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2024.05.29 06:45 MaeyaShort How do I ‘20 MTF’ explain my feelings to my best friends ’21F’ and ‘22F’?
What should I do with my eagerness to be wanted? With some background I am Maeya ‘20MTF’ and I never new my bio dad ’40M’ he and my mom ‘40F’ were young and he was a coward and left. My mom met my first stepdad ‘41M’ (aka stepdad 1) when I was 5 yo. He is mostly traditional he understands what being gay is but other than that hates all of it. Where I was the black sheep of the family. And where my brother who is 5 years younger was the masculine son he wanted. At school I was the floater in social groups who could be anywhere. But that didn’t mean I could fit in anywhere. I am too awkward of a conversationalist and social situations aren’t my strong suit. The group I stayed with through high school had 4-5 people all male and we were all “pairs” in the group where I was the third part of a trio that would hangout after school. Because my gendesexuality I really had too decode whether I had a crush on a girl or I just wanted to be them thankfully most of the time it was the ladder but I knew I was mostly into women. But because I did grow up in a semi traditionalistic setting and my messed up social awkwardness I didn’t ask anyone out ever. Because I was male presenting but flamboyant I was either expected to ask them out or I was too feminine too be into women. Which resulted in a couple of times being pranked on by both guys and girls saying that some girl would be into me just to be fake. One was a high school dance and another was just a Sophomore joke. Sophomore year my Nana passed away from a stomach/intestinal cancer. And because of my paternal upbringing she was the consistent secondary guardian that was there from the beginning. Then Junior year my mom and stepdad dad 1 got a divorce and then the pandemic happened. Senior year began and I knew I needed too prepare too say goodbye too my old life and prepare to start a new one and my friends will find there own paths in life too. But I did expect us too have a way of communicating. My mom ended up meeting someone and remarried in January of 2021. October of 2020 one my friends passed away from an OD. The rest of us graduated class of 2021. One friend ended up becoming a hermit I tried reaching out but he didn’t come out of his house. I ended up going to the Navy in September of 2021 but had a leg injury in bootcamp and didn’t make it. While in bootcamp my family moved across the country Northwest to the South. So I ended up going with them once I was out of bootcamp. I ended up feeling alone and restless I just found a job and was in a rut. Then in July of 2022 another one of my friends died in a car crash. This made me determined too try something new like college but that ended up not working out mentally. But things at work were looking brighter. I did come as trans at this time. And seeing a dynamic duo of Hope ‘21F’ and Sophia ‘22F’. For this story you need to know has been in a relationship for 3 years. I knew Sophia since I started working their and seeing her and Hope more at work and hearing about there night outs during the summer of 2023 when both turned 21 was something I wanted to be a part of as a friendship. It was difficult for me too articulate it especially when I am an outsider in so many ways but they said they’ll take me in. This was January of 2024. Due to the weather there wasn’t much communication but I did make plans to go out to a club as a first time being full femme and it was a time to tackle my gender anxieties but not my social anxieties so I wasn’t as social as I would’ve liked. Then after that Hope has had a lot of new adulting things this year from insurance, dental, a new car, and ending a three year relationship because of online betrayal.
When she broke up with her boyfriend I knew she was physically the most beautiful person inside and out I’ve ever seen but because of how well oiled her relationship seemed too be I never truly paid attention to this feeling. She is the center of the group and has constantly people wanting to hangout with her. But she was ranting how she is so bad at responding to people because there seems too be so much responsibility. With that every time I reach out she does respond in reasonable measure. But the only time I’ve been messaged by Hope or Sophia it’s too see if I can come in too cover someone else at work who called out. I know it’s not intentional. I didn’t tell Hope about the lack of communication. But I did explain my feelings and I knew she experimented once or twice and she doesn’t float that way but I have feelings for her and don’t know if they’ll go away but I’ve already accepted the facts and she means more too me than my own feelings and I’m willing too stay friends but just wanted too be honest with her and not do something stupid. She was completely understanding and as expected she viewed me as more of a sister and I completely understood and accepted. But now there is this growing communication issue where so many people want to be a part of Hope and Sophia’s click that I am having no communication in general because of my social anxieties, lack of experience in the South, am for and can hangout around recreational use but don’t partake myself, and my fear of being “the single trans/gay person of the group”. Because of those things I see people who do want to be a part of their click being shown more effort because they fit their vibe/vibe of their hangout and I don’t know what to do. From confessing my feelings to Hope and these communication issues I just realize I’ve had a few number 1 friends but I was nobody’s number 1. But I’m not looking to be number 1 I just want to not be last thought to feel wanted. I just need to know how to communicate this without feeling like I am forcing them too because the last thing I want is too be a friend out of pity.
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When she broke up with her boyfriend I knew she was physically the most beautiful person inside and out I’ve ever seen but because of how well oiled her relationship seemed too be I never truly paid attention to this feeling. She is the center of the group and has constantly people wanting to hangout with her. But she was ranting how she is so bad at responding to people because there seems too be so much responsibility. With that every time I reach out she does respond in reasonable measure. But the only time I’ve been messaged by Hope or Sophia it’s too see if I can come in too cover someone else at work who called out. I know it’s not intentional. I didn’t tell Hope about the lack of communication. But I did explain my feelings and I knew she experimented once or twice and she doesn’t float that way but I have feelings for her and don’t know if they’ll go away but I’ve already accepted the facts and she means more too me than my own feelings and I’m willing too stay friends but just wanted too be honest with her and not do something stupid. She was completely understanding and as expected she viewed me as more of a sister and I completely understood and accepted. But now there is this growing communication issue where so many people want to be a part of Hope and Sophia’s click that I am having no communication in general because of my social anxieties, lack of experience in the South, am for and can hangout around recreational use but don’t partake myself, and my fear of being “the single trans/gay person of the group”. Because of those things I see people who do want to be a part of their click being shown more effort because they fit their vibe/vibe of their hangout and I don’t know what to do. From confessing my feelings to Hope and these communication issues I just realize I’ve had a few number 1 friends but I was nobody’s number 1. But I’m not looking to be number 1 I just want to not be last thought to feel wanted. I just need to know how to communicate this without feeling like I am forcing them too because the last thing I want is too be a friend out of pity.
2024.05.29 06:35 blurryturtle 2024 Roland Garros Women's Singles Round Two Wednesday Matches
Wednesday WTA matches are below. I'll put the Thursday matches up tomorrow in the evening EST.
The courts in RG are playing slow, and as DC insider redswader pointed out, the rainy conditions are making them even slower. It makes it really tough to hit through Swiatek, and she isn’t just a defensive test. She has the windmill forehand technique that Rafa made famous, and her backhand moves the ball well and is fairly hard to read. This should be fun, but Swiatek in 2 by at least 3 breaks.
Potapova won’t help Golubic win here, and she just hit through a similar test in Kamila Rakhimova. Potapova hits real big, and she’s hungry for these wins. I expect her to win in 2.
Cocciaretto has a better backhand and a better serve, but Bucsa moves better and ended the match with Starodubtseva in excellent form. Vaguely expecting this to go 3, but it’ll require Bucsa to avoid the errors that had her down a break early against Staro. Bucsa in 3. Feels wrong to type is but I think she’s ready to win.
Garcia needs to isolate Kenin’s forehand to win this. Her own forehand is her best weapon, and if she’s serving well she should win the match. For Kenin, she needs to keep the ball in difficult spots for Garcia. Height, slices, and dropshots. Force Garcia to create her own power, because if you give Garcia pace she redirects incredibly well. Expecting another 3 setter here. Garcia in Garthreeya? Awful, awful joke. The h2h makes me think I’m wrong, but Garcia has simpler ways to score here. I’d avoid trusting me here because I didn’t see the Kenin/Siegemund clash.
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Swiatek vs Osaka :
Iga Swiatek will have a very high profile matchup in round two, and it should be entertaining tennis. Osaka has played admirably in her return to clay. She’s trying her best, she’s problem-solving on court, she’s complimentary to her opponents, and she’s winning matches. To do all that post-pregnancy and post-clay struggles is a great thing in itself, and it’s good to see her enjoying tennis again. Her backhand inside out remains one of the best on tour, and her serve and power are enough to making this interesting. 3 sets with Bronzetti indicates she probably won’t get within striking distance of Swiatek, but Bronzetti will make you really earn a win so it’s a solid second round performance.The courts in RG are playing slow, and as DC insider redswader pointed out, the rainy conditions are making them even slower. It makes it really tough to hit through Swiatek, and she isn’t just a defensive test. She has the windmill forehand technique that Rafa made famous, and her backhand moves the ball well and is fairly hard to read. This should be fun, but Swiatek in 2 by at least 3 breaks.
Fett vs Bouzkova :
If you like 20 shot rallies, this is the match for you. Jana Fett has tons of experience, and is finding herself back on tour for the first time in a while. She’s a solid baseliner, and is playing someone who is best described as a wall. Bouzkova rarely misses with her backhand, and her defense and speed are good enough to keep her consistently in the top 50 on tour. Bouzkova is expected to be the stronger player here, but I don’t see a great way for her to win quickly. Her serve isn’t particularly great, and Fett beat a solid player in Bouzas Maneiro. Bouzkova in 2-3.Golubic vs Potapova :
Big surprise for Golubic to beat Krejcikova in round one, and yet not a surprise at all for Krejcikova to lose in round one. Barbora has been really inconsistent for a while now, and Golubic is more than capable of keeping the ball moving enough to benefit if Krejcikova is spraying errors. Annnnnnnd she was. 51 unforced errors in total, although 34 winners is also pretty impressive.Potapova won’t help Golubic win here, and she just hit through a similar test in Kamila Rakhimova. Potapova hits real big, and she’s hungry for these wins. I expect her to win in 2.
Wang Xinyu vs Tomova :
Tomova was expected to give Alexandrova trouble, but Alexandrova forgot to give Tomova trouble. It sets up a very winnable second round for Tomova. She hits a heavy heavy forehand and on these slow courts it really works. Wang is through after besting Niemeier in 3, and while she’s not at her best on clay, she has good enough tennis to win. This reminds me a bit of the Arnaldi Fils match. Wang has the game to beat Tomova if she’s patient, but she tends to go big a bit too often for clay and Tomova’s game doesn’t really fluctuate. Alexandrova is a better win than Wang on paper, but Alexandrova helped by making errors. I expect this to be closer. Tomova in 3.Collins vs Danilovic :
Collins’ run continues. Danilovic is playing sharp, but the type of pressure that Danielle Collins applies can really bother anyone on tour. Danilovic needs to keep her first serve percentage high, and last round it was only at 59%. That’s not bad, but you want it higher against Collins. The good thing for Olga is she might be able to put some pressure on Collins’ serve with the power she has from the baseline, but the bad news is she’s lefty and going crosscourt will get her in trouble since Danielle loves to trade crosscourt with her backhand and tends to create a larger angle and more depth on every subsequent swing. Collins in 2.Vekic vs Kostyuk :
Vekic got a forfeit, and playing fresh can be a big advantage. Kostyuk and her both have a similar approach. They hit hard, the end. Vekic does have dropshots at her disposal, but I think Kostyuk is a slightly better mover and in these slow conditions it’ll be tough to hit through her. A long match with Pigossi will have her hitting well also, so Kostyuk in 3.Siniakova vs Paquet :
Huge surprise win for Paquet in round one, and I realized today I’ve been spelling her name wrong for a while (adding the c before the q). Sorry about that. Anyway, beating Shnaider is great, but I did not catch much of the match so I’m not sure how that happened. Siniakova is projected to win here, and aside from the Shnaider result there’s not much to argue against that. Somehow they’ve played twice with Katerina winning both, but those wins were in 2016-17. Siniakova in 2, but I would get too specific with any predictions here since Paquet is playing at home and her game is entirely built around her serve.Volynets vs Vondrousova :
Volynets and Vondrousova has the potential to last 2 hours even if it’s a straight setter. Vondrousova has more ways to score here, but Volynets commitment to defense has elevated her game. Those little squash gets and lobs might get dismissed once, but having to execute over and over can draw errors, and Volynets speed can make people force shots. Vondrousova isn’t exactly automatic on her offense. Despite the hype, Volynets will have a really hard time scoring on Marketa, so I think extending rallies is the best she can do. Vondrousova in 2-3.Gauff vs Zidansek :
Gauff didn’t bother with her usual slow start here. As she gets more comfortable on tour, the rough performances are less and less frequent, and she rights the ship and wins some of those anyway. Zidansek was a clay specialist and a mainstay on tour, but her game has fallen off a bit due to some injuries and inactivity. This should be fun, but Gauff should be a break better in each set. Gauff in 2.Wang Yafan vs Yastremska :
Big win for Wang in round one. She’s ranked 68 now, but just a season ago she was winning Challenger events and hinting at a move inside the top 100. Wins at majors are hard to come by, so this was great for her. Her variety and defensive style might give Yastremska a bit of trouble here. Yastremska is supposed to win though, and she’ll have ample time to figure it out. Yastremska in 2-3.Samsonova vs Anisimova :
Samsonova crushed Linette in round one and is a deserved favorite here, but Anisimova’s win should not be overlooked. Sramkova almost beat Ostapenko (third set tb) and has been one of the big surprises in the clay swing. Anisimova has a decent chance to beat Samsonova here but it will take her best tennis. Samsonova didn’t face a breakpoint in round one, and will likely continue to play well here. Anisimova has the h2h 2-0, but both were close. Conditions are better for Samsonova, and while I’m expecting this to be very close there really isn’t a result that would surprise me here. Both players’ levels can deviate a great deal, and both are lights out when their offense is flowing. Samsonova in 3.Bucsa vs Cocciaretto :
Haddad Maia continues to struggle to close matches out. Cocciaretto was down a set against her but managed to win in three. It wasn’t smooth sailing and there were a number of breaks exchanged, but Haddad never really regained her best form. It sets up an interesting match against one of the tour’s more unsung but likely phenoms. Cristina Bucsa hits the ball huge despite appearing to only weight about 15 pounds. Her frame is light, but she will hit winner after winner when she’s in a rhythm. This matchup is all offense.Cocciaretto has a better backhand and a better serve, but Bucsa moves better and ended the match with Starodubtseva in excellent form. Vaguely expecting this to go 3, but it’ll require Bucsa to avoid the errors that had her down a break early against Staro. Bucsa in 3. Feels wrong to type is but I think she’s ready to win.
Ostapenko vs Tauson :
Their two previous meetings have gone three sets, and both are playing decent. Ostapenko isn’t at the level that won her a RG title in 2017, but her offense is big enough to give Tauson trouble. Tauson probably isn’t quick enough to defend against Ostapenko’s onslaught, but her serving is good enough to keep her out of trouble for some portion of the match. Basically, neither player can run down their opponent’s power. I think Ostapenko actually has more stamina in this matchup, which is rare to say. Ostapenko in 3.Kenin vs Garcia :
Another really hard match here. Kenin has beaten Garcia in all three of their meetings, but none of them were on clay and her current level should be considered independent of all earlier performances. Kenin is not the same player that challenged for major titles, and from round to round her level can disappear. She won a surprise in round one against Siegemund, and that’s actually the level she’d need to give Garcia trouble.Garcia needs to isolate Kenin’s forehand to win this. Her own forehand is her best weapon, and if she’s serving well she should win the match. For Kenin, she needs to keep the ball in difficult spots for Garcia. Height, slices, and dropshots. Force Garcia to create her own power, because if you give Garcia pace she redirects incredibly well. Expecting another 3 setter here. Garcia in Garthreeya? Awful, awful joke. The h2h makes me think I’m wrong, but Garcia has simpler ways to score here. I’d avoid trusting me here because I didn’t see the Kenin/Siegemund clash.
Fernandez vs Wang Xiyu :
This is a fun one. Fernandez is clearly better on clay, and should win. All that is true, but Wang has so much power that it might not be possible for Fernandez to win in straights. Earning every point is tough, and early on in Fernandez’s career she had trouble against the bigger hitters on tour. Fernandez in 3.Osorio vs Jabeur :
Osorio Kalinina was one of the most exciting matches of the entire first round, but it ended sadly in a retirement. Kalinina was hitting the ball huge and constantly breaking Osorio’s serve. Osorio was defending with incredible heart and managed to get back into the game multiple games each set. In the end, Kalinina had to withdraw. I had her beating Jabeur with the level she was at, but I think Osorio will have a tougher time. Jabeur looked pretty good in round one, and despite her slump, clay is still a great surface for her. She’ll be able to dominate from the baseline with power in the same way that Kalinina did, and Osorio had a really hard time holding serve so Jabeur should win. It’s always a big should with Jabeur, and with her sort of slump Osorio will know that it is possible to outlast her. Maybe not physically, but mentally. Jabeur can get discouraged, so this is a risky spot. Jabeur in 2 or Osorio in 3.2024.05.29 06:30 Big-Draw-5245 Women aren't having kids because men (on average) suck and women are still dealing with misogyny
Before everyone comes at me 'NoT aLL MeN' yada yada yada yes some men are good fathers, good husbands ect. There are also women who aren't satisfactory spouses or parents and who abuse people. However my experience and the statistics themselves paint an abysmal picture of men and this is a thread about why women are choosing to avoid men and are increasingly choosing to be single and childfree. If you are one of the men who does the bare minimum I won't be patting you on the back. If you are one of the men who does the bare minimum then this thread wasn't created to complain about you. You can either back me up or move along.
I'm not going to go into too much detail about my personal life but I have kids. I enjoy being a mom, it's the best thing I have done and I don't regret my decision. I have always respected childfree people and their decision but I never understood why they felt that way, I just thought that they had no instinct to have kids and that might be the case for some of them, however I'm really starting to understand an even bigger elephant in the room and I would guess that a lot of it has to do with the state of men and the fact that women are increasingly walking away from relationships because they no longer want to be a maid, hooker, nanny and servant. Women want equality and equity and they aren't getting it. Women work more hours on average than men if you include family responsibilities and domestic tasks and not just paid employment. Women are also still being paid less. We haven't reached the degree of equity needed so that women can have multiple children and further her career. Women already have to work harder than men to achieve the same goals. Women still have to face systematic misogyny and becoming a mother inevitably increases the misogyny women are subjected to in the form of idealized motherhood. Women are held to higher moral standards than men and men get away with lackluster parenting because people expect them to be incompetent. If a man 'babysits' the child for a few hours over the weekend everyone pats him on the back. Men just have to do the bare minimum and they get a trophy. For the first time in history women finally have choices and more and more of them are opting out when it comes to having anything to do with men.
The statistics surrounding men paint a frightening picture. I will provide links here
Women Work Harder And More Intensively Than Men: Study
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.ndtv.com/feature/women-work-harder-and-more-intensively-than-men-study-3679003/amp/1
Women are being bogged down with tasks that men don't want to do at work
https://www.weforum.org/agenda/2018/10/women-are-more-productive-than-men-at-work-these-days/
It's official: women work nearly an hour longer than men every day
https://www.weforum.org/agenda/2017/06/its-official-women-work-nearly-an-hour-longer-than-men-every-day/
research shows men often need a little more help than their partners when considering issues of influence, respect, and power
https://www.gottman.com/blog/manage-conflict-accepting-influence/#:~:text=Gottman%20suggests%20actively%20looking%20for,That's%20the%20secret.
The prevalence and seriousness of incestuous abuse: Stepfathers vs. biological fathers
According to this study a whopping 1 in 6 stepfathers are nonces and 1 in 40 women are sexually abused by their biological fathers. To make things even more shocking these numbers are underestimated, since the study only highlights women, it doesn't cover men who were sexually abused as boys by their male parental figure. Considering the fact that 1 in 6 boys is sexually abused by the age of 16 and some of those abusers are male parental figures, the numbers are even higher than this study suggests.
https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/0145213484900450
https://1in6.org/statistic/
A third of male university students say they would rape a woman if there no were no consequences
https://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/americas/a-third-of-male-university-students-say-they-would-rape-a-woman-if-there-no-were-no-consequences-9978052.html
Survey suggests 1 in 10 men admit that it's OK to hit a woman
https://www.ctvnews.ca/mobile/survey-suggests-1-in-10-men-think-it-s-ok-to-hit-a-woman-1.781324?referrer=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.google.com%2F
Victims of sexual violence, statistics
On average, there are 463,634 victims (age 12 or older) of rape and sexual assault each year in the United States alone
https://www.rainn.org/statistics/victims-sexual-violence
Violence against women and girls – what the data tells us
https://liveprod.worldbank.org/en/data-stories/overview-of-gender-based-violence
Domestic violence perpetrators - women vs men
women’s violence usually occurs in the context of violence against them by their male partners; (b) in general, women and men perpetrate equivalent levels of physical and psychological aggression, but evidence suggests that men perpetrate sexual abuse, coercive control, and stalking more frequently than women and that women also are much more frequently injured during domestic violence incidents; (c) women and men are equally likely to initiate physical violence in relationships involving less serious “situational couple violence,” and in relationships in which serious and very violent “intimate terrorism” occurs, men are much more likely to be perpetrators and women victims; (d) women’s physical violence is more likely than men’s violence to be motivated by self-defense and fear, whereas men’s physical violence is more likely than women’s to be driven by control motives; (e) studies of couples in mutually violent relationships find more negative effects for women than for men
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2968709/
When you look at men as a whole group an unfortunate number of them do not make suitable husbands and fathers.
You can't blame women for 'picking wrong' when the statistics are this terrible. Now women have had the choice, they have had enough of men.
So what do you even suggest? Get all the 'good' men with emotional intelligence, kindness and integrity and allow them to take multiple wives? Make it easier for women to exist as single mothers? Because men as a group are failing women and children and enforced monogamy means that a high proportion of women and children will suffer abuse.
Because at this point, if I were a single woman, I would rather SHARE a husband that was a decent person or be single as opposed to having a pool of potential predators and abusers to choose from. That's how bad men are.
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I'm not going to go into too much detail about my personal life but I have kids. I enjoy being a mom, it's the best thing I have done and I don't regret my decision. I have always respected childfree people and their decision but I never understood why they felt that way, I just thought that they had no instinct to have kids and that might be the case for some of them, however I'm really starting to understand an even bigger elephant in the room and I would guess that a lot of it has to do with the state of men and the fact that women are increasingly walking away from relationships because they no longer want to be a maid, hooker, nanny and servant. Women want equality and equity and they aren't getting it. Women work more hours on average than men if you include family responsibilities and domestic tasks and not just paid employment. Women are also still being paid less. We haven't reached the degree of equity needed so that women can have multiple children and further her career. Women already have to work harder than men to achieve the same goals. Women still have to face systematic misogyny and becoming a mother inevitably increases the misogyny women are subjected to in the form of idealized motherhood. Women are held to higher moral standards than men and men get away with lackluster parenting because people expect them to be incompetent. If a man 'babysits' the child for a few hours over the weekend everyone pats him on the back. Men just have to do the bare minimum and they get a trophy. For the first time in history women finally have choices and more and more of them are opting out when it comes to having anything to do with men.
The statistics surrounding men paint a frightening picture. I will provide links here
Women Work Harder And More Intensively Than Men: Study
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.ndtv.com/feature/women-work-harder-and-more-intensively-than-men-study-3679003/amp/1
Women are being bogged down with tasks that men don't want to do at work
https://www.weforum.org/agenda/2018/10/women-are-more-productive-than-men-at-work-these-days/
It's official: women work nearly an hour longer than men every day
https://www.weforum.org/agenda/2017/06/its-official-women-work-nearly-an-hour-longer-than-men-every-day/
research shows men often need a little more help than their partners when considering issues of influence, respect, and power
https://www.gottman.com/blog/manage-conflict-accepting-influence/#:~:text=Gottman%20suggests%20actively%20looking%20for,That's%20the%20secret.
The prevalence and seriousness of incestuous abuse: Stepfathers vs. biological fathers
According to this study a whopping 1 in 6 stepfathers are nonces and 1 in 40 women are sexually abused by their biological fathers. To make things even more shocking these numbers are underestimated, since the study only highlights women, it doesn't cover men who were sexually abused as boys by their male parental figure. Considering the fact that 1 in 6 boys is sexually abused by the age of 16 and some of those abusers are male parental figures, the numbers are even higher than this study suggests.
https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/0145213484900450
https://1in6.org/statistic/
A third of male university students say they would rape a woman if there no were no consequences
https://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/americas/a-third-of-male-university-students-say-they-would-rape-a-woman-if-there-no-were-no-consequences-9978052.html
Survey suggests 1 in 10 men admit that it's OK to hit a woman
https://www.ctvnews.ca/mobile/survey-suggests-1-in-10-men-think-it-s-ok-to-hit-a-woman-1.781324?referrer=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.google.com%2F
Victims of sexual violence, statistics
On average, there are 463,634 victims (age 12 or older) of rape and sexual assault each year in the United States alone
https://www.rainn.org/statistics/victims-sexual-violence
Violence against women and girls – what the data tells us
https://liveprod.worldbank.org/en/data-stories/overview-of-gender-based-violence
Domestic violence perpetrators - women vs men
women’s violence usually occurs in the context of violence against them by their male partners; (b) in general, women and men perpetrate equivalent levels of physical and psychological aggression, but evidence suggests that men perpetrate sexual abuse, coercive control, and stalking more frequently than women and that women also are much more frequently injured during domestic violence incidents; (c) women and men are equally likely to initiate physical violence in relationships involving less serious “situational couple violence,” and in relationships in which serious and very violent “intimate terrorism” occurs, men are much more likely to be perpetrators and women victims; (d) women’s physical violence is more likely than men’s violence to be motivated by self-defense and fear, whereas men’s physical violence is more likely than women’s to be driven by control motives; (e) studies of couples in mutually violent relationships find more negative effects for women than for men
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2968709/
When you look at men as a whole group an unfortunate number of them do not make suitable husbands and fathers.
You can't blame women for 'picking wrong' when the statistics are this terrible. Now women have had the choice, they have had enough of men.
So what do you even suggest? Get all the 'good' men with emotional intelligence, kindness and integrity and allow them to take multiple wives? Make it easier for women to exist as single mothers? Because men as a group are failing women and children and enforced monogamy means that a high proportion of women and children will suffer abuse.
Because at this point, if I were a single woman, I would rather SHARE a husband that was a decent person or be single as opposed to having a pool of potential predators and abusers to choose from. That's how bad men are.
2024.05.29 06:28 Kindly_Pen6376 Kidless friends annoying me!
I’m a 39 year old single mom with a 4 year old. The past few weeks I’ve had plans with friends and I noticed all of them, mutual friends included, don’t have kids! I found in most of the conversations, they felt the need to explain why they don’t want them or that they’re undecided. Some are in their mid-40s and I was tempted to say “yeah well.. it’s too late anyway. Don’t worry about it!” Why waste their breath? I don’t ask why they don’t. I just chat about my job, life and my kid like any normal person, and they feel the need to do a deep dive.
Am I supposed to somehow affirm their decision because I have a kid? I’m tired. I have drama with my ex. It’s clearly not all kittens and rainbows. But I’m also FUN when my kid isn’t around. I don’t want to sit around and dissect why married couples don’t have kids. I also find it annoying that some of the women think pregnancy will be hard. The years after are 100x harder when the kids is out and if stretch marks deter you, don’t do it!
But really I just don’t care! It’s clear none of them are going to ever have them. I think I’m also becoming bitter because it feels like they’re happily married and think they couldn’t do it. I have minimal support daily and I love being a mom! But I don’t want to hear that they just couldn’t fathom having a kid with two loving and supportive parents. Why does this annoy me so bad?! AITAH? I’m afraid if one more kidless person explains their reasons to me I will spontaneously combust at this point. This would be like me ranting on about why I don’t want to get married. I wouldn’t yuck on someone’s current reality and life choices. And I realize I need mom friends - I’m actively working on it!
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Am I supposed to somehow affirm their decision because I have a kid? I’m tired. I have drama with my ex. It’s clearly not all kittens and rainbows. But I’m also FUN when my kid isn’t around. I don’t want to sit around and dissect why married couples don’t have kids. I also find it annoying that some of the women think pregnancy will be hard. The years after are 100x harder when the kids is out and if stretch marks deter you, don’t do it!
But really I just don’t care! It’s clear none of them are going to ever have them. I think I’m also becoming bitter because it feels like they’re happily married and think they couldn’t do it. I have minimal support daily and I love being a mom! But I don’t want to hear that they just couldn’t fathom having a kid with two loving and supportive parents. Why does this annoy me so bad?! AITAH? I’m afraid if one more kidless person explains their reasons to me I will spontaneously combust at this point. This would be like me ranting on about why I don’t want to get married. I wouldn’t yuck on someone’s current reality and life choices. And I realize I need mom friends - I’m actively working on it!
2024.05.29 06:15 __Sherman__ Is my (M21) and Ex gfs (F21) relationship salvageable? So checked out I just need unbiased opinions
I (M21) and ex-girlfriend (F21) I’ll call her Kate, have had an on/off relationship for 6 years. We met/reconnected in June of 2018 after having previously gone to elementary and middle school together until her mother pulled her from school.
Kate reached out to me during the summer between our freshman and sophomore year and we instantly hit it off. I ended up asking Kate to be my girlfriend in August of 2018 and we dated until March of 2019, we split for reasons I honestly don’t remember, we were 15/16 so it was likely something trivial. We both dated other people during summer 2019 and got back together in September 2019 after realizing the people we were with were essentially distractions that suppressed our feelings for each other.
After that, we dated from September 2019 until April of 2021. In October of 2020 Kate began receiving text messages from a bi-curious woman who had supposedly saw her at a party and asked her to indulge in her fantasies and would text Kate throughout the night, writing paragraphs about the things she wanted to do to her. It was revealed that this bi-curious women was actually her brother in-law and after a 2 week therapy course in Tennessee for his “sex addiction” Kate’s family allowed him back into the family and dismissed Kate’s feelings towards her predator, going as far as inviting him to family party’s and intentionally not inviting her as to not cause any drama. So to say Kate’s relationship with her family is on the rocks is an understatement. 2021 was my senior year and I had a choice to make, initially Kate had told me she wasn’t going to have a long distance relationship with me if I went to college, this weighed heavy on me and I decided I didn’t want my future to be dictated by her so I broke up with her. Shortly after we broke up Kate was unfortunately raped by her stepsisters boyfriends step brother and upon hearing this my entire world shattered. I reevaluated everything, including my priorities and decided I’d rather be with her than go to school. We got back together in June 2021 and dated again until February 2023.
In February 2023 Kate told me she didn’t know if I was a need or a want, and wanted time apart to understand if I was just comfort and security for her or if it was true love. We had a heart wrenching break up where Kate assured me we would be together in spirit. Four weeks later during spring break Kate was fucking a friend of hers that moved to Tennessee that was a few years older than us that she had met during her time being homeschooled and swore up and down he was a brother to her and whenever he was in town we would all hang out. They dated (long distance) from March 2023 until May 2023. Kate has since confessed her deep regret for doing this, and I do believe her. I missed Kate dearly so we got back together in June 2023 and dated until May 2024.
Shortly after Kate and I got back together in June 2023 she wanted to move out of her parents house and get away from the toxicity because it was affecting her mental health. Kate told me if I didn’t want to move out with her that was fine and she would find someone else to live with but I could already sense the resentment and I wanted to remove her from her situation at home so in true White Knight fashion, I suppressed my concerns of moving out and we started looking for apartments. We put the deposit down on a brand new 550 sqft unit in November and just had to wait until January for it to be built. Just before new year we found a single wide trailer for sale in a local park that was priced to sell and needed work. We ended up backing out of our apartment deposit and bought the single wide trailer for 10k cash split 50/50.
From January until May I worked on the trailer everyday after work. Completely renovated the kitchen down to studs, bathroom down to the studs, replaced a window and redid plumbing, got a new water heater and carpet in the living room, re-leveled the hallway and laid new flooring down the hall and replaced the washer and dryer area due to water damage and electrical concerns. Repainted every room, new baseboards, and bought new appliances for the kitchen (except the fridge). I’m a handy person and did most of these things myself and only subbed out the water heater and carpet install. I was pretty burnt out and what should’ve been exciting for us I slowly began to resent.
Kate and my mom/sisters weren’t on talking terms during this either due to “the dress incident” which really peeved me. My sisters are seniors this year and had to go prom dress shopping, my mom and sisters had overlapping schedules and ultimately the only day they could go get dresses was a day that Kate was unable to attend. This hurt Kate’s feelings so much she decided she wasn’t going to talk to them until they apologized for leaving her out. My mom and sisters never reached out because they didn’t even know Kate was upset and when they did find out she was upset they didn’t feel like they owed her an apology and that it was just unfortunate circumstances. I tried explaining to Kate that it did suck they went without her and I was sorry she was upset but ultimately there wasn’t anything that could be done and they didn’t intentionally hurt her so maybe she should just drop it. Kate went from regularly being at my house to never coming over and my family took notice. Eventually Kate did make peace with my mom and one of my sisters, but not both. My other sister lashed out at Kate and accused her of being manipulative and childish, my sister for whatever reason decided to compare their traumas as well (which is completely uncalled for) and voiced no desire to have a relationship with Kate. Kate took this as you would expect and distanced herself from my sister and my house. I was livid with my sister for lashing out and I wanted them to work things out and encouraged both of them to talk to each other to work things out but they are both very prideful and both were willing to die on their hill.
I’m very family oriented and the stress of Kate not having a solid relationship with my family was extremely taxing to me both mentally and emotionally and this was on top of renovating the trailer and my suppressed feelings towards moving out. I totally checked out and eventually broke up with Kate. Now I’m wondering if I made the right choice or if I’m going to regret leaving my best friend and love of my life because I am just emotionally exhausted from the arguments and not totally being ready to move out. Kate has said she is willing to do couples therapy and I can live at home and she loves me deeply but I just don’t know anymore, the whole situation is the culmination of so many factors it’s hard to pinpoint why I want to leave, I just do but a part of me wants to keep fighting.
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Kate reached out to me during the summer between our freshman and sophomore year and we instantly hit it off. I ended up asking Kate to be my girlfriend in August of 2018 and we dated until March of 2019, we split for reasons I honestly don’t remember, we were 15/16 so it was likely something trivial. We both dated other people during summer 2019 and got back together in September 2019 after realizing the people we were with were essentially distractions that suppressed our feelings for each other.
After that, we dated from September 2019 until April of 2021. In October of 2020 Kate began receiving text messages from a bi-curious woman who had supposedly saw her at a party and asked her to indulge in her fantasies and would text Kate throughout the night, writing paragraphs about the things she wanted to do to her. It was revealed that this bi-curious women was actually her brother in-law and after a 2 week therapy course in Tennessee for his “sex addiction” Kate’s family allowed him back into the family and dismissed Kate’s feelings towards her predator, going as far as inviting him to family party’s and intentionally not inviting her as to not cause any drama. So to say Kate’s relationship with her family is on the rocks is an understatement. 2021 was my senior year and I had a choice to make, initially Kate had told me she wasn’t going to have a long distance relationship with me if I went to college, this weighed heavy on me and I decided I didn’t want my future to be dictated by her so I broke up with her. Shortly after we broke up Kate was unfortunately raped by her stepsisters boyfriends step brother and upon hearing this my entire world shattered. I reevaluated everything, including my priorities and decided I’d rather be with her than go to school. We got back together in June 2021 and dated again until February 2023.
In February 2023 Kate told me she didn’t know if I was a need or a want, and wanted time apart to understand if I was just comfort and security for her or if it was true love. We had a heart wrenching break up where Kate assured me we would be together in spirit. Four weeks later during spring break Kate was fucking a friend of hers that moved to Tennessee that was a few years older than us that she had met during her time being homeschooled and swore up and down he was a brother to her and whenever he was in town we would all hang out. They dated (long distance) from March 2023 until May 2023. Kate has since confessed her deep regret for doing this, and I do believe her. I missed Kate dearly so we got back together in June 2023 and dated until May 2024.
Shortly after Kate and I got back together in June 2023 she wanted to move out of her parents house and get away from the toxicity because it was affecting her mental health. Kate told me if I didn’t want to move out with her that was fine and she would find someone else to live with but I could already sense the resentment and I wanted to remove her from her situation at home so in true White Knight fashion, I suppressed my concerns of moving out and we started looking for apartments. We put the deposit down on a brand new 550 sqft unit in November and just had to wait until January for it to be built. Just before new year we found a single wide trailer for sale in a local park that was priced to sell and needed work. We ended up backing out of our apartment deposit and bought the single wide trailer for 10k cash split 50/50.
From January until May I worked on the trailer everyday after work. Completely renovated the kitchen down to studs, bathroom down to the studs, replaced a window and redid plumbing, got a new water heater and carpet in the living room, re-leveled the hallway and laid new flooring down the hall and replaced the washer and dryer area due to water damage and electrical concerns. Repainted every room, new baseboards, and bought new appliances for the kitchen (except the fridge). I’m a handy person and did most of these things myself and only subbed out the water heater and carpet install. I was pretty burnt out and what should’ve been exciting for us I slowly began to resent.
Kate and my mom/sisters weren’t on talking terms during this either due to “the dress incident” which really peeved me. My sisters are seniors this year and had to go prom dress shopping, my mom and sisters had overlapping schedules and ultimately the only day they could go get dresses was a day that Kate was unable to attend. This hurt Kate’s feelings so much she decided she wasn’t going to talk to them until they apologized for leaving her out. My mom and sisters never reached out because they didn’t even know Kate was upset and when they did find out she was upset they didn’t feel like they owed her an apology and that it was just unfortunate circumstances. I tried explaining to Kate that it did suck they went without her and I was sorry she was upset but ultimately there wasn’t anything that could be done and they didn’t intentionally hurt her so maybe she should just drop it. Kate went from regularly being at my house to never coming over and my family took notice. Eventually Kate did make peace with my mom and one of my sisters, but not both. My other sister lashed out at Kate and accused her of being manipulative and childish, my sister for whatever reason decided to compare their traumas as well (which is completely uncalled for) and voiced no desire to have a relationship with Kate. Kate took this as you would expect and distanced herself from my sister and my house. I was livid with my sister for lashing out and I wanted them to work things out and encouraged both of them to talk to each other to work things out but they are both very prideful and both were willing to die on their hill.
I’m very family oriented and the stress of Kate not having a solid relationship with my family was extremely taxing to me both mentally and emotionally and this was on top of renovating the trailer and my suppressed feelings towards moving out. I totally checked out and eventually broke up with Kate. Now I’m wondering if I made the right choice or if I’m going to regret leaving my best friend and love of my life because I am just emotionally exhausted from the arguments and not totally being ready to move out. Kate has said she is willing to do couples therapy and I can live at home and she loves me deeply but I just don’t know anymore, the whole situation is the culmination of so many factors it’s hard to pinpoint why I want to leave, I just do but a part of me wants to keep fighting.
2024.05.29 06:00 theConsummateProf How should I feel
So I (24M) am going through a difficult time emotionally in terms of trying to figure out my current situation. One thing I can’t get over is what went wrong with my parents who are somehow still together. They both CLEARLY don’t like each other very much and I’m pretty sure the reason why is that they spend way too much time in the house together and it’s been going on for so long. My dad “worked” from home for a long time as a photographer (basically most of the time that I’ve known him) and things got real tough on his business for a good minute. But he went out of his way to not suck it up and do certain work that would’ve helped pay the bills (refused to shoot weddings, other things that annoyed him). It honestly comes off to me now as a bit lazy, and low and behold do I learn that he was a big pot head for my entire life. I personally don’t have an issue with weed, but I used to find it strange why he never really had energy. He also used to vent to me about his marital frustrations and how depressed he was CONSTANTLY, which I think I’ve figured out is because he smoked too much damn weed. This also made things very hard to enjoy when I was growing up bc I think I kinda felt responsible for him. He was always in an existential crisis. I’m gonna stick with the occasional joint but I’m going to be a booze guy from here on out (responsibly I might add, I’m not an idiot). Through all that, I generally have pretty good memories with him as he could be lots of fun at times. In terms of fatherly advice though, he kinda sounds like he barely, if at all, knows what he’s talking about. A lot. BUT, he did show up to everything that me or my brother were involved with and was and still is our biggest fan. He may just kinda repeat back what I say a lot when I ask for advice, but at least he’s trying. I appreciate the effort.
Mom was different. She worked a nursing job on the weekends that she had to commute to. This pretty much destroyed her mental health in my opinion, as she’s incredibly isolated and used to exaggerate how bad, irresponsible, and not caring I was as a kid and teen (I was the kind of kid adults DREAM of. 4.0 student, full ride, helpful, interesting hobbies but can also have fun. Never a burden to anyone really, club joiner, plenty of friends. The whole 9 yards). I was pretty introverted but I think it’s because of how they set everything up to be SO isolated. Putting me in an isolating school that was pretty far from our neighborhood because mom resented it. Our house is literally in a ditch that was pretty separated from everyone (only 1 neighborhood friend). Social skills were honestly at a premium to develop, but I survived. She always seemed so irritated at me, would point out a lot of insecurities I had to her friends to laugh about with, and never really cared to participate in things with me. Never showed up to school events or functions that I was involved with, blamed it on a fear of crowds (which she conveniently doesn’t have when it’s something she wanted to do). She was just kinda mean and distant. Did I jaw back and embarrass her occasionally? Sure, but considering other kids were shooting up heroin in our family (a true fucking story that she had to stick her nose in), I think I can be forgiven. This isolation had an incredibly negative impact on her health. The house is a wreck, her heart sucks as she had a heart attack a couple years back. It’s bad. Real bad. All she does is sit on her damn phone and watch tiktok. Her brain (which, she actually was acutely intelligent) is pretty much fried. It also didn’t help to learn from my aunt that my mom has had affairs (I want to think multiple but I can only confirm one), and the one I can confirm is with a convicted pedophile that she continues to defend (and my dad idiotically goes along with her bullshit on it)… so yeah. What the fuck am I supposed to do with that information.
So how do I make sense of all this. I’m very bad at communicating what I need unless I’m drunk, but I still want them to do better. I work from home with great pay for a single man, so I’m sorta using that to “make up for lost time” on things I missed out on as a kid, but I still feel isolated and stressed bc of the situation. I know I have a deep mistrust and fear of women that I need to get over as well, but I don’t know how to do that. I’m going to see yet another therapist about this, but even that’s burning me out. What’s with this situation?
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Mom was different. She worked a nursing job on the weekends that she had to commute to. This pretty much destroyed her mental health in my opinion, as she’s incredibly isolated and used to exaggerate how bad, irresponsible, and not caring I was as a kid and teen (I was the kind of kid adults DREAM of. 4.0 student, full ride, helpful, interesting hobbies but can also have fun. Never a burden to anyone really, club joiner, plenty of friends. The whole 9 yards). I was pretty introverted but I think it’s because of how they set everything up to be SO isolated. Putting me in an isolating school that was pretty far from our neighborhood because mom resented it. Our house is literally in a ditch that was pretty separated from everyone (only 1 neighborhood friend). Social skills were honestly at a premium to develop, but I survived. She always seemed so irritated at me, would point out a lot of insecurities I had to her friends to laugh about with, and never really cared to participate in things with me. Never showed up to school events or functions that I was involved with, blamed it on a fear of crowds (which she conveniently doesn’t have when it’s something she wanted to do). She was just kinda mean and distant. Did I jaw back and embarrass her occasionally? Sure, but considering other kids were shooting up heroin in our family (a true fucking story that she had to stick her nose in), I think I can be forgiven. This isolation had an incredibly negative impact on her health. The house is a wreck, her heart sucks as she had a heart attack a couple years back. It’s bad. Real bad. All she does is sit on her damn phone and watch tiktok. Her brain (which, she actually was acutely intelligent) is pretty much fried. It also didn’t help to learn from my aunt that my mom has had affairs (I want to think multiple but I can only confirm one), and the one I can confirm is with a convicted pedophile that she continues to defend (and my dad idiotically goes along with her bullshit on it)… so yeah. What the fuck am I supposed to do with that information.
So how do I make sense of all this. I’m very bad at communicating what I need unless I’m drunk, but I still want them to do better. I work from home with great pay for a single man, so I’m sorta using that to “make up for lost time” on things I missed out on as a kid, but I still feel isolated and stressed bc of the situation. I know I have a deep mistrust and fear of women that I need to get over as well, but I don’t know how to do that. I’m going to see yet another therapist about this, but even that’s burning me out. What’s with this situation?
2024.05.29 05:55 Gortski123 My dad told me to keep his planned divorce a secret. AITA?
Hello, bere with me this will be long...
Backstory with my family; I (25y M) , grew up as a military brat with one brother and mom and dad. My dad was always gone during the first 10 years of my life in Iraq and Afganistan. Year long deployments usually , and when he returned home it felt really awkward and we didn't talk... just kind of avoided each other. I never felt like he really liked me or my brother all that much. I made me unsure of how to act around older men for a long time... But from the perspective of a kid I thought him and my mom were like any other parents.
I didn't realize how him being in and out of my life effected me and my brother until we were older and out of the house. Constant moving to duty stations, starting over every 3 years, and an emotionally absent father can take a toll on a young boy. As a result I became very socially awkward and with guys and especially girls. To the point were I physically COULD NOT look people in the eye. Perhaps because whem my father would get mad he would stare at me in silence with a look that pierced my soul. It took years to hold eye contact with anyone (any body else have that problem?). My family is very awkward as well , my mom usually spoke for most of us in social settings , I guess my brother and I took after my dad's quiet demenour.
For me my childhood was best spent AWAY from home , usually crashing and my friends houses for days on end. If I was home , we all just kind of did our own thing in separate room... never ate together, at most watched TV sometimes. I spend most of my time locked away in my room once school got out or until I saw my friends again, same with my brother
Fast forward to turning 18, I enlisted in the army and got out of the house. Strangley enough my dad cried he day I left for basic , I guess I wasn't expecting much more than a goodbye hug. But that lead us to start talking more often than I ever had as a kid , which was kind of cool and also a little strange to get used to. After about 2-3 years of developing the relationship we never had , one day I get a phone call...
I thought it would be like our normal "how's life"? Or monthly chit chat we started doing. But OH NO... this wasn't that. He calls me and were talking like normal and he says "I'm glad we could bond over the past few years, I'm sorry I wasn't always there for you". I said "me too. And don't worry I've delta with it already". And he said "glad to hear , now can I trust you with a secret?". Didn't know what to expect... I said sure you can. "I'm going to divorce your mom in a few months , once you and your brother moved out it wasn't the same and I'm not happy".
Just silence... , what the he'll can a 20 year old guy who just recently formed a bond with his dad supposed to say??
To wrap the story up , no.. I didn't tell my mom. I was frozen with keeping his trust and our bond , but also not wanting to be the one to tell her. In the end , she found out I knew the two months before it happened and hasn't been the same since. She used to the mom who was the life of the party , but now she cries almost evryday since it happend (4 years now). She said she hated me for the first year . So that severed me and hers relationship and were just now starting to recover from it. I barely speak to my dad now , maybe 1 or twice every 3-5 months... that bond when down the funding gutter in the end lol..
On top of that , my dad moves back to his hometown where all his family lives. He told my brother he slept with like 12 women from dating apps (cool flex I guess) and is now engaged to a single mom with 2 teenagers. Apparently they go on vacations and hangout more than we ever did as a kid. Most days I really don't give a shit about any of it , but there's days (especially bad ones) were I consumes my thoughts and I feel like a piece of shit for never telling my mom and how his new family gets the dad I always wanted him to be. On top of if i had told her how things might have ended better. My dad also wants me to come visit and meet his new family eventually... fuck that... I'd be happy to never see them ever. So if you made it though all of that , AITA for telling my mom his plan?
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Backstory with my family; I (25y M) , grew up as a military brat with one brother and mom and dad. My dad was always gone during the first 10 years of my life in Iraq and Afganistan. Year long deployments usually , and when he returned home it felt really awkward and we didn't talk... just kind of avoided each other. I never felt like he really liked me or my brother all that much. I made me unsure of how to act around older men for a long time... But from the perspective of a kid I thought him and my mom were like any other parents.
I didn't realize how him being in and out of my life effected me and my brother until we were older and out of the house. Constant moving to duty stations, starting over every 3 years, and an emotionally absent father can take a toll on a young boy. As a result I became very socially awkward and with guys and especially girls. To the point were I physically COULD NOT look people in the eye. Perhaps because whem my father would get mad he would stare at me in silence with a look that pierced my soul. It took years to hold eye contact with anyone (any body else have that problem?). My family is very awkward as well , my mom usually spoke for most of us in social settings , I guess my brother and I took after my dad's quiet demenour.
For me my childhood was best spent AWAY from home , usually crashing and my friends houses for days on end. If I was home , we all just kind of did our own thing in separate room... never ate together, at most watched TV sometimes. I spend most of my time locked away in my room once school got out or until I saw my friends again, same with my brother
Fast forward to turning 18, I enlisted in the army and got out of the house. Strangley enough my dad cried he day I left for basic , I guess I wasn't expecting much more than a goodbye hug. But that lead us to start talking more often than I ever had as a kid , which was kind of cool and also a little strange to get used to. After about 2-3 years of developing the relationship we never had , one day I get a phone call...
I thought it would be like our normal "how's life"? Or monthly chit chat we started doing. But OH NO... this wasn't that. He calls me and were talking like normal and he says "I'm glad we could bond over the past few years, I'm sorry I wasn't always there for you". I said "me too. And don't worry I've delta with it already". And he said "glad to hear , now can I trust you with a secret?". Didn't know what to expect... I said sure you can. "I'm going to divorce your mom in a few months , once you and your brother moved out it wasn't the same and I'm not happy".
Just silence... , what the he'll can a 20 year old guy who just recently formed a bond with his dad supposed to say??
To wrap the story up , no.. I didn't tell my mom. I was frozen with keeping his trust and our bond , but also not wanting to be the one to tell her. In the end , she found out I knew the two months before it happened and hasn't been the same since. She used to the mom who was the life of the party , but now she cries almost evryday since it happend (4 years now). She said she hated me for the first year . So that severed me and hers relationship and were just now starting to recover from it. I barely speak to my dad now , maybe 1 or twice every 3-5 months... that bond when down the funding gutter in the end lol..
On top of that , my dad moves back to his hometown where all his family lives. He told my brother he slept with like 12 women from dating apps (cool flex I guess) and is now engaged to a single mom with 2 teenagers. Apparently they go on vacations and hangout more than we ever did as a kid. Most days I really don't give a shit about any of it , but there's days (especially bad ones) were I consumes my thoughts and I feel like a piece of shit for never telling my mom and how his new family gets the dad I always wanted him to be. On top of if i had told her how things might have ended better. My dad also wants me to come visit and meet his new family eventually... fuck that... I'd be happy to never see them ever. So if you made it though all of that , AITA for telling my mom his plan?
2024.05.29 05:41 Count-Daring243 Best 22 Revolver Holster
 | submitted by Count-Daring243 to u/Count-Daring243 [link] [comments] https://preview.redd.it/xhlyy6jxda3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=a0a671b0b93617a359471d023f987a447b9c31b2 Get ready to explore the world of revolver holsters designed for the popular 22 caliber firearm! In this roundup article, we've compiled a list of the top 22 Revolver Holsters available in the market today, catering to various preferences and styles. From functional and practical designs to sleek and stylish options, we've got you covered. So sit back, relax, and let us help you find the perfect holster to securely hold and protect your 22 caliber revolver. The Top 8 Best 22 Revolver Holster
Reviews🔗Water Buffalo Leather .22 Revolver Holster for Single Action Wheelgunshttps://preview.redd.it/9v0npruxda3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=acc0e59e8a4483add5090ce5fada71c2bbcd7eb4 I've been using the Versacarry. 22 Cal. Single Action Revolver Holster for a while now, and I've got to say it's a pretty cool accessory to have. It's made from premium water buffalo leather, which is quite a step up from the average holster material. The sturdy belt loop ensures that your revolver stays securely in place, even when you're on the move. One downside I noticed is that it only supports single-action. 22 caliber revolvers, so if you're using a different kind, you'll have to look elsewhere. But overall, I'm really happy with this holster. It's well-made, and the quality is top-notch. I've had no issues with it so far, and I'm confident it'll serve me well in the future. 🔗Durable 22 Cal. Single Action Revolver Holster for Wheelgun Lovershttps://preview.redd.it/bddam8fyda3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ff7428c6f172e971459197f2745cf91ef0d678d9 I recently tried out this Versacarry. 22 Cal. Single Action Revolver Holster, and I must say, I was thoroughly impressed by its sturdy construction and comfortable fit. Made from premium water buffalo leather, this holster is well-suited for all those. 22 reproduction Colt Single Action Army revolvers and similarly sized wheelguns. What stood out to me the most was the secure belt loop and open bottom design, which provided a snug fit without any unnecessary bulk. Overall, this is a great choice for any cowboy looking to protect and carry their. 22 Cal single action revolver in style. 🔗Concealed Carry Inside-the-Waistband Handgun Holsterhttps://preview.redd.it/7ardd8lyda3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f7168c26a1c9a9fdbc5481141f9d8d9e3bc5e6bd As a frequent user of this Inside-the-Waistband Handgun Holster, I must say it has its pros and cons. Firstly, the lightweight design featuring a sturdy nylon shell and soft brushed tricot interior is a boon for me. It effectively safeguards my 9mm auto handgun without compromising on comfort. However, the metal spring clip, though handy, sometimes slips over the top of my pants or belt, which can be a bit inconvenient. Also, the 3.5-inch size works great for my Ruger LCP, but it might be a bit too snug for larger models. Another feature I appreciate is its versatility as it can be used as a hip holster or inside the pants, allowing for an adjustable and comfortable fit. Despite its excellent qualities, the holster lacks a retention strap, which can be a drawback, especially when you're on the move. 🔗North American Arms Mini-Rev Pocket Holster 22MAG for Enhanced Precision and Comforthttps://preview.redd.it/fzlxd1yyda3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=cdd1f9a0f6674a08b6323322ee6b3c62d7725963 As a fellow gun enthusiast, I recently came across the North American Arms Mini-Rev Pocket Holster 22MAG and decided to give it a try. Having used it for a while now, I must say it has made a notable difference in my shooting experience. The first thing that stood out to me was the secure grip it provides for my mini revolver. It holds the weapon firmly in place, which ultimately enhances my precision and accuracy during target practice. However, I must admit that the holster's size can be a bit of a drawback at times. It may not be the most suitable option for those who prefer a larger holster for their mini revolver. Despite its minor flaws, the North American Arms Mini-Rev Pocket Holster 22MAG has proven to be a reliable and comfortable accessory for my mini revolver. If you're looking for a secure and compact solution for your mini revolver, this pocket holster might just be the perfect addition to your arsenal. 🔗Desantis Wild Hog Ruger GP100 Holster - Ambidextrous Leather Cross Draw Optionhttps://preview.redd.it/hk8u9zczda3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0b74f74f275a5fbc010d35dfe882bd476234add6 The Desantis Wild Hog Holster is a versatile and comfortable option for carrying your Ruger Single Six 5.5" Revolver. Made from top-quality leather, it fits snugly around your waist and can be worn cross draw or with a forward cant. Its belt accommodating design allows you to adjust the tension for a perfect fit, ensuring your gun stays securely in place throughout the day. While the Wild Hog may be a bit heavier on your pocket, it's a reliable, durable, and stylish choice for any revolver enthusiast. Overall, if you're looking for a holster that provides both style and functionality, this leather holster is worth considering. 🔗Stylish Space Cowboy Holster for H&K 45 Revolverhttps://preview.redd.it/crwg72ozda3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=97f56c670ff99530f82976b6c8173e40de36db9a As a gun enthusiast, I've always been on the lookout for premium quality holsters to keep my scoped revolvers secure. So, when I came across the Triple K Space Cowboy Holster, I knew it was worth a try. The full-grain leather holster is certainly a sight to behold, with its classic design that's both stylish and functional. What stood out to me was the sturdiness and security the holster offered. It was a perfect fit for my Smith and Wesson 629 Stealth Hunter, with its 7.5" barrel. I appreciated the tie-off leg strap, which added stability and ensured my holster stays in place during all my outdoor adventures. However, I found the price quite steep for the level of craftsmanship involved. The belt loop's snap mechanism feels a tad flimsy and might not be the best fit for larger and heavier revolvers. Despite these minor drawbacks, I would still recommend the Triple K Space Cowboy Holster to any gun enthusiast looking for a premium, high-quality holster to keep their prized scoped revolver close at hand. 🔗High-Quality, Durable 22 Revolver Holster for Womenhttps://preview.redd.it/zlf0p450ea3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=24c4793ec0174fea82ac1a7894e1ecdf959266ab I recently had the chance to try out this Hilason Western Right Hand Gun Holster Rig, and let me say, it's a pretty impressive piece of equipment. First off, the holster itself is beautifully crafted, with a genuine leather finish that gives it a nice, old-timey cowboy feel. The stitching was tight and precise, and the metal core casing made it unbreakable and non-collapsible. One thing that stood out to me was the holster's versatility. Not only does it fit most barrel lengths ranging from 4 to 8 inches, but it's also been designed with a leg tie and leg flap behind the holster, enhancing its durability and comfort. This made it perfect for a daily wear gun holster, whether I was walking around town or out on the range. That being said, there were a couple of things that I wasn't completely thrilled about. For one, the holster does have quite a few holes punched an inch apart, which could make it a bit confusing to figure out the correct size for your specific pants. While the provided measurements worked for me, I can see how this could be an issue for others. Additionally, while the gun holster fits most barrel lengths, it's made specifically for a right-handed shooter, which could make it a bit limiting for left-handed shooters looking to use this holster. Overall, though, I've really enjoyed using this Hilason Western Right Hand Gun Holster Rig. The combination of its high-quality craftsmanship and versatile design make it a top choice for any gun enthusiast looking to up their holster game. 🔗Quality Western-style leather holster for 703 Revolverhttps://preview.redd.it/1u1qu8f0ea3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=8cc31a3c84328ee28be4e18682b057260b95170e The Denix Old West Leather Holster is a must-have accessory for anyone who loves the authentic feel of the Wild West. Not only does it look the part, but it also feels and functions like a genuine holster should. The craftsmanship is evident in the beautifully tooled leather design, which adds a touch of class to your 1873 non-firing replica or Colt Peacemaker pistol. One of the things I appreciate most about this holster is the ease of use. The right-draw design ensures that your firearm is always easily accessible when you need it, and the adjustable leg-tie makes it comfortable to wear for extended periods. The shell loops on the belt are a nice touch, as they accommodate the replica shells that fit these pistols, adding another level of realism. As with any product, there are a few minor drawbacks. The holster isn't the most compact option out there, which can make it a bit tricky to carry around if you're planning to go somewhere where you might need to hide your firearm. Additionally, the medium waist size might not be perfect for everyone, so it's something to consider before making a purchase. Overall, I'm thoroughly impressed with the Denix Old West Leather Holster. It's a top-quality product that adds a touch of authenticity to any enthusiast's collection. If you're looking for a durable, functional, and stylish holster that captures the spirit of the Old West, this is the one to get. Buyer's GuideWhen it comes to selecting the perfect 22 revolver holster, there are several factors to consider. These factors will ultimately determine the overall quality and durability of your holster, and more importantly, its ability to safely carry and protect your revolver.Adjustable Retentionhttps://preview.redd.it/ckk7p7u0ea3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=fc8b0bf623c725c4a29892588e407a27fccc6055 An adjustable retention system allows you to customize the tightness of your holster to suit your needs. This feature is especially important when it comes to concealed carry, as you want to ensure that your holster can securely retain your 22 revolver without being too tight, making it difficult to draw in case of an emergency. Material and Build QualityThe material and build quality of your 22 revolver holster play a crucial role in its overall durability and functionality. High-quality materials, such as tough nylon or ballistic nylon, combined with sturdy construction, will ensure that your holster can withstand the rigors of regular use without succumbing to wear and tear.Comfort and ConcealmentComfort is a major consideration when selecting a 22 revolver holster. Look for a holster that is well-designed and offers adequate support, eliminating the need for any pressure points. Additionally, a holster with a slim profile will make it easier to conceal your revolver, whether you're carrying on your person or in a concealed carry situation. https://preview.redd.it/6lqs75b1ea3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=829ab16f3ce2dabffa5641b4dc6084ff2170d783 Gun Shape and FitIt's vital that your 22 revolver holster is designed to accommodate the specific shape and dimensions of your firearm. A well-fitting holster is essential for proper retention and easy access to your weapon when needed most.Price and ValueWhen considering a 22 revolver holster, it's essential to find the right balance between price and value. Look for a holster that offers the right combination of quality, features, and affordability, without sacrificing any of these factors.Review Customer Feedback and Ratingshttps://preview.redd.it/22a2okj1ea3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=1051616c53ceff717222400e764dd75967f336c3 Before making a final decision on a 22 revolver holster, thoroughly research customer reviews and ratings. This valuable information will provide you with insight into the strengths and weaknesses of a potential holster, helping you make an informed choice. A high-quality 22 revolver holster is a crucial accessory for anyone who owns a firearm. By keeping the factors outlined in this buyer's guide in mind, you'll be well-equipped to select the perfect holster that offers the right combination of features, comfort, and value for your specific needs. FAQWhat are the different types of 22 revolver holsters available in the market?There are several types of holsters designed for 22 revolvers, including shoulder, cross-draw, pancake, and belt slide holsters. Each type offers different levels of convenience, comfort, and security, so it's essential to choose one that suits your specific needs and preferences. https://preview.redd.it/mmwq49u1ea3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ebae5499144e30e8a833f5de6f4daae4dfc0bb04 What materials are commonly used in making 22 revolver holsters?Holsters for 22 revolvers are typically made from materials such as leather, Kydex, nylon, or a combination of these. Leather holsters offer a classic look and feel, while Kydex holsters provide increased durability and retention. Nylon holsters are lightweight and more affordable but may not provide the same level of protection and security as other materials.What are the key features to consider when choosing a 22 revolver holster?
What is the difference between a left-handed and right-handed 22 revolver holster?A left-handed 22 revolver holster is designed to be worn on the left hip or side, providing easy access for left-handed users. A right-handed holster is designed for right-handed users and worn on the opposite side of the body.How do I properly clean and maintain my 22 revolver holster?It's essential to clean and maintain your holster regularly to keep it in good condition. The specific cleaning process depends on the material used to make the holster. For example, leather holsters can be cleaned with a soft cloth and mild soap, while Kydex holsters can be wiped with a damp cloth and allowed to air dry.Are there any safety considerations when carrying a 22 revolver in a holster?Yes, it's crucial to follow proper safety practices when carrying a 22 revolver in a holster. This includes securing the holster and ensuring that the gun is not loaded unless necessary. Always double-check the safety features of your revolver and holster to prevent accidents.What are some reputable brands of 22 revolver holsters?
How much do 22 revolver holsters typically cost?The cost of a 22 revolver holster can vary depending on the brand, material, and features. Prices typically range from $20 to $100, with some higher-end models costing more.As an Amazon™ Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. |
2024.05.29 05:39 phonymacaroniii Would I be the asshole if I asked my friend to stop making everything a competition?
This is a bit of a vent, I apologize in advance for the super long post.
So, I (28 F) have this friend (30 F) who I’ve known for over a decade. We met when we were teenagers and I would say I consider her one of my best friends. However, there’s always been this underlying feeling of competitiveness between us. I used to brush it off when we were teens and even early 20’s, but now we are about to enter our 30’s and it is still the same. However, there isn’t one giant scenario where I’ve felt comfortable enough to tell her that I feel like she’s trying to “one up” me or compare our scenarios. It’s always just little comments, some backhanded, some just kind of odd. If I’m sad about a situation, she will comfort me for a second but then go into a long spiel about how she’s had it so much worse and handled it better. Whatever I’m going through or have been through, she’s had it worse, every single time. Even when our situations don’t even really seem related, she finds a way to make it about herself. I feel mean for thinking this way but I do feel like it’s the truth. Whenever I’m doing well or am proud of an accomplishment, she never really acknowledges it or says anything about it. I am aware that I sometimes rely on external validation a bit so sometimes I wonder if I am expecting too much from her. But sometimes I feel like I am always trying to cheer her on and highlight her hard work etc, and don’t feel this reciprocated. I also feel like our daily lives are compared a lot, and my work or day to day routines are “undermined” in comparison to hers (example: I’m in graduate school and will say something like “oh I’m sorry I haven’t replied for a little bit I’ve been really busy with work and school”, and she will just reply with a long paragraph about everything she’s done this week and how hard she’s been working, how busy she’s been, how early she had to get up, etc.)
TW: SA below • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • A few years ago, I was SA. I didn’t tell her because in that moment, I felt that if I did, she would just talk about herself, and that’s not what I needed at the time. I saw her about a year after it happened and ended up having a panic attack and then briefly telling her. I didn’t give any details, just said I was SA last year. Several months later we briefly talked about it (I never actually told her what happened and I don’t think I will) she said she was hurt that I didn’t come to her because she wants to be there for me, but that it was okay. Then she goes on to say how my situation isn’t even that bad though because she’s been SA multiple times, and that she was surprised that this was the first time this has happened to me because of how many women this happens to (it wasn’t, I was also SA as a child and she knew that) and made some weird comments about how now I’ve joined the club and can empathize with her better and become more resilient. I kind of interrupted and said this wasn’t the first time, but then I kind of dissociated and it confirmed exactly why I never went to her for comfort in the first place. I felt extremely dismissed and unheard.
I do recognize that she has low self esteem but portrays herself as if she doesn’t, and has some trauma to work through. But that is up to her to decide and not something I would really say because telling someone they have low self esteem that they should work through would be rude. But I do think a lot of her comments stem from low self esteem. I also do believe she has the best intentions but just doesn’t always come across that way. I do genuinely think that she wants to help when I need it and just be a good friend in general, which is why I have always talked myself out of saying anything to her. I know she loves me and values me as a best friend too. I feel guilty that I’ve had these feelings bottled in and have never went to her about it. Even reading this back I feel like I sound so rude about someone who is supposed to be my best friend. I hate confrontation so I’ve always brushed it aside and convinced myself that I’m just taking things the wrong way. I’m not sure if it’s fair to go to her with examples, or if I should just wait until an opportunity comes up where I can address it in the moment. Or, if I am just reading into things too much and maybe I’m the one who wants conversations to be about me?? Am I expecting too much validation?
So basically, would I be the asshole if I told her I feel like there’s an underlying competitiveness between us, and then give her some examples of why?
TL;DR: My best friend compares all of our situations which often hurts my feelings, and I’m not sure if I should talk to her about how I’m feeling. I feel like sometimes maybe I am the one being selfish.
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So, I (28 F) have this friend (30 F) who I’ve known for over a decade. We met when we were teenagers and I would say I consider her one of my best friends. However, there’s always been this underlying feeling of competitiveness between us. I used to brush it off when we were teens and even early 20’s, but now we are about to enter our 30’s and it is still the same. However, there isn’t one giant scenario where I’ve felt comfortable enough to tell her that I feel like she’s trying to “one up” me or compare our scenarios. It’s always just little comments, some backhanded, some just kind of odd. If I’m sad about a situation, she will comfort me for a second but then go into a long spiel about how she’s had it so much worse and handled it better. Whatever I’m going through or have been through, she’s had it worse, every single time. Even when our situations don’t even really seem related, she finds a way to make it about herself. I feel mean for thinking this way but I do feel like it’s the truth. Whenever I’m doing well or am proud of an accomplishment, she never really acknowledges it or says anything about it. I am aware that I sometimes rely on external validation a bit so sometimes I wonder if I am expecting too much from her. But sometimes I feel like I am always trying to cheer her on and highlight her hard work etc, and don’t feel this reciprocated. I also feel like our daily lives are compared a lot, and my work or day to day routines are “undermined” in comparison to hers (example: I’m in graduate school and will say something like “oh I’m sorry I haven’t replied for a little bit I’ve been really busy with work and school”, and she will just reply with a long paragraph about everything she’s done this week and how hard she’s been working, how busy she’s been, how early she had to get up, etc.)
TW: SA below • • • • • • • • • • • • • • • A few years ago, I was SA. I didn’t tell her because in that moment, I felt that if I did, she would just talk about herself, and that’s not what I needed at the time. I saw her about a year after it happened and ended up having a panic attack and then briefly telling her. I didn’t give any details, just said I was SA last year. Several months later we briefly talked about it (I never actually told her what happened and I don’t think I will) she said she was hurt that I didn’t come to her because she wants to be there for me, but that it was okay. Then she goes on to say how my situation isn’t even that bad though because she’s been SA multiple times, and that she was surprised that this was the first time this has happened to me because of how many women this happens to (it wasn’t, I was also SA as a child and she knew that) and made some weird comments about how now I’ve joined the club and can empathize with her better and become more resilient. I kind of interrupted and said this wasn’t the first time, but then I kind of dissociated and it confirmed exactly why I never went to her for comfort in the first place. I felt extremely dismissed and unheard.
I do recognize that she has low self esteem but portrays herself as if she doesn’t, and has some trauma to work through. But that is up to her to decide and not something I would really say because telling someone they have low self esteem that they should work through would be rude. But I do think a lot of her comments stem from low self esteem. I also do believe she has the best intentions but just doesn’t always come across that way. I do genuinely think that she wants to help when I need it and just be a good friend in general, which is why I have always talked myself out of saying anything to her. I know she loves me and values me as a best friend too. I feel guilty that I’ve had these feelings bottled in and have never went to her about it. Even reading this back I feel like I sound so rude about someone who is supposed to be my best friend. I hate confrontation so I’ve always brushed it aside and convinced myself that I’m just taking things the wrong way. I’m not sure if it’s fair to go to her with examples, or if I should just wait until an opportunity comes up where I can address it in the moment. Or, if I am just reading into things too much and maybe I’m the one who wants conversations to be about me?? Am I expecting too much validation?
So basically, would I be the asshole if I told her I feel like there’s an underlying competitiveness between us, and then give her some examples of why?
TL;DR: My best friend compares all of our situations which often hurts my feelings, and I’m not sure if I should talk to her about how I’m feeling. I feel like sometimes maybe I am the one being selfish.
2024.05.29 05:37 CollarVivid1722 Lots of talk about millennials being less likely to have kids. Anyone wanted kids but didn't find a partner in time?
I'm 31 and recently single. I was with my boyfriend for a bit over a year - I thought things were great, but it turns out he wasn't as invested in the relationship and told me he's not even sure if he loves me. We mutually decided to end things, mostly because I don't want to be with a man who is lukewarm about me after a year.
The breakup has been really hard for me for many reasons. In addition to the typical sadness, hurt, loneliness, and other common emotions is my age. I always wanted kids and while I know some women can have children into their 40s, many can't. In order to have kids, I would need to find a great man relatively quickly. Even if I do find a great guy (seems less likely since most people are paired up at this age), I have to hope that he doesn't decide that he's not enthusiastic about the relationship and break up with me, as happened this time.
I keep seeing headlines about millennials being less likely to have kids. These are hard for me to read because I'd love to have kids, but failed to find a partner during the right timeframe.
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The breakup has been really hard for me for many reasons. In addition to the typical sadness, hurt, loneliness, and other common emotions is my age. I always wanted kids and while I know some women can have children into their 40s, many can't. In order to have kids, I would need to find a great man relatively quickly. Even if I do find a great guy (seems less likely since most people are paired up at this age), I have to hope that he doesn't decide that he's not enthusiastic about the relationship and break up with me, as happened this time.
I keep seeing headlines about millennials being less likely to have kids. These are hard for me to read because I'd love to have kids, but failed to find a partner during the right timeframe.
2024.05.29 05:31 Bluelagoon199 Donovan/ Coach Greg Adam’s
We can well talk smack about Donovan for marrying a single mom, Cool. We can day CGA is divorced, cool. But one thing is for sure they’re in their 40’s and may not have 500+ or 1000+ bodies like Myron and Lresh, but they both definitely have far more receipts and relationship experience than Myron and Lresh combined.
They been through the wringer, divorced, cohabitation, Long term relationships, break ups, dating young and older women. Their maturity shows.
Unlike Myron who just has his first ever gf and has ridiculous standards that most men in the east or the west won’t pull off even if they have money.
“Don’t live with your girl” “Going down on a women? Gross” “I’ll have four wives and children with each wife”
Like come on Myron, you know damn well most of your relationship advice won’t work unless you’re a 1%.
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They been through the wringer, divorced, cohabitation, Long term relationships, break ups, dating young and older women. Their maturity shows.
Unlike Myron who just has his first ever gf and has ridiculous standards that most men in the east or the west won’t pull off even if they have money.
“Don’t live with your girl” “Going down on a women? Gross” “I’ll have four wives and children with each wife”
Like come on Myron, you know damn well most of your relationship advice won’t work unless you’re a 1%.
2024.05.29 05:31 Express-World-8473 HDFC Life Insurance scam!
 | https://epaper.eenadu.net/Home/Index?date=28/05/2024&eid=3&pid=2635756 submitted by Express-World-8473 to india [link] [comments] I couldn't find a proper article on this in English. So I would translate the article and give the context. This happened in Hyderabad. A women named E Bhagyamma has got an insurance from HDFC Life for 75 lakhs and paid it for 2 yrs before passing away unfortunately due to a heart attack. His husband has tried to claim the insurance from them after her passing but the company denied it saying that she already had high blood pressure and there's hospital records of her having Angioplasty treatments and stating that reason they denied it. The husband has petitioned against this and the trial has started with HDFC showing proofs of hospital records from Sigma hospital dated 2015, but the truth is Bhagyamma has never visited the hospital for any checkups. To prove this her husband had invited the doctor whose name was on the record to give statement, the twist here is the doctor herself joined the hospital in 2016 and someone had a created a fake report with her sign forged on it. The court has given chances for the company to challenge these claims and prove themselves but failed to attend the court and The victims prosecutor asked for questioning the manager of the branch but the manager did not attend it. So in the end due to failing to prove their claims, the court has given its verdict to the company to pay the victims 75 lakhs with a 7% interest. Just imagine the lengths these people go to refuse the claims. I was even more shocked by how this article was not covered or discussed anywhere to the point I couldn't find a single English news article on it. |
2024.05.29 05:29 LunaNova5726 And the boys win
Welp VPR got exactly what they wanted. They switched the narrative so the women are fighting and the boys who cause all the issues are left unscathed.
Sandoval and Schwartz spent the season insulting every single woman on the damn show! Sandoval continued to pick at Ariana literally three months after uprooting her life! He insulted Scheana and Lala for their past relationships. God knows he's got a hate boner for Katie.
Schwartz continues to act like Katie was the big giant drama queen still causing havoc in his life. While all he was doing was being a fuck boy to Jo! Then he decides to launch the "Ariana has an ego" train as if him and his best friend aren't the most self -involved fucks!
But who comes out losing at the end of this season? The women. Every post on here has been about Lala and Scheana. And let's be real, they deserve all the hate they get for their spineless behavior.
But once again, the boys. These said, pathetic, broke, sloppy, manipulative, LOSERS can skip on home to their child brides.
Hope you happy LVP and Bravo. The boys won.
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Sandoval and Schwartz spent the season insulting every single woman on the damn show! Sandoval continued to pick at Ariana literally three months after uprooting her life! He insulted Scheana and Lala for their past relationships. God knows he's got a hate boner for Katie.
Schwartz continues to act like Katie was the big giant drama queen still causing havoc in his life. While all he was doing was being a fuck boy to Jo! Then he decides to launch the "Ariana has an ego" train as if him and his best friend aren't the most self -involved fucks!
But who comes out losing at the end of this season? The women. Every post on here has been about Lala and Scheana. And let's be real, they deserve all the hate they get for their spineless behavior.
But once again, the boys. These said, pathetic, broke, sloppy, manipulative, LOSERS can skip on home to their child brides.
Hope you happy LVP and Bravo. The boys won.
2024.05.29 05:26 AutumnFanatic [22/M4A] #Online - Hi! Nerdy person looking for any gender (inc. NB etc) people 18-23 interested in forming a genuine intimate connection
Why did the farmer drive his tractor to the pharmacy? He wanted to visit the farm-assist!
Hi and welcome to my post! Wanted to start off with a funny to me dad joke.
Nice to meet you, I'm Dylan! To put it simple, I am a single 22 year old person who has been pretty lonely in life and lacking human connection. Any gender is welcome :) part of what comes with that is the desire to be intimate with a person. I am very mature for my age and will always be respectful of your boundaries and feelings, especially with anything sexual. Lately all I have is myself when it comes to sexual desires, so I would like to have someone to keep company with in that regard too. And I've also been fairly horny lately so perhaps if you are too we can help each other.
I'm just relaxing at work tonight as it's a slow day. Thinking about going home and burning a woodwick candle. I love candles! 🕯️ Sometimes a campfire outside on a fall night or a crackling WoodWick candle is a relaxing constant among our busy and hectic world. It's nice to just disconnect, feel grounded and happy in your own little cozy space. Feeling calm and collected and at peace. Something that fewer people take the time to do these days.
I am seeking a woman around my age or older to build a close connection with that could possibly lead to a something intimate which includes the possibility of teasing/sharing pics etc. but only when we were comfortable. Figured I would be open in my Intentions as that's the best way to be.
You:
Kind, respectful, and easy going.
Comfortable with the idea of eventually sharing intimate things together.
Willing to eventually move off of Reddit.
Want something genuine and fun!
Are honest in your intentions and a good person to be around!
That's about it, we will get along great I know it.
I've been feeling a little bummed out lately. I always try and stay happy and see the best in things. But.. I've just been so alone. Most of my whole childhood and adult years have been spent feeling lonely. I grew up surrounded by cornfields which was peaceful but also has a lonely aspect to it. My family never really were close and never did anything as a family really. And part of it too is the fact that I never had any neighbors my age to interact with. But aside from that, my adult life has been very lonely. I'm just always by myself. I barely have any meaningful adult relationships or experiences, or even any friends.
I work a 3-11 job in building maintenance at my company world headquarters building which I love, but again it's very lonely. I work the off shift so the building is always empty. I don't get normal social interaction with people my age or a chance to build relationships. I only have 3 older men as co-workers and we are mostly in the basement away from any people on the floors from knowing our existence. I always walk the floors and see office people laughing and chatting with their coworkers and I just don't have that kind of experience. And just.. no one knows I exist really. Everyone probably assumes I have a lot of friends, but I'm struggling inside with being so alone and trying to meet people and get past the "hi how are you?" "I'm good thanks" stage. Most people don't seem to want to talk beyond that. And most women are already in relationships and thus it would seem weird to approach them in an office setting trying to get to know them deeper. But man those "hi how are yous" are the only real interactions I get during my day.. so thus I decided to come here lol. Rant over, sorry! I promise I'm not a downer. 😅
Now for some things about me!
I am left handed which is pretty cool. I'm not much of a party person or a drinker, I much prefer a quiet night at home and maybe a beer or two on a weekend but that's about it. I am simple and stay out of drama and trouble and don't get much into politics or other things that cause drama with people. I much prefer a relaxing campfire and a night at home and to just let the world keep on turning haha.
Physically I'm 180 pounds, have brown hair, green eyes, and a typical build. There's a few pictures on my profile.
Some of my hobbies are:
• Photography
I have a Nikon D200 and D5500 that I love to shoot with. I love nature scenes, abstract, black and white/goth kinda photography, sunsets, etc. it's so fun to just let your mind explore. It's not about what camera you have, but those who are behind the camera!
• Cooking and baking
I loveeee to cook and bake! I enjoy making various meals but also love to just have a frozen pizza once in awhile or something like that. I recently made homemade chili which turned out great. I love to bake, especially in the fall! I love pies, cakes, pastries, cookies, etc. I restored a vintage KitchenAid mixer that needed tbe gearbox rebuilt. Eventually I would love to practice home canning my own food.
• Music
Oh my gosh, I like so much!! Alternative rock, punk, post punk, electronic, synth pop, psychedelic rock, hard rock, etc. I am very non judgemental and open when it comes to music. My three current favorite bands are Type O Negative, Joy Division, and the Cure.
• Nature walks and camping
I really enjoy camping, making fires, and relaxing by a campfire. I love to take walks outside and just enjoy the beauty and simplicity of nature. It's wonderful, especially in a world so focused on everything digital.
• Repairing things
I'm a maintenance guy and one of my hobbies is electronics repair so I am good with my hands and just all around good at troubleshooting and fixing all sorts of things around the house. Last week I helped my elderly neighbor get his tractor started, it needed a new component in the starting circuit. So I'm pretty handy which... Comes in handy! 😂
• Autumn 🍁
This isn't a hobby per say, but man do I love the fall!!! It's my absolute favorite time of the year. Oh my gosh. The beautiful colors, crisp cool air, misty and foggy days, rain, lack of bugs, being cuddled up with a candle or by the fire drinking a tea, etc. I love it! There's only two seasons for me. Fall, and waiting for fall! Haha.
• Scented Candles and incense
Going along with my love for fall, I absolutely love candles! I have like 30 something lol. 😂 Currently my favorite are WoodWick, which are owned by Yankee candle. They have such a soothing crackle and the scents are great! I also love to burn incense from time to time as well. I have cottagecore hippie vibes.
• Old houses and architecture
I love old houses! Especially 1900s and Victorian era homes. Old homes have so much character to them and are just so beautiful from a time when people took pride in their craft. I strongly dislike the modern cookie cutter cheap construction of homes today. I would love to live in an old home one day. I also love their architecture and uniqueness, as well as architecture of old cathedrals and other buildings.
• Relaxing
Basic I know, but sometimes on the weekend I just love to get cozy in bed and relax and put on a YouTube video or an album! 😊
That's about it for me, I'm a pretty laid back and simple person. My ideal person is someone who is respectful and honest! I am very straightforward and open minded and would hope that you are as well.
If I seem interesting to you at all I would love to hear from you!
Thank you so much for reading.
submitted by AutumnFanatic to MeetNewPeopleHere [link] [comments]
Hi and welcome to my post! Wanted to start off with a funny to me dad joke.
Nice to meet you, I'm Dylan! To put it simple, I am a single 22 year old person who has been pretty lonely in life and lacking human connection. Any gender is welcome :) part of what comes with that is the desire to be intimate with a person. I am very mature for my age and will always be respectful of your boundaries and feelings, especially with anything sexual. Lately all I have is myself when it comes to sexual desires, so I would like to have someone to keep company with in that regard too. And I've also been fairly horny lately so perhaps if you are too we can help each other.
I'm just relaxing at work tonight as it's a slow day. Thinking about going home and burning a woodwick candle. I love candles! 🕯️ Sometimes a campfire outside on a fall night or a crackling WoodWick candle is a relaxing constant among our busy and hectic world. It's nice to just disconnect, feel grounded and happy in your own little cozy space. Feeling calm and collected and at peace. Something that fewer people take the time to do these days.
I am seeking a woman around my age or older to build a close connection with that could possibly lead to a something intimate which includes the possibility of teasing/sharing pics etc. but only when we were comfortable. Figured I would be open in my Intentions as that's the best way to be.
You:
Kind, respectful, and easy going.
Comfortable with the idea of eventually sharing intimate things together.
Willing to eventually move off of Reddit.
Want something genuine and fun!
Are honest in your intentions and a good person to be around!
That's about it, we will get along great I know it.
I've been feeling a little bummed out lately. I always try and stay happy and see the best in things. But.. I've just been so alone. Most of my whole childhood and adult years have been spent feeling lonely. I grew up surrounded by cornfields which was peaceful but also has a lonely aspect to it. My family never really were close and never did anything as a family really. And part of it too is the fact that I never had any neighbors my age to interact with. But aside from that, my adult life has been very lonely. I'm just always by myself. I barely have any meaningful adult relationships or experiences, or even any friends.
I work a 3-11 job in building maintenance at my company world headquarters building which I love, but again it's very lonely. I work the off shift so the building is always empty. I don't get normal social interaction with people my age or a chance to build relationships. I only have 3 older men as co-workers and we are mostly in the basement away from any people on the floors from knowing our existence. I always walk the floors and see office people laughing and chatting with their coworkers and I just don't have that kind of experience. And just.. no one knows I exist really. Everyone probably assumes I have a lot of friends, but I'm struggling inside with being so alone and trying to meet people and get past the "hi how are you?" "I'm good thanks" stage. Most people don't seem to want to talk beyond that. And most women are already in relationships and thus it would seem weird to approach them in an office setting trying to get to know them deeper. But man those "hi how are yous" are the only real interactions I get during my day.. so thus I decided to come here lol. Rant over, sorry! I promise I'm not a downer. 😅
Now for some things about me!
I am left handed which is pretty cool. I'm not much of a party person or a drinker, I much prefer a quiet night at home and maybe a beer or two on a weekend but that's about it. I am simple and stay out of drama and trouble and don't get much into politics or other things that cause drama with people. I much prefer a relaxing campfire and a night at home and to just let the world keep on turning haha.
Physically I'm 180 pounds, have brown hair, green eyes, and a typical build. There's a few pictures on my profile.
Some of my hobbies are:
• Photography
I have a Nikon D200 and D5500 that I love to shoot with. I love nature scenes, abstract, black and white/goth kinda photography, sunsets, etc. it's so fun to just let your mind explore. It's not about what camera you have, but those who are behind the camera!
• Cooking and baking
I loveeee to cook and bake! I enjoy making various meals but also love to just have a frozen pizza once in awhile or something like that. I recently made homemade chili which turned out great. I love to bake, especially in the fall! I love pies, cakes, pastries, cookies, etc. I restored a vintage KitchenAid mixer that needed tbe gearbox rebuilt. Eventually I would love to practice home canning my own food.
• Music
Oh my gosh, I like so much!! Alternative rock, punk, post punk, electronic, synth pop, psychedelic rock, hard rock, etc. I am very non judgemental and open when it comes to music. My three current favorite bands are Type O Negative, Joy Division, and the Cure.
• Nature walks and camping
I really enjoy camping, making fires, and relaxing by a campfire. I love to take walks outside and just enjoy the beauty and simplicity of nature. It's wonderful, especially in a world so focused on everything digital.
• Repairing things
I'm a maintenance guy and one of my hobbies is electronics repair so I am good with my hands and just all around good at troubleshooting and fixing all sorts of things around the house. Last week I helped my elderly neighbor get his tractor started, it needed a new component in the starting circuit. So I'm pretty handy which... Comes in handy! 😂
• Autumn 🍁
This isn't a hobby per say, but man do I love the fall!!! It's my absolute favorite time of the year. Oh my gosh. The beautiful colors, crisp cool air, misty and foggy days, rain, lack of bugs, being cuddled up with a candle or by the fire drinking a tea, etc. I love it! There's only two seasons for me. Fall, and waiting for fall! Haha.
• Scented Candles and incense
Going along with my love for fall, I absolutely love candles! I have like 30 something lol. 😂 Currently my favorite are WoodWick, which are owned by Yankee candle. They have such a soothing crackle and the scents are great! I also love to burn incense from time to time as well. I have cottagecore hippie vibes.
• Old houses and architecture
I love old houses! Especially 1900s and Victorian era homes. Old homes have so much character to them and are just so beautiful from a time when people took pride in their craft. I strongly dislike the modern cookie cutter cheap construction of homes today. I would love to live in an old home one day. I also love their architecture and uniqueness, as well as architecture of old cathedrals and other buildings.
• Relaxing
Basic I know, but sometimes on the weekend I just love to get cozy in bed and relax and put on a YouTube video or an album! 😊
That's about it for me, I'm a pretty laid back and simple person. My ideal person is someone who is respectful and honest! I am very straightforward and open minded and would hope that you are as well.
If I seem interesting to you at all I would love to hear from you!
Thank you so much for reading.
2024.05.29 05:25 ZanaZamora KLR story time! This is lengthy war story so TLDR months ago I posted having found something in oil screen, soon after engine blew , I replaced the motor and have just now opened the old one and have confirmed that it was a piston circlip from previous owners big bore kit
 | As title says, This isnt a cautionary tale so much as a war story for the sake of it and to add to the wealth of knowledge on these bikes a story of… a curious thing that happened. XD That’s to say this isn’t a thing many will ever encounter, nor something one should ever worry about, but something that might make you say “hmm… neat” 😂 submitted by ZanaZamora to klr650 [link] [comments] That being said this is a story of how I killed the unkillable, or I guess at least gave a KLR a heart transplant after complete cardiac arrest. The interesting journey of what happened, but I do not truly know how. So maybe some more seasoned KLR surgeons can offer additional insight into the how. I had considered breaking this up into the story and just the mechanical aspects for those not interested in the story, but the motivation here is the story and so that’s the read, enjoy 😀 About 8 months ago I bought a ‘09 KLR as my first bike. I’m an over the road truck driver and have always dreamed of putting a motorcycle on my rig, and decided at a fork in my life that it was time. It had 28k miles on it, amazing shape, very few mods, all ones that I considered valuable as I would have done them myself. Crash bars, metal skid plate, panniers with very nice Givi cases, Sargent seat, etc. The curious bit was a big bore up to 683. I did not ask what mileage it had been bored at or if it was done for maintenance reasons or just performance. In retrospect I would have asked these questions but that’s out of curiosity not because I believe to any degree the seller was misleading me. I do not believe they had any idea the events that followed would conspire and I accept them as just bad luck. What did follow is in the first 3 weeks I put nearly 900 miles on it and had only encountered a single issue which was the clutch slipping too easily under heavy acceleration. As one does with a KLR I had already ordered and done a slew of other personalization so I added new clutch plates and heavier springs to the list. Job went smoothly, the old clutch plates were worn but not to any degree that alone would warrant the slipping so the weak springs were the culprit as my research had strongly suggested. But new “performance” clutch plates sounded fun so I installed them as well 😀 This is where things get interesting. As some may know, on the right side of the engine there is an oil screen, a fine metal mesh that acts as a filter to catch larger particles. Definitely something to clean if you’re ever in there, as it’ll tend to have any gasket material and other manufacturing run off in it that over time could choke oil flow. In mine I found the expected gasket gunk, suggesting it had not been cleaned since birth but frighteningly I also found 2 mysterious metal pieces that appeared to be the greater part of a metal ring. Reference the 1st photo. They had been chewed up slightly suggesting they made their way through the engine less than smoothly but not catastrophically obviously as the motor ran fine with no signs of any problems. I spent the better part of the day digging through any and every resource I could find for an answer on what this ring could be and the further I dug the more and more confident I grew in my initial suspicions that it was a piston circlip… but this just didn’t make sense, how did it get there? How was it not more destroyed? How was the engine still running with zero indication of damage? The sun was setting and I had to be on the road in the morning so after weighing all the possibilities I decided to button it back up, hope for the best, and tell myself if it was fine before it’s fine now. As the alternative was tearing apart the engine which meant going back out on the road with no bike, and no idea where to even start weeks later when I returned. Of the many theories the one I convinced myself of was that this was indeed a piston circlip but not one from the current piston but from the original one. That the mechanic that had done the big bore had either snapped it when removing the original piston and it fell down in the engine to never be fished out, or maybe it had been the reason for the bore. 2 days later I get it out for the first time since the quick 5 mile test ride after putting it back together and my theory is proven wrong, violently. About 80 miles later I was enjoying the bite of the new clutch, accelerating hard through 50mph and bam instantly the rear wheel locks up. At this point I had just under 1000 miles under my belt on two wheels, no MSF completely self taught…. Holy shiet that was a bad thing nearly gone horrible. I don’t know how I had the muscle memory at that point to instinctively grab the clutch but I did fractions of a second before I went down, hard. As I coasted to a stop on what little shoulder there was my thoughts were “holyshitholyshitholyshitholyshit….Ohhhhhhhhh it was a piston circlip” before I even stopped 😂😂😂 Sure enough I look back to a trail of oil behind me, dismount and out of the front of the block I see a very displeased connnecting rod peeking out. Well, there’s your problem. I took a gamble and initially I was feeling like I had lost, but after not getting taken out with the engine, I was pretty okay with the situation. I rolled the bike into a church parking lot a couple blocks down the road and helplessly called for ride after ride on Uber to no avail. I was states away from anyone I knew and too far from any civilization to find luck with any ride share or cab service. As it started to get dark the 6 mile hike back to my truck in Mx Boots was not a great outlook but I was out of options. Just as I had buttoned up what I could on the bike getting ready to start walking I noticed an older couple sit down on their porch enjoying what was, to anyone else, admittedly a very pleasant evening. I’m shy as hell and absolutely terrified of being imposing, especially when it’s a true need… but these boots were brand new, zero flex, damn near knee high… just from standing there I was on the fence of what would be worse, boots or socks. So I mustered up the will power to make my way to their front yard and explain that my motorcycle had broken down and that I had no way to get back to my truck to come back and get it, if they’d be willing to give me a ride I’d happily pay for the trouble. They happily obliged and were the nicest folks you could have met, asked me about my travels and wished me luck in getting it back together, wouldn’t even accept my money. They drop me off, I get my rig back over there and load up the bike. They waved me off from their porch and that was that. I know that bit doesn’t pertain to the mechanical endeavor but I wanted to share it as well as an appreciation of just how much generosity can change the outlook in things. I had bought this bike at a critical moment in my life, during a separation, unsure what direction I was going, and it by all means was my coping mechanism. Sitting there stranded, the adrenaline started to wear off and the dread and hopelessness started to develop… the 6 mile walk back, nothing by my thoughts torturing myself for the dumb decisions I made would have left me feeling defeated and lost. But instead I got to share a tiny bit of my story, that it was still chaos but I was… proud of myself for chasing after my dreams not letting it consume me. And it was because of that moment of pride that I had the fuel to tuck tail and accept my circumstance, that I had indeed known this was a possibility and that it was not the end of my journey, just a different path. I believe without that I would have easily accepted the loss and dropped the bike off at home to gather dust and that would have been the end of my motorcycling experience. But I was determined. So I spent every minute of free time I had researching what I needed to rebuild it, what it’d cost, how hard it’d be, and if it was even something I could do over the road. As I added things up it was indeed doable but it’d leave the bike out of commission at best for well over a month… and I had a fire under me to get back on it… so I started digging through marketplace, eBay, Craigslist, etc searching for doner bikes or full engines. Scrounging up every penny I had, I booked a load and made my way all the way to Kansas City where I had found a salvager with a 2009 with just 1300 miles on it that was willing to take $1300 for the whole engine if I’d help him pull it. My determination was unwavering. I showed up at his house as early as I could after my delivery, about noon. My semi truck left on the street where it clearly did not belong 😂 It was a two lane and the right lane was conveniently closed, so I moved some cones and it worked out perfectly but was still a funny sight. He gathered bikes from auctions and had them scattered around his yard, and so while he gathered some stuff he pointed me to two other KLRs to see if there was anything I wanted from them. Ended up pulling a full yoshimura exhaust from one that he tossed in for cheap. Before I had gotten there he had already stripped the most of the bike with the doner engine down so it took us a little under an hour to pull it. Yet another really positive experience that I’ll never forget, really nice older guy who genuinely enjoyed wrenching on the bike with me, not just trying to get it done and get paid. Offered me any small bits like the rubber tank picks that would easily get lost for no charge. And even gave me an old Milwaukee battery charger he had laying around as I had lost my charger at some point and my last battery died while we were working on it. We had it out by 2pm and I heaved the enormous hunk of steel into my chest high passenger floor board of my semi truck to be on my way. And by on my way I mean 7 miles away to a Walmart parking lot where I then unloaded my bike and started the transplant. I gathered my tools while waiting for a Milwaukee battery to charge, caught my breath, and started the operation around 3pm. I was definitely a bit of a spectacle. Not everyday you see someone doing an engine swap in a Walmart parking lot. The semi truck parked alongside definitely added a layer that invoked enough curiosity for people to inquire about what they were looking at as they passed by. I enjoyed the conversation and that sense of pride grew ever stronger as I worked through it. Early on in the process another rider had briefly stopped by and asked if I needed help, I declined understanding he was inquiring if it was an emergency not if I needed a wrenching buddy haha. Over the course of the next 4 hours he passed by another 2 times, giving a nod of approval at my progress. I was fired up. So excited to get it all done, feeling like I’d be too tired to do anything else but driven just to know it was ready to ride whenever I was. All and all it took about 5 hours to get done, a few stuck bolts there, a few how the hell does this come out there, and a good bit of how does one finagle this thing back in here by themselves(ps lay it on its side right side and just set the engine down into the frame, stand up and then align it) and it was done. I had done some mechanical work on cars and what not in the past but honestly changing the clutch on the previous motor was the most invasive thing I had done prior to this. But my confidence was in the clouds, and rightfully so, because while it took some convincing with the starter this stagnant motor awoke with not a cough or a sputter, but with an immediate healthy growl! My excitement was immeasurable and my little KLR, now much more aggressively singing through the Yoshimura exhaust, seemed just as excited as me. The sun had set, I was exhausted and against my recommendation they had already booked me a load picking up early the next morning. But I couldn’t not sing through the streets with joy, so a quick ride I told myself…. I was gone for hours, returning well past midnight. Ripping around Kansas City, sobbing with joy, with what felt like the loudest exhaust I’d ever heard 😂😂😂 A true menace, she was alive and god damnit I was too. Exhaustion catching up with me I loaded my precious back on to the truck and realized I still had an entire engine to deal with. So I opened one of my side bins, at chest height just as the floor board was earlier in the day loading the new engine. If I didn’t look like a maniac riding around I certainly did trying to get that motor up and into the truck 😂 I was too happy to be upset or anything but it was just about all I could muster to get it up to that height after the day I had had. 2am and I’m screaming, crying, and laughing simultaneously as I blew out every single part of my body trying to get this absolute brick of an engine into the side bin. While I know at that point I was significantly more worn out I still find it very funny that my sheer will power made that new engine effortless to lift into the truck, but the old one was an inch shy of being impossible 😂 Over 7000 miles later and that new motor is still singing happily ❤️ So… the old motor… it rode around in my side bin for 7 months till last week I was at home and finally had the free time to unload it and crack it open. Motivated by the interest of pulling the new clutch plates and springs I had put in it that’d only have about 80 miles on them, and the curiosity of figuring out if the seemingly obvious cause for its demise was indeed due to the piston circlip… breaking? This is where any KLR surgeons may be able to chime in, if they made it this far xD Because I pulled the motor down to just about as many pieces as one could so I could take the bits that may be useful to have on the road with me and have the less likely to fail ones ready to go if I needed them at home, and all of the evidence seems to suggest that one of the circlips did indeed get ingested. The piston is definitely missing one of the circlips, and… the entire part that would house it lol. The broken pieces found in the oil screen visually match the remaining circlip, and I never found any parts of the circlip if those pieces in the oil screen were not it. So… I have full confidence the circlip did indeed end up in the oil screen. The fact that I found it was complete coincidence and had I not changed the clutch out it likely would have failed just as it did, meaning that circlip could have been there for… lord knows how long… which raises the questions, how did that happen? How long could it have feasibly been there? And was this just a ticking time bomb bound to happen without warning at any time or did maybe the stress of a more aggressive clutch bite upset it? And also just… how does this happen in the first place? Improper install or weak components? I know the kit they used is from Schnitz Racing and I was told 683 but I’ve never seen a 683 kit, only 685 so I would assume maybe that, regardless not cheap parts so, just a curiosity. Final notes, the new engine with 27k less miles absolutely feels more powerful than the bored out one did, that’s seat of the pants and inexperienced rider mixed with intense emotions but I still to this day think it’s more peppy. Have not installed the new clutch on the new motor yet but I’m curious as hell as I don’t think I had enough experience to really appreciate the difference for the 80 miles I got to use it lol. Oh and as a trinket to remember this entire experience and to show my KLR is on its second heart I polished up the blown piston and hung it on the tail ❤️ Thank you for coming to my TED talk, stay safe out there! |
2024.05.29 05:25 Forsaken_Finding4145 Biphobia?? (Contamination and men)
So, I'll start off by saying that I feel like a really shitty person because I know what I said was an objectively shitty thing. I also identity as lesbian.
In a random conversation with a friend, I got too in my head and started thinking about all the things people contaminate, specifically men, and started to feel my skin actually crawl thinking about how many people have touched dirty things (including touching men) and I said I get disgusted when I think about the times a man has touched me or thinking about how many people have touched a man and then I touch them. It's very irrational, I know. I don't hate men. I was just thinking, in that moment, about a specific man who traumatized me and just so happened to smell really bad and had bad hygiene, etc. The question I have is: does anyone else deal with generalizing with OCD? I logically know all men aren't dirty, of course, just like all women aren't clean, but I can't help but associate this man with men in general sometimes. Every time I think about him, it's like I can see the germs on my skin and will try and "clean" myself every.single.time. (This isn't my only contamination OCD trigger, btw. I pretty much have the same reaction when it comes to public transportation, bodily fluids, etc.)
Anyway, the conversation turned into me saying drinking from the same cup as someone who went down on a man is nasty. And I straight up asked if it was biphobic not to want to date someone who has went down on a man in the last month (because apparently my brain thinks after one month, everything is all good 🤡), and she said yes, it's biphobic, because I wouldn't care if the person went down on a woman a month earlier.
Long story short, my friend got upset because she felt that I was invalidating her identity as a person on the bisexual spectrum, saying she felt hurt because she thinks that's why every lesbian she's liked hasn't liked her back (because she's been with mostly men) and that I made her feel like her sexuality is inherently wrong. It seemed like I said any bisexual woman who's been with a man is, by default, contaminated. I apologized as best as I could and she said she was understanding. Everything has been fine since.
Nothing is a reflection of any queer woman who dates men. I know exactly why I feel the way I do and that isn't anyone else's burden or something for me to project. I want to think I'm not biphobic. I TRULY couldn't care less if someone has been with a man in the past. I have been with men in the past. Almost everyone I've been with has been with men in the past. The issue is when I think too much. I'm hoping there's someone that can relate. This disorder feels so isolating sometimes and it definitely doesn't help the ruminating thoughts that I'm actually a bad person.
I've been punishing myself for this for weeks because I feel like the worst person to have walked this earth, and I can't help but feel disgusted with myself for thinking this way.
Any advice is appreciated. Thanks.
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In a random conversation with a friend, I got too in my head and started thinking about all the things people contaminate, specifically men, and started to feel my skin actually crawl thinking about how many people have touched dirty things (including touching men) and I said I get disgusted when I think about the times a man has touched me or thinking about how many people have touched a man and then I touch them. It's very irrational, I know. I don't hate men. I was just thinking, in that moment, about a specific man who traumatized me and just so happened to smell really bad and had bad hygiene, etc. The question I have is: does anyone else deal with generalizing with OCD? I logically know all men aren't dirty, of course, just like all women aren't clean, but I can't help but associate this man with men in general sometimes. Every time I think about him, it's like I can see the germs on my skin and will try and "clean" myself every.single.time. (This isn't my only contamination OCD trigger, btw. I pretty much have the same reaction when it comes to public transportation, bodily fluids, etc.)
Anyway, the conversation turned into me saying drinking from the same cup as someone who went down on a man is nasty. And I straight up asked if it was biphobic not to want to date someone who has went down on a man in the last month (because apparently my brain thinks after one month, everything is all good 🤡), and she said yes, it's biphobic, because I wouldn't care if the person went down on a woman a month earlier.
Long story short, my friend got upset because she felt that I was invalidating her identity as a person on the bisexual spectrum, saying she felt hurt because she thinks that's why every lesbian she's liked hasn't liked her back (because she's been with mostly men) and that I made her feel like her sexuality is inherently wrong. It seemed like I said any bisexual woman who's been with a man is, by default, contaminated. I apologized as best as I could and she said she was understanding. Everything has been fine since.
Nothing is a reflection of any queer woman who dates men. I know exactly why I feel the way I do and that isn't anyone else's burden or something for me to project. I want to think I'm not biphobic. I TRULY couldn't care less if someone has been with a man in the past. I have been with men in the past. Almost everyone I've been with has been with men in the past. The issue is when I think too much. I'm hoping there's someone that can relate. This disorder feels so isolating sometimes and it definitely doesn't help the ruminating thoughts that I'm actually a bad person.
I've been punishing myself for this for weeks because I feel like the worst person to have walked this earth, and I can't help but feel disgusted with myself for thinking this way.
Any advice is appreciated. Thanks.
2024.05.29 05:18 LoveScoutCEO AFA is not a scam. Suggesting it is shows complete misunderstanding of the reality of the dating and matchmaking industry, and wilful disregard for AFA's record. BUT DO NOT TRUST ME - CONSIDER THE EVIDENCE!
Last week, when I was on a very rare vacation from saving guys from lives of loneliness, someone posted a question asking if AFA is a scam.
I am just going to answer it here, because my answer is long and detailed.
Romance Is HARD!
First, the dating industry is simply impossible, because it is trying to help people, often deeply flawed people, find love. This is the most personal, most private, and most deeply emotional journey in someone's life and it is a challenging journey for everyone. Most first dates don't lead to second dates and most second dates don't lead to people becoming a couple, and most couples do not get married, and over 40% of American couples are not married ten years later.
But if at any point in this chain an AFA client ends up angry and disappointed - including decades later - he very well might rage that AFA is a scam.
And the Romance Industry Is HARDER Than Regular Romance!
AFA is not just an electronic introduction app like Tinder or other dating apps. They actually introduces thousands of men and women in person every single year.
They employee dozens of matchmakers and have scores of affiliated dating agencies in Ukraine, Thailand, Colombia, and roughly a dozen other countries. That is complicated. They have something like 30k women in the database. That is a huge logistical challenge.
In fact, if you really think about it is amazing how successful they have been.
But lets look closer at the overwhelming proof they are not a scam:
AFA Has Been In Business Almost Thirty Years.
If they were a scam they would have been sued out of existence long ago. They are based in Phoenix. They are not some mysterious site with an office in Malta. They can be sued or even prosecuted under US law.
AFA Is Almost The Only American International Matchmaker Left In Business
IMBRA has a whole slew of requirements, including inspections by the US State Department, and most other matchmakers either collapsed under the pressure or moved off-shore. AFA didn't. That alone speaks volumes for their integrity.
AFA Has Introduced Tens of Thousands of Happy Couples.
Take a look at the testimonials. They have hundreds of testimonials and on this sub they have numerous defenders who actually have used their service.
AFA Has Been Relentlessly Investigated By the Media Over and Over
Reporters love breaking big stories of crime, corruption and scandal. Most of the journalists who have looked at AFA over the last thirty years have thought they were going to break a big story because of the urban legends about international dating. But take a look at their media page. It is almost universally positive, and if its really a scam all of these people have to be in on it too.
AFA Has Been Studied By Academics In More Detail Than Any Dating Company
But my favorite source on AFA are the numerous academics who have studied them - often for years on end - over the years. These scholars were often certain they were going to uncover a worldwide criminal conspiracy. Instead, most of them become openly supportive.
You can read an entire article about academic research on international dating,but here is the conclusion of Dr. Julia Meszaros after studying the company for several years, attending numerous socials, and interviewing scores of participants. She wrote: “…AFA is a completely legal, legitimate marriage introduction agency....”
Are they all in on the scam? Well, I can assure you if they had discovered it was a worldwide criminal conspiracy they would have gotten tenure faster and sold more books.
Joking aside, the academics are in the best position to determine what AFA's operations and motives are, because they are intelligent, driven, and often spend years studying the company.
AFA Is NOT Perfect
AFA has problems. Their letter system is loaded with issues, but it also allows men to contact women they could never meet otherwise. I have discussed these issues in scores of posts.
And, unlike any of the large dating apps, AFA does vet its women. That is incredibly rare, because most dating apps are loaded with fake profiles and bots.
A few years ago Ashley Madison's female profiles were over 99% fake, and most studies find at least 10% of profiles on the big domestic apps are fake. The owner of one small app, Findmate, who spends a lot of time vetting profiles claims about 75-80% of profiles he receives from the main international dating countries are from sophisticated scammer gangs.
So, AFA does try to vet everyone, but it cannot see into a woman's heart. Yes, she could just lie to them throughout the process about her intentions, and guess what? Even the CIA and MI-5 have failed to catch every bad apple and they really vet their applicants. Some liars get through. That's life.
Evaluate The Evidence Yourself
I purposely leave up posts, because Reddit is FULL of power crazy mods who delete everyone who disagrees with them and bans many users regularly. I have been banned many times and I find it incredibly annoying, so I almost never ban anyone and rarely remove comments.
I am trying to encourage guys to do their own research and decide for themselves what is best. So, take a look at the evidence and decide for yourself what you believe is the best approach.
Best Wishes!
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I am just going to answer it here, because my answer is long and detailed.
Romance Is HARD!
First, the dating industry is simply impossible, because it is trying to help people, often deeply flawed people, find love. This is the most personal, most private, and most deeply emotional journey in someone's life and it is a challenging journey for everyone. Most first dates don't lead to second dates and most second dates don't lead to people becoming a couple, and most couples do not get married, and over 40% of American couples are not married ten years later.
But if at any point in this chain an AFA client ends up angry and disappointed - including decades later - he very well might rage that AFA is a scam.
And the Romance Industry Is HARDER Than Regular Romance!
AFA is not just an electronic introduction app like Tinder or other dating apps. They actually introduces thousands of men and women in person every single year.
They employee dozens of matchmakers and have scores of affiliated dating agencies in Ukraine, Thailand, Colombia, and roughly a dozen other countries. That is complicated. They have something like 30k women in the database. That is a huge logistical challenge.
In fact, if you really think about it is amazing how successful they have been.
But lets look closer at the overwhelming proof they are not a scam:
AFA Has Been In Business Almost Thirty Years.
If they were a scam they would have been sued out of existence long ago. They are based in Phoenix. They are not some mysterious site with an office in Malta. They can be sued or even prosecuted under US law.
AFA Is Almost The Only American International Matchmaker Left In Business
IMBRA has a whole slew of requirements, including inspections by the US State Department, and most other matchmakers either collapsed under the pressure or moved off-shore. AFA didn't. That alone speaks volumes for their integrity.
AFA Has Introduced Tens of Thousands of Happy Couples.
Take a look at the testimonials. They have hundreds of testimonials and on this sub they have numerous defenders who actually have used their service.
AFA Has Been Relentlessly Investigated By the Media Over and Over
Reporters love breaking big stories of crime, corruption and scandal. Most of the journalists who have looked at AFA over the last thirty years have thought they were going to break a big story because of the urban legends about international dating. But take a look at their media page. It is almost universally positive, and if its really a scam all of these people have to be in on it too.
AFA Has Been Studied By Academics In More Detail Than Any Dating Company
But my favorite source on AFA are the numerous academics who have studied them - often for years on end - over the years. These scholars were often certain they were going to uncover a worldwide criminal conspiracy. Instead, most of them become openly supportive.
You can read an entire article about academic research on international dating,but here is the conclusion of Dr. Julia Meszaros after studying the company for several years, attending numerous socials, and interviewing scores of participants. She wrote: “…AFA is a completely legal, legitimate marriage introduction agency....”
Are they all in on the scam? Well, I can assure you if they had discovered it was a worldwide criminal conspiracy they would have gotten tenure faster and sold more books.
Joking aside, the academics are in the best position to determine what AFA's operations and motives are, because they are intelligent, driven, and often spend years studying the company.
AFA Is NOT Perfect
AFA has problems. Their letter system is loaded with issues, but it also allows men to contact women they could never meet otherwise. I have discussed these issues in scores of posts.
And, unlike any of the large dating apps, AFA does vet its women. That is incredibly rare, because most dating apps are loaded with fake profiles and bots.
A few years ago Ashley Madison's female profiles were over 99% fake, and most studies find at least 10% of profiles on the big domestic apps are fake. The owner of one small app, Findmate, who spends a lot of time vetting profiles claims about 75-80% of profiles he receives from the main international dating countries are from sophisticated scammer gangs.
So, AFA does try to vet everyone, but it cannot see into a woman's heart. Yes, she could just lie to them throughout the process about her intentions, and guess what? Even the CIA and MI-5 have failed to catch every bad apple and they really vet their applicants. Some liars get through. That's life.
Evaluate The Evidence Yourself
I purposely leave up posts, because Reddit is FULL of power crazy mods who delete everyone who disagrees with them and bans many users regularly. I have been banned many times and I find it incredibly annoying, so I almost never ban anyone and rarely remove comments.
I am trying to encourage guys to do their own research and decide for themselves what is best. So, take a look at the evidence and decide for yourself what you believe is the best approach.
Best Wishes!
2024.05.29 05:18 lightangles ADHD Couple While Parenting
Yeah.. it’s as chaotic as that sounds.
Wondering if there are many women here in a relationship with another person with ADHD. How do you continue working on yourself with someone who is constantly triggering your condition? I have to work SO HARD to keep my coping mechanisms in place and lately I’ve been loosing my shit with my husband because it feels like he’s constantly (and innocently) going around behind me erasing the path I’ve laid out for myself to keep myself on track.. like that dog with a broom face from Alice and Wonderland. I feel terrible for getting angry too, since I know exactly why he’s forgetting things, compulsively moving my things and then forgetting where, etc. it feels like I have no right to be angry which makes it even more frustrating. Lately I feel like him and I are both leaning on my coping strategies and it’s making me feel like a single parent to three children instead of two. My level of respect is depreciating and I know that hurts him.. but I cannot, day in, day out feel like his caretaker while also struggling with this condition. I guess I take the stance that it’s not wrong of him to make mistakes, but it is wrong to obfuscate more responsibility onto me while he doesn’t seem to be making an effort to stop or slow down making the mistakes. Ugh.
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Wondering if there are many women here in a relationship with another person with ADHD. How do you continue working on yourself with someone who is constantly triggering your condition? I have to work SO HARD to keep my coping mechanisms in place and lately I’ve been loosing my shit with my husband because it feels like he’s constantly (and innocently) going around behind me erasing the path I’ve laid out for myself to keep myself on track.. like that dog with a broom face from Alice and Wonderland. I feel terrible for getting angry too, since I know exactly why he’s forgetting things, compulsively moving my things and then forgetting where, etc. it feels like I have no right to be angry which makes it even more frustrating. Lately I feel like him and I are both leaning on my coping strategies and it’s making me feel like a single parent to three children instead of two. My level of respect is depreciating and I know that hurts him.. but I cannot, day in, day out feel like his caretaker while also struggling with this condition. I guess I take the stance that it’s not wrong of him to make mistakes, but it is wrong to obfuscate more responsibility onto me while he doesn’t seem to be making an effort to stop or slow down making the mistakes. Ugh.
2024.05.29 05:11 DarkPygmy Got a site-wide reply ban on BGG on a 5 year old, 270+ reply, 300+ post account because I was upset that a female boardgame reviewer was dressed very sexually in a thumbnail and review what to do?
Seems extremely ridiculous I'm having to deal with something like this.
That someone would report me and that for no apparent reason a random moderator banned me without sending me a single message asking for me to kindly remove it which I would have done.
If I knew that would have gotten me banned from replying then alright I never would have made the comment or even removed it myself.
Like does this make any sense?
If any one of you were in my shoes right now how would you feel?
I sent some messages to moderation but no response so far, this seems so extreme and crazy that stuff like this can even happen in the boardgaming community.
Do you guys think that only women should be allowed to knowingly dress as sexually as they want and get away with it on BGG without anyone being allowed to comment on the situation or show any amount of dissatisfaction that this is happening?
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That someone would report me and that for no apparent reason a random moderator banned me without sending me a single message asking for me to kindly remove it which I would have done.
If I knew that would have gotten me banned from replying then alright I never would have made the comment or even removed it myself.
Like does this make any sense?
If any one of you were in my shoes right now how would you feel?
I sent some messages to moderation but no response so far, this seems so extreme and crazy that stuff like this can even happen in the boardgaming community.
Do you guys think that only women should be allowed to knowingly dress as sexually as they want and get away with it on BGG without anyone being allowed to comment on the situation or show any amount of dissatisfaction that this is happening?
2024.05.29 04:44 Alternative-File-242 My boyfriend pretended to be sick or busy just to chat to other girl/s
Yeah, we haven't met irl yet.. or maybe that won't happen anymore... rn I feel like I'm just hanging on a loose thread. For the last few months, he's been not doing well...last few months I caught him but I'm just not confrontational but it feels like I'm fighting alone now.. Just losing my feelings to him. He still says he loves me and he says I'm the only one but he triggered my trust issues already. I really love him but I don't know anymore.. He told me he's not a cheater. I knew he has a trauma because one of his parents cheated and it led to the separation of his parents. But Idk why he lied to me. Why he can't be honest with me. Why would he hurt me? Maybe i wouldn't have this problem if only we stayed as friends... Maybe its my fault because I'm not doing my best enough. I just feel so insecure. Even he told me a lot of reassurances that I'm enough and he love me a lot
My mind can't still stop linger about those thoughts.
That he vented out to another woman that I'm boring.. not that pretty .. but I'm just "okay".. he told bunch of women that he's single.. shared his nudes...
At the same time, he's telling that he loves me that I'm the only one...
sounds like a loyal person right? Haha....
I'm tired
so tired...
.
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My mind can't still stop linger about those thoughts.
That he vented out to another woman that I'm boring.. not that pretty .. but I'm just "okay".. he told bunch of women that he's single.. shared his nudes...
At the same time, he's telling that he loves me that I'm the only one...
sounds like a loyal person right? Haha....
I'm tired
so tired...
.
2024.05.29 04:40 FallGuy1602 My first night out drinking!!
 | This is the story of my first night out lol before I start I wasnt fully out at this point, even now I've gotten far more confident but I still have not gotten over coming out at work... it feels silly still having to mask at work but whatever that's another rant aha this one is about the time I literally had to face every single one of my fears! It was my first night out at a bar as April! submitted by FallGuy1602 to trans [link] [comments] It was a trans friendly night at a dingy bar right downtown and i got talked into coming along by a friend I met at a kink positive group aha. She was greaaat but she was intense!! And I was terrified.. I walked in and I realized I had to show the bouncer my ID... shit... in my ID I have a beard... kinda a big one... it was years old and I immediately panic... the big bald tattood dude looks at the ID... looks at my dolled up face shrugs and let's me in... at this point I wanted to bail so bad. I think the only reason I stayed is because the dude had my ID lol... anyways I make it in... well actually I think it was more people were coming down the street and I didnt wanna be perceived so I ran inside aha First dude I see in like this dark dingy lighting looks like someone I knew. A friend I cowrote a paper with in grad school and I go all white... like fuck fuvk fyvk fuvkkkk I rush to the bathroom and break down crying aha... before I realized I was in a stall in the womens bathroom... I've literally never been in a womens bathroom ever... girls were doing their make up and chatting outside my stall and I froze and couldn't get myself to leave... I've been told by many at this point that I was really passable but still the thought of someone calling me out made me wanna cry and I did and I called an uber and when it got quiet in the bathroom i ran out the back and went home... I had a full blown panic attack.... even the uber was a mistake a aha bc I realized my picture on the app had me as a guy too and the guy didnt believe me till he spun around and got a good look at me lol fun... anyways I'm home now crying... I felt so so stipid... but i also worked reallly reallly reallly realllllly hard on my outfit aha so I wanted to salvage the night. I took a chance i figured if my friend saw me all dressed up he'd say something right... so I called him. I said he buddy I'm over at ---- come grab a drink and he says hey buddy no I'm at home with a broken arm so maybe another time. I let out suuuuch a deep sigh. Even he was like are you alright buddy... and I tried to recover and say yea sorryy not related aha I dont think I did but he didnt bring it up so I let it go. I eventually said fuck this and booked an old school cab back to the bar like I did the first time and walked back in and ordered like 3 shots immediately! My friend sees me and shes so so excited and I go on to meet the coolest people ever!!!!!!! Turns out the guy i thought was my friend was I'm fact a trans man with a glorious beard aha and i felt so so stupid. I even chatted with some new friends in the womens bathroom about the whole ordeal earlier and it kinda felt natural. Everyone was so nice and inviting and I had a great time!!! Oh by the way I sang Tennessee whiskey and nailed it aha and even had my new friends walk me home 😊 Moral of the story... make up is too fuvking expensive to waste aha take a shot and go make some new friends |
2024.05.29 04:37 Acceptable_Yak9835 I genuinely believe the blackpill for years and see it every day
When I look around my university what do I see, the same type of guys with girls. I see a lot of fucking ugly guys like me all alone. I kind of suspected it but when I was taking biology we learned about how mating works and that looks is just part of evolution. It makes perfect sense. If you are an ugly guy why would a girl ever like you. I’ve listened to girls talk about how their boy friends mis treat them and cheated and yet they were still into these men. It’s because they were attractive and tall. I don’t see the point in becoming a servant to a women who’s never going to be attracted to me. The last girl I seriously talked to did like my personality and then she would keep making remarks about how I’m too short and all that. She’d tell me she liked me and then keep making remarks how she thinks I’m too ugly to date. Of course people will say you don’t want to date someone like this anyways. Which is true, but they are almost all like this everyone is shallow. I also can’t stand how easy girls can enjoy the dating world. They can be autistic they can be fat they can be so inept they can’t decide what restaurant to go to. None of this stops them from dating men. They can fall have relationships decide to dump the guy on a whim and get into another relationship even with a guy who is fit and normal and they are not. I’m supposed to think they have life so much harder when they have a whole giant aspect opened wide open for them to enjoy.
I’m not fat and I don’t dress like a hobo or whatever weird shit you’d assume. What am I supposed to think when I’m continually rejected for being myself. That I’m a terrible person and this is why? That’s what I see online when I search about the subject. Maybe the world is just fucked. Maybe everyone is shallow. Maybe dating dynamics are fucked and they have the privilege. The only people who wanted me were old gay men because I was young. Idk why I exist if I’m just a genetic dead end. I work I study what’s the point. No one to enjoy it with. I’m wrong to be resentful when I see people who have nothing but good looks succeed and find love? And then my girl “friends” will make fun of me for being single and call me ugly. They clearly don’t give a fuck about guys like me. Yet if I were 6’2 and had a symmetrical face it would be different.
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I’m not fat and I don’t dress like a hobo or whatever weird shit you’d assume. What am I supposed to think when I’m continually rejected for being myself. That I’m a terrible person and this is why? That’s what I see online when I search about the subject. Maybe the world is just fucked. Maybe everyone is shallow. Maybe dating dynamics are fucked and they have the privilege. The only people who wanted me were old gay men because I was young. Idk why I exist if I’m just a genetic dead end. I work I study what’s the point. No one to enjoy it with. I’m wrong to be resentful when I see people who have nothing but good looks succeed and find love? And then my girl “friends” will make fun of me for being single and call me ugly. They clearly don’t give a fuck about guys like me. Yet if I were 6’2 and had a symmetrical face it would be different.