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2024.05.16 14:29 Avatar-of-Chaos Sucker for Love: Date to Die For — Lust & Desire

Introduction

Sucker for Love: Date to Die For is a Parody Romance Visual Novel game developed by Akabaka and published by DreadXP. It was released on the 23^rd of April, 2024, on Steam, and as of the 1^st of May, 2024: version 1.24. It is the second entry of the Sucker for Love series.
I previously reviewed Sucker for Love: First Date.
Made in GameMaker.

Presentation

Date to Die For pays homage to 90s-style Anime with altitude and other mannerisms, depicting a mix of purples and greens for the backdrops—displayed through a television of the same period. The reception lightly snows and glitches once in a while. The soundtrack is great, much the same as First Date nothing wrong with that.
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The story follows Stardust, returning to her hometown of Sacramen-Cho after receiving a letter from her father looking after his wife at Gram's house, guilting Stardust to visit her. However, Stardust is sharp, she knows her parents are gone. Yet, she is curious for other reasons... Reports of missing people. The Sacramen-Cho Stare. Spirits. And the odd Dreams she has... The plot continues through fulfilling objectives. Stardust's reason does change for each chapter, as a next time segment.
The writing is witty and an improvement over the predecessor, I rarely see an odd spacing. Checkpoint hopping still breaks the game.
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Date to Die For gameplay is an expansion of First Date. For the most part, Date to Die For is a Visual Novel with sprites to move the story, now including an option to use a spray bottle, punishing... bad (and horny) behaviour and making fun of itself.
The other half is exploration, unlike First Date with few rooms. Date to Die For is a two-storey traditional Japanese house with a basement, collecting ingredients for Rhok'zan's rituals, but it won't be easy. The Thousand set up ambushes behind some doors. You can slowly open doors to peek, as long it doesn't pass the threshold to trigger them. Some of the Rhok'zan rituals are dangerous, you'd need to escape as well. These dangers increase, per chapter. Later threats have roaming patterns as if the 2D environment was 3D.
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Exploration does hold your hand too much. The map has star markers to indicate where the ingredients are located or where to go, some are obvious as Rhok'zan's book does give clues.
Compared to the First Date it has fewer branching paths and more focus on survival. The True Ending path shows that Date to Die For precedes the First Date.
The core of the Cosmic Horror is unchanged from First Date, though expanded. The Eldritch Entity of the Date is the luscious Outer God, Rhok'zen, The Black Goat of the Woods. Shub-Niggurath inspired her. Rhok'zen's behaviour is based on Out of the Aeons by Lovecraft and Hazel Heald (1935), who are friendly towards humanity and offer gifts that would benefit them. Prolonged life. Physical enhancement. Even immortality. Sounds like a sweet deal. However, powers like these can lead to corruption.
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The Thousand has abused Rhok-zen's gifts becoming a murderous mob that would attack anyone without the Sacramen-Cho Stare—surrounding the small town of Sacramen-Cho with a dense Forest known as the Black Woods. The Black Woods is a horrible spell that warps the behaviours and memories of those who entered. The Sacarmen-Cho Stare is a side-effect of Black Woods, amplifying an individual's desire by a thousand—ignoring essential needs. Stardust's lust or desire doesn't receive any amplification cause she doesn't experience any sexual retraction towards Rhok'zen. The Sacarmen-Cho Stare was inspired by The Innsmouth Look from The Shadow over Innsmouth (1936) by Lovecraft.
The Dunwich Horror (1929) is another inspiration, it's not as blatant as the Stare. Shub-Niggurath is a fertility God, described as a sophisticated Astarte from The Mound (1940) by Lovecraft and Zealia Bishop. Astarté or Ashtoreth is an Ancient Middle Eastern goddess of fertility and sexual love. Shub-Niggurath is called upon in incantations among hereditary cults as a blessing. Rhok'zen wants the biggest family she can get from her followers; she ploys it has continuing your legacy.
Nyanlathotep returns with a new look, spectating the affair and keeping an eye on her niece. The series remains faithful to the family tree.
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Dreams also remain a part of the series. In this Cthulhu Mythos interpretation, every God of the Pantheon creates realities and life while dreaming and female. Rhok'zen endures a constant nightmare of her ferocious cult and dreams of someone to rescue her. That would be Stardust, like D from First Date. Stardust becomes a permanent part of the Dream as long Rhok'zen remembers her, something like reincarnation.
Date to Die For does reveal the bookmaker of these Dating Ritual Books. Muu is a Shoggoth with a peculiar interest in writing smutty dōjin about Humans and the Cthulhu Mythos Pantheon having romantic and sexual relationships. The idea isn't new by any stretch. Lovecraftian Erotica has been around for decades, with notable titles like Cthulhurotica (2010), Lustcraftian Horrors (2021), Possession (1981), Call Girl of Cthulhu (2014), and Saya no Uta (2013, 2020). The Books are just a guide to taking these Cosmic Entities on the perfect date.
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Collapsing Cosmoses

Pucker up! Sucker for Love: Date to Die For ups the ante with new improvements—building on the dating hot Cosmic Horrors premise for more romantic shenanigans and dangers, and making one big happy family.
Sucker for Love: Date to Die For gets a strong recommendation.
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2024.05.16 14:29 Nostalgia_town Tale of a train journey

It was a winter morning, and I was standing on the railway station of Adityapur, one of Asia’s largest industrial hubs in the outskirts of Jamshedpur, formally known as TATANAGAR, the city known for TATAs & their steel. I updated my current whereabouts to my mother just before boarding the Tata-Gua passenger train, sounding her on my expected time to reach home. I was visiting home after 2 months, the longest interval in the 3.5 years at NIT Jamshedpur due to my business around hosting the first alumni meet of NIT Jamshedpur and a 15-day train travel across India through Jagriti Yatra. I was just carrying my laptop bag as it was a usual 2/3-day trip and I just had my Compaq laptop, a change of clothes & charger to be precise beside my small blue denim wallet & a Samsung smart phone. In 2012, smart phones were just stepping in and my brother-in law was generous enough to lend it to me to take pictures of the places I visit & the events I attend during Jagriti Yatra. Jagriti Yatra is a train ride across India with 600 yatris from different countries, different walks of life who embark on this journey to learn about various social & business enterprise. In that day’s train journey, I was travelling with a batchmate who would get down 2 stations before mine. We’d travel together many times during the four years, and we’d always take the morning train instead of the evening one. It was a passenger train which was always very crowded, and it passed through many small stations in that belt which were dimly lit, these stations were primarily existing to connect industries to the mining towns of Noamundi, Barbil, Jhinkpani and had goods trains plying with iron ore, limestone, cement, so evening trains seemed unsafe for girls travelling alone. Jhinkpani was a small town in that belt with a cement factory, ACC Cements, and a residential township for it. My dad had booked the station trip which was a Maruti Van to ply the resident of the colony from station to the colony which was around 3 kms away & there was no public transport available in this route. I was waiting to board the train all excited to show my parents the pictures of the Yatra clicked on the borrowed smart phone, I’d also met my sister and niece at Visakhapatnam while we visited Akshaya Patra mega kitchen and I remember getting clicked a cute photo of me holding my niece at the station but my excitement was short lived as soon as I kept the phone in the small zipper pocket of my laptop bag. I was modestly dressed in a kurta and leggings, without pockets of-course, pockets are a recent phenomenon in women’s Indian clothing. So, my phone and wallet were always kept in the bag.
As I boarded the train along with around 20 other people from that gate, I felt a sudden force pulling me back, but I managed to steer my way inside but with an eerie feeling, I quickly reached out to check the tiny pocket immediately only to find that both the wallet & the borrowed phone were gone. A shiver ran up my spine and I started to feel numb. There was Rs 200 in cash in that wallet which was a month of pocket money, my SBI ATM card and college i-card. Now, having zero cash, no phone I went about near the gate to see if I can find it, I spoke to couple of people but barely anyone knew Hindi, and it struck me real hard that reaching home was my single motto now. Although scared that I would be scolded by parents for being reckless, I had a sinking feeling as to how would I break this news to my sister & my brother-in-law whose smart phone I’d lost, what would I do about all the lost contacts that I’d woven so meticulously while organizing the alumni meet, what of the memories that I’d captured during the Yatra. My brain started to fizzle with all these entrapping thoughts when my friend shook me to bring me back to the dreaded train which was my reality then and I started planning my next course of action. I first called my mother from my friend’s phone to tell her about the loss, she comforted me and then she informed my dad to arrange a vehicle from the station, the trip was booked but it’d sometimes leave passengers if there are more people than capacity or not turn up due to technical glitch in the age old van that was used. My friend got down at Chaibasa and my heart started racing more as people around me in the train knew my situation and vulnerability and I tried to pose a strong and confident front. The train took more than 20 minutes to travel 17 kms but for me it seemed like ages, the sight of Jhinkpani station never made me so relieved. I quickly deboarded the train, holding on to my bag tightly this time and found a friend waiting there in his Maruti 800. He happened to have met my dad while coming to the station for a personal work and my dad asked him to pick me as well. I finally reached home travelling without a phone and a penny in pocket, my mom was so glad to see me safe and sound. I was taken aback a little to see her overtly calm demeanor at the face of such an adversary and having no concern whatsoever for my lost phone or the wallet. She prayed and thanked God for my safe return and narrated about her dream which she saw about me the previous night. She was very disturbed by it, and she’d been praying from dawn that day for my well-being as the dream was a very bad omen for me. She felt relieved that it was only few items that were lost, and I was completely unharmed. Mother’s love manifests in mysterious ways I thought while gobbling on my favorite sambar, rice that afternoon. Meanwhile, my dad deactivated my ATM card and arranged an old makeshift phone for me to be used in the remaining two months of college. When I sit back to think, I always think about my mother’s reaction and feel relieved that it happened, may be a way to appease myself of the guilt of not thinking through that somebody must have noticed me putting the phone in the small pocket and chanced upon it in the crowd while boarding. To compensate for the loss of phone, I gifted my sister with a digital camera after I started earning 4 months down from this incident. From then on, I never kept anything valuable in such obvious places in public while I maneuvered my ways in Delhi’s metro or the local trains of Mumbai, in the buses of Visakhapatnam or in the streets of Paris. I hold my wallet tight and my phone close.

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2024.05.16 14:28 Firm_Caramel1692 How do you choose with job/career option to go with when you are indecisive?

I am naturally a very indecisive person and I find myself in a bit of a situation now regarding my work options. Sorry this is long.
For a bit of a backstory, I (32F - living in a small tropical island)) have been working for a nearly 10 years now. I worked at Company A and it was great. I left after 6 years as they would not raise me. Joined Company B and it was a shitshow; i dealt with a lot of racism towards me and it ruined my self-esteem as a person and a designer for a long time. After a year, i went to Company C, thinking it was my big break as I would be a manager. Somehow, they ended up changing the scope of works without letting me know and expected me to go into Sales. I left and decided to start my own company and work freelance, which i was doing on an off while working full-time.
However, I had applied randomly for another job at Company D and they ended up making me an offer. I took it because it was one of the best and established companies here on the island and I needed to regain a bit of my designer confidence back. It was hustle culture as soon as i joined; no handing over of 4 main projects that i was expected to take over. I did it through migraines, tears, lots of unpaid overtime and stress. My mistake here was maybe not be vocal enough about how i was struggling.. As you can guess, my health suffered and I decided to resign from the job before i completed a full year although i loved the work itself and the experience was extremely valuable. Surprisingly, during my three months notice as per contract, i felt like i could handle the workload and stress much better and it made me rethink my decision.
Ultimately, I decided to leave nonetheless and was lucky to have 2 clients for whom i am working on a freelance basis currently. Now here am i, a month after having quit, working slowly as a freelancer. But, another Company E, contacted me since they have been wanting to work with me for a while now. My friend worked there for 5 years. He is also okay with me working part time at his but was very hot and cold during our conversations since February. My friend told me not to trust him but use him to my gain. So now i have the following options:
OPTION 1
Company D

Go back and work on a part time basis 2 or 3 days per week or project based.
Freelance on my other projects on the remaining days

Cons: I had a fling with a consultant from another firm who works on the same projects i was working on right after I left the job. I would see him only during client meetings and that's all, he doesn;t work in the office. We had been texting and met up one night and made out but did not fuck. He has been ghosting me ever since (yikes - I know, don't shit where you eat, but it happened for the first time ever in my life - a lesson). I am not attached or whatever but is this something to consider? Lots of work. High stress. Director is a bit moody sometimes.
Pros: Established firm since 25 years, high-end clients, great work experience, great colleagues. Having it on my Cv has already opened my networking.
OPTION 2
Company E

Work on a part time basis 2 or 3 days per week or project based.
Freelance on my other projects on the remaining days

Cons: The director pushed his 5 years employee to quit within 2 months (3 disciplinary meetings during that time which put a lot of pressure on the girl from what i heard). When she gave her month notice, he asked her to leave right away He had been wanting her to leave for a while but did not want to fire her so that he did not have to her severance, so he did everything he could so she would leave on her own. He told me at one point that if for any reason i could not join his company in June (because he cannot control things), he was sure I would have a place somewhere else or back at Company D. He has rescheduled our meeting to discuss work conditions twice now. He wanted me to start earlier than June now that he is down 1 staff and has too much to do, without us having discussed conditions. I said no and we are supposed to meet tomorrow afternoon to discuss conditions.
Pros: His company is 10 years old and he says he is ready to take it to the next level. I would be his right hand a bit to help him grow his business. Smaller company, less projects, projects are not so high-end so less time consuming, less stress overall.
OPTION 3

I keep working for myself for a while and see how it goes.

Pay and commute are basically the same for both. I wanted to have a part time job while I establish myself as a freelancer so i could have a steady income every month. My goal, although I am still not sure if i really want this, is to have my own company doing my own projects. But i don't know whether i actually like it or if I ma doing it just because i feel like it is the natural next step in my career at this point. I like having a routine and structure, which makes me think i like being employed too.
So I don't really know at this point. I have been thinking and thinking and thinking and I come up blank. I want to do it all and I don't want to do anything. So please, anyone if you can help, let me know your thoughts and advice!

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2024.05.16 14:28 AdTemporary4257 I (F21) Want To Reach Out To Him (M22).. He Unblocked me… Please Help Me

I really want to reach out to my ex again, because I noticed he unblocked me.
My ex boyfriend (LDR) of 1 year and 3 months broke up with me over text, because I was wanting to spend time with him over FaceTime since we haven’t bonded in a long time and he’s been ‘busy.’ He got angry at me for bringing it up because I knew he’d been busy, but I just felt neglected and felt like he wasn’t making any time for us anymore. So he broke up with me, said a lot of hurtful things like “I’d be happier if I didn’t talk to you, rather than being stressed. Now you know what makes me happy.” It broke my heart even more. I tried to call and text him, but he blocked me on our main source of communication. He said he would’ve blocked me sooner if it weren’t for the money he owes me… I helped him pay off his loan and so that he doesn’t need to take money out of his savings so he could save it for moving to my country in July so we could start out future together.
A week after he broke up with me, I messaged his phone number (I didn’t care about the international bills) and I was sent an ‘automatic’ message like in the photo. I noticed every time I sent a message, 15 minutes later the ‘automatic’ would send through. I even reached out via iMessage to his laptop to explain myself and how I’m willing to do the work and become a better person, move on from our bad memories and process my trauma so I could heal. He left me on read and delivered. And by trauma, I mean he almost left me several times whenever he got stressed or angry.

He disappeared suddenly for 1-2 months without saying anything, he’d respond to my messages on and off again. I thought I did something wrong, because whenever we had a misunderstanding, he’d need a few days for some space… I tried to be patient, but I was worried he was leaving me. He did say some mean things to me, “why are you so obsessed?” When I’d try to call him to wake him up for work, as I would usually wake him up. Turns out, he was going through a hard time in his personal life and didn’t want to ‘burden’ me
When I visited his home country for a few weeks, we went to an amusement park and while waiting in line, he got angry and stressed because I talked to a lady who was the same ethnicity as me. It was one of those things like “oh you’re from this country? Me too?” Type conversations… He thought I wasn’t having a good time, so he was going to leave me in a hotel room… I begged him and went on my knees for him not to leave me… But then he said “You have no value to me.” Which made me stop… I’m not sure what happened (I forgot), but we were able to patch things up and enjoy the rest of my time in his country

I deleted the messaging app because there was no point for it anymore… I tried to focus on myself during this time. 2.5 weeks later, I had a gut feeling about something… So I redownloaded the app, and I noticed that he unblocked me. I checked what it would be like to block/unblock someone on the app, and he had to manually unblock me and add me back as a friend… when you’re blocked you can’t see their profile/updates, but when you’re blocked you can see this message pop up, warning that you can’t immediately re-add them as a friend after unblocking.
And if you unblock them you have the choice to add them back as a friend again. I also deleted his contact off my phone, because the app automatically syncs your contacts.. so I redownloaded the app again and I was still added as his friend and can view everything on his profile. He still has his profile picture I took of him and didn’t remove his previous profile picture I took of him off his profile.
Maybe I’m thinking and doing too much but I don’t know why he’d unblock me like that without any reason… I tried to narrow the options down and it’s either - He misses me/is curious about me - Doesn’t care at all and moved on so he unblocked me - Unblocked me so he could message me about the money or whatever
I really want to reach out to him. I miss him so much, and I still love him. I just want him back, and I know I shouldn’t reach out to him because he’s the one who dumped me, and out of respect for myself too. I’m worried that if I reach out, he’d get angry at me and get stressed out by me again. I’m not sure what to do. I miss my boyfriend.. Despite the bad memories, we have a lot of good memories too.

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2024.05.16 14:27 Timely-Worldliness-3 I’m starting to resent my ex after the fact and I hate it

If you want, you can see my previous very long post about our breakup for more details (this one will also probably be pretty long tbh). These are supposed to be writing exercises for my therapist. Everyone’s comments along with a few therapy sessions made me realize how one sided our relationship was. I’ve been in much longer and more committed relationships than this one, and had much worse breakups all things considered. But I’ve never felt like this. I know that grief isn’t a linear process. It comes in waves. However, I’ve always prided myself on being calm and collected even in the worst of times. I managed to hold it together pretty well when I lost my dad a year and a half ago, and worked through that in a healthy way. Why can’t I do that now? It’s been a month and a half. This should be so much smaller in the grand scheme of things.
I saw her yesterday at the grocery store, we were using self checkouts right next to each other. We ended up basically walking out together. I think she noticed me and just tried to pretend I didn’t exist. I immediately felt sick to my stomach, with this mix of deep sadness and anger. It took everything I had not to fall apart right then and there. I couldn’t eat dinner, and still managed to puke when I got home and then again in the middle of the night after waking up from a dream about us.
A realization that I had after my last post is how little she would compromise on things. A few of you that said that I was a doormat, and you’re right. I somehow let so many things slip that I shouldn’t have. It was her first serious relationship, she wasn’t used to having to compromise much. I gave her the benefit of the doubt. She asked so much of me, maybe too much, and I gave to her maybe too freely. But the few times that I asked things of her, she’d almost always say no.
I wanted to watch Home Alone over Christmas. It was a tradition that I shared with my dad, some of my earliest memories are about that. I wanted to continue that tradition and I couldn’t bring myself to do it alone, so I asked her to watch it with me. I explained how important it was. She refused, time after time, every stay at home date we had between Thanksgiving and New Years. She went on rants about how traditions are stupid, and how she hates movies about kids (yet we watched the Harry Potter movies at her request, the first few are made by the same people that made Home Alone). It’s like she didn’t even hear me asking for support when I needed her, she only heard that I was asking her to put up with something she didn’t like for an hour and a half. On the other hand, I never said no to her.
This played out time and time again, in small and big ways. My mom was going to give us the money for our dream vacation to Ireland. All she wanted in return was a nice picture of us in front of something recognizably Irish, a castle or something. She was doing this incredibly nice thing for us, and just asked for that one thing. She just wanted to see me happy, traveling the world with the person I love, after having to give up the last 4 years of my life dealing with my dad’s illness (along with losing all of my grandparents and 2 uncles in the same timeframe) But my ex didn’t like having her picture taken. She would put up with it for friends and family, but if I asked her? Never. We have 3 pictures together, all of which are shitty group photos with her friends. Can’t even tell we were a couple.
Then there’s the big thing that led to our breakup. She wanted me to anticipate her needs without her needing to say them. She hated when I asked how best to help her when she was struggling and overwhelmed, saying that I needed to show initiative. She talked a lot about “mental loads” and such. I tried to support her as much as possible (often doing too much, as many of you said), but sometimes I’d miss the mark. She’d get so frustrated with me, and we’d sit down and talk things out. She’d tell me all of these things she needed from me, and I genuinely put in so much effort trying to work on it.
The only thing that I asked for in return is if I missed the mark, to please guide me to what she needed. I did it all the time for her, she was honestly awful at supporting me. If I was venting, had a bad day, all she’d say was “I’m sorry”, and pat me on the back like a puppy. No effort to dig deeper. No words of support or encouragement. Not even a kiss or a hug. I had to show her how I needed support. I never got mad or frustrated, I recognized this was something we had to communicate about and it was my job to open that communication.
So when we’d have those conversations about how she needed support, and she was asking all of these things of me that felt like mind reading, all I asked of her was to do what I did when she missed the mark. Just that one little thing to save our relationship. It was nothing compared to what she was asking from me, and it was for her own benefit. I put in the work, got us 80% of the way there. I knew I couldn’t bridge the gap on my own. I begged her time and time again. But instead of listening and guiding me to what she needed, she did the exact opposite. Full silent treatment at the very first text of support from me because she wanted something more/different.
That refusal to compromise ruined everything. I know anger is part of the stages of grief, but I’m just so angry all the time. I know you can’t tell based off of what was said here and in my other post, she is genuinely a great person. She didn’t do any of this maliciously. I don’t believe that she’s evil. But I can’t help but to look at all the work I put in vs all the work that she put in, after being told that I wasn’t doing enough while she was putting more effort into the relationship. I’m sorry, but I don’t see that effort from her. I don’t even know if I’m more angry at her or myself. Should have I been more proactive? Enforced stronger boundaries? Been more clear in what I needed from her? I don’t know. Maybe I am just a doormat. I just know that I hate feeling like this. I don’t want to be that guy that’s angry and bitter about their ex, and I’m terrified that’s exactly what I’m becoming.

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2024.05.16 14:26 Firm_Caramel1692 Having a hard time deciding which direction to go for work/career. Please help!

I am naturally a very indecisive person and I find myself in a bit of a situation now regarding my work options. Sorry this is long.
For a bit of a backstory, I (32F - living on an island)) have been working for a nearly 10 years now. I worked at Company A and it was great. I left after 6 years as they would not raise me. Joined Company B and it was a shitshow; i dealt with a lot of racism towards me and it ruined my self-esteem as a person and a designer for a long time. After a year, i went to Company C, thinking it was my big break as I would be a manager. Somehow, they ended up changing the scope of works without letting me know and expected me to go into Sales. I left and decided to start my own company and work freelance, which i was doing on an off while working full-time.
However, I had applied randomly for another job at Company D and they ended up making me an offer. I took it because it was one of the best and established companies here on the island and I needed to regain a bit of my designer confidence back. It was hustle culture as soon as i joined; no handing over of 4 main projects that i was expected to take over. I did it through migraines, tears, lots of unpaid overtime and stress. My mistake here was maybe not be vocal enough about how i was struggling.. As you can guess, my health suffered and I decided to resign from the job before i completed a full year although i loved the work itself and the experience was extremely valuable. Surprisingly, during my three months notice as per contract, i felt like i could handle the workload and stress much better and it made me rethink my decision.
Ultimately, I decided to leave nonetheless and was lucky to have 2 clients for whom i am working on a freelance basis currently. Now here am i, a month after having quit, working slowly as a freelancer. But, another Company E, contacted me since they have been wanting to work with me for a while now. My friend worked there for 5 years. He is also okay with me working part time at his but was very hot and cold during our conversations since February. My friend told me not to trust him but use him to my gain. So now i have the following options:
OPTION 1
Company D

Go back and work on a part time basis 2 or 3 days per week or project based.
Freelance on my other projects on the remaining days

Work on a part time basis 2 or 3 days per week or project based.
Freelance on my other projects on the remaining days

I keep working for myself for a while and see how it goes.

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2024.05.16 14:24 Ok_Break_5744 Am I missing out on $?

Hi all 💗
I’ve had my Fansly for 7 months and it’s been going great, I run a no PPV page for 7.99 that does mainly large toy anal, and fetish (farting, clean enemas, prolapse, pee, etc). I post 2 full length vids a week,a few short pee ones and daily pictures. In this time I’ve managed to reach top 0.8% and consistently made 2k-3k dollars in the last couple months, but I am considering changing how I run my page:
1) Increase my sub price as it’s way too low for the time I dedicate to it (thinking 12-15$)
Literally 90% of my income is from subs, and they rarely buy anything else (don’t even unlock 3$ sexts) this gives me no chance to upsell and honestly pisses me off. I have higher tiers available for GFE and private snap (250$ and 500$), but usually someone buys them every month/every 2 months. I want to attract the kind of client that will tip/buy from my wishlist a lot more.
The main thing is I just feel like I’m missing out on making even bigger bucks.
I’ve been wanting to do this for a few months seeing how other creators in my niche have higher prices, but I also don’t want to make a mistake and try to fix what ain’t broken. I have 250 subs and most have renew on, so I’m scared to lose so many given it’s my main source of income. Luckily Fansly has the option to limit # of subs to a tier, and add a new one with a new price. Subs are able to renew at old price as long as they keep renew on, and this would help minimize losses.
I’m just looking for some advice on what to do 💗

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2024.05.16 14:23 SpeakMeAi ChatGPT 4o from OpenAI - Everything You Need To Know

GPT-4o is the latest flagship AI model from OpenAI, the company behind ChatGPT, DALL. E, and the whole AI boom we're in the middle of. It's a multimodal model—meaning it can natively handle text, audio, and images—and it offers GPT-4 level performance (or better) at much faster speeds and lower costs.
If you've got access to ChatGPT 4o on your account it will be available in the mobile app and online. There is also a Mac app that has started to roll out to some users. Be wary of links though as it is being used by scammers as a way to get malware on to computers.
Is ChatGPT 4o for free? The exciting news for ChatGPT users is that the GPT-4o model is being made available to everyone, including those on the free tier — at least for generating text.
Is ChatGPT 4o available now? Yes, ChatGPT 4o is currently available. ChatGPT's big, free update with GPT-4o is rolling out now – here's how to get it at SpeakMe.AI
What does ChatGPT 4o do? ChatGPT 4o is an advanced language model developed by OpenAI. It is designed to generate human-like text based on the input it receives. With ChatGPT 4o, you can engage in natural language conversations, generate creative content, and much more.
How can I access ChatGPT 4o? You can access ChatGPT 4o through SpeakMe.AI or OpenAI's platform or API. Simply sign up for an account and start using ChatGPT 4o to enhance your projects and applications.

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2024.05.16 14:22 AdTemporary4257 I Want To Reach Out To My Ex.. He Unblocked me.. Please Help Me

He disappeared suddenly for 1-2 months without saying anything, he’d respond to my messages on and off again. I thought I did something wrong, because whenever we had a misunderstanding, he’d need a few days for some space… I tried to be patient, but I was worried he was leaving me. He did say some mean things to me, “why are you so obsessed?” When I’d try to call him to wake him up for work, as I would usually wake him up. Turns out, he was going through a hard time in his personal life and didn’t want to ‘burden’ me
When I visited his home country for a few weeks, we went to an amusement park and while waiting in line, he got angry and stressed because I talked to a lady who was the same ethnicity as me. It was one of those things like “oh you’re from this country? Me too?” Type conversations… He thought I wasn’t having a good time, so he was going to leave me in a hotel room… I begged him and went on my knees for him not to leave me… But then he said “You have no value to me.” Which made me stop… I’m not sure what happened (I forgot), but we were able to patch things up and enjoy the rest of my time in his country

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2024.05.16 14:21 AdTemporary4257 I Want To Reach Out To My Ex… He Unblocked me.. Please Help Me

He disappeared suddenly for 1-2 months without saying anything, he’d respond to my messages on and off again. I thought I did something wrong, because whenever we had a misunderstanding, he’d need a few days for some space… I tried to be patient, but I was worried he was leaving me. He did say some mean things to me, “why are you so obsessed?” When I’d try to call him to wake him up for work, as I would usually wake him up. Turns out, he was going through a hard time in his personal life and didn’t want to ‘burden’ me
When I visited his home country for a few weeks, we went to an amusement park and while waiting in line, he got angry and stressed because I talked to a lady who was the same ethnicity as me. It was one of those things like “oh you’re from this country? Me too?” Type conversations… He thought I wasn’t having a good time, so he was going to leave me in a hotel room… I begged him and went on my knees for him not to leave me… But then he said “You have no value to me.” Which made me stop… I’m not sure what happened (I forgot), but we were able to patch things up and enjoy the rest of my time in his country

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2024.05.16 14:17 az-opal15 Why did I cheat

I've been with my husband 10 years and we have been married for 8. I will give a little backstory because I feel like it might be relevant.
This past year has been tough for me and some sexual trauma from my teen years has started popping up and bringing with it some mental health baggage. I feel sexually broken, hypersexual/ constantly horny and incredibly impulsive. I noticed this about myself and it scared me so I sought out a therapist to address these things as well has PTSD flashbacks I started having, but I don't feel like it was effective. In therapy we only discussed coping mechanisms, but I never had the chance to process the stuff that happened to me which is what I feel needed to happen.
Well I found that my stress levels coupled with my overwhelming impulses put me in a vulnerable situation to make poor decisions. I love my husband but our life is very stressful right now and will be for the next 15 months. It's not an excuse, but my problem is that I look for escapes, I fantasize, I crave little pockets of life that are different and it's less about my husband and more about the never ending duty of being a mother and all the other hats I wear. But motherhood is connected to my marriage. I love my family but I am so fucking stressed and burnt out. I feel like engaging in a part of life where I don't have to wear any of those hats is tempting to me.
Anyways. Last night my ex messages me and we get to flirting. I should not have even responded to his message. I asked him for a picture of himself and I specified NOT NUDE. I made it clear. But he sent a nude photo and I felt disgusting, fight or flight, noticed my heart rate pounding and he asked for one back and I sent one. Idek why. I felt like I had to for no reason other than he sent one. Idk why I didn't just say no. I didn't want to. I felt sick afterward, immediately blocked him and told my husband. I apologized profusely, told my husband that I'm not worthy of trust (bc I'm not). When I was sleeping my husband went through my phone (understandably) and I did say he could so I don't blame him.
This morning I've been looking at new therapists, not feeling hopeful that I'll find a good one. Idk why I did this. I'm disgusted with myself. My husband is the best man I've ever met and idk how I could be such a monster.

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2024.05.16 14:17 Objective_Purpose_61 I (20F) kissed J (19F) while we were drunk and we had a talk about it while we were sober and she said some fucked up shit. Any advice?

J and I kissed while we were drunk and she has been teasing me ever since. J has a boyfriend so i decided to talk to her about her actions and my actions as well. i told her that i know she would do gay stuff with another girl, but im a different person and im not going to be like that. she said she understood and that she was just mostly sad that the other girl left. i told her that i understood and that we were honestly drunk and shit. then she decides to tell me that while we kissed that she was using me as the other girl. honestly that pissed me off and i told her that she could’ve kept that to herself, but she decided to say it out of the blue. i have been mad about the situation since it happened. she apologized, but for me the apology felt so unapologetic. i am so pissed about the situation that i have just left her on delivered for 7 hours now. i’ll copy and paste the exact words she texted. “tbh I was in my feels about the other girl leaving and when I kissed you I was thinking about the other girl the whole time… I thought you were like the other girl” i edited a bit. let me post a picture about this. do yall have any advice on this? i am still pissed off and that apology was shit.

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2024.05.16 14:15 Left4DayZGone Post Flairs and Users Flairs - What they are, and how to use and EDIT them.

I'm in the process of adding Post Flairs and User Flairs.
For those unfamiliar, a Post Flair is basically a tag you can add to your post that helps with searches. For example, if your topic is SKYWARN training, you might select the flair "Training". That way, when a user comes to this subreddit, they can search using the "Training" Flair, and see every post with that tag. Another example; If your topic relates to a storm in a specific state, you can choose the "Location - Edit Me" Flair, and edit it to say "Wisconsin" or wherever happens to be relevant to your topic.
User Flairs are a tag that go next to your username whenever you post. These are used to highlight something you'd like people to know about you - Whether you're SKYWARN certified or just an Enthusiast, where you're based out of, etc. You can edit these flairs too.
There will be a number of pre-made Flairs you can choose from, but you can also edit them to be more specific. PLEASE DO NOT ABUSE THIS or your flair will be changed by moderators.
NOTE: These instructions are for the PREVIOUS version of the Desktop site, which is FAR superior to the brand new one. You can access the previous version by adding the word "new" in front of the web address. Example: new.reddit.com/skywarn

To edit a Post Flair on the Desktop Version:

Create a New Post
Click the Flair option below the text box and choose a Flair
If your flair can be edited (most can), you can type in the text box below the Flair options. Change it to whatever suits your post, but PLEASE use this wisely.

To edit a Post Flair on Mobile:

Create a New Post
Under the Title bar, tap "Add Tags and Flair".
In this menu, choose a flair.
Continue making your post, and post it.
While viewing your post, tap the 3 dots (...) on the top right.
Find "Change post flair" and tap it.
You'll see the same Post Flair menu. Now, in the top right, tap the word "Edit".
Choose the flair you want to edit, make your changes, and apply them.

To edit a User Flair on the Desktop Site:

Look at the menu on the top right of the screen, where your username is listed.
Click the Pencil Icon.
Choose a flair, and make your edits before applying it.

To edit a User Flair on Mobile:

Go to the sub's main feed.
Tap the 3 dots (...) in the top right.
Tap "Change User Flair".
Choose your Flair, and tap "Edit" in the top right to customize it.

Again, please remember to use the flairs to aid in providing information - don't treat them like bumper stickers for your car.
Thanks!

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2024.05.16 14:13 Star60WasTaken The new DbD spinoff "What the Fog" could very well be a data mining cash grab

Not sure how many people here are interested in What the Fog but since it doesn't have it's own subreddit I thought this would be the next best thing.
I'm going to ramble a lot about the games history that I can tell from its files, so if you're not really interested in that skip down to the next sentence with bold text to get to the meat of this post.
So I'm sure most of you who did redeem What the Fog for free found it a little bit weird that in order to get your steam code you had to agree to two conditions being bHVR is allowed to data-mine from your game and share that data with 3rd party corporations. If you didn't want to agree to this you have the option of just buying the game on steam for the full price instead. Although not really major this did seem like a bit of a red flag and a couple of my friends thought so as well so I did a little digging.
It didn't take long at all from looking in the games files that this game was never intended to be Dead by Daylight themed, I'm not just talking about the fact that the weapons are overly fantasy-like or the enemies and abilities don't fit the characters I mean the fact that there are literally 3 unused characters in the games files named "Paladin", "Ranger" and "Sorcerer".
The folder containing all character models, textures, animations and abilities.
The Paladin and the Sorcerer still have their character models left over in the files but I'm unable to view or export them (if someone figures out how, please let me know). The texture files still exist however.
The diffuse textures for the Paladin, Ranger and Sorcerer
While I cannot view the models I can make a rough guess of what they looked like from their UV mapping.
The Paladin most likely wore a pink jacket with a white stripe and black shorts. In terms of weapons it looks like she had pink and silver armor with a pink shield baring a red emblem and a pink sword. Her skin was light with green hair and blue eyes.
I originally thought that the Ranger wore a green puffer jacket but upon some more consideration with the fantasy theme it could be a gambeson that they wore over a white shirt and brown shirt, I can't see any pants on the texture so this is my best guess. Their shoes were green with black detailing and they wore a green headband with yellow writing with a yellow gem in the center of their headband. Their weapon was a green crossbow bearing yellow gems. They have dark skin with black curly hair and black eyes.
The Sorcerer wore some kind of yellow plaid shirt with blue shorts, white socks with blue and red stripes, red and white shoes as well as a blue wizards hat. His weapon of choice was a staff with a bright green crystal at the top of it. He has light skin with short blonde hair and black eyes.
If you've played What the Fog then you'll be able to guess that the Sorcerer was replaced with Dwight, the Ranger was replaced with Claudette and the Paladin was replaced with Feng. This sudden change was assumedly made pretty late into the games development considering the fact that some abilities still reference removed character weapons and the 'SkullNBones' models that each survivor use are still using the old weapon designs from these characters when you die which I'll go into more detail about.
Feng has 3 skills she can learn which feel off, those being 'Shield Bash', 'Plated' and 'Resolve' which you can see the icons for below in that order.
Shield Bash, Plated & Resolve
Two of these skills still depict the character with a shield or some kind of armor despite both being absent in the final release, rather than reworking these abilities they just simply left them in despite them not making much sense. The last ability being Resolve feels off due to the art style, it's inconsistent with the rest of the drawings and the shading has more of a smeared paint look to it rather than the gradient every other icon in the game has, suggesting it was drawn over when they made the switch from the Paladin to the Ranger. (It's hard to see from this image, if anyone wants the HD texture files to compare let me know.)
Despite those remnants still left over you can actually see the literal remains of the Paladin, Ranger and Sorcerer when a player dies and isn't revived by the end of the level. Below you can see the 'SkullNBones' models for each character where you can see that the sword has the Paladins design on the blade rather than the cloth wrapped around Feng's, the crossbow has the Rangers yellow gems on it instead of Claudette's pink gems and the staff has the Sorcerers green crystal in it rather than Dwight's blue crystal. The changes to this game to make it DbD themed must have happened late into development since the game already had original characters, mechanics and models before it was turned into a DbD spinoff. I assume they were also made very close to release considering how the wrong weapons displaying on dead players really should have been noticed before release.
The remains of the Paladin, the Ranger and the Sorcerer being used by Feng, Claud and Dwight respectively.
So what's the point of this post, well I'm a bit worried about what this game means for bHVR and DbD in the future.
On the surface this game looks like a funny little DbD spinoff but from what it looks like bHVR rebranded this game as a DbD game in order to get the fanbase of its biggest title to go "Omg! New DbD thing!" and start downloading it, normally this wouldn't be a problem as a lot of game studios make sequels upon sequels to games and spinoffs because the franchise sells but this game is a little different.
Assumedly the game was either a little side project of bHVR's or a test for the Devs when moving from UE4 to UE5, they either finished work on it or were interrupted as they have said that they don't plan to work on it anymore then slapped DbD onto it and released it for free if you agree to bHVR data mining and selling your data to third party businesses.
TL;DR What the Fog is basically a cash grab that bHVR slapped the DbD brand on very last minute to make fans buy the game. They don't plan to update it and they also offer it to existing DbD fans for free as long as bHVR can sell and use your data.
While I know that some of the decisions in the past made by bHVR have been questionable but this paired with the layoffs of 45 DbD developers back in January is making me worried that this is like the start of some drop-off for bHVR where they're going to shift their focus to how much money they can make where the qualiy of DbD suffers for it (more than it already has) and we start seeing more of these spinoffs get pushed out by the month...
What really saddens me is this game could have been a passion project for some of the Devs at bHVR, then the decision was made to make it DbD branded and send the game out asap to make money.
Just thought this was an interesting and somewhat saddening discovery. In any case if you did receive this game for free by redeeming a code you should go and turn off the data mining on your account through this link: https://account.bhvr.com/account/communication-preferences
You'll still be able to play the game, but bHVR won't be able to collect your data anymore.
Stay safe friends.

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2024.05.16 14:07 karatespacetiger May Recovery Challenge Day 16 Check In

Hello and welcome to Day 16 of the May Recovery Challenge, how are you?
Wishing you peace and success for today :)

Today's check in:

What's one thing that is going well this week? Or, if nothing's going especially well, is there anything that's not a disaster?

Bonus exercise: Radical acceptance

“What you resist not only persists, but grows in size.” Carl Jung
All major recovery frameworks incorporate some form of “acceptance” as a significant component of their programs. In the 12 steps, it’s embedded in the Serenity Prayer (the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, the wisdom to know the difference). In SMART Recovery it’s conceived as “Unconditional Self, Life and Other Acceptance”. In dialectical behaviour therapy (which is what is used in many ED treatment programs), it’s called “radical acceptance”.
These are all basically different expressions of the same concept, i.e. not letting things that we can’t control take over our moods and derail us from our recoveries.
On Tuesday of this week we made a list of things that are not in our control. Those things include the past, our current circumstances, and other people’s behaviour. Today will be a brief summary of radical acceptance, with apologies in advance to anyone who’s more educated about this than me, I hope to not completely butcher the topic! 🙂
Radical acceptance IS:

a neutral acknowledgment of the reality of a situation that is either temporarily or permanently unchangeable
an acceptance that life is imperfect, we are imperfect, others are imperfect
a shift in focus from what we cannot control (the situation) to what we can control (our response)
a way to seek peace and reduce suffering even in the face of real or perceived adversity
a belief that life is worth living even though it is imperfect and there is pain and disappointment sometimes

Radical acceptance is NOT:

approval or “liking” a situation
“giving up” or the absence of a desire for change
- quite the opposite, in fact accepting reality is often the first step to change
appropriate for every situation
- if someone is in danger or being abused, that is not a time for acceptance!
going to eliminate grief, sadness or pain
- grief and sadness are normal and inevitable human emotions
- some things are going to be very painful no matter how much acceptance we bring to the situation, for example death, abuse, serious illness or injury
- radical acceptance can however lessen feelings of frustration, resentment, bitterness and unhappiness

Signs that we’re not accepting a reality:

Use of phrases like “why me”, “it shouldn’t be this way”, “I wish it was different”, “it’s not fair”
Needing to numb to escape a reality
Labeling people or situations as good or bad, right or wrong

In the context of an eating disorder, the obvious thing that many of us struggle to accept is our current body size! And yet as we have all experienced, that constant internal struggle with body acceptance and trying to force ourselves into smaller bodies as soon as possible quite often keeps us trapped in a binge cycle.
Body size is not however the only area in which acceptance can affect our recoveries. Other things we might need to accept in recovery could include: how much work it might take to achieve recovery from our eating disorders / how long that process might take, other people’s inability to understand our struggles or be supportive, an inability to completely control our environments, the fact that recovery will have ups and downs and there may be symptoms along the way, and the discomfort we may experience when learning new coping mechanisms and letting go of old ones. And I’m sure there are many other examples!!
Why does this matter? When we spend our mental energy resisting or fighting against things we cannot control or change, we create emotional suffering for ourselves that we then often turn to our unhealthy coping mechanisms to soothe, and we potentially rob ourselves of the opportunity to focus on what we have and what is actually available to us, and to make progress where possible!
I try not to put my own personal experiences into the posts but I have a recent personal example of what a difference acceptance made in my own life recently, so I’ll share that in my check in! 😀
Tips for Practicing Radical Acceptance

Think of a reality that you are fighting against (“this shouldn’t be happening”)
Acknowledge the reality (“this has happened”)
Remind yourself that you are not in control of changing it right now
Think about what your behaviour would look like if you did accept the facts
Try a body scan to see what feelings and sensations that evokes
Embrace any feelings of sadness or grief
Acknowledge that life has meaning and is worth living even when there is some pain

The bonus exercise is: can you think of 1 small, 1 medium, and 1 large acceptance goal related to your recovery?
Here are some non-recovery examples in case they’re helpful in thinking about small, medium and large acceptance goals 🙂

small: someone cut in front of me for the bus
medium: I burned my dinner
large: I didn’t get a job I applied for

WHAT IF I HAVE A SLIP DURING THE CHALLENGE?
if you have a slip and want to turn it into a recovery learning opportunity, here are some questions: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1ZhdjmzEVA6UTCNAEU53xn9LuN8TOfLbl/edit
(you don't have to post your answers if you don't want to, but I do recommend writing or typing them out somewhere)
HOW CAN I GET A REMINDER TO CHECK IN TOMORROW?
Copy/paste the following text into your comment to get a reminder from Reddit:
RemindMe!
When you get your reminder, look here for a link to the next day's post :)

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2024.05.16 14:06 tallbrownglass Ex hookup woes

Just had a FaceTime with my ex hookup. We've been off and on for over a year. He's gone through a lot in life and so have I but it seems like for the longest time his life troubles were just too much to handle so he ghosted, me, social media, supposedly everyone outside of his immediately family. I tried to express my negative feelings about things that happened in the past and it ended up being taken as me being a rain on his new found joy or parade. He said I came off condescending and that I should watch how I talk about things but I could say the same for him and I held back for the longest. He got off the phone and said he's going to the gym and would talk to me later. He was just calling to check in on me - (not true we almost always hook up when we've seen each other) The crazy sad thing is now I want to see him super bad. We just got off the phone and I'm holding back calling and telling him I want him to knock the Mario coins out of me and that I'm sorry if he thinks I mean. I genuinely didn't mean to be. I wonder if what he said was intentional to stir something inside of me. Should I text him or call? Should I ignore what I want. Idk. Just ranting here I guess cause I have no girlfriends to call. And yes I made it even worse by saying sorry before we hung up.

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2024.05.16 14:04 Enthusiasm_Mindless HVAC company nightmare

So for sake of saving myself retyping, this is my review of the company. I will quickly answer and questions. I just dont know where to go at this point.
I will begin with two simple facts; Topline was recommended to me by a competitor of theirs to make sure the job was done the right way the first time, and that this is my first google review.
Salesman was pushy but professional, so he was a salesman. I waited for the estimate all day even though he said it would be to me in an hour, ended up texting him around 8:30/9 pm asking about it. He called me, he was very apologetic and excited, and a little strange but I got the estimate. We took our time looking at other companies and finally settled on Topline. We were then told the unit we were quoted for was out of stock and were offered a “free” upgrade which made us a bit leery. I told my salesman I’d would rather have another company come out just to verify my air handler was functioning before me made our decision. He told me that was part of the install and we signed.
April 19th- Dylan and his apprentice came out to install and did great. Nice guys, pretty knowledgeable, surprised they matched the outdoor unit with our indoor unit. Also forgot to set the unit for 2 ton, adjust the O/B setting on the air handler, and apparently had no idea there was to be a diagnostic on the air handler because it wasn’t (this becomes important later). Heat worked great when they left but too cold to test AC.
On the next warm day I tried to use AC and it did not work. Frost protection on air handler shut system down in less than 5 mins of operation.
May 2- Sebastian was sent out to be here between 12-4. Didn’t arrive until sometime around 5. Very professional and intelligent, unable to diagnose the problem, was told to add 7 pounds of refrigerant, and remove the frost protection sensor on my air handler. Luckily noticed the 3 ton setting. Left my home around 9 pm. I was in the attic and outside with him the entire time.
May 3- I took it upon myself to call the manufacturer of the new unit to confirm it was compatible with my system. He believes it is way over charger.
May 5- Igor came out, again professional and intelligent. I suggest on the phone prior we at least attempt to remove some refrigerant before they lose money on this job and have to give me a new unit. We agree, the coils do not freeze and at 6 pounds the AC was working… for the night. The next day the AC could not keep up and lower the temperature in the house.
May 7- Igor came out tried everything he could, but landed on an issue with my air handler and was instructed to purchase a new TXV valve for it. I was told initially that my air handler was going to be checked out, to confirm it was all in working order. That was never done so we really have no way to know if the TXV is a problem, or was a problem. Unfortunately this week has been incredibly busy for Igor and I will not see him again until 5/17.
An entire month has passed without me able to use this unit, well beyond the chance of me being able to prevent payment from the financing company. We have gotten no return calls from the office with any of the issues we’ve had. They’ve been paid, so I assume they don’t care enough about the customer to ensure that their service works. Only the technicians have been willing and able to communicate. If we ended up paying out of pocket for an expensive part and it doesn’t fix the problem, well then we obviously have to escalate this.

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2024.05.16 14:03 pm-positivity The entire Joostgate timeline explained: It's not a reach to suspect Israel had something to do with Netherlands' DQ

There are some people who still insist that Joost Klein's disqualification had nothing to do with Israel. They firmly believe he just messed up behind the scenes, it's his own fault and did something that warranted him being removed from the contest. If you look at what actually, objectively happened, it's really not that conspiratorial to suspect that they were involved with this and targeted Joost personally.
Let's look at the timeline to understand the reasons.
1- On March 19, Joost shared a Eurovision poll on his Instagram story. Joost found a clever way to censor Israel's name by writing a caption right where their name is written.
https://preview.redd.it/so19wj5bvr0d1.jpg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=fa118a7d1ccacc36f3703827bce5e2076cc365f6
Although many people did not pay much attention to this at first, saying "maybe it is just a coincidence", Joost shared the survey again a few days later and again wrote a caption where Israel's name was written. Although some Israelis got angry and reacted to this incident on social media, this incident was not a big deal.
https://preview.redd.it/tgaqlrzevr0d1.jpg?width=854&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=5f13f9759a08130a9b4fc35393cfcbfea0edb4d0
2- On May 8, the day before the second semi-final, while the Dutch and Israeli delegations were in the same room, the songwriter of the Israeli song, Keren Peles, started recording Joost without permission. Joost goes to the woman and tells her that he does not want to be recorded and to stop. The woman still continued to secretly record Joost and shared it on her Instagram story.
https://preview.redd.it/6l7tt1bjvr0d1.jpg?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=fefa09968c8102a25ddbd054d6e0f0d548a11206
3- Semi-final night came and the Dutch delegation made an agreement with the broadcasters before the semi-final and they said that Joost does not want to be recorded because he needs some time and privacy after the semi-final performance is over. The reason for this is that Joost's song is dedicated to his deceased parents and Joost struggles with PTSD about their loss.
A photographer violated this agreement and started recording Joost as soon as he left the stage. Joost told her to stop, but she did not listen. Thereupon, Joost got angry, shouted at the cameraman and pushed the camera device down, causing the device to be scratched, but it was confirmed by the Swedish police that Joost did not have any physical contact with her. He also apologized after this incident.
4- On the same evening this incident took place, at the press conference attended by finalists, Israeli representative Eden Golan was asked: "Do you think Israel's participation in the competition poses a danger for you, other artists, delegations and the audience in the arena?" The Israeli delegation immediately intervened and said that you do not have to answer this question. Joost then responds with "why not?"
Joost covering his head with a flag during the same press conference also attracted a lot of reactions, but this is something Joost does very often. Maybe it was done on purpose to be a stance against the Israelis, maybe not, but there are videos of him singing his songs with a flag on his head in many of his concerts in the past.
5- Immediately after this press conference, the competition order in the grand final is determined and as if out of spite, they put Joost between two Israelis in the grand final (the Luxembourg representative is also Israeli).
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6- The next day came and it is the last day before the grand finale. It is also the day when the final rehearsals and jury finale will be held. Joost and his team are getting ready to go to rehearsal, and just as they are about to take their place on stage, they are stopped by the authorities. They say that an investigation has been launched because the argument that took place the previous evening was just reported by the cameraman, and that Joost cannot go on stage until the investigation is concluded.
While Joost and his team are leaving the stage, they are harassed by a man from the Israeli delegation in the waiting room. The Israeli man came to them and tries to provoke Joost and his team by making fun of them. Security intervened.
Video evidence of this incident: https://youtu.be/Rhr6rmR8Dl0
7- Meanwhile, the Israeli delegation and the Israeli official channel violate many rules, disturbing the representatives of many countries throughout the competition. The Israeli channel Kan makes unprofessional statements about the Irish contwstant Bambie Thug and tells the Israelis to shower their curses and insults on them (Bambie is openly a supporter of Palestine and anti-war, even the "ceasefire" text wrote in the Ogham alphabet on their face in the semi-final was forcibly erased by EBU).
Israeli songwriter Keren Peles records Bambie without permission, just like she did with Joost, and shares it on her Instagram story. She writes a threatening caption about Bambie, saying "No anti-Semite can breathe next to us." Bambie Thug is not an anti-Semite, they are literally just against Israeli war crimes.
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8- The member of the Israeli delegation who went up to Joost and his team and tried to start a fight, also made fun of the Greek representative Marina Satti by posing while yawning in front of the Greek flag. Keren Pekes also shared Marina in her story and wrote a salty caption (because Marina yawned while Eden Golan was speaking during the press conference).
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9- Dons, the Latvian representative, was subjected to cold stares of Eden Golan and the Israeli delegation for saying "every country in the world deserves to be free."
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Italian representative Angelina Mango is reported and fined for making a small speech about peace backstage and singing a cover of John Lennon's song Imagine.
French representative Slimane is censored in his recap video because he interrupted his song during rehearsal and said he wanted peace.
Portugal representative Iolanda wore nail polish in the colors of the Palestinian flag and a keffiyeh pattern on her nails during the grand final performance, they first censored the semi-final performance on YouTube by re-uploading it instead of the grand final performance. After this situation received backlash, they uploaded the final performance video very late.
Swedish singer Eric Saade, who performed in the semi-finals, is not shared on Eurovision's social media accounts because he came on stage with a keffiyeh.
Polish representative Luna also confirmed the Israeli delegation's harassment of other artists in an interview. Likewise, a member of the Slovenian delegation confirms the inappropriate behavior of the Israeli delegation. Estonian representatives expressed their uneasiness with the Israeli delegation. Norwegian representatives also complain about EBU's approach towards the Israeli delegation.
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(Also, this one is just speculation and there is no definitive evidence, but many believe that Mustii appearing on stage with the word "peace" on his arm and the Belgian broadcaster cutting of the broadcast to send a protest message during Israel's performance as a factor in Belgium, which was a fan favorite before the competition, not making it to the finals.)
10- Last year's representative from Finland, Käärijä, accepted Golan's offer to take a video together out of kindness, but the Israeli delegation shared the video even though he did not give consent for the video to be shared.
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11- After the final, Lithuanian representative Silvester Belt says that it was a traumatic experience for him to go on stage right after Israel, when the audience was so angry and tense. When Silvester came on stage, thousands of people in the arena were still booing Israel.
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12- Coming back to Joost, they do not allow the Netherlands to rehearse, nor do they allow him to attend the jury final held on the same evening, and instead they decide to use Joost's semi-final performance for the juries to give scores. The next day, shortly before the grand final, they officially disqualify him from the competition. The Dutch broadcaster appeals the disqualification decision and offers to issue an official apology and pay a fine, but this offer is not accepted by EBU.
During this controversy, because EBU was too late to make a proper statement on this matter, the Israelis spread a lot of fake news about Joost, making false claims such as "he used drugs before going on stage", "he punched a female worker" and "he sexually assaulted a woman". They presented it as if the reason for Joost's disqualification was one of these and carried out reputation assassination.
13- Bambie Thug reported rule violations by the Israeli delegation and the Israeli official channel to Abu before the grand final. Even though EBU accepts the violations of the rules in question, it does not impose any sanctions and dismisses them by saying that they will investigate. (Nothing came from it so far)
14- On the 14th of May, an Israeli TV show made a Eurovision 2024 sketch where they made fun of other contestants and made Eden Golan look like a saint, and all of the singers they included in the parody are peace supporters and artists that were harassed by the Israeli delegation in Malmö. There was an actress playing her, but also the real Eden Golan herself appeared in the sketch.
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Now, looking at all of this information, I personally find it hard to believe that Joost's only fault was that mild incident involving the photographer. It is not a reach to speculate the main reason why they disqualified him was not this controversy, but Joost's stance against Golan at the press conference. In the end, not only did the cameraman violate a prior agreement, but she also did not stop recording even though the person she was recording repeatedly told her to stop. In other words, the disqualification was an excessive and disproportionate punishment.
Although many artists representing other countries opposed this situation, EBU stubbornly did not step back on Israel's participation. The same EBU, who immediately expelled Joost from the competition and imposed censorship on the other contestants I mentioned above, has still not announced any sanctions regarding the rule violations committed by the Israeli delegation and the official channel, to this day. Will they do it, ever? Only time will tell...
(There were other things that could be included in this post, for example the Luxembourg representative Tali allegedly stating "It's for the best" when asked about Joost's disqualification, but I did not want to include details that do not have a credible source, I could not find solid evidence that she said that. I am not trying to slander anyone, I only wanted to share what is objectively known to have happened. I encourage everyone to look at this report of confirmed incidents and statements to make up their own opinion.)

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2024.05.16 14:02 maximusaemilius Empyrean Iris: 2-183 The best outcome (by Charlie Star)

FYI, this is a story COLLECTION. Lots of standalones technically. So, you can basically start to read at any chapter, no pre-read of the other chapters needed technically (other than maybe getting better descriptions of characters than: Adam Vir=human, Krill=antlike alien, Sunny=tall alien, Conn=telepathic alien). The numbers are (mostly) only for organization of posts and continuity.
OC Written by Charlie Stastarrfallknightrise,
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*Starts to cry* I am so so happy! Isn’t that great? Finally some good news and great things to go forward!
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Breaking News tonight from the Apollo 11 memorial landing site, as Admiral Adam Vir and Captains Warren Richards and Mary Chavez were rescued from the Pacific Ocean, following a journey that was supposed to be historical, turned harrowing. Amy Grey comes to us this morning with the story.
Thank you Julie, it was only a week ago here on the historic Cape Canaveral launch site, that the reconstructed Saturn V rocket was launched by the UNSC International Space and Aeronautics Division on the two thousand and fifty first anniversary of the original Apollo 11 mission. On board The reconstructed rocket were astronauts Fleet Admiral Adam Vir, head of the UNSC deep space exploration division, Captain Warren Richards five year veteran and historical aeronautics expert, and Mary Chavez, six year shuttle pilot veteran, and communications specialist.
The reconstructed Saturn V rocket took off thirty minutes behind schedule at 10:03 GMT July 16 after delays attributed to engineering standbys. However, reports by UNSC investigation early this morning indicate that the delays were called for by engineering head Jade Clein who noticed something strange during her final checks of the Saturn V recreated rocket.
In an interview early today, flight director, Aaliyah Seif of the Apollo re-creation mission informed outlets that there was evidence of attempted tampering on the hull of the Saturn V rocket. The tampering case in the shape of these small silver tape strips covering loosened bolts along one of the Saturn V side panels. Engineers stated that the tape was not heat resistant and would have burned off in time to rattle the bolts loose and, likely, cause a devastating spin that would destroy the rocket.
While this attempted tampering was thwarted, the mission would only become more dire. A sudden and shocking report by Mericanda News 5 showed an uncut image of an unknown alien hybrid woman claiming that the UN President had ordered the attempted assassination of Admiral Vir, in conjunction with an audio recording by Admiral Colter Massie, Head of the Galactic intelligence division and known isolationist, that admitted to the attempted assassination of Admiral Vir, and the acquisition of twenty Thunderhawk’s, which were used to harry the Saturn V on its way to the moon. Admiral Kelly, longtime friend of Admiral Vir, corroborated the story, saying she caught General Massie just after he ordered the deployment of the twenty Thunderhawk’s. During their conversion, he attempted to kill her, before being detained by two members of Admiral Vir's crew, and was later seen being escorted into custody by Military Police.
Indeed, footage has been captured from the hull of the Saturn V, showing approximately twenty Thunderhawk’s attempting to destroy the rocket while Rundi remote piloted drones and an unknown group of what appear to be racing jets, fought back to delay the attack, while word was sent to the UNSC to deploy F-90 Darkfire pilots to assist. This all after communications between Houston and the rocket were sabotaged shortly after leaving orbit. The F-90 Darkfire pilots were able to arrive on time to rescue the rocket, though a hole was reportedly torn in the hull, sucking Admiral Vir out into space. Luckily, he was later recovered and returned to his ship without any injuries. Patch teams were then able to repair the torn hull and the astronauts completed their mission landing to crowds on the moon and returning to earth on time, landing in the Pacific Ocean only nine miles away from the waiting ship.
All three astronauts were recovered and are reported to be in good health.
The investigation into the UN president's involvement is still ongoing at this time, however preliminary reports from the Global Bureau of Investigation suggest evidence is both staggering and damning to the current UN president, who earlier today, attempted to cut all ties to the sabotage efforts, saying she was framed. Political experts report that, even assuming her innocence, she will likely not last to the end of her term.
International News Network was able to interview Admiral Vir shortly after his landing while still on board the rescuing ship UNSS Victory.
Here is what the Admiral had to say:
"I find it... Really very disheartening that someone we all trusted, and someone that we all should have looked up to could do something like this. It really is a heinous demonstration of what political corruption can lead people to do."
"And how do you feel, personally about all of this?"
"Personally, I... well to be honest I am hurt and appalled. Not to mention that I fear for the safety of my family and my friends. Every day I wonder if my involvement with them is going to get someone I love killed... The thought haunts me, but I hope after all of this is over I... and all of us can breathe a little easier."
"Were you scared?"
"I don't think that even needs to be a question. Of course I was scared, getting sucked out of your spaceship isn't ideal."
"What do you hope will happen now?"
"I hope that justice can be upheld to those who deserve it."
"What do you have to say to the UN president."
”...”
”So?”
"I have nothing to say. Wouldn't want to waste the air.”
[…]
What followed would be one of the largest scandals in recent political history. At some point an unknown number of classified government documents was leaked onto the internet, and after that it was all over for the Presidency. Thousands of enterprising humans, and aliens alike, viewed the documents to discover all the underhanded and dirty things which had been going on in the UN governmental body over the past few years. Forensic accounting experts (mostly Tesraki), uncovered plenty of fiscal tampering which shed light on plenty of isolationist related projects and bank accounts. There was even evidence that they had something to do with the original assassination attempt against Admiral Vir so many months ago. The drama had even managed to capture the attention of Rundi political experts and Vrul computer science geniuses, and together they unearthed a world of unfathomable, but not unexpected corruption. The process to remove the UN president from office was probably one of the fastest movements of human government ever seen by UN congressional leaders, who were likely trying their very best to distance themselves from association with the president, who despite not being the only one involved, had become the political scapegoat for everyone else that had a supposed link with isolationism.
Even the VP fell under suspicion and was watched closely for the rest of his term.
Admiral Massie and the UN President were placed under arrest and set up for court dates in the nearing future, though everyone saw a long and arduous litigation process ahead. Even Ramirez's family had filed for damages against the government after the news came to light, confirming that their son had been shot as collateral in one of the UN presidents plans to assassinate Admiral Vir. They settled out of court to the tune of an unknown, but impressive sum of money.
No one really knew how much, but a couple months later Ramirez's younger sister was seen training at one of the most prestigious Olympic academies on earth.
Ramirez himself was suddenly able to afford housing on the moon in a condo just next door to his best friend, though no one else inquired further.
The Rundi chairwoman came forward with her own investigation, admitting to being suspicious for a long time though she feared accusations without proper proof. Admiral Vir was seen having lunch with her not so many months after the events took place, suggesting that the trust between the two of them had not been completely dissolved. With much of the isolationist element gone from government, public policy began to lean heavily towards integration with the alliance. The occasional isolationist demonstration or protest was held, but none of them managed to gain traction.
Admiral Vir was finding himself more important than ever, though it was to his chagrin that his ship was grounded for the intervening months while the investigation continued.
No one was entirely sure what the future held.
[…]
Admiral Vir stepped into Admiral Kelly's office. The last time he had actually visited her here had been over a few years ago, before his promotion to captain of the Harbinger. It seemed so distant now, and he never expected to walk into her office with a star on his shoulder. She stood as he entered, and the two of them shook hands, ignoring all the stuffy formalities that usually come with the meeting of two military officers.
The wall behind her was decorated with a myriad of metals and awards she had received over her career, and he couldn't help but note the slight tinge of grey he could see forming in her hair. He knew that feeling, he was going prematurely white much to his chagrin. She stood and the two of them shook hands.
"Vir."
"Kelly."
She motioned him to sit, and he sat, sighing lightly as he had been on his feet all day consulting with political figures and other members of the UNSC.
"A strange couple months wouldn't you say?”
"Tell me about it."
Kelly reached under her desk and withdrew an amber bottle which she placed between them,
"I always forget; do you drink?"
"On occasion."
"Well consider this an occasion."
She said, popping off the top and pouring two glasses for them. She handed his across the desk and he leaned back in his seat cupping the cool glass in both hands.
She swirled the amber liquid around in her glass,
"So what are your plans after all this?”
He took a sip of water warmed by the burning liquid,
"Hoping things will go back to normal and I can go back to traveling the galaxy."
Kelly grunted,
"A simple man with simple motivations."
He laughed,
"Sometimes I think a stupid man with simple motivations."
She chuckled then grew serious,
"A lot of people make the mistake of assuming simple people don't have the intelligence to match. Some people assume that trusting means gullible means dumb. Just because we are trusting and expect others to do the right thing is not necessarily a fault. I believe there is a kind of beauty in assuming the fundamental goodness of humanity."
Admiral Vir shook his head,
"How can you after seeing what we have seen?”
"How can you not?"
She shrugged,
"We always knew that politicians were corrupt, but think about everything else we have seen."
Admiral Vir nodded slowly,
"The enthusiasm for the Apollo 11 recreation mission, the people who flew up to help us. All of those people who went digging through years of information just to uncover the truth."
She raised her glass,
"Precisely. Goodness in humanity is all around us, but we tend to overlook the good in favor of the bad."
She placed her hat on the desk and sighed,
"It is up to good people to keep their goodness going even when it might seem easier to give into the bad. I have and will always believe in the fundamental good of humanity. Some may call it naive, or even stupid. Others have said I have a romanticized view of a species that is fundamentally broken."
She turned her head to look out the window, a contemplative expression on her face before turning back to look at Adam.
"You understand me, I think."
He nodded slowly.
"People need to be believed in. You tell someone for long enough that they are fundamentally bad at their core and they will begin to believe you. For thousands of years pessimists have gotten it into our heads that we are no better than animals, worse even since animals don't fight in wars. But I believe that is wrong, I have seen people, I have met people, and I have interacted with people who prove to me that humanity cannot just be fundamentally bad or else these people wouldn't exist."
She tapped her nails against the glass,
"I think it is easier to corrupt purity than wash away a stain."
He listened quietly as she continued.
"Humans are born good, Adam, and life stains us. We aren't born stained while some of us are wiped clean."
She shook her head,
"Doesn't make sense to me."
She caught him with a look, pinning him to the spot with her intense stare,
"People like you convince me of this every day."
"Me!?..."
She held up a hand.
"Adam Vir, I am convinced that the best outcome this universe ever had, was when a happy go lucky science fiction freak was lucky enough to be the first man to meet aliens. Any other way things would have gone horribly wrong."
She leaned across her desk,
"The universe needs men and women like you, and not only that but the universe needs people who are going to support men and women like you."
She sat back,
"Which is why I have made a decision…"
He raised an eyebrow in curiosity, not entirely sure where this could be going.
She smiled,
"I have decided to run for UN President."
He nearly spit his mouthful of expensive scotch onto the table, but managed to choke it mostly down.
Eyes wide he set his glass down,
"Are you serious?”
She smiled,
"Seriously serious."
"Well shit, you have my vote for sure."
He raised his glass to her,
"I couldn't think of a better outcome."
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Thanks for reading! As you saw in the title, this is a cross posted story written by starrfallknightrise and I'll just upload some of it here for you guys, if you are interested and want to read ahead, the original story-collection can be found on tumblr or wattpad to read for free. (link above this text under "OC:..." ) It is the Empyrean Iris story collection by starfallknightrise. Also, if you want to know more about the story collection i made an intro post about it, so feel free to check that out to see what other great characters to look forward to! (Link also above this text). I have no affiliations to the author; just thought I’d share some of the great stories you might enjoy a lot!
Obviously, I have Charlie’s permission to post this and for the people already knowing the stories, or starting to read them: If you follow the link and check out the story you will see some differences. I made some small (non-artistic) changes, mainly correcting writing mistakes, pronoun correction and some small additional info here and there of things which were not thought of/forgotten or even were added/changed in later stories (like the “USS->UNSC” prefix of Stabby, Chalar=/->Sunny etc). As well as some "biggemajor" changes in descriptions and info’s for the same stringency/continuity reason. That can be explained by the story collection being, well a story collection at the start with many standalone-stories just starring the same people, but later on it gets more to a stringent storyline with backstories and throwbacks. (For example Adam Vir has some HEAVY scars over his body, following his bones, which were not really talked about up till half the collection, where it says it covers his whole body and you find out via backflash that he had them the whole time and how he got them, they just weren't mentioned before. However, I would think a doctor would at least see these scars before that, especially since he gets analyzed, treated and goes shirtless/in T-shirts in some stories). So TLDR: Writing and some descriptions are slightly changed, with full OK from the author, since he himself did not bother to correct these things before.

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2024.05.16 14:02 Low_Bug3401 My first breakup at 26

I dated this guy I met on a dating app for 9 months. We had met gone on dates a year ahead of time but I wasn't that interested then. We met again, I texted him, and we started dating. It was so great, I felt so loved and taken care of. He did everything at my pace bc it was my first relationship. I have never liked a guy enough to date, but with him, I liked him more day by day. We did some long distance, he had a trip scheduled after we started dating and when he came back, after a month, I would visit home for almost 2 months. Then, I came back and he went to work far for two weeks. After, he traveled for work again for 10 days. Although he had some jealousy problems, we always were able to talk about it and try to understand each other. We were in love and saw a future together.
After some months, he started to drink more than usual and would come back home late. He was working in another nearby city during the weeek so we would only meet weekends and once during the week. He was depressed bc of the job and it overflowed to our relationship. He always wanted to work abroad so having that frustration made it worse. Still, I always felt loved and I tried to support him too.
At some point, I went through a very hard time no job, hard time at school, moving out, etc. he stuck by me but one night we went out, I told him to plz not get drunk and he did. On the way home, I got mad abt it and he broke up with me. We slept, but I was really just crying while asking him why? I checked his instagram and he had followed a bunch of new girls. When he woke up, I confronted and he said how they meant nothing and they met at one of his friends gigs so they all shared instas. He unfollowed them. I also asked abt a girl I knew he met at one overseas job, he explained how she helped him once.
We cried, he left. I never saw him again but we texted for abt 2 months like lovers. It mostly consisted of him consoling me and us talking abt hope for the future. His reason for the breakup was that he thought I was his only happiness and he was frustrated with work and how he thought he wasnt trying enough to leave the country bc I was here. I believed him.
Fast forward, I was too depressed and would spiral in our conversations bc I didn't understand why was it necessary to break up. In the end, he let go and told me to let go of us too. I sent his stuff, blocked him on aocial media. We texted, I said to send me my stuff bc for me holding onto it meant hope. He took 2 months to send it. When he did, I told him off.
Months later, I found that he added the girl he met on that work trip to his finsta so I unblocked him and asked abt it. He denied everything and told me to find my peace but that there was nothing romantic for that girl. I asked him to block me or I would go crazy speculating. He did. We said bye. A week ago, I saw the girls insta and saw his hand. They traveled together. He traveled to see her. My heart sunk. I texted her asking abt the timeline to know if he cheated. She wanted to videocall, he was in the room. Apparently they were dating for a month and she just found out how he was talking to a girl. He and I fought verbally, he called me a stalker a and that he was happy he broke up with me bc I was so toxic. The other girl ended up breaking up with him. They still follow eachother on instagram though.
I felt lighter but I also feel this great sadness. Will I ever be able to find someone who loved me like he did when we were together? I know he didnt cheat while we were together but this girl didnt know he had a gf when they met. There is so much wrong and I know I should forget but I am afraid I wont be attracted to someone physically, emotionally and mentally like I was with him ever again. I thought we matched well, our personalities. How can the love fade away and end like this? I dont understand.

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2024.05.16 13:56 Low_Bug3401 My first breakup at 26

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2024.05.16 13:56 JustJenniez136 the illusion of choice (vent) unwelcoming upbringing and environment

the illusion of choice (vent)
context: i stuck in a rude ignorant town in vietnam with absolutely no one i can relate to. I haven't met another asexual person ever in my life, my autism has made me more closed off over the years after spending 3 years in the shittiest highschool in town and meet the worst most cruel kids all around. anyways, the gist is that im rotating around interest in having relationships and my libido spiked up and it's so shameful and scary and strange, here's some stuff i wrote
Its like, I never claim to be aromantic. So why am I feeling this eternal shame for wanting to try out not relationships, not the heterosexual dynamic? Just something a bit more than platonic maybe it's because I don't have a plan for committing? or maybe because I don't trust relationships in general, and they often spiral downhill based on the "adult role models" around me, making me feel weird. I was crippled and stolen of those abilities to navigate relationships and friendships. Growing up in a semireligious family with bitter grandparents who hated my mother for marrying so early, I was raised "pure" and was fear mongered to death with anything related to my sexuality and attraction. I am autistic and have no one to validate and help me stand up for myself. So am I really so repulsed by relationships, or is it because I am distrustful of people in general and was fed with fear and the taboo silence rather than a sit down and explainations? I've been browsing the asexual subreddit. It's not common for people to claim they were raised to become intentionally sexually repressed by their helicopter parents. Sometimes asexuality isn't inherent but just what you're used to and comfortable with, and there's nothing wrong with that. I just recently got a taste of a crush, and that feeling rushed back. I know I'm fine with being married to better things than holding a chick in my arms, giving her pet names, and doing a couple things in rotation until she left me because we're young and poor. It's so counterproductive, especially if I have other concerns. But still, it got me thinking, "Maybe try." There's a reason kids who are high school sweethearts mostly have a fine support network, are hetero, and have parents with stable income, for them to approve such bullshit, poor family just fear mongering their kids about how one wrong step could ruin their future. and it's not wrong. heterosexuality in vietnam is often misogynistic and lead to shitty results, every relationship is too early in the parents eyes if the kid turned out poor or abused. What I'm saying is that ive never given a choice or a chance to even see it for myself without the fear of intimacy built from my family who can't recognise that they have to teach their son instead of telling their daughters to be careful. I guess it started because I was kind of teased in school for obvious reasons: no """"man"""" would look at me. even though obviously lesbian. But we all know those teen boys are tools; I could easily bag one on Facebook just by texting essentially about nothing. Girls hold them on a pedestal because of heterosexual relationships. Most of my classmates have ugly ass boyfriends that make them starve and actually hit them; the other half have online boyfriends. There's always problems relating to power structures. Some classmates made fun of me last year by saying that I have pretty hands but have never properly held anyone's, or that they've found my "secret boyfriend" and how they laugh to themselves about how absurd it is. And obviously, thats laughable, and I pay no mind to the teenage peer pressure and insecurity speaking on their part, but still, I guess seeing girls heads over heels over girls does make me curious about the truth in a kind of addiction produced in finding your other half, just a smidge of curiosity. Maybe I am overcompensating at this time because of depression. The problem is that I would like to bag a chick, but I have no incentive to do so. I was immune to heterosexuality propaganda growing up; I was exposed to progressive beliefs, so I poked holes easily in gender roles, problematic red flags, etc., and my standard rose. Plus, being gay and lonely in my sexuality makes it hard to make friends with girls, and I can't relate to anyone around me because the gays in this city don't organize. Why should I pursue a relationship with a hormonally ignorant pos at this school?

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