My long distance partner and I (in our 30s) have been together just under a year. The last few months he’s been going through a lot of stress with family and work and has become a shell of himself. He shuts down and can’t tell me what he wants or needs from me, but wants to keep trying to make this work. Every visit the last few months have been because I have suggested/organised it, and things have gotten so bad for him he can’t even speak to me on the phone anymore. It’s been over 3 weeks since we last spoke. I had so much empathy and patience for a long time, but I’m really embarrassed to admit that I completely snapped a few weeks ago. I gave him ultimatums that I need some warmth and affection and to feel wanted or chosen, otherwise I needed to leave. There were a lot of disagreements and now I’m not sure if things are repairable, as much as I want them to be. I know I put too much pressure on him and I’m scared there’s no coming back from that. I try and ask him how I can help or what we needs and I just get ‘I don’t know’ back. He’s completely closed off from me now and doesn’t feel comfortable discussing his mental health with me after the disagreements. Messages I send left on read, and questions get ignored. I just don’t know if/how I can support him, or if this relationship is dying a slow death. To my knowledge I haven’t known anyone with bpd before and I’m really scared he’s splitting, but he doesn’t feel comfortable discussing his bpd with me so I can’t ask him. I’m so lost, I love him so much and we had the perfect relationship - I just want to help him but I don’t know how or if I even can

Hello everyone I hope you are all having a good day, to tell you the truth I am struggling alot right now. To put simply I just feel completely burnt out from my relationship, and I feel so on edge all the time worrying about it and my girlfriend who I do love.
Too add context I have been dating my GF for about 7 months now (but we have known eachother for 2 years now) and we have predominantly been a long distance relationship. She has significant trauma from childhood in the foster system as well as from her past relationship which was extremely abusive, as well as a severe heart condition (which has necessitated in me performing CPR on her numerous times). I care about her alot and I want to help her overcome her past and be a better person, but too be frank I don’t know if I can continue to support her without completely falling apart myself.
Likewise her past has led to her to develop some traits that are a little off putting such as having “no filter” which has definitely contributed to some hurtful things being said towards me during arguments as well as leading her to be a little lacking in empathy and trust especially towards individuals of the opposite sex to me. Likewise she is a little needy requiring me to spend hours of every night on facetime with her, the problem is we generally aren’t talking as she is scrolling through tik tok generally.
I am trying my best to help her as much as I can and I know she loves me so much, and does appreciate me, even if she doesn’t show it sometimes. My problem is everytime I check my phone to respond to a problem she is having or hear about so and so upset her I just feel more and more drained. The fact that I know 40-60% of the phone calls I have with her will end with me in a worse mood then when I answered. Then I have my own issues too and sometimes her lack of empathy, or when she points out something she has experienced is worst it just feels like my experiences aren’t valid. I feel trapped, I don’t get to spend as much time with friends or just generally socializing with people (she is very wary of strangers because of her past) including my family. Or I’ll be doing something that brings me joy like playing with my younger siblings or my favorite video game and she’ll make a comment about how much she wishes she had that dynamic with her sibling (who mostly just puts her down when he isn’t ignoring her) or how she doesn’t like whatever I’m playing.
Additionally she has some of the most toxic friends I have come to know and they would have never entered my life prior. Often with their drama effecting our relationship because she is pissed off that someone did x or y to her friend and ends up taking it out on me. Which there is a good chance when she is mad she’ll accidentally snap at me, so that leads me to basically just trying to figure out what she wants to hear. Then other things will go wrong such as her adoptive parents being overbearing and emotionally abusive with me feeling completely powerless to stop it. In one instance her parents were pestering her about how she is overweight (which she definitely is not, and is actually closer to underweight) and despite how much I tried too help boost her confidence she has ended up skipping meals and tracking her weight as she has made clear to let me know she is. That has honestly just made me feel like I failed to help her.
I have honestly let her get away with saying and doing things that have really hurt me that were it anyone else I would of ended the relationship, but I gave her the benefit of the doubt because of her past. I just feel trapped in my relationship and honestly I am feeling alot of the symptoms associated with compassion fatigue as I feel like a therapist when I am not at all. More then anything I’m terrified that if I leave she’ll hurt herself, and if I bring up my issues I’m having now that’ll hurt her and she’ll probably do something to hurt me to get back at me the next time we fight. Too make matters worse I am storing my car with her as she lives close too my college since my home state is too far for me to drive it back and forth. Am I a selfish asshole for worrying about my mental health when this girl has had it much worse, do I keep giving her the benefit of the doubt because of it? Can I really help someone if I feel like it’s going to destroy me (and no she refuses formal therapy, nor would her adoptive parents allow for it).

Physical Background: I am pretty active (workout doing my knee physical therapy and arm workouts) I walk ~2 miles almost daily. I also usually play soccer - once a week (haven’t since my incident) and I still surf and have been playing pickleball (although my knee hurts after pickleball so I usually take a day off after).
Injury background: I started having knee pain about 2 years ago (July 2022) when I started to play soccer again after not consistently playing since high school (I’m 24 now). Then I had Pattellofemoral disorder of bilateral knees. I did physical therapy and it improved to where I could play soccer again without pain. Then I started slacking on physical therapy. Once I picked soccer back up again (about 6 months ago) - I injured myself. I will put the MRI results below. The doctor said I could get surgery but don’t have to. I’d love some direction as I’m not a doctor and don’t know what this all means. Thanks!
“Results
Impression
FINDINGS/IMPRESSION:
Menisci: There is evidence of mild abnormal radial signal along the anterior horn of the lateral meniscus and tearing in the region of the anterior horn/anterior root is difficult to exclude. Otherwise, there is no significant extrusion of the lateral meniscus. The medial meniscus appears intact without evidence of tearing or extrusion.
Cruciate ligaments: Mild T2 hyperintense signal is noted associated with the fibers of the ACL may represent sprain/partial tearing of the ACL. The PCL appears intact.
MCL/LCL: The medial and lateral collateral ligaments are intact. The iliotibial band appears intact. The popliteus muscle and tendon also appear intact.
Extensor mechanism: There is evidence of T2 hyperintense signal within the central aspect of the proximal patellar tendon, measuring up to 0.5 cm CC x 0.4 cm TV x 0.3 cm AP suggestive of focal tearing within the proximal patellar tendon on a background of tendinosis. The quadriceps tendon appears intact.
Patellofemoral joint: The patellofemoral ligaments are intact. Cartilage and bone marrow signal within the patella and femoral trochlea are normal.
Cartilage and bone: The remainder of the cartilaginous surfaces about the knee joint are normal. There is no abnormal bone marrow signal appreciated. No fractures are seen.
Narrative
CLINICAL HISTORY: Reason: Likely left knee traumatic patella tendonitis with less possibility of medial meniscal tear
COMPARISON: Radiographs from 3/8/2024.”

I would bake anybody here the best lasagna of their life if they could come up with a GUI that has a pane for every active network adapter, and I can drag and drop (or otherwise add) apps to those panes that will force those apps to only use that network adapter. I have been all over the boards, and this is a common enough issue that lots of people have it, but there's not really a good solution. And the solutions that do exist are not super helpful to folks like me who get confused easily in a CLI. I'm dyslexic, and I just need something pretty and simple.
Issue: I have a small unit here with outside access via 1.2.3.x and strictly intranet access via 4.5.6.x. What frustrating for me is that some apps are savvy and some aren't. Some apps are able to say to themselves, "Oh, I can't get what I need on 1.2.3.x. I'll give 4.5.6.x a try."
Some of the apps I like the least actually have that competency. Other much more powerful, industry, or well vetted apps just CANNOT figure out that there are other options. They hit that first network and if they can't get what they need, they fail.
I wish there were a simple, non-fiddly way to say, "Hey, PrismaTastic, you go to this network interface. JoJoDazzler and ParagraphDelight, you go to this interface."
I've been playing with SquidMan, and that's promising but I'm just not getting it set up properly. And I'm lowkey stupid about it as well.
I'm bummed. And venting. And I'd give a lasagna or provide a pack of cigarettes or maybe some other vice to anybody who wants to make a drag-and-drop GUI for this. I'm so bored of Terminal. I tried AI and it wasn't helpful.

Me and my boyfriend have been together since april 1st of this year, this problem is very recent and is still going on; I wanna find out how to stop it before it goes too far. __________________________
Me and my boyfriend have been noticing how people stare at us or laugh while around us, we never really thought about it much until one of my partners shop peer's brought it up that rumors about us are going around about us. Even one of my sisters brought it up to me when I asked and she said that "They have been watching you both since you got together." If I'm being bluntly honest, I want this to be done and end by my own hands and not a teacher's or staff, etc. I knew around last month that students were trying to make my sister hate me, Thankfully it was unsuccessful but it was painstaking and really showed me how heartless students can be just to start drama; they all crave drama and I was now one of the victims. It makes me and my boyfriend very uneasy that we can't hide from the eyes of the students in our school, both of us are very on edge of what can be done to stop all of this. The worst part is that my cousins are known to tell my family all the rumors that go on in that school, and Me and my partner are the main course of those rumors. It's gotten so out of hand that my partners discord messages are being aired out. Mind you, My boyfriend is a very nice person and hasn't did anything in middle school and there is rumors that are coming back from middle school. Some people don't know what the hell character development is. I was in math class and saw someone on their iPad and saw a screenshot of my boyfriend's profile on discord, I told my boyfriend immediately who it was and what it was on. I've gotten so caught up in this that, I am starting to take tabs on people who are passing the rumors around. We are both afraid that this will affect our life outside of school, just so people can get a good laugh at us. I've been trying everything I could think of, Ignoring the rumors in hopes that they would go away but I knew they wouldn't because they keep stalking us. My boyfriend has been assaulted by a shop student that told him the rumors, we tried our best to explain the big problem we are both in to him. The rumors are very over exaggerated, they'd say that we were doing inappropriate things in the library and making out in the middle of the hall; we were nowhere close to making out or even doing such a thing in school?
Many times that I had spoke with someone I knew before this, they told me about the said rumors going around. I told them all that it wasn't true at all and its for the most part fabricated, framed even; compared. Knowing most people this generation, most have mental issues and well the people I surround my people also have mental issues; this concludes I also have mental issues but that's not the point. There was one day of the week that these rumors got to me and I had a breakdown. I really want the rumors to end ; How could I get better if this is happening. So focused on these stressors that I might not be able to finish high school.

I wanted to share my experience with the entire Carvana package now that our car is paid off and all monetary transactions with them are over.
This will get long, as it started in 2019.
We bought our 17' Rogue from Carvana in April of 2019. I was researching vehicles for close to 3 months before finally pulling the trigger on this particular model. It was about 34k miles, 2.5 years old, located in Illinois. I liked the geographic area for chances the vehicle hadn't seen a lot of snow for the first 2 years of it life as Carfax activity showed it was most likely in the southern part of the state.
I also chose this specific Rogue as the VIN indicated the vehicle was made in South Korea, as opposed to Tennessee. The difference is all Rogues made in South Korea received engines and CVT's from Japan, while US made models had engines from Japan or US, and CVT's from Mexico which was a no go for me. I will also go one more and state Korean labor for assembly is far more disciplined than what you find in the US and especially mexico. Fun fact for those still paying attention - The Nissan Rogue's that have the flat Nissan logo on the grille behind smoked plastic were made in South Korea. They stopped production there in early 2020.
What interested me in Carvana was-

1. Buying a car is the sleaziest most frustrating process from a dealer
   
2. I could hand pick from an inventory of cars across the country willing to pay for delivery
   
3. They offered me 500 dollars off the final price of a car in a letter campaign, as they were still growing
   

I started looking over inventory for a month, and decided to sign up and go for the soft credit pull to see what terms Carvana would offer. I was prequalified for a used car loan through my credit union, so I wanted to see Carvana's terms would be. The loan and term tools were pretty damn cool at the time, you could just jiggle those sliders and almost completely tailor a lending solution to fit your needs.
After the soft credit pull and a single pay stub, Carvana pre-approved me for any car up to 90k, with zero money down. I laughed. Hard. I had decent credit but wasnt going to bury myself.
After I settled down to a few models, I worked through the trade-in portion of the site, and found it was real easy to get a quote to trade in our 2005 Escape XLT which was a great car, but in Ford fashion the frame was rotting away. I had a fair offer for the trade in, described it honestly.
We also opted for the SilverRock warranty. Nissan, CVT, etc.
The big sale!
After watching how quickly some cars came and went early on, I got everything I needed for the trade in. Scan of the title, picture of the milage, car pictures. We were putting 2k down on the car, so the cash was waiting in my account, ready for transfer or cashier check if we were going to go with Carvana final loan offer.
The day I pulled the trigger on our Rogue, the entire process took all of 20 minutes. I was amazed, and honestly thought at the time "This should be illegal for how easy that was".
The offer for Carvana finance was within a couple tenths of my credit union, so I opted to simplify the process and go with them. Carvana performed a hard pull on my credit, confirmed the terms, and required confirmation from my bank that the money for deposit was in my account. I provided my bank login credentials and the process was done in minutes.
I had to provide a copy of my license and items related to the trade in, and it was done, in literally 20 minutes. I wondered if I was making a mistake..
It was an amazing deal, every dealer in the area was selling the same model for well over 2k of what we paid, so the SilverRock warranty was pretty much free after the additional 500 discount off the final price of the car.
Delivery - Trade in!
It was delayed. Twice. Pretty disappointing. Some pretty lame excuses. Honestly I should have expected a reasonable delivery date as the I knew the car I bought was 1500 miles away, but Carvana makes unrealistic delivery promises and is my biggest gripe regarding them.
When delivery day finally came, the Rogue was everything I had hoped it would be. While on the delivery truck I asked to inspect the undercarriage, and the driver was super friendly and allowed me to take my time. I looked it all over, looking for rust, oil leaks, you name it and I found nothing nothing, including nothing suspect like it had been cleaned. It was a 2-ish year old car with light dirt and surface rust where you would expect.
Once the Rogue was unloaded I was free to look it over with a fine comb, pop the hood, check the fluids, look for dents and dings, paint issues, interior issues, you name it. I found nothing major, just some minor things like paint polish slag in small corners and what not. Interior was very clean and detailed.
While I was looking over the Rogue, the delivery driver was loading the trade-in. He took some pictures, verified the mileage, checked the "check engine" light was off and started loading it on his truck.
I live in Massachusetts with very strict license and registration requirements. A few days before the delivery, someone from the Danvers site reached out to me about the registration details. I was transferring the plates from the trade in and they were finalizing the paperwork. I was provided the new registration, and the delivery driver had the new registration in hand so we could just put the plates on the Rogue and be ready to roll.
I took the Rogue for a 20 minute test drive, signed off on the purchase and trade. Driver headed off with the trade in and that was it. Carvana never called or questioned what they gave me for the trade.
Post delivery!
The very next day I brought the Rogue to work, I work in transportation/logistics and my site has ASE mechanics that I know very well. I asked him to go over the Rogue with the white glove and let me know if they think anything is wrong, as I have 6 days to return the car. They did so and they didnt find anything, just amazed at how clean the undercarriage, engine, and fluids were.
If I didn't have access to an ASE certified mechanic in this situation that I really trusted, I would have paid for a purchase inspection from a Nissan dealer. I did pay for the trusted inspection, just not in dollars lol.
After the personal vehicle inspection, my wife and I took off for a long weekend road trip roaming the White mountains of New Hampshire. Three days across many miles that easily blew out the initial vehicle 7 day warranty mileage. The Rogue was amazing through the mountains getting a ridiculous 30mpg through the entire trip. I wasn't concerned as people I trust cleared the car, and I also had the SilverRock warranty to cover the rest..
Speaking of warranty..
SilverRock!
The first, and pretty much only issue with the Rogue, was at about 48k miles. Massachusetts has a comprehensive yearly vehicle inspection program. At about 48k miles, the Rogue failed inspection for a bad inner tie rod, passenger side. Contacted SilverRock, and they gave me the local network shop here in Massachusetts, Monro.Monro is a regional repair shop here in MA with many locations. I take the Rogue to them and they diagnose that indeed the passenger side inner tie rod has gone bad. Repair tech states he has never seen one go bad on a Nissan at the current mileage.
The service manager starts looking around for the parts, called about 5 places, then calls a Nissan dealer. The Nissan dealer informs him the inner tie rod is not available for the 17, the only way to to repair the defect is replace the entire electric steering rack which comes with the inner and outer tie rods complete.
I call SilverRock with the service manager. I provide my name and vehicle make, SilverRock knows who I am right away. SilverRock rep asks whats wrong, service manager laid it down. SilverRock rep transfers us to a manager, manager asked about a few more details and then asked the service manager of Monro to send the estimate.
I get a call from the manager of Monro the next day, he said he went back and forth with SilverRock for about 20 minutes and got the entire job covered, throwing in a free front end alignment, for 1500 dollars using a genuine Nissan OEM steering rack.
SilverRock paid everything but the 100 dollar deductible. I picked up the Rogue 2 days later, paid 100, and went back for inspection. It passed.
Anyone reading this that knows about car repair, an inner tie rod costs maybe 150 dollars OEM. The fact it wasn't available and they had to replace the entire rack was absurd, yet they did it with a new OEM rack. At the time SilverRock could have required a rack used from a salvage yard, but they didn't.
I have nothing but positive things to say about SilverRock.
Bridgecrest!!
The silent partner.
I have NEVER spoken to someone at Bridgecrest. I have never called them. They have never called me.
I have NEVER emailed Bridgecrest. They have emailed me every single month for the life of my loan, after making a payment.
They fronted me the money, and expected it back. I paid it back, as expected. On time.
5 stars, and they will return the favor on my credit now that the loan is clear.
WHY YOUR MILEAGE MAY VARY
Do your homework - buying a car is a capital investment in your future that loses money. You need a car to be reliable for your job, your family, your life. You need to spend money on a regular basis to keep that car reliable, on top of your car payment.
Know your budget - Dont fall for finance traps. Only buy what you can comfortably afford, again, owning a car costs you more money than what's on the final loan payment.
Get your car inspected ASAP - Pay a dealer for a purchase inspection. Schedule it ahead of time. Inform Carvana of the issues within 3 days of delivery and ask them to pick up the car. Carvana will make the car right, as they dont want to take the car back from qualified buyers. Keep on top of them until the car is what was expected.
Why Carvana may be bad for you
You have bad credit - Better know what you are signing on for. The majority of complaints in this sub are from people that have bad credit, cant read, and cant learn from past mistakes. Thats a personal problem, not a Carvana problem.
Closing
Aside from some delays in delivery, We have had an amazing 5 year journey with Carvana and associated companies. Our Rogue is now at over 100k miles and still drives and looks like new. We perform all maintenance as required, without question.
Living in MA, the last 5 years our Rogue has taken us thousands of miles over the White Mountains of New Hampshire, all through the Mountains of Maine, and multiple trips to Canada to visit the iconic Niagara Falls.
My wife travels every day for work, and the Rogue is her daily driver putting 3k miles on the clock every 2.5 months. We change the oil every 3k miles, perform the required CVT services at the dealer, and keep the tires rotated every 8K.
The tires that came on the Rogue from Carvana were in fact new, but the kind of tires that have a 30k mile treadwear warranty. The first snowy New England day we slipped through a stop sign in light snow, the next week we replaced the tires all around with BF Goodrich Advantage TA sport tires and the Rogue has been amazing in the snow ever since.
After getting our Rogue, my coworker was so impressed he bought not 1, but 2 cars from Carvana. Bastard got both cars delivered on time, on the same day, from different parts of the country.. I was so jealous lol. His cars had some minor issues, but Carvana took car of them.
My daughter bought a Nissan as well from Carvana. It had a few front end issues, but ultimately was taken care of through constant communication with Carvana during the 7 day test drive.
Will I use Carvana again? Yes.
Will it be soon? Not really.
Our other car is a Hyundai and running strong.
Hope some of my diatribe will be useful to anyone considering Carvana as usually is all bad mouth drival posted here.

Okay, so I have a cousin who's a little bit of a wild child in my very vanilla family.
When we were kids, we hung out a lot even though there was an age-gap. As a kid, I thought she was so cool. But now as an adult I'm like... wait, why was a 16 year old besties with a 10 year old?
Anyway, the issue came a few years ago when I was 16 and she was 22.
My older sister had a wedding and my cousin balked at what everyone was meant to wear (pastels for girls as it was a spring wedding). Suits for the boys. I also hated the rules because I hated everything girly. My little rebellion was to wear black leggings under my lavender dress
My cousin's was to dye her chin length hair purple, moose it into a swoop, wear a purple vest suit with a yellow tie, and then wear white-pale foundation and bright red lipstick. It was worst clash of colors ever.
Honestly... I don't remember a lot of fall out other than a lot of side-eye. At the time I was disappointed it didn't cause a stir, but now I realize how gracious my sister had been. She didn't make a scene and just let my cousin do her thing.
About 9 months ago, I was at my sister's house and saw a group wedding photo framed on a stairwell. Welp, my sister had done some pretty good photoshopping and color-shifted my cousin's suit and hair to black and made the makeup a natural tone. Because it was a group photo and the camera was pulled back, my cousin looked like a guy with a crappy haircut.
I didn't say anything but honestly, my sister had been just so mature and gracious about the whole thing. I'm embarrassed about my 16 year old self's thoughts about her wedding.
My cousin found out about the photoshop recently and has just been on a tear. She thinks the family is forcefully conforming her and were taking everything special from her. She wants to go limited contact with the family, and only contact them through me.
I told her... look, I'm about the age you were then, and what you did back then was stupid, not funny.
She argued back that I had laughed at the time. Which, I did. We sort of egged each other on, and though I knew she was going to dye her hair, I didn't know she was going to go full custome full of clashing colors. Though had I known, I may not have stopped her. I looked up to her so much and thought she was just awesome all around.
Here's where I may be the asshole. I told her that I did laugh at the time, but now I'm older and realize it was messed up to dress like that for a very traditional wedding. That she made an ass of herself, and that my sister did her a favor by toning down the look in the pictures.
I guess that's made me the enemy now because I haven't heard from my cousin in weeks.
This is so stupid to cut someone off over, but I know she feels like the odd one out in our very bland family.
I don't know, internet. What do you think? Was I in the wrong? Should I reach out?

Visual representation of potential data schemes
Hi all, I am a laboratory manager working on creating a Power App to track chemical inventory for the R&D group of a start-up company. Cash flow is an issue for us, so I'm limited to the tools available through Microsoft365 or free software.
I'm new to Power Apps and have played around enough to think it will probably do everything I need it to, and I can find answers to individual technical questions online. I'm struggling, though, to figure out the best way to organize and store my backend data. From what I can tell so far, SharePoint lists are better than Excel files for this purpose when using Power Apps as a frontend. My company does not pay for Dataverse or SQL licenses.
I will be the primary user of the app and curator of the underlying data, but it is likely other laboratory employees will also use it to find items and log them as they arrive or are consumed. The data I would like the user to be able to see and edit are:
Chemical name Chemical formula CAS# Container size Size units University barcode Company barcode Manufacturer UPC Number in stock Site Room Shelf/Location
These data can be generally organized into the chemical, product, and container categories:
Each chemical has a name, formula, and CAS#. These data go together and never change.
Each product contains a given chemical (with associated formula and CAS#) and has a manufacturer, UPC, size, and unit. These data go together and change slowly or not at all. Ideally I would like to be able to use a barcode reader to scan a product's UPC to retrieve its manufacturer, chemical contents, and size/unit data. A given manufacturer may produce different products that contain different amounts of the same chemical, and of course will produce many products containing different chemicals. We may have multiple containers of the same product on hand at any given time.
Each container represents a product and contains a chemical. Containers seem like the most logical basic unit of tracking for this system. Each container may or may not have either a university barcode (our R&D facilities are leased from a university and their EHS department applies individual barcodes to each chemical container that arrives on campus) or a company barcode (we have another facility away from the university and the capability to generate our own barcodes for individual chemical containers). Ideally I would like to use these barcodes to associate each individual chemical container with its location (site, room, and shelf).
The total number of chemical containers on hand now is around 300 and will likely grow to 450-600 in the coming year. Turnover is also around 300-500 containers per year.
My first pass at creating an inventory app involved loading all of these data into a single SharePoint list. I understand this to be a suboptimal data structure (the list contains redundant information and lots of null fields). But I don't have the experience to weigh how much of an issue this actually presents for my use case. In this most naive structure, I would simply add and remove records as containers arrived and were consumed. Inventory on hand would be tracked by tallying containers of the same product. This might actually fulfill most of our needs as far as knowing what we have on hand and what we need to order more of. It would not, however, give us any information on usage rates (not really information we need for now, but obviously useful in some contexts) or maintain a record of used containers. Again, that's not a function I'm sure we need, but I can imagine it being useful to answer to university EHS that a particular container was used and disposed of if their records and ours are inconsistent.
The second approach I've considered is a star schema in which chemicals (with associated formulae and CAS numbers), products (with associated UPCs, manufacturers, and sizes) and locations (sites, rooms, and shelves) are stored in dimension tables (SharePoint lists) and a fact table (another list with foreign keys referencing the ID fields in dimension tables) is used to log the receipt and disposal (and potentially location transfer) events of individual chemical containers. Inventory would be tracked either by summing receipt and disposal events or maintaining a count variable for each product. With turnover of say 500 containers per year this table would grow by a minimum of 1,000 records per year. This would put the fact table at 5,000 records in 3-5 years and then necessitate managing the view limit in SharePoint. I understand this is doable but don't really have a sense for the practical implications.
The third approach would be to use dimension tables for chemicals, products, and locations as above, but instead of using a fact table to log events, simply use an inventory table to store a record of each container received, with a status column that could be changed from 'in stock' to 'disposed of' at the appropriate time. This is another probably naive approach that would, as I see it, cut the number of records in the central table by at least half, since only one record is required per container instead of a 'received' record and a 'disposed of' record. But I don't know enough about data management theory/practice to know what problems this might create.
I would love to hear any guidance you may have about these data schema or any alternatives you might suggest. I would like this system to be as robust and flexible as possible within the limitations of my data storage options and abilities, but I also have a tendency to overthink things and not enough experience to tell when I've moved from "sensible and good enough" to "dramatically overengineered." So, with the context that this system will likely handle between 500 and 1200 records per year, involves 13-15 total columns/attributes, and is not (as of now) part of any larger BI or analytics initiative, should I put significant effort into organizing a solid foundational data scheme, or just use a single wide table to get a "good-enough" picture of inventory on hand?
Thanks in advance!

Originally chronicled here.
I am not the OOP. OOP is u/Lost_Beginning_2824
This was originally posted in TrueOffMyChest
2 updates
(recovered via pushpull)
Original post - February 6th, 2024
1st Update - February 28th, 2024
2nd Update - March 8th, 2024
Trigger warning: mention of domestic violence situation
I’m married to a woman who acts like a teenage girl – February 6th, 2024
My wife behaves like a teenage girl and I don’t know whether to laugh or cry.
This is just a rant. Curious to know how many full grown adults behave the way my wife does. I’d say out of all of the adult women I know, like friends, relatives, wives of my friends, none of them behave this way unless they keep it a closely guarded secret.
Editing right here to add that my wife is in her 30s, for context.
My wife is always obsessed with somebody, a man or sometimes multiple men at one time. Usually there is one or two main focuses at a time. When I talk obsessed I mean obsessed like a teenage girl or maybe even preteen girl would be. I’ve seen pictures of her bedroom when she was that age and they were literally wallpapers in posters of her favorite guys. That’s totally normal for a 13 year old girl. She still behaves that way as a woman in her 30s. Granted, our bedroom walls aren’t wallpapered in posters but they probably would be if I allowed it.
Her obsessions have ranged from rock stars, actors, non-entertainment industry public figures. It’s like one day she hasn’t even heard of the guy in question and the next day she’s super fan #1 and knows just about everything there is to know about him. She will read and watch everything there is to watch about the man. She will bring him up in every conversation. She will adopt parts of him into her own personality. She will suggest things that make it clear to me that she wants me to adopt characteristics of these men as part of my appearance or personality. She will openly admit to me that she’s masturbated over the guy multiple times in one day.
When she finds a new man to obsess over, she puts the others in her little stable of men who she always has a place for in her heart and in her fantasies, so they never really go away. The new man just takes center stage and becomes the main focus of almost her entire life.
So the current obsession is so strange to me. Never saw this one coming, but leave it to her to always find somebody new to fall in love with. The intensity that she has during these periods - it’s honestly like she falls in love with these men.
I’m laughing so hard just typing this all. Her current obsession is Bret Hart, former pro wrestler. This woman had never watched wrestling before in her life. Always thought that stuff was below her. And now she’s obsessed with this former pro-wrestler. She watched one show about him, for reasons I’m not aware of, and I could tell almost instantly where it was headed. I thought “here we go…” So now the Bret Hart obsession is in full swing. Has she already dropped close to $1000 in vintage Bret Hart shirts on eBay? Of course. Bought all the stickers and magnets and all sorts of other stupid crap she can find? Yep. Does she send me Bret Hart YouTube clips all.day.long when she’s supposed to be working? Yes she does.
So, I better get to work brushing up on my Bret Hart knowledge and tag lines. This is the key to getting laid when it comes to her. I’m used to this by now. It’s just not something that I can easily explain to anyone I know.
I mean, there’s are things I’m a fan of, but she is next level. I can’t think of anyone I know who is her age and acts like this. She was voted most likely to grow up and become a groupie when she was in high school, so this is absolutely nothing new for her. Sigh.
Many are lighthearted in the comments
plastic_Schedule_891
I mean he's the best there is, was and ever will be so that one makes sense at least .
You don’t think I’m hearing that 10 times a day now?
I better start planning that trip to Calgary.
Limerence is mentioned
poopchutethemoon
Yeah my bouts of limerence have been with people I’ve dated but reading that made me realize that I was very much being obsessive and it was totally all consuming. Glad it’s over honestly. Those feelings are exhausting.
Very interesting to hear you say the feelings are exhausting. It’s like a full time job for my wife, so I could see that. She told me she’s at work with her door closed pretending to be working, but she’s really watching Bret Hart videos on YouTube. She can’t even focus on her job.
OOP reveals more of the life he’s signed up for in the comments
get-bread-not-head
You've pretended to act like other men for 20 years?!
Damn dude, I hope you're finding ways to accept it and cope. That sounds rough, having to be someone else to have sex... stay strong king
Nah, I just learn their catchphrases or gain some deep fan knowledge that’ll impress her or maybe perfect a vocal impersonation of them that I can drop at the opportune time. The vocal impersonations work the best as far as making her like me and being like “ok, wanna have sex now?”
another_canoe
But what do you guys actually share *together*? That's not related to the obsession of the season? (I'm not going to even bother asking if she's tried to learn about any of your hobbies/interests).
NGL, this is all pretty grim to me, my man....and I'm someone who loves having a partner who is passionate about things and nerds out.
I fear that you've spent so long with her infatuations steamrolling over your own interests and preferences that you have convinced yourself that getting attention-by-proxy as your main source of validation from your SPOUSE is a healthy way to live.
If I told you that I was big into anime and Japanese RPGs and the only way I get interested in doing it with my actual wife is if she adopts the catch phrases /personality characteristics of my latest "waifu", would you feel some concern for my wife's mental health?
I'm also wondering about this spending....
She’s pretty dismissive of my interests and hobbies. I’ve told her I’d like her to try to pretend to show a little more interest sometimes. I make an effort to show real interest in her stuff and she does not do the same. I’m very into music and I do geek out over guitars and gear and things like that and she couldn’t tell you anything about any of the guitars I own other than “he has a blue one, he has a red one. “ We do love some of the same bands. Of course she wants to fuck the band members and I just want to talk about the chord progression on my favorite guitar tracks, but it’s close enough. We like a lot of the same movies and that sort of thing. We have the same sense of humor and can keep each other laughing for ages. We have a lot of the same views on life and on the world in general.
I don’t know, we just get each other I guess.
I would be concerned about the waifu thing, but I guess in my case she always likes guys who I think are pretty cool anyway. She has good taste, at least. If she has to be obsessing over some other guy constantly at least she does it over guys I can respect on some level.
Regarding the spending, I spend way more than she does. Only difference is it’s not usually fan merch I’m buying. But she tolerate my spending when it comes to stuff like guitar gear. She rolls her eyes and reprimands me but she tolerates it and just knows I won’t stop. I’m the same when it comes to her fan stuff. I get it, she wants the vintage 1993 Bret Hart shirt that costs hundreds…not a modern shirt that just anyone could go online and buy for $25 right now. She wants the cool, rare stuff. I’m the same with my guitars so I guess it’s like we understand each other in some way. I think it’s weird to become a fan of somebody and 2 days later drop thousands on them though. At least my money pit is consistent.
I think we both feel like we’re the only person who will semi understand and tolerate all of this stuff from each other
Not included here, but in several comments, OOP definitely brings up his wife’s looks as a positive in the relationship and he finds her antics at times amusing or even attractive.
1st Update - February 28th, 2024
I recently wrote about my wife suddenly discovering former pro-wrestler Bret “The Hitman” Hart one day after never even knowing of his existence, experienced love at first site, and is now even deeper than love with him then she was a month ago.
Tonight, I experienced a good hour of her sobbing, literal sobs, after watching the Bret Hart A&E biography. “I just love him so much. I love him with all my heart. I don’t want any more bad things to happen to him. Also, I’m very jealous he’s not my husband.”
She also went from not wanting any kids to suddenly wanting a baby so she can name it Bret (a girl or a boy, doesn’t matter…they will be named Bret). And she almost had me convinced, but I blame that on the heat of the moment.
She’s bought all sorts of clothes just like his. My wife now dresses like Bret Hart in and outside of the ring.
The past few days she’s been acting really annoyed with me. Finally I’m like “Wtf am I doing wrong?” I bought you Bret Hart stuff for your birthday! I call you Mrs. Bret Hart now, even though you’re my wife. I even sent you flowers at work from Bret. I mean that was supposed to get me points because she knew they were from me and I was playing into her obsession which she’s now apparently shared with everyone she works with. They’ve bought her a giant Bret Hart wall decal for her office.
Ok, so I did forget our anniversary which was very recently. Totally forgot it. Then again, so did she. She was too busy masturbating over Bret Hart to remember our wedding anniversary. I mean bad husband points for me obviously but all the birthday gifts had to have made up for it. I mean, I even ordered a Bret Hart birthday banner and got her a Bret Hart themed birthday cake as if she were a 7 year old boy in the year 1994.
So why is she acting so annoyed lately? Why does she act like she hates me and can’t stand to even be in the same room as me? She finally admits…I’m not Bret Hart. None of her obsession have ever been this bad. She’s seriously threatening me with divorce now because I’m not Bret Hart! She “just wants a guy like that.” She had to go walk the dog today and cry over it, how much she hates me and wishes she was married to Bret Hart. Oh fuck me you want a guy like your dad because that’s what Bret Hart is like…exactly like her dad, the same look, the same hair, the same damn age.
I told her I think she should get checked out for autism or some other sort of disorder. Her obsessions have never been this bad. She should make an appointment now because the waitlist is long. She just laughed. There’s nothing wrong with her. She just has different taste in men now, according to her.
Some comments
psychick
Therapist here - she needs to see a psychiatrist. This is mental illness to the extreme. Either she goes, or you leave. This is ultimatum territory. And, stop giving into her obsession. It makes it worse.
nualt42
Man, when she threatens divorce, take it. Jump at the chance.
Hell, sit, be a good boy and offer your fucking paw if that’s what it takes to get treated to an exit strategy. Don’t worry about dignity, sounds like you gave that up a long time ago.
She’s even looked up the divorce process for where we live and says we can be amicable about everything. She assures me she’s not looking to take any thing that is rightfully mine. She just wants a clean break.
Sophie3546
I’m surprised he even lasted this long. Calling her “Ms. Bret Hart” …..I can’t even fathom.
Excuse me, it’s MRS Bret Hart, not Ms.
NEW UPDATE - March 8th, 2024
Hi, you might remember me as the guy whose wife was obsessed with JFK (35th President of the United States), then experienced a world wind romance with former WWF pro-wrestler Bret Hart (the best there is, the best there was, and the best there ever will be), but now she’s met a new man. I thought the Bret Hart obsession was the worst one yet. Never has she threatened divorce or told me she hated me because I wasn’t the object of her desire. Luckily, that was a relatively quick love affair for her. 3-4 months is a short run for her and one of her men. But I should be careful what I wish for.
This new one is the first time I’ve felt that I should maybe, just possibly, feel legitimately scared. Her newly developing obsession is Patrick Bateman. Yep, the character from American Psycho. Specifically, the movie version played by Christian Bale.
It’s not like she’s just met the guy. She’s seen the movie before but it doesn’t appear that they hit it off initially. Now, she’s suddenly started making constant reference to him. Bret is gone and now it’s just Patrick Bateman and maniacal laughter and purchasing all of the items in his skin care routine. I’d like to see her do 1000 crunches though. That’ll be the day.
She has always admitted to living the 80s preppy/yuppie look. She loves assholes. Assholes are a weakness for her. Psychopaths? Hmm…that’s a new one, unless you count the time she was in love with the Menendez Brothers years ago. God, the pastel Ralph Lauren sweaters she used to try to make me wear. Pastels are just not my shades.
Now, there was a time many years ago where I did have to hide all the knives in our home. I was legitimately scared that she was going to murder me. I forget what she was upset about now. I am, after all, her type - an asshole. I did something that bothered her and she ran for the knives. I had to hide them and then lock myself in a bedroom because she was literally chasing me. That was before she decided that she’d be the female Patrick Bateman. Granted, she says “only mean in the looks and snob department-nothing else.”
She’s trying to determine what the female equivalent to a Patrick Bateman hairstyle would be right now. I’m just worried about the bank account with this obsession. The amount she’ll spend on business cards alone.
Comments
lemonade_sparkle
Your wife is severely mentally ill, and needs help quickly.
Is there no chance of persuading her to get help?
If not, what preparations have you made to leave her?
I’m a strange way, I think these obsessions are what keep her sane.
Her getting help is funny though. It’s not going to happen. Sure I’ve tried to persuade her to see a therapist but she just won’t.
ctIaTErA
I probably shouldn’t be laughing as hard as I am right now. This is truly bizarre. Does she narrate her morning routine in the mirror each day now?
But in all seriousness, she’s chased you with a knife? Thats far more concerning than any of the obsessions with these men, and yes I did read the post about the wrestler. I thought it was just very quirky behavior before, but she seems truly unhinged now.
It was years ago. Like 10+ years ago. I’m much stronger than her so it’s not hard to hold her down if need be.
I AM NOT OOP
NO BRIGADING, NO HARASSMENT

I have reoccurring yeast infections and have had them for a couple years now. like every 2-3 months, yeast pops up. it’s gotten to the point that I just call my local urgent care (where I’ve been treated for one before) and just tell them to send over the pills. well I had a gyno appointment already set up for another infuriating issue (chronic cuts/tears of my vulva) and what do you know, a yeast infection began just a couple days before my appointment. so they did the testing while I was there and in my portal where I can see my results & visits and whatnot, I saw the next day that it was positive for a yeast infection. this was on Tuesday last week. it wasn’t until today that they called and confirmed my results and actually sent over the medication, so safe to say I have been going insane from the itchiness and irritation for the last week.
they gave me 2 doses of diflucan and some ointment to use 2x a day for the next week. I got out of the shower tonight and went to apply the ointment and saw that I have bumps, almost like blisters, all around my vaginal opening. I guess it’s my bad for not checking down there daily with a mirror, but just three days ago it didn’t look like this. all I can think is no fucking wonder I’ve been extra miserable the last few days.
my question is though, is this normal? not necessarily normal, because it’s never been this bad for me before despite having them often, but has anyone else experienced this? I can’t lie, I’m a hypochondriac and so many terrible things are running through my mind right now. google says it isn’t common but can occur, but I’d really like to hear if any other women have had this issue before.
I’m hoping with the 2 pills and the ointment that it clears up and stays away for a while longer, but I’m kind of concerned right now lol

I was in a relationship with a woman for about a year, and we got engaged six months ago. I spent around $30k on an engagement ring. Recently, I decided to call off the engagement.
There was no infidelity involved; I simply fell out of love for various reasons, which I believe aren't relevant here.
We are in NYC, and under NY law—similar to many other states—an engagement ring is considered a conditional gift. If the marriage is called off for any reason by either party, the ring legally belongs to the person who purchased it. So, legally, the ring is clearly mine.
However, I feel terrible because I was the one who ended things. She was deeply in love with me. I could sell the ring back to the jeweler for $25k (I've checked).
I'm really uncertain about what to do.
TL;DR: Called off my engagement, have the legal right to take back the $30k ring, but feeling guilty as I initiated the breakup. Unsure what to do.

TLDR at bottom
So, I get Fioricet (Butalbital/APAP/Caffeine) for Migraine headaches.
For some reason (probably sleep disturbances & stress, my two triggers; lots of life changes lately) I have had more migraines in the past 3 months-ish than I previously thought possible. I've been on Fioricet for many years, and thos spike in migraines has blown through my prescription.
The past 3 weeks or so I've been taking Butalbital almost daily, often as a preventive measure (dumb, I know-- i think this is what really screwed me). I Get a refill in a few days & have doc appointment at the end of the month...
That being said-- I have one capsule left for the next few days. It's been... tbh, too long, (~3+ weeks) since I've gone more than 48 hours without it, so I'm a bit creeped out.
I'm pretty worried about either getting rebound Headaches or just straight up getting a migraine and being screwed.
Because of how often (and over a decent amount of time) I have been taking these I know I must have a tolerance as well, so I'm not looking forward to any anxiety or other bad effects.
I've been on like 5 different meds in the past, & butalbital is the first one that works really well, no bad side effects; been a LIFESAVER... I've just run out, pharmacy won't fill early.
I'm prone to anxiety to begin with, so, that's probably a factor in my worrying so much about this. lol
I know I need to talk to my doc and figure somethining out, wtf is going on, etc, but in the meantime:
TL;DR-- Any good ways to get though the next half a week without being able to rely on Butalbital? Take a bunch of OTC headache meds at regular intervals if i feel one coming on? Anything I can do to help with possible anxiety and the like?
Anything else to help out? Any advice?
I'm stressing big time about this, which stress is something I should be avoiding... ugh.
P.S. The amount of migraines has started going way down since I got off my previous work/sleep/school schedule, which was all over the place and that's my number one cause for Migraines, but this change is very recent.. should be in a better spot if I keep to this sleep schedule.
Sorry for the ramble, but if you are on this sub, you know why I'm worried. My migraines are absolutely debilitating.

Moved from Ireland to New Rochelle on a holiday visa. Going to be here for 3 months, Wondering what good bars are around here? Looking to meet some new people as the only people I really know are in Woodlawn.

I hate my birthday. I have for years. It never goes the way it was planned to go. My now ex-wife is a great person but I guess as our marriage drew to a close she just couldn't be bothered to make a big deal out of it. Or any kind of deal.
At this point, I feel like I'm stuck in a self-fulfilling prophecy. Bad things happen on my birthday because I expect them to.
Hell... The things aren't even that bad, really. I didn't sleep well last night and I had to get up at 6am to get my son ready for school. I tried to go back to sleep after I got him on the bus, but the landscapers (I live in a townhouse complex) started their routine at 7am instead of their normal 1pm and it was LOUD. I turned the white noise machine up and was almost asleep when my partner started snoring so, so loud. I asked her to roll over and she did, but the snoring was here to stay. So I just got up.
Spent the morning by myself while my partner slept in. Had a hard time not feeling sad. Went for a ride and started feeling a little better when my ex texted me happy birthday and apologies for not taking our son out to get me anything. My partner didn't, either. Oh well.
My partner did get me a gift, a nice one. I feel like such as ungrateful asshole, though. She asked me what I wanted and I sent her specific things I'd like to have. I'm pretty sure she put it off and then panic bought something that would arrive in time because instead of what I asked for. She got me a new hat and shoes. The things I sent her were from Etsy so I imagine they wouldn't ship fast enough. The hat is fine, it's my favorite baseball team. I already have one but it's fine, at least it's different. The shoes are cool but in a color that I just straight up wouldn't wear and I was surprised she didn't know me better than that. She said I sent her these at one point, in a different color, but that they didn't make that color anymore. I feel ungrateful for being disappointed.
I guess I'm mostly jealous. A couple months ago my friend group all got together to celebrate my buddy's birthday. His wife organized it. It was nice. Low key, but fun. My partner didn't bother to do anything like that. She's not a very social person so I guess she just didn't think to. It's not something she would enjoy as much, I don't think it even crossed her mind to do that. I messaged two friends last night to make plans to get together, but honestly by the time it was time to go today I just didn't have it in me anymore.
I'm my own worst enemy. I didn't get the day I wanted so when my partner or friends tried to make up for it day of, I just don't want to anymore. I hate feeling like I have to be the one to plan everything. If my friend group gets together (a few of us live local, the rest of scattered) I have to be the one to organize it 9 times out of 10. I'm the person that recognizes everyone else's birthday. I'm the person that organized gifts (one of our friends is also the DM for our D&D group. He puts a lot of work into it so I try to get him a nice gift as a thank you every year.)
I go out of my way to make sure my son recognizes his mom. I went with him to her college graduation last weekend, helped him shop for a nice graduation/birthday/graduation gift. Not one person that called me, including my mom and dad. They both sent short texts, I guess , and my sister texted Jack and forth with me while she was at work. I just... feel sad. No one does stuff like that for me. My partner knows I'm sad and she wants to help, but I can't get past the feeling of bitterness. She offered to go to dinner tonight, I just needed to tell her where to go. I don't want to fucking plan my own birthday dinner, goddammit. And why are we just talking about it now?
At the same time, I didn't communicate any of this because anytime I do I feel like I'm putting someone out. I don't want to have to always ask for these these things... I feel like shit for putting that on my ex, as it's not her place anymore to do these things for me, and it's just not in my partners nature.
I feel like I'm stuck in a sadness tornado today. People keep trying to help but because it's after the fact my petty self just won't let them. The only gifts I got didn't feel like they had much thought put into them. I'm such an ungrateful prick.
I didn't even get a birthday cake..

Player Character

Reddit Account:TheLegend_NeverDies
Discord Tag: thelegend_neverdies
Name and House: Lyle Westerling
Age: 23
Cultural Group: Andal (Westerman)
Appearance: A lanky, stick-thin young man with sandy brown hair, Lyle is all easy smiles and nonchalance, yet there's a certain inscrutable mystery in the abyss of his dark brown eyes. An exemplar of the trend-setting western court, he is always clean-shaven and impeccably dressed in the crème-de-la-crème of courtly finery. He favors silken half-capes in exotic colors and rich doublets of velvet and lambswool in white, off-white, and sandy colors. He has delicate hands, bathes almost obsessively, and likes to perfume himself with the scent of cinnamon and oranges for the fair ladies of the court.
Trait: Steward
Skill(s): Avaricious (e), Architect (e), Scrutinous
Talent(s): Singing, Carousing, Cyvasse
Negative Trait(s): N/A
*Starting Title(s): * Steward of the Rock and Lord of The Crag
Starting Location: Opening Event

Auxillary Character

Name and House: Jon Westerling
Age: 23
Cultural Group: Andal (Westerman)
Appearance: Of an identical age and look to his twin brother, Jon differs in that he is noticeably muscled, with the lean but sturdy strength of a young knight. Jon, who seems to have an ever-present beard of stubble and tends to wear his hair in a ponytail, is just as popular at Lord Lancel's court as his brother, but he prefers to wear his simple sand-colored surcoat blazoned with seashells over indulging in the West's latest fashions.
Trait: Inspiring
Skill(s): Cunning, Cavalryman, Andal Knight
Talent(s): Hunting, Jousting, Fishing
Negative Trait(s): n/a
Starting Title(s): Knight of Seashells and Heir to the Crag
Starting Location: Opening Event

Bio-Timeline

3 BC - The heir to the Crag, Symond Westerling, weds Penelope Lannister in a grand ceremony at the sept in Lannisport. At the wedding ceremony, his younger brother Gormond very briefly met his future wife, the young lady Teora Reyne.
2 BC - The first child of their marraige, Jeyne Westerling, was born at the Crag. What should have been a good omen, however, spelled disaster. Not one moon after her birth did the Conqueror launch his glorious conquest of the Seven Kingdoms. Called up by his liege to do his duty and defend the realm from this pretender, Lord Walderan, his sons, and all their knights and levies rode to war. With their strength combined with that of the Reach, they had expected an easy victory. But never before had they seen dragons on the field.
Lord Westerling, as commander of the West's vanguard, was among of the battle's first casualties when a stray crossbow bolt felled his horse and caused the aging Walderan to break his neck underneath it. Had he only known the mercy he was spared. Symond, now Lord, did not halt the assault. Out of duty and mad vengeance, he led the Western forces further, even in the face of the three dragons that had, by now, taken flight. From his sick bed, Lord Symond often swore that he had been able to cut down four of Aegon's pikemen before the dragons came down upon them. Before the field erupted into flame and everything went dark.
1 BC - It was not for many moons after King Loren had already knelt to the Conqueror until Lord Symond woke again. Gormond had managed to rescue his older brother from the fire and organize as many of the Crag's men as he could for a desperate retreat through the rings of fire. He had saved hundreds of men that day, all men agreed. But whether he had truly saved his brother was in question. His face and body ruined by the grievous extent of his burns, a series of amputations were necessary to save Lord Westerling's life, but he was never quite the same man he had been prior.
0 AC - With the Conquest completed and Aegon upon his Iron Throne, life returned to some semblance of normalcy for many. But Symond's scars from that brief, glorious war would remain with him for the rest of his life. Kept on a near-constant supply of milk-of-the-poppy and dreamwine, he was in no condition to actually fulfill his duties as a lord. Lady Penelope and Ser Gormond decided to share the duties between themselves.
1 AC - On one of his better days, Lord Symond, who had been unable to leave his solar for the past two years, finally managed to hobble to court, to the horror of his people. A man scarred and ruined, he nevertheless was determined to hear a few pleas of his people. Cautiously optimistic, Lord Westerling's mood soured when his daughter, whom he had previously hoped to hide the extent of his deformities, screamed and ran out of the room when she saw, "A monster on my father's throne!" Court soon adjourned, and Lord Symond, for the first time in years, went to bed with his wife.
2 AC - A small miracle of sorts touched the house with Penelope's birth of the twin boys Lyle and Jon. This brought some joy back to the house and to Symond, but his condition would only deteriorate as the years went on. Continually tended to by Lady Penelope, his lordship would remain largely sedated and absent from the lives of his children as they grew.
5 AC - Ser Gormond Westerling meets Lady Teora Reyne at a small tourney held at Feastfires asking for her favor before a joust and talking to her at greater length at the feast later that night, soon starting their courtship. They would wed some moons later, eventually having two children of their own, Stafford and Eleyna.
7 AC - With the Stranger knocking at his door, Lord Westerling called his family to his solar one final time. The family that he had tried his very best to shield from him by self-imposed isolation and the repeated reading of old histories and holy books. He wore a mask of fused seashells as he told his children of his pride in them, but before he died, he insisted that his heir take one final parting gift from him. At that, Lord Symond removed his seashell mask, gave it to his five-year-old heir and said, "Boy. Look at me. This is what those silver-haired freaks and their demon abominations have wrought. Guard yourself... lest they do it to you."
8-20 AC - Lord Symond was dead, but his parting words had left an impact on his children. As Lyle buried himself in books and lessons from Maester Morgon, Jon practiced with mount and blade with Uncle Gormond, while Lady Penelope trained her daughter in courtly etiquette and saw to it that House Westerling maintained its close connections with the Lannisters, of the Rock and Lannisport both. In that time, the Westerlings soon found themselves inducted into the court of the Rock, the boys in particular became close friends to the young heir to the Rock, Lancel Lannister, and soon became regular visitors to the Rock and makers of mayhem in Lannisport.
Jeyne, meanwhile, happened across the widowed Lord Baelor Belaerys of Aegon's Rest himself at some tourney, feast or other, and soon found herself enamored of the dragonlord. Despite Jeyne's fears that her mother or uncle would forbid the match due to his status as a prominent valyrian dragonlord, they, to her great surprose, acquiesced. And so she married the Lord of Aegon's Rest in 16 AC and bore him his new heir two years later.
21-25 AC - As the Westerling twins "matured" with their good friend Lancel, who eventually became Lord Lancel, they each found themselves prominent places at court, Lyle as the Rock's Lord Treasurer and Jon as Lancel's Captain of the Guard. To this day, House Westerling are considered the Lord of the Rock's most tireless supporters, with the twins counting among his most loyal men.

Family Tree

House Westerling

Supporting Characters

Gormond Westerling - General
Stafford Lannister - Warrior

I like to do overnight mashes for a multitude of reasons. It's saves me time, I get better efficiency, higher attenuation; the reasons go on and on. I do BIAB on my stove (no electric system) so I usually mash in before bed, cover the kettle with a bunch of old coats and blankets, and brew the following day.
This particular brew day I ended up busy until around 8pm, so the mash had sat for roughly 24 hours. There was a pellicle on top, but I decided to go through with it anyway. During the boil, my whole house smelled horrible, kind of like a funky cheese or cured meat. At this point I was considering dumping it, but decided I had made it this far so might as well go through with fermentation and see what happens.
A few weeks pass and I can see that the SG has gone from 1.077 to 1.008 giving me a beer ~9.1% abv. I tried a little sample, and WOW, it is quite good! No funky notes or off flavors present. It's perfectly balanced and flavorful, so I'm not sure if the bacteria during the mash improved the overall flavor, or if it didn't affect it much at all. Regardless, I'm looking forward to how this beer will age in a few months.
Please share your thoughts and similar experiences below! I'll share my recipe in case anyone is interested (an Old Ale modeled loosely after Timothy Taylor's Landlord)
94.4% Golden Promise 5.6% Crystal 90L
34 IBUs EKG @ 30min
Nottingham Yeast
Ca 44 Mg 0 Na 21 Cl 66 SO 59 HCO 0

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I did not know they could take a child away solely based off of disability and lack of support. Even when you are doing EVERYTHING. Despite how much you love your baby. Despite putting her before everything. They took her away. Her father retaliated and they won. He beat me and broke my rib. He told me if he couldn’t have her, cps would.
Yeah. So my baby was taken away…and they only checked the box of me having a disability. They could check nothing else.
I’m having a friend come check up on me.
I was literally doing everything. And now I’m just sitting here in this empty house. Looking at her baby pictures. Wondering how I keep the strength to prove them wrong.
It’s for 2 weeks. But if I don’t get everything together in 2 weeks. I lose her forever.
My fucking heart….my goddamn…I’m just sobbing. I’ve had 3 back to back breakthrough focal seizures despite being well medicated because of the intense grief. I was literally screaming in pain. Didn’t know those kind of tears existed. Primal.
Anyway…that’s my story.
I don’t know how I’m going to get anything together in 2 weeks to prove I’m fit.
Again.
I lost her SOLEY because of my disability and that alone. They made that clear in what box they checked and how vague the “safety” plan was.
They couldn’t even get the courts involved yet. Because I was literally doing EVERYTHING. Since birth. Me and me alone. Despite all the horrific people who used to surround me.
This is just a warning if you find an ex threatening CPS and you have epilepsy. I beg you, as women. Lawyer the fuck up.
My heart. It’s almost like can still hear her crying.
I gave her one last hug good bye today. 5/15/14 at 4:30pm.
My god…
I didn’t know they could take our kids. Even when we have done NOTHING. They still find a loophole called a “safety plan”.
I can’t even move. I can’t eat.
I can’t type anymore. This is 1984. My crime was Medicaid my crime was being poor my crime was not having a family.
But they couldn’t find a single shred of abuse or neglect.
How?
I don’t know how I can…. Ive lost my whole world. Because of a man, my family And the final decision was made because of EPILEPSY.
I am in shambles. My “second mom” is coming to visit me. (Non) biological.
But I have to stay strong for her too. Her daughter has my daughter. They kept me safe. She’s an angel in human form. It’s how I’m able to even fight for this little…my little everything.
My baby…
Epilepsy…
I even have a photo to prove it’s the only box they checked. And the plan was “med management”. And that there was no one to administer my Midazolam…

So the P&DC where I work currently has no Tour 3 Lead Clerk. On the weekends we have an acting lead clerk who does a fairly good job from what I’ve heard. The issue is that one of the other level 7 clerks says she doesn’t have to listen to the lead clerk because she’s also a level 7. Managements solution? They’re going to make the level 7 lead clerk a level 8. My head is going to explode. Anyone else ever had dealings with something like this?

I’m a bit(21m) drunk right now so I might not be 100% coherent, but basically the gist/TL:RD is I loved my girlfriend(21f) of 2 years very much and about a week ago I just didn’t anymore.
I’m on mobile btw so it’s worse grammar and formatting wise, basically what happened was that on New Years we went drinking with some of her friends and one of mine we all got drunk (especially me because I’m a feather weight) and at the end of the night on our way back home I started spiralling and I just had a full on mental breakdown. We got home and I just cried and cried about depression and suicide and whateve other nonsense, but she was there for me and so was my friend, since then I’ve had a few other instances of me spiralling and being lost, and I already broke up with her half heartedly a month after New Years, but last week I did fully… and I couldn’t take the amount she cried and cried and tried to apologize and take it back, but now I feel like that wasn’t good for me to do and I’m gonna break up with her for real this weeken when I see her again.
Sorrry if this was written like doodoo my phone is half dying and autocorrect is carrying because as I said I’m kinda drunk right now, anyways thanks for reading. Maybe I’ll come back to this and fix it a bit idk that’s for sober me to decide.