Romantic things to say to text to a girl

My beautiful ex broke up with me last Sunday because I violated a very important boundary of her to not flirt with a girl that I had a flirty past with before we were officially together. I am devastated but feel so guilty and shameful for hurting her I started therapy today to deal with this while also trying to heal, but the guilt is also so heavy
Long story ahead
She found this out by logging into my Instagram on my iPad.
I was busy with a lot of things on my trip to visit my family in India, and wasn’t able to give her much updates or attention due to the time difference between India and US. I would text her, share a lot of pictures from my day when I could and sometimes Facetime her
I truly had no sexual intentions with this girl, literally zero, I was trying to buy some w**d from her as she had contacts, and due to our schedules the plans fell through
She then invited me to her place before my trip ended to which my dumbass said “Well that’s just dangerous 😏” She replied, I’m not alone, and I just 👍🏽 her reply, end of conversation
I 100% intended to show this convo to her once I got back to US
When she found out about this, she didn’t confront me directly, but was asking about my stance on if flirting is cheating and I agreed if the intentions were sexual.
She kept on asking if I did anything wrong or something for which she would be reacting like this, even asked if it was about Instagram DMs, but she still was being vague about the confrontation. She said she was heartbroken because I didn’t answer her straight and made her think like I didn’t do anything wrong
Once she confronted me like this, I immediately got defensive and felt ashamed to be seen like this, went back and forth and asked her more details, which she didn’t say much about
On our facetime call, she asked me to explain and I did twist the facts by saying I turned that girl down when she invited me over(still feeling shame), after which she read out the messages and was more pissed and hurt about it
She shared all of this with her family(sister and brother in law)
She said she is breaking up with me, I apologized a lot and convinced her not to break up and give this another shot and I said I’ll be more honest and transparent about anything and accepted the fact that she won’t be that affectionate and will need time, I agreed
For two weeks, she wasn’t texting that much, and was just replying to my texts, I thought this was her less affectionate self & she’s taking time to let her emotions settle
But then I found out that she created a Tinder account the same day when she found out about it, signed for sex chat rooms and shared nudes there, some of which she forwarded me also, and some of which she took at my apartment
I was very hurt and felt betrayed but was also guilty that I also was not fully loyal because of that message sent her
I asked her to tell me about what all she did and after long facetime calls, agreed to work on being honest with each other and came to a compromise
From here Our conversations after this got very wild and she also wanted us to play with another girl, which I agreed to after confirming with her multiple times. We also talked about going on dates and I bought tickets to an event
While all this was happening, in parallel her family and her were also talking about breaking up with me, over exxagerated many facts about me, and she agreed and didn’t defend and made it seem like she was trying to break up with me but was finding it difficult to do so and stayed at my place too, because she was missing me and was also taking care of my cat. I found out about this after I came back and she was showing only a few messages from the converdation with her family, more on this later
I missed my flight that night and got another flight early next morning. While I was at the hotel, The night before reaching my place, she said she feels a little emotionally detached from me and has mixed feelings about what had happened and what also was in the mix of this was, there was some miscommunication between her sister me and my ex during Christmas and that was still unresolved and they thought I was manipulated and gaslighting, which wasn’t even the case
We talked about her feelings, clarified about the miscommunicTion and assured her that I will talk to her family and sort this out
Its Tuesday morning, she picked me up from the airport, had a small welcome gift and hand written message set up on my coffee table, which I loved
We went out on a dinner date in the middle of the week, were spending time with each other, this is when I found out about her conversation with her family and I confronted her about it asking why she was lying to them about our break up. She said she also had facetime calls with them and she probably told them that she didnt break up with me. I told her to be honest about the situation with her family, to which she sent out a big Message to her family saying she lied to them and she broke their trust and made it sound like I was a saint and everything was her fault
Mind you her family was still asking when she is going break up with me
I spoke to their family to clear up the previous miscommunicationsand also briefly spoke about the disconnect between our texts and their texts. Her sister said she will talk to my ex one on one about this. We woke up next morning, she spoke to her sister while I was getting ready to o head out. I sat down with her to talk about their discussion, she said they went all the way back and verified what she lied about, and then she dropped it on me that she wants to break up, she doesnt want to go through the emotional pain again and wont be able to trust me

Hey, 33f here. Just got ghosted out of a relationship. It was long distance, we only met once, and while I was down for sharing nudes and sending videos of me going solo, and I got plenty of nudes back, he did show me nudes of him with other girls and I told him I didn't want any videos or pictures taken of me during the act. He absolutely did exactly that of me giving him a blow job and he didn't exactly keep it a secret what he did. I don't think he will post anything online but I know he will show people in the future. He's generally a sociopath who was expelled from high school for conspiring to commit a mass shooting and actively idolizes Killdozer. He is also extremely handsome and charismatic and has a lot of videos and pictures of his exes. At one point when he showed me a video of him with an ex he said "I wonder if she knows I was filming her." I don't think he will post my nudes but he is not above sharing them. He went to rehab without telling me 3 months into our "relationship" and then I never heard from him again. He is kinda predatory and some "friends" said after it ended that he had a bad reputation for being a manwhore and doing creepy things. Thanks for warning me. Thing is, he is unemployed and lives with his mom and generally kinda a loser so I feel like he isn't worth the hassle and I am just better off moving on and finding a guy worth a damn and getting revenge by living well (as is my usual style) and I am also not super willing to turn someone into a sex offender over nothing. I just wonder if it's worth the hassle or if this is even a sex offense. I mean I am enough of an exhibitionist where I don't get hot and bothered by other exes having my nudes but those were consensually taken and they don't make it a habit of sharing nudes and sex tapes with girls they want to hook up with. This seems like a really creepy pattern and I don't know what to do about it to get it to stop. Should I tell people at least? I know he is going to go around calling me crazy even though we never fought and he generally neglected our relationship. I wanted to break up with him well before rehab but he was going through a rough time and I wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt.

I’m 18, and since i started puberty my mother has made me feel so bad about my body. I have double Ds and i workout pretty regularly so I’ve been able to build a pretty decent figure. I’m like 5”4 130 ish pounds. But anyways my mom has made me feel like absolute shit about my body. Everytime I wear a dress you would think the purge alarm had gone off because her comments kill me. Literally all she does is criticize what I wear and then complain that I never dress up. What I’m wearing would never be a problem if I was less busty. I’ve become insanely insecure because of this, I never want to dress up or wear clothing that makes me feel young and confident. She will see me in any dress and it will cause a problem, if I wear tighter jeans it’s a problem, or if I wear a booby top it’s an issue. This week I’m graduating a dual enrollment program so o have to graduations, the first grad I wore a skims dress which admittedly was very form fitting but ngl I don’t want to look back and look like a grandma because my mother is ashamed of the body she gave me. And when the night ended she said tmrw you need to wear something more appropriate… like really? What a bitchy thing to say. So today I wore a house of cb dress, it’s not that tight and it didn’t lift my boobs or show my figure so I thought, until my mom came into my room and complained about my outfit and how it is indecent. I don’t feel comfortable putting of photo on here but guys I stg my boobs are completely covered and you can’t even see t cleavage.
I could wear a completely covered top and it’s also an issue. I don’t talk to boys because when I did she called me a whore. I don’t really dress up because she’s made me feel like my body is something to be ashamed of. So it’s not like I’m regularly promiscuous, she just genuinely doesn’t like what my body looks like. It’s a sad fact but my boobs will boob in any dress.
Anyways sorry for the rant but does anybody feel similar or have any advice?

I’ve gotten a lot of people telling me a lot of different things about these 3 stocks so I’m curious what yall think.
They say not to invest too much in QQQ because the tech sector isn’t guaranteed to go up but I don’t get that since QQQ may currently be heavily weighted towards tech, it’s not only tech. Can’t it recalibrate if tech starts going down and find something new to grow off of? Isn’t that what the algorithm is supposed to do? Lastly it also includes international stocks but I’ve also heard that US companies are sufficiently globalized to where we don’t need to invest internationally?

I dunno, I’ve wronged some people, intentionally or not, unknowingly or knowingly.
I do recall spitting horrific insults, violent and maybe hurtful against some people I perceive to have made my life hell.
Most of the time I just remain silent though.
Living in a residential treatment center as a teenager gets old.
Too old, I am very introverted, I don’t enjoy external stimulation and the reduced privacy, not too much time where I can rest and let shit out, I haven’t any friends to talk to, I’m very fearful and avoidant for two reasons mainly, don’t wanna get hurt, don’t want people to get hurt.
I was grumbling this morning about the driver who takes us to school stopping by a 7/11 that was right across the street from it, aswell as making a stop by a jamaican beef patty place too halfway through the ride, someone explained to me that I was indeed being somewhat selfish as I do take forever to get my hygiene together and my ass out of bed, being depressed and drained has its’ perks I guess.
I understand that was wrong, it seems he most likely needed breakfast and there was a chance he couldn’t make his way to the 7/11 after school starts.
For context as to my behaviors:
I get lost in thought doing stuff all the time, hence my hygiene being long, have been working on it though, trying to route my thoughts back onto the task as much as possible, reduced it to about 45-50 minutes in total before I’m ready.
I still struggle to get out of bed, I just got an alarm clock but it seems I forget where the snooze button is, being groggy, irritable, and my mind being foggy when I wake up, not to mention I don’t feel motivated, excited or happy to do anything or to run myself into a hellish concrete noisebox, the school we go to is kinda iffy in quality and structure, well, there is no real order tbh, things are always loud, and I can’t get much of a break but they told me of a few specific people I can go to, my social worker there essentially declared me to not be worth his time though, I just wanted some time to rest and maybe talk whenever I met with him but it seems he ran out of patience and stopped being supportive.
I’ve had a shit life so far, bad luck and even worse decisions do that, not gonna too much get into it as it’s only relevant in that it gave me trust issues, emotional control problems, and the big sad (depression), talking too much about it would only be counterintuitive as I am here to see if I can get the POV of an outsider to help myself with a decision on how to improve myself, not seek pity, I still may share a lot so scroll to the bottom if you don’t want to read it.
Asian family, NYC, abuse, I feel personally that my family is composed of narcissistic assholes, the physical abuse/corporal punishment only ended when ACS was called, childish arguments over trivial things and slights, get old though, I was told that it could just be communication problems but I doubt it as every time I trusted them I only suffered and wound up guiltripped into doing what they want, study endlessly at the cost of my sanity, being threatened with them rescinding all validation, ‘love’ and help.
My residential’s social worker encountered similar problems in childhood and seems to be supportive to some degree, but recently she refused to apologize for certain actions that only ate away at me instead of helping despite me telling her, including waving her hand in front of my phone jokingly when I was typing in the journal app, finishing up a cathartic rant, and forcing me into activities I don’t want to do because it only served to remind me of how fucked I am and made me share stuff I don’t feel comfortable sharing.
She also was one of the person stating my familial issues could just be communication problems and I’m tired of them trying to convince me that my family totally gives a shit at all, my mother does occasionally feel like making more generous offers when I am replacing some old things but sometimes she skimps out on important parts, maybe half assing the deal by replacing a component of the thing I asked for with a cheaper item, that sometimes could be detrimental to the thing as a whole, though some of these times she could replace some items with expensive stuff with or without necessity, often I am reluctant to accept, I recently did get the latest iphone but my old phone was running out of storage and was really dinged up and I don’t get to replace my phone very often, it’s on a basis of once every few years.
My family may skimp out on some of my other needs, primarily personal space and emotional, aswell as maybe hygiene products depending on the case (I don’t like using irish spring or years old dove bars and most of the bath and shower stuff is suited for their needs, and before I had to argue for quite a bit in some instances regarding deodorants and getting different soap.) which is why I feel like the above is just window dressing, I do get berated and shamed for trivial stuff excessively, but it all just leads to arguments whenever I try to address it with them regardless of what tone I chose to speak to them with.
I don’t know what to make of all the above and pardon me if it is excessive, I am aware I am not the most emotionally stable and I can come off as rude or self absorbed but I have been dealing with a lot more lately, and I snap more easily when that happens, and don’t wanna be bothered, frankly you don’t walk away happy from being yelled and jeered at by bullies at the school and being told to kill yourself, and being told you have to deal with it for character development, I also hate being lonely (I’m literally alone, got no friends and even shittier self esteem, feel too ashamed and fearful to make friends and I have habits that drive people away, partially derived from said loneliness), the people I’ve met, I don’t know if I’ve read them wrong but I don’t trust them, they say I should try to share and communicate but frankly that is difficult when it seems they don’t want to, in many of the cases I don’t feel heard either as I am talked over or interrupted, rushed even, including sometimes by the social workers.
Now, I don’t know if it’s because they are stressed themselves but it gets old.

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Silently, Pale motioned for Kayla to follow her, and the two of them silently crept out of the cave. As they drew closer to the exit, Pale was finally able to make out the voices from earlier.
"-Sure they're here? The tracks faded a while back…"
"Where in the three hells else would they go? This is the only shelter around for miles. The snow may have covered their tracks, but they don't know this land like we do."
The talking soon devolved into bickering as the bandits fought among themselves. Pale shifted, pressing her weapon's stock against her shoulder, then began to carefully push out from inside the cave, Kayla following a few steps behind her. The snowfall had intensified even further from when they had sought refuge in the cave; between the falling specks of white and the steadily-encroaching dusk, visibility had dropped to near-zero. Despite this, Pale kept moving, seeking cover higher up in the mountains.
The two of them moved over the rocks as carefully as they could, taking care not to disturb any of them for fear of alerting the bandits. Pale couldn't tell how many there were; from the different voices in their group, she counted at least four, maybe five. Ballistic weapons or not, she didn't like the odds of taking on five people in open combat with just herself and Kayla to oppose them.
And so, they continued to climb the mountain. Pale shivered the entire time, the frigid air cutting her to the bone even through her thermals. The temperature had fallen in the hours since they'd set up in the cave, and now even her high-tech clothing wouldn't be enough to save them forever.
Eventually, however, they reached a flat point in the side of the mountain where they could rest. Pale helped Kayla up the edge, and the two of them laid there, panting from exertion. Despite the cold, Pale wiped sweat from her brow, hefting her weapon to her shoulder once more as she peered over the sheer expanse. Through the snow and the darkness, she was just able to make out a few faint shapes milling about.
"Is it safe down there?" Kayla whispered through chattering teeth.
Pale shook her head. "Doesn't seem like it. Hopefully, they won't find the cave – if they do, they're going to keep looking for us. Our only hope is that they'll get cold and call off the search before then."
"Unlikely…" Kayla muttered. "Berserkers like that come from the far north. They're used to cold like this, if not worse. If anything makes them leave, it won't be the weather."
Pale couldn't help but scowl. She looked over the cliff face once more, then shook her head.
"Then I guess we have a choice to make."
"Which is…?"
"We sit here and hope that they don't find anything and leave before we freeze to death, or we throw caution to the wind and take the fight directly to them in order to reclaim our impromptu shelter."
Kayla paled at that. "...I don't like either option."
"Neither do I. The weather is a problem no matter which one we take – either it kills us outright or it affects us to the point where our combat effectiveness starts to drop like a stone. In any case, we're going to need to make a decision fast."
"You're the soldier. What do you think we should do?"
Pale was about to respond, but was cut off by a sudden flurry of excited shouts and movement from down below. She cast another glance down at the cave, and listened in to what the bandits were saying as best as she could. Most of their speech was drowned out by distance and wind, but it soon became irrelevant, as one of the bandits held up the remnants of two military rations, then pointed up towards the mountain. As Pale watched, the rest of the bandits – all five of them – began to climb up towards them. Her expression narrowed as she watched the berserkers steadily claw their way up the rocks, steadily inching closer with every passing moment.
"Looks like they made my decision for me," she announced, hefting her weapon.
"Ah…! What are we doing?!" Kayla asked in a hushed voice.
Pale leaned over the side of the cliff, centering her shotgun's sights on the head of the nearest bandit. He was about thirty meters away; at this distance, she couldn't miss.
"Pick a target," she said without looking back. "Wait for my command before conjuring anything."
Kayla let out a small whimper at what she was about to do, but didn't offer any argument, instead stacking up alongside Pale. She took a breath to calm herself, then raised a hand, but held back on conjuring any magic, instead merely keeping it outstretched. Pale watched as the bandit she'd aimed at drew closer, until finally, it happened – he locked eyes with her, and his expression tightened into one of surprise. He opened his mouth to yell something to his comrades.
A shell full of buckshot silenced him before he got the chance. In that moment, Kayla opened up with a spell, sending a streak of lightning arcing across the mountain and into the chest of the nearest berserker. The man convulsed as electricity danced across his body, but then limply fell backwards, his body blackened and smoking.
For a split-second, there was silence, punctuated only by the sound of Pale racking her shotgun. She went to take aim at the next target, but a large bolt of lightning came soaring towards her from farther down the mountain. A small, surprised gasp escaped from her as she fell back, the lightning missing her by mere millimeters, passing close by enough that it made the hair on her head stand up. The spell discharged into the rock above, sending bits of stone and dirt raining down on the two of them and littering them with small cuts and bruises, but otherwise leaving them unhurt.
"Kayla, you take that side!" Pale shouted as she approached the edge of the stone. "Keep yourself safe!"
"W-what?!" Kayla called back. "What are you doing?!"
"Getting you some breathing room!" Pale said to her as she swung herself over the edge, then began to roll down the side of the snow-covered mountain. Bits of jagged rock tore at her body as she fell, but she paid it no mind. Back behind her, she heard claps of thunder echo through the mountains, a sign that Kayla was still fighting.
That wouldn't matter if Pale didn't take care of the berserker mage, however.
As that thought passed her mind, another bolt of electricity came arcing from their cave, up towards Kayla. Pale came to a stop not far away, then jumped to her feet with her weapon at the ready, a pang of pure rage barely suppressed in her mind as she surged forwards.
There were no other berserkers on this part of the mountain, at least that she could see, which had to mean that the mage was alone. Pale sprinted for the cave, double-timing it in order to get there before something could happen to Kayla. More lightning flew through the night, marking the mage's spot, and before long, she closed in on him.
Just as she got there, however, a wall of fire erupted between herself and him. She stumbled, barely managing to catch herself before running directly into the flames. Through the smoke and crimson blaze, she was able to make out a man dressed in a combination of berserker furs and a tattered gray cloak, grinning a yellowed-toothed grin at her through a shaggy salt-and-pepper beard. He went to say something, but Pale stopped him with a barrage of shotgun pellets slam-fired from her weapon as fast as she could operate the pump. To her dismay, however, a barrier of some kind sprang up between the two of them, shielding the mage from any harm.
Her shotgun clicked empty, and Pale let it dangle from her sling, instead pulling out her .45. She went to take aim at the mage, but was unprepared for him to suddenly surge forwards, a manic shout escaping him as he passed through his own flames, completely uncaring of how they lapped at him as he sprinted by. Her eyes widened in shock as she was forced backwards, her pistol barking as fast as she could pull the trigger, but to no avail – that same barrier from earlier prevented any of her shots from landing, the bullets harmlessly bouncing off onto the ground below for every round fired.
Finally, the slide locked back on her handgun, and Pale was forced to try and reload. The mage kept coming, however, even as she scrambled backwards over snow and rocks. Eventually, though, she made a mistake, tripping over a large rock and falling backwards, her handgun slipping from her grip and sliding several yards away. She made a vain attempt to fumble for it, but the mage got their first. With strength unexpected from a man his age, he wrapped one hand around her throat and hoisted her into the air, holding her face-to-face with him. Pale gasped for breath, her legs flailing uselessly as the life was choked out of her. The berserker's manic grin widened, and he tightened his one-handed grip, then brought his off-hand around, sparks already dancing across his fingertips.
Out of desperation, Pale yanked the combat knife from her belt and flailed wildly with it, hoping only to free herself. Her desperate plan worked; the man let out a loud, pained shout as a deep gash was opened in his arm, and his grip loosened just enough for Pale to shake herself free. She landed in a heap on the ground, then jumped to her feet just in time for the mage to shake off his wound. She had cut a deep gouge in the side of his arm, deep enough to expose the white of his bone to the elements, but from the sight of things, all that had really done was anger him even more. In that moment, she realized something.
That barrier, whatever it was, must have been designed to withstand projectile attacks from a distance rather than a direct close-range strike.
She didn't get much time to focus on this new discovery, however – he glared at her, gritting his teeth as the blood dripped from his arm onto the snow below; Pale, for her part, held his gaze, and dropped into a combat stance as she switched her hold on the blade to a reverse grip. The two of them began to circle each other, each waiting for the other combatant to move, both of them eyeing their opponent up and down the entire time.
Pale saw the signs of an incoming attack before it even arrived – the subtle tensing of his leg muscles gave it away before he even knew what he was doing. When he surged forwards, his hands engulfed in fire, she was ready; she sidestepped the incoming attack, then lashed out with her blade once more, scoring another deep slash through the man's arm, this time in the underside. He let out a grunt as he reeled back from the hit, his arm now dangling uselessly in front of him. Idly, Pale realized she must have just severed its tendon, preventing him from using it any further.
She didn't get a chance to dwell on this fact for long, as the mage raised his other arm and launched a bolt of lightning at her, forcing her to jump behind a nearby rock to avoid being electrocuted. She didn't stay there for long, though – he launched several more consecutive bolts of lightning towards her impromptu cover, trying to flush her out as he closed in on one side. Pale didn't take the bait, though – she rushed the side he was pushing just in time to shove the blade forwards, and for her efforts, she was rewarded with a dull thunk as steel met flush. The mage immediately froze, looking down at the knife as it jutted out of his stomach, blood blossoming out from around it and steadily staining his clothes a deep crimson. He gave a shuddering gasp, then fell to his knees, Pale merely yanked the knife out from his gut, and was about to slam the blade into his carotid artery to finish him off when someone grabbed her from behind, stopping her. Pale's heart skipped a beat, and she very nearly rounded on whoever it was before Kayla's voice met her ears.
"Don't. There's been enough death for now."
Pale paused, then chanced a look back. Kayla was standing there, her eyes wide and dull as she shivered, her outfit covered in dirt and blood, none of it her own. She pulled her hand off Pale's, bringing it around to huddle herself. Pale stared at her for a moment, then looked back up at the cliff's edge where she'd been left.
Several bodies, charred beyond the point of recognition and still smoking, marked a trail up to Kayla's side.
Reluctantly, Pale pursed her lips, then nodded, sheathing her knife. "...Fine. But if we're keeping him alive, then I'm going to find out what he knows before we turn him loose. I think it's time we got some answers from someone."
Kayla's only response was to wordlessly nod.

Special thanks to my good friend and co-writer, Ickbard for the help with writing this story.

I (23F) have been dating 25M for 10 months now. I am so scared I am going to sabotage this relationship because of my insecurities. I am just comparing myself endlessly with his ex-gf and his ex-FWB.. There are multiple things that bother me, I''ll try to list them:
It’s almost like I want to make myself feel anxious and insecure. Information, pictures or texts that I've found through lurking (which I try to stop doing) hurts my feelings but have burned themselves into my head. (1) For example, the summer we started dating he was frequently liking his ex-FWB pictures on IG - some revealing, some not - last one he liked was from a couple of months back, a very revealing one where she had taken a picture from above, angle looking into her tanktop, her tongue was out, nipple piercings visable through her shirt, very suggestive. Him liking provocative pictures of a woman he used to have sex with makes me uncomfortable. He hasn't done it for months now, but I fear it could return around summer when she wears revealing outfits again.
(2) I've also recently realized in a group chat with his friends he added me to, you can look back at messages before you were in the GC. That led me to look way back and see some things from months before we started dating, that still bothers me. Messages about his ex-FWB, how hot she is, how hot it is that she is a masochist (I'm not one), etc. I even saw pictures he had shared in the GC of many, many nudes she had sent him and pictures he took while they were having sex, in many different positions (with her consent, she's into it). It bothers me it looks to be using the same BDSM equipment he uses on me, the same positions he likes me in, etc. It makes me paranoid he's thinking about her when he's having sex with me. From the pictures it was apparent she is more sexually confident than I am, which makes sense given she has a much bigger sexual history than I do, he only just took my virginity, but still, it makes me scared he wishes I was more like her. This thoughts show up in my head almost any time we do anything sexual together, it's horrible and obviously makes it very hard to be fully there and enjoy it
(3) I also saw a message he sent in the GC 8 days after him and I had met: “I asked \ex-fwb* if she wanted to fuck just now, she's online she’s ignoring me lol”.* This was 8 days after we met, 8 days after he sent a message to that same GC about how he met a cute girl and he thinks that she likes him (me). We weren't official, didn't become so until 5 days after he sent that ex-fwb message, but still, it kind of hurts he wishes to hook up with her once more even after we had met, we had had our first date at that point. Especially also because he has told me multiple times that having sex with her reassured him that sex just as a means to get off wasn't for him, and that it was the emotional intimacy that made it important to him, he said he didn’t even enjoy it, wasn’t even attracted to her body type, etc…. yet he wanted to do it again? I fear he lied to me.
(4) There were also some messages from the past about his ex. He send various different texts various different occasions about how he loves how extremely outgoing and sociable she is and that they can have such intelligent discussions. I feel like him and I never discuss things back and forth. I also am very, very much the opposite of "sociable", I am very quiet and subdued, I like to observe more than anything and talking to strangers makes me nervous. He also send a comment about how his ex, at the time when they were dating, had "perfect big boobs", which makes me insecure since mine are much more on the smaller side.
This is me being insecure. I am aware of that, fully. I want to fix it. I am in queue for therapy, but for now I’m doing my best with what I can do. It is absolutely exhausting, the way everything makes me second guess myself. I've never felt as insecure as I do now. I've considered breaking up multiple times, even though I love him and really can see myself having a family with him in the future, just because it is so draining and I feel much more insecure now than I ever did before we were dating. The little insecurity that I do show him willingly, he will go on to reassure me a ton.. he's very loving, supportive and reassuring that he loves me for how I am, he's called me more attractive, trustworthy, more compatible, etc, that any girl he had a relationship with before, so it's not as if he is trying to make me insecure or anything. It's all in my head. How do I improve from this? ANY advice appreciated x

Hello! My name is Charlie and I’m from the great state of Michigan! I’m looking for some new long-term friends, doesn’t matter if you’re near me or not. I’ll keep it short, so here’s a bit about me:
I work in the auto industry and travel a bit for my job, mostly around Indiana, Ohio, and Michigan. I have been out of school for two years and was a business major.
I am a casual, mostly single player gamer but I am open to playing games together! I love racing games, rpgs, strategy games, and Paradox history games. I play on PS5 and PC!
I also love watching tv and movies, or YouTube. I’m a big music fan, love taking walks or hikes and just enjoying nature, taking drives, trying new food, going to museums, history, politics, NFL and college football, and Formula 1!
I’m a bit introverted but once I’m comfortable with people I can be a real chatterbox. I think I have a good sense of humor and am decently smart, as well as kind and very honest.
I’m open to things become romantic if we connect really well, but my main focus is making friends! The best relationships come from strong friendships anyway.
I’d love to get to know you, especially if we have things in common! Please don’t be shy and hmu with a short introduction about you!
Hope you have a nice day :)

A very fed up soldier here.
Barracks roommate sent me a text:
“Hey man, you going back soon?”
When I got to the barracks, my roommate broke down crying, overwhelmed with a lot of things (family and marriage), but his toxic NCO was the last straw that pushed him to his limit.
He’s in his mid-20s. Instead of resorting to one of the millions of bad choices out there, he just cried it out and carried on. It was heartbreaking to see, and it made me think of where I am right now.
I know the Air Force is better than the Army when it comes to quality of life and… dang, I guess everything, but how are your NCOs? I’m interested in your stories, good and bad.

I have this childhood bestfriend who got married last January. I know their story. Like how it all started, as i was their bridge. I was their consultant. I was ok with all the dramas. Im close to her husband also so they keep me posted with their ups and downs. I just keep my lines open whenever they need me. So when they decided to get married Im THE MAID OF HONOR(literal na maid). Motif.,Dress code, Venue, Reception, Etc.Big and small details she would ask me.She would ask for help whenever she needs to and i find time to help even after work. During the event i was so busy helping her with her gown, helping bridesmaids gowns, grooms mens attires, and assisting guest. I didn't even find time to eat during the program coz i have to run here and their. Even i got headache because of exhaustion and lack of sleep and without food for the whole day I was their entertaining guest until they ended the celebration with thank you for relatives, coordinators guests and all. When i got home its 3am. Didn't had the chance to change cloths went to bed and passed out. The next day I was absent. Headache still their with bodypain. I had to sleep the whole day. Days pass nothing from her. From time to time she would send me a message asking for something beneficial to her. Like the weddings done, am im still your maid? Somehow i got tired of her. Until this sentiment i have has grown. Don't i deserve a simple thank you? I mean i did all those things bec. i want to help but at least say Thank you. I don't know if im being reasonable but I feel like I should've said no with all those request so I wouldn't expect even a simple thank you from her. Didn't she appreciates it? It hurts😅

Despite Kelly’s early internet song and her shoes, I strongly disagree. I’ve been stuck in bed with a cold, and watching too much Dateline. So many murders occur when a woman tries to leave her partner.
Trust your gut, and if you have any sort of feeling a guy may harm you, take as many steps as you can to assure a safe breakup. Bring a friend, do it in public, send a text. It’s not cowardly, it’s self preservation.
I look back at my last relationship, he got wasted and started texting awful things, so I responded via text saying we’re done. I felt like I took the easy way out. But if I had let him into my house to have “the talk” there’s a good chance I’d be one of these episodes. Stay safe out there.

I (34 F) have this friend of 5 years (51 M) and we’ve been through a lot together. It’s important to note that we have dated off and on, at times just being FWB, and generally our relationship is muddied by being a sort of complicated situationship. But I let him know I’d rather just be friends, because his requirements for a gf are just too high, and imo both our lives are too unstable, and we fight too much (I’ve barely ever gotten into actual fights before I met him).
Earlier this year I moved a few hours away to a very remote place. It’s basically off the grid and due to a natural disaster, residents literally have to take a scheduled convoy just to get in or out of our home. There’s also no phone service there, however there is wi-fi. But the Wi-Fi does not reach my residence so if I need to text or use the internet I must walk through the woods to the community area. It was difficult at first but I’m used to it now, and actually benefit from limited tech access.
At first my friend seemed to understand these restraints, and knew I’d be in contact less often. Even so, I’m pretty good about messaging him daily.
Last Saturday I was able to call him on the phone, and we had a great conversation that lasted maybe 3 hours before we went to sleep. The next day I woke up and got to work. While I’m working I go in and out of the Wi-Fi area so occasionally check my phone but can’t always respond to whatever. I guess he texted me good morning, and I must have opened it bc he said it was on “read” since the morning, but I honestly forgot and kept going about my work day. I then crashed a few hours at home.
When I finally sent him a message back that evening he was PISSED at me. He said if I couldn’t even respond to one message, then I’m a shit friend and don’t care about him. I said that’s ridiculous because we just spoke for 3 hours the night before. He said leaving him on read was purposefully ignoring him and he deserves better from me. He said it makes me cold and petty, and this is not what a functional friendship looks like. I told him he’s not my boyfriend, and frankly I don’t owe him daily contact, but even then I talk to him like 10x more than anyone else in my life. He responded that our situation is “different” and he gets hurt when I take “forever” to get back. He also tried saying it’s a safety thing, that I could be dead or hurt, but I mean, not even my own mother needs me to check in that much, and it’s not like he lives close enough to help in an emergency.
Now he’s making it a deal breaker and says we might as well not be friends at all if I’m acting this way and not apologizing. Am I crazy for believing I did nothing wrong? I feel like he’s gaslighting me into thinking real friends must immediately respond all the time, even with clear restraints. I had no ill intentions, I was just distracted. I’m not going to apologize for that. I know people might say he’s trying to blur the lines between a relationship and friendship, which is true but I also treasure him as a friend and he’s been there for me through rough times. He has a history of needing to be right btw, and he has a few former friends who have labeled him a narcissist, though I wouldn’t go that far. I just want to make sure I’m not actually the wrong one here?

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Well after the strangest interaction with my partner I decided to leave public accounting for good.
During a one on one meeting with my partner I decided to bring up her call last week.
Please see a rough sketch of the conversation below:
Me: While we still have time I'd like to discuss the call we had last week. I would like to know what prompted it.
Her: [Manager] said not a lot of progress was made on [audits] and I wanted to make sure you had your priorities right.
Me: Okay. I was surprised by the call because I thought we had discussed my workload earlier in the week and I thought we were on the same page. I would have liked a heads up about the topic of the call because I wasn't expected to be told to rearrange my schedule.
Her: It's not always possible to give someone a heads up. Think about it, if we were in the office and I asked you to stop by my office you wouldn't know what it was about.
(Context: She is NEVER in the office. Like honestly maybe once a month if that)
Me: Okay....
I didn't really know what to say? I guess she doesn't think/remember speaking to me coarsely last week but it was quite jarring. What she said was also a non-sequitur. But we are communicating remotely so why does an in office example matter??
Later I tried to end the meeting on a positive note
Me: I think I'm making good progress on [audits]. I caught numerous errors in the prior files [goes on to list major important items missed]. I also am trying to improve referencing because I found somethings confusing and want to make reviewing easier and easier to follow for whoever works on the audits next her.
Her: Make sure you're mindful of the budgets. Don't let improvements take up too much time. We are way over budget on [main audit client, which we were not currently discussing]. Maybe save some improvements for after the audit, not everything needs to be perfect.
Me: Okay....
Guys, I'm not talking about formatting and making things neat. I'm talking about there literally being NO documentation in the prior year binder for some very important footnotes, footnotes being completely wrong, and trying to make testing easier. This current project has unique testing and the documentation was so poor that my staff was struggling to follow how to complete testing. Also, the client she referenced has NEVER been on budget in the entire life of the portfolio. She intentionally underbids on the audits and then acts like surprised pikachu ever year when it's never on budget.
Conclusion: I have made my peace with being done with public accounting. I polished my resume, connected with some recruiters. I'm going to hold out for my summer bonus and then see what else is out there. I am NVER working a 60+ hour week ever again in my life. I feel so relaxed already. Once I realized things would never be good enough, I feel that it is so easy to move on.
TL;DR: I'm done drinking the kool-aid. I'm ready to exit public accounting. I'll post another update once I land a new gig.

I (12F) and my sister (14F) want our own rooms. We are sharing a room with our little siblings (10F and 8M) and they are…chaotic and NEED their own room. There is 2 empty rooms downstairs that are the same size. I and my sister have told our parents we want our own room because they are just too chaotic to share a room with. Our parents parents have shut us down multiple times saying that we don’t need our own rooms and that our siblings are too young. And I do believe that’s true but I think he need his own space, I think we all need our own space. There is enough rooms for everyone to have their own room. My dad told us that no one was gonna get their own room because we are girls, he supported this by saying all you girls do is sneak out of your rooms, and you two might sneak out of your rooms. Me and my sister have never left the house. We are just too scared to suffer the consequences of our dad. TBH we are all scared of our dad but that’s not the point. And I don’t think we EVER will gave up a chance to get sleep. But since my sister is gonna start high school soon and I’ll start in like 2 years? (I’m in 7th and schools about to end ) I think we just need our own rooms. So do you think we should convince my parents to let us have our own and and please comment how. Or we just need to let the subject go and just never bring the subject of having our own rooms. Also can you all wish me an early happy birthday? It’s in a month and hopefully no one forgets, but if they do I’ll just go here and see all the happy early birthday. Thank you for reading this and have a nice rest of your day (also first time doing this hopefully it doesn’t end up somewhere else)

So I've been playing for a little bit and I found some things that I've discovered along the ways that are never in any type of guide. Figured I could share it with you all, most of it is probably common knowledge at this point, but maybe it helps a newbie. These aren't too advanced, I'm not going to talk about diminishing returns on protections or things like that:

1. Some prefixes on the weapons work without you firing the weapon. For example, Instigating. If you have instigating weapon equipped and you throw a grenade, it benefits from the instigating prefix. Vampire prefix works as well. If you have Ricochete equipped and vampire prefix, the ricochettes heal you. I don't know if others do, those are the 2 I know for sure do.
   
2. There is no penalty like dropping junk if you die in an event. If you are in a big event where you continue to mainline stimpacks, it might be better for you to just die. I know you want to help but you're basically killing your future self by going through all your stimpacks while others can pick up the slack. Of course ymmv on that, because stims are easy to come by. To each their own on that. Just know dying during an event isn't the biggest of deals. I am talking about world events.
   
3. When they say prepare during events, you can prepare. Like for example, you can equip your lock pick perks and run around and open the jail cells in most wanted, then unequip. You will now have open cells when the event starts. Again, not a big deal, but you can prepare.
   
4. Shoot assualtrons and the protectors in the legs. Makes them a cake walk.
   
5. I've read here that if you are encumbered you can go into an expedition and then come back out at Whitespring, but I haven't been able to make that work yet. But if you can, saves a long journey with weighted down bags.
   
6. Adding - or something to the weapons you use can keep you from trashing it by mistake.
   
7. You can create BULK Junk and then scrap it to complete daily challenges like Scrap 15 items to make Ceramic and other types of junk. No need to run around find stuff you already have. Make a bulk pile at the tinkerer bench and then scrap it.
   
8. You have a limit on your builds, but some things take up bigger parts of the allotments than others. Like turrets take up a lot of your budget. Crops too. If you want to have a crops, stick with minimum OR created a second C.A.M.P. just for that. Speaking of second C.A.M.P. s.
   
9. You get 2 free C.A.M.P spots. You don't have to buy a second, just to have a different type of camp.
   
10. And last but not least, if you are looking for your SCORE challenges, open your map and look in the top right. A lot of people I know have had a hard time finding their challenges and just complete then organically.
    

Thanks for reading. I know most of these are probably known, but when I started I went to a bunch of videos about beginner tips and nobody ever mentioned these things.

(link to app intentionally excluded per self-promotion policies, this isn't that kind of post)
I often find that my voice is faster than my typing, but I've been really frustrated with Siri/Apple's transcriptions and a few of the other products on the market felt overbuilt for my exact workflow: say something to put it into copyable text on my desktop. This was built in the most minimal way possible for that outcome - you log in, record a voice note, get a transcription. To make it a little more useful, I wanted to add summarization, grammatical formatting, and translation.
The problem? I don’t know how to code. I have only built one website ever in my life (also via LLM coding). I write SQL for my day job, but am familiar with Replit and some technical aspects of web development, but I have never formally learned to code. This was an experiment in trying to test the boundaries of LLMs, and it gave me a great lens into the near future of better LLMs and coding tools.
How I built this:
This started when I saw an open-source app drop on Twitter (NotesGPT) - I liked the app, but I hated the action items workflow and thought it was a little clunky. Then, I wondered if I could create something of my own to play with. So I of course went to chatGPT and asked how. The very short summary:

• Import the existing open source project (https://github.com/Nutlope/notesGPT) into Replit (I had to ask ChatGPT how, but its basically a shell command -- go from there)
• Follow the steps in the ReadMe: https://github.com/Nutlope/notesGPT?tab=readme-ov-file#deploy-your-own
• Create a list of the changes that I wanted to make, and move down the checklist one frustrating step at a time
  • I started with frontend edits of text, color, etc
  • Backend changes were harder - I learned a ton by copy/pasting documentation to parse it for me

In the backend, it is using

• Clerk for Authentication
• Convex for the backend
• Replit for hosting,
• NextJS with Tailwind for the language
• Together and Replicate for LLM API calls to:
  • IncrediblyFastWhisper for the transcription
  • Mixtral for title, summarization, and translation

I checked the number of versions of files, and I made somewhere over 500 deploys to get to the final product - it was a lot of nights/weekends hacking.
What I learned
I would say this experiment was successful for the intended purpose of being able to create an app I really wanted and we are at the frontier of non technical people being able to unlock programming/life customization in a way that I hadn't realized before. A few specific observations:

1. End to end building is empowering -- Knowing the core architecture here of how Auth providing some service, I am pretty confident I can self-build an MVP of most the other app ideas I’ve had. I am not trying to be an expert, but this unlocks a new way of thinking for me as I’ve run into problems and I now see the power of being a developer in a way I haven’t before - an end to
2. this took me about a month of free time - probably 20-30 hours of nights/weekend work? Might have taken me a shorter time period if I had setup a local chat with APIs instead of running into usage limits, but it was helpful to have breaks forced upon me
3. Claude Opus launching largely enabled this project to be possible and is clearly a technical step forward with LLMs - chatGPT 4 had been struggling, and regularly re-wrote major pieces of the code. GPT-4-Turbo launched in ChatGPT and that was a noticable improvement in reasoning, but still lazy on writing full blocks of code (which I needed to be able to edit what I wanted. ). Right before wrapping up, ChatGPT4o came out and I can definitively say Claude is still better at Coding
4. Claude also has way better UX for regular use - fastesmoother. But the web limits on messages sucked
5. The things LLM struggled with the most was frontend <> backend connection. When just doing things in either, it excelleced (frontend was probably more straightforward / more available training data, so it was almost 100% accurate vs backend hitting typescript errors regularly)
6. This may seem simple, but I had no idea how approachable it is to actually purchase a domain and put up a website. I assumed there was some alchemy, but it turns out its just putting the right variables in the right tools and it just works — the internet is awesome
7. The ecosystem of tools for this sort of thing is great right now - Replit + Together + Replicate + Clerk + Convex were all super easy to pick up as someone not that technical.
8. This cost in total $200 - about $100 for replit/claude/chatgpt subscriptions, most of the rest for domain. Marginal cost of hundreds of voice notes I tested with is closer to 0 than $0.01

This is my first Reddit post, so I hope I did it correctly. I am a 20 year old female, I was diagnosed with ADHD as a child and recently also diagnosed with BPD and Depression. I’ve been struggling my whole life ( even with my education because I also have dyslexia ). I feel like I am never getting a break because every time I fix an issue in my life another one comes to light. I feel like I can’t have a peaceful life and that’s the only thing I need. It has recently been brought up to me that I also have issue with delusion, and i don’t quite understand how it works. I believe with every bone in my body that something happened or that i have said something but everyone around me or that is involved would tell me otherwise causing us to have huge arguments. An example of this is recently me and my partner where our for lunch and i had upset them, knowing that upset them i apologize and said sorry, later that night we got into a huge argument because they said that i didn’t apologize, even thought i genuinely believe i did, but they said that they were very focused on everything i was saying. This is not the first or last time something very similar to this happened, it even happens with family. I used to go to a psychiatrist but haven’t gone in a while because the waiting list has gotten to long and the only doctor i feel comfortable with won’t be available for a couple months. i would like your knowledge and opinion on that’s going on please.

I am revving up to buy my first firearm. I have landed on these two as the front runners based on balanced specs, reliability, cost, and after watching many youtube "Top whatever" lists and reading through the comments.
I'm going to go to a range and rent these to see about the feel and chemistry in the next couple days.
But I want to see what y'all have to say. Things I should pay attention to? Am I missing an incredible option that's in the same class as these? I should add that I'm looking at getting optics-ready versions and I'm hoping to avoid becoming a full on collector so trying my best to get one that I can practice with, and carry, and get to know very well over the next few months without having to trade/buy another model.
Thanks!

Hello,
I've known my friend that i'll call C for almost 10 years now. One of her closest friend is also my best friend that i'll call L (we've both known him for almost 6 years now). C and L are both psychology students .
Barely more than a month ago, C met a guy i'll call K. He's also a psychology student in the same class as C and L. It was an instant crush. They were head over heels for each other.
The first few times I and/or L met K, everything was fine. However, the more time passed, the more K showed sign of bad jealousy. Now keep in mind L is a 100% gay dude with a boyfriend.
One of the first signs of jealousy was when K and L were over at C's appartment. C's appartment is quite big and she has a guest room were L often crashed during exam seasons to study with C. That time, K put some if his stuff in the guest room and L very obviously jokingly said "You're stealing my room😩?". K didn't show it immediately but threw a temper tantrum at C after because of that.
On another occasion, L talked with K about various things but some were about his friendship with C and things that happened in the past. They ended the conversation on a positive note saying they could maybe do some activities together without C as friends. K then went on and said to C that L confided to him that he was jealous of their relationship and basically nothing else during that conversation (???).
The worst happened during a night out between K, C and L and a random ass friend of K that i'll call R. They were out in the pub and everyone was a bit drunk except C that was apparently a bit more drunk than the others. At some point the discussion turned to the subject of L's current boyfriend. He is a recovering addict and is currently totally clean as of 6 months. He has some flaws but the fact he is an ex addict isn't one of them. Well for some fucking reason, C, K and R started absolutely trashing L's bf for the fact he is an ex addict (no other reasons). Psychology students btw.
Then at some point they were talking about studying for exams and L mentionned how smart C was because she always payed attention in each and every class and help him. For some reason C took it as something you shouldn't say out loud and asked L to not say it again (as if it was some kind of insult?). L thought she was weirdly joking and repeated just for C to act suddenly ultra sad, K to act like a white knight and berate him and R to borderline cry about how it was oh so terrible to grow up with everybody around you saying how smart you are(?????????????).
Near the end of the night out, C started having an "anxiety attack" and claiming that hers and L's relationship was toxic and that L was "emotionally dependent" on her. That she ALWAYS helped L and was always stressing about him. And while she helped him during the past years, it was things good friends do such as being emotionally there when a friend goes throu gh a bad breakup or help for studying (nothing hardcore like paying for things or sheltering for long periods of time for example). When L said he'll just go if he was her anxiety attacks trigger she said that if he left she'll "just feel remorseful about him once again". So he had to spend one more hour with C and K with K berating him for stressing her out and at one point had to wait 30 minutes in the cold while K and C were in K's apartment.
L was obviously in shock at how this night went and had a falling out with C the days right after. At the end they made up but C still didn't recognize a lot of things and defended a lot her bf (of barely one month btw).
During that small "peace period" L went over to C's apartment for studying and K had an anxiety meltdown because L was over and would be spending the night with her.
Some days after, right after exams they hung out and talked about how to apply their classes to their real life problems and people they knew. Mind you, K (and sometimes C) told L a good dozen of different ways that he was an emotional manipulator and psycho analyzed him during C's "anxiety attack" during their night out without really any substance behind all that. C said that K was probably the best person to apply their classes IRL. L just replied that he didn't share the sentiment. C and K didn't say anything right after but this made K have a meltdown off screen.
Then C spammed L the day right after accusing him of doing this out of spite and being immature for not accepting K's apologies (K apologies = C apologizing on his behalf for some things he said). It happened to also be on L's birthday... L refused to deal with any of this anymore especially on his birthday and just said it was better for him and C to stop talking and that he'll give her back some stuff he had at his apartment. This somehow escalated and K's sent vaguely threatening voice texts to L.
I skipped over a few things but this behavior is kinda unusual for C, especially claiming wild ass things out of nowhere about someone who's very close to her like that and also she uses some expressions we never heard her use before during those arguments. And while I don't really appear in this story 1. I'll probably have to act as a mediator in the very near future

1. I don't want to possibly lose a friend I've known since middle school because of some jealous dude that she has known for 1 month at best

Also K said himself once that he was "such a good manipulator" unironically in front of everyone. He's also the kind of dude to call himself a feminist but said "she's a woman, I could easily overpower her" about a girl he mildly disliked.
And after hearing the blatant L abuse and seeing how easily he gets frustrated and jealous and throws tantrums i'm also concerned for C's mental safety in the future.
How can I make her open her eyes when she herself kinda recognized he lied and at least said some hurtful things?
TLDR: C (a friend) and her bf K were weirdly mean to L (another friend). K is very jealous and was found lying about what L told him. He also often throws jealousy tantrums and tantrums in general. Pretty unusual for C to be mean like that to someone she's close with, especially saying out of nowhere their relationship is toxic. Pretty sure K is manipulating C to an extent and seeing how fast it's going I'm scared of losing her as a friend next but I really don't know how to get her to take a step back.

Hello! I want to be upfront and say that I am looking to settle down and start a family sooner than later. I’m getting old and it’s time to get this going! It’s okay if you don’t want kids, but it’s important to me. Relocating may not be in the picture for me right now because of work, but we can figure that out! Are you still around? Oh my gosh, really?? Let’s continue!
Im a tall drink of water who loves to be goofy and try to make people laugh, so if you’re looking for good vibes, I’m here to bring them! I can be awfully nerdy and talk on a lot of things from movies to music to games to even crocheting! I enjoy skating when the weather allows it and seeing what kind of food I can make from scratch. I do the Big Brother program and also work at a school, and they ALWAYS get me sick somehow ugh. I have one pickup line, which is terribly cheesy but kinda cute and funny. Can I use it on you?
Are you a fun type who loves to talk too much? Good sense of humor? Wanting to settle down and have a family as well? Then I’m looking for you, so feel free to send me a dm or chat request! Maybe we can swap selfies and send goofy voice messages?

I live in nyc, on a block with single family homes. So everyone on the block knows each other, but not enough to like go to each others homes. It is more like if we see each other throwing garbage we will say hi and do some small talk.
My neighbor recently got dementia. His wife told me twice that he was sick. Both once on the phone when she called to tell me I have a package in front of my house and once when I saw her while throwing out the trash.
I called twice to ask if I can stop by to see him and figured I would bring some flowers and a card. She said no twice so I thought she doesn’t want any visitors. When she said no the second time, I just said look if you need any help for anything please don’t hesitate to call me any time.
I told my mom and she said that I am too nice and fall over people because I wanted to stop by with some flowers.
So am I too nice? I work from home and live alone, I’m a bit of a hermit so maybe I don’t realize I’m wrong? I just thought that if the neighbor mentioned it twice it was just the right thing to do? They are an old couple and her kids live far from them.

We have been married for 5 years and I’ve just noticed a steady decline of her interest in me after about 2-3 years of marriage. I feel like she is bored of me. Almost as if she will tolerate doing some things here and there with me here and there and doesn’t seem like she actually wants to hang out with me. She takes every chance she gets to go do things with her mom and is always planning stuff with her and makes zero effort to try to plan things with me. I feel like I should not be jealous of her mom and how much they do together. I just recently went on a 6 day trip with my grandfather and when I returned she really wasn’t excited to see me and it was almost like I was just coming home after a day of work. Then the very next day she said she was going to go have dinner at her moms house and that I could come too (I feel like she only invites me so I don’t get upset not because she actually wants me to go) and I told her that I had to get up at 4am for work and wasn’t going to be home until 6pm and that it just wasn’t going to work for me and she still decided she was gonna go. This hurt my feelings pretty bad today because I had communicated to her that she sees her mom all the time and I had just got back from almost a week of not seeing her and just wanted to spend time together and didn’t understand how she doesn’t want to spend time with me and would rather just go to dinner anyway without me. It turned into an argument and she just got a really bad attitude and was just saying that I was trying to make her look bad and I just get mad when I don’t get what I want. It’s very clear to me that she would much rather do many other things instead of hang out with me and it seems like she has much more fun with her mom and seems way happier. We have had many instances like this and I always convey to her how I feel and tell her that we should do more things together and it’s always answered with a bunch of excuses. The most she will ask me to do is take the dog for a 5 min walk down the driveway and then say she is tired and just lays in bed on her phone like I’m not even there. This is an ongoing problem that never gets fixed and leaves me very upset and feeling unwanted and I’m constantly filled with either empty promises or a bad attitude telling me that it’s not all about what I want and I never do anything she wants to do (even though she never asks me to do anything) I’m just very tired of being left upset and unfulfilled in this relationship and I’m lost on what to do. It really feels like she is content just living with me almost like we are roommates and doesn’t want to go through the hassle of divorce and finding a new place to live and we also have 3 pets together and a LOT of stuff. I do not want to leave her but I feel like I’m wasting time. I’m lost on what to do at this point.