint, and he set to chopping wood himself. He worked through the dinner hour and the brethren, when they came out and saw their abbot hard at work, were inspired to do likewise.
Knowing the great benefit of good books upon the soul, Theodosius instituted the reading of spiritually profitable texts during meals, and sought to augment the number of such books in the monastery. Books were still a rarity at that time, and one of the valued occupations of the monastery was the copying and binding of manuscripts. Theodosius himself helped in this work.
At first, life in the Caves Monastery was very austere indeed. The monks lived principally on rye bread and water with the addition of a few vegetables which they cultivated themselves; they wove their own cloth and sewed their own garments. When the brethren murmured about some deficiency, Theodosius exhorted them to place their trust in the Lord Who knew their needs. And his faith was often miraculously rewarded.
The reputation of the monks as 'angels on earth' began attracting pilgrims; princes and peasants ca me for spiritual counsel and left donations. Grand Prince Izyaslav, who became very attached to St. Theodosius and frequently came to visit him, was a great benefactor of the monastery, as also was the Viking Prince Shimon who was baptized into the Orthodox Church together with his entire household, numbering some 3,000 members.
With increased mean s, Theodosius was able to build a guest house for pilgrims where the poor and sick also found refuge. No beggar was ever turned away from the monastery without being given a meal. Weekly a cart was sent from the monastery laden with bread to be distributed among those in prison.
The Saint's compassion was boundless. Once there were brought to him some robbers who had been apprehended in the act of stealing monastery property. With tears the Saint entreated them to mend their ways. Then, having fed them, he let them go. The robbers were so moved by the Saint's mercy that they repented and became honest, God-fearing men.
Like St. Anthony, Theodosius also endured the effects of the princes' quarrels. At the same time he maintained his independence and did not fear risking the displeasure of his royal benefactors if he felt called as a spiritual father to admonish them. When, for example, Svyatoslav unjustly took the throne from Izyaslav, the Saint wrote a strong letter to Svyatoslav, reproving his action and urging him to restore power to his older brother. This angered Svyatoslav, and Theodosius was warned of possible consequences, but he calmly replied: "Nothing could be better for me in this life than to suffer for the sake of the truth." Mindful of the Saint' s popularity, Svyatoslav took no action against him and even went to visit him. He was surprised when Theodosius received him with the respect due to one of authority. "I was afraid you'd be angry with me," said the Prince. "Our duty," replied the Saint, "is to say what is beneficial for the soul's salvation; and you would do well to listen." Although Svyatoslav could not be persuaded to give up the throne and Theodosius continued to commemorate the pious Izyaslav as the lawful ruler, their relationship was peaceful and it was Svyatoslav who gave land for the building of the new stone church.
Work had just begun on this church when St. Anthony reposed. Neither did St. Theodosius live to see its completion. It was his custom to retire to a cave for the course of Great Lent, and it was during this time, in 1074, that the Lord revealed to him his imminent departure from this world. On Bright Week, having joyfully celebrated the radiant feast of Pascha in the monastery, he fell ill. Summoning the brethren, he informed them that his time had come, and foretold the very day and hour of his repose. By common consent of the brotherhood, he blessed his disciple Stefan to take his place as abbot, exhorting him not to change the tradition s of the monastery, "but follow in all things the law and our monastic rifle."
May 3,1074. The divinely appointed hour arrived and the bright soul of the Saint took leave of its earthly tabernacle. As he had willed, his body was laid to rest in the cave which alone with the angels had witnessed his ascetic labors.
Eighteen years after the Saint's blessed repose, the monastery brethren decided to transfer his relics to the new cathedral church. The abbot, together with monk Nestor the chronicler, went to the cave to dig up the relics and discovered them to be incorrupt. Accompanied by a large crowd of people, the relics were solemnly transferred to the Dormition Cathedral on August 14, 1092. And in 1106 Saint Theodosius was added to the list of canonized saints.
True to their promise, the holy founders of the Caves Monastery continued to watch over its existence even after their repose. There is, for example, the story written by Bishop Simon (+1226), a former monk of that monastery and principal author of the Kiev Caves Patericorn of how the stone church was completed.
Sts. Anthony and Theodosius had been gone from this world some ten years when a group of Greek iconographers came to the Caves Lavra demanding to see the two monks who had hired them to adorn the new church with frescoes. They were rather angry inasmuch as the church standing before them was considerably larger than they had been led to believe and would consequently require more work than was covered by the sum of gold they had received there in Constantinople upon signing the agreement. Abbot Nikon, confessing his ignorance of the matter, asked who it was that had hired them. "Their names were Anthony and Theodosius," "Truly," said the abbot, "I cannot summon them, for they departed this life ten years ago. But as you yourselves testify, they continue to care for this monastery even now."
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The Greeks, scarcely believing this possible, called some merchants traveling with them, who had been present at the signing of the agreement, and asked that they be shown an image of the deceased. When this was done the Greeks bowed low, for they recognized in the saints the exact likeness of the two men who had commissioned them to paint the frescoes and given them the gold. Acknowledging the supernatural power of the saints, they decided not to cancel the agreement after all, and set about with heightened inspiration to embellish the church. The iconographers never returned to Constantinople; they became monks and ended their days there in the Caves Monastery.
The Dormition Church, rebuilt in 1470, was destroyed in 1941 by an explosion which the Soviets attribute to the Germans. Witnesses, however, state that it was the communists themselves who set delayed action explosives just before the German occupation of the city.
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