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For couples who can't be in the same room
2010.11.11 17:18 For couples who can't be in the same room
LongDistance is a subreddit for and about long distance relationships. For anyone considering(but not seeking), currently in, or who used to be, this is the community for you! We are here for support, advice, and community who can relate to your experiences. We are people who met online, students studying across the country and abroad, people separated by jobs and the military, and more.
2022.08.22 16:24 pocoboi LongDistancePH
LongDistancePH is a subreddit for and about long distance relationships involving Filipinos.
2010.07.13 01:30 nightshark A Subreddit for Long Distance Relationships
This community was created to be a welcoming space for couples in Long Distance Relationships.
2024.05.29 06:50 princessgenovia Advice for military spouse
Hi, I am a Navy spouse, Filipina 27. I got married in September last year to a naturalized US citizen; he's been a sailor for 5 years. I am not into LDR, but because he's a friend of mine, I trusted him, and he promised we'd be together. Before and during our first months of marriage, he's excited and always talks about our command sponsorship and plans for our future. I was really happy before and after we got married, despite the long distance. He's based in Italy, but unfortunately, military personnel at his base don't know the process for spouses who're living abroad. Until we figured out how, but now months later he still hasn't filed our 1-130 (petition for alien relative), and just recently I asked him what his plan was about it; he doesn't want to continue anymore with the command sponsorship and told me he doesn't want to live with me either. Can I report this kind of matter? Or will the military only be biased if there's physical abuse involved?
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2024.05.29 06:47 RussianBab3 Pretend hope
So many ways and so many things I want to say. It isn't often you run across someone who you think can handle your soul. Who seems to want to know every part of you. What do you like, what is your story, why are you the way you are? I ask because I love you the way you are and want to know the deepest part of you. I'll tell you my secrets if you tell me yours. We spend so much time pretending to be. Sharing parts of us but never all of us. We pretend to be happy. That sharing little bits with different people counts. But no one ever knows all the peices as a whole. Till you. I crave to share them all with you. I'm not sure if it's a desperate grab on hope and understanding or if we were brought together for a reason. Perhaps hope even a false one is reason enough...how do I keep boundaries yet fight my craving to get to know you. I have no expectations when and if we dig deep into our souls. Long as your honest. Hope for such is invigorating yet heartbreaking. I try to not focus on things with a low probability rate of happening. Though you make me hope against the odds. Foolish I know. Especially from me to you. A 10 to a 5. The distance iv maintained makes this work for now. Should my wall ever crumble I may have to walk away and if that's the case I'm sorry.
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2024.05.29 06:46 shemightbeshyyy Pregnancy after being cheated on a 7-year relationship
In a relationship that spanned seven years, I experienced the heart-wrenching betrayal of infidelity, which resulted in an unexpected pregnancy. Throughout our time together, my ex-boyfriend held a significant place in my heart, as he had been my long-term high school crush and my first love. Remarkably, he reciprocated my feelings, creating a deep connection between us. However, he became the first person to break my heart, leaving me shattered and devastated.
Our relationship took a tumultuous turn in 2022 when I became engrossed in my studies and focused on my goals and responsibilities, causing a growing distance between us. Eventually, this led to a heartbreaking separation on June 17, 2023, without proper closure or goodbyes. In September 2023, I made the decision to reconcile, hoping that by becoming a better version of myself, we could mend our relationship. Unfortunately, my efforts were in vain. While we initially agreed to meet for closure in Manila, our secret meetings and encounters continued until April. By November, he expressed his desire to end our relationship, abruptly cutting off communication and publicly indicating his readiness to move forward without me on social media. However, just ten days later, he reached out again, seeking something from me, and we arranged another meeting for closure in December. This cycle of separation and reunion persisted, and during this time, I began to suspect that he was cheating on me due to his lack of affection. In December, I believed that we would finally put an end to our tumultuous relationship. However, we found ourselves talking again and even spent Christmas together in the province. It was during this time that he introduced another girl to his mother, a revelation that I only recently discovered.
Between our secret meetings in September, December, January, and March, many things unfolded. Physical intimacy became a part of our encounters, as I believed our actions were fueled by love. However, I later realized that I had been mistaken all along. In March, while we were sleeping, I noticed a girl named P. messaging my ex. Initially, he claimed that she was just his dorm mate, but her presence sparked doubts in my mind about his faithfulness. Despite my suspicions, I chose to trust him. On April 10, he began to distance himself from me. However, numerous witnesses reported seeing him with the other girl since January. This, coupled with my mounting suspicions, led me to believe that he was indeed cheating. I began to investigate, and we confronted the issue on April 19. During our confrontation, he denied any wrongdoing, insisting that the other woman was just a friend. However, the next day, I discovered incriminating conversations between him and the other woman when I gained access to his phone. It was then that I realized the truth and felt my world crumble around me. All my plans and hopes for a future with him shattered. What hurt me the most was when he introduced me to his brother as his fake girlfriend, unable to answer his brother's questions about our relationship. It deeply wounded me. During a drinking session with his family, they even said, "It's unavoidable for him to cheat, Why? Because we come from a lineage of good-looking people." I was so hurt by their words that I ended up getting drunk.
On April 25, we bid each other farewell, but it was not an official breakup as we are still in contact. I believed that we were keeping our promises to focus on healing and that he wouldn't choose between us, prioritizing his own well-being. On April 29, when he went to Dagupan, he updated me while drunk, implying that he wouldn't see the other girl during his trip, suggesting that I was the one who mattered to him. But when we stopped talking, he went back to the other girl. It was as if our discussions had meant nothing, as if my tears held no significance, as if he didn't care. They resumed their relationship, flaunting their bond on social media platforms, even after I discovered that I was pregnant. Last week, he claimed that everything he said on April 20 was just to ease my mind, and he no longer truly loved me. He confessed that he no longer felt anything for me. He even accused me of being selfish, suggesting that I wanted him to suffer just because I was suffering. It felt incredibly unfair and bitter that he believed I didn't want them to be happy. That time, i am confused and pregnant, I stayed at his place for four days. During this time, we provoked each other, and he took advantage of the situation, engaging in sexual activity with me. He continued to tell me "I love you," and we even shared a kiss before I left on the bus. Despite knowing about my pregnancy, he provided no emotional support. He remained with his new partner, even after assuring me that I wouldn't hear about them being together anymore and that he needed time to heal. It was disheartening to witness them openly label their relationship, especially considering my pregnancy. Thi continued display of their bond on social media platfe only added to my disappointment.
It was a devastating realization that someone I deeply loved could betray me in such a cruel manner, leaving me broken and shattered. My dreams and aspirations for myself were crushed along with my heart. It was unimaginable that the man I had loved for seven long years, the person I had entrusted with my deepest emotions and vulnerabilities, could be the one to inflict such pain upon me. How could someone I held so close to my heart cause such immense hurt? To make matters worse, after getting me pregnant, he directed his love towards another woman. It was difficult to comprehend how he could find happiness while disregarding the responsibilities he had brought upon our child. It hurt deeply to be genuine in my love for him, wanting to choose him every day, only to be hurt in return. How could he hurt someone who had eyes only for him? The pain intensified when I realized that he had gotten me pregnant despite no longer feeling any love for me. It was disheartening to hear him say "I love you" when it seemed he was only saying it to ease my feelings. The destruction he caused pushed me to the point where I felt overwhelmed and contemplated suicide.
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Our relationship took a tumultuous turn in 2022 when I became engrossed in my studies and focused on my goals and responsibilities, causing a growing distance between us. Eventually, this led to a heartbreaking separation on June 17, 2023, without proper closure or goodbyes. In September 2023, I made the decision to reconcile, hoping that by becoming a better version of myself, we could mend our relationship. Unfortunately, my efforts were in vain. While we initially agreed to meet for closure in Manila, our secret meetings and encounters continued until April. By November, he expressed his desire to end our relationship, abruptly cutting off communication and publicly indicating his readiness to move forward without me on social media. However, just ten days later, he reached out again, seeking something from me, and we arranged another meeting for closure in December. This cycle of separation and reunion persisted, and during this time, I began to suspect that he was cheating on me due to his lack of affection. In December, I believed that we would finally put an end to our tumultuous relationship. However, we found ourselves talking again and even spent Christmas together in the province. It was during this time that he introduced another girl to his mother, a revelation that I only recently discovered.
Between our secret meetings in September, December, January, and March, many things unfolded. Physical intimacy became a part of our encounters, as I believed our actions were fueled by love. However, I later realized that I had been mistaken all along. In March, while we were sleeping, I noticed a girl named P. messaging my ex. Initially, he claimed that she was just his dorm mate, but her presence sparked doubts in my mind about his faithfulness. Despite my suspicions, I chose to trust him. On April 10, he began to distance himself from me. However, numerous witnesses reported seeing him with the other girl since January. This, coupled with my mounting suspicions, led me to believe that he was indeed cheating. I began to investigate, and we confronted the issue on April 19. During our confrontation, he denied any wrongdoing, insisting that the other woman was just a friend. However, the next day, I discovered incriminating conversations between him and the other woman when I gained access to his phone. It was then that I realized the truth and felt my world crumble around me. All my plans and hopes for a future with him shattered. What hurt me the most was when he introduced me to his brother as his fake girlfriend, unable to answer his brother's questions about our relationship. It deeply wounded me. During a drinking session with his family, they even said, "It's unavoidable for him to cheat, Why? Because we come from a lineage of good-looking people." I was so hurt by their words that I ended up getting drunk.
On April 25, we bid each other farewell, but it was not an official breakup as we are still in contact. I believed that we were keeping our promises to focus on healing and that he wouldn't choose between us, prioritizing his own well-being. On April 29, when he went to Dagupan, he updated me while drunk, implying that he wouldn't see the other girl during his trip, suggesting that I was the one who mattered to him. But when we stopped talking, he went back to the other girl. It was as if our discussions had meant nothing, as if my tears held no significance, as if he didn't care. They resumed their relationship, flaunting their bond on social media platforms, even after I discovered that I was pregnant. Last week, he claimed that everything he said on April 20 was just to ease my mind, and he no longer truly loved me. He confessed that he no longer felt anything for me. He even accused me of being selfish, suggesting that I wanted him to suffer just because I was suffering. It felt incredibly unfair and bitter that he believed I didn't want them to be happy. That time, i am confused and pregnant, I stayed at his place for four days. During this time, we provoked each other, and he took advantage of the situation, engaging in sexual activity with me. He continued to tell me "I love you," and we even shared a kiss before I left on the bus. Despite knowing about my pregnancy, he provided no emotional support. He remained with his new partner, even after assuring me that I wouldn't hear about them being together anymore and that he needed time to heal. It was disheartening to witness them openly label their relationship, especially considering my pregnancy. Thi continued display of their bond on social media platfe only added to my disappointment.
It was a devastating realization that someone I deeply loved could betray me in such a cruel manner, leaving me broken and shattered. My dreams and aspirations for myself were crushed along with my heart. It was unimaginable that the man I had loved for seven long years, the person I had entrusted with my deepest emotions and vulnerabilities, could be the one to inflict such pain upon me. How could someone I held so close to my heart cause such immense hurt? To make matters worse, after getting me pregnant, he directed his love towards another woman. It was difficult to comprehend how he could find happiness while disregarding the responsibilities he had brought upon our child. It hurt deeply to be genuine in my love for him, wanting to choose him every day, only to be hurt in return. How could he hurt someone who had eyes only for him? The pain intensified when I realized that he had gotten me pregnant despite no longer feeling any love for me. It was disheartening to hear him say "I love you" when it seemed he was only saying it to ease my feelings. The destruction he caused pushed me to the point where I felt overwhelmed and contemplated suicide.
2024.05.29 06:45 Count-Daring243 Best 300 Blackout Reloading Bullets
 | submitted by Count-Daring243 to u/Count-Daring243 [link] [comments] https://preview.redd.it/ip1ru022pa3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=18b82b84c1492f18ebd012a787f5beebe8d0affd If you're looking for the perfect reloading bullet for your 300 Blackout firearm, then you've come to the right place! In this article, we'll be exploring some of the top reloading bullets available on the market today, helping you make the best choice for your shooting needs. These bullets offer exceptional performance, precision, and reliability, so sit back, relax, and let's dive into the world of 300 Blackout reloading bullets. The Top 13 Best 300 Blackout Reloading Bullets
Reviews🔗Top-Quality 8.6 Blackout Reloading Dies for Accurate Rifle Cartridgeshttps://preview.redd.it/8uxmq7s2pa3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0803122c67e9bdcdfe9ceb81b1fd70dbb083fdf0 As a gun enthusiast, I was thrilled to try out the Lee Pacesetter 3-Die Set - 8.6 Blackout 91922. This set of precision reloading dies instantly became my go-to for my 8.6 Blackout rounds. The Full-Length Sizer allowed me to restore cases to their original factory dimensions, making for more accurate and reliable shots. The Bullet Seating Die worked seamlessly with various point-style bullets and had a simple, yet effective finger-adjustable seating depth, which made it a breeze to use. Its tapered end was perfect for use with automatic bullet feeders. The included Factory Crimp Die was a game-changer, as it effectively crimped bottleneck rifle cartridges, improving their utility and accuracy. Lee Precision's guarantee that no other brand would offer better bullet runout with full-length sizing dies gave me much-needed confidence in my reload ammunition. Overall, the Pacesetter 3-Die Set - 8.6 Blackout 91922 by Lee Precision impressed me with its ease of use, precision, and reliability. However, it's important to note that the availability of components for some cartridges, such as 8 X 57, could be improved for a more comprehensive reloading experience. 🔗High-Quality 10" AR Pistol in 300BLK Caliberhttps://preview.redd.it/0nc4rng3pa3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=fc2dbe4d13811c8929357be96ef14e93498f289b I've been using the BBL AR-15 300BLK Pist in my daily life, and I must say, it's a unique and versatile experience. The first thing that stood out was its compact size, which makes it incredibly easy to carry around. However, the length can be a double-edged sword, as it can sometimes hinder mobility in tight spaces. The user-friendly design makes it a breeze to operate, allowing smooth accuracy during target shooting. On the downside, I find the trigger a bit too sensitive for my taste, which can be a concern for beginners or those prone to accidents. Overall, the BBL AR-15 Pist 300BLK offers a blend of convenience, power, and accessibility that can appeal to both novice and seasoned users. Its key features, such as the gas system, provide top performance for blasting through targets. However, the combination of its petite stature and delicate trigger mechanism might not be ideal for everyone's preferences. 🔗Affordable 3-Die Set for 300 AAC Blackout Cartridgehttps://preview.redd.it/pt4l2r54pa3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b85ba337683999f313fec09b873031078e4faff5 As a passionate shooter, I found these Lee Precision Pacesetter 3-Die Sets to be a game-changer in my reloading process. These high-quality sets have been a life-saver for me, offering convenience and efficiency in every step, all while maintaining the utmost precision and quality that shooters deserve. One of the standout features for me was the universal shell holder, which is a life-saver for anyone who reloads using multiple rifles. It's a must-have accessory that adds versatility and ease to the reloading process. The colored spline drive breech bushings were also something I found particularly useful, as they make die identification a breeze. It means that there's no fumbling around or guessing which die to use when, everything is right there and clearly labeled for easy access. The Full Length Sizing Die and Easy Adjust Dead Length Bullet Seating Die are top-notch components, providing the accuracy and control that comes standard with Lee Precision products. They made a noticeable improvement in the consistency and quality of my ammunition. However, the sets did come with a factory crimp die, which, while useful, tends to be less versatile compared to a separate die designated specifically for crimping. Nevertheless, they still offer a comprehensive solution for the majority of reloading requirements. Lastly, the powder dipper came in handy, and the instructions were comprehensive and easy to follow, making it a great option for beginners or people looking to switch up their reloading method. In conclusion, Lee Precision's Pacesetter 3-Die Sets are truly a joy to use for anyone serious about reloading – offering top-notch precision, versatility, and convenience, all wrapped up in a remarkably affordable package. 🔗Lyman 204 Ruger Rifle Reloading Set for 300 AAC Blackouthttps://preview.redd.it/642l0ws4pa3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c2eaedfd9bc43f4ecb6a357266907bed28170e9d The Lyman 204 Ruger Rifle Two-Die Set has been a game changer in my reloading journey. Featuring the Lyman Full Length Sizing Die- Bullet Seating Die with Roll Crimp, reloading jackets bullets for the bottleneck cases has been made easier than ever before. The 7.8-inch-14 threads are versatile enough to fit all popular presses and the additional shell holder sold separately offers even more convenience. However, like any other set of dies, I've faced minor issues with stuck cases. But overall, the Lyman 204 Ruger Rifle Two-Die Set is a reliable and high-quality addition to my reloading arsenal that comes at a great value. 🔗Lyman 300 Blackout Reloading Trim Dies - US-Made Die for 7702101 Revolver Dieshttps://preview.redd.it/d2asprd5pa3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=5eb64576b5744eecb785d34a2dcbf32b7c456f13 My recent venture into reloading brass led me to a Lyman Trim Die 300 Blk, and let me tell you, it's a game-changer. The die effortlessly trims the 300 Blackout brass to the perfect length, without the struggle that often comes with other tools. What stood out most is the die's incredible quality, crafted from stainless steel for a lifetime of use. Its compatibility with various reloading presses is a bonus that adds to its convenience. It's like the Swiss Army knife of reloading dies, fitting seamlessly into your toolbox. However, the die isn't without its flaws. I found that it had a rather rough finish, causing a few cases to stick. I had to polish the inside a bit to make them work properly. But hey, no tool is perfect, right? Overall, I'd say the Lyman Trim Die 300 Blk is a dependable and efficient tool for anyone in the world of reloading. It's a bit of a learning curve, but once you get the hang of it, you'll wonder how you ever lived without it. 🔗Premium 300 Blackout Reloading Dies for Brass Caseshttps://preview.redd.it/73ur8hy5pa3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=70a505815cf93233ec2d22dae9fa4c568d5f18ad Imagine walking into your local gun store and spotting the RCBS Full Length Die Set 300 Savage. As a seasoned hunter, you know the importance of a well-crafted reloading kit. The gleaming steel dies catch your eye, and you decide to give them a try. After all, the store clerk raved about their durability and accuracy. Once home, you start to unpack the die set, feeling the smooth plastic storage case that houses the dies. The packaging is neat and professional, hinting at the pride the manufacturer takes in their product. You take out the dies, admiring the polished steel and the intricate details. The seating and sizing dies are a perfect match for your 300 Savage caliber. As you begin the reloading process, you notice a few things that stand out. The sizing die is a breeze to use, easily handling the brass casings without any hiccups. The seat and crimp die is another story, though. You have to use a caliper to measure the depth and adjust accordingly, which is a bit of a hassle. One aspect you appreciate is the lifetime guarantee from RCBS, giving you peace of mind that this product will last you a long time. However, you also discover that the lock ring on the seating stem is not as user-friendly as you'd hoped. It's so tight that you have to use vice grips to loosen it. This is a bit of a disappointment, especially since you're accustomed to smooth operation from your previous reloading dies. Despite these small drawbacks, you find the RCBS Full Length Die Set 300 Savage to be a reliable and high-quality tool for your reloading needs. The durability and accuracy make it a worthwhile investment, even with the slight issues you encounter. Overall, it's a solid choice for any hunter looking to save on ammunition costs and enjoy the satisfaction of crafting their own rounds. 🔗Redding 300 Blackout 7.62x35mm Full Length Die Set - Seater Diehttps://preview.redd.it/86dr2sf6pa3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=b125b44f912608e52f9fbf621414225a97b09a82 I had the chance to give the Redding Full Length Die Set a try, and the experience was a rollercoaster ride. The idea of getting a full set for 300 Blackout sounded enticing at first, but once I got my hands on the set, I began to have some doubts. Some of the dies looked smaller than others, which threw me off right off the bat. Despite the unusual size, I went ahead and tried out the set. The decapping/expander unit was a standout feature in this set. It did a great job taking apart new shells while leaving the necks smooth. On the other hand, the seating die left me scratching my head. It made my bullets come out with noticeable scratches on all sides, which made me question the overall quality of this set. Another feature that caught my attention was the plastic storage case. It was an impressive touch, and it certainly added some convenience. The spare decapping pin and the included Allen wrench were also nice touches. Overall, the Redding Die Set had its moments, but it also left a lot to be desired. Some parts were good, while others were not up to par with what I've come to expect from the brand. It's tough to say if I'd go for it again or not, but my experience definitely gave me some insights into the set. 🔗Hornady Series I Custom-Grade 2-Die Set for 300 Remington Ultra Magnumhttps://preview.redd.it/4qfe40r6pa3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=6fa4fca97450f89b6729004e26fadea4d4fabddd I've been using the Hornady Series I 2-Die Set for my 300 Remington Ultra Magnum firearm, and I must say, it's been quite the experience. The die set is well-crafted, ensuring a lifetime of reloading without breaking or wearing out. It boasts a sleek Zip Spindle design that eliminates spindle slippage, making adjustments much easier. One of the most impressive features of these dies is the die locking rings, which keep everything secure during the reloading process. However, I found that the full-length sizing and bullet seating design could be a bit tricky to manage for newcomers to reloading. Another small drawback is the absence of a shell holder, which might be a slight inconvenience for some users. But overall, I've had a fantastic experience with this product. Its durability and smooth operation make it a solid choice for those seeking reliable and long-lasting reloading tools. So, if you're in the market for new dies and haven't given Hornady a try, I highly recommend giving them a shot. 🔗High-Performance Lyman 7701028 Pro Die Pack for 300 Blackout Reloadinghttps://preview.redd.it/iiy5sod7pa3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c271aa37b73db3510f53d4cd0564853e86a197e0 As a reloader, I've been using the Lyman Pro Die Pack 300 Blackout for a while now and I have to say, it's a game changer. The dies are perfectly engineered for top performance and I can really tell the difference in the quality of my ammo. One of the features that stood out to me is the use of stainless steel in the size, seat, and crimp dies, making them rust-resistant and long-lasting. The sizing dies with carbide rings are particularly impressive for their wear resistance and reduced sizing force. However, I do have a few nitpicks. The set comes with fewer dies than I'd prefer, but that's not a deal breaker for me. Also, the micrometer adjustable seating die is a bit of a learning curve, but once you get the hang of it, it works great. Overall, I highly recommend the Lyman Pro Die Pack 300 Blackout to anyone looking to take their reloading game to the next level. 🔗Hornady Custom Grade 8.6 Blackout (.338) Reloading Dies for 2-Die Sethttps://preview.redd.it/hnh4jvu7pa3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=1ea859e221c5c2e06cfafe7a2383308d0ed849b9 Recently, I had the chance to try out the Hornady Custom Grade 8.6 Blackout 2-Die Set for my 300 Blackout reloading process. I found it to be an impressive and efficient tool in my reloading arsenal. The Zip Spindle feature in the Full Length Sizer Die was a game-changer, making it extremely easy to fine-tune adjustments. The floating bullet alignment sleeve added to the accuracy of the bullet seating, which was a great bonus. However, I did find that it might have been a bit overkill for an average reloader like myself. One slight downside was the lack of the Shell Holder included in the package, which made it necessary to purchase it separately. Nonetheless, the overall experience using this 2-Die Set was highly satisfying, and I would definitely recommend it to fellow reloaders. 🔗Premium 300 Blackout Die Pack for Reloadinghttps://preview.redd.it/a0c3icf8pa3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ca6681c07d386575dccafb961bf8e65b40a78105 I recently got my hands on the Ultimate Die Pack for 300 Blackout, and I'm ready to share my take on it. First things first, these dies are incredibly smooth to use. The accuracy and precision they provide are quite impressive, even for a beginner like me. One of the things that stood out for me is the set's versatility. The 6-die set has you covered for all kinds of reloading needs. Whether you're looking to resize, trim, or even crimp, these dies handle it all seamlessly. However, there were a few downsides too. I found that the instructions could have been more clear and straightforward. A beginner might struggle a bit with the initial setup, but once you get the hang of it, it's smooth sailing. All in all, the Ultimate Die Pack for 300 Blackout is a solid choice for anyone looking to take their reloading game up a notch. The pros definitely outweigh the cons, and I'm confident this set will be a valuable addition to any reloader's toolbox. 🔗High-Quality RCBS 300 Blackout Reloading Dieshttps://preview.redd.it/3tvhxct8pa3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=5ce51432985417372de542a9c15fc596007b1425 The RCBS fl Die Set in. 300 RCM is a powerful addition to any reloading enthusiast's arsenal. With over 60 years of expertise in the reloading industry, RCBS has crafted a Two-Die set that offers exceptional quality. Vent holes on the die set help prevent case damage, while the convenient seater die sports a bullet seater plug and built-in roll or taper crimp. After using the RCBS fl Die Set for a few weeks, I experienced some minor inconveniences. The sizing die left the case with an oversize dimension, making it slightly harder to chamber. However, the die set still delivered impressive results in terms of accuracy and shooting performance. The die set managed tight three-shot groups within 0.4-0.6 inches at 100 yards, showcasing its exceptional quality. Despite the tiny hiccup, the dies proved to be the best on the market, offering outstanding value. 🔗High-Precision Hornady Die for 300 Blackout Reloadinghttps://preview.redd.it/8b8ows89pa3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=f6512f84be6446b1b01a813514ba2411f0c073c5 I recently had the chance to try out the Hornady Die for reloading my bullets for different projects. To begin, the die's thread pattern was a breeze to work with, offering a smooth and satisfying experience as I handled it. The floating sleeve was a game-changer, ensuring that the bullet and case aligned properly before seating, preventing any deformities at the base of the bullet. Using the Hornady Die with various bullets, such as the A-Max and FTX, produced some impressive results in terms of accuracy and precision. The die's compatibility with a wide range of bullets made it a versatile and practical option for my needs. On the other hand, not having a shell holder included could be a minor drawback for some users, but the extra features like Die Locking Rings and the storage box made up for it. The Hornady's lifetime warranty added a layer of confidence and security to my experience with the die. However, a user had an issue with receiving the wrong die set, which could be worrying for potential buyers. I would recommend this product to avid reloaders looking to improve their bullet seating and accuracy while taking advantage of its unique features and versatility. Buyer's GuideWhen it comes to 300 Blackout reloading bullets, there are several important factors to consider before making your purchase. Here are some tips to help you make an informed decision.Types of Bullet Materialshttps://preview.redd.it/k0zg3jv9pa3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=50f2c734ae118fc4c265b69aed1bdffc2e8f4e08 One of the first decisions you'll need to make is which type of bullet material to use: brass or steel. Brass bullets are known for their durability and ease of resizing, but they may be more expensive. Steel bullets are generally less expensive, but they may not be as resizable. Bullet Weight and DesignWhen choosing the weight of your 300 Blackout reloading bullets, consider the specific use of your ammunition. Heavier bullets will typically have better stopping power, but they may also cause more recoil. Lighter bullets can be more accurate at long distances.As for bullet designs, consider whether you want a full metal jacket (FMJ), hollow point, or other type of bullet. Each design has its own advantages and disadvantages, so do your research before making a decision. Brand ReputationWhen you're purchasing reloading bullets, it's important to consider the reputation of the brand you're buying from. Look for brands that have a history of producing high-quality ammunition and bullets. https://preview.redd.it/20wyjthapa3d1.jpg?width=720&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=afd023ca189167e19787ace738aa6fbc86496520 Price and QuantityFinally, consider the price and quantity of the 300 Blackout reloading bullets you're purchasing. Look for deals that offer a reasonable price per bullet, and consider purchasing in bulk if you plan on doing a lot of reloading.Safety and StorageOnce you have your 300 Blackout reloading bullets, it's important to store them safely and securely. 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2024.05.29 06:43 Top_Company4993 I [29F] found out my boyfriend [25M] cheated on me with someone who is also in a relationship, do I let her man know?
My long distance boyfriend of 3 and half years cheated on me with his colleague, they also had unprotected sex. I am completely shattered as I trusted him completely. I havent eaten for 5 days and haven't slept properly either. Then I find out that the girl he cheated on me with also has a boyfriend. Am I crazy for having thoughts of letting her boyfriend that he's also being cheated on and is living in a blissfull lie like I was? Or just don't do anything? Asking for an advice as I not in a state of thinking clearly at the moment. Thank you.
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2024.05.29 06:42 khushinankani I (21F) am in a semi long distance relationship with my (21M) bf. The empty apartment when he leaves eats me from inside.
We have been dating for a couple of months. He lives a few hours away from me and drives to visit me every weekend. He stays at my place but when he leaves the emptiness of my apartment kills me. It feels like I have no one to talk to or do anything. I have breakdowns thinking about this and can’t sleep coz it’s just too empty.
Help me with things I can do or anything that us as a couple can do to help me get over of this emptiness?
TLDR: my bf visits me every weekend and I miss him during the weeks as my apartment feels so empty. What are the things that will help me overcome this emptiness?
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Help me with things I can do or anything that us as a couple can do to help me get over of this emptiness?
TLDR: my bf visits me every weekend and I miss him during the weeks as my apartment feels so empty. What are the things that will help me overcome this emptiness?
2024.05.29 06:40 Alert-Guava9412 My best friend almost committed suicide and I don’t know what to do.
There is a lot of context needed for this story so it might be long- also I am on mobile so I apologize for grammar.
So me (18f) and my best friend (18m), lets call him Jay, have been friends for close to 5 years now- we have both just graduated school and going to college next year (he’s staying local and I am going out of the country). A little over a year and a half ago my father committed suicide, my mother and I took it rough and Jay was there for me through it all. He was at the funeral and helped me and my mother out when we needed it. I get bad flashbacks from that day, and he is aware of this because he has helped me through many panic attacks because of it.
Now Jay has a lot of his own problems, he has bad attachment issues, especially with partners and he has been known to be unnecessarily clingy. This has caused issues with his past relationships, which in turn cause a breakup and a breakdown from him. He thinks a breakup is the end of the world and he thinks every girl is “the one”. His last relationship was with a girl who was mistreating him, took advantage of him and tried to keep them a secret and only really used him for his money- but of course he was head over heels in love with her. It got so bad to the point the only conversations we were having were about this girl and how he was being mistreated- but if I brought up how toxic it was he would make up an excuse and quickly hang up. His self esteem got so low and this girl did such a number on him- he ended up threatening suicide. I, of course, called his mother and had her help him (this was after my father’s death so I couldn’t do much). He ended up getting better and we moved on.
During his past relationship, there was a german exchange student staying with him- let’s call her Amy. After Jay and his ex broke up Amy was the rebound. But because he cannot have a casual relationship, he ended up falling for Amy. But this time Amy fell for him as well. They ended up having a secret relationship, with no labels because both had just gotten out of a relationship. They had ended it for a few months because of some miscommunication issues, but around a month ago decided to try again. However, Amy has to move back to Germany in 3 weeks. So Jay had the bright idea to move to Germany with her.
Now here comes the issue, Jay just found out that he cannot go to Germany and that Amy wants to end things because she doesn’t want a long distance relationship. He took this as “I am never going to speak to you ever again” and he tried to end his life. Thankfully Amy called him and talked him down (which she had to do with her last boyfriend), and he is safe now. He had sent me a goodbye text during work, and I ended up breaking down and had to get sent home. Amy had let me know the full story, and I just spiraled into panic attacks and flashbacks. I had called him later that night, and instead of being in a hospital- he was partying up with his sister and getting high. I got pissed and yelled at him, and he just sent me a half assed apology text. I tried to get him to go to the hospital for inpatient but he refused. It’s been a day and I don’t know what to do. Any advice/support is appreciated.
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So me (18f) and my best friend (18m), lets call him Jay, have been friends for close to 5 years now- we have both just graduated school and going to college next year (he’s staying local and I am going out of the country). A little over a year and a half ago my father committed suicide, my mother and I took it rough and Jay was there for me through it all. He was at the funeral and helped me and my mother out when we needed it. I get bad flashbacks from that day, and he is aware of this because he has helped me through many panic attacks because of it.
Now Jay has a lot of his own problems, he has bad attachment issues, especially with partners and he has been known to be unnecessarily clingy. This has caused issues with his past relationships, which in turn cause a breakup and a breakdown from him. He thinks a breakup is the end of the world and he thinks every girl is “the one”. His last relationship was with a girl who was mistreating him, took advantage of him and tried to keep them a secret and only really used him for his money- but of course he was head over heels in love with her. It got so bad to the point the only conversations we were having were about this girl and how he was being mistreated- but if I brought up how toxic it was he would make up an excuse and quickly hang up. His self esteem got so low and this girl did such a number on him- he ended up threatening suicide. I, of course, called his mother and had her help him (this was after my father’s death so I couldn’t do much). He ended up getting better and we moved on.
During his past relationship, there was a german exchange student staying with him- let’s call her Amy. After Jay and his ex broke up Amy was the rebound. But because he cannot have a casual relationship, he ended up falling for Amy. But this time Amy fell for him as well. They ended up having a secret relationship, with no labels because both had just gotten out of a relationship. They had ended it for a few months because of some miscommunication issues, but around a month ago decided to try again. However, Amy has to move back to Germany in 3 weeks. So Jay had the bright idea to move to Germany with her.
Now here comes the issue, Jay just found out that he cannot go to Germany and that Amy wants to end things because she doesn’t want a long distance relationship. He took this as “I am never going to speak to you ever again” and he tried to end his life. Thankfully Amy called him and talked him down (which she had to do with her last boyfriend), and he is safe now. He had sent me a goodbye text during work, and I ended up breaking down and had to get sent home. Amy had let me know the full story, and I just spiraled into panic attacks and flashbacks. I had called him later that night, and instead of being in a hospital- he was partying up with his sister and getting high. I got pissed and yelled at him, and he just sent me a half assed apology text. I tried to get him to go to the hospital for inpatient but he refused. It’s been a day and I don’t know what to do. Any advice/support is appreciated.
2024.05.29 06:39 Tear-Relative AITA for being the reason for my bestfriend's engagement to break off?
Me (30) and my bestfriend Mary (31) have been friends for 8 years, during this friendship, Mary was aware that cheating on a relationship is a big no-no for me (as all decent people should). Even when I find out celebrities, colleagues or even people I don't know break up because of cheating, I get this bitter taste in my mouth. It's all because, all my life, my dad is a serial cheater and even now even after 34 years - he still is. It started when Mary and I worked together on a cruise ship for the first time in our years of working on different contracts - we finally got the same ship and same contract dates. She is already engaged by this time and will be married in a few months, so almost all the preparations are done. And since we are on a cruise ship and far away from our country, Mary and her fiance Mark (36) are on a long distance relationship. I can only imagine planning a wedding apart from your partner. I know it's been hard on her. Over the course of our 6 month contract together, she developed a lot of guy friends within the crew (people who work onboard the ship) since there are more guys who hangout on crew bars at night after our shift. I on the other hand don't drink so I just sleep early since I work 11 hrs a day everyday. Oftentimes, she goes back to our cabin drunk or sometimes with her new friends in the middle of the night, sometimes it will wake me, sometimes not, which being a crew member for a few years living with different kinds of roommates, i am used to it.
But one night, I cannot fall asleep because my partner and I had a fight and I was waiting for him to reply, i heard someone open the door and I heard a man's voice snickering(obviously trying to not make a noise) and Mary's shushing noise followed him. For context we live on a cabin with a bunk bed and I'm top bunk and I have curtains for privacy. Obviously they won't be able to tell if i'm awake or not. I then heard kissing noises and felt movements soon after - they were doing the deed. My gut fell and I wanted to be a mean nosy bitch and go down and ask them what they think they are doing but I just stopped myself, telling myself it's none of my business and that I can deal with her tomorrow.
The next day came and I talked to her - to cut the story short, she's been feeling sad and she's having cold feet. She felt loved and seen by this "guy" and when they talk he just makes her feel everything she will be giving up when she gets married. For context again, Mark is her first boyfriend and they'd been together for 10 years. She just feels that she has been missing out being with him for so long and said she "wanted to try some new things". I argued with her, that if this was the case, she should break up with Mark instead of sleeping around and cheating. I told her that if she gets married with these thoughts in her head, she would end up hurting Mark (plus there's no divorce in our country, only an annulment and it's hell to pay - not that it's an excuse just a sidenote haha). She said she would think about it and wait for the right time, but apparently - her thinking about it means she'll still sleep around with this guy.
I hate every bit of it, but she asked me not to say anything and to not ruin anything I am not a part of. I've known this guy as much as I know her, Mark, my boyfriend and I bond on music and biking and he is practically like a big brother to me. But, I also want to respect Mary's life and her decisions. I continue to be there for her, on her mental breakdowns and her bad days when she feels really bad with the things she has been doing. I advise her to do the right thing and tell him. But ishe asked me to promise not to tell, inside I feel so bad, because this is not what my convictions are telling me. I know I have to be honest and I feel that I'm betraying Mark by not telling him. And in a weird way, i feel that the trauma I had growing up with a father that cheats, now with a bestfriend who does the same thing is taking a toll on me. I actually got so anxious with this situation that I often zone-out, had no appetite and I actually lost a lot of weight.
Our contracts pass and we're about to go home in a few weeks and she's still sleeping with the guy and some others, still "thinking about it", still not letting go of Mark and still going through with the wedding preps. And she still begs me not to say anything. I cannot tell you how many times I drafted a message on my notepad composing what I will tell Mark. There were also times Mark messaged me and asked me why Mary seems so distant lately. The urge to say the truth is really hard to supress but because I love Mary so much I try to be understanding and wanted her to tell it directly to him so as not to humiliate their 10 year relationship.
Fast forward, I came home a week before her. Being back to the Philippines and seeing my mom waiting for me in the airport - so beautiful and kind and yet knowing how much she feels unloved by my dad made me snap. On that day I came home I sent a whatsapp message to Mary, "I'm telling Mark" and turned off my phone. I met up with Mark that same night and told him everything. He was dumbfounded, he was crying and we spent 5 hours on that coffee shop talking and just him on a roller coaster of anger, sadness and just plain pity on himself really. He really does love her. So much. My boyfriend and I took him home. He was just staring into space on the car ride home and I feel so bad and i had this lingering feeling that I know i did the right thing but i also caused pain.
When I woke up and turned on my phone I had a hundred of texts, missed calls and even emails saying that i answer the phone, that i'm an ungrateful friend, a backstabber, i am stupid and that i just wanted to see her fall because I'm jealous of her. She said she was planning to go home and confess to him directly so that she can reason with him to continue with the wedding despite the circumstance. She said that she had never seen this evil side of me and she pity me because there's nothing interesting going on in my life that I had to cause drama in other people's lives.
I felt worse. I haven't replied to her and it has been 3 weeks from then to today as of writing. I deactivated all my socials because i heard from a friend that she has been posting cryptic status online. They called it off and informed everybody on the guest list. I still receive e-mails from her to this day saying 'I hope you are happy' and 'You're not a hero, you're a villain.' Mark had messaged me saying thanks but thats about it. I think he is also off the grid and not talking to anyone. I feel so so bad and the way she reacted to me made me feel that I'm an asshole for telling, so am i?
P.S Sorry for the long story, I'm just really writing the way I feel about it as it is still so fresh.
And if you were able to read this Charlotte, just wanted to let you know that you have a lot of fans from the Philippines. <3 Keep up being such a great youtuber you are such a great company specially at times like this.
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But one night, I cannot fall asleep because my partner and I had a fight and I was waiting for him to reply, i heard someone open the door and I heard a man's voice snickering(obviously trying to not make a noise) and Mary's shushing noise followed him. For context we live on a cabin with a bunk bed and I'm top bunk and I have curtains for privacy. Obviously they won't be able to tell if i'm awake or not. I then heard kissing noises and felt movements soon after - they were doing the deed. My gut fell and I wanted to be a mean nosy bitch and go down and ask them what they think they are doing but I just stopped myself, telling myself it's none of my business and that I can deal with her tomorrow.
The next day came and I talked to her - to cut the story short, she's been feeling sad and she's having cold feet. She felt loved and seen by this "guy" and when they talk he just makes her feel everything she will be giving up when she gets married. For context again, Mark is her first boyfriend and they'd been together for 10 years. She just feels that she has been missing out being with him for so long and said she "wanted to try some new things". I argued with her, that if this was the case, she should break up with Mark instead of sleeping around and cheating. I told her that if she gets married with these thoughts in her head, she would end up hurting Mark (plus there's no divorce in our country, only an annulment and it's hell to pay - not that it's an excuse just a sidenote haha). She said she would think about it and wait for the right time, but apparently - her thinking about it means she'll still sleep around with this guy.
I hate every bit of it, but she asked me not to say anything and to not ruin anything I am not a part of. I've known this guy as much as I know her, Mark, my boyfriend and I bond on music and biking and he is practically like a big brother to me. But, I also want to respect Mary's life and her decisions. I continue to be there for her, on her mental breakdowns and her bad days when she feels really bad with the things she has been doing. I advise her to do the right thing and tell him. But ishe asked me to promise not to tell, inside I feel so bad, because this is not what my convictions are telling me. I know I have to be honest and I feel that I'm betraying Mark by not telling him. And in a weird way, i feel that the trauma I had growing up with a father that cheats, now with a bestfriend who does the same thing is taking a toll on me. I actually got so anxious with this situation that I often zone-out, had no appetite and I actually lost a lot of weight.
Our contracts pass and we're about to go home in a few weeks and she's still sleeping with the guy and some others, still "thinking about it", still not letting go of Mark and still going through with the wedding preps. And she still begs me not to say anything. I cannot tell you how many times I drafted a message on my notepad composing what I will tell Mark. There were also times Mark messaged me and asked me why Mary seems so distant lately. The urge to say the truth is really hard to supress but because I love Mary so much I try to be understanding and wanted her to tell it directly to him so as not to humiliate their 10 year relationship.
Fast forward, I came home a week before her. Being back to the Philippines and seeing my mom waiting for me in the airport - so beautiful and kind and yet knowing how much she feels unloved by my dad made me snap. On that day I came home I sent a whatsapp message to Mary, "I'm telling Mark" and turned off my phone. I met up with Mark that same night and told him everything. He was dumbfounded, he was crying and we spent 5 hours on that coffee shop talking and just him on a roller coaster of anger, sadness and just plain pity on himself really. He really does love her. So much. My boyfriend and I took him home. He was just staring into space on the car ride home and I feel so bad and i had this lingering feeling that I know i did the right thing but i also caused pain.
When I woke up and turned on my phone I had a hundred of texts, missed calls and even emails saying that i answer the phone, that i'm an ungrateful friend, a backstabber, i am stupid and that i just wanted to see her fall because I'm jealous of her. She said she was planning to go home and confess to him directly so that she can reason with him to continue with the wedding despite the circumstance. She said that she had never seen this evil side of me and she pity me because there's nothing interesting going on in my life that I had to cause drama in other people's lives.
I felt worse. I haven't replied to her and it has been 3 weeks from then to today as of writing. I deactivated all my socials because i heard from a friend that she has been posting cryptic status online. They called it off and informed everybody on the guest list. I still receive e-mails from her to this day saying 'I hope you are happy' and 'You're not a hero, you're a villain.' Mark had messaged me saying thanks but thats about it. I think he is also off the grid and not talking to anyone. I feel so so bad and the way she reacted to me made me feel that I'm an asshole for telling, so am i?
P.S Sorry for the long story, I'm just really writing the way I feel about it as it is still so fresh.
And if you were able to read this Charlotte, just wanted to let you know that you have a lot of fans from the Philippines. <3 Keep up being such a great youtuber you are such a great company specially at times like this.
2024.05.29 06:39 Away_Cheetah8612 My best friend’s bf is being a stick in the mud about throwing her a surprise party, do I throw it anyways?
About a week ago, I reached out to my best friend (26f)’s bf (25m) about throwing her a surprise birthday party. My idea is to throw her a surprise birthday party that is “dad rock themed” because that is the type of music she grew up listening to and is her comfort genre. Ideally, we would all dress up as rock/grunge stars or dads as a joke and play funny dad themed games, bbq, cornhole, etc. My best friend is also my roommate so I want to throw it at our house.
I reached out to my best friend’s mom, who said she thought my best friend would love the idea and let me know she will help with anything I need to make it happen.
However, when I reached out to my best friend’s bf about this, he reacted way differently than I thought. His first concern that he expressed was who all was coming because he doesn’t know how many friends she has to invite. I told him I planned to invite a mix of her family, coworkers, mutual friends, and my bf and him. In total, it wouldn’t be a lot of people, maybe 10. This wasn’t a concern for me because when she threw me a surprise party, there was less than 10 and I still had an amazing time with all of the people who loved me most. She has said many times she prefers smaller groups anyways.
I explained to him that it would just be a small kickback type situation, just bbq and music and good vibes. He responded that he didn’t think she would like it because those people wouldn’t “mesh well” and suggested I do a spa date or an escape room with her instead.
Here’s why I’m considering throwing the party anyways:
For some more context, this bf is in the music industry and when I asked him about doing the music for this party, he said it would be easy , but that he didn’t know if he wanted to do it because then he wouldn’t be able to also party.
I can’t help but feel like he is being selfish/ inconsiderate and projecting because he is a more introverted person and wouldn’t want that for himself . I don’t care if he helps or not but idk if I can pull this off without him, bc they are together so often.
Sorry if this was too long, but I’m new to Reddit . Open to honest opinions about this and any advice about how I can make her day special if not this party/ how I can go about this disagreement with her bf. I care about her so much and just want to take care of her the way she takes care of me. Is there even a compromise here?
TL,DR: My best friend’s bf and I disagree on what we should do for her birthday and I’m thinking of going with me idea despite his opinion. I feel like he is wrong but don’t know what to do.
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I reached out to my best friend’s mom, who said she thought my best friend would love the idea and let me know she will help with anything I need to make it happen.
However, when I reached out to my best friend’s bf about this, he reacted way differently than I thought. His first concern that he expressed was who all was coming because he doesn’t know how many friends she has to invite. I told him I planned to invite a mix of her family, coworkers, mutual friends, and my bf and him. In total, it wouldn’t be a lot of people, maybe 10. This wasn’t a concern for me because when she threw me a surprise party, there was less than 10 and I still had an amazing time with all of the people who loved me most. She has said many times she prefers smaller groups anyways.
I explained to him that it would just be a small kickback type situation, just bbq and music and good vibes. He responded that he didn’t think she would like it because those people wouldn’t “mesh well” and suggested I do a spa date or an escape room with her instead.
Here’s why I’m considering throwing the party anyways:
- She has never had a party thrown for her before and has been dropping hints like telling me what kind of cake she would like. When I straight up asked her the other day “would you like a surprise party? Or would you hate that?” She told me she didn’t know because she has never had anyone do something like that for her.
- She already did an escape room with him a while back and I wanted to do something more personal and special
- She had originally planned to go with her bf on their annual bday camping trip, but they cancelled it due to financial reasons (aka they both spent money going to HIS sister’s graduation)
- She is the type of person who is always taking care of everyone else and is always mentioning how it would be nice for people to do the same for her too
- I personally don’t think it is about the people that are there, but that it is about celebrating her for her day.
For some more context, this bf is in the music industry and when I asked him about doing the music for this party, he said it would be easy , but that he didn’t know if he wanted to do it because then he wouldn’t be able to also party.
I can’t help but feel like he is being selfish/ inconsiderate and projecting because he is a more introverted person and wouldn’t want that for himself . I don’t care if he helps or not but idk if I can pull this off without him, bc they are together so often.
Sorry if this was too long, but I’m new to Reddit . Open to honest opinions about this and any advice about how I can make her day special if not this party/ how I can go about this disagreement with her bf. I care about her so much and just want to take care of her the way she takes care of me. Is there even a compromise here?
TL,DR: My best friend’s bf and I disagree on what we should do for her birthday and I’m thinking of going with me idea despite his opinion. I feel like he is wrong but don’t know what to do.
2024.05.29 06:37 Citoyen4 Long distance relationship : are you in one? Or would you be willing to be in one?
And by that I mean as far as different state or even country. What are your experiences or thoughts on that? My mind is already pretty much set about this guy I met, so I am just curious.
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2024.05.29 06:36 nerosighted Serial Monitor Print Issue
Totally lost. This code printed values, but when I uploaded it to the board absolutely nothing. Checked past iterations of the code that printed earlier and nothing still. Entirely unsure of what to do, any ideas? /* @Author: Maclab @Date: 2024-02-06 11:59:09 @LastEditTime: 2020-12-18 14:14:35 @LastEditors: AJ<3 @Description: Smart Robot Car V4.0 @FilePath: */ #include//#include #include #include #include "DeviceDriverSet_xxx0.h" #include #include "ArduinoJson-v6.11.1.h" //ArduinoJson #include "MPU6050_getdata.h" //#include "UltrasoundByWill.h"*/ #include extern "C" { #include "FinalTest.h" #include "FinalTest_private.h" #include "FinalTest_types.h" } /*Hardware device object list*/ MPU6050_getdata AppMPU6050getdata; DeviceDriverSet_RBGLED AppRBG_LED; DeviceDriverSet_Key AppKey; DeviceDriverSet_ITR20001 AppITR20001; DeviceDriverSet_Voltage AppVoltage; DeviceDriverSet_Motor AppMotor; DeviceDriverSet_ULTRASONIC AppULTRASONIC; DeviceDriverSet_Servo AppServo; //DeviceDriverSet_IRrecv AppIRrecv; /*f(x) int */ static boolean function_xxx(long x, long s, long e) //f(x) { if (s <= x && x <= e) return true; else return false; } static void delay_xxx(uint16_t _ms) { wdt_reset(); for (unsigned long i = 0; i < _ms; i++) { delay(1); } } void ApplicationFunctions_Init(void) { bool res_error = true; AppVoltage.DeviceDriverSet_Voltage_Init(); AppMotor.DeviceDriverSet_Motor_Init(); AppServo.DeviceDriverSet_Servo_Init(90); AppKey.DeviceDriverSet_Key_Init(); AppRBG_LED.DeviceDriverSet_RBGLED_Init(20); //AppIRrecv.DeviceDriverSet_IRrecv_Init(); AppULTRASONIC.DeviceDriverSet_ULTRASONIC_Init(); AppITR20001.DeviceDriverSet_ITR20001_Init(); //res_error = AppMPU6050getdata.MPU6050_dveInit(); //AppMPU6050getdata.MPU6050_calibration(); // Intialize DemoWeek 5 Parameters //FinalTest_P.controlEN = true; //FinalTest_P.dir_MA = true; //FinalTest_P.dir_MB = true; //FinalTest_P.speed_MA = 128; //FinalTest_P.speed_MB = 64; } // Initialize some variables float Yaw; // yaw angle from the IMU int IRSensL; // Left IR sensor int IRSensM; // Middle IR sensor int IRSensR; // Right IR sensor uint8_t keyValue; // key value float device_voltage; // pin voltage uint16_t ultrasonic_fb; // ultrasonic reading bool IRerror; // IR receive error uint8_t IRrecv_code; // IR receive code unsigned long previous_time = millis(); //for distance IR Sensor const int pinIRd2 = 25; const int pinIRa2 = A0; const int pinLED2 = 9; int IRvalueA2 = 0; int IRvalueD2 = 0; /* Motor Inputs */ bool dirMA; bool dirMB; bool motEN; uint8_t PWMA; uint8_t PWMB; int Servo1_Output, Servo2_Output, Servo3_Output; #define Servo1Pin 44 #define Servo2Pin 45 #define Servo3Pin 46 #include Servo servo1; Servo servo2; Servo servo3; #define IR_LEFTMOST_PIN A8 #define IR_RIGHTMOST_PIN A9 #define Button_PIN 18 #define MAX_DISTANCE 200 // Button-related variables int dropOffButton = 0; static int lastButtonState = HIGH; static unsigned long lastDebounceTime = 0; const unsigned long debounceDelay = 50; NewPing sonar(TRIG_PIN, ECHO_PIN, MAX_DISTANCE); void setup() { FinalTest_initialize(); Serial.begin(9600); ApplicationFunctions_Init(); /*UltrasoundInit();*/ //pinMode(Servo1Pin,OUTPUT); //pinMode(Servo2Pin,OUTPUT); //pinMode(Servo3Pin,OUTPUT); servo1.attach(Servo1Pin); servo2.attach(Servo2Pin); servo3.attach(Servo3Pin); pinMode(IR_LEFTMOST_PIN, INPUT); pinMode(IR_RIGHTMOST_PIN, INPUT); pinMode(Button_PIN, INPUT); FinalTest_P.PWMsl_l = 200; // range = 0-> 255 (uint8) baseline 200,50,50,200 2baseline 200,150,150,200 3baseline 180,150,150,180 FinalTest_P.PWMsl_r = 180; FinalTest_P.PWMsr_l = 180; FinalTest_P.PWMsr_r = 200; pinMode(pinIRd2,INPUT); pinMode(pinIRa2,INPUT); pinMode(pinLED2,OUTPUT); //attachInterrupt(digitalPinToInterrupt(Button_PIN),ButtonStuff,RISING); /* Interrupt Initialization TCCR1A = 0; TCCR1B = B00010010; //CNCx ICESx – WGMx3 WGMx2 CSx2 CSx1 CSx0 ICR1 = 20000; // Set Timer Interrupt 100 Hz. If you want 100*(10)= 1 kHz, just put ICR1=10000/(10)=1000, Similarly, using 2000 will produce 500 Hz //Note: Be sure the timer interrupt frequency matches with the simulink block diagram. Otherwise, the "after" function in simulink or any other functions related to time won't be accurate. TIMSK1 = B00000001; // Enable Timer Interrupt */ } unsigned long PreT = 0; /* unsigned long UltraSoundTime = 0; bool UltraSoundWaiting = false; int UltrasoundDis = 0; int UltraSoundChecking() { if (!UltraSoundWaiting) { digitalWrite(TRIG_PIN, LOW); delayMicroseconds(2); digitalWrite(TRIG_PIN, HIGH); delayMicroseconds(10); digitalWrite(TRIG_PIN, LOW); //while(!digitalRead(ECHO_PIN)){} delay(1); UltraSoundTime = millis(); UltraSoundWaiting = 1; } else { if (!digitalRead(ECHO_PIN)) { UltrasoundDis = (millis() - UltraSoundTime) / 58; UltraSoundWaiting = 0; } } return UltrasoundDis; } */ int DebugNum; // ISR(TIMER1_OVF_vect){ // } void loop() { //Serial.print("T:"); if (millis() - PreT >= 10) // Runs at 100 Hz { //Serial.println(millis() - PreT); PreT = millis(); //delay(50); // Wait 50ms between pings (about 20 pings/sec). 29ms should be the shortest delay between pings. //Serial.print("Ping: "); //Serial.print(sonar.ping_cm()); // Send ping, get distance in cm and print result (0 = outside set distance range) //Serial.println("cm"); // put your main code here, to run repeatedly: //AppMPU6050getdata.MPU6050_dveGetEulerAngles(&Yaw); // Get vehicle orientation IRSensL = AppITR20001.DeviceDriverSet_ITR20001_getAnaloguexxx_L(); IRSensM = AppITR20001.DeviceDriverSet_ITR20001_getAnaloguexxx_M(); IRSensR = AppITR20001.DeviceDriverSet_ITR20001_getAnaloguexxx_R(); AppKey.DeviceDriverSet_key_Get(&keyValue); //device_voltage = AppVoltage.DeviceDriverSet_Voltage_getAnalogue(); //AppULTRASONIC.DeviceDriverSet_ULTRASONIC_Get(&ultrasonic_fb); //AppIRrecv.DeviceDriverSet_IRrecv_Get(&IRrecv_code); /* Send fb data to Simulink Module */ FinalTest_U.IRSensL_in = IRSensL; FinalTest_U.IRSensM_in = IRSensM; FinalTest_U.IRSensR_in = IRSensR; //DemoWeek5_U.VoltageDetect_in = device_voltage; //FinalTest_U.UltraSensor_in = ultrasonic_fb; FinalTest_U.UltraSensor_in = sonar.ping_cm(); FinalTest_U.IRkeyCode_in = keyValue; //DemoWeek5_U.MPU6050IMU_yaw_in= Yaw; //DemoWeek5_U.IRSensorCode_in = IRrecv_code; FinalTest_U.IR_LEFTMOST_in = analogRead(IR_LEFTMOST_PIN); FinalTest_U.IR_RIGHTMOST_in = analogRead(IR_RIGHTMOST_PIN); FinalTest_U.dropOffButton = dropOffButton/2; //IR Distance IRvalueA2 = analogRead(pinIRa2); IRvalueD2 = digitalRead(pinIRd2); FinalTest_U.IR_DISTANCE_in = digitalRead(pinIRd2); // Read and debounce the button int buttonState = digitalRead(Button_PIN); if (buttonState != lastButtonState) { lastDebounceTime = millis(); lastButtonState = buttonState; dropOffButton++; } // if ((millis() - lastDebounceTime) > debounceDelay) { // if (buttonState == LOW && lastButtonState == HIGH) { // dropOffButton++; // Serial.print("Button Pressed! Count: "); // Serial.println(dropOffButton); // } // } //lastButtonState = buttonState; /* Step Simulink Module*/ FinalTest_step(); /* Extract outputs from Simulink Module */ PWMA = FinalTest_Y.PWMA; PWMB = FinalTest_Y.PWMB; motEN = FinalTest_Y.MotorEN; dirMA = FinalTest_Y.dirMA; dirMB = FinalTest_Y.dirMB; Servo1_Output = FinalTest_Y.servo1; Servo2_Output = FinalTest_Y.servo2; Servo3_Output = FinalTest_Y.servo3; DebugNum = FinalTest_Y.A; /* Send commands to actuators */ AppMotor.DeviceDriverSet_Motor_control(dirMA, PWMA, dirMB, PWMB , motEN); //AppMotor.DeviceDriverSet_Motor_control(1, 0, 1, 0 , 1); servo1.write(Servo1_Output); servo2.write(Servo2_Output); servo3.write(Servo3_Output); } /* Verify remaining outputs */ if (millis() - previous_time >= 1000) { // Print things here Serial.print(IRSensL); Serial.print("\t"); Serial.print(IRSensR); Serial.print("\t"); Serial.print(IRSensM); Serial.print("\t"); Serial.print(FinalTest_U.IR_LEFTMOST_in); Serial.print("\t"); Serial.print(FinalTest_U.IR_RIGHTMOST_in); Serial.print("\t"); Serial.print(FinalTest_U.UltraSensor_in); Serial.print("\t"); Serial.print(FinalTest_U.IR_DISTANCE_in); Serial.print("\t"); Serial.print(keyValue); Serial.print("\t"); Serial.print(DebugNum); Serial.print("\t"); Serial.print(dropOffButton/2); Serial.print("\n"); previous_time = millis(); } } //void ButtonStuff(){ //dropOffButton+=1; //delay(100); //}
2024.05.29 06:35 blurryturtle 2024 Roland Garros Women's Singles Round Two Wednesday Matches
Wednesday WTA matches are below. I'll put the Thursday matches up tomorrow in the evening EST.
The courts in RG are playing slow, and as DC insider redswader pointed out, the rainy conditions are making them even slower. It makes it really tough to hit through Swiatek, and she isn’t just a defensive test. She has the windmill forehand technique that Rafa made famous, and her backhand moves the ball well and is fairly hard to read. This should be fun, but Swiatek in 2 by at least 3 breaks.
Potapova won’t help Golubic win here, and she just hit through a similar test in Kamila Rakhimova. Potapova hits real big, and she’s hungry for these wins. I expect her to win in 2.
Cocciaretto has a better backhand and a better serve, but Bucsa moves better and ended the match with Starodubtseva in excellent form. Vaguely expecting this to go 3, but it’ll require Bucsa to avoid the errors that had her down a break early against Staro. Bucsa in 3. Feels wrong to type is but I think she’s ready to win.
Garcia needs to isolate Kenin’s forehand to win this. Her own forehand is her best weapon, and if she’s serving well she should win the match. For Kenin, she needs to keep the ball in difficult spots for Garcia. Height, slices, and dropshots. Force Garcia to create her own power, because if you give Garcia pace she redirects incredibly well. Expecting another 3 setter here. Garcia in Garthreeya? Awful, awful joke. The h2h makes me think I’m wrong, but Garcia has simpler ways to score here. I’d avoid trusting me here because I didn’t see the Kenin/Siegemund clash.
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Swiatek vs Osaka :
Iga Swiatek will have a very high profile matchup in round two, and it should be entertaining tennis. Osaka has played admirably in her return to clay. She’s trying her best, she’s problem-solving on court, she’s complimentary to her opponents, and she’s winning matches. To do all that post-pregnancy and post-clay struggles is a great thing in itself, and it’s good to see her enjoying tennis again. Her backhand inside out remains one of the best on tour, and her serve and power are enough to making this interesting. 3 sets with Bronzetti indicates she probably won’t get within striking distance of Swiatek, but Bronzetti will make you really earn a win so it’s a solid second round performance.The courts in RG are playing slow, and as DC insider redswader pointed out, the rainy conditions are making them even slower. It makes it really tough to hit through Swiatek, and she isn’t just a defensive test. She has the windmill forehand technique that Rafa made famous, and her backhand moves the ball well and is fairly hard to read. This should be fun, but Swiatek in 2 by at least 3 breaks.
Fett vs Bouzkova :
If you like 20 shot rallies, this is the match for you. Jana Fett has tons of experience, and is finding herself back on tour for the first time in a while. She’s a solid baseliner, and is playing someone who is best described as a wall. Bouzkova rarely misses with her backhand, and her defense and speed are good enough to keep her consistently in the top 50 on tour. Bouzkova is expected to be the stronger player here, but I don’t see a great way for her to win quickly. Her serve isn’t particularly great, and Fett beat a solid player in Bouzas Maneiro. Bouzkova in 2-3.Golubic vs Potapova :
Big surprise for Golubic to beat Krejcikova in round one, and yet not a surprise at all for Krejcikova to lose in round one. Barbora has been really inconsistent for a while now, and Golubic is more than capable of keeping the ball moving enough to benefit if Krejcikova is spraying errors. Annnnnnnd she was. 51 unforced errors in total, although 34 winners is also pretty impressive.Potapova won’t help Golubic win here, and she just hit through a similar test in Kamila Rakhimova. Potapova hits real big, and she’s hungry for these wins. I expect her to win in 2.
Wang Xinyu vs Tomova :
Tomova was expected to give Alexandrova trouble, but Alexandrova forgot to give Tomova trouble. It sets up a very winnable second round for Tomova. She hits a heavy heavy forehand and on these slow courts it really works. Wang is through after besting Niemeier in 3, and while she’s not at her best on clay, she has good enough tennis to win. This reminds me a bit of the Arnaldi Fils match. Wang has the game to beat Tomova if she’s patient, but she tends to go big a bit too often for clay and Tomova’s game doesn’t really fluctuate. Alexandrova is a better win than Wang on paper, but Alexandrova helped by making errors. I expect this to be closer. Tomova in 3.Collins vs Danilovic :
Collins’ run continues. Danilovic is playing sharp, but the type of pressure that Danielle Collins applies can really bother anyone on tour. Danilovic needs to keep her first serve percentage high, and last round it was only at 59%. That’s not bad, but you want it higher against Collins. The good thing for Olga is she might be able to put some pressure on Collins’ serve with the power she has from the baseline, but the bad news is she’s lefty and going crosscourt will get her in trouble since Danielle loves to trade crosscourt with her backhand and tends to create a larger angle and more depth on every subsequent swing. Collins in 2.Vekic vs Kostyuk :
Vekic got a forfeit, and playing fresh can be a big advantage. Kostyuk and her both have a similar approach. They hit hard, the end. Vekic does have dropshots at her disposal, but I think Kostyuk is a slightly better mover and in these slow conditions it’ll be tough to hit through her. A long match with Pigossi will have her hitting well also, so Kostyuk in 3.Siniakova vs Paquet :
Huge surprise win for Paquet in round one, and I realized today I’ve been spelling her name wrong for a while (adding the c before the q). Sorry about that. Anyway, beating Shnaider is great, but I did not catch much of the match so I’m not sure how that happened. Siniakova is projected to win here, and aside from the Shnaider result there’s not much to argue against that. Somehow they’ve played twice with Katerina winning both, but those wins were in 2016-17. Siniakova in 2, but I would get too specific with any predictions here since Paquet is playing at home and her game is entirely built around her serve.Volynets vs Vondrousova :
Volynets and Vondrousova has the potential to last 2 hours even if it’s a straight setter. Vondrousova has more ways to score here, but Volynets commitment to defense has elevated her game. Those little squash gets and lobs might get dismissed once, but having to execute over and over can draw errors, and Volynets speed can make people force shots. Vondrousova isn’t exactly automatic on her offense. Despite the hype, Volynets will have a really hard time scoring on Marketa, so I think extending rallies is the best she can do. Vondrousova in 2-3.Gauff vs Zidansek :
Gauff didn’t bother with her usual slow start here. As she gets more comfortable on tour, the rough performances are less and less frequent, and she rights the ship and wins some of those anyway. Zidansek was a clay specialist and a mainstay on tour, but her game has fallen off a bit due to some injuries and inactivity. This should be fun, but Gauff should be a break better in each set. Gauff in 2.Wang Yafan vs Yastremska :
Big win for Wang in round one. She’s ranked 68 now, but just a season ago she was winning Challenger events and hinting at a move inside the top 100. Wins at majors are hard to come by, so this was great for her. Her variety and defensive style might give Yastremska a bit of trouble here. Yastremska is supposed to win though, and she’ll have ample time to figure it out. Yastremska in 2-3.Samsonova vs Anisimova :
Samsonova crushed Linette in round one and is a deserved favorite here, but Anisimova’s win should not be overlooked. Sramkova almost beat Ostapenko (third set tb) and has been one of the big surprises in the clay swing. Anisimova has a decent chance to beat Samsonova here but it will take her best tennis. Samsonova didn’t face a breakpoint in round one, and will likely continue to play well here. Anisimova has the h2h 2-0, but both were close. Conditions are better for Samsonova, and while I’m expecting this to be very close there really isn’t a result that would surprise me here. Both players’ levels can deviate a great deal, and both are lights out when their offense is flowing. Samsonova in 3.Bucsa vs Cocciaretto :
Haddad Maia continues to struggle to close matches out. Cocciaretto was down a set against her but managed to win in three. It wasn’t smooth sailing and there were a number of breaks exchanged, but Haddad never really regained her best form. It sets up an interesting match against one of the tour’s more unsung but likely phenoms. Cristina Bucsa hits the ball huge despite appearing to only weight about 15 pounds. Her frame is light, but she will hit winner after winner when she’s in a rhythm. This matchup is all offense.Cocciaretto has a better backhand and a better serve, but Bucsa moves better and ended the match with Starodubtseva in excellent form. Vaguely expecting this to go 3, but it’ll require Bucsa to avoid the errors that had her down a break early against Staro. Bucsa in 3. Feels wrong to type is but I think she’s ready to win.
Ostapenko vs Tauson :
Their two previous meetings have gone three sets, and both are playing decent. Ostapenko isn’t at the level that won her a RG title in 2017, but her offense is big enough to give Tauson trouble. Tauson probably isn’t quick enough to defend against Ostapenko’s onslaught, but her serving is good enough to keep her out of trouble for some portion of the match. Basically, neither player can run down their opponent’s power. I think Ostapenko actually has more stamina in this matchup, which is rare to say. Ostapenko in 3.Kenin vs Garcia :
Another really hard match here. Kenin has beaten Garcia in all three of their meetings, but none of them were on clay and her current level should be considered independent of all earlier performances. Kenin is not the same player that challenged for major titles, and from round to round her level can disappear. She won a surprise in round one against Siegemund, and that’s actually the level she’d need to give Garcia trouble.Garcia needs to isolate Kenin’s forehand to win this. Her own forehand is her best weapon, and if she’s serving well she should win the match. For Kenin, she needs to keep the ball in difficult spots for Garcia. Height, slices, and dropshots. Force Garcia to create her own power, because if you give Garcia pace she redirects incredibly well. Expecting another 3 setter here. Garcia in Garthreeya? Awful, awful joke. The h2h makes me think I’m wrong, but Garcia has simpler ways to score here. I’d avoid trusting me here because I didn’t see the Kenin/Siegemund clash.
Fernandez vs Wang Xiyu :
This is a fun one. Fernandez is clearly better on clay, and should win. All that is true, but Wang has so much power that it might not be possible for Fernandez to win in straights. Earning every point is tough, and early on in Fernandez’s career she had trouble against the bigger hitters on tour. Fernandez in 3.Osorio vs Jabeur :
Osorio Kalinina was one of the most exciting matches of the entire first round, but it ended sadly in a retirement. Kalinina was hitting the ball huge and constantly breaking Osorio’s serve. Osorio was defending with incredible heart and managed to get back into the game multiple games each set. In the end, Kalinina had to withdraw. I had her beating Jabeur with the level she was at, but I think Osorio will have a tougher time. Jabeur looked pretty good in round one, and despite her slump, clay is still a great surface for her. She’ll be able to dominate from the baseline with power in the same way that Kalinina did, and Osorio had a really hard time holding serve so Jabeur should win. It’s always a big should with Jabeur, and with her sort of slump Osorio will know that it is possible to outlast her. Maybe not physically, but mentally. Jabeur can get discouraged, so this is a risky spot. Jabeur in 2 or Osorio in 3.2024.05.29 06:33 thecoolsean Deciding what to do with a relationship / friendship
I’ve been talking to someone for about 6 weeks now and we get along really well. We’ve been trying to figure out what we are and recently came to the decision to be friends. I know she really likes me, but I’m uncertain if I want to get into a relationship with her. I wrote a whole thing about her, basically all the reasons I like her and admire about her. The one problem is she’s graduating in 2 weeks moving across the state after and then I’m going to another country in three months. So realistically we won’t see each other for a significant amount of time. I don’t know if my feelings for her are strong enough to survive a long distance thing.
Whenever I think about dating her something feels off but I can’t find words to describe it. Another thing I have this idea in my head that I want to be single and explore this new country with no restraints which I feel is not a good headspace to be in if I were to get in a relationship with her.
With all that I feel somewhat confident to be friends with her but yet for some reason there’s still some uncertainty of the right decision. And a small part of me wants to date her.
Any thoughts or ways to think about it that can lead me to a decision?
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Whenever I think about dating her something feels off but I can’t find words to describe it. Another thing I have this idea in my head that I want to be single and explore this new country with no restraints which I feel is not a good headspace to be in if I were to get in a relationship with her.
With all that I feel somewhat confident to be friends with her but yet for some reason there’s still some uncertainty of the right decision. And a small part of me wants to date her.
Any thoughts or ways to think about it that can lead me to a decision?
2024.05.29 06:33 Interesting_Clock238 Criticism in Danish society
Hello Copenhagen, I have lived here for over 10 years and of course I love a lot of things about the city and the culture etc etc, that's why I live here.
In real life and on Reddit I see a lot of defensiveness when it comes to making observations about this country that aren't "glowing".
I've lived in several other European countries and traveled a lot, I think every place in the world has its own perks and drawbacks that people should be able to discuss without feeling personally attacked.
When meeting a new person here in Cph I get asked a lot If I like it here, and to be honest I can totally see that it's praises the only answer they wanna hear, as if I just arrived to the promised land.
I had some discussions in the past with some of my Danish closer friends about my experience as a foreign woman here, which I understand is subjective but I often get told stuff like "mm, I don't see that, in Denmark we are very tolerant with foreigners "
"how can you talk about sexism here, our PM is a woman"
" in country X and Y and Z is much worse"
Basically I feel they don't really want to believe my reality even if they can't possibly know what exactly is like to be a foreigner here.
Without getting too much into sociologic debates I noticed the same tone for very mundane topics, like if I mention how crummy the bus station for long distance busses is.. I mean it's a street behind the train station with no signs, no numbers, no platforms, at night hardly any lights, gravels on the ground.. I know they are buildng a new one, but we can all agree so far it has been quite sub-par to any other European capital bus terminal. So when I mention this to Danish people I feel an instant uneasiness, like they feel the need to defend it as if they built it themselves.
"Who uses buses anyway, we take the train"
So this is perhaps the thing that annoys me the most about this country, I stopped sharing my real opinions and I feel that I have to censor myself from expressing the things I might not like, like there is this nationalistic ego that I need to tip-toe around. People often justify this by saying it's because it's a small country and small dogs bark the loudest and stuff on that line that makes it "ok".
I am of course generalising and not every single dane is like that but I have met a lot and I do believe in a collective mindset.
I am talking about this because I think It's important for any society to be open to constructive criticism and diverse perspectives, as it would lead to growth and improvement. It's also important to have open and honest conversations about both the positive and negative aspects of a place or culture.
Has anyone else had similar experiences or am I reading too much into it?
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In real life and on Reddit I see a lot of defensiveness when it comes to making observations about this country that aren't "glowing".
I've lived in several other European countries and traveled a lot, I think every place in the world has its own perks and drawbacks that people should be able to discuss without feeling personally attacked.
When meeting a new person here in Cph I get asked a lot If I like it here, and to be honest I can totally see that it's praises the only answer they wanna hear, as if I just arrived to the promised land.
I had some discussions in the past with some of my Danish closer friends about my experience as a foreign woman here, which I understand is subjective but I often get told stuff like "mm, I don't see that, in Denmark we are very tolerant with foreigners "
"how can you talk about sexism here, our PM is a woman"
" in country X and Y and Z is much worse"
Basically I feel they don't really want to believe my reality even if they can't possibly know what exactly is like to be a foreigner here.
Without getting too much into sociologic debates I noticed the same tone for very mundane topics, like if I mention how crummy the bus station for long distance busses is.. I mean it's a street behind the train station with no signs, no numbers, no platforms, at night hardly any lights, gravels on the ground.. I know they are buildng a new one, but we can all agree so far it has been quite sub-par to any other European capital bus terminal. So when I mention this to Danish people I feel an instant uneasiness, like they feel the need to defend it as if they built it themselves.
"Who uses buses anyway, we take the train"
So this is perhaps the thing that annoys me the most about this country, I stopped sharing my real opinions and I feel that I have to censor myself from expressing the things I might not like, like there is this nationalistic ego that I need to tip-toe around. People often justify this by saying it's because it's a small country and small dogs bark the loudest and stuff on that line that makes it "ok".
I am of course generalising and not every single dane is like that but I have met a lot and I do believe in a collective mindset.
I am talking about this because I think It's important for any society to be open to constructive criticism and diverse perspectives, as it would lead to growth and improvement. It's also important to have open and honest conversations about both the positive and negative aspects of a place or culture.
Has anyone else had similar experiences or am I reading too much into it?
2024.05.29 06:31 abjinternational Savannah Chrisley excited to spend more time with boyfriend Robert Shiver but finds long-distance relationship challenging: 'They're tough'
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2024.05.29 06:31 neuro_space_explorer How long does it take for you to forget how to golf and how long does it take to remember?
This is a curiosity of mine, because I’ve realized throughout my life that no matter how long I take to hone a skill, if I don’t continuously practice that skill it goes really Quickly.
I can become extremely proficient at something and if I take one or two months off I loose 90% of that proficiency.
For example and a bit of a non sequitur, I use to play professional counter strike, at a level that was making me thousands, and only taking a year off I’d play like a newbie.
Golf seems similar for me. If I take even 2 weeks off it seems to take me 2 or 3 rounds to remember everything I need to take care of. I’ll go out and know my tempos off, something is wrong and isn’t clicking, and hole my hole I add things I should remember. Using my legs and thighs to swing and not my arms, perfecting my grip, not gripping too tight, ball position, keeping arms in during the swing, and mostly not trying to force the ball.
The most helpful thing that gets me there is accepting less speed and distance to regain fundamentals. Realizing that slow is smooth and smooth is fast. And not disconnecting the wind up and the swing. (I have trouble not glitching out at that transition point.)
Sometimes I’ll go rounds without finding that consistency, but I try to just play the swing I came with and enjoy the round. My constant short game practice helps. It seems putting and chipping don’t leave me as soon and come back quicker. But it can suck having to use a 7i 120 out because your not confident your gonna execute how you know you can.
And then it wakes up and you’re 20 yards past the hole.
I’m just curious if others have similar issues and if anyone knows a better way to tackle this. I can shoot an 88, which is the low side for me and then after a week and a half feel that swing in my soul and end up with egg on my face with friends I’ve bragged about how hot I was after playing twice a week.
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I can become extremely proficient at something and if I take one or two months off I loose 90% of that proficiency.
For example and a bit of a non sequitur, I use to play professional counter strike, at a level that was making me thousands, and only taking a year off I’d play like a newbie.
Golf seems similar for me. If I take even 2 weeks off it seems to take me 2 or 3 rounds to remember everything I need to take care of. I’ll go out and know my tempos off, something is wrong and isn’t clicking, and hole my hole I add things I should remember. Using my legs and thighs to swing and not my arms, perfecting my grip, not gripping too tight, ball position, keeping arms in during the swing, and mostly not trying to force the ball.
The most helpful thing that gets me there is accepting less speed and distance to regain fundamentals. Realizing that slow is smooth and smooth is fast. And not disconnecting the wind up and the swing. (I have trouble not glitching out at that transition point.)
Sometimes I’ll go rounds without finding that consistency, but I try to just play the swing I came with and enjoy the round. My constant short game practice helps. It seems putting and chipping don’t leave me as soon and come back quicker. But it can suck having to use a 7i 120 out because your not confident your gonna execute how you know you can.
And then it wakes up and you’re 20 yards past the hole.
I’m just curious if others have similar issues and if anyone knows a better way to tackle this. I can shoot an 88, which is the low side for me and then after a week and a half feel that swing in my soul and end up with egg on my face with friends I’ve bragged about how hot I was after playing twice a week.
2024.05.29 06:30 Extension_Elevator31 Why am I (F/24) suddenly feeling emotionally distanced and detached from my partner (M/25)?
I have been with my partner for over a year, and it was great when we started out. We always wanted to be together, we shared the same interests, ideas etc. Even when we went into long distance, we made it work really well. But more recently, I feel myself changing and noticing things that are upsetting me which wasn’t the case before. I am a very emotional and observant person. Sometimes I feel like my boyfriend just doesn’t get me when it comes to these small things. Everytime he’s upset, i try to stay calm and get him to talk to me. Lately, I’ve been feeling like he just gets mad when I’m in a bad mood. Those bad moods have nothing to do with him, I have my own set of problems that have been bothering me mentally since years. But he gets irritated and I feel like I’m this overtly dramatic person who’s annoying him. He tries but he has a hard time understanding a lot of my feelings. I don’t know if its either of us, or maybe we’re just not on the same emotional level.
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2024.05.29 06:30 AdditionalTrash8593 Sr acts as a catalyst
This is the greatest joy of retention yet also the biggest struggle to overcome
Okay so anyone who has done self improvement knows how difficult it can be I separate into 2 categories
Internal vs external work
SR highlights both
Typically if your fapping and losing sexual energy you can do external work and scape by without doing any internal work simply because your not holding onto energy To hold onto your life force takes lots of discipline when it comes to regulating your internal state instead of draining it
So this is the catalyst you will know your issues what needs to be fixed internally and externally this can be great but life doesn’t always work in a fluid manner to where you can instantly make the necessary changes Yes SR speeds the process up but it can also create massive suffering simply because you may not be able to make that change as quickly as you’d like
For example if you experienced a lot of pain at once you naturally are going to want to cope in some way and that can be a feasible strategy to stifle your energy so you don’t have to do the internal/shadow work at this time For anyone who has every gone emotionally numb you understand what I’m describing here The trauma or pain can be so dramatic and life can be so bad that numbing yourself in minor ways to avoid that shadow work could be a potential strategy so you don’t have to face it all at once
Vs if you retain you will feel all that pain at once because your energy is so clean your holding onto your life force You will suffer greatly because your not numbing your experience I believe this is the better strategy but it is much harder journey
And in my opinion that is the bitch of retention but also its greatest blessing because if you don’t numb yourself you will feel the blunt force of life but it will pass through your spirit much quicker
But a potential strategy is to numb yourself a bit if the trauma and pain is very dramatic I’m not saying fap
But I notice on hard days I might fast for less hours in that day and eat more which makes me tired and makes my energy less clear which could help to numb out some of life’s pain because it’s really hard rn I’m probably at my lowest in awhile it’s because I’m making good changes but life is still very hard
I’m lean and typically do omad always sub 12% body fat I’ve been retaining for years now rn currently at day 57
I’m saying play your edge push your limit take as much pain as you can with a clean spirit but if life gets very hard don’t go over your edge just stifle your energy a bit and do the shadow work in a couple days or a week or 2
If after work you eat a bit more then you typically would to stifle the energy a bit that’s okay but only if you are at your edge Stifling energy a bit by distractions or eating a bit Less clean is better then relapsing
I’ve noticed if I’m forced to be around low vibrational people I might eat before I interact with them because if I’m in a pure fasted state they will feel that I feel all of their energy and that they cannot hide because my aura is way to pure
So some strategies for playing the edge dealing with toxic people and waiting because you cannot make all the changes you need to make because of other life factors
I’m not saying self sabotage or fap When I stifle my energy it’s by eating another meal then I typically would and the food is still relatively healthy Or watch a movie after work because your waiting for a certain situation to pass
I still workout fast do cold showers and mediate
That’s a problem I’ve noticed with retention is that your just so damn engaged you know all your problems and how to fix them but strategy and timing is important And if you just have absolutely pure energy everyday all the time you could get pissed off at other people or life situations which is good to have that drive but if taken to far could backfire on you as it has on me in the past so I’m not saying lower yourself be who you are and stand in your power just be aware that this is a valuable potential strategy
The ideal situations is you have pure energy all the time life starts to align because synchronicities will happen new levels have new devils you suffer you make the changes without stifling energy you stand up for yourself everytime and continue to level up
But I feel that is somewhat hard to embody in practice I’m one guy with one perspective so if you can go a year without issues more power to you but for me personally playing my edge is the thing to do and works the best for me long term because if I get arrogant and on my high horse I start to have issues becoming super judgemental of others because you see demons when you have a clean spirit and that can cause self righteousness which itself is a trap so lowkey backing off have a super super pure aura when interacting with toxic people who are in your way then when the time is right to make the change jump at the opportunity to move onto better things
Again I’ve been practicing this since 16 I turn 20 this weekend
And I know this post seems a big negative and I know it somewhat is but it’s just a warning / potential strategy because like I said if you go on 3+ months streaks out here consistently with a clean aura I promise you will get attacked and repel People just remember though that repelling is good because it’s taking you where you need to go to match your high vibration but that’s scary because it could mean complete restructuring your life like me basically losing all your family
If your just doing it for the female attraction or some surface level reason and keep your streaks under a month you should be fine but if you get into longer streaks your going to start to trigger people with your clean energy especially if your intention is to grow and become a better person legit your light will irritate their demons
I believe retention on longer streaks makes you more in tune with energies and life which helps build faith and gets rid of fear a more spiritual component on longer streaks and then synchronicities happen which only Proves this to a further extent which makes life feel more trippy good luck as well
though other people have already gone over this stuff so I won’t get into it I just thought this playing your edge strategy on retention would be valuable asset and idea as I’m yet to see anyone bring it up so far particularly with the arrogance self righteousness etc it’s easy to hate but gotta remember some ppl are sleep and everyone is on a personal journey try to respect others even the demons who are trying to pull you down like crabs in a bucket in the end we are all the good guys in our own story and we all know in our head our good intentions wether others realize it or not same with the demons bro they have a life story alright peace out yall play your edge stay engaged take as much suffering for growth as you can stomach and don’t demonize the demons because that will just make them angry and make things worse eye for an eye makes the whole world blind have boundaries love from a distance
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Okay so anyone who has done self improvement knows how difficult it can be I separate into 2 categories
Internal vs external work
SR highlights both
Typically if your fapping and losing sexual energy you can do external work and scape by without doing any internal work simply because your not holding onto energy To hold onto your life force takes lots of discipline when it comes to regulating your internal state instead of draining it
So this is the catalyst you will know your issues what needs to be fixed internally and externally this can be great but life doesn’t always work in a fluid manner to where you can instantly make the necessary changes Yes SR speeds the process up but it can also create massive suffering simply because you may not be able to make that change as quickly as you’d like
For example if you experienced a lot of pain at once you naturally are going to want to cope in some way and that can be a feasible strategy to stifle your energy so you don’t have to do the internal/shadow work at this time For anyone who has every gone emotionally numb you understand what I’m describing here The trauma or pain can be so dramatic and life can be so bad that numbing yourself in minor ways to avoid that shadow work could be a potential strategy so you don’t have to face it all at once
Vs if you retain you will feel all that pain at once because your energy is so clean your holding onto your life force You will suffer greatly because your not numbing your experience I believe this is the better strategy but it is much harder journey
And in my opinion that is the bitch of retention but also its greatest blessing because if you don’t numb yourself you will feel the blunt force of life but it will pass through your spirit much quicker
But a potential strategy is to numb yourself a bit if the trauma and pain is very dramatic I’m not saying fap
But I notice on hard days I might fast for less hours in that day and eat more which makes me tired and makes my energy less clear which could help to numb out some of life’s pain because it’s really hard rn I’m probably at my lowest in awhile it’s because I’m making good changes but life is still very hard
I’m lean and typically do omad always sub 12% body fat I’ve been retaining for years now rn currently at day 57
I’m saying play your edge push your limit take as much pain as you can with a clean spirit but if life gets very hard don’t go over your edge just stifle your energy a bit and do the shadow work in a couple days or a week or 2
If after work you eat a bit more then you typically would to stifle the energy a bit that’s okay but only if you are at your edge Stifling energy a bit by distractions or eating a bit Less clean is better then relapsing
I’ve noticed if I’m forced to be around low vibrational people I might eat before I interact with them because if I’m in a pure fasted state they will feel that I feel all of their energy and that they cannot hide because my aura is way to pure
So some strategies for playing the edge dealing with toxic people and waiting because you cannot make all the changes you need to make because of other life factors
I’m not saying self sabotage or fap When I stifle my energy it’s by eating another meal then I typically would and the food is still relatively healthy Or watch a movie after work because your waiting for a certain situation to pass
I still workout fast do cold showers and mediate
That’s a problem I’ve noticed with retention is that your just so damn engaged you know all your problems and how to fix them but strategy and timing is important And if you just have absolutely pure energy everyday all the time you could get pissed off at other people or life situations which is good to have that drive but if taken to far could backfire on you as it has on me in the past so I’m not saying lower yourself be who you are and stand in your power just be aware that this is a valuable potential strategy
The ideal situations is you have pure energy all the time life starts to align because synchronicities will happen new levels have new devils you suffer you make the changes without stifling energy you stand up for yourself everytime and continue to level up
But I feel that is somewhat hard to embody in practice I’m one guy with one perspective so if you can go a year without issues more power to you but for me personally playing my edge is the thing to do and works the best for me long term because if I get arrogant and on my high horse I start to have issues becoming super judgemental of others because you see demons when you have a clean spirit and that can cause self righteousness which itself is a trap so lowkey backing off have a super super pure aura when interacting with toxic people who are in your way then when the time is right to make the change jump at the opportunity to move onto better things
Again I’ve been practicing this since 16 I turn 20 this weekend
And I know this post seems a big negative and I know it somewhat is but it’s just a warning / potential strategy because like I said if you go on 3+ months streaks out here consistently with a clean aura I promise you will get attacked and repel People just remember though that repelling is good because it’s taking you where you need to go to match your high vibration but that’s scary because it could mean complete restructuring your life like me basically losing all your family
If your just doing it for the female attraction or some surface level reason and keep your streaks under a month you should be fine but if you get into longer streaks your going to start to trigger people with your clean energy especially if your intention is to grow and become a better person legit your light will irritate their demons
I believe retention on longer streaks makes you more in tune with energies and life which helps build faith and gets rid of fear a more spiritual component on longer streaks and then synchronicities happen which only Proves this to a further extent which makes life feel more trippy good luck as well
though other people have already gone over this stuff so I won’t get into it I just thought this playing your edge strategy on retention would be valuable asset and idea as I’m yet to see anyone bring it up so far particularly with the arrogance self righteousness etc it’s easy to hate but gotta remember some ppl are sleep and everyone is on a personal journey try to respect others even the demons who are trying to pull you down like crabs in a bucket in the end we are all the good guys in our own story and we all know in our head our good intentions wether others realize it or not same with the demons bro they have a life story alright peace out yall play your edge stay engaged take as much suffering for growth as you can stomach and don’t demonize the demons because that will just make them angry and make things worse eye for an eye makes the whole world blind have boundaries love from a distance
2024.05.29 06:24 Ryuk-Metalto I am afraid (Update)
A few day ago I posted this story on my main account (posting again here, cause my friends know my main account):
I don't know what to do
So, you're gonna need some content first to understand what I'm willing to express.
About 3 years ago I met a beautiful girl, she talked to me alot and we quickly became friends and life was good.
Then, about Winter '22 things changed, we kinda separated, but still chatted from time to time and stayed friends. In that whole time I Fell in a deep hole I couldn't get out of.
And my life stayed like this for like the whole of '22 up until August, when we started to text again through a mutual friend and it felt like no time had passed.
But after August it was like Winter again. No contact, just some chatting.
Fast forward to November and there was just that little contact, but in November she got a boyfriend and she kind of distanced herself from me and a friend of mine (he is a childhood friend of hers and important for later in the story).
When December rolled around, life got sadder and sadder and I really missed her, but I didn't have enough courage to tell her.
In the first three months of march it was again just our usually 'How's life going' chats but at the end of march I finally had enough courage to ask her to finally meet at her place (we used to do that nearly every week in '21 on wednesdays) and I was really excited.
It went well, we chatted more often, but not for long
End of April, beginning of May she again distanced herself and I thought, that it would be a better idea to just end that whole thing before it could hurt me even further.
And so I did. I texted her (which I deeply regret, I should've just met her in person) and ended things. And from then on we went separate ways, but we said some nasty things at each other after I ended things, she said I was the cause of problems, I said she was, the usually teen Drama if you will.
I fell in a deep hole again. Tried to end my life. I was so down I wasn't eating, wasn't sleeping and distanced myself from everyone.
This continued for about 2 months, but after that I kinda had coped at least a bit, but I was still sad.
In September, I decided I wanted things to change. I lost about 44lbs up until now and am still trying to become a better person. I go to the Gym and try to make things change for me.
And there come the Events of today. The childhood friend of hers (with whom I'm good friends as mentioned before) and her go on vacation together every year.
And today he told me, that they talked about the mess of events last year, and that she really regrets the things she said to me and wishes to properly talk about it. (For context, I told my friend, that I felt no hatred against her in any way, it just went bad for me).
Furthermore, she wants to meet again with me and said friend, to finally make things up.
I don't know what to do. I made such good progress, and I am afraid I might fall back into that hole if I continue that path. On the other hand I really missed her company, though I never admitted it.
I'm open for questions, or just some tips on what to do, as I don't know myself, so go ahead.
Update:
So, about half an hour ago I managed to talk to her (I nearly died from nervousness) and she confirmed the things my friend told me. She wants to talk in person. I think it is better in person too.
But I am really afraid. Those past few days I have been extremely nervous and when messaging her I was extremely anxious. For context, our falling out was about a year ago and this was about the first time texting her since then.
I kind of made myself forget most of the past year, but I now have those memories floating in me again.
It feels weird. But we agreed on not talking about it with our friends, the only third person involved is our mutual friend.
Gonna update again when we've met
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I don't know what to do
So, you're gonna need some content first to understand what I'm willing to express.
About 3 years ago I met a beautiful girl, she talked to me alot and we quickly became friends and life was good.
Then, about Winter '22 things changed, we kinda separated, but still chatted from time to time and stayed friends. In that whole time I Fell in a deep hole I couldn't get out of.
And my life stayed like this for like the whole of '22 up until August, when we started to text again through a mutual friend and it felt like no time had passed.
But after August it was like Winter again. No contact, just some chatting.
Fast forward to November and there was just that little contact, but in November she got a boyfriend and she kind of distanced herself from me and a friend of mine (he is a childhood friend of hers and important for later in the story).
When December rolled around, life got sadder and sadder and I really missed her, but I didn't have enough courage to tell her.
In the first three months of march it was again just our usually 'How's life going' chats but at the end of march I finally had enough courage to ask her to finally meet at her place (we used to do that nearly every week in '21 on wednesdays) and I was really excited.
It went well, we chatted more often, but not for long
End of April, beginning of May she again distanced herself and I thought, that it would be a better idea to just end that whole thing before it could hurt me even further.
And so I did. I texted her (which I deeply regret, I should've just met her in person) and ended things. And from then on we went separate ways, but we said some nasty things at each other after I ended things, she said I was the cause of problems, I said she was, the usually teen Drama if you will.
I fell in a deep hole again. Tried to end my life. I was so down I wasn't eating, wasn't sleeping and distanced myself from everyone.
This continued for about 2 months, but after that I kinda had coped at least a bit, but I was still sad.
In September, I decided I wanted things to change. I lost about 44lbs up until now and am still trying to become a better person. I go to the Gym and try to make things change for me.
And there come the Events of today. The childhood friend of hers (with whom I'm good friends as mentioned before) and her go on vacation together every year.
And today he told me, that they talked about the mess of events last year, and that she really regrets the things she said to me and wishes to properly talk about it. (For context, I told my friend, that I felt no hatred against her in any way, it just went bad for me).
Furthermore, she wants to meet again with me and said friend, to finally make things up.
I don't know what to do. I made such good progress, and I am afraid I might fall back into that hole if I continue that path. On the other hand I really missed her company, though I never admitted it.
I'm open for questions, or just some tips on what to do, as I don't know myself, so go ahead.
Update:
So, about half an hour ago I managed to talk to her (I nearly died from nervousness) and she confirmed the things my friend told me. She wants to talk in person. I think it is better in person too.
But I am really afraid. Those past few days I have been extremely nervous and when messaging her I was extremely anxious. For context, our falling out was about a year ago and this was about the first time texting her since then.
I kind of made myself forget most of the past year, but I now have those memories floating in me again.
It feels weird. But we agreed on not talking about it with our friends, the only third person involved is our mutual friend.
Gonna update again when we've met
2024.05.29 06:22 galaxygkm Is it weird for me to the bridesmaid to my cousin who I barely know and the bride whom I never met?
I’ll be a senior in high school next year, and my mom wants me to go to the Philippines because my oldest first cousin, who I’ve never seen for over a decade now, is getting married. I have barely interacted with him and the last time we spoke was nearly two summers ago, but my mom says she wants me to meet my Uncle and my other cousins who are all going to be there. My cousin’s mom (my uncles wife) reached out to me and asked me if I wanted to be the bridesmaid because the wedding will be around my birthday and if not they’ll need to look for a replacement. I’ve never been a bridesmaid before, and it’s been so long since I’ve been my cousin and uncle, so I’m a bit nervous. Another thing I’m overthinking is if I do decide to miss some of school to go visit them would they think that it’s weird? I mean, we’ve barely interacted and I’m being offered to be the bridesmaid. I’m probably overthinking it, should I decline the offer and say I’ll be busy with school or decide to go?
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2024.05.29 06:22 imsahil37 I lied to her (twice) and now she's not talking to me. What should I do?
I'm in a lovely relationship with my girlfriend for the last 4 years. There's this friend of ours (actually our past classmate - Friend X). I used to like her (X) in school before my girlfriend. But now I love my girlfriend with all my heart. But still I feel uneasy telling my girlfriend about when I and X meet without her.
Actually it started before 2 years, when I and X met along with other friends but my girlfriend couldn't come. I got a bit close to X while clicking photos at that time and it was all my fault and still regret it to today. I apologised for my mistake and promised her that I'll never do anything like this from now on. She forgave me and then we've been through ups and downs in long distance for these 2 years but we're still nice and a loving couple.
But as I told, now I feel uneasy about telling her if we meet without her. But the thing is when we all meet, X and my girlfriend keep talking to each other. X is also a good friend of mine so I wanted to meet her too and talk to her as I have moved to another city for studies. But I hesitated to meet alone thinking my girlfriend might not like it although she says she trusts me and everything is fine now. But still, I still haven't come over that hesitation now.
And due to that, today when I finally decided to meet X when she was going to college, I thought of going with her too but couldn't tell my girlfriend about it since she slept early yesterday. The thing is while returning my girlfriend was also coming back from college, so, I asked her where she is so that we could also meet. She asked me why I'm here at the metro, and at that moment, due to hesitation, I actually lied to her that I went to somewhere else due to some work. I and X met in auto riksha only and then we both went opposite ways at the metro (because otherwise I would've picked my girlfriend from her station). But actually I was coming after dropping X even after my girlfriend's station. But since I had already lied to her I waited at other station.
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Actually it started before 2 years, when I and X met along with other friends but my girlfriend couldn't come. I got a bit close to X while clicking photos at that time and it was all my fault and still regret it to today. I apologised for my mistake and promised her that I'll never do anything like this from now on. She forgave me and then we've been through ups and downs in long distance for these 2 years but we're still nice and a loving couple.
But as I told, now I feel uneasy about telling her if we meet without her. But the thing is when we all meet, X and my girlfriend keep talking to each other. X is also a good friend of mine so I wanted to meet her too and talk to her as I have moved to another city for studies. But I hesitated to meet alone thinking my girlfriend might not like it although she says she trusts me and everything is fine now. But still, I still haven't come over that hesitation now.
And due to that, today when I finally decided to meet X when she was going to college, I thought of going with her too but couldn't tell my girlfriend about it since she slept early yesterday. The thing is while returning my girlfriend was also coming back from college, so, I asked her where she is so that we could also meet. She asked me why I'm here at the metro, and at that moment, due to hesitation, I actually lied to her that I went to somewhere else due to some work. I and X met in auto riksha only and then we both went opposite ways at the metro (because otherwise I would've picked my girlfriend from her station). But actually I was coming after dropping X even after my girlfriend's station. But since I had already lied to her I waited at other station.
And now at night again when she asked me why I went there for that work, my brother could've gone instead of me, I lied again due to that lie and extended it. But after she said fine in anger, I felt so wrong and just told her that I lied but with very wrong words saying like you also know i also know, I lied. After that she stopped responding and blocked my calls. Even I don't know what to say to her. I really love her only with all my life and would never break her trust. But still I just don't know why out of hesitation at that moment, I lied. It's all my fault and I accept it. It's the second time she felt hurt because of me and X. I know it's my fault but what should I do now?
TL;DR; : I went meeting my female friend who I used to like before my girlfriend 4 years back and lied about it to her due to hesitation (although I didn't want to) that I only met her in the way and went somewhere else then. At night, when she asked about it again, I lied again but when she said fine, I felt bad and said that I also know it, you also know it, I lied. Very wrong words for confession. Now she won't talk to me. What should I do? (Read the whole post please bcuz it's quite misleading)2024.05.29 06:21 HotService6080 Should I call out my “friend” on her narcissistic behavior?
(I’m pretty pissed rn so i’m just blabbering and not sure if it will make sense). I (20f) met my friend group that consists of 5. I’ll be giving fake names, Danny, Ivan, Ivory and Daisy. I met them in my second semester of university. This particular “friend” Daisy specifically in the friend group stood out the most since she was the first one I became friends with and got along right away. We started hanging out more with the rest of the group 3rd semester (2nd year fall semester). At that time I was dating my boyfriend (still am) who is abroad right now, so I haven’t seen him for a while. They were aware about him and at that time I was already dealing with a sh*tty roommate, so I was hanging out their dorm constantly. But once 3rd semester came around then we started spending Fridays and Saturdays at Daisy’s dorm. Keep in mind my dorm was a 25 min walk and near a forest and I would get home usually around 12am. Those days we chose to hang out we got high together and it became our norm. Somewhere in late September and Early October I started having really serious issues with my boyfriend and he honestly wasn’t treating me well at that time and I told my friends, because he brought up the plan of marriage and I was hesitant when the group asked me if I really wanted to marry him. Late October I was telling Daisy about it and she told me its best to break things off with him and how she did the same with her ex boyfriend because he was bad for her, and I’m pretty sure she says she misses him (but yeah I kinda forgot). I really didn’t want to breakup with him but I knew I needed to cut him off, so I got home at midnight and called him and broke up with him and instantly regret it. I was already dealing with so much other shit and I almost una****d my self after. But plans didn’t work so I kept my mouth shut. (I’ll get to the point I promise.) Late December I got news that a contract i signed over a year ago with a friend whose father owned a business offered me a job meaning I was going to move to another country. ( I ended up changing the contact for a later year) I would be super close to my boyfriend and I was pretty hesitant since so much had changed and I called my boyfriend who was my ex at that time and told him everything and we talked for a while. Long story short we missed each other a lot and we acknowledged that we both did terrible stuff but in the end if we worked it out together then our relationship could work. We set boundaries and rules for us to follow and we are currently together and I’m really happy right now. I didn’t tell my friends about me getting back with him because I knew they would be upset which I understand. I told Ivory first in late March and I asked for her to be understanding that he changed and she was upset but told me that she’ll always support me and be there for me which I needed to hear. Daisy didn’t find out until 2 weeks before my birthday and Daisy was super pissed at me and ever since she was cold and rude, ending all the convos with the gc that replied to me with periods. Since January I’ve noticed that Daisy would be pretty rude and only think about herself mainly and not the rest of us. There would be some days where I would ask if we can hang out at my place instead and I would always hear the same thing how my place was too far and that it’ll be late when they leave which did annoy me a lot since that was exactly how I went home. I walked back home a lot at midnight, ALONE and high. The 2 times they had came over they all left as a group since Daisy, Ivan and Danny lived in the same building and they would drop off Ivory on the way, while I was the only one who lived the furthest. When we would hang out at Daisy’s place she would ask what we wanted to watch we give ideas and would usually 85% of the time say no to our suggestions and pick the movies she wanted to watch instead. None of us have cars so we rented zipcars and I noticed a while after that when it was only convenient for her and when she was the one who needed groceries then she would text us like the day before or the day and sometimes an hour or so before of whenever she needed to run errands and when we weren’t able too then she would get mad. But when it came to us asking if we can go then she didn’t want too or was low on money which that one i understand. She would get pissed or annoyed a lot at Ivory for being herself sometimes, which honestly imo it pissed me off so much for the way how Daisy was with her. I slowly started distancing myself from the group for a while since I had my own shit going on and I was getting overwhelmed with it. My breaking point was when 2 weeks before my birthday Daisy found out about my boyfriend and went radio silent with me and was ignoring me in the gc and I remember her reposting posts on insta that were targeting me. I sound selfish but I was really looking forward to my birthday, but a week before my birthday I got a call that my mom was in the hospital and I was 12 hours away from her and I was an emotional wreck because I was just hearing she was dying. I didn’t tell my friends about it. I was FaceTiming my boyfriend and crying to him because I felt so alone and needed someone, but I figured celebrating with my friends would kind of help distract me. Since a lot of uni students were doing “peacefully protests”, my campus was shut down and there were many cops on campus and we werent allowed back on campus or else we would get arrested or idk. But the day before my birthday Ivory texted me saying (copied and pasted) “Daisy and Netty would have to walk across campus for it and I asked if there was a way to cancel it still and Dulce said yeah and I was like I don’t want yall to get arrested and then Dulce is being weird and was like “then we’ll cancel it problem solved” and long story short the car has been cancelled”. The plan was that we were going to rent a zipcar and get jack in the box and dutch and then head over to Daisy’s dorm (which i didn’t want and asked if we can maybe do it at my place) and just hang out. But I really didn’t feel like walking 30 minutes back to my dorm (since I couldn’t walk through campus and had to go around). But I’m not sure it just got confusing and in the end everything was canceled and being sad was an understatement. I was really sad about it because it would be my first birthday party with a group of friends who I thought were my actual friends. The day of my birthday and got myself a tiny cake and celebrated by myself in my dorm. Ever since my “amazing” birthday I was just depressed and figured it was time for me to move on to the next chapter of my life. ( I had other problems with my life besides them.) Right before school ended i texted the gc that I was leaving and never coming back and I miss Ivory because she was a really good friend and I miss her a lot.. can’t say much about Daisy because today I posted an instagram story note saying “(uni name) is is greedy and mean just like em. glad im gone” i got sent a letter saying how the school was asking me to pay the remaining medical bill which was like 144$ and idk it just reminded me of the many rude people i came across on my campus. I wasn’t directing it at her until she posted her own insta note and it said “ that’s so crazy, not my fault your delusional” which i know was directed at me. I want to text her and call her out for her the stuff she had done and tell her to grow up. But I’m not sure if I should just block her and move on. I kind of need closure and advice on how to handle the situation.
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