I need some advice. To give some background, I play sports at a good level, and now I have only two months free for studies and give exams (May and June). I somehow managed to clear semesters 1 and 3, but I missed the entire semester 2. Now, for semester 4, I have no idea what to do. I haven’t fill examination form also…
I have a few options: either I drop out and pursue open schooling, or I could try Amity Online, which might be a better option. Alternatively, I could attempt the semester 2 exams this time and go with the flow, completing my degree in 5 or 6 years. However, I'm not sure how feasible this is, as I only have this time to clear my exams . if i try i would miss odd sem always in delhi university.

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A few weeks ago, a friend of my said to me that I was probably dissociating and it was the first time I heard about that word. So I started a new rabbithole en now I'm here.
I think I may be struggling with dissociation and depersonaltization. I feel like I'm always on auto-pilot and I only remember something if It gets my attention or if I remind me of it. (I talk about short-term memory). Last weekend I was running and while I was running, it was hard for me to remember how I went. I needed time to remember which way I used, even if it was 5 minutes ago. I feel like I'm numb and constantly lost in my thoughts. When I talk to friends, others, ... I really need to focus me or I zone out., have no thoughts or the same thought and song are playing over and over in my head. It gets worse when I get a light headache. But when my favorite person says something, I remember almost everything.
I study to become kindergarten teacher and at kindergarten, I feel like I'm putting up a front about being happy and enjoying it. I love those children and care a lot about them, but when I'm out of school. I turn back to feeling numb and hollow. I'm saying also for weeks now that I have the feeling of needing to just lay at the ground and do nothing. I think I enjoy teaching and playing with the children, but I feel, idk, it feels like I'm on auto-pilot and behaving like they expect me to behave. (I also have a hard time to say if I really like something or not.) That's why I say I think I enjoy it.
I don't know who I am or what I want. I also hate it when I become mad or angry with other people. Like, my parents always say that I then fell out of my role. And that feels true, I always feel like I'm an actor playing the nice, sweet and cute one. When I'm seeing a series, I start doing things I saw the cute characters doing. I like being cute, that makes me happy. So I copy their behaviour.
Do you also experience this?

Here is his article translated with GPT:
It's been two months since I left Mingchao（Wuthering Waves'sname in PinYin）. Mentally, physically, and in terms of my outlook on life, I've shed a heavy burden. Without a doubt, I feel light and joyful.
My journey took me from Chengdu to Shanghai, then to Huangshan, Huizhou, Hongcun, Xidi, and back to Changsha, my hometown in western Hunan, and to Zhangjiajie before returning to Guangzhou. I traveled far and wide, meeting many relatives and friends. The beauty of traveling lies in experiencing the stories of others in a different time and space, immersing oneself in a completely unfamiliar way of life. Exploring the wonders of life in the mundane, touching the emotions, interests, joys, and sorrows of different lifestyles is, in essence, seeking the possibility of another way of life.
Humans, with their short lives and endless desires, are often enchanted by the illusion of eternity. Some feel that time is fleeting and life is unpredictable, wishing to leave a mark on the world they've traversed. But many are tethered to worldly desires. As they reach middle age, their ambitions and sharp edges are dulled, while their pursuit of fame, fortune, and power grows. Some fall in love with the transient pleasures of life, while others shamelessly chase after temporary gains in fame, fortune, and lust, engaging in acts of deceit and manipulation. Little do they realize that they are mere pawns on someone else's chessboard, jumping back and forth, oblivious to their own insignificance.
As a game engine programmer, it's easy to be misunderstood both in the industry and within the company. Long exposure can lead to a sense of inflated ego, a feeling of invincibility. But if you look a little further, you'll realize that most real-time rendering technologies today will be obsolete in three to five years, let alone thirty or fifty years. I often wonder if, in old age, reminiscing about my youth and career, all the achievements of today will seem insignificant. The enthusiasm and passion for work are extinguished in this mindset, leaving nothing but ashes behind.
To me, game technology is just a part of games and products, neither more nor less. I admire and respect those who pursue technology purely, but I shouldn't fixate on technical perfection or cutting-edge innovation. Decisions should be made based on project timelines, manpower, and available resources.
A few days ago, some friends approached me. They were amazed by the success and low cost of a leisure H5 3D project and wanted to enhance the technical team's capabilities for better artistic expression. I advised them to use Unity3D instead of trying to wrestle with Unreal Engine. After all, if the project doesn't involve creating vast worlds, isn't focused on the 3C (Character, Camera, Controls) aspects, doesn't prioritize performances, isn't targeting multiple platforms, and isn't an FPS game, then Unreal Engine's advantages are nullified, while its disadvantages remain. Especially when considering adapting to low-end mobile devices prevalent in Southeast Asia and South America, why venture into the dragon's den when there's a smooth road ahead? And how can one expect to find suitable and reliable Unreal Engine programmers in a short period in Guangzhou?
The greatest benefit of this trip was the discussions with friends about technology and game design, gaining different perspectives. It not only bolstered my long-term confidence in the industry but also made me reevaluate the essence of game technology and the disparities between myself and my goals. I sincerely admire and wish well for those who pursue the ideal of creating great games they love. After all, the game industry in China is a desert of idealism, flooded with capital driven solely by profit, with companies lacking basic contractual ethics, and individuals being hypocritical, calculating opportunists in the guise of upright gentlemen. What's truly lacking in this industry are passionate, capable producers dedicated to their favorite game genres, those courageous enough to carve out new paths amidst ridicule and misunderstanding, those with keen insight and boldness, radiating the light of idealism, respecting themselves and others, thus earning respect from others. These are the rare talents, the role models, the pillars of the industry.
When choosing partners, character should be the top priority. It's not just about what they say but also about what they do. It's not just about their actions towards you but also about their past actions towards former partners. It's not just about how close friends evaluate them but also about how distant partners assess them. One must cherish their feathers and not delude themselves with fantasies of being victorious authors of history, for those who truly write history have no need to protect their feathers. I often half-jokingly, half-seriously tell my colleagues, 'We spend most of our lives, from our twenties to our sixties, working. If work isn't enjoyable, then we're wasting our lives.'
When I was eighteen, I nearly died from a severe illness. In that near-death experience, I distinctly remember feeling no fear of death, only a sense of regret for leaving so many things unfinished that I loved and were within my capabilities. Over a decade ago, reading "Chanel: A Woman of Her Own" and "Dandu," I, in my early twenties, suddenly felt old, crying uncontrollably, echoing Duras's lament in "The Lover," 'This has come too soon, too hastily. I am only eighteen, but it's already too late.' But as I passed thirty-five, the fear and helplessness towards age gradually diminished, and I began to cherish my family, friends, and inner peace even more.
The game industry is becoming increasingly divided. On one side, game development costs are soaring, teams are growing larger, development cycles are getting longer, investors are losing confidence, layoffs are rampant both domestically and internationally, and the number of unemployed colleagues and friends around me is increasing. On the other side, more and more indie game developers, faced with the enormous gap in the cost of starting a business and entering a company, resolutely choose to follow their hearts, passionately piecing together the games they love amidst economic hardship, with their original intentions unchanged, and a glimmer of hope in their eyes.
I asked a friend, why endure the hardships of game development? He replied with a verse from Su Dongpo's "A Talk on the First Day of Spring":
'Is the Southland not pleasing?
But here, where my heart is at peace, is my home.'
source: https://zhuanlan.zhihu.com/p/696884865

Hello my brothers and sisters in Christ. I'm just curious if it's wordly or even considered a sin to run a business particularly selling products like clothes for example.
I was doing affiliate marketing on tiktok where I promote various products and earn from it but my spirit convicted me that doing it does not align with God's will. I was led into thinking that doing affiliate marketing influence people to envy or covet since it's part of my job to flaunt the products I was promoting especially those that the masses would likely want to have like products that are trending.
Basically, I believe what I was doing was not glorifying God so I decided to stop posting but I still haven't completely dropped everything 'cause it's my only source of income. I'm currently looking for a job but I'm also thinking of starting a business instead and I want to do something that glorifies God. However, I'm having second thoughts 'cause I think all businesses are worldly since they all involve getting the world's attention for your business to be successful.
Aside from that, all businesses involves money since the purpose of running a business is to make money. I just think that everything about the business world just goes against God's teachings. As Jesus said in Matthew 6:24, “No one can serve two masters, for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and money." But despite this, we know that without money, we won't be able to meet our own needs or provide for our family.
I'm actually broke right now since I stopped doing affiliate marketing. So I really want your insights regarding running a business so I could have peace of mind and have the courage to start doing my plans or continue what I've been doing. Any business idea that glorifies God would be helpful too. That's all, thanks!

I adopted a new female bunny I had spayed a month after I got her, to bond her with my older male bun. Now after 6 months I realized the bun has severe behavioural issues and that the previous owner lied about a lot of things such as her being litter trained. She also claimed there will be no issues adapting the bunny to indoors as she was outdoors before, but I though she said that because they took her in for winter. Seems like the bunny never even had a litter box or been indoors because she is completely new to the concept and avoids peeing in it at all cost. Despite having a digging box, she digs in the litter. I had to take away all the wooden pellets and just use puppy training pads. I also can´t allow her to be in the same room with the older bunny because she will dig all his litter out and make a terrible mess. He stopped using his litter box becauuse of this. They are practically bonded, there is no fighting and chasing anymore, they groom and sleep together.
I hate to do that, but I can´t have her in the main room when she is this messy and makes so much noise as I sleep in that room. I tried for a month but she consistently wakes me up at 4-5 am chewing on her pen wires (the pen is not closed, she could free roam). She would lift it and drop it on the floor which made a terrible loud sound. I believe the neighbours would start to complain soon, and for my own mental well being, I had to put her to another room. I let the older bun to visit her and spend time together, but I just can´t put them together because she will trash everything and pee all over the place. I did a great deal of litter training, putting urine soaked paper towel into her litter box, cleaning up righ after with enzymatic cleaner, putting all poop there right away...but I can´t do this anymore. It´s multiple times a day and it´s been months, she still cannot use her litter box. Kitchen has tiles, so it´s not so hard to clean unlike my hardwood floors in my room.
I don´t know what else to do. My older bunny is in my room, he sleeps with me in the bed or next to me on the floor and I don´t want to put him together with her because I am used to having him there when I am going to sleep. I feel terrible about putting her in another room, but I genuielly began to resent her and getting so incredibly frustrated that I even thought of returning her to the previous owner. But they already bonded with my older bun, so for his sake I can´t just put her away. I believe I will find my way to her and train her properly, but I just don´t have that capacity at the moment. I never thought it was going to be this difficult.
My older bun is the sweetest, most obedient, quiet and clean rabbit, so I guess I just wasn´t prepared for this polar opposite she is. I did have her checked by the vet for health issues, she is healthy. I feed her high quality pellets, variety of greens and she´s not actually been closed in her pen at all except the first month after got her. She doesn´t seem traumatized, she used to compete in bunny hopping and is pretty social actually. I did a lot of bonding with her and my older bun, giving her treats and teaching commands, tricks etc. She only reacts to "NO", but will only stop shortly to continue in whatever mischief she is doing. If it was only the noise it could be manageable, but I do nothing but clean all day every day which is a major problem for me.
Any advice, maybe shared experience? I feel awful and I know I should have seen this coming, especially after adopting and outdoor rabbit, but she just seemed like she was lonely where she was before. I wanted to help, but ended up with a lot of frustration towards her. I never punish her other than put her in her pen, say "NO!" and scoop her up to put her in her litter box, but she just doesn´t respond to any of it at all. It almost seems like the previous owner never interacted with her beyond the competitions and she was isolated in her enclosure with another bun and guinea pigs. I really feel terrible about having to separate them after I spent so much time bonding them.

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Hi Guys,
I am currently trying to build a new checking out system for a library in a school. Trying to get this done as cheap as possible so excel was my go to.
I have having a couple of problems and am looking for some advice.
In this example, I need a Formula to bring back either "Yes" or "No" or stay blank if there is no input.
So far the one that has gotten me closest is:
=IF(D3="","",IF(MATCH(D3,'Books Checked Out'!B:B,0),"No","Yes"))
And this performs the pictured example. As you can see the result brings back "#N/A" when I want it to say yes, as in the book is available in the library to check out.
Any ideas how I can achieve this?
Thank you, and I will post shortly with my other problems.
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I have already gotten my medication compounded into a liquid formula so I can better control my tapering process, but the compound pharmacist cannot release the compounded medication to me without a memo from my psychiatrist. Bear in mind that the compound pharmacy is a private enterprise separate from the public healthcare system (or any for that matter).
Turned out that my psych refused to issue the memo for the meds to be released to me. I am trying to get the compound pharmacy to explain my situation to the psych on my behalf, but I am not sure of the outcome. Even the pharmacists acknowledged that I need to go slow on the tapering, and even told me that the psychiatrists don't know any better on the pharmacology of the drugs. But their hands are tied as their "status" is lower than that of medical doctors. I begged the pharmacist over the phone to please assist me on that matter or else I may die from the reckless deprescribing (I think I almost cried). She assured me she would do what she can. I am essentially stuck now.
I really don't understand what is the role of a psych. If they are going to just prescribe meds that are already indicated on a list, then why go through all the medical training only to be a sales rep for drugs. They don't even know the psychopharma action of drugs, and they don't know how to administer basic forms of therapy. All thye do is prescribe drugs, and then forcefully detain people if they are "at risk." That's all they do. Oh, and travel overseas frequently to talk to pharma reps. I am disgusted at the entire mainstream healthcare system, but even I have to acknowledge that psychologists, counsellors and pharmacists have a harder job and a more complex duty in dealing with mentally and emotionally struggling people. They are having it worse than these psych(o)s who just prescribe drugs like candy while earning a significantly higher income.
Tell me, am I wrong? Am I crazy? Do I make sense? These evil psychiatrists put me on drugs that I find difficult to come off from, and then when I want to come off of them they are not giving me any support, but instead trying to taper me off so rapidly (do we even consider that a taper???) that I have to experience withdrawals, only to be put on more drugs into my system. My psych even refused to prescribe me the meds for me to slowly taper off from! I am not going to even start on their entitled, snobbish attitude who tried all sorts of way to "expose" my contradictions (eg. saying things like "if you don't like the meds, then why should I prescribe them to you?" when I need the supply to taper at my own pace)
I swear, these people are absolute monsters and psychopaths. I am so helpless in the face of the taper process before me. There is no justice or karma.

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For anyone that finds they keep telling themself a meditation or mindfulness instruction over and over when they are practicing either on the meditation seat or off of it, and feel like doing that has become a burden which actually hinders being present in the moment, here is a possible technique to remedy that.
Instead of telling yourself to 'focus on the breathing', or to 'let go', or to 'be in the moment' or something similar, there is a wordless alternative. It is a very subtle kind of doing (or it is doing-non-doing), that doesn't use words in its essence, though the set up to it might at first, if needed.
I will demonstrate it as closely as possible, starting with words and then getting more subtle until there are no words, to show what I mean. The subtle thing that is done is of course not a word or a phrase, though you might set yourself up with something at first like 'simply', or 'just', if needed, but then give no further self-instruction. You then repeat this process when needed. It is letting go into awareness, or letting go into being, but you do not tell yourself to do that, instead you:
'Simply ____________'
or
'Just ______________'
or
'__________________'

(note: this may be a bit longer than many posts, but it recounts the extraordinary experi4nces of the last few weeks -- and i try to keep it entertaining!)
Last Thursday night (and, late breaking: once again on Tuesday night/Wednesday morning), and not for the first time either, God took over my muscles and made me a comic puppet -- for about 20 minutes. I won’t say “possessed” here because (a) absolutely no pea soup vomiting was involved at any point and (b) I was “in there” and perfectly aware — and possibly could have resisted the actions He was making me perform, the words (and especially noises) he made erupt from my blubbering lips. I chose not to TRY because the only thing better than having God as my co-pilot is having Him sit in the Captain’s chair while *I* take over co-pilot duties, watching closely to pick up tips from His exquisite operation of the machine I call my body.
Or, you know, so as to get tips on being a hack comedian working the Catskills in the Gilded Age. Seriously, the things He has me do, especially if I’ve messed up and need reminding, are like slapstick routines: one second I’ll be saying something self-important or pompouus — anything to demonstrate my vain pride or arrogance — and the next second I’m making weird sounds like baby talk, blowing raspberries and giggling loudly, but briefly because i’ll suddenly fall silent (unable to make any noise for a few seconds). Honestly, I think God fell for Buster Keaton and Charlie Chaplin, absolutely blew out a few gaskets laughing, and declared the Mt Everest of comedy had been summited and from then on, no need to keep tabs on the modern comics - unless He needed to mine their acts for spicy au currant slang through which sullen urban teens might be approached.
For example: His favorite (to date) way of puncturing my puffed up pride is to have me hook a forefinger into the side of my cheek and PULL in some direction, like I’m a trout in a stream about to be landed in the bottom of some dinghy — typically at the same time having me blow raspberries with my flapping lips — you know, like all the funniest comedians from Henny Youngman through Milton Berle are — excuse me, WERE — wont to do.
After enduring a 12-groaner session (my measurement units for the intensity and frequency of the Dad Jokes and 3 Stooges’ pratfalls I’d experienced that evening), I offered my services as a tutor in post-WW2 comedic styles and advances, and perhaps as line editor of His drafts during this transitional period, but was rebuffed. What do I know? The 3 Stooges probably tap into utterly primal human experience, making them out of time more than behind the times. But the bottom line is that my God has a sense of humor, one that has an ornery, smart-assed prankster sensibility that would have made Johnny Knoxville blush (and then rush to ink a 3 picture deal), as the dark matter story well demonstrates.
See, it occurred to me (or the thought was provided to me) that the answer He gave me about dark matter (I actually asked at one point in this communication ive been having, “so what is dark matter, anyway?” and the next night He answered that prayer with a vision for me to interpret, but clearly in response to this question —but that’s another story) was a prank. I’m convinced that He punked me on that one — He fed me a bullshit story, then sat back and laughed when I went around repeating it, perfectly credulous and more than a bit awed.
when I challenged Him with this theory, HE DID NOT DENY THIS, in fact, He seemed pleased when I laughed and praised His sense of humor.
Oh how weird is all this, how weird but utterly wonderful? Has anyone else had similar experiences of 1-on-1 communication, with or without giving over control of your body?
And you know what? I love Him all the more for it, for bringing me down a few pegs, for laughing at me and encouraging me to do the same, for mirroring my biological father’s ornery clever-yet-dated sense of humor, and for not sending the lightning bolt when I told several “that’s what she said” jokes! [fn]
Footnote: Most recently, I was doing my gratitude list, and I thanked Him for my new kitten Alia, remarking that He must have known that she would “open my heart,” and once that had happened, He showed up and “filled me up in the most wonderful way.”
(beat)
That’s what she said!”

Ok so this story starts when I was about 11 that's when it was first saw. The first time it was saw was by my friend let's call her molly so this story accrued one night during a sleepover at my house I went to go use the bathroom and molly was half asleep half awake and when I came back she told me "I saw "you", you were standing by me staring down at me and when I tried to talk to "you", "you" didn't answer and then you walked back in and "you" disappeared". Another time my friend let's call her Jordan went out of my room to get some water I didn't want to go since I was tired, when she came back she said to me "wait weren't "you" just in the kitchen" I replied "no I was in here?" she then said "I saw "you" follow after me shortly after I left the room and "you" filled a glass of water and just started at me and then when I walked back in here and saw you I looked back and "you" we're gone". And then I heard this story this is when I realized it had to be real not my friends dreaming or lying since during that time my friend Jordan was a huge liar (she isn't anymore luckily) but this story happened at the age of 12 my Gramma was sitting on the couch with her friend let's call her Marie, Marie looked ove rto my gramma and asked "did (dead name) have early release" my gramma responded "no shes still at school" and thats when my Marie said "But I just saw her walk in with her head down like she normally does and go to her room" I heard about this story after I got home from school the same day. This story though is more recent, recently Me, my mom, and my friend were on a drive and we were about to pass a lake and my mom brought this time were she went to this lake with her friend who is sadly now deceased and told me about how a photo bombed one of the photos but not her or her friend at the time remember me being there so she showed me the photo and I don't remember it then we passed the lake and I still didn't remember right after that we passed that exact lake where "I" photo bombed them I have never been here before but that was clearly "my" face in the picture it couldnt have been anyone else In the picture it was the two of them and then "me right behind them but it was dark out and we could only see "my" face and not the rest of my body the picture right before that one was taken exactly the same way just without "me" in it and there was many other photos like it without "me" in it but the one taken right before the one with "me" in it was taken not even a minute after (I would post the photo with this but I don't have it cause it's on my mom's phone and it's to late to text her and ask her for it cause I'm at my friends house but hopefully I can get it from her soon) Another time we were up camping with our cats cause we lived in a camper anyways but one night I sitting in my room cause I had the only room in my camper since I was the teen daughter who needed privacy and while I was laying there and heard "my" voice call my cat's name "Aaaaash" it called out this same camping trip 2 of our cats went missing. And that's the story of my doppleganger there are many other creepy stories I have that are all real and please if you guys have any information of what this could be please tell me.

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Why is unrequited love so hard to get over
For reference I’m 18 M
To me was a bestfriend, she was someone that I never really expected to come into my life at that specific time but she did. Her and I had met at my school ball, she was one of my friends dates of which she didn’t like him and he liked her. I reached out to her one day because he wasn’t speaking very highly of her and then I guess the rest is history. I never ever had the intention to be anything with her she was so far out of my league; I mean she really is beautiful it’s amazing. But after that one message I sent her we just kept talking.
I met her at a time in my life where I was struggling to get over my ex… my only ex, it’s the same as what’s happening now I was hurt and couldn’t get over her but she helped me with that. I thoroughly believe that she got me over my first love and now I’m stuck not being able to get over her because ause I’m one of those boys that just feels hard. Once I feel i really feel. I am way too loyal for my own good. And she knew that she knew I had been hurt, she told me her fears about love and we both worked with each other unknowingly to get through that. What we didn’t know is what would eventually happen. This whole 1 year talking stage i had with her we really were pretty much together. I saw her a lot, dropped flowers off at her house randomly when she was sad, during wace she kept breaking down and everytime i knew she was I went over to hers with her favourite stuff for her, we were so many of each others firsts and it was incredible. I truly believe that is the deepest I will ever feel for anyone.
I eventually worked up the courage to ask her out and ask her to be mine. There was a spot she loved to go to. This lake with a walkway and a gazebo thing in the middle, I lit up the whole walkway with candles and fairy lights over the gazebo and eventually I got rejected. She used year 12 as an excuse and I should have known that was the first red flag before what was to come. I could never understand why she said no. We did everything couples would do. I met her entire family, her grandparents and mum would hug me we would sleep together on Friday nights after school. I surprised her going to her dance concerts with her mum and dad, when she got her diagnosis I was there for her to cry in my arms, we were emotionally inseparable. I was flabbergasted.
Eventually a few months later her and I had a talk and I told her how I truly felt, and she knew how my heart works and she just said that her and I have to call it quits, she was scared of what happened to her sister would happen to her and that it was all so overwhelming.
The last words we ever spoke to each other still resonate with me so deeply. “I’m sorry we can’t, I love you” and that was that. And this this hit my like a train. My best mate has never ever seen me cry until that afternoon. He is and still is genuinely worried for me because he knew how much of an impact she made on my life. Everything that was bad about me I managed to pick out of my life for her, I became a better boy for her. She brought out the best in me. And for what I thought would only be a few months I was fucked over her, I couldn’t even try and talk to any other girls because I found myself looking for her in them, which I will never find it’s impossible. And really the feeling of being needed the feeling of unconditional love I miss it. She and I never dated I was never her boyfriend. I’m trying to let go so I can move onto people I do really like personally but it’s just so difficult and I don’t understand why
….its now been just over a year and I can’t get her out of my head. Why is it so hard

This was a while back but it's still nagging at me. I 22F went to a Gl, I had one quick appt and was told I needed an upper endoscopy (so non emergent.) told him I had more questions but he said I'd get a chance the day of. I get there and am rushed through paperwork because they were "running behind." I told them I still had questions but they said I could ask once we're in the OR since the GI would be there. Get to the OR and my Gl ignored me when I spoke to him, 0 acknowledgment, then they pushed the anesthesia with no warning. I assume it was propofol because it burned and I asked what it was, no answer, just "try and relax." At that point I was done and told them to stop, they didn't, 1 freaked out a bit and tried sitting up, was pushed back down, I asked them to stop multiple times. I was on drugs (whatever they pushed) which is why I think they may have been justified in continuing the procedure but I was alert and oriented to time place self and situation however they didn't ask. They also took samples for biopsy without ever explaining that to me and there was a needle on my bed when I was leaving. Overall the place was a shit show but were they in the right to continue the procedure?
med issues: gi, kidney problems, heart problems, the whole nine yards but it feels a bit excessive to include with this post height and weight: 5’3 150 smoker lots of meds, same as the first one, not too relevant duration and location of complaint, everywhere i guess lol

This is my attempt at a re-submission due to some misunderstandings on the first attempt. I now know that there are different definitions of the word “ship”, but for the purposes of this article and to keep things simple I will use the definition of “a relationship that’s rushed and/or forced with no real development.” I hope you can understand as I do not know of any other single word to describe that concept. If you do, perhaps you can tell me. Also, fair warning, this is long form content (some 10 pages), if you like it but can’t read it all at once you can save it and come back to it over a period of time, or you can stop reading whenever you get tired of it and still discuss those parts of it with me that you have read. But keep it civil if you want a civil response.
With that, to qualify the title, no, Ezra and Sabine do NOT absolutely have to be a couple, but if they were to become one, it would NOT be a ship. Ezra and Sabine’s relationship has had years of development. Could they remain as simply friends? Yes, but ironically, it was their “friendship” that felt like more of a ship. It felt like the Ahsoka show, helmed by Dave Filoni, was going out of its way to tell us: “no, they’re not a couple, they’re just friends.”
I believe that Filoni made some very poor writing choices to stress something that didn’t really need to be stressed, such that it almost felt like he was in denial. The line “I love you like a sister” was never in Rebels, Filoni essentially had that retconned in, and like many I was put off by their (largely) emotionless reunion. Even if they were “just friends” I believe there would be a great deal more emotion displayed between two people that hadn’t seen each other in some ten years, especially when one of them was in a precarious situation when they parted. I also believe Ezra would be far more curious about Sabine being Force sensitive, perhaps even offering to help train her when she told him that her training hadn’t gone as well with Ahsoka. He did help to train her with the Darksaber, didn’t he? Why that never came up is another discussion, but for now, let’s focus on shipping.
In case you think I’m desperate to have them as a couple, no I’m not. I’m about the furthest thing from it. Like many millennials and Gen-Z’ers (and perhaps some Gen-Xers and boomers) I DESPISE shipping. Absolutely DESPISE it. With a flaming passion. Perhaps for this reason, and maybe some others, like many millennials and Gen-Z’ers (and perhaps some Gen-Xers and boomers), I’m generally wary of nearly all romance in fiction, and generally avoid it in my own work. The sad reality is that romance is perhaps the most abused genre in all of fiction, all throughout history. It has been so badly abused that many people, including myself for the longest time, have equated romance with shipping, though I’m slowly beginning to see that they are not the same thing, and one does not necessarily have to go with the other.
But sadly, many writers, through time immemorial, have not been able to separate them, going back into ancient times and perhaps even into pre-history, that is before languages were actually written down. Some of what is considered great literature; classics like Romeo and Juliet, are predicated on shipping, though at least the consequences of this “whirlwind romance” are shown to be fairly stark. Star Wars itself is no stranger to shipping, resulting in a very awkward incestuous kiss when Luke was shipped with Leia, then Leia was placed with Han and Lucas made Luke and Leia brother and sister, apparently having forgotten his original ship. Later Lucas essentially shipped Anakin and Padme, resulting in some of the most cringeworthy dialog in the history of film. Many fans of the Prequels even have been somewhat critical of Anakin’s portrayal, particularly in regards to the “romantic” scenes, with many describing them as “creepy”. Some have speculated that this was intentional, though personally I think it was just the result of bad writing on the part of George Lucas, and an impatience on his part for Anakin and Padme to become a couple, hence “shipping”.
One might wonder why this is so prevalent in fiction, and tragically, one does not have to look far. Fiction is merely a reflection of reality, therefore the reason that shipping is so common in our stories is that we fall so easily into it in real life. Indeed, entire cultures may be based around shipping, or at least very heavily wrapped up in it. Throughout history arranged marriages have been the norm, and the idea of marrying for “love” is something relatively new. To be fair, I’ve actually met people in arranged marriages who seemed to be fairly happy, but those same people were very open in telling me that many despise that aspect of their culture, and that it is quite normal for those in an arranged marriage to try to get out.
People might come together for “love” without marrying, but even then it often creates expectations that might turn into a burden. Even when a marriage is voluntary and for “love”, people are often left unsatisfied, such that today in the West the divorce rate is something like 50%. Happy, stable, long term relationships seem to be the exception across cultures and across the breadth and width of time. And yet pursuit of love and some kind of relationship seems to be the highest calling for many people, both in real life and in fiction. And it could be that the accumulated disgust is finally starting to boil over.
To be fair, this may not be the first time in history that the pendulum has shifted. You may recall that in Victorian times attitudes changed drastically, as compared to the previously bawdy Elizabethan times. Looking at a play from Shakespear, if you can understand the language, you’ll see all kinds of vulgar references, as well as what I believe are fairly sappy romances like in the aforementioned Romeo and Juliet, though I can’t say for certain whether Shakespear was actually endorsing that type of attitude towards “love” or presenting it as a cautionary tale, maybe even something to be ridiculed in some of his other plays.
But regardless, Victorians as you may well know had a very conservative attitude towards anything to do with romance, and would often avoid the subject in many places, or tread very carefully around it, as if walking on eggshells. It’s not that people stopped being romantic, in fiction or real life, but it was treated as something very serious and even dangerous, with many urges repressed or even suppressed entirely. This had all kinds of effects on society, both positive and negative. On the positive side, it reinforced the ideal of people being committed to their partners, and of marriage as a sacred institution rather than a “casual hookup” as was more common in Elizabethan times. Likewise it reinforced ideals of modesty and chastity, which may be coming back into vogue, though under different names. But just as there were positive aspects to these attitudes, so were there negative ones.
Just because the urges I described were repressed did not mean that they disappeared. In fact, they often morphed into things that many would consider “unhealthy”. From one statistic that I saw, in Victorian times about one in every 60 houses was a brothel, with the modern rate being closer to one in 6000. Additionally, the rights of women were often repressed, such that they could not fully express themselves and find their own identity, and path in life, as individuals. Just as Elizabethan ideals gave way to Victorian ones, so did the Victorian ideals gradually begin to erode.
Perhaps it began with the Jazz Age of the 1920’s (the “Roaring Twenties”), or with the increased interconnectivity of people traveling to different parts of the world during World War I, not to mention the cynicism that pervaded throughout the West in response to failed old ideals leading to the deadliest war in history up to that point, but many Victorian ideals began to be seen as a joke, and even resented for their “oppression”, which to be fair was not entirely unjustified. But regardless, people gradually, and at times not so gradually, became more and more “liberated” and promiscuous. This culminated in the Sexual Revolution in the late 1960’s, when what had previously been seen as a vice and even a sin was now seen as not only “normal” but as a healthy form of expression, a virtue even. And just as these ideas were embraced in real life, so too were they reflected in our films, TV shows, and other media, often to the consternation of older people and institutions, like the Vatican. The Catholic Church even went so far as to “ban” certain films, that is to declare them immoral for good Catholics to watch. Many of the films that were banned back then, or at least controversial, like The Graduate with Dustin Hoffman, are fairly tame by today’s standards.
It continued through the 70’s, at times warming and at times cooling through the rest of the century, until you could argue it reached a kind of crescendo in the early 21st century with the advent of so-called “dark romance” and the publication of books like Fifty Shades of Grey. (Ironically, many of the themes within this “dark romance” can trace their roots back to the Victorian era, yet another indication that repressing urges without addressing them often doesn’t work out as one might hope.) But as happens all too often, just as something reaches peak popularity is when it begins to go out of style, and that is what we may be experiencing right now. As weird as it may sound, we may actually have come full circle and may be on the cusp of a “New Victorian Age” (complete with “dark romance”, even). Web sites like Porn Hub and OnlyFans, as well as other similar sites, may be the new “brothels”, and what was once openly celebrated may be going underground, to an extent. The effects of this on society have been interesting to say the least, and at times I would even say bizarre.
Whilst many younger people seem content with these changes, many older people are concerned. I’ve seen a number of books, films, and other media receive positive reviews for example based specifically on their lack of romance. Many of these books/films, etc. fall into the “young adult” category, meaning that it is young adults obviously who mostly consume them. At the same time I’ve heard a number of older people, mostly boomers and Gen-Xers, criticize these same books/films for their lack of romance. Even some older millennials seem upset by the changes, as perhaps evidenced by Jennifer Lawrence’s latest film No Hard Feelings (though to be fair that film may be lampooning the older generation’s frustration as well as the younger generation’s frigidity). So just as in the past older people were concerned about the promiscuity of the youth, now it actually appears that many older people are concerned about the youth’s lack of promiscuity.
Who could have seen that coming? But to be fair, the younger generation hasn’t gone completely frigid. As stated earlier, much of the promiscuity has gone “underground”, or online, which many would argue is not very healthy as it might undermine actual relationships, whether they are romantic in nature or simple friendships. And speaking of that, friendships within stories nowadays often aren’t portrayed in a very authentic or compelling manner, perhaps because in ditching romance modern writers haven’t quite yet learned how to replace it with something else. In other words, the “New Victorian Age” may not be an exact repeat of the previous one, but may have its own twists and turns, for better and for worse.
This may all essentially be a manifestation of the Human Condition, in that we just can’t seem to find a happy medium, neither in real life nor in fiction. Thus we keep swinging from one extreme to the other, apparently getting wilder with each swing.
So where does all this leave us? What is it that we really want in our lives, and in our stories? Especially in regards to relationships? I think at some level we all want to see good and healthy relationships between people and/or characters, whether romantic or platonic. I believe at some point we would like to see good examples of both friendship and romance, and I would argue that the best examples of romance have them combined. Even a toxic relationship, if well portrayed or documented, can be instructive and serve as a good example of what to avoid in our lives that we might be happier and relate better to each other. A good relationship, by contrast, can give us something to aspire to and inspire us to not only look for the right kind of person to complement our lives, but to make ourselves worthy of that person. And here I’ll add that I’m perfectly aware that in real life (and thus in fiction) relationships can be very complicated and heavily nuanced, with elements of both “good” and “bad” in them. Just as people change over time so can the relationships between them change, at times getting better and at times worse, sometimes breaking entirely and sometimes growing stronger. Relationships can have just as many layers and dimensions as characters, more even perhaps, and a skilled writer should be able to reflect this complexity. At other times a relationship can be fairly straightforward, simplicity sometimes being the best approach. But regardless, the audience should be able to relate and identify with what they are seeing, such that hopefully they can incorporate the lessons from it in their own lives.
Where can we find good examples of relationships to study? There may be a number of them in the real world, but the trouble with studying real world relationships is that they’re often much more complicated than fictional ones (just as real people are more complicated than fictional characters), and for many of them it is almost impossible to know all the details and nuances because they are often kept private, understandably so, and even if they aren’t it can still be difficult, due to unique circumstances, to see how to relate them to our own lives. Additionally there may be far more disagreement about a real life situation than a fictional one, with many more points of view. To keep things simple, for the purpose of this article I would like to focus on fictional relationships. (And fair warning, there will be some spoilers.)
One of the best places to look, I would argue, would be the films of Hayao Miyazaki. (And this is pretty significant to Star Wars as you will see in a bit.) A film of his that stands out to me the most is Princess Mononoke. Like many of Miyazaki’s films it has elements of romance, and yet subverts them in a way that makes complete sense and feels very genuine, without taking away from any of the accompanying charm. It starts with two young people, San and Ashitaka, and as soon as they encounter each other there is a kind of expectation of romance. This may be inevitable to some degree when you have a man and a woman of about the same age encounter each other in a story, especially if they happen to be adolescents. The expectation may not be inherently bad, and Miyazaki does play with it. Both characters are thrust into dangerous situations, at various points end up saving each other’s lives, and at a certain point I think it is obvious that they have feelings for each other. I was certain that at the end of the film, they would be together, and if things had gone that way, it would make complete sense. Instead, they go in different directions, but remain good friends, and considering their backgrounds and differing worldviews, this ends up making even more sense to the story.
Essentially, Miyazaki could have gone for the more conventional, tried and true “love conquers all” narrative, where the characters’ feelings for each other would negate everything that comes between them, they would somehow find a common ground in spite of their differences, the romance would not only take over the narrative but somehow also solve all the problems in the story, and then the couple would live “happily ever after”. Such an approach is not inherently bad or wrong, and is fairly common in Western media and storytelling. We can see it in films like Fern Gully, and more recently James Cameron’s Avatar, both of which have been compared to Princess Mononoke. As you can probably guess, the problem is that at a certain point such a narrative can become fairly simplistic, and lack nuance.
Miyazaki’s films, by contrast, are very heavily nuanced, and are anything but simplistic. In Princess Mononoke the characters San and Ashitaka don’t help each other simply because they are “in love”, but because it is the right thing to do, regardless of how they might feel about each other. Yes, romantic feelings are certainly alluded to, but they are not essential to the plot, for it could have worked just as well without any romantic allusions. And ironically, this makes those allusions even more valid, even if they are unrequited. How so?
Consider that if love is essential to a given narrative, is it not relegated to being nothing more than a plot device? Again, this is quite common in Western media and storytelling, and is not inherently bad or wrong, but when it becomes a trope or cliche, I believe it is the essence of where shipping comes from. Many storytellers get caught up in this, usually without realizing it, and while a story can still work even with shipping, I believe that it usually works that much better without it.
This extends not only to Miyazaki’s handling of romance but also to other things like environmentalism, the conflict between man and nature, and the contrasting ideals of human progress vs. preserving the natural order. Movies like Fern Gully and Avatar, as already mentioned, handle these themes in a fairly simplistic and I would even say hamfisted manner, whereby all progress and technology is shown as being inherently “bad” and in service to “evil”, while everything that’s “natural” is shown to be inherently “good”. Even our notions of good and evil, and right vs. wrong, are challenged by Miyazaki, with nearly all of his characters having complex motives and multiple dimensions to them, as well as understandable reasons for doing the things that they do. Rarely can any one of his characters be branded as a simple “villain”, and rarely is any one individual the source of conflict in his stories, again in contrast to most Western narratives.
I’ll reiterate once more, a simple, straightforward narrative is not inherently a bad thing, whether the themes being dealt with are romantic or anything else. Sometimes it is in fact the best approach. But the best stories in my opinion are usually the most nuanced, that challenge our notions of what we believe to be true, and that force us to think about what we do with our lives and what we could do differently. To that end Miyazaki introduces all manner of themes and motifs within his films that are familiar to us but shows them in a light most of us might not have considered, thus giving more dimension to our understanding of things.
“How is any of this related to Star Wars?” you might ask. It is quite related, and you don’t even have to look all that closely to see it. A very influential figure within Star Wars was very heavily inspired by the works of Miyazaki, and that figure is Dave Filoni.
This video shows the connections in some detail:
https://youtu.be/Q_4L0BbSpHo?si=04jDo6qFCnZT135w
But to summarize if you’ve seen any of Miyazaki’s films, especially Princess Mononoke, I think the callbacks in Filoni’s work will be all too obvious, especially in Star Wars Rebels. Some of the scenes in Filoni’s work look like they were taken directly from Miyazki’s films, and many of the same themes and motifs often come up. The relationship between San and Ashitaka I would argue is very similar to the relationship between Ezra and Sabine, and not just because both couples rode wolves together.
Incidentally, Dave Filoni was also heavily involved in Avatar: The Last Airbender, which I would also argue was at least to some degree inspired if not by Miyazaki then by Japanese anime in general. The relationship between Aang and Katara was developed with great care and was allowed to build very slowly, as opposed to simply shipping them. Likewise other characters very gradually developed as individuals and in their relationships, at times stumbling as they did so, and making mistakes, before finding their way back to the right path.
All of this is in stark contrast to George Lucas, whose character development is often very rushed at best, and at times some might say almost non-existent. So essentially, even though Lucas has said that Filoni has been “like a son” to him, and I believe referred to Filoni as his “padawan”, I would argue that Filoni is ultimately as much a student of Miyazaki as he is of Lucas.
Again, you might ask, “What does all this mean for Star Wars?” It means a great many things. It means that Dave Filoni has taken Miyazaki’s lessons to heart, and can handle things like romance, as well as other kinds of relationships, quite well most of the time. Like Miyazaki he can play with romance, tease the audience with it at times even, leave the romance unrequited, and yet still have it feel satisfying. A prime example of this is the love triangle that Ahsoka was involved in with the young Separatist Senator, Lux Bonteri, and Steela Gerrera. As wary as I am of romance and as much as I despise shipping, love triangles I normally despise even more, but this one seemed to actually work. It never took over the main story, and even though Ahsoka’s feelings were ultimately not reciprocated, she still learned from the experience, and grew and developed further as a character because of it. The other characters involved in this triangle also grew and developed from their involvement, though unfortunately not all of them made it. All in all it was a good bit of storytelling and gave the audience something to consider.
When a relationship in one of Filoni’s stories does bloom into a full blown romance he also generally handles it quite well. For one Filoni is sparing with actual romance, so that when it does occur, it can be that much more appreciated. And rather than rushing or shipping it, Filoni normally takes his time to build it up. An example of this is the relationship between Kanan and Hera. Some might argue that this is perhaps the best developed romance in all of Star Wars, at least in Canon. Built up over four seasons, at times it wasn’t certain whether it was a romance or a friendship, or perhaps even a professional partnership. Perhaps even the characters themselves were not certain, though it was hinted all throughout the narrative that something was going on. To this day I don’t believe anyone can say definitively when it became an actual romance, and I believe Filoni did this intentionally because he wanted to be subtle, rather than making things too obvious and having the romance take over the narrative, as it usually does. When it finally did become obvious as to what was happening, it felt very much earned, in a way that is seldom accomplished in other works of fiction, including Star Wars.
The relationship between Ezra and Sabine was also fairly well written, for the most part anyway, at least in Star Wars Rebels. Ezra was almost immediately smitten with Sabine, but being a young teenage boy, it was understandable that he would feel that way about an attractive girl. Over time he learned to see her more respectfully, as a colleague and even as part of his adopted family, not just as a pretty face. Sabine for her part found Ezra annoying at first (c’mon, what teenage boy isn’t?), but as he matured and she found out more about him she came to understand and respect him more, and see him as a friend and almost a brother, with there being potential for something more.
There were times when the relationship could have been better written, like in the episode “Blood Sisters”, where Ezra was written to be a bit too immature to make Sabine look wiser. But overall, the bond between them developed fairly well; both saved one another at various times, and took risks and made sacrifices for each other’s sake. Both reassured and comforted the other when they needed it, and it was endearing to hear their banter when they became more familiar and trusting of each other.
So why then was I so disappointed in how they were portrayed in the Ahsoka show? The thing is, after how well their relationship was built up in Rebels, as I’ve already mentioned it was strange to see how lackluster and uninspired their reunion was.
Within the Ahsoka show itself Sabine was shown to be almost obsessed with finding Ezra, living in what used to be his home, watching a recording of him over and over again, and calling out his name as she woke up in the middle of the night. She even risked bringing Thrawn back into the Galaxy, which ultimately happened, just so she could see Ezra again. After all that, when she finally does encounter him, her reaction seems fairly casual, as does his, as if they’ve been apart for no more than a week, rather than 10 years. Not too much happens between them afterwards either. Like I said Ezra does not appear all that curious about what happened with Sabine, how she found him, and how it was that she was now Force sensitive. Sabine likewise did not seem curious about what had happened with Ezra, and how he had gotten away from Thrawn. And with Ezra rescued and returned home, suddenly it didn’t seem as though Sabine was all that interested in him anymore, nor he all that concerned with her, though they were just as far apart as they had been at the start of the show. To be completely honest it made me wonder what the point of the whole show was. Were they just working to set up Thrawn’s return to the Galaxy? As some have said, Ezra felt like nothing more than a Macguffin in the show. Was Sabine and Ahsoka’s search for him just a plot device?
Considering how skillfully Dave Filoni had written his stories in the past, what happened in this latest project of his does not make much sense. Was he so concerned about “shipping” and so desperate to avoid it that he inadvertently “shipped” them in the other direction? Was there some sort of external pressure on him about how to write this story to have more of an appeal to “modern audiences”? Maybe some combination of those factors?
And here I’ll add that when I say “modern audiences” I don’t mean that in a contemptuous sense, though you may think I do. If there is any contempt on my part it is for those in charge of telling our stories, or those in charge of those telling our stories, who do not seem to grasp these basic truths. The truth is that audiences at their core don’t really change throughout the ages, only superficially so. Trends come and go but certain truths and ideals are eternal, and universal. How people relate to each other fundamentally does not change, whether they are friends, or more than friends. And deep down, I believe everyone (or nearly everyone at least) wants the same things. Nearly everyone at some point wants some kind of a connection with another human being, to know that they are not alone in the world, and to know that there is someone else who sees and understands things as they do. While this desire can certainly lead to abuse, and absolutely has, it is still innate to us and is not inherently wrong. Finding ways of connecting and relating to other people is one of the great challenges of life, but many would argue it is the most worthwhile of challenges. It may be the whole point of life if you think about it. As complex as it may be, many would argue it is what makes life worth living, and likewise makes for the best stories. Just as it may be the whole point of life many would say that is what most stories are about at their core: people trying to relate to one another.
Sadly, just as in real life, most stories unfortunately don’t quite get it, and the Ahsoka show in my opinion was an example of this, made all the sadder by the fact that Dave Filoni had done quite well with these characters up to that point. We may never know for certain what exactly went wrong and why, or if it can ever be “fixed” at this point, but I can’t help but feel curious. Maybe in the future Filoni will find a way to make it make sense, but I’m not sure how. And to be completely honest I don’t feel quite as enthusiastic to find out as I used to.
Also for the record I would like to add here that there are other factors that put me off from the show, such as Sabine’s Force sensitivity, that came about without much build up. But in this article I specifically wanted to focus on shipping because there seems to be so much misunderstanding around it.
I hope that I was able to clarify some, if not most of this misunderstanding, so that people could better appreciate what shipping is, where it comes from, as well as what it isn’t. Many people today are understandably sick of shipping characters, myself included. But I hope people realize that in overcompensating for something, we often come back around into the very thing that we are overcompensating for. Or sometimes, into something even worse. This may apply to nearly every facet of life, by the way, not just shipping. Finding a happy medium in how we portray our fictional relationships may help us to better understand relationships in real life, as well as how to navigate them. Neither fictional nor actual relationships can ever be perfect but they can always be better. To this understanding then I hope that I was able to give my own modest contribution, and if nothing else I hope we can connect on that.

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Why is unrequited love so hard to get over
For reference I’m 18 M
To me was a bestfriend, she was someone that I never really expected to come into my life at that specific time but she did. Her and I had met at my school ball, she was one of my friends dates of which she didn’t like him and he liked her. I reached out to her one day because he wasn’t speaking very highly of her and then I guess the rest is history. I never ever had the intention to be anything with her she was so far out of my league; I mean she really is beautiful it’s amazing. But after that one message I sent her we just kept talking.
I met her at a time in my life where I was struggling to get over my ex… my only ex, it’s the same as what’s happening now I was hurt and couldn’t get over her but she helped me with that. I thoroughly believe that she got me over my first love and now I’m stuck not being able to get over her because ause I’m one of those boys that just feels hard. Once I feel i really feel. I am way too loyal for my own good. And she knew that she knew I had been hurt, she told me her fears about love and we both worked with each other unknowingly to get through that. What we didn’t know is what would eventually happen. This whole 1 year talking stage i had with her we really were pretty much together. I saw her a lot, dropped flowers off at her house randomly when she was sad, during wace she kept breaking down and everytime i knew she was I went over to hers with her favourite stuff for her, we were so many of each others firsts and it was incredible. I truly believe that is the deepest I will ever feel for anyone.
I eventually worked up the courage to ask her out and ask her to be mine. There was a spot she loved to go to. This lake with a walkway and a gazebo thing in the middle, I lit up the whole walkway with candles and fairy lights over the gazebo and eventually I got rejected. She used year 12 as an excuse and I should have known that was the first red flag before what was to come. I could never understand why she said no. We did everything couples would do. I met her entire family, her grandparents and mum would hug me we would sleep together on Friday nights after school. I surprised her going to her dance concerts with her mum and dad, when she got her diagnosis I was there for her to cry in my arms, we were emotionally inseparable. I was flabbergasted.
Eventually a few months later her and I had a talk and I told her how I truly felt, and she knew how my heart works and she just said that her and I have to call it quits, she was scared of what happened to her sister would happen to her and that it was all so overwhelming.
The last words we ever spoke to each other still resonate with me so deeply. “I’m sorry we can’t, I love you” and that was that. And this this hit my like a train. My best mate has never ever seen me cry until that afternoon. He is and still is genuinely worried for me because he knew how much of an impact she made on my life. Everything that was bad about me I managed to pick out of my life for her, I became a better boy for her. She brought out the best in me. And for what I thought would only be a few months I was fucked over her, I couldn’t even try and talk to any other girls because I found myself looking for her in them, which I will never find it’s impossible. And really the feeling of being needed the feeling of unconditional love I miss it. She and I never dated I was never her boyfriend. I’m trying to let go so I can move onto people I do really like personally but it’s just so difficult and I don’t understand why
….its now been just over a year and I can’t get her out of my head. Why is it so hard

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