TLDR I want to start a cheesecake bar (think ice cream with your choice of toppings) but it requires a lot of certifications and startup expenses. I have zero personal credit and won’t be able to get loans. Is it worth it?
I’m just starting to research everything so hear me out…
I have a killer cheesecake recipe, and I have multiple people offering to buy cheesecakes from me. I even have a connection with a local popular brewery that regularly hosts various food trucks and other startups. I have a great day job I don’t want to leave (the benefits are unbeatable, top 25 best places to work in the country type of place), but my passion and hobby lies in the kitchen.
I have an idea for a cheesecake bar. I would make plain cheesecakes and sell by the slice, with an assortment of toppings and combinations. Kind of like choosing the toppings on your ice cream, but cheesecake. I’m even playing with making them into milkshakes. I would start small; selling at the local street fair that occurs every Friday in downtown, and possibly work up to food truck style serving at local venues.
Because it’s a dairy product, it requires commercial kitchen space, servsafe certification, insurance, and required to pass health department inspections. I haven’t quite got to the point of itemizing every expense, but roughly looking at ~$400-500 for the certifications, $900/month of kitchen space, plus ~$400-500 of equipment and ingredients to start. I estimate that I can produce ~20 cheesecakes (sold by 8 slices per cake) in a 4 hr shift in the kitchen.
I recently completed bankruptcy filings this past March so I know I have zero credit to get any loans, but I only intended to start and stay small. Now that the bankruptcy is finished I finally have a few dollars to spare. I don’t plan on ever employing anyone else and want to do this as a Friday/Saturday side gig for some extra income.
Is this something the experts of Reddit think is feasible? I’m not sure what kind of market research I can do aside from knowing that 4/5 people that have tried my cheesecake have sworn off Cheesecake Factory and would rather buy from me. I currently have 3 orders for whole cheesecakes from my mom’s friends. She is my cheerleader and insists that the market exists.
If it is feasible, where do I start? (NC USA).

I'm just asking to see where I've went wrong with the modding list

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I clearly see my pattern in my past relationships: having no tolerance for perceived double standards or feeling accused or mischaracterized. So when I feel those things, I get defensive and try to stick up for myself, instead of just trying to see what my partner needs.
I’m in a good relationship now and I want to overcome this pattern so I can get better at relationships and help take this to the next level. My girlfriend and I have good communication until we’re hurt. I’ve been working on my reactions, taking a breath and separating my rational minds from my hurt ego. But like that’s one thing, she doesn’t think that’s healthy, and to walk away if I think I need to calm down in order to talk better is seen as immature.
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I feel like no matter what I do, she keeps telling me I’m not doing anything and is harboring resentment. She moved in with me and I had spent a lot of time, for example: making more shelves in the bathroom for her, cleaning out the bedroom closet and armoire so she could have everything for clothes, moving all my personal things out of the living room and rearranging to make more space, getting chickens and building a coop and multiple garden beds because she wanted them, I support her in building her business and try to help get navigate a stressful current job she reluctantly has while she wants to keep it. I financially provide and spend a lot of time working on my ego and not reacting from it.
Tonight has me really hurt, though, and my avoidant attachment is really kicking in. We had both worked all day and she was going to be late, so she said to do my own thing for dinner. I was working in the yard, took a shower, and was starting dishes, then planning to cook something for dinner. That’s when she walked in and freaked out because there wasn’t any dinner ready and the kitchen was dirty. She said she assumed that I might have food ready and was really disappointed. I offered to make her food and she said she didn’t want to think and didn’t want me to ask her questions. We calm down and try to talk later and she says that I didn’t do anything to prepare for her to move in. And that when I said my first priority was to make like comfortable for her here (but not complacent and stagnant), and second priority is to keep saving money and looking for a new house. She took this as so confusing and offensive and said we shouldn’t be comfortable here.
I get it she wants to move out but we have high standards and a lot of criteria we’re looking for and we haven’t found out yet on a place we can afford. So we’ve talked that we’re going to live here for the summer (about 4 months of time we talked about) and focus on increasing revenue and saving money so we can jump on a good place when we find it. A couple days, out of nowhere, she said that we only talked about staying 2 months and we have to be out by beginning of July.
I get that she’s anxious and needs reassurance. I repeat our plan back to her and she argues with it. Everyday she had a new idea that she wants to run with and I’ve seen she has a pattern of finding problems and focusing on them. She said awhile back that she feels anxious immediately upon waking in the morning.
How do I work with her and come from love and compassion when I feel legitimately disrespected and hurt? I communicate this and hold my boundary, and her response is, “do you understand why I feel this way?” And when I do understand, I say yes. Tonight, I don’t understand and I said that, then she stopped talking to me… until I started to do dishes again, then she came out yelled at me because I was making too much noise and she had to sleep for her big day tomorrow.
Am I missing something? My rough marriage was to an abusive woman and I didn’t have good boundaries back then and it took too long to recognize the issues.
Is this another abusive situation or am I being too sensitive, or not compromising enough? Even though I feel like I’m pretty much the only one compromising on things.
Thanks for reading. I tried to keep things clear as I could. Any help is appreciated.

I'm just asking for a few tips to see where I've done wrong with the mods I've downloaded.

Mod_Priority,#Mod_Status,#Mod_Name

"0000","+","DLC: TribalPack"
"0001","+","DLC: OldWorldBlues"
"0002","+","DLC: MercenaryPack"
"0003","+","DLC: LonesomeRoad"
"0004","+","DLC: HonestHearts"
"0005","+","DLC: GunRunnersArsenal"
"0006","+","DLC: DeadMoney"
"0007","+","DLC: ClassicPack"
"0008","+","DLC: CaravanPack"
"0009","-","Utilities_separator"
"0010","+","Fixed Esms"
"0011","+","JIP LN NVSE Plugin"
"0012","+","JIP LN Settings INI"
"0013","+","JohnnyGuitar NVSE"
"0014","+","JohnnyGuitar NVSE - INI Presets"
"0015","+","ShowOff xNVSE Plugin"
"0016","+","SUP NVSE Plugin"
"0017","+","NVTF - New Vegas Tick Fix"
"0018","+","NVTF - INI Presets"
"0019","+","kNVSE Animation Plugin"
"0020","+","UIO - User Interface Organizer"
"0021","+","FNV Mod Limit Fix"
"0022","+","Yvile's Crash Logger"
"0023","+","Improved Console (NVSE)"
"0024","+","Console Paste Support"
"0025","+","Basic Console Autocomplete"
"0026","+","KEYWORDS"
"0027","+","Weapon Mesh Improvement Mod"
"0028","-","Bug Fixes_separator"
"0029","+","Yukichigai Unofficial Patch - YUP"
"0030","+","Unofficial Patch NVSE Plus"
"0031","+","Improved AI (Navmesh Overhaul Mod)"
"0032","+","lStewieAl's Tweaks and Engine Fixes"
"0033","+","Stewie Tweaks Essentials INI"
"0034","+","lStewieAl's Engine Optimizations"
"0035","+","Combat Lag Fix (NVSE)"
"0036","+","VATS Lag Fix"
"0037","+","Viewmodel Shake Fix - NVSE"
"0038","+","ISControl Enabler and Ironsights adjuster (now ESPless)"
"0039","+","Iron Sights Aligned"
"0040","+","New Vegas Mesh Improvement Mod - NVMIM"
"0041","+","skinned mesh improvement mod"
"0042","+","PipBoyOn Node Fixes"
"0043","+","Meshes and Collision - Totally Enhanced Nifs (MAC-TEN)"
"0044","+","Items Transformed - Enhanced Meshes (ITEM)"
"0045","+","Improved Lighting Shaders"
"0046","+","Pip-Boy Shading Fix NVSE"
"0047","+","Vanilla Animations Weapon Scale Fix"
"0048","+","Climate Control NVSE"
"0049","+","Misc Audio Tweaks and Fixes"
"0050","+","Misc Audio Tweaks and Fixes (Elijah Missing Distortion fix)"
"0051","+","ActorCause Save Bloat Fix"
"0052","+","MoonlightNVSE"
"0053","+","Aqua Performa - Strip Performance Fix"
"0054","+","Fallout Alpha Rendering Tweaks - NVSE"
"0055","+","External Emittance Fix - NVSE"
"0056","+","Depth of Field Fix - NVSE"
"0057","+","Crafting Consistency Fix (ESP-Less Version)"
"0058","+","ExRB - Extended Roombounds"
"0059","+","Strip Lights Region Fix"
"0060","+","Swimming Creatures Fix - ESPless"
"0061","+","Impostors and LOD Flicker Fix"
"0062","+","yGTM - Gameplay Tweaks and Madness"
"0063","+","Depth of Field Fix"
"0064","+","Collision Meshes"
"0065","+","update Collision Meshes FNV 1.6.3 to 1.6.4"
"0066","+","zlib Updated - NVSE"
"0067","+","Infinite Loading Screen Fix"
"0068","+","OneTweak for FNV"
"0069","-","User Interface_separator"
"0070","+","The Mod Configuration Menu"
"0071","+","High Res Local Maps"
"0072","+","Faster Main Menu (Stewie's Tweaks)"
"0073","+","lStewieAl - Menu Search"
"0074","+","JIP Improved Recipe Menu ESPless"
"0075","+","One HUD - oHUD"
"0076","+","No Exit to Main Menu"
"0077","+","Delay DLC Redux"
"0078","+","MadAce's Ragdoll compatibility patch (b42 grenade throw)"
"0079","+","oHUD-iHUD compat hotfix (b42 grenade throw)"
"0080","+","Cursor Unilaterally Matched (NVSE)"
"0081","+","Smooth HUD - Immersive Transitions (ESPless)"
"0082","+","ySI - Sorting Ycons"
"0083","+","Colorful Inventory Ycons"
"0084","+","yUI - User Ynterface"
"0085","+","Item Cards"
"0086","+","B42 Bows Patch ySI"
"0087","+","ySI - Pick Up Prompts"
"0088","+","ySI - Colorful Icons Support"
"0089","+","Pip-Boy UI Tweaks"
"0090","+","Consistent Weapon Mod Descriptions"
"0091","+","PHW HPAP Visuals (Custom Health and AP Visuals.)"
"0092","+","Consistent Pip-Boy Icons v4"
"0093","+","Consistent Pip-Boy Icons v5 - Apparel"
"0094","+","Consistent Pip-Boy Icons v5 - DLC's Items"
"0095","+","Consistent Pip-Boy Icons v5 - Framework Plugin"
"0096","+","Consistent Pip-Boy Icons v5 - Items"
"0097","+","B42 Descriptions aka Pip-Info"
"0098","+","ySI - Sorting Icons - Autumn Leaves patch"
"0099","+","Titans of the New West Icons"
"0100","+","The Weapon Mod Menu"
"0101","-","Gameplay_separator"
"0102","+","Immersive Recoil 2.0"
"0103","+","Cookable Grenades"
"0104","+","Faster Sleep-Wait"
"0105","+","Auto-Save Manager"
"0106","+","Bad Touch NVSE"
"0107","+","Harder Barter Faster Stronger"
"0108","+","Traps Tweaks - Traps Use Other Skills"
"0109","+","Enhanced Movement"
"0110","+","Enhanced Movement INI"
"0111","+","FOV Slider"
"0112","+","FPS Weapon Lowering"
"0113","+","B42 FireMode - Selective Fire and First Shot Precision - ESPless"
"0114","+","B42 Quickthrow - an alternative grenade hotkey mod"
"0115","+","B42 Melee Bash"
"0116","+","B42 Inspect - aka Animated Ammo and Weapon Condition Checking"
"0117","+","B42 Notify - Corner Messages Overhaul - ESPless"
"0118","+","unDeath - Death Alternative"
"0119","+","Transporters - Fast Travel Alternative"
"0120","+","BallistX - Internal and External Ballistics"
"0121","+","JLM - Just Loot Menu"
"0122","+","Perception-Based Dynamic DoF - ESPless"
"0123","+","Recent Loot Log"
"0124","+","JBT - Just Bullet Time"
"0125","+","JIP Companions Command and Control"
"0126","+","Sneak Vignette - ESPless"
"0127","+","Crafting XP - ESPless"
"0128","+","Immersive Fast Travel Encounters"
"0129","+","Shiloh DS - Clean Pipboy Screen"
"0130","+","Shiloh DS - Color Survival Map & Icons"
"0131","+","Improved Lonesome Road Perks"
"0132","+","Walking Inertia"
"0133","+","ConsistentSpreadv1.3"
"0134","+","Better Charisma"
"0135","+","Charisma alters Companion Limit"
"0136","+","Weapon Requirements System"
"0137","+","Laser Weapon Iron Sights"
"0138","+","Plasma Weapon Iron Sights"
"0139","+","Laser Weapon Iron Sights - Iron Sight Recoil Animations"
"0140","+","Melee VATS Animation Restoration"
"0141","+","NAWEMO - NPCs use Ammo Variants and Weapon Mods"
"0142","+","Modern Ambient Temperature"
"0143","+","Immersive Recoil Ammo Data (Balisticx"
"0144","+","Weapon Pack Patches - ESPless (Balisticx)"
"0145","+","NCR Salute - Espless"
"0146","+","Realistic Equip and Unequip Sounds"
"0147","+","DSOAL - True 3D Sound for Headphones (HRTF mod)"
"0148","+","ATMOS Ambience Overhaul"
"0149","+","B42 Optics Aligned - Another Millenia kNVSE"
"0150","+","Another Millenia and Addon - B42 Optics Patch"
"0151","+","Leave No Witnesses"
"0152","+","B42 Optics Aligned - Vanilla"
"0153","+","NPCs Can Miss"
"0154","+","Real Time Reflections - NVSE"
"0155","+","B42 Optics - Real Time Reflections Patch"
"0156","+","ADS - Backpack - Jump Sound Effects MONO"
"0157","+","Aim Down Sights - Backpack - Jump Impact sound Effects"
"0158","+","Roleplayers Alternative Start Fallout New Vegas"
"0159","+","Radiant Infinium - Endless Questing Framework"
"0160","+","NPCs Sprint kNVSE - ESPless"
"0161","+","Armed to the Teeth - Redux"
"0162","+","Permanent Weapon Shells"
"0163","+","Clockwork Vegas - Calendar Overhaul and Time-based Mechanics"
"0164","+","Limitless Stats"
"0165","+","Martialize"
"0166","+","Manual Reload"
"0167","+","Ricochet - espless"
"0168","+","NPCs use Aid items"
"0169","+","Absolute Damage Threshold"
"0170","+","Windows of the Mojave"
"0171","+","2x Increased Experience"
"0172","+","Realtime Weapon Modding System (b42)"
"0173","+","Retrievable Throwables Reforged"
"0174","+","Immersive Sleeping Encounters"
"0175","+","S.P.E.C.I.A.L. Magazines and Books"
"0176","-","Content_separator"
"0177","+","Functional Post Game Ending"
"0178","+","The Living Desert - Travelers Patrols Consequences Increased Population and more"
"0179","+","Better Brotherhood"
"0180","+","JSawyer Ultimate Edition"
"0181","+","Hidden Valley Overhauled"
"0182","+","Insignia of the Brotherhood"
"0183","+","Mojave NPCs"
"0184","+","JSawyer Ultimate Edition Patches"
"0185","+","JSRS Sound Mod 2.0"
"0186","+","Sound Extender"
"0187","+","Bullet Snap Redux - Espless"
"0188","+","MNTLs Energy Weapons Sound Pack 1_3"
"0189","+","All Explosion Sounds Overhaul BSA and YUP Patch"
"0190","+","NV Novac Apartment"
"0191","+","Sierra Madre Grand Entrance"
"0192","+","B42 Dropmag - Quest Mod Patches"
"0193","+","Mojave Express Courier Delivery Work - Primm"
"0194","+","Deserters Fortress"
"0195","+","DesertersFortress_Update"
"0196","+","Deserters Fortress Update with Demi story add on"
"0197","+","Uncanny Valley Research Center"
"0198","+","Caps and Scraps Pawn"
"0199","+","Checkpoint Gary"
"0200","+","Autumn Leaves"
"0201","+","Of Truth and Lies"
"0202","+","Crossover Content for Death's Last Whisper (of truth and lies)"
"0203","+","The Someguy Series Revamped"
"0204","+","The Someguy Series Revamped (1.2.1 hotfix)"
"0205","+","The Someguy Series"
"0206","+","New Vegas Bounties I"
"0207","+","NVBII TOTNW 2.0 Patch"
"0208","+","The Inheritance"
"0209","+","Russell"
"0210","+","King of the Ring"
"0211","+","New Vegas Bounties II"
"0212","+","New Vegas Bounties II (patch)"
"0213","+","New Vegas Bounties III"
"0214","+","New Vegas Bounties III (.954 patch)"
"0215","+","New Vegas Killer"
"0216","+","The Better Angels"
"0217","+","Death's Last Whisper - Hugs AND Death"
"0218","+","Death's Last Whisper - Angel of Death Update - Texture Fix"
"0219","+","Eve Dialogue for New Vegas Bounties 1 (Original)"
"0220","+","Eve Dialogue for New Vegas Bounties 2"
"0221","-","Visual_separator"
"0222","+","Mostly Fixed FaceGen Tints (NV or TTW)"
"0223","+","Muzzle Flash Light Fix - NVSE"
"0224","+","Viewmodel Shading Fix - NVSE"
"0225","+","Smooth True Iron Sights Camera"
"0226","+","B42 Weapon Inertia"
"0227","+","B42 Optics - ESPless"
"0228","+","High Resolution Water Fog - Water Aliasing Fix"
"0229","+","Improved LOD Noise Texture"
"0230","+","Landscape Texture Improvements"
"0231","+","Wasted Rocks Normals"
"0232","+","More Consistent Vanilla Rock Textures (Less Green Clifftops)"
"0233","+","A Little More Lamplight"
"0234","+","Atmospheric Lighting Tweaks (Interior Lighting for FNV and TTW)"
"0235","+","High Resolution Bloom NVSE"
"0236","+","Cloud Upgrade NVSE"
"0237","+","Interior Rain"
"0238","+","Heat Haze"
"0239","+","3D Rain"
"0240","+","Climate Control - Rain"
"0241","+","Brave New World"
"0242","+","Climate Control - 3D Rain (Patch)"
"0243","+","Helpless Falling"
"0244","+","Sticky Ragdoll Camera"
"0245","+","Afterglow -- Neon illumination"
"0246","+","B42 Loot - Animated Physical Item Pickup - ESPless"
"0247","+","Elegant Sunglare Retexture"
"0248","+","B42 Optics Aligned"
"0249","+","Cloud Shadows"
"0250","+","Hit - B42 Interact Skinning"
"0251","+","B42 Interact - Animated Items and Interactions Framework - ESPless"
"0252","+","B42 Dropmag and One in the chamber"
"0253","+","Lumen - Ambient Lighting"
"0254","+","Hit - B42 Inject Animation Pack - Season 1"
"0255","+","Hit - B42 Inject Anim Pack - Season 1 - JSawyer Ultimate Patch"
"0256","+","Hit - B42 Inject - Water Animations"
"0257","+","Hit - B42 Inject - Sunset Sarsaparilla Animations"
"0258","+","Hit - B42 Inject - Meat Animations"
"0259","+","Hit - B42 Inject - Assorted Items 1"
"0260","+","Hit - B42 Inject - Liquid Courage"
"0261","+","Animated Ingestibles"
"0262","+","Glowing Ghosts - Happy Little Holograms Emit Light"
"0263","+","Radiation Visuals"
"0264","+","Just Bullet Time DoF - ESPless"
"0265","+","Dynamic Depth-Of-Field - ESPless"
"0266","+","ySI - Assorted Fixes"
"0267","+","Drowning Visuals - ESPless"
"0268","+","Animated Sleeping"
"0269","+","Dismemberment Tweaks"
"0270","+","New Vegas - Enhanced Camera"
"0271","+","Melee Hitstop Effects"
"0272","+","Iron Sights Recoil Animations"
"0273","+","Hit's Anims - Season 1"
"0274","+","Hit - Millenia Animations - Part 2"
"0275","+","Hit - B42 Interact Animation Pack"
"0276","+","New Vegas Animation Overhaul Guns"
"0277","+","Bullet Tracers For New vegas"
"0278","+","Subtle Camera Motion"
"0279","+","Frozen Hit Rockomotion"
"0280","+","Real Reticles for B42 Optics"
"0281","+","Combined melee animation pack"
"0282","+","ISInertia"
"0283","+","Hit - Power Armor Pip-Boy Anim"
"0284","+","Pop-Up Message Icons"
"0285","+","Unironically Final 3.0 Even Better Loading Screen and Main Menu Replacer-Butthurt Edition"
"0286","+","Main And Pause Menus Overhaul"
"0287","+","Patch of Desert"
"0288","+","Nights are Darker"
"0289","+","Just Loot Menu DoF - ESPless"
"0290","+","Increased Bullet Impact LOD"
"0291","+","NMCs Textures NV SMALL Pack SINGLE FILE FOR NMM"
"0292","+","Hit - VATS Restored"
"0293","+","B42 Inject - Animated Item Use - ESPless"
"0294","+","Random Stimpak Animation"
"0295","+","Alt's Animation - Remington Rolling Block"
"0296","+","Animated Ingestibles - B42 Inject Patch"
"0297","+","ySI - Various Patches"
"0298","+","New Vegas Animation Overhaul - Guns - Adjusted Reload Sounds"
"0299","-","Perks_separator"
"0300","+","More Perks Reimagined"
"0301","+","Three-perk Bounty"
"0302","+","JSUE Patch (Sweet perk overhaul)"
"0303","+","Sweet Perk Overhaul"
"0304","+","Skill Based Perks"
"0305","+","PerkPackPlus"
"0306","+","Sweet 6 Shooter Perk Pack NV Version"
"0307","+","Swift Learner 10 Ranks"
"0308","+","SnowglobePerks"
"0309","+","Trench Trooper"
"0310","+","Perk Every Level"
"0311","+","Agility Actually Matters - ESPless"
"0312","+","Rapid Regeneration Trait"
"0313","+","Pick Four Traits"
"0314","+","Perkaholic"
"0315","+","4 new Perks"
"0316","+","Choice Based DLC Perk Rewards"
"0317","-","Weapons and armor_separator"
"0318","+","B42 Wristwatch"
"0319","+","B42 Bows"
"0320","+","NCR Trooper Overhaul_beta"
"0321","+","NCR Trooper Overhaul_beta (sapper leg)"
"0322","+","NCR Trooper Overhaul - Distributed"
"0323","+","ARIZONA SLAVE ARMY - A Legion Overhaul"
"0324","+","ARIZONA SLAVE ARMY - A Legion Overhaul (update)f"
"0325","+","Weapon Mods Expanded - WMX"
"0326","+","Armor for Companions"
"0327","+","Classic Fallout inspired Jackals - Armour only"
"0328","+","Kerberos Panzer Police Jin Roh armor (update)"
"0329","+","Kerberos Panzer Police ToTNW Patch"
"0330","+","Kerberos Panzer Police Armor - Thermal Nightvision"
"0331","+","Power armor less DT"
"0332","+","Advanced Recon Stealth Armor"
"0333","+","Adv Recon Stealth Armor - EASIER STEALTH"
"0334","+","Advanced Recon Thermal Nightvision"
"0335","+","Advanced Recon - Main File 1 - TECH"
"0336","+","Advanced Recon - Main File 2 - GEAR"
"0337","+","Glacier Glasses"
"0338","+","Advanced Recon Glacier Glasses"
"0339","+","Caliber Based Damage - espless"
"0340","+","CaliberZL - Modern Ammo Caliber Expansion"
"0341","+","CaliberX"
"0342","+","CaliberX EMS update -"
"0343","+","ZL Armaments Remastered"
"0344","+","Another Millenia"
"0345","+","Custom Scope Overlays for B42 Optics"
"0346","+","Another Millenia Gun Add-on"
"0347","+","Another Millenia Shop Add-on"
"0348","+","AWO Lend-Lease - Springfield 1861"
"0349","+","AWO Lend-Lease - Springfield 1861 (mesh fix Patch)"
"0350","+","AWO - Lend-Lease - MG42"
"0351","+","AWO - Lend-Lease - MG42 (Update)"
"0352","+","MG42 animation for AWO - MG42 by Serviamnon"
"0353","+","AWO - MG42 - B42 Optics Patch"
"0354","+","AWO Lend-Lease - Winchester 1895 (Trench Repeater)"
"0355","+","AWO Lend-Lease - Winchester 1895 (Trench Repeater) (b42 patch)"
"0356","+","AWO - Trench Repeater - NVTS patch"
"0357","+","AWO Lend-Lease - Lee-Enfield - B42 Optics Patch"
"0358","+","AWO Lend-Lease - Lee-Enfield"
"0359","+","Canvas Backpacks - FNV - TTW"
"0360","+","CIBS - Customizable Integrated Backpack System"
"0361","+","454 Casull Auto"
"0362","+","The Jackal"
"0363","+","The Jackal - Hellsing ARMS 13mm Auto Anti-Freak Combat Pistol kNVSE set"
"0364","+","Ani_Desert Eagle kNVSE Set"
"0365","+","Collectible Canteens"
"0366","+","Collectible Canteens (Patch)"
"0367","+","PipBoyToPSVITA"
"0368","+","Quantum Trigger"
"0369","+","Functional Benny's Lighter"
"0370","+","Hunting Revolver Iron Sights"
"0371","+","Anti-Materiel Rifle Iron Sights"
"0372","+","Mojave Express Messenger Bag"
"0373","+","Knights of the Mojave (Brotherhood Knights expanded)"
"0374","+","NCR Chemtroopers (Sodaz Trench Raiders inspired)"
"0375","+","Titans of The New West"
"0376","+","NIGHTMARE FIENDS - A Junkie Overhaul"
"0377","+","NIGHTMARE FIENDS - A Junkie Overhaul (Update for sadist armor)"
"0378","+","Merc Armor Buffed - ESPless"
"0379","+","Postman_uniform"
"0380","+","AK-50"
"0381","+","AK50 - B42 Optics Patch"
"0382","+","AK50 - Update 1.1"
"0383","+","El Sepulturero - The Cursed Shovel"
"0384","+","Fat Stacks"
"0385","+","Raygun"
"0386","+","Lil' Bomber"
"0387","+","Defibrillator"
"0388","+","Nintendo Zapper Pistol"
"0389","+","NES ZAPPER (clintmich) hitman animations patch"
"0390","+","Combine Stun Batton"
"0391","+","Ammo Boxes - An Economy Fix"
"0392","+","More Powerful Service Rifle"
"0393","+","Remington Rolling Block Rifle"
"0394","+","FG 42 I"
"0395","+","FG 42 I - Patch 1.1"
"0396","+","B42 Optics - Remington Rolling Block Rifle Patch"
"0397","+","M1903A3 Springfield Redux"
"0398","-","Stuff that Belongs to the VERY bottom_separator"
"0399","+","Vanilla HUD Remastered"
"0400","+","Skeleton by MadAce (Ragdoll mod compat)"
"0401","+","Diagonal movement"
"0402","+","Ragdolls"
"0403","+","360 Movement"
"0404","+","NV Compatibility Skeleton (B42 bow compatiblility patch)"
"0405","+","NV Compatibility Skeleton"
"0406","+","Desert Natural Weathers - NV - TTW"
"0407","+","Desert Natural Realism - Redux"
"0408","+","Vanilla UI Plus (New Vegas)"

Well waking up from a nap and saying I don't want to talk anymore caused you to keep asking questions in which I start to yell causing your reaction to push me.
Push me in our small kitchen by the window luckily I only hit my back on the ledge. It isn't okay however, I wish I would have went through the window.
It's sad honestly. I won't ever do things like that because I don't want to ve apart from my siblings or some family. It's just tough and life just stacks on and constant triggers come around. Unfortunately, pain became my first love at young age and it's a relationship I can't break from or leave behind.
Idk if this is a struggle for anyone else, but yeah. I know it's temporary just like life.

• a sad dude

Hello!
First time renovator here needing some help with bricking in an external door, brick veneer house 1981 build, Door is 2050mm H x 600mm W.
I've done some researching but am left with a few questions to be sure about before proceeding. Hubby and I are pretty handy but never have tackled brickwork before so forgive me if I'm a total noob!
This door has never been used and this house has two back doors- one in laundry & one in the corner of the kitchen. The kitchen door is the one we wish to close in to facilitate new kitchen install- inside wall will only have 1x 600mm cabinet hung off with fridge below so not a lot of load bearing.
From what I've researched we should proceed like this:
1- remove door & frame 2- assess the lintel- question 1- is this necessary if one exists and what would I be on the look out for? 3- build in new stud wall 4- brick up- tooth in, new brickwork in utilising ties - question 2- are ties necessary in such a small cavity ? 5- sheet up inside etc
Any help or suggestions on the brickwork side would be greatly appreciated, planning on doing the job this weekend hopefully in one day.

I 38F am naturally introverted and I absolutely hate "events" that just force me to be in close proximity to a bunch of strangers and make small talk for hours while everyone gets increasingly drunk. I have, however, gone to at least one work event per year to support my husband (the work Christmas party) for over a decade now.
However, I did not have a good experience at the last one and I am not keen on returning to these events in the future. My husband (37M) does not ask me to go with him, he tells me that an event is happening and expects me to go. He is now upset with me because his boss bought a table at some charity event and my husband has a seat at this table (fancy dinner, auction, fundraiser stuff) to represent the company. He fully assumed I would go with him and is very hurt and upset when I said no. He says I am putting him in a very awkward position and that he "doesn't ask me for much" in terms of eventing-- that once or twice per year is reasonable.
While I understand that, in the grand scheme of life, a few hours here or there spent schmoozing shouldn't be a big deal, but I really resent the fact that he isn't even giving me a choice. That it is an expectation. An obligation. And I am "embarrassing" him by refusing to go.
AITAH?

Single mom only child. My mum moved abroad to give me a better life and education. Went from a rural town in a south east asian community to a large city on the north american south coast. She worked multiple jobs to make ends meet and she still has financial struggles to this day. Was never able to purchase and rent is ballooning, so savings don't exist. She's hitting retirement soon, and I'm trying to figure out how I can support her in her retirement.
Anyways, I have an ok career and have recently purchased a small condo with my partner. We both killed our savings and then some, and half our income now goes to housing. We want to start a family eventually, and viewed this as a way to avoid the ever so ballooning rent. Prior I used to live with my mum and paid about half of the home and grocery expenses, as well as any outings. I don't have that kind of money anymore.
Note: a 2 bedroom condo less than 1000sqf goes for just under a million dollars. A 2 bedroom rental is about 3k. Minimum wage is just over 15 dollars an hour so u can see how difficult it is just to keep a roof above your head and food on the table here.
We are also very close. We would often go on mother daughter trips and were attached at the hip during covid. Moving about an hour away means I can only see her once a week now.
Having the space between us as an adult felt much needed but at the same time I constantly feel guilty cause of all the hard work she's put into giving me this life. Also living the north american life you end up desiring that independancy. I try my best to make the day I do see her eventful. Visit a festival or event in the area, walk in the park, cute cafe or brunch, but as she gets older I get more worried about her quality of life and ability to retire and the fact if I was living with her, her expenses would be halved and she wouldn't be so lonely.
Reasons I was a bit adamant of her living with me and my partner is that when my parents were together when I was young, my mum often got berrated by my grandma (dads mom). There were other issues like my dad being severely depressed and unable to keep a job, but the main reason for their seperation was my grandma. She felt like it wasn't her own space, and always felt like she was being judged and disapproved of. It didn't help my dad never stood up for her. She wanted to move back to SE asia but stayed so I could have a better life. My mum is nothing like my grandma but the idea of living with inlaws just don't float my boat the right way, and I have an irrational fear it could ruin the relationship I have with my partner. He thinks it's fine if she ended up staying with us down the line when she becomes older, but my anxiety immediately goes up cause I remember what my mum went through when i was a kid.
Wondering if anyone else is going through anything similar.
Anyways tldr: my mum worked really hard to get me where i am today. Shes getting older (retirement age), and her financial situation sucks. I feel extremely guilty moving out, and am unsure how to help her as I can barely cover my own expenses.

I'm thinking of getting a Midea inverter window unit to put in my living room (110 sq ft) which I also want to cool the adjoining bedroom (90 sq ft). The living room has an open doorway into the small kitchen on the other side so it's not a totally closed space.
I'm also hoping it might at least somewhat cool a small office room on the other end of the apartment (but that room is about 20ft from the living room thru the kitchen and down a hallway, so I don't know how realistic that is).
Would 12,000 BTU be overkill in this scenario?
ALSO: I just saw that the Midea has its own special bracket. My window already has a standard, single bracket installed by a previous resident. I am concerned that the Midea bracket will be hard to install as I have a small ledge outside my window (old NYC apartment building). Any tips on this? Can I use a regular bracket instead?
If I get a regular window unit, not an inverter, would 8,000 BTU be too much?

Hi everyone!
Bruin here looking to sublease my room from June 17 through August 31 to two people (or one). If you're interested at all or have questions, please message me!
Price: $800 per subleaser (1/2); $1450 if you choose to make it a single
Details:

• Subleasing period: June 17-August 31. *Dates flexible*
• Location: 705 Gayley (Westwood Village), short 5-10 min walk (no hills) to campus. Close to in-n-out and Whole Foods.
• Available Room:
  • Double (intended for two people): can opt for making it a single if you cover most of the combined price)
  • Full, private bathroom: everything functional, window
  • Lots of natural light—two large windows
  • In-room closet PLUS additional closet just outside of room in case you need more storage
  • Already furnished (no extra cost): two bedframes, mattresses, chairs, and desks
• Roommates: 3 apartment mates (all male), but open to subleasers of any gender.
• Common area amenities:
  • Modern kitchen: all appliances fully functional (microwave, oven, flame stovetop, fridge, etc.)
  • Large balcony: hammock, plenty of room to smoke, have a drink, chill.
  • Furnishings: dining table, couch, TV
• Rooftop common area with seating, nice vie
• Parking available (no extra cost)
• In-unit washer and dryer

Platform: Mobile phone
Genre: visual novel/dating sim/otome
Estimated year of release: Between the 2000s (likely late 2000s) and mid-2010s. It appears to have been pulled from Google Play between the mid- and late-2010s since I can't find it.
Graphics/artstyle: Anime-like characters with fantasy influence. It wasn't super-duper cutesy anime; I remember the characters had somewhat small/narrow eyes and the backgrounds were very detailed and mostly in dark indoor castle environments, although there was a bright garden area + the title screen took place on a castle wall at sunset.
Notable characters: The protagonist is an unseen female who is guided by a male mage/wizard in a maroon robe and hat. He has pale or white hair and clutches a key on a necklace in all his sprites. I don't think the wizard guy was dateable. The two dateables are dragons in human form; one is a tall and muscular one with dark skin + hair and red clothing and the other is a short, lean one with light skin, orangey hair in a ponytail (or at least long) and orangey clothing. I think both the dragons were in tunics with low necks.
Notable gameplay mechanics: Not that I remember; pretty much a standard visual novel with intermittent choices. You can go for one of the two dragons but I remember them appearing together pretty often.
Other details: Most UI elements like textboxes, buttons, and choices were black with golden borders, text, and icons. You play as a girl who somehow ends up in this castle where the mage guy from above is keeping two dragons imprisoned in a dungeon in the basement (the dragons are in human form for some reason, don't remember why). The mage guy instructs you not to get close to them because they're dangerous, but I think the object of the game is to break them out of captivity. I remember scenes of helping the dragons swipe snacks from the kitchen or wandering the garden/greenhouse. The orangey dragon was one of those more playful, energetic types while the reddish dragon was more level-headed and series. The mage guy came off as a bit meek, very cautious even though I'm pretty sure he was a perfectly capable magic user.I played this as a kid in the mid-2010s but I've been thinking about it for a while because I don't remember ever finishing it? I don't think it had any paid elements, nor was it NSFW. It seemed a bit of an older release because of just generally the way it felt to play (the UI elements were quite small and straightforward, with little to no effects) but its release couldn't have been later than the mid-2010s.

My partner passed (27m) about two weeks ago, he was working in another state when his accident happened. I (26f) am currently 38 weeks pregnant (at the time 36 weeks), and we already had our 1 1/2 year son. I was one of the last to know, don’t know if it was to protect me or at this point if they didn’t want to tell me. My partner and I had dated for about 6 years, and we didn’t think it was too important to get married, my biggest regret. With that added I learned that I am not allowed to plan anything for him, even requesting to go see him I need permission from his family. He is still in the morgue, I haven’t been allowed to see him, and somehow everyone has gotten the idea it’s my fault that no funeral is planned and that’s it’s taken too long. I’ve tried, I booked funeral home appointments here to get prices to get information, and calling his dad to meet with me for these meeting so I can help and make this easier. Unfortunately that has not been the case, I’ve been ignored and told I probably shouldn’t plan a funeral since I’ll probably move on. Even though I haven’t been able to grief, I wasn’t given time to cry since I tried to help and get him back home (state where we live). I’ve tried so much and feel like no matter how much info I get and give to his father I’m not taken serious even if I have expressed how important it is that he needs to be laid to rest and how I have a timeline for when babygirl should arrive. The only thing that I have heard from them is that they have already change our family vehicle under that dads name (under the table), how they are using his card and trying to take out all the money from his account, and how our home in Mexico that he was building for us is now being transferred into one of his siblings name. Things that were not important to me, I seriously only want to be able to see him and hug him, let him know that we’re here with him and that he’s not alone. Yet I leaned a couple days via Facebook that they had decided to take him to Mexico, they were asking for money on top of what they are currently asking the Mexican council for help. I feel like I’m not being taken into consideration, I feel like I can hold him one last time, I seriously feel like my grief doesn’t count because we never got married. Even when I communicated something small like if I could get a copy of his death certificate so I can add him for our baby’s birth certificate and how we would need it so we could take our 1 1/2 year old to visit his gravestone, I was told that they only order one for themselves. I get that his parents have a final say but his priority was always our little family and now we’re the one being our last, or even taken out of consideration. I don’t know why but I feel like for myself I personally need to see him to let myself come at peace or even be able to speak with him to start my own grieving process. I don’t know if anyone has gone through this and could give me advice on how they grieved, because at this point I truly am afraid I won’t be able to see him if they take him to Mexico.

Should I be able on test day to more or less quote the sample answers in my essay response? I feel like that is over minimum competency because idk how I would remember the small book they give us in these samples.
My essay responses at present are short and to the point, which gives me anxiety because I feel like I am most definitely going to leave points on the table…

"Good afternoon Ms. Lopez." I say, warmly greeting an elderly Cuban woman in her sixties. She smiles sweetly at me as she asks me if I am the chef behind today's food, in Spanish. I smile and nod at her, and she excitedly begins to chatter in Spanish, telling me the latest chisme regarding the latest romantic escapades occurring in her son's life.
I lightly place some ham on the sandwich I'm preparing for her as she excitedly gossips with me. I cleverly practice my active listening skills, while occasionally chiming in to let her know that I am actively aware of what she's saying. The woman is one of the last people to arrive during today's meal hour. She seems to operate on a sense of punctuality that is uniquely hers, almost like a force of nature. I almost admire it, if I'm being honest. My fellow volunteers look at me and smile as they sense the passive patience I radiate in this minor interaction.
The day has been one of the more chill ones in the soup kitchen, especially since I started actively championing the place. At our most busy we've served hundreds of families in a single day, and today we've served a few dozen. There's something quite nice about this moment of normalcy. I wonder if I sometimes took this level of mundanity for granted during this jump...
To be fair to myself a part of me is almost acting like I'm guaranteed to send myself to some apocalyptic hellscape and that's just not happening. I'm almost guaranteed to go to a place more dangerous than "9-5; a white-collar simulator", but I'm picking my next destination and after the decade of serenity I've had here I've got no reason to act like a dumbass and jeopardize my odds of long-term success in this career by sending myself to a death trap. Ms. Lopez smiles as she walks away, clearly believing she's shared vital chisme with me. To be fair, she did share gossip plenty of people would find juicy, but since I'm not some gossip I was the wrong audience for her words.
My fellow volunteers look at me and glance at my phone with curious looks. I pick up the thing and see that I've been missing an exhilarating conversation in our group chat. I skim the thing, my perfected memory allowing me to instantly catch up with the conversation the small gaggle of brave volunteers who kindly donate our weekend hours have been having before I begin to text the group back.
The rest of the day passes by in a blur. We wait for the people who've come for a meal to finish their food up and then we get to cleaning. After that we do a few sweeps of the parts of the church we've used before going our separate ways. I make my way home, and I do some light meal-prepping as well as practice a few more of my skills. At this point in my stay I've perfected my routine and could do it in my sleep... If I ever slept that is. In the entire time I've been in this setting I don't believe I've slept once. That is a nice feeling, since it means I never wasted an hour of my time, much less six.
The work week is a bit of a slog, since I am eagerly anticipating the news regarding my final promotion. I was never the sort to believe that time felt longer when you were excited about something, or dreading it, but in the time since I came to this setting I've gradually become a believer in such ideas even if they still feel a bit silly. Nonetheless. I diligently work through the week, keep my team on track, and when Friday rolls around I get the news I've waited for.
Thanks to "Gamer's Mind" I am able to keep my face even as the office's general supervisor explains this news to me and not outwardly express my excitement, but internally I am more excited than I've been about anything since I first entered this world. This news means that I'll be getting right around $3,000 dollars every two weeks just for existing! This means that in future jumps working will be optional unless I get really greedy, which frees me up to decide what I want to do in most modern settings. In medieval settings this amount of money could be even more vital, though at the same time such a thing could just... not matter, since in such a setting I could easily just avoid civilization, but this money will certainly liberate me from a lot of the struggles of wasting vast swathes of a jump at a job I don't want.
At the time that I was being told the good news I almost began to cry. Thank goodness for Gamer's Mind, I guess.
Nine years ago I was down on my luck and down to my last dollars when I got the job offer that led me here and this news means that I am free from such things. The freedom and power that comes with making enough to get by, especially passively, is awe-inspiring, and it's quite difficult for me to find the words to express how excited it makes me feel even days after it. I spend... close to a week passively smiling and being just ambiently happy, as I begin to integrate a new set of responsibilities into my work life.
During this time my decision to fix the coffee machine in the office break-room by hand after it almost burns a colleague results in me getting a new class; "Handyman" and the initial ability I receive is a simple one that bolsters my agility a touch, agility being my attribute tied to fine motor skills. I skillfully use this class to actually fix various things by hand, and I begin to steadily accrue various maintenance skills. In days I gain class levels, and with each class level I am able to repair things faster, more cheaply, and eventually my ability to fix matures into an ability to improve things, which I instinctively know will lead to some shenanigans down the line. Before I know it days have turned into weeks, which age and turn into months. My skills with leadership and motivation have continued to improve and I lead my team with my full focus and skillful decision-making. Before I know it I am in the final leg of the final stretch of my first jump.
I've been here for 119 months. Nine years and eleven months. It's actually been... even longer than that. I'm at the beginning of the final week of my stay here, and my hands idly clean a dish as I passively listen to Pastor Charlie, one of the few guest pastors the church has invited in years deliver a sermon. He has the congregants enraptured and eating out of the palm of his hand as he speaks about a miracle that "Our Lord" once performed. His voice is a pleasant distraction and one of my twin trains of thought listens and takes notes on how the man delivers his sermon. Physically I seem to be engrossed in the man's sermon when someone, one of the church's assistants, taps on my shoulder and gestures for me to walk over to the pastor's office. I stealthy get up, activating "Rogue" and make my way out of the serving area adjacent to the kitchen. I relax a touch when I'm in the long hallway leading me to Tyler's, Pastor Rhodes's, office.
As I walk down the humble hallway I feel a strange sense of finality wash over me. There's something uncommonly... real about this trek. I feel more solid, more whole than I have in a while, and I suspect that it's because this is my last time in this soup kitchen, this church. I won't be returning here, at least not for a while, and that's sad. It's not the saddest thing that's ever happened to me, but it is kind of a bummer and I allow myself to feel a touch of real, genuine sadness at the sobering realization that when I leave this place I'll be leaving for a long time.
I eventually put that thought away, shelving it and compartmentalizing my thoughts so I can focus on better, happier things. My enhanced senses allow me to spot things like faint cracks too thin for normal humans to spot, and as I walk past them I cast my handy spell on them. I watch as the walls of the hallway repair themselves and I smile, sensing the powerful potential of the spell at my fingertips. I reach the office of the man I've spent plenty of weekends working alongside, and under, and I smile, even internally, when he looks up and spots me. He greets me with a smile and motions for me to sit down. When I do what he asks, he immediately begins to speak.
"Lucas, I apologize for calling out to you but I wanted to check in. Today you seemed... Out of it." The man exclaims, and judging from the way my heart jumps in my chest I realize that some people are just.... more intuitive than others. My acting skill gets a nice little load of experience when I mask my reaction to his words and let out a small, natural sounding laugh in response to his question.
"Tyler," I begin, causing the man to wince. I'm an atheist, or at least I was pre-chain, now... well, now I'm a lot more curious about religion than I was before. I'm not sure if gods exist, but I sure as shit know the supernatural does and I'm not in the business of denying what I can see. I've made my vague religious position clear to the man long ago so he insists I call him "Tyler" which I've personally always found a bit awkward, but there's something a little funny about how it disarms him so cleanly during this interaction. "I'm doing... Okay. I AM bummed I won't be here next week." I state, calmly. This causes my friend's eyes to widen in surprise.
"You're missing a week? I'm sure some of our regulars will be disappointed. Is everything alright?" The man asks. His question is so sincere, so genuine that it's mildly disarming.
I'm... not a nice person. I'm far from mean, sure, but I've come to accept that there's a core of kindness in some people, even in many people, and I am not someone who has that core, that central, unconscious, guiding light that moves them towards kindness with the ease and naturalness of a heartbeat. At my core rests something else, something I don't know if I can articulate in just a few words.
I wouldn't say I'm mean or anything like that but I'm far more cynical than a lot of the people I've met are. In this world, especially, it seems like a lot of people are just decent at heart and I suspect that that was and is the case in the world I was born on as well. Tyler is one of the people I've met whose central guiding light seems to be centered around decency and kindness and I think in any world the man could find himself in he'd strive to be kind. It's almost like interacting with a real version of Ned Flanders from The Simpsons...
"I'm okay. I'm gonna be doing other stuff, and I normally prioritize the soup kitchen over my work or social life," I state, and this isn't a flex it's simply a very true statement. Tyler hears the remark and smiles faintly. "But I've been asked to help out with other stuff from friends who wouldn't ask if it wasn't something they really felt they could handle alone. I'm just gonna miss one weekend, and then I'll be back." I remark, and Tyler smiles at me.
"Okay Lucas. If you need any help you'd ask, right?" Tyler asks, and I consider the question. This is only somewhat an act, as I don't know if I'd ask for help if I needed it. I ultimately nod at the man and I can sense a touch of sadness as he studies my response, which I don't love but I also don't really feel right lying anymore than is necessary. The man makes some small talk and I quickly breeze through it. In minutes I am back in the kitchen with the others. And minutes after that I am cleaning with my fellow volunteers. Almost before I know it I'm stepping out of the church after we've cleaned out the kitchen. I glance at it one last time before I make my way home.
The next few days pass by in a blur, with only two minor oddities; the first being that I ask Hannah to come out with me on Friday night. I have got to see if I can stomach the idea of any sort of romance in a jump, and this is a consequence free way for me to do something along those lines. The second oddity is that I spend nearly all of my money purchasing... well, everything. Every night after work I go to various stores and spend the money that I really haven't needed all that much until now, purchasing things like weapons, food, and especially books. I buy boatloads of books, both ready and willing to use up something I won't be able to take with me into future jumps anyway in exchange for stuff I CAN take with me, thanks to the fiat-backed power of an infinite inventory.
The work week is, aside from what I do after work every night, pretty normal but Friday itself is weirdly solemn. The day passes by as quickly as any other day has, filled with minor encounters with glitches, and a few more annoyances with my small number of drawbacks but when five rolls around I clock out one last time and give the office a final look. I am weirdly slow when it comes to getting up and leaving my cubicle, in fact I'm actually one of the last office workers to leave the office but as I step out of the building I experience another burst of gratitude to Gamer's Mind, which keeps me from acting odd or even tearing up as I glance back at the place I've spent thousands of hours in.
I allow myself a beat to... honestly, grieve. I tell myself that it's okay to have feelings about leaving, even if those feelings are big and weird and are not the most fun. Nonetheless I don't linger here, at my place of employment, I have other things I both need and want to do. I use my inventory and change into a pretty casual outfit before I begin a brief walk. _________________________________________________________________________
​The park beside the office building is a rare example of a pristine location in the city. It is filled with natural greenery, and at the moment a stunningly pretty redhead glances at her phone waiting for someone to pop into view.
The redhead is wearing a pleasant looking dress and a jacket, as the weather is just beginning to take the seasonal turn towards the unpleasant. It's still warm enough that the clothes are mostly unnecessary but as she waits for her friend, a young man who has finally gotten the courage to ask her out on something vaguely approximating a date, she appreciates the wisdom of her decision to wear the slightly warmer than necessary clothes.
Her "date", mostly in her eyes though he is aware of her feelings and a part of him feels some happiness in the idea that this is a date, enters the park and spots her before she spots him. He reaches into his inventory and he retrieves something, a nice little bouquet he purchased earlier today and safely stored away. The flowers, prettily packed and all, appear as he walks towards the young woman.
Lucas is testing the waters here. He isn't testing the waters with Hannah specifically, but rather what it feels like to go on a date as a jumper. He has long had strange feelings about this, but he knows that he is going to leave tomorrow and so he wants to see if he can enjoy a date as a jumper, so he is doing a scientific experiment even if he feels... less than great about some aspects of all of this.
"Hannah!" Lucas says, calling out to one of his first, in fact one of his only, real friends in this world. The redhead excitedly turns and spots her longtime friend, waving at him and waving him over. She spots the bouquet and lets out a delighted sounding laugh, and when Lucas hears it the smile that alights his features is heartwarming.
In his day to day life some facets of Lucas's charisma-heavy build only rarely surface in ways that matter and his looks tends to be one such thing He is attractive enough that his looks can captivate and reside in one's imagination for a while after they first meet him, but right now, this early on along his chain his looks are only enough to make people have schoolgirl crushes on him and people can and do get used to his looks after a while. Still, in some moments this is enough to color the impression he makes on people. Right now, in a romantic context, his supernatural attractiveness is enough to change the sort of impression he makes on someone.
The handsome actor reaches his friend and sits down next to her. He hands her the flowers and for a moment a strange serenity washes over the two as they enjoy each other's company. Lucas looks inward and he realizes that he genuinely, well and truly, likes this moment. Hannah looks at him and eventually asks an important question.
"Lucas... how am I gonna hold these flowers?" She asks, and this makes him smile. He is quick to offer her a response.
"I'll take them when we get going but I saw them and I thought of you. I felt like I'd regret it if I didn't give you these." He says, and there is an odd, for him, level of sincerity and genuineness in his voice that makes Hannah giggle girlishly. Lucas right now is relying on his perk-enhanced instincts and the charisma he has honed through social encounters for the last decade, and he's enjoying how it feels.
Both of the figures on the "Date", though neither of them officially dubbed it that, enjoy the moment. Their passive delight and infatuation create an envy-inducing atmosphere of closeness and quiet joy that radiates outward. The park is nearly abandoned so there is no one to witness this moment other than Lucas's benefactor, and Lucas is simply at peace.
Eventually he lightly touches Hannah's hand, and asks her if she'd like to go and get dinner before they go to the movie they agreed on going to watch earlier this week. Hannah agrees, handing Lucas the bouquet and he, to her surprise, puts it in the bag he has on his person. When she asks if that will squish or hurt the flowers Lucas tells her, with a bizarre amount of confidence, that it won't. She eventually accepts this, having learned to trust that Lucas knows what he is doing, and the two of them begin a short walk to a mall they both know well.

I just started renting a place since the middle of this month. Me and my partner haven't fully moved in yet as we have been trying to clean it on our days off. We signed for a year. She also said she would have the place clean but was there cleaning it on the day she gave us the house keys so we weren’t able to move our things in even that day, and afterwards there were still layer of dust on the ceiling and fireplace. We have found numerous bugs on many occasions (at least 20moths, huge and small spiders, beetles, now a wasp, ant trap) which the landlord first denied. Then she agreed to spray the house, sprayed it from head to toe with some chemical and now the chemical left a really sticky mess everywhere. When I went there the day after she sprayed I saw more bugs. What are my rights concerning this? I don’t want to move in my clothes cause of the moths.
Also, two days after she gave us the keys she entered the house without permission and left a key for the outside shed on our kitchen counter. Later found out the key didn't even work and I have proof via email that she left it in the house. Would this be enough to get out of the tenancy?
I clearly made a huge mistake but want to find out my options and clearly move elsewhere.
I would consider assigning the place but she was extremely picky when letting us rent, so I feel she would be extremely difficult to find a new tenant. How does assigning work?

I grew up in Orange County, CA, met my husband in college, and we finally settled on living in his small rural hometown in the mountains of Arizona a couple years ago after being tired of living in the city. We both love living here. Life is slower, there will be way more opportunities for my kids since there’s less competition, the cost of living is low so we have more money leftover to save every month, the weather is great, virtually no commute to work, we live a minute away from my in laws who I’m very close with and they help with babysitting our kids, the list goes on.
The only con is I’m now a 10 hour drive from my parents and 4 hours from the nearest airport.
My parents have visited us a couple times and my dad found out he gets altitude sickness and his oxygen levels drop severely because we live at 7000 feet so he can no longer visit us. My mom is not willing to drive the 10 hours by herself which I personally don’t understand why.
We have a 4 year old and newly 1 year old. The 1 year old has had it after 2 hours in the car and screams bloody murder. When we stop and get him out he’s happy as a clam then we have to put him back in the car and he screams again. We’ve split the drive into 2 days before but then it adds $100+ each way to our trip for a hotel. And it’s still so hard each of those days since it’s still 5 hours in the car. We’ve flown before my second was born and it was hard not having our own car when we were there and having to deal with the car seat. Also we still had to drive 4 hours to the airport initially and we have to pay for 3 round trip tickets now with my daughter being older.
I’m frustrated because, in my eyes, it is so much harder for us to visit them than for my mom to get in the car and come visit us and then my dad can’t even come to where I live anymore. I want to see my parents and they want to see me but with kids it’s so hard to do that living so far away.
I guess I’m more sad than anything because my kids are growing up and my parents barely get to see them or be apart of their lives because I chose to live so far. But I love living here. Can’t have it all I guess.
TLDR; how do you handle visiting family when you live far away?