TL/DR pension early + unexpected windfall. Do we have enough? 40k net annual income w/ health insurance. Liquid in 2 million range. 400k in retirement accounts. Mid forties. Health issues. Where to go with dogs?
Original plan was to FIRE in 10 years when husbands pension kicked in. He’s 45, I’m 43.
Have about 400k in retirement though mostly untouchable to us now as primarily 401k. Maybe 50k in brokerage, 70k in cash accounts. Conservatively 550k equity in our house. No other debt beyond our mortgage at sub 3% interest. Which is timed to be paid off in about 10 years as well. We’ve stopped making extra payments on it and have been stashing money in savings instead due to interest rates. Only kid is through college, debt free! (yes we started quite young -he was a happy, but scary surprise). We have 3 cars, a couple motorcycles, and a big farm tractor that would probably net 120k if we liquidated all. Have no idea what we could net on other household items. I do have some inherited artwork that holds some value, and some jewelry. Husband owns every tool in existence I think.
The change is my husband was injured on the job and after nearly a year of recovery, PT, surgery etc it looks now like he will not be cleared to return to work. Will be pensioned off early, and keep healthcare coverage for both of us. Net income with pension approx 40k a year. Cutting his take home about in half.
Simultaneously, my company is being acquired and because of my role, I will not be expected to stay on long post acquisition. Expected to receive 100k in severance at my departure.
And then last week we were offered just a bit more than a million dollars for some acreage we own adjacent to our house.
We would not want to stay in our home next to this development. We picked up this land as kind of a lark a few years ago. It was completely landlocked so very cheap and is just forest. We were able to get special environmental status on it so pay virtually nothing in taxes Mostly we did it to preserve our backyard view and privacy, and to make sure no one else on an adjacent lot on the street next to us, who would be able to provide access, picked it up and tried to develop it. Well that’s what is happening now. A developer is interested in purchasing a neighbors empty 10 acre lot, with street access, if we will also sell. The neighbor is anxious for us to say yes.
So we could not sell the land, I could get a new job post acquisition and stay where we are. But that does not seem smart as we would get more than 20x gain in 5 years on what we paid for that land, though that kind of value is only possible when it’s tied to a neighbors lot with access. Also, with my husbands injuries we have had to take on some additional expense to maintain our property as there are things he can no longer do. Our lot is a couple of acres on its own. I would need to find a job making significantly more to make up for husbands income loss and additional expense and that doesn’t seem likely locally. I’m at about the top of my industry pay scale currently for our location. Obviously I’ll have a buffer with my severance, but I will be lucky to find another position making what I do now. As I had to know about the acquisition early, I got a fairly sizable salary bump to retain me during the transition.
We could sell and move locally or somewhere else in the US I suppose. But the plan had always been to FIRE when he got his pension, and with the revenue from the land it feels like maybe we could do this now?
We’re both social security eligible with sufficient credits, but that’s quite a ways away if it will still even exist then. Approx 3500 a month collectively at age 67, if we stop contributing in the near future per social security website and accounting for WEP.
We’ve spent a lot of time in Portugal, Spain and France and the plan had always revolved around Europe, to be determined largely by tax implications in place at that time.
We don’t love hot, but I’ve been thinking about Mexico as we also have two dogs right now that I can’t imagine parting with. I realize not ideal, but we’ve always been a dog owning family and our plan was to bring no new dogs in the 10 years leading up to his retirement so we would not have this encumbrance then. But with a timeline shift, that plan becomes irrelevant. Anyone drive into Mexico with pets?
I would plan to work some. Probably consulting. I do a little bit of that now on the side and I think part time I could probably bring in 30-40k. But for budgeting I’d rather treat that as bonus money as I don’t know how quickly I can get it set up etc. I don’t know about my husband. All of his jobs and hobbies have historically been quite physical, so this is a major shift for him.
Thinking we were still a ways off I have done enough research to be dangerous. When he got hurt a year ago, I never imagined he wouldn’t eventually go back. I know staying in US, unless we significantly downsize and alter our lifestyle, my husband will feel like he has to do something for work. I don’t want that for him. He has worked incredibly hard, at his primary job and various side hustles to provide a wonderful, stable, financially sound life for a young family that was dead broke when we started out. With this injury, I want him to relax and hopefully continue to heal.
We will have his excellent US health insurance benefits intact, but will likely need to supplement to make sure he can continue to get any ongoing care he needs.
We’re probably going to have make some decisions relatively quickly on the land. We’re good with living a lot more simply, but also don’t want to be in a position where we feel like we’re counting every penny to survive. Should we try this? Where would you go? With pets!

I was just returning back from another interview. It has been the third one this month.
I failed to make the cut yet again.
Life hasn’t been easy for an ex-soldier with the economic downturn currently underway.
The COVID pandemic had also wiped out all my savings.
So I was open to securing any job that would help me pay my bills.
I hadn’t eaten all day and just passed by a McDonalds. It was crowded and I thought to myself, ‘Let me just order a takeout’.
I could see a few vehicles waiting in front of me.
There was a guy in his motorcycle honking incessantly demanding the customer in front to keep it moving.
He was a tall man with long hair and clearly looked edgy and irritable. Both his arms were heavily tattooed. He stepped down from his bike and started to walk towards the car in front of him.
I couldn’t make out what he way saying but I could see the conversation was getting heated.
I got down from my car and walked towards the biker guy.
As I got closer, the biker banged on the hood of the car and was pointing his finger at the man threateningly.
The guy in the car was looking a little alarmed. He had a young boy seated next to him.
The woman working at the driveway counter appealed to the biker to maintain his cool. He would hear none of it.
She then proceeded to call the police and this made the biker more irate. He snatched the receiver from her and hit her face with it. She fell backwards and started bleeding from the nose.
The biker then proceeded to turn his gaze towards the man in the car. He opened the door and dragged the guy outside.
He drew his hand back to throw a punch at him.
I caught his arm from behind and kicked him hard in the shins. He yelped in pain and let go of the other man.
He then turned back angrily to take a look at me. He was wearing a black jacket with the name Kenny embossed in front.
I said, “Listen Kenny. I have had a really bad day. So you either stop this madness or I am going to break your bones.”
He snarled and threw a punch at me with all his might. I swerved to the right and ducked just in time, causing him to miss completely.
Next, he whipped out a switch blade from his pocket and lunged towards me with it. I side stepped him and counterattacked with a punch to his plexus. He went down on one knee.
I caught hold of his knife arm and ordered him to drop it.
“Drop the knife kenny!! This is your last warning”, I repeated.
He started to fidget with his other arm around his shoe. I realized he had another weapon hidden in his sock.
So before he could attempt anything else, I twisted his forearm and landed a crushing blow to his elbow. It snapped into two and he lay on the floor yelping in pain.
By this point, other people came forward to intervene and help with the situation.
As Kenny was being led away by the police, he kept staring at me with madness in his eyes.
“I am coming back for you. This is going to be the biggest regret of your life”, he yelled.
I didn’t care and started going back to my car.
Then the man who was threatened by Kenny came forward and shook my hand.
“Hi. I am Rupert. That is my son Henry”, he said.
I waved my hand at the boy and he waved back.
“I would like to thank you for what you did for me back there”, he said.
“You not only helped me maintain my dignity but also helped me save face in front of my son”, he continued.
“This means a lot to me as a dad” he said.
I nodded in acknowledgement not sure what I was to add to the conversation.
He then reluctantly asked,” Is there anything I can do to repay the favour? Please feel free to ask . Anything. I would be most grateful.”
I thought for a moment. I could see the man was wealthy.
“If it’s not too much of an ask, I would appreciate a job if available. If you feel that is difficult, no problem. Forget I asked. No worries.” I said.
He smiled back at me warmly. He reached into his pocket and handed me a card.
“Please come to my office tomorrow. We can talk” he signed off.
From that moment on, I became the personal bodyguard and chaperone of his 8 year old son Henry. We immediately hit it off and became pals. I looked after all his son’s travelling arrangements.
We would also go to McDonalds every week for his favourite Burger and fries. I later learnt that his father was a very wealthy man who made most of his money during the dot com bubble.
I also became friends with the female employee at the driveway counter who had earlier been attacked by that biker punk Kenny.
Her name was Stella and it didn’t take very long for the two of us to start dating.
With a fulfilling job and a loving girlfriend by my side, my life was finally back on track. I couldn’t be happier.
And then one day - it all came crashing.
Henry and I as usual visited the McDonalds joint and I was surprised to see Stella missing at the counter.
I asked the staff about her and they said she hadn’t turned up today.
I thought that was weird. She had stayed over at my place and I saw her leave for work in the morning.
I tried calling her number but it was unreachable.
I dropped Henry at home and headed towards Stella’s apartment.
She had given me a spare key and I opened the door with it. Everything was in its place.
I tried her number again. It remained not reachable.
I decided to go back to my apartment to check if she might be there.
When I reached the door, I could see the lock had been smashed. The door was left slightly open.
I took out my side arm and slowly entered the apartment.
I could see a life size figure of Ronald McDonald the clown sitting on my sofa.
The famous mascot was sitting cross legged with one arm resting on the backrest. Just like how he likes to sit on benches outside McDonald outlets all across the world.
I was a little taken aback, but quickly switched on the lights to take a closer look.
As I moved closer, my knees buckled under my own weight.
It was Stella. She was the one who was dressed as the clown.
There were injury marks around her neck. She had been strangled to death.
I managed to call the cops while still reeling from the shock.
I also noticed her right hand which was resting on her thigh, was close fisted. When I pried it open, there was a crumpled piece of paper inside.
It read -
“She was really begging me for mercy.
Where was soldier boy when she needed him huh?
Boo Hoo….I’m Lovin It!!
I’m Lovin it!!
Signed Yours Kenny”
I could feel a surge of anger envelop me. And yet I lay there helpless.
Had it not been for the surveillance cameras at the entrance of my home, I would have been in jail by now.
The police could clearly see Kenny carrying Stella’s body and breaking into my apartment.
They put out a nationwide notice for Kenny and he’s been on the run ever since.
Even after 2 months following Stella’s death, the police were not any closer to catching the culprit.
But I did apprise Henry’s dad of the situation. His life was also at risk after considering what happened to my girlfriend.
But our collective worry was for Henry. We didn’t want to see him suffer for no fault of his.
So I started training Henry to take his own safety seriously. I devised multiple safeguards to keep him protected while being outdoors. Always ensured that I was personally there to drop and pick him up from school.
My boss appreciated all that I was doing for his son. He knew I had taken Stella’s death hard.
He was a generous and compassionate man and I liked working for him.
Although he did notice I wasn’t my usual cheery self anymore.
One day when I was waiting at the office, he tossed the keys of his new car at me.
“This should perk you up. Take her for a spin” he said.
“And also go pick Henry up from school”, he finished as he left for a meeting.
I got down to the parking lot, and there she was … waiting. The new Bugatti Chiron.
I opened the door and took the driver’s seat. The fresh smell of the leather upholstery was already lifting my spirits.
‘Boss was right! I am perking up’, I thought to myself.
I drove around the block and stopped by McDonalds to pick up the usual order for me and Henry.
I felt a tinge of sadness when I could no longer see Stella at the counter.
Anyways, I picked the order and started my way towards school.
As I went past the restaurant, I saw an old jeep parked by the side of the road. I didn’t think much of it at that moment.
When I reached Henry’s school, I parked the car a few feet away from the entrance. A couple of minutes later, I noticed the same jeep I saw at McDonalds go past me and park 20 mts in front.
I would have never given it a second glance had I not spotted it at the restaurant.
The jeep had 3 passengers. They looked like bikers with tattoos, beard and long hair.
And then there was Kenny standing behind a tree to avoid detection. But I spotted him.
He was gesturing towards them to get ready. I could see his Harley parked just a few feet away.
They were planning some kind of ambush.
The school bell rang and the children were already out on the streets.
I could see Henry at a distance in the courtyard. He was slowly making his way towards the gate.
I immediately called him on the phone and told him to go to the Principals office and stay there. I made it clear under no circumstances was he to venture out until I gave him the all clear. He understood.
He was safe as long as he was within the school’s premises.
The next thing to do was move to another location. The children were already pouring onto the streets, and the last thing I wanted was to see a child getting hurt.
I started the car and went past the jeep before taking the next turn. I kept driving.
Few moments later, the jeep caught up with me and the driver violently swerved towards the left causing me to go off course. My car came to halt.
The guys quickly alighted from the jeep and they were all armed to the teeth.
Kenny came in his motorcycle and stopped his bike a few feet ahead of me. He took out his shotgun and had it aimed straight at my chest.
The firing started before I even had the time to react.
I instinctively ducked for cover with my eyes closed.
But in my heart, I knew my time was up!!
As the seconds went by, even with all those bullets being sent my way - my body felt strangely light.
‘Am I in heaven already?’ I thought to myself.
I slowly opened my eyes and tilted my head upwards to take a peak.
And I realized I was sitting in an armoured bullet proof car.
The entire biker gang were mad with rage, doing everything possible to penetrate that thick armour plate.
Kenny was barking orders at his gang to continue the onslaught. He then pointed his finger at me and yelled, “I am coming for you.”
I looked down at the seat next to mine and saw the takeout I had ordered.
Just to piss him off even further, I took out my Big Mac and slowly took a big bite.
I sat there in gastronomic bliss savouring my burger, while being under a continuous hail of bullets.
The firing suddenly stopped. Kenny the psycho was livid as hell - to see me have a good time.
I looked him in the eye while I took a sip of my favourite milkshake.
And then, continued to chomp on my burger.
He looked a little crestfallen at how his plan was misfiring and then frantically gestured his troops to keep at it. The firing started again.
But it didn’t last long. They eventually all ran out of ammo and his buddies began to flee the scene, as we could hear sirens at a distance.
The attack had taken a toll on the car. But it managed to withstand all that damage. All that firing.
A life saver!
I looked at Kenny again. Only one thought was running through my head now.
‘My Turn’.
I switched on the ignition and rammed the car straight into Kenny. He hit the bonnet hard while the car continued to race forward.
He was clinging on to dear life with his outstretched hands desperately clutching at the sides of the car.
Next in the demolition line, was his prized Harley Davidson.
I hit it full steam and watched it smash to smithereens - with parts scattering all across the road.
Then, I hit the brakes and Kenny was sent flying 10 feet forward.
After impact, he slowly staggered to his feet - all bloody and bruised.
His face was swollen like an apple.
He was pleading towards me with folded hands to show him mercy.
‘This is for Stella. And She’s lovin it’, I said out loud.
I hit the accelerator again.

Hi, I'm new to the group and really needed to know if I'm overreacting. I have asked people in my life and gotten mixed responses. My friend who I'll call Ashley and her boyfriend Charlie have been together for almost 2 years. Me and Ashley became friends right after her and her boyfriend got together when we met in a college class, but me and her are incredibly close. I met Charlie in person for the first time a few months ago back in March at a birthday party and we played games and had fun. Well fast forward to last Tuesday in class and everyone is joking around about things and just having a good time. Well one of my classmates made a joke about me (all in good fun no problem) and Ashley agreed and said "even charlie makes jokes about it" . I was laughing and I said "wow he makes jokes about me? So honestly what does your boyfriend think about me?". I said this meaning personality wise because Im a people pleaser and it makes me kind of upset if people don't like me. (I'm working on it ik it's not healthy) Anyways, Ashley's response was "well after he met you he randomly said "you're much prettier than James (fake name for me), like you're 10 times prettier than them. They aren't very pretty at all.". I was really kind of stunned. And I said "wow that's not what I was expecting." And then Ashley said "I yelled at him for it so dw I have your back" and I just kinda shut down. Now I don't want her bf to call me pretty, that's not why this is a problem, I just don't understand why he felt the need to pretty much call me unattractive and ugly when (from my understanding) she didn't ever ask if he thought I was pretty or not. I already have bad problems with body issues since I was bullied at a really young age, so this hit hard. I finished the class that day and tried my best not to show that it affected me but then when I got home I started sobbing. I know I'm not the prettiest, but I don't understand why he said that. Well I messaged Ashley later and told her how I felt and she said not to take it personal because "a lot of partners say that about their girlfriends friends. He's just being my boyfriend." But it's hard not to take it personal when he made it personal when he said that. I told her I would probably be awkward around him for a bit because I don't feel super comfortable and she hasn't responded. I think she's mad at me now and I don't know if I'm overreacting or not.
TLDR: friends boyfriend pretty much called me ugly and I think she's upset at me for being upset. Am I overreacting?

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Hi everyone
I am a 21 year old student who was in a 3 year relationship that ended abruptly two days ago.
Our relationship began in highschool and got off to a rocky start when everyone around me started gossiping about her cheating on her ex. I grew up in a household with a single mom who had been cheated on every single relationship. So I was deathly afraid of this happening to me. After months we came up with this agreement that we’d update eachother on snapchat whenever we were apart. And because we missed eachother we would also call at night when we slept.
After all those years this turned into what I think was my crutch to keep my fears away. The snapchats turned away from occasional talking to full day surveillance. The calling turned into a necessity, all day if we were apart, during showers etc. Whenever I saw something that set alight my paranoia I got extremely combative. For example if she hadnt sent a snap in an hour from the other, i would become afraid and fully believe that there was something going on. This then turned into me saying things like “if you treat me like this I wont be able to continue our relationship”. I now look at this and see that it is a threat of me leaving unless she did what i said. I saw it as me enforcing my boundaries and it seemed normal.
She also expected calls from me and would also get upset if I didnt update well, so I thought that this was just how we did things, every relationship had something weird or unhealthy they had to work on in my eyes. When I went to work she recorded herself so i could surveil what she did, and I was somehow so blind to how fucked up that is. And i sought therapy in those two years but had extreme difficulties in finding a psychologist. So these issues remained.
A couple of days ago, while she had a hard week with college, she broke down about everything to a friends mom. Who then informed her parents. While we were discussing the distribution of chores around our appartement, we were living together for 2 years now, her parents stormed in and scolded me for being a controlling manipulator. The dad got very verbal and the mother said something akin to “i dont know how i havent seen that my daughter was so unhappy here”. It blew me away, i never thought she was unhappy as we were having fun just the evening beforehand.
Now they keep her away from me and are blocking my number, telling her that my controlling behaviour outweighed any of the good i did. Like helping her out of cutting herself and abusing alcohol. They check her phone to see if she doesnt message me.
After they left I looked up if I was an abuser, and i can certainly see that i did things on the lists being unaware of what I was doing. I called helplines and spoke to as many people i could to help me and figured that i needed instant care. I will now have a team of psychiatrists and psychologists visit 3 times a week and will be admitted to a facility sometime in the future.
I do not want to be an abuser, and she wants to stay in contact but work on ourselves separately, i agree and i want to be better for myself. But i dont know how i feel with them keeping her locked down like this. its healthy for them to keep her away. But no contact entirely when I really want to change, i cannot fight to redeem myself it seems to me.
Am I a lost cause? Did I lose the best person in my life?
TL:DR: I made my girlfriend snapchat update me throughout the day as many times as she could and whenever she could. We called whenever we could, this meant also during showers or whatever private moment. I thought that us agreeing to this meant that was a ‘relationship rule’ that we both enforced. I thought that her also showing a same need for me to be available for a call when I showered or that I also update when I left that it was okay. Somehow I only see how fucked up this was now and feel extremely guilty and clueless as to how the darkest parts of me got me to lose her. Her parents found out and now she has been taken away.

Almost one month
Almost one month into the talking stage, we had our fourth meet-up, and he was the first guy I brought to church. I know meeting you made me feel easygoing, but at that time, I just felt comfortable and not afraid at all. I should have been more careful because I knew you would leave soon since we both knew each other so well. I wasn't sure, but I still gave you a chance. I don’t know what happened to me. The me I knew was not the same when we were together. I let you touch me, and I know I wasn’t thinking straight, but I just went with the flow. I felt like you were manipulating me, but at the back of my mind, I thought I was old, I had been waiting for so long, and I deserved to enjoy myself a little bit. During our second meet-up, he asked if he could court me. Of course, I knew he wasn't serious. Like, seriously? How can you like someone you barely know? But again, I let him, and I said yes. I guess I was just as foolish as other girls, letting it slide and enjoying the moment. When he kissed me on the lips, I thought my first kiss would be romantic, but I felt nothing—not even butterflies. 😔 However, I was quite happy when we were together for a while. I forgot about my reality. When we were together, I was the listener, and he was the talker. It was odd because when I get comfortable, I am the one who talks a lot. But when we were together, I limited my talking and always listened to him. Maybe that’s why he got bored. He admitted it, but maybe I was just careful about what I might say or afraid he would get bored if I talked about things he wasn’t involved in. I was so careful because a part of me didn’t want to make mistakes. Little did I know, I was losing him little by little.
I also prayed if this man had good intentions, please let him stay, but I guess God is a good listener. He listened and removed this guy from my life. It was almost one month but not quite. I felt like I liked him, but I guess he was not the right one for me. This is what I’m feeling right now. Maybe I was just lonely. I guess this time is not for me. Maybe God knows I am not yet ready. Maybe I need to focus on myself first. Maybe that’s what He wants. I just hope that one day, if I meet someone again, he will be sure about me because it’s so sad thinking I might be just an option. He was my first guy, yet not the first guy I thought of in a romantic way.
Goodbye.

I liked the concept of this fic. A fic of WBWL I thought this will be one of its kind what with starting in 5th year when in canon the protagonist was as annoying and short tempered as you know.
But this author is shit on its own.
Had this stupid thing about word limit and so they drags the plot with each chapter. And yet what they tries to cover in 20 chapters can easily be covered in 3 or 4.
They are no where near the quality of big fanfics on the internet.
Like New Blood. This author not only post regularly but with good story and you likes to follow and wait for the next chapter.
But this author tries to earn money from it by posting it on patreon. And writing in ao3 notes that they are 13 chapters ahead at the time of uploading this chapter on ao3. Very tempting? My ass.
I just wish to know who that fucker is. God knows how much abuse they felt in their life to create a torture porn fic. First of its own kind, surely. To show Harry as the protagonist but also keep torturing him as if he is peter pettigrew.
Also he has like 10 or 20 people in that discord account that goes in ao3 and replies with positive comments like wtf, you are buying people to get positive comments.
I'm not a bully and never liked other bullies. But I hope that motherfuc*** get bullied for what he is doing.
Is there no way to ban their account for selling fics through free fics zone?

Bonjour / Hello,
My apologies for writing this in English. My French is very weak so I want to make sure I do not miss or misunderstand anything. This post has questions about legal and financial paperwork compliance.
In the last year of my university (2022), I filled out the paperwork and got an NEQ number and created a start-up with 3 other people. After winning roughly 15k in some small pitch competitions we set up a bank account.
Since then , my co-founders and I have been occupied with other pressing things in life and the start-up has not been active nor actively generating revenue. This also means that there is paperwork that hasn’t been done or filed too for example declaration initiale , tax forms (if any) etc.
Currently there is interest from another similar start-up who wants to absorb our start-up and “take over“. This also means they would take the funding we got till now ( 15k). In exchange they will give us some minor shares in their start-up venture. They are aware of the “inactivity “ of our start-up.
I am also now taking responsibility to check and make sure our paperwork is up to date but now looking for guidance on a few things and was hoping folks here could answer a few of my questions

1. No paperwork has been done since 2022. This includes a declaration initiale . Including this declaration , is there any other paperwork that needs to be done ? What are the consequences of filling out the declaration and any other paperwork this late ?
   
2. No taxes have been filed. Are there any tax implications for a registered start-up that is incorporated only in Quebec and has made no revenue other than the 15k in 2022? How do I go about correcting this ?
   
3. If I want to update the addresses and modify founder names of our start-up , do I need to go to the regie directly ? Would all co-founders need to be present for this ?
   
4. What else should I consider before having this start-up absorbed by the other new venture ?
   

Apologies for the naive questions . Just looking to close the loop on this adventure I embarked on when circumstances were more favourable.

You know what? I am itching for an RP and I want to expand my horizons, so hit me with your idea. If you already have a starter prepared, even better. Send it over and let´s see where this takes us. Below you will find requirements and a few expectations.
Willing to give almost everything a shot BUT modern slice of life, that I cannot do. If you want modern times, then please with some kind of supernatural or low fantasy of other type. If you want slice of life then please with an idea set BEFORE the 1900s. No matter if victorian time, medieval, ancient egypt... etc just please nothing modern, you catch my thrift.
Also, I cannot do slow-burn (unless we are doubling), sorry not sorry, it just bores me too quickly. Medium-paced romance is my favorite.
Really want to play F currently but I am not picky if we pair her up with M, F or NB! Also more than willing to double up if you would like that. There I can ofc also play M for you or whatever else you desire. I just want romance to be included as I love a good OC x OC and a happy end is a must. Otherwise, hit me with your ideas.
Requirements:

• Be at least 18+, but somewhere between 25-35 would be preferable
• LGBTQIA+ friendly, and comfortable with characters not fitting into the social beauty standard
• Writing in 3rd person and past tense
• Writing at least 400 words per message. More is always welcome, less not so much
• Active; at least one RP response should be delivered 1-2 days
• Write on Discord!

Hey you! Yes you, the one reading this message. I hope you like this message and here is a bit of information about me:
Who the hell I am?

• Healthcare assistant for learning dissabilities, my sleep schedule is variable, my work shifts are from 7 to 12 hours, either day or night.
• Future Graphic Designer (In a long future), I love it and I'm taking it as hobby right now. In love with art and every day learning a little more about it.
• Music lover. I listen to almost any genre. I am ready to find the music that is missing in my life and that I want to play every day.
• I'm a bit at a gamer, but I'm not obsessed with it. Lately I'm mostly playing on Nintendo Switch
• I love movies, we can talk about many films. My favorite movies are The Godfather (both the first and the second one), Interestellar, The Green Knight, Grand Hotel Budapest, Before Sunrise and Princess Mononoke ( I have more haha)
• My family says I'm special. I don't know if they say it in a good way or a bad way, but I'm happy with it.
• I Iove reading, it allows me to experience and live many different lives. My favorite book is Name of the Wind.
• Extension of the previous point: Basically I read any book that catches me interest. (Fantasy, fiction, poetry, etc.)
• I love learning new things, exploring new ideas and figuring out how everything works in detail.
• I'm learning to draw (Right now I really suck) and taking up writing again.
• Future writer of a book that I don't even know what it will be about, maybe written in prose? maybe in verse?
• I'm a bit introvert, but once I feel confidence, you won't even notice it.
• I don't mind exchanging pictures if we both want to do it.
• If you wish I can make a powerpoint presentation about me. I do not promise that it will be serious

Have you decided to talk to me yet? Maybe these opinions will help you
He is a really handsome boy - My grandmother
My brother is special and crazy, don't talk to him. - My brother
I want to make him mine, break up after a few months and write a song about him. – Taylor Swift
I wanted him as my padawan, but they imposed Anakin Skywalker on me and you know how it ended. - Obi Wan Kenobi
He was going to be the model I used for my sculpture David, but he's neither as handsome nor as strong. - Michelangelo
I was about to select him to play Sebastian in La La Land, but he can't sing well or play the piano, Emma Stone preferred him to Ryan Gosling. - Damien Chazelle (La la land's Director)
I turned down Ted Mosby for so many years because I waited for him, he never came and in the end I had to stay with Mosby. - Robin Scherbatsky
I'd like to see him die in one of my movies - Quentin Tarantino
He has a good musical taste and at least he does not put the music to full volume - My neighbor
If you think we can get along, do not hesitate to send me a message or a chat invitation, you are pretty welcome. The chatting app that I use most now is Discord, but I can use any other app if you prefer or just chat on reddit. Please include some information about yourself in your message. If you're not sure how to break the ice, ~throw a iceberg at me~ include an interesting question you've been thinking about lately, a song you love or any interesting thing, if you can't think about a question, this is my question for you, What would be the last song you would listen to if you knew today was your last day on earth?

Ok I know the title may come across as a little conceded or self absorbed but hear me out before judging please.
So I'm a 27 year old woman, most people think I'm 18-20 years old, I have a baby face. Since I turned about 19 I started getting a lot of attention from men/boys. I know some people will think "oh poor you, you are sad because you're too beautiful." That's not what I'm trying to get across here. I am unconventionally attractive. And I've spent a long time building up my self confidence to be able to look at myself in the mirror and feel beautiful. And I don't think it's bad for anyone to know they are beautiful. And at times I do dress provocatively, I'm comfortable with my body, I'm happy with how I look and I'm not scared to show off. But here is where I have a problem.
I like to feel beautiful and I don't mind compliments from men, but I've gotten to a point where I'm very depressed about how people see me. I've been sexually harassed by so many men and it's starting to get to the point where I'm like can't you see past how I look and treat me like a living creature that's equal to you? I've been sexualized since I was a kid, my sister's spread rumors in the family that it was weird me and myale cousin were best friends. His parents even forbid us from seeing each other when we were teens. If I hung out with any guys my age my sister's had to bring up that it was inappropriate in some way. When I was 17 my sister's 30 something boyfriend said my Facebook pictures looked like pinup model photos and my sister thought this was a sweet compliment while I was disgusted. The same guy later sexually harassed me on Halloween when I was dressed as Harley Quinn, I was 19 then, I won't get into specifics, I've already shared this story, but this led to my sister physically fighting me, she was 30. Not to mention my other sister is still friends with this guy and let him be around me again.
Basically, I'm so scared now of men being attracted to me I'm afraid to talk to my male professors because I had one be a little to touchy with me, I'm scared to even hang out with male family members because I'm afraid even they will be creepy to me. And just recently I came to the realization that my old therapist was being creepy to me as well, always telling me I was sexy etc. Like I'm scared for a man to even talk to me, and if a man is being creepy to me I always tell myself I'm overthinking it so therefore I'm at risk more because I don't even know what's real anymore.
All of this has severally affected my dating life. I've never dated at all actually. Despite the fact that men have told me they think I'm some kind of wild sexual creature, I'm still a virgin. And when men find that out they either get even more creepy or aren't interested because I'm not the sexualized object they had fantasized about.
Now I either get men who aren't into me at all and ghost me, or men that can't stop talking about wanting to be with me, probably just for a night. And it's all really affected my self image lately.
I'm mostly just ranting here but I don't know, there's this character in a book called Bailey's cafe, her name is peaches and she cuts her face to make men leave her alone and I always really related to that tbh. I want to feel and be beautiful but I also want people to know there's more to me. I don't want to have to be suspicious of every man who talks to me, I wish other women would quit treating me like shit. Like what's so bad about just existing as a woman? Can't I just get some peace at some point.
I know someone will tell me to get over it or that I'm just trying to get attention. That I'm complaining about attention others want. I get that but I just wish I could let my feelings out there without being judged sooooo much by literally everyone. Anyway, thanks for reading. I'll probably delete this if the hate becomes too much for me lmao (oh also I forgot to add, the reason I mentioned I look younger, it makes things worse cuz most like 50 year old men creeping on me think I'm like 18 so that freaks me out.)
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This might sound weird. Everyday I see a lot of whatsapp statuses, that are "dukhi" in category; like: log aisy krty han unki haqeeqat waqt k sath pata chalti hai waghera waghera, and clearly it seems like they are there for some specific person. I used to think of it odd, like I don't get hurt by anyone that much so I have to put a status to tell how bad someone has done to me.
But for last few months, somethings that happened in my life have really moved me. From very closed relatives. I'm hurt. And it's very unexpected.
But then I start analysing the situations. I come to realise that nothing is black and white. They're not the bad guys and I'm not the good girl. I keep thinking retrospectively and there are my mistakes too. But I just didn't leave in the middle of everything without giving a damn about anything like them.
Then I feel I'm just having the repercussions of my bad part in the situation and guilt hits me hard. I just can't navigate my feelings through all of it.
Some recent example: my father is a monster to my mother. For 30 years my mom signed on blank cheques for him. He once get her out of the house in cold night bare footed at night. And recently when my mamu's 26 yo son died in a car crash, he did not let us go there, he called every known person not to go there, and is still angry at my mom for going there( I know my mother should've left him long time ago, but that is another discussion) But he's angry at me. He doesn't pick up my call. He told my husband how bad of a daughter I am that i take my mothers side. And he doesnt even listen to anything. He did everything for me. And that is right. He's polished my shoes. He's cooked for me. He sent me to best schools. He literally made me a doctor. And now when I'm an aspiring cardiac surgeon it is only because of him. He has married me to the best man for me. I've everything except stable parents relationship. And somewhat my close relatives have done more or less the same. Obviously not like my father. But still. There are similarities. When I see people vent here telling how bad someone has done to them. I want that too. Hiding my part, whether unremarkable or not. But that is there!

Hi, just making this post because my psychiatrist said the medication I’m on isn’t commonly used to treat anxiety at the moment, but she prescribed me it and it has helped tremendously.
For context, I’m diagnosed with ptsd, asd, bipolar, and bpd; you might be able to tell that that combination causes me to have a lot of anxiety. I have been constantly anxious for as long as I can remember, I’ve been having panic attacks for over 10 years now, I've started having what my psychiatrist refers to as "stress seizures" — I've tried so many antidepressants, antipsychotics, benzodiazepines, and regular anxiety medications, and none have truly helped much until recently.
My psychiatrist talked to me about a month and a half ago about a medication called Lamictal/Oxcarbazepine. It’s an anti-convulsant medication, obviously used to treat seizures, but it’s written off label for anxiety as well. She said she had never prescribed it to a patient before as the research for it being used for anxiety is fairy recent, but that she wanted to at least try it with me as sort of a last resort. I’d been using Xanax/Klonopin for a long time by then, and I was so tired of being on those meds as I felt I had personally grown too dependent on them. I had actually had to attend a few AA/NA meetings because of that.
Well, I’ve been on Lamictal (75mg) for over a month now combined with Hydroxyzine HCL (25-100mg as needed, can be used every 6 hours) and I’ve genuinely felt the best I’ve felt in my life (anxiety wise). I’m not constantly overthinking, not constantly anxious. I feel.. at peace? I feel good for once, like there’s nothing to really panic over, and I love this feeling.
My psychiatrist said I’m the reason she believes in Lamictal for anxiety, as I’m one of the more “severe” cases she’s had in her words, and that she’s going to consider the medication moving forward for other patients.
I’m just making this post because I know there’s gotta be someone else that’s in my shoes, how I was feeling and how many meds I’d tried without success, and I want that person to know about this medication they may not know about. It’s an anti-seizure medication written as a prescription for anxiety as well, and of course my experience is just my own but I’d suggest talking to your doctor about Lamictal if other medications don’t work. It’s also pretty cheap compared to other meds, only around ~$20 for a month.
Edit: grammar mistake

Why did the farmer visit the pharmacy? To speak with the farm-assist.
Hi and welcome to my post! Wanted to start off with a funny to me dad joke.
Nice to meet you, I'm Dylan! To put it simple, I am a single 22 year old man who has been pretty lonely in life and lacking in female connection and interaction. And part of what comes with that is the desire to be intimate with a person. I am very mature for my age and will always be respectful of your boundaries and feelings, especially with anything sexual. Lately all I have is myself when it comes to sexual desires, so I would like to have someone to keep company with in that regard too.
I'm just relaxing in bed before work and burning a woodwick candle. Perfect for when there's a storm outside. I love candles! 🕯️ Sometimes a campfire outside on a fall night or a crackling WoodWick candle is a relaxing constant among our busy and hectic world. It's nice to just disconnect, feel grounded and happy in your own little cozy space. Feeling calm and collected and at peace. Something that fewer people take the time to do these days.
I am seeking a woman around my age or older to build a close connection with that could possibly lead to a relationship and something intimate which includes the possibility of teasing/sharing pics etc. but only when we were comfortable. Figured I would be open in my Intentions as that's the best way to be.
You:
Kind, respectful, and easy going.
Comfortable with the idea of eventually sharing intimate things together.
Willing to eventually move off of Reddit.
Want something genuine and fun!
Are honest in your intentions and a good person to be around!
That's about it, we will get along great I know it.
I've been feeling a little bummed out lately. I always try and stay happy and see the best in things. But.. I've just been so alone. Most of my whole childhood and adult years have been spent feeling lonely. I grew up surrounded by cornfields which was peaceful but also has a lonely aspect to it. My family never really were close and never did anything as a family really. And part of it too is the fact that I never had any neighbors my age to interact with. But aside from that, my adult life has been very lonely. I'm just always by myself. I barely have any meaningful adult relationships or experiences, or even any friends.
I work a 3-11 job in building maintenance at my company world headquarters building which I love, but again it's very lonely. I work the off shift so the building is always empty. I don't get normal social interaction with people my age or a chance to build relationships. I only have 3 older men as co-workers and we are mostly in the basement away from any people on the floors from knowing our existence. I always walk the floors and see office people laughing and chatting with their coworkers and I just don't have that kind of experience. And just.. no one knows I exist really. Everyone probably assumes I have a lot of friends, but I'm struggling inside with being so alone and trying to meet people and get past the "hi how are you?" "I'm good thanks" stage. Most people don't seem to want to talk beyond that. And most women are already in relationships and thus it would seem weird to approach them in an office setting trying to get to know them deeper. But man those "hi how are yous" are the only real interactions I get during my day.. so thus I decided to come here lol. Rant over, sorry! I promise I'm not a downer. 😅
Now for some things about me!
As you can tell, I am very mature for my age and am polite and have good grammar which unfortunately not everyone my age does anymore lol. I am not active at all on social media/internet culture really and don't know much about all the slang the younger people these days use. I feel like I'm 50. 🤣
I am left handed which is pretty cool. I'm not much of a party person or a drinker, I much prefer a quiet night at home and maybe a beer or two on a weekend but that's about it. I am simple and stay out of drama and trouble and don't get much into politics or other things that cause drama with people. I much prefer a relaxing campfire and a night at home and to just let the world keep on turning haha. I consider myself pretty intelligent and mature, especially for my age which is why I'm open to older ladies.
Physically I'm 180 pounds, have brown hair, green eyes, and a typical build. There's a few pictures on my profile.
Some of my hobbies are:
• Photography
I have a Nikon D200 and D5500 that I love to shoot with. I love nature scenes, abstract, black and white/goth kinda photography, sunsets, etc. it's so fun to just let your mind explore. It's not about what camera you have, but those who are behind the camera! I'm gonna try and photograph the northern lights tonight!
• Cooking and baking
I loveeee to cook and bake! I enjoy making various meals but also love to just have a frozen pizza once in awhile or something like that. I recently made homemade chili which turned out great. I love to bake, especially in the fall! I love pies, cakes, pastries, cookies, etc. I restored a vintage KitchenAid mixer that needed tbe gearbox rebuilt. Eventually I would love to practice home canning my own food.
• Music
Oh my gosh, I like so much!! Alternative rock, punk, post punk, electronic, synth pop, psychedelic rock, hard rock, etc. I am very non judgemental and open when it comes to music. My three current favorite bands are Type O Negative, Joy Division, and the Cure.
• Nature walks and camping
I really enjoy camping, making fires, and relaxing by a campfire. I love to take walks outside and just enjoy the beauty and simplicity of nature. It's wonderful, especially in a world so focused on everything digital.
• Repairing things
I'm a maintenance guy and one of my hobbies is electronics repair so I am good with my hands and just all around good at troubleshooting and fixing all sorts of things around the house. Last week I helped my elderly neighbor get his tractor started, it needed a new component in the starting circuit. So I'm pretty handy which... Comes in handy! 😂
• Autumn 🍁
This isn't a hobby per say, but man do I love the fall!!! It's my absolute favorite time of the year. Oh my gosh. The beautiful colors, crisp cool air, misty and foggy days, rain, lack of bugs, being cuddled up with a candle or by the fire drinking a tea, etc. I love it! There's only two seasons for me. Fall, and waiting for fall! Haha.
• Scented Candles and incense
Going along with my love for fall, I absolutely love candles! I have like 30 something lol. 😂 Currently my favorite are WoodWick, which are owned by Yankee candle. They have such a soothing crackle and the scents are great! I also love to burn incense from time to time as well. I have cottagecore hippie vibes.
• Old houses and architecture
I love old houses! Especially 1900s and Victorian era homes. Old homes have so much character to them and are just so beautiful from a time when people took pride in their craft. I strongly dislike the modern cookie cutter cheap construction of homes today. I would love to live in an old home one day. I also love their architecture and uniqueness, as well as architecture of old cathedrals and other buildings.
• Relaxing
Basic I know, but sometimes on the weekend I just love to get cozy in bed and relax and put on a YouTube video or an album! 😊
That's about it for me, I'm a pretty laid back and simple person. My ideal person is someone who is respectful and honest! I am very straightforward and open minded and would hope that you are as well.
If I seem interesting to you at all I would love to hear from you!
Thank you so much for reading.

First, I'll start by saying this is both myself [18F] and my boyfriend's [19M] first serious relationship. We've been together for 7 months now and are both content with each other and what our future goals are. We are about to be long-distance, I'm moving about 2 hours away for college in the fall, and then my sophomore year he's transferring to a 4 year college about an hour away from mine. While I love my bf as a person, recently I have been having doubts as to whether I want to spend the rest of my life with him. I know we're young and the relationship is fairly new, but we've had candid conversations about what we want in life (career wise), and how our relationship will fit into all of that. However, we both have different personalities, which has led me to question whether I could remain content in our relationship in the future.
I am a talker. I always have been. I love to talk about anything and I love to have long conversations. It's fun to me and helps me feel more connected to whoever I'm with. However he is not. He's a thinker. He doesn't talk much. When I try to make conversation, he shuts me down or gives me one worded responses and when he finally does feel in the mood to talk, it feels almost as if I'm forcing him to. He also has an issue of opening up to me. Again he is a thinker, so the way he works through things is by being alone and thinking through them. But he has this bad habit of having things bother him, sometimes things that I have done to him, but I won't know about it until like 2+ weeks after, where he brings it up casually in conversation. By that point he has already worked through it so it doesn't bother him, but it bothers me because I feel like I haven't gotten the chance to process it or talk about it with him. I also don't feel like our conversations have much substance to them, or are very long. He's not that social, he much prefers to stay at home and play video games while I like to go out and do things. When we hang out, it's usually in his room and we end up falling asleep or being on our phones and not talking with each other. That's fine to an extent, but I grown bored of our routine and want more.
He's also not that thoughtful. He has short term memory issues so there's that, but also the level of thoughtfulness I want from him is just not there. There's no specific example I can think of off the top of my head, but I know sometimes I feel like he's not doing enough. I understand that it's unfair to him for me to place high expectations on him as such a young age since this is all new to him as well, but I was raised to believe that I deserve to be with a man I can count on, that could help me with whatever I need and that values me.
Part of me understands that a lot of my gripes towards my relationship are directly tied to our age and where we are in life. He does not have the knowledge nor resources to do some of the things I would like from him. As we grow and mature, most likely some of my problems will sort themselves out. I don't want to paint a bad picture here. I love my boyfriend. He is extremely affectionate and loves physical touch. He loves my presence and being around me. He's silly and funny and has such a good heart. I love having him in my life. But the path our relationship is on right now, I feel like I would become bored of it. Any advice?

i feel the need to first mention my relationship with my boyfriend is not healthy, a TW is probably needed!!
its a LONG story, but we first met on reddit back in september (i think) last year, we’ve been on and off since then. he is 25, im 20. he has blackmailed me, posted revenge porn, and other things, i am aware this makes him abusive(and i know revenge porn is illegal in many places). there was also a period of time where he ghosted me for 2 months because he thought the authorities had found out about the blackmail and etc…
i cannot lie, i am a bit traumatised-i was before i met him, but he did make me worse. despite this all i do really want to be with him, so badly. its impossible to explain it to other people, everyone hears my story and tells me i need help. i am not really interested in therapy or trying to heal, but i do acknowledge that the way i am is wrong. my point is, id prefer it if people didnt tell me to leave him/get a therapist/call him names/etc. he is my person. i love him more than anyone else in the world. it is easy to judge my situation from an outside perspective, but you will never get to see him through my eyes, or get to live my life. there is a lot more to our story than just what ive told you now
he ghosted me during january of this year, and we reconnected at the start of april (maybe it was late march idk). things have been going good(the blackmail stuff all happened last year). but at the start of this month he had some stuff come up, and so he told me he was going to take some time to deal with it offline. obviously i was ok with this. but now its been over a week since we last spoke(10 days), and he wont reply to my messages telling him im worried and asking if hes okay. the thing is, i truely do not believe he would ghost me again, but its hard to not consider it when he wont reply to me at all. i cant help but worry and i keep thinking the worst, what if he died or something?! is that crazy to think? i dont know.
assuming he is alive, i am hurt that he hasnt replied to me. it would only take a quick message to ease my worries, but he cant even give me that. it makes me feel like he doesnt even see me as a person. its like hes torturing me. i do wish he would share his feelings with me more, i want to be there for him when hes dealing with stressful things. i feel so useless and worthless to him. how can he say he loves me and then leave me like this?
i dont know, i feel like im going crazy. im so stressed and confused. i cant tell if im being dramatic and overthinking or if im being reasonable. i havent cried at all because i cant, i feel so frozen and so stressed my body is like in autopilot mode or something. its the worst feeling in the world. im terrified of what will happen if i realise he actually has left me again. when he ghosted me in january i went to such a dark place. its a long story, but i couldnt cope without him and i almost attempted. i really do not want to go through all that pain again, i couldnt handle it. i dont know what im supposed to do

So my girlfriend of 4 years told me that her brother’s wife (we’ll call her *Rain*) wants to have a conversation with me. I’ll try to make this as short as possible but with enough details 😭 sorry!
At one point me and my gf hit a rough patch, We broke up. I ended up moving away to another state for work. I went out with an old friend from HS one day and we slept together. A couple months later me and my girlfriend decided we were going to get back together and work on our relationship, I moved back. She found out that I hung out with said friend and asked if we had sex, I told her the truth. But I didn’t tell her how I went out to brunch with the friend days later, because she thought that she violated me and wanted to apologize. During the time of telling my gf I wasn’t thinking about the brunch because I was so focused on comforting her because she was really hurt about it. She ended up finding out about the brunch later on and was upset which is understandable.
Many months later the woman I had sex with texted me her location with a message telling me she’s moving overseas and wanted to see me before she leaves. This was around the same time I went back to town for a modeling gig. I never responded or saw her but my gf just assumed I did once she saw the message. She eventually said she believes me and we moved past that situation overall.
One day I reposted a Facebook post that said “Where’s the girls that like to go Fishing,Hiking & Camping n shii the ones that really do like nature and ain’t boujie??” *Rain* took a screenshot of it, sent it to my gf and blocked me on Facebook. She read that as if I’m looking for another girlfriend instead of actual friends…Because for some reason people think just because I dress masculine most of the time that I can’t be friends with other women 🥴. My gf confronted me about it I explained it to my girl what it means and she moved on from it. I blocked *Rain* on Instagram.
But recently my gf’s been telling me how *Rain* has been telling her to break up with me since she found out I had sex with someone else (although we were broken up). Now that we have a family trip planned where we will most likely be going to *Rain’s* home she told my girl that she wants to have a conversation with me to make sure I don’t have bad intentions and how it’s awkward because we have eachother blocked on social media. There was no hard feelings when I blocked her, after she sent my gf that screenshot I felt it was best to not have her on social media considering she’s causing unnecessary drama within my relationship and I never even had my gf’s brother on social media so what’s the big deal with having his wife?? When reading what she sent my girlfriend it comes off as if she’s going to try to “check me” about what I did she said “We’re gonna try not to be aggressive about it”. Although we weren’t together I still feel like I don’t owe anyone else an explanation for what I did except my girlfriend. I also don’t feel comfortable staying in their home anymore after discovering how *Rain* really feel about me. It totally seems like she doesn’t like me at all.
My gf’s ex followed her on IG the other day. My gf told *Rain* how we were both shocked and that I was “talking my sh*t”. *Rain* automatically read that as if I was going off on my gf about it, her response was “LOL she’s mad at you about someone you haven’t talked to in years 😑” my gf shut it down and let her know I was not mad and that’s not what she meant. At this point it seems like *Rain* has some type of *hatred* towards me. Every time my gf brings me up when they’re texting she’s saying something negative about me. But now that I think about it when I first met my GF *Rain* was telling her I was going to cheat on her, like she was expecting me to be a bad partner which is still odd to me because in the beginning my gf was the one getting caught up texting her exes so why did she assume I was gonna be the one to cheat or break her heart? My girlfriend told me she had to defend me on multiple occasions when people tried to put dirt on my name in the beginning which is weird because why were they saying these things?? (A friend said it’s because I’m very attractive and some people think attractive folks are “f*ck boys” 😂😐)
But anyways I don’t feel like I need to talk to her brother’s wife about our relationship problems or what not. I probably would feel differently about it if we were like kids in high school or if it was her parents but her sister in law? Not necessary. I also feel like it’s wild to tell someone to leave their partner who they want to be with after they told you how important their relationship is to them. It seems like *Rain* has been waiting for something to happen to try to convince my partner to leave me. I don’t understand how I would have bad intentions and/or what would be my goal in the end? It isn’t like I’m using my gf, she isn’t funding my life or anything remotely close to that so why would I stay with her after everything we’ve been through with bad intentions? My gf understands how I feel, she says my feelings are valid. She says her brother and *Rain* are just being protective.
How would you handle this situation? What is a mature way to handle a situation like this?
Thank you in advance!
i don’t know if this matters but for more context me and my gf has been living with each other since 4 months after getting together. We moved across the country together when we were 19. So we’ve always been very serious about our future and relationship together. Very mature when it comes to certain things, obviously we met when we were young so there’s a lot of situations we have where we have to learn from them and learn who we are and what we’re growing to be. if that makes sense lol.

You know what? I am itching for an RP and I want to expand my horizons, so hit me with your idea. If you already have a starter prepared, even better. Send it over and let´s see where this takes us. Below you will find requirements and a few expectations.
Willing to give almost everything a shot BUT modern slice of life, that I cannot do. If you want modern times, then please with some kind of supernatural or low fantasy of other type. If you want slice of life then please with an idea set BEFORE the 1900s. No matter if victorian time, medieval, ancient egypt... etc just please nothing modern, you catch my thrift.
Also, I cannot do slow-burn (unless we are doubling), sorry not sorry, it just bores me too quickly. Medium-paced romance is my favorite.
Really want to play F currently but I am not picky if we pair her up with M, F or NB! Also more than willing to double up if you would like that. There I can ofc also play M for you or whatever else you desire. I just want romance to be included as I love a good OC x OC and a happy end is a must. Otherwise, hit me with your ideas.
Requirements:

• Be at least 18+, but somewhere between 25-35 would be preferable
• LGBTQIA+ friendly, and comfortable with characters not fitting into the social beauty standard
• Writing in 3rd person and past tense
• Writing at least 400 words per message. More is always welcome, less not so much
• Active; at least one RP response should be delivered 1-2 days
• Write on Discord!

So...I have seen a lot of people on 10.4 complain about horrible battery life.....I was not one of them though....until recently.
Typically on 10.4 I would charge my watch for 45 min in the morning while getting ready to 100% and I would wear it all day/night and the next morning it would be around 35% when I would charge it again.
I've had the Series 9 since January and never any issue until about a week ago when suddenly I noticed the battery draining quickly a lot more, to the point it was almost dead in the morning. I have not changed setting of what I use it for and the only app add was the Toyota one.
I updated to 10.5 yesterday afternoon and it held a good charge overnight.
It has been off the charger now for 3 hours on my wrist and finally went from 100% to 99% a couple minutes ago!
It seems this update might have fixed the battery bug/issue - time will tell - but it is not draining any faster so upgrade as you wish!