I know I should be talking with my partner about this but I like to lurk on the internet. So my current predicament needs some background. Roughly two years ago I was in a serious relationship for 7 years and my gf at the time (I’m a male) came out to me as gay and moved across the country not too soon after telling me ( we shared a house together and we weren’t married). I think we ended amicably at the end but it still hurt me. During that time I owned a home and hated my job. All of the above occurred in the summer of 2022. As soon as I quit my job and sold my house I started to an accelerated medical program also in 2022. This is where my issue starts. A girl I know we’ll say her name is “Tamara” asked me to be FWB.
Tamara knew me from the previous job but in process of her moving up in the company she moved to South Carolina. I currently live up north in the US. So she got in contact with me and wanted to come to the place I moved back to, to come and visit. I said sure because we were pretty good friends. (I want to add the medical program I’m in gives me the ability to work anywhere in the US so I can chose where I complete my clinical hours. This comes into play later).
The first visit nothing happened between us. In between visits she asks to be FWB I say yes but tells me it can be messy. I agree. This goes on for a year and a half. Mid way point last year because our relationship was just exclusively FWB we discussed at the beginning that we were free to seek other people out. So I went on few dates. Tamara was not happy with me so I ended up stopping the dates in between her visits. At the point when I stopped the dates I was about to start my clinical rotations and I had an interview for a site coming up. I was unable to get matched in an area near South Carolina which is what Tamara wanted so we could be close. I matched at a place up North an hour from me. So throughout my clinical rotation Tamara has been “gently” encouraging me to move in with her in South Carolina.
I have some concerns about moving because I know the area is saturated for the medical job I have and it’s damn near impossible for new grads to get work. So I press on through the program. 1/3 of the way through. I get a message saying we need to talk. I get a phone call from Tamara saying she has an STD and I should get checked. Needless to say I was not happy. A week later I got checked and had it also. I was beside myself. I knew I was being an idiot and I know people make mistakes but I definitely got checked after our encounters but I digress. After this things seemed to have cooled a little. With news of the STD I told her fuck it I’ll just move down after I graduate but I’m still struggling with the idea of fully committing to moving there because of the struggles I will face. Now currently I have a few weeks left of my program and I want to change my mind about moving down and I know it will break her heart but I was doing what was right for her and not for myself. So would I be the asshole for calling things off and staying put to get work experience?
TLDR: I ended a long term relationship. I got into medical school that allows me to work anywhere in the US. An old co-worker hits me up to hang but we live in different states. We become FWB. I get an STD from our interactions which soured my mood a little. I tell her I will move down to be closer to date but now I want to take it back because I know how hard it will be to get a job where she lives currently and I’m not sure I can commit to the things she wants.
Thanks for reading and sorry for any typos! I am writing this pretty late at night.

Memory Transcription Subject: Alus, Yotul auxiliary to the UN Spaceborne Infantry
Date [standardized human time]: March 3^rd 2137, 1000 hours ship-time
After Gutierrez showed me to our compartment, and I dropped off my duffelbags, he began leading me to the Armory, where I would be assigned my rifle and 'sensitive items' as he put it. As we walked, my mind churned with more questions.
"Hey, uh, Guts. Back in the supply compartment, you mentioned the 'USMC'? That's the American Marines right? I thought you were UN Spaceborne infantry."
"Yeah, so, I am a Marine. Marine to the core. But Earth sorta got thrown into this whole clusterfuck without having a properly unified military, and instead of trying to set up a whole new service from scratch, they got the big five on the Security Council, being us, the Brits, the French, the Chinese, and the Russkis, to pitch in units. So you got Marines and Army making up the American portion of the SI, and Navy and Airforce making up our part of the fleet. Same for every country that pitched in, even some outside the UNSC." Gutierrez explained, his hands moving about animatedly. "Right now it's a hot mess because none of the standards, paperwork, or anything changed, but I guess they'll probably formalize and standardize the SI and Fleet after all this shit is done. All we currently got that's the same is rifles, uniforms, and equipment. The traditions and paperwork and shit are all wildly different from one countries units to another, and sometimes even within the same country's units because of different branches. The US Marines and US Army for instance, we share a lot of the same shit you know, but our low-level paperwork is branch-specific, and our organization is different."
I thought for a moment about what he was saying as we walked though the passageways, pondering on the idea of what a truly united Human military could accomplish, if everything Humanity had done so far was with a truly thrown-together force. As I looked up again, I saw we were approaching the armory, and mentally filed my next question away for later. We crossed through the threshold, and I found myself standing in front of a grated window, another Human on the other side.
"Sarn't Johnson, I'd like you to meet our new Yotul auxiliary, Alus. We're doing inprocessing, and need to get his weapon and equipment drawn and assigned."
The new Human looked down at me curiously and smiled, before reaching down and grabbing a few sheets of paper from under his desk.
"Alright" the Sergeant said, before moving deeper into the armory, stopping at a weapons cage, before unlocking it and inspecting the rifles line up inside "So, what are we billeting him as?"
"Just an 0311, needs a rifleman's kit and associated gear" Guts replied, leaning forward to watch the Sergeant.
"Gotcha. Just gimme a minute here."
Guts and I watched as the Armorer pulled a cart over, and picked out a rifle, laying it down on the cart, and locking the cage, before moving to the next rack and removing a small black bag, repeating the process along the line of cages across one wall of the armory, before coming back to the front, and pressing a button on his desk. I heard a click from a door next to the grated portal, and Gutierrez waved for me to follow him through the door, and into the armory.
The Sergeant had sat back down, and was poring over what appeared to be a checklist as he inspected each piece of equipment, ticking them off down the list one by one. When he was done, he clipped it to a clipboard, and handed it off to Gutierrez, before looking toward me.
"So, Heard you fellas went through some sorta training dirtside, so you should be familiar with at least the rifle?" He asked, picking up a notably shorter version of the standard UN rifle I had qualified on Earth with.
"Yes, ours were longer, it kinda seemed like they weren't really meant for non-Humans to use. We could all barely aim them shooting, uh, offhand I think it was?"
"Yeah, sounds about right for an indoc unit. The M-36 is a piston gun so it's good bit heavier out front than the old M-16's the Corps used to issue way back, Mag in the back kinda balances the whole shebang on the carbine variants" he slapped the side of the firearm he was holding "But on the full length rifles they're just ungodly long barrels. Ay, Guts, something like a 28-inch heavy barrel on the old M-36A1's?"
"Yeah, something stupid like that," Guts said, looking up from the paperwork he had been signing, as he set it down on the table. "Marines wanted a gun that was the same length or shorter than an M-16, Piston, and could reach out to like 800 meters with 5.56. I think Bushmaster pulled out some old relic from the 20th century and just modernized it? I remember the K&M lawsuit right when we started getting the A1's back in 2130, but yeah."
The sergeant nodded and turned back to me, pointing at the firearm again "So, when the Corps finally removed their head from their fifth point of contact-"
"Their ass" Gutierrez helpfully interjected, grinning
"Yes, But anyways, They saw some issues with going back to a full size rifle, and got carbines made to replace the A1's for combat arms. Shorter barrel, shorter gas system, shorter receiver, way lighter out front. Super nice shooting guns to boot. Bushmaster also sold them on this neat quick-change barrel system they thought up too, so now we have a bunch of smoothbore barrels for flechettes, rifled barrels for traditional ammunition, pencil barrels for riflemen, heavy barrels with bipods for autoriflemen, in a bunch of different lengths. These fuckers are modular as hell."
The sergeant had what was probably the widest grin I'd ever seen on a Human as he finished talking, and it very nearly took me aback, despite the Yotul, myself included, not having the same issues with Human mannerisms as the wider Federation.
"I-I'm not gonna have to carry all of those, right?" I asked, hesitantly, and Gutierrez broke out laughing, while the sergeant suppressed a chuckle.
"Nah kid, we just pick a rifle and swap the barrel to the one you need for what you're doing. Mostly just makes shit easier on my end really. You're just getting a carbine-length pencil barrel, lightest of the bunch."
The Sergeant shifted, bringing the rifle to his shoulder, and pointed it at a canted barrel, sticking the muzzle in, and pulled back the charging handle, sticking a finger into the rifle's ejection port, before looking in, and releasing the charging handle, before pulling the trigger with a 'click'. He then held out the rifle for me, and I took it, surprised at how much lighter it was than the one I had been issued in training.
"So, one M-36A2." the Sergeant said, before pulling a metal cylinder from a small pouch, and peering through it up at one of the lights, before getting up and grabbing a metal rod, and walking over to me. He stood alongside me, and slipped the cylinder over the muzzle of the rifle, before inserting the rod down the barrel, and peering closely at a small gap around the rod.
"And one suppressor. Clears the rod check so that shouldn't give you any issues. Guts should be able to explain the adjustable piston to you so you don't get gassed in the face while you're using it." With a quick twist of a collar on the back of the tube, the armorer pulled the device off the muzzle and stuck it back in it's pouch, and picked up a larger cloth case. He pulled something that looked like a visor on an articulating arm from it, and inserted a pair of batteries into a cylinder that ran along the top.
"This here is the AN/PVS-101 'Fused vision system'. Little heads up display that links up with the rest of your fireteam, and also has thermal and Infrared overlay. Just a fuckin' neat piece of kit honestly. Datalink is hardened to all hell, and the whole system's idiot-proof. I've seen ones that pre-date the Satellite Wars. Uses an accelerometer and gyro system to keep track of where you are in the area, and can pulse lidar to give you visuals in full pitch-black. You can also mark obstacles, enemy troops, vics, whatever with eye-clicks, and the system keeps track and spreads that out to all the linked systems. Plus there's a version that goes to the fireteam leader, which transmits all that collated data back to company level, and gives them an up-to-date picture of everything that's going on. Just honestly fuckin' cool."
He then held up a square plate on the back of the arm to his forehead, and withdrew a small box from the back and touched it to the back of his head.
"The FVS mounts to the socket on the front of your helmet, and the Processing unit just mounts to the rear, acts like a counterweight too which keeps your neck from hurting nearly as much while you're using it."
Placing both items back in the cloth bag, He finally held up what was obviously a handheld radio, and a set of earmuffs.
"This is the AN/PRC-255. It's a radio, and might as well work with Angry Pixies. I know it's got a 60 mile range, and hops frequencies, and the Comms nerds have some kind of black magic ritual to make them work. The hearing protection doesn't have some letter-and-number name, but they hook up to the radio, and they'll also link up to other headsets nearby like the FVS to communicate without radio. The Radio isn't nearly as impressive as the FVS, and the hearing protection hasn't changed in a meaningful way in about a hundred years. 3M is the Browning of comms gear, I swear. And, that's petty much it."
I looked at the neat pile of equipment sitting next to the carbine, and looked down at my hands, realizing I had nothing to carry any of it with, before looking up at Gutierrez.
"Is it alright if you carry some of this, I don't think I can carry it a-" I said, before I was cut off by laughter from Sgt Johnson.
"Nooooooo, no kid." The sergeant said, wiping tears from his eyes. "This all stays here unless you actually imminently need it. It's assigned to you now, but it stays under lock and key." he explained, while Gutierrez seemed to look simultaneously aghast and about to burst into laughter. My abbreviated training had failed to explain a few things, it seemed, as I had simply assumed that they had locked up our equipment because we were were trainees.
"See, everything in here is either VERY killy, or VERY expensive. And Soldiers, Sailors, Airmen, and Marines around Earth all have a penchant for shenanigans, and breaking anything they touch. Occasionally themselves too, if left entirely unsupervised with dangerous objects. So we don't let any of you have things which can be described as 'Killy', 'Expensive', or 'Killy and Expensive' unless it's specifically pertaining to the task at hand, Rah?"
"I, uh, see yeah. Rah?" I replied, somewhat dejectedly, and slightly confused.
"Rah." The Sergeant said in reply, and began to load all of the 'Killy and expensive' equipment back onto the metal cart, chuckling to himself still, as Gutierrez tapped me on the shoulder.
"Hey, chow's in about an hour, let's get you back to the barracks so you can get your OCUU's on, and outta those class-B's right?"
"Yeah, that sounds good, I don't think I've eaten since before I arrived at the Orbital, I'm starving" I said, as I followed the Spaceborne Infantry Marine out of the Armory's door, and back down the passageway to the berthing areas of Grunt Country.

During a student’s academic journey, unplanned events may happen that require them to miss class. People with kids need to know how to ask for school leave, whether for an emergency, a family emergency, or a planned vacation. You can request to miss school in writing by filling out an application for leave in school. People typically apply to leave school for various reasons, such as to go on a long trip, get medical care, or go to an event. Remember that applications for school leave need to be made politely and professionally. The application for leave in school should be brief and indicate the cause for the absence, how long it will last, and when the student will return. The application for leave will be talked about briefly in this article.

Reason for Leave application

For private reasons

A student may need to take time off if they have to deal with a family problem or another personal matter. For medical reasons if a child is sick or hurt and needs to be cared for or rest, they may have to miss school. Parents have to provide an application for leave in school for fever.

Because of religion

A student might miss class to attend a church event or celebrate a holiday. Because they need to learn, students may miss class to finish an internship, go on a study abroad course, or go to a conference.

Outside of school

Students may miss a few school days because of an event or action outside of school.They should provide an application for leave in school for going out of station.

Types of Leave

Medical, personal, emergency, and holiday leave are the most common types of leave that schools give. Knowing the differences between the types is essential because each may have different needs and ways of applying them.

How Applications Are Made?

Applications for leave in school are made through routes set up by schools. As part of it, you might have to use a website, fill out a form, or write an official letter. Parents and children should learn about the school’s recommended application process to ensure they follow it.

Very Important Papers

Application for leave in school may mean that schools must ask for supporting documents. Medical leave sometimes needs a note or proof from a doctor. You may need the same kind of proof of trip plans for vacation time. Gather the necessary paperwork and send it in with the leave request.

Time of absence

Most of the time, schools ask parents to let them know before they take their child out of the building. Then, the school management can do the right thing and ensure the child’s education is interrupted less often. Parents should request time off from school as soon as possible, in line with the school’s stance on advance notice. Parents should provide an application for leave in school for 1 day in advance.

Amount of time away

When it comes to schools, there may be rules about how much time you can miss for different reasons. There may be limits on vacation time, but people who are sick may be able to take medical leave for as long as they need it. Parents and children should know these time limits so they don’t get mixed up. The school management takes requests for time off when they are sent in. Anyone on the staff, like the director, school counsellor, or someone else, can review this. Parents and kids should be patient and wait for proof of clearance before moving forward.

Communication Tools

Schools usually set up specific ways for parents to talk to their administrators about requests for time off. One way to do this is to go online, email a pre-addressed address, or call the school office. When parents and kids use the official ways to get in touch, they can ensure their needs are heard and met. Parents and kids who want to take time off should check in with the school to ensure they got the application for leave in school and see what’s going on. They should quickly provide additional paperwork or details to speed up the process. The open conversation keeps approvals from being late.

Other Places of Education

To make sure that a student’s education continues while they are abroad, schools could offer other ways to learn. This could mean making study guides, giving homework, or teaching online. Asking about these plans might help lessen the adverse effects of leave on a child’s schoolwork. It must be turned in before the leave of absence starts and is usually sent to the school’s department head or director.

Go back to School Rules and How to Do Things

Schools could have set up specific rules to help kids return to the classroom after taking a break. This could include going to teacher meetings, making up missed work, or finishing tests. Parents who want to ensure their child returns to the regular schedule should call the school. For legal and administrative reasons, schools keep much information on students present and absent. To avoid problems, parents and children must carefully record requests for time off and keep an eye on their child’s attendance.

Review and Thoughts

Parents and kids can stay current on any changes or improvements by reviewing the school’s leave policies and procedures. Giving the school administration comments on their experiences with asking for time off can also help ensure that things keep improving.

Conclusion

Parents and kids need to know the school’s rules about requesting time off to talk about their needs and ensure the kids have a smooth educational experience. Parents and kids can handle the process confidently and keep their child’s schooling as regular as possible if they know the types of leaves, the necessary paperwork, and the permission processes. Parents and schools must work together, plan, and talk to each other so that application for leave in school requests are adequately treated and students can keep up with their work.

FAQs

How do I request school leave?
To request school leave, write to your principal or other school administration.
How early should I request leave?
Leave should be requested as early as possible to allow the school to make arrangements. The timeline depends on school policy and the cause of the leave. In a medical emergency, you may need to apply for leave sooner.
What is the use of leave applications in school?
A leave application is a written request to take time off school, college, or employment for a certain period.

I’m using the Fender Rumble stage 800, so far it’s been a fun amp, but I can’t say I feel it’s reliable. I’m having issues. You can make your own custom presets with cabinets, heads, effect pedals and stuff. And there’s the fender tone app where you create those presets, and sync it to the amp.
The first problem I encountered was that when I created my first custom preset, it affected the volume of all 200 pre installed presets. Most became inaudible, some flat out had no sound anymore. Didn’t matter how much I messed with the sound settings. They just broke, seems to be a software issue, a big maybe.
To solve this, I reset the amp (note, NOT the app) to factory. This immediately fixed the issue with all 200 presets. They sound great now .
As I expected, the custom presets I’d made didn’t show up on the amp LCD screen anymore. But that shouldn’t be a problem since the fender app has my presets and I can just re-sync it to the amp. Right???
Nope!!! Wrong, apparently. Resetting the amp also resets your app. Makes no sense and now I’m incredibly disappointed.
Maybe this is just a “new tech” problem that I’ve seen other people complain about. Companies trying to make their amps more like smart phones, but without the reliability. Because seriously, why have an app at all if resetting the amp is going to affect your account on an app???? When you factory reset your iphone, it doesn’t delete things on your iCloud. That makes sense. This doesn’t and it’s ass backwards.
I’m so incredibly pissed off that I just lost all my custom presets. They were cool and I spent hours making them, I loved using them. Idk if I can even get them back.
If anyone else has encountered this and found a solution, lmk. Otherwise thanks for reading my rant. I’m going to go try and recreate all my custom presets now.

(this is a long post but the details matter bc im not sure if im being manipulated or not. So I was talking to this guy for like 3 weeks. we’ve hooked up a few months before that, we talked in between the few months and the beginning of that 3 weeks but didn’t hook up again until the beginning of the 3 weeks. anyways, beginning of this 3 weeks, i hit him up just bc i was bored and wanted someone to talk to and then we ended up talking all day and we hooked up again. we were being like super cute, all cuddlely (im not normally like this with people. like im super closed off) and like we hit it off right and we talk all day for the next few days and he says he kinda likes me and was like “is that ok?” and so im like dang this seems genuine then we hook up again and it went great. we hugged and kissed before he left and everything. then suddenly he ghosts me. i literally blew up his phone. just asking like why did he ghost me, like acting pathetic. im aware of this, this whole time. like the night before we held hands, sung lil peep and like it was a vibe and like….. me? i don’t vibe with everyone or open up so i was like super excited ab this little connection. but i couldn’t stop texting him and like i literally just sound insane atp ok well he ghosts me for a day and then messages me and is like sorry. it was just a lot and basically saying it scared him how much he liked me. and i’m like ok cool we can keep it casual and yk still hook up and he’s like ok cool. so we’re seeing each other pretty often for like a week and a half or so and like we’re still kinda acting all cute and stuff and we talk about how we’re not going to have sex with other people and im a one man kind of gal and im like yeah totally fine w me. anyways, a little over a week ago he cancels our plans and and i kind of get triggered and im like well if you don’t like me just say that and was like yk you don’t have to beat around the bush. he was also just acting weird all day that day just slow replies and stuff. and so then im kind of going off on him because he’s not giving me a yes or no. and then he cuts me off and said i was acting crazy. so then he unfriended me on snap and i tell him that i hope the next girl gives him teethy head and he’s basically like yo girl i don’t wanna block you and like said he’s been super depressed and i sympathized and stuff and then we hooked up again and agreed there would be no strings attached. and then a few days later i ask if we could go back to being cute and he said yeah i said cool and that’s the last i heard from him. and like i kept blowing up his phone. i’ve sent him so many texts in the past 3 days. no matter how hard i try to not text him i end up doing it and i just don’t understand what’s wrong with me. why do i obsess

So I rent a flat with a big south facing glass sliding door that's the size of an entire wall.
Needless to say, that room is like a greenhouse. It's a big kitchen/living room, and that's the only window. There is a loud af oven extractor and a little vent in the ceiling, and the neighbouring room is a hallway with no windows either.
The letting agent, on behalf of the building's management company, sent an email round asking if anyone needed repairs to their sliding doors (most people's in this building are in shambles, they're 20 years old).
Mine is ok but had a very minor issue with the rubber seal falling at the top so I reported this.
These two maintenance blokes came round, completely ignored this seal, and started peering at the other gaps in the timber frame along the sides of the door. Then they sealed them up with a clear sealant and as they were leaving I asked them if I could still open the door.
The answer was no. Wait for the replacements to happen.
Upon emailing the management company, they told me those replacements would be in 1-2 years!!
Already that room has gotten to 28 degrees and its unbearable. The letting agent and I are pressuring them into sending someone to unseal the door, but they keep coming back with bullshit.
Do I have legal rights? I was considering the following but not sure if i would apply, how to prove it, or how to proceed with enforcing it:

• Breach of Human Habitation Act 2018 for excess heat, lack of adequate ventilation, and to due needing to close the blinds to try keep it cool, lack of natural light
  
• Is there a law against sealing someone's door without their prior consent or knowledge?
  

Also, how much trouble would I be in if I were to slice the sealant myself? I'm getting extremely tempted.
Any advice would be massively appreciated.

i’m not one to usually come on here and ramble about my problems, but i feel like i have no one else to hear the story. the only person who actively listens is my boyfriend, but obviously he’s gonna be biased since we’re together. (small trigger warning for mental health/being suicidal, and i’m sorry the post is so long.)
i (M21) had a friend we’ll call taylor (F25), who is a manager at a semi-popular clothing store. she was desperately hiring for shift leads in order to finally be able to fire someone who was also our mutual friend but turned out to be a bad person (but with the way the story is and how our relationship turned out, i’m starting to think she did nothing wrong.) i applied and was hired almost immediately. the first few ish months of the job were great, but i am autistic as well as a lot of mental health problems so i warned taylor i will need more time to learn things, and that there may be days i can’t do much, if anything at all. she said that was fine and she understood because she was also autistic.
about three months go by, and i’m starting to get autistic burnout BAD. it’s to the point i’m visibly suicidal to everyone around me, because i haven’t had a chance to take a breather and calm myself down for several weeks. i had a few days off in a row and was glad, because i could finally rest and have time to decompress. well, the store manager called me asking me to come in, then followed by taylor spam calling me 5+ times. not asking, TELLING me i have to come in. incase you don’t know how autistic burnout works, it’s like sensory overload but to the point you can’t physically get out of bed or your resting spot until your “battery” is recharged. your (at least for me) body does not let you do things you could normally do. it’s near impossible.
i knew that if i told taylor the truth and that i was having burnout/actively suicidal, she would just yell at me and tell me to work regardless (i’ve seen her do the same to other coworkers by this point.) so despite it being a shitty move, i lied and told her i was at the hospital with my boyfriend (M20) who was getting a scan on his legs. (i had to make it something urgent so that i wouldn’t be yelled at, and everyone already knows he’s disabled in his legs.) taylor still yelled at me through the phone and DEMANDED i got an uber to work since my bf was also usually my ride and we had just gotten paid the day before. i told her i had no money because of bills (that was the truth), and that i couldn’t go in even if i wanted to. she had a field day with this, calling me incompetent and slow/careless at my job despite me warning her previously that i would be.
i decided to let her anger cool down a few hours, then texted her a long paragraph about how i wanted to resolve this like adults and didn’t want to lose our friendship over something so stupid. she decided to keep yelling at me, threatening ing to cut my hours because “we’re supposed to be running the store together and i can’t give hours to people who refuse to work.” she also mentioned how she was currently in the office having recovered from fainting. i asked if she was okay and that she should go to the hospital if this really did happen, to which she flat out refused. (i’m not sure if she was even telling the truth here, since she lied about being autistic and doesn’t have a diagnosis nor did ANY research into the disability.) she called me a number of names and at this point i just got so overwhelmed i quit.
this leads into the losing multiple friends part. taylor is dating my long time friend of 7 years i’ll call george. taylor immediately went to george, calling me an awful person and saying i abandoned her when she needed me most. because of this, george stopped talking to me. (george has known taylor for 6ish months. he never said we weren’t friends anymore, but he’s cut all communication with me, refused to talk about the situation to me and muted me from seeing any of his social media posts.) now that i can’t talk to either of them, i’ve lost contact with about 4-5 of our mutual friends associated with george.
so am i the asshole in this story? can i do anything to gain my friends back? i genuinely did not want things to blow this out of proportion, but now i feel like i’m in the middle of some sort of high school drama.

I don’t know whether this is okay to talk about but I’m so confused and don’t know why it’s happening or how to stop it and I just want to talk about it. For the past four years I (f19 if that matters at all haha) have had a really really bad attachment to a fictional character. Like it’s obsessive attached. After I played a game for the first time I thought like oh she’s cool and whatever else and I don’t know when or how it changed but a few days later suddenly all I could think about is her. And now for the past four years everything in my life has revolved around her. I have so many merch pieces with her on it (blankets, shirts, hoodies, mugs, bags etc) I brought myself so many comfort character letters etc. it’s so bad that In the second chapter of the game she went on this heart shaped ride with another character and all they literally did was talk with each other and I cried for two hours straight until I was throwing up. It’s very very obsessive and I don’t know why it happened why it was this exact character or how to stop it. I thought it would’ve gone away by now but obviously not and is showing no signs of leaving.

Hi everybody,
disclaimer: Nothing I say in this post is necessarily true, and in NO WAY, do I condone anyone following in my footsteps or referencing anything I say in this post to the FAA/AME... but with that being said:
New to this reddit, but Just wanted to make this post to any future pilots who are going through a similar situation to what I have, about Depression, Anxiety, antidepressants, Therapy Etc.
To start this off... If you are an aspiring pilot, wanting to eventually work in the airlines, corporate, military, or basically anything that makes money, you need an "FAA First Class Medical" This is a non-negotiable aspect of aviation, that any pilot you see had to earn, but also maintain every year.
If you are not aware yet, the FAA takes mental health issues very seriously and almost always tends to disqualify or defer pilots who have had, or continue to have these issues (Bipolar disorder, Depression, ADHD, Anxiety, etc)
My personal story is that I have always wanted to be a pilot, but never really thought to start my training until more recent years, which also happened to coincide with the beginning of my depression/anxiety diagnoses, for which I was medicated on a few different antidepressants (prozac, zoloft, wellbutrin) over the timespan of 1.5 years. During this time I was regularly visiting a psychiatrist for psychotherapy and a regular therapist, along with my pediatrician at the time (I was 16-18).
In regards to my diagnosis: In my own opinion, my depression was a result of my environmental and lifestyle issues, which resulted in my diagnosis later being classified as "adjustment disorder with anxiety." This is a factor that I believe helped me later on in this story.
WIth 100% honesty, I never had any suicidal intentions or any dangerous thoughts that would ever truly make me a liability in the cockpit, as I understand why the FAA is careful around people with this type of history, so I will say that if you are reading this, and you do fall under this category, I would highly recommend doing some introspection about your mental health, and if you deem yourself capable to hold the lives of potentially hundreds of people in your hands, as this can be serious issues down the road.
I would say I am definitely on the safer side of the world of mental health issues, as some of you may have much more serious conditions or history, like suicidal ideas, bipolar disorder, ADHD (depending on if you take medicine/are diagnosed). Unfortunately, The cases mentioned above are much harder to get past to earn your medical, and I would not be able to advise you in those situations, although I believe a "HIMS AME" is the person you would go to for help in that department.
Going back to my story, however...
After learning that being on antidepressants would not allow me to be a pilot, I realized that I had essentially made a grave mistake in getting medicated for a diagnosis that I was not even confident I had, and was extremely upset by this. That was the moment I started going online to find people who had been through similar situations, and the reason why I am now writing this post.
To clarify, I never personally felt as though the medication was doing anything for me, and always wanted to get off, but I was always at the mercy of my pyschiatrist's treatment plan, which basically required me to stay on medication for a certain period of time before getting off.
In NO way did I intend to intentially stop my use of medication, which is VERY dangerous, but I was out of the state for about a month while doing some volunteer work, and unintentionally forgot to take my medication in the morning, which I did not realize for about a week (IT WAS ONLY SAFE BECAUSE MY DOSAGE WAS VERY LOW, OTHERWISE IF YOU STOP USAGE OF MEDICATION SUDDENLY YOU CAN HAVE SERIOUS PERMANENT BODILY DAMAGE).
Because I was doing very good with my life and my mental health, I opted to stay off medication with accordance to my psychiatrist, and from there on out was smooth sailing as far as my mental state. I would see my psychiatrist once a month as a check up, and always reported my positive state of mind. About 7-8 months after that, this month, I decided to start my flight training, but more specifically my AME appointment.
I was already familiar with the process, which begins with you filling an AME form out on medexpress website, where you fill out all medical history. I will specify this one time and one time only:
DO NOT EVEN THINK ABOUT LYING TO THE FAA!!!!!!!
No matter how desperate you are, lying to the government will always hurt you in the end, and a potential career in aviation is not worth it if it is based on a single or possibly multiple lies.
After filling out the form truthfully, with all my medical history as mentioned in the above texts, I went to my appointment, and talking with the AME, who was quick to start asking me about my mental health history, for which I was ready to explain. I was also able to get a letter from my psychiatrist, mentioning that I was "adherent to my treatment plan"
After telling the AME EVERYTHING about my mental health struggles, history, etc. He decided that I was fit to earn my medical, pending a signature from my psychiatrist ensuring everything I said was truthful, which it was. Finally, after so much struggle, I was able to earn my first-class medical.
The point I want to get across with any of you who still stuck around to read all this, is that if you do disqualify for the medical, there is a reason for that, which you simply must accept in the name of safety of others.
for those of you who are in a similar position to me at any point in my journey, just know that If you stay honest with yourself, your doctor, and eventually the AME, you will definently have a path to earning your certificate, pending some potentiall obstacles.
There is a resource from the faa about medications allowed for pilots, though I never used it as a reference for myself, but definitely check it out if it applies to you in any way. If I missed anything please reply below and I will try my best to answer.

So this happened a few days ago on Sat night/early Sun morning. I know people are going to dismiss it as being untrue but I promise it's 100% true and factual to the best of what I can recall despite being on MDMA at the time.
On Saturday night I went out by myself to a drum n bass rave. I'm a single guy in my early 30s so since I was heading out I made sure I was dressed up in case I met someone. My flirting style is kinda casual I guess, in the sense that I like to start out friendly to see what sort of vibe I get and then go from there, being ready to match it if she gets flirtier back.
So I get there probably 30 mins before the headliner starts. So there's 2 local dj's on first, then the headliner, then 2 more local dj's to close out the night. I wiggle my way through the crowd and find a spot on the floor to dance.
So first girl: This group of 3 girls ended up standing behind me so I turned around and motioned them all a "hi". One girl gave me a much stronger reaction than the other 2 so we started having some fun. Talking a little about the headliner coming up, fist bumps, dance moves, side hugs, stupid little things like that. She had this paper fan so I got her to fan air over my face, then she gave my beard a stroke. I thought things were going well. Then at one point I turn around and she's in the middle of a conversation with some guy that's literally popped up out of nowhere, and I mean like they were properly trying to hash something out, not even a little like "hi how's it going" like we were doing. So I come to the conclusion that she's got a boyfriend I somehow missed and distanced myself a little. Questions of loyalty aside, I don't intend to get my ass kicked over a girl, nor do I like starting arguments between people, so I opted to let that one go.
Second girl: Probably 30-45 mins later, after the headliner had come out (first girl having not left the other dude's side the whole time still talking about whatever they were talking about). I'm dancing and vibing and enjoying myself, now front and centre on the dance floor. This new girl ends up off to my side so I say hi and we start the whole thing again, more silly dance moves and such. At one point a spot opens up right at the front so she grabs my wrist and walks us up. We talk a little more and hug again. Then at one point she looks at her phone for a sec, and then maybe a minute later a dude appears behinds us and she tells me "this is my husband." I'm kinda shittin myself at that point and just say "nice to meet you" and hoped he didn't see me just dance with and hug his wife, but he seemed cool so once again I distanced myself and let them be.
Third girl: And this is the one that confuses me the most because not only did I not even try and hit on her, the revelation of her having a boyfriend came even quicker than the other 2 and she still hung around. So now the headliners gone and it's about halfway through the local dj's sets to close. I'm now at the back to keep some space between me and the other girls. I literally turned around and this new girl is standing next to me. She says hi first and starts asking me about DNB (apparently she'd never been). We chat for a bit and she asks for my name. Then she dips out for a second and when I spot her again she's off to the side talking to some dude that's absolutely plastered and can't stand up without swaying. Initially I didn't even think much of it since I didn't even try to flirt with her, until she came back. When she did she slid right up next to me and said "I came back because I wanted to see you again" in a tone of voice that I can only describe as "being in love" (not even sexily/flirtatiously, like I mean in those 5 minutes she went through falling in love, breaking up and getting back together) and started dancing with me, I obliged but sort of err'd on the side of caution given how my night had gone. Then she did that 2 more times, dipped away to check on/talk with her very intoxicated boyfriend then came back to dance/talk/stare at me like I was going to resolve all her problems. Then half an hour before the club closed she dipped for a final time and I didn't see them again, so I assumed they left. But then as the club closed and I'm walking out guess who's standing outside by the top of the stairs, the girl and her bf. She yelps out my name and runs over to give me a hug and tries to stutter something out for like 10 seconds but just says "it was lovely to meet you" (lovely being the exact word, I'd probably not have paid that any attention if it weren't for everything else). I just said likewise and said my goodbyes to them and skidaddled out of there.
So what I'm confused about is what are the odds that I get flirted with by taken women 3 times in the same night? It happening once or me trying to flirt with 3 different women only to be told straight away they're taken I wouldn't have thought much of it, but this? It confuses me because I'm genuinely not sure if I just hit some astronomical odds to meet 3 cheaters/serial flirts/open relationships/cuckholds in a row or my approach is just that bad (or good? is that a good thing? idk anymore) that I made it happen? I'm interested in hearing what you all think even if you think this post is stupid and fake so please let me know.

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arg, it's been a tough day. cw: transphobia, anxiety
she's gone through two weeks of hell since we kissed, midterms, two 20 hour roadtrips back home, super intense, haven't seen each other much.
today was her last midterm, and we went to dinner together to celebrate. it's this cute kinda fancy vegan mexican place in downtown, we've gone to it once before. but i was feeling really off today, and i didn't know why. it was kinda awkward, and i eventually said sorry i was being so quiet, and of course she was so kind about it. a bit later she brought up how my dad had called me yesterday. it was a really bad phone call, my first time talking to him one on one in over a year. last time he said he thought trans people were delusional....
but she brought it up so gently, and i that made me realize that was why my day had been so hard, and i had been guilting myself for not being in a good mood (hmmm where did i learn that from...?) even though she literally has always been so supportive when i'm in a dark mood. but something about her being so tuned into my emotions broke something in me.
then when she was paying for the bill, (normally one of us pays and takes a picture of the receipt so we can split it), i tried to take a picture but she flipped it and said she was paying. i just looked at her and so many emotions came up and i had no idea why, i couldn't even say anything, i just kept looking at her. so many emotions flashed across her face, but i couldn't say anything. eventually she broke the silence and said "oh just cause i like ate most of the food," even though we split everything.
on the drive home i cried, but hid it. when we got home i broke down crying on the couch. i didn't know why, which always frustrates me (hmmm where did i learn that from...?). but we decided to watch a movie and she made me tea and we ate churros she had ordered at the restaurant 🥺.
after the movie, all of the emotions started coming back up again, and i went upstairs to go to bed. and then i just started sobbing like i haven't cried that hard in so long, and i had an anxiety attack, and the words in my head were just repeating "nobody has loved you since you were a young child, they loved a fake version of you that you created for their version of love."
and i realized, this whole time i've been falling for her, every time she makes any display of affection, i always break down. it's a cycle. the tension builds, she breaks the tension, and then i spiral and pull away. and now i know why. my true self is still so deeply buried, but she see's me and treats me so well, and it scares me. i feel like i don't deserve it.
now my words are haunting me. when i told her she made me cry after she flirted with me, how i wrote a letter about how much it hurts to be her roommate after she got me a rose, how whenever she inched closer on the couch i would be distant and sad the next day.
now she just saw me sobbing after she paid for my dinner for the first time.
what do i do?
she doesn't want a relationship, and i didn't think i did either, but now i'm questioning. did i give up on myself from the start?
this has been truly a life changing friendship for both of us. she supported me to stand up to my sister for the first time and I wrote my sister a letter about how she hurt me. i supported her to change her major from a B.S. to a B.A. in the last quarter before she graduates, she had always wanted to, but her friends didn't support her. i got harassed at school like i had before a few years ago and i finally had the courage to stand up to the school and fight them for a month to get the accommodations I needed. she has started being able to say "i am gay" for the first time. we let our inner children play pretend together, without restrictions on gender roles.
i don't want to risk our friendship. i could easily see us being lifelong friends. but i could also see us being more. but i'm scared. i don't think it's the right time. i still need to figure out what i want do do after college. i have so much healing to do. i don't want to risk hurting her.

I’ve had derealization since 2021. I was a 12 in 6th grade and I wanted to hangout with older kids which was a bad idea. We smoked weed and it sent me down hill up until now. I’m 14 now and I still get it sometimes but it’s not as bad as it was.
It really does get better and you learn to manage it and find the triggers and causes. I was scared to touch weed for around a year due to this but I did end up doing it again and it wasn’t bad. The reason your body does this is because it’s trying to protect you from high levels of paranoia/anxiety and I’d say it’s kinda cool the brain does that. I’ve lived with it for about three years and i’m not scared of it anymore and neither should anyone else. I get how hard it can be, how you can feel unreal and like your dreaming but like i said before you learn to manage it and find triggers and causes. Last time I was on this subreddit I read this persons post about how they’ve been in a state of derealization for around 7-9years and they said with time you learn to manage it and it gets easier. In my case it goes away and comes back sometimes but I know that it’ll be okay and it took me a long time to come to that understanding. It’ll take time for a lot of people to understand that but it’s seriously is possible and you can and will work through it. There’s no way out of it you can only go through. I’m writing this because I got another little episode of derealization and depersonalization and I just told myself that i’m gonna be okay. Which is true you’re gonna be okay. I just wanted to share this in hopes it may help someone <33 feel free to ask questions etc.
(i am aware of what drug use does to the brain at a young age. I was dumb and I understand that and I live with the consequences now, so don’t lecture me)

I(18 M) am graduating highschool in two weeks. In the fall I'm finally going to university!! I currently live with my mom, (46F) , stepdad (49M), step sister(13F). I also have another stepsister who is 19 who will be home for the summer. After years of denial and questioning I've finally come to terms with my sexuality. I like dudes. I live in a small town in Texas. It doesn't really fly here, but I'm going to college in Austin and being gay isnt as scary there. I want to start fresh and I don't want to hide who I am when I get to college. Part of me also wants to come out to my family, but I'm scared. For a bit of background info, my mom and stepdad are pretty great, but they are really Christian. Like we got to church every week. We pray before we eat and we have a family Bible study. I also have to be apart of this other Bible study at my church. We do every church event and we volunteer all the time. My church is cool, but one big thing is that homosexuality is seen as a sin. Our pastor has given sermons about it. The church's view on this matter is very evident. I've never heard my parents talk about homosexuality, so I'm not sure what their stance on it is, but I assume it's not great. I do, however, know that my older step sis is a raging homophobe. I dont have a great relationship with her, so I'm not expecting support. I've learned to not really care about her, so I'm not scared about her knowing. Same thing with my biological father. I'm terrified of how my parents and younger step sis will react. I love them with all my heart and I don't want to lose them. I can't lose my mom. Unlike my bio dad, my mom actually wanted me and never thought of leaving me. Even when I've been nothing but a burden. Then there's my stepdad. God I love him. Hes the father I never had. He never treated me less because I wasn't biologically his. I dont want to lose the only father figure in my life. I dont want them to not come to my graduation. They both have this unconditional love for me, but I know there's only so much of me they can take and I don't want me coming out to be their breaking point. What would you do in this situation? Should I come out to them? Should I stay in the closet around them, but be myself when I get to college? Or should I just play it safe and stay completely in the closet? Please give me any advice. 

It's Wednesday, and the minutes just seem to elongate, as is usual with the phenomenon that's Midweek Time Dilation. I'd love to find someone to talk to who might make those moments tick by faster! I'm open to friendship (or more), but my personal policy is "let's see how it goes" without any expectations from the start. Spark my interest with a little chaos! I appreciate authenticity.
Here's who I am:

• East Asian
  
• Left-handed
  
• Confident short king (5'5)
  
• Favorite music ranges from synthpop to symphonic metal (very sy-mmetrical)
  
• Especially enjoy sci-fi films (Sunshine, Moon, Alien, Her)
  
• Likes Pokémon (can you guess my favorite?)
  
• Noodles are the way to my heart
  
• A close second way to my heart is good wordplay, I love puns
  
• I can't whistle
  
• What I can do is tell you how cool mosasaurs are
  
• Other things I love include soccer, reading and lollygagging as a giant hurls me into the skies of Tamriel
  

I'd love to chat with almost anyone, but please note you may be better off with someone else if:

• You're politically conservative
  
• You're a race fetishist
  
• You're not particularly responsive (as in it takes days to respond)
  
• You're looking for someone local from the start (if things get romantic, I am open to bridging the gap, but it will not immediately happen)
  
• You come in asking for photos without preamble (happy to trade eventually, but my rule is your picture gets mine)
  

I'm not against flirting or risqué talk, but I'd like to know the person behind the Reddit handle before anything like that happens. If you do contact me, please tell me a little about yourself (and tell me your favorite dish!) so I know you read this!

Asking for a friend.
So I (25F) was really drunk after an office party and came home to DH (33M) who was all very sweet and talking all of a sudden. All of a sudden why? Because for the past almost 5 months, we’ve had a lot of fights and haven’t been speaking to each other, at least I haven’t since he’s accused me of cheating on him. He doesn’t even think there’s a need to have a conversation after what he’s accused me. How can I be okay with it?
After coming back home, it shocked me to see him take care of me (mind you, this isn’t the first time I’m coming home drunk in the last 5 months) and he’s never done this in the past few months. I’m still trippy with the alcohol and the next thing I know is he’s forcing himself on me and he did have forceful sex with me. I couldn’t even scream out loud because we have guests staying with us. It’s so painful firstly because it’s been over 6 months since I’ve had sex, and secondly he’s so heavy (he weighs 98kgs). I couldn’t breathe. But all I knew was this was happening and he was very rough, biting me everywhere and slapping me. This isn’t the first time he’s tried this with me. He’s always failed cause I was sober and I would do anything to get out of the situation, but this time I was so tipsy I couldn’t move. I told him I don’t want to be with him also, but he told me not to blabber when I’m drunk and closed my mouth with his hand so I don’t talk.
It’s the morning and he acts all cool as though he didn’t do anything and is trying to be sweet to me. Why tf would I even want to talk to him after what he did? I understand he’s my husband, but he cannot take advantage of my state and do as he pleases. Not now, not ever.
Do I tell him I don’t want to be physical or even be with him anymore? I don’t want this to happen again and I don’t want to go through this again or anymore. I don’t want to have his kids either. I don’t. His mother has always been an issue in our marriage as well, but it’s become very evident in the past 3-4 months. She needs to be involved in everything and it pains me to see he would rather listen to her on how to run our family and marriage than listen to what I have to say about things.

Hi I'm currently preparing to go to the US to pursue a Master's starting in Fall 2024 (expecting to graduate in 2026.) I plan to apply for a PhD afterward, so I want to ask how to plan my Master's studies and schedule to best meet the requirements for a PhD.
I designed my timeline is as follows:

• Aug 2024 - Oct 2024: Adapt to life in the US
• Oct 2024 - May 2025: Join a research group, for papers or recommendation letters
• Jul 2025 - Nov 2025: Apply for PhD programs
• Feb 2026: Receive offers

I have a few questions:

1. How to balance time between research and classes? Should I contribute most of my time and energy to the research? (The coursework is quite heavy...)
2. How to maximize output in the research? What should I aim for / what to expect to gain from this.
3. If I want to stay in the research group for a PhD, should I discuss this with the professor from the beginning or wait until I have some good results?
4. Considering this is a two-year program that offers CPT opportunities, should I use this to get an internship?
5. Anything I should do now (May) to prepare for that?

I appreciate any advice, as I'm quite new to this topic. Thank you very much!

Hi all. I've been locked out of my account, and my old address was listed on my account - so this is where my temp password has been sent. I have now changed my address over the phone, the customer service rep assured me if I clear cookies & cache I would be able to try logging in again and a new letter would be sent to my new address. No such thing happened. The address change stops me from being able to sell online or over the phone for 10 days, and I have until I can somehow get the temporary password sent to me from the US to access my account online. I'm anxious! How effed am I?

Me and my ex are currently doing no contact. She knows how much I love her as I already write her a very heartfelt letter saying so. We’ve talked about how we can’t see each other with other people and how much we love each other even after the breakup. Yet long story short me and my ex had a little drawn out break up. I tried to make things work for a month after she first broke up with me. She said she needed to be alone a month later. I kept calling her and she agreed to, up until about a week ago she asked for me to take a step back. I agreed and didn’t message her and her birthday went by within those days. I still didn’t message her. She saw me downtown that night and cried to me and vented and was mad that I didn’t wish her a happy birthday. She asked to apologize and meet up in person the night after. That night we only talked super formally and only about how we’re looking forward to healing.
My one concern is that through that whole conversation, I didn’t make it clear that I still want to try again for a relationship with her. Earlier that day when she had initially apologized for crying and venting to me, I responded with as heartfelt and mature of a response that I could give, including me saying “While I’m aware that what we had is over,” then continuing to be optimistic about our healing processes. While I have made it know ever since our initial breakup two months ago up until a few days ago when we had that talk that I really want to make things work, I feel like given how I responded to her request for space, didn’t wish her a happy birthday, acknowledged that what we had is over, and me not even bringing up how I want to try again in the future will make her believe that I’m just truly completely over trying for her, which couldn’t be further from the truth.
For additional context, we had drawn out the breakup simply because we have so much love for one another other. We were each other’s first bf/gf. This whole process was all about her needing space and needing to be alone right now. She had said once or twice that if this is meant to be then it will be. Yet I’m scared that she might take me saying “While I’m aware that what we had is over” as a sign of me not wanting to try anymore. She never gave me a direct statement of her saying how we are completely over. She had said enough times to me that this is a breakup. How she needs to be alone right now. How she needs her space. And she doesn’t know for how long. Yet I’m afraid that I might have said the wrong words and followed through with actions that don’t truly align with my true incentives. I can easily tell that the conversation that we had was all the closure that she needed to officially move on from me and to start living her life completely without me. She is a very healthy woman who looks at the world through a very healthy, optimistic and peaceful perspective. Due to this it seems like she wouldn't’ be the type to hold onto something like this after getting closure like that.
I only acted that way and didn’t speak to her and didn’t bring up any future aspirations of rekindling with her just do not disrupt her emotions any further as I know that this is a tough time for the both of us.I currently work with her yet she put her two weeks in already and I have my final shift with her this Sunday night. I’m contemplating if it’s a good idea for me to tell her one last time that I’m still interested in trying again in the future.
Should I use our last shift working together as an opportunity to tell her that I still want to try again for a relationship in the future? I really miss her and still love her and care about her deeply. This whole process has just been really hard and I feel the need to use this last in person chance as an opportunity to show her that I’m still interested in her. I feel like she’s the love of my life and I’ve told her that throughout the past 2 months. Please let me know if you guys think that this is a good idea.
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TLDR: I feel as though I gave off the wrong impression with my ex over the past few days. Unintentionally letting her think that I’m completely done with her and wanting to move on when that couldn’t be further from the truth. She is a very mature, peaceful, healthy and optimistic woman, and given all of the closure that she just got combined with my misleading intentions, I fear that she will officially let me go given that I was the one who wanted to hold on and make things work when she first asked for space. I still really love her and care about her deeply and feel as though she’s the one for me. Should I use our last shift working together to tell her how I still want to try again for a relationship in the future?

Me and my ex are currently doing no contact. She knows how much I love her as I already write her a very heartfelt letter saying so. We’ve talked about how we can’t see each other with other people and how much we love each other even after the breakup. Yet long story short me and my ex had a little drawn out break up. I tried to make things work for a month after she first broke up with me. She said she needed to be alone a month later. I kept calling her and she agreed to, up until about a week ago she asked for me to take a step back. I agreed and didn’t message her and her birthday went by within those days. I still didn’t message her. She saw me downtown that night and cried to me and vented and was mad that I didn’t wish her a happy birthday. She asked to apologize and meet up in person the night after. That night we only talked super formally and only about how we’re looking forward to healing.
My one concern is that through that whole conversation, I didn’t make it clear that I still want to try again for a relationship with her. Earlier that day when she had initially apologized for crying and venting to me, I responded with as heartfelt and mature of a response that I could give, including me saying “While I’m aware that what we had is over,” then continuing to be optimistic about our healing processes. While I have made it know ever since our initial breakup two months ago up until a few days ago when we had that talk that I really want to make things work, I feel like given how I responded to her request for space, didn’t wish her a happy birthday, acknowledged that what we had is over, and me not even bringing up how I want to try again in the future will make her believe that I’m just truly completely over trying for her, which couldn’t be further from the truth.
For additional context, we had drawn out the breakup simply because we have so much love for one another other. We were each other’s first bf/gf. This whole process was all about her needing space and needing to be alone right now. She had said once or twice that if this is meant to be then it will be. Yet I’m scared that she might take me saying “While I’m aware that what we had is over” as a sign of me not wanting to try anymore. She never gave me a direct statement of her saying how we are completely over. She had said enough times to me that this is a breakup. How she needs to be alone right now. How she needs her space. And she doesn’t know for how long. Yet I’m afraid that I might have said the wrong words and followed through with actions that don’t truly align with my true incentives. I can easily tell that the conversation that we had was all the closure that she needed to officially move on from me and to start living her life completely without me. She is a very healthy woman who looks at the world through a very healthy, optimistic and peaceful perspective. Due to this it seems like she wouldn't’ be the type to hold onto something like this after getting closure like that.
I only acted that way and didn’t speak to her and didn’t bring up any future aspirations of rekindling with her just do not disrupt her emotions any further as I know that this is a tough time for the both of us.I currently work with her yet she put her two weeks in already and I have my final shift with her this Sunday night. I’m contemplating if it’s a good idea for me to tell her one last time that I’m still interested in trying again in the future.
Should I use our last shift working together as an opportunity to tell her that I still want to try again for a relationship in the future? I really miss her and still love her and care about her deeply. This whole process has just been really hard and I feel the need to use this last in person chance as an opportunity to show her that I’m still interested in her. I feel like she’s the love of my life and I’ve told her that throughout the past 2 months. Please let me know if you guys think that this is a good idea.
TLDR: I feel as though I gave off the wrong impression with my ex over the past few days. Unintentionally letting her think that I’m completely done with her and wanting to move on when that couldn’t be further from the truth. She is a very mature, peaceful, healthy and optimistic woman, and given all of the closure that she just got combined with my misleading intentions, I fear that she will officially let me go given that I was the one who wanted to hold on and make things work when she first asked for space. I still really love her and care about her deeply and feel as though she’s the one for me. Should I use our last shift working together to tell her how I still want to try again for a relationship in the future?

Me and my ex are currently doing no contact. She knows how much I love her as I already write her a very heartfelt letter saying so. We’ve talked about how we can’t see each other with other people and how much we love each other even after the breakup. Yet long story short me and my ex had a little drawn out break up. I tried to make things work for a month after she first broke up with me. She said she needed to be alone a month later. I kept calling her and she agreed to, up until about a week ago she asked for me to take a step back. I agreed and didn’t message her and her birthday went by within those days. I still didn’t message her. She saw me downtown that night and cried to me and vented and was mad that I didn’t wish her a happy birthday. She asked to apologize and meet up in person the night after. That night we only talked super formally and only about how we’re looking forward to healing.
My one concern is that through that whole conversation, I didn’t make it clear that I still want to try again for a relationship with her. Earlier that day when she had initially apologized for crying and venting to me, I responded with as heartfelt and mature of a response that I could give, including me saying “While I’m aware that what we had is over,” then continuing to be optimistic about our healing processes. While I have made it know ever since our initial breakup two months ago up until a few days ago when we had that talk that I really want to make things work, I feel like given how I responded to her request for space, didn’t wish her a happy birthday, acknowledged that what we had is over, and me not even bringing up how I want to try again in the future will make her believe that I’m just truly completely over trying for her, which couldn’t be further from the truth.
For additional context, we had drawn out the breakup simply because we have so much love for one another other. We were each other’s first bf/gf. This whole process was all about her needing space and needing to be alone right now. She had said once or twice that if this is meant to be then it will be. Yet I’m scared that she might take me saying “While I’m aware that what we had is over” as a sign of me not wanting to try anymore. She never gave me a direct statement of her saying how we are completely over. She had said enough times to me that this is a breakup. How she needs to be alone right now. How she needs her space. And she doesn’t know for how long. Yet I’m afraid that I might have said the wrong words and followed through with actions that don’t truly align with my true incentives. I can easily tell that the conversation that we had was all the closure that she needed to officially move on from me and to start living her life completely without me. She is a very healthy woman who looks at the world through a very healthy, optimistic and peaceful perspective. Due to this it seems like she wouldn't’ be the type to hold onto something like this after getting closure like that.
I only acted that way and didn’t speak to her and didn’t bring up any future aspirations of rekindling with her just do not disrupt her emotions any further as I know that this is a tough time for the both of us.I currently work with her yet she put her two weeks in already and I have my final shift with her this Sunday night. I’m contemplating if it’s a good idea for me to tell her one last time that I’m still interested in trying again in the future.
Should I use our last shift working together as an opportunity to tell her that I still want to try again for a relationship in the future? I really miss her and still love her and care about her deeply. This whole process has just been really hard and I feel the need to use this last in person chance as an opportunity to show her that I’m still interested in her. I feel like she’s the love of my life and I’ve told her that throughout the past 2 months. Please let me know if you guys think that this is a good idea.
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TLDR: I feel as though I gave off the wrong impression with my ex over the past few days. Unintentionally letting her think that I’m completely done with her and wanting to move on when that couldn’t be further from the truth. She is a very mature, peaceful, healthy and optimistic woman, and given all of the closure that she just got combined with my misleading intentions, I fear that she will officially let me go given that I was the one who wanted to hold on and make things work when she first asked for space. I still really love her and care about her deeply and feel as though she’s the one for me. Should I use our last shift working together to tell her how I still want to try again for a relationship in the future?